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Speaker 1: in two thousand nineteen, and my first podcast is Haley Hubbard.
Speaker 1: This woman is an angel, truly an Earth angel. She's beautiful,
Speaker 1: she's angelic. She has a heart of gold. She's so kind,
Speaker 1: so gentle, so giving, so loving. I'm telling you, if
Speaker 1: you meet her, you can't believe there's someone as sweet
Speaker 1: as are alive. And we talk all about her story.
Speaker 1: We talked about how she got to Nashville, her career,
Speaker 1: how she had huge plans to move to l A
Speaker 1: and start a very independent life. When she met Tyler
Speaker 1: Hubbard of f g L, he pretty much said, I
Speaker 1: don't think you're going to l A and you need
Speaker 1: to pray about it. She prayed about it, asked for
Speaker 1: a sign, and God gave her a huge sign. We
Speaker 1: talk all about that. We talked about their marriage. We
Speaker 1: talked about how she found her voice, how she's finding
Speaker 1: her voice and speaking up and using her voice, and
Speaker 1: it's just such an inspiring podcast. You will leave this
Speaker 1: podcast feeling like you can do anything and you can
Speaker 1: conquer any fears that you have. We also talk about motherhood.
Speaker 1: She has a beautiful little girl named Live who's one
Speaker 1: years old. She talks about how that's changed her and
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Speaker 1: not be disappointed. All right, here's Hayley Hubbard. Oh I'm
Speaker 1: here with the one, the only, Haley Howard. This is
Speaker 1: your first podcast, my first podcast. I feel really excited
Speaker 1: that I get to be your first. Well, I'm glad
Speaker 1: you're my first. You've done a lot of cool things
Speaker 1: in your life, so I feel like to get a
Speaker 1: first from you is really like, yes, wow, I'm honored,
Speaker 1: but but gosh, no, it's like kind of nerve wracking.
Speaker 1: And tell me what's nervous about doing your first podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm only wanting to kick off with this because you've
Speaker 1: been conquering this fear of using your voice, which you
Speaker 1: have this incredible voice that needs to be heard. I'm
Speaker 1: not talking singing voice, No I can't, which is yet
Speaker 1: another insecurity. It's okay, I won't make you think, okay, good,
Speaker 1: but yeah, tell me about how you've been like this
Speaker 1: season of you speaking and just like expressing yourself and
Speaker 1: what you believe in. Yeah, you know, Um, I feel
Speaker 1: like it's kind of been a journey, honestly, Um, And
Speaker 1: probably the last couple of months, I've had a couple
Speaker 1: of speaking opportunities, nothing major, but just a couple of
Speaker 1: people have asked me to speak, whether it be at
Speaker 1: a wedding or um on site of it, and about
Speaker 1: that one because I feel like on site in general
Speaker 1: is a cool thing to talk about. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: it's one of our causes, as you know, UM in
Speaker 1: a place that we love. It's place of recharge and
Speaker 1: a place you can go get therapy and really just
Speaker 1: I don't know, be your better self. And they kind
Speaker 1: of just like dive into all of your stuff, Like
Speaker 1: but you don't even know that you need diving into it,
Speaker 1: but you just do these exercises and you go stay
Speaker 1: there for you can stay there for a few days.
Speaker 1: They have different programs. Um they've got like a Couple's Intensive,
Speaker 1: which Tyler and I have done, or they have a
Speaker 1: Living Centered which is group therapy, which I need to
Speaker 1: go to. Tyler just got back and he's like changed person.
Speaker 1: Not that he needed changing, but I mean it. It
Speaker 1: really does just help you in every aspect of life.
Speaker 1: So and I love that people like you and Tyler,
Speaker 1: who by all standards have so many great, amazing things
Speaker 1: that people aspire to have in their lives. But you're like, no,
Speaker 1: we got we want to get our soul right and
Speaker 1: our minds right and be living in a healthy way,
Speaker 1: which to me is goals. Like that's so awesome that
Speaker 1: y'all prioritize that in your marriage, in this entertainment lifestyle.
Speaker 1: Well thanks, I mean it's cre shull mind, body, soul,
Speaker 1: all of it um to us. And so it's just
Speaker 1: the way of us maintaining our relationships the way we
Speaker 1: can be better people. And so so on Site asked
Speaker 1: us to speak at their event the day of and
Speaker 1: it was kind of a big event. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: a big event. Um, and I was like, wait me,
Speaker 1: you want me to speak? They're like, yes, you And
Speaker 1: I had to ask them three times, like wait, you
Speaker 1: really want me to speak? Because it's usually Tyler and
Speaker 1: which understandably, so he's the one in the spotlight, so
Speaker 1: I'll listening. Tyler is FTL. He is the Tyler of
Speaker 1: Tyler and Brian of f L. Yes, who's my husband,
Speaker 1: and um, so I'm used to him. They're like, are
Speaker 1: you sure you want me to be speak? Me sure?
Speaker 1: And so they said, yes, we want to hear your voice.
Speaker 1: And I mean that got me emotional in general, because
Speaker 1: no one's really said that. I mean, I guess people
Speaker 1: have said it, but um, it was kind of special
Speaker 1: to hear that someone wanted to hear what I had
Speaker 1: to say. So of course it was like a big oh.
Speaker 1: I cried. I cried a lot. I got in the
Speaker 1: car after the event and I just stopped. It was like, Tyler,
Speaker 1: this has never happened. Like, and I only said, you know,
Speaker 1: five sentences, but it was enough for me to just
Speaker 1: kind of break out of my shell and realized that
Speaker 1: I could do it. And um, you know, how did
Speaker 1: you feel when you were walking on the stage about
Speaker 1: to speak. I was petrified they got They had all
Speaker 1: these lights coming at us, so I couldn't see the people,
Speaker 1: which was really a blessing in disguise. It's like this
Speaker 1: is what I need, Thank you God. Do you remember
Speaker 1: what you said or was it just like you said it?
Speaker 1: You blacked out and they're like, um, what happened? I
Speaker 1: blacked out a little bit. I was like Tyler, I
Speaker 1: hope I said what I'm supposed to, because Tyler someone
Speaker 1: that just wings it. He's done this the time or
Speaker 1: two before, right and before we got there, he was like,
Speaker 1: I was like, what are we gonna say? I mean,
Speaker 1: I kind of know a little bit of what I
Speaker 1: want to say, but what are you going to say?
Speaker 1: When am I going to say things? And he's like,
Speaker 1: I'll just sing it, babe, And I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I cannot wing this. We need to talk about this
Speaker 1: and really at least have a little bit of a strategy.
Speaker 1: So in our car right there, we we figured out
Speaker 1: what we're going to say and basically kind of just
Speaker 1: told our story and how you know, we we think
Speaker 1: we're good. And when we were going to on site,
Speaker 1: we were like, oh, we're good. We don't need this,
Speaker 1: Like what are we going to talk about? Like a
Speaker 1: lot of people could feel that way. Yeah, And then
Speaker 1: you get there and how do you how do they
Speaker 1: unearth all these things? What they what do they do?
Speaker 1: They do experiential therapy. One of the things that they
Speaker 1: do is that and you know, talk about your childhood
Speaker 1: and and kind of unpack everything. But for me, experiential
Speaker 1: therapy was the best for us because you know, if
Speaker 1: you hear something, you're using one third of your brain.
Speaker 1: If you see something, you're using one third of your brain.
Speaker 1: But if you're doing and and saying and whatever hearing everything,
Speaker 1: you're using two thirds of your brain and which is
Speaker 1: what experiential therapy was and a lot of sense. So
Speaker 1: you're doing experiences together talking about your particular childhood and
Speaker 1: traumas that maybe you didn't even know you had. Now
Speaker 1: you've identified them and you're working through this with your partner.
Speaker 1: Got some commitment to healing very yeah, and you know
Speaker 1: then you know a lot of to heal even when
Speaker 1: you think you're good, like you said, like to me,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm good, I'm good, but then as soon
Speaker 1: as I feel like i'm good, I reach a whole
Speaker 1: another like level of breakdown. Same. I mean, it takes
Speaker 1: bravery for sure. I feel like we're definitely into the
Speaker 1: therapy world and we like doing it. And for me,
Speaker 1: every time we do something like that, it's always a
Speaker 1: little bit nerve wracking, but you go and you just
Speaker 1: I mean, it's the happiest you've ever felt. You're like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm on this cloud nine. And it
Speaker 1: really just helps you to have better relationships in life,
Speaker 1: whether it's with your spouse, your boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, tools. Tools. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I love that. And I love that, like because my
Speaker 1: mom's a philosopher and so she always always were always
Speaker 1: talking about feelings and things, but the anger and reacting
Speaker 1: is like to be able to get past that emotion
Speaker 1: and then to get into why it all, Why you
Speaker 1: have that emotion or why you feel defensive or insecure
Speaker 1: or whatever. It's just like it does take bravery to
Speaker 1: get to the bottom of it. So that's awesome. I
Speaker 1: love that you guys are leading the way with that
Speaker 1: open about that, that you're using your voice to talk
Speaker 1: about it. Because I told Hayley before we started this podcast,
Speaker 1: I was like, everyone's gonna look at you and be like,
Speaker 1: you are just goals times a million, Like you and
Speaker 1: Tyler both are goals. You're beautiful, you're kind, you'll have
Speaker 1: this great marriage, you're so you're great mother, you have
Speaker 1: all these causes you're helping out, Like you're just such
Speaker 1: a wonderful, glowing light to the world and especially the
Speaker 1: country music world. So when you share things like that
Speaker 1: you struggled with speaking up and like using your voice,
Speaker 1: I'm like, that is so huge because it makes people
Speaker 1: just feel like, oh my god, Okay, she's really like me,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh. Yeah, well thank you for that. That
Speaker 1: really means a lot. That warms my heart. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean we all struggle with things, whether it's being
Speaker 1: a mom or being married. Even though we do have
Speaker 1: an amazing marriage, and I mean, I couldn't ask for
Speaker 1: a better husband. It's just there's always stuff stuff real life.
Speaker 1: Like now Michael and I've been married for four years.
Speaker 1: I'm like the physical part when you're dating, like everyone,
Speaker 1: when you're dating, like you're attracted to someone and it's physical,
Speaker 1: and then it's great once you get married. It's like
Speaker 1: being married to someone is such a commitment because you
Speaker 1: are taking on this full person as yourself. And if
Speaker 1: you don't like agree and get along and like learn
Speaker 1: how to communicate and learn how to have tools to maneuver,
Speaker 1: I can see how it's self destruct But thankfully Michael
Speaker 1: and I are great communicators too and running to work
Speaker 1: on it. But I can see how marriage can get
Speaker 1: difficult if you don't have the tools to communicate and
Speaker 1: maneuver through this life, especially at entertainment fame like all
Speaker 1: of this. How do you guys found find your balance?
Speaker 1: Have have have you found your balance? A lot of things?
Speaker 1: I would say as a whole, I mean mind, body, soul,
Speaker 1: you know, being active, um, being in nature, UM, spending
Speaker 1: time with God, in the morning. We try and spend
Speaker 1: like sometimes it's five minutes, sometimes it's twenty, but UM,
Speaker 1: just having that quiet time in the morning. Our faith
Speaker 1: is something that definitely keeps us grounded centered me name
Speaker 1: it and UM, what else you know, therapy, all of
Speaker 1: the things UM, And then our friends, I would say
Speaker 1: the community around us. I mean you, all of our girlfriends.
Speaker 1: I don't even have time to name all of the
Speaker 1: amazing people in our life that help, you know, keep
Speaker 1: this running. And it just it takes a village. And
Speaker 1: whether it's the people that our house that help us
Speaker 1: or with an f g L and everyone had just
Speaker 1: takes everyone. But mainly I would say God is someone
Speaker 1: that I rely on and that I've learned to rely on.
Speaker 1: We were talking UM, and you were saying that you've
Speaker 1: had some big moments in your life where you felt
Speaker 1: like I have to do this like a tug or
Speaker 1: a pool where it's almost like if you didn't believe
Speaker 1: in God, you would sound like a crazy person because
Speaker 1: it's literally just like this feeling inside that you've got
Speaker 1: to do something. So talk to me about that. Like
Speaker 1: your move from You're in school in San Diego, San
Speaker 1: Diego and you'd moved there from Idaho, Like, how did
Speaker 1: you first off decide to go there? And then when
Speaker 1: you're in San Diego you got a huge just almost
Speaker 1: calling that you needed to move to Nashville, Like, how
Speaker 1: do you know? What I mean? I don't know calling
Speaker 1: is the right word, but it's just like, how do
Speaker 1: you know when God's telling you to do something? That's
Speaker 1: a really good question, um, and something you know, I'm
Speaker 1: still trying to figure out. But I really try and
Speaker 1: ask God, and I really try and listen and just
Speaker 1: pay attention to what he's telling me, and as he
Speaker 1: talked to you, you know, I like to call him godwinks. Um.
Speaker 1: I've heard that saying before and I really like it. Um.
Speaker 1: But whether it's through a song that you heard and
Speaker 1: you're going through something, you're driving and then the perfect
Speaker 1: song comes on or the lyrics hit you at this
Speaker 1: certain point, and if it moves you, I really feel
Speaker 1: like that's God's speaking to you. If it moves you. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's a distinction that I haven't heard before. I love
Speaker 1: that if you feel it and you feel like it
Speaker 1: was a message, then it probably was right. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think it. Excuse me, I think that you know when
Speaker 1: it when it is God, um, if you're looking for it.
Speaker 1: And I really kind of had to test him at
Speaker 1: the beginning. It would kind of be like, just show
Speaker 1: me that you're there, Like I want to know that
Speaker 1: you're there. Are you real? And you know, all those questions.
Speaker 1: Because I grew up going to church. I just I
Speaker 1: didn't grow up like reading the Bible religiously. It was
Speaker 1: just kind of the basics, and so I had to
Speaker 1: kind of grow into my faith. And I would say
Speaker 1: after colleges when I really started learning how to pray
Speaker 1: and the power of prayer and that, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: like he answers prayers if you just experience, Yeah, what
Speaker 1: was your first one that you can remember? You're like
Speaker 1: you noticed an answer. Um, I would say my move
Speaker 1: to Nashville was something I prayed about and and he
Speaker 1: answered so many prayers. But the most memorable one that
Speaker 1: Tyler and I talked about quite a bit is how
Speaker 1: we met. So well, we met through a mutual friend
Speaker 1: and um, let's see where do I start this story.
Speaker 1: I love the romantic story, especially when there's magic and
Speaker 1: faith involved. I know, it really kind of solidified my
Speaker 1: faith and ten percent and so I was when we met,
Speaker 1: I was planning on moving back to California, and we
Speaker 1: were just friends. I told him that I well, I
Speaker 1: didn't even tell him this. This is just something that
Speaker 1: I knew that I was never going to date an artist, athlete,
Speaker 1: or actor. This is just something that I knew it
Speaker 1: was not going to happen because not communicated. But but
Speaker 1: I was like, that's my rule. So he just kind
Speaker 1: of automatically got dumped into this friend zone. Now where
Speaker 1: did that rule come from? I think just living in Nashville,
Speaker 1: and and I realized I had this story in my
Speaker 1: head that all artists were these crazy party rock stars
Speaker 1: that you know, did drugs and I don't know, slept
Speaker 1: as a bunch of girls and we're tempted with all
Speaker 1: sorts of things. And the reality is everyone's tempted with things.
Speaker 1: And so anyways, I had, you know, you make up
Speaker 1: stories and too, just thinking that they all were gonna
Speaker 1: be cheaters and no one would really commit and be
Speaker 1: a good partner, right Yeah, And I think that that
Speaker 1: used to be a stigma kind of in the rock
Speaker 1: and roll days, but you guys have changed that stigma
Speaker 1: a lot fgl and you and be coold like y'all
Speaker 1: have been forward with your marriage and love from the
Speaker 1: beginning and that I feel like has been trailblazing. Well thanks.
Speaker 1: That was definitely a goal of ours, kind of unintentionally
Speaker 1: because people would tell us so much like you can't
Speaker 1: post about your girlfriends, so you can't post about your wives.
Speaker 1: Definitely are gonna put them in a music video, right,
Speaker 1: And the guys were like, well, this is our life,
Speaker 1: like we're going to share this. I mean, it's kind
Speaker 1: of weird if you put someone else in the video
Speaker 1: because then it looks like you're cheating on your what
Speaker 1: I mean, it's very strange. So it's a lot of sense.
Speaker 1: But for whatever reason, that was not the norm. It
Speaker 1: wasn't the norm at all for some weird reason. And
Speaker 1: I think that's one thing that I was afraid of
Speaker 1: at the beginning. And so I was like, nope, no artists,
Speaker 1: athletes are actors and so sorry, and I was like
Speaker 1: in misindependent mode. I was moving to California. I was like,
Speaker 1: I've I've got this planned out, and I had a
Speaker 1: plan yeah, and I've kind of forgotten to talk to
Speaker 1: God about this one. And so you know, it was
Speaker 1: like I was in control of this one, which is
Speaker 1: never smart. Every time I think I'm in control, it
Speaker 1: literally blows up in my face, I know, and it
Speaker 1: sometimes hurts. It hurts, and I'm like why is this happening?
Speaker 1: But then I'll go back to the beginning. It's like, oh,
Speaker 1: because I stopped letting God be in control, right, Really,
Speaker 1: I caused the suffering for myself, right Exactly. I do it.
Speaker 1: I do it all the time, and so that's when
Speaker 1: I have to like get in check and be like, okay, God.
Speaker 1: So Tyler was the one to kind of like get
Speaker 1: me back and check. And how'd y'all meet? We met
Speaker 1: through a friend. Yeah, she was in like a date
Speaker 1: thing or is it just like you all were hanging out.
Speaker 1: We were all hanging out in a group setting, and
Speaker 1: we were all we had way too many drinks. That's
Speaker 1: a good way started, you know. It was. It was
Speaker 1: very fun and I was trying to actually that day
Speaker 1: set him up with my friend. It was it's so
Speaker 1: funny now thinking back, but um, obviously that didn't work out. Um,
Speaker 1: so yeah, I just was blinded, really, and so you know,
Speaker 1: every time he came back to Nashville, which was only
Speaker 1: like one or two days a month he would call.
Speaker 1: So he had eyes for you from the beginning. I
Speaker 1: don't think he knew it. I don't maybe he did.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure he's calling you every time he comes back.
Speaker 1: I mean thinking about you. I don't know. We should
Speaker 1: ask him that, Okay. But so he would call us
Speaker 1: every time and we'd go out and eat Mexican food,
Speaker 1: and then that was it. I was like, gosh, he's
Speaker 1: a great guy, Like I'm really going to be friends
Speaker 1: with him, even though I'm moving to California. Like he's
Speaker 1: a good one. And then kind of like the fourth
Speaker 1: or fifth time we hung out, I was like, yep,
Speaker 1: moving to California next month, and he's like, no, you're not.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I am, but moving to Santa Monica.
Speaker 1: I've got a roommate. You got a roommate, like you
Speaker 1: had your place about in Yes, move is happening. It
Speaker 1: was happening in a month July one, and this was
Speaker 1: like June six or something, okay, okay, yeah, And so
Speaker 1: he said, no, you should pray about it, and I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, I haven't really prayed about it, like
Speaker 1: I was thinking that, And so we went home that
Speaker 1: night and prayed about it. I was like, God, give
Speaker 1: me a sign. If I stay, I'll stay, but like,
Speaker 1: let me know where I should go. If I need
Speaker 1: to go to California, let me know. Let me know
Speaker 1: where I need to be. And so the next day
Speaker 1: I was working at Merrill Lynch and Um, I was
Speaker 1: literally signing my name on the lease with my roommate
Speaker 1: signing Hayley, and my boss came up and stopped me
Speaker 1: and he said, Haley, if you stay in Nashville, I'll
Speaker 1: double your salary. Like he didn't. Got full body chills
Speaker 1: and I want to cry. It literally was one of
Speaker 1: those moments where it didn't moved me, and I was like, whoa,
Speaker 1: whoa sign your lease? Yes? So, Um, did you know
Speaker 1: then that Tyler was gonna be in your life after that?
Speaker 1: It was because probably the first people he thought about
Speaker 1: was him. I asked you to pray for the sign
Speaker 1: I did. I texted him first once I got my
Speaker 1: car that day and I texted him and but I
Speaker 1: don't think I actually thought about it, um, which is
Speaker 1: so funny. And then all started because of him, I know,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my gosh, got answered this prayer.
Speaker 1: This is so crazy. I think I was just like
Speaker 1: because now you're one eight in your life, like you
Speaker 1: were literally your mind was in California. You were starting
Speaker 1: a new chapter and now you're like usual wheeling like
Speaker 1: huge wheelie. Yeah, it was pretty crazy easy. So anyways,
Speaker 1: July one might move date, or what was supposed to
Speaker 1: be my move date. We got together and we went
Speaker 1: to our friend's house and we had this wine night
Speaker 1: and and he kissed me that night and it was
Speaker 1: just like this, oh my gosh, I didn't even know
Speaker 1: that that was there. And ever since then it was
Speaker 1: just like that was it. Yeah, we were I mean
Speaker 1: going on tour. It was just pretty crazy that they
Speaker 1: started touring heavy at that point they were that was
Speaker 1: in there, like really beginning days where they were just
Speaker 1: non stop. So how do you juggle that? So you
Speaker 1: go from working at a bank, right is that Marylynch,
Speaker 1: and you have your own life, you're misindependent, you're moving
Speaker 1: to California. But now because Tyler told you to pray
Speaker 1: about it, God answered, now you're on a worlwind. Tyler
Speaker 1: like for one day next, how do you one end
Speaker 1: of that life and now be full forced touring world?
Speaker 1: Because that's not for everybody. You have to learn how
Speaker 1: to navigate that or or do you think you're just
Speaker 1: born for it. I think certain things in your life, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's only meant for certain people. It's not Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not a lot of understanding of a lot of things.
Speaker 1: You can't get too uptight about stuff. Yeah, do you
Speaker 1: feel that way? Yeah. I mean we were on a
Speaker 1: bus with twelve guys and I mean, you know, and
Speaker 1: we were sharing a bunk and it was it was
Speaker 1: a lot, but it was so fun and so I
Speaker 1: to bond and really gets to know each other. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we got to know each other quick. You can't go
Speaker 1: number two on a bus, so you gotta let everybody
Speaker 1: know twelve others. Yes, yes, yeah, you gotta be okay
Speaker 1: with just the regular things in life. But it was
Speaker 1: it was so fun, and the timing was also God's timing.
Speaker 1: I mean everything was. I quit my job because I
Speaker 1: was like, you know, maybe this is why I'm unhappy.
Speaker 1: I need to figure out what I'm supposed to do.
Speaker 1: And so I didn't have a job. And but now
Speaker 1: your boss is upset because he's like, dang it, I've
Speaker 1: done your salary because I really want you here. I know,
Speaker 1: Tyler stole me away. So he'd be like, all right,
Speaker 1: we've coming tour this weekend, and I was like, well,
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess like a job search from the road,
Speaker 1: Like sure, I'll come out, and so yeah, it was
Speaker 1: kind of instant after that. But that that's kind of
Speaker 1: my main God story. But I really always ask God
Speaker 1: for for little nudges and signs. He knows that I
Speaker 1: need big signs, and so I just asked for that.
Speaker 1: I'm like, give me a big sign, yeah, make it clear.
Speaker 1: That's how I am too with God. I'm like, I'm like, God,
Speaker 1: i am not even trying to not do your will.
Speaker 1: Like at this point in my life, I know now
Speaker 1: I can give it my best shot and not do
Speaker 1: what is really intended for me to do, and it's
Speaker 1: going to blow up on my face and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be sad and I'm gonna be crying and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be like why is this happening? So just go and
Speaker 1: tell me from the beginning to make it clear, and
Speaker 1: I will just do that. Yes, lead me, please. But
Speaker 1: then I always think that I like have God and
Speaker 1: control and then I'm totally like I got this. I'm
Speaker 1: good and we're good. And then I had another moment
Speaker 1: where I'm like, totally didn't let God be in charge
Speaker 1: of that one. And I just remember, like you said,
Speaker 1: oh I forgot, I got to bring God into this
Speaker 1: this one. I know you need this little wake up calls.
Speaker 1: And I feel like the bigger the issue, actually, the
Speaker 1: more you need God where it feels like you want
Speaker 1: to control it more. Yeah, but really that's when you
Speaker 1: need to talk to God's surrender even more. Get I
Speaker 1: love a big sign. I'm gonna start praying for a
Speaker 1: big sign. Yeah, like a big Obviously he's there. He
Speaker 1: I mean, He's got everything that we need. We just
Speaker 1: don't always ask for it myself included. I know, why
Speaker 1: is that? I don't know, I don't know. I need
Speaker 1: to really get back to that. You're great at it though,
Speaker 1: on the whole. You are really you are though, You're
Speaker 1: really good at drawing in God on a daily basis
Speaker 1: and like on a you know, like on a not
Speaker 1: just like let me pray for this moment and back
Speaker 1: to my life. I feel like it's a continual thing
Speaker 1: for you. I try. I feel like Tyler really helps
Speaker 1: me kind of stay in life or his faith. He
Speaker 1: you know, his parents he really had a solid upbringing.
Speaker 1: With with that, I guess I'm trying to think. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think he just had really strong faith from the
Speaker 1: get go, and um, that's great. He had some he
Speaker 1: had pretty big life moments where he really relied on God.
Speaker 1: And once you get through some big life moments and
Speaker 1: you do have gotten it. Yeah, it's just kind of
Speaker 1: an unexplainable like, you know, I don't know how you
Speaker 1: just made me feel better, but but you did. You
Speaker 1: made me feel better. Yeah, talk to me about you
Speaker 1: guys in your love for Africa, because you're about to
Speaker 1: do a big, big month long yip with the whole family.
Speaker 1: And also you're all about helping the women who are
Speaker 1: pregnant going into childbirth because there's a huge death rate
Speaker 1: of women who are Uh you have a maternal mortality
Speaker 1: rate is it's really high. I mean it is in
Speaker 1: a lot of different areas of the world, but um,
Speaker 1: Malawi and Sierra Leone, where we're hoping to go next,
Speaker 1: is um the highest maternal mortality rate in the world. So,
Speaker 1: I mean, there's so many things about Africa that we love. Um,
Speaker 1: I can't even count them all or say them all.
Speaker 1: And there's probably a lot that I don't know yet,
Speaker 1: but this is just a big calling on your heart. Africa. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think for Tyler and I it's initially it's just
Speaker 1: the people, Like what do you love about people? The joy?
Speaker 1: There's true joy there and you know they're living a
Speaker 1: lot of people there live in poverty, um, but they're
Speaker 1: so joyful. Um. A lot of them faith and their
Speaker 1: family and their their families and communities are so tighten
Speaker 1: it there. Um. You know, everyone's helping everyone raise the
Speaker 1: babies and they're all living under one little hut and
Speaker 1: they're together. Yeah. Yeah, they're together. Um. And so that's
Speaker 1: kind of the main thing that we love about there.
Speaker 1: But there you can really make a difference and really
Speaker 1: make an impact. Um. Not that we don't help in
Speaker 1: the US. I think it's really important and I we
Speaker 1: love doing things here, but you know, not everyone can
Speaker 1: just fly to Africa. So I kind of feel like
Speaker 1: this is our calling for the moment um. And so
Speaker 1: right now we're working with the Game Project in maternal
Speaker 1: healthcare and then also with elephants of course, which I love.
Speaker 1: How did you what is what is it about elephants? Um? Elephants,
Speaker 1: they're so intelligent, they're these intelligent creatures and just insanely
Speaker 1: in touch with their emotions and connected and they can
Speaker 1: communicate telepathically and they're so smart and we don't even
Speaker 1: know the half of it. And um and matriarchually the
Speaker 1: pack or not the pack, but the herd, which is
Speaker 1: kind of cool. It just shows, you know, the strength
Speaker 1: of the women and um, but they're just I think
Speaker 1: it hurts me how much they're being affected by all
Speaker 1: the poaching and tens of thousands are dying each year
Speaker 1: just because people want their tusks for ivory, and um,
Speaker 1: it makes me sick pet anymore, Like you know, how
Speaker 1: can people even consider like fine to where when we
Speaker 1: know it's so terrible. I can go down a rabbit
Speaker 1: hole with all sorts of stuff like clothes, I shop
Speaker 1: it forever twenty one, and I'm thinking, like, okay, this
Speaker 1: is being so cheaply made. So like maybe some factory,
Speaker 1: like some sweat factory overseas where kids are working, Like
Speaker 1: what about is my pleasure someone else's pain? Like I
Speaker 1: think about that with everything, like even our food industry,
Speaker 1: the way we get meat, Like I can literally go
Speaker 1: down a rabbit hole and not be able to get
Speaker 1: out of it with all the suffering that goes on
Speaker 1: for someone's pleasure, and it's just such an industry now,
Speaker 1: it is such an industry, and I'm trying to learn
Speaker 1: more about it because there's so much and I know
Speaker 1: there's only so much we can do. You know, we
Speaker 1: can't do everything, and it does get a little overwhelming.
Speaker 1: And so how do you deal with that overwhelming feeling?
Speaker 1: Because now you're aware of what's happening, but you know
Speaker 1: you can't fix the whole problem. So how do you
Speaker 1: survive in the world but do what you can? Like,
Speaker 1: what is that balance for you? I'm working on it.
Speaker 1: I think I'm just in the midst of working on it.
Speaker 1: I broke down the other day to Tyler and just
Speaker 1: was like sobbing and just it was overwhelming, but because
Speaker 1: you just know so much about what's going on, and
Speaker 1: then I also realized I know so little in the
Speaker 1: big scheme of things, which is also a little bit overwhelming.
Speaker 1: But I think you just you do what you can
Speaker 1: in the areas that you can, and and that's what
Speaker 1: you can. Just do the best you can, and that's it.
Speaker 1: Whether it's in your community and or whether it's like
Speaker 1: going in your closet and getting stuff out of your
Speaker 1: closet giving it to goodwill or or if you can
Speaker 1: fly to Africa or India wherever to do your part.
Speaker 1: I think, um, that's huge, but also just sharing the
Speaker 1: awareness of it because knowledge, um, knowledge is definitely power.
Speaker 1: And I think if we could just educate everyone on
Speaker 1: the things that are going on, it would we would
Speaker 1: all understand, you know, why we can't use ivory, which
Speaker 1: that's an obvious one now, but but it wasn't it
Speaker 1: some you know? So, UM, awareness is key and for
Speaker 1: some reason God has given us this platform and I'm
Speaker 1: so thankful for it. Um, what do you think about
Speaker 1: it having a platform? Because whether you wanted it or not,
Speaker 1: you have a platform like you, yourself has a platform
Speaker 1: outside of Tyler and f g L and you and
Speaker 1: your husband and fl use your platforms in a really
Speaker 1: positive way. But you're also okay to express what you
Speaker 1: believe in, which is we're talking. It's scary to put
Speaker 1: yourself out there. So what does having a platform mean?
Speaker 1: Do you? Because you got one? Yeah, I think it.
Speaker 1: It's taken me a minute to accept it because I'm
Speaker 1: not one to speak out clearly. This is my first
Speaker 1: podcast thank you for bearing with me. You're natural. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I'm just kind of learning what that means
Speaker 1: and learning how to use my voice and learning that
Speaker 1: I was put here for a reason and and to
Speaker 1: just embrace that and share what I know. And so, um,
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's pretty cool. It's a pretty cool feeling.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I just anything we do in life, I
Speaker 1: want to use it for a greater good, you know,
Speaker 1: whatever it is we're doing. So, um, where does that
Speaker 1: come from? Because not everyone feels that way? I don't know.
Speaker 1: My mom was always volunteering, My parents were always volunteering,
Speaker 1: and I've got other people that are very near and
Speaker 1: dear to me that have inspired that in me. And
Speaker 1: I think everyone has it in them. Um, But I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just my heart just feels for everyone.
Speaker 1: I mean, half the time, I can't even watch a
Speaker 1: movie without sobbing because I literally take on everyone's emotions.
Speaker 1: So I think that's part of it. I'm just a mess.
Speaker 1: I'm just emotional mess. Yeah, ideally, you probably feel for
Speaker 1: all the animals and all the babies. I'm sure being
Speaker 1: a mom has added a whole new level. I mean,
Speaker 1: can you make it through a day without crying. Now
Speaker 1: that your mom. No, Tyler too, it's the sweetest thing
Speaker 1: ever choked up. Just turned one, she's about to yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's it's I mean, just to watch the fact
Speaker 1: that she's grown and she's almost a year old. And
Speaker 1: I don't know, Um, I love seeing Tyler get choked up.
Speaker 1: I think it it gets sweet. What gets him just
Speaker 1: watching Olivia do funny things? And I mean he'll just
Speaker 1: start tearing up. What did you cry about it? I
Speaker 1: don't know. We both are just always in tears. Um.
Speaker 1: When you learned in motherhood this past year, like, what
Speaker 1: have you learned about yourself? I've learned the motherhood is hard,
Speaker 1: even when you have help. I think just surrendering the
Speaker 1: fact that you're not going to be perfect. I mean,
Speaker 1: and that goes for every aspect of life. But just
Speaker 1: knowing that, like I'm not going to do everything right
Speaker 1: and that's hard for me because sometimes yourself grace for it. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: because I know I'm hard enough just on my own self.
Speaker 1: So now when you have a life that you're responsible for,
Speaker 1: trusting myself, I feel like I'm gonna have a hard
Speaker 1: time trusting my decisions. Like, but then you have to
Speaker 1: his mom, you have to make a decision, do it right,
Speaker 1: because you have no choice. That everwhelmed me. It is,
Speaker 1: but again I just have to go back to like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm trusting you, and that's we're having a great mom
Speaker 1: squad comes in because great mom friends. That's like the
Speaker 1: biggest thing of all. Otherwise I would not know anything
Speaker 1: that I know. Now. I'm constantly texting in this group
Speaker 1: of moms like Okay, is this right? Is this normal?
Speaker 1: Because I don't know. I've never done this before. And
Speaker 1: it's just so nice to have mom friends to rely
Speaker 1: on and lean lean on and cry with and yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean and then be there for other new moms.
Speaker 1: That's also been kind of fun to kind of pass
Speaker 1: on that knowledge even though I'm only you're in you know,
Speaker 1: but you know what a new mom needs. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna brag on you because I'm friends with Christen Prest
Speaker 1: and so are you, and she's and she was like,
Speaker 1: you'll never believe what Haley. Just take she gave me
Speaker 1: a night nurse. She was like in tears because a
Speaker 1: new mom knows how amazing that is when you got
Speaker 1: your hands full and you a swimming with kids. But
Speaker 1: you're so thoughtful. I feel like you. I have after
Speaker 1: getting to know you, have become friends with you, Like
Speaker 1: you are so thoughtful. You're a very thoughtful person and
Speaker 1: you're always doing something that's going to help someone make
Speaker 1: their day. And it's just quietly. You never make a
Speaker 1: big deal about it. You just are That's just how
Speaker 1: you are. Well, thank you. I have a lot of
Speaker 1: good people around me to help me out with that.
Speaker 1: And I remember being with Cassie and Lauren that day
Speaker 1: and we were like, oh my gosh, we're sending her
Speaker 1: a night nurses right now, because that is just I means.
Speaker 1: I couldn't have gotten through life without. Yeah, in those
Speaker 1: first months, I mean, what are the first ones? Like
Speaker 1: um and survival? I thought it was looking back, I
Speaker 1: don't remember much. It was a blur, but I mean
Speaker 1: so sweet. It's just so sweet and tender, and those
Speaker 1: moments that I will always like cherish but but it's hard.
Speaker 1: I think those are just the hartist times that I
Speaker 1: don't know that like looking forward to having another baby,
Speaker 1: I don't look forward to the first book. Well, just survival. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to give birth and then I wish I
Speaker 1: could just go to like month three. Okay, So it's
Speaker 1: the first three that are really for me. I don't know,
Speaker 1: it might be so different for other people. I mean,
Speaker 1: I know it's different for every mom, but for me,
Speaker 1: those were the hardest, and I mean again, we had
Speaker 1: help and it was still hard. So I seriously commend
Speaker 1: all the single moms out there and people that are
Speaker 1: just trying to do it by themselves, because oh, I know,
Speaker 1: it's a hard job. And then you look in the
Speaker 1: mirror and you're like, did I wash my face today?
Speaker 1: Did I brush my teeth today? I don't think so.
Speaker 1: Hopefully my breast is not too bad. Yeah, Oh my gosh. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about the shirt you gave me.
Speaker 1: Tell me what this is. When women support each other,
Speaker 1: great things happen. Talk to me about that because you
Speaker 1: and there's this whole group of women in the music
Speaker 1: industry who are especially there's this wife movement happening where
Speaker 1: I swear FGL was one of the first ones to
Speaker 1: start at you guys were just like the marriage unit
Speaker 1: has become so powerful. I feel like, especially in the
Speaker 1: country music industry. I swear due to you guys a lot.
Speaker 1: And now there's just this gang of women who and
Speaker 1: it's everywhere. It's a movement for women across the board.
Speaker 1: But tell me why women sticking together is so crucial
Speaker 1: and how much you love your your tribe and all
Speaker 1: that things you know, I mean, in your community. I
Speaker 1: can't say enough about all the women in my life,
Speaker 1: you know, in the country music world, but also in
Speaker 1: the Nashville community and all the women in my life.
Speaker 1: Um but I think all of us are blessed in
Speaker 1: the country music community to have such a strong community
Speaker 1: of women, because I don't think that's it wasn't the
Speaker 1: norm before, not at all. And I'm so thankful, so thankful,
Speaker 1: because I'm so thankful y'all blaze the trail. And then
Speaker 1: it's just the status quo the way things are when
Speaker 1: we popped in. So this is just how it is.
Speaker 1: Like wives and husbands are to be celebrated. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: also feels good to have your husband kind of celebrate
Speaker 1: you and when someone comes up to him and says,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like can I get a picture with you,
Speaker 1: and he's like, yeah, here's my wife, Hailey, and you know,
Speaker 1: just to kind of like acknowledge us as women. And
Speaker 1: but back to um our friends, I just feel like
Speaker 1: I couldn't do without any of you guys. It's m
Speaker 1: it's powerful to have everyone in this strong circle together.
Speaker 1: What's the difference between because we both love our marriages,
Speaker 1: there's a difference between my marriage though, and my friendships.
Speaker 1: Like I get something from my friendships and I don't
Speaker 1: get from my marriage, and Michael gets something from his
Speaker 1: friendships that he doesn't get from our It's like, what
Speaker 1: is it that you can pull from your women friends
Speaker 1: that you're just you couldn't live without? Um gosh, strength
Speaker 1: and encouragement. I feel like it's constantly this like building
Speaker 1: each other up instead of judging or trying to tear
Speaker 1: each other down. It it's like it truly is and
Speaker 1: it's not It's truly genuine. It's not fake um and
Speaker 1: so not that Tyler doesn't build me up. He does,
Speaker 1: but it's just a it's different when you hear it
Speaker 1: from a female. From some women are going through all
Speaker 1: the same things, like I know for me and Michael,
Speaker 1: like I can talk to him about what I'm going
Speaker 1: through and he will be so supportive and so kind,
Speaker 1: but then he hits a moment where he's like, I
Speaker 1: don't really know what else to tell you because I
Speaker 1: just am not living this as a right woman, you know.
Speaker 1: And one time I was having a breakdown and he
Speaker 1: texted Kristen and Laney and he was like, can you
Speaker 1: please the call Caroline because she needs to talk to her.
Speaker 1: But I see the girls. I'm so grateful to have
Speaker 1: people that you can be honest with and be yourself,
Speaker 1: like you're saying, express your feelings and get this good
Speaker 1: support that you're like, Okay, I trust them, right, They're
Speaker 1: not gonna leave me straight. They want the best for
Speaker 1: me and vice versa. Yeah, And I think in today's world,
Speaker 1: we live in this world of it's never enough and
Speaker 1: and we're always inadequate with social media and whatever. I mean,
Speaker 1: there's just so many pressures and so to have women
Speaker 1: that are telling you you are enough, I mean I
Speaker 1: could cry. I Like, I had this girl group one
Speaker 1: day together and you know, we're talking about how we
Speaker 1: are enough, and it was so powerful to just realize,
Speaker 1: like I'm enough, Like how God created me to be
Speaker 1: That's enough and that's a beautiful thing. And so just
Speaker 1: to have women supporting you and that is huge. Why
Speaker 1: is that so hard for us to know? Because that
Speaker 1: has been my biggest struggle and I'm not worthy, that
Speaker 1: I'm not enough that, like, like you said, with social media,
Speaker 1: I can compare myself and just feel like I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm getting better the more awareness and more friends,
Speaker 1: leaning on friendships and as all realizing that this is
Speaker 1: a universal thing, right, But just accepting my worthiness has
Speaker 1: been very very hard for me to do. And I
Speaker 1: like women in general struggle with that. I know, which
Speaker 1: is crazy. Why because I'm like, oh my gosh, you're amazing,
Speaker 1: You're beautiful, You're you have everything going, you can speak
Speaker 1: and you have those boys. But yeah, I think we
Speaker 1: just we all struggle with that. I mean me at least.
Speaker 1: And I don't know why. I couldn't tell you, but
Speaker 1: I do know that social media, although it has positives
Speaker 1: and you know, you can raise money and raise awareness,
Speaker 1: there's also a lot of things that that we need
Speaker 1: to be aware about and be funny balance with it,
Speaker 1: trying to what are your balance? Like what what what
Speaker 1: are you? How are you trying to work it into
Speaker 1: your life so it's healthy? Um So I'm trying. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna speaking to myself right now and hope that I
Speaker 1: just stay with this. But you know, keeping the limit
Speaker 1: on um, your Instagram with the new phone app, which
Speaker 1: is great. Um, I had forty five minutes, which seems
Speaker 1: like so long, and I always hit my limit, Like,
Speaker 1: how did I just spend that much time on Instagram?
Speaker 1: I don't get it. But in the mornings, Tyler is
Speaker 1: trying to force me to not touch my phone for
Speaker 1: an hour, which is also hard because you know, you
Speaker 1: look at it for your time, your everything, everything. So
Speaker 1: we got an alarm clock, old school, old school. Um.
Speaker 1: And then how else we read this book called How
Speaker 1: to Break Up with Your Phone a lot. I'm still
Speaker 1: not done. Um. Talk about the brain connection to Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: we're constantly relying on our phones too to remember everything
Speaker 1: for us. And I don't know anything about my phone
Speaker 1: and I watched it like I'm too connected. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: have the Internet, I mean, we have the world at
Speaker 1: our fingertips, and we can just say hey, Siri, this
Speaker 1: that then and ask these questions without actually retrieving it
Speaker 1: in our brain, which we we know a lot of it.
Speaker 1: And um, and so we're kind of missing that and
Speaker 1: our brains are making those connections and and so we're
Speaker 1: actually like making ourselves dumber by all the screen time
Speaker 1: we have which and so that was kind of a
Speaker 1: wake up call to me, is I need to really
Speaker 1: just put my screens down and asking, like, instead of
Speaker 1: just focusing and doing one thing, we have like fifty
Speaker 1: things tabs open in our brains exactly. It's like we
Speaker 1: just like forget everything almost or something. I know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the multitasking. It also says that no one can actually multitask,
Speaker 1: even though a lot of us pride ourselves on I
Speaker 1: can multitask, like, well I can't. I know I can't,
Speaker 1: but um, no one could physically do it. And so
Speaker 1: when we're forcing our brain to do all these multitasking,
Speaker 1: it's just on overload and it's not making these brain connections.
Speaker 1: And I don't know all the technical terms because I'm
Speaker 1: not good about that, but um, I find like my
Speaker 1: memory is over It worries me. It's not only thirty five,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm supposed to make it with his
Speaker 1: memory like a good solid at least fifty more years.
Speaker 1: I know, right, Yeah, how's that going to happen? I
Speaker 1: don't know, I've got I do feel like the more
Speaker 1: I put my phone down, I've been trying to not
Speaker 1: use ways or any of my Google maps. When I
Speaker 1: get somewhere now and I'm like, okay, traffic if it's
Speaker 1: this time, traffic is supposed to be like kind of
Speaker 1: bad in this area. So I'm going to go this
Speaker 1: And so I'm trying. What could you be in your
Speaker 1: own GPS? Trying sometimes baby steps that's a bit proactive though,
Speaker 1: that's great. So just little things. But I have a
Speaker 1: lot of work to do in that. No, you're like
Speaker 1: the closest thing to an angel on earth. Well you are.
Speaker 1: You're so sweet you are. When I see you, look,
Speaker 1: I can angel. You speak like an angel. You your
Speaker 1: house feels like heaven. Truly, it feels like heaving in air.
Speaker 1: Oh thank you. That means a lot. How do you
Speaker 1: prepare yourself to get naked in the shower in a
Speaker 1: Florida Georgia line video if you just had a baby
Speaker 1: and you look like a supermodel, Oh my gosh. That
Speaker 1: was funny. Um, basically, No, that was actually really funny
Speaker 1: because I wish we would have taken a photo of
Speaker 1: what we looked like, like the weird catching things you
Speaker 1: have on Tyler. I think what I don't think I was.
Speaker 1: I think I had braun panties on me I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I have to throw Tyler under the bus. He was
Speaker 1: wearing like ballet, nude ballet like um underbear it was
Speaker 1: I mean, we both we were dying laughing and there's
Speaker 1: a scene in the video where he's laughing and I
Speaker 1: know it's when we were laughing about his anywhere areas.
Speaker 1: You know, the water was coold. Everything was just like,
Speaker 1: was not sexy. It was not sex. Here's this really
Speaker 1: sexy video, but like here's ballet underwear, freezing cold sexy.
Speaker 1: I really we should have done it behind the scenes,
Speaker 1: like the real the real video. Um, but no. We
Speaker 1: had a lot of people help us. Man, the stylists
Speaker 1: help us with Christa. She's amazing getting stuff ready. And
Speaker 1: are you nervous though when you're about to do a
Speaker 1: sexy scene and it's going to be filmed. I think
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have been nervous, But I don't think I
Speaker 1: was because it was with Tyler, and I'm like, as
Speaker 1: long as I'm doing it with him, yeah, I'm fine.
Speaker 1: If I would have been by myself, I would have
Speaker 1: been not okaying, like a silhouette dancing or something, you know,
Speaker 1: like Faith Hill on that Breathe video and she's in
Speaker 1: the desert, like, that's gonna be your next one. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, No, I do not like being center of
Speaker 1: attention is my worst fear. You should, though, because you
Speaker 1: were like you are such a bright light. It's coming
Speaker 1: for you. Whether you want it or not, it's coming
Speaker 1: for you. Well, anyways, it was, it was funny, it
Speaker 1: was a fun day, and they actually did a really
Speaker 1: good job with the whole production of it. I was,
Speaker 1: I was impressed, So I liked. I asked, I think
Speaker 1: I asked the cold this. But what is since you guys?
Speaker 1: To me? When I look at your life, I'm like, goals.
Speaker 1: Y'all have got it figured out, having a great career
Speaker 1: but simultaneously working on your marriage just as hard, being
Speaker 1: an awesome mom, keeping your balance, Like you're just like
Speaker 1: you do a great job of balancing. So what what
Speaker 1: would you say? It would be the biggest perk of
Speaker 1: having this entertainment, exciting, wild lifestyle. What's like the most
Speaker 1: enjoyable side of it? And then what's been the biggest
Speaker 1: struggle side of it? M hmmm, Because you do it
Speaker 1: so well? Thank you. I don't feel like I do,
Speaker 1: but you know, we're so hard on ourselves were I
Speaker 1: don't know, we're so critical, but um, the best thing
Speaker 1: for me is kind of what we were talking about
Speaker 1: is having the platform and being able to use things
Speaker 1: for the greater good. Um, and then also sharing things
Speaker 1: like how to have a good marriage and that it's
Speaker 1: cool to be married and you know it's cool. It's
Speaker 1: not cool to say dumb jokes like ball and change
Speaker 1: joke because then you know, it's not really cool anymore.
Speaker 1: It's just like guys, sometimes people say it to try
Speaker 1: and fit in. And and so I think it's cool
Speaker 1: to kind of change that stigma. And whenever people say things,
Speaker 1: Tyler tries to be like, you know, question people about that,
Speaker 1: Oh what do you mean by that? And um does
Speaker 1: not letting an old stag mit stag like just an
Speaker 1: old outdated way of marriage, b like just not accepting it. Um,
Speaker 1: that's been really cool to watch. Um. And so, but
Speaker 1: I would say the hardest thing is probably the pressure.
Speaker 1: Sometimes there's you know, pressure and everything, but I think
Speaker 1: just the pressure of like I'm a perfectionist at heart
Speaker 1: sometimes which is to my own demise, but um, just
Speaker 1: the pressures of trying to be perfect and did I
Speaker 1: say the right things? And did I do the right things?
Speaker 1: And did my Instagram post did that come across okay
Speaker 1: so that no one had their feelings hurt? And did
Speaker 1: I include everyone? And I mean just just all of
Speaker 1: that is kind of hard, and everyone's watching or not everyone,
Speaker 1: but for some reason you didn't get it perfectly. Somebody
Speaker 1: somewhere is going to say something right, right, even though
Speaker 1: your attentions are always good, yeah, just but you also
Speaker 1: have to be yourself and speak so right. You have
Speaker 1: to just someone's always going to be offended or but
Speaker 1: I do. I do kind of like I'm hard on
Speaker 1: myself in that regard, and so I've almost not posted.
Speaker 1: We went through a phase where we just didn't post
Speaker 1: Instagrams and we just kind of took a step back
Speaker 1: from things. And and then I realized, like, well, we're
Speaker 1: not spreading any like goodness, we're not sharing all this
Speaker 1: awesome stuff with the world, and I don't know, we're
Speaker 1: trying to find a balance with that. I really appreciate that, though,
Speaker 1: because I think that is such a genuine struggle, and
Speaker 1: you're right because it we were talking. We did yoga
Speaker 1: today before I got all you little good It's great,
Speaker 1: but it is like finding that balance where you are
Speaker 1: using your platform to be proactive to spread positive things,
Speaker 1: whether it's just a joyful post of you and Olivia,
Speaker 1: you know, like to show you can be a happy
Speaker 1: family and have a great marriage and all that, or
Speaker 1: you're making a big post about like you guys did
Speaker 1: about you know, gun awareness in a very very positive way.
Speaker 1: Like all of all of these things, it's like you
Speaker 1: have to think about them. I know you really do
Speaker 1: now because social media is part of our life. People
Speaker 1: are watching and it is like it's just a part
Speaker 1: of the conversation, right. I know we tried to to
Speaker 1: deny it for a while and be like, okay, now
Speaker 1: we're not using social media, but the reality is we
Speaker 1: need if we're going to have a good impact on
Speaker 1: things like we do, need to be on social media
Speaker 1: and um and spreading awareness. And so it is with
Speaker 1: any new thing that like with the Internet or even
Speaker 1: like a telephone or the cell phone, or like every
Speaker 1: new advancement thing connects us more, there's like that that
Speaker 1: period where you have to navigate it and figure out
Speaker 1: the boundaries, you know. And I feel like we are
Speaker 1: the generation because we are like the last generation that
Speaker 1: didn't have social media and then got it right, you know,
Speaker 1: So we're having to navigate those waters of finding balance
Speaker 1: because we knew what it was like before, whereas kids
Speaker 1: growing up in it, they don't know any different. Yeah, exactly,
Speaker 1: So we've got to embrace it. But it's like figuring
Speaker 1: it out so it's not a detriment, which is what
Speaker 1: we've all been trying to do. But you are doing
Speaker 1: a great job with that, well, thank you. I'm constantly
Speaker 1: working on it. It's just constant struggle. How do you, like,
Speaker 1: if you're gonna indulge in have a day where you're
Speaker 1: just like, I gotta have a day for me, or
Speaker 1: I gotta have a meal for me, or if you're
Speaker 1: gonna have like a slurge anything, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: Split like food wise? It give me food. It can
Speaker 1: be massage. It could be like, how do you if
Speaker 1: you're stressed out and you need to relax? What's happening?
Speaker 1: M I need I need a yoga, I need movement
Speaker 1: of some yoga. Descert for me to yoga. It's just
Speaker 1: like you don't have your phone first of all, which
Speaker 1: is huge for me and just getting away from it
Speaker 1: um and then you just have this great workout, you're
Speaker 1: moving and you're just kind of like forgetting about everything
Speaker 1: else around you. That spiritual to like, even though it's
Speaker 1: not like God in your face talking praying, it's like
Speaker 1: the silent prayer or something. I'm with you. I don't
Speaker 1: know what it is about it, but either it's so
Speaker 1: connected to your body. It's connecting your body to this spirit.
Speaker 1: I guess because yoga is kind of how you yoga. Um.
Speaker 1: What else? Pizza? I love pizza pizza. I could eat
Speaker 1: it every day every day, especially like the really good
Speaker 1: Italian thin crest with like the would fire pizza my
Speaker 1: favorite odd and then Cheetos would be my Do you hear?
Speaker 1: Do you like the regular? I just like the regular?
Speaker 1: Like the regular too. I don't like the puffs. Pups
Speaker 1: get all stuck in my mouth. I feel like I
Speaker 1: need to eat these faster than a puffle. Let me yes,
Speaker 1: I mean ask people every time we get on a flight.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm always eating Cheetos. That's just like
Speaker 1: my thing. I love it. Balance. You know, you have
Speaker 1: to balance in your life. Got to okay, So we'll
Speaker 1: wrap up. You're a little angel of light and love.
Speaker 1: Tell me I leave every interview with leave your light.
Speaker 1: So obviously you're spreading light in all areas of your life.
Speaker 1: This interview has been light. But what is your how
Speaker 1: do you you want people to think of you? Think
Speaker 1: of your legacy? Like when? What message are you trying
Speaker 1: to get out there? Like what you're not? You don't
Speaker 1: have to be a big message, but like what do
Speaker 1: you want people to know so they can have a
Speaker 1: more happy fulfilled by what's or what's? Yeah? Just how
Speaker 1: do you want to encourage people? Gos? Just take care
Speaker 1: of yourself first and communicate. I think communication is huge,
Speaker 1: so huge. Um, some people just not know how to
Speaker 1: do it. I think a lot of people don't. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm aware of it and I'm still learning so
Speaker 1: much of how to communicate. Um. But you know, whether
Speaker 1: it's your marriage or anything, communication is like key. UM.
Speaker 1: I would just say, let's say, communicate, take care of
Speaker 1: yourself and I don't know, just be good, be kind
Speaker 1: to people. Um. I think we could all be better
Speaker 1: about that. Myself included just doing the best instead of
Speaker 1: the worst and stop making up these stories in our heads.
Speaker 1: Especially with social media, I look at a post and
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, I start judging and I'm like,
Speaker 1: why did I make up that story in my head?
Speaker 1: Like it's too easy not to. I know this is
Speaker 1: like a reflex. So so I'm telling this to myself
Speaker 1: as well to be kind um and just know that
Speaker 1: everyone's going through their stuff. Just to give some grace
Speaker 1: and give your give grace to yourself. I've been working
Speaker 1: on myself talk to myself talk. I didn't know how
Speaker 1: bad myself talk was, but man, I'm hard on myself.
Speaker 1: But so we got me gentle on ourselves like we
Speaker 1: would be to a friend. Yeah, what if someone told us,
Speaker 1: like someone came up to us to tell us all
Speaker 1: the things that we say to ourselves, like I know,
Speaker 1: it would hurt, It would really hurt. So it does
Speaker 1: hurt us. We just you know, I don't know the
Speaker 1: full effect of it. Say something wonderful to yourself today.
Speaker 1: I love that. Well, I'm gonna say to you, hay
Speaker 1: You're an angel. You are. Thank you so much for
Speaker 1: joining me, thank you for having me. Thank you all
Speaker 1: so much for tuning in and joining me and hearing
Speaker 1: Hayley's story. I know you were inspired and uplifted by it.
Speaker 1: She's just absolutely an angel. Y'all make sure to keep
Speaker 1: tuning in. I have so many incredible Wives of Nashville
Speaker 1: coming your way next week. Is Brittany Kelly. She is
Speaker 1: the wife of Brian Kelly of Florida Georgia Line. She
Speaker 1: started her own line of clothing called Tribe Kelly. Her
Speaker 1: story will rock your world. She's such a badass, such
Speaker 1: an amazing spirit, and I just can't wait for you
Speaker 1: to hear all that she has to say. So we
Speaker 1: will see you next week. Have an awesome day, Love
Speaker 1: you guys,