1 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 1: So I met a ninety six year old man through 2 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:22,599 Speaker 1: someone that I've been spending some time with. And longevity 3 00:00:22,680 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 1: is a really interesting topic, like health and longevity. And 4 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: the truth is many people talk about healthy living. He 5 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 1: or she lives a healthy lifestyle. You know, I know 6 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: more and more people living ninety three ninety six. Like 7 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 1: I hear about this a lot. It's shocking to me. 8 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 1: It's just like it's a number. And then you hear like, oh, 9 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: this person lived to one hundred and something and they 10 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: smoke cigarettes living, you know, and drank beer. Like what 11 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 1: there are There is a massive space in longevity and 12 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 1: studies in it, but like it is a bit of 13 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: a horoscope, it's not that easy to figure out what 14 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 1: it is. And I gotta believe it works for everyone differently. 15 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:06,119 Speaker 1: I have a cured coffee maker that's brand new, and 16 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:08,680 Speaker 1: every time I put the pot in, the pot explodes 17 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: and liquids coming out the sides, like it's brand new. 18 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 1: Then people have a thirty dollars coffee maker they got, 19 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: you know, years ago. It's Sears and Roebuck, and it 20 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: still works. So while there is something to longevity, some 21 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 1: people are just built differently, right, Some people some people 22 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 1: never stress about anything. Some people probably eat shit food 23 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 1: their whole life and never stress about a single thing. 24 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: Like did people have pets? Were they married for most 25 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: of their lives? Like was life easier in a certain way? 26 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: Did they work harder? Did they have more purpose? Like? 27 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: You know what is it? It's crazy if you think 28 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: about it, cause you know that the people that are 29 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:51,480 Speaker 1: now ninety six certainly didn't have their own personal water 30 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: supply like I do in my hand right now, didn't 31 00:01:54,640 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: weren't eating organic foods and macha and asie and gojieberries. Right, 32 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: So it's an interesting, just discussion. I have to believe 33 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:09,399 Speaker 1: that being happy seems like a good way to live 34 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: a long time. It feels like it. This friend of 35 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: mine's father who's ninety six, is really happy, like really 36 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: place of yes, really glass half full, really like alive 37 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: and loves the stories, like loves to talk about the 38 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: stories and the nostalgia. Likes the action. So this this 39 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: ninety six year old man took to me because I 40 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: mean action to him like he ran. He was the 41 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:44,120 Speaker 1: head of BBDO, the marketing advertising agency for years, and 42 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: I think he was like he was a big he 43 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: owned stock there and I think he was really smart 44 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:50,799 Speaker 1: about the way he took stock options, and so he's 45 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: been very successful and loves that. Like I'm a marketer 46 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: because I guess his whole life was in marketing. And 47 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: then he was a batboy Yankees bat boy and a 48 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: thousand years ago and he created the Major League Baseball 49 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: logo and worked at the head of marketing for Major 50 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: League Baseball. And I say this all because he's fascinated 51 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 1: by me as a marketer, Like that's what he he 52 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: he wanted to know, like what I do? What do 53 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: I do on the podcast? His name is Tom. His 54 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 1: name is really Carmelo, but he goes by Tom, And 55 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: he wanted to know, like explain to me what goes 56 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: on with the tiktoks, Like he doesn't understand my business, 57 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: like why I have like a business and how I 58 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: market and the difference between traditional television and social media 59 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: because like you know, obviously, growing up, we had two four, 60 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: five seven with the channels. I don't think you had five. 61 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: You had like two four and seven. Later came five 62 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 1: and eleven and nine and thirteen, and then you know, 63 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: obviously cable and then streamers and like so he doesn't 64 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 1: now we have that streamers are almost archaic. Cable is 65 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 1: like a dinosaur. Network television is a complete prehistoric creature, 66 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: and like social media is how kids are watching their content. 67 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: So he was fascinated by me explaining it to him, 68 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 1: and he wrote a book. This guy wrote a book. 69 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: I mean, it's so inspiring. He wrote a book and 70 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 1: he wrote he sends a newsletter every day. So anyway, 71 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:26,160 Speaker 1: last night I had dinner with him. I had gone 72 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:27,600 Speaker 1: to lunch with him one time. He asked me out 73 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,280 Speaker 1: to lunch, so I went to his country cover lunch. 74 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 1: He had great stories. He's totally looseid totally together, like 75 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: totally on it. And then we went to dinner and 76 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: he asked me to promote his book. And how did 77 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:40,839 Speaker 1: he ask me to promote his book. He gave me 78 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:44,039 Speaker 1: a folded up piece of paper that he had printed 79 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 1: out the highlights of it, like he gave me his bio. 80 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: I was laughing, and I was like, good, I threw it. 81 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: I just did a throwaway like post on Instagram stories, 82 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: like saying his name that he should buy it. But 83 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: it was like not inspired. I mean it was, I 84 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,279 Speaker 1: meant it. It was just like and then I was 85 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: like screw it, you know what, let me do it 86 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 1: with him. So I saw him for dinner and you know, 87 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: people from his family, and I just said, I have 88 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 1: a man in my life. He's ninety six years old. 89 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: I met him through someone I know. He's definitely a flirt. 90 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 1: We know that he's with it. And he wrote a 91 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 1: book and he's sitting next to me and he's like, 92 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: it's on Amazon and I like linked it and I 93 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: was crying and he's so handsome. And then I was like, 94 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,599 Speaker 1: did on my story like all the single ladies, question Mark, 95 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: you know, And I'm shocked by how many people have 96 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: slipped into my dms to get to go out with 97 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 1: this man. He's handsome, and like the stories are performing 98 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: like almost double what a normal story would like. People 99 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: are interested in somebody who's of a certain age enjoying 100 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: and living their life, not just like waiting for it 101 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: to end, like place of yes, like living in the moment, 102 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 1: being present, like living like you're gonna live forever. And 103 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:00,680 Speaker 1: maybe that is the secret to longevity. I'm telling you, 104 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:02,839 Speaker 1: I've never heard have you ever heard of someone at 105 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: ninety six who writes a book who then gives you 106 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: a printed out like instructions about how to promote it, 107 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: and who like really well, you know, said to me 108 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,560 Speaker 1: like four times, like listen, maybe you can help me. 109 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: I want to be a best seller. I'm like, oh 110 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 1: my god, like it's almost like joking. I'm like, this 111 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:22,720 Speaker 1: guy's not he like wants it, and and he sends 112 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: a newsletter every day. I get an email from him 113 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 1: on like stories of his past that are like excerpts 114 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: from the book. It's actually a very modern way to 115 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:33,839 Speaker 1: promote it. Like and his publishers must be crying because 116 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 1: like they did it as like a nice deed, Like 117 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 1: he's ninety six, so like of course they're gonna give this, 118 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 1: like guy's wish they let him write a book, and 119 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 1: they're p and now like me, I've got five stories 120 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: up on Instagram about this man, and women are reaching 121 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:49,679 Speaker 1: out to me. Like a woman this morning. My mother 122 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: will kill me. But she's eighty six years old and 123 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 1: she's stunning, and she lives on the Upper East Side 124 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 1: and I look at a picture of it and she's 125 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: like put together, she's gorgeous, Like and I asked them 126 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: today he's like, okay, likes to going out a date. 127 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: He's ninety old. It's insane, Like I am so like, 128 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 1: it's so fun and his family's so grateful and happy, 129 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 1: because like, what do you want to do for your parents? 130 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: I mean, listen, I don't have parents, and I didn't 131 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:15,840 Speaker 1: have parents, But what do you want to do more 132 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: for your parents than like give them more happiness? Like 133 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: what's more boring than being old? Like it could be 134 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: really boring. I mean, I guess a lot of people 135 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: do have a busy life and they have a social 136 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: life and they have friends, but like a lot of people, 137 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: it's very lonely and it's very depressing, and a lot 138 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: of people don't have family visiting them, and so like 139 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:36,640 Speaker 1: what's nicer than just like giving somebody a glimmer of 140 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: hope and giving them something, some purpose and some sizzle. 141 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: So if you know anybody old, you know who's like 142 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 1: got something going on. I just feel like it made me. 143 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: It was happy, Like I it made me happy. It's like, okay, 144 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. He's got more energy than 145 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 1: I do on many days. Yeah, I'm looking at my Instagram. 146 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: He's so adorable. People love him. This is insane, so cute, 147 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: Like I can't you don't understand the message that I'm getting. 148 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: This is so fun. You know why too, because and 149 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: people are talking at baseball now. Someone just sent me 150 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 1: about their father who's friends with Lasorda. Tammy Lesorda for 151 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:27,840 Speaker 1: those of you too young, is famous baseball player. The 152 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: thing is, how relatable is the elderly, Like you're either 153 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:37,959 Speaker 1: elderly or you are a granddaughter or grandson, or you 154 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: have an elderly parent, and like you feel you want 155 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: them to have happiness, you want them to live forever. 156 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 1: You're like looking into like it's so relatable. It's like 157 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 1: everybody can relate to an elderly person that and also 158 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: people like are thrilled to see somebody look so good 159 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 1: because it's inspired. No, it also is inspiring to us 160 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 1: right right, Like you look at someone and you're like, 161 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 1: holy shit, this guy looks good. Like what is he doing? 162 00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: I mean I want to bring him on here and 163 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,199 Speaker 1: tell everybody, like his skincare routine and like what he's eating, 164 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:12,960 Speaker 1: Like we need like what is he eating? He does 165 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: memory exercises. I think people should know that everybody can 166 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 1: relate to that, Like the moms will be like doing 167 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:19,960 Speaker 1: it for their parents. I think this man's an inspiration 168 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 1: That's what I actually think. So we get to learn something, 169 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 1: we get something, and we're gonna make this guy so happy. 170 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna invite him on. And I told him, like, 171 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: we got to be brief. We can't like get dragged 172 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:33,600 Speaker 1: out in the stories because you know, these people have 173 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 1: an attention deficit and we gotta get to the sizzle. 174 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 1: He's gonna tell you stories about Merrilyn Monroe and Jackie 175 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: Kennedy and like create and major League Baseball. But then 176 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: I think people want to hear about this guy. Where 177 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: do you see go all my stories and see, oh, 178 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:49,559 Speaker 1: they will be down by them. But I'm gonna put 179 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:51,199 Speaker 1: it on a TikTok too, because I mean, we think 180 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: this might play on TikTok too. I mean, I this 181 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:57,559 Speaker 1: is the goal. This is the ultra Golden Bachelor. So anyway, 182 00:09:57,679 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 1: I don't know why, I'm just on a high because 183 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 1: that was just so cute and it made his family 184 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:03,600 Speaker 1: so happy. Most importantly, I don't know, let's give us 185 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 1: an overall message, like I'm a big tipper. Okay, sometimes 186 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 1: it's hard if I'm around men because I just always 187 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:15,120 Speaker 1: want to have cash in my purse because like I 188 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,320 Speaker 1: worry they're not gonna tip to the level that I will. 189 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: So even my daughter goes out to dinner with their friends, 190 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: I'm like always worried she's not gonna tip to the 191 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: level that I will because she won't. And I'm I'm 192 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: a big tipper, but I'm also like the big gift 193 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:28,719 Speaker 1: giver and I'm always gifts. Yesterday seven gifts went out. 194 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 1: Every day, those gifts coming out of my house. I 195 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:32,960 Speaker 1: love to give gifts and I'm a big tipper. And 196 00:10:33,040 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: my philosophy and reason for it is they appreciate they 197 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 1: it mean so much more to them than it does 198 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: to me. Like it's so much more so what you're 199 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 1: gonna be at the coffee place, and like it's ridiculous 200 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: that you buy it four dollars water and it's a 201 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,560 Speaker 1: two dollars or three dollars time. Who gives a shit 202 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 1: if you can afford If you can't afford it, I'm 203 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: not speaking to that. I'll don't give anything if you 204 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 1: can't afford it. And usually people can't afford it tip 205 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,080 Speaker 1: more because they know how much it means to them. 206 00:10:57,080 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: So that's the upside down. Rich people tip less because 207 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:02,319 Speaker 1: there's so fucking delusional and clue is they don't realize 208 00:11:02,440 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: the difference set of good and a bad tip makes. 209 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 1: But I, you know, it means so much. And so 210 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: I am a tipper everywhere I go. Every person everything 211 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:13,440 Speaker 1: I like and I freak out. And I like to 212 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 1: have the smallest amount of money the biggest amount. And 213 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 1: I say that because I think in life it means 214 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 1: so much more to them than it does to us. 215 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you do it? Like the piscodie that I 216 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:28,319 Speaker 1: ate at my friend's house, I then called the person. 217 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 1: I asked my friend who brought this over? Where this 218 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:33,720 Speaker 1: come from? She said Sharry. I called Sharry and I 219 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: was like, I need to know where this postigoda came from. 220 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 1: And then she said, you know this this bakery and 221 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 1: Queen's Like, now, of course, I can't remember their name. 222 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 1: And I posted about it and like it changed their life. 223 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 1: Gigi's chicken salad and Hoboken, What the hell does it 224 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: matter I'm eating the chicken salad, shout them out. It 225 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:55,560 Speaker 1: could change their entire business. So I now I feel 226 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: like I have the I have a gift that I 227 00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: get that I have influence. I've been given this, No, 228 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: I've created this influence where if I say something's good, 229 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: people believe me because I have no reason or motivation 230 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:10,199 Speaker 1: to lie, Nor would I burn everything to the ground 231 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:15,480 Speaker 1: that I've built on something stupid, So I why wouldn't I. 232 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 1: So I now have this influence and people want my 233 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:21,280 Speaker 1: approval or want to know what it is so great 234 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 1: so I get to help all these like small businesses 235 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 1: and help a ninety six year old man who's so 236 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 1: excited to get his family. You know, takes a burden 237 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: off of them, not a burden a response, It takes 238 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 1: an aspect off of them because you know, when you 239 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:36,719 Speaker 1: have elderly parents, you have to be there all the 240 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 1: time and someone kind of has to be visiting them 241 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: or you know, on the clock in some way. And 242 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 1: so I just feel like it's kind of like random 243 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:46,679 Speaker 1: acts of hindhness. It's kind of like if you can, 244 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 1: you should. So I guess the whole message is if 245 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: you can, you should, It's kind of why you want. 246 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: I'm exhausted after doing fashion week or something. I get 247 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 1: on the plane to go down and show that warehouse 248 00:12:57,679 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: because I know we're going to raise more money if 249 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 1: people can see where it's actually going. And like why 250 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 1: wouldn't I. So I think that's the message to pay 251 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:20,320 Speaker 1: it forward. So let's talk about breaking up and how 252 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:23,319 Speaker 1: men grieve versus women. So are you going through a breakup? 253 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 1: Did you break up a several months ago and you're 254 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 1: thinking about a breakup. Let me just tell you something 255 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 1: that is a fact. Men and women break up very 256 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: differently and handle it very differently. Let's get a baseline. 257 00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:36,120 Speaker 1: If two people were madly in love, it was a 258 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 1: really good relationship. They were in love, and at some 259 00:13:39,920 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 1: point they break up. But they really were in love. 260 00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:45,560 Speaker 1: It was hard to break up. They care about each other. 261 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:48,520 Speaker 1: They thought they were gonna end up together, they were 262 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:52,679 Speaker 1: doing it. I think here's what happens men and women 263 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: break up. Men go immediately out with their guy friends, 264 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:03,959 Speaker 1: get wasted, get laid, get depressed, repeat, get wasted, get laid, 265 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 1: get depressed, repeat Sunday scaries, eating gross food, rest work, 266 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 1: a couple of days, regret like now, regret like Sunday scaries, 267 00:14:11,800 --> 00:14:15,439 Speaker 1: and then repeat. And then after a while, after a 268 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 1: good old while, they usually miss their X because the 269 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 1: X was the one that was, you know, sitting around 270 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: in sweatpants in pajamas while these new, younger women presumably 271 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:31,080 Speaker 1: are out making them feel great and they're getting laid. 272 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:33,160 Speaker 1: And then for every hot girl, there's a guy sick 273 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 1: and tired of fucking her. So now the guy, all 274 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:38,040 Speaker 1: of a sudden, you know, it's the new car smell, 275 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:42,600 Speaker 1: and it comes off of this experience and it feels 276 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: like it's shallow and empty, and they're just going out drinking, 277 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:51,240 Speaker 1: feeling like shit, and now their ex is long gone, 278 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:55,520 Speaker 1: and they go low. They go low. They keep doing 279 00:14:55,560 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: it because it's like eating junk food is anything to do. 280 00:14:57,560 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 1: They keep like having sex with different women and they 281 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 1: love it and they want to prove that they can 282 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: do it, like they want to prove that they can 283 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 1: have game. And they think they have game, and some 284 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: of their friends, their married friends, think they have game 285 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: in the beginning, in the beginning, and then their friends 286 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 1: all think they're tragic. And then their friends are all 287 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: like rolling their eyes like it's enough, okay. And here's 288 00:15:16,120 --> 00:15:19,720 Speaker 1: what the women do while the men are out getting 289 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:21,600 Speaker 1: late and some women are doing it too, and women 290 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 1: are trying to get themselves out there, but they're really 291 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 1: crying in their soup, like unless they're a sociopath or 292 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 1: they really weren't in love or like they're really good 293 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:35,520 Speaker 1: at this, and an amazing denial. Women in the beginning, 294 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,560 Speaker 1: it's the crying, it's the girlfriends, it's the emoting, it's 295 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:42,280 Speaker 1: the sharing, it's the drinking during the day. It's it's 296 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 1: the losing weight that I can't eat, the kind of 297 00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 1: commiserating about it. And then slowly but surely, they have 298 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 1: a glow up. They cut their hair, they dye their hair, 299 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 1: they start working out, they start dressing differently, they start 300 00:15:55,880 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 1: having a personality, start going out. They then creep into 301 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 1: to the exact same period. When that man hits that low, 302 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: that man will hit that break up low. If you 303 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 1: ever want to see this in a movie about Last 304 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 1: Night is the best breakup movie in history. The man 305 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 1: hits that low, and at that exact moment is when 306 00:16:14,640 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 1: the woman is hitting her high. And here we have 307 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 1: a problem because that's when the men often can break 308 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 1: the women down, but the smart women are gonna stick 309 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:27,920 Speaker 1: it out. So men and women mourn a relationship very differently, 310 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:32,520 Speaker 1: and men don't fall as easily. They don't fall as 311 00:16:32,560 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 1: easily a woman can fall immediately like a face to 312 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:39,640 Speaker 1: the pavement. A man is a little more tentative and 313 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 1: less expressive. But then if the man falls to me, 314 00:16:44,160 --> 00:16:48,160 Speaker 1: he falls harder to me. If the man falls, he 315 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 1: is gone. That ball is in the stands. And that's 316 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: why there's like a different reaction. And every time you 317 00:16:56,760 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 1: think you're never gonna get over him, it's never gonna happen. 318 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:04,360 Speaker 1: And somehow we are so freakin resilient. So just think 319 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,639 Speaker 1: about that your time, if you're breaking up your time 320 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:09,600 Speaker 1: for a glow up, and happiness will come.