WEBVTT - Super Digress 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:05.359 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast. 0:00:06.400 --> 0:00:10.200 Hey guys, hi, Hey, I'm sorry about the Starbucks stilima 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:10.680 this morning. 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:15.040 Oh the thing got it, I know, I know it 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:17.160 was funny. I got the text she said Starbucks anyone, 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:18.880 and guys, I got up at four and I've stayed up. 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:21.880 Why I because Preston had a flight and I couldn't 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:22.520 go back to sleep. 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:24.440 Oh it's weird. 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:27.840 I have never been this girl. But you said Starbucks anyone, 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:30.680 and I missed it by I knew. I reapplied two 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:32.880 minutes later and I already know the I know the window. 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:34.760 We're all operating it. And I was like, I've missed it. 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:36.600 I go, I do am I too late? 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:40.800 Yeah? I was like two minutes or something, but I 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:45.959 know I did something really bad last year on this day. Yeah, no, 0:00:46.320 --> 0:00:51.200 June fifth, I forgot to call my dad and his birthday. 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:53.280 Oh oh. It was one of those where I'm like 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:59.640 so today, I was like, he was like six, first 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:01.520 child that is saying to me today. I was like, well, 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:03.600 I was also the child that didn't call you last year. 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:07.000 And then when I got off the phone was when 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:08.920 I was like, all right, I gotta go like, and 0:01:08.959 --> 0:01:10.800 then I saw yours, and I'm like, craps, let me 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:13.920 go back to my little doordasher. Because I didn't send 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:19.360 a time to go get it right, Catherine made called 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:24.000 me out one time about what we what we DoorDash 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:26.520 and what we don't door dash. Right, we need to. 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:29.440 Tell this story. Actually, yeah, I'm in story to me. 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:30.640 I think it's a good story. 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:38.000 I'm interested. Okay, go ahead, you can tell it, sod same. 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:40.640 Yeah, we're out of town. I don't even know where 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:41.760 we are, probably Wilmington. 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:43.080 No, we were in Oklahoma. 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:48.400 Oh, Oklahoma, Oklahoma, in Oklahoma, Okay, I just remember we 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:52.000 were in bed Yeah, we talked about the entire time. 0:01:52.040 --> 0:01:54.120 We just sat there at beds. You did you just 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:55.240 think of me? Yeah? 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:58.240 And five things we love about Kristin go. I just 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:00.120 was a little nervous about the accuracy and reporting. We 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.280 didn't know the location. Go ahead, continue, Okay. 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:06.600 I just remember that she got like a ring doorbell 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:08.760 thing and she was like, oh is. 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:11.480 It ethy oofy eu f y. 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:13.360 I don't know, oofy, I don't know. 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:13.720 I don't know. 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:15.839 So she gets like a thing and she's like, oh, 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:19.720 who's at the house, And She's like, oh, it's probably 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.320 door dash and I was like, okay, you know, just 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:24.480 like thinking. She was like, you know, it's just like 0:02:25.800 --> 0:02:28.680 does he just like drive you crazy when like man 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:31.799 like like they DoorDash beer, Like he's gonna door like 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:35.840 I guarantee you he doordashed beer, Like why not just 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:38.320 go to the store and get the beer, like go 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:40.880 through this whole thing. And I'm like, all I can 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:44.520 think in my head, it's like, you DoorDash Starbucks every day? 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:45.680 Say that every day. 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:48.960 Okay, I've stopped you, but you say you stopped you 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:50.520 did for I did sometimes. 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:52.040 I just went through a phase. I went through a 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.560 face and this is coming from the door. It was 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:56.279 a new born phase of door dashing. 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:59.120 Coming from someone that will DoorDash, like five of us 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.519 will DoorDash every day. So I am not judging door dash. 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.680 I love a DoorDash. I just thought it was very funny. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:06.640 So I sat there for a while in silence, and 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:07.440 then I was like I can't. 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.240 I can't hold it back anymore. I was like I 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:10.400 just have to fire out too. 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:12.639 I was like, so, how is that any different from 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:14.519 door dashing Tarbucks? 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:18.040 And I said, I don't even remember you said that, 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:20.400 Remember I go, well, first I looked at you like 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:25.560 they's alcoholic and one's not. Like one's alcohol and one's not. 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:27.800 Be like, how dare you call me up that I go, 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:33.200 I go, oh oh, I guess it's not any different, 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.320 And I was like, ew, it's not. 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:35.720 Well. 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:38.440 I think your point was not that it was beer 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:41.360 being beer, it was that it was door dashed. At first, 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.080 I thought the point was that it was beer, and 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:44.480 you were just like, eh, I don't love that he's 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:46.040 like having beer. So I was like, okay, cool, Like 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:47.880 I get that. But she's like, no, it's the fact, 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:49.240 like go to the store and get the beer. And 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:52.279 I was like okay, well now, and I'm like you should. 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:54.880 Just a beer, right. It was that it was for me, 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.760 it just seemed like we're delivering alcohol, like can't you 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.520 go to the store and get it? But again to 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:03.320 your point and since then, honestly, if I'm being totally 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:06.080 I think that's when I stopped door dashing with Starbucks. 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:09.560 I was like, I'm so hypocritical for getting on him 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:11.280 for a door dashing boards. 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:14.080 Both of y'all door dash that's what I do. Yes, 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:16.880 I mean, Nick hates it. He never door dashes ever. 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.320 But now it's like, I enjoy now my ride to Starbucks. 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:21.240 But I didn't have time today because I had some stuff. 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:22.760 Yeah, well that's good. 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:24.760 It was, it was. It was quite funny. 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:26.600 I was like, how bad do we want it ten 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:27.960 minutes late with Starbucks? 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:29.880 Or do I just keep rolling? And then I looked 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:31.080 at the clock. I didn't have time and. 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:33.800 Never have time because you don't calculate in the Starbucks 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:36.880 run And here are stars press are so hit or missed. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:37.719 Oh I can't get. 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:40.120 I can tell you which one goes really fast and 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:42.839 which one you need at least ten minutes in, But 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:44.880 you always got to What I've learned is this is 0:04:45.200 --> 0:04:48.920 stupid story. I apologize to the listeners. Dear listeners, we 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:52.320 apologize in advance. You got to go through the drive through. 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:54.440 They're too slow when you go in, I know, and 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:57.479 everyone thinks you'll beat them inside. They won't You do 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:59.480 you do the car marker? Oh yeah you do. 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:00.960 No. 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.960 The quick read is order it on your thing and 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:04.840 run it and get it. 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:06.599 Yeah that's true, but you got to really be thinking. 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:08.760 You got to think it. It takes about eight minutes, 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:10.520 five to eight minutes. So then you got a plan 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:11.280 in your rise. 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:13.480 This is the most nine felt episode ever. 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.440 I know what I was thinking, how wildly beneficial it 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.560 might be to someone who's driving right now, going, Oh, 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:21.000 I can just type it in Holover, type it over. 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:26.839 Safety first, get god totally. So there's that really as 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:30.520 I drink my extra hot. By the way, let me 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:33.440 just say one more thing about Starbucks. This is not 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:36.800 a sponsored episode. It is not. I I like my 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.719 drinks extra hot, even if it's one hundred degrees outside. 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:41.680 So it's like nineties right now in Nashville, and so 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:43.719 the other day when I went yesterday, I was like, 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:47.960 can I play an extra hot? HI? And they're like 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:51.600 extra hot? I go, yeah, I like it hot. They 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:52.440 have to be hot like hot. 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:55.040 If you're door dashing, you definitely have to do agree to. 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.240 I've already microwaved because they get so cold by the 0:05:57.279 --> 0:05:57.920 time they get there. 0:05:58.080 --> 0:05:59.080 Anyways, it makes me mad. 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:02.479 Oh lit life updates. So I didn't go to Georgia. 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:04.680 By the way, can I just say how much I 0:06:04.760 --> 0:06:07.800 love you guys, because when I went onto the DMS 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:13.159 on the wind Down episode, everyone was so supportive and 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:16.160 they were like, go do it. You'll have so much fun, 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:18.240 so supportive. I didn't do it, but I loved it, 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:20.560 but it was good to see it. 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:24.000 Yeah, I'm glad everyone was behind, including us. 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.200 Yeah, just go do it. They were so supportive. 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:27.919 So next time that comes up, you're going to be like, 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:29.760 guess what, guys, I'm just gonna go do it. 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:34.680 Yeah, totally probably not convincing, that's probably. 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:36.880 Not gonna happen. No, but I could bring it. Don't 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:40.560 even know if it even went through. Yeah, you know, 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:43.359 we'll see big TVD on the whole sit. Let us 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:46.320 know how it ends. If it Yeah, I will for sure. 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:50.360 But that's that's my only update. I did book another movie, though, 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:52.680 and I'm very excited. Wait, how many movies do we 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:55.400 have happening? And why I say we? I mean you? So, 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:57.279 I've already filmed three, but I'm going to be filming 0:06:57.279 --> 0:07:05.080 my fourth one in July in Nashville. This will be fun. 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:06.240 You guys can visit on set. 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:08.279 Yeah, let's go together. It'll be so fun. I would 0:07:08.360 --> 0:07:10.200 love excited when you startbucks. 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:13.280 Yeah, say much. But it is based on a best 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:17.440 selling book, and uh, I don't know it. You probably 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:19.760 know the author. That's all I can say. For now, 0:07:20.320 --> 0:07:21.680 very excited. I mean, who, like I get to link 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:25.040 twice if it's Nicholas Sparks, it's not okay, I got 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:28.160 really excited. Would be you know, it would have been great, okay, 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:31.720 but anyway, so to be able to work and then 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:34.360 go home will just be so amazing. I'm so excited. 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:40.239 I'm excited for you. Part of Nashville all around so fun. Yeah, 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:45.680 there's even a little bit of Franklin so yeah, so yeah, tbd. 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:47.880 But that's that's my update, and I'm really glad that 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:49.560 everything kind of worked out. We were supposed to be 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:55.080 in l A. That was yeah, why are you here? Politely, Well, 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:58.080 the plane was leaking hydraulic something fluid. 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:00.200 Yeah, hydraulic fluid. They were in the engine for a 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:01.560 good five hours. 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:04.080 Which she finally was like, I wasn't going to tell you, 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:05.960 but I didn't want to get on that plane. So 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:07.200 here's the thing that takes a lot. 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:10.080 I used to fly in like anything, yeah, and Sestna's 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:12.280 I went into it. And as I get older, I 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:16.240 definitely get more like if something's going wrong or if 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:18.040 like I'm like, okay, God's telling me I don't need 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:19.880 to be on this airplane, and I was like, I 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:21.920 wasn't gonna say it to her though, because she's already 0:08:21.960 --> 0:08:24.640 a little anxious, you know. I mean, and I don't 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:26.600 think you realize I do get more ink, I've gotten 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:29.040 a lot more anxious with flying and stuff like that 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:31.200 as I've gotten older. I think that's normal to get 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:33.600 a little bit more whatever. But that was what had me. 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:37.120 As the hours went on and the engine stayed open 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.640 and the pilot was looking at it, and like one, 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:41.439 I was. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:43.120 Just like, and we saw the bucket and we saw 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:46.120 it leaking. This is not a good sign. It just 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:46.560 got bad. 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:50.080 And then we missed by the time, we missed everything 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:52.360 day one, and so it was just like it was 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:53.040 such a mess. 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:54.839 Yeah, I'm glad you stayed home. 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:58.199 Yeah, so we stayed home, and here we are. 0:08:58.640 --> 0:08:59.599 It's interesting to me. 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:02.000 We were at the dinner table the other night, and 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:03.680 I don't know how this even came up, but we 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:07.200 were talking about anxious flyers maybe or just flyers, because 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:09.480 Preston just flies a ton and I think he's getting a. 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:10.160 Little bit tired. 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.400 Sure, Yeah, Like you. 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.240 Know, if the bus leaves the night before, he's more 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:15.640 likely to get on the bus. The night before. 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:18.520 Now he's just like, I love being home with you, 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:21.800 but also and I I just don't know how anybody 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:22.120 does it. 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:22.480 I don't. 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:25.120 We're talking and I said, do you guys this is 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:28.240 at the dinner table funny enough? And I said, does 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:29.960 everybody here want to take a guess at which one 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:31.960 of my best friends is a really anxious flyer, because 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:34.640 I think it would shock you. And they were guessing, 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:36.480 and nobody guessed you, and I was like, guess me. 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:41.239 I said, it's Cramer and Preston was like what I said, yeah, 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.040 and he goes for as much as she has to fly, 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:43.920 and I said, I know. 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:49.400 Every time gotten tremendously better. I think so too, like 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:51.680 like it like night and day from when I first 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:53.640 started working with her. Thanks and not getting you to 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:54.800 even go into the airport. 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:58.800 So oh yeah, there's only one way to get on 0:09:58.840 --> 0:09:59.920 the airplane in Atlanta. 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:02.600 She goes, we just were talking about that too. I go, hey, 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.320 remember that one time that I was in Atlanta and 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.400 I was like, hey, I can't get on the airplane 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:08.559 And I what do you mean you can't get on 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:10.000 the airplane Like I can't get on the airplane. I 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:11.560 mean we had just started working together. 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:14.640 I had a baby in my arms, I'll never forget it, 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:16.680 in my bedroom home holding a baby, and I was like, 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:20.240 what do you mean you can't walk in to the airport. 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:21.599 So she's like, so you're at the airport. I was 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.600 like yes, She's like, and you can't go in the airport. No, 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.760 what Like she just did not understand. 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:28.280 I can't. 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:30.840 I wish we had a time capsule. This is this 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:32.560 is gold to me, capsule. Man. 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.640 I should write a book, I should go back and 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:37.439 I just can't remember. My problem is is I just 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:40.199 can't remember everything. So but anyway, you've gotten a lot better. 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.760 I have because I get of my app, my little 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:45.360 flight Trader app. Oh yeah, I zoom out and I 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.240 see all the other planes that are flying in the air, 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.040 and it's like, okay, look how many flights are happening 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:53.240 right now. And then I go to my turbulence tracker 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:55.959 and I see the winds. Yeah, And it doesn't make 0:10:55.960 --> 0:10:58.560 you more nervous, no, because I see other planes going 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:01.079 through it too, and they're okay, and they've passed through it. 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:03.400 But then this is my thing and I kind of 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:05.800 want to one day do a movie about because I 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:07.800 think it'd be kind of cool because sometimes I know 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:09.959 Alan on airplaness because I'm like, babe, Okay, so we're 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:11.960 at twenty three thousand feet, this other plan's at twenty one. 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:13.760 It looks like it's going like I'm like, they're gonnalye, 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:15.920 should I go down the pilot? Okay, So that's what 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:18.920 I was Actually, you're not going to save. I was like, no, no, no, 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:21.120 I'm going to do one deck. I'm going to save 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:23.280 like this one's coming. 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:26.400 Literally. I was just about to say that to you, 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:28.520 that doesn't make you nervous, but then I thought, I'm 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:29.920 not going to plant the seed. 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:31.280 Because that's not what you need. But you're already doing 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:34.439 it your situation. Yeah, I mean, he just laughed. Every 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:37.360 time we go on there, I'm already on there. Knock 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:39.600 on the old pilot door. There's a plane coming at 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:44.080 twenty four thousand, thank you. Thirty sixty. We weren't sure 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:46.160 that was going to happen, you know, more for me 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.160 at least a six egg definitely not thirty six feet. 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:56.360 Sometimes anyway, okay, girls, we just we go all over, 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:58.760 don't we? Does anybody want to go back to thirty 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:00.960 thousand feet? Is there anything else we needed to catch 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:03.640 up on days? Anyone else any updates? 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:06.839 No lion at her first swim lesson. I'm pretty sure 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:08.640 she's going to write to a therapist about me. I 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:11.600 hate that feeling when they're crying and they're separated from 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:14.280 you and they hate you. And she went up to 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:15.840 the glass and made a whole spectacle. 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:16.800 You guys. 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:19.680 She got out and kept saying all done. I could 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:21.720 see her mouth moving, and she walked up to the 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.680 glass of the sea of people, and she was looking 0:12:23.720 --> 0:12:27.400 for me, and then she pointed straight you. She did, 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:29.360 and I was like, this one hits different. 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:30.880 I don't know if it's the third. 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:35.959 Or like yikes, yeah, yeah, sorry, yeah, well I this 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:38.880 is every time I say I'd rather her be crying 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:40.320 here than unsafe there. 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:42.320 Yeah, that's what we have to do payment to that, 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.280 all right. So we've got a few things to discuss 0:12:57.280 --> 0:13:01.360 and whine about it. Someone has to unpin So you 0:13:01.520 --> 0:13:04.320 rock paper scissors, one of you two me not it? 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:07.120 Not me, Kike cat. 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:10.000 My problem is is I've talked about mine, so it's 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.160 not going to be that interesting. People already to know 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:14.520 the process anyway, keep going, What are we going to 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:16.120 say no. 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:19.240 And then there's also you know our wine. I actually 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.840 have a wine from what happened to us in the airport, 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:23.319 and I want to talk about it because we actually 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:24.080 never talked about it. 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:26.720 I don't know what it is. Let's talk about it 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:31.720 a lady in front of us. Oh oh that, let's 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:33.400 do that instead of unpinning. 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:36.839 That was unbelievable. I was uncomfortable. What I almost said 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:41.199 something I want to say, getting nervous because boy, because 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.360 she said something where I believe I make up that 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.640 was her daughter. It was her daughter, Okay, and her 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:52.319 daughter was ten eleven? Oh god, no, she's probably thirteen fourteen. 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:54.880 I wouldn't think any more than thirteen. She's Emmy's age, 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:57.520 if not older. Oka, wait where are you in the 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:02.360 airport process? Sitting in the lounge and growing to They 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:06.120 were also going to La TSA is usually where it 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:08.360 starts for me. So that's why I went, yeah, yeah, no, no, 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:10.080 this was this was lounge and I guess my wine 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.960 about it and listen, this is like, this is a 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:16.360 slippery slope because I'm I'm not trying to like mom. 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:20.480 Shame sure. Having said that when she called her daughter 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:24.960 a dummy, that bothered me first and foremost, Yeah, and 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:28.160 I think it's because I'm super sensitive to two things 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:31.760 that just happened with So my son Jace went to 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.640 camp and he got called dumb and he was crying 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:36.720 at camp. I mean it was like it broke my heart. 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:38.200 Was the first time a kid has ever like said 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:40.200 something mean to him, So that like broke my heart. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:43.320 And then also the other day too, Jolie made a 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:45.560 choice about something, but she regretted her choice, and this 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:46.960 is what we were happening. And then she was like, 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:49.320 I'm an idiot and I was like no, Like I'm 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:51.000 like and so I'm like, first of all, where did 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:52.920 you hear that? Because it's like those aren't the words 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:55.560 that we say in here, and so I couldn't. First 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:58.600 and foremost was that that parent was saying like even 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.360 though she was like joking, but like she was like, 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:03.240 you're dummy, dummy, dummy, like said it like a couple 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:06.760 of times, and then was like talking about she was 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:10.160 saying all these other negative things, yeah, like really negative 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:12.000 things where I'm like, is that age appropriate for you 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:13.920 to be telling her about this cheating uncle? 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:18.320 Like it was very abrasive and very she was very negative. 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:23.200 Everything was night which I'm I mean, I'm I'm she 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:25.880 was got better left and right. Every time the plane 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:27.640 got delayed. I was like here it comes to like 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:32.840 like she was like freaking out every time that part. 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:35.280 I literally I sat there and I was like, would 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:39.200 I have had that conversation with Emmy maybe just in 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:42.960 a different way, which piece the conversation about the cheating 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:46.360 uncle or whatever. Yeah, me and Emmy do have conversations 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:48.280 like that, but this was the way. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:52.360 And it was like girlfriends talking like that sm P 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:56.000 O s was you know, cheating on this one and 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:59.280 the sick mother. Yeah, it was the way it was done. 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:02.960 It was just all very abrasive, all very negative, and 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:05.800 very public. Yes, very we were right there. 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:07.320 That's why a few times I was like, oh boy, 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:13.440 yeah yeah, because I'm like hello, right, you know, and 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:16.360 then I just and then she I just felt I 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:19.840 just felt bad because it just that negativity is like 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:22.360 we they don't need any more negativity than they already 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:24.120 see on their screens and this that and the other 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:27.040 coming then from so it put it's hard because I'm 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.000 I don't feel like mom shamed or like you're not 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:31.720 trying to shame the mom, but it did make me uncomfortable. 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:35.040 Image uncomfortable. Yeah, I think that's fair to say. 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.880 But like to then speak that negatively to your kid, 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:40.440 I'm like, that's they already have so much negativity going 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:41.120 on at that age. 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:44.560 Yeah right, yeah, I mean for sure, Yeah, no, absolutely, 0:16:44.640 --> 0:16:47.600 And I think that there's a there can be a 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:51.040 time when they are a kid at that age is 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:54.080 feeling a certain way, and that as moms we can 0:16:54.080 --> 0:16:55.760 be like, oh, I can't believe that, and we can 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:58.640 get negative down in there with them, so they feel 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:01.560 like you're kind of on their team, on their side, 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:03.280 right or wrong. I don't know if that's right or wrong. 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:05.400 Couldn't tell you, but I could think of the time 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:07.800 where like Emmy's upset about something and so I'm like, yeah, 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:09.159 I can't believe they did that, and you kind of 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:10.840 get down in that negative part too, like. 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:11.600 That's so hurtful. 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:15.600 Right, But this child was barely speaking. She just sat there. 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:18.760 She didn't really even respond to any of it. And 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.480 that's the part I saw use like, this isn't a 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:23.639 conversation really between two people. 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:25.920 It's like she wanted to be best friend talking with her, 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:27.480 or she wasn't responding. 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:28.080 Yeah. 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:30.160 I just felt bad for the yeah, the girl because 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:32.920 I'm just like, but I just saw how negaive and honestly, 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:35.399 it made me check myself to be like, Yep, I 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:37.880 don't want to be that negative person around my kids 0:17:37.920 --> 0:17:40.960 because I saw, like you said, I watched her too 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.360 to see how she reacted, and like she wasn't reacting 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:46.640 in a really anyway, but not in an engaging way either. 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:48.520 I was like, I don't want to be that. I 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:51.440 don't want to be that parent to my kids. Yep, 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:56.720 to be negatives like so it reminded me at least like, okay, a, 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:59.240 the swearing was not great, so I'm like check that 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:02.320 on my part, but also like the negative piece and 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:06.200 then how how you know to talk to them, not 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:07.800 the dumb dumb part. I was like, I just don't 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:10.240 like any of that, Like you got to speak nice 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:11.720 and wautiful words. 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:14.920 I think it's good sometimes to hear stuff like that. 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:18.080 If that's how she wants to be and that's how 0:18:18.160 --> 0:18:19.480 she wants to be with her and her daughter like 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:23.560 more power, Like if that's how they're gonna I'm okay whatever, 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:26.200 But for me, it's helpful to hear it and see 0:18:26.200 --> 0:18:28.280 what I don't like and what kind of hits me 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:32.040 and go ooh and make me think about how I 0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:34.359 will handle situations with my kids. 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:37.480 And there right now with the word yeah, I don't 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:39.679 like it. I don't either, and I've said it a 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:41.800 couple of times in front of my kids, but I 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:44.160 don't know handful. I don't know if it's like where 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:44.800 we grew up. 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:46.880 I used to not cousin in front of my kids 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:49.359 at all, and now that they've got car it comes 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:51.240 out a lot more. But I try not to say 0:18:51.240 --> 0:18:51.680 that word. 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:54.240 I slipped the S word a little bit like shit, 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:57.280 like yeah, so I'm trying to do the yeah too. 0:18:57.760 --> 0:18:59.439 It's weird. I didn't do it for so long, and 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:01.879 now that they're all like, I can remember kind of 0:19:01.880 --> 0:19:03.640 the first times I did them kind of looking at 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:05.760 me like what. But I'm like you you're older. 0:19:05.520 --> 0:19:05.720 Come on. 0:19:06.520 --> 0:19:09.639 Has gotten better being around Alan, even though he says 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:13.560 the ff thing, oh yeah, Even though he says that 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:17.840 but like it doesn't he doesn't put language within just 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:20.080 a regular sentence like I would just add swearards and 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:24.320 not just like a normal vocabulary of just regular talking. 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:28.440 But his is I've class set up a little bit 0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:30.960 more for sure with being with him because he's he's 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:35.000 more classier I guess in that area. Yeah. 0:19:35.119 --> 0:19:38.080 Also, the South just doesn't swear as much in my experience, 0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:38.920 Like I just. 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:42.200 Don't that I would have been in so much trouble. Yeah, 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:42.920 it's strange. 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:46.320 I mean great, It's just like a foreign feeling. Yeah, 0:19:46.359 --> 0:19:48.080 so it was foreign for me the first couple of 0:19:48.119 --> 0:19:50.679 times I did. That's in front of like even the 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:53.200 older ones, and I know they've heard all of it obviously, 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:55.359 but I just I just didn't grow up that way. 0:19:55.880 --> 0:19:58.720 Well, it holds more of a punch too, and use it. Yeah, 0:19:58.800 --> 0:20:01.120 and you hold it tight and once in a while 0:20:01.119 --> 0:20:01.640 it comes out. 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:02.800 Yeah. 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:03.959 So that was my wine about it. 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:05.640 Yeah, that was it was rough. 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:07.880 I kind of grew up in that we're gonna we're 0:20:07.920 --> 0:20:12.880 gonna pull out the pin, but not completely because it's similar. 0:20:13.640 --> 0:20:18.480 This pin is related, okay, in the negativity and the 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:21.480 inviting that kind of negativity back in for like the 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:25.160 unchanged people in your family. And so there's been hesitation 0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:28.959 for me to incorporate certain people back into my world 0:20:29.119 --> 0:20:33.159 because I do these temperature checks with them to like 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:35.720 see like you know, do we have growth or progress. 0:20:35.760 --> 0:20:39.679 I'm not judging the progress, but I am really protective 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:42.119 of what comes back into the space because I've given 0:20:42.160 --> 0:20:45.199 it a good amount of space. And that is a 0:20:45.200 --> 0:20:47.800 big part of it, because there's a lot of just 0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:51.359 really like it's kind of constant. It's part of the 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:54.960 makeup of this person. I remember being in the mall 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:58.960 with Love and this person, this family member, and you know, 0:20:59.080 --> 0:21:01.600 Love loves fast, so like she just like we don't 0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:03.680 walk through them all hardly ever, And so we were 0:21:03.720 --> 0:21:05.800 looking at the mannequins and the dresses. It was in 0:21:05.840 --> 0:21:09.080 Dillard's and there was a woman shopping near us, and 0:21:09.160 --> 0:21:12.640 I remember this family member going, oh, that's hideous, that's 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:15.040 you know, and I and I just stopped Love and 0:21:15.080 --> 0:21:18.520 I said, somebody is going to feel really pretty when 0:21:18.520 --> 0:21:21.040 they put that dress on. And that's what's really special 0:21:21.080 --> 0:21:23.359 about that dress. Love, And I think it's cool that 0:21:23.440 --> 0:21:26.879 you like ruffles because it's, you know whatever, Like the 0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:28.879 empowerment someone gets when they put that on is going 0:21:28.920 --> 0:21:31.600 to be so special to them. Like, I just don't 0:21:31.600 --> 0:21:34.000 want that back in my world. And I'm that's the 0:21:34.200 --> 0:21:37.120 part where I'm struggling, and I will I think more 0:21:37.400 --> 0:21:40.160 go into more details time goes on on this podcast, probably, 0:21:40.240 --> 0:21:42.760 but like just still feeling it out. But that's a 0:21:42.800 --> 0:21:44.800 lot of my protecting myself right now. 0:21:45.080 --> 0:21:48.080 That negativity piece is so interesting because I think we 0:21:48.240 --> 0:21:51.399 all struggle with that, right, Like yeah, even like talking 0:21:51.440 --> 0:21:54.080 about clothes like oh that's ugly or something like that. 0:21:54.119 --> 0:21:56.360 You know, well we might think that, but somebody else 0:21:56.440 --> 0:21:58.640 may think it's beautiful and then create them. And that's 0:21:58.640 --> 0:22:01.359 a hard lesson And that's kind of part of my 0:22:01.560 --> 0:22:05.240 pin a little bit as well. And you know, teenagers 0:22:05.280 --> 0:22:09.000 growing up with kids that are super negative and trying 0:22:09.000 --> 0:22:11.600 to find your people that make you feel good and 0:22:11.680 --> 0:22:14.840 happy and not down and depressed because they're negative all 0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:17.000 the time. And that's kind of one of the things 0:22:17.040 --> 0:22:19.199 that we've been going through at our house is like 0:22:19.760 --> 0:22:24.080 you know, friendship breakups and realizing that like, yeah, they 0:22:24.080 --> 0:22:26.000 may have done X, Y and Z to you, but 0:22:26.200 --> 0:22:29.400 also recognize that, like this might not be your person 0:22:29.520 --> 0:22:33.680 because they are negative or they are not happy, not 0:22:33.760 --> 0:22:36.080 meaning that you shouldn't be there for them, but like 0:22:36.440 --> 0:22:39.840 it's bringing you down. So how how does that make 0:22:39.880 --> 0:22:40.439 you feel? 0:22:40.560 --> 0:22:40.880 And how? 0:22:40.920 --> 0:22:43.119 You know, there's it's a lot, it's a lot to 0:22:43.119 --> 0:22:46.199 deal with a lot of negativity, but as adults it 0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:49.280 still really creeps in on us too, you know, and 0:22:49.400 --> 0:22:52.320 especially if you're raised with it. Yeah for sure. 0:22:54.640 --> 0:22:56.919 Yeah. I think a lot of it though, is the 0:22:56.960 --> 0:22:59.840 reflection of the other person, and that sometimes where it's 0:22:59.840 --> 0:23:03.359 like maybe she is going like that mom at the 0:23:03.400 --> 0:23:05.960 airport or whoever it is. It's like they're going through 0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:08.520 something that they're going through, and that's their way of 0:23:08.800 --> 0:23:12.639 either making themselves feel better or ignoring what they're going through. 0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:16.800 Like I know, in any anytime I have been negative, 0:23:16.880 --> 0:23:20.720 I can look and go it's because either it reminded 0:23:20.760 --> 0:23:24.920 me of something bad or I was not feeling confident 0:23:25.080 --> 0:23:27.480 in myself, and so what's the easiest thing to do? 0:23:27.520 --> 0:23:30.320 And that will you know, not be nice to somebody 0:23:30.320 --> 0:23:34.520 else or sure have thoughts about this because it's maybe 0:23:34.560 --> 0:23:36.920 makes that person feel better or yeah, I don't know, absolutely, 0:23:37.000 --> 0:23:40.560 And then you know, think about other relationships too. It's like, Okay, 0:23:40.680 --> 0:23:43.200 this person was saying this, but it's because it was 0:23:43.240 --> 0:23:45.040 their own reflection of themselves. 0:23:45.320 --> 0:23:48.040 Yeah, that's a hard one to teach young people. Hell, 0:23:48.080 --> 0:23:50.040 it's a hard one for me to remember a lot 0:23:50.080 --> 0:23:51.960 of the time. It's so true, and we know that 0:23:51.960 --> 0:23:52.800 that's to be true. 0:23:52.800 --> 0:23:54.960 Well, it's like the mean people that write nasty comments, 0:23:55.040 --> 0:23:58.280 is there's something with them that they're Yes, they might 0:23:58.320 --> 0:24:00.800 not like us, and they're they have to be unhappy 0:24:00.840 --> 0:24:02.880 in some part of their life to be that negative 0:24:02.880 --> 0:24:05.280 towards somebody else and be dealing with something, whether it's 0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:09.080 they don't feel whatever it is that they don't feelly, 0:24:09.160 --> 0:24:11.040 they feel, might feel lesson or not enough or whatever 0:24:11.119 --> 0:24:12.520 it is that they feel like, then they have to 0:24:12.560 --> 0:24:14.240 go being mean is the best option? 0:24:14.560 --> 0:24:17.720 Yeah, Yeah, hard rewiring as an adult, I think is 0:24:17.760 --> 0:24:21.000 the trickiest part. It really is, and knowing, you know, 0:24:21.080 --> 0:24:23.159 like when you have space from that, then you go 0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:25.359 back in you're like, wow, it's like toxic, Like it 0:24:25.440 --> 0:24:29.440 feels so like so identifiable, so quick. 0:24:29.600 --> 0:24:30.200 But then. 0:24:31.720 --> 0:24:35.200 To try to change it the trajectory, I think, yeah, 0:24:35.240 --> 0:24:37.920 And I don't want a toxic positivity environment either. That's 0:24:37.960 --> 0:24:39.840 the other right, Like it's like we don't want to 0:24:39.840 --> 0:24:42.600 be so avoidant that we're not like acknowledging something hurts 0:24:42.600 --> 0:24:44.600 our feelings or we don't like something or whatever. 0:24:44.640 --> 0:24:47.120 But also, but I don't think that's negative. I don't 0:24:47.119 --> 0:24:49.160 think it's negative to speak up and say something hurts 0:24:49.160 --> 0:24:51.040 your feelings, you know, I think that I see that 0:24:51.119 --> 0:24:52.960 as as different, you know. I mean, like, I just 0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:55.639 had a conversation with a friend today that was just 0:24:55.640 --> 0:24:57.560 a really and I love her, but it's a really 0:24:57.640 --> 0:25:02.359 just negative. She was just and she's negative, negative, negative, 0:25:02.359 --> 0:25:04.919 And I was like, Okay, I don't have the energy 0:25:04.960 --> 0:25:06.679 for that right now, and so all I can do 0:25:06.760 --> 0:25:08.960 is match it with let's just think of the positive. 0:25:09.160 --> 0:25:10.800 Let's just trust this is going to work out the 0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:13.399 way that it should. Let's just be happy. And and 0:25:13.440 --> 0:25:15.520 she also didn't want to hear that right right then, 0:25:15.800 --> 0:25:20.280 but like, sometimes though, it can bring me down so much, yes, 0:25:20.400 --> 0:25:22.840 and bring me down to being negative too, that it's 0:25:22.880 --> 0:25:24.000 like I just I can't. 0:25:24.520 --> 0:25:26.960 I just it's hard. It's a misery. Loves Company is 0:25:26.960 --> 0:25:30.719 the same for a reason. Yeah. But also Amy had 0:25:30.720 --> 0:25:34.679 said something about the rewiring where you're at, and she's like, 0:25:34.920 --> 0:25:36.439 I know it's you know, not trying to be like 0:25:36.440 --> 0:25:40.280 that toxic positivity, but with the the gratitude stuff, it's 0:25:40.320 --> 0:25:42.800 really hard. She's like, if you do that every day 0:25:42.840 --> 0:25:47.000 for this my time, your brain actually does rewire. You're going, yeah, okay, no, 0:25:47.119 --> 0:25:48.800 this is good. Yeah, I'm not maybe where I want 0:25:48.840 --> 0:25:51.440 to be here, you know, whatever the case, but that 0:25:51.680 --> 0:25:54.560 you are, there are so many other beautiful things around you. Yes, 0:25:54.800 --> 0:25:57.920 and that's way. No, no, no, no, I think it's 0:25:57.960 --> 0:25:58.520 just grateful. 0:25:58.960 --> 0:26:00.679 But it is true because I think, isn't it Like 0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:04.320 I'm probably messing up this, But it's like scientifically impossible 0:26:04.359 --> 0:26:06.160 for you to be grateful and fearful at the same time, 0:26:06.320 --> 0:26:08.560 or grateful and worrisome at the same time. It's a 0:26:08.600 --> 0:26:12.320 teeter totter, so you can only really have like one. Yeah, yeah, 0:26:12.359 --> 0:26:14.000 it's good to know. Yeah, well, I'm. 0:26:13.840 --> 0:26:15.840 Glad that conversation was the same person that you told 0:26:15.880 --> 0:26:16.320 me about. There. 0:26:16.400 --> 0:26:19.280 Well, the person I was actually talking to today is 0:26:19.800 --> 0:26:21.199 not and it is a good friend and it's just 0:26:21.240 --> 0:26:24.199 a circumstance that she's she's feeling down about and I 0:26:24.359 --> 0:26:28.199 understand it. But I'm like, you're stuck there. But she 0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:29.840 can hear it, like I love it, like she can 0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:32.000 hear it. I'm like, hey, you're stuck here. Let's let's 0:26:32.080 --> 0:26:34.359 let's just we don't even know yet. Let's be happy. 0:26:34.440 --> 0:26:36.080 Let's you know, you have a talk today. 0:26:36.280 --> 0:26:36.560 No. 0:26:36.840 --> 0:26:40.040 No, I was like, yeah, I think it's related to 0:26:40.080 --> 0:26:43.520 her child. Too, and just you know, and it's again, 0:26:43.720 --> 0:26:46.200 she'll be fine tomorrow. She's just in that negative spot. 0:26:46.280 --> 0:26:50.159 But I was feeling myself like kind of meeting her 0:26:50.160 --> 0:26:51.920 there and I'm like, nope, I'm like, all right, let's 0:26:52.000 --> 0:26:55.240 just think positive, let's you know whatever. No, the situation 0:26:55.359 --> 0:26:58.040 with us is just you know, we've had you know, 0:26:58.119 --> 0:27:02.240 officially friendship breakup, you know that we were dealing with. Unfortunately, 0:27:02.320 --> 0:27:05.320 we're also friends and it has not been good for us. 0:27:05.640 --> 0:27:07.399 So the moms are friends, the kids are friends. 0:27:07.520 --> 0:27:09.960 Yeah, yeah, yeah, and like we travel together and we're 0:27:10.000 --> 0:27:12.200 not anymore, and you know, stuff like that. So it's 0:27:12.240 --> 0:27:13.680 been really and I don't want to talk about last 0:27:13.680 --> 0:27:15.720 week because like that had just happened. We had decided 0:27:15.760 --> 0:27:17.080 not to travel together. So I was like I'm going 0:27:17.119 --> 0:27:19.040 to cry, you know, Like I was just like it's 0:27:19.040 --> 0:27:21.480 too fresh. And then we just kind of had a 0:27:21.520 --> 0:27:25.960 situation where something floated around that a friend or an 0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:28.840 ex friend had sent of Emmy's that really embarrassed her 0:27:28.880 --> 0:27:31.919 and she was crying and she was upset, and I 0:27:32.000 --> 0:27:33.359 it just went to the parents and I was like, 0:27:33.359 --> 0:27:36.320 can y'all please like take care of this, you know, 0:27:36.520 --> 0:27:39.600 And it wasn't received well, and I understand because I 0:27:39.680 --> 0:27:43.000 was definitely coming from a mad place, but also like 0:27:43.119 --> 0:27:47.280 help me out place a protective place, for sure. And 0:27:47.720 --> 0:27:51.280 you know when children lie a lot and are not 0:27:51.400 --> 0:27:55.160 honest with their parents, but I know the truth. It's 0:27:55.320 --> 0:27:57.639 really hard because it's like I get you know, I 0:27:57.680 --> 0:28:00.399 got attacked back, like you don't know, this is not 0:28:00.440 --> 0:28:03.439 what happened, and I'm like, okay, you know. But then 0:28:03.480 --> 0:28:05.560 they come back and admit it later, you know that 0:28:05.560 --> 0:28:07.879 it that it did happen, and so it just was 0:28:07.920 --> 0:28:11.960 a really it was taking me to a negative place, 0:28:12.040 --> 0:28:13.720 for sure, and so it was one of those where 0:28:13.760 --> 0:28:15.680 we just have to step away from it. It's making 0:28:15.760 --> 0:28:18.920 us all unhappy, it's making the kids unhappy, it's making 0:28:18.960 --> 0:28:22.080 the moms unhappy. So we just have to agree to 0:28:22.880 --> 0:28:24.040 just separate for a while. 0:28:24.040 --> 0:28:25.639 And well that's hard to because you were friends with 0:28:25.680 --> 0:28:28.199 the mom. Yeah, yeah, it's hard. We were together all 0:28:28.240 --> 0:28:32.000 the time, you know, So that's it's hard. But every 0:28:32.040 --> 0:28:33.880 day I feel more peace about it in the sense 0:28:33.960 --> 0:28:35.920 I know that we'll be cordial. 0:28:36.040 --> 0:28:38.240 That's the one thing I know about this mom. She 0:28:38.400 --> 0:28:41.240 is not going to be mean to me. She's not 0:28:41.360 --> 0:28:43.160 going to you know, like when we see each other, 0:28:43.280 --> 0:28:44.880 it will be fine. We will be able to be 0:28:44.960 --> 0:28:47.240 around each other. I know all of that, and I'm 0:28:47.280 --> 0:28:49.720 thankful for that because, I mean, there's been things said 0:28:49.760 --> 0:28:54.640 on both sides that are hurtful, but I just I 0:28:54.760 --> 0:28:57.360 feel more peace every day knowing you know what this is. 0:28:58.120 --> 0:29:00.680 This is just kind of God's plan for us right now. 0:29:01.080 --> 0:29:03.360 But it does bring me to a question. It made 0:29:03.400 --> 0:29:06.520 me think about something. So have y'all ever heard I'm 0:29:06.520 --> 0:29:08.680 sure you have, but kind of like the whole saying 0:29:08.720 --> 0:29:13.000 about like friends are like a season like seasonal friends. 0:29:13.120 --> 0:29:14.960 Yeah, a reason a season or a lifetime they So 0:29:15.080 --> 0:29:15.400 does that. 0:29:15.360 --> 0:29:17.959 Bother y'all at all? Like have you ever had anyone 0:29:18.000 --> 0:29:21.560 say that to you, like when you're friends, Like when 0:29:21.600 --> 0:29:25.440 your friends are just seasonal, Kristen, they're just seasonal? Like 0:29:25.440 --> 0:29:26.280 would that bother you? 0:29:27.320 --> 0:29:30.000 Yeah? I think I'm a love delivering it though too. Yea, 0:29:30.360 --> 0:29:32.440 how they are. There's someone in our neighborhood that I 0:29:32.440 --> 0:29:35.840 could absolutely we're friends, but I we were both kind 0:29:35.840 --> 0:29:38.840 of making comments like she's she's a wife of a coach, 0:29:39.200 --> 0:29:43.280 she will leave right right, and so we yes, we're friends, 0:29:43.320 --> 0:29:46.640 but it's not it is a season friend because it's 0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:49.480 not tight enough to like, we're most likely never going 0:29:49.560 --> 0:29:52.280 to hang out unless she comes right back to Nashville 0:29:52.320 --> 0:29:54.760 when they move, right. Does that makes sense? That makes sense? Yeah, 0:29:54.800 --> 0:29:56.520 so I think. But if one of you guys said 0:29:56.520 --> 0:29:58.280 that's me, that would break my heart because I think 0:29:58.320 --> 0:30:03.360 we're life life life time life, right life. Yeah, I 0:30:03.400 --> 0:30:09.040 think it's it's how it's it's where the friendship is at, 0:30:09.200 --> 0:30:10.400 right when that person says it. 0:30:10.520 --> 0:30:14.000 Yeah, so we had So this story is kind of 0:30:14.160 --> 0:30:16.200 obviously a lot of this is with cheer moms, but 0:30:16.240 --> 0:30:18.640 we're together so much and we've all, you know, become friends. 0:30:18.720 --> 0:30:21.440 So there is one that did turn out to be seasonal. 0:30:21.960 --> 0:30:22.920 A couple of years ago. 0:30:23.320 --> 0:30:26.360 She always said that, and it always took me back 0:30:26.440 --> 0:30:28.600 because I'm like, no, like, what are you talking about. 0:30:28.640 --> 0:30:30.280 We'll always be friends. It doesn't matter if she's on 0:30:30.320 --> 0:30:32.480 a different team, we live in the same town, it 0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:35.840 doesn't matter. Like always though, it was always Nope, friends 0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:37.200 are seasonal, they're seasonal. 0:30:37.280 --> 0:30:39.840 Sounds like she's a little protective for herself. She is, Yeah, 0:30:39.880 --> 0:30:40.440 she is, and. 0:30:42.040 --> 0:30:45.520 Yeah, and I very much recognized it as a coping 0:30:45.880 --> 0:30:48.920 you know, in her, And turns out, yes, she was 0:30:49.040 --> 0:30:51.280 very clear, we were seasonal, we're no longer friends, which 0:30:51.320 --> 0:30:54.400 is fine, great, right, that's wild. Well, then this friend 0:30:54.960 --> 0:30:58.400 that I just had this situation with threw that out 0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:01.600 there when we were talking. She's like, well, I guess 0:31:01.600 --> 0:31:04.880 it's a different season, and I was like, oh, okay, 0:31:04.960 --> 0:31:05.880 and that's just great. 0:31:06.040 --> 0:31:06.240 Yeah. 0:31:06.280 --> 0:31:08.239 I just really took that as Wow. I didn't think 0:31:08.280 --> 0:31:11.000 that you really bought into that too, you know. I 0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:12.600 mean I didn't say that, but in my mind, I'm 0:31:12.600 --> 0:31:15.680 like wow, because like that always bothered all of us 0:31:15.680 --> 0:31:17.520 that she said that. But she was like, yeah, no, 0:31:17.680 --> 0:31:19.680 she's right, they're seasonal. So it was like, okay, guess 0:31:19.680 --> 0:31:22.560 our season's over too. But I just thought, like, have 0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:24.120 y'all ever had I just didn't know if y'all ever 0:31:24.160 --> 0:31:27.040 had anyone tell you that. It's always been just a 0:31:27.080 --> 0:31:29.640 little bit of a I get that there's the truth 0:31:29.680 --> 0:31:32.240 to that once the season is over, but saying to 0:31:32.280 --> 0:31:35.640 a current friend just never felt good to me. It 0:31:35.680 --> 0:31:38.640 always felt like you very much planned for us to 0:31:38.800 --> 0:31:41.240 just be friends for a season. So why do I 0:31:41.280 --> 0:31:44.560 want to put in all this work into a friendship 0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:46.760 if you're already saying it it's just seasonal. 0:31:46.920 --> 0:31:48.520 Yeah, It's like when you're dating the guy and you 0:31:48.520 --> 0:31:50.680 know you're not going to marry him, what's the point. 0:31:50.480 --> 0:31:52.640 Right, you know what I mean? Yeah, like, yeah, it's 0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:55.240 a good question, and you raise a really good point. 0:31:55.240 --> 0:31:57.720 And I'm just thinking of kind of our you know, 0:31:58.120 --> 0:32:01.440 I think our you know, queen as everyone's very busy, 0:32:01.680 --> 0:32:03.920 we get together as much as we can. I think 0:32:04.000 --> 0:32:07.240 we because of the relationships that we have, we are 0:32:07.480 --> 0:32:09.120 we will always just like my high school friends, like 0:32:09.160 --> 0:32:12.840 we'll be lifelong friends, right. But I think in the forties, 0:32:13.000 --> 0:32:17.000 especially people that come in maybe some of them are 0:32:17.400 --> 0:32:20.040 truly just seasonal ones or just the sports ones. Like 0:32:20.080 --> 0:32:22.560 I have a girlfriend that I love, but I'm not 0:32:22.600 --> 0:32:23.800 going to go out of my way to hang out 0:32:23.840 --> 0:32:25.760 with her when I'd rather hang out with and I 0:32:25.920 --> 0:32:29.480 but I would see her. We're sports friends right right, 0:32:29.560 --> 0:32:31.680 because our kids love each other and we hang out. 0:32:31.720 --> 0:32:35.920 So I think, you know, there's that is a season, yeah, 0:32:35.960 --> 0:32:39.200 and the actual baseball season, yeah, you know, truly fall 0:32:39.240 --> 0:32:39.800 ball season. 0:32:39.840 --> 0:32:41.720 But I do think there is some truth to it, 0:32:41.800 --> 0:32:44.960 for sure, I just think. But there's also like it 0:32:44.960 --> 0:32:46.360 doesn't have to do so all or nothing. I think 0:32:46.400 --> 0:32:47.560 that's what I don't like about that. 0:32:47.440 --> 0:32:49.520 Same like you need to say it though, right, I 0:32:49.560 --> 0:32:51.080 know we know it, but we don't have to say 0:32:51.120 --> 0:32:53.360 because that's saying it, I think is the hurtful. Right. 0:32:53.560 --> 0:32:56.320 They also don't have to fit into three categories, you know, 0:32:56.560 --> 0:32:59.960 Like I love our friendships for a lot of reasons, right. 0:33:00.000 --> 0:33:01.720 I think they can like EBB and flow and they 0:33:01.720 --> 0:33:04.480 can't go different seasons and stuff like that or whatever. 0:33:04.600 --> 0:33:07.320 But I don't know, it's just the intentionality behind it 0:33:07.360 --> 0:33:08.000 from the get go. 0:33:08.200 --> 0:33:10.840 I'm just like, no, I'm sure that would would. I 0:33:10.840 --> 0:33:14.320 don't like that feelings. And also you kind of know 0:33:15.240 --> 0:33:17.120 who you're going to maybe start hanging out with, why 0:33:17.200 --> 0:33:19.640 or not? And right, but I feel like by this 0:33:19.720 --> 0:33:23.920 point you have your core group. Yeah, your peeps, Yeah, yeah, 0:33:23.960 --> 0:33:28.680 for sure. Also very red flaggy. Yeah, I don't like it. Well, 0:33:28.720 --> 0:33:30.160 I'm sorry, kits. 0:33:29.680 --> 0:33:32.160 Okay, it's you know, it'll it'll be fine, It'll be 0:33:32.200 --> 0:33:34.680 good in the end. It's just I mean, obviously feel 0:33:34.760 --> 0:33:39.200 worse for her daughter than you know, myself, But it 0:33:39.240 --> 0:33:42.000 does make it kind of uncomfortable for everybody. 0:33:42.240 --> 0:33:44.400 That's a tricky piece though, because I think about, you 0:33:44.400 --> 0:33:48.920 know what if our daughters there's a riff between her, 0:33:49.080 --> 0:33:51.360 you know, Harlow or I mean raims. They don't hang 0:33:51.360 --> 0:33:53.280 out as much, but like you know, if something would 0:33:53.320 --> 0:33:56.400 happen or and then it's like how that then affects 0:33:56.440 --> 0:34:01.120 the relationship between the friend We already kind of talk. 0:34:01.360 --> 0:34:02.600 I don't know if we talked about it on here, 0:34:02.640 --> 0:34:04.000 if it was just friend chat. 0:34:04.440 --> 0:34:06.360 But like birthday parties, Yeah, and they get to the 0:34:06.400 --> 0:34:08.799 age where they're like, yeah, they invite they pick the 0:34:08.800 --> 0:34:10.279 people they want to invite it, and you're like, well 0:34:10.280 --> 0:34:10.920 what about them? 0:34:11.600 --> 0:34:14.239 You know that's tricky through all of this. 0:34:14.840 --> 0:34:18.640 Just so y'all know, like protection mechanism for me is 0:34:18.680 --> 0:34:22.360 a major one with Ramsey, like her best friend, Like 0:34:22.400 --> 0:34:25.400 we're friends, but like I keep a little bit of 0:34:25.560 --> 0:34:28.279 distance because I can't I could. I could not do 0:34:28.400 --> 0:34:31.279 this again. I mean I could not do this again. 0:34:31.400 --> 0:34:33.120 That's why I am thankful for y'all though, because they 0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:35.520 don't go to school together. They don't, you know, so 0:34:35.760 --> 0:34:38.040 like they're not just always together. They're not. 0:34:38.200 --> 0:34:40.000 So if there was like a little bit of a thing, 0:34:40.040 --> 0:34:41.920 it would be so easy to like it's not like 0:34:42.000 --> 0:34:44.280 a big falling out, Like they don't go to school together. 0:34:44.320 --> 0:34:46.799 You know, all those dating the same boys and That's why, 0:34:46.840 --> 0:34:49.560 even like sports together stuff like that. I have been 0:34:49.640 --> 0:34:53.680 so hesitant with Ramsey in that sense doing this over 0:34:54.080 --> 0:34:56.759 because I feel like I did her a disservice by 0:34:56.800 --> 0:35:00.200 them being together all the time, or both of us yea, 0:35:00.239 --> 0:35:02.520 and then being involved and you know all those things. 0:35:02.560 --> 0:35:04.080 I also feel like you can't help that though, too. 0:35:04.200 --> 0:35:04.360 I know. 0:35:04.520 --> 0:35:07.399 Yeah, it's kind of inevitable, especially when you're traveling. Yeah, 0:35:07.760 --> 0:35:10.400 it just can be too much at times. So yeah, anybody, 0:35:12.400 --> 0:35:13.000 I don't think so. 0:35:13.120 --> 0:35:15.960 I think we both slightly unpinned. You're the only one 0:35:15.960 --> 0:35:16.239 that's not. 0:35:16.640 --> 0:35:19.839 We didn't even didn't a little I did. Last week. 0:35:19.880 --> 0:35:21.560 I was trying to pull something else out. 0:35:21.520 --> 0:35:27.680 Okay, I thought, yeah, we'll see. 0:35:36.320 --> 0:35:38.600 Teddy mellin camp. Cozy's up to a mystery man amid 0:35:38.600 --> 0:35:42.560 cancer treatment and divorce from husband Edwin. She's been spotted 0:35:42.600 --> 0:35:44.480 cozying up to her new mystery man on a walk 0:35:44.480 --> 0:35:48.799 in Encino, California. Did you guys see the photo? On 0:35:48.840 --> 0:35:51.359 her podcast? They were talking and saying, yes, I'm dating 0:35:51.360 --> 0:35:52.800 a guy. And yesterday we went on a walk and 0:35:52.880 --> 0:35:54.440 went to Gelson's. Then we went to the mall to 0:35:54.440 --> 0:35:57.319 pick up Slade's graduation dress. He is very kind and 0:35:57.360 --> 0:36:00.960 he's been helping her. It's private, private person, doesn't have 0:36:00.960 --> 0:36:02.839 any kids. He's taking good care of me. He's nice, 0:36:02.880 --> 0:36:08.399 he's not married. She added, that's good, just really really 0:36:08.440 --> 0:36:13.880 clarifying there. Yeah, so I kind of my thoughts on 0:36:13.920 --> 0:36:16.120 this is I love a man that comes in. 0:36:17.880 --> 0:36:19.040 Like that. You know. 0:36:19.600 --> 0:36:22.359 I also think of like Katie Thurston's husband, who they 0:36:22.440 --> 0:36:24.760 ended up getting married early because she's also got cancer 0:36:25.400 --> 0:36:27.640 and do you guys know who she is. She was 0:36:27.960 --> 0:36:32.040 one of the Bachelor Girls, bachelorette, sorry, she was the bachelorette. 0:36:32.360 --> 0:36:39.000 And you know, men that come in during that, I 0:36:39.160 --> 0:36:42.880 think they're just incredible to be there and to be 0:36:43.160 --> 0:36:45.319 a safe place for women. I even think of the 0:36:45.320 --> 0:36:48.399 same thing about, you know, men like Alan who come 0:36:48.560 --> 0:36:51.680 after you know a girl has been hurt really bad 0:36:51.840 --> 0:36:55.680 sure or you know, been through a bad relationship. So 0:36:55.800 --> 0:36:58.960 I have a lot of Kelsey Ballerini actually has a 0:36:58.960 --> 0:37:01.680 song to the to the men who love women after heartbreak. 0:37:02.200 --> 0:37:04.759 You know, I think there's something so beautiful about that 0:37:04.840 --> 0:37:08.719 type of man that can come and be such a 0:37:08.800 --> 0:37:13.440 support and loving, comfortable, you know, comfortable place for them. 0:37:13.480 --> 0:37:14.160 That's my thoughts. 0:37:14.320 --> 0:37:16.080 Yeah, I'm really happy for her too. 0:37:16.360 --> 0:37:19.920 She's wonderful. Yeah, and she's going through so much and 0:37:20.040 --> 0:37:22.960 so hard, and it seems like Edwin's being great and 0:37:23.000 --> 0:37:26.080 being helpful and so thank God for that. I mean, 0:37:26.080 --> 0:37:28.640 they've got these kids together. And then to have someone 0:37:28.719 --> 0:37:32.160 that she feels like like, I'm I'm I mean that's huge. 0:37:33.560 --> 0:37:33.920 Yeah. 0:37:34.040 --> 0:37:36.279 Yeah, and life is again we go to this like 0:37:36.320 --> 0:37:39.520 life is so short and yes, and everyone just and 0:37:39.600 --> 0:37:43.080 everybody just get along. Yeah, exactly, especially in those kind 0:37:43.080 --> 0:37:43.480 of times. 0:37:43.800 --> 0:37:46.480 Yeah, I think just yeah, I mean imagine how tired 0:37:46.840 --> 0:37:51.880 spiritually physically to have any any newness is probably I 0:37:51.920 --> 0:37:54.759 mean even chemistry right biologically, that's got to be so 0:37:54.800 --> 0:37:55.560 good for her body. 0:37:56.080 --> 0:38:00.160 Yeah, give her some life, yeah, just like a little yeah. Yeah, yes, 0:38:01.280 --> 0:38:03.160 I know, I say, can everyone get along? But I 0:38:03.200 --> 0:38:07.120 me and my ex go back and forth, but there's it's. 0:38:07.160 --> 0:38:10.880 Everyone who's healthy get along. That would be my statement. Okay, 0:38:10.920 --> 0:38:17.719 too much, she said it. She always does. She's protesting it. 0:38:17.719 --> 0:38:18.879 It's very hard to co parent. 0:38:19.040 --> 0:38:20.960 It's hard to co parent with someone you can't trust, 0:38:21.000 --> 0:38:24.799 you know, and it repeats patterns. So it's that's you know, yep, 0:38:24.960 --> 0:38:27.080 it can't. It's not all sunshine and butterflies. You know, 0:38:27.120 --> 0:38:30.760 co parenting is tough in general, so but in this instance, 0:38:30.800 --> 0:38:34.759 I'm very happy for them because you know, she's they uh, 0:38:35.560 --> 0:38:38.880 she's going through a lot, so positivity I think also 0:38:38.960 --> 0:38:44.239 helps and heals, yes, all things. Anyways, enough about that. 0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:47.799 Chris Jenner reveals Kylie Jenner's breast surgeon did her what 0:38:48.200 --> 0:38:52.040 did her first face lift? Chris Jenner is hyping up 0:38:52.080 --> 0:38:54.520 the plastic surgeon who was behind her face lift fourteen 0:38:54.560 --> 0:38:56.960 years ago. Okay, wait time out. Didn't she just get 0:38:56.960 --> 0:38:59.440 a facelift? She did something she did. 0:38:59.760 --> 0:39:02.479 I think this one is referencing her first one, though 0:39:02.560 --> 0:39:02.880 not this. 0:39:03.080 --> 0:39:05.440 One, So you have to do more than one facelift. 0:39:06.560 --> 0:39:09.399 I think they definitely can go because like my mother 0:39:09.440 --> 0:39:11.120 in law, I think that's fine to say has had. 0:39:11.000 --> 0:39:16.200 One in about seven days. We're all gonna know. 0:39:16.520 --> 0:39:19.879 But like I mean, it definitely starts to change, yeah, 0:39:20.480 --> 0:39:22.640 because if they're referencing the one that yeah she said 0:39:22.640 --> 0:39:24.880 fourteen years ago, Oh yeah, no, she just had a 0:39:24.880 --> 0:39:25.200 new one. 0:39:25.239 --> 0:39:29.400 And have you seen the pictures? Yeah? I was confused 0:39:29.400 --> 0:39:30.160 and who she was. 0:39:30.320 --> 0:39:32.680 To be honest, we were talking, we were playing car 0:39:33.520 --> 0:39:33.920 was just here. 0:39:33.960 --> 0:39:35.120 Guys. Can we talk about that? 0:39:35.160 --> 0:39:36.120 I know, I'm so upset. 0:39:36.560 --> 0:39:38.640 She was with Maggie. She played beer pong with Maggie. 0:39:38.760 --> 0:39:42.640 She was that my friendie Maggie Maggie Walsh. Oh what yeah, 0:39:42.640 --> 0:39:45.040 I text hers top everything where she's so nice. It 0:39:45.120 --> 0:39:47.120 was like she was amazing. It was my girlfriend. They 0:39:47.120 --> 0:39:48.320 own that. I was like, what about it? 0:39:49.360 --> 0:39:52.000 Yeah, that's but we were talking about it and I 0:39:52.120 --> 0:39:54.719 was saying it and wonder my friend's death. 0:39:54.960 --> 0:39:55.960 She was just so. 0:39:55.800 --> 0:39:57.640 Funny because she was like, oh, yeah, cool, she got 0:39:57.640 --> 0:39:59.440 a face lift, blah blah blah. And I'm like showing 0:39:59.480 --> 0:40:01.319 this back up. She's like, yeah, okay, cool. So it's 0:40:01.320 --> 0:40:01.839 like her and Kim. 0:40:01.920 --> 0:40:03.839 She's like not into she was not into it. 0:40:03.880 --> 0:40:06.919 And I go, that is not Kim Beth and she goes, 0:40:07.080 --> 0:40:10.760 wait what it was? Her like, weird it is again 0:40:10.840 --> 0:40:13.839 I'm all about aging gracefully and like whatever, but I 0:40:13.880 --> 0:40:15.360 have never seen anything. 0:40:15.719 --> 0:40:17.200 No, I didn't know. 0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:18.719 It's unbelievable. 0:40:18.880 --> 0:40:20.919 No, Like it was like a weird feeling for me. Yes, 0:40:20.960 --> 0:40:21.960 I was like, wait, like. 0:40:22.000 --> 0:40:24.480 Does have happened? I know it's unbelievable. Also, like I 0:40:24.480 --> 0:40:25.359 want to know who did this one? 0:40:25.680 --> 0:40:26.680 The first one? I don't know. 0:40:26.800 --> 0:40:28.839 I guess I'm I'm not very tuned in to them 0:40:28.920 --> 0:40:32.880 right now at all or many things. No, no, this 0:40:32.960 --> 0:40:36.239 isn't like I'm not Kardashian shaming. It's fine, I'll get 0:40:36.239 --> 0:40:38.520 plenty of those message. Oh no, no, because I love 0:40:38.520 --> 0:40:39.640 a good Kardashian moment. 0:40:39.960 --> 0:40:40.319 I do. 0:40:40.400 --> 0:40:43.200 I just haven't been as tuned in alger than probably right, 0:40:43.280 --> 0:40:45.960 so it feels like I haven't. I just saw Chris 0:40:46.080 --> 0:40:48.480 recently in my brain. But then all of a sudden, 0:40:48.520 --> 0:40:50.960 I'm like, where is time different for these people? 0:40:51.280 --> 0:40:51.920 Like unreal? 0:40:52.160 --> 0:40:54.400 They just go away for like ten minutes, I feel like, 0:40:54.440 --> 0:40:55.560 and come back with a new face. 0:40:55.800 --> 0:40:59.360 And here's the thing I've I think she's stunning beautiful. 0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:02.680 Before she always thought like I think she's a beautiful woman. 0:41:02.760 --> 0:41:05.120 I do think she's stunning, and just the way she 0:41:05.239 --> 0:41:09.360 keeps herself like she's so lover. Yes, I always say like, 0:41:10.400 --> 0:41:12.880 I'm obsessed with Christian. I don't think she's fantastic, but 0:41:12.880 --> 0:41:14.960 I thought she was beautiful before the facelift. 0:41:15.760 --> 0:41:19.880 I did two facelifts. Corey's like twelve. 0:41:20.080 --> 0:41:22.080 I don't, I don't know. But I'm also like, at 0:41:22.080 --> 0:41:23.799 some point is she going to start? 0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:24.279 Wait? 0:41:24.320 --> 0:41:25.600 I mean, Corey's so young. 0:41:25.840 --> 0:41:28.560 Is he thought he's not? Yeah? How old is he? Oh? 0:41:28.640 --> 0:41:31.319 I don't know, but he's definitely probably. 0:41:31.000 --> 0:41:36.080 Thirty years got to google around her head. There's no 0:41:36.120 --> 0:41:40.080 always don't know way he's thirty, No, forty four, thirty 0:41:40.160 --> 0:41:43.279 years younger, but maybe forty four. Yeah, I thought he 0:41:43.360 --> 0:41:45.839 was in his forties. I mean yeah, I mean, because 0:41:45.840 --> 0:41:47.640 I'm just like, yeah, this, I mean, I think she's 0:41:47.719 --> 0:41:52.680 just she's so beautiful. I you know, it's hard because 0:41:53.280 --> 0:41:55.720 if you got the money and I want to look younger. 0:41:55.760 --> 0:41:57.600 I love that people. I love that they talk about 0:41:57.640 --> 0:41:59.360 it at least. I love that they're opened about it 0:41:59.400 --> 0:42:01.279 and they're like, yeah, I have a facelift. I mean, 0:42:01.320 --> 0:42:03.879 surely she's I don't know if she's actually talked about 0:42:03.880 --> 0:42:06.279 this one, but there's literally no way to deny this one. 0:42:07.040 --> 0:42:09.080 I don't even know how she is her daughter now, 0:42:09.239 --> 0:42:11.600 and I haven't in which one make a daughter. 0:42:11.680 --> 0:42:13.719 She looks like every different daughter, every which way. 0:42:13.800 --> 0:42:15.960 Then again, though, stem cells are really doing a thing. 0:42:16.040 --> 0:42:17.600 I mean, and maybe it was her face, maybe it 0:42:17.640 --> 0:42:19.799 was something else, and maybe that's why it looks so good. 0:42:19.880 --> 0:42:21.640 Because maybe it's not an actual facelift. I don't know, 0:42:21.760 --> 0:42:23.719 let me know I mean because it's unbelievable. 0:42:24.080 --> 0:42:25.040 I'm shocked. 0:42:25.239 --> 0:42:27.840 I'm in shocked by this as I haven't done botox 0:42:27.920 --> 0:42:28.520 in like a year. 0:42:29.040 --> 0:42:30.360 Would you guys ever do a facelift? 0:42:30.680 --> 0:42:33.000 No, I would neither. I would never put a knife 0:42:33.000 --> 0:42:33.359 to my face. 0:42:33.400 --> 0:42:34.799 I never know. With me, I kind of feel like 0:42:34.800 --> 0:42:35.280 you would. 0:42:35.239 --> 0:42:37.520 Oh you would do anything, Oh in a good way. 0:42:37.840 --> 0:42:40.160 Yeah, I don't. I'm like, I'm not scared of that stuff. 0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:42.960 No, I'm more scared of surgery. Injections don't scare me 0:42:43.000 --> 0:42:46.120 as much. Surgery is where I am tough. I would 0:42:46.120 --> 0:42:50.240 do boobs first, probably boobs are knowing before i'd facelift. 0:42:51.160 --> 0:42:53.960 I just am I am like I also have just 0:42:54.000 --> 0:42:56.040 been like recent, I've just been so in the deep 0:42:56.080 --> 0:42:58.400 dive of like internally the things that help us that 0:42:58.520 --> 0:43:00.680 can like just bring out like a use full glow 0:43:00.760 --> 0:43:02.919 and like help us support our collagen and blah blah blah. 0:43:02.960 --> 0:43:06.760 Like I'm more into that than I am like surgery. 0:43:06.800 --> 0:43:10.040 And also I've just seen so many that are not great. 0:43:10.320 --> 0:43:12.719 And I mean, if I were her, if I and 0:43:12.760 --> 0:43:16.800 I had Christianner's money, then maybecause you know you're getting 0:43:16.840 --> 0:43:18.680 top of you know, all that cream of the crop, 0:43:18.840 --> 0:43:21.480 like I can't, like with the money I got like 0:43:21.520 --> 0:43:26.560 a group bond, you know, Like again, is money can 0:43:26.640 --> 0:43:27.600 really make you pretty? 0:43:27.760 --> 0:43:27.960 Yeah? 0:43:28.239 --> 0:43:30.560 Right, right, you can look pretty with the money. 0:43:31.640 --> 0:43:33.719 Having said that, did you happen to see any of 0:43:33.719 --> 0:43:36.240 the d ms from that one baiting suit, because someone 0:43:36.280 --> 0:43:38.680 did say, well with all them, with with the money 0:43:38.680 --> 0:43:41.000 and the plastic surgeries, anyone can look like that. And 0:43:41.040 --> 0:43:43.359 I'm like, yes, I have my boobs done, but besides that, 0:43:43.440 --> 0:43:46.040 like I don't have a trainer, Like, yeah, I don't 0:43:46.040 --> 0:43:50.520 do botox, you workout well, I mean I also don't 0:43:50.560 --> 0:43:53.040 negate that. Yeah, But so that's my point. So I 0:43:53.040 --> 0:43:54.360 was like, why did you have to go straight to 0:43:54.480 --> 0:43:56.640 she has money plastic surgery? That was not cool to me. 0:43:57.160 --> 0:43:59.920 No, you've done nothing to make yourself look prettier, like I. 0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:00.919 Got my boobs done. 0:44:03.200 --> 0:44:06.719 That isn't like making you know what I'm saying, I'm 0:44:06.760 --> 0:44:09.600 just saying that sounds how do I say without being. 0:44:09.440 --> 0:44:12.640 Sound judgmental, like that you can really change a face. Sure, 0:44:13.480 --> 0:44:15.239 and money and stuff too, right, but you've never done 0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:17.719 any of that. But that's what people automatically go to, 0:44:18.040 --> 0:44:20.120 is like, well, you know, and that was the comment 0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:23.560 because it was my friend Kelly Krueger had been like 0:44:23.680 --> 0:44:26.640 damn girl or something, or like m body goals or 0:44:26.680 --> 0:44:29.040 something like, you know, one of those things, and they're like, yeah, 0:44:29.080 --> 0:44:31.239 with with money and plastic surgery, like you just have 0:44:31.320 --> 0:44:32.120 it too people. 0:44:31.880 --> 0:44:33.520 Being negative and it's secure. 0:44:33.640 --> 0:44:37.920 Actually I wanted a tummy talk Alan straight up wouldn't 0:44:37.960 --> 0:44:41.000 let me love him so much? Did you want one? Later? Yeah, 0:44:41.000 --> 0:44:45.040 I wanted him. I wanted a mommy. I've always wanted one. 0:44:45.120 --> 0:44:47.439 I forgot you did always want one. I've always about 0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:49.319 it in a long time. The doctor talked you out 0:44:49.320 --> 0:44:52.960 of you like brought it up at one point with 0:44:52.960 --> 0:44:55.239 with doctor when I was doing my mAbs, He's like, 0:44:55.280 --> 0:44:59.000 you could. He's like, but you know, this is what 0:44:59.000 --> 0:45:01.879 we can do. And then he's like, basically I didn't 0:45:01.880 --> 0:45:03.360 know if I was done with I mean, I was 0:45:03.680 --> 0:45:08.120 right right, yeah, yeah, but he's like, you know, try 0:45:09.200 --> 0:45:11.560 actually working out. I didn't work out to the best 0:45:11.560 --> 0:45:14.759 of the ability then, and so that's a funny sentence though, 0:45:14.840 --> 0:45:16.839 I know, but we're actually working out. 0:45:17.239 --> 0:45:19.920 As if you've always been like a fit, well, especially 0:45:19.960 --> 0:45:21.759 because you are fit, you're a runner. 0:45:21.560 --> 0:45:24.160 Like you're always active. But when I was pregnant, with Roman. 0:45:24.280 --> 0:45:26.240 I was like, I really want to get a mommy 0:45:27.280 --> 0:45:31.719 talk and Alan was like, no, so's his reasoning. One 0:45:31.760 --> 0:45:36.359 of his friends that he played with his wife died 0:45:36.520 --> 0:45:37.560 because she got sepsis. 0:45:37.920 --> 0:45:41.680 Yeah, I had a friend who almost like it was close. 0:45:41.440 --> 0:45:42.600 And I was like, and I have a friend who 0:45:42.640 --> 0:45:47.520 looks great tricky and she looked enough to scare me 0:45:47.560 --> 0:45:51.279 as my problem. Yeah, but you know I also so 0:45:51.440 --> 0:45:54.040 now I'm glad I didn't do it. Having said that, 0:45:54.719 --> 0:45:57.880 when we go back, I super digress, but I story 0:45:57.920 --> 0:46:01.440 of our lives. We should actually rename this podcast. Uh, 0:46:02.120 --> 0:46:05.279 you know, get whatever you want to get. I understand 0:46:05.400 --> 0:46:07.239 why Alan was like, know about it, and now I'm 0:46:07.520 --> 0:46:09.560 looking back, I'm you know, I am glad I didn't 0:46:09.560 --> 0:46:10.640 get it, because if we do have a friend that 0:46:10.680 --> 0:46:11.839 did get it, and she's got a lot of scar 0:46:11.880 --> 0:46:15.360 tissue and she hates it. So I want everywhere we 0:46:15.440 --> 0:46:18.600 have a lot of young listeners, I just want to 0:46:18.640 --> 0:46:22.360 say this to them in this moment, Please appreciate your 0:46:22.400 --> 0:46:24.919 beautiful young bodies. Yes, because I went through our attic 0:46:24.960 --> 0:46:26.399 spaces and I might have mentioned this to you guys, 0:46:26.400 --> 0:46:28.560 but I went through our addic spaces and the photos 0:46:28.560 --> 0:46:31.640 I found and how hard I was on myself at 0:46:31.680 --> 0:46:34.720 those times I should have been walking around naked NonStop. 0:46:34.800 --> 0:46:37.359 I was stunnying collegen boobs are high booty, like I mean, 0:46:37.520 --> 0:46:39.360 just and I was so hard on myself. So I 0:46:39.360 --> 0:46:42.200 want everyone in this moment to just be so freaking 0:46:42.200 --> 0:46:43.719 proud of yourself but also. 0:46:43.719 --> 0:46:48.080 Older and yourself. What do you like stay positive about? 0:46:48.320 --> 0:46:50.839 Yeah, but I mean like I just don't think I appreciated, 0:46:51.200 --> 0:46:54.239 you know, like I've been recently trying to reframe the 0:46:54.239 --> 0:46:57.920 body piece for me as like, because this postpartum has 0:46:57.960 --> 0:46:59.640 just been a struggle. I lost all the muscle and 0:46:59.719 --> 0:47:01.640 dreaming the muscle and I'm getting the weight back, and 0:47:01.680 --> 0:47:03.200 it's like what size am I? And I can't go 0:47:03.200 --> 0:47:06.520 through my closet because everything's changing. And then I busted 0:47:06.560 --> 0:47:08.120 out of the dress. You know that this wasn't good 0:47:08.120 --> 0:47:11.960 for anybody, but I just am like going, but ten 0:47:12.040 --> 0:47:14.319 years from now, this body is banging, you know, like 0:47:14.360 --> 0:47:16.399 I'm going to be like, why didn't you just wear 0:47:16.440 --> 0:47:18.080 the swimsuit? So I just do what I want now, 0:47:18.120 --> 0:47:20.520 which is freedom, But I wish I could have and 0:47:20.640 --> 0:47:22.799 part of it could just be the era we grew 0:47:22.880 --> 0:47:26.319 up in which was. I mean, listen, it's like, everyone 0:47:26.440 --> 0:47:28.160 raise your hand if you've had an eating disorder. Like 0:47:28.239 --> 0:47:30.879 it was just rampant for our generation specifically. I don't 0:47:30.880 --> 0:47:33.319 know what it is like now, but so it was 0:47:33.360 --> 0:47:35.920 like you're battling that and the magic diet pills and 0:47:35.960 --> 0:47:39.439 all the things that just didn't support a healthy view 0:47:39.480 --> 0:47:41.880 of a body. Ever was like nothing was ever good enough. 0:47:42.680 --> 0:47:46.359 And now I'm going man like I wanted. I wish 0:47:46.400 --> 0:47:48.680 I would have just appreciated that body more, you know, 0:47:48.760 --> 0:47:52.200 not been so hard on her because she was cute. 0:47:51.560 --> 0:47:54.239 And she still does that have, you know, like for 0:47:54.360 --> 0:47:57.399 my the areas that I was self conscious of when 0:47:57.440 --> 0:48:01.000 you look into what maybe is an inflaming you Like 0:48:01.040 --> 0:48:04.640 when I did my gut stuff, I'm like, I realized 0:48:04.680 --> 0:48:06.920 I didn't need to do it anymore because I targeted 0:48:06.960 --> 0:48:10.840 what was actually going on and why I was inflamed 0:48:10.840 --> 0:48:12.680 the way that I was inflamed. And then we just 0:48:12.680 --> 0:48:14.440 get so used to being inflamed, and I think we 0:48:14.480 --> 0:48:17.400 think it's regular. It's a weird feeling, and now without it, 0:48:17.400 --> 0:48:33.200 it's like whow alex Kiper gets emotional as she opens 0:48:33.280 --> 0:48:35.440 up about trying to have a baby with husband Matt Kaplin. 0:48:35.480 --> 0:48:39.600 Did any of you guys watch it? So I thought 0:48:39.600 --> 0:48:43.680 it was great because she basically they had a plan 0:48:44.120 --> 0:48:47.920 and now they're not. She's like, I'm thirty, and you know, 0:48:48.239 --> 0:48:50.520 then you start thinking about the timeline and freaking out, 0:48:50.680 --> 0:48:54.000 and then realizing her she's hotter than ever. You know, 0:48:54.360 --> 0:48:57.320 she's got her new Hulushu show coming out, She's obviously 0:48:57.360 --> 0:49:00.160 got called her Daddy Podet. I mean, she's she's killing it, 0:49:00.239 --> 0:49:02.440 and then going wait a minute, like I want to 0:49:02.520 --> 0:49:04.640 enjoy this too, but I'm thirty and this but this 0:49:04.719 --> 0:49:07.959 wasn't our plan. We talked about having a baby now, 0:49:08.520 --> 0:49:11.600 and so I think just you know, she was saying too, 0:49:11.920 --> 0:49:13.560 it's not the plan that we talked about and that 0:49:13.600 --> 0:49:16.280 we agreed upon. Now I'm doubting myself and second guessing everything. 0:49:16.560 --> 0:49:18.360 I started to get so anxious and panicked, and I 0:49:18.360 --> 0:49:19.799 started to feel like it was all just getting away 0:49:19.800 --> 0:49:22.640 from me and I'm losing precious time. It's this all encompassing, 0:49:22.680 --> 0:49:25.439 overwhelming feeling. I know in my gut I need more time. 0:49:26.120 --> 0:49:28.440 And so I think when anyone says I know in 0:49:28.520 --> 0:49:30.880 my gut, I need more time, like for us women, 0:49:30.920 --> 0:49:33.799 and I'll say this like our gut is the most 0:49:33.880 --> 0:49:38.319 powerful tool that we have. Absolutely a lot of times 0:49:38.320 --> 0:49:41.080 I didn't listen to it, but now like that is 0:49:41.680 --> 0:49:43.920 it's always like no, I don't and if I don't 0:49:43.960 --> 0:49:46.400 know what to do, then I do nothing, you know, Yes, 0:49:46.480 --> 0:49:50.759 So discernment is everything, and we know it's a trust 0:49:51.000 --> 0:49:53.239 pushing because their plan was to go ahead and have 0:49:53.280 --> 0:49:53.680 a baby. 0:49:53.680 --> 0:49:56.000 But she's feeling like she needs to wait. Yeah, got 0:49:56.000 --> 0:49:56.480 it good. 0:49:56.640 --> 0:50:00.759 She's thirty, got plenty of time. That's a thing, too, 0:50:00.880 --> 0:50:02.640 plenty of time. Funny people. 0:50:03.000 --> 0:50:06.160 I hate that pressure that you know, even feels that 0:50:06.200 --> 0:50:07.040 pressure like she's. 0:50:07.360 --> 0:50:08.560 I did when I was thirty. 0:50:08.680 --> 0:50:08.879 Yeah. 0:50:08.880 --> 0:50:11.359 It's crazy how you look back and it was thirty 0:50:11.400 --> 0:50:13.560 and yeah I had a baby with a man that chated. 0:50:14.920 --> 0:50:16.880 I was like, well I'm now thirty one. Shoot, I 0:50:16.880 --> 0:50:18.560 need to have kids or my eyes are going to 0:50:18.640 --> 0:50:23.480 dry up. Because especially ten years ago, yeah, women weren't 0:50:23.480 --> 0:50:25.840 having like not that I heard of babies in their forties. 0:50:26.719 --> 0:50:28.920 Yeah now it's pretty common. Yeah now, I feel like 0:50:28.960 --> 0:50:31.360 it's way more common back then when we were just 0:50:31.400 --> 0:50:35.240 having Jolie. It's like someone's thirty eight and having a baby. 0:50:35.640 --> 0:50:37.640 Yeah, I mean I didn't even have love till I 0:50:37.680 --> 0:50:42.160 was thirty four, So yeah, right, like I mean, and 0:50:42.239 --> 0:50:46.440 I just feel but I do remember my hometown friends, Yes, 0:50:46.840 --> 0:50:49.480 when I hit thirty and I was married at the 0:50:49.480 --> 0:50:51.920 time to someone else, and I remember them being like, 0:50:51.960 --> 0:50:53.960 you've been together forever, why aren't you guys? And I 0:50:54.160 --> 0:50:56.680 just they like thought I was going they were going 0:50:56.719 --> 0:50:58.120 to expire, that I wasn't going to be able to 0:50:58.160 --> 0:51:01.319 have children. I'm like, it's okay, I'm fine. I had 0:51:01.360 --> 0:51:02.840 an odd sense of no pressure. 0:51:03.120 --> 0:51:03.480 Yeah. 0:51:03.520 --> 0:51:08.160 I think it's a good good time for women knowing 0:51:08.160 --> 0:51:10.560 that they can have babies later on. Like I know 0:51:10.719 --> 0:51:14.560 someone who, funny enough, is actually my ex's ex girlfriend 0:51:14.600 --> 0:51:16.439 from like back in college, and she's freezing her eggs 0:51:16.480 --> 0:51:19.080 right now, you know. So it's like we have those yeah, 0:51:19.160 --> 0:51:20.839 abilities to be able to do that. It's like, don't 0:51:20.920 --> 0:51:23.120 rush for the wrong one just to have a family. 0:51:23.280 --> 0:51:25.400 Yeah, you know, I agree. 0:51:24.960 --> 0:51:28.719 So and with with her, it's like, enjoy the success 0:51:29.040 --> 0:51:32.719 that's going on. You'll have more time to chill. And 0:51:33.080 --> 0:51:35.840 she clearly wants to have a baby, just not right now. Awesome. 0:51:36.200 --> 0:51:38.000 And if you decide you don't want the end, okay, 0:51:38.000 --> 0:51:40.600 fine too. Yeah, there's this like wild thing that you 0:51:40.640 --> 0:51:43.000 have to have one or the other too. Yeah, you 0:51:43.040 --> 0:51:45.239 know right now, Like you can't be a great mom 0:51:45.360 --> 0:51:49.160 and be successful, and you can't want a career and 0:51:48.440 --> 0:51:50.399 be be the mom that you want to be. It's 0:51:50.440 --> 0:51:52.600 like I this isn't me saying we can have it all, 0:51:52.640 --> 0:51:54.959 but I just think we can do things that still 0:51:54.960 --> 0:51:58.439 make us happy and feel great and celebrate our successes. Yeah, 0:51:58.520 --> 0:52:00.520 and it's gonna make you better mom if you can 0:52:00.640 --> 0:52:06.040 enjoy that now, agreed, ladies. I've got a question about 0:52:06.080 --> 0:52:08.520 cousins and play time with littles. I've got a niece 0:52:08.719 --> 0:52:10.799 who is four years old and my son is two 0:52:10.880 --> 0:52:13.720 years old. When they play together, she shows bad behavior 0:52:13.760 --> 0:52:16.440 like screaming, hitting, and not listening to adults. My son's 0:52:16.480 --> 0:52:18.359 just too and I worry he's picking up on some 0:52:18.440 --> 0:52:21.040 of the not so great behaviors, but not all of 0:52:21.080 --> 0:52:23.400 it is horrible. They do have fun together, and I 0:52:23.400 --> 0:52:25.040 think it's good for him to be around other kids. 0:52:25.080 --> 0:52:27.120 I do step in and regulate when I see the 0:52:27.120 --> 0:52:29.640 behavior with my own eyes, especially if she's hitting my son. 0:52:30.000 --> 0:52:32.200 How can I settle my worries about spending time with 0:52:32.280 --> 0:52:34.719 his cousin? Do you think I should say something to 0:52:34.800 --> 0:52:40.960 my sister in law, kat, I think you have an opinion. 0:52:40.680 --> 0:52:44.720 Well not a strong one. I think that you're doing 0:52:44.719 --> 0:52:46.839 the right thing first of all, by stepping in when 0:52:47.000 --> 0:52:50.600 needed and regulating still allowing them to play. I mean, 0:52:50.640 --> 0:52:54.960 I don't unless it's really bad behavior or something that's suspicious. 0:52:55.040 --> 0:52:58.080 I don't know that you should necessarily not allow them 0:52:58.120 --> 0:53:00.520 to play. But I think that if you see something 0:53:00.520 --> 0:53:04.520 that you don't like, maybe get permission from the sister. 0:53:04.840 --> 0:53:06.719 I don't know how how that is, but to kind 0:53:06.719 --> 0:53:08.719 of say, hey, we don't hit or whatever it is. 0:53:08.960 --> 0:53:12.160 So then the two year old sees also like that 0:53:12.239 --> 0:53:14.600 there is a repercussion for it. I don't think that 0:53:14.600 --> 0:53:16.840 that's a terrible thing maybe for them to see. 0:53:17.000 --> 0:53:19.320 Also, it doesn't last forever, I think sometimes so stages 0:53:19.360 --> 0:53:21.880 are so crazy. It's so wild West in stages. 0:53:22.040 --> 0:53:24.319 Yeah, like she could be great in a week, you know, 0:53:24.600 --> 0:53:27.040 like it could just be a thing that's something shouldn't Yeah, 0:53:27.360 --> 0:53:29.560 just like a little space maybe like you don't I mean, 0:53:29.600 --> 0:53:32.000 if someone's not also with them, they're not living with you, 0:53:32.080 --> 0:53:33.040 that's different. 0:53:32.719 --> 0:53:33.680 Too, right. 0:53:33.719 --> 0:53:35.640 But I also think this plays into just on a 0:53:35.719 --> 0:53:41.279 sidebar of people we have maybe stopped hanging out with 0:53:41.320 --> 0:53:43.920 because I'm like, I don't want my kids parenting their kids, 0:53:44.200 --> 0:53:47.279 and it's also different parenting, and so it's hard to 0:53:47.360 --> 0:53:52.759 then be friends with someone when yeah, when it's not like, 0:53:53.040 --> 0:53:55.480 it's not trying to judge the parenting, But the same time, 0:53:55.520 --> 0:53:57.480 I don't want my kids to see that too, So 0:53:57.600 --> 0:54:03.880 you've I have rewrap did certain friendships for the kids, 0:54:03.960 --> 0:54:07.520 primarily because I don't want my son or my daughter 0:54:07.680 --> 0:54:13.719 seeing that as being okay and then not then said like, hey, 0:54:13.800 --> 0:54:15.719 please stop you know or something you know, or or 0:54:15.880 --> 0:54:19.520 to be how it's the word for them to acknowledge 0:54:19.560 --> 0:54:21.120 that it's not a good bayor. 0:54:21.080 --> 0:54:23.040 And I think that it's a slippery slope to say 0:54:23.080 --> 0:54:25.719 you're not judging. You're obviously not judging, but it is 0:54:25.760 --> 0:54:30.400 still our job as parents to be in somewhat control 0:54:30.480 --> 0:54:33.000 of what we can and who were around and who 0:54:33.040 --> 0:54:36.399 they're around and what they see parent how you want 0:54:36.440 --> 0:54:38.080 a parent. But that does not mean that I have 0:54:38.160 --> 0:54:39.759 to be around for it. That does not make me 0:54:39.800 --> 0:54:41.960 a judgmental person. I think sometimes we get a little 0:54:42.000 --> 0:54:44.400 sensitive to that and we're afraid that people are. But 0:54:44.440 --> 0:54:46.200 if you're going to be parenting different than me, and 0:54:46.200 --> 0:54:47.879 we're going to be spending all this time with you. 0:54:48.120 --> 0:54:50.319 That's probably not in the end going to work out 0:54:50.800 --> 0:54:53.239 because you don't want your child making those And that 0:54:53.400 --> 0:54:56.319 is for all ages. I mean that continues till later 0:54:56.360 --> 0:54:59.000 on when they're starting to make some really bad decisions 0:54:59.440 --> 0:55:01.960 and you're like like, ooh, you're parenting a different way 0:55:01.960 --> 0:55:03.919 than me. I don't want my kid going down that path. 0:55:04.080 --> 0:55:06.960 Your kid's going down this path, So you have to 0:55:07.000 --> 0:55:09.759 make those kind of decisions. I do think at these 0:55:09.800 --> 0:55:12.359 ages though, like two and four, I think as long 0:55:12.400 --> 0:55:14.560 as you're stepping in and kind of regulating when the 0:55:14.600 --> 0:55:17.440 behavior is not, I think that it's still yeah fine. 0:55:17.640 --> 0:55:19.600 And sometimes they can go in the opposite way too, 0:55:19.800 --> 0:55:22.080 like when you step in and parent a certain way, 0:55:22.160 --> 0:55:24.760 and it can show another parent to have the courage 0:55:24.800 --> 0:55:26.759 to do that. Yeah, you know, absolutely, But. 0:55:26.680 --> 0:55:28.759 There is also we had something that happened with a 0:55:28.800 --> 0:55:31.759 neighborhood boy who comes over and plays with Jas and 0:55:32.320 --> 0:55:35.799 I actually I primarily only let them play over here 0:55:35.840 --> 0:55:37.480 because I want to be the eyes and he's a 0:55:37.480 --> 0:55:40.640 little bit older too, and so the play dates happen here. 0:55:40.680 --> 0:55:43.400 But there's some things that happen and it's like, hey, buddy, 0:55:43.440 --> 0:55:45.960 in this house, we don't say this. That's right. In 0:55:46.000 --> 0:55:48.759 this house, we use kind words. In this house, we 0:55:48.880 --> 0:55:51.239 don't do what that just So, if you're cool with that, 0:55:51.360 --> 0:55:53.560 you can stay here and play. But if that continues, 0:55:53.600 --> 0:55:55.480 you won't be allowed to play with him anymore. And 0:55:55.520 --> 0:55:58.399 so I've had to have those conversations, you know, with him, 0:55:58.520 --> 0:56:00.759 and if it happens again, well then he knows he's 0:56:00.800 --> 0:56:02.799 out because something did happen one time where I was like, hey, 0:56:03.200 --> 0:56:05.120 you won't be allowed to come back over here if 0:56:05.280 --> 0:56:06.840 if that happens again, he said, I'm sorry, you know, 0:56:06.920 --> 0:56:09.640 but he also didn't know that that was not acceptable. 0:56:10.120 --> 0:56:12.120 I'll start to know your rules. H Wait, so they 0:56:12.120 --> 0:56:15.080 get I'm okay to be that mom. I do it 0:56:15.120 --> 0:56:16.560 all the time. I got kids come in my house 0:56:16.600 --> 0:56:18.440 all the time. I look at them and they're teenagers. 0:56:18.480 --> 0:56:21.279 I'm like, you know that is not tolerated my house. 0:56:21.280 --> 0:56:23.000 Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, mis Catherine. I'll never 0:56:23.040 --> 0:56:24.759 do it again. Like you have the rules if you're 0:56:24.760 --> 0:56:26.279 going to come in my house. I have rules in 0:56:26.320 --> 0:56:29.120 my house, and you can abide by them or you 0:56:29.120 --> 0:56:30.560 can go hang out with somebody else. So you can 0:56:30.560 --> 0:56:30.879 go home. 0:56:31.040 --> 0:56:32.120 We called a date the other day. 0:56:32.480 --> 0:56:34.320 I called the play date the other day because Legend 0:56:34.360 --> 0:56:36.520 had a friend, and I said, it just was like, 0:56:37.160 --> 0:56:38.920 this kid is in kind of a loop right now, 0:56:38.960 --> 0:56:40.279 and I'm like, okay, So finally, I just. 0:56:40.280 --> 0:56:41.719 Said, but are you ready to head home? 0:56:41.840 --> 0:56:44.000 Just feels like you're not really having fun here and 0:56:44.040 --> 0:56:46.759 he was like no, and I said, well, like then 0:56:46.800 --> 0:56:49.440 we need to, like, yeah, let's switch it up. 0:56:49.600 --> 0:56:53.040 But I also expect this same sure if my kids 0:56:53.120 --> 0:56:55.759 are at someone's house and I tell my kids that 0:56:55.920 --> 0:57:00.239 all the time. Now their rule pamas ye Jolie before yeah, 0:57:00.280 --> 0:57:02.759 I'm like, you follow their rules. Having said that, if 0:57:02.760 --> 0:57:05.160 their rules are less stringent, my rules still apply. 0:57:05.360 --> 0:57:05.879 Yes, right. 0:57:05.920 --> 0:57:09.839 So that's another thing that's been interesting, Like somehow in 0:57:09.880 --> 0:57:12.600 my kid's world, I'm the only mom that says they 0:57:12.600 --> 0:57:15.600 cannot be in a bedroom with the opposite sex. Don't 0:57:15.600 --> 0:57:17.280 believe I'm the only mom, but I don't. 0:57:18.480 --> 0:57:21.120 It's probably rare thought. 0:57:21.600 --> 0:57:23.400 I would think you're the rarity. Yeah, to be honest 0:57:23.600 --> 0:57:27.040 from my experience, yes, I don't care. So I'm also 0:57:27.600 --> 0:57:29.520 so Julie said the same thing because I won't let 0:57:29.520 --> 0:57:31.080 her sleep over at someone's house. Because they have the 0:57:31.080 --> 0:57:33.320 older brother. And I'm like, I'm sorry, you cannot sleep 0:57:33.320 --> 0:57:35.280 over there. She's more than welcome to sleep over at 0:57:35.280 --> 0:57:38.480 our house. But and again, that little boy is probably 0:57:38.600 --> 0:57:41.360 the old older brother is in middle school. It's probably 0:57:41.400 --> 0:57:43.400 he's he's such a sweet kid, and I still don't 0:57:43.400 --> 0:57:45.320 allow it. I don't want that to happen. I don't 0:57:45.320 --> 0:57:46.760 know if he's going to have a friend come over. 0:57:46.840 --> 0:57:48.400 I don't know the other people like no. 0:57:48.680 --> 0:57:50.560 So many to that. I've told my girls all the time, 0:57:50.560 --> 0:57:53.120 if someone can you good for them, spend the night 0:57:53.160 --> 0:57:55.520 because you have an older brother, we respect that, you know. 0:57:55.600 --> 0:57:56.000 Whatever. 0:57:56.520 --> 0:57:59.400 If I have to leave and Cayden is watching a kid, 0:57:59.440 --> 0:58:02.320 that kid, no matter what, cannot stay, cannot be in 0:58:02.360 --> 0:58:03.960 the house. I'm not putting a hymn in that position. 0:58:04.000 --> 0:58:05.920 I'm not putting another kid in position. We have so 0:58:05.960 --> 0:58:07.200 many rules about that, yep. 0:58:08.040 --> 0:58:11.160 But so with the like whatever, you know, I'm like, 0:58:11.680 --> 0:58:14.440 I don't care at that point what that parent's rules are. 0:58:14.480 --> 0:58:14.680 Though. 0:58:15.480 --> 0:58:17.480 My rule is still that you don't go into a 0:58:17.520 --> 0:58:21.840 bedroom alone with with the opposite sex. You know, that's 0:58:21.960 --> 0:58:24.320 just that rule applies. There's several of those, but that's 0:58:24.360 --> 0:58:27.440 a very good example, so I'll never forget. Not long ago, 0:58:27.640 --> 0:58:29.760 Emmy was at a friend's house and it was a 0:58:29.760 --> 0:58:32.120 group of them, but the mom was working in the 0:58:32.120 --> 0:58:35.560 bonus room, so she sent them all into this girl 0:58:36.000 --> 0:58:37.000 friend's room. 0:58:37.120 --> 0:58:38.360 But there were also boys. 0:58:38.520 --> 0:58:42.200 So Emmy literally sat the door was opened, she sat 0:58:42.280 --> 0:58:44.800 outside of the bedroom for her and she like sent 0:58:44.880 --> 0:58:46.800 us videos and like their friends were all and I'm like, 0:58:46.800 --> 0:58:48.360 there you go, and no one's making fun of you. 0:58:48.400 --> 0:58:50.560 They're like laughing about it, and y'all are like hanging out. 0:58:50.600 --> 0:58:52.760 But like I was like, rule still is a plus? 0:58:52.840 --> 0:58:53.960 Still apply? That's right. 0:58:54.280 --> 0:58:57.880 So to this listener, good on you for you know, 0:58:57.960 --> 0:58:59.880 watching and seeing and this is just going to lead 0:58:59.920 --> 0:59:03.480 you onto the older ages and and uh it's you know, 0:59:03.680 --> 0:59:06.680 mama bear instincts and just does she have to say 0:59:06.680 --> 0:59:08.680 anything to step at the sister in law like you said, 0:59:08.760 --> 0:59:09.480 like like. 0:59:10.920 --> 0:59:13.760 I mean, I think if she feels like she is 0:59:13.800 --> 0:59:16.680 not getting the permission to step in, if she needs to, maybe, 0:59:16.680 --> 0:59:18.920 but she'll follow, she'll see what she's doing exactly. 0:59:19.600 --> 0:59:23.360 All right, ladies, this is fun, love y'all. Where will 0:59:23.360 --> 0:59:26.240 our adventures take us next week? Oh man, stay tuned. 0:59:26.720 --> 0:59:29.720 I have a pin for next week. Oh oh another one. 0:59:30.000 --> 0:59:35.080 What's it called m Starbucks go Rendez Latte extra. 0:59:36.400 --> 0:59:42.680 We'll pin it all right, keyword flyaway, Oh, I can't wait. 0:59:42.800 --> 0:59:45.520 Stay duned, bye bye,