WEBVTT - Hayley Hubbard 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:14.840 Carala. She's a queen of talking. He was so on yourn. 0:00:15.960 --> 0:00:20.120 She's on the inside, she got the scoop on the side. 0:00:20.560 --> 0:00:29.960 No one can do win quiet Caralam Carala, No one 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:38.000 can do win quiet Ba caralivil Carolin. Happy New Year. 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:40.839 I am so excited to be back with you guys 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:45.680 in two thousand nineteen, and my first podcast is Haley Hubbard. 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:50.360 This woman is an angel, truly an Earth angel. She's beautiful, 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:54.000 she's angelic. She has a heart of gold. She's so kind, 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:57.400 so gentle, so giving, so loving. I'm telling you, if 0:00:57.440 --> 0:00:59.760 you meet her, you can't believe there's someone as sweet 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:02.200 as are alive. And we talk all about her story. 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:04.800 We talked about how she got to Nashville, her career, 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.280 how she had huge plans to move to l A 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:11.479 and start a very independent life. When she met Tyler 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:14.000 Hubbard of f g L, he pretty much said, I 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:16.399 don't think you're going to l A and you need 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:18.600 to pray about it. She prayed about it, asked for 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:21.360 a sign, and God gave her a huge sign. We 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:23.920 talk all about that. We talked about their marriage. We 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:26.800 talked about how she found her voice, how she's finding 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:29.959 her voice and speaking up and using her voice, and 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.200 it's just such an inspiring podcast. 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You've done a lot of cool things 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.000 in your life, so I feel like to get a 0:02:56.040 --> 0:03:00.800 first from you is really like, yes, wow, I'm honored, 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:04.960 but but gosh, no, it's like kind of nerve wracking. 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:07.600 And tell me what's nervous about doing your first podcast. 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:10.040 I'm only wanting to kick off with this because you've 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:12.720 been conquering this fear of using your voice, which you 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:15.240 have this incredible voice that needs to be heard. I'm 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:19.240 not talking singing voice, No I can't, which is yet 0:03:19.320 --> 0:03:22.520 another insecurity. It's okay, I won't make you think, okay, good, 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:26.200 but yeah, tell me about how you've been like this 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:29.880 season of you speaking and just like expressing yourself and 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:33.320 what you believe in. Yeah, you know, Um, I feel 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:37.520 like it's kind of been a journey, honestly, Um, And 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:41.320 probably the last couple of months, I've had a couple 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:45.080 of speaking opportunities, nothing major, but just a couple of 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.040 people have asked me to speak, whether it be at 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:52.040 a wedding or um on site of it, and about 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:53.560 that one because I feel like on site in general 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:55.280 is a cool thing to talk about. Yeah, you know, 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:59.000 it's one of our causes, as you know, UM in 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:02.240 a place that we love. It's place of recharge and 0:04:02.320 --> 0:04:05.520 a place you can go get therapy and really just 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:07.680 I don't know, be your better self. And they kind 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:10.200 of just like dive into all of your stuff, Like 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:12.280 but you don't even know that you need diving into it, 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.839 but you just do these exercises and you go stay 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:16.479 there for you can stay there for a few days. 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:20.039 They have different programs. Um they've got like a Couple's Intensive, 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:21.880 which Tyler and I have done, or they have a 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:25.279 Living Centered which is group therapy, which I need to 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:28.760 go to. Tyler just got back and he's like changed person. 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:31.599 Not that he needed changing, but I mean it. It 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:35.720 really does just help you in every aspect of life. 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:37.720 So and I love that people like you and Tyler, 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:42.360 who by all standards have so many great, amazing things 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:44.760 that people aspire to have in their lives. But you're like, no, 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.320 we got we want to get our soul right and 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:50.839 our minds right and be living in a healthy way, 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:54.400 which to me is goals. Like that's so awesome that 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:58.000 y'all prioritize that in your marriage, in this entertainment lifestyle. 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.320 Well thanks, I mean it's cre shull mind, body, soul, 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.600 all of it um to us. And so it's just 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:08.039 the way of us maintaining our relationships the way we 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:11.040 can be better people. And so so on Site asked 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:14.000 us to speak at their event the day of and 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:15.680 it was kind of a big event. Yeah, it was 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:18.359 a big event. Um, and I was like, wait me, 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:20.880 you want me to speak? They're like, yes, you And 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:23.599 I had to ask them three times, like wait, you 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.000 really want me to speak? Because it's usually Tyler and 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:29.320 which understandably, so he's the one in the spotlight, so 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:32.719 I'll listening. Tyler is FTL. He is the Tyler of 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:35.159 Tyler and Brian of f L. Yes, who's my husband, 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:39.400 and um, so I'm used to him. They're like, are 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:41.640 you sure you want me to be speak? Me sure? 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:44.800 And so they said, yes, we want to hear your voice. 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:48.480 And I mean that got me emotional in general, because 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:51.600 no one's really said that. I mean, I guess people 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:55.599 have said it, but um, it was kind of special 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:57.560 to hear that someone wanted to hear what I had 0:05:57.600 --> 0:06:00.599 to say. So of course it was like a big oh. 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:02.200 I cried. I cried a lot. I got in the 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:04.720 car after the event and I just stopped. It was like, Tyler, 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:08.440 this has never happened. Like, and I only said, you know, 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:11.440 five sentences, but it was enough for me to just 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:13.320 kind of break out of my shell and realized that 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:17.520 I could do it. And um, you know, how did 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:19.839 you feel when you were walking on the stage about 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:23.520 to speak. I was petrified they got They had all 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:26.200 these lights coming at us, so I couldn't see the people, 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:29.920 which was really a blessing in disguise. It's like this 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:31.680 is what I need, Thank you God. Do you remember 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:33.120 what you said or was it just like you said it? 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:35.760 You blacked out and they're like, um, what happened? I 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:37.479 blacked out a little bit. I was like Tyler, I 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:40.159 hope I said what I'm supposed to, because Tyler someone 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:42.240 that just wings it. He's done this the time or 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:44.920 two before, right and before we got there, he was like, 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:46.800 I was like, what are we gonna say? I mean, 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:48.960 I kind of know a little bit of what I 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:50.599 want to say, but what are you going to say? 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:52.080 When am I going to say things? And he's like, 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:55.880 I'll just sing it, babe, And I was like, no, 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:59.440 I cannot wing this. We need to talk about this 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:02.880 and really at least have a little bit of a strategy. 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:04.800 So in our car right there, we we figured out 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:07.919 what we're going to say and basically kind of just 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:10.960 told our story and how you know, we we think 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:13.000 we're good. And when we were going to on site, 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:15.480 we were like, oh, we're good. We don't need this, 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:17.840 Like what are we going to talk about? Like a 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:20.040 lot of people could feel that way. Yeah, And then 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:22.240 you get there and how do you how do they 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:24.600 unearth all these things? What they what do they do? 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.160 They do experiential therapy. One of the things that they 0:07:27.200 --> 0:07:29.800 do is that and you know, talk about your childhood 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:34.360 and and kind of unpack everything. But for me, experiential 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:38.240 therapy was the best for us because you know, if 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:40.600 you hear something, you're using one third of your brain. 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:42.560 If you see something, you're using one third of your brain. 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:46.840 But if you're doing and and saying and whatever hearing everything, 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:49.240 you're using two thirds of your brain and which is 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:52.960 what experiential therapy was and a lot of sense. So 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:57.880 you're doing experiences together talking about your particular childhood and 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.360 traumas that maybe you didn't even know you had. Now 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.120 you've identified them and you're working through this with your partner. 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:08.080 Got some commitment to healing very yeah, and you know 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:11.640 then you know a lot of to heal even when 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.160 you think you're good, like you said, like to me, 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:14.880 I'm like, I'm good, I'm good, but then as soon 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:16.080 as I feel like i'm good, I reach a whole 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:20.480 another like level of breakdown. Same. I mean, it takes 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:24.480 bravery for sure. I feel like we're definitely into the 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:26.720 therapy world and we like doing it. And for me, 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:28.880 every time we do something like that, it's always a 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:31.760 little bit nerve wracking, but you go and you just 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:34.040 I mean, it's the happiest you've ever felt. You're like, 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:36.840 oh my gosh, I'm on this cloud nine. And it 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:40.000 really just helps you to have better relationships in life, 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:46.319 whether it's with your spouse, your boyfriend, girlfriend, friends, tools. Tools. Yeah, yeah, 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:48.560 I love that. And I love that, like because my 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.320 mom's a philosopher and so she always always were always 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:55.160 talking about feelings and things, but the anger and reacting 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:58.040 is like to be able to get past that emotion 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.679 and then to get into why it all, Why you 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.960 have that emotion or why you feel defensive or insecure 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:06.240 or whatever. It's just like it does take bravery to 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:08.840 get to the bottom of it. So that's awesome. I 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:10.760 love that you guys are leading the way with that 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:13.160 open about that, that you're using your voice to talk 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:15.720 about it. Because I told Hayley before we started this podcast, 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:18.280 I was like, everyone's gonna look at you and be like, 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:21.680 you are just goals times a million, Like you and 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:25.000 Tyler both are goals. You're beautiful, you're kind, you'll have 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:27.880 this great marriage, you're so you're great mother, you have 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.400 all these causes you're helping out, Like you're just such 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:35.520 a wonderful, glowing light to the world and especially the 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:38.679 country music world. So when you share things like that 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.000 you struggled with speaking up and like using your voice, 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:43.360 I'm like, that is so huge because it makes people 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.000 just feel like, oh my god, Okay, she's really like me, 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:48.440 oh my gosh. Yeah, well thank you for that. That 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:51.960 really means a lot. That warms my heart. But yeah, 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:55.480 I mean we all struggle with things, whether it's being 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:59.240 a mom or being married. Even though we do have 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:02.120 an amazing marriage, and I mean, I couldn't ask for 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:06.880 a better husband. It's just there's always stuff stuff real life. 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:09.360 Like now Michael and I've been married for four years. 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:12.720 I'm like the physical part when you're dating, like everyone, 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:15.360 when you're dating, like you're attracted to someone and it's physical, 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:18.480 and then it's great once you get married. It's like 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:23.560 being married to someone is such a commitment because you 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:26.640 are taking on this full person as yourself. And if 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:28.679 you don't like agree and get along and like learn 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.600 how to communicate and learn how to have tools to maneuver, 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:34.280 I can see how it's self destruct But thankfully Michael 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:36.480 and I are great communicators too and running to work 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:38.960 on it. But I can see how marriage can get 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:41.839 difficult if you don't have the tools to communicate and 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:46.760 maneuver through this life, especially at entertainment fame like all 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:49.720 of this. How do you guys found find your balance? 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:52.240 Have have have you found your balance? A lot of things? 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:55.760 I would say as a whole, I mean mind, body, soul, 0:10:56.080 --> 0:11:01.520 you know, being active, um, being in nature, UM, spending 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:03.840 time with God, in the morning. We try and spend 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:08.840 like sometimes it's five minutes, sometimes it's twenty, but UM, 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:11.839 just having that quiet time in the morning. Our faith 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:16.800 is something that definitely keeps us grounded centered me name 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:22.160 it and UM, what else you know, therapy, all of 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:24.920 the things UM, And then our friends, I would say 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:28.440 the community around us. I mean you, all of our girlfriends. 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:30.320 I don't even have time to name all of the 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:33.960 amazing people in our life that help, you know, keep 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:37.559 this running. And it just it takes a village. And 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:39.600 whether it's the people that our house that help us 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:43.319 or with an f g L and everyone had just 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:47.160 takes everyone. But mainly I would say God is someone 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:49.920 that I rely on and that I've learned to rely on. 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:54.000 We were talking UM, and you were saying that you've 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:56.360 had some big moments in your life where you felt 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.000 like I have to do this like a tug or 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:03.840 a pool where it's almost like if you didn't believe 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:06.000 in God, you would sound like a crazy person because 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:09.480 it's literally just like this feeling inside that you've got 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:11.720 to do something. So talk to me about that. Like 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:16.080 your move from You're in school in San Diego, San 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:19.319 Diego and you'd moved there from Idaho, Like, how did 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:21.240 you first off decide to go there? And then when 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:24.280 you're in San Diego you got a huge just almost 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:26.480 calling that you needed to move to Nashville, Like, how 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.680 do you know? What I mean? I don't know calling 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:30.720 is the right word, but it's just like, how do 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:34.600 you know when God's telling you to do something? That's 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:38.600 a really good question, um, and something you know, I'm 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:41.680 still trying to figure out. But I really try and 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:45.360 ask God, and I really try and listen and just 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:48.199 pay attention to what he's telling me, and as he 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:52.679 talked to you, you know, I like to call him godwinks. Um. 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:56.000 I've heard that saying before and I really like it. Um. 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.880 But whether it's through a song that you heard and 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:01.640 you're going through something, you're driving and then the perfect 0:13:01.720 --> 0:13:03.840 song comes on or the lyrics hit you at this 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:07.520 certain point, and if it moves you, I really feel 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:11.240 like that's God's speaking to you. If it moves you. Okay, 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:13.960 that's a distinction that I haven't heard before. I love 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:16.280 that if you feel it and you feel like it 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.079 was a message, then it probably was right. Yeah, I 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:22.960 think it. Excuse me, I think that you know when 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:26.360 it when it is God, um, if you're looking for it. 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:28.760 And I really kind of had to test him at 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:32.000 the beginning. It would kind of be like, just show 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.120 me that you're there, Like I want to know that 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:36.920 you're there. Are you real? And you know, all those questions. 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:39.480 Because I grew up going to church. I just I 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:42.280 didn't grow up like reading the Bible religiously. It was 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:45.679 just kind of the basics, and so I had to 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:49.040 kind of grow into my faith. And I would say 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.920 after colleges when I really started learning how to pray 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:54.600 and the power of prayer and that, oh my gosh, 0:13:54.640 --> 0:13:58.400 like he answers prayers if you just experience, Yeah, what 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:00.400 was your first one that you can remember? You're like 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:05.920 you noticed an answer. Um, I would say my move 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:10.000 to Nashville was something I prayed about and and he 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:14.080 answered so many prayers. But the most memorable one that 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:17.080 Tyler and I talked about quite a bit is how 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:21.200 we met. So well, we met through a mutual friend 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:25.000 and um, let's see where do I start this story. 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:27.800 I love the romantic story, especially when there's magic and 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:31.920 faith involved. I know, it really kind of solidified my 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:36.720 faith and ten percent and so I was when we met, 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:40.840 I was planning on moving back to California, and we 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:43.760 were just friends. I told him that I well, I 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:45.800 didn't even tell him this. This is just something that 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:48.440 I knew that I was never going to date an artist, athlete, 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:50.880 or actor. This is just something that I knew it 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:53.760 was not going to happen because not communicated. But but 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:56.320 I was like, that's my rule. So he just kind 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:59.040 of automatically got dumped into this friend zone. Now where 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:02.840 did that rule come from? I think just living in Nashville, 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:05.960 and and I realized I had this story in my 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:09.480 head that all artists were these crazy party rock stars 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:13.320 that you know, did drugs and I don't know, slept 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:16.200 as a bunch of girls and we're tempted with all 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:19.080 sorts of things. And the reality is everyone's tempted with things. 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:22.520 And so anyways, I had, you know, you make up 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:24.680 stories and too, just thinking that they all were gonna 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:26.520 be cheaters and no one would really commit and be 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:30.280 a good partner, right Yeah, And I think that that 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:33.000 used to be a stigma kind of in the rock 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:36.040 and roll days, but you guys have changed that stigma 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:39.320 a lot fgl and you and be coold like y'all 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:41.920 have been forward with your marriage and love from the 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:46.000 beginning and that I feel like has been trailblazing. Well thanks. 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:49.520 That was definitely a goal of ours, kind of unintentionally 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:52.680 because people would tell us so much like you can't 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:55.000 post about your girlfriends, so you can't post about your wives. 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:56.960 Definitely are gonna put them in a music video, right, 0:15:57.320 --> 0:15:59.520 And the guys were like, well, this is our life, 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:01.680 like we're going to share this. I mean, it's kind 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.640 of weird if you put someone else in the video 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:06.960 because then it looks like you're cheating on your what 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:11.000 I mean, it's very strange. So it's a lot of sense. 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:13.080 But for whatever reason, that was not the norm. It 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:15.440 wasn't the norm at all for some weird reason. And 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:17.600 I think that's one thing that I was afraid of 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:20.800 at the beginning. And so I was like, nope, no artists, 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:25.000 athletes are actors and so sorry, and I was like 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:28.200 in misindependent mode. I was moving to California. I was like, 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:32.320 I've I've got this planned out, and I had a 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:35.200 plan yeah, and I've kind of forgotten to talk to 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.760 God about this one. And so you know, it was 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:39.960 like I was in control of this one, which is 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:43.160 never smart. Every time I think I'm in control, it 0:16:43.280 --> 0:16:45.280 literally blows up in my face, I know, and it 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:47.840 sometimes hurts. It hurts, and I'm like why is this happening? 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:49.720 But then I'll go back to the beginning. It's like, oh, 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:52.680 because I stopped letting God be in control, right, Really, 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.920 I caused the suffering for myself, right Exactly. I do it. 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:57.800 I do it all the time, and so that's when 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:00.480 I have to like get in check and be like, okay, God. 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:02.840 So Tyler was the one to kind of like get 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:05.960 me back and check. And how'd y'all meet? We met 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.080 through a friend. Yeah, she was in like a date 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:10.840 thing or is it just like you all were hanging out. 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:13.239 We were all hanging out in a group setting, and 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:16.040 we were all we had way too many drinks. That's 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:18.679 a good way started, you know. It was. It was 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:20.720 very fun and I was trying to actually that day 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:24.720 set him up with my friend. It was it's so 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:30.400 funny now thinking back, but um, obviously that didn't work out. Um, 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:35.080 so yeah, I just was blinded, really, and so you know, 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:37.240 every time he came back to Nashville, which was only 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:39.080 like one or two days a month he would call. 0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:41.600 So he had eyes for you from the beginning. I 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:43.800 don't think he knew it. I don't maybe he did. 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:46.160 I'm not sure he's calling you every time he comes back. 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:49.520 I mean thinking about you. I don't know. We should 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:52.840 ask him that, Okay. But so he would call us 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:55.119 every time and we'd go out and eat Mexican food, 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:57.400 and then that was it. I was like, gosh, he's 0:17:57.440 --> 0:17:59.320 a great guy, Like I'm really going to be friends 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:01.480 with him, even though I'm moving to California. Like he's 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:04.960 a good one. And then kind of like the fourth 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:07.439 or fifth time we hung out, I was like, yep, 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:10.400 moving to California next month, and he's like, no, you're not. 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:13.479 I was like, yeah, I am, but moving to Santa Monica. 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:15.919 I've got a roommate. You got a roommate, like you 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:19.840 had your place about in Yes, move is happening. It 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:23.080 was happening in a month July one, and this was 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:26.960 like June six or something, okay, okay, yeah, And so 0:18:28.480 --> 0:18:31.920 he said, no, you should pray about it, and I 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:35.840 was like, wow, I haven't really prayed about it, like 0:18:36.080 --> 0:18:38.960 I was thinking that, And so we went home that 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:40.880 night and prayed about it. I was like, God, give 0:18:40.920 --> 0:18:44.359 me a sign. If I stay, I'll stay, but like, 0:18:44.520 --> 0:18:46.200 let me know where I should go. If I need 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:48.320 to go to California, let me know. Let me know 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:51.200 where I need to be. And so the next day 0:18:51.240 --> 0:18:54.919 I was working at Merrill Lynch and Um, I was 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:58.160 literally signing my name on the lease with my roommate 0:18:59.240 --> 0:19:02.160 signing Hayley, and my boss came up and stopped me 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:04.880 and he said, Haley, if you stay in Nashville, I'll 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:09.040 double your salary. Like he didn't. Got full body chills 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:12.399 and I want to cry. It literally was one of 0:19:12.400 --> 0:19:15.679 those moments where it didn't moved me, and I was like, whoa, 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:21.800 whoa sign your lease? Yes? So, Um, did you know 0:19:21.880 --> 0:19:23.840 then that Tyler was gonna be in your life after that? 0:19:24.359 --> 0:19:26.400 It was because probably the first people he thought about 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:28.160 was him. I asked you to pray for the sign 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:31.320 I did. I texted him first once I got my 0:19:31.359 --> 0:19:34.199 car that day and I texted him and but I 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:38.520 don't think I actually thought about it, um, which is 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:41.560 so funny. And then all started because of him, I know, 0:19:42.520 --> 0:19:44.680 and I was like, oh my gosh, got answered this prayer. 0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:46.399 This is so crazy. I think I was just like 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:49.840 because now you're one eight in your life, like you 0:19:49.880 --> 0:19:53.320 were literally your mind was in California. You were starting 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:56.560 a new chapter and now you're like usual wheeling like 0:19:57.000 --> 0:20:01.960 huge wheelie. Yeah, it was pretty crazy easy. So anyways, 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:05.040 July one might move date, or what was supposed to 0:20:05.080 --> 0:20:08.880 be my move date. We got together and we went 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:10.840 to our friend's house and we had this wine night 0:20:11.000 --> 0:20:13.679 and and he kissed me that night and it was 0:20:13.760 --> 0:20:16.920 just like this, oh my gosh, I didn't even know 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:20.080 that that was there. And ever since then it was 0:20:20.160 --> 0:20:24.040 just like that was it. Yeah, we were I mean 0:20:24.200 --> 0:20:26.600 going on tour. It was just pretty crazy that they 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:29.439 started touring heavy at that point they were that was 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:31.879 in there, like really beginning days where they were just 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:35.639 non stop. So how do you juggle that? So you 0:20:35.720 --> 0:20:38.880 go from working at a bank, right is that Marylynch, 0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:43.200 and you have your own life, you're misindependent, you're moving 0:20:43.240 --> 0:20:45.200 to California. But now because Tyler told you to pray 0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:47.960 about it, God answered, now you're on a worlwind. Tyler 0:20:48.119 --> 0:20:50.639