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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, hi, Hey, I'm sorry about the Starbucks stilima

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Speaker 2: this morning.

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Speaker 3: Oh the thing got it, I know, I know it

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Speaker 3: was funny. I got the text she said Starbucks anyone,

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Speaker 3: and guys, I got up at four and I've stayed up.

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Speaker 3: Why I because Preston had a flight and I couldn't

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Speaker 3: go back to sleep.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's weird.

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Speaker 3: I have never been this girl. But you said Starbucks anyone,

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Speaker 3: and I missed it by I knew. I reapplied two

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Speaker 3: minutes later and I already know the I know the window.

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Speaker 3: We're all operating it. And I was like, I've missed it.

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Speaker 3: I go, I do am I too late?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I was like two minutes or something, but I

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Speaker 2: know I did something really bad last year on this day. Yeah, no,

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Speaker 2: June fifth, I forgot to call my dad and his birthday.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh. It was one of those where I'm like

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Speaker 2: so today, I was like, he was like six, first

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Speaker 2: child that is saying to me today. I was like, well,

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Speaker 2: I was also the child that didn't call you last year.

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Speaker 2: And then when I got off the phone was when

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Speaker 2: I was like, all right, I gotta go like, and

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Speaker 2: then I saw yours, and I'm like, craps, let me

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Speaker 2: go back to my little doordasher. Because I didn't send

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Speaker 2: a time to go get it right, Catherine made called

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Speaker 2: me out one time about what we what we DoorDash

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Speaker 2: and what we don't door dash. Right, we need to.

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Speaker 1: Tell this story. Actually, yeah, I'm in story to me.

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Speaker 1: I think it's a good story.

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Speaker 2: I'm interested. Okay, go ahead, you can tell it, sod same.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're out of town. I don't even know where

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Speaker 1: we are, probably Wilmington.

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Speaker 2: No, we were in Oklahoma.

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Speaker 1: Oh, Oklahoma, Oklahoma, in Oklahoma, Okay, I just remember we

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Speaker 1: were in bed Yeah, we talked about the entire time.

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Speaker 2: We just sat there at beds. You did you just

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Speaker 2: think of me? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And five things we love about Kristin go. I just

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Speaker 3: was a little nervous about the accuracy and reporting. We

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Speaker 3: didn't know the location. Go ahead, continue, Okay.

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Speaker 1: I just remember that she got like a ring doorbell

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Speaker 1: thing and she was like, oh is.

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Speaker 2: It ethy oofy eu f y.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, oofy, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: So she gets like a thing and she's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: who's at the house, And She's like, oh, it's probably

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Speaker 1: door dash and I was like, okay, you know, just

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Speaker 1: like thinking. She was like, you know, it's just like

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Speaker 1: does he just like drive you crazy when like man

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Speaker 1: like like they DoorDash beer, Like he's gonna door like

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Speaker 1: I guarantee you he doordashed beer, Like why not just

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Speaker 1: go to the store and get the beer, like go

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Speaker 1: through this whole thing. And I'm like, all I can

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Speaker 1: think in my head, it's like, you DoorDash Starbucks every day?

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Speaker 1: Say that every day.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I've stopped you, but you say you stopped you

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Speaker 3: did for I did sometimes.

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Speaker 2: I just went through a phase. I went through a

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Speaker 2: face and this is coming from the door. It was

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Speaker 2: a new born phase of door dashing.

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Speaker 1: Coming from someone that will DoorDash, like five of us

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Speaker 1: will DoorDash every day. So I am not judging door dash.

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Speaker 1: I love a DoorDash. I just thought it was very funny.

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Speaker 1: So I sat there for a while in silence, and

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Speaker 1: then I was like I can't.

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Speaker 2: I can't hold it back anymore. I was like I

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Speaker 2: just have to fire out too.

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Speaker 1: I was like, so, how is that any different from

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Speaker 1: door dashing Tarbucks?

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Speaker 2: And I said, I don't even remember you said that,

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Speaker 2: Remember I go, well, first I looked at you like

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Speaker 2: they's alcoholic and one's not. Like one's alcohol and one's not.

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Speaker 2: Be like, how dare you call me up that I go,

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Speaker 2: I go, oh oh, I guess it's not any different,

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Speaker 2: And I was like, ew, it's not.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 1: I think your point was not that it was beer

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Speaker 1: being beer, it was that it was door dashed. At first,

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Speaker 1: I thought the point was that it was beer, and

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Speaker 1: you were just like, eh, I don't love that he's

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Speaker 1: like having beer. So I was like, okay, cool, Like

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Speaker 1: I get that. But she's like, no, it's the fact,

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Speaker 1: like go to the store and get the beer. And

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Speaker 1: I was like okay, well now, and I'm like you should.

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Speaker 2: Just a beer, right. It was that it was for me,

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Speaker 2: it just seemed like we're delivering alcohol, like can't you

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Speaker 2: go to the store and get it? But again to

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Speaker 2: I think that's when I stopped door dashing with Starbucks.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I'm so hypocritical for getting on him

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Speaker 2: for a door dashing boards.

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Speaker 1: Both of y'all door dash that's what I do. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I mean, Nick hates it. He never door dashes ever.

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Speaker 2: But now it's like, I enjoy now my ride to Starbucks.

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Speaker 2: But I didn't have time today because I had some stuff.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's good.

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Speaker 2: It was, it was. It was quite funny.

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Speaker 3: I was like, how bad do we want it ten

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Speaker 3: minutes late with Starbucks?

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Speaker 2: Or do I just keep rolling? And then I looked

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Speaker 2: at the clock. I didn't have time and.

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Speaker 1: Never have time because you don't calculate in the Starbucks

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Speaker 1: run And here are stars press are so hit or missed.

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Speaker 1: Oh I can't get.

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Speaker 2: I can tell you which one goes really fast and

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Speaker 2: which one you need at least ten minutes in, But

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Speaker 2: you always got to What I've learned is this is

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Speaker 2: stupid story. I apologize to the listeners. Dear listeners, we

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Speaker 2: apologize in advance. You got to go through the drive through.

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Speaker 2: They're too slow when you go in, I know, and

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Speaker 2: everyone thinks you'll beat them inside. They won't You do

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Speaker 2: you do the car marker? Oh yeah you do.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 1: The quick read is order it on your thing and

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Speaker 1: run it and get it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's true, but you got to really be thinking.

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Speaker 1: You got to think it. It takes about eight minutes,

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Speaker 1: five to eight minutes. So then you got a plan

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Speaker 1: in your rise.

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Speaker 2: This is the most nine felt episode ever.

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Speaker 3: I know what I was thinking, how wildly beneficial it

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Speaker 3: might be to someone who's driving right now, going, Oh,

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Speaker 3: I can just type it in Holover, type it over.

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Speaker 2: Safety first, get god totally. So there's that really as

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Speaker 2: I drink my extra hot. By the way, let me

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Speaker 2: just say one more thing about Starbucks. This is not

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Speaker 2: a sponsored episode. It is not. I I like my

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Speaker 2: drinks extra hot, even if it's one hundred degrees outside.

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Speaker 2: So it's like nineties right now in Nashville, and so

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Speaker 2: the other day when I went yesterday, I was like,

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Speaker 2: can I play an extra hot? HI? And they're like

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Speaker 2: extra hot? I go, yeah, I like it hot. They

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Speaker 2: have to be hot like hot.

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Speaker 1: If you're door dashing, you definitely have to do agree to.

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Speaker 2: I've already microwaved because they get so cold by the

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Speaker 2: time they get there.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, it makes me mad.

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Speaker 2: Oh lit life updates. So I didn't go to Georgia.

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Speaker 2: By the way, can I just say how much I

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Speaker 2: love you guys, because when I went onto the DMS

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Speaker 2: on the wind Down episode, everyone was so supportive and

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Speaker 2: they were like, go do it. You'll have so much fun,

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Speaker 2: so supportive. I didn't do it, but I loved it,

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Speaker 2: but it was good to see it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm glad everyone was behind, including us.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just go do it. They were so supportive.

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Speaker 1: So next time that comes up, you're going to be like,

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Speaker 1: guess what, guys, I'm just gonna go do it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, totally probably not convincing, that's probably.

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Speaker 2: Not gonna happen. No, but I could bring it. Don't

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Speaker 2: even know if it even went through. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 2: we'll see big TVD on the whole sit. Let us

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Speaker 2: know how it ends. If it Yeah, I will for sure.

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Speaker 2: But that's that's my only update. I did book another movie, though,

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Speaker 2: and I'm very excited. Wait, how many movies do we

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Speaker 2: have happening? And why I say we? I mean you? So,

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Speaker 2: I've already filmed three, but I'm going to be filming

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Speaker 2: my fourth one in July in Nashville. This will be fun.

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Speaker 2: You guys can visit on set.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's go together. It'll be so fun. I would

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Speaker 1: love excited when you startbucks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, say much. But it is based on a best

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Speaker 2: selling book, and uh, I don't know it. You probably

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Speaker 2: know the author. That's all I can say. For now,

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Speaker 2: very excited. I mean, who, like I get to link

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Speaker 2: twice if it's Nicholas Sparks, it's not okay, I got

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Speaker 2: really excited. Would be you know, it would have been great, okay,

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Speaker 2: but anyway, so to be able to work and then

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Speaker 2: go home will just be so amazing. I'm so excited.

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Speaker 3: I'm excited for you. Part of Nashville all around so fun. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: there's even a little bit of Franklin so yeah, so yeah, tbd.

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Speaker 2: But that's that's my update, and I'm really glad that

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Speaker 2: everything kind of worked out. We were supposed to be

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Speaker 2: the plane was leaking hydraulic something fluid.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, hydraulic fluid. They were in the engine for a

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Speaker 2: Which she finally was like, I wasn't going to tell you,

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Speaker 1: I used to fly in like anything, yeah, and Sestna's

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Speaker 2: Just like, and we saw the bucket and we saw

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Speaker 2: it leaking. This is not a good sign. It just

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Speaker 1: And then we missed by the time, we missed everything

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Speaker 1: such a mess.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm glad you stayed home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so we stayed home, and here we are.

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Speaker 2: It's interesting to me.

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Speaker 3: We were at the dinner table the other night, and

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Speaker 3: I don't know how this even came up, but we

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Speaker 3: were talking about anxious flyers maybe or just flyers, because

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Speaker 3: Preston just flies a ton and I think he's getting a.

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Speaker 2: Little bit tired.

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Speaker 1: Sure, Yeah, Like you.

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Speaker 2: Know, if the bus leaves the night before, he's more

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Speaker 3: Now he's just like, I love being home with you,

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Speaker 2: Because that's not what you need. But you're already doing

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Speaker 3: She got out and kept saying all done. I could

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Speaker 3: Or like yikes, yeah, yeah, sorry, yeah, well I this

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what we have to do payment to that,

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Speaker 2: and whine about it. Someone has to unpin So you

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Speaker 1: My problem is is I've talked about mine, so it's

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Speaker 1: not going to be that interesting. People already to know

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Speaker 2: And then there's also you know our wine. I actually

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. Let's talk about it

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Speaker 2: That was unbelievable. I was uncomfortable. What I almost said

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Speaker 2: Shame sure. Having said that when she called her daughter

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Speaker 2: like and so I'm like, first of all, where did

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Speaker 2: saying all these other negative things, yeah, like really negative

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Speaker 2: things where I'm like, is that age appropriate for you

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Speaker 1: Like it was very abrasive and very she was very negative.

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Speaker 2: And it was like girlfriends talking like that sm P

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Speaker 1: It was just all very abrasive, all very negative, and

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like mom shamed or like you're not

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Speaker 1: Image uncomfortable. Yeah, I think that's fair to say.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, that's they already have so much negativity going

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Speaker 1: Right, But this child was barely speaking. She just sat there.

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Speaker 2: It's like she wanted to be best friend talking with her,

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Speaker 2: I just felt bad for the yeah, the girl because

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Speaker 2: I was like, I don't want to be that. I

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Speaker 2: to be negatives like so it reminded me at least like, okay, a,

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Speaker 1: I think it's good sometimes to hear stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: And there right now with the word yeah, I don't

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Speaker 2: don't know handful. I don't know if it's like where

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Speaker 1: I used to not cousin in front of my kids

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Speaker 1: the first times I did them kind of looking at

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00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:05,760
Speaker 1: me like what. But I'm like you you're older.

436
00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:05,720
Speaker 3: Come on.

437
00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:09,639
Speaker 2: Has gotten better being around Alan, even though he says

438
00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:13,560
Speaker 2: the ff thing, oh yeah, Even though he says that

439
00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:17,840
Speaker 2: but like it doesn't he doesn't put language within just

440
00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:20,080
Speaker 2: a regular sentence like I would just add swearards and

441
00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:24,320
Speaker 2: not just like a normal vocabulary of just regular talking.

442
00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:28,440
Speaker 2: But his is I've class set up a little bit

443
00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:30,960
Speaker 2: more for sure with being with him because he's he's

444
00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:35,000
Speaker 2: more classier I guess in that area. Yeah.

445
00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:38,080
Speaker 3: Also, the South just doesn't swear as much in my experience,

446
00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:38,920
Speaker 3: Like I just.

447
00:19:38,920 --> 00:19:42,200
Speaker 1: Don't that I would have been in so much trouble. Yeah,

448
00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:42,920
Speaker 1: it's strange.

449
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:46,320
Speaker 2: I mean great, It's just like a foreign feeling. Yeah,

450
00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:48,080
Speaker 2: so it was foreign for me the first couple of

451
00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,679
Speaker 2: times I did. That's in front of like even the

452
00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:53,200
Speaker 2: older ones, and I know they've heard all of it obviously,

453
00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:55,359
Speaker 2: but I just I just didn't grow up that way.

454
00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:58,720
Speaker 3: Well, it holds more of a punch too, and use it. Yeah,

455
00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,120
Speaker 3: and you hold it tight and once in a while

456
00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:01,640
Speaker 3: it comes out.

457
00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:02,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

458
00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:03,959
Speaker 2: So that was my wine about it.

459
00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:05,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was it was rough.

460
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:07,880
Speaker 3: I kind of grew up in that we're gonna we're

461
00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:12,880
Speaker 3: gonna pull out the pin, but not completely because it's similar.

462
00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:18,480
Speaker 3: This pin is related, okay, in the negativity and the

463
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,480
Speaker 3: inviting that kind of negativity back in for like the

464
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,160
Speaker 3: unchanged people in your family. And so there's been hesitation

465
00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,959
Speaker 3: for me to incorporate certain people back into my world

466
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:33,159
Speaker 3: because I do these temperature checks with them to like

467
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:35,720
Speaker 3: see like you know, do we have growth or progress.

468
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:39,679
Speaker 3: I'm not judging the progress, but I am really protective

469
00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:42,119
Speaker 3: of what comes back into the space because I've given

470
00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:45,199
Speaker 3: it a good amount of space. And that is a

471
00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,800
Speaker 3: big part of it, because there's a lot of just

472
00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:51,359
Speaker 3: really like it's kind of constant. It's part of the

473
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:54,960
Speaker 3: makeup of this person. I remember being in the mall

474
00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:58,960
Speaker 3: with Love and this person, this family member, and you know,

475
00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:01,600
Speaker 3: Love loves fast, so like she just like we don't

476
00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:03,680
Speaker 3: walk through them all hardly ever, And so we were

477
00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 3: looking at the mannequins and the dresses. It was in

478
00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 3: Dillard's and there was a woman shopping near us, and

479
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:12,640
Speaker 3: I remember this family member going, oh, that's hideous, that's

480
00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 3: you know, and I and I just stopped Love and

481
00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 3: I said, somebody is going to feel really pretty when

482
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 3: they put that dress on. And that's what's really special

483
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,359
Speaker 3: about that dress. Love, And I think it's cool that

484
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:26,879
Speaker 3: you like ruffles because it's, you know whatever, Like the

485
00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:28,879
Speaker 3: empowerment someone gets when they put that on is going

486
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,600
Speaker 3: to be so special to them. Like, I just don't

487
00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,000
Speaker 3: want that back in my world. And I'm that's the

488
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,120
Speaker 3: part where I'm struggling, and I will I think more

489
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 3: go into more details time goes on on this podcast, probably,

490
00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 3: but like just still feeling it out. But that's a

491
00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:44,800
Speaker 3: lot of my protecting myself right now.

492
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Speaker 1: That negativity piece is so interesting because I think we

493
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:51,399
Speaker 1: all struggle with that, right, Like yeah, even like talking

494
00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 1: about clothes like oh that's ugly or something like that.

495
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,360
Speaker 1: You know, well we might think that, but somebody else

496
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:58,640
Speaker 1: may think it's beautiful and then create them. And that's

497
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:01,359
Speaker 1: a hard lesson And that's kind of part of my

498
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:05,240
Speaker 1: pin a little bit as well. And you know, teenagers

499
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 1: growing up with kids that are super negative and trying

500
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 1: to find your people that make you feel good and

501
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 1: happy and not down and depressed because they're negative all

502
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 1: the time. And that's kind of one of the things

503
00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,199
Speaker 1: that we've been going through at our house is like

504
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:24,080
Speaker 1: you know, friendship breakups and realizing that like, yeah, they

505
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 1: may have done X, Y and Z to you, but

506
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:29,400
Speaker 1: also recognize that, like this might not be your person

507
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 1: because they are negative or they are not happy, not

508
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 1: meaning that you shouldn't be there for them, but like

509
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 1: it's bringing you down. So how how does that make

510
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:40,439
Speaker 1: you feel?

511
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 2: And how?

512
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Speaker 1: You know, there's it's a lot, it's a lot to

513
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,199
Speaker 1: deal with a lot of negativity, but as adults it

514
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 1: still really creeps in on us too, you know, and

515
00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 1: especially if you're raised with it. Yeah for sure.

516
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:56,919
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think a lot of it though, is the

517
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,840
Speaker 2: reflection of the other person, and that sometimes where it's

518
00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:03,359
Speaker 2: like maybe she is going like that mom at the

519
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 2: airport or whoever it is. It's like they're going through

520
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,520
Speaker 2: something that they're going through, and that's their way of

521
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 2: either making themselves feel better or ignoring what they're going through.

522
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 2: Like I know, in any anytime I have been negative,

523
00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 2: I can look and go it's because either it reminded

524
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 2: me of something bad or I was not feeling confident

525
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 2: in myself, and so what's the easiest thing to do?

526
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:30,320
Speaker 2: And that will you know, not be nice to somebody

527
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 2: else or sure have thoughts about this because it's maybe

528
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 2: makes that person feel better or yeah, I don't know, absolutely,

529
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 2: And then you know, think about other relationships too. It's like, Okay,

530
00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 2: this person was saying this, but it's because it was

531
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 2: their own reflection of themselves.

532
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a hard one to teach young people. Hell,

533
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 1: it's a hard one for me to remember a lot

534
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 1: of the time. It's so true, and we know that

535
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 1: that's to be true.

536
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 2: Well, it's like the mean people that write nasty comments,

537
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 2: is there's something with them that they're Yes, they might

538
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 2: not like us, and they're they have to be unhappy

539
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:02,880
Speaker 2: in some part of their life to be that negative

540
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 2: towards somebody else and be dealing with something, whether it's

541
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 2: they don't feel whatever it is that they don't feelly,

542
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 2: they feel, might feel lesson or not enough or whatever

543
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 2: it is that they feel like, then they have to

544
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: go being mean is the best option?

545
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, hard rewiring as an adult, I think is

546
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 3: the trickiest part. It really is, and knowing, you know,

547
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,159
Speaker 3: like when you have space from that, then you go

548
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 3: back in you're like, wow, it's like toxic, Like it

549
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 3: feels so like so identifiable, so quick.

550
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 2: But then.

551
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:35,200
Speaker 3: To try to change it the trajectory, I think, yeah,

552
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 3: And I don't want a toxic positivity environment either. That's

553
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 3: the other right, Like it's like we don't want to

554
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 3: be so avoidant that we're not like acknowledging something hurts

555
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 3: our feelings or we don't like something or whatever.

556
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 1: But also, but I don't think that's negative. I don't

557
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,160
Speaker 1: think it's negative to speak up and say something hurts

558
00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: your feelings, you know, I think that I see that

559
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:52,960
Speaker 1: as as different, you know. I mean, like, I just

560
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,639
Speaker 1: had a conversation with a friend today that was just

561
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 1: a really and I love her, but it's a really

562
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 1: just negative. She was just and she's negative, negative, negative,

563
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,919
Speaker 1: And I was like, Okay, I don't have the energy

564
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:06,679
Speaker 1: for that right now, and so all I can do

565
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: is match it with let's just think of the positive.

566
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: Let's just trust this is going to work out the

567
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 1: way that it should. Let's just be happy. And and

568
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 1: she also didn't want to hear that right right then,

569
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 1: but like, sometimes though, it can bring me down so much, yes,

570
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: and bring me down to being negative too, that it's

571
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,000
Speaker 1: like I just I can't.

572
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 2: I just it's hard. It's a misery. Loves Company is

573
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:30,719
Speaker 2: the same for a reason. Yeah. But also Amy had

574
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,679
Speaker 2: said something about the rewiring where you're at, and she's like,

575
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 2: I know it's you know, not trying to be like

576
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 2: that toxic positivity, but with the the gratitude stuff, it's

577
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 2: really hard. She's like, if you do that every day

578
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 2: for this my time, your brain actually does rewire. You're going, yeah, okay, no,

579
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 2: this is good. Yeah, I'm not maybe where I want

580
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,440
Speaker 2: to be here, you know, whatever the case, but that

581
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 2: you are, there are so many other beautiful things around you. Yes,

582
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 2: and that's way. No, no, no, no, I think it's

583
00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 2: just grateful.

584
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:00,679
Speaker 3: But it is true because I think, isn't it Like

585
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 3: I'm probably messing up this, But it's like scientifically impossible

586
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,160
Speaker 3: for you to be grateful and fearful at the same time,

587
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 3: or grateful and worrisome at the same time. It's a

588
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 3: teeter totter, so you can only really have like one. Yeah, yeah,

589
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 3: it's good to know. Yeah, well, I'm.

590
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 2: Glad that conversation was the same person that you told

591
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 2: me about. There.

592
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 1: Well, the person I was actually talking to today is

593
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:21,199
Speaker 1: not and it is a good friend and it's just

594
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:24,199
Speaker 1: a circumstance that she's she's feeling down about and I

595
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 1: understand it. But I'm like, you're stuck there. But she

596
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: can hear it, like I love it, like she can

597
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 1: hear it. I'm like, hey, you're stuck here. Let's let's

598
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 1: let's just we don't even know yet. Let's be happy.

599
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 1: Let's you know, you have a talk today.

600
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 3: No.

601
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: No, I was like, yeah, I think it's related to

602
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: her child. Too, and just you know, and it's again,

603
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,200
Speaker 1: she'll be fine tomorrow. She's just in that negative spot.

604
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:50,159
Speaker 1: But I was feeling myself like kind of meeting her

605
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 1: there and I'm like, nope, I'm like, all right, let's

606
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 1: just think positive, let's you know whatever. No, the situation

607
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: with us is just you know, we've had you know,

608
00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: officially friendship breakup, you know that we were dealing with. Unfortunately,

609
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 1: we're also friends and it has not been good for us.

610
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:07,399
Speaker 2: So the moms are friends, the kids are friends.

611
00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and like we travel together and we're

612
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 1: not anymore, and you know, stuff like that. So it's

613
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:13,680
Speaker 1: been really and I don't want to talk about last

614
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 1: week because like that had just happened. We had decided

615
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 1: not to travel together. So I was like I'm going

616
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: to cry, you know, Like I was just like it's

617
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 1: too fresh. And then we just kind of had a

618
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: situation where something floated around that a friend or an

619
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: ex friend had sent of Emmy's that really embarrassed her

620
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,919
Speaker 1: and she was crying and she was upset, and I

621
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 1: it just went to the parents and I was like,

622
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: can y'all please like take care of this, you know,

623
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: And it wasn't received well, and I understand because I

624
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: was definitely coming from a mad place, but also like

625
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: help me out place a protective place, for sure. And

626
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 1: you know when children lie a lot and are not

627
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 1: honest with their parents, but I know the truth. It's

628
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 1: really hard because it's like I get you know, I

629
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,399
Speaker 1: got attacked back, like you don't know, this is not

630
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 1: what happened, and I'm like, okay, you know. But then

631
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 1: they come back and admit it later, you know that

632
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,879
Speaker 1: it that it did happen, and so it just was

633
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 1: a really it was taking me to a negative place,

634
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: for sure, and so it was one of those where

635
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 1: we just have to step away from it. It's making

636
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 1: us all unhappy, it's making the kids unhappy, it's making

637
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 1: the moms unhappy. So we just have to agree to

638
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 1: just separate for a while.

639
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 2: And well that's hard to because you were friends with

640
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,199
Speaker 2: the mom. Yeah, yeah, it's hard. We were together all

641
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 2: the time, you know, So that's it's hard. But every

642
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 2: day I feel more peace about it in the sense

643
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 2: I know that we'll be cordial.

644
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 1: That's the one thing I know about this mom. She

645
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 1: is not going to be mean to me. She's not

646
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 1: going to you know, like when we see each other,

647
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 1: it will be fine. We will be able to be

648
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: around each other. I know all of that, and I'm

649
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 1: thankful for that because, I mean, there's been things said

650
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 1: on both sides that are hurtful, but I just I

651
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: feel more peace every day knowing you know what this is.

652
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 1: This is just kind of God's plan for us right now.

653
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 1: But it does bring me to a question. It made

654
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: me think about something. So have y'all ever heard I'm

655
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 1: sure you have, but kind of like the whole saying

656
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: about like friends are like a season like seasonal friends.

657
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, a reason a season or a lifetime they So

658
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 2: does that.

659
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,959
Speaker 1: Bother y'all at all? Like have you ever had anyone

660
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 1: say that to you, like when you're friends, Like when

661
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 1: your friends are just seasonal, Kristen, they're just seasonal? Like

662
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 1: would that bother you?

663
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think I'm a love delivering it though too. Yea,

664
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,440
Speaker 2: how they are. There's someone in our neighborhood that I

665
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: could absolutely we're friends, but I we were both kind

666
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 2: of making comments like she's she's a wife of a coach,

667
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 2: she will leave right right, and so we yes, we're friends,

668
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 2: but it's not it is a season friend because it's

669
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 2: not tight enough to like, we're most likely never going

670
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 2: to hang out unless she comes right back to Nashville

671
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 2: when they move, right. Does that makes sense? That makes sense? Yeah,

672
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 2: so I think. But if one of you guys said

673
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 2: that's me, that would break my heart because I think

674
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 2: we're life life life time life, right life. Yeah, I

675
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 2: think it's it's how it's it's where the friendship is at,

676
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 2: right when that person says it.

677
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so we had So this story is kind of

678
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: obviously a lot of this is with cheer moms, but

679
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: we're together so much and we've all, you know, become friends.

680
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,440
Speaker 2: So there is one that did turn out to be seasonal.

681
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 2: A couple of years ago.

682
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 1: She always said that, and it always took me back

683
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: because I'm like, no, like, what are you talking about.

684
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 1: We'll always be friends. It doesn't matter if she's on

685
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:32,480
Speaker 1: a different team, we live in the same town, it

686
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Like always though, it was always Nope, friends

687
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 1: are seasonal, they're seasonal.

688
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 2: Sounds like she's a little protective for herself. She is, Yeah,

689
00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:40,440
Speaker 2: she is, and.

690
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I very much recognized it as a coping

691
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 1: you know, in her, And turns out, yes, she was

692
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: very clear, we were seasonal, we're no longer friends, which

693
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: is fine, great, right, that's wild. Well, then this friend

694
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 1: that I just had this situation with threw that out

695
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 1: there when we were talking. She's like, well, I guess

696
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 1: it's a different season, and I was like, oh, okay,

697
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: and that's just great.

698
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

699
00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,239
Speaker 1: I just really took that as Wow. I didn't think

700
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 1: that you really bought into that too, you know. I

701
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 1: mean I didn't say that, but in my mind, I'm

702
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 1: like wow, because like that always bothered all of us

703
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 1: that she said that. But she was like, yeah, no,

704
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: she's right, they're seasonal. So it was like, okay, guess

705
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 1: our season's over too. But I just thought, like, have

706
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: y'all ever had I just didn't know if y'all ever

707
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: had anyone tell you that. It's always been just a

708
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 1: little bit of a I get that there's the truth

709
00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 1: to that once the season is over, but saying to

710
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:35,640
Speaker 1: a current friend just never felt good to me. It

711
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: always felt like you very much planned for us to

712
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 1: just be friends for a season. So why do I

713
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: want to put in all this work into a friendship

714
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 1: if you're already saying it it's just seasonal.

715
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, It's like when you're dating the guy and you

716
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 3: know you're not going to marry him, what's the point.

717
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 2: Right, you know what I mean? Yeah, like, yeah, it's

718
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 2: a good question, and you raise a really good point.

719
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 2: And I'm just thinking of kind of our you know,

720
00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: I think our you know, queen as everyone's very busy,

721
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 2: we get together as much as we can. I think

722
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 2: we because of the relationships that we have, we are

723
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 2: we will always just like my high school friends, like

724
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 2: we'll be lifelong friends, right. But I think in the forties,

725
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 2: especially people that come in maybe some of them are

726
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 2: truly just seasonal ones or just the sports ones. Like

727
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 2: I have a girlfriend that I love, but I'm not

728
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 2: going to go out of my way to hang out

729
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 2: with her when I'd rather hang out with and I

730
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 2: but I would see her. We're sports friends right right,

731
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 2: because our kids love each other and we hang out.

732
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 2: So I think, you know, there's that is a season, yeah,

733
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 2: and the actual baseball season, yeah, you know, truly fall

734
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 2: ball season.

735
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 1: But I do think there is some truth to it,

736
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: for sure, I just think. But there's also like it

737
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 1: doesn't have to do so all or nothing. I think

738
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: that's what I don't like about that.

739
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 2: Same like you need to say it though, right, I

740
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 2: know we know it, but we don't have to say

741
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 2: because that's saying it, I think is the hurtful. Right.

742
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 3: They also don't have to fit into three categories, you know,

743
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 3: Like I love our friendships for a lot of reasons, right.

744
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: I think they can like EBB and flow and they

745
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: can't go different seasons and stuff like that or whatever.

746
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: But I don't know, it's just the intentionality behind it

747
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 1: from the get go.

748
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 2: I'm just like, no, I'm sure that would would. I

749
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 2: don't like that feelings. And also you kind of know

750
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 2: who you're going to maybe start hanging out with, why

751
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 2: or not? And right, but I feel like by this

752
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 2: point you have your core group. Yeah, your peeps, Yeah, yeah,

753
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 2: for sure. Also very red flaggy. Yeah, I don't like it. Well,

754
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, kits.

755
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: Okay, it's you know, it'll it'll be fine, It'll be

756
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: good in the end. It's just I mean, obviously feel

757
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 1: worse for her daughter than you know, myself, But it

758
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 1: does make it kind of uncomfortable for everybody.

759
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 2: That's a tricky piece though, because I think about, you

760
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 2: know what if our daughters there's a riff between her,

761
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 2: you know, Harlow or I mean raims. They don't hang

762
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 2: out as much, but like you know, if something would

763
00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 2: happen or and then it's like how that then affects

764
00:33:56,440 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 2: the relationship between the friend We already kind of talk.

765
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 2: I don't know if we talked about it on here,

766
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 2: if it was just friend chat.

767
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 3: But like birthday parties, Yeah, and they get to the

768
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 3: age where they're like, yeah, they invite they pick the

769
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 3: people they want to invite it, and you're like, well

770
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 3: what about them?

771
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 2: You know that's tricky through all of this.

772
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 1: Just so y'all know, like protection mechanism for me is

773
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 1: a major one with Ramsey, like her best friend, Like

774
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 1: we're friends, but like I keep a little bit of

775
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 1: distance because I can't I could. I could not do

776
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 1: this again. I mean I could not do this again.

777
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 1: That's why I am thankful for y'all though, because they

778
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: don't go to school together. They don't, you know, so

779
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: like they're not just always together. They're not.

780
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 2: So if there was like a little bit of a thing,

781
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 2: it would be so easy to like it's not like

782
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,280
Speaker 2: a big falling out, Like they don't go to school together.

783
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:46,799
Speaker 2: You know, all those dating the same boys and That's why,

784
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 2: even like sports together stuff like that. I have been

785
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 2: so hesitant with Ramsey in that sense doing this over

786
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 2: because I feel like I did her a disservice by

787
00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 2: them being together all the time, or both of us yea,

788
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 2: and then being involved and you know all those things.

789
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 2: I also feel like you can't help that though, too.

790
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:04,360
Speaker 3: I know.

791
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:07,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's kind of inevitable, especially when you're traveling. Yeah,

792
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 2: it just can be too much at times. So yeah, anybody,

793
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: I don't think so.

794
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 1: I think we both slightly unpinned. You're the only one

795
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 1: that's not.

796
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,839
Speaker 2: We didn't even didn't a little I did. Last week.

797
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 2: I was trying to pull something else out.

798
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 1: Okay, I thought, yeah, we'll see.

799
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,600
Speaker 2: Teddy mellin camp. Cozy's up to a mystery man amid

800
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 2: cancer treatment and divorce from husband Edwin. She's been spotted

801
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 2: cozying up to her new mystery man on a walk

802
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 2: in Encino, California. Did you guys see the photo? On

803
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 2: her podcast? They were talking and saying, yes, I'm dating

804
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:52,800
Speaker 2: a guy. And yesterday we went on a walk and

805
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:54,440
Speaker 2: went to Gelson's. Then we went to the mall to

806
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,319
Speaker 2: pick up Slade's graduation dress. He is very kind and

807
00:35:57,360 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 2: he's been helping her. It's private, private person, doesn't have

808
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:02,839
Speaker 2: any kids. He's taking good care of me. He's nice,

809
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 2: he's not married. She added, that's good, just really really

810
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:13,880
Speaker 2: clarifying there. Yeah, so I kind of my thoughts on

811
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 2: this is I love a man that comes in.

812
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 1: Like that. You know.

813
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,359
Speaker 2: I also think of like Katie Thurston's husband, who they

814
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:24,760
Speaker 2: ended up getting married early because she's also got cancer

815
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 2: and do you guys know who she is. She was

816
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 2: one of the Bachelor Girls, bachelorette, sorry, she was the bachelorette.

817
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 2: And you know, men that come in during that, I

818
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 2: think they're just incredible to be there and to be

819
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,319
Speaker 2: a safe place for women. I even think of the

820
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,399
Speaker 2: same thing about, you know, men like Alan who come

821
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:51,680
Speaker 2: after you know a girl has been hurt really bad

822
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 2: sure or you know, been through a bad relationship. So

823
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 2: I have a lot of Kelsey Ballerini actually has a

824
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 2: song to the to the men who love women after heartbreak.

825
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 2: You know, I think there's something so beautiful about that

826
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 2: type of man that can come and be such a

827
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 2: support and loving, comfortable, you know, comfortable place for them.

828
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 2: That's my thoughts.

829
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm really happy for her too.

830
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:19,920
Speaker 2: She's wonderful. Yeah, and she's going through so much and

831
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 2: so hard, and it seems like Edwin's being great and

832
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 2: being helpful and so thank God for that. I mean,

833
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 2: they've got these kids together. And then to have someone

834
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 2: that she feels like like, I'm I'm I mean that's huge.

835
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

836
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, and life is again we go to this like

837
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 2: life is so short and yes, and everyone just and

838
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 2: everybody just get along. Yeah, exactly, especially in those kind

839
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 2: of times.

840
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think just yeah, I mean imagine how tired

841
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 3: spiritually physically to have any any newness is probably I

842
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 3: mean even chemistry right biologically, that's got to be so

843
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 3: good for her body.

844
00:37:56,080 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, give her some life, yeah, just like a little yeah. Yeah, yes,

845
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 2: I know, I say, can everyone get along? But I

846
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: me and my ex go back and forth, but there's it's.

847
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:10,880
Speaker 3: Everyone who's healthy get along. That would be my statement. Okay,

848
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 3: too much, she said it. She always does. She's protesting it.

849
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:18,879
Speaker 3: It's very hard to co parent.

850
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 2: It's hard to co parent with someone you can't trust,

851
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 2: you know, and it repeats patterns. So it's that's you know, yep,

852
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 2: it can't. It's not all sunshine and butterflies. You know,

853
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:30,760
Speaker 2: co parenting is tough in general, so but in this instance,

854
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 2: I'm very happy for them because you know, she's they uh,

855
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 2: she's going through a lot, so positivity I think also

856
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:44,239
Speaker 2: helps and heals, yes, all things. Anyways, enough about that.

857
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:47,799
Speaker 2: Chris Jenner reveals Kylie Jenner's breast surgeon did her what

858
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 2: did her first face lift? Chris Jenner is hyping up

859
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 2: the plastic surgeon who was behind her face lift fourteen

860
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 2: years ago. Okay, wait time out. Didn't she just get

861
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 2: a facelift? She did something she did.

862
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:02,479
Speaker 1: I think this one is referencing her first one, though

863
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: not this.

864
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 2: One, So you have to do more than one facelift.

865
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:09,399
Speaker 1: I think they definitely can go because like my mother

866
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: in law, I think that's fine to say has had.

867
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 2: One in about seven days. We're all gonna know.

868
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:19,879
Speaker 1: But like I mean, it definitely starts to change, yeah,

869
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 1: because if they're referencing the one that yeah she said

870
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 1: fourteen years ago, Oh yeah, no, she just had a

871
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: new one.

872
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 2: And have you seen the pictures? Yeah? I was confused

873
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 2: and who she was.

874
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: To be honest, we were talking, we were playing car

875
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 1: was just here.

876
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 2: Guys. Can we talk about that?

877
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 1: I know, I'm so upset.

878
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 2: She was with Maggie. She played beer pong with Maggie.

879
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 2: She was that my friendie Maggie Maggie Walsh. Oh what yeah,

880
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 2: I text hers top everything where she's so nice. It

881
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 2: was like she was amazing. It was my girlfriend. They

882
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:48,320
Speaker 2: own that. I was like, what about it?

883
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's but we were talking about it and I

884
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:54,719
Speaker 1: was saying it and wonder my friend's death.

885
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:55,960
Speaker 2: She was just so.

886
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 1: Funny because she was like, oh, yeah, cool, she got

887
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 1: a face lift, blah blah blah. And I'm like showing

888
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,319
Speaker 1: this back up. She's like, yeah, okay, cool. So it's

889
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:01,839
Speaker 1: like her and Kim.

890
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:03,839
Speaker 2: She's like not into she was not into it.

891
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,919
Speaker 1: And I go, that is not Kim Beth and she goes,

892
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:10,760
Speaker 1: wait what it was? Her like, weird it is again

893
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,839
Speaker 1: I'm all about aging gracefully and like whatever, but I

894
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:15,360
Speaker 1: have never seen anything.

895
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 2: No, I didn't know.

896
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 1: It's unbelievable.

897
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:20,919
Speaker 2: No, Like it was like a weird feeling for me. Yes,

898
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 2: I was like, wait, like.

899
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: Does have happened? I know it's unbelievable. Also, like I

900
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 1: want to know who did this one?

901
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 2: The first one? I don't know.

902
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:28,839
Speaker 3: I guess I'm I'm not very tuned in to them

903
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 3: right now at all or many things. No, no, this

904
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 3: isn't like I'm not Kardashian shaming. It's fine, I'll get

905
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 3: plenty of those message. Oh no, no, because I love

906
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 3: a good Kardashian moment.

907
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 2: I do.

908
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 3: I just haven't been as tuned in alger than probably right,

909
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 3: so it feels like I haven't. I just saw Chris

910
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 3: recently in my brain. But then all of a sudden,

911
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:50,960
Speaker 3: I'm like, where is time different for these people?

912
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 1: Like unreal?

913
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 2: They just go away for like ten minutes, I feel like,

914
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 2: and come back with a new face.

915
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:59,360
Speaker 1: And here's the thing I've I think she's stunning beautiful.

916
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: Before she always thought like I think she's a beautiful woman.

917
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 2: I do think she's stunning, and just the way she

918
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 2: keeps herself like she's so lover. Yes, I always say like,

919
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with Christian. I don't think she's fantastic, but

920
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:14,960
Speaker 2: I thought she was beautiful before the facelift.

921
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:19,880
Speaker 1: I did two facelifts. Corey's like twelve.

922
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 3: I don't, I don't know. But I'm also like, at

923
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 3: some point is she going to start?

924
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 2: Wait?

925
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: I mean, Corey's so young.

926
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 2: Is he thought he's not? Yeah? How old is he? Oh?

927
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,319
Speaker 1: I don't know, but he's definitely probably.

928
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 2: Thirty years got to google around her head. There's no

929
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 2: always don't know way he's thirty, No, forty four, thirty

930
00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 2: years younger, but maybe forty four. Yeah, I thought he

931
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 2: was in his forties. I mean yeah, I mean, because

932
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 2: I'm just like, yeah, this, I mean, I think she's

933
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 2: just she's so beautiful. I you know, it's hard because

934
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:55,720
Speaker 2: if you got the money and I want to look younger.

935
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 2: I love that people. I love that they talk about

936
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 2: it at least. I love that they're opened about it

937
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 2: and they're like, yeah, I have a facelift. I mean,

938
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,879
Speaker 2: surely she's I don't know if she's actually talked about

939
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 2: this one, but there's literally no way to deny this one.

940
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 2: I don't even know how she is her daughter now,

941
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 2: and I haven't in which one make a daughter.

942
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 1: She looks like every different daughter, every which way.

943
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 2: Then again, though, stem cells are really doing a thing.

944
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 1: I mean, and maybe it was her face, maybe it

945
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: was something else, and maybe that's why it looks so good.

946
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: Because maybe it's not an actual facelift. I don't know,

947
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:23,719
Speaker 1: let me know I mean because it's unbelievable.

948
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 2: I'm shocked.

949
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 1: I'm in shocked by this as I haven't done botox

950
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: in like a year.

951
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 2: Would you guys ever do a facelift?

952
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:33,000
Speaker 1: No, I would neither. I would never put a knife

953
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:33,359
Speaker 1: to my face.

954
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 2: I never know. With me, I kind of feel like

955
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:35,280
Speaker 2: you would.

956
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: Oh you would do anything, Oh in a good way.

957
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. I'm like, I'm not scared of that stuff.

958
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 3: No, I'm more scared of surgery. Injections don't scare me

959
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 3: as much. Surgery is where I am tough. I would

960
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:50,240
Speaker 3: do boobs first, probably boobs are knowing before i'd facelift.

961
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:53,960
Speaker 3: I just am I am like I also have just

962
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 3: been like recent, I've just been so in the deep

963
00:42:56,080 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 3: dive of like internally the things that help us that

964
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 3: can like just bring out like a use full glow

965
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:02,919
Speaker 3: and like help us support our collagen and blah blah blah.

966
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:06,760
Speaker 3: Like I'm more into that than I am like surgery.

967
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 3: And also I've just seen so many that are not great.

968
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 1: And I mean, if I were her, if I and

969
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:16,800
Speaker 1: I had Christianner's money, then maybecause you know you're getting

970
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 1: top of you know, all that cream of the crop,

971
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 1: like I can't, like with the money I got like

972
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 1: a group bond, you know, Like again, is money can

973
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: really make you pretty?

974
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 2: Yeah?

975
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 1: Right, right, you can look pretty with the money.

976
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:33,719
Speaker 2: Having said that, did you happen to see any of

977
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:36,240
Speaker 2: the d ms from that one baiting suit, because someone

978
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 2: did say, well with all them, with with the money

979
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 2: and the plastic surgeries, anyone can look like that. And

980
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:43,359
Speaker 2: I'm like, yes, I have my boobs done, but besides that,

981
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 2: like I don't have a trainer, Like, yeah, I don't

982
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 2: do botox, you workout well, I mean I also don't

983
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 2: negate that. Yeah, But so that's my point. So I

984
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:54,360
Speaker 2: was like, why did you have to go straight to

985
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 2: she has money plastic surgery? That was not cool to me.

986
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: No, you've done nothing to make yourself look prettier, like I.

987
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:00,919
Speaker 2: Got my boobs done.

988
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 1: That isn't like making you know what I'm saying, I'm

989
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 1: just saying that sounds how do I say without being.

990
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 2: Sound judgmental, like that you can really change a face. Sure,

991
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,239
Speaker 2: and money and stuff too, right, but you've never done

992
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 2: any of that. But that's what people automatically go to,

993
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 2: is like, well, you know, and that was the comment

994
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 2: because it was my friend Kelly Krueger had been like

995
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 2: damn girl or something, or like m body goals or

996
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 2: something like, you know, one of those things, and they're like, yeah,

997
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 2: with with money and plastic surgery, like you just have

998
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 2: it too people.

999
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: Being negative and it's secure.

1000
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:37,920
Speaker 2: Actually I wanted a tummy talk Alan straight up wouldn't

1001
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 2: let me love him so much? Did you want one? Later? Yeah,

1002
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 2: I wanted him. I wanted a mommy. I've always wanted one.

1003
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:47,439
Speaker 2: I forgot you did always want one. I've always about

1004
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:49,319
Speaker 2: it in a long time. The doctor talked you out

1005
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 2: of you like brought it up at one point with

1006
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:55,239
Speaker 2: with doctor when I was doing my mAbs, He's like,

1007
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 2: you could. He's like, but you know, this is what

1008
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:01,879
Speaker 2: we can do. And then he's like, basically I didn't

1009
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 2: know if I was done with I mean, I was

1010
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 2: right right, yeah, yeah, but he's like, you know, try

1011
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 2: actually working out. I didn't work out to the best

1012
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 2: of the ability then, and so that's a funny sentence though,

1013
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:16,839
Speaker 2: I know, but we're actually working out.

1014
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 3: As if you've always been like a fit, well, especially

1015
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 3: because you are fit, you're a runner.

1016
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 2: Like you're always active. But when I was pregnant, with Roman.

1017
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,240
Speaker 2: I was like, I really want to get a mommy

1018
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 2: talk and Alan was like, no, so's his reasoning. One

1019
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:36,359
Speaker 2: of his friends that he played with his wife died

1020
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 2: because she got sepsis.

1021
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had a friend who almost like it was close.

1022
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 2: And I was like, and I have a friend who

1023
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 2: looks great tricky and she looked enough to scare me

1024
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:51,279
Speaker 2: as my problem. Yeah, but you know I also so

1025
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 2: now I'm glad I didn't do it. Having said that,

1026
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:57,880
Speaker 2: when we go back, I super digress, but I story

1027
00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 2: of our lives. We should actually rename this podcast. Uh,

1028
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:05,279
Speaker 2: you know, get whatever you want to get. I understand

1029
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 2: why Alan was like, know about it, and now I'm

1030
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:09,560
Speaker 2: looking back, I'm you know, I am glad I didn't

1031
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 2: get it, because if we do have a friend that

1032
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:11,839
Speaker 2: did get it, and she's got a lot of scar

1033
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:15,360
Speaker 2: tissue and she hates it. So I want everywhere we

1034
00:46:15,440 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 2: have a lot of young listeners, I just want to

1035
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 2: say this to them in this moment, Please appreciate your

1036
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:24,919
Speaker 2: beautiful young bodies. Yes, because I went through our attic

1037
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:26,399
Speaker 2: spaces and I might have mentioned this to you guys,

1038
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 2: but I went through our addic spaces and the photos

1039
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 2: I found and how hard I was on myself at

1040
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:34,720
Speaker 2: those times I should have been walking around naked NonStop.

1041
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:37,359
Speaker 2: I was stunnying collegen boobs are high booty, like I mean,

1042
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 2: just and I was so hard on myself. So I

1043
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 2: want everyone in this moment to just be so freaking

1044
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:43,719
Speaker 2: proud of yourself but also.

1045
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 1: Older and yourself. What do you like stay positive about?

1046
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:50,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I mean like I just don't think I appreciated,

1047
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 3: you know, like I've been recently trying to reframe the

1048
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 3: body piece for me as like, because this postpartum has

1049
00:46:57,960 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 3: just been a struggle. I lost all the muscle and

1050
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 3: dreaming the muscle and I'm getting the weight back, and

1051
00:47:01,680 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 3: it's like what size am I? And I can't go

1052
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 3: through my closet because everything's changing. And then I busted

1053
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 3: out of the dress. You know that this wasn't good

1054
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 3: for anybody, but I just am like going, but ten

1055
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:14,319
Speaker 3: years from now, this body is banging, you know, like

1056
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:16,399
Speaker 3: I'm going to be like, why didn't you just wear

1057
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 3: the swimsuit? So I just do what I want now,

1058
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 3: which is freedom, But I wish I could have and

1059
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 3: part of it could just be the era we grew

1060
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 3: up in which was. I mean, listen, it's like, everyone

1061
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 3: raise your hand if you've had an eating disorder. Like

1062
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:30,879
Speaker 3: it was just rampant for our generation specifically. I don't

1063
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:33,319
Speaker 3: know what it is like now, but so it was

1064
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 3: like you're battling that and the magic diet pills and

1065
00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:39,439
Speaker 3: all the things that just didn't support a healthy view

1066
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 3: of a body. Ever was like nothing was ever good enough.

1067
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 3: And now I'm going man like I wanted. I wish

1068
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 3: I would have just appreciated that body more, you know,

1069
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 3: not been so hard on her because she was cute.

1070
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 2: And she still does that have, you know, like for

1071
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:57,399
Speaker 2: my the areas that I was self conscious of when

1072
00:47:57,440 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 2: you look into what maybe is an inflaming you Like

1073
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:04,640
Speaker 2: when I did my gut stuff, I'm like, I realized

1074
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 2: I didn't need to do it anymore because I targeted

1075
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 2: what was actually going on and why I was inflamed

1076
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 2: the way that I was inflamed. And then we just

1077
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 2: get so used to being inflamed, and I think we

1078
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:17,400
Speaker 2: think it's regular. It's a weird feeling, and now without it,

1079
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 2: it's like whow alex Kiper gets emotional as she opens

1080
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 2: up about trying to have a baby with husband Matt Kaplin.

1081
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 2: Did any of you guys watch it? So I thought

1082
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 2: it was great because she basically they had a plan

1083
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 2: and now they're not. She's like, I'm thirty, and you know,

1084
00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 2: then you start thinking about the timeline and freaking out,

1085
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 2: and then realizing her she's hotter than ever. You know,

1086
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 2: she's got her new Hulushu show coming out, She's obviously

1087
00:48:57,360 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 2: got called her Daddy Podet. I mean, she's she's killing it,

1088
00:49:00,239 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 2: and then going wait a minute, like I want to

1089
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 2: enjoy this too, but I'm thirty and this but this

1090
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:07,959
Speaker 2: wasn't our plan. We talked about having a baby now,

1091
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 2: and so I think just you know, she was saying too,

1092
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 2: it's not the plan that we talked about and that

1093
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:16,280
Speaker 2: we agreed upon. Now I'm doubting myself and second guessing everything.

1094
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:18,360
Speaker 2: I started to get so anxious and panicked, and I

1095
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 2: started to feel like it was all just getting away

1096
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 2: from me and I'm losing precious time. It's this all encompassing,

1097
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:25,439
Speaker 2: overwhelming feeling. I know in my gut I need more time.

1098
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 2: And so I think when anyone says I know in

1099
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:30,880
Speaker 2: my gut, I need more time, like for us women,

1100
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:33,799
Speaker 2: and I'll say this like our gut is the most

1101
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:38,319
Speaker 2: powerful tool that we have. Absolutely a lot of times

1102
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 2: I didn't listen to it, but now like that is

1103
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 2: it's always like no, I don't and if I don't

1104
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 2: know what to do, then I do nothing, you know, Yes,

1105
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:50,759
Speaker 2: So discernment is everything, and we know it's a trust

1106
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 2: pushing because their plan was to go ahead and have

1107
00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:53,680
Speaker 2: a baby.

1108
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: But she's feeling like she needs to wait. Yeah, got

1109
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: it good.

1110
00:49:56,640 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 2: She's thirty, got plenty of time. That's a thing, too,

1111
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 2: plenty of time. Funny people.

1112
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 1: I hate that pressure that you know, even feels that

1113
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 1: pressure like she's.

1114
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:08,560
Speaker 2: I did when I was thirty.

1115
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:08,879
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1116
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:11,359
Speaker 2: It's crazy how you look back and it was thirty

1117
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 2: and yeah I had a baby with a man that chated.

1118
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 2: I was like, well I'm now thirty one. Shoot, I

1119
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 2: need to have kids or my eyes are going to

1120
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 2: dry up. Because especially ten years ago, yeah, women weren't

1121
00:50:23,480 --> 00:50:25,840
Speaker 2: having like not that I heard of babies in their forties.

1122
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 2: Yeah now it's pretty common. Yeah now, I feel like

1123
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 2: it's way more common back then when we were just

1124
00:50:31,400 --> 00:50:35,240
Speaker 2: having Jolie. It's like someone's thirty eight and having a baby.

1125
00:50:35,640 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I didn't even have love till I

1126
00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:42,160
Speaker 3: was thirty four, So yeah, right, like I mean, and

1127
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 3: I just feel but I do remember my hometown friends, Yes,

1128
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:49,480
Speaker 3: when I hit thirty and I was married at the

1129
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 3: time to someone else, and I remember them being like,

1130
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 3: you've been together forever, why aren't you guys? And I

1131
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 3: just they like thought I was going they were going

1132
00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 3: to expire, that I wasn't going to be able to

1133
00:50:58,160 --> 00:51:01,319
Speaker 3: have children. I'm like, it's okay, I'm fine. I had

1134
00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:02,840
Speaker 3: an odd sense of no pressure.

1135
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:03,480
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1136
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 2: I think it's a good good time for women knowing

1137
00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 2: that they can have babies later on. Like I know

1138
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 2: someone who, funny enough, is actually my ex's ex girlfriend

1139
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:16,439
Speaker 2: from like back in college, and she's freezing her eggs

1140
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 2: right now, you know. So it's like we have those yeah,

1141
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:20,839
Speaker 2: abilities to be able to do that. It's like, don't

1142
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 2: rush for the wrong one just to have a family.

1143
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I agree.

1144
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 2: So and with with her, it's like, enjoy the success

1145
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 2: that's going on. You'll have more time to chill. And

1146
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 2: she clearly wants to have a baby, just not right now. Awesome.

1147
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 2: And if you decide you don't want the end, okay,

1148
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 2: fine too. Yeah, there's this like wild thing that you

1149
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 2: have to have one or the other too. Yeah, you

1150
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 2: know right now, Like you can't be a great mom

1151
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 2: and be successful, and you can't want a career and

1152
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:50,399
Speaker 2: be be the mom that you want to be. It's

1153
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 2: like I this isn't me saying we can have it all,

1154
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:54,959
Speaker 2: but I just think we can do things that still

1155
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:58,439
Speaker 2: make us happy and feel great and celebrate our successes. Yeah,

1156
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:00,520
Speaker 2: and it's gonna make you better mom if you can

1157
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 2: enjoy that now, agreed, ladies. I've got a question about

1158
00:52:06,080 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 2: cousins and play time with littles. I've got a niece

1159
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:10,799
Speaker 2: who is four years old and my son is two

1160
00:52:10,880 --> 00:52:13,720
Speaker 2: years old. When they play together, she shows bad behavior

1161
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 2: like screaming, hitting, and not listening to adults. My son's

1162
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:18,359
Speaker 2: just too and I worry he's picking up on some

1163
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 2: of the not so great behaviors, but not all of

1164
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 2: it is horrible. They do have fun together, and I

1165
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 2: think it's good for him to be around other kids.

1166
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 2: I do step in and regulate when I see the

1167
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 2: behavior with my own eyes, especially if she's hitting my son.

1168
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 2: How can I settle my worries about spending time with

1169
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 2: his cousin? Do you think I should say something to

1170
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:40,960
Speaker 2: my sister in law, kat, I think you have an opinion.

1171
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:44,720
Speaker 1: Well not a strong one. I think that you're doing

1172
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:46,839
Speaker 1: the right thing first of all, by stepping in when

1173
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 1: needed and regulating still allowing them to play. I mean,

1174
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 1: I don't unless it's really bad behavior or something that's suspicious.

1175
00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 1: I don't know that you should necessarily not allow them

1176
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 1: to play. But I think that if you see something

1177
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 1: that you don't like, maybe get permission from the sister.

1178
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:06,719
Speaker 1: I don't know how how that is, but to kind

1179
00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 1: of say, hey, we don't hit or whatever it is.

1180
00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 1: So then the two year old sees also like that

1181
00:53:12,239 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 1: there is a repercussion for it. I don't think that

1182
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:16,840
Speaker 1: that's a terrible thing maybe for them to see.

1183
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:19,320
Speaker 2: Also, it doesn't last forever, I think sometimes so stages

1184
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:21,880
Speaker 2: are so crazy. It's so wild West in stages.

1185
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, like she could be great in a week, you know,

1186
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 3: like it could just be a thing that's something shouldn't Yeah,

1187
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 3: just like a little space maybe like you don't I mean,

1188
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 3: if someone's not also with them, they're not living with you,

1189
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 3: that's different.

1190
00:53:32,719 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 1: Too, right.

1191
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 2: But I also think this plays into just on a

1192
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 2: sidebar of people we have maybe stopped hanging out with

1193
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 2: because I'm like, I don't want my kids parenting their kids,

1194
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 2: and it's also different parenting, and so it's hard to

1195
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 2: then be friends with someone when yeah, when it's not like,

1196
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 2: it's not trying to judge the parenting, But the same time,

1197
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 2: I don't want my kids to see that too, So

1198
00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 2: you've I have rewrap did certain friendships for the kids,

1199
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 2: primarily because I don't want my son or my daughter

1200
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 2: seeing that as being okay and then not then said like, hey,

1201
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 2: please stop you know or something you know, or or

1202
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:19,520
Speaker 2: to be how it's the word for them to acknowledge

1203
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 2: that it's not a good bayor.

1204
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:23,040
Speaker 1: And I think that it's a slippery slope to say

1205
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,719
Speaker 1: you're not judging. You're obviously not judging, but it is

1206
00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 1: still our job as parents to be in somewhat control

1207
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 1: of what we can and who were around and who

1208
00:54:33,040 --> 00:54:36,399
Speaker 1: they're around and what they see parent how you want

1209
00:54:36,440 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 1: a parent. But that does not mean that I have

1210
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:39,759
Speaker 1: to be around for it. That does not make me

1211
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: a judgmental person. I think sometimes we get a little

1212
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 1: sensitive to that and we're afraid that people are. But

1213
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:46,200
Speaker 1: if you're going to be parenting different than me, and

1214
00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:47,879
Speaker 1: we're going to be spending all this time with you.

1215
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:50,319
Speaker 1: That's probably not in the end going to work out

1216
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 1: because you don't want your child making those And that

1217
00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:56,319
Speaker 1: is for all ages. I mean that continues till later

1218
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: on when they're starting to make some really bad decisions

1219
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 1: and you're like like, ooh, you're parenting a different way

1220
00:55:01,960 --> 00:55:03,919
Speaker 1: than me. I don't want my kid going down that path.

1221
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 1: Your kid's going down this path, So you have to

1222
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:09,759
Speaker 1: make those kind of decisions. I do think at these

1223
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:12,359
Speaker 1: ages though, like two and four, I think as long

1224
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 1: as you're stepping in and kind of regulating when the

1225
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:17,440
Speaker 1: behavior is not, I think that it's still yeah fine.

1226
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 3: And sometimes they can go in the opposite way too,

1227
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 3: like when you step in and parent a certain way,

1228
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,760
Speaker 3: and it can show another parent to have the courage

1229
00:55:24,800 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 3: to do that. Yeah, you know, absolutely, But.

1230
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 2: There is also we had something that happened with a

1231
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,759
Speaker 2: neighborhood boy who comes over and plays with Jas and

1232
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 2: I actually I primarily only let them play over here

1233
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 2: because I want to be the eyes and he's a

1234
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 2: little bit older too, and so the play dates happen here.

1235
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:43,400
Speaker 2: But there's some things that happen and it's like, hey, buddy,

1236
00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 2: in this house, we don't say this. That's right. In

1237
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 2: this house, we use kind words. In this house, we

1238
00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:51,239
Speaker 2: don't do what that just So, if you're cool with that,

1239
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 2: you can stay here and play. But if that continues,

1240
00:55:53,600 --> 00:55:55,480
Speaker 2: you won't be allowed to play with him anymore. And

1241
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:58,399
Speaker 2: so I've had to have those conversations, you know, with him,

1242
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:00,759
Speaker 2: and if it happens again, well then he knows he's

1243
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:02,799
Speaker 2: out because something did happen one time where I was like, hey,

1244
00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:05,120
Speaker 2: you won't be allowed to come back over here if

1245
00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:06,840
Speaker 2: if that happens again, he said, I'm sorry, you know,

1246
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 2: but he also didn't know that that was not acceptable.

1247
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 1: I'll start to know your rules. H Wait, so they

1248
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 1: get I'm okay to be that mom. I do it

1249
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 1: all the time. I got kids come in my house

1250
00:56:16,600 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 1: all the time. I look at them and they're teenagers.

1251
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know that is not tolerated my house.

1252
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,000
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, mis Catherine. I'll never

1253
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:24,759
Speaker 1: do it again. Like you have the rules if you're

1254
00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:26,279
Speaker 1: going to come in my house. I have rules in

1255
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 1: my house, and you can abide by them or you

1256
00:56:29,120 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 1: can go hang out with somebody else. So you can

1257
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:30,879
Speaker 1: go home.

1258
00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 2: We called a date the other day.

1259
00:56:32,480 --> 00:56:34,320
Speaker 3: I called the play date the other day because Legend

1260
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 3: had a friend, and I said, it just was like,

1261
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 3: this kid is in kind of a loop right now,

1262
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 3: and I'm like, okay, So finally, I just.

1263
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:41,719
Speaker 2: Said, but are you ready to head home?

1264
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 3: Just feels like you're not really having fun here and

1265
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:46,759
Speaker 3: he was like no, and I said, well, like then

1266
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 3: we need to, like, yeah, let's switch it up.

1267
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 1: But I also expect this same sure if my kids

1268
00:56:53,120 --> 00:56:55,759
Speaker 1: are at someone's house and I tell my kids that

1269
00:56:55,920 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 1: all the time. Now their rule pamas ye Jolie before yeah,

1270
00:57:00,280 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, you follow their rules. Having said that, if

1271
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 1: their rules are less stringent, my rules still apply.

1272
00:57:05,360 --> 00:57:05,879
Speaker 2: Yes, right.

1273
00:57:05,920 --> 00:57:09,839
Speaker 1: So that's another thing that's been interesting, Like somehow in

1274
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 1: my kid's world, I'm the only mom that says they

1275
00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: cannot be in a bedroom with the opposite sex. Don't

1276
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:17,280
Speaker 1: believe I'm the only mom, but I don't.

1277
00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:21,120
Speaker 3: It's probably rare thought.

1278
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 2: I would think you're the rarity. Yeah, to be honest

1279
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:27,040
Speaker 2: from my experience, yes, I don't care. So I'm also

1280
00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 2: so Julie said the same thing because I won't let

1281
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 2: her sleep over at someone's house. Because they have the

1282
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 2: older brother. And I'm like, I'm sorry, you cannot sleep

1283
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 2: over there. She's more than welcome to sleep over at

1284
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 2: our house. But and again, that little boy is probably

1285
00:57:38,600 --> 00:57:41,360
Speaker 2: the old older brother is in middle school. It's probably

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00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:43,400
Speaker 2: he's he's such a sweet kid, and I still don't

1287
00:57:43,400 --> 00:57:45,320
Speaker 2: allow it. I don't want that to happen. I don't

1288
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:46,760
Speaker 2: know if he's going to have a friend come over.

1289
00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 2: I don't know the other people like no.

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00:57:48,680 --> 00:57:50,560
Speaker 1: So many to that. I've told my girls all the time,

1291
00:57:50,560 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 1: if someone can you good for them, spend the night

1292
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 1: because you have an older brother, we respect that, you know.

1293
00:57:55,600 --> 00:57:56,000
Speaker 2: Whatever.

1294
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 1: If I have to leave and Cayden is watching a kid,

1295
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: that kid, no matter what, cannot stay, cannot be in

1296
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:03,960
Speaker 1: the house. I'm not putting a hymn in that position.

1297
00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:05,920
Speaker 1: I'm not putting another kid in position. We have so

1298
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:07,200
Speaker 1: many rules about that, yep.

1299
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 2: But so with the like whatever, you know, I'm like,

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00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:14,440
Speaker 2: I don't care at that point what that parent's rules are.

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00:58:14,480 --> 00:58:14,680
Speaker 3: Though.

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Speaker 1: My rule is still that you don't go into a

1303
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:21,840
Speaker 1: bedroom alone with with the opposite sex. You know, that's

1304
00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:24,320
Speaker 1: just that rule applies. There's several of those, but that's

1305
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 1: a very good example, so I'll never forget. Not long ago,

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00:58:27,640 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 1: Emmy was at a friend's house and it was a

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00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 1: group of them, but the mom was working in the

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00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:35,560
Speaker 1: bonus room, so she sent them all into this girl

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Speaker 1: friend's room.

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00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:38,360
Speaker 2: But there were also boys.

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00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 1: So Emmy literally sat the door was opened, she sat

1312
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 1: outside of the bedroom for her and she like sent

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00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:46,800
Speaker 1: us videos and like their friends were all and I'm like,

1314
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:48,360
Speaker 1: there you go, and no one's making fun of you.

1315
00:58:48,400 --> 00:58:50,560
Speaker 1: They're like laughing about it, and y'all are like hanging out.

1316
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 1: But like I was like, rule still is a plus?

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00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:53,960
Speaker 1: Still apply? That's right.

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Speaker 2: So to this listener, good on you for you know,

1319
00:58:57,960 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 2: watching and seeing and this is just going to lead

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00:58:59,920 --> 00:59:03,480
Speaker 2: you onto the older ages and and uh it's you know,

1321
00:59:03,680 --> 00:59:06,680
Speaker 2: mama bear instincts and just does she have to say

1322
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:08,680
Speaker 2: anything to step at the sister in law like you said,

1323
00:59:08,760 --> 00:59:09,480
Speaker 2: like like.

1324
00:59:10,920 --> 00:59:13,760
Speaker 1: I mean, I think if she feels like she is

1325
00:59:13,800 --> 00:59:16,680
Speaker 1: not getting the permission to step in, if she needs to, maybe,

1326
00:59:16,680 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 1: but she'll follow, she'll see what she's doing exactly.

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Speaker 2: All right, ladies, this is fun, love y'all. Where will

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Speaker 2: our adventures take us next week? Oh man, stay tuned.

1329
00:59:26,720 --> 00:59:29,720
Speaker 2: I have a pin for next week. Oh oh another one.

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Speaker 2: What's it called m Starbucks go Rendez Latte extra.

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Speaker 3: We'll pin it all right, keyword flyaway, Oh, I can't wait.

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Speaker 2: Stay duned, bye bye,