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Speaker 1: HM. The hiring manager where I have an interview is

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Speaker 1: someone I fired last year.

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Speaker 3: That's a weird power complex.

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Speaker 1: I thirty female hired a girl thirty female over the summer.

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Speaker 1: She didn't make it through her probationary period. She came

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Speaker 1: highly recommended by her references. She was a fast learner,

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Speaker 1: had worked through a merger and helped it go through seamlessly.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user Throwaway, a job seeker,

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Speaker 1: to the r slash Okay Storytime subbured it. I'm Dakota, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Riley, I'm Carly, and we are here to.

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Speaker 1: Give good advice. Goofly, but we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 1: We only know what we'd do, so tell us what

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Speaker 1: you would do in the comments. As Op says, she

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Speaker 1: was terrible at her job with my company then fired

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Speaker 1: her on her eighty ninth day. Mmm, fair you hired

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Speaker 1: her the day before her probationary period ended.

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Speaker 3: It's a tactic, nothing personal.

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Speaker 1: On her exit interview, she stated that she felt she

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Speaker 1: had been poorly trained and that MY temper made her

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Speaker 1: worried about asking for further training, stating that I blew

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Speaker 1: up on her when she asked for clarification on something

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Speaker 1: a few weeks in. She then packed her things and

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Speaker 1: left without so much as another word.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so I see flaws on both sides here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm starting to I found out through a mutual

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Speaker 1: friend the day she was fired, she was offered her

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Speaker 1: job back with a three dollars an hour raise and

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Speaker 1: added responsibilities, despite having quit just days into her two weeks. Notice, Okay, buddy,

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Speaker 1: you can't pull that because you did the scumbag move

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Speaker 1: of firing her the day before she became an actual employee.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that was probably a rug pull type

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Speaker 1: of move. Doesn't sound like you were like, hey, I

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Speaker 1: just want to make sure that you can thrive here

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Speaker 1: and blah blah blah, and it's like, you know, you've

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Speaker 1: got twenty more days of your probationary period. I think

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Speaker 1: you really have to prove you know that you're an

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Speaker 1: asset here. I doubt you did any of that. I

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Speaker 1: think you pulled the rug out from under her on

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Speaker 1: the eighty ninth day.

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Speaker 3: Doesn't sound like you're a good manager, honestly, are you?

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Speaker 3: Are you working with people? Are you working people? That's

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Speaker 3: the question I always ask myself.

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Speaker 1: Boom boom boom.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes you get to work, that's fun.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, well, my boss had to lay us all

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Speaker 1: off because of recent events. When I called and got

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Speaker 1: an interview, the woman who spoke to me said that

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Speaker 1: the hiring manager slash trainer would be seeing me in

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Speaker 1: the office despite it being closed and everyone working remotely.

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Speaker 1: I was given her name, and I instantly felt sick

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Speaker 1: because it was her.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh.

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize the company had changed their name since

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Speaker 1: I had seen her resume.

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Speaker 3: Dang, what comes around usually gets put on your back?

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Speaker 1: Yeah no, no, no, no, comes back, comes back around.

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Speaker 3: That's not how I heard it.

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Speaker 1: Come around the back? Should I even go to the interview?

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Speaker 1: I admit I do have a pretty bad temper that

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Speaker 1: she had witnessed within days of being hired. But I

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Speaker 1: was great at my job. It doesn't sound like it.

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Speaker 1: I know her company is desperately hiring workers to meet

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Speaker 3: Mmm. I think I say that's someone with the worst

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Speaker 3: temper ever, and everyone can say here that I have

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Speaker 3: a pretty bad temper. To go for it.

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Speaker 1: You said you haven't bad temper.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, don't I no, Okay, thank god, I was

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Speaker 3: just using I was just using that as I don't

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Speaker 3: even know. Okay, it was like wre toimes, like what

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Speaker 3: are you talking at?

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Speaker 1: I think I don't even know when I've seen you

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I haven't used that one yet.

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Speaker 1: I forgot.

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Speaker 3: I could pull that cord, the healing cord. But I

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Speaker 3: think you should go, and I think you could also.

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Speaker 3: I think you could say, hey, I've noticed in the

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Speaker 3: past my temper and I really want to change that,

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Speaker 3: and I feel like this place will give me a

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Speaker 3: clean stight. I think you can work the hiring process.

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Speaker 3: I love the US.

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Speaker 1: I think you should just go in there and face

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Speaker 1: the freaking music, and then you should go there and

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Speaker 1: see what happens.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, but it'll.

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Speaker 1: Being scared, you'll being a little scandy cat. Oh do

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Speaker 1: I even go? What if she doesn't like me? You know,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't like you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you probably aren't gonna get hired, but you need

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Speaker 3: a job, so Carly.

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Speaker 4: You going, yeah, just to see what happens.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for the for the drama.

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Speaker 1: For the update, we've got some comments. Comment one says

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Speaker 1: there's also some useful commentary where this was shared on

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Speaker 1: Twitter Relationship advice. One of the biggest things is that

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Speaker 1: a person on their probationary period needs support, which you

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Speaker 1: gave the opposite of showing your temper and feedback to improve.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like all you gave was criticism, waiting purposefully until

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Speaker 1: the last possible day to fire with no consequences, and

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Speaker 1: then blaming her for leaving a couple days into her

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Speaker 1: two weeks notice after you fired her. Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 1: you live in a fantasy world. The fact that she

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Speaker 1: was immediately re hired with a raise while you're unemployed

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Speaker 1: gives you no place to have the gall to say

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Speaker 1: she was a bad fit. She outlasted you. The company

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Speaker 1: she's exactly what they want and need, and you're still

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Speaker 1: blaming your bad training on her fit. Go to the

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Speaker 1: job interview. It will go one of four ways. Also,

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Speaker 1: I think this person is a little confused and thinks

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Speaker 1: that she got rehired to the original company that she

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Speaker 1: by OP, went back to her old company immediately and

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Speaker 1: they gave her a raise. Is that right? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: That part, Yeah, that's what I thought.

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Speaker 1: That's what happened. And I think for some real Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that must have got crossed up for the commentary or us.

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Speaker 1: We never know because everyone got laid off at that's

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Speaker 1: why OPS. That's right. So she's a hiring manager, she's

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Speaker 3: That makes sense anyway.

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Speaker 1: So you go to the job interview. It will go

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Speaker 1: one of four ways. The good ending is you reflected

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Speaker 1: and she has more integrity than you and gives you

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Speaker 1: a chance to prove change. Two is the petty ending.

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Speaker 1: How you do in the job interview barely matters. You

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Speaker 1: are capable enough to be hired, but the plan is

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Speaker 1: to accumulate evidence for a justifiable or not because who

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Speaker 1: cares firing on your eighty ninth day. Three is the

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Speaker 1: bad ending. You never had a shot at hiring from

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Speaker 1: any number of reasons, maybe mishandling the interview, maybe your temper.

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Speaker 1: Maybe your inability to tell the difference between a good

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Speaker 1: is willing to give you a fair shot that you

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Speaker 1: barely gave to her, but you insist on your bs

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Speaker 1: of talking down to her, calling your peer a girl

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Speaker 1: acting like temper is justifiable in a workplace and generally

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Speaker 1: make your toxicity other people's problems because you haven't grown up. Oh,

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Speaker 1: per response, she's not with my company but her previous employer.

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Speaker 3: Well, those literally you five years ago. I know no job.

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Speaker 1: I know my company went under due to the vid

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Speaker 1: cough cough, fizz fizz. I mean no, that's PLoP PLoP. Nevermind.

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Speaker 3: I love the part where they were like, oh, hopefully

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Speaker 3: this works out. They just they just came there to

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Speaker 3: went to Reddit just to waste time.

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Speaker 1: Come in to Maybe this experience will teach you how

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Speaker 1: to treat people in positions below you. You never know

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Speaker 1: when those people might one day be above you, and

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Speaker 1: you will regret having behaved so awfully. Comment three. He

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Speaker 1: sincerely apologize for your actions. This is karma and we

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Speaker 1: have the update. Folks. I think she got hired.

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Speaker 3: She got hired and then was put as an assistant.

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Speaker 3: So this person can torment them every.

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Speaker 1: Day, I think so, And they won't. They'll just be

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Speaker 1: like a good boss. Probably.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I've had to like go through the parts of

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Speaker 3: with people, it's not gonna work out intertwined. Yeah, like

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Speaker 3: assuming they work at a factory, so the chemistry aspect

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Speaker 1: Why you went to the factory.

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Speaker 3: Immediately, they're hiring a lot of people and they're needing jobs.

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Speaker 3: That's my thought. She is a hiring manager. That means

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Speaker 4: I've worked at a lot of places that have hiring

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Speaker 1: free sponsor. Okay, what we have an update? I don't update.

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Speaker 1: Two days later, I got a lot of good feedback

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Speaker 1: and you guys are right.

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Speaker 3: Wait time out, Opie said, we were right. This is

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Speaker 3: a huge step for this person. Holy goal.

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Speaker 1: Think it could be I did let my temper get

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Speaker 1: She asked me basic interview questions, and then she asked

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Speaker 3: How did I call that?

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Speaker 1: Honestly? Bro Like if I hear you say that I'm

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Speaker 1: not giving you the job. Yeah, No, to be like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I had a when I realized you were interviewing me.

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Speaker 1: I had a sudden wake up call in the last

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Speaker 1: day and a half that I really should work on it,

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Speaker 1: and I have been. It's like you were almost there

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Speaker 1: and you almost had.

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Speaker 3: It, Loki. If you tell a story about how you're

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Speaker 3: gonna change your temper, that could work. Like, Oh, I

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Speaker 3: Job in it, I'm jobbing it. My employee quit after

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Speaker 3: Like a mental one. It's not like a I can't

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Speaker 3: I'm losing us.

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Speaker 4: He read it online, but it said something else because

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Speaker 1: It's like this whole time you've been diabetic.

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Speaker 3: That's good. Oh man. These are all things which they

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Speaker 1: Know, ALU drop eighteen big ones you think I can?

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Speaker 1: Is there anything I can do to not have to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like there's got to be some sort

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Speaker 1: of recourse with the government here where it's like, yeah,

442
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Speaker 1: I did all this stuff to be in accordance with

443
00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:38,639
Speaker 1: like whatever they needed, and then they just left. Is

444
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Speaker 1: there any dello? Is there any can I be compensated

445
00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:42,520
Speaker 1: in any way for that?

446
00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,679
Speaker 3: So it seems like she was hired in August or September.

447
00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:48,119
Speaker 3: Never once did she mention that she was leaving a

448
00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:51,920
Speaker 3: November work finished on the tenth of November. She resigned

449
00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:55,520
Speaker 3: on Friday the twenty first, without any notice. I don't

450
00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,040
Speaker 3: want to sound spiteful, but is there any way I

451
00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:01,560
Speaker 3: can reclaim any of these costs? The disabled bathroom had

452
00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:06,159
Speaker 3: to be widened and have special rails fitted to accommodate them. Additionally,

453
00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,800
Speaker 3: a special desk was purchased for them, and break room

454
00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:12,920
Speaker 3: counters were lowered. None of these sayings actually benefit any

455
00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,680
Speaker 3: of my other staff members who aren't disabled. The whole

456
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:18,440
Speaker 3: budget that would have gone on Christmas bonuses has been

457
00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:22,160
Speaker 3: completely blown on someone who wasn't even intending to stay

458
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Speaker 3: with us. I do have emails from the staff member

459
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Speaker 3: to her friend where she discussed moving back with her

460
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Speaker 3: family in Cornwall and her plans. It's crystal clear that

461
00:20:31,119 --> 00:20:33,679
Speaker 3: she was intending to leave in November. I've got that

462
00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:36,480
Speaker 3: in writing. It's worth noting that one reason behind these

463
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,040
Speaker 3: high costs was I had to pay a premium to

464
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Speaker 3: get the work done quickly. While this was happening, I

465
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Speaker 3: permitted this staff member to work from home as and

466
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Speaker 3: when they needed to, in line with their disabilities. I

467
00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:50,840
Speaker 3: never required them to come into the office until the

468
00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:52,560
Speaker 3: accommodation work was done.

469
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Speaker 1: Why.

470
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Speaker 3: I just want to say, you were very thoughtful in this,

471
00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:56,760
Speaker 3: and this is quite a pickle.

472
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Speaker 1: A pickle we found. I don't know. I think I

473
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 1: assume them. Yeah, if you can try to recoup any

474
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:04,639
Speaker 1: of it, be like, dude, you like you had me

475
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,119
Speaker 1: do all this stuff. You were only gonna work here

476
00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:09,480
Speaker 1: for three months, and you had me spend everyone's Christmas

477
00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 1: bonuses on accommodations for you that you don't need because

478
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:16,920
Speaker 1: you knew you were leaving. Yeah, it's like what we're

479
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 1: talking about.

480
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Speaker 3: I would like to know what this work is because

481
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 3: you can now have someone else that's disabled. If it's

482
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Speaker 3: like primarily not a physical labor job.

483
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, I mean, something could be worked out

484
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:28,919
Speaker 1: where it's like, okay, well, if you can't really access

485
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Speaker 1: to office, Like maybe we get you a remote position

486
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Speaker 1: or something. I don't know what the work is, but

487
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:35,879
Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, if you're gonna blow eighteen grand on somebody,

488
00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:38,720
Speaker 1: it's because you're expecting them to be around for a while,

489
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 1: not because you know it's like, oh, yeah, for sure

490
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:45,360
Speaker 1: a couple months, two and a half months, we've met Cornwall.

491
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Speaker 1: You're a cornball for that, bro.

492
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Speaker 3: Yeah, that just says, honestly, you need to consult a

493
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Speaker 3: lawyer about all of this. Yeah, talk to a lawyer.

494
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Speaker 3: I think that's the best first move to do. At

495
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Speaker 3: other occupational lawyers, Carly, what like occupational lawyers are like

496
00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:04,520
Speaker 3: disability occupational lawyers.

497
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Speaker 4: Lawyers that will specialize in that kind of stuff.

498
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 3: Lawyers always be specializing.

499
00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 1: It's something I need to get a crime lawyer?

500
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:12,920
Speaker 3: What what what crime has?

501
00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:17,640
Speaker 1: Following Batman vigilantheism, Anonymous was just here.

502
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 3: I need to get a crime doctor too, crime doctor.

503
00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 3: I mean sorry, crime lawyer, crime lawyer.

504
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:23,600
Speaker 1: Crime doctor?

505
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:26,479
Speaker 3: You like a mafia doctor because someone stole my heart.

506
00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 1: What do they call a mafia doctor? A bit binarian? Hey,

507
00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:32,359
Speaker 1: because they don't care. They don't go to the doctor.

508
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,159
Speaker 1: They go to the vet. Oh yeah, I remember that

509
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:36,720
Speaker 1: because they don't go to hospital.

510
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Speaker 3: I was just thinking of that one scene in Godfather

511
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,920
Speaker 3: where Vet probably had to help out. Yes, sure, Wow,

512
00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 3: Whitney has some insights here. All right, that's too much.

513
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Speaker 3: I can't read that.

514
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Speaker 4: I was I was scrolling to read something on my own.

515
00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 4: I was pointing that out.

516
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Speaker 3: Cool. So we got some relevant comments here. People probably

517
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,360
Speaker 3: give us some insights. Come to one. So was this

518
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Speaker 3: a job that could have been done from home? He says,

519
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Speaker 3: not fully operate on a third three to two what.

520
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 1: Day office two days at home? Probably hybrid.

521
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,119
Speaker 3: We operate on a hybrid model of three days in

522
00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 3: the office to at home. She was fully remote given

523
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,400
Speaker 3: her disability with staff in the office picking up things

524
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 3: she couldn't do remotely. Commoner two, It doesn't seem like

525
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,160
Speaker 3: a crime has been committed here, not even a civil one.

526
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 3: They haven't misrepresented anything, nor entered into a contract that

527
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Speaker 3: require them to pay for it. You have done everything

528
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Speaker 3: in line with the EQ Act twenty ten. Editor's Note

529
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Speaker 3: The UK UK Act the Equality Act twenty ten legally

530
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 3: protects people from discrimeration in the workplace and in wider society.

531
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Speaker 3: I'm not getting any of that here. I don't move

532
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 3: to the UK. I get discriminated every day.

533
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Speaker 1: Riley read this word.

534
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Speaker 4: You don't have an official diagnosis.

535
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:51,920
Speaker 3: Wow, and they make fun of me for not figuring

536
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 3: out how to get one. Sorry, it's hard to read

537
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 3: notes and give it to people to ride on them. Bro,

538
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 3: you know how you got what doctor's notes?

539
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Speaker 4: You've gotta go to It is making you write the

540
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:02,159
Speaker 4: doctor's notes.

541
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Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry, it's all the online research I've looked at.

542
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 3: It's a little hard to.

543
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: Guy drinking pooch in the woods you say, yeah, write

544
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Speaker 1: whatever you want.

545
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, those are a little harder to find than you

546
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 3: would think. You could write.

547
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 1: Ooch doctors in the woods. Yeah, you're gonna have to

548
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,360
Speaker 1: go deep into the appellations for those boys.

549
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Speaker 3: You could write this off as renovations and put it

550
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Speaker 3: in your job advertisement disability friendly office, lift, disabled toilet,

551
00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 3: et cetera, et cetera. And if you sell the building,

552
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 3: if it is yours cell later down the line, you

553
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 3: could advertise that as a part of the cell. That's true,

554
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 3: most likely most likely Avenue I'll go down.

555
00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can just recoup your investment in you know,

556
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 1: the future sale of your assets.

557
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Speaker 3: I'm just furious and upset right now. The whole team

558
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 3: and I bent over backwards for her. She used it

559
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,119
Speaker 3: once when I told her the renovations were complete and

560
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 3: she needed to start working the hybrid model of three

561
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 3: days in office, two days at home with the colleagues.

562
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Speaker 3: Then she just left. She really put me and her

563
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:14,400
Speaker 3: colleagues under immense pressure to accommodate her. Her teammates had

564
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 3: to do things that needed doing around the office. They

565
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 3: drive stuff out to her house when she asked for it.

566
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Speaker 3: We're all just disgusted by her behavior.

567
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Speaker 1: I mean, it really sounds like she could have just

568
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Speaker 1: stayed remote the entire time. Yeah, especially if she would

569
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 1: have just told you she's going back to Cornwall in November.

570
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:32,360
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, then we'll just keep you on as

571
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 1: remote until you're done working here. Why would we redo

572
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,119
Speaker 1: the entire building, you know, not the whole building, but

573
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 1: you know, why would we do like eighteen thousand pounds

574
00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:44,440
Speaker 1: worth of renovations when you're not going to work here

575
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Speaker 1: and you can do your job remote.

576
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Coming to three emphasis on the reasonable adjustments. If

577
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 3: OP didn't think they were reasonable, it should have been

578
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 3: said when they were requested as the employee has been

579
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 3: working from home for several months as needed, that could

580
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 3: have been made a long term Marie adjustment versus the

581
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 3: costly adjustments in office. I assume Opie has a reason

582
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 3: for this, but I can't think what it would These

583
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:09,439
Speaker 3: aren't even words.

584
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: But I work for home Home PRN CORN work from

585
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: home corn? That is this? What this is? Professional research?

586
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 1: What is this? I don't know?

587
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 2: Is this?

588
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:24,119
Speaker 3: Is this a corn side? Are we talking about a cornsi?

589
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 5: No?

590
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 1: No, no, no no no.

591
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 4: It means as the situation, It means pro as the

592
00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 4: situation arises.

593
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 3: But I can't think of what it would be if

594
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 3: w f H p r N has been managed successfully

595
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 3: for her so long, Opie says her colleagues have been

596
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 3: doing the parts of her job that need to be

597
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 3: done in the office. The agreement was that she'd be

598
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 3: back on a three days in office tays at home

599
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 3: when the renovations were complete. Opie explains more about the

600
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 3: emails between the staff member and her friend about moving,

601
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:04,479
Speaker 3: the adjustments on the office and the Christmas bonuses. Oh,

602
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 3: the emails were sent out on our office outlook system

603
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 3: supplied by a staff member she was friends with who

604
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,120
Speaker 3: is now furious at her because the exmis bonus has

605
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 3: been spent on this. I usually give all my staff

606
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 3: one thousand pounds to two thousand pounds extra at Christmas,

607
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 3: depending on how well we do. This nonsense has left

608
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,439
Speaker 3: us with no spare cash to do anything more than

609
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 3: maybe fifty pounds each. I'm furious and embarrassed about this.

610
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 3: Fifteen staff members are going without a one thousand pounds

611
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 3: Christmas bonus because she lied that we needed these accommodations made.

612
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 3: I have email receipts proving she was never going to

613
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,439
Speaker 3: be using them. In September, she sent an email to

614
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 3: her friend confirming she was going to Cornwall in November.

615
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 3: Despite this, she kept pushing for adjustments to be made

616
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 3: during this time and stated she could not come into

617
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 3: the office until they were complete. She never mentioned to

618
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,159
Speaker 3: me once that she was going to be leaving. I

619
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 3: have an idea, guys, We're gonna do a car wash

620
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:07,159
Speaker 3: raising money for the disabled, and then use all that

621
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 3: money you spent for bonuses for people because you are

622
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:13,399
Speaker 3: basically in a way paying for renovations in the office.

623
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Speaker 4: So you want them to work for their Christmas bone, so.

624
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: You're pro it would be a team effort. It would

625
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: be working extra okay, but it's gonna be fun. How

626
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:25,200
Speaker 1: hot is the car wash? It's in the UK, It's Christmas,

627
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 1: it's gonna be so cold.

628
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 3: Okay, we're gonna shovel for people wash.

629
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,680
Speaker 4: I'm not doing any manual labor for my job.

630
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: I don't want Christmas.

631
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 3: What about cooking cooks?

632
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: So gross? Bro, like this, this person clearly was on

633
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 1: some sort of like power trip, yeah, or like, I

634
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 1: don't know, power trip is the thing that makes the

635
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 1: most sense.

636
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 4: I'm curious how they had been getting treated in the

637
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 4: office though, because this to me seems like it was

638
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 4: coming from something that we're not seeing.

639
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 1: I don't even think they were treated anyway in the office,

640
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 1: cause I don't think they were in the office.

641
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 3: I think they were doing remote and LP wants them

642
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 3: to be in the office is because they don't want

643
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 3: to be like, oh, you have disability, you have to

644
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 3: work from home, and they would to be accommodating in

645
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 3: that way. And then she's like, well, I can't work

646
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 3: in the office till you do these things, which is

647
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 3: and then just like when it's like it doesn't matter

648
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 3: because you're only going to be here for three months.

649
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 3: Well that was hidden though, right.

650
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 4: He's like complaining, Oh, the other employees have to pick

651
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 4: up slack because you're working from home. It's like, well, yeah,

652
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 4: that's her accommodation. Is the other employees with the stuff.

653
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: The whole reason that was a problem is because she

654
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 1: didn't say she was leaving, so op's working on the

655
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: assumption that's like, this is the situation forever.

656
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 4: So it was just going to be the situation for

657
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 4: three months, not part. But it's like it could have

658
00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 4: very easily just been like, oh, yeah, this is this

659
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 4: is the accommodation for her working from home.

660
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, like that Tom out what you smel scam? Yeah,

661
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,560
Speaker 3: hear me out hear me? I think I'm gonna hear you.

662
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 3: You got it? I think, so what is it?

663
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 1: What is if I line up? I think, who knows?

664
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Speaker 1: Maybe she's in with the contracting company that does all

665
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 1: this stuff. I'm I mean it's a stretch, but like,

666
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 1: are they mased in cornwall?

667
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 3: Oh it looks like the job's gonna be done at

668
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Speaker 3: the end of October. I'm gonna leave in November. Find

669
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Speaker 3: another job that needs to meet these requirements. God a

670
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 3: little sloppy though. If that's the reason. But that's that's

671
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,719
Speaker 3: all the tame. Yeah, it's I mean, cause like if

672
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,440
Speaker 3: you've been doing it'd be pretty hard to keep that

673
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 3: anonymous though, you know.

674
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Speaker 4: Like the same company gets hired.

675
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, how do you control like that they even pick

676
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 1: the company that you know? Maybe just you know who knows.

677
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,160
Speaker 3: Well, she's a pro. She she knows they're pros, the.

678
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 1: Pros over there in Cornwall. Hey, it's sam og host.

679
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Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to these delectable stories. But here's

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681
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Speaker 3: All right. Coming to four, why didn't you just let

683
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 3: them permanently work remote? You did this to yourself by

684
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 3: requiring them to report to the office. No ope, he says,

685
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 3: because her colleagues were having to do the aspects of

686
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,719
Speaker 3: her job on her site that she wasn't coming in for.

687
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Speaker 3: She also used to work in office full time previs

688
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 3: She was one employee who refused to move hybrid with

689
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 3: the others. Comment to five says, just to be a

690
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 3: little different here, just want to say what an effort,

691
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 3: lots of time, money and effort, and for what feels

692
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,719
Speaker 3: right now, for nothing, lots of good advice here, but

693
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 3: just want to validate your feelings of frustration and bewilderment.

694
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 3: Let's hope they don't ask for a reference. This definitely

695
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 3: feels unfair. Hopefully a lot of the work can be

696
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 3: tax deductible. Maybe hope, He says, Yeah, it's all business expense.

697
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 3: I'd still rather have given that money to my staff, though,

698
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 3: I feel like complete crap not giving Christmas bonus this year.

699
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 3: That's why I'm up at two am looking to see

700
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 3: what I can do. I can probably manage two hundred

701
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 3: pounds each from my personal savings, and I'll add on

702
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 3: add on some extra by taking her payroll, maybe five

703
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 3: hundred pounds if I'm lucky. Okay, cool, you probably could

704
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 3: comment six says you are out of luck. Then sounds

705
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 3: like the job can be just done as easily from

706
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Speaker 3: home and at your arbitrary of demand, and to make

707
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 3: someone work from an office is a sevteen thousand pound

708
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 3: how do you seventeen thousand pounds? Yeah, and your arbitrary

709
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:15,480
Speaker 3: demand to make someone work from an office instead is

710
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 3: a seventeen thousand pound mistake on your part. It's tough

711
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 3: to feel sorry for you because of all of this.

712
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 3: Could have been avoided if you would simply acted reasonable

713
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 3: to begin.

714
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Speaker 1: No comment or you're wrong, this person is acting under

715
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 1: the assumption this person gonna be working here for a

716
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Speaker 1: long time.

717
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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, commenter, here you go, you're oh, go ahead

718
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Speaker 3: to garthen.

719
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Speaker 4: No, because my thing is, though, like when it came

720
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Speaker 4: down to, like, okay, I will be working here for

721
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Speaker 4: a long time. If those accommodations were too much to

722
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 4: put in. The other accommodation is you can keep working

723
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 4: at home and I don't have to do any of

724
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 4: this contracting work and I can just pay one person

725
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 4: a little bit more for having to do the other

726
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 4: little things in the office. True, but like there wasn't

727
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 4: that need to do it because there was the workaround

728
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 4: that she can work from home. But which is how

729
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 4: he's going to get screwed of not getting that money back.

730
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Speaker 3: That's true, But I think reading ope here, he's a

731
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 3: team player and he wants us, he wants this team

732
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Speaker 3: to be with him because he's really upset that he's

733
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Speaker 3: not going to be able to give his team bonuses.

734
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Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, it's just the

735
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Speaker 1: law too. If she asks it like that, he has

736
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Speaker 1: to do it.

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Speaker 4: That's the thing. If she asked, one of his valid

738
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Speaker 4: options would have just been, oh, we'll just keep you

739
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Speaker 4: remote then, But if he just.

740
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Speaker 1: Has to do with even if she even if he

741
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Speaker 1: does that as soon as she asked, then she goes, oh,

742
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 1: now I feel like I'm being made to be different

743
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Speaker 1: than the rest of my employees. Yeah, she didn't.

744
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Speaker 4: We don't know that that's what she was going to do.

745
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 3: I think that was a card.

746
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Speaker 1: I think wanted to keep working from nobody knew what

747
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 1: she was going to do. So and if she wanted

748
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: to work remote, she could have kept her job and

749
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 1: worked in freaking cornwall.

750
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Speaker 3: I don't know.

751
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Speaker 1: It's just it's weird.

752
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 3: It's like she she.

753
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 1: Kept that a secret on purpose, she planned it. It's weird,

754
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 1: and it is like it feels like something she did

755
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: to get like vengeance on somebody, because there is now

756
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 1: we know that she worked in the office full time

757
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 1: and it weren't these accommodations, and so it feels like

758
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 1: this is some sort of like fu Before she leaves.

759
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 3: Yeah sop, he says, there are aspects which can only

760
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 3: be done in person. I don't want to risk identifying

761
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 3: my business, but it can only be done partially remote,

762
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 3: even during the lockdown. We need three to four staff

763
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 3: members rotating into the site and we have an update.

764
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Speaker 3: I just think Opie is a team player and he

765
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 3: wants her to feel included on the team, and her

766
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 3: just working remote would have been like, Ah, that's not

767
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 3: It's a temporary solve, but not a full time solve,

768
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Speaker 3: because I don't want you to feel bad for being different. Yeah, Okay,

769
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Speaker 3: I don't know.

770
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Speaker 4: I just don't think that's like a valid excuse on

771
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 4: Opie's part.

772
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 3: Well, you would have saved eighteen thousand pounds.

773
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

774
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 4: I think we're missing some conversation from the story.

775
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: Basically, now I'm fully saying that the employee is entirely

776
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:52,319
Speaker 1: in the wrong. I mean like, because you guys, if

777
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 1: I was going to move out of town, I wouldn't

778
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 1: secretly do it and then leave you guys like where's Dakota.

779
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: It's like, oh no, he quit over the break we

780
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 1: lost like our host and it's like what, like what

781
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 1: do we do? Like and you guys don't even cut

782
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 1: But it's just like it's that element that's making me go, like,

783
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 1: what is what is the motivation behind doing this? And

784
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 1: I think you are right, though there is something we're missing,

785
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:17,359
Speaker 1: and I.

786
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 4: Think something's happening we're missing in the.

787
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,359
Speaker 1: Office that made her want to like screw them over.

788
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 4: I think I don't even know context.

789
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 1: I don't even know if OP knows though, because it

790
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 1: could have happened with anybody in the office.

791
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 3: What are you saying, Carly that.

792
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 4: I agree, I think something happened between OP and this employee. Though,

793
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 4: oh we didn't get that contest, got.

794
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:39,839
Speaker 3: It, guys, we got an update. Good evening, everyone, good evening.

795
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 3: Just wanted to follow up now that a little bit

796
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 3: of time has passed and I have a clear head,

797
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 3: I've consulted with a solicitor who advised there was a

798
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 3: strong case for pursuing this employee for cost. However, this

799
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 3: would be disadvantageous for pr reasons, and lined of that,

800
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 3: I've decided not to pursue them for cost at present.

801
00:35:57,680 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 3: Dany that does put a bit matter.

802
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it looks bad's and I do like

803
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: uh duchess Cassana says, I'm on the coat of side,

804
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: But I also don't think what she did was illegal.

805
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: It's just stinky. I agree, Like, I don't think what

806
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:12,879
Speaker 1: she did was illegal either, but it's like she knew

807
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:16,320
Speaker 1: exactly how to make this guy have to pay eighteen

808
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 1: grand and then left him with the bill. Like I mean,

809
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: he would have the bill regardless, but it's like it

810
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:24,759
Speaker 1: was for her the employee.

811
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 3: Like, okay, storytime, Okay, Billy Tom says team player are controlling.

812
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 3: He needs to have eyes on everyone all the time.

813
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: I think, yes, See, dude, we're talking about somebody who

814
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,840
Speaker 1: gives his employees. He's upset because he couldn't give his

815
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: employees bonuses. Yeah, and he's talking about going into his

816
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 1: personal savings. I don't think this guy's a bad boss whatsoever. No,

817
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: I don't trust he's mad because he couldn't give his

818
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 1: employees bonuses for Christmas because all of the bonus accommodation.

819
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:53,839
Speaker 4: And I think that's like the bad thing that came

820
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:55,799
Speaker 4: out of this is that, like, these people aren't going

821
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 4: to get their bonuses. That part terrible. I think it's

822
00:36:58,200 --> 00:36:59,840
Speaker 4: awful that she did that. I don't think it's all

823
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:03,439
Speaker 4: bad that his office is now disability accessible though.

824
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 1: No, but it's more of the sunk cost of like, well,

825
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 1: I did this for this employee. Yeah, yes, they pay

826
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 1: for it, but subterfuged me.

827
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 3: But he said that the reason it costs so much

828
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 3: more extra because she was like it needs to be

829
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:19,240
Speaker 3: done immediately, where.

830
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 1: She kept pushing to have it done. It's just it's

831
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 1: just so weird when you're like, nah, I'm not even

832
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 1: gonna be here, and you're like, no, you have to

833
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 1: do this. It's there's something amiss.

834
00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 4: Ye.

835
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 1: I wonder why.

836
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 4: I wonder why the coworker that she was emailing didn't

837
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:31,800
Speaker 4: say anything sooner.

838
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:35,439
Speaker 3: Yeah. Wow, I was particularly clear in my previous post,

839
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 3: but the office I was already in had a functional elevator,

840
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 3: disabled bathroom, et cetera. My employee's disability, size and weight

841
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 3: meant that they were unable to use the existing elevator

842
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,880
Speaker 3: and bathroom, which is why she specifically demanded that they'd

843
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 3: be changed. I've also seen a lot of comments and

844
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 3: got a lot of messages asking why my employee couldn't

845
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 3: just keep working from home, given that they'd been working

846
00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:02,320
Speaker 3: remotely since twenty nine. Not sure where this came from.

847
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 3: It isn't true. Our whole staff, including the employee with

848
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 3: the disability, was one hundred percent in the office before

849
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,800
Speaker 3: the VID. She was working in her office in person

850
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:15,400
Speaker 3: for years before the VID without reporting any accessibility issues.

851
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:18,359
Speaker 3: After the VID, in March twenty twenty, we all went

852
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 3: remote from three to four staff members who rotated to

853
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:24,319
Speaker 3: do the end off duties. This didn't work well and

854
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 3: we had to adopt a hybrid policy for all staff.

855
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 3: The employee with the disability was the sole one who

856
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 3: refused to return to the office. When the hybrid working

857
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:35,920
Speaker 3: was reintroduced. There were a lot of comments saying how

858
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:39,239
Speaker 3: I should have sought funding from DWP. We tried that

859
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 3: avenue at the time. Through this government scheme, there was

860
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 3: no funding for the type of adjustments that she was

861
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,880
Speaker 3: requesting to be made. Other people asked why I had

862
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 3: done nothing for five years and then rushed this through.

863
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 3: This also isn't true. During those five years, I made

864
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 3: it concerted, first time that word's ever been used in

865
00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 3: Okay Storytime history. Through those five I made a concerted

866
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 3: and continuous effort to bring staff member back into the

867
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,840
Speaker 3: office in a hybrid pattern. This staff member was not

868
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 3: the only one who required adjustments, and I have a

869
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 3: fairly large team. During this time, I engaged with this

870
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:19,279
Speaker 3: employee who had a disability, working with them, applying and

871
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:23,720
Speaker 3: inquiring with the DWP's Access to Work program, et cetera.

872
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:25,320
Speaker 3: We got a little bit more left here.

873
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,919
Speaker 1: Ah yeah, yeah, I don't know. Man.

874
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 3: Well it's a rendom call.

875
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: Just a yeah, what happened.

876
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 3: Speaking of the solicitor and showing him what we had

877
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:38,880
Speaker 3: done before, he said that it was clear my office

878
00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 3: already met the requirements under the Equality Act of twenty ten,

879
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,359
Speaker 3: with the exception of the lowered counters in the bank

880
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,280
Speaker 3: room which were installed, the improved elevator, and the wider

881
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 3: disabled bathrooms which we now have go beyond the requirements

882
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 3: of the Act. On the subject of the Christmas bonuses,

883
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 3: through a combination of no longer having to pay the

884
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:59,320
Speaker 3: employee who left and selling some of my personal stocks

885
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 3: and shares, I've been able to partially fund this year's

886
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 3: Christmas bonuses.

887
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 1: Wow, what a g Wow.

888
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 3: And Carly still doesn't trust this guy, bro, Why not?

889
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 1: What has he what?

890
00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 3: This dude wins to his savings to give them money?

891
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 1: Okay, damn noted?

892
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:18,799
Speaker 3: All right, we got we got some comments left here.

893
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:22,320
Speaker 3: That's the end of the story. Oh, p one, he replies.

894
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 3: One comment. Okay, so comment to one says, can you

895
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 3: please explain how you were going to pay the staff

896
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 3: bonuses before the staff member quit, or was your plan

897
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 3: all along to blame this staff member for the lack

898
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,399
Speaker 3: of bonuses this year, even if she had stayed. That's

899
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 3: something that wasn't clear from your last post and could

900
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 3: impact any potential litimigation. Litigation, Okay, here we go, and

901
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 3: could impact any potential legation. Just say it for me,

902
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 3: litigation and could impact any potential litigation. I didn't mouth

903
00:40:56,360 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 3: it right. You didn't. There's like a in and there

904
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 3: that's not there, Opie says. Staff are a lot more

905
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 3: accepting of not getting a bonus if it means that

906
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 3: a colleague with a disability is getting the support that

907
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 3: they need. Staff are not accepting of a colleague making demands,

908
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:15,839
Speaker 3: pushing her own work upon them, refusing to come back

909
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 3: and when everyone else did with hybrid measures and patterns,

910
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 3: and then disappearing when the company has spent seventeen pounds

911
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,799
Speaker 3: making adjustments specifically for her, Which makes sense. So it

912
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 3: sounds like you were going to pin it on her, like, oh,

913
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 3: we need get bonuses this year, but now we get

914
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 3: to have.

915
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:32,880
Speaker 4: Brittany, You're gonna pin it on her.

916
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,239
Speaker 3: We get to have Brittany in office all the time

917
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 3: now yay, Yeah, I mean maybe, uh, I don't know.

918
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:40,840
Speaker 1: I'm sure it wouldn't have been like a yeah, everyone

919
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 1: looking for your Christmas bonus, go ask her? That would

920
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: be crazy. But yeah, I don't know.

921
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 4: I feel like something's missing with this whole, Like, well,

922
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 4: now she needs disability stuff and before she didn't. Yeah,

923
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 4: things change, A giant pandemic happened. Things could have changed.

924
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 4: She could have gotten sick and she could have gotten worse. Like,

925
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 4: I don't know something, But.

926
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 1: Then what's the problem there? He did the stuff, but

927
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:06,359
Speaker 1: he was.

928
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:08,760
Speaker 4: Like being a little poop about it.

929
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 1: After she abandoned the company, after he spent eighteen grand

930
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 1: on it.

931
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 4: I think we're missing something.

932
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 3: I don't sounds like this person didn't like working there

933
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 3: and there this is they're like f you.

934
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:22,320
Speaker 1: Like why and they worked there for like five years?

935
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 3: Yeah? I thought they only worked there for.

936
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 1: You were going to Cornwall. They'd worked in the office

937
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: without any extra accommodations before. Everything in the office already

938
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 1: met the standards for the for the Act.

939
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:37,360
Speaker 3: But I figured out how to say what little gay sun,

940
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:41,320
Speaker 3: little gay son be like Liddy Liddy Gayson.

941
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 1: Geish litigation, like if someone ga, we figured.

942
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 3: It out, you know how long toime me to figure

943
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 3: out how to.

944
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 4: Oh no.

945
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 3: Start? But wow, yeah that was that was an interesting story.

946
00:42:56,719 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 3: Everyone check on your disabilities. See what you can do

947
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 3: to explore your company. And starting next week, we're gonna

948
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 3: have to have everything. All the words that are ever

949
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 3: said are gonna have to be in like like like

950
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 3: those things you know what I'm saying, like in what

951
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 3: in little in like inches in like you know how

952
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,439
Speaker 3: it's like how to pronounce it, and it like gives

953
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:15,799
Speaker 3: you I.

954
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 1: Can only read words that are one inch long.

955
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, something like that. I don't know. I'm gonnaigure out.

956
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 3: I'm gonna exploit you guys, and I'm gonna you guys

957
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 3: are gonna have to pay for it.

958
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 1: I think there is a thing though, where it's like

959
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:27,240
Speaker 1: if you space out the letters or something. I can't remember.

960
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 1: This is like a hazy memory. But I feel like

961
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:33,719
Speaker 1: there's a way to make reading easier for people with this,

962
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:35,720
Speaker 1: Like SI, it has to do with spacing the words

963
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:38,280
Speaker 1: out in a certain way or the letters.

964
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:40,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I know what you're talking about, Amy Lynn,

965
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 3: She says, honestly, being disabled, this sounds more like she

966
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 3: just didn't want to return in person and thought that

967
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:48,840
Speaker 3: they would let her stay home if she demanded accommodations,

968
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 3: but they didn't. Kind of bothers me.

969
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, but the whole thing is, it's like, if you knew,

970
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 1: if I know I'm leaving town, I'm letting my job know. Hey,

971
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be gone. I'm moving back to Cornwall in November.

972
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: So that's the plan, and maybe I just work remote

973
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 1: until then, Casey and I will be leaving the company.

974
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:10,360
Speaker 4: Listen, I don't disagree that it was a BS move

975
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:13,399
Speaker 4: and she really screwed them all over. I just think

976
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:14,360
Speaker 4: we're missing something.

977
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, I could see them. Is there another story or

978
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 3: is this it?

979
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 4: Leave another story?

980
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:20,400
Speaker 3: There is? Hey, it's John here.

981
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:21,879
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories. Put a quick

982
00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 1: three minute ad break from our sponsors that keep the

983
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:24,279
Speaker 1: show going.

984
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 2: My father stocked me at work and it got him fired.

985
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 2: Maybe he should be And this comes directly from the

986
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 2: r slash Okay storytime subred it what okay? So to

987
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:39,240
Speaker 2: explain the title, my biological father was never in the picture.

988
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 2: He knew about me and paid child support, but him

989
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,240
Speaker 2: and my mom were never together. I was a result

990
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 2: of a drunken one night stand, and he was basically irresponsible,

991
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 2: and he was basically not around, and my mom didn't

992
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 2: want me to be raised by him. By the way,

993
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 2: this comes from Tacy Archer thirty three, seventy one. And

994
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 2: if you want to smit your own stories, go to

995
00:44:58,040 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 2: the r slash Okay, storytime subred it. I'm Sophia, I'm Angie.

996
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 1: I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. Goofy.

997
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 2: But we don't know anything but what we know, So

998
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 2: let us know, you know, and maybe we'll compare notes.

999
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 3: Oh.

1000
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 2: He says he rarely wanted anything to do with me

1001
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 2: as a child, and my mom didn't go out of

1002
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 2: her way to give him updates or tell him much

1003
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:19,360
Speaker 2: about me or my life. Basically she knew he never cared.

1004
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 2: He has had many children with different women since he

1005
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 2: was sixteen. Oh my god, okay, and a couple of

1006
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,840
Speaker 2: the women, including my mom, never wanted anything to do

1007
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 2: with him. He's had criminal charges before while I was

1008
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: growing up, mostly petty theft and anything to do with

1009
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 2: Devil's lettuce, and never kept a job during my childhood.

1010
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 2: He probably stopped reaching out or sending me birthday or

1011
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 2: Christmas stuff when I was around six years old, and

1012
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 2: he started resurfacing when I was an adult a few

1013
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 2: times on Facebook. He had reached out to me and

1014
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:50,839
Speaker 2: my mom a few times, and each time I would

1015
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:52,959
Speaker 2: block him and barely read what he had to say.

1016
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:55,880
Speaker 2: The most recent attempt before this incident was when he

1017
00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 2: messaged me about three or four years ago on Father's

1018
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 2: Day asking to get to know and me Me, and

1019
00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 2: I blocked him. My mom thought maybe his existing kids

1020
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 2: weren't getting along with him, so he was desperate and

1021
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 2: trying to reach out to the kid he hadn't met yet.

1022
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:12,320
Speaker 2: He's always been a very self centered person. So let's

1023
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 2: get to what happened. I work in an office building

1024
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 2: on the top floor. One day, I had an air

1025
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 2: pod in my ear and it fell out and went

1026
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 2: down the elevator shaft. Ouch that that's tough, oh man.

1027
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 2: I knew we had building managers and asked the receptionist

1028
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 2: if he could go to the basement and find it

1029
00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:32,360
Speaker 2: for me, since I had just gotten them for Christmas

1030
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 2: from my actual dad who was there for me growing up.

1031
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 3: He did.

1032
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,799
Speaker 2: I asked what his name was and thanked him. It's

1033
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:42,360
Speaker 2: a very common. M name Marty, is that call me Supreme?

1034
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 4: That's I was seeking.

1035
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 2: Mike.

1036
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:45,720
Speaker 4: Mike.

1037
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: That's a pretty color man. Drake, Michael Wheeler. There's like

1038
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 1: no night there.

1039
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 2: At one point in my neighborhood.

1040
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 1: There were like nine mics. There's a lot of mics everywhere.

1041
00:46:54,120 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 2: I know a lot of Mikes.

1042
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, Morpheus, that's pretty common.

1043
00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:00,319
Speaker 2: Fast forward a couple of months and my mom gets

1044
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 2: a message on Facebook from him because they commented on

1045
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:05,360
Speaker 2: the same picture that was posted in a group sharing

1046
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 2: memories of a bar that doesn't exist anymore. The picture

1047
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 2: was one of their friends that passed away. Anyway. He

1048
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 2: DMed her asking if she could talk to me about

1049
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 2: meeting me.

1050
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:14,240
Speaker 1: YadA, YadA.

1051
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 2: She said she would mention it, but reiterated that it's

1052
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 2: not likely I would be interested, which was correct typical

1053
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:23,240
Speaker 2: biodad behavior. I had noticed this building manager and hanging

1054
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 2: around on my floor more after this AirPod incident, but

1055
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 2: didn't really think much of it. I asked the receptionist

1056
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 2: if he was new or something, and she confirmed that

1057
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 2: he took over for a previous building manager a few

1058
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:37,920
Speaker 2: months ago. Okay, makes sense. Our office is very high security.

1059
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 2: We have to scan badges to get to the main

1060
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,800
Speaker 2: office areas different floors, and even to get to specific

1061
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 2: floors on the elevator. I work in the legal field,

1062
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 2: so that matters because our service team is the only

1063
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 2: ones who can let anyone in if something needs repairs

1064
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:54,880
Speaker 2: or painted, or for the shredding company to pick up

1065
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 2: the shredbins. Basically, if you don't work here, you don't

1066
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 2: have access to the office, just the lobby and comference rooms.

1067
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 2: There's security on the first floor too, for mail and

1068
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 2: food deliveries and to keep the parking ramps. Say, one day,

1069
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 2: around three o'clock on what I think was a Thursday,

1070
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 2: this building manager just shows up at my cubicle. No

1071
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:13,440
Speaker 2: one was with him who would have let him in

1072
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 2: or supervised him. He had installed new carpet on the

1073
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 2: elevators that week, and I had said he did a

1074
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:19,280
Speaker 2: good job.

1075
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:21,280
Speaker 4: Thinking he was just a strange dude.

1076
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 2: Before I said that, I was feeling uncomfortable and thought

1077
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 2: I should just say something random. He kept saying, I

1078
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 2: think you'll want to talk to me. Don't you want

1079
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 2: to know who I am? We should get coffee sometime,

1080
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:34,680
Speaker 2: we should talk outside. What it's weird, really creepy I'd

1081
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 2: be like, I'd like, I'm good, I'm getting a call.

1082
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's mom.

1083
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 2: I have to come back right now.

1084
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,359
Speaker 4: Actually, I actually don't care to talk to you.

1085
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1086
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:46,719
Speaker 4: I know who you are, the building manager, that's all

1087
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 4: I need to know.

1088
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 1: You say, Oh my, I'm getting a call. Oh the

1089
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 1: police are calling me. He is a weird guy here.

1090
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1091
00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:57,640
Speaker 2: I was getting really uncomfortable and confused, saying things like

1092
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 2: I don't know, I would I, I don't know you.

1093
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:02,560
Speaker 2: I was thinking he was trying to hit on me

1094
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 2: or something, until he pulls a picture out of his

1095
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:08,800
Speaker 2: wallet of me from seventh grade. I was mortified.

1096
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: That is terrifying.

1097
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, my gosh, all the blood from my body left me.

1098
00:49:14,200 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 2: I felt sick, panicked, and trapped because obviously I was

1099
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 2: in a cubicle. Of course, I was flustered and said, oh, okay, yeah,

1100
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:25,280
Speaker 2: I get it. Sure, we can get coffee after work sometime.

1101
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:27,760
Speaker 2: How are your other kids? Aren't they parents?

1102
00:49:27,800 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 3: Now?

1103
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:30,319
Speaker 2: Like, I was clearly at a loss for words and

1104
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 2: just wanted him to go away. My coworker was a

1105
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 2: cubicle away hearing all of this, and an attorney nearby

1106
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 2: was also aware of his strange presence. My coworker and

1107
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:41,600
Speaker 2: I are close friends of about eight years, and fully

1108
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:43,880
Speaker 2: aware of what was going on, she asked if I

1109
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,800
Speaker 2: wanted her to call security over our private chat system.

1110
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:49,640
Speaker 2: Luckily I wasn't just alone in the situation, but still

1111
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 2: very much traumatized every second of his presence. I don't

1112
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 2: know how the conversation ended or how I got him

1113
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:58,680
Speaker 2: to leave. He was probably at my desk for about

1114
00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:01,919
Speaker 2: thirty minutes, telling me that I'm pretty and other things

1115
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 2: I didn't want to hear. Oh, that's terrifying. Oh, I'm

1116
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:07,799
Speaker 2: assuming he was just happy to have a kid that

1117
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:10,319
Speaker 2: was doing well. I don't know my have siblings other

1118
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 2: than a couple of their names, and the two I

1119
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 2: know about have children, which makes me an estranged aunt.

1120
00:50:15,760 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 2: One is a male that's three years older than me,

1121
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:20,240
Speaker 2: and the other is a female that's a year younger.

1122
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 2: I don't know why this man wants a relationship with

1123
00:50:22,640 --> 00:50:25,840
Speaker 2: me if I never once ever showed any interest in

1124
00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 2: the twenty eight years of my existence up to that point.

1125
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 2: Who does this when they have been blocked, blown off,

1126
00:50:31,400 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 2: and told directly by me this does not benefit me,

1127
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 2: and I have no interest in your life.

1128
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 3: Or family.

1129
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 2: He's done nothing but pay mandatory child support and gave

1130
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 2: me maybe three or four gifts when I was younger

1131
00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:45,920
Speaker 2: than seven, then disappeared until I was in my twenties.

1132
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:46,879
Speaker 2: What does he want?

1133
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 1: Why is he here?

1134
00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's so weird too that he's like your dad

1135
00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 6: and he's still calling you.

1136
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 4: He's like continuously calling you pretty and stuff.

1137
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 1: The thing.

1138
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, if it was like if it was my father

1139
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 2: and he was saying, oh, you're so pretty, sure, like yeah,

1140
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:04,240
Speaker 2: that's normal attraction for a guy you don't know who

1141
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:06,799
Speaker 2: is your father, but like you don't know him is

1142
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 2: going up to you, I mean like you're so pretty.

1143
00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, in like for thirty minutes.

1144
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all he says, Yeah, right, you're so pretty.

1145
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1146
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:14,879
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1147
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 2: No, I've been an experience like that where I was

1148
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:19,399
Speaker 2: in like a lift in this rain. Yeah. The glyft

1149
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:21,720
Speaker 2: driver was like really, it was like one in the morning,

1150
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:24,280
Speaker 2: you're so pretty? Years how you terrifying?

1151
00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 4: It's not a fun experience.

1152
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: Oh god, my mom, I'm uggly, muggly, muggly and ugly.

1153
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 2: Now, I was eighteen at times, so I didn't have, God,

1154
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:35,320
Speaker 2: I didn't have Dakoda level confidence.

1155
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 1: Oh Man's struggling.

1156
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, my mom probably sent him pictures or something growing up,

1157
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:47,400
Speaker 2: but probably by his own request, so that's how he

1158
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 2: had that picture of me from middle school. Probably put

1159
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:51,360
Speaker 2: it in his wallet when he figured out who I

1160
00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 2: was months ago when he went down the elevator for

1161
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 2: me and just watched me for months without saying anything.

1162
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 2: Las I went home after that, about an hour before

1163
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,840
Speaker 2: I normally would, because I had to process what happened

1164
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 2: and was scared for my life. I know I sound dramatic,

1165
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 2: but this person is literally a stranger who has pursued

1166
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 2: me for years and had been given clear boundaries by

1167
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:14,840
Speaker 2: me to never contact me. Well. The next day was Friday,

1168
00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:17,320
Speaker 2: and I was living in a twilight zone, scared that

1169
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 2: he was going to show up again, and talked with

1170
00:52:19,280 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 2: my coworker about what to do. She and I both

1171
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 2: don't have a relationship with our biodads, so she understood.

1172
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:27,000
Speaker 2: I decided I would talk to HR on Monday and

1173
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,399
Speaker 2: see what I could do to never see him again.

1174
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 2: I told them he doesn't need to lose his job

1175
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 2: over it, but I felt my safety was at stake

1176
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 2: and that my space had been violated. She would have

1177
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:38,239
Speaker 2: to talk to his company since he's not one of

1178
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,760
Speaker 2: our employees but hired by the owner of the building.

1179
00:52:40,880 --> 00:52:43,320
Speaker 2: The update was that he would be immediately sent to

1180
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:46,759
Speaker 2: a location forty five minutes away and not allowed back

1181
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 2: to my office. He lasted three weeks at the new

1182
00:52:49,560 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 2: location and was fired. I felt bad. I wasn't trying

1183
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:54,840
Speaker 2: to ruin his life or get revenge, just trying to

1184
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:56,800
Speaker 2: keep my peace and what I had left of it.

1185
00:52:57,000 --> 00:53:00,200
Speaker 2: Since I almost quit my job over the incident. Well,

1186
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 2: I mean, it's not your fault. It seems like he

1187
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 2: got fired for his effort reasons. Yeah he did.

1188
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, we don't need.

1189
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 6: To be using a hole ruining your future. Excuse this,

1190
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 6: this stupid thing. You didn't ruin his future, he did.

1191
00:53:12,560 --> 00:53:16,279
Speaker 6: You just ensured your safety. And if he gets fired

1192
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:18,279
Speaker 6: for that, he gets fired for that. There's a good

1193
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 6: reason I'd rather.

1194
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 2: He be fired than you be unsafe. Yeah, my boss

1195
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:25,800
Speaker 2: had no idea about it, just the one attorney, my coworker,

1196
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 2: and HR new. Later I found out the receptionist was

1197
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 2: told about it because the old building manager came back,

1198
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 2: and they're both old people that clearly liked to gossip.

1199
00:53:34,360 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 2: That was not fun to find out. I think she's

1200
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:38,840
Speaker 2: respectful enough that she only just informed me that she

1201
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:42,200
Speaker 2: found out about what happened. Luckily she's retired now. But yeah,

1202
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:44,440
Speaker 2: I'm still here at my job two years later and

1203
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:46,919
Speaker 2: wondering if I was the ale for giving him hope

1204
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 2: but lying and making him lose his job. I think

1205
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:51,799
Speaker 2: he probably finally takes me seriously now.

1206
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:52,720
Speaker 1: And PS.

1207
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:55,319
Speaker 2: I have a very wonderful, kind, active father figure since

1208
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:57,360
Speaker 2: I was a baby, who adopted me into his family

1209
00:53:57,400 --> 00:53:59,600
Speaker 2: when he met and married my mom. They divorced when

1210
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 2: I was two and stayed in my life without any

1211
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:04,919
Speaker 2: legal ties or responsibility for me, just out of pure

1212
00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:07,160
Speaker 2: love and interest in staying in my life as a father.

1213
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:09,719
Speaker 2: I also have a stepdad who would harm anyone who

1214
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 2: does me wrong, including my bio dad. They grew up

1215
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 2: together and he has hated him since before I was

1216
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 2: born and before you met my mom. I'm not some

1217
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:20,719
Speaker 2: fatherless damsel in distress. I'm just fulfilled in my life

1218
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 2: and it's his loss, not mine. Lots have loved you all, but.

1219
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 1: I'd love to know your thoughts.

1220
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:28,280
Speaker 4: Wow, you have any Yeah, I think you're totally fine.

1221
00:54:28,680 --> 00:54:30,480
Speaker 2: You don't need to feel guilty at all for what

1222
00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 2: you did don't worry about him.

1223
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:33,560
Speaker 4: Honestly, he's he he.

1224
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 5: It's okay to be mean to people like this, all right,

1225
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 5: It's okay to ruin their life a little bit.

1226
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:40,000
Speaker 2: Even though worry about them.

1227
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 5: You didn't ruin your life, but it's still it's okay. Yeah,

1228
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 5: just be mean, be aggressive disguises to their actions. Yes, exactly,

1229
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:51,839
Speaker 5: be aggressive, be be aggressive. You're good, Yeah, you're good.

1230
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 5: I'm glad that you're safe now, me too. Whoops, Oh goodness,

1231
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 5: glad that you're safe now. And I'm glad that you

1232
00:54:57,239 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 5: have people protecting you around you.

1233
00:54:59,280 --> 00:54:59,640
Speaker 4: Me too.

1234
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:00,359
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1235
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:02,560
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story and the end

1236
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 2: of this episode. Yep. So if you love us, make

1237
00:55:05,239 --> 00:55:08,440
Speaker 2: sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.