Speaker 1: So I met a ninety six year old man through
Speaker 1: someone that I've been spending some time with. And longevity
Speaker 1: is a really interesting topic, like health and longevity. And
Speaker 1: the truth is many people talk about healthy living. He
Speaker 1: or she lives a healthy lifestyle. You know, I know
Speaker 1: more and more people living ninety three ninety six. Like
Speaker 1: I hear about this a lot. It's shocking to me.
Speaker 1: It's just like it's a number. And then you hear like, oh,
Speaker 1: this person lived to one hundred and something and they
Speaker 1: smoke cigarettes living, you know, and drank beer. Like what
Speaker 1: there are There is a massive space in longevity and
Speaker 1: studies in it, but like it is a bit of
Speaker 1: a horoscope, it's not that easy to figure out what
Speaker 1: it is. And I gotta believe it works for everyone differently.
Speaker 1: I have a cured coffee maker that's brand new, and
Speaker 1: every time I put the pot in, the pot explodes
Speaker 1: and liquids coming out the sides, like it's brand new.
Speaker 1: Then people have a thirty dollars coffee maker they got,
Speaker 1: you know, years ago. It's Sears and Roebuck, and it
Speaker 1: still works. So while there is something to longevity, some
Speaker 1: people are just built differently, right, Some people some people
Speaker 1: never stress about anything. Some people probably eat shit food
Speaker 1: their whole life and never stress about a single thing.
Speaker 1: Like did people have pets? Were they married for most
Speaker 1: of their lives? Like was life easier in a certain way?
Speaker 1: Did they work harder? Did they have more purpose? Like?
Speaker 1: You know what is it? It's crazy if you think
Speaker 1: about it, cause you know that the people that are
Speaker 1: now ninety six certainly didn't have their own personal water
Speaker 1: supply like I do in my hand right now, didn't
Speaker 1: weren't eating organic foods and macha and asie and gojieberries. Right,
Speaker 1: So it's an interesting, just discussion. I have to believe
Speaker 1: that being happy seems like a good way to live
Speaker 1: a long time. It feels like it. This friend of
Speaker 1: mine's father who's ninety six, is really happy, like really
Speaker 1: place of yes, really glass half full, really like alive
Speaker 1: and loves the stories, like loves to talk about the
Speaker 1: stories and the nostalgia. Likes the action. So this this
Speaker 1: ninety six year old man took to me because I
Speaker 1: mean action to him like he ran. He was the
Speaker 1: head of BBDO, the marketing advertising agency for years, and
Speaker 1: I think he was like he was a big he
Speaker 1: owned stock there and I think he was really smart
Speaker 1: about the way he took stock options, and so he's
Speaker 1: been very successful and loves that. Like I'm a marketer
Speaker 1: because I guess his whole life was in marketing. And
Speaker 1: then he was a batboy Yankees bat boy and a
Speaker 1: thousand years ago and he created the Major League Baseball
Speaker 1: logo and worked at the head of marketing for Major
Speaker 1: League Baseball. And I say this all because he's fascinated
Speaker 1: by me as a marketer, Like that's what he he
Speaker 1: he wanted to know, like what I do? What do
Speaker 1: I do on the podcast? His name is Tom. His
Speaker 1: name is really Carmelo, but he goes by Tom, And
Speaker 1: he wanted to know, like explain to me what goes
Speaker 1: on with the tiktoks, Like he doesn't understand my business,
Speaker 1: like why I have like a business and how I
Speaker 1: market and the difference between traditional television and social media
Speaker 1: because like you know, obviously, growing up, we had two four,
Speaker 1: five seven with the channels. I don't think you had five.
Speaker 1: You had like two four and seven. Later came five
Speaker 1: and eleven and nine and thirteen, and then you know,
Speaker 1: obviously cable and then streamers and like so he doesn't
Speaker 1: now we have that streamers are almost archaic. Cable is
Speaker 1: like a dinosaur. Network television is a complete prehistoric creature,
Speaker 1: and like social media is how kids are watching their content.
Speaker 1: So he was fascinated by me explaining it to him,
Speaker 1: and he wrote a book. This guy wrote a book.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's so inspiring. He wrote a book and
Speaker 1: he wrote he sends a newsletter every day. So anyway,
Speaker 1: last night I had dinner with him. I had gone
Speaker 1: to lunch with him one time. He asked me out
Speaker 1: to lunch, so I went to his country cover lunch.
Speaker 1: He had great stories. He's totally looseid totally together, like
Speaker 1: totally on it. And then we went to dinner and
Speaker 1: he asked me to promote his book. And how did
Speaker 1: he ask me to promote his book. He gave me
Speaker 1: a folded up piece of paper that he had printed
Speaker 1: out the highlights of it, like he gave me his bio.
Speaker 1: I was laughing, and I was like, good, I threw it.
Speaker 1: I just did a throwaway like post on Instagram stories,
Speaker 1: like saying his name that he should buy it. But
Speaker 1: it was like not inspired. I mean it was, I
Speaker 1: meant it. It was just like and then I was
Speaker 1: like screw it, you know what, let me do it
Speaker 1: with him. So I saw him for dinner and you know,
Speaker 1: people from his family, and I just said, I have
Speaker 1: a man in my life. He's ninety six years old.
Speaker 1: I met him through someone I know. He's definitely a flirt.
Speaker 1: We know that he's with it. And he wrote a
Speaker 1: book and he's sitting next to me and he's like,
Speaker 1: it's on Amazon and I like linked it and I
Speaker 1: was crying and he's so handsome. And then I was like,
Speaker 1: did on my story like all the single ladies, question Mark,
Speaker 1: you know, And I'm shocked by how many people have
Speaker 1: slipped into my dms to get to go out with
Speaker 1: this man. He's handsome, and like the stories are performing
Speaker 1: like almost double what a normal story would like. People
Speaker 1: are interested in somebody who's of a certain age enjoying
Speaker 1: and living their life, not just like waiting for it
Speaker 1: to end, like place of yes, like living in the moment,
Speaker 1: being present, like living like you're gonna live forever. And
Speaker 1: maybe that is the secret to longevity. I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: I've never heard have you ever heard of someone at
Speaker 1: ninety six who writes a book who then gives you
Speaker 1: a printed out like instructions about how to promote it,
Speaker 1: and who like really well, you know, said to me
Speaker 1: like four times, like listen, maybe you can help me.
Speaker 1: I want to be a best seller. I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, like it's almost like joking. I'm like, this
Speaker 1: guy's not he like wants it, and and he sends
Speaker 1: a newsletter every day. I get an email from him
Speaker 1: on like stories of his past that are like excerpts
Speaker 1: from the book. It's actually a very modern way to
Speaker 1: promote it. Like and his publishers must be crying because
Speaker 1: like they did it as like a nice deed, Like
Speaker 1: he's ninety six, so like of course they're gonna give this,
Speaker 1: like guy's wish they let him write a book, and
Speaker 1: they're p and now like me, I've got five stories
Speaker 1: up on Instagram about this man, and women are reaching
Speaker 1: out to me. Like a woman this morning. My mother
Speaker 1: will kill me. But she's eighty six years old and
Speaker 1: she's stunning, and she lives on the Upper East Side
Speaker 1: and I look at a picture of it and she's
Speaker 1: like put together, she's gorgeous, Like and I asked them
Speaker 1: today he's like, okay, likes to going out a date.
Speaker 1: He's ninety old. It's insane, Like I am so like,
Speaker 1: it's so fun and his family's so grateful and happy,
Speaker 1: because like, what do you want to do for your parents?
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, I don't have parents, and I didn't
Speaker 1: have parents, But what do you want to do more
Speaker 1: for your parents than like give them more happiness? Like
Speaker 1: what's more boring than being old? Like it could be
Speaker 1: really boring. I mean, I guess a lot of people
Speaker 1: do have a busy life and they have a social
Speaker 1: life and they have friends, but like a lot of people,
Speaker 1: it's very lonely and it's very depressing, and a lot
Speaker 1: of people don't have family visiting them, and so like
Speaker 1: what's nicer than just like giving somebody a glimmer of
Speaker 1: hope and giving them something, some purpose and some sizzle.
Speaker 1: So if you know anybody old, you know who's like
Speaker 1: got something going on. I just feel like it made me.
Speaker 1: It was happy, Like I it made me happy. It's like, okay,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. He's got more energy than
Speaker 1: I do on many days. Yeah, I'm looking at my Instagram.
Speaker 1: He's so adorable. People love him. This is insane, so cute,
Speaker 1: Like I can't you don't understand the message that I'm getting.
Speaker 1: This is so fun. You know why too, because and
Speaker 1: people are talking at baseball now. Someone just sent me
Speaker 1: about their father who's friends with Lasorda. Tammy Lesorda for
Speaker 1: those of you too young, is famous baseball player. The
Speaker 1: thing is, how relatable is the elderly, Like you're either
Speaker 1: elderly or you are a granddaughter or grandson, or you
Speaker 1: have an elderly parent, and like you feel you want
Speaker 1: them to have happiness, you want them to live forever.
Speaker 1: You're like looking into like it's so relatable. It's like
Speaker 1: everybody can relate to an elderly person that and also
Speaker 1: people like are thrilled to see somebody look so good
Speaker 1: because it's inspired. No, it also is inspiring to us
Speaker 1: right right, Like you look at someone and you're like,
Speaker 1: holy shit, this guy looks good. Like what is he doing?
Speaker 1: I mean I want to bring him on here and
Speaker 1: tell everybody, like his skincare routine and like what he's eating,
Speaker 1: Like we need like what is he eating? He does
Speaker 1: memory exercises. I think people should know that everybody can
Speaker 1: relate to that, Like the moms will be like doing
Speaker 1: it for their parents. I think this man's an inspiration
Speaker 1: That's what I actually think. So we get to learn something,
Speaker 1: we get something, and we're gonna make this guy so happy.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna invite him on. And I told him, like,
Speaker 1: we got to be brief. We can't like get dragged
Speaker 1: out in the stories because you know, these people have
Speaker 1: an attention deficit and we gotta get to the sizzle.
Speaker 1: He's gonna tell you stories about Merrilyn Monroe and Jackie
Speaker 1: Kennedy and like create and major League Baseball. But then
Speaker 1: I think people want to hear about this guy. Where
Speaker 1: do you see go all my stories and see, oh,
Speaker 1: they will be down by them. But I'm gonna put
Speaker 1: it on a TikTok too, because I mean, we think
Speaker 1: this might play on TikTok too. I mean, I this
Speaker 1: is the goal. This is the ultra Golden Bachelor. So anyway,
Speaker 1: I don't know why, I'm just on a high because
Speaker 1: that was just so cute and it made his family
Speaker 1: so happy. Most importantly, I don't know, let's give us
Speaker 1: an overall message, like I'm a big tipper. Okay, sometimes
Speaker 1: it's hard if I'm around men because I just always
Speaker 1: want to have cash in my purse because like I
Speaker 1: worry they're not gonna tip to the level that I will.
Speaker 1: So even my daughter goes out to dinner with their friends,
Speaker 1: I'm like always worried she's not gonna tip to the
Speaker 1: level that I will because she won't. And I'm I'm
Speaker 1: a big tipper, but I'm also like the big gift
Speaker 1: giver and I'm always gifts. Yesterday seven gifts went out.
Speaker 1: Every day, those gifts coming out of my house. I
Speaker 1: love to give gifts and I'm a big tipper. And
Speaker 1: my philosophy and reason for it is they appreciate they
Speaker 1: it mean so much more to them than it does
Speaker 1: to me. Like it's so much more so what you're
Speaker 1: gonna be at the coffee place, and like it's ridiculous
Speaker 1: that you buy it four dollars water and it's a
Speaker 1: two dollars or three dollars time. Who gives a shit
Speaker 1: if you can afford If you can't afford it, I'm
Speaker 1: not speaking to that. I'll don't give anything if you
Speaker 1: can't afford it. And usually people can't afford it tip
Speaker 1: more because they know how much it means to them.
Speaker 1: So that's the upside down. Rich people tip less because
Speaker 1: there's so fucking delusional and clue is they don't realize
Speaker 1: the difference set of good and a bad tip makes.
Speaker 1: But I, you know, it means so much. And so
Speaker 1: I am a tipper everywhere I go. Every person everything
Speaker 1: I like and I freak out. And I like to
Speaker 1: have the smallest amount of money the biggest amount. And
Speaker 1: I say that because I think in life it means
Speaker 1: so much more to them than it does to us.
Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you do it? Like the piscodie that I
Speaker 1: ate at my friend's house, I then called the person.
Speaker 1: I asked my friend who brought this over? Where this
Speaker 1: come from? She said Sharry. I called Sharry and I
Speaker 1: was like, I need to know where this postigoda came from.
Speaker 1: And then she said, you know this this bakery and
Speaker 1: Queen's Like, now, of course, I can't remember their name.
Speaker 1: And I posted about it and like it changed their life.
Speaker 1: Gigi's chicken salad and Hoboken, What the hell does it
Speaker 1: matter I'm eating the chicken salad, shout them out. It
Speaker 1: could change their entire business. So I now I feel
Speaker 1: like I have the I have a gift that I
Speaker 1: get that I have influence. I've been given this, No,
Speaker 1: I've created this influence where if I say something's good,
Speaker 1: people believe me because I have no reason or motivation
Speaker 1: to lie, Nor would I burn everything to the ground
Speaker 1: that I've built on something stupid, So I why wouldn't I.
Speaker 1: So I now have this influence and people want my
Speaker 1: approval or want to know what it is so great
Speaker 1: so I get to help all these like small businesses
Speaker 1: and help a ninety six year old man who's so
Speaker 1: excited to get his family. You know, takes a burden
Speaker 1: off of them, not a burden a response, It takes
Speaker 1: an aspect off of them because you know, when you
Speaker 1: have elderly parents, you have to be there all the
Speaker 1: time and someone kind of has to be visiting them
Speaker 1: or you know, on the clock in some way. And
Speaker 1: so I just feel like it's kind of like random
Speaker 1: acts of hindhness. It's kind of like if you can,
Speaker 1: you should. So I guess the whole message is if
Speaker 1: you can, you should, It's kind of why you want.
Speaker 1: I'm exhausted after doing fashion week or something. I get
Speaker 1: on the plane to go down and show that warehouse
Speaker 1: because I know we're going to raise more money if
Speaker 1: people can see where it's actually going. And like why
Speaker 1: wouldn't I. So I think that's the message to pay
Speaker 1: it forward. So let's talk about breaking up and how
Speaker 1: men grieve versus women. So are you going through a breakup?
Speaker 1: Did you break up a several months ago and you're
Speaker 1: thinking about a breakup. Let me just tell you something
Speaker 1: that is a fact. Men and women break up very
Speaker 1: differently and handle it very differently. Let's get a baseline.
Speaker 1: If two people were madly in love, it was a
Speaker 1: really good relationship. They were in love, and at some
Speaker 1: point they break up. But they really were in love.
Speaker 1: It was hard to break up. They care about each other.
Speaker 1: They thought they were gonna end up together, they were
Speaker 1: doing it. I think here's what happens men and women
Speaker 1: break up. Men go immediately out with their guy friends,
Speaker 1: get wasted, get laid, get depressed, repeat, get wasted, get laid,
Speaker 1: get depressed, repeat Sunday scaries, eating gross food, rest work,
Speaker 1: a couple of days, regret like now, regret like Sunday scaries,
Speaker 1: and then repeat. And then after a while, after a
Speaker 1: good old while, they usually miss their X because the
Speaker 1: X was the one that was, you know, sitting around
Speaker 1: in sweatpants in pajamas while these new, younger women presumably
Speaker 1: are out making them feel great and they're getting laid.
Speaker 1: And then for every hot girl, there's a guy sick
Speaker 1: and tired of fucking her. So now the guy, all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, you know, it's the new car smell,
Speaker 1: and it comes off of this experience and it feels
Speaker 1: like it's shallow and empty, and they're just going out drinking,
Speaker 1: feeling like shit, and now their ex is long gone,
Speaker 1: and they go low. They go low. They keep doing
Speaker 1: it because it's like eating junk food is anything to do.
Speaker 1: They keep like having sex with different women and they
Speaker 1: love it and they want to prove that they can
Speaker 1: do it, like they want to prove that they can
Speaker 1: have game. And they think they have game, and some
Speaker 1: of their friends, their married friends, think they have game
Speaker 1: in the beginning, in the beginning, and then their friends
Speaker 1: all think they're tragic. And then their friends are all
Speaker 1: like rolling their eyes like it's enough, okay. And here's
Speaker 1: what the women do while the men are out getting
Speaker 1: late and some women are doing it too, and women
Speaker 1: are trying to get themselves out there, but they're really
Speaker 1: crying in their soup, like unless they're a sociopath or
Speaker 1: they really weren't in love or like they're really good
Speaker 1: at this, and an amazing denial. Women in the beginning,
Speaker 1: it's the crying, it's the girlfriends, it's the emoting, it's
Speaker 1: the sharing, it's the drinking during the day. It's it's
Speaker 1: the losing weight that I can't eat, the kind of
Speaker 1: commiserating about it. And then slowly but surely, they have
Speaker 1: a glow up. They cut their hair, they dye their hair,
Speaker 1: they start working out, they start dressing differently, they start
Speaker 1: having a personality, start going out. They then creep into
Speaker 1: to the exact same period. When that man hits that low,
Speaker 1: that man will hit that break up low. If you
Speaker 1: ever want to see this in a movie about Last
Speaker 1: Night is the best breakup movie in history. The man
Speaker 1: hits that low, and at that exact moment is when
Speaker 1: the woman is hitting her high. And here we have
Speaker 1: a problem because that's when the men often can break
Speaker 1: the women down, but the smart women are gonna stick
Speaker 1: it out. So men and women mourn a relationship very differently,
Speaker 1: and men don't fall as easily. They don't fall as
Speaker 1: easily a woman can fall immediately like a face to
Speaker 1: the pavement. A man is a little more tentative and
Speaker 1: less expressive. But then if the man falls to me,
Speaker 1: he falls harder to me. If the man falls, he
Speaker 1: is gone. That ball is in the stands. And that's
Speaker 1: why there's like a different reaction. And every time you
Speaker 1: think you're never gonna get over him, it's never gonna happen.
Speaker 1: And somehow we are so freakin resilient. So just think
Speaker 1: about that your time, if you're breaking up your time
Speaker 1: for a glow up, and happiness will come.