1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:03,360 Speaker 1: Hey, guys. 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:06,160 Speaker 2: As you know, season four of Chigis and Chill is 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,120 Speaker 2: officially over, but there are still some things I want 4 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:11,479 Speaker 2: to talk to you about. That's why over the next 5 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 2: few weeks, we'll be revisiting some of my favorite episodes 6 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 2: over the last four seasons. I'll be sharing where I 7 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 2: am now versus where I was when I recorded the episode, 8 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 2: and also talk about how I feel today compared to 9 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:24,639 Speaker 2: how I felt then. I want you to think of 10 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 2: these episodes as a countdown to something completely new, something 11 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 2: coming very soon. 12 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: Be excited. So let's do this, shall we? Hello? Hello? 13 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:48,879 Speaker 2: I hope you guys are doing really well these days, 14 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 2: and I hope you're not spending too much time on 15 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 2: your social media and if you are, I hope this 16 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 2: episode will give you the push you need to limit 17 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 2: the time you spend doom scrolling or worrying about how 18 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 2: he likes or views your post skits. The episode we're 19 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 2: talking about today is called do you Need a Break 20 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,040 Speaker 2: from Social Media? 21 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 1: I don't know, do you. 22 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:11,960 Speaker 2: I shared why I've taken social media breaks in the 23 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 2: past and how I try to be more intentional with 24 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:18,199 Speaker 2: the time I spend on Instagram and TikTok and since 25 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 2: this episode, guys, I am a lot more private these days. 26 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 2: I don't know, what do you guys think, Producers. 27 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 3: I remember you bring Emilio on on an episode and 28 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 3: you were talking about how different your lives were, how 29 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 3: he is more private, and you were sort of, you know, 30 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 3: all over social media, and you know what I was thinking, 31 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 3: do you think he sort of influenced at all? Are 32 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:42,960 Speaker 3: you a more private person because of him? Or did 33 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 3: that just come from growth? 34 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 1: You know, I was just thinking about this. 35 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 2: I do think he has a lot to do with 36 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 2: it in a good way, and also just to be 37 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 2: honest in a not so good way, because social media 38 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 2: is is how I sell my products, is how I 39 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 2: promote myself, and I think I got so used to 40 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:09,680 Speaker 2: being more private that now it's a little weird for 41 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 2: me to share a lot, and it takes a little 42 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:16,799 Speaker 2: bit more effort for me to go on and share 43 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 2: and sell. And I don't know, I'm really enjoying like 44 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 2: this more private life. So it's a good thing, and 45 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 2: some may say it's not so good. So I'm trying 46 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:29,959 Speaker 2: to still find that balance. But it for sure has 47 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:31,959 Speaker 2: to do a lot with the media and the way 48 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 2: we run our. 49 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:36,079 Speaker 4: Lives together nowadays, how do you make that decision? How 50 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 4: do you get to the side maybe this is a 51 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 4: little too much? Why I keep it to myself? And 52 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 4: how can you say, okay, yeah, this one goes on 53 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 4: solcial media. 54 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:48,079 Speaker 2: What I'm starting to do is I'll just record videos 55 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 2: or take pictures and I'll save them, and I don't 56 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 2: really do it in that instant anymore or in the moment, 57 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 2: because I do want a little bit more time to 58 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:00,839 Speaker 2: like digest and say, okay, is this something I want 59 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 2: to share. I'm also very intentional about like protecting my energy, 60 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 2: So if there's something out there that I want to 61 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 2: protect or like my energy, I won't post it right away, 62 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 2: and sometimes I just forget. So that's why a lot 63 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 2: of the things I don't post later on I'm like, 64 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 2: oh damn, I should have posted this, this one was good, 65 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 2: but I forget. So I do want to be better 66 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:22,080 Speaker 2: with that this year, share a little bit more because 67 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 2: I kind of miss it, to be honest, But I 68 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 2: think it's just going to take a little bit of 69 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:32,799 Speaker 2: time to like get myself back into that motion. 70 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 1: I guess. Yeah. 71 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 3: You know what comes to mind right now is a 72 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 3: lot of people are like, Oh, like, I'm on social 73 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 3: media because it's the way I keep up with my 74 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 3: friends my family. How do you do that? Since you're 75 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 3: not on social media a whole lot, are you more 76 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 3: intentional with like calls or text messages? 77 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 2: I had told myself I would get better with calls. 78 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 2: I have not done that. I'm still not a phone 79 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 2: call type of girl. I wish I was. 80 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: You have no idea how if you how many people 81 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: are like, oh my gosh, just call me. So I am. 82 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 2: I'm definitely still a texter and a voice noter. I 83 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 2: will check up on you, Hey, how are you doing? 84 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 2: I was thinking about you. I'm very good at that. 85 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:17,839 Speaker 2: So I'm more of the type of person like I, 86 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 2: I'll just have a private conversation with you through voice notes. 87 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: That's kind of my thing. 88 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 2: But I will try to get better with calling people. 89 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm more of that type of person. I 90 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 2: don't see honestly my social media as oh, I want 91 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 2: to keep up with my friends and family, or I'll 92 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,280 Speaker 2: just tell them what's up, or I'll invite them over 93 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 2: or something. 94 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 3: You know, do you think it's also forced you to 95 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 3: prioritize relationships in your life? You know, it's sort of 96 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:48,720 Speaker 3: put a magnifying glass over who's most important and who's 97 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 3: worth keeping in touch with. 98 00:04:50,360 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, for sure, for sure, because I think people 99 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,280 Speaker 2: get so used to just oh I saw you on 100 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 2: social media, like there's just it's causing this thing of 101 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:08,040 Speaker 2: there's no like real connection anymore because people are thinking like, oh, 102 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 2: oh I saw this on social media. I know what's 103 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 2: going on in their life, Like I don't. I want 104 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 2: to know and ask my person whoever that person is, like, hey, 105 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 2: how are you doing? 106 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: How are you really doing? 107 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 2: You know? 108 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 4: I think in the episode Brionna correct me if I'm wrong, 109 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 4: but I think chickis you talk about social media breaks too. 110 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 4: Have Is that something that you've continued doing over the 111 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:29,480 Speaker 4: past few years. 112 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 2: I used to take longer social media breaks, I think 113 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,320 Speaker 2: because I'm not on as much and I don't share 114 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:39,919 Speaker 2: as much, I don't feel the necessity to take long breaks. 115 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 2: I'll do a weekend, I'll say, you know what, I'll 116 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 2: just do a little weekend and I won't post anything. 117 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 2: But I have not done like a two week, one 118 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 2: month thing. I have not in a while. 119 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 4: Those weekends. Do you get the itch to go on what? 120 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,839 Speaker 2: No? I have to I swear to you. Now I'm like, 121 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 2: oh my god, I got to post something. I haven't 122 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 2: posted anything. 123 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 1: Like. 124 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 2: It's that type of pressure because everything is social media, 125 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 2: which is good and as we know, could be a 126 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 2: bad thing. 127 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 3: So maybe we have time for one more question. I 128 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 3: was thinking, are you ever ever afraid that folks are 129 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 3: going to forget about you because you're not online and 130 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 3: maybe they'll unfollow you or like, oh, you know. I 131 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 3: think when people are in your face and constantly posting, 132 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 3: it's easier to sort of have them top of mind. 133 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:28,839 Speaker 3: But do you ever get worried that people are going 134 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 3: to forget about you? 135 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:36,240 Speaker 2: Hmm, that has crossed my mind. I think more I 136 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 2: want people to miss me a little bit. It's hard, 137 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 2: like I don't want to be too much in their 138 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 2: face where they're like, oh my gosh, this girl again. 139 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 2: But I need to kind of do it because I 140 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 2: have music, you know that's coming out. I have shows 141 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 2: that I need to promote. So it's I just do 142 00:06:55,000 --> 00:07:00,039 Speaker 2: my best to share enough. I could do more, but 143 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:02,479 Speaker 2: I do. I do think of it sometimes. There have 144 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 2: been people in my management that have told me, you know, 145 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:08,480 Speaker 2: like if you don't do this, people are going to 146 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 2: forget and I get that, but I'm like, at the 147 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 2: end of the day, I know that there's only one 148 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 2: Cheeky's and people will come back even if I go 149 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 2: away for six months. I really do feel that I 150 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 2: don't know. 151 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 3: I mean, so you had such a great relationship and 152 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 3: rapport with your community that I feel like that won't happen. 153 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 3: But thinks, yeah, let's get into the episode. 154 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 2: Maybe, yeah, let's do it. 155 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: Cue the music. 156 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 2: I felt like social media put this unnecessary stress and 157 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 2: pressure on me, so I took a break and it 158 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 2: helped so much. 159 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: Sadly now more than ever. 160 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 2: You guys, the more skin you show, the more likes 161 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 2: and views you get. Then you share something positive and 162 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:57,160 Speaker 2: it doesn't get as many views and as many likes. 163 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 2: If you feel anxiety, or you feel anything any time 164 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 2: type of negative way when you go on social media, 165 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,560 Speaker 2: just know seventy five percent of the things that you 166 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 2: see on Instagram are not real. 167 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 1: What Up? What Up? Happy Monday? 168 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 2: Thank you so much for listening in to this episode 169 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 2: of Cheeky's and Chill. I'm your host Cheeky's, and today 170 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 2: we're going to be talking about something we all use 171 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 2: just about every day, social media. We spend hours and 172 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 2: hours online and sometimes we need a break. So today 173 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 2: I'm going to be talking about how and when I 174 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 2: do that. 175 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:34,440 Speaker 1: So stay tuned. This is Cheeky's and Chill. 176 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:43,439 Speaker 2: Whether you're on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, or TikTok, these platforms 177 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 2: consume so much of your day, and I think now 178 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 2: more than ever you guys, I have been a victim 179 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 2: of it, especially TikTok. 180 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: TikTok takes a long long time. 181 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 2: It takes up a lot of energy, a lot of 182 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 2: mental space, and obviously during the pandemic, like a lot 183 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 2: of people, I was doing a lot of tiktoks because 184 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:02,599 Speaker 2: I had a lot of time and I had a 185 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:04,520 Speaker 2: lot of fun doing it. And I love going on TikTok, 186 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 2: especially when I want to laugh and I want to 187 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 2: look up a recipe and everything. But I've kind of 188 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:12,319 Speaker 2: stayed away from TikTok for a little bit. I haven't 189 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 2: posted a lot because I'm busy with other things. I 190 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 2: had to finish my album and the tour and everything. 191 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 2: So talking about breaks, in twenty eighteen, I took a 192 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 2: big break. I don't know, it must have been like 193 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 2: almost three months. It was right before my second album, 194 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 2: intead of what the yas dropped. I was going through 195 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 2: a lot, a lot of changes. I had just moved 196 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:37,719 Speaker 2: into my new home. I was on tour a lot 197 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 2: during that time, and I just felt like I was 198 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 2: drinking too much, like drinking alcohol to like numb myself 199 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:47,080 Speaker 2: what it is that I was feeling. 200 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:48,200 Speaker 1: I was missing my mom. 201 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 2: It was just a lot, and I felt like social 202 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:54,600 Speaker 2: media put this unnecessary stress and pressure on me. 203 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: So I took a break and it helped so much. 204 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 2: I was able to just focus and zone in on 205 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 2: finishing my album, on cleansing myself, not drinking, focusing on 206 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 2: my house because I had just bought the house and 207 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 2: I wanted to make changes and I wanted to furnish it. 208 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: So it just really helped me. During that time is. 209 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 2: When Omi and I had our break as well, and 210 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 2: I had lost a few friends during that time, so 211 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:24,680 Speaker 2: I just really needed the time to do it. And 212 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 2: I felt like social media, which is kind of sometimes 213 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 2: bring me sadness. And I've spoken to a few people 214 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:34,959 Speaker 2: and there are studies that say that social media can 215 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:40,680 Speaker 2: bring you anxiety and depression because you're scrolling and you're 216 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 2: looking at these people's lives. You know a lot of them, 217 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 2: a lot of influencers. They get paid to go on 218 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:51,559 Speaker 2: vacation to post certain clothing and certain bags, and they 219 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:52,760 Speaker 2: rent a lot of these things, and a lot of 220 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 2: these cars and homes and yachts that you see on 221 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,840 Speaker 2: social media. They're all a facade. Not all, most of 222 00:10:57,880 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 2: them are a facade. And it it's just a bunch 223 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 2: of people. And I'm not saying everyone, but there's a 224 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:07,000 Speaker 2: good chunk of people that just pretend to have these 225 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 2: lavish lives and us the people that are watching sometimes 226 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:14,839 Speaker 2: and even like perfect relationships. And I want to say 227 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:17,760 Speaker 2: that I was probably one of those people that I 228 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 2: posted my relationship so much before and I knew what 229 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:23,080 Speaker 2: I was going through and what I was feeling, but 230 00:11:23,120 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 2: I felt like, well, I have to share this because 231 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 2: this is my partner, this is my husband, and I 232 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 2: have to share this part of my life. 233 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: And people are like, oh, I want that. 234 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 2: I want what they have, you know, And it creates 235 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 2: like subconsciously like anxiety, and you're just like, why don't 236 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 2: I have what they have? 237 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: Why does that person look like that? Why don't I 238 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: look like that person? 239 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 2: And I wish I had that car, and I want 240 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 2: that house and I want a dress like her, And 241 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 2: it's just constantly in the back of your mind, like 242 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 2: you just start thinking all these things. 243 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 1: So that's why I. 244 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 2: From time to time internally and in my life, in 245 00:11:56,880 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 2: my personal life, I take breaks. Sometimes I take just 246 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:03,120 Speaker 2: the weekend and I won't post anything. The people that 247 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 2: follow me know that, you guys know that I will 248 00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 2: tell you, guys, Hey, I wasn't feeling good. I needed 249 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 2: to just stay away. I needed to regroup. I needed 250 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 2: to espejarmimente, you know, which means just really just be 251 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 2: with myself. I love social media because I get to 252 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:21,839 Speaker 2: express and share things with you guys on a different level. 253 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 2: And I have that direct contact with my followers. And 254 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 2: I love speaking to you guys, and I have my 255 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:29,080 Speaker 2: DMS open and you know what I mean, Like, I 256 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:31,800 Speaker 2: love hearing from you guys. But sometimes it could be 257 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:34,559 Speaker 2: a very toxic place, you guys, social media could be toxic. 258 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 2: It all depends on what you follow, who you follow. 259 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:42,720 Speaker 2: For me, I follow about threeenty nineteen people I just checked. 260 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:44,440 Speaker 1: Some people think that that's too much. 261 00:12:44,520 --> 00:12:46,679 Speaker 2: I should like follow less, but I follow a lot 262 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:49,680 Speaker 2: of my boss bees, a lot of people that send 263 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 2: me love, and a lot of my fan pages, so 264 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:54,959 Speaker 2: I'm super grateful for that. I think that's the majority 265 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 2: of people that I follow. I also follow a lot 266 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 2: of accounts of positive quotes. I love quotes, you guys. 267 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 2: Though I like to write them, I like to read them, 268 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 2: I like to share them. I follow business pages, entrepreneur pages, 269 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 2: like a lot of women quotes. I follow some preachers. 270 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 2: For me, it's like, that's why it's important to the 271 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 2: people that you follow that they feed your soul, that 272 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:18,000 Speaker 2: they feed you something good. There are some people that 273 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 2: I follow that I don't unfollow because they've never done 274 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 2: anything bad to me, but I mute them. I'm not 275 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 2: gonna lie. There are some people that I'm mute because 276 00:13:24,480 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 2: sometimes it's just like, oh, girl or boy, I just 277 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:29,440 Speaker 2: can't you know, and I don't want to then follow 278 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 2: you because you haven't done anything mean to me. Like 279 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:32,839 Speaker 2: it's not that I don't like you, it's just sometimes 280 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 2: your energy is just too much for me, so I 281 00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 2: mute them. That's good too, You guys am muting on 282 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 2: muting and sometimes blocking. I block a lot of like 283 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:41,840 Speaker 2: haters because I'm like, uh, you're not gonna come and 284 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:45,760 Speaker 2: try to like contaminate my space with your negativity. So 285 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:49,800 Speaker 2: I'll block those motherfuckers. And yeah, I unfollow people if 286 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 2: I need to, like for sure, when I'm like, I 287 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:53,559 Speaker 2: really don't care and I need you to know that 288 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:57,320 Speaker 2: you're not on my Good Girl list of this year 289 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 2: or a good boy list, and I'll unfollow just to 290 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 2: let it be known. 291 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:03,000 Speaker 1: I think it is important. 292 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 2: I think it's definitely important to be mindful of the 293 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 2: accounts that we follow, and that's why I do my best. 294 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:10,840 Speaker 2: I'm a little crazy sometimes on Instagram. You guys like, 295 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:13,360 Speaker 2: yes I show my booty here and there, Yes I'm sexy, 296 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:16,240 Speaker 2: but I do it more like on that Lizzo trip, 297 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 2: because Lizzo is so empowering. She is a plus size 298 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 2: woman who does not care, and for me, that's inspirational. 299 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 2: I follow her and test Holiday because I'm like, they're beautiful, 300 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 2: big women and they make me feel sexy. And that's 301 00:14:29,520 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 2: why I share that part, not to be like, oh 302 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:33,440 Speaker 2: my god, I'm trying to like show my ass. But 303 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 2: you know what, sadly, I've noticed now more than ever, 304 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 2: you guys, the more skin you show, the more ass 305 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:44,240 Speaker 2: you show, the more tits you show, the more fucking 306 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 2: likes and views you get. 307 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: Then you share. 308 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:51,080 Speaker 2: Something positive like a quote or I don't know, you 309 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:54,240 Speaker 2: go and like feed the homeless or something positive, something good, 310 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 2: and it doesn't get as many views and as many likes, 311 00:14:56,440 --> 00:14:58,880 Speaker 2: And you know what, let's not focus on that anymore, 312 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:01,720 Speaker 2: because first of all, that algorithm is all crazy. But 313 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 2: people just aren't liking anymore, and that's okay, Like, don't 314 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 2: focus on the numbers, on the amount of likes that 315 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:08,240 Speaker 2: you get or the views. But the truth is the truth, 316 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 2: you know. That's what's happening. And I've noticed that even 317 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 2: on my own account, I'm like, oh my god, when 318 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:14,880 Speaker 2: I post this or I'm being you know a little 319 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 2: bit like you know, Ratchet Jenne, I get a lot 320 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 2: of likes and I get a lot of views, and 321 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, cool, I just wish that we would 322 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 2: get the same amount of love on these positive things, 323 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 2: you know, or like when I'm cooking or something, you know. 324 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:39,920 Speaker 1: Getting back to taking the break. 325 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:42,720 Speaker 2: So when I took my long break back in twenty eighteen, 326 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:48,160 Speaker 2: I deleted Instagram completely, all my social media platforms, I 327 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 2: deleted them completely from my phone. When I take the 328 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 2: mini breaks, I have trained my mind to really challenge 329 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 2: myself because for a long time, it was getting to 330 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 2: the point where I was just bored or I wasn't 331 00:16:01,760 --> 00:16:04,400 Speaker 2: even thinking, and my finger would go directly to Instagram 332 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:06,080 Speaker 2: because for me, that's that that I use the most. 333 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 2: I used to use Twitter a lot, like a lot 334 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 2: back in twenty ten, and I still love Twitter, but 335 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:12,840 Speaker 2: the one that I use the most is Instagram. And 336 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 2: I was finding myself just like out of nowhere going 337 00:16:15,360 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 2: to my Instagram and I was like, I just got 338 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 2: out of the app and I just start scrolling and 339 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:20,680 Speaker 2: I'm just like, why am I doing this? Like it 340 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 2: just became like this crazy ass vicious cycle and have 341 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 2: it that I just started telling myself, like mentally challenging 342 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 2: myself and be like, don't go Like I had to 343 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:32,720 Speaker 2: remind myself over and over and now to the point 344 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:35,560 Speaker 2: where I don't spend a lot of screen time because 345 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 2: I like to just post and get out. I'll go 346 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 2: in real quick on the post that I just posted 347 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:42,160 Speaker 2: and like comming back to people. I love to do that, 348 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:44,240 Speaker 2: and then I just get out because I try not 349 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 2: to get myself too involved in looking at what's going 350 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 2: on unless I'm like really not busy and I'll take 351 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 2: a little bit of time. But I try my best 352 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 2: not to be on social media unnecessarily because I don't 353 00:16:55,400 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 2: want to lose that love and that passion and what 354 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 2: social media is really forwards to share and for me, 355 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 2: I feel like my responsibility is to be a positive 356 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 2: force in the world and share quotes and share things 357 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:10,679 Speaker 2: and share my thoughts and share the real side of me. 358 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 2: So I don't want to lose that, because for a 359 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:15,399 Speaker 2: while I did, I was just like it became just 360 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:20,919 Speaker 2: more of a I have to do it versus something 361 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:22,040 Speaker 2: that gave me pleasure. 362 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:24,439 Speaker 1: So now if I do want. 363 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 2: To take a little break, I'll just move my app 364 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:29,400 Speaker 2: into like one of those like the group apps where 365 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 2: you put like a bunch of them in there, and 366 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 2: then it's harder for me to get to So I'll 367 00:17:32,800 --> 00:17:34,760 Speaker 2: sometimes do that, or like if I'm on vacation, or 368 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 2: when Mdio and I went to Yosemite, I put my 369 00:17:37,760 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 2: phone completely away and I was like, I'm just gonna 370 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 2: put it away because I don't even want my little fingers, 371 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:43,399 Speaker 2: because they have a mind of their own, to go 372 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,960 Speaker 2: to these apps and start looking. And you know, sometimes 373 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:47,359 Speaker 2: I could be in a great mood and then I 374 00:17:47,359 --> 00:17:49,760 Speaker 2: see something negative that someone has said, you know, about me. 375 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:53,440 Speaker 2: I just recently stopped following a lot of these accounts, 376 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 2: like you know, the Cheesema pages, or like even big 377 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:59,080 Speaker 2: shows that are on television that have Instagrams. I stop 378 00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:01,439 Speaker 2: following them because I would come across things that they 379 00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:04,359 Speaker 2: would say about me, and it would sometimes just put 380 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 2: me in a weird mood, you know. 381 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:07,480 Speaker 1: So I was like, I'm not trying to be mean. 382 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:10,480 Speaker 2: I'm grateful, you know, with these people, because the media 383 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 2: does help your career, but it can also affect it. 384 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:16,119 Speaker 2: So I was just like, for my mental health and 385 00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 2: my mind and my spirit, I'm just going to unfollow them. 386 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:19,840 Speaker 1: So I did that. 387 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 2: Anything that I say on my feed, I want it 388 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 2: to be something that's either going to make me laugh 389 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 2: or make me feel good or inspire me. And usually 390 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:28,960 Speaker 2: when I take my breaks, a lot of people ask 391 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:32,080 Speaker 2: me if I'm the one that runs my social media. 392 00:18:32,640 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 2: You guys know my assistant, Oh me, I have management, 393 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,520 Speaker 2: I have a record label. There are some artists that 394 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:41,680 Speaker 2: just completely leave their social media to their team. I'm 395 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 2: not that person. I have my passwords. I like to 396 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:47,480 Speaker 2: go in there, I like to post. It's very rare. 397 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:50,639 Speaker 2: If I have o me post or even on my Facebook, 398 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:53,719 Speaker 2: I will have them put management posted it. 399 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:55,880 Speaker 1: But usually, and. 400 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 2: I want to say, ninety nine percent of the time 401 00:18:58,119 --> 00:19:00,800 Speaker 2: it is me. I'm the one responding. And when I'm 402 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:03,879 Speaker 2: taking my break, I am very real about it. And 403 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:06,160 Speaker 2: even Omi will sometimes help me with my God mornings 404 00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 2: and she'll asked me, do you want me to post 405 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 2: something for you haven't posted anything, And I'm like, no, Like, 406 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:12,800 Speaker 2: if I'm taking my break, I'm just like, I'm gonna 407 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:14,439 Speaker 2: take my break and I'm gonna be real about it, 408 00:19:14,440 --> 00:19:16,919 Speaker 2: Like I'm not trying to pretend that I'm on social 409 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 2: media when I'm not. Like, I'm super transparent and honest 410 00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:23,119 Speaker 2: with you guys about that stuff, because that's all I 411 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:26,200 Speaker 2: know how to be. So, yes, the person that's responding 412 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:28,200 Speaker 2: to you, the person that's commenting the post and that's 413 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:32,280 Speaker 2: posting is me, you guys, I don't know, it's just me. 414 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:36,120 Speaker 2: Call it controlling, call it whatever you want. But and 415 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 2: I think when I took my long break in twenty eighteen, 416 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 2: I did have a little bit of fomo I did. 417 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:44,359 Speaker 2: I was kind of like, what's going on in the world, 418 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 2: and you know, my siblings would talk about certain things 419 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:49,399 Speaker 2: and they would post each other and you know, and 420 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:50,880 Speaker 2: I'd kind of feel like left out. 421 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:52,639 Speaker 1: But I was like, well, this is something that I need. 422 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,560 Speaker 2: I'm gonna respect my body and what my body is 423 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:58,119 Speaker 2: asking my mind, and I'm gonna take this break. I'm 424 00:19:58,200 --> 00:20:00,640 Speaker 2: gonna honor it. But I you didn't have a tiny 425 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:03,560 Speaker 2: bit of fomo. You know, I'm not gonna lie. And 426 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 2: then when I came back, it was a little hard. 427 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 2: When I've taken those breaks, it's a little hard, you guys, 428 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:11,360 Speaker 2: to come back because you kind of like you get 429 00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:14,320 Speaker 2: into like emotion of things and a routine kind of 430 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:16,199 Speaker 2: then you, you know, come back and you're like, oh 431 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 2: my god, how do I do this again? It's kind 432 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:19,040 Speaker 2: of like learning how to ride a bike. And that's 433 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:21,119 Speaker 2: kind of how I felt. And for me, it's important 434 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 2: because I have my makeup line, I have my skincare line. 435 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:26,520 Speaker 1: I work like my work is social media, you know, 436 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:27,160 Speaker 1: a lot of it. 437 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 2: Sometimes I got to talk to my business partners and 438 00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:31,480 Speaker 2: be like, you know, they respect it, they understand, but 439 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:34,000 Speaker 2: it is a little tough. But I'm telling you, guys, 440 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,600 Speaker 2: I came across this quote. This isn't my motivational quote 441 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 2: by the way, but I came across it when I 442 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:42,040 Speaker 2: was looking for things. It says, when your mental health 443 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:44,640 Speaker 2: is bad, give yourself a break. Don't make yourself feel 444 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:47,920 Speaker 2: guilty for things you can't do. Don't feel bad about eating, 445 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:51,399 Speaker 2: bad about not doing as much as you normally would. 446 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: You're human. 447 00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:56,480 Speaker 2: It's okay to struggle. Look after yourself and your mind. 448 00:20:56,560 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 2: It's important. And I think a lot of us are so. 449 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 2: And I say us because I have also been caught, 450 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:06,200 Speaker 2: and sometimes I find myself being caught in it where 451 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:09,920 Speaker 2: it's I'm not living in the moment, and we're chasing 452 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:14,160 Speaker 2: our goals, and we're chasing tomorrow and the future, and 453 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:16,000 Speaker 2: we get stuck in the rat race of life that 454 00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 2: we are not living in the moment. If your body 455 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:20,199 Speaker 2: and your mind is asking you in this moment, you 456 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 2: know what. I'm not feeling good. I feel a lot 457 00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:23,920 Speaker 2: of anxiety, a lot of depression. Try to pinpoint where 458 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:27,200 Speaker 2: that's coming from, and I will guarantee that a little 459 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:29,719 Speaker 2: bit of it has to do with us being consumed 460 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 2: with our phones and social media and seeing other people's 461 00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:36,560 Speaker 2: things and not being able to separate their life from 462 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,000 Speaker 2: your own. I guarantee you that it has a little 463 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 2: bit to do with it, if not a lot to 464 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:42,879 Speaker 2: do with it. So it's important to respect that and 465 00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 2: your mental health and accept it. First of all, accept it, 466 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,639 Speaker 2: which means is okay, I'm feeling this. It's okay to 467 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:52,400 Speaker 2: feel this. Does it make me a weak person? Let 468 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:53,679 Speaker 2: me do what I got to do to fix it? 469 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:55,720 Speaker 1: Right now? You know what I mean to feel better. 470 00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 2: So I wanted to share that with you, guys, because 471 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:02,400 Speaker 2: I think a lot of us just want to pretend, 472 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,280 Speaker 2: pretend that we are okay. 473 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:05,680 Speaker 1: And here's another one. 474 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 2: I came across this other quote that I want to 475 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 2: share with you guys as well. It says I saw 476 00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:12,880 Speaker 2: a post that said I wasn't myself for months and 477 00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 2: nobody noticed. I felt that, you guys. I also felt 478 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:17,920 Speaker 2: that because that's what the quote says. But I also 479 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 2: felt it because there were a lot of times, especially 480 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,840 Speaker 2: when I was in certain relationships, that I. 481 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 1: Was just going through it. 482 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 2: I was kind of forced to smile because I felt 483 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:31,040 Speaker 2: like that's what I needed to do, that's what people 484 00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 2: expected from me. And that's when I learned that I 485 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,080 Speaker 2: was like, no, I have to be one hundred percent 486 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,119 Speaker 2: real like, if I don't feel like posting, if I 487 00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 2: don't feel like sharing something, if I even feel like sharing, 488 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 2: Hey guys, I'm going through this. I'm gonna do that 489 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 2: because there's nothing more beautiful than being vulnerable and being honest. 490 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,640 Speaker 2: There's a lot of strength in that. So I feel 491 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:50,400 Speaker 2: like a lot of people now more than ever, pretend 492 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:56,280 Speaker 2: they're living in this like imaginary like world. And that's 493 00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,120 Speaker 2: cool if it works for you, you know what I mean. 494 00:22:58,119 --> 00:22:59,679 Speaker 2: But I just don't want to be stuck in that, 495 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,920 Speaker 2: and I want the people. If you feel anxiety, or 496 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 2: you feel anything any type of negative way when you 497 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:10,080 Speaker 2: go on social media, just know that. I mean, I 498 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,840 Speaker 2: swear to you seventy five percent of the things that 499 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 2: you see on Instagram are not real on social media. 500 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 1: Like that's all I have to say. 501 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:20,760 Speaker 2: Just know that don't feel the pressure and that social 502 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:25,359 Speaker 2: pressure of looking a certain way because of you know, 503 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,600 Speaker 2: certain people, certain celebrities like, don't feel that pressure. Like 504 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 2: you have to honor yourself and honor who you are 505 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:32,600 Speaker 2: and what you bring to this world. 506 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:33,520 Speaker 1: I don't know. 507 00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,679 Speaker 2: I can't say that enough because I think more than 508 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 2: ever now it's happening. And that's why there's so much depression, 509 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:44,960 Speaker 2: you guys, because the social pressure that we all feel, 510 00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 2: you know. But anyways, I wanted to share those with 511 00:23:47,880 --> 00:24:00,960 Speaker 2: you guys, and hopefully they helped a little bit. I've 512 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:05,439 Speaker 2: had friends that instead of taking a break, they just 513 00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:10,280 Speaker 2: delete their social media's completely and they just never come back. 514 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:14,119 Speaker 2: Emilio is one that says like he and that's I 515 00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:15,640 Speaker 2: think one of the things that I like about him. 516 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 2: He's not all that into social media, like he rarely 517 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,199 Speaker 2: goes on there, he doesn't post too much, and I 518 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:23,440 Speaker 2: like that, you know. I feel like he brings balance 519 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:27,639 Speaker 2: into my life in that aspect, and he's learned to 520 00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,479 Speaker 2: understand because at first it was a little difficult because 521 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:31,800 Speaker 2: I was on my phone quite a bit. 522 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:32,920 Speaker 1: Because I work on my phone. 523 00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,400 Speaker 2: I answer emails, I'm texting, I'm sending voice on all day, 524 00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,159 Speaker 2: and then social media, I have to do posts and 525 00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:39,320 Speaker 2: stuff like that. And at first it was kind of 526 00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:42,000 Speaker 2: like he's something he had to get used to. We 527 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 2: talked about it. Now he understands it, and now I'm 528 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:45,880 Speaker 2: also mindful of like if I'm hanging out with him, 529 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:47,879 Speaker 2: I'm not on my phone as much, or I do 530 00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:49,960 Speaker 2: everything I have to do all my work before I 531 00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:53,400 Speaker 2: hang out with him because out of respect. But some 532 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:56,679 Speaker 2: of our friends have completely deleted social media. I mean, 533 00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,120 Speaker 2: I can't do that. I don't know if I would 534 00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,480 Speaker 2: do that either, because I feel like even if I 535 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 2: wasn't an artist, or maybe, to be honest, if I 536 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,760 Speaker 2: was an artist, maybe I wouldn't have social media. Maybe 537 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 2: i'd be like this hippie lost, like in the world 538 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:13,240 Speaker 2: somewhere and with the taco shop because I love to cook, 539 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:15,680 Speaker 2: and I wouldn't have social media, and I would just 540 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 2: listen to music all day and just chill and surf. 541 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:20,320 Speaker 1: That's just if I was an artist. 542 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:22,639 Speaker 2: But since I'm an artist and I feel like I 543 00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,320 Speaker 2: have this platform and God has me here for a reason, 544 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:28,800 Speaker 2: I don't think I would ever delete my social media 545 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,119 Speaker 2: unless I was absolutely forced to. But I feel like 546 00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:37,120 Speaker 2: that's my mission helping. If it's not with music, it's 547 00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:41,719 Speaker 2: with my skincare, with my books, with my quotes. I 548 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 2: feel like I have to use my voice and my 549 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:49,200 Speaker 2: testimony to help inspire and empower people. And I really 550 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 2: truly feel that. So I don't know if I would ever. 551 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:54,720 Speaker 1: Erase my social media. 552 00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 2: For sure, take breaks because I need them. We all 553 00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,200 Speaker 2: need them, but I don't know about e racing it, 554 00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:01,120 Speaker 2: but to each his own. 555 00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 1: Gotta kin. 556 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:04,879 Speaker 2: You know, I love it because Amilio posts like once 557 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,920 Speaker 2: every blue moon, and I don't know, I think it's cool. 558 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,640 Speaker 2: So with that being said, guys, I hope you all 559 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,760 Speaker 2: consider taking breaks from social media and living life in 560 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:20,720 Speaker 2: real life, not just online. Today's motivational quote is sometimes 561 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 2: you need to take a break from everyone and spend 562 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:27,840 Speaker 2: time alone to experience, appreciate, and love yourself. 563 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with breaks, you guys. 564 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:33,919 Speaker 2: We all need them to regroup, to connect, to center ourselves, 565 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 2: to connect with our higher authentic selves. So that's my 566 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 2: personal advice to you because I've done it and it's helped. 567 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:42,960 Speaker 2: So anyways, you guys, thank you so much. 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