WEBVTT - EP #61 - Should Sherman Get Rid Of His Dogs?! + Will Compton Is Back! | For The Dads 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.880 Hey, bet six ers, this is Willie One show. You're 0:00:02.920 --> 0:00:05.080 about to listen to an automated ad read after this 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:06.960 call to action. If you're on the Busting with the 0:00:06.960 --> 0:00:09.280 Boys audio channel. If you want to listen to for 0:00:09.480 --> 0:00:12.560 the Dads automated ad free, be sure to head over 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:14.720 to the for the Dad's channel. And wherever you listen 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:17.920 to us on audio, enjoy this episode afore the Dads. 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:21.360 Can I be honest, yes, I hate this episode already. 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:24.479 What's going on? I know we just started, but I 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.720 hate this episode because the pocket I feel like I'm 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:31.800 in now not being in. Last week you go solo, 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:34.640 and by the way, you guys did a phenomenal job. 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:36.760 I had some great giggles, but you were up a 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:41.479 three hour sod and now it's like sitting here. No, 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:43.320 we got racing with the boys here in a little 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:45.320 bit and we got to keep it around an hour. 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:47.360 I see what you mean. Now, Now I'm just in 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:50.120 a tough pocket to kick off to say good morning 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:52.000 to pop A team six listening in right now. They're 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:54.760 holding their hot coffee, They're already hitting their steering wheel. 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:57.520 It's like, damn it is this will Is he keeping 0:00:57.640 --> 0:00:58.760 us around an hour. 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:03.520 It's not well, hey guy, okay, one, I see what 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:07.280 you mean about you hate this SOD. I understand that 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:12.000 there were comments though of hey, they didn't keep it 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:15.200 under an hour, you know, like oh long, soed, But 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:19.160 hidden in there was also like this is nice every 0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:22.600 now and then, yeah, you know what I mean, not 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.959 like hey, we want this every single week, Like you 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:26.720 could tell, people are like, hey, it's kind of long. 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:31.120 A lot I saw a lot of good praise for 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:34.560 the accents. Good. I'm glad that the fan bases came out. 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:36.839 Sure and keep the accents going. Don't listen to the haters, 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:41.039 don't listen to the naysayers. Mane, the love was in 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:43.440 the air. We missed you dearly. 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:48.000 It was like very it was very felt on set 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:51.840 of trying to find our footing for like that first 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:55.880 fifteen minutes it was going, but it was like, man, 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:57.200 we're missing buddy. 0:01:57.200 --> 0:02:00.640 Look. I was in the fetal position. I was wearing sweats, 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:03.280 I was under covers, I was sucking my thumb. I 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:06.560 was praying to God to take this strip throat away. 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:11.560 I oftendn't comment about how raspy your voice is, how 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:15.240 gravelly your voice is. Whenever I impersonate you. Yeah, you 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:19.720 were almost unrecognizable when you called me that Wednesday. 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:23.200 Yeahe with some optimism, with a little OPTI well, I 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:25.000 had a little bit juice coming in and I still 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:27.119 had a little frog going on in my throat. Will 0:02:27.280 --> 0:02:29.120 was on the phone. This is what he sounded like. 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:32.200 And this way he told me, I'm actually doing way better. 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:34.639 I actually feel really good. 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:37.600 I was like, oh my god, you sound like you're 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:38.960 getting strangled right now. 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:42.160 Oh dude, it was Can we show the picture of 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:45.240 the tonsil? Absolutely, I'll shoot you the pick right well, 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:47.000 not right now, but after this. A matter of fact, 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:48.400 you're gonna have to annoy me about three or four 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:50.440 times a day to send you the picture. I actually 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:52.360 have the tonsil pick. You can annoy me. There we 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:54.720 go there, Yah, dude. Was it was like a knife 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:56.960 was coming out of my throat and it just it 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:59.080 jumped on me. Number one, I'm will comf in this. 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:01.960 Sherman Young. Welcome for the dads. If you're new here, 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:04.600 we call our audience pop A Team six. This is 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:07.240 just a show for the dads. We're gonna bitch and 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:09.480 complain a lot. This is not a show about being 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:11.560 an expert father. This is not a show about how 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:13.560 we are the greatest dads of all time. This is 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:15.840 actually a show about how we do our best to 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:20.120 stay grounded and the most important in the most during, 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:24.240 the most important responsibility of our lives. Yeah, and just 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:27.359 for an example, like we have an incredible community. We 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:30.240 have a big update on Evy the Brave And if 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:31.919 you guys know, you guys know the lore of Evy 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:35.880 the Brave. She had a tumor near her her spine 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:37.720 that she had to get removed and get operated on. 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:40.040 We have an awesome update there on how she's doing. 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.600 We have pt six community. We got shoutouts, we got 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:46.160 follow ups, we got emails, new dads, things that moments 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:48.160 that we crack a cold one two dad lost his 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:51.840 times that we've gotten motherfucked, We've gotten you know, maybe 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:53.480 a little cursed out. But you just know, you took 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:55.600 a massive lump. You took a massive l I actually 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:57.200 had one last night that I can talk about. Oh, 0:03:57.320 --> 0:04:00.440 let's go. We have voicemails. You can call into one 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:03.400 of the dads, leave a voicemail. Vent to the boys. Again, 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:06.960 you guys teach us as much, if not more than 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:09.240 we feel like the audience gets from this show because 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:12.120 we have an awesome community and we have reminders. I'm 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:14.520 going to read a lesson here from The Daily Dad 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:16.159 that I read this morning. That was just a good 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:20.039 reminder in staying grounded because there's so many moments, there's 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:23.039 so many times where I feel like I'm not being 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:26.960 the most intentional dad, I'm not being the most intentional husband. Sherman. 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:29.040 I talk at length about a lot of those moments, 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:32.119 and we basically just use these microphones to talk about 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:32.799 dad life. 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:37.760 That's really that's really weird that that is your lesson of. 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:39.360 The week the Daily Dad. 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:43.280 The hint that you just did is pretty much my 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:45.680 my the trenches. 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:50.719 Mine is around like fleeting, how time is fleeting? Okay, 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:52.479 and we're losing them way faster than we think. But 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:54.479 then you don't Then you don't think you're losing that 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:57.440 fast because then you're in the suck. You're arguing before bedtime. 0:04:57.480 --> 0:05:00.320 Rue wants a cookie, she melts down, there's music playing, 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:03.800 Scotty's hitting her, Ruse running. Rue pushes Scotti down, and 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:07.719 you're like, buddy, this is the time is ticking slow here? Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.559 But I digress. Where was I going? 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:13.840 You were going? Basically, you were going with the entry Dad. 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:16.160 It happens on six on one the dads. You can 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:18.360 call in or you could ride an email in six 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.520 on one. The dad's at gmail dot com. 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:24.000 Yes, if you're on international soil, you're on international soil. 0:05:24.560 --> 0:05:27.760 But your boy was out last week. I had strip throat. Yes, 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:31.039 it jumped on me like a gorilla. So Charo was 0:05:31.080 --> 0:05:34.560 doing a company retreat down in Chattanooga, that's right. So 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:36.320 it was me rocking solo with the kiddos, and we 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:38.719 were having a great time. And Saturday night rolls around. 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:44.680 I get them both down and scotti. She wakes up 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:47.440 a couple times before midnight. But I'm in like a 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:51.520 zen zen state. I'm watching some TV. I'm having some time, 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:53.960 some solo dad time that you just cherished. The house 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:56.960 is quiet, you got the kiddos upstairs, you're not going out. 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:01.040 You cherish the times on your couch on the weekends. 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:03.480 Now compared to the goon berets out there, who are 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:06.480 you know? Videos left and right. They're downtown, they're out late, 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:09.400 they're drunk, they're doing all the things. Yeah, I'm cherishing 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:14.040 the solo time on the couch, rooftop, bar versus solo down. Yeah. Oh, 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:16.040 Scotty's up right now. She needs help with pat pass, 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:18.120 she needs help with her pacifire. Let me go help 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:21.320 her out because I'm in a phenomenal mood. Yeah. I 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:25.080 go to bed and Scotti wakes up another time around 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:27.560 one thirty, Go upstairs, get her down. I'm like, man, 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:30.040 it's gonna be a rough. It's already shaping up. She's 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.160 woken up three times since bedtime. She's probably gonna wake 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:36.000 up again. She's having a little moment. Rue's sleeping next 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:37.600 to me in the bed. We're doing a sleepover since 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:40.800 mom's out of town. And then Scotty wakes up. Get 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:43.279 up again, and it's around like three forty five, three fifty, 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:45.919 and I feel something in my throat and I feel 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:48.160 like a little bit of a headache, but not much 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:50.680 to where I'm like, oh, what's going on? Hopefully it's nothing. 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:53.599 Go up correct, Scotty, go back downstairs. I can't really 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:56.080 go back to sleep, Like it's like my eyes are closed, 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:59.239 but a TV's just on the entire time in my head. Yeah, 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:00.960 you know what I mean, Like you're not forcing your 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:05.120 eyes closed or just closed but the TV still yeah, 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:08.479 brain's still on heavy and dude, I get up the 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:10.400 next morning to kind of get the kiddos up, like 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:12.240 Ru's kind of like in my face, Dad, let's go 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:15.400 get Scotty. Let's go get Scottie. And I'm like, man, 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:18.080 I am just not feeling good right now. Still feel 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.040 in my throat like when I'm swallowing and everything else. 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:22.240 I'm like, hopefully this is just something that's fleeting. Because 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.800 we got Josh Payton coming on Busting with the Boys. 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:27.920 This is last year. Last week's Oh Rollodex, we had 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:30.160 Josh paid on Bust with the Boys. We went did 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:33.720 the training camp tour where the boys went to out 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:35.880 in LA. We hit the Rams training camp, we hit 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:37.880 the Chargers training camp, and we're gonna hit the Raiders' 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:40.320 training camp. Yep. All within the three day rollod X. 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:42.920 Throughout the week. Oh my, I can't be getting you know, 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.680 like Chef always coins, there's no time to get sick. 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:48.640 You don't have time to get sick. Tro doesn't get 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:51.480 home till about one o'clock. So I go on and 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:53.160 I take my temperature and I'm running like a low 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:58.520 grade fever like ninety nine to eight something small chump change. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:01.240 But as the morning gets go, like I'm just like 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:03.720 drained of energy. And then by the time charg gets home, 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:05.240 I'm like, hey, if I can just get a nap 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:08.440 in Like my garment didn't log any sleep data, if 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:09.680 I could just go and get a nap, And it 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:11.600 was kind of the same thing I just started. I 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:13.560 just got worse. Like as I was taking the nap, 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.520 my eyes were closed. But again it's like I was 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:19.080 wide awake, and then I start getting the chills and 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.160 then I take my temperature again. I'm one o two 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:25.080 point eight and I just feel like dog shaking. She's like, go, 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:27.600 try to hit one of the walk in clinics. So 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:29.120 I go and hit the walk in clinic, like right 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:31.480 before six o'clock. It's on a Sunday, so about every 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:35.440 pharmacy everything closes around six, if they're not already closed. Yeah, 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:37.600 but I get to uh, it's like care or something 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:41.040 in Nashville, like these like Care now, yeah, Care now, 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:44.839 Care now? Walking there, get logged in and this dock 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:47.319 sees me. They swap me everywhere. I'm doing the COVID test, 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.520 I'm doing the SHREP test. I'm doing the culture. I'm 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:52.240 doing everything. They're gagging me. They got the fucking cue 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:53.600 tip down in the back of my throat. I'm starting 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:57.160 to like almost cuts. And then they run the test, 0:08:57.200 --> 0:08:58.960 and the test take about thirty minutes, and I'm just 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:02.840 sitting in this in this room, in this doctor's room, 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:06.920 just shivering, bro, cold shorts and T shirt, thinking what 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:08.679 the hell is going on? Like what's taking so long? 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:10.160 I go and step out. I'm like, hey, is there 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:13.319 any update? Like I'm in fucking hell right now. You 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:16.040 checked on your order with that bro. 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:18.320 I'm by myself in the waiting room, like up on 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:21.720 the table the little crinkly white paper. I can't like 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:24.360 lay back and get comfortable. I'm just like shivering. I'm 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:27.040 like cold, where's the stake? I ain't None of y'all 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:27.680 are checking on me. 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:29.800 We got some pedia lte, then we got some water. 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:33.760 Can I get something? You just saw my tomass are 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:40.520 swollen and uh fortunately that spot care? Now? Is that 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:43.280 what you said? Care? Now? They had the antibiotics there 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:45.520 like a max is stilling to start on because like 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:47.520 you tested positive for strapping. I'm like, how in the 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:51.040 fuck did I get strapped? Throat thirty six year old 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:52.760 grown man getting to middle school. 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.920 That was like the Voldemort, Voldemort back in the day, 0:09:56.160 --> 0:09:59.520 dude before COVID, before swine flew back. 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.960 In school man, grade school. Somebody has stripped throat. It's like, oh, 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:04.200 you got to stay away from that dude GTFO for 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:07.240 like a week. Yep, come back. Yeah, And so I 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:09.440 get stripped thrown, I get on antibiotics. I'm hitting the 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:13.560 chats like obviously. I text you guys, you know you're 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:16.600 not gonna be uh, I'm gonna be contagious for at 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:19.440 least twenty four hours, like twenty four to forty eight hours, 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:21.640 depending on how I feel. I started to hit, you know, 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:25.200 turning around around Tuesday is when I started to feel better. 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:27.960 But I was fucking down and out. Bro. Then it 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:31.599 gets to Rue. You know, she's helping take care of 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:34.720 dad Dad, and she knows I'm sick, and she knows 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:38.240 I've been laying around like all day. Yeah. Rue starts, like, 0:10:38.960 --> 0:10:41.760 in my opinion, forcing a cough, like Ru has like 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:46.880 mild asthma, and so she'll use her at haler. But she, 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:49.160 you know, she tries a cough, and if Rue's sick, 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:52.560 she gets to watch some TV so I feel like 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:57.199 she's negotiating trying to watch TV by saying like she's 0:10:57.240 --> 0:10:59.720 not feeling good, she's sick. We're out of the butterol 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:03.880 or whatever it's called for the UH for the asthma. Yeah, 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.360 so Charlo just like, let's just you take her to 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:09.480 the pediatrician on Wednesday. Take her to the pediatrician, see you, like, 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:11.400 just get her checked out, because again, I got striped throat, 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:14.440 highly contagious. I've been kissing on the kiddos, loving on them, yeah, 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.200 all weekend long. It can like it can like what 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:20.080 is it incubated? Is an incubating phase like two to 0:11:20.120 --> 0:11:22.040 five days before you even get strapped, like you it 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:24.840 could be passed around. Yes, So we're already worried that 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:26.439 the kiddos are going to get sick. We're worried that 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:28.360 Mom's gonna get taken down. We're worried about the whole 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:31.959 thing because again, strep throat. Take her into the pediatrician 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:32.680 on Wednesday. 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:38.720 She tests positive for strep throat. No, yes, did she really? 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:40.880 And the pediatricians saying that there's like a percentage of 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:43.880 kids like they could operate asymptomatically, like she could have 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:46.280 had this for a week or two and you not 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:50.600 known it. Oh, this was sorry last Wednesday, Last Wednesday, 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:53.559 after I'm coming out of strep. Yeah, and we're kind 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.480 of questioning, like, how did I get stripped throat? Like 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:57.360 you guys have talked about being sick in July or 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:00.679 the fourth of July, but nothing that's like strep thrower, 0:12:00.840 --> 0:12:04.080 Like char was under the weather before she went to Chattanooga, 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:07.320 but she wasn't like six sick. Oh damn. So like 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:09.920 maybe Charo had it and she was like asymptomatic. Yes, 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:13.160 maybe she's just tough for me in the fucking a gap. Yeah, 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:14.840 and I'm kind of coming to grips with how in 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:16.960 the hell did I get stripped throat? Find out rude 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:18.960 tests are positive for strip throat, Like she had a 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:21.640 red throat, but that's all she had. She didn't really 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:25.200 have any symptoms. She's kind of asymptomatic. And they're like, 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.720 has she went any to any camps or parties recently? 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:30.400 I'm like, she went to a fucking birthday party last 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.840 week where there was like forty kids. Your own blood, 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:36.600 my own blood. Took me down. But we were also 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:39.599 very thankful that she wasn't experiencing symptoms because. 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:43.440 Obviously it just takes you out. Yeah, but had rude 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:44.320 gave me strip throw. 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:47.280 Give you flowers. 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:52.000 I like, as long as I've worked here, I've seen 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:55.680 you power through. I feel like you and Taylor y'all 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:59.240 powered through like anything, and just y'all go go, go 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:02.960 go constantly. To get the text that we got. I 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:05.880 didn't even need more. You could have literally said, won't 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:09.000 be their strap throughout. It would have been like, oh shit, 0:13:09.960 --> 0:13:12.760 that's a bad strap, because will never misses. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:14.840 I always feel like I have to break it down 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:18.439 because part of me doubts anytime that somebody is sick. Yeah, 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:19.720 I think it's a flaw of mine. 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:22.680 I also said, though, you said there's people there with kids, 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:24.760 so you did take the route Like if it was 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:26.360 just the boys in the shop and none of us 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:27.760 had wives and kids at home, you would have been 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:28.040 in here. 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:29.000 We would have made it work. 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:30.400 But you did send the text for me, like, I 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:32.559 know that there's people like, we're having kids in this office. 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:34.960 Now there's newborn, there's newborns. Run they take it home 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.079 like that's a I was. I was thinking about that. 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:41.079 But it's probably also the NFL in you of like 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:44.600 when you're hurt, like, hey, I'm I'm actually hurt, Like 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:48.160 I everybody in this organization to know that I'm actually hurt, 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:49.440 or else I'd be on the field. 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:53.800 My mom also just didn't play that shit. Oh yeah, 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:57.679 like you. We were always going to school no matter 0:13:57.720 --> 0:14:00.840 what unless you're truly just down and out like high fever, 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:03.040 all that stuff to where she knows for sure there's 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:05.400 evidence that you could be really sick right now, Yeah, 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.719 because there'd be times and you know, hats off to her, 0:14:08.160 --> 0:14:11.520 like I would put apple sauce in my mouth at 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:14.400 dinner and then hold it in there and then say 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:17.120 I'm gonna go take a shower and then go in 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:20.960 the shower and then you know, quote unquote like vomit 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:23.760 the apple sauce in the shower and then come out 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:27.400 be like I'm puked everywhere and try to show, you know, 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:29.600 things like get out of going to school the next day. 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:31.360 Probably because I was like ripping around with the Game 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.640 Boy yellow version on Pokemon. 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:38.880 My mom's go to him is instantly, oh, oh you're sick, 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:39.920 all right, put some clothes on. 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:40.840 We're going to the doctor. 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.880 We're going right now, and we're gonna go, We're gonna 0:14:43.880 --> 0:14:45.480 go wait in the waiting room because we don't have 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:48.080 an appointment, and we're gonna wait there all day, and 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:50.560 we're gonna you're gonna go to the doctor. And after 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:53.480 two times of that of me faking it, I was like, Okay, 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:55.680 I don't want to fake sick anymore because I just 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:58.320 sit in a waiting room at a doctor's office and 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:01.560 then the doctor tells my mom, yeah, he's fine, and 0:15:01.640 --> 0:15:02.520 it's miserable. 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.240 Yeah, And you would almost test it because you it's 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:07.240 like you had friends that would like, just have a 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.960 cough and they get to stay home. Oh yeah, dude, 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:12.840 what the fuck? How are you pulling that off? You said, 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.560 at home playing video games all day? Can you just 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:19.320 have a stuffy nose? Yeah, dude, just just do a 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:19.960 couple of costs. 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:22.120 Go to the school nurse and tell me your throat 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:24.480 hurts really bad, and by be strap and they call 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:24.920 your mom. 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:27.640 You guys, ever experienced the fear of like, you do 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:29.720 feel sick, but you're not like one hundred percent, but 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:31.200 you feel kind of shitty, and you're going to the 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:34.200 doctor and your parents are like, you better be sick. Oh, 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:36.280 I swear to God, you better be you better, you 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:40.960 please test positive for something. 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.320 Because now that we're parents, you gonna you can kind 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:45.080 of see it. You're kind of like wasting their time. 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:46.760 They might have to take off work because they're having 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:49.160 to take care of the big time. Like you know, motherfucker, 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:52.800 you're taking my PTO right now. Yes, my mom. 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:56.320 Would be legitimately like loving, caring mother and I love you, 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:58.440 miss saying as she listens to the show. But she 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:02.400 could sniff out a rat and it pissed her off 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:06.000 so much. If we were she knew when we were 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:09.360 faking sick, and so it was her mission to prove 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:12.000 that you were not sick. Take you to the doctor, 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:13.960 and you better test positive for something. 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:15.840 Yeah, like think that they might have like a big 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:17.400 day of work, or there's a big week ahead that 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:19.080 they might be excited about, and you just wake up 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:20.880 on the wrong side of the bed trying to fake sick. 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:24.960 Did in the Zoolander cough And then the parents got 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:28.840 to play the guilt of they don't believe you. But also, man, 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:30.920 I'm a shitty parent if I don't make sure they're 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:35.240 actually not sick. If they actually are sick, So let 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:37.320 me check the boxes of making sure they are sick. 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:39.600 Then you find out they're not, then it fuels the 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:41.800 piste off. This dude, you're fucking lying to me all 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:42.800 the time, you little shit. 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:45.840 Yeah, and then they're dropping me off at school and going, hey, 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:47.880 extra homework for him, by the way, Yeah, because I 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:48.840 know we missed a lot. 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:51.440 Yeah, walk up to your teachers. Actually asked for some 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:54.720 bonus words. I don't want to report when you get 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:56.360 home from school that you went back to your first 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:59.040 hour and second hour and ask for some extra work. 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:01.200 Yeah, how can I get caught up? So sorry for 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.320 visiting your class. I mean really, it did feel like 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:04.560 that chef, that was a great call. 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:06.960 And then there's nothing like when you actually do test 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:08.960 positive and they're like, oh okay, Like I guess he 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:11.280 actually calls my dad would call my mom like, yeah, 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:13.520 he actually is sick, you test spot. I had my 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:15.720 tonsils taken out because I got stripped seven times in. 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:18.040 Two years, seven times. 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:19.800 Seven times, and the doctor said that I took more 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:22.679 antibiotics that it would just stop working. And then it's 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:24.359 like that's a big problem. So I had to get 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:28.800 by the way for a non invasive, super invasive surgery. 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:31.560 The worst like it ruins a month of your life. 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:33.640 Fucking blows dude. 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:35.320 How vulnerable was your immune system? 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:38.600 It was just strip after I got my tonsils taken out. 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:40.800 I think I've gotten sick three times, and that was 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:42.560 in fourth grade, says the thing. 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:44.200 I've never gotten my tonsils taken out. 0:17:45.080 --> 0:17:47.639 The immune system is a crazy thing too, like when 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:52.360 you're talking about Rue and her being asymptomatic and how 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:54.359 certain bodies react to certain stuff. 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:55.560 My mom always. 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:59.359 Talked about that we have the same pediatrician, my brother 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:04.280 and I. The doctor would come out with my brother's file, 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:08.080 you know, each time, and it was this big, and 0:18:08.480 --> 0:18:10.399 he would come out with my file and it was 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:13.760 this big. Like my brother whenever he got anything, it 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:17.720 would hit him like how strap just hit you? And 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:20.480 then with me, I guess it was like I was 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:24.520 probably getting sick, but just it wasn't all the symptoms 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:26.119 and stuff that would keep you out of school. 0:18:26.240 --> 0:18:27.960 I know. It's such a better feeling though, being like 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:30.199 the alpha on the alpha side of it, of like 0:18:30.720 --> 0:18:34.200 your immune system can't get penetrated. Yeah, but you and 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:35.560 you get to look at all the sick people like 0:18:35.600 --> 0:18:38.040 the there like they're inferior a little bit like all 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:39.560 his voice who get sick and they take it a 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:43.879 little hard buddy like I got a I got a 0:18:43.960 --> 0:18:51.000 comment here that made me laugh. I got I gotta 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:53.840 see it. Fine one go ahead, rip one sharm. While 0:18:53.960 --> 0:18:55.200 was looking, the. 0:18:55.160 --> 0:18:57.960 Boys had Will's back and stood tin toads down against 0:18:58.040 --> 0:18:59.480 any slander on his name. 0:18:59.520 --> 0:18:59.920 Respect. 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:04.040 That came from DJ pac One on YouTube. We hey, 0:19:04.080 --> 0:19:06.600 we did go to go to bath for you? 0:19:06.680 --> 0:19:09.480 By the way. Yeah, I know there's some I know, 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:11.399 I appreciate it. There was some. 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:16.320 Crazy shit coming out of intern Chris's mouth, and Chris 0:19:16.400 --> 0:19:18.280 is a bit of a shit talker. I miss him 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:19.879 already in the internship program. 0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:23.879 I know, Lee, I know you only man, where's this 0:19:23.960 --> 0:19:31.159 dude who called who said I had positas? Because I 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:33.680 have one here from Chris Stack. This is Chris Stack 0:19:33.760 --> 0:19:36.280 and Walt ninety five zero seven. I'm literally in tears 0:19:36.320 --> 0:19:39.200 listening to you guys. Go in on, Chris, hang in there, Chris, 0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:41.560 go big red. We'll didn't show up for the pod, 0:19:41.680 --> 0:19:43.320 just like he doesn't show up to cut his grass. 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:44.760 That's from Benji Golf's. 0:19:46.920 --> 0:19:52.280 Oh come on, Benji, hold on old one. 0:19:56.440 --> 0:20:06.800 Oh Darren, you crushed with these deacon sure need to quit. Sorry. 0:20:06.920 --> 0:20:11.240 This comes from Franklin pronunciation eight four zero one on YouTube. 0:20:11.600 --> 0:20:16.119 Franklin says decon Schermaney to quit meat writing Willie flat tire. 0:20:16.280 --> 0:20:19.040 There's zero chance of healthy will Compton can change a 0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:24.200 tire without help from YouTube. That's a grown ass man. 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:29.000 That's on www dot internet dot. Why are YouTube shaming people? 0:20:30.200 --> 0:20:35.439 To take a little reminder, why are we YouTube shaming people? 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:41.080 My wife checked me. My wife checked me. Yes, I 0:20:41.200 --> 0:20:43.080 walked it through hout to change of tires. She said, 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:45.639 just don't forget you want to loosen the lugnuts before 0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:49.800 you jack it up. That's a great reminder, sweetheart, she 0:20:50.040 --> 0:20:54.880 checked you. She checked me. So to that comment, I say, 0:20:54.960 --> 0:20:57.080 that's bullshit, Like I know how to change a tire. 0:20:57.119 --> 0:20:57.280 Now. 0:20:57.320 --> 0:20:59.840 Would my fleeting brain have forgot to loosen the lugnuts? 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:02.000 I would have went back on YouTube to get reminded. Yes, 0:21:02.560 --> 0:21:05.000 but that would have refreshed my mind. Oh yeah, that's 0:21:05.040 --> 0:21:07.040 of course, you got to loosen the lugnuts before you 0:21:07.119 --> 0:21:08.240 jacked that thing up and change it. 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:11.119 But you also have the brute strength that it probably 0:21:11.160 --> 0:21:13.720 wouldn't have even been an issue, right, you would have 0:21:15.440 --> 0:21:18.000 And another dad hack you play, you put the jack 0:21:18.040 --> 0:21:21.200 on there, or you put the whatever that thing is, 0:21:21.840 --> 0:21:23.560 give it a little stomp. 0:21:24.160 --> 0:21:25.760 Yeah, get it going, Get it going. 0:21:25.920 --> 0:21:28.040 After that episode, Chris came up to me. He was like, 0:21:28.560 --> 0:21:30.399 I love that, like whole bit thing that me and 0:21:30.480 --> 0:21:32.399 Sherman had about Shirream defending will there. I was like, 0:21:32.440 --> 0:21:38.399 it's not a bit, just the mess of them. He was, There's. 0:21:38.520 --> 0:21:41.199 It looks a lot of heat my way over the 0:21:41.240 --> 0:21:43.560 last week. It's crazy. We have a show called for 0:21:43.680 --> 0:21:46.959 the dads. Yeah, you have the clip that chef can 0:21:47.000 --> 0:21:47.720 play right now. 0:21:48.040 --> 0:21:50.080 I mean, I really wish you'd start cutting some grass, 0:21:50.080 --> 0:21:53.480 because when you learn to strike, there ain't nothing better. 0:21:53.520 --> 0:21:53.840 Brother. 0:21:54.119 --> 0:21:56.160 When I pull up and I see my grass, I'll 0:21:56.160 --> 0:21:58.880 be like, and I have to learn the hard way. 0:21:58.920 --> 0:22:00.879 He'll make that zero turn of a little bit too tight, 0:22:00.920 --> 0:22:04.320 tear up. You got a three point turn. You gotta 0:22:04.359 --> 0:22:06.280 take it easy. And now since you move, you got 0:22:06.280 --> 0:22:07.120 a couple of acres. 0:22:07.160 --> 0:22:09.280 Now you know, I don't I have like an acre, 0:22:09.520 --> 0:22:10.800 Willie boy, ain't cutting the grass. 0:22:10.840 --> 0:22:13.520 Man, it's just beneath you. Is that what you're saying. 0:22:13.640 --> 0:22:16.000 No, it's not beneath me. I just would rather just 0:22:16.040 --> 0:22:18.840 not cut the grass. It's crazy, Like I just sit 0:22:18.880 --> 0:22:20.120 there and I'm like, man, do I want to put 0:22:20.119 --> 0:22:21.159 time and to cutting the grass? 0:22:21.400 --> 0:22:21.880 There's something? 0:22:22.000 --> 0:22:23.399 Can I pay somebody just cut my grass? 0:22:23.400 --> 0:22:25.479 And then you could, But you're missing out on what 0:22:25.520 --> 0:22:27.840 it feels like to just it's just different, bro, when 0:22:27.840 --> 0:22:29.919 you cut grass, when you spend time out in nature, 0:22:30.040 --> 0:22:32.680 like psychologically, I think it speaks to each and every 0:22:32.680 --> 0:22:33.919 one of us. That's why they tell you to go 0:22:33.920 --> 0:22:36.679 out in the morning and ground stretching, you know, That's 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:39.000 why he says I feel young. I feel young too. 0:22:39.320 --> 0:22:40.920 But you, on the other hand, you're like, man, I'm 0:22:40.920 --> 0:22:49.400 getting old clay. 0:22:47.680 --> 0:22:50.280 Questioning me mowing the yard because I don't mow the 0:22:50.359 --> 0:22:52.440 yard anymore, even though when I was a young jed like, 0:22:52.440 --> 0:22:54.679 I've done my fair share of mowing the yard. Not 0:22:54.760 --> 0:22:58.720 my cup of tea. Like guys writing poems about how 0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:00.480 great it is to cut your yard and a fresh 0:23:00.520 --> 0:23:03.120 mode lawn and you get done with it, the beer 0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:05.040 hits better than this. Look. 0:23:05.160 --> 0:23:07.320 I'm with you, but I've done it, and it's like 0:23:07.400 --> 0:23:10.080 I don't care to do that every week to I 0:23:10.080 --> 0:23:10.840 don't mow the yard. 0:23:11.240 --> 0:23:13.840 I'm question on changing attire. One thing you can't question 0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:16.800 me on is that boy willy see on the grill? 0:23:19.600 --> 0:23:21.720 Is that boy willy see on the grill? Where did 0:23:21.720 --> 0:23:24.520 that talk in red meat chicken, whatever it is? Where 0:23:24.520 --> 0:23:25.280 did that get born? 0:23:25.440 --> 0:23:29.000 Because that happened somewhere on the bus before I started 0:23:29.000 --> 0:23:32.960 working here, like I was hearing little things about how 0:23:33.040 --> 0:23:34.040 you don't know how to grill? 0:23:34.800 --> 0:23:40.200 Who's that you think? That's why? Now are you gaslighting? Meslighting? 0:23:41.400 --> 0:23:46.120 You am? I am? I off? By saying off, people 0:23:46.200 --> 0:23:47.320 question me on the real question. 0:23:47.400 --> 0:23:49.399 They're like, why don't you cut your meat whenever you 0:23:49.440 --> 0:23:51.760 take pictures to show it? 0:23:52.720 --> 0:23:56.520 You know how? You know how the internet is when 0:23:56.520 --> 0:23:59.040 it comes to like everybody's an expert on the internet, 0:23:59.240 --> 0:24:01.240 you gotta take shot. Nothing's going to be perfect on 0:24:01.280 --> 0:24:01.800 the internet. 0:24:02.560 --> 0:24:04.760 We gotta do some kind of grill day, dude. And 0:24:04.800 --> 0:24:07.240 it doesn't even have to be a grill off. I'm 0:24:07.280 --> 0:24:09.680 talking like a chili like you know those like chili 0:24:09.760 --> 0:24:13.080 cookoff things where like everybody kind of wins there is 0:24:13.119 --> 0:24:15.560 a best chili, but like at the end of the day, 0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:18.639 everybody got to have some chili. Yeah, we need to 0:24:18.640 --> 0:24:22.199 have like a meat cookoff here at the office. 0:24:22.240 --> 0:24:25.680 You're just you're known as a grill guy. When your 0:24:25.680 --> 0:24:27.960 wife brings up early in the day, early in the afternoon. 0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:30.400 We did it on we did it this past Sunday. 0:24:30.760 --> 0:24:32.880 She's like, you want a grill tonight? And right there 0:24:32.960 --> 0:24:37.840 that question it's all now on the man, it's all 0:24:37.880 --> 0:24:40.240 now on hobby. Yeah, it's like, yeah, what do we 0:24:40.240 --> 0:24:42.119 want a girl, sweetheart? What are you feeling? You want burgers? 0:24:42.119 --> 0:24:45.159 You want steak, you want chicken, you want veggies? How big? 0:24:45.440 --> 0:24:48.440 How much do we want to do this up? Because 0:24:48.440 --> 0:24:49.280 she already. 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:51.760 Knows Dad's got it, and if that didn't have it, 0:24:51.800 --> 0:24:53.639 you know what her question is, Hey, where are we 0:24:53.640 --> 0:24:54.919 getting take out from tonight? 0:24:55.119 --> 0:24:57.119 You're right, that's what you don't want to hear. You 0:24:57.119 --> 0:24:59.359 don't want to hear. Should we grill tonight? Followed up 0:24:59.400 --> 0:25:02.040 with you know what, let's just order out? 0:25:03.119 --> 0:25:06.639 Made question too, stops yourself made question to go Actually, 0:25:06.640 --> 0:25:08.040 you know what, we could just order out? 0:25:08.960 --> 0:25:10.960 That tells you that your wife doesn't actually trust you 0:25:11.000 --> 0:25:11.400 on the grill. 0:25:12.680 --> 0:25:15.120 Yeah, which I'm in a dangerous spot, guys. I told 0:25:15.119 --> 0:25:18.080 you all about my last steak. That was my last 0:25:18.080 --> 0:25:21.360 steak that I've made. I've yet to get a new 0:25:22.240 --> 0:25:24.040 grade for my grill. 0:25:25.560 --> 0:25:27.720 That was the last steak that you made. It was 0:25:27.760 --> 0:25:29.160 the one that I tried to do in the oven 0:25:29.240 --> 0:25:32.840 and reverse sear. Yeah. Look, you're gonna take losses on 0:25:32.880 --> 0:25:35.400 the grill. Like Chef Jack. His name is Chef Jack. 0:25:35.400 --> 0:25:37.919 Why because he whips it up in the lap. That's 0:25:37.960 --> 0:25:40.720 all I took it. I took an l on a Sunday. 0:25:41.200 --> 0:25:43.920 And that's what happens, right, Like, you're never gonna You're 0:25:43.960 --> 0:25:46.080 never gonna bat a thousand. You know the analogy with 0:25:46.119 --> 0:25:49.439 baseball players and hitting home runs. Yeah, batting averages with 0:25:49.600 --> 0:25:52.040 three out of ten. Yeah, No, on the grill, you're 0:25:52.080 --> 0:25:53.800 gonna have a higher percentage if you're an actual, if 0:25:53.840 --> 0:25:56.000 you know your way around a grill. Yeah, you're gonna 0:25:56.040 --> 0:25:58.080 take a couple of losses. Like I had the boys 0:25:58.119 --> 0:25:59.919 over a few years ago or a couple of years ago, 0:26:00.600 --> 0:26:03.679 and I was fired up about making them my apple 0:26:04.160 --> 0:26:07.919 jalapenos smoked ribs. But I overdid them. I overcooked them 0:26:07.920 --> 0:26:09.280 a little bit. That's what I think. 0:26:09.280 --> 0:26:13.000 That's what it Maybe that's what it was, probably because 0:26:13.000 --> 0:26:14.560 that was like one of the times, like one of 0:26:14.560 --> 0:26:15.040 the moments. 0:26:15.080 --> 0:26:17.240 And dude, there is not a harder critic on themselves 0:26:17.280 --> 0:26:20.080 than Willy. See when it comes to my smoking ability 0:26:20.160 --> 0:26:23.960 or grilling ability. Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I was bummed. Bro. 0:26:24.800 --> 0:26:27.800 You talk about Derek was referring to sitting over here 0:26:27.800 --> 0:26:29.920 and the lights getting brighter. You talk about like having 0:26:29.960 --> 0:26:34.920 bright lights that day and then not showing up when 0:26:34.920 --> 0:26:37.840 the time came, especially, and then all the boys eating. 0:26:37.880 --> 0:26:39.960 You're eating yourself. You don't even need to fucking hear 0:26:40.440 --> 0:26:43.520 people's opinions. That's what you take it by yourself. And 0:26:43.520 --> 0:26:45.480 it's a little too tough, and they're not falling off 0:26:45.480 --> 0:26:47.600 the bone like they usually do. I don't even need 0:26:47.640 --> 0:26:50.280 to hear you pat me on the back. Oh well, 0:26:50.320 --> 0:26:51.880 this is actually really due. 0:26:51.880 --> 0:26:55.520 It's it's more insulting when they come at you like no, no, 0:26:55.560 --> 0:26:57.520 it's like, it's shut the fuck up. 0:26:57.640 --> 0:27:00.199 I know what it is. It's not that bad. It's like, no, man, 0:27:00.240 --> 0:27:01.680 you're fucking wrong. It is that bad. 0:27:01.760 --> 0:27:03.680 No, dude, I had like four, I had like four 0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:06.520 or five of them. They're pretty good, dude. Flip of that. 0:27:06.880 --> 0:27:09.240 Best feeling in the world. I got to grill out 0:27:09.280 --> 0:27:12.959 at the bachelor party we were at. Everyone fucking loved everything. 0:27:13.040 --> 0:27:15.520 There's no better feeling in the better Blackstone too, chef. 0:27:15.560 --> 0:27:19.320 So it's a Blackstone dogs, burgers, broccolini with lemon and 0:27:19.400 --> 0:27:20.240 cheese over top. 0:27:21.280 --> 0:27:23.920 But say, stay out of the you do uh yeah, 0:27:24.040 --> 0:27:27.679 you do burgers, You do dogs, Yep, you do. But 0:27:27.760 --> 0:27:32.879 your main dish is the smoked ribs when your boy 0:27:32.960 --> 0:27:36.680 hits you with when your boy hit you with. Hey, 0:27:37.000 --> 0:27:39.800 the burgers are gas, though, and it's like, fuck, dude, 0:27:39.800 --> 0:27:43.679 we're talking burgers, like, of course the solid for the 0:27:43.680 --> 0:27:45.160 most it's kind of hard to mess. 0:27:45.000 --> 0:27:50.200 Up the burgers and dogs as we're talking about burgers, but. 0:27:50.119 --> 0:27:52.080 The one you feel most like this is the one 0:27:52.119 --> 0:27:53.960 I want to hit. I had. 0:27:54.119 --> 0:27:57.680 I had thirteen guys in Tampa talking about broccolini. That's 0:27:57.720 --> 0:27:59.119 where I was like, ooh, I kind of got a 0:27:59.160 --> 0:28:01.720 thing going on that, you know, everything was there. Yeah, 0:28:01.720 --> 0:28:03.720 I feel you though, because like I think, we do 0:28:03.800 --> 0:28:05.760 this tradition now with my friends back home when when 0:28:05.800 --> 0:28:07.720 I go home for Christmas, I don't see them very often. 0:28:07.720 --> 0:28:10.000 So my two high school buddies come over, one guy's wife, 0:28:10.080 --> 0:28:12.280 my parents. I cook a huge meal, so we do chicken, 0:28:12.320 --> 0:28:12.760 we do steak. 0:28:12.800 --> 0:28:13.919 Yaha. First meal I did it. 0:28:13.960 --> 0:28:16.960 I tried to do Cat's dats carne asada, then skirt steak, 0:28:17.040 --> 0:28:19.639 lemon and everything. We took it with us on the 0:28:19.720 --> 0:28:22.760 right back because it was beef jerky. That's how tough 0:28:22.800 --> 0:28:25.119 it was. Everyone lied to my face and said it 0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:26.440 was good. And I stood up at dinner and I said, 0:28:26.400 --> 0:28:27.760 I'm gonna take a toast. I'm gonna say, you guys 0:28:27.760 --> 0:28:28.440 got to stop lying. 0:28:28.920 --> 0:28:29.120 Yeah. 0:28:29.680 --> 0:28:32.639 See, you're beating yourself up enough. You can't live in 0:28:32.640 --> 0:28:33.600 this false reality. 0:28:33.680 --> 0:28:38.600 Yes, yeah, God, and the skirt steak, dude, just that 0:28:39.960 --> 0:28:43.440 go lee. The amount of times that I'm like, okay, 0:28:43.640 --> 0:28:48.000 I know ten minutes tops, like ten minutes tops, and 0:28:48.040 --> 0:28:51.120 I'm gonna do and oh it's raw. 0:28:51.760 --> 0:28:54.640 I cut it. It's raw, it needs a little bit more. 0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:57.000 And then but you do a little bit more and 0:28:57.000 --> 0:29:00.960 now all of a sudden it's it's great, completely gray, 0:29:01.080 --> 0:29:04.719 beef jerky. 0:29:04.920 --> 0:29:08.000 God, this is just just waxing poetic over the grill. 0:29:08.240 --> 0:29:10.600 That's what I'm saying. We should do a little a grill. 0:29:10.720 --> 0:29:14.040 We had grills here, We could girls, gott are grills? 0:29:14.040 --> 0:29:17.320 Got we have? We talked about that on a podcast. 0:29:17.680 --> 0:29:18.400 I don't think so. 0:29:18.960 --> 0:29:21.080 I took a journey to find them, dude. I took 0:29:21.080 --> 0:29:23.360 a picture of seven girls in the neighborhood that I 0:29:23.400 --> 0:29:25.000 found and we came back. None of them were ours. 0:29:25.000 --> 0:29:27.800 I went over to the homeless encampment, didn't see anything. Yeah, 0:29:27.960 --> 0:29:31.040 package of stuff in it for busting in the grill, 0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:33.120 which is a crazy place to drop it off, but yeah, grills. 0:29:33.360 --> 0:29:35.160 When you brought that up and then I had because 0:29:35.200 --> 0:29:37.320 that was when strep was happening, I was like, oh, yeah, 0:29:37.320 --> 0:29:40.440 I drove in on Saturday because I put a I 0:29:40.480 --> 0:29:42.720 wanted to get away and do it, got a babysitter, 0:29:42.760 --> 0:29:44.160 hit some focus work for a minute. But when I 0:29:44.200 --> 0:29:47.800 pulled in, you just I didn't notice the grills there. 0:29:47.960 --> 0:29:50.800 I was like, I know they were going on Saturday. Yeah, yeah, 0:29:50.840 --> 0:29:52.440 So they must have got sniped on Friday. 0:29:52.680 --> 0:29:54.880 So sad because we've talked so many times about cooking 0:29:54.920 --> 0:29:57.080 grills out, like Chevin Sherman like, we should just get 0:29:57.080 --> 0:29:59.800 some steaks and just cook for the boys we had 0:30:00.240 --> 0:30:02.320 and aspirations for those girls, and they're gone. 0:30:03.160 --> 0:30:07.480 We still have that weber right there. It's charcoal, right, 0:30:07.720 --> 0:30:10.720 charcoal that we I mean, that's that's all we need. 0:30:11.320 --> 0:30:13.680 You can do a little little something something. 0:30:14.040 --> 0:30:17.239 Yeah, listen, I'm just here to defend my position. On 0:30:17.280 --> 0:30:19.280 You can question me on all the other things out there, 0:30:19.360 --> 0:30:24.840 don't question Willie one shell, Willie mose, Willie flat tire, 0:30:24.960 --> 0:30:27.680 Willie flat tire. When my wife sent me the photo 0:30:27.720 --> 0:30:30.320 of her changing the flat tire, first of all, sending 0:30:30.320 --> 0:30:34.320 the picture when I was down bad and she had 0:30:34.320 --> 0:30:36.560 the flat tire, I was like, oh shit, that sucks, 0:30:37.600 --> 0:30:40.520 and then sending the photo I don't know, fifteen twenty 0:30:40.560 --> 0:30:44.360 minutes later her changing the tire, like what a superhero. 0:30:44.680 --> 0:30:47.680 But also it's another this low key she doesn't know. 0:30:47.800 --> 0:30:49.680 She just gave me a fat l on not changing 0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:52.760 my wife's tire. And do you like the deep pull 0:30:52.760 --> 0:30:54.680 of the Ginner act? By the way, I hit Chris 0:30:54.720 --> 0:30:55.400 with the Inner Act. 0:30:55.520 --> 0:30:58.120 Yeah, so I'd like to see you with the flashlight 0:30:58.320 --> 0:31:00.560 fixing your guinner act during ice storm. 0:31:01.080 --> 0:31:04.640 Dude, Uh, it's funny bring that up. I forget. Oh 0:31:04.720 --> 0:31:07.120 the Raiders. We were out at the Raiders and the alumni. 0:31:07.200 --> 0:31:10.640 They were like one of the best alumnizations, like as 0:31:10.680 --> 0:31:14.880 far as treating their former players phenomenally, and they brought 0:31:14.960 --> 0:31:17.800 up there like when that ice storm hit, we were 0:31:17.840 --> 0:31:21.080 talking like we should send you just a Raider logo generator, 0:31:22.160 --> 0:31:24.120 just ship it to your house and I was like, 0:31:24.160 --> 0:31:26.720 oh my god, you guys think differently. That would have 0:31:26.720 --> 0:31:30.080 been so sick, that would have been nuts. 0:31:30.200 --> 0:31:34.800 The raidak and injured Chris with the uh couldn't think 0:31:34.880 --> 0:31:37.240 of your third team and it was the Raiders. So 0:31:37.320 --> 0:31:39.360 he was blanking on you said it, they're black and silver. 0:31:39.400 --> 0:31:42.680 He goes, hey didn't play for the Steelers. I heard that. 0:31:43.000 --> 0:31:47.640 I know you guys missed the fourth team though it yea, 0:31:48.880 --> 0:31:51.240 I think for damfid Atlanta Annual. 0:31:51.320 --> 0:31:56.640 Oh yeah, later on, Yeah, I'd be back. I got 0:31:57.400 --> 0:31:59.720 no trust me, Charles. She listened to the pot too, 0:31:59.760 --> 0:32:03.520 and she was like, they're giving you way too much credit, 0:32:05.040 --> 0:32:09.680 like they're thinking, you know how to do everything. Hell yeah, 0:32:10.360 --> 0:32:12.600 let the boys battle for me. Right now. You had you, 0:32:13.320 --> 0:32:15.720 you were on your deathbed. We had you had to. 0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:20.200 I said that you would slash somebody's tired to prove. 0:32:20.480 --> 0:32:23.440 Did they come in and say I can mix it? 0:32:24.160 --> 0:32:28.280 I got you? Oh man, I should have just came 0:32:28.320 --> 0:32:33.160 in on Friday and just just change Chris's tires. Were 0:32:33.160 --> 0:32:39.120 you gonna say swirling? You're say change a tire and 0:32:39.160 --> 0:32:54.600 then give him a swirly? Do change the tire? Hey, Chris, 0:32:54.600 --> 0:32:57.200 you really are a great answer. You can change the tire. 0:32:57.320 --> 0:33:01.840 Just keep water board them in the toilet bowl. Call 0:33:01.920 --> 0:33:02.400 me Dad. 0:33:04.400 --> 0:33:06.640 I really didn't think that your goncais siould come in 0:33:06.720 --> 0:33:07.240 on Friday. 0:33:07.400 --> 0:33:13.720 Just swirling, man. I have some shout outs here. 0:33:14.120 --> 0:33:18.720 I have some shout outs from Nathan Ramirez on Spotify. 0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:21.040 He says, hey, boys, just wanted to give a big 0:33:21.080 --> 0:33:24.680 shout out to my buddy Keith. Him and his wife 0:33:24.840 --> 0:33:27.840 just welcome their baby girl, Nora, to the world on 0:33:27.920 --> 0:33:31.280 July twenty four, and let's go, guys. He's going to 0:33:31.280 --> 0:33:33.680 be a great father. And I just recommended the pod 0:33:33.760 --> 0:33:36.520 to him. It'd be awesome to get him on the 0:33:36.560 --> 0:33:40.080 show to help him through the trenches. And remember, take 0:33:40.120 --> 0:33:43.800 out the trash. 0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:44.960 Take out the trash. I got one here from Jared 0:33:45.120 --> 0:33:48.760 rasberry O. What's up, boys, love the show in the community. 0:33:48.800 --> 0:33:51.880 You guys have built Miss Willie one shehelf this last episode. 0:33:51.880 --> 0:33:55.880 But shrham Deek Chef Chris, you guys crushed it. I 0:33:55.960 --> 0:33:57.440 just wanted to give a shout out to my beautiful 0:33:57.440 --> 0:33:59.600 wife Ali, who is blessed me with the five beautiful 0:33:59.640 --> 0:34:03.920 baby six four, three one and four months. My god, 0:34:04.440 --> 0:34:07.960 I know absolutely trench warfare. I have no idea how 0:34:07.960 --> 0:34:09.520 she does what she does. On top of being a 0:34:09.560 --> 0:34:11.960 stay at a mom to five kids who seem to 0:34:12.000 --> 0:34:15.040 be related to Donnie Thornberry, she runs a co op 0:34:15.840 --> 0:34:18.680 for other homeschool families in our area, is involved in 0:34:18.719 --> 0:34:20.640 our church, and always seems to have a meal ready 0:34:20.640 --> 0:34:23.160 for me when I get home. I'll never understand how 0:34:23.200 --> 0:34:26.239 you remain so patient and loving during the tantrums, blowouts, 0:34:26.280 --> 0:34:29.640 dinner time messes. And I'm so thankful for you. Love you, babe. 0:34:29.880 --> 0:34:34.120 Jared Aggie sicko ps last weekend without ball till February. 0:34:35.960 --> 0:34:38.560 It is we are getting close to ball season. We are. 0:34:40.000 --> 0:34:42.480 That was almost my crack a cold one. This community 0:34:42.560 --> 0:34:46.000 getting fired up, like listening to this for the dads 0:34:46.040 --> 0:34:50.360 knowing that ball is on the horizon. I oh, but 0:34:50.480 --> 0:34:52.200 truly I was writing my. 0:34:53.640 --> 0:34:57.480 Little pre show notes and for my crack a cold one, 0:34:58.000 --> 0:35:02.200 I had written out like fall is coming, essentially, And 0:35:02.239 --> 0:35:04.560 then I was like, this is not a football podcast. 0:35:04.640 --> 0:35:07.360 Is not football podcast. It's a dad podcast. It's a 0:35:07.440 --> 0:35:08.120 dad podcast. 0:35:08.160 --> 0:35:12.239 What do dad's love? We love football, dude, dude, we 0:35:12.400 --> 0:35:16.239 love football. You talk about some losses that we're going 0:35:16.280 --> 0:35:17.719 to take during the season. 0:35:20.040 --> 0:35:24.960 Saturday's Yeah, dude, I know my watch going back. 0:35:24.960 --> 0:35:27.520 You've been watching football day long. I got sweetheart. It's 0:35:27.560 --> 0:35:29.160 just part of the gig. It's part of the gig 0:35:29.200 --> 0:35:29.719 that I'm in. 0:35:30.760 --> 0:35:34.920 It's part of the gig we already were prepping accordingly, 0:35:37.040 --> 0:35:41.560 Scarlett has her very first cheerleading UH uniform is a 0:35:41.680 --> 0:35:45.440 DCC cheer uniform that she was gifted on her first birthday. 0:35:46.000 --> 0:35:49.759 It will fit her probably around November ish, would be 0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:50.520 my guess. 0:35:51.120 --> 0:35:54.439 That's when you start pushing for a title. November. Yes, sir, 0:35:54.520 --> 0:35:57.840 you don't win a championship in September, no August, no 0:35:58.520 --> 0:35:59.640 October even. 0:36:01.040 --> 0:36:05.279 It's in November when the championships are won. And then 0:36:05.440 --> 0:36:09.719 that led to now she's getting a TCU uniform, So 0:36:09.800 --> 0:36:12.440 now I gotta take action. Dad's gotta be a good 0:36:12.520 --> 0:36:15.239 dad for his team. I'll get her a Baylor uniform. 0:36:14.960 --> 0:36:19.279 My mom is ordering her in Alabama cheer uniform. So 0:36:19.360 --> 0:36:21.200 now it's just the battle of the cheer uniform. 0:36:21.200 --> 0:36:24.160 Don't yeah for Charlotte. Don't let it come in. Lose 0:36:24.200 --> 0:36:26.960 the package, Scout. The package didn't come in. 0:36:28.239 --> 0:36:31.759 Oh honey, oh no, what about the ut one that 0:36:31.840 --> 0:36:34.520 you didn't you order both of those together. They both 0:36:34.560 --> 0:36:39.719 didn't show these porch pirates. Dude, it's getting crazy. We 0:36:39.800 --> 0:36:41.080 have to get a ring, honey. 0:36:41.640 --> 0:36:44.440 The only thing we have to be conscious about is 0:36:44.480 --> 0:36:47.640 the empty siccos that tune in. We start talking a 0:36:47.680 --> 0:36:51.360 little too much ball, they're gonna be like, this isn't why, 0:36:52.440 --> 0:36:54.680 this isn't why we tune into the show. Now what 0:36:55.080 --> 0:36:58.040 we can do is, I do think we need like 0:36:58.080 --> 0:37:01.279 a week one, Like, how whoever families out there are 0:37:01.280 --> 0:37:05.000 getting their kiddos ready for football season, because whether your 0:37:05.040 --> 0:37:07.919 hubbies is obviously it's the hubby, but I know there's 0:37:07.960 --> 0:37:10.640 some empty sicicos that love their ball as well. But however, 0:37:10.680 --> 0:37:12.520 you're dressing up the kiddos. Maybe we do like a 0:37:12.640 --> 0:37:14.600 roller dex at the end of the sod like shouting 0:37:14.600 --> 0:37:17.399 out and showing off all the photos game gear, yeah, 0:37:17.440 --> 0:37:20.120 game day gear, the fans that that there are audiences 0:37:20.160 --> 0:37:24.560 in I love that idea. Just you gotta embrace the season, 0:37:24.640 --> 0:37:26.080 you do. And what hey? 0:37:26.560 --> 0:37:28.200 And when I racked my brain and I said that 0:37:28.360 --> 0:37:30.600 podcast staff podcasts, what would. 0:37:30.360 --> 0:37:32.160 The empty sicicos want to hear about? Guess what? 0:37:32.200 --> 0:37:35.520 I pivoted my cracker cold one too. Scarlett is about 0:37:35.560 --> 0:37:37.080 to move up a class in daycare. 0:37:37.800 --> 0:37:41.120 There you go, yeah, hell, that's gonna get them going. 0:37:42.600 --> 0:37:44.200 Talk about the move of the daycons. 0:37:44.320 --> 0:37:48.200 She's growing up, she's getting older, and all the moms 0:37:48.200 --> 0:37:50.600 are like, that's the ship we're looking for. There we go, 0:37:50.800 --> 0:37:54.360 sirp they didn't, but that is my crack. A cold 0:37:54.360 --> 0:38:00.000 one can steal your lollipop. Deck good toss, good time, 0:38:01.280 --> 0:38:12.200 good tak logo, Oh strawberry vanilla. Scarlett is moving up 0:38:12.440 --> 0:38:13.879 a class here very soon. 0:38:13.960 --> 0:38:15.799 She has not moved up yet. 0:38:16.880 --> 0:38:19.719 I'm talking about it today because I think I'm kind 0:38:19.760 --> 0:38:27.720 of I'm mentally preparing myself. The sadness of her growing 0:38:27.800 --> 0:38:30.120 up is really starting to hit me in a real way. 0:38:30.800 --> 0:38:33.680 She just crawled up our stairs all by herself the 0:38:33.760 --> 0:38:37.240 other night, and where you know, obviously on either side 0:38:37.239 --> 0:38:40.520 of her there to like make sure that she makes it. 0:38:41.400 --> 0:38:44.320 We were spotting, we weren't helping her up the stairs. 0:38:44.480 --> 0:38:45.719 She crawled the whole way. 0:38:46.000 --> 0:38:48.960 Gets to the top. It's like a hell, Mary just landed, dude. 0:38:49.000 --> 0:38:49.920 It was awesome. 0:38:51.000 --> 0:38:53.279 It was so sick. I even told her, I was like, 0:38:53.400 --> 0:38:56.279 look look at what you just did. Look down there. 0:38:56.320 --> 0:39:00.880 You just climb that and just her tea dude, like 0:39:01.920 --> 0:39:05.560 her daycare teachers like, we love them. 0:39:06.200 --> 0:39:07.279 They love Scarlet. 0:39:07.440 --> 0:39:09.319 You have like all these little things that they like 0:39:09.360 --> 0:39:12.479 help teach Scarlet in their class. But now she's moving 0:39:12.560 --> 0:39:15.160 up to the older class. And it's like, oh, before 0:39:15.200 --> 0:39:16.880 she goes up to the older class, she needs to 0:39:16.920 --> 0:39:19.560 be only one nap a day. She needs to only 0:39:19.560 --> 0:39:23.759 be doing passes when she's napping, and no bottles, she 0:39:23.840 --> 0:39:27.879 needs sippy cups with straws, and like there's all these 0:39:27.920 --> 0:39:31.360 like benchmarks and I'm like, is this middle school? 0:39:31.800 --> 0:39:32.560 You know what I'm saying. 0:39:32.760 --> 0:39:35.440 Like I'm like, I'm like, dude, this is crazy. Like 0:39:35.480 --> 0:39:38.880 she's moving up a whole grade and she's got to 0:39:38.920 --> 0:39:41.080 get her big girl on, which makes me really sad. 0:39:41.080 --> 0:39:42.880 But she is getting her big girl on, which is 0:39:42.920 --> 0:39:46.880 really cool. I like it in the same breath. But 0:39:46.920 --> 0:39:49.400 then I still walk into that, Like even this morning, 0:39:49.440 --> 0:39:53.160 I walked into her class and she's a late birthday July, 0:39:53.400 --> 0:39:55.960 so a lot of her classmates have also moved up. 0:39:56.320 --> 0:40:00.600 She misses her friends and it's like an actual tangible 0:40:00.640 --> 0:40:03.760 thing that's crazy that like when she sees her friends 0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:06.360 they used to be in her class, she gets excited 0:40:06.440 --> 0:40:09.279 and wants to play with them. And now she's in 0:40:09.280 --> 0:40:11.120 this room with like a bunch of babies there on 0:40:11.160 --> 0:40:16.000 their little half moon donut little pillow thing, yeah, where 0:40:16.040 --> 0:40:19.919 they're laying on their backs, starfished out, and it's like, yeah, 0:40:19.960 --> 0:40:23.840 you're not that anymore, like you're you're all grown up and. 0:40:25.680 --> 0:40:26.520 It's wild. 0:40:27.000 --> 0:40:29.440 It's like really it's really sad, but it is a 0:40:30.440 --> 0:40:32.640 if you will crack a cold. 0:40:32.400 --> 0:40:36.160 One, yeah, absolutely, I feel you, bro. Like yesterday Rue 0:40:36.200 --> 0:40:40.080 started theater camp. It's over by the house, but I'm 0:40:40.280 --> 0:40:42.920 driving her to drop her off. But it's the kind 0:40:42.920 --> 0:40:45.360 of like first camp where there's no friends or people 0:40:45.400 --> 0:40:48.080 that she kind of knows. Yeah, and it's drop off, 0:40:48.120 --> 0:40:49.640 like they don't let you in the door, you kind 0:40:49.640 --> 0:40:51.719 of check in and they walk in the door themselves. 0:40:52.200 --> 0:40:53.600 So it's me a bunch of parents and a bunch 0:40:53.640 --> 0:40:55.959 of kids kind of standing outside before the door's open 0:40:56.080 --> 0:40:58.239 up to check in. But as we're driving over there, 0:40:58.239 --> 0:41:00.719 and I'm like, who are you excited theater camp? Like 0:41:00.760 --> 0:41:02.960 I'm kind of nervous for her because my damn, she's 0:41:02.960 --> 0:41:05.359 going in like rude, being four, Like she's going in 0:41:05.520 --> 0:41:07.120 none of her friends or people that she knows, is 0:41:07.160 --> 0:41:08.920 going to be there, and I'm like, I wonder how 0:41:08.960 --> 0:41:12.080 she's feeling. Yea, like, sweetheart, are you excited for theater camp? 0:41:12.120 --> 0:41:13.319 Like how are you feeling right now? Like what are 0:41:13.360 --> 0:41:15.839 your emotions? And whe'res driving over and she's like, I'm 0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:19.560 She talks about being nervous, like I'm nervous. I'm like, oh, sweetheart, 0:41:19.640 --> 0:41:21.960 that's a good thing. That means you got a little fear. 0:41:22.080 --> 0:41:25.920 You're also a little excited because it's new and you're 0:41:25.920 --> 0:41:28.360 gonna be You're gonna try and make new friends. Yeah, 0:41:28.400 --> 0:41:30.479 Like this is a great time to use your confident voice, 0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:33.279 like how you've been loving She's she's been on a 0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:36.640 kick of introducing herself to people, like saying like like Dad, 0:41:36.680 --> 0:41:38.520 I want to say tell them that I'm Rue and 0:41:38.560 --> 0:41:41.120 stuff like that, like Hi, I'm Rue and like what's 0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:42.640 your name. I'm like, this is a great time to 0:41:42.680 --> 0:41:46.880 practice that. And I'm like, Daddy gets Daddad gets nervous 0:41:46.960 --> 0:41:50.719 for absolutely everything new that I do. Every time I'm 0:41:50.719 --> 0:41:52.720 going to do something new, whether it's a new environment, 0:41:52.800 --> 0:41:55.719 a new thing, a new challenge, whatever it is, I'm 0:41:55.760 --> 0:41:58.000 always a little scared because I don't know how it's 0:41:58.040 --> 0:42:00.479 going to turn out, I'm also a little excited because 0:42:00.520 --> 0:42:03.319 I'm just like giddy and happy. I was like, it's 0:42:03.520 --> 0:42:05.840 totally fine and totally natural to be nervous, and we 0:42:05.920 --> 0:42:07.680 kind of talk through the emotion of it all. But 0:42:07.719 --> 0:42:10.160 when we get there at the door, I can tell 0:42:10.160 --> 0:42:11.920 she's just being really shy, like to a point to 0:42:11.920 --> 0:42:13.320 where she gets a couple tears in her eyes and 0:42:13.400 --> 0:42:15.200 she's like wiping her eyes before she walks in, and 0:42:15.239 --> 0:42:18.239 I'm just like, God, can I please walk in there 0:42:18.280 --> 0:42:22.040 with her, just to make sure. But she's like, uh, hi, 0:42:22.200 --> 0:42:24.960 Like what's your name? She's like rue. She hits her room, 0:42:24.960 --> 0:42:26.520 I'm like last name. Confidence. She kind of checks her 0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:28.200 off the list and goes in, and I was like, 0:42:28.239 --> 0:42:29.759 gonna walk in there with her because I could tell 0:42:29.800 --> 0:42:31.960 she's just kind of getting over being like just super nervous. 0:42:32.840 --> 0:42:34.320 And then the lady kind of just stops me and 0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:36.319 she just gives me being super sweet and she's like, 0:42:36.320 --> 0:42:38.560 we got it, don't worry, and I'm like, Okay, it's 0:42:38.840 --> 0:42:40.400 this is as much for me as it is for me. 0:42:40.600 --> 0:42:43.240 I just got to turn around and walk away. Yeah, 0:42:43.400 --> 0:42:45.920 she loved it, she had a great time, But I 0:42:45.920 --> 0:42:48.440 thought I empathize on them going up to a new 0:42:48.480 --> 0:42:51.040 level being around new kids, like just new atmosphere. It's 0:42:51.040 --> 0:42:52.880 like just like the emotion that you feel as a 0:42:52.960 --> 0:42:56.839 parent them growing up. Like just all the things, man, 0:42:57.000 --> 0:42:59.279 all the things. But my crack a cold one this 0:42:59.360 --> 0:43:04.719 week and shout out Ollipop, especially the the ras, the 0:43:04.840 --> 0:43:10.759 raspberry sorbet, raspberry sir Bert, Oh my crack of cole one. 0:43:10.760 --> 0:43:13.799 This week is going to go to Scottie Jolie tough. 0:43:13.880 --> 0:43:22.400 This chef rolled the video. Now, if you watched the video, shirm, 0:43:22.480 --> 0:43:25.640 Now do you have your phone on you? Yes, I'll 0:43:25.800 --> 0:43:27.440 watch the video real quick and then we'll come in. 0:43:30.360 --> 0:43:30.520 Here. 0:43:30.520 --> 0:43:33.399 You go, Scotty, pump your arms up, your arms. 0:43:36.000 --> 0:43:44.000 Okay, oh, welcome to the A gap ready said go go? 0:43:48.480 --> 0:43:56.160 Oh my god, yeah. 0:43:56.360 --> 0:44:07.560 That's good tough? Yes, yes, yes, how about that one? 0:44:07.640 --> 0:44:09.760 Does that get the blood going below the belt? Dude? 0:44:10.000 --> 0:44:13.000 Can I? Can I get the blood going even more? Please? 0:44:13.040 --> 0:44:17.439 Do lesson of the week? Why do we fall, master 0:44:17.520 --> 0:44:21.200 Wain so we can learn to pick ourselves back up again? 0:44:22.800 --> 0:44:28.240 I was gonna talk about Scarlet toughness. We're SYNCD, brother, 0:44:29.400 --> 0:44:30.799 We're what we're SYNCD up. 0:44:31.239 --> 0:44:34.360 Yeah, yeah, Scarlet scarscar had a good tough this moment. 0:44:35.040 --> 0:44:37.799 She's just eating ship all the time because she's trying 0:44:37.800 --> 0:44:39.920 to learn how to walk and how how is it? 0:44:40.000 --> 0:44:43.359 Like uh like in that video when Scotti falls in here, 0:44:43.400 --> 0:44:48.080 going up in that in that little felt like a 0:44:48.239 --> 0:44:50.480 full minute, and she's like getting up, turn around, doing 0:44:50.480 --> 0:44:52.640 all this stuff. I'm just you know, Tron and I 0:44:52.719 --> 0:44:55.080 it's like we both like are grabbing ourselves of not 0:44:55.400 --> 0:44:58.520 saying any yeah or like having a reaction. Yes. I'm like, 0:44:58.560 --> 0:45:00.360 don't say nothing, don't say nothing, don't say I know that. 0:45:00.640 --> 0:45:03.520 See how she responds, See how she reacts. Yes, don't 0:45:03.560 --> 0:45:05.720 be all scared for because then it might make her cry. 0:45:06.360 --> 0:45:08.040 She turns around a mom wipes off her hands, and 0:45:08.080 --> 0:45:12.160 she takes off again. I'm like, come on, gokid, there's 0:45:12.239 --> 0:45:14.080 no better feeling, no better feeling. 0:45:15.160 --> 0:45:19.320 We had a big blow up oyster or clam sorry 0:45:19.440 --> 0:45:24.040 at Scarlet's first birthday and the event space and like 0:45:24.080 --> 0:45:26.719 some of the family members that got there early to 0:45:26.880 --> 0:45:29.680 set up or like putting all this stuff up, I'm 0:45:29.760 --> 0:45:33.839 distracting Scarlet while all this is being done. She gets 0:45:33.920 --> 0:45:37.440 up on the inflatable clam eats it, but not bad 0:45:37.840 --> 0:45:41.719 I've seen her do way worse. And she eats it 0:45:41.800 --> 0:45:45.520 and like kind of rolls out onto her stomach and 0:45:45.600 --> 0:45:48.240 you could see it was all women in there except 0:45:48.239 --> 0:45:50.239 for me, and like four or five of them just 0:45:51.200 --> 0:45:53.719 instantly look at Scarlet and everybody's about to be like. 0:45:53.719 --> 0:45:58.600 Are you okay? You okay? And I just go whoa, Scarlet, whoa? 0:45:59.239 --> 0:46:02.320 That was cool like that and like kind of helping 0:46:02.360 --> 0:46:05.400 her up, and she instantly got up and started climbing 0:46:05.440 --> 0:46:06.399 back on the clam again. 0:46:06.719 --> 0:46:10.879 Yes, sure, yeah, Scarlet, he shoulder and the women there. 0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:13.480 Oh, in my head, I was like, oh, that was 0:46:13.600 --> 0:46:16.520 so good. That was so good because Jill saw it too. 0:46:17.120 --> 0:46:19.080 Jill saw it too, and I've been I've been trying 0:46:19.120 --> 0:46:22.040 to kind of preach that what you just talked about, 0:46:22.040 --> 0:46:25.560 of like the like they got it yeah. 0:46:25.400 --> 0:46:29.239 And Jill's not like, oh honey, you're okay, like every 0:46:29.280 --> 0:46:31.719 single time, right, But it's so easy to have just 0:46:31.760 --> 0:46:34.319 the natural reaction of like, oh my gosh, are you 0:46:34.360 --> 0:46:38.040 are you okay? Yes? Yes, because I got to grab myself. 0:46:38.080 --> 0:46:39.880 I've had to grab myself a lot because I'll just 0:46:39.920 --> 0:46:41.839 like it's that was in real time in the video 0:46:41.840 --> 0:46:45.200 where it's like I'm like, oh, that was and I'm 0:46:45.200 --> 0:46:47.520 like I'm hoping it's not loud enough to they hear yeah, 0:46:47.560 --> 0:46:49.279 And I'm like, shut up, shut up, like let's see 0:46:49.680 --> 0:46:53.839 how is it? Yeah, turn around. And we've also been 0:46:53.840 --> 0:46:56.240 teaching her uh oh for little stuff. 0:46:56.400 --> 0:47:00.000 Yeah, and the daycare this was this morning. The day 0:47:00.120 --> 0:47:02.800 carey said that Scarlet kind of tipped over and fell, 0:47:03.239 --> 0:47:05.640 not like a full fall, but lost their balance. It 0:47:05.680 --> 0:47:10.400 fell and went oh. Because we've been just teaching that. 0:47:10.640 --> 0:47:13.319 I was just like little minor things. I was like, 0:47:13.680 --> 0:47:16.839 we haven't even taught her that when you fall over 0:47:17.080 --> 0:47:19.719 something that you say uh oh, and that like her 0:47:19.760 --> 0:47:22.920 brain just immediately was like, oh that was a mess up. 0:47:23.480 --> 0:47:28.480 That's just a little oh. That gets me juiced, It 0:47:28.560 --> 0:47:31.319 gets you. It does get the blow for Scotty ate 0:47:31.760 --> 0:47:34.279 ship In that just gotta eat shit like Scotti is. 0:47:34.239 --> 0:47:37.600 Tough, like Rue not not not so much. I don't 0:47:37.600 --> 0:47:39.320 want to say she's a pussy. She's not a pussy. 0:47:39.360 --> 0:47:42.279 She's just she's a feeler, she's emotional. I'm trying to 0:47:42.320 --> 0:47:47.360 drag my daughter right here on camera. But I see 0:47:47.400 --> 0:47:49.000 the iterations of them. 0:47:49.080 --> 0:47:55.600 Both hurt people, hurt people, Yeah, and honestly, I see 0:47:55.640 --> 0:47:57.920 a lot of myself like in Rue, Like I was 0:47:57.960 --> 0:48:00.680 a crier when I was little, Like I was like like. 0:48:00.640 --> 0:48:04.040 A lot of things that Rue is. Yeah, Scotti's just 0:48:04.080 --> 0:48:07.719 like a bulldog. Scotty's a bulldog. She falls down, she can, dude, 0:48:07.760 --> 0:48:10.640 I'm talking pop her head and you're you're doing the 0:48:10.640 --> 0:48:12.600 same thing, and she might like you know, start to 0:48:12.600 --> 0:48:13.960 cry and get up set or like run over to 0:48:14.000 --> 0:48:15.200 you and get a hug and then get back in 0:48:15.320 --> 0:48:18.279 almost to where she's mad that she got hurt, yes, 0:48:19.160 --> 0:48:21.799 and like oh you do you want me to do whatever? 0:48:21.800 --> 0:48:24.400 And they're like no, She's like no, Saudi's turning. Sadi's 0:48:24.400 --> 0:48:26.200 turn like, get back down and do it again. Yes, 0:48:26.400 --> 0:48:29.759 like Scotty's tough. Yes, you can eat it. That's the 0:48:29.840 --> 0:48:32.719 part I want. Because she's bleeding on both knees like 0:48:32.760 --> 0:48:35.520 she was from that faont Yeah, she cut up both knees. 0:48:35.640 --> 0:48:38.240 That's so sick. Yeah. 0:48:37.480 --> 0:48:40.680 The part that I want any listener to hear of 0:48:40.719 --> 0:48:45.320 this is it's not like the not crying cry, dude, 0:48:45.360 --> 0:48:48.080 cry like ya get it hurt cry. 0:48:48.440 --> 0:48:49.719 I want my daughter to like. 0:48:49.800 --> 0:48:53.680 Feel missions It's what you just explained, the hunger to 0:48:53.800 --> 0:48:56.520 get back in there, is what fires me up. 0:48:56.920 --> 0:48:59.560 And that was what I think it was. On this podcast, 0:48:59.560 --> 0:49:00.279 I was talking. 0:49:00.040 --> 0:49:04.000 About that walker, that huge spill that Scarlet took on 0:49:04.040 --> 0:49:07.640 the walker, Yeah, where she literally didn't let go the handlebars, 0:49:07.640 --> 0:49:09.879 so she not only hid her head, but she brought 0:49:09.920 --> 0:49:12.960 the walker down on her face. And I sat there 0:49:13.000 --> 0:49:17.480 for five minutes as Scarlet screaming into Jill's shoulder, being. 0:49:17.320 --> 0:49:19.920 Like, honey, we gotta get her back on the walker. 0:49:20.320 --> 0:49:21.759 She's gonna be scared of it. 0:49:21.880 --> 0:49:23.520 She's never gonna learn to walk. 0:49:23.719 --> 0:49:25.440 Yeah, we gotta get her on there. 0:49:25.480 --> 0:49:27.640 And before we ever had to force her back on 0:49:27.680 --> 0:49:31.080 the walker, as soon as she was done crying, she 0:49:31.200 --> 0:49:34.040 wanted right back on that thing and was doing the walker. 0:49:34.080 --> 0:49:36.959 And that got me so excited. I was like, dude, 0:49:37.000 --> 0:49:41.160 that's like, bottle that up and keep it forever. Yeah, 0:49:41.440 --> 0:49:42.880 that needs be so juiced. 0:49:42.960 --> 0:49:44.880 And then it just builds and builds and they just 0:49:44.920 --> 0:49:49.080 you just see you just see the resilience built over time. Yeah. Yeah, 0:49:49.200 --> 0:49:52.680 that rolled into my dad loss kind of I'm not 0:49:52.719 --> 0:49:55.719 gonna say, motherfucked. That was a motherfucked. Talked to me 0:49:55.800 --> 0:49:58.600 very calmly. This is what happened yesterday. Yesterday after this 0:49:58.680 --> 0:50:01.840 walk because we were what is that cheek wood? Yeah, 0:50:01.920 --> 0:50:04.480 going around cheek wood. We go home. It's probably seven 0:50:04.560 --> 0:50:06.080 thirty when we get home, so a little like it's 0:50:06.120 --> 0:50:08.560 past Scotty's bedtime, like you can just tell. Like they 0:50:08.640 --> 0:50:10.600 were run around. Rue's on her scooter the whole time, 0:50:10.640 --> 0:50:13.840 like their energy's low. Rue wanted to hear a Little Mermaid, 0:50:14.320 --> 0:50:16.399 the Little Mermaid Song when we got in the house, 0:50:16.400 --> 0:50:18.120 so we're playing a Little Mermaid song. A lot of 0:50:18.120 --> 0:50:21.360 noise is happening. Scotty and Rue aren't getting along. Scotty's 0:50:21.680 --> 0:50:24.600 trying to swing on Rue. Rue kind of pushes you 0:50:24.640 --> 0:50:26.279 down because she's trying to keep your distance, but then 0:50:26.320 --> 0:50:28.359 two hands are and push you down. Scottie gets mad 0:50:28.560 --> 0:50:32.120 and she's just chasing. Rue's running from Scottie and Scotty 0:50:32.239 --> 0:50:34.359 just got her like little arms and little body shit 0:50:34.480 --> 0:50:38.400 got no quiz. She ain't got no quiz. Chaos is 0:50:38.480 --> 0:50:42.000 kind of happening. We left the dishes out after dinner 0:50:42.120 --> 0:50:43.799 because Charl's like, we can just do when we get home. 0:50:43.800 --> 0:50:45.520 I'm like, okay, sweetheart, and not wanting to hit the 0:50:45.560 --> 0:50:49.480 dishes like right after dinner time, not like her holding 0:50:49.480 --> 0:50:51.200 something off. Yeah, I can kind of vibe on that. 0:50:52.160 --> 0:50:55.080 But it's my turn to do rue for bedtime, Charles 0:50:55.200 --> 0:50:58.400 turning to do Scottie Charos starts doing the dishes and 0:50:58.440 --> 0:51:02.560 cleaning while the chaos is happening. I'm kind of putting 0:51:02.600 --> 0:51:04.759 myself in there by telling them they like, hey, stop 0:51:04.760 --> 0:51:09.640 blah blah blah. Yeah, but I'm consuming football content on 0:51:09.680 --> 0:51:12.920 the phone. I'm on my phone, okay, so I'm not 0:51:13.200 --> 0:51:19.279 like sue him. Yeah. Well, we go upstairs. Ru has 0:51:19.280 --> 0:51:22.440 a moment because she wants a cookie and loses her 0:51:22.480 --> 0:51:25.160 fucking mind. We end up giving her a piece of 0:51:25.200 --> 0:51:28.280 a cookie, which we hated to do because she's crying 0:51:28.280 --> 0:51:30.680 to get the fucking cookie, like, hey, we don't operate 0:51:30.760 --> 0:51:32.920 that way. We go upstairs and rou wants Oh, she 0:51:32.960 --> 0:51:34.560 just tells me that I want to hug Okay, let's 0:51:34.600 --> 0:51:36.200 sit here, have the huggy at the cookie. Now. I'm 0:51:36.239 --> 0:51:38.520 talking with her about, hey, this shit isn't happening again 0:51:38.600 --> 0:51:41.560 to where you cry and get the cookie. I promise you, 0:51:41.680 --> 0:51:45.319 I prompt Look at me, I promise you. You cry 0:51:45.440 --> 0:51:47.160 again to get a cookie. You're not getting a cookie. 0:51:47.200 --> 0:51:49.920 You're gonna be very upset, very mad, very angry, and 0:51:49.920 --> 0:51:51.279 you're gonna go up to your room and you're gonna 0:51:51.280 --> 0:51:52.600 be upset at us because we're not going to give 0:51:52.600 --> 0:51:54.719 you a cookie, because we give you a cookie after 0:51:54.880 --> 0:51:57.240 or we give you what you want after you cry. 0:51:57.440 --> 0:51:59.080 You're gonna just think all I need to do is cry, 0:51:59.480 --> 0:52:01.759 cry for it. That's not happening. What's she saying in 0:52:01.800 --> 0:52:04.040 this moment? She's looking at me, she's not and I'm like, 0:52:04.120 --> 0:52:06.760 do you understand? And she's like yes. Then she stacks 0:52:06.800 --> 0:52:10.520 by the cookie, loving the cookie, the fucking cookie. Yeah, 0:52:10.560 --> 0:52:13.719 the fucking cookie. Charlo comes up, she's getting Scottie ready 0:52:13.760 --> 0:52:16.640 for bed. Charle comes over because Charle kind of snaps 0:52:16.680 --> 0:52:19.360 at Rue when she's crying about the cookie. Charle's like, 0:52:19.400 --> 0:52:21.880 stand up, come over here, here's your cookie. Like gets it, 0:52:21.920 --> 0:52:23.839 gets mad at her, gets in her ass a little bit. 0:52:24.680 --> 0:52:27.359 Charle comes out from cleaning Scottie up and just telling 0:52:27.360 --> 0:52:29.359 to like, hey, I'm sorry for snapping on you. There's 0:52:29.400 --> 0:52:33.799 a lot of stuff going on. Then Charles looks to me, Okay, yeah, 0:52:33.880 --> 0:52:35.920 it's me and Rue were sitting there cuddled on the couch. 0:52:36.600 --> 0:52:39.000 You know, I kind of my back and forth with Rue. 0:52:39.280 --> 0:52:41.239 She goes saying, hey, I'm sorry for snapping on you. 0:52:41.239 --> 0:52:47.680 There's a lot happening. She's like, hey, babe, it's nobody's fault. 0:52:48.800 --> 0:52:52.200 But in my brain, when I was doing the dishes, 0:52:52.239 --> 0:52:54.520 I'm thinking, Okay, i'll do the dishes. You'll take the 0:52:54.600 --> 0:52:57.560 kids upstairs and get them ready for bed, because clearly 0:52:57.560 --> 0:52:59.800 they're all yelling, they're all screaming, they're not getting along. 0:53:00.360 --> 0:53:03.640 Music's playing like it's past their bedtime. So I assumed 0:53:04.120 --> 0:53:08.640 I shouldn't have assumed. Next time, i'll communicate. And I'm like, fuck, 0:53:09.360 --> 0:53:11.120 because you're already like I need to be thinking. We 0:53:11.160 --> 0:53:12.680 need to be on the same wavelengths. She's like, but 0:53:12.719 --> 0:53:14.880 I need you to be a better teammate and just 0:53:14.920 --> 0:53:17.319 get the kids upstairs to get ready for bed. Like 0:53:17.360 --> 0:53:19.320 I don't know what you were doing, she could assume, 0:53:19.640 --> 0:53:21.760 And I'm already in my head like, fuck, I was watching. 0:53:21.840 --> 0:53:24.120 While I was watching, I was on my phone. Yeah, 0:53:24.840 --> 0:53:26.719 She's like, I'm handling dishes and you're kind of just 0:53:26.760 --> 0:53:30.879 waiting for I don't know what, and then we're both 0:53:30.880 --> 0:53:33.400 getting the kids upstairs. But I just I need you 0:53:33.440 --> 0:53:35.480 to be a better teammate and kind of see that 0:53:35.560 --> 0:53:37.439 ahead of time. Yeah, because She's like, if you would 0:53:37.440 --> 0:53:38.680 have done the dishes, I would have got the kids 0:53:38.719 --> 0:53:41.520 going upstairs like we normally do. And I'm like, I 0:53:41.600 --> 0:53:45.400 feel a little bit of like anger in my body 0:53:45.600 --> 0:53:48.279 because again I'm getting checked, and in that moment, I 0:53:48.400 --> 0:53:51.319 like feel this fizzle of like I was waiting on, 0:53:51.440 --> 0:53:54.600 like you're on Scotty. Like Scotty's clearly that passed her bedtime. 0:53:54.600 --> 0:53:56.480 I'm not going to take a route before Scotty because 0:53:56.800 --> 0:53:58.680 it should be I'm like making shit up in my 0:53:58.719 --> 0:54:01.800 head but feeling it anything, and I'm just like, Okay, 0:54:02.000 --> 0:54:06.640 I'm sorry and we just go. But I felt like 0:54:06.680 --> 0:54:10.640 I had a a very calm, stern talking to yeah, 0:54:10.760 --> 0:54:13.640 where my wife hits rue and then she slowly turns 0:54:13.640 --> 0:54:18.359 to me and she's like, I'm babe, now you honey. Yeah, 0:54:18.640 --> 0:54:22.080 that's a good dad boss. That's a good dad boss 0:54:22.480 --> 0:54:23.399 to learn for sure. 0:54:23.520 --> 0:54:27.080 Yeah, yeah, it's a good learn You quite literally just 0:54:27.160 --> 0:54:31.360 explained a situation three four nights ago for me. 0:54:31.840 --> 0:54:33.839 Yeah, of almost. You know how some of those can 0:54:33.880 --> 0:54:37.840 go sideways, Like yes, I'm happy that she did calmly 0:54:38.360 --> 0:54:39.920 talk to me, because that can go you know, that 0:54:39.960 --> 0:54:42.560 can go a million different directions. You just kind of 0:54:42.560 --> 0:54:45.560 start arguing back and forth, but I was getting talking 0:54:45.560 --> 0:54:51.040 to on the couch just like rue us. Yeah. Yeah's 0:54:51.080 --> 0:54:53.160 like in my arm. Charle walks off to go back 0:54:53.200 --> 0:54:54.399 in there, and I was like, we kind of both 0:54:54.440 --> 0:54:56.000 got to talking to you there, didn't we. And She's like, 0:54:57.840 --> 0:54:58.720 yeah that dad. 0:55:02.080 --> 0:55:06.719 Oh man, that's a good dad loss. That's a good 0:55:06.800 --> 0:55:07.640 dad loss. 0:55:07.920 --> 0:55:10.120 But anyway, that was my uh, that was my my 0:55:10.200 --> 0:55:15.520 dad loss of the week, My dad laws. Oh dude, 0:55:16.200 --> 0:55:20.560 dogs dogs, dogs is what I wrote down? Yeah, I 0:55:20.600 --> 0:55:21.839 wrote down dogs. 0:55:21.560 --> 0:55:26.640 Dogs dogs, Dude. There were some This is such. This 0:55:26.719 --> 0:55:28.680 is probably one of those types of conversations that gets 0:55:28.719 --> 0:55:31.000 you in trouble on a podcast. But I'll just go 0:55:31.000 --> 0:55:34.800 ahead and dog's got in a way this morning. Yeah, dude, dogs. 0:55:34.920 --> 0:55:39.480 Yeah it uh. It was brought up that the dogs 0:55:39.520 --> 0:55:43.240 need to go on vacation to their grandma's house in Texas. 0:55:42.960 --> 0:55:47.560 For vacation, like permanent vacation. That's what I freestrained that. 0:55:48.000 --> 0:55:51.040 And the way he just asked that question, my exact 0:55:51.120 --> 0:55:57.240 response to my wife. My exact response to my wife 0:55:57.880 --> 0:56:00.080 because a part of the so lay this out. 0:56:00.120 --> 0:56:02.280 Something happened with the dogs and you and Jill sitting 0:56:02.320 --> 0:56:03.880 down and she goes, maybe the dogs need to go 0:56:03.920 --> 0:56:05.520 on vacation to Grandma's, like. 0:56:05.480 --> 0:56:13.440 A permanent vacation, and I go, I Jill, because this 0:56:13.520 --> 0:56:15.680 question was asked when Scarlett was only a couple weeks 0:56:15.719 --> 0:56:18.160 old and Lisa was in town, and we have the kennels, 0:56:18.160 --> 0:56:19.640 and Lisa could have driven back with them. 0:56:19.880 --> 0:56:21.160 Lisa is my mother in law. 0:56:21.560 --> 0:56:29.560 Love you, Lisa, And I had to like really stand 0:56:29.640 --> 0:56:31.040 up and puff my chest out. 0:56:30.880 --> 0:56:34.920 To keep the dogs, which they do you. 0:56:34.520 --> 0:56:37.080 Maybe saying they're scratching your nog and saying, Sherman, I 0:56:37.160 --> 0:56:40.120 thought you told your wife these are her dogs and 0:56:40.160 --> 0:56:43.959 it got you in the doghouse not two weeks ago. Yes, 0:56:44.080 --> 0:56:48.799 you're right on that, but I feel obligated of like 0:56:50.040 --> 0:56:53.400 almost like a marriage pact of like I said that 0:56:53.600 --> 0:56:56.320 these are my dogs. I said that I'm going to 0:56:56.400 --> 0:56:59.720 take care of these damn dogs until their last breath. 0:57:00.200 --> 0:57:03.000 And I'm quitting on these dogs. If I send him 0:57:03.040 --> 0:57:08.319 back to Texas. It's ripping my heart out. I don't 0:57:08.320 --> 0:57:12.160 want to send him back to Texas. So just for clarity, 0:57:12.920 --> 0:57:18.920 Jill's like, yes, permanent vacation. Yeah, but Jill, and sorry, 0:57:18.960 --> 0:57:21.040 this isn't like a Jill versus Sherman. This is just 0:57:21.080 --> 0:57:23.800 a conversation that Jill and I are having. Yeah, we 0:57:23.840 --> 0:57:26.840 are in the midst of this conversation, and you're. 0:57:26.680 --> 0:57:29.000 In your head thinking of all, like, man, I'm quitting 0:57:29.080 --> 0:57:29.960 my dogs right now. 0:57:29.960 --> 0:57:32.400 If I yeads, Dude, I like feel like I'm a 0:57:32.440 --> 0:57:33.560 really bad dog owner. 0:57:33.840 --> 0:57:37.439 What's the problem? Like what had happened that? What thing 0:57:37.600 --> 0:57:38.880 happened that led to that converse? 0:57:38.960 --> 0:57:42.560 Dude, It's just constant. It's just constant with the dog stuff. 0:57:42.800 --> 0:57:46.680 Like it's a ton of added responsibility. They're both really 0:57:46.680 --> 0:57:51.440 small breeds. They require a lot of attention. Jill's putting 0:57:51.480 --> 0:57:54.560 a ton of attention into Scarlet, as am I. But 0:57:54.800 --> 0:57:58.000 also like dogs are kind of my assignment. Yeah, a 0:57:58.080 --> 0:58:04.960 new house, new issues with else yeah, or scheduling, yes, Scarlet, yes, dude. 0:58:05.000 --> 0:58:08.040 And I mean truthfully, I was fifteen minutes late today 0:58:08.120 --> 0:58:12.400 because of Wrigley. Like I went outside and God forbid 0:58:12.560 --> 0:58:18.600 that fucking animal net. He got underneath the animal net somehow, 0:58:18.680 --> 0:58:21.640 And I've gone back to the animal net three times 0:58:21.760 --> 0:58:24.480 to like patch places where like he has gotten out 0:58:24.520 --> 0:58:27.680 and he's just finding these ways to get out, and 0:58:28.000 --> 0:58:30.720 I'm running around the house. I have scarlet in my arms. 0:58:30.960 --> 0:58:34.960 I've called his name five million times. I'm about to 0:58:35.000 --> 0:58:35.480 give up. 0:58:36.880 --> 0:58:39.600 I do think you need to invest a little thought 0:58:39.680 --> 0:58:43.600 into the invisible fence shot calling. Yeah, because the amount 0:58:43.600 --> 0:58:47.480 of effort, energy, money you got to see Blake shirtless, 0:58:47.560 --> 0:58:49.360 all the stuff that has come from you putting this 0:58:49.400 --> 0:58:49.800 fence in. 0:58:49.920 --> 0:58:50.120 Now. 0:58:50.600 --> 0:58:52.360 I have heard from people we've never done. I heard 0:58:52.360 --> 0:58:56.480 from people that the invisible fence shot caller. Yeah, it 0:58:56.640 --> 0:58:58.640 just genuinely is the one for you. 0:58:58.680 --> 0:59:01.080 And they're not the expensive anymore more. Yeah you can, 0:59:01.160 --> 0:59:01.560 Yeah you can. 0:59:01.920 --> 0:59:06.400 They're very very cheap options out there that that is 0:59:06.440 --> 0:59:09.400 the ultimate, Like, hey, you don't want to run off And. 0:59:09.360 --> 0:59:11.600 When this fence is a recurring theme on this show, 0:59:12.760 --> 0:59:14.840 you bring up the fence, every fence. 0:59:14.560 --> 0:59:17.800 When this is becoming your new airport, the dogs are 0:59:17.800 --> 0:59:19.080 becoming his new airport. 0:59:18.880 --> 0:59:19.640 The new raccoon. 0:59:19.920 --> 0:59:22.960 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, sure, you put one in. Regley 0:59:23.000 --> 0:59:24.800 tries to get out twice. He'll never try to get 0:59:24.800 --> 0:59:26.840 out again. It just takes it takes two. 0:59:26.960 --> 0:59:27.360 It takes. 0:59:27.520 --> 0:59:30.439 Yeah, no fun getting shocked, But I promise you won't 0:59:30.440 --> 0:59:31.280 try to run out again. 0:59:31.880 --> 0:59:34.200 You'll even test it on yourself. Yeah, yeah, we should, 0:59:34.200 --> 0:59:37.520 We should test it. Oh yeah, we had one for uh, 0:59:37.960 --> 0:59:41.400 for our dogs growing up. I had one for Tazoul 0:59:41.480 --> 0:59:44.240 fucking Sometimes he'd eat it and keep walking through. 0:59:45.040 --> 0:59:48.160 That's where that's where sugar our yellow labs. She got 0:59:48.160 --> 0:59:49.720 to the age where she was like, I just. 0:59:49.680 --> 0:59:50.560 Don't give a ship. 0:59:50.760 --> 0:59:53.240 Yeah, don't give a ship, like I feel like Waffle 0:59:53.240 --> 0:59:53.800 would eat it. 0:59:53.880 --> 0:59:57.320 Well, no, Waffle doesn't wander off at all. Yeah, but yeah, 0:59:57.560 --> 0:59:59.720 Taz would fucking eat that. Shouldn't keep going through And 0:59:59.720 --> 1:00:02.400 we do with me and the boys, like we putting 1:00:02.400 --> 1:00:04.240 the shot collar on it. We'll go go over there 1:00:04.240 --> 1:00:04.600 and do it. 1:00:04.680 --> 1:00:06.640 Well, it's like a cop you you're not able to 1:00:06.680 --> 1:00:10.280 hold a taser on your belt until you have been tased. Yeah, 1:00:10.360 --> 1:00:12.040 I think the same should apply for me. 1:00:12.320 --> 1:00:15.440 There's also a very clear I didn't realize delineation between 1:00:15.480 --> 1:00:17.960 when you send the dog on vacation, you're sending them 1:00:17.960 --> 1:00:19.440 with a loved one, when you send them to the 1:00:19.480 --> 1:00:20.640 farm the other thing. 1:00:22.800 --> 1:00:25.640 Yeah, yeah, yeah, didn't know the difference, not a farm, going. 1:00:25.440 --> 1:00:28.680 To grandma's house, which they lived at grandma's house for 1:00:28.760 --> 1:00:33.360 like five years, so like they love Grandma's house. That's 1:00:33.400 --> 1:00:39.080 where Jill first brought him home. I appreciate just the 1:00:39.680 --> 1:00:43.280 like literally, the conversation that we just had right now 1:00:44.480 --> 1:00:48.440 brought my stress levels down. It provided me with an answer, 1:00:48.880 --> 1:00:51.720 It provided me with something that I should try. 1:00:52.840 --> 1:00:55.760 Sure, sorry, go ahead, Well, I was just gonna say. 1:00:55.800 --> 1:00:58.880 I think the dogs also provide a little bit of 1:00:58.920 --> 1:01:06.480 a challenge in responsibility for me and I it feels 1:01:06.520 --> 1:01:10.520 like I am not only quitting the dogs, but it 1:01:10.520 --> 1:01:13.080 feels like I'm quitting because that was the easiest thing 1:01:13.120 --> 1:01:16.640 to do. That was just the easiest solution, is just 1:01:16.760 --> 1:01:18.080 send them to fort work. 1:01:18.200 --> 1:01:27.920 As dog lovers listen, I love dogs for me A 1:01:28.000 --> 1:01:32.400 chip and the Grandma's not a bad take. If I 1:01:32.400 --> 1:01:34.840 could be the age that people are gonna beat six 1:01:34.880 --> 1:01:38.640 like people are like, bro, people are gonna lose their mind. 1:01:38.960 --> 1:01:40.360 I know, I know, I know, I know they're going 1:01:40.440 --> 1:01:41.480 to lose their minds. 1:01:41.560 --> 1:01:46.520 If you win this internal battle with your head, may 1:01:46.520 --> 1:01:49.160 I mind shift you real quick? Yeah, you are presenting 1:01:49.200 --> 1:01:52.160 your daughter with a childhood with dogs, in which I 1:01:52.240 --> 1:01:56.200 believe is the best childhood. So by you trying the 1:01:56.200 --> 1:01:59.240 invisible fence, I do believe you are sending your beautiful 1:01:59.320 --> 1:02:03.040 daughter on a projected path to grow up with dogs, 1:02:03.640 --> 1:02:06.000 which I don't know your two dogs. That is my 1:02:06.280 --> 1:02:08.960 I loved all the dogs we had growing up. I 1:02:09.280 --> 1:02:11.680 get your opinion, Will and I don't think that if 1:02:11.720 --> 1:02:14.520 the electric fence doesn't work, let's have another conversation. I 1:02:14.560 --> 1:02:16.680 think that if you win this internal battle of these 1:02:16.720 --> 1:02:19.360 dogs in your head, you're providing your family with a fun, 1:02:19.840 --> 1:02:21.240 awesome experience. 1:02:21.320 --> 1:02:23.400 Other thing that I left out, other thing that I 1:02:23.480 --> 1:02:23.919 left out. 1:02:24.000 --> 1:02:28.200 I'm becoming a cranky dad. You're you're just still sick, dude. 1:02:28.200 --> 1:02:31.880 It's not your fault. I don't what you just said. Yeah, 1:02:31.920 --> 1:02:35.040 you are right. Like, we had this conan Rottwiler that 1:02:35.080 --> 1:02:37.280 I grew up with until about ten. Then we had 1:02:37.320 --> 1:02:40.400 three other dogs in the house of this until I 1:02:40.480 --> 1:02:41.480 left for college. 1:02:43.160 --> 1:02:47.720 Here here's the kicker that I did not include or 1:02:47.720 --> 1:02:52.280 that I forgot to mention. Wrigley snipped at Scarlett. He 1:02:52.320 --> 1:02:55.120 did not try to bite her, but he did a 1:02:55.160 --> 1:03:00.280 full on snip at her and like a and. 1:03:00.280 --> 1:03:02.160 I was like, bro, that's what I'm saying. 1:03:02.360 --> 1:03:06.240 You're about to punch your ticket, about to punch your 1:03:06.280 --> 1:03:09.440 ticket back to Texas to doing shit like that. And 1:03:09.480 --> 1:03:12.560 then we're hanging out with one of our nurse friends 1:03:13.680 --> 1:03:19.920 like family, friends and we were telling them about the 1:03:19.960 --> 1:03:24.040 dog situation, and she showed us a friend of theirs 1:03:24.480 --> 1:03:27.480 was back home that their little three year old got 1:03:27.480 --> 1:03:30.480 attacked by their dog and showed me the face of 1:03:30.520 --> 1:03:32.480 the little three year old girl in the hospital. 1:03:32.480 --> 1:03:39.480 Bro, I was like, Waffle, remember when Waffle Scottie? Yes, bro, 1:03:39.760 --> 1:03:41.960 like over her eyes or like on her head. Yes, 1:03:42.360 --> 1:03:44.880 she got cut from it. Did I remember when I 1:03:44.920 --> 1:03:48.160 came home and Audrey was telling me about it, And 1:03:48.240 --> 1:03:52.120 I'm just thinking to myself, God, part of me like almost, well, 1:03:52.120 --> 1:03:53.960 it's probably good that I wasn't there, but like wishes 1:03:54.000 --> 1:03:56.720 I would have been there, because there are times where 1:03:56.720 --> 1:03:58.600 I just I joke. It's like a running joke with Charro. 1:03:58.680 --> 1:04:02.960 I'm like, you just let me know when Yeah, I 1:04:03.000 --> 1:04:05.720 mean that's kind of that's like like something wall jumping 1:04:05.760 --> 1:04:08.560 on the front, like all the stuff that dogs can 1:04:08.960 --> 1:04:09.760 irritate you with. 1:04:10.040 --> 1:04:13.680 And so now Wrigley's just behind a baby gate like 1:04:13.840 --> 1:04:17.760 at all times when Scarlet's like on the ground because 1:04:17.760 --> 1:04:19.760 I don't want to interacting with Scarlet. 1:04:20.600 --> 1:04:24.400 Have you done like have you done like any kind 1:04:24.440 --> 1:04:28.240 of like active training or no. See, that's a big 1:04:28.280 --> 1:04:32.120 thing because when we got Scotty. Alex had two cats. 1:04:32.400 --> 1:04:34.200 Scotty wanted to go see the cats, and we were like, 1:04:34.240 --> 1:04:35.800 this is a big issue because we didn't know how 1:04:35.800 --> 1:04:39.080 they're gonna interact. It took us thirty minutes with like 1:04:39.160 --> 1:04:43.080 one training exercise we searched on YouTube with food. Scotty 1:04:43.120 --> 1:04:46.720 has never touched a cat, like not a problem. So 1:04:46.760 --> 1:04:49.120 there's certain things like if you're having issues, maybe a 1:04:49.160 --> 1:04:51.480 little YouTube, little Google, Like there's a lot of people 1:04:51.480 --> 1:04:54.080 that are experts. They will teach you like food training exercises, 1:04:54.840 --> 1:04:57.280 different things you can do to like mitigate problems. For us, 1:04:57.520 --> 1:05:00.160 it took thirty minutes of like basically just making sure 1:05:00.200 --> 1:05:01.360 Scotti stopped looking at the cats. 1:05:01.360 --> 1:05:03.040 Every time she stopped looking, we gave her a treat. 1:05:03.800 --> 1:05:07.520 It never but also think about not having the responsibility anymore. 1:05:08.400 --> 1:05:12.880 Dude, Well, by no weak, I know, and I know 1:05:13.200 --> 1:05:15.920 Chef you need Mick in your back and I know Chef. 1:05:18.760 --> 1:05:22.000 I'll leave us at that because we can uh break 1:05:22.040 --> 1:05:24.880 and then hit voicemails like immediately after. 1:05:25.720 --> 1:05:27.560 Yeah, we can get into voicemails. This could be an 1:05:27.560 --> 1:05:30.280 ongoing conversation. I do kind of enjoy playing the heel 1:05:30.360 --> 1:05:33.720 of you playing the heel. 1:05:34.920 --> 1:05:37.880 I appreciate you playing the heel because like a part 1:05:37.880 --> 1:05:39.720 of me does hear that. 1:05:39.960 --> 1:05:42.600 And they're going to Grandma's like they're going to They're 1:05:42.600 --> 1:05:44.880 going they've lived there for five years before. You're not 1:05:44.920 --> 1:05:47.120 sending them again. You're not just kind of giving them away, 1:05:47.240 --> 1:05:49.480 No give it. You're tting them go to Grandma's. You're 1:05:49.720 --> 1:05:53.400 they're going to have a better life, have a better life. Yeah, 1:05:53.400 --> 1:05:59.240 you're gonna have a better marriage. Dude. Just watch the 1:05:59.280 --> 1:06:02.800 comments though, Just watch the gu I know already Deeke 1:06:02.960 --> 1:06:04.640 is probably a lot of the comments, Like I know, 1:06:04.720 --> 1:06:07.040 Deeke is a you got dogs at europsessed with, don't 1:06:07.040 --> 1:06:10.200 you Deeke? Like I know like dog lovers, Like, yeah, 1:06:10.240 --> 1:06:13.000 they're they're gonna be swinging the sword for keeping the animals. Yeah. 1:06:14.000 --> 1:06:16.320 I've like for ninety percent of my life probably out 1:06:17.000 --> 1:06:23.000 outside of what college, college and then the first couple 1:06:23.000 --> 1:06:24.880 of years in the NFL, Like I didn't have a dog, 1:06:24.920 --> 1:06:27.760 but I've always had a dog. I've always loved dogs. 1:06:27.760 --> 1:06:30.480 But now then I'm a parent. I just it's I 1:06:30.560 --> 1:06:33.840 feel like it's all different for me now, especially when 1:06:33.840 --> 1:06:39.480 the whole snipping and the whole territorial stuff like I 1:06:39.480 --> 1:06:42.440 have a bulldog, So waffles, like Waffle can be territorial 1:06:42.640 --> 1:06:44.640 if they want Waffle to move on the couch or 1:06:44.680 --> 1:06:47.480 Waffle helps herself up to the stepping stool that they're 1:06:47.480 --> 1:06:49.400 eating on, trying to like get the scraps or get 1:06:49.440 --> 1:06:54.320 the food. Yeah, like Waffle and I go toes often, 1:06:56.240 --> 1:06:58.600 you know how, jumping on pressure and not getting down 1:06:58.600 --> 1:07:02.000 when I'm telling her off. Yeah, when we've trained her 1:07:02.000 --> 1:07:07.520 with the treats and everything else and she starts like growling. Yeah, 1:07:07.160 --> 1:07:08.160 you know how. 1:07:08.240 --> 1:07:11.400 Like in books and movies and stuff, like back in 1:07:11.440 --> 1:07:16.760 the fifties and sixties, like if someone got pregnant out 1:07:16.760 --> 1:07:19.440 of wedlock, it was like, oh, they went to school, 1:07:19.760 --> 1:07:21.960 like in the Northeast, Like they went to a boarding 1:07:21.960 --> 1:07:24.440 school for a year, sure, and then all of a 1:07:24.440 --> 1:07:28.920 sudden they're back to like hide the pregnancy. That's how 1:07:29.000 --> 1:07:32.320 I feel about Like when people send their dogs to 1:07:32.400 --> 1:07:36.040 grandma's house, Like no one wants to talk about it, 1:07:36.120 --> 1:07:37.960 because we have had a couple of friends that have 1:07:38.040 --> 1:07:38.400 done that. 1:07:38.680 --> 1:07:42.120 Yeah, it's like, oh, where's you know, where's hang on? 1:07:42.160 --> 1:07:42.440 Hang on? 1:07:42.520 --> 1:07:42.560 That? 1:07:42.600 --> 1:07:45.880 Would they say, like, what's their experience been sending them 1:07:45.920 --> 1:07:50.240 to grandma's I mean it's been great for them, sad, 1:07:50.280 --> 1:07:52.200 and they're like one of the best decisions we've ever made. 1:07:52.320 --> 1:07:57.919 Yeah, but they also hardly talk about it because they're like, well, yeah, 1:07:57.960 --> 1:07:58.560 they're really. 1:07:58.520 --> 1:08:00.040 To get shunned, Like, think of the people that I 1:08:00.160 --> 1:08:02.640 be battling swinging this for. I look, I love animals. 1:08:02.760 --> 1:08:07.360 Yeah it doesn't sound like it. I know because I 1:08:07.440 --> 1:08:09.760 love I get. 1:08:09.800 --> 1:08:11.800 I get where you're coming, like it's taking care of 1:08:11.800 --> 1:08:14.240 a dog is not. It's a hard thing. And they're 1:08:14.440 --> 1:08:15.360 constantly like. 1:08:15.400 --> 1:08:17.200 I love my own freedoms more than I love. 1:08:17.200 --> 1:08:18.600 You have to go out of your own way to 1:08:18.640 --> 1:08:20.680 care for them like a lot. Yeah, also a lot 1:08:20.680 --> 1:08:24.320 of responsibility. Well yeah, it's a good learning lesson to 1:08:24.400 --> 1:08:28.320 your daughters that hey, just because something's hard, we are 1:08:28.640 --> 1:08:33.559 helping take care of this. Awesome awesome, But right. 1:08:33.160 --> 1:08:34.840 Now the kids would get more out of it when 1:08:34.880 --> 1:08:38.040 they're older and they have like responsibility involved with the animal. 1:08:38.160 --> 1:08:39.840 That's fair and you go in there like getting a 1:08:39.880 --> 1:08:42.080 dog and teaching them and showing them how to take 1:08:42.080 --> 1:08:44.040 care for a dog, and then it feels like a 1:08:44.080 --> 1:08:46.559 tribal thing, like right now when they're young and there 1:08:46.560 --> 1:08:48.880 really is nothing that they can do it's you're just 1:08:48.960 --> 1:08:52.400 juggling extra responsibilities that you start to question, like why 1:08:52.400 --> 1:08:54.840 are we even doing this to ourselves? And it's not 1:08:54.880 --> 1:08:56.679 like you're giving the dog away to random people. 1:08:56.840 --> 1:08:58.960 Like for example, if I had something like I have 1:08:59.080 --> 1:09:01.479 been my Fances River, if something happened with the dogs, 1:09:02.000 --> 1:09:03.680 I would talk to my parents about it because they 1:09:03.720 --> 1:09:05.680 just lost their dog last year. Yeah, and so my 1:09:05.880 --> 1:09:09.400 mom has said like, hey, I will take Bean for 1:09:09.439 --> 1:09:11.599 like three months and hang out like she really wants 1:09:11.600 --> 1:09:12.840 it up if they don't want a new dog. So 1:09:13.120 --> 1:09:14.880 I don't think you're gonna get as bast as you 1:09:14.880 --> 1:09:17.040 believe you are, because this isn't you going that's it. 1:09:17.080 --> 1:09:18.680 We're taking them to the pound. We'll put them up 1:09:18.680 --> 1:09:19.439 for adoption, like you're. 1:09:19.360 --> 1:09:21.439 Putting them in a situation they've already been in that 1:09:21.520 --> 1:09:23.000 they love that you will still be a part of 1:09:23.040 --> 1:09:23.960 them and see them. 1:09:24.280 --> 1:09:27.120 You can FaceTime all the time, and the and the 1:09:27.360 --> 1:09:29.679 end conversation dogs have phone. 1:09:29.760 --> 1:09:33.360 That is true that Grandma, hey, hey, put on the phone. 1:09:33.439 --> 1:09:35.719 Hey buddy, god, I miss was just in the corner. 1:09:35.720 --> 1:09:43.760 Two birds up. I'm a king here. I love it, 1:09:44.160 --> 1:09:44.840 but fuck you. 1:09:46.360 --> 1:09:48.960 That's the other thing I've done a really bad job 1:09:49.000 --> 1:09:53.280 of telling this story. There's also the not like permanent vacation, 1:09:53.400 --> 1:09:57.320 but just vacation. It's also another thing that has been 1:09:57.360 --> 1:10:00.559 thrown out. And Jill's not like staunchly sit there like 1:10:01.000 --> 1:10:02.280 get the dogs out of here. 1:10:03.800 --> 1:10:07.719 She's bringing it up. Okay, we all feel the chaos. Yeah, 1:10:07.840 --> 1:10:09.880 like I stead of just building up resentment over time 1:10:09.960 --> 1:10:13.920 having little separate thoughts, just sit down and have a conversation. Yeah, 1:10:14.000 --> 1:10:16.240 would it be insane to think that we could send 1:10:16.280 --> 1:10:19.320 the dogs on a vacation and permanent not I either won. 1:10:19.680 --> 1:10:22.680 Lisa has brought it up. My parents have brought it up. 1:10:23.680 --> 1:10:29.680 They can tell how much the dogs like way, if 1:10:29.680 --> 1:10:31.880 that makes sense, Yeah, yeah, yeah man. 1:10:32.240 --> 1:10:34.519 And so I'm just in this internal battle git a 1:10:34.520 --> 1:10:35.759 package deal both. 1:10:36.479 --> 1:10:38.639 I also brought that up because I was like, Goose 1:10:38.640 --> 1:10:42.080 would never hurt a fly, he would never snip at Scarlett, 1:10:42.160 --> 1:10:46.360 and you gotta separate him. That's what Jill said. Jill 1:10:46.479 --> 1:10:47.960 was like, all they've ever known is each other. 1:10:48.000 --> 1:10:48.920 I said, that's not true. 1:10:48.920 --> 1:10:51.640 Wriggley lived there for like three years without. 1:10:51.360 --> 1:10:52.679 Goose and he hates Goose. 1:10:53.280 --> 1:10:56.519 She's like they were playing this morning. It's like that 1:10:56.680 --> 1:10:59.360 is true. They were playing this morning. But Wrigley does. 1:11:00.280 --> 1:11:03.040 Though, like the top dog, he's getting moved out of 1:11:03.080 --> 1:11:07.719 the rotation. Yeah, well, dude, we talk about resentment on Goose, 1:11:07.840 --> 1:11:09.840 like Cam Newton said it, the Reaper comes for all 1:11:09.840 --> 1:11:10.120 of us. 1:11:10.120 --> 1:11:16.640 Man, Yeah, truly, really, that poor guy. It was just 1:11:16.720 --> 1:11:18.519 him and Jill and then Jill brings me into the 1:11:18.520 --> 1:11:21.400 picture and he's like, I guess, I mean he's cool. 1:11:21.439 --> 1:11:24.360 He gives me rubs. I'll like this Sherman guy. We 1:11:24.479 --> 1:11:27.400 end up having a great bond. Then all of a sudden, 1:11:27.439 --> 1:11:30.519 Goose comes into the picture and he's like, wtf, question 1:11:30.560 --> 1:11:33.280 Mark is going on with this dude? This guy sucks. 1:11:33.960 --> 1:11:36.160 And then like started coming around to that. 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This 1:15:43.320 --> 1:15:46.840 is He's the one who said Possidis, oh no, overcome 1:15:46.920 --> 1:15:47.479 his bout. 1:15:47.320 --> 1:15:50.640 With Posidas and Shurham hasn't slept on the couch for 1:15:50.680 --> 1:15:52.000 three or more days. 1:15:52.160 --> 1:15:56.920 Come on, hey, I'm joking here, freaking sue me, he said, 1:15:57.000 --> 1:16:01.000 Jersey accent. He said Jersey accent. Dylan already starting off 1:16:01.040 --> 1:16:03.600 with some hot fire legend. I'm writing in with an 1:16:03.640 --> 1:16:06.599 Eavy the Brave update for all those who heard Everly's 1:16:06.600 --> 1:16:09.400 story and especially to those who showed us love and support, 1:16:11.680 --> 1:16:14.240 that's just a cough and helped forge our tiny warrior's 1:16:14.280 --> 1:16:16.640 sword and shield two months ago as she geared up 1:16:16.680 --> 1:16:19.000 for what ended up being a nine hour battle on 1:16:19.040 --> 1:16:21.679 the operating table. And again, just to remind you guys, 1:16:22.400 --> 1:16:25.679 Evy the Brave had a tumor right next to her spine. 1:16:26.479 --> 1:16:29.240 Every the Brave not only understood the assignment, she rewrote 1:16:29.240 --> 1:16:32.240 the whole damn syllabus. This sweet little girl showed us 1:16:32.240 --> 1:16:35.160 that expectations are only there so she can shatter them, 1:16:35.240 --> 1:16:39.000 and recovery timelines don't mean diddy shit to the bravest 1:16:39.040 --> 1:16:42.920 and baddest now three years old little girl either side 1:16:43.000 --> 1:16:47.080 of the Mississippi, Everly walked out of Memorial Sloan Kettering 1:16:47.080 --> 1:16:49.880 Hospital five days after her surgery. We were told to 1:16:49.920 --> 1:16:52.680 expect ten to fourteen days, and we were cleared to 1:16:52.760 --> 1:16:56.880 fly home five days after that. Every speedy recovery was 1:16:56.920 --> 1:16:59.559 not only miraculous to my wife and myself, but it 1:17:00.040 --> 1:17:04.400 even had surgeons and doctors in awe. That confirms what 1:17:04.439 --> 1:17:07.200 I've been saying all along. This little girl is built different, 1:17:07.520 --> 1:17:10.840 built for the a gap, a couple of anxiety field. 1:17:10.880 --> 1:17:14.000 Weeks after returning home, we received the pathology of the tumor. 1:17:14.400 --> 1:17:16.679 It was the news that we were hoping for. Results 1:17:16.760 --> 1:17:19.640 were all favorable and no further treatment is needing for 1:17:19.720 --> 1:17:23.080 the foreseeable future. Why although her tumor was not one 1:17:23.200 --> 1:17:26.799 hundred percent removed, Everly has been one hundred percent cleared 1:17:26.880 --> 1:17:29.240 to be a little normal kid again. And nothing gets 1:17:29.280 --> 1:17:32.040 my pit hodder the knowing we can start signing her 1:17:32.080 --> 1:17:36.320 up for some gymnastics or soccer or whatever her brave 1:17:36.360 --> 1:17:39.400 little heart desires. For now, all she can expect is 1:17:39.439 --> 1:17:42.360 an MRI every three months to make sure nothing has changed. 1:17:42.840 --> 1:17:46.400 For now, life is great. My wife and I wish 1:17:46.439 --> 1:17:50.040 we could hug and thank each sixer for every Siko 1:17:50.080 --> 1:17:53.799 who poured into our pink carts, prayers, words of encouragement 1:17:53.880 --> 1:17:56.800 and positivity in the comments in our inbox. For the 1:17:56.880 --> 1:17:59.960 dads in this community will forever hold a special play 1:18:00.200 --> 1:18:02.800 in our hearts. All of you rip so freaking hard, 1:18:02.840 --> 1:18:05.280 will Sherman the boys in the back can't thank you 1:18:05.280 --> 1:18:07.240 guys enough for being a part of Evy's journey and 1:18:07.320 --> 1:18:10.920 rallying the troops, keep cracking Allie's failing to keep it 1:18:11.000 --> 1:18:13.439 under an hour, and for the love of God, don't 1:18:13.479 --> 1:18:17.920 stop using accents. Sure him doing his mom's impersonation might 1:18:17.960 --> 1:18:21.719 be my favorite. Much gratitude and love the Pains, Dylan, 1:18:21.920 --> 1:18:23.639 thank you. I want to say we got a final 1:18:23.760 --> 1:18:30.519 here hack from Heavy the Brave with the fam I 1:18:30.560 --> 1:18:32.600 have a I have a video too from them. I 1:18:32.600 --> 1:18:33.400 have a video too. 1:18:40.640 --> 1:18:54.040 It's loading, It's loading, Let's. 1:18:53.760 --> 1:19:13.280 Go hit the bomb. Wait wait, wait, wait. 1:19:17.080 --> 1:19:24.920 Oh Bro, I've never laughed that hard and cried at 1:19:24.920 --> 1:19:27.160 the exact time. 1:19:28.640 --> 1:19:32.559 Quick tears. Bro, I was about to be like, that 1:19:32.760 --> 1:19:35.120 is medicine for the soul, just getting to like hear 1:19:35.160 --> 1:19:35.639 about her. 1:19:36.920 --> 1:19:48.519 Yeah, it's the bog, Bro. 1:19:50.600 --> 1:19:52.759 That's why we dad man, this is why we did. 1:19:53.760 --> 1:19:59.920 Oh my god, Oh that broke me. That really did 1:20:00.160 --> 1:20:02.360 just break me. Dylan, thanks for the updates. Brother. 1:20:02.560 --> 1:20:04.920 We are we are stoked for Evy Heavy. If you 1:20:04.960 --> 1:20:07.280 are watching, you are a warrior. You are built for 1:20:07.320 --> 1:20:09.280 the a gap. You rewrote the syllabus. 1:20:09.439 --> 1:20:11.599 We're all rooting for you, all the Papa Team, Sixers, 1:20:11.600 --> 1:20:13.680 Empty sixers, everybody who showed im poor love to the 1:20:13.680 --> 1:20:17.759 Pain family, it's definitely felt through Dylan's words. 1:20:18.479 --> 1:20:21.600 I mean, that's just crazy what the human body is 1:20:21.640 --> 1:20:25.320 able to do, What doctors and surgeons are able to do. 1:20:25.600 --> 1:20:29.519 This wonderful team that's here as she's hitting the hitting 1:20:29.520 --> 1:20:31.280 the bong, hitting the dong. 1:20:31.320 --> 1:20:35.040 And it's just so wild. 1:20:35.160 --> 1:20:43.360 Dude, like imagining myself in that spot. Dylan is his name, Yep, 1:20:43.640 --> 1:20:48.800 Dylan Payne. It's a good dad. It's a really good dad. 1:20:49.160 --> 1:20:55.200 I'm sure Everly's mom rips just as hard. But to 1:20:55.280 --> 1:20:59.599 get to share in any of that, uh, is really 1:20:59.600 --> 1:21:03.720 really cool. And shout out Pain family. Shout out the 1:21:03.720 --> 1:21:07.080 Pain family. Thank you for keeping everybody updated to They get. 1:21:06.920 --> 1:21:08.600 Free shout outs for the rest of the time, for 1:21:08.640 --> 1:21:10.439 the rest of the time, free accents the rest of the time, 1:21:10.520 --> 1:21:12.760 free accents, free shout outs for the rest. I'll do 1:21:12.800 --> 1:21:15.080 my best not to get beside us again. At me 1:21:15.200 --> 1:21:17.439 the brave I'm getting bucking, stripped throat and taking out 1:21:17.439 --> 1:21:22.320 over here. But like I needed to hit a ball 1:21:22.360 --> 1:21:27.120 after I said, why stripped up? You have no idea 1:21:27.240 --> 1:21:28.519 how much I'm gonna stay. 1:21:28.720 --> 1:21:32.000 Yeah, hit the bog in the background of bogs now 1:21:32.000 --> 1:21:32.679 when you're. 1:21:32.479 --> 1:21:39.879 Doing something, Oh man, all right, we have a voicemail. 1:21:39.960 --> 1:21:42.799 Let's hit the voicemail stays, throw me some creatine comings 1:21:42.800 --> 1:21:44.200 on you. Yeah, a little I need a little something. 1:21:44.439 --> 1:21:47.519 I need a little something too. We don't want to 1:21:47.560 --> 1:21:53.080 cry out all of our creatine. No thank you, create. 1:21:56.800 --> 1:22:00.240 Free shoutouts to create he no free shoutouts only The 1:22:00.240 --> 1:22:06.200 Pain Family is part one of two part voicemail called 1:22:06.400 --> 1:22:07.040 not a creep. 1:22:08.840 --> 1:22:17.280 Sounds like a creep, Trust me, he's not boys. 1:22:19.040 --> 1:22:22.000 Hey, this might be the last voicemail I leave before prison, 1:22:23.720 --> 1:22:30.439 so I'll explain. Uh So, earlier today, I am at 1:22:30.880 --> 1:22:38.080 daycare picking up my daughter, she's three, and she we 1:22:38.120 --> 1:22:39.559 get her in the car and she's like, Dad, I 1:22:39.600 --> 1:22:40.280 need to go potty. 1:22:40.360 --> 1:22:41.599 And I'm like, okay, that's fine. 1:22:41.760 --> 1:22:46.360 So we go back inside and there's no like boys 1:22:46.400 --> 1:22:48.280 and girls side, like, nothing's marked. 1:22:48.280 --> 1:22:52.519 It's all just like potties everywhere. But it's behind the. 1:22:52.520 --> 1:22:57.320 Wall, right, So so my daughter runs back there and 1:22:57.640 --> 1:23:01.040 she still need to help going potty. So I run 1:23:01.120 --> 1:23:06.080 back there and I turned the corner and there is 1:23:06.560 --> 1:23:13.719 a probably twelve year old girl, somebody's older sibling, and 1:23:14.720 --> 1:23:17.400 she is going potty. 1:23:17.520 --> 1:23:20.880 She is sitting on the toilet and she looks up 1:23:21.000 --> 1:23:25.480 and we make eye contact and there's. 1:23:25.240 --> 1:23:26.799 No like stalls or anything. 1:23:27.040 --> 1:23:32.479 And I mean, I feel like the biggest griep in 1:23:32.520 --> 1:23:36.280 the world. So I like this, I was bold, and 1:23:36.920 --> 1:23:40.600 I am sweating. And then what makes it worse is 1:23:40.680 --> 1:23:42.519 so I still need to wait there because I need 1:23:42.520 --> 1:23:44.760 to wait for my daughter to finish. 1:23:44.520 --> 1:23:50.840 And I mean, there's just this one tiny area to wait. 1:23:51.360 --> 1:23:56.479 And then this girl finishes and she comes outside and 1:23:56.680 --> 1:23:59.160 it's still the tiny area to wait because she's got 1:23:59.200 --> 1:24:01.880 to wait for her other for dad to pick up 1:24:01.920 --> 1:24:07.080 her brother. And I'm just sitting there, like racking my 1:24:07.280 --> 1:24:12.160 brain and sweating immensely because I'm like, I'm going to 1:24:12.320 --> 1:24:13.720 jail for. 1:24:13.760 --> 1:24:20.800 Being a pervert. Clarifying not a pervert, and I'm like, 1:24:21.280 --> 1:24:24.680 I do I tell the girl's dad, like, hey, not 1:24:24.800 --> 1:24:29.640 a pervert. Didn't mean to do this, and it was 1:24:29.680 --> 1:24:32.840 all bad and I was sweating, and I still had 1:24:32.840 --> 1:24:34.200 to wait for my daughter to finish. 1:24:34.240 --> 1:24:38.160 But so she comes out and I see. 1:24:38.479 --> 1:24:42.200 So that's part one really quick. I don't want to 1:24:42.240 --> 1:24:45.080 interrupt this story too much. I have a good friend 1:24:45.200 --> 1:24:47.800 named Scott that listens to the show. Did he say 1:24:47.800 --> 1:24:49.280 his name was Scott at the beginning? 1:24:50.120 --> 1:24:52.280 I swear this is my buddy, Scott. I don't think 1:24:52.280 --> 1:24:57.840 you said a name. Boys. Hey, this might be the 1:24:57.880 --> 1:25:01.559 last voicemail I leave Kai Kai call Scott. 1:25:02.600 --> 1:25:04.639 I do that after Yeah, I mean just we're we're 1:25:04.960 --> 1:25:07.479 mid voice, we're mid voicema. We got no way. Is 1:25:07.520 --> 1:25:10.120 he a creepy berth or is he a conversation with dad? 1:25:10.200 --> 1:25:12.120 If this is sir, I'm sorry. 1:25:12.160 --> 1:25:15.080 I walked in your daughter was going to the bathroom. 1:25:15.800 --> 1:25:17.559 I knew it felt creepy, so I was gonna leave 1:25:17.600 --> 1:25:19.840 right away, but we locked eyes before I could leave 1:25:19.920 --> 1:25:22.360 right away. And you know what, I'm talking a little 1:25:22.360 --> 1:25:24.680 too much right now. Let me just listen. I'm not 1:25:24.720 --> 1:25:27.920 a perv. I'm not a perth. And that's all you 1:25:27.960 --> 1:25:29.320 need to know anyway. 1:25:29.680 --> 1:25:35.240 Uh sorry, second message, not a pervert, uh Scott. 1:25:35.479 --> 1:25:36.240 Uh. 1:25:36.280 --> 1:25:37.720 And I knew it. 1:25:38.240 --> 1:25:42.080 I knew it by as we leave, They're getting in 1:25:42.120 --> 1:25:44.639 their car at the same time, and the whole time 1:25:44.800 --> 1:25:47.439 I'm like literally like right next to this girl and 1:25:47.479 --> 1:25:48.360 we've not addressed it. 1:25:48.479 --> 1:25:51.519 I haven't told her dad, and I just. 1:25:51.600 --> 1:25:54.280 Know that tonight she's gonna go home and she's gonna 1:25:54.320 --> 1:25:56.799 be like dad, Scotty, I'll tell you about what happened, 1:25:57.200 --> 1:25:59.439 and then they're gonna go back to the school and 1:25:59.439 --> 1:26:00.759 they're gonna look up the cameras. 1:26:00.800 --> 1:26:03.960 It's gonna be Collin's dad and I'm going to jail. 1:26:04.400 --> 1:26:08.719 Uh So, anyway, I hope that they let me listen 1:26:08.720 --> 1:26:10.120 to this podcast in prison. 1:26:11.960 --> 1:26:18.120 I swear I'm innocent. Anyway, Love you voice. I love 1:26:18.160 --> 1:26:20.880 you too, Scott, Love you Scott. I think it was 1:26:20.920 --> 1:26:24.360 just a quick there's no stalls. He walked in and 1:26:24.439 --> 1:26:28.559 was like, oh, sorry, and then maybe he was getting 1:26:28.600 --> 1:26:31.479 his daughter set up. I could see that. 1:26:32.400 --> 1:26:34.479 I can see that, But I see where Scott's head 1:26:34.640 --> 1:26:38.320 is at too. Yeah, because I've known Scott for quite 1:26:38.320 --> 1:26:41.439 a while. There's actually a really long story on Scott. 1:26:42.479 --> 1:26:45.320 It's a really good dude. I was on a hunting 1:26:45.360 --> 1:26:50.720 trip in Oklahoma, and unbeknownst to me, uh, I was 1:26:50.760 --> 1:26:53.680 invited on what was told to me to be a 1:26:53.720 --> 1:26:57.960 guided hunt. Uh, we were poaching the entire time, unbeknownst 1:26:57.960 --> 1:27:00.960 to me. So after a day of hunt and finding 1:27:01.000 --> 1:27:05.080 out that we were poaching, I start calling around because 1:27:05.120 --> 1:27:07.200 I'm on the border of Kansas and Oklahoma. 1:27:07.360 --> 1:27:09.519 I rode with these people up there. 1:27:09.920 --> 1:27:14.519 I have nobody in my world that lives on the 1:27:14.520 --> 1:27:17.599 border of Kansas, Oklahoma, except for I'll leave his last 1:27:17.640 --> 1:27:21.080 name Outbat Scott, who lived in Tulsa at the time, 1:27:21.439 --> 1:27:23.880 And he drove all the way like four hours to 1:27:23.920 --> 1:27:25.439 pick me up and then drove me all the way 1:27:25.439 --> 1:27:28.439 back down to uh the border of Texas, Oklahoma to 1:27:28.479 --> 1:27:32.080 my car in the middle of the night to get 1:27:32.080 --> 1:27:33.919 me out of the poaching situation. 1:27:34.520 --> 1:27:37.080 Good dude, did you tell the boys you were dipping? 1:27:37.560 --> 1:27:37.720 Oh? 1:27:37.800 --> 1:27:40.879 Yeah, bro, I was pissed. I was pissed. 1:27:41.200 --> 1:27:43.040 There was like one thing that I was brought up 1:27:43.080 --> 1:27:46.479 on and was like, you do not poach, Like that 1:27:46.680 --> 1:27:49.920 is the lowest of the low poach. You don't do that. 1:27:50.400 --> 1:27:51.800 And it was like the very end of the first 1:27:51.880 --> 1:27:54.200 day and this landowner comes out. 1:27:54.280 --> 1:27:56.320 He's like, ore call the day more and he come 1:27:56.360 --> 1:27:58.200 and he gonna get you blah blah blah. 1:27:58.240 --> 1:28:01.400 And I'm like, dude, that guy was crazy because like 1:28:01.439 --> 1:28:04.280 we're on the like we paid for this hunt. Like 1:28:04.360 --> 1:28:06.200 that's crazy that he's like coming out and saying we're 1:28:06.240 --> 1:28:06.920 poaching on stuff. 1:28:06.960 --> 1:28:09.760 And you're like, well, you know, and the boys were like, oh, 1:28:09.800 --> 1:28:13.559 we kind of are. And I was like, what are 1:28:13.600 --> 1:28:14.200 you serious? 1:28:14.240 --> 1:28:17.160 And they're like yeah. I was like, I'm not going 1:28:17.240 --> 1:28:19.920 to hunt anymore. They're like what, And I just like 1:28:19.960 --> 1:28:21.800 get in the truck and I'm just like, I'm like, 1:28:21.880 --> 1:28:24.439 I'm not hunting anymore. I've never been phleasant hunting. I 1:28:24.479 --> 1:28:28.880 was so excited to go peasant hunting. And I just 1:28:28.920 --> 1:28:30.439 put my shotgun down and I sat in the back 1:28:30.479 --> 1:28:31.800 of the truck the rest of the day. And then 1:28:31.800 --> 1:28:33.639 we got to the motel and they were like, dude, 1:28:33.680 --> 1:28:35.720 it's a really far drive just to like drive you 1:28:35.800 --> 1:28:37.800 down and then drive back up to like hunt. 1:28:37.840 --> 1:28:39.960 So we're not going to drive you. You just like hang. 1:28:39.800 --> 1:28:43.520 Out the motel while we hunt for the next three days. 1:28:44.520 --> 1:28:46.280 And Scott was the only guy that I could think 1:28:46.320 --> 1:28:49.960 of that like he went to Oklahoma State. I'm giving 1:28:49.960 --> 1:28:53.360 away too much about him, but he went to Oklahoma State, 1:28:53.400 --> 1:28:55.280 and I was like, maybe he lives in Oklahoma. 1:28:55.800 --> 1:28:58.519 Guy writes in about not being a pervert, and Sherman 1:28:58.600 --> 1:29:00.720 is just giving multiple details, says he's still on that 1:29:01.200 --> 1:29:02.240 slightly dodgy story. 1:29:03.280 --> 1:29:04.760 I'm just saying he's a good dude. 1:29:04.840 --> 1:29:06.880 So I see where his head dad, and I would 1:29:06.880 --> 1:29:08.479 be in my head just as much. 1:29:09.320 --> 1:29:11.680 He should have gone up to the dad. That's my 1:29:11.800 --> 1:29:12.400 only note. 1:29:12.960 --> 1:29:14.479 Yeah, I think I would have gone up to the 1:29:14.560 --> 1:29:18.639 dad and been like, hey, lizen or just. 1:29:18.760 --> 1:29:22.000 That the girl walk said, hey, you know my fault 1:29:22.120 --> 1:29:24.679 my girls three. I had no clue. 1:29:25.000 --> 1:29:27.280 We were looking for bathrooms the whole time. We're looking 1:29:27.280 --> 1:29:31.439 for potties, Mike, I have a kid. I'm here with 1:29:31.479 --> 1:29:34.960 my kid who need to go partty, Just need to 1:29:34.960 --> 1:29:35.479 go party. 1:29:35.560 --> 1:29:38.920 That's it. Girl doesn't say a word, and he's like, 1:29:40.479 --> 1:29:44.360 are we good? You want to desert or something? You know, 1:29:44.479 --> 1:29:46.719 I shouldn't even say that. I shouldn't even ask the question. 1:29:46.800 --> 1:29:48.599 I mean that I'm gonna go talk to your father 1:29:48.680 --> 1:30:01.920 right now. But then what was he saying to the dad? Oh, hey, 1:30:01.960 --> 1:30:03.400 I don't know what your daughter's gonna say. He's alread 1:30:03.400 --> 1:30:05.760 putting himself in a bad spot. Mister callaway, I just 1:30:05.840 --> 1:30:07.360 want you to know, man and man Dad to dad, 1:30:07.400 --> 1:30:08.760 I had a three year old. We were looking for 1:30:08.800 --> 1:30:10.840 the bathroom. We walked back in the bathroom. I had 1:30:10.840 --> 1:30:12.200 to get her set up. Your daughter was in there, 1:30:12.240 --> 1:30:15.040 and it was very much like oh shit, moment, kind 1:30:15.040 --> 1:30:16.200 of didn't know what to do. I scream up to 1:30:16.200 --> 1:30:18.920 get her on. I immediately went outside, stood there waiting 1:30:18.960 --> 1:30:21.800 on my daughter. Maybe maybe you don't even care, and 1:30:21.840 --> 1:30:23.240 I'm more nervous. I just feel like I had this 1:30:23.320 --> 1:30:24.759 on my chest. I had to get it off because 1:30:24.760 --> 1:30:28.200 I felt like I'm a perver. But I'm I'm not a. 1:30:28.080 --> 1:30:29.920 P And when my head hits the pillow the night, 1:30:30.360 --> 1:30:33.320 nobody's gonna be checking footage here at the school, going, oh, 1:30:33.360 --> 1:30:39.439 that's Cade's dad. Yeah, that would have worked, That would 1:30:39.560 --> 1:30:40.120 work on me. 1:30:40.320 --> 1:30:44.160 Can I get you guys desert? Maybe a lolly bump 1:30:44.280 --> 1:30:46.840 or something I happened to have in my car right down. 1:30:46.880 --> 1:30:48.160 But I'm not here. 1:30:48.920 --> 1:30:51.840 I'm not a candy in my truck that came off 1:30:51.840 --> 1:30:54.280 from It's from work, Yes, Mary, it's from my daughter. 1:30:54.280 --> 1:30:58.719 She's three, sweetheart, come over here. Agnorable, abnormal. She runs 1:30:58.760 --> 1:31:01.400 screaming the mom. I where that's my kid? Honey? Can 1:31:01.479 --> 1:31:02.760 you speak up? Can you help me out? 1:31:02.920 --> 1:31:03.000 No? 1:31:03.120 --> 1:31:07.040 I hate you? That's my kid. That's she's funny. She's 1:31:07.080 --> 1:31:07.799 really funny. 1:31:08.400 --> 1:31:11.720 Oh man, Yes, Scott said a predicament shout out. 1:31:11.720 --> 1:31:13.599 Scott. Thanks for calling in, bro, thank you for calling in. 1:31:13.680 --> 1:31:19.320 I'll be calling you shortly. Emails. Oh we only have 1:31:19.400 --> 1:31:19.840 one call? 1:31:20.360 --> 1:31:21.640 That was it? 1:31:21.720 --> 1:31:24.360 One? Yeah? One vmail. You want to do another v maiale, 1:31:24.360 --> 1:31:24.960 we have another V. 1:31:25.160 --> 1:31:26.840 I know we have them to deep talks about him 1:31:26.880 --> 1:31:28.320 being stuffed up every week. 1:31:32.120 --> 1:31:33.559 I don't even want to say the title of this. 1:31:33.640 --> 1:31:35.799 Don't say the title. Just let it, just let it roll. 1:31:38.520 --> 1:31:42.519 God damn it. My wife took the trash out. I'm 1:31:42.520 --> 1:31:57.960 a piece of ship, you see, you see what I mean. Yeah, 1:31:58.000 --> 1:32:00.760 we got back from Italy. I missed the trash that week. Hey, 1:32:00.760 --> 1:32:03.240 there you go, there you go. 1:32:03.960 --> 1:32:08.200 Hey, recyclings every other week, so so if you miss. 1:32:08.080 --> 1:32:13.880 Recycling, and guess it, I missed that two weeks ago. 1:32:14.080 --> 1:32:18.000 Oh actually, when I forgot to take out the recycle 1:32:18.080 --> 1:32:20.719 that come back. My neighbor has a seven year old daughter. 1:32:21.160 --> 1:32:24.800 She's out playing behind the house with her dad. Oh, 1:32:24.800 --> 1:32:28.320 we're so glad you're back from vacation. Blah blah blah. 1:32:28.439 --> 1:32:31.840 Intern Chris was watching the house. I saw he put 1:32:31.840 --> 1:32:34.360 out the trash. He did such a good job. His 1:32:34.520 --> 1:32:36.799 daughter then comes up and goes, yeah, why. 1:32:36.640 --> 1:32:37.200 Do you trash? 1:32:37.280 --> 1:32:39.280 Backs fell out though, and it had a bunch of 1:32:39.320 --> 1:32:40.160 maggots in it. 1:32:40.320 --> 1:32:41.400 Oh my god. 1:32:42.760 --> 1:32:47.880 I go, oh good, thank you for the note, Thank 1:32:47.920 --> 1:32:50.040 you so much. Now I'm gonna be known as gross 1:32:50.040 --> 1:32:52.799 maggot guy. Don't get the trash out on time, maggots 1:32:52.800 --> 1:32:55.760 built up? Is that the deal, that's what, that's the deal. 1:32:55.960 --> 1:33:00.360 Especially with the poopy diapers. Oh god, how's shitty? Do 1:33:00.160 --> 1:33:02.080 the do the diaper bag smell? 1:33:02.120 --> 1:33:03.439 Bro? So bad? 1:33:04.040 --> 1:33:10.280 Do you double bag your diaper bags? I've started doing 1:33:10.360 --> 1:33:12.439 diaper bag in a scented track? 1:33:12.520 --> 1:33:15.960 How bad times? I mean ours are pretty locked in tight, yeah, 1:33:16.000 --> 1:33:18.880 because it's a fight. It's a war to get him out. 1:33:19.120 --> 1:33:21.160 You have to pay exact same one I have with 1:33:21.240 --> 1:33:24.080 the circle ring, with the circle ring, and then you 1:33:24.160 --> 1:33:27.280 have to yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, And then when it's down, 1:33:27.360 --> 1:33:28.559 you just slide it back and forth. 1:33:29.960 --> 1:33:31.400 I can see. And then it's like when you're when 1:33:31.439 --> 1:33:33.280 you're when you're about to change right, or you get 1:33:33.320 --> 1:33:35.880 the diaper rolled up, get together, you try to go 1:33:35.880 --> 1:33:37.519 as fasts, you can't because you know the smell is 1:33:37.600 --> 1:33:40.240 just gonna get in the air for a moment. Bro, 1:33:40.400 --> 1:33:43.000 it's so bad, so bad. 1:33:43.320 --> 1:33:45.559 Or when you slide, when you slide it and you 1:33:45.680 --> 1:33:48.479 just see a diaper right at the very dog, oh I. 1:33:48.439 --> 1:33:51.439 Know, and you gotta kind of push it down, say 1:33:51.560 --> 1:33:52.519 taking it out right away. 1:33:52.800 --> 1:33:55.240 Let's see how much more room we got. You try 1:33:55.280 --> 1:33:57.880 to do it like your fingertips to not touch anything else. 1:33:58.600 --> 1:34:03.160 You're likelease, god, wife, to take this out. Is somebody 1:34:03.200 --> 1:34:07.360 gonna see this. She has to have seen this. She 1:34:07.520 --> 1:34:12.080 does majority of the diapers. This is crazy. Oh my god. 1:34:12.520 --> 1:34:15.160 But yeah, I've been doing the diaper bag into sended 1:34:15.240 --> 1:34:19.280 trash bag. I don't have a full review on it yet. Okay, 1:34:19.439 --> 1:34:21.200 but let you know. Yeah, we'll wait for the reason. 1:34:21.200 --> 1:34:23.559 If that's a dad hack speaking up, dude, So many 1:34:23.560 --> 1:34:24.280 flies right now? 1:34:24.320 --> 1:34:27.240 What's going on? We've been getting them at the house, bro, 1:34:27.600 --> 1:34:31.599 What is going on? I heard our emails fly season. 1:34:31.840 --> 1:34:34.639 I heard our emails are fun this week? Okay, deep 1:34:34.840 --> 1:34:37.639 promised you want me to kick it off? Yes, sir, 1:34:38.160 --> 1:34:42.920 Caleb Gross. My name is Caleb Gross from Central Nebraska, 1:34:43.040 --> 1:34:43.920 go big red. 1:34:43.960 --> 1:34:46.839 What's up? Fellas curly? Four am sitting in the hospital 1:34:46.880 --> 1:34:50.439 riding this deep in the trenches. But not for a 1:34:50.520 --> 1:34:53.680 reason you may think. Yesterday, at about six pm, I 1:34:53.720 --> 1:34:57.280 was mowing our backyard hill with a push mower. Grass 1:34:57.360 --> 1:35:01.320 was a little wet, so I slipped and boom. I 1:35:01.400 --> 1:35:03.439 knew better, but I did it. Anyways. The vision I 1:35:03.479 --> 1:35:06.719 had in my head became reality. I lost my big toe. 1:35:06.840 --> 1:35:12.080 Whoa shit? What yelled my wife's name, and she came running. 1:35:12.120 --> 1:35:15.080 She's ten weeks pregnant. Also, luckily as city worker watch 1:35:15.120 --> 1:35:18.639 it happen, so he was right there right away to assist. 1:35:19.960 --> 1:35:22.680 First ride in an ambulance and first overnight stay in 1:35:22.680 --> 1:35:26.960 a hospital other than kids, haha. Had the first surgery 1:35:27.080 --> 1:35:30.200 last night to clean it up. What lots of grass 1:35:30.200 --> 1:35:33.640 and sock remnants in the wound. My wife and I 1:35:33.680 --> 1:35:36.280 have two kids. My daughter is almost four come September 1:35:36.320 --> 1:35:39.479 and my son just turned two earlier this summer, and 1:35:40.000 --> 1:35:42.080 we have one on the way. We are very active, 1:35:42.479 --> 1:35:45.599 so this will be tough. Got along road to recovery. 1:35:45.640 --> 1:35:48.240 Lots of physical theory to learn how to walk, is 1:35:48.280 --> 1:35:51.160 what I'm being told. When my spirits are high, as 1:35:51.200 --> 1:35:52.760 high as they can be with God on her side, 1:35:52.800 --> 1:35:54.960 I'm just thankful it wasn't worse than it is. We 1:35:55.000 --> 1:35:56.479 had plans to go to the lake with some friends 1:35:56.479 --> 1:35:58.760 this weekend, So the way I look at it is 1:35:58.800 --> 1:36:02.000 God was protecting us from something this weekend. Thankful for 1:36:02.040 --> 1:36:05.479 the great neighbors and volunteers on the response team. Going 1:36:05.479 --> 1:36:08.040 to dig deep for the next few months. Love the boys, 1:36:08.880 --> 1:36:12.720 Love the pod, don't forget the trash. I attached an 1:36:12.880 --> 1:36:15.920 X ray pick. As you can see, the big Piggy 1:36:15.960 --> 1:36:18.240 went to the market and he's never coming back Levet. 1:36:18.360 --> 1:36:23.720 Oh no, oh wow. Update, I'll attach another photo of 1:36:23.760 --> 1:36:25.760 the X ray. They had to take more off of 1:36:25.800 --> 1:36:28.879 it in the second surgery. We'll be nightfour in the hospital. 1:36:28.880 --> 1:36:30.679 The painted times has been the worst I've ever felt 1:36:30.680 --> 1:36:33.120 in my life. Still can't fathom. I don't have a 1:36:33.120 --> 1:36:35.880 big tone anymore, and we'll essentially have to learn how 1:36:35.880 --> 1:36:38.320 to do everyday things again. Don't take the small things 1:36:38.320 --> 1:36:42.160 for granted. Fellas. Kids have been with my parents and 1:36:42.240 --> 1:36:43.880 have come to see us a couple of times. Now 1:36:43.880 --> 1:36:47.559 missed them like crazy once again, Love the pod. Oh ps, 1:36:47.640 --> 1:36:51.000 what's that say? Willy C's right? Don't mow your yard? 1:36:51.200 --> 1:36:53.720 Oh what do you know? 1:36:55.479 --> 1:36:58.080 Funny funny to come at willye cee for not mowing 1:36:58.080 --> 1:37:00.280 the yard. There is risk when mowing the yard. You 1:37:00.280 --> 1:37:04.040 can lose your fucking big toe. Boys, big biggie could 1:37:04.080 --> 1:37:08.679 go to the market. You lose the big biggie. That sucks. 1:37:08.800 --> 1:37:13.000 Man that sucks. Yeah, holy shit, A. 1:37:13.080 --> 1:37:15.600 New guy, shit new guy in college sending he was 1:37:15.640 --> 1:37:18.920 working at a golf course. One of those like flyover mowers. 1:37:18.960 --> 1:37:21.960 It's not like a push one yeah on a hill, 1:37:22.720 --> 1:37:25.200 big toe not fun? 1:37:25.800 --> 1:37:30.479 What yeah? What was a dangerous man? Dude? That's what 1:37:30.720 --> 1:37:32.120 I have to talking about. Mowing the yard. 1:37:32.240 --> 1:37:35.479 Shit, everybody all excited. Take it before and after pictures. 1:37:35.720 --> 1:37:39.280 Leave it up to the experts. Man, wait till you're 1:37:39.320 --> 1:37:42.280 do local landscapers, Wait till you do it before and 1:37:42.320 --> 1:37:44.240 after pictures of your big. 1:37:44.040 --> 1:37:47.600 Dough not be thinking. Damn, I wish I would have 1:37:47.600 --> 1:37:50.400 paid the local economy. 1:37:50.800 --> 1:37:52.880 That one guy that I called an idiot on the 1:37:52.920 --> 1:37:56.800 internet last year, Maybe he wasn't so dumb, maybe he was. 1:37:56.840 --> 1:37:58.320 Actually really or something. 1:37:59.600 --> 1:38:04.680 But oh man, this came from anonymous. This is one 1:38:04.680 --> 1:38:08.120 of our first anonymous in a while. Hi Boys, Day 1:38:08.160 --> 1:38:11.720 one listener, first time ride in love the pod and 1:38:11.760 --> 1:38:14.479 the dad community that you have created for all of 1:38:14.520 --> 1:38:18.200 us to share. Sorry to advance, Sorry in advance for 1:38:18.240 --> 1:38:21.160 the long email. Would like to keep this anonymous as 1:38:21.200 --> 1:38:24.080 this is an ongoing dad loss. We can title this 1:38:24.120 --> 1:38:27.160 conversation how long is too long? And I'm hoping it 1:38:27.200 --> 1:38:29.840 can be a good conversation starter for the pod on 1:38:29.960 --> 1:38:34.519 situations that involve are in laws, both current and future. 1:38:34.920 --> 1:38:38.479 H I'm a proud dad of two kiddos, a. 1:38:38.479 --> 1:38:41.000 Two a half year old and a seven week old girl, 1:38:41.040 --> 1:38:46.160 and we recently welcomed in early June. Congratulations. This is 1:38:46.240 --> 1:38:49.599 unfortunately where my dad loss comes in. My wife and 1:38:49.680 --> 1:38:54.519 her mom are in all caps, very close. She usually 1:38:54.600 --> 1:38:57.720 comes to visit from out of state about once a 1:38:57.760 --> 1:39:00.240 week every month to see us and watch our son 1:39:00.280 --> 1:39:02.880 grow up. When our first was born, she ended up 1:39:02.920 --> 1:39:06.120 staying with us for almost two months. As newborn parents 1:39:06.160 --> 1:39:09.000 who were nervous about the transition to parenthood. This was 1:39:09.040 --> 1:39:11.439 a blessing and we were truly grateful for the help. 1:39:11.920 --> 1:39:14.360 She kept up the laundry, helped with the bottles, helped 1:39:14.439 --> 1:39:17.519 keep the house clean, and helped be there for my 1:39:17.640 --> 1:39:21.120 wife when I couldn't. I ended up delaying my paternity 1:39:21.200 --> 1:39:24.400 leave to extend our son's time at home before going 1:39:24.439 --> 1:39:28.200 to daycare, but admittedly it did feel like she overstayed 1:39:28.240 --> 1:39:32.040 her welcome towards the end of her time here. Since then, 1:39:32.640 --> 1:39:35.519 my personal relationship with my mother in law has been strained, 1:39:35.520 --> 1:39:37.839 to say the least. As a dad, I take immense 1:39:38.200 --> 1:39:40.880 pride in being the best husband, father, and family man 1:39:40.960 --> 1:39:43.880 I can be. However, when my mother in law visits, 1:39:44.040 --> 1:39:46.080 it feels like I've become more of a third wheel 1:39:46.080 --> 1:39:49.360 in my own home, which can get frustrating and has 1:39:49.720 --> 1:39:53.040 resulted in some tension that brings me to my ongoing 1:39:53.120 --> 1:39:56.200 dad loss. Our baby girl arrived in early June. Despite 1:39:56.240 --> 1:39:59.680 conversations with my wife on setting boundaries for how long 1:39:59.720 --> 1:40:02.439 her mom would stay with us, she ended up staying 1:40:02.479 --> 1:40:04.639 at our home for a little over two months, followed 1:40:04.640 --> 1:40:07.600 by a ten day trip without me back home to 1:40:07.680 --> 1:40:11.280 introduce our daughter to the extended family. The dad boss 1:40:11.479 --> 1:40:14.960 comes in because is obvious that my frustration with my 1:40:15.040 --> 1:40:17.439 mother in law has been a stressor for my wife 1:40:17.439 --> 1:40:21.760 and our relationship. This realization sucks to live with, but 1:40:21.840 --> 1:40:25.120 I'm finding it incredibly difficult to deal with an in 1:40:25.200 --> 1:40:30.519 law who I've communicated by my boundaries with not parenting 1:40:30.560 --> 1:40:33.559 my child, allowing me to perform my regular duties around 1:40:33.600 --> 1:40:35.880 the house, giving me the space to interact with my 1:40:36.000 --> 1:40:39.680 children on my own with my wife, etc. But it 1:40:39.720 --> 1:40:44.559 has repeatedly been crossed. Anyways, she openly acknowledged that she 1:40:44.640 --> 1:40:47.680 understands the boundaries I've tried to set, but believes what 1:40:47.760 --> 1:40:50.000 she is doing is right and thinks that because I 1:40:50.040 --> 1:40:53.720 was not raising a home that had the support of grandparents, 1:40:53.720 --> 1:40:57.040 that I essentially don't know any better. I just finished 1:40:57.120 --> 1:41:01.080 up listening to the most recent Fat Stafford solo Great job, 1:41:01.120 --> 1:41:04.200 by the way, thank you Anonymous, and his message on 1:41:04.280 --> 1:41:08.000 being a good teammate really resonated. That's my number one goal, 1:41:08.880 --> 1:41:11.599 But with any relationship, it's hard to achieve that goal 1:41:11.640 --> 1:41:14.280 of communication is strained and what we want may not 1:41:14.400 --> 1:41:17.320 line up. So with that in mind, I'm curious to 1:41:17.360 --> 1:41:21.160 know everyone's opinion on this. Basically, what is your boundary 1:41:21.200 --> 1:41:24.719 for in law visits and how do you slash would 1:41:24.760 --> 1:41:28.599 you and your partner approaches this situation, especially if your 1:41:28.600 --> 1:41:32.559 boundaries are different. Not looking for advice, that's what the 1:41:32.560 --> 1:41:36.160 therapist is for, but genuinely curious to know how this 1:41:36.280 --> 1:41:40.519 situation looks from an outside perspective. As we navigate in 1:41:40.560 --> 1:41:43.160 real time, all the boys are at different stages of 1:41:43.200 --> 1:41:47.400 their relationships, so I would think there may be different 1:41:47.479 --> 1:41:49.799 views that would be good to discuss. 1:41:49.880 --> 1:41:55.200 Oh, buddy, that's a tough one. 1:41:55.240 --> 1:41:58.040 I mean, like take some balls to write that. By 1:41:58.040 --> 1:42:00.000 the way, even anonymously. 1:41:59.520 --> 1:42:06.320 Absolutely absolutely well done there, I'm getting My marriage is 1:42:06.680 --> 1:42:10.920 my wife. Doesn't seem like the relationship that his wife 1:42:10.920 --> 1:42:15.360 has with her mom is similar to the one that 1:42:15.439 --> 1:42:19.200 my wife has with my mother in law. Not that 1:42:19.240 --> 1:42:22.280 it's different, worse, better, whatever it is. But yeah, as 1:42:22.320 --> 1:42:25.200 far as like staying for months at a time or 1:42:25.200 --> 1:42:27.040 for weeks at a time, that's the dude, that's a 1:42:27.040 --> 1:42:30.880 tough one. My first like instinct is you know, how 1:42:30.960 --> 1:42:33.640 much of a real conversation have you had with your wife? 1:42:33.840 --> 1:42:36.160 Sounds like maybe he has, sounds like he's even had 1:42:36.200 --> 1:42:38.639 a conversation with the mother in law. What I'm hearing 1:42:38.800 --> 1:42:41.519 on his version with the mother in law is that 1:42:41.520 --> 1:42:45.479 mother in law wasn't necessarily hearing what he was saying. Yeah, 1:42:45.680 --> 1:42:48.160 something that we talk about in communication and one on 1:42:48.160 --> 1:42:53.040 ones here at the shop, at home, whatever it is. 1:42:53.640 --> 1:42:58.320 But a technique that I learned about from Chris Voss, 1:42:58.600 --> 1:43:04.080 who's like a negotiator, was the FBI like feelings, behavior 1:43:04.240 --> 1:43:08.080 and impact, And essentially what that is wrapped up in 1:43:08.120 --> 1:43:12.280 that acronym is you're telling mother in law, hey, when 1:43:12.320 --> 1:43:16.160 you do X, you're describing the behavior. It makes me 1:43:16.280 --> 1:43:21.000 feel like a third wheel. And what I'm worried about 1:43:21.080 --> 1:43:22.880 is whatever you feel like that impact is going to 1:43:22.960 --> 1:43:26.160 have on the relationship, so let's try to make one up. 1:43:28.360 --> 1:43:31.080 I feel like when you come in and you I'm 1:43:31.080 --> 1:43:32.840 not going to say overstay, maybe we need to have 1:43:32.920 --> 1:43:35.880 better expectation of what staying looks like at the house. 1:43:36.040 --> 1:43:37.920 And I don't know if these are your exact words demand, 1:43:37.920 --> 1:43:39.600 because I don't know how mother in law is in 1:43:39.640 --> 1:43:44.360 that communication. But when these things happen and I come home, 1:43:44.479 --> 1:43:46.519 or you take care of my duties, or I feel 1:43:46.520 --> 1:43:48.200 like I'm not getting the right amount of one on 1:43:48.200 --> 1:43:50.960 one time, or i feel like I'm wanting to do 1:43:51.000 --> 1:43:52.960 something with my daughter and you think this other way 1:43:53.160 --> 1:43:56.720 is better, and you kind of I feel like you're 1:43:56.760 --> 1:43:59.160 overstepping me, and it makes me feel like shit. I 1:43:59.200 --> 1:44:01.640 feel it is me off. But I also know you 1:44:01.680 --> 1:44:04.240 want to be a very intentional grandmother and you're in 1:44:04.320 --> 1:44:06.519 massive help. But what I'm worried about is if I 1:44:06.520 --> 1:44:09.080 feel like it creates this resentment because we don't have 1:44:09.160 --> 1:44:12.120 clear expectations and clear boundaries with each other. Not only 1:44:12.160 --> 1:44:14.599 with each other, but it also creates a little bit 1:44:14.600 --> 1:44:17.120 of friction with my wife because we go back and 1:44:17.160 --> 1:44:19.720 forth at each with each other, and I'm worried that's 1:44:19.720 --> 1:44:21.680 going to continue to happen if we can't figure out 1:44:21.720 --> 1:44:25.280 what these clear expectations are. If she's hitting you with 1:44:26.360 --> 1:44:28.599 you know, you didn't grow up with grandparents, you don't 1:44:28.640 --> 1:44:30.400 really know what you're talking about, or you don't really 1:44:30.439 --> 1:44:32.360 know any different to me, that tells me you're not 1:44:32.680 --> 1:44:33.600 really being listened to. 1:44:34.000 --> 1:44:35.800 You know what I mean, He's not being listened to 1:44:35.880 --> 1:44:37.920 in that situation, Like if you are, it'll be a 1:44:38.040 --> 1:44:40.559 very productive conversation because if somebody were to tell me 1:44:40.760 --> 1:44:43.200 like something like that, like, hey, will your behavior makes 1:44:43.240 --> 1:44:43.960 me feel this way. 1:44:43.960 --> 1:44:46.800 Therefore, here's the impact I'm worried about if we don't 1:44:46.800 --> 1:44:49.559 get it corrected. If I'm fully digesting what you're saying, 1:44:49.600 --> 1:44:51.720 say we're in a one on one, I need to 1:44:51.760 --> 1:44:53.720 fully listen to you and understand you and be in 1:44:53.760 --> 1:44:56.720 your shoes for us to start finding any kind of 1:44:56.760 --> 1:44:59.240 solve versus you don't know any better because I'm kind 1:44:59.240 --> 1:45:00.360 of just shutting you down. 1:45:01.560 --> 1:45:03.719 It sounds like he feels like he's being shut down. 1:45:03.960 --> 1:45:05.759 And again we only know his version. 1:45:06.280 --> 1:45:08.640 His version like you, you also can't be somebody like 1:45:09.080 --> 1:45:13.240 you have this you're looking for confirmation bias anytime you 1:45:13.240 --> 1:45:15.400 step in the room and say, Grandma's playing with the kids, 1:45:15.400 --> 1:45:18.200 and that just fuels the there's goes Grandma getting playing 1:45:18.240 --> 1:45:20.280 with the kids, they know I don't want her to 1:45:20.360 --> 1:45:22.000 do that, or whatever it is, whatever you're making up 1:45:22.000 --> 1:45:24.360 in your mind to build this resentment, that's obviously that's 1:45:24.400 --> 1:45:27.080 not going to be helpful for you or the relationship 1:45:27.160 --> 1:45:31.040 you have with your with your wife or grandma. Yeah, 1:45:31.080 --> 1:45:33.680 but all of mine completely stems from the root of 1:45:34.320 --> 1:45:37.120 If that was happening with me and I was feeling 1:45:37.120 --> 1:45:41.439 a resentment or a buildup of grandma overstepping or my 1:45:41.479 --> 1:45:44.719 wife's parents kind of overstepping, it would very much start 1:45:44.760 --> 1:45:48.439 with a real conversation with my wife in a calm 1:45:48.479 --> 1:45:52.200 tone to be heard articulated the best way you can 1:45:52.280 --> 1:45:55.040 to where you're not looking for an argument, you're looking 1:45:55.080 --> 1:45:59.439 to strictly say when this behavior happens, it makes me 1:45:59.520 --> 1:46:02.920 feel like this. And here's what I'm worried about. Because 1:46:02.960 --> 1:46:07.800 what the other position can't do then, right is tell 1:46:07.880 --> 1:46:11.960 you how you feel. If you go in and say 1:46:12.280 --> 1:46:16.240 you do this, not when this behavior happens, you do this, 1:46:16.680 --> 1:46:19.920 always do it? Yeah, when you you always do X, 1:46:20.080 --> 1:46:22.400 Y and Z, And it pisses me off because blah 1:46:22.439 --> 1:46:24.720 blah blah blah. You're putting them on the opposition. Their 1:46:24.760 --> 1:46:27.719 guard goes up because you're telling them, Yeah, you're telling 1:46:27.760 --> 1:46:30.719 them what they do and how they feel from it. Yep, 1:46:30.760 --> 1:46:33.320 because I know when your mom does this, she's thinking 1:46:33.400 --> 1:46:35.519 this because I've already had this conversation. Well, that doesn't 1:46:35.520 --> 1:46:38.120 work because you're talking about somebody else. You can't tell 1:46:38.160 --> 1:46:41.280 somebody else telling them how they If you can speak 1:46:41.320 --> 1:46:44.280 strictly from how you're feeling, the other person can't tell 1:46:44.320 --> 1:46:46.880 you how you're feeling. You're just laying out, dude, this 1:46:46.920 --> 1:46:49.800 is what I'm worried about. Obviously, I care. Like we're 1:46:49.800 --> 1:46:52.240 a family, we're a tribe. You're my wife, like this 1:46:52.439 --> 1:46:54.880 is this is my family as we like as much 1:46:54.920 --> 1:46:56.800 as it is. You are, Like all that stuff where 1:46:57.200 --> 1:46:59.519 you're speaking strictly from your shoes and what you're worried 1:46:59.520 --> 1:47:01.839 about happen if something doesn't get corrected. 1:47:02.479 --> 1:47:08.120 You also have the opportunity to ask your and this 1:47:09.040 --> 1:47:12.200 we're talking. The person that wrote in made it sound 1:47:12.240 --> 1:47:15.040 like they're the husband and speaking to the wife. 1:47:15.040 --> 1:47:17.880 About the mother in law. This can totally go the 1:47:17.920 --> 1:47:18.559 other way too. 1:47:18.800 --> 1:47:22.320 Of a Milk Team sixer at home that needs to 1:47:22.360 --> 1:47:25.080 have this conversation with their husband about mother or father 1:47:25.120 --> 1:47:27.960 in law, whatever. Yeah, this is across the board advice 1:47:28.080 --> 1:47:31.439 that I would give of. 1:47:35.400 --> 1:47:36.160 More oft than not. 1:47:36.800 --> 1:47:39.880 I think that his spouse or somebody's spouse in this 1:47:39.960 --> 1:47:44.480 situation would actually feel exactly how they feel. 1:47:44.680 --> 1:47:46.480 Most of the time in this situation. 1:47:47.600 --> 1:47:50.920 And I think that while you're also saying how you feel, 1:47:51.720 --> 1:47:56.679 ask them how it makes them feel when said action 1:47:56.920 --> 1:47:59.840 is being done, When said behavior is being done, does 1:47:59.880 --> 1:48:03.360 that make you feel uncomfortable? Does that make you feel stressed? 1:48:03.680 --> 1:48:06.920 Does that make you feel upset? And really pick their 1:48:06.960 --> 1:48:09.920 brain on it. Not only to get to see what 1:48:09.960 --> 1:48:14.360 your partner's feeling, it brings them into this situation of 1:48:14.520 --> 1:48:16.280 y'all are a team. At the end of the day, 1:48:16.439 --> 1:48:18.639 y'all are a team. You are not married to your 1:48:18.640 --> 1:48:21.519 in law, your parents, are not married to your wife 1:48:21.760 --> 1:48:26.439 or your husband. Like those are separate relationships. The core 1:48:26.600 --> 1:48:28.879 of this is you and your partner. 1:48:29.120 --> 1:48:31.280 The number one relationship us you and your wife, and 1:48:31.320 --> 1:48:35.519 you have to get aligned. You have to get aligned and. 1:48:35.520 --> 1:48:39.360 Be open to not only sharing your feelings, but see 1:48:39.400 --> 1:48:43.000 what their feelings are. See if even though y'all don't 1:48:43.000 --> 1:48:46.200 see eyed eye. If your feelings are aligned on stuff, 1:48:46.240 --> 1:48:50.160 go ooh, that makes both of us uncomfortable. Let's dive 1:48:50.240 --> 1:48:52.960 into that. Why would that make us uncomfortable? What are 1:48:53.000 --> 1:48:55.839 some solves we can do there? Now we're working together 1:48:55.920 --> 1:48:58.920 to solve the problem. And then there's the age old 1:48:59.360 --> 1:49:03.760 saying of blood, deal with blood, which I think, no. 1:49:03.840 --> 1:49:05.720 Go ahead, that's exactly what I was good. 1:49:06.040 --> 1:49:09.040 I think that that is a very smart saying. I 1:49:09.040 --> 1:49:12.480 think you can totally speak up for yourself in situations 1:49:12.520 --> 1:49:17.400 of like hey, you know, like making yourself heard to 1:49:17.600 --> 1:49:22.960 the in law or to like anybody in your spouse's family. 1:49:23.200 --> 1:49:27.040 But always smart to first go to wife, like Will said, 1:49:27.960 --> 1:49:30.200 and be like, hey, this I'm feeling. 1:49:30.520 --> 1:49:32.880 This is what's going on that, and if. 1:49:32.720 --> 1:49:35.840 They agree strongly, it's like can you can you please 1:49:35.880 --> 1:49:37.760 have that conversation with them about this? 1:49:39.200 --> 1:49:40.280 Yeah? 1:49:40.320 --> 1:49:43.759 And I know that that then, you know, can muddy 1:49:43.760 --> 1:49:46.439 the water sometimes within laws because it's like, oh well, 1:49:46.479 --> 1:49:49.559 it sounds like you're sherman talked to his wife again 1:49:49.880 --> 1:49:52.519 about like maybe you could like maybe you can start 1:49:52.560 --> 1:49:54.160 with mom and daughter and then they could be all 1:49:54.200 --> 1:49:58.280 through them, send down even that even that and just 1:49:58.320 --> 1:50:00.760 be like we're aligned on this. We're team on this 1:50:00.840 --> 1:50:02.320 decision on how we. 1:50:02.240 --> 1:50:05.519 Feel right because again we don't know any anything about 1:50:05.520 --> 1:50:08.800 the situation other than from the right end. So there 1:50:08.800 --> 1:50:10.439 could be a lot of steps to this. There could 1:50:10.479 --> 1:50:12.120 be a couple steps. Maybe it's not as big of 1:50:12.160 --> 1:50:14.280 a deal as he's making a sound. Maybe it's a 1:50:14.360 --> 1:50:15.800 deal where it's going to take a little bit of 1:50:15.800 --> 1:50:18.639 time to make happen. But to your point, you're right too, 1:50:18.720 --> 1:50:22.280 Like after you do the sitting down and completely talking 1:50:22.320 --> 1:50:25.679 from your shoes and how something like makes you feel 1:50:25.720 --> 1:50:28.720 and what you're worried about happening, you will then be 1:50:28.760 --> 1:50:31.720 able to figure out if your wife is aligned or 1:50:31.800 --> 1:50:34.120 sees that happening or with you to where you guys 1:50:34.160 --> 1:50:36.160 are already kind of starting on a similar page, and 1:50:36.160 --> 1:50:37.559 then you guys are wanting to kind of figure out 1:50:37.600 --> 1:50:40.680 the solve. Maybe your wife has a different perspective to 1:50:40.720 --> 1:50:43.200 where she throws out a different perspective and it's like, okay, well, 1:50:43.439 --> 1:50:45.320 how can we figure this out? Like can your rise 1:50:46.400 --> 1:50:49.720 what's your biggest pain point with the situation, whether it's 1:50:49.720 --> 1:50:52.840 something I'm doing, whether it's something's mom's doing, or it's 1:50:52.880 --> 1:50:55.080 something I can alleviate for you because I'm sure it's 1:50:55.080 --> 1:50:59.320 stressful having mom helicopter over you or telling you things 1:50:59.320 --> 1:51:01.080 that you need to be doing as a mother, like 1:51:01.120 --> 1:51:03.599 mom could be carrying a lot of stress too, one 1:51:03.720 --> 1:51:04.360 hundred percent. 1:51:04.640 --> 1:51:08.719 Also, I get a point in terms of like, if 1:51:09.120 --> 1:51:12.839 you come to an agreement with your significant other, shouldn't 1:51:12.880 --> 1:51:14.720 if you do it right, it should never be like, well, 1:51:14.760 --> 1:51:16.439 it sounds like you're speaking for them, because I feel 1:51:16.439 --> 1:51:18.280 like with me, it would be like, once we come 1:51:18.320 --> 1:51:19.840 to an agreement and I'm going to go have the 1:51:19.880 --> 1:51:22.680 conversation with my parents, if it's if let's say I'm 1:51:22.760 --> 1:51:26.679 the my parents in this situation, once we're aligned, we're aligned, 1:51:26.720 --> 1:51:28.599 and it's no more like, oh, I'm speaking for you. 1:51:28.920 --> 1:51:31.200 It's like no, no, no, I see the we both see 1:51:31.200 --> 1:51:34.120 it this way. Once you come to that understanding, I 1:51:34.120 --> 1:51:35.680 feel like that would be a big point of it. 1:51:35.760 --> 1:51:39.120 I'm also I'm kind of I'm writing notes just for 1:51:39.320 --> 1:51:41.559 I don't have this issue, but it's like I don't 1:51:41.560 --> 1:51:43.240 have to deal with it in this way. But I'm like, 1:51:43.479 --> 1:51:47.240 I feel like that's something where I if if it 1:51:47.280 --> 1:51:49.439 was towards my parents, I was on the wife side 1:51:49.439 --> 1:51:51.120 of the ball, I would be like, once we figure 1:51:51.160 --> 1:51:53.240 it out. I'm going there and I want to be 1:51:53.280 --> 1:51:56.760 the one that handles it and not put her in 1:51:56.800 --> 1:51:59.760 that spot because that's a very I feel like in laws, 1:51:59.760 --> 1:52:01.959 that's tough spot to have this kind of conversation. 1:52:01.960 --> 1:52:05.559 It's a tough spot, but it's a uh that is 1:52:06.600 --> 1:52:09.880 without going into any detail, just knowing out of a situation. 1:52:10.479 --> 1:52:14.240 That is something that in laws can say pretty often 1:52:14.439 --> 1:52:17.360 of like this doesn't sound like you or the type 1:52:17.400 --> 1:52:21.639 of decision that you would make, Like did Charo. 1:52:21.479 --> 1:52:23.000 Tell you to say that? Will like this? 1:52:23.720 --> 1:52:26.559 You know, like I'm just surprised that, like is this 1:52:26.600 --> 1:52:29.360 how Charo feels? Or is this how you feel? And 1:52:29.960 --> 1:52:33.599 almost like kind of putting you in a spot where 1:52:33.640 --> 1:52:37.920 like you then have to stand on ten toes and 1:52:37.920 --> 1:52:41.439 be like this is how we feel Toorro and I 1:52:41.680 --> 1:52:43.200 will Compton feel this way. 1:52:43.400 --> 1:52:45.080 Right when you look at me and you talk to me, 1:52:45.200 --> 1:52:47.320 you're also talking to my wife and talking to my wife, 1:52:47.400 --> 1:52:49.960 I going behind your back and see something crazy. 1:52:50.120 --> 1:52:54.160 Yeah, and she's sure certainly isn't going you're my mouthpiece, 1:52:54.240 --> 1:52:56.920 go do it even reluctantly, you know. 1:52:59.120 --> 1:53:01.400 So that's that's where that can come from. Gotcha. 1:53:02.560 --> 1:53:05.360 But yeah, I mean the way that he wrote in 1:53:06.120 --> 1:53:13.120 he sounds like an extremely reasonable, uh, looking for different 1:53:13.160 --> 1:53:18.599 avenues to try and solve this type of person. I 1:53:18.600 --> 1:53:21.360 hope he gets it, figure it out. I would say 1:53:21.400 --> 1:53:22.160 start with wifey. 1:53:22.760 --> 1:53:27.519 Yeah. Number one is definitely wifey and talking through the 1:53:27.840 --> 1:53:30.800 situation with her, yeah, and trying to get aligned. I 1:53:30.840 --> 1:53:34.080 appreciate him right in, Dude that it takes balls, because 1:53:34.120 --> 1:53:37.960 sometimes it's hard, Like you, you care so much about something, 1:53:38.200 --> 1:53:39.960 and sometimes it's hard to go about it the right 1:53:40.000 --> 1:53:45.320 way because it's just like emotion emotional driven and sometimes 1:53:45.360 --> 1:53:48.400 like I know what helps myself when I'm trying to 1:53:48.439 --> 1:53:51.160 find answers for handling a conversation one way, it's like 1:53:51.200 --> 1:53:53.920 coming across stuff like when I learned about the FBI 1:53:53.960 --> 1:53:56.599 stuff like, oh man, this would help me so much 1:53:56.600 --> 1:53:58.760 in a lot of day to day conversations versus something 1:53:58.800 --> 1:54:01.599 weighing so heavy on my mind and you don't necessarily 1:54:01.640 --> 1:54:04.680 know how to articulate it, just that it's like festering up. 1:54:04.680 --> 1:54:07.200 But then you just butt heads. Your lid gets flipped there, 1:54:07.240 --> 1:54:09.160 lid gets flipped, and you're not really handling anything. 1:54:09.360 --> 1:54:13.599 Yeah, And that's why it all comes down to you, 1:54:14.400 --> 1:54:17.120 is it's not like at the end of the two 1:54:17.160 --> 1:54:21.000 months that it's like, Okay, she overstayed or welcome, and 1:54:21.040 --> 1:54:23.479 that all of a sudden comes out of nowhere. For 1:54:23.560 --> 1:54:26.240 the guy that rode in, he's probably feeling that like 1:54:26.320 --> 1:54:30.599 week three, Yeah, wait, we're doing three more weeks of this, 1:54:30.960 --> 1:54:31.880 four more weeks of this? 1:54:32.240 --> 1:54:35.800 Yeah dang. Yeah, you're just being involved with the decision 1:54:35.800 --> 1:54:39.200 making of how long a family member might stay or not. 1:54:39.320 --> 1:54:43.080 Even everybody comes in town. Roll yes, it's like, oh, hey, 1:54:43.160 --> 1:54:44.840 they're planning on stay and they want to stay like 1:54:44.840 --> 1:54:47.160 two weeks. Like if it feels just between say it 1:54:47.200 --> 1:54:48.800 was me and you, I'm like, buddy, you could stay 1:54:48.800 --> 1:54:50.120 at my house for two weeks and I'm not even 1:54:50.200 --> 1:54:52.240 checking in with the wife. It's just you're gonna come 1:54:52.240 --> 1:54:53.840 and stay at the house for two weeks. Will then 1:54:53.880 --> 1:54:55.920 Trol and I are having our own little side battle 1:54:56.480 --> 1:54:58.880 because I'm like, it's my boy, I say all the time. 1:54:59.040 --> 1:55:01.000 And the point what that they're trying to make is 1:55:01.080 --> 1:55:03.840 like not that they're only pissed that they're staying two weeks, 1:55:03.880 --> 1:55:06.720 but dude, you didn't console me. Yeah, include me in 1:55:06.760 --> 1:55:08.880 your conversation, include me in the solft, Like what's going 1:55:08.920 --> 1:55:10.280 on to where he needs a stay to. And it's 1:55:10.320 --> 1:55:12.200 not that I'm not wanting him this stake in two weeks. 1:55:12.360 --> 1:55:15.120 I just want to be a part of the conversation 1:55:15.160 --> 1:55:17.080 because you feel like you're just keeping me out to 1:55:17.080 --> 1:55:18.640 the side and you're gonna make all the decisions for 1:55:18.680 --> 1:55:20.840 the house. That is chef. 1:55:20.880 --> 1:55:23.320 If you are taking notes, that is numero. 1:55:23.520 --> 1:55:26.880 Who solve that? Jill and I really. 1:55:26.640 --> 1:55:30.160 Had to identify made that wait, not even within laws, just. 1:55:30.520 --> 1:55:33.480 Yeah in general, yeah, anything, made that mistake. You bring 1:55:33.600 --> 1:55:35.200 up the idea maybe I can come stay a couple 1:55:35.160 --> 1:55:37.000 of weeks, like, well, let me talk with my wife 1:55:37.000 --> 1:55:38.640 and I can get back to you. Oh yeah, I 1:55:38.640 --> 1:55:39.360 can go to that. 1:55:39.920 --> 1:55:42.800 Yeah, dude, put me down absolutely, two hundred dollars deposit 1:55:42.960 --> 1:55:45.000 perfect pay two hundred dollars. Hey, honey, I'm going to 1:55:45.000 --> 1:55:48.400 this thing. What what are you talking about? 1:55:48.520 --> 1:55:51.720 You just all those Yeah, I made that mistake. Did 1:55:51.720 --> 1:55:55.000 a dinner as without saying anything. I was just like, Hey, 1:55:55.040 --> 1:55:57.480 we're going to this this with friends. She was just like, 1:55:58.200 --> 1:55:59.240 how do you not tell me this? 1:55:59.680 --> 1:55:59.920 Yeah? 1:56:00.040 --> 1:56:02.440 And I was like, itting clear. I feel like a 1:56:02.480 --> 1:56:05.080 lot of times it's not intentional. You're just like, hey, no, 1:56:05.160 --> 1:56:06.880 we're doing dinner. I got to find a place and 1:56:06.880 --> 1:56:07.800 then you just forget. 1:56:09.440 --> 1:56:11.879 Yeah, it's part of the learning curve with like marriage 1:56:11.880 --> 1:56:15.240 and marriage and stuff. I'm still doing. It's just going 1:56:15.240 --> 1:56:18.800 from us. You were were completely selfish being to you are. 1:56:18.840 --> 1:56:25.400 Now you share one heart. Yeah, you're not both one 1:56:25.400 --> 1:56:27.320 person and you got to kind of operate that way. 1:56:28.320 --> 1:56:31.840 That's what the ring symbolizes. Man, even you get married, 1:56:32.680 --> 1:56:38.320 it's like conjoining into one heart. Deek's about to do it. 1:56:38.440 --> 1:56:39.960 I mean deep, you guys, you know it. 1:56:40.160 --> 1:56:43.440 I disagree with something said and agree with other things 1:56:43.480 --> 1:56:45.400 that have been said about the topic. 1:56:45.520 --> 1:56:48.840 You guys are discussing the anonymous email. 1:56:49.200 --> 1:56:52.200 Oh yeah, laws reading think that one is tough because 1:56:52.200 --> 1:56:54.720 it's like I see his point a trillion percent, but 1:56:54.760 --> 1:56:58.200 I also know those are significant people in their lives, 1:56:58.240 --> 1:57:00.760 and so that's what you guys are doing. Well delicate combo. 1:57:01.360 --> 1:57:03.720 Yeah I'm getting married. Forget what the original point was, 1:57:03.760 --> 1:57:04.600 but congrats to you. 1:57:04.960 --> 1:57:07.640 Yeah, thank you. Sherman and I we were hedging. We're like, yeah, 1:57:07.640 --> 1:57:11.280 well we know that the hedge was just like we 1:57:11.360 --> 1:57:13.280 only know what he's writing in. 1:57:13.880 --> 1:57:16.560 Oh for sure, for sure, I think he's looking for 1:57:16.600 --> 1:57:19.240 help from us and I thought the email itself, I 1:57:19.240 --> 1:57:21.720 thought was really worded in a way of like here's 1:57:21.800 --> 1:57:24.600 the situation. It's not really much biased to it. Like 1:57:24.600 --> 1:57:26.800 I can I can feel the tensity. H Yeah, there's 1:57:26.840 --> 1:57:28.240 a lot of angles you can go. The biggest one 1:57:28.280 --> 1:57:28.960 is communication. 1:57:29.320 --> 1:57:32.280 Yeah, yeah, starting to step one, just starting with wifey, Yeah, 1:57:32.440 --> 1:57:33.880 get one email the show, step two. 1:57:34.600 --> 1:57:38.240 And if there's anything about this podcast that I've learned 1:57:38.320 --> 1:57:45.000 is that, like everybody has opinions on really difficult stuff 1:57:45.040 --> 1:57:48.480 to talk about. And so like with in laws, there 1:57:48.560 --> 1:57:51.280 is probably somebody listening to the show right now going 1:57:52.200 --> 1:57:56.040 this this guy's freaking out over nothing, like my mom 1:57:56.120 --> 1:57:58.680 lives at our house or you know, blah blah blah, Like. 1:57:58.840 --> 1:58:00.960 Somebody might not have any laws. It's like, man, what 1:58:01.040 --> 1:58:03.440 a blessing it is? Heaving in what a but yeah. 1:58:03.920 --> 1:58:07.280 Are stayed with us for two months there, Cat's parents 1:58:07.320 --> 1:58:09.280 stayed with us, and it was awesome. But we knew 1:58:09.320 --> 1:58:12.440 the time, and we had a conversation up front before 1:58:12.520 --> 1:58:15.480 about if it extends, here's what needs to happen. If 1:58:15.480 --> 1:58:19.120 it's shortened, here's what needs to happen. So communication, good colms, 1:58:19.160 --> 1:58:21.880 good coms. It's all calmed and you're right too. It's 1:58:21.920 --> 1:58:24.600 like somebody lays up something where they're seeking advice. We're 1:58:24.640 --> 1:58:28.160 not like an advice giving show on a on a 1:58:28.200 --> 1:58:29.920 lot of a lot of things. We just kind of 1:58:29.920 --> 1:58:31.720 talk about what goes on in our lives and in 1:58:31.760 --> 1:58:33.960 our worlds. Yeah, that's one where it's like there could 1:58:33.960 --> 1:58:35.440 be so many different opinions. 1:58:35.680 --> 1:58:37.160 Yeah. 1:58:37.240 --> 1:58:39.520 And then also that selfish part of him that probably 1:58:39.520 --> 1:58:42.000 wants to hear that that's that's fucking crazy. 1:58:42.200 --> 1:58:44.520 You're right, yeah, that is like you want to get 1:58:44.520 --> 1:58:47.040 in the garage back, yo, that's fucking the nuts, man, 1:58:47.080 --> 1:58:48.240 Like for another month? 1:58:48.320 --> 1:58:51.880 Are you fucking giddy? She does let you take your 1:58:51.920 --> 1:58:55.160 shut off in the living room. Yeah, and she overstays 1:58:55.200 --> 1:58:58.280 that that's bullshit. You're right for being pissed off. That's 1:58:58.360 --> 1:59:03.000 your house, man, that's your house. You're the man at 1:59:03.000 --> 1:59:05.640 that house. She's trying to push you around. 1:59:06.480 --> 1:59:08.120 You're gonna let her do that in your house. 1:59:08.240 --> 1:59:12.520 Man, Just drink a lot of stuff that make you burpy, 1:59:12.720 --> 1:59:14.680 lot of stuff that make you fat, and just kind 1:59:14.680 --> 1:59:15.720 of hang around it. 1:59:16.160 --> 1:59:17.320 My wife would never. 1:59:17.240 --> 1:59:21.360 Do something like that, Like I know how I'd handle it, 1:59:21.440 --> 1:59:23.880 but my wife wouldn't even go there because she knows 1:59:25.240 --> 1:59:32.640 I got a trade. I gotta I nipped that real quick. Yeah, 1:59:32.800 --> 1:59:35.640 I've heard about that whole thing. I nipped that real quick. 1:59:36.680 --> 1:59:38.680 There you go. We gave you that. Ye give you 1:59:38.720 --> 1:59:44.040 that too. There you go. Good said great, So did 1:59:44.080 --> 1:59:45.520 you the brave? Yeah? 1:59:45.640 --> 1:59:51.000 Updated the brave to be the brave? Will had an 1:59:51.000 --> 1:59:52.960 al Teimer. By the way, I heard a lot of 1:59:53.040 --> 1:59:54.120 laughter that was like. 1:59:54.080 --> 1:59:57.040 What was the ald timer to hit the bongstead of 1:59:57.240 --> 2:00:00.400 hit the gong and hit the dog. Oh he it's 2:00:00.400 --> 2:00:03.840 a hit the bond. He's sick. Hey, you want to 2:00:03.920 --> 2:00:05.240 hit the lesson? You want to hit the lesson? 2:00:05.320 --> 2:00:08.640 We can roll, yes, sir, I already kind of said, 2:00:08.720 --> 2:00:10.440 mind of the why do we fall? 2:00:10.920 --> 2:00:13.400 To learn how to get back up? But oh just 2:00:13.680 --> 2:00:14.480 a simple quote. 2:00:14.520 --> 2:00:17.880 That was my simple quote by what's the butler's name 2:00:19.040 --> 2:00:22.160 in Batman? Oh my gosh, yeah, Alfred Alfred. 2:00:22.800 --> 2:00:25.040 I got one here from the Daily Dad. I got 2:00:25.040 --> 2:00:29.360 to have a awesome subscription that you can subscribe to 2:00:29.480 --> 2:00:33.640 via email. This one came across a few days ago, 2:00:33.680 --> 2:00:37.160 but it's around like time being fleeting. Obviously, you know 2:00:37.160 --> 2:00:39.440 that sometime were on their late teens early twenties, they'll 2:00:39.480 --> 2:00:42.000 move out obviously, you know that in their mid teens, 2:00:42.040 --> 2:00:46.040 they're probably they'll probably start driving. These are big milestones, 2:00:46.120 --> 2:00:49.240 moments when you suddenly, heartbreakingly you'll get to see so 2:00:49.400 --> 2:00:52.280 much less of them because they'll be independent, because they'll 2:00:52.320 --> 2:00:56.720 be in control. But maybe probably this will all happen 2:00:56.800 --> 2:01:00.040 even sooner than you think, Well before they're sixteen, and 2:01:00.040 --> 2:01:02.040 they'll be riding their bike to their friend's houses. Well 2:01:02.080 --> 2:01:05.720 before sixteen, they'll be basically living at their friend's houses. 2:01:06.720 --> 2:01:08.920 We all wrongly think of these milestones as point of 2:01:08.920 --> 2:01:12.200 our kids, as points of our kids will reach some day, 2:01:12.480 --> 2:01:16.360 as opposed to transitions that are already ongoing. We all 2:01:16.360 --> 2:01:18.160 think we have more time than we do. We are 2:01:18.160 --> 2:01:21.880 losing our children right now. They are moving out and 2:01:22.080 --> 2:01:24.879 on as you read this, they are pulling away, becoming 2:01:24.880 --> 2:01:28.280 independent from the very moment they start to crawl. Don't 2:01:28.320 --> 2:01:32.160 fool yourself. You're not losing You're not losing them someday 2:01:32.160 --> 2:01:34.320 in the future. You are, in fact losing them now 2:01:34.400 --> 2:01:37.320 every day. It's ongoing. So be present, be here with 2:01:37.360 --> 2:01:40.560 them in the moment, every moment. They're growing up before 2:01:40.560 --> 2:01:47.400 your eyes. Make sure you see it. Boom and he 2:01:47.440 --> 2:01:54.320 talks about this medallion, tempest fugit, fujit a tempes fugit. Yeah, 2:01:54.720 --> 2:01:59.240 appreciating the fleeting time aayway, Just another one, just to 2:01:59.440 --> 2:02:01.280 remind ever out there, we all got kids growing up, 2:02:01.280 --> 2:02:03.000 we all got things going on, we all got stresses 2:02:03.000 --> 2:02:06.600 in our lives. Yeah, enjoy all the little moments, man, 2:02:07.120 --> 2:02:09.879 enjoy them. Uh maybe for Everlea. 2:02:10.080 --> 2:02:13.400 Some pink cards, just to shout out everly in the comments. 2:02:13.560 --> 2:02:15.400 Pink cards, man, some pink cards. 2:02:16.080 --> 2:02:20.520 Bong maybe if there's a bong emoj the bog in there. 2:02:22.160 --> 2:02:26.640 I love you guys. They got your trash