WEBVTT - Dream Jobs with Alex Bordyukov 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:04.520 Hell, Hi Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:10.520 and I Heart Radio Podcast. Hello and welcome to an 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:13.240 all new episode of Help I Suck At Dating. My 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:16.040 name is Jared haven I am not joined by Dean 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:18.720 Alert he will be joining us very soon. He had 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:22.239 some fan trouble, but he will be here very quickly. 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:26.360 Vanessa is not here either. She's taking the day off. 0:00:26.680 --> 0:00:29.120 She will be here next week. So you are Help 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:32.120 I Suck At Dating with Jared Haven. Um. But we 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:34.040 have very great We have a great episode today. We 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:36.320 have a very special guests who's actually in studio with me, 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:40.919 so I'm not alone. Uh. Orlando Saoria is here, Orlando. 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:44.319 How are you doing now? Orlando? You have a new 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:47.080 show coming out on h G t V, which I'm 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:51.080 very jealous about because HDTV is my favorite channel. I 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:54.120 watched it all the time with my fiance Ashley. Uh So, 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:56.640 tell us about the show. It's great. Hi, thank you 0:00:56.680 --> 0:00:59.400 for having me. First of all. Secondly, my show is 0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:02.080 called un Bouse My House. Every week we take somebody 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:04.919 who's been recently dumped and we give them a really 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.839 amazing homemakeover to help them cheer up and to help 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:10.800 them heal. That's so. I love the name. By the way, 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:14.360 un spouse your house. It rhymes you know, so it 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:16.520 works out perfectly totally, and it like says what the 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.040 show is all about, which is basically just getting your 0:01:19.040 --> 0:01:21.440 ex out of your house. Um. And so where did 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:24.040 you come up with the concept of the show? This 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:27.200 all start? Because it's it's true, you know, anytime you 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:28.759 go through a breakup, I think a lot of people 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:30.560 want to change a lot of things in their life. 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:32.200 And one thing to do that is to change the 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:34.399 interior of your house so you're not reminded. It's like 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:37.600 almost a fresh start. Yeah. So I actually got dumped 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:41.080 and I sorry to hear that. Um. And that's where 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:44.360 the genesis of the show began. So a few years ago, 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:46.800 I was living with my ex boyfriend in a home 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:49.720 that we had renovated together. I'm a designer, so I 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:52.840 did all the design and then he dumped me and 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:55.040 I moved on, and the only thing that kind of 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:58.400 got me through that period in my life was like 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:02.600 redecorating my new place. So I kind of found the 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:05.280 It sounds so cheesy to say, but like the healing 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:09.040 power of interior design through doing that and it was 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:11.040 a super depressing part of my life. But I wanted 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:13.080 to figure out how I could take that experience and 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:15.560 sort of pay it forward to other people because the 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:18.679 interior design part actually did help me so much. So 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:22.000 that's where the original idea came from. And then um, 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:25.720 we created a pilot and HDTV was immediately on board, 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:28.120 and it's just sort of gone really fast. We created 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:32.000 our pilot in September of last year, so the airing 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:35.160 this Thursday is kind of nuts. Yeah, that never happened 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:37.760 so quickly. I feel like I hear pilots, you know, Oh, 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:39.840 we did a pilot about a year and a half ago, 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:42.280 and now it's about to get picked up. So that 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:44.119 the fact that you had a pilot only a few 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:46.200 months ago and now your season one is airing this 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:49.399 Thursday is pretty incredible and fast. Yeah, it's insane. It's 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:52.200 really exciting. So and the show itself is so fun 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:55.400 to watch. It's just like a super feel good, sweet 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:57.880 show where I'm just doing nice things for people. It 0:02:57.919 --> 0:02:59.920 feels really good to do it, and it's also just 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:03.560 like satisfying to watch. It's like sweet, it's funny. The 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:06.960 homeowners themselves are like so generous with telling us their 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:10.960 stories and being open and vulnerable about it. So I'm just, 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:13.040 you know, feeling a lot of gratitude about it. So 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:15.240 it's really exciting and it's also just like super entertaining 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:17.040 to watch. It's not like a second to get bored. 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.639 It's a really fun show. Oh well, I love redecorating 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:22.680 shows like my favorite show, well, my fiance's favorite shows 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:26.280 Property Brothers, and then she also loves loves loves love 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:28.320 it or list it doesn't like her two favorite. I'm 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.120 a big House Hunters guy an HDTV. I'm all over it. 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.320 So I'm very excited for this no show to watch it. 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.120 And so when you were were you in interior decorated 0:03:36.120 --> 0:03:39.120 before the breakup? Okay, so you've been doing it for 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:42.320 like ten years? Okay, gotcha, So you're very experienced within 0:03:42.360 --> 0:03:44.880 this field. Yeah, exactly what you're doing. And then did 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:48.680 you get into hosting just kind of after the breakup 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:50.600 and falling into it because you also wrote a book 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:53.680 last year? Correct? Yeah, So I've actually like the way 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.720 that I got started in interior design was that I 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:58.160 was cast to play an assistant on an HDTV show 0:03:58.200 --> 0:04:01.000 about ten years ago. And then after that I started 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:03.640 doing interior design. Before that, I was doing production design 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.680 and stat design. Like I was basically like doing design, 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:09.480 but in a totally different capacity. So I've had those skills, 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:13.880 and I've also always been designing spaces. So it's just 0:04:13.960 --> 0:04:16.400 kind of like a career that chose me. I didn't 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:18.960 really choose it. It just kept popping into my purview 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:20.560 and finally I was like, oh, I guess this is 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:22.960 what I'm supposed to do because I keep getting jobs 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.440 to do it. Um, So this show is just like 0:04:26.440 --> 0:04:30.000 a really fun opportunity to combine my like content creation 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:33.920 and my writing skills into you know, showing people how 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:36.039 do we design their homes as well? And like you said, 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:39.040 you're helping people get through a breakup, And so how 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:45.800 does reimagining your interior decoration really helps someone get through 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:48.279 a breakup? How does this kind of work? And and 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:51.280 and through filming and through working with other couples and 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:54.760 and and people going through breakups? What have you seen 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:59.279 that specifically helps other people get through this breakup? Yeah? Well, 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:03.080 I mean so basically like Unspoused, my House is a 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:06.400 show about starting over using interior design as the conduit 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:09.920 for that. And I think people don't understand how important 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:14.080 their surroundings are to their emotional states, especially going through 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:16.560 a breakup. So there's so many examples of this. First 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:19.039 of all, if you have furniture leftover from your ex 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:21.240 that reminds you of them every single day, that's a 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:24.600 way that it's harder for you to heal. Secondly, a 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:27.120 lot of our clients and we're a renovation show, so 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:30.880 like there were people who had like crazy things that 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.760 their excess had chosen. Like this one guy had like 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:36.960 a crazy eighties like French country kitchen and he had 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:39.760 actually been divorced for like eight years, and he's like, 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:44.680 I've hated this kitchen for eight years. French country kitchen. Oh, 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:47.640 just like it had like foe distressing on the cabinets 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:50.800 and how like little like roosters in it. Just had 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:54.000 all these like details that were like not this dude style. 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:56.960 So he'd been kind of like living with the ghosts 0:05:57.000 --> 0:05:59.520 of his ex wife. So there's things like that where 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:01.640 it's like this styles of the couples were maybe different, 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:03.880 and they compromise because they were in a relationship. I 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:06.719 think that's a healthy thing for everybody to do. Um. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:10.400 But then there's also things where you know, certain people 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:12.880 in relationships don't get to do things that they want 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:17.680 to do design wise because their partner doesn't like it. Yeah, 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:21.559 it's everybody. You're not alone. So like one hundred percent 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:23.360 of clients that I've worked with have had at least 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:25.719 a little bit of conflict with their partner, And I 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.400 think that's healthy and normal and you should compromise. But 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:30.760 the fun thing about going through a breakup, if you 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:32.719 can find one silver lining, it's that you get to 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:35.200 do whatever you want and it's all about you. You 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:38.000 don't have to worry about anybody else's style or their needs. 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:40.480 So it's kind of like just a great silver lining 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:43.880 to a horrible part of your life. Eastern Does Allison 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:46.120 get the final say on a lot of the interior 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.280 decorating or is it more of a dual effort. Yeah, 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.240 she she gets the final say. We've made a lot 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:54.160 of compromises, though, you know you can tell from looking 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.080 at me. I had a lot of superhero stuff open 0:06:56.400 --> 0:07:01.280 in my studio. Part that did that. Now there's there's 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:03.279 a Back to the Future poster up in our house, 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:07.160 and everything else is very classy. Uh. I was curious 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:10.120 how often do you come in and someone is just 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:13.240 totally blank slate, like the their acts like took everything, 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:16.680 like they have nothing, because I'm picturing like a guy 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:18.760 in an empty apartment, just like what do I you 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:21.560 know we did have like so we have male and 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:24.920 female homeowners on the show. That was much more likely 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:27.120 to happen with the guys than it was for the women. 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:31.080 Um and for me, obviously that's way more fun because 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:32.840 I just get to be like, all right, I'm doing 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:34.960 whatever I want. I'm putting all the furniture that I 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:36.920 like into your place. When you have to incorporate pre 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:41.360 existing furniture, that's obviously a little bit more challenging, but um, 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:43.400 you know, that's one of the reasons that I liked 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:46.360 the idea for the show is that, like every time 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:49.400 somebody goes through a breakup, something happens logistically, and even 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:51.840 if you're like fine emotionally, it's a pain in the 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:55.040 ask figuring out like always separated half our furniture and 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:58.480 I don't have furniture, or like, um, I have absolutely 0:07:58.560 --> 0:08:00.600 nothing like you were talking about, or are I'm stuck 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:02.560 with all of these like ugly ass things that my 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:06.400 ex shows that I hate so there's constantly, um these 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:09.920 just very practical things that come about during a breakup 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:12.520 that are annoying that also can be like a terrible 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:15.320 emotional drag. So there's a lot of different levels of 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:17.760 the show in terms of like, hey, it's practical, but 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:19.880 be there's a huge emotional part of it as well. 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:22.680 And so you talk about practicality because I think the 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:24.920 biggest thing for a lot of our listeners right now 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:26.760 is that if they are going through a breakup, they 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:30.440 would love to change the interior decorating of their house. 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:33.320 But obviously that comes with the price. So how do 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:35.880 you guys deal with that on the show? Is it 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:38.960 kind of you picked the couples and they're lucky enough 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.520 that the show will pay for it, or kind of 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:43.520 how does that happen so they're actually paying for their 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:46.959 own renovation. We put a little bit into it, but um, 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:52.160 we do incredible, really high end makeovers. Or because it's TV, 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:58.200 we have like magical ideality for a much smaller budget. Yeah, 0:08:58.240 --> 0:09:00.680 it's it's real. TV magic some how is real because 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:02.480 things that should take like six months and cost a 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:06.240 hundred thousand dollars take like three weeks and cost well, 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:08.040 I'm sure brands are also very happy that they're going 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:10.960 to be featured on hd TV. Yeah, we're actually not 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:17.200 allowed to do that yet. Yeah that added a little 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:20.960 bit of a challenge. But um, it's uh do they 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:23.400 give you a budget like this is what our budget 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:26.640 is for remodeling or so. But I always tell people like, 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:29.160 there's so many things. My goal with my whole career, 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:32.240 which is why I've gone after TV and blogging and Instagram, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.920 is to inspire as many people as possible rather than 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.600 like work with only like super wealthy people. And there's 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:40.120 so many things you can do post breakup to refresh 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:43.680 your space, starting with buying like a gallon of paint 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:46.080 and just painting a room. So I really believe that 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:49.040 everybody at all different income levels deserves to have a 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:52.600 beautiful space and just you know, you have to be inventive. 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:54.400 I was like a starving artist for all of my 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.440 twenties and I always had a beautiful place because I 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:59.600 was always creative. So if you take the time and 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:01.800 you take the energy to actually do it yourself, I 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:03.880 think that you can create a beautiful space for yourself, 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:06.000 regardless of how much money you have. No, I agree, 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:09.000 I think it's cathartic too to really kind of be 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:11.559 creative and put your own touch on your own house, 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:14.520 because you can kind of get lost in the mundane 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:17.120 nous of life, right where like day goes day by 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:19.880 day by day goes by and it's always the same room, 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:22.440 the same color, nothing ever changes, and before you know it, 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:25.920 fifteen years of your life has gone by without you 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:28.120 changing a thing. So I think you're right where it 0:10:28.160 --> 0:10:32.200 can be refreshing and reinvigorating and like just even like 0:10:32.240 --> 0:10:36.120 you said, paint the room, you know, Um, yeah, I mean. 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:38.040 And something that I'm trying to drill into all of 0:10:38.040 --> 0:10:41.240 my clients on unspoused my house is taking care of 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:43.520 your space and creating a beautiful space for you to 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:45.520 live is a way of taking care of yourself, a 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:47.720 way of taking care of people for like who enter 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.560 your home. It's just it's a way of telling yourself 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:52.760 that you're important enough to do this for And it 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:55.200 also just changes the way your outlook is because when 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.200 you're looking around and things are beautiful, you feel so 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:01.720 much better about your life. Oh yeah, absolutely. Um. I 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:04.440 actually have eastern to harp on your point about like 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:08.080 reducing the star Wars and superhero posters. I have a 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:11.040 Superman poster, but it's a Christopher Reeve one from the 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:15.000 one where he's flying into the sky. But it's black 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:18.280 and white. So Ashley has allowed me to put it 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:20.360 in our room because it's a black and white kind 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:23.400 of artistic look at Superman where it's not very colorful. 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:25.280 The only thing is I have to put it in 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:28.360 a white frame. That's my only the only thing. Do 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:31.240 you think that's bad? No? I think it's great. Yeah, 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:33.760 But that's like, that's that's like the compromise right there. 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:35.800 I can have a Superman poster up, but it has 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:37.800 to be black and white and a white frame. Cool 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:40.800 with that, I can see that being cool. It's like, look, 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:43.760 you know, the least sort of conflict that I've ever 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:46.080 heard of in terms of a couple of fighting. To 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:48.439 be fair. I moved in with my fiance last year 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:50.480 and she lives with her. She lived with her sister 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:53.120 who still lives with us, and it was decorated as 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.040 a women's apartment, so I just moved into it. Like 0:11:56.080 --> 0:11:59.480 there's there's one room that is called the glam room. 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:02.640 It is dedicated to that's your favorite room, obviously, Well, 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:04.840 my expects you spend all your time. I swear to guide. 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:06.480 It actually is where I spend most of my time 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:11.080 because it's we I was allowed to have my Like 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:13.360 I put a TV in there on top of the 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:15.920 dresser with my Xbox, so I go in there and 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:19.320 play video games sometimes as I'm surrounded by all these 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:24.360 very sparkly glam beauty products, which is fantastic though it's 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:27.480 not it's it's somewhat refreshing and nice, you know, into 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:31.800 that position. Yeah, it's cool. We're super excited Orlando for 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:33.560 your for your new show coming out and it comes 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:36.400 out this Thursday. H G t V. What time Thursday 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:38.640 June six on h G t V and the h 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:41.520 G t V app. That's perfect. Do you guys follow 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:43.400 up with any of the couples, because I find it 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.360 so interesting to see if if after they are done 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:48.760 redecorated in their house, if it truly helps them feel 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:51.840 better about everything they're going through. I've been texting with them, yes, 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:55.360 and it does. Like it's it's hard to condense into 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:57.200 the amount of time that we have each week, like 0:12:57.240 --> 0:12:59.120 what's really going on with these people? But it's a 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:02.240 journey for them, and I think it's so wonderful for 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:04.240 them to be able to have somebody else come into 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:05.800 their life and like kind of be like, all right, 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:07.480 I'm doing this for you. We're going to create a 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:09.719 new space for you to start over, because it kind 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:12.240 of creates a punctuation point, like it's like this is 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.160 where the old life stopped and this is where the 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:16.520 new life begins. And they can see it in their 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:19.520 house and it sounds kind of superficial, but it's not. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.000 It's just literally creating a new space for them to 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:25.880 start over, and they feel it like it's I like 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:27.800 just watch the edits of one of the episodes and 0:13:27.840 --> 0:13:30.560 started crying like last week because I'm like, well, like 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:33.200 she really does you know? They changed, and you see 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:36.000 them change over the course of these few weeks. People 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:39.880 being told that they deserve a beautiful space helps them 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.560 make helps make them feel like worthy in other ways, 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:45.760 and it's like it's such a terrible time in your 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:48.080 life when you're like your self esteem is plummeting and 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.079 like there's so many other things going on with you 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:52.800 that to just have somebody like that you've just met 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:54.960 coming and be like listen, I'm giving this to you. 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:57.160 This is what you deserve and like this is going 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.559 to help you move on, is like just a great 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.599 way of helping them just heal, Yeah, I agree. I 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.680 think a lot of advice uh that people give for 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:08.160 someone going through a breakup is to do something new, 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:12.080 to do something fresh, um, you know, take a class, 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:15.320 or or go to go to a different gym, or 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:18.199 you know, go to someplace you've always wanted to go 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:21.440 for yourself. Um. And so I think a part of 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:24.240 that is, like you said, redecorating your house to make 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:26.680 sure that you're not coming back into a house that 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:29.560 reminds you of your ex. You know that you guys, 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:31.680 Oh we bought that table together. We used to sit 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:34.040 on that couch together. You know, this was our TV, 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:36.840 so on and so forth. Whatever it may be. Even 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:39.400 though it's material objects for all of us, I think 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:43.880 some material objects have uh you know, some emotional significance 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.520 behind them, uh. And so to kind of like try 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:49.200 to get those out of your sight uh and and 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:51.960 and into a new environment, specifically when you're coming home, 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:55.080 because that's where you are every day of your life. Almost. Um. 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:58.040 I think it's very important and something that's underrated, and 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:00.200 it's pretty cool that your show is bringing that out 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:02.560 to the forefront, so I'm excited to see it. So 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:07.480 on Spouse your House hosted by Orlando Storia Thursdays on 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:10.960 h G TV. Check it out, guys. I'm very excited 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:13.800 my favorite channel, so please watch my show. Orlando, thank 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:15.800 you so much for coming in. We really appreciate it. Bud, 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:19.880 thanks a lot. Well, you have another special guest in 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:24.080 studio who just arrived a little later than expected, but uh, 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:28.000 our co host Dean Unglerd is here. Thank you guys 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:30.200 for having me today. It's an honor to be here. 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.840 I'm a big, big fan of the podcast. Mark and Easton, 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:37.440 you guys are both incredible hosts of this podcast. Um 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:42.200 and what was your name again? Uh? Jared? Oh yeah, yeah, No, 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:46.320 what's Ben Higgins? Nice to me if you wish, I 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:49.840 do wish. Actually, so I said that you had van trouble, 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:53.640 but correct me, you had motorcycle cycle trouble. I'm I'm 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:59.200 putting my motorcycle into storage this week for my van expedition, 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:02.640 and there's just been an issue with the negative terminal 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:07.320 on my battery. The bolt always and the connection gets 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:10.800 lost from the battery to my motor while while I'm driving. 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:13.720 And today it happened again on the Inner State and 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:16.480 I pulled over. I looked at it, I diagnosed the problem, 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:18.720 figured out the boat was missing entirely. And so what 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:21.120 I did was, fortunately I had some dental floss in 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:24.200 my backpack, and I do have dental floss in your 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:26.320 I have dental floss in me everywhere. It's super important 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:28.960 for teeth. Dental. Hi, how many times do you flush 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:31.360 your teeth? Twice a day? Twice a day? You flush 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:34.360 your teeth every day. At least you're a better man 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:36.120 than meat. And you put your thumbs up. What do 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:37.960 you a big flosser over there? Now, I'm just proud. 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:39.800 Not a lot of people floss thank you. Yeah, my 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:42.520 dentist is very happy about it. For someone that doesn't 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:46.040 wear deodoran. And I put deodor in on this morning 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:48.040 to actually I bought it. I bought a fresh stick 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:49.680 with the odor because I'm like, oh, if I'm showering 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:51.560 half as much as I used to, I probably should 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:54.320 be wearing deodoran. Nobody wants stinky. So I showered and 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:57.160 used deodor in today. Do you put the finding healthy 0:16:57.240 --> 0:16:59.960 deodorant like special deodor and just grab whatever. I grabbed 0:16:59.960 --> 0:17:01.960 the act stick today or the last time. I don't 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:04.639 think that's really the healthiest. Everything else that was all 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:09.800 organic soaps from Thrive Market, which I absolutely love, shameless plug. 0:17:11.440 --> 0:17:13.399 But now the dental floss saved my life because what 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:16.000 I did was I like, I uh forward and backed 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:18.320 it multiple times to create some strength and give it 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:21.600 some more durability. And I was able to tie and 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:26.000 connect the negative terminal to the negative prong on the battery. 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:27.960 And so now I'm just riding out of my motorcycle 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:31.720 that's basically held together by I felt pretty mug ivory. 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:33.840 That's I and I feel. So you're telling me your 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.600 motorcycle is being held together by dental floss right now. 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:38.479 That's what I'm telling you. And you wrote on it. 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:41.240 I wrote on your insane. I like I was doing 0:17:41.280 --> 0:17:44.359 absolutely insane. There's no way in hell one. I'm not 0:17:44.400 --> 0:17:47.280 a big motorcycle guy, but too if somebody said, hey, 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:49.960 would you want to ride this motorcycle that is literally 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:54.080 being held together by dental floss, You're out of your mind. 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:57.800 Shout out to Oral b for making some sturdy as floss. 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:01.240 It's on my Instagram story right now, I've been working. 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:03.240 I think I was here on time. That's great. Why 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:06.760 I purposefully wanted to document my issues so that way, 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:09.359 like when you guys initially, like inevitably believe up that 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:11.440 with me. Yeah, exactly. You can see, Oh, an hour ago, 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:13.800 Dean was on the side of the road dental flossing 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:16.320 his battery back together. And honestly, that's not even the point. 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:19.639 Doesn't even that that is the second most important thing. 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:23.480 The most important thing for you documenting your floss motorcycle 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:26.879 is the fact that you are keeping your motorcycle together 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:30.080 with floss. Yeah, that's the most important thing. That's pretty cool. 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:32.320 I live in a van and I'm keeping my motorcycle 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:34.560 held together with dental flaws. And you you have a 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:36.760 stash now just the stash, no more. What do you 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:38.480 think about the staff? I kind of dig it. Yeah, 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.000 I'm digging it. Um. Yeah. I was looking at myself 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:43.359 in the mirror this morning before I jumped in the shower, 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:46.359 and I just I just can't grow facial hair. I 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:48.600 know you have a similar issue, but you can grow 0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:50.680 a lot more facial hair than I can grow, Okay, 0:18:50.800 --> 0:18:52.320 And I was looking at myself and it was just 0:18:52.320 --> 0:18:54.639 all scraggly on my chin, and I didn't want to 0:18:54.640 --> 0:18:57.560 fully remove my facial hair, and but I wanted to 0:18:57.680 --> 0:18:59.520 clean myself up a little bit, and so that and 0:18:59.640 --> 0:19:01.840 I said on the mustache, So if you head south 0:19:02.040 --> 0:19:06.840 somewhere sometime soon, are you gonna keep stash? The stash 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:09.160 is gonna stay in my face for the very foreseeable future, 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:12.840 regardless of location. It's a very traditional mustache, very traditional 0:19:12.840 --> 0:19:16.359