WEBVTT - The Fastest Girl in America: Inside Mary Cain’s “This Is Not About Running” (Part 1)

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<v Mary Cain>I'm 30  years  old and  I  look  more  like  my  16- year-

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<v Mary Cain>old  self  than  my  19- year- old  self  looked  to 

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<v Mary Cain>16  in  some  ways,  and  it's  just because  my  body  was 

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<v Mary Cain>really  fighting  itself  during  that  time.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Hey  everybody,  and  welcome  to  Set  the  Pace,  the  official 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>podcast  of  New  York  Road  Runners  presented  by  Peloton.  I'm 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Rob  Simmelkjaer,  your  host  and  the  CEO  of  New  York 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Road  Runners.  And  with  me,  I've  missed  her,  haven't  talked 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  her  live  in  a  while,  Peloton  instructor  Becs  Gentry. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Hello,  Rebecca.  How  are  you?

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Hello,  stranger.  I'm good.  It  has  been  the  longest.  I  haven't 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>seen  you  in  forever.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>I feel like half the year  has  gone  by.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It  really does feel like  it.  We  had  this  thing  where  maybe  you'll 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>do  one  episode,  I'll  do  another.  We  take  a  week 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>off,  we're  traveling,  we're  doing  the things.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Exactly. It's that time of  year.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>How's  your  summer  been?

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<v Rebecca Gentry>It's  good.  It's  fantastic.  It's  hot  and  wonderful.  And  I'm 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>on  the  precipice  of  race  number  one  this  weekend.  And 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>then,  yeah, then I feel like-

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Race number one for the summer?

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yeah,  essentially.  Yes.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Exciting.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>One  of  the first of  the  big,  big  boys  are  happening this week.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Okay.  Here  we  go.  Here  we  go.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yes.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>We'll talk about that,  but  we'll  talk  about  that  after  the  fact,  right?

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<v Rebecca Gentry>We will.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Because  that's  what  we're  doing  now.  We're  not  drawing  too 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>much  attention  to  ourselves  before  the  races.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>No.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Because  we  don't  want  that.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>We're just rolling.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I'll  talk  a  bit  about  my  running  too,  but  I'm 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>excited  to  hear  what  you're  up  to.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yeah.  No,  it's  been  good.  How  about  you?  How  is 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>your  running?

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It's  been  a  lot  better.  Thank  you.  I've  been  getting 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>back  into  it. It  was  crazy.  My  first  Road  Runners  Race 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>wasn't  until  the  Mindful  5K at  the  beginning  of  May.  I 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>didn't  run  a  race  till  then  and  that  was  good. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>And  then  since  then  I've  been  jumping  back  into  it. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I  ran  the  Pride  Four  Miler  in  June.  And  I 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>ran  our  9/ 11  Memorial  Race  with the 9/ 11  Memorial &amp;  Museum 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>a  couple  of  weeks  ago,  which  was  a  four  miler, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>which  by  the  way, Becs,  was  a  really  wonderful  event.  It 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>was  the  first  time  we'd  had  that  event  partnership  with 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  9/ 11  Memorial &amp;  Museum  this  year,  the  25th  anniversary 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>of  September  11th, 2001. So  it  was  a  very  meaningful  event  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I  was  really,  really  proud  that we  were  able  to  do 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>that.  And I  also  had  a  really  great  run,  so  it 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>was  awesome.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Good.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>And  I'm  excited  for  more  as  well.  I  got  more 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>running  planned.  I'm  going  to  try  to  run  a  couple 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>more  Road  Runners  races  this  summer.  I've  got  Grete's  circles.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Grete's  Gallop,  we  love  it.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>That's  right.  That  10K.  And  I'm  thinking ...  It's  been  kind 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>of  a  spotty  running  year  for  me  with  a  little 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>time  off,  but  I'm  feeling  pretty  good  now,  so  I 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>think  I'm  going  to  take  a  shot  at  a  fast 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>5K.  I  kind  of  circled  Jersey  City  October  4th  to 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>see  if  I  can  run  a  fast  5K.  I  haven't 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>been  able  to  get  under  20  minutes  in  a  long 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>time,  couple  of  years,  so  if  I  can  feel  good, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>and  I'm  feeling  good  right  now.  But  the  one  thing 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>we  haven't  talked  about, Becs,  was  one of  the  most  fun  things 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I've  done  in  the  last  couple of  years  when  I  did 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>HYROX  in  June,  and  it  was  fantastic.  I  had  the 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>best  time.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Oh, good.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It was  great.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Extended  my  commentary  on HYROX  (inaudible) .

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I  know  it's  probably  whatever,  maybe  it's  competitive.  I  don't 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>know  how  you  guys  feel  about  it.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>No,  I  think  it's  wonderful.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I think it's probably  very  compatible  with  a  lot  of  what  you  guys 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>do  at  Peloton.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Oh,  for  Peloton?  Yeah.  We  have  a  HYROX  partnership.  We 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>actually  do  offer  specific  training  classes,  strength  training,  combination  bootcamp 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>classes  for  HYROX  training.  I  think  HYROX  is  fantastic.  The 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>varied  people  who  do  it  in  New  York,  I  believe 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>it  was  almost  a, was it a  10- day  event  in  New  York?

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It was  10  days. That's right.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>It was 10 days  of  competitions  of  people of  all  backgrounds  showing  up  and 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>doing  these  events  together  with  a  team  or  solo.  It's 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>kind  of  like  when  running  had  its  boom,  it's  renaissance, 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>it's  whatever  you  want  to  call  it,  it  reignited  the 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>fire  of  movement  to  a  lot  of  people  who  weren't 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>moving  before.  And  now  HYROX  is  doing  the  same  thing, 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>it's  reigniting  or  igniting  the  fire  of  strength  training,  and 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>strenuous  physical  activity  to  people  who  may  or  may  not 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>have  done  that  before, and I think  it  is  wonderful.  I  never  seem 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>to  find  the  right  time  to  do  it  because  I 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>always  am  like, " Yeah,  I'll  do  it."  Then a  running  race 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>comes  up and  I  prioritize  running  all  the  time,  but  I 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>love  cheering  my  teammates,  yourself  included  on  in  these  endeavors 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>because  it's  a  feat.  I  mean,  I've  seen  so  many 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>people  throw  up  whilst  doing  walking  lunges.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I  did  the  mixed  doubles-

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<v Rebecca Gentry>It's wild.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>With  a  colleague  of  mine  from  Road  Runners  named  Stephanie 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>DiBrita,  and  we  had  an  amazing  time,  and  we  complimented 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>each  other.  She  did  a  great  job  with  some  of 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  things  that  are  hard  for  me.  The  walking  lunges, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  named  it,  that  is  by  far  my  hardest  event 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>because of  my  knees.  But  then  I  would  take  more  of 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  weight  on  some  of  the  heavier  things,  because  you 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>had  to  do  the  men's  weight  if  it's  men  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>women  doing  it  together,  the  men's  weights  apply.  So  I 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>would  do  the  sled  push  and  pull,  and  the  farmer's 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>carry,  but  we  just  had  the  best  time.  I  really 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>recommend  it.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yeah.  I  love  it.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I think  what  was  best,  if  you're  recovering  from  an  injury 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>like  I  was,  you  need  that  strength  training,  and  also 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>for  injury  prevention.  So  it  got  me  in  a  habit 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>of  really  doing  that  strength  work  more  than  I  ever 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>had  before  because I  had  a  goal.  Anyway,  I  really  recommend 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>it  for  runners.  We're  fans  of  that,  and  it's  good 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>for  runners  to  do  other  things.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Absolutely.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>So  that  was fun.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>It really is. It really is.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>We  want  a  full  all- rounded  body.  Talking  about  the 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>everyday  and  the  fantastic,  I'm  going  to  have  to  move 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>on  to  the  absolute  fantastic,  the  elephant  in  the  room, 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>that  if  we  don't  talk  about  the  British  man  who 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>broke  a  27- year  one- mile  record  this  past  weekend. 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>He  has  been  on  the  podcast  twice,  I  believe.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yes, I believe  that's  right.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>With us. He is a regular.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>We need him back  now.  Josh  Kerr.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Josh  back  please.  He  loves  New  York  Road  Runners  events. 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>We  know  that.  We  know  he's  been  a  regular  at 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>the  New  Balance  5th  Avenue  Mile,  and  he  broke  the  one-

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<v Rebecca Gentry>mile  record  this  past  weekend,  July  18th, at  the  Diamond  Games 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>in  London,  so  on  essentially  home turf.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>In  front  of  a  packed  stadium.  I  mean, it looked like the-

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<v Rebecca Gentry>A full, full stadium.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It  looked  like  the  Olympic  Games.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yeah.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>You see  a  stadium  that  size  just  packed  to  the  gill. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>And  I  think  everybody  knew  what  was  on  the  line. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>He  had  talked  about  it.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Exactly.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It  had  been  talked  about.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>He picked it up.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>He  was  making  this attempt.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>He had so  much  confidence. Yeah.  He  was there.  He  knew  he'd  put  in 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>so  much  work  for  this,  and  he's  always  a  very 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>confident  runner.  That's  I  think  one  of  his  skills.  He 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>is  very  much  in  tune  with  his  body,  and  I 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>think  he  knows  when  he's  got  the  fuel  in  him, 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>and  he  knows  also  when  he  doesn't.  He's  very,  very 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>humble  at  times  of  being  like, " I'm  not  in  shape 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>to do  this  right  now."  But  he  came  flying  in.  Rob, 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>it  hurts  my  head  to  think  about  how  fast  this 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>is,  one  mile  on  the  track  in  three  minutes,  42.66  seconds.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Doesn't that  just  make  your  whole  body  quiver  in pain?

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It's  so  inspiring.  It's  so  incredible.  I  mean,  when  you 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>think  back  to  what  it  meant  the  first  time  when 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>someone  even  broke  four  minutes,  Roger  Bannister,  right?  Back  in 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  day.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yes, back in the  day.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>That  was  considered  an  incredible  feat,  and  then  to  see 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>that  progress.  And  this  last  record  standing  up,  as  you 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>said,  for  more  than  two  decades,  how  special  a  moment 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>that  was to  see  someone  come  along  and  break  that.  To 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>me,  it's  the  most  iconic  record  in  running.  I  think 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>there's  two  running  records.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>I agree.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I  guess  I  would  have  to  say  three,  that  to 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>me  are  truly  iconic.  The  100  meters,  the  one  mile, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>and  of  course  the  marathon.  Those  are  the  iconic.  I 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>guess  you  could  throw  the  200  meters  in  there  as 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>well,  but  those  are  the  iconic  records.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yeah. Yeah, I agree.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>And  that  one  stood  for  so  long,  so  it  was 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>really incredible  to  see.  Congratulations  to  Josh  Kerr.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Shout  out  to  our  Scottish  listeners  as  well  who  are 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>probably  very,  very  proud  of  their  man  there.  So  yeah, 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Josh,  let  us  know  when  you're  recovered.  I  heard  he 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>had  a  beer  and  got  up  the  next  morning  and 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>went  for  5: 00  AM  run  as  his  way  of  celebrating.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>As  a  runner  would.  As  a  runner  would.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Exactly.  We're  all  the  same kind of.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It was incredible.  So  great  stuff.  And  by  the  way,  speaking  of 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>track  and  field,  we've  got  some  world- class  track  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>field  happening  right  here  in  New  York  City  this  weekend. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>That's  right,  for  the  first  time  really  ever,  the  US 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Nationals  and  Para  Nationals  are  coming  to  New  York  City 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>this  weekend.  This  podcast  drops  on  Thursday,  that's  the  first 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>day  of  this  event,  Thursday,  Friday,  Saturday,  and  Sunday  all 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>happening  out  at  Icahn  Stadium  on  Randall's  Island.  We  are 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>so  excited  because  we're  one  of  the  co- hosts  of 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>this  event,  Becs,  along  with  Central  Park  Track  Club,  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  New  York  chapter  of  US  Track  and  Field.  New 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>York  Road  Runners  is  hosting  this,  and  we're  really  proud 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  bring  this  to  New  York.
 I  mean,  these  are 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  runners,  the  sprinters,  the  field  athletes  that  we're  going 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  see  at  the  Olympic  trials  in  a  couple  years 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>and  representing  the  United  States  in  LA  in  2028,  so 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>many  of  them  will  be  on  that  track.  So  it's 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>going  to  be  really  exciting  to  see  these  incredible  athletes. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Noah  Lyles  is  going  to  be  out  there,  Sha'Carri  Richardson, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>all  the  big  names  in  US  track  and  field  will 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>be  right  here  in  New  York.  And there's  still  tickets  available 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  this,  so  if  you  haven't  done  it  yet,  go 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>check  it  out  online.  The  website  is  usatf. org.  That's  usatf.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>org.  So  make  sure  you  go  out,  get  tickets  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>come  out  to  see  these  incredible  athletes  on  Randall's  Island.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Absolutely.  Enjoy.  Enjoy.  All  right,  shall  we  talk  about  our 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>episodes,  Rob?  Because  we're  kind  of  doing  something  a  little 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>bit  differently  over  the  next  two  episodes  here  on  Set 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>the  Pace.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>It's  one  story  that  the  team  have  decided  will  be 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>better  to  be  told  over  two  separate  episodes,  and  I 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>think  Rob  and  I  both  agree  that  it  was a  really 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>different  and  very  impactful  way  of  telling  a  deep  story,  right?

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It  is.  It  is  a  deep  story.  It's  a  complicated 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>story.  We  know  that  running,  and  especially  the  professional  side 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>of  running  is  hyper- competitive. It  can  be  emotionally  challenging  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>taxing  for  the  athletes.  And  what  we're  going  to  do 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>today  is  tell  the  story  of  a  woman  named  Mary 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Cain,  who  we  know  well  at  New  York  Road  Runners. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>She  actually  worked  at  New  York  Road  Runners  for  some 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>time.  So  we  do  this  in  two  parts.  On  today's 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>episode,  Mary  joins  me  for  an  interview  where  we  really 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>talk  about  her  story  as  a  pro  athlete.  So  she's 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>going  to  talk about that in  our  first  episode  with  me,  and  then, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Becs,  it  goes  to  you.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yeah,  it  does.  Essentially,  we're  talking  about  how  Mary  broke 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>her  silence,  as  Rob  said,  in  2019,  and  how  these 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>experiences  that  she  unfortunately  went  through  can  help  model  a 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>way  for  female  runners  to  speak  up,  to  change  the 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>narrative  for  future  female  runners,  and  hopefully  serve  as  models 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>for  that  change  that  really  does  need  to  continue  to 

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<v Rebecca Gentry>happen  in  all  sports  for  the  women  athletes  here.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah,  there  are  some  common  themes.  In  Mary's  memoir,  she 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>talks  about  a  practice  with the  Nike  Oregon  Project  where  she 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>locks  herself  in  a  bathroom  crying  because  the  emotional  strain 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>is  so  great.  And  she  talks  about  the  fact  that 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>all  of  her  teammates  just  kept  running,  nobody  stopped  to 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>check  in  on  her,  to  talk  to  her.  And  Emily 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Richards,  who  you  speak  to,  has  a  somewhat  similar  story. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>She's  a  college  freshman.  She  wins  an  all- America  title, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>comes  home  for  the  summer  and  no  one  from  her 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>team  texts  her  to  say  congratulations.  So  there's  this  theme 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>of  really  asking  the  questions,  how  can  we,  in  this 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>case  it's  women,  I'm  sure  this  can  happen  with  men 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>as  well,  be  teammates  and  competitors  at  the  same  time? 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>How  can  we  compete  and  also  support  each  other  at 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  same  time  when  we're  in  these  situations?  This  happens 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>in  all  kinds  of  sports  to  all  kinds  of  people and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>all  genders  as  well.  And Becs,  I'm  sure  you  can  relate 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  some  of  this  as  someone  who's  been  a  competitive 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>female  runner.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>Yeah,  absolutely.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Before  we  get  into  the  conversation  with  Mary,  we  want 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  make  sure  that  people  know  one  thing.  Mary  does 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>talk  about  self- harm  and  suicidal  thoughts  at  one  point 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>in  this  episode,  thoughts  that  she  had  during  her  years 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>at  the  Nike  Oregon  Project.  She  talks  about  it  directly, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>but  we  think  with  a  lot  of  sensitivity.  But  if 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>those  topics  are  hard  for  you,  our  listeners,  to  listen 

0:13:49.380 --> 0:13:52.829
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  right  now,  you  might  want  to  consider  not  listening 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  this.  Take  care  of  yourself,  protect  your  mental  health. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>If  for  any  reason  you  need  resources  or  have  had 

0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:04.020
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>any  suicidal  thoughts,  there  are  resources  listed  in  the  show 

0:14:04.020 --> 0:14:08.429
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>notes.  So  please  go  find  those  resources  if  you  need 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>anything  like  that  before,  during,  or  after  listening  to  this 

0:14:11.460 --> 0:14:14.370
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>episode.  So  that's  something  that  we  want  to  hear ...  I 

0:14:14.370 --> 0:14:17.100
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>want  to  make  sure  everybody  hears.  And  now  we  will 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>go  to  our  conversation  with  Mary  Cain.

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<v Mary Cain>I  can't  stop  smiling  on  our  walk  back  to  Alberto's 

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<v Mary Cain>car.  As  I  slide  into  the  driver's  seat,  I  replay 

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<v Mary Cain>in  my  mind  how  Alberto  called  another  girl,  who  has 

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<v Mary Cain>run  fast  all  year,  fat.  He  took  me  on.  He 

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<v Mary Cain>must  have  faith  that  I  can  be  skinny.  He  doesn't 

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<v Mary Cain>have  faith  in  her.  I  might  not  be  there  yet, 

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<v Mary Cain>but  he  has  faith.  That  has  to  mean  something.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Mary  Cain  grew  up  in  Bronxville,  New  York.  As  a 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>teenager,  she  was  the  fastest  girl  in  America.  At  16, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>she  joined  the  Nike  Oregon  Project  under  Coach  Alberto  Salazar. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>The  following  year,  at  17,  she  became  the  youngest  American 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>ever  to  reach  a  world  track  and  field  championship  final, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>finishing  10th in the 1500  meters  in  Moscow.  A  few  months  after  that, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>she  signed  her  first  professional  endorsement  deal  with  Nike.  But 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>by  2016,  Mary  had  quit  the  Nike  Oregon  Project  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>moved  back  to  the  East  Coast.  Three  years  later,  The 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>New  York  Times  published  a  video  essay  of  hers  called 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>I  Was  the  Fastest  Girl  in  America  Until  I  Joined 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Nike.  Mary's  video  essay  was  shocking  to  many  fans,  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>even  professionals,  and  it  really  changed  the  conversation  in  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>about  the  sport  of  running.  Mary's  memoir,  This  Is  Not 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>About  Running,  came  out  this  past  April  from  Mariner  Books. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Here's  my  conversation  with  Mary  Cain.
 So,  Mary,  take  me 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>back  to  the  day  that  Nike  first  signed  you.  You 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>were  17  years  old.  What  did  your  parents  understand  about 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>what  you  were  stepping  into?  What  did  you  understand  about  it?

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<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  So  when I  signed  at  17,  I  had  already  been 

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<v Mary Cain>a  part  of  a  Nike  program  for  about  a  year. 

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<v Mary Cain>I  first  started  working  with  Alberto  Salazar  when  I  was 

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<v Mary Cain>a  junior  in  high  school  or  16  years  old.  Over 

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<v Mary Cain>the  course  of  that  year,  I  qualified  for  world  championships 

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<v Mary Cain>where  I  finished  10th  of  the  world,  and  I'd  had 

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<v Mary Cain>a  really,  at  least  at  the  time  I  felt  like 

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<v Mary Cain>really  great  experience  with  my  team.  So  in  many  ways, 

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<v Mary Cain>being  able  to  sign  a  professional  contract  was  just  an 

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<v Mary Cain>opportunity  for  me  to  be  paid  for  my  work,  because 

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<v Mary Cain>10  years  ago  or  really  more  like  13  years  ago 

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<v Mary Cain>at  this  point,  the  NIL  did  not  exist.  There  was 

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<v Mary Cain>no  opportunity  for  a  collegiate  athlete  to  make  money.  I 

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<v Mary Cain>also  was  being  pressured  by  the  Oregon  Project to  really  only 

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<v Mary Cain>run  for  the  University  of  Oregon,  and  I  didn't  feel 

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<v Mary Cain>that  that  school  was  really  the  right  fit  for  me, 

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<v Mary Cain>both  academically  and  also  athletically.
 So  in  many  ways  it 

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<v Mary Cain>felt  like  a  great  opportunity,  and  then  in  other  ways, it 

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<v Mary Cain>kind  of  felt  like  it  was  one  of  two  options 

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<v Mary Cain>for  me  if  I  wanted  to  continue  running  in  the 

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<v Mary Cain>way  that  I  had  been.  So  I  think  in  many 

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<v Mary Cain>ways  I  signed  it  in  a  way  that  any  minor 

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<v Mary Cain>signs  a  contract,  which  is  having  no  understanding  of  what 

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<v Mary Cain>that  means  other  than  I  hope  things  keep  going  how 

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<v Mary Cain>they're  going.  And  I  think  in  many  ways  my  parents, 

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<v Mary Cain>it  was  pretty  similar,  because  most  of  the  language  from 

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<v Mary Cain>the  folks  at  Nike,  and  also  my  agent,  and  my 

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<v Mary Cain>team  was  that,  like, " Everyone's  going  to  take  care  of 

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<v Mary Cain>her.  This  is  a  long  term.  We're  a  family.  This 

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<v Mary Cain>is  kind  of  just  a  way  for  her  to  make 

0:18:06.300 --> 0:18:11.640
<v Mary Cain>money."  Versus  really  always  thinking  about  it  quite  from  the 

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<v Mary Cain>legal  backing  that  none  of  us  had.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>You  mentioned  Alberto  Salazar.  Can  you  talk  about  some  of 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  things  he  would  say  to  you  as  you  were 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>working  with  him,  and  some  of  those  statements,  those  comments 

0:18:25.740 --> 0:18:30.060
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  talk  about  that  really  it  seems  began  to  trigger 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>issues  for  you  when  it  came  to  your  body  and 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>weight,  and  things  of  that  nature?

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<v Mary Cain>Yeah. I think it was  in  some  ways  a  gradual  buildup  to  conversations  that 

0:18:43.380 --> 0:18:48.780
<v Mary Cain>became  much  more  direct  and  much  more  explicitly  toxic  around 

0:18:48.780 --> 0:18:51.330
<v Mary Cain>how  I  looked.  And  I  think  because  there  was  this 

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<v Mary Cain>kind  of  slow  rolling  development,  it  made  it  almost  seem 

0:18:56.310 --> 0:18:59.310
<v Mary Cain>less  like  all  of  a  sudden  he's  calling  me  fat, 

0:18:59.790 --> 0:19:01.679
<v Mary Cain>which  I  think  would've  been  more  jarring,  and  maybe  I 

0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:07.050
<v Mary Cain>would've  been  more  able  to  push  back  against,  but  instead 

0:19:07.050 --> 0:19:11.879
<v Mary Cain>it  started  with  this  like, " We're  trying  to  get  you 

0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.250
<v Mary Cain>to  be  lean  and  mean."  It  kind  of  started  in 

0:19:14.250 --> 0:19:20.430
<v Mary Cain>these  cliche  sayings  that  I  think  we  really  normalize  within 

0:19:20.430 --> 0:19:24.150
<v Mary Cain>sport.  And I think  there  was  a  period  of  time  before  he 

0:19:24.150 --> 0:19:27.960
<v Mary Cain>really  started  very  explicitly  talking  about  my  weight  where  he 

0:19:27.960 --> 0:19:30.210
<v Mary Cain>was  like, " It  looks  like  you're  losing  fitness.  It  looks 

0:19:30.210 --> 0:19:33.540
<v Mary Cain>like  you're  not  the  same  as  you  were  before."
 It 

0:19:33.540 --> 0:19:37.859
<v Mary Cain>was  kind  of  this  code  word  in  retrospect, so that  was  all 

0:19:37.859 --> 0:19:40.950
<v Mary Cain>about  just  how  I  looked  and  my  weight,  but  that 

0:19:40.950 --> 0:19:44.520
<v Mary Cain>I  interpreted  as  like, " Oh,  he  doesn't  think  my  form's 

0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:46.440
<v Mary Cain>the  same,"  or, " He  doesn't  think  I'm  running  as  fast." 

0:19:46.440 --> 0:19:49.320
<v Mary Cain>Even  though  in  retrospect,  going  back  and  writing  this  book 

0:19:49.350 --> 0:19:50.820
<v Mary Cain>and  looking  at  my  training  logs,  I'm  like, " Oh,  my 

0:19:50.820 --> 0:19:52.770
<v Mary Cain>gosh,  those  workouts  were  the  best  I'd  ever  done  in 

0:19:52.770 --> 0:19:57.780
<v Mary Cain>my  life."  But  there  was  just  this  constant  negative  language 

0:19:58.710 --> 0:20:02.520
<v Mary Cain>that  was  his  version  of  synonyms  to, " I  think  you 

0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:05.100
<v Mary Cain>look  fat."  And  then  gradually  it  developed  into  him  more 

0:20:05.100 --> 0:20:07.830
<v Mary Cain>explicitly  saying  that  to  me,  but  by  that point  I  was 

0:20:07.830 --> 0:20:11.130
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  numbed  to  any  form  of  negativity.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah. And  you  wrote  about  a  drive  back  from  a  workout 

0:20:15.359 --> 0:20:19.800
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>with  him  where  you  replayed  the  fact  that  he  had 

0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:24.570
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>called  another  girl  fat  with  you  there  and  how  that 

0:20:24.570 --> 0:20:26.580
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>made  you  feel.  Can  you  talk  about  that?

0:20:27.540 --> 0:20:30.389
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  I  think  it  was  one  of  the ...  There's  a 

0:20:30.390 --> 0:20:34.889
<v Mary Cain>few  memories  that  I  have  of  Alberto  and  also  other 

0:20:34.890 --> 0:20:37.530
<v Mary Cain>folks,  whether a  part  of  the  Nike  Oregon  Project  or  part 

0:20:37.530 --> 0:20:41.760
<v Mary Cain>of the  Nike  Sports  Marketing  Team,  where  they  would  very  explicitly 

0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:45.209
<v Mary Cain>talk  about  other  women's  bodies.  And I  think  one  of  the 

0:20:45.210 --> 0:20:47.909
<v Mary Cain>things  in  crafting  this  memoir  was  that  I  kind  of 

0:20:47.910 --> 0:20:51.540
<v Mary Cain>wanted  to  admit  the  moments  that  I  regret  and  that 

0:20:51.540 --> 0:20:54.330
<v Mary Cain>I  have  shame  over.  Because  I  think  when  you're  in 

0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:59.639
<v Mary Cain>these  abusive  systems,  it's  really  normal,  unfortunately,  for  people  to 

0:20:59.640 --> 0:21:03.540
<v Mary Cain>almost  hear  the  same  language  that's  directed  at  them  and 

0:21:03.540 --> 0:21:07.650
<v Mary Cain>almost  feel  relief.  You  feel  almost  glad  that  that  language 

0:21:07.650 --> 0:21:11.280
<v Mary Cain>is  being  directed  at  others  instead  of  standing  up  for 

0:21:11.280 --> 0:21:14.190
<v Mary Cain>these  other  people  and  saying, " Hey,  this  is  really  problematic." 

0:21:14.190 --> 0:21:17.820
<v Mary Cain>It's  part  of  the  reason  that  abuse  is  perpetuated  in 

0:21:17.820 --> 0:21:20.399
<v Mary Cain>the  way  that  it  is,  and  it's  because  there's  a 

0:21:20.400 --> 0:21:25.619
<v Mary Cain>real,  almost  toxicity  that's  kind  of  directed  at  everyone  within 

0:21:25.619 --> 0:21:27.990
<v Mary Cain>the  system,  even  other  people  who  are  going  through  it.


0:21:28.109 --> 0:21:33.660
<v Mary Cain>So  that  specific  instance,  it  was  a  moment  where  another 

0:21:33.660 --> 0:21:36.990
<v Mary Cain>athlete  who  was  ultimately  signed  by  Nike  with  a  different 

0:21:36.990 --> 0:21:40.890
<v Mary Cain>team  was  being  spoken  about,  and  Alberto  was  just  using 

0:21:40.890 --> 0:21:43.409
<v Mary Cain>really  toxic  language  about  the  way  that  she  looked,  and that 

0:21:43.530 --> 0:21:45.359
<v Mary Cain>being  the  reason  he  didn't  want  to  take  her  on. 

0:21:45.750 --> 0:21:49.560
<v Mary Cain>In  that  moment  I  felt  almost  like, " Well,  at  least 

0:21:49.560 --> 0:21:51.869
<v Mary Cain>he's  not  saying  that  about  me,  and  at  least  he 

0:21:51.869 --> 0:21:55.560
<v Mary Cain>still  wanted  me.  So  there  must  be  something  he  sees 

0:21:55.560 --> 0:21:59.550
<v Mary Cain>in  me."  And  I  think  if  we  never  address  that 

0:21:59.550 --> 0:22:02.040
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  piece  to  it,  then  I  don't  think  we 

0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:05.760
<v Mary Cain>often  see  why  this  perpetuates,  and  it's  because  if  everybody 

0:22:06.060 --> 0:22:09.810
<v Mary Cain>is  almost  fighting  against  each  other  for  a  spot  instead 

0:22:09.810 --> 0:22:12.240
<v Mary Cain>of  lifting  everyone  up,  then  there's  going  to  be  this 

0:22:12.240 --> 0:22:13.740
<v Mary Cain>really  toxic  mentality.

0:22:14.640 --> 0:22:19.560
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  The  level  of  insecurity  that  must  exist  for  these 

0:22:19.560 --> 0:22:22.740
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>athletes  just  has  to  be  immense.  I  mean,  you're  in 

0:22:22.740 --> 0:22:27.359
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>a  highly  competitive  situation  when  it  comes  to  just  how 

0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:30.480
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>fast  you're  running,  and  then  you  add  to  that  the 

0:22:30.480 --> 0:22:35.700
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>competition,  to  be  perceived  the  right  way  by  sponsors,  by 

0:22:35.700 --> 0:22:40.410
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>coaches.  So  all  of  that,  I'm  sure,  leads  to  the 

0:22:40.410 --> 0:22:43.109
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>kind  of  phenomenon  you're  talking  about,  where  you  could  have 

0:22:43.109 --> 0:22:47.280
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>these  weird  reactions  that  you  might  look  back  on  with 

0:22:47.280 --> 0:22:50.490
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>all  this  distance  from  that  time  and  realize, " Yeah,  that 

0:22:50.490 --> 0:22:52.560
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>probably  wasn't  the  right  reaction  for  me  to  have  to  that.

0:22:52.650 --> 0:22:56.490
<v Mary Cain>Exactly,  exactly. And I think  it's  important  too,  because  I  think  sometimes  other 

0:22:56.490 --> 0:23:00.450
<v Mary Cain>athletes,  when  they  read  memoirs  like  mine  can  almost  feel 

0:23:00.450 --> 0:23:04.409
<v Mary Cain>defensive  because  they  know all of  the  things  they  thought  about  me, 

0:23:04.410 --> 0:23:06.930
<v Mary Cain>they  know  the  things  that  they  said  about  me,  and 

0:23:07.230 --> 0:23:10.440
<v Mary Cain>hearing  me  call  that  out  is  reacted  to  with  like, "

0:23:10.500 --> 0:23:13.800
<v Mary Cain>Oh,  she's  being  negative.  She's  being  mean.  She's  being  this." 

0:23:14.100 --> 0:23:18.030
<v Mary Cain>Instead  of  saying, " Hey,  I  get  it.  She's  even  admitting 

0:23:18.030 --> 0:23:21.960
<v Mary Cain>she  had  negative  thoughts.  How  can  we  almost  all  come 

0:23:21.960 --> 0:23:27.359
<v Mary Cain>together  and  admit  that  sometimes  in  abusive  situations,  even  those 

0:23:27.359 --> 0:23:31.230
<v Mary Cain>of  us  who  are  victimized  can  almost  perpetuate  some  form 

0:23:31.230 --> 0:23:33.210
<v Mary Cain>of  toxicity?  And  how  do  we  break  the  cycle?"

0:23:33.390 --> 0:23:36.690
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>You  have  written  that  you  look  at  photos  of  yourself 

0:23:36.690 --> 0:23:39.150
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>from  those  years  and  you  see  things  now  that  you 

0:23:39.150 --> 0:23:43.619
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>couldn't  see  then.  Can  you  walk  me  through  one  photo? 

0:23:43.619 --> 0:23:47.100
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>What  do  you  see,  and  what  didn't  anybody  else  see 

0:23:47.220 --> 0:23:47.850
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>at  that  time?

0:23:48.330 --> 0:23:51.270
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  I  think  there's  two  different  things  that  I  see. 

0:23:51.270 --> 0:23:53.520
<v Mary Cain>I  think  one  part  of  it  is  I  just  see 

0:23:53.520 --> 0:23:57.119
<v Mary Cain>how  skinny  I  was,  and  how  much  during  that  time 

0:23:57.119 --> 0:24:00.240
<v Mary Cain>I  was  being  told,  not  only  from  Alberto,  but  from 

0:24:00.240 --> 0:24:04.199
<v Mary Cain>my  coaches,  from  my  teammates,  from  the  media,  from  competitors, 

0:24:05.070 --> 0:24:10.619
<v Mary Cain>that  I  was  fat. I think ... You know,  I  laugh,  but  I  laugh  because 

0:24:10.619 --> 0:24:12.480
<v Mary Cain>it's  one  of  those  things  where it's like  you  either  laugh  or 

0:24:12.480 --> 0:24:16.980
<v Mary Cain>you  cry,  because  seeing  those  images,  I  was  so  clearly 

0:24:17.220 --> 0:24:21.270
<v Mary Cain>underweight.  And  the  fact  that  people  felt  that  they  could 

0:24:21.270 --> 0:24:24.330
<v Mary Cain>talk  about  me  in  a  way  with  such  vitriol  is 

0:24:24.330 --> 0:24:27.630
<v Mary Cain>just  really  disturbing  to  be  now  as  an  adult  person. 

0:24:28.410 --> 0:24:30.510
<v Mary Cain>But  then  I  think  the  other  piece  to  it  is 

0:24:32.369 --> 0:24:37.409
<v Mary Cain>there's  skinny,  and  then  there's  when  somebody  really  clearly  looks 

0:24:37.470 --> 0:24:40.320
<v Mary Cain>physically  unwell.  And  the  thing  I  always  like  to  say 

0:24:40.320 --> 0:24:43.679
<v Mary Cain>about  eating  disorders  is  there's  not  one  look.  It's  not 

0:24:43.950 --> 0:24:45.960
<v Mary Cain>you  have  to  be  a  certain  weight  or  you  have 

0:24:45.960 --> 0:24:48.090
<v Mary Cain>to  have  a  certain  physique  in  order  to  have  an 

0:24:48.090 --> 0:24:51.090
<v Mary Cain>eating  disorder.  People of  all  different  body  types  can  struggle  with 

0:24:51.090 --> 0:24:56.400
<v Mary Cain>body  dysmorphia  and  disordered  eating  habits.
 But  I  think  some 

0:24:56.400 --> 0:24:59.070
<v Mary Cain>of  the  ways  in  which  my  body  was  physically  changing, 

0:24:59.070 --> 0:25:03.180
<v Mary Cain>like  my  gums  were  receding,  my  hair  was  thinner,  even 

0:25:03.180 --> 0:25:07.619
<v Mary Cain>just  the  way  my  face  developed.  Often  people  who  are 

0:25:07.770 --> 0:25:12.209
<v Mary Cain>severely  under  eating  can  almost  bloat  in  their  face  where 

0:25:12.210 --> 0:25:14.730
<v Mary Cain>they're  holding  more  water  weight.  It's  just  all  sorts  of 

0:25:14.730 --> 0:25:19.680
<v Mary Cain>physiologic  changes  that  now  I  really  recognize  in  those  photos, 

0:25:19.680 --> 0:25:23.310
<v Mary Cain>in  a  way  that  I'm  30  years  old and  I  look 

0:25:23.670 --> 0:25:27.540
<v Mary Cain>more  like  my  16- year- old  self  than  my  19- year-

0:25:27.540 --> 0:25:30.510
<v Mary Cain>old  self  looked  to  16  in  some  ways,  and  it's 

0:25:30.510 --> 0:25:33.990
<v Mary Cain>just  because  my  body  was  really  fighting  itself  during  that 

0:25:33.990 --> 0:25:41.070
<v Mary Cain>time.  I  think  that's  really  upsetting.  Also,  then  on  the 

0:25:41.070 --> 0:25:43.290
<v Mary Cain>back  of  the  fact  that  I  so  clearly  looked  just 

0:25:43.290 --> 0:25:47.639
<v Mary Cain>underweight,  period,  to  realize  that  people  were  not  only  directing 

0:25:47.640 --> 0:25:51.960
<v Mary Cain>this  really  negative  toxic  language  at  me  of  being  overweight, 

0:25:51.960 --> 0:25:55.500
<v Mary Cain>but  it  was  like  I  looked  ill.  I  looked  like 

0:25:55.500 --> 0:25:59.760
<v Mary Cain>I  had  an  issue.  And  the  fact  that  articles  were 

0:25:59.760 --> 0:26:02.280
<v Mary Cain>written  about  me  where  competitors  talked  about  the  way  that 

0:26:02.280 --> 0:26:06.750
<v Mary Cain>I  looked,  I  just  find  that  much  more  disturbing.

0:26:07.109 --> 0:26:10.830
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah,  that  is  pretty  disturbing.  It's  amazing  when  you  think 

0:26:10.830 --> 0:26:14.130
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>about  that  kind  of  dialogue  happening.  I  feel  like  we've 

0:26:14.130 --> 0:26:15.959
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>moved  past  that.  I  hope  we've  moved  past  some  of 

0:26:15.960 --> 0:26:18.180
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>that,  but  this  wasn't  that  long  ago  when  you  really 

0:26:18.180 --> 0:26:21.419
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>think  about  it.  Can  you  think  about  a  workout  where 

0:26:21.420 --> 0:26:26.490
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>your  body  was  telling  you  something  specific?  What  was  happening 

0:26:26.940 --> 0:26:31.020
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>physically,  and what did you tell yourself it was at that time?

0:26:31.020 --> 0:26:35.040
<v Mary Cain>I  definitely  ran  through  injuries  in  ways  that  was  deeply 

0:26:35.040 --> 0:26:37.830
<v Mary Cain>problematic,  not  only  then,  but  even  now  for  my  body, 

0:26:38.280 --> 0:26:40.470
<v Mary Cain>but  I  think  even  just ...  One  of  the  things  I 

0:26:40.470 --> 0:26:43.470
<v Mary Cain>find  so  interesting  looking  back  is  that  there  were  a 

0:26:43.470 --> 0:26:46.530
<v Mary Cain>lot  of  workouts  that  I  ran  where  I  essentially  had 

0:26:46.680 --> 0:26:51.389
<v Mary Cain>emotional  breakdowns  at  the  end.  In  retrospect,  I  think  it 

0:26:51.390 --> 0:26:56.189
<v Mary Cain>was  because  I  was  a  mix  of  actually  physically  exhausted 

0:26:56.280 --> 0:26:59.429
<v Mary Cain>because the  workouts  were  that  level  of  hard,  but  also  I 

0:26:59.430 --> 0:27:03.300
<v Mary Cain>was  balancing  being  yelled  at  and  told  constantly  throughout  the 

0:27:03.300 --> 0:27:06.000
<v Mary Cain>workout,  like, " You're  failing.  You're  doing  horrible.  Other  people  are 

0:27:06.000 --> 0:27:08.129
<v Mary Cain>beating  you.  Why  do  you  look  the  way  that  you 

0:27:08.130 --> 0:27:11.609
<v Mary Cain>did?  You  gained  five  pounds  overnight."  Just  real  vitriol,  that 

0:27:11.609 --> 0:27:17.850
<v Mary Cain>I  was  emotionally  being  expected  to  maintain  when  both  underfed,  under-

0:27:17.850 --> 0:27:22.619
<v Mary Cain>fueled,  and  exhausted,  and  sprinting  all  out.  I  think  what 

0:27:22.619 --> 0:27:25.740
<v Mary Cain>was  really  interesting  was I  gaslighted  myself  at  the  time  to 

0:27:25.740 --> 0:27:28.380
<v Mary Cain>be  like, " Wow,  you're  so  weak.  You're  not  finishing  these 

0:27:28.380 --> 0:27:32.820
<v Mary Cain>workouts.  You  have  such  a  problem."  Just  all  this  just  self-

0:27:32.820 --> 0:27:35.730
<v Mary Cain>hating  language.
 And  when  I  look  back  at  my  training 

0:27:35.730 --> 0:27:38.340
<v Mary Cain>logs  I  was  like, " Today  people  have  super  shoes.  Today 

0:27:38.340 --> 0:27:41.369
<v Mary Cain>people  are  taking  all  sorts  of  weird  supplements  and  stuff, 

0:27:41.369 --> 0:27:44.880
<v Mary Cain>and  that's  why  times  are  so  much  faster."  And  to 

0:27:45.150 --> 0:27:49.679
<v Mary Cain>today's  standards,  my  workouts  were  insane.  So  the  ways  in 

0:27:49.680 --> 0:27:52.560
<v Mary Cain>which  I  was  being  told,  like, " You  are  failing,"  when 

0:27:52.830 --> 0:28:00.510
<v Mary Cain>so  clearly  that  workout  was  insanely  competitive,  I  just  find 

0:28:00.510 --> 0:28:02.609
<v Mary Cain>so  interesting  because  even  at  the  time  I  really  taught 

0:28:02.609 --> 0:28:09.720
<v Mary Cain>myself  that  even  pushing  yourself  to  your  limits  wasn't  enough, 

0:28:10.350 --> 0:28:13.500
<v Mary Cain>and  that  that  was  in  some  way  not  what  you 

0:28:13.500 --> 0:28:17.070
<v Mary Cain>should  be  able  to  do.  I  think  just  the  emotional 

0:28:17.369 --> 0:28:19.920
<v Mary Cain>gaslighting  that  was  done  to  me,  and  therefore  that  I 

0:28:20.010 --> 0:28:26.399
<v Mary Cain>perpetuated  onto  myself,  I  think is  just  really  deeply  disturbing,  and 

0:28:26.400 --> 0:28:28.740
<v Mary Cain>I  think  is  something  that,  unfortunately,  a  lot  of  folks 

0:28:28.740 --> 0:28:31.050
<v Mary Cain>can  really  empathize  with.

0:28:31.470 --> 0:28:36.480
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  There  must  have  been  people  around  you,  doctors,  teammates, 

0:28:36.480 --> 0:28:39.120
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>friends,  family  who  kind  of  saw  what  was  going  on 

0:28:39.540 --> 0:28:42.330
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>with  you.  What  did  they  say?  Or  was  there  a 

0:28:42.330 --> 0:28:46.800
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>silence  in  some  cases  that  contributed  to  some  of  this?

0:28:47.070 --> 0:28:53.400
<v Mary Cain>Yeah, really the only  people  who  were  horrified  by  it  were  my  family, 

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:58.500
<v Mary Cain>and  my  parents  in  particular.  When  I  was  out  in 

0:28:58.500 --> 0:29:03.960
<v Mary Cain>Oregon  specifically,  I  was  really  isolated  from  them  because  I 

0:29:03.960 --> 0:29:07.230
<v Mary Cain>would  get  in  trouble  if  I  called  them,  and I would  be 

0:29:07.230 --> 0:29:09.690
<v Mary Cain>told  like, " You're  a  professional.  You're  an  adult.  You  can't 

0:29:09.690 --> 0:29:11.850
<v Mary Cain>be  calling  your  mom  and  dad."  It  got  to  a 

0:29:11.850 --> 0:29:16.020
<v Mary Cain>point  where  I  really  stopped  talking  to  them  in  the 

0:29:16.020 --> 0:29:21.360
<v Mary Cain>way  that  I  used  to,  but  it  was  so  clear 

0:29:21.510 --> 0:29:23.820
<v Mary Cain>even  from  afar  from  people  who  loved  me  and  cared 

0:29:23.820 --> 0:29:27.540
<v Mary Cain>about  me  that  my  body's  changing.  I'm  not  the  same 

0:29:27.540 --> 0:29:31.590
<v Mary Cain>personality  I  used  to  be.  It  was  a  pretty  clear 

0:29:32.310 --> 0:29:38.070
<v Mary Cain>change.  I  think,  they  as  a  result,  even  from  afar, 

0:29:38.070 --> 0:29:42.030
<v Mary Cain>were  constantly  trying  to  kind  of  intervene  when  they  could, 

0:29:42.030 --> 0:29:44.820
<v Mary Cain>and  the  times  I  would  tell  them  things,  they  would 

0:29:44.820 --> 0:29:46.860
<v Mary Cain>immediately  get  on  the  phone.
 When  I  first  moved  out 

0:29:46.860 --> 0:29:49.380
<v Mary Cain>to  Oregon,  I  told  them  that  Alberto  kept  talking  about my 

0:29:49.440 --> 0:29:53.280
<v Mary Cain>weight  and it was  really  upsetting  me.  And  they  called  the  individual 

0:29:53.280 --> 0:29:55.260
<v Mary Cain>who  I  was  told  was  a  sports  psych  who  was 

0:29:55.260 --> 0:29:58.260
<v Mary Cain>not,  and  my  coach  to  say  like, " What  are  you 

0:29:58.260 --> 0:30:00.720
<v Mary Cain>guys  doing?  Why  are  you  talking  about  weight  with  her? 

0:30:01.440 --> 0:30:06.180
<v Mary Cain>You're  not  professionals,  please  stop."  The  response  was  just  to 

0:30:07.560 --> 0:30:09.240
<v Mary Cain>get  mad  at  me  and  tell  me  that  I  can't 

0:30:09.240 --> 0:30:11.640
<v Mary Cain>talk  to  my  parents  about  that  sort  of  stuff.  And 

0:30:11.640 --> 0:30:15.780
<v Mary Cain>then  my  teammates  just  witnessed  all  of  it,  and  honestly, 

0:30:15.780 --> 0:30:20.460
<v Mary Cain>either  egged  it  on  or  just  didn't  do  anything.  At 

0:30:20.460 --> 0:30:24.720
<v Mary Cain>best,  they  were  just  silent  bystanders,  and  at  worst,  they 

0:30:25.590 --> 0:30:31.290
<v Mary Cain>treated me really  cruelly.  When  it  came  to  doctors  and  other  folks 

0:30:31.290 --> 0:30:35.370
<v Mary Cain>in  the  ether,  very  few  competitors  were  kind  to  me. 

0:30:35.580 --> 0:30:37.739
<v Mary Cain>Sprinters  and  field  event  athletes  were  always  awesome.  They  were the 

0:30:38.400 --> 0:30:43.110
<v Mary Cain>people  who  got  me  through  meets.  But  when  it  came 

0:30:43.110 --> 0:30:48.450
<v Mary Cain>to  support  people,  most  of  them  were  just  Nike  folks, 

0:30:48.450 --> 0:30:51.870
<v Mary Cain>or  Alberto's  friends,  or  people  who  in  retrospect  didn't  actually 

0:30:51.870 --> 0:30:56.580
<v Mary Cain>have  the  degrees  to  handle  helping  me.
 At  least  in 

0:30:56.580 --> 0:30:59.850
<v Mary Cain>one  instance,  there  was  a  woman  who  was  the  assistant 

0:30:59.850 --> 0:31:03.480
<v Mary Cain>coach's  wife  who  worked  as  my  nutritionist, and  I  understood  she 

0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:07.320
<v Mary Cain>wasn't  a  nutritionist.  But  honestly,  even  to  this  day,  I 

0:31:07.320 --> 0:31:11.760
<v Mary Cain>don't  always  fully  understand  the  degrees  required  for  some  kind 

0:31:11.760 --> 0:31:15.960
<v Mary Cain>of  roles  like  that.  She  was  a  PhD  and  a 

0:31:15.960 --> 0:31:19.020
<v Mary Cain>scientist,  and  so  I  still  thought  she  would  be  somebody 

0:31:19.020 --> 0:31:26.700
<v Mary Cain>who  could  give  support,  but  she  just  fed  into  really 

0:31:26.880 --> 0:31:29.310
<v Mary Cain>the  system  telling  me  that  I  needed  to  lose  weight 

0:31:29.310 --> 0:31:30.300
<v Mary Cain>and that  something  was  wrong  with me.

0:31:31.020 --> 0:31:35.400
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Mary,  you  wrote  about  actually  cutting  your  legs  at  times 

0:31:35.400 --> 0:31:39.180
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>when  you  felt  they  were  failing  you.  What  do  you 

0:31:39.180 --> 0:31:42.720
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>remember  about  doing  that?  And  what  do  you  think  was 

0:31:42.720 --> 0:31:47.880
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>really,  to  the  extent  you  can  analyze  your  past  self, 

0:31:47.880 --> 0:31:49.650
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>what do you think  was  really  behind  that?

0:31:50.760 --> 0:31:53.280
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  I mean, I think  at  this  point  I've  done  a  lot  of 

0:31:53.280 --> 0:31:54.960
<v Mary Cain>therapy  in  a  way  that  it's  like  I  don't  think 

0:31:54.960 --> 0:32:01.710
<v Mary Cain>you  always  fully  can  understand  what's  going  through  your  mind 

0:32:01.710 --> 0:32:06.210
<v Mary Cain>in  the  moment  in  retrospect.  But  I  think,  at  least 

0:32:06.450 --> 0:32:11.280
<v Mary Cain>how  I  understand  it,  at  least  today,  is  that  I 

0:32:11.340 --> 0:32:14.640
<v Mary Cain>really  internalized  so  much  of  the  vitriol  that  was  being 

0:32:14.640 --> 0:32:20.430
<v Mary Cain>directed  at  me  from  all  of  these  different  experiences.  And 

0:32:20.430 --> 0:32:23.910
<v Mary Cain>I  think  I  just  developed  such  a  sense  of  self-

0:32:23.910 --> 0:32:31.740
<v Mary Cain>loathing  and  self- hatred  that  when  really  toxic,  misogynistic,  cruel 

0:32:31.740 --> 0:32:35.790
<v Mary Cain>language  was  being  directed  at  me,  I  didn't  think, " Wow, 

0:32:35.790 --> 0:32:38.100
<v Mary Cain>that's  so  messed  up  that  that  person's  saying  that  to 

0:32:38.100 --> 0:32:41.880
<v Mary Cain>me."  I  internalized  it  as  I  am  in  some  way 

0:32:41.880 --> 0:32:47.340
<v Mary Cain>wrong,  and  I  feel  that,  at  least  my  experience  of 

0:32:47.340 --> 0:32:50.820
<v Mary Cain>it  was  I  could  have  such  a  physical  reaction.  I've 

0:32:50.820 --> 0:32:53.550
<v Mary Cain>always  been  somebody  who,  like  if  I'm  really  upset  I 

0:32:53.550 --> 0:32:56.970
<v Mary Cain>get  an  adrenaline  rush.  I  think  I  can  be ...  I 

0:32:56.970 --> 0:33:00.810
<v Mary Cain>always  kind  of  joke  I  have  high  sympathetic  tone.
 And 

0:33:00.870 --> 0:33:04.320
<v Mary Cain>I  would  have  such  a  buildup  that  in  retrospect  was 

0:33:04.320 --> 0:33:08.700
<v Mary Cain>probably  anger,  that  instead  of  directing  it  at  the  people 

0:33:08.790 --> 0:33:12.900
<v Mary Cain>who  were  cruel  and  horrible,  and  writing  things  about  me, 

0:33:13.260 --> 0:33:16.920
<v Mary Cain>I  would  instead  direct  it  at  myself.  And  for  whatever 

0:33:16.920 --> 0:33:19.530
<v Mary Cain>reason,  for  me,  that  developed  in  a  way  that  was  self-

0:33:19.530 --> 0:33:24.990
<v Mary Cain>harming,  and  also  negative  self- talk,  and  other  forms  of  self-

0:33:24.990 --> 0:33:31.170
<v Mary Cain>directed  negativity.  But  I  felt  that  self- harming  became  this 

0:33:32.070 --> 0:33:34.800
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  release  in  a  way.  And  part  of  the 

0:33:34.800 --> 0:33:36.990
<v Mary Cain>reason  I've  talked  very  publicly  about  this is  I  think  a 

0:33:36.990 --> 0:33:40.350
<v Mary Cain>lot  of  folks  who  have  experienced  some  form  of  self-

0:33:40.350 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Mary Cain>harming  are  taught  societally  to  feel  a  lot  of  shame, 

0:33:44.700 --> 0:33:47.520
<v Mary Cain>and  to  feel  like  they're  somehow  wrong  and  this  is 

0:33:47.520 --> 0:33:51.690
<v Mary Cain>something  you  can't  talk  about.  I  feel  like  that  stigma 

0:33:52.290 --> 0:33:55.680
<v Mary Cain>often  prevents  people  from  really  getting  help,  and  understanding  that 

0:33:55.680 --> 0:34:01.890
<v Mary Cain>very  often  this  self- internalization  is  in  some  ways  societally 

0:34:01.890 --> 0:34:04.350
<v Mary Cain>and  externally  derived,  and  being  able  to  learn  how  to, 

0:34:05.100 --> 0:34:10.080
<v Mary Cain>in  healthy  ways,  channel  that  anger,  that  sadness,  whatever  that 

0:34:10.080 --> 0:34:12.779
<v Mary Cain>feeling  is  that  you're  turning  into  yourself  is  really  important.

0:34:13.920 --> 0:34:16.799
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  One  of  the  stories  you  tell,  which  I  think 

0:34:17.160 --> 0:34:20.160
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>goes  a  long  way  toward  explaining  the  environment  that  you 

0:34:20.160 --> 0:34:23.460
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>were  living  in  was  one  day  your  teammates  saw  you 

0:34:23.460 --> 0:34:27.300
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>lock  yourself  in  a  bathroom  crying  and  they  kept  running. 

0:34:27.870 --> 0:34:30.600
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>They  just  kept  on  with  the  workout,  which  is  hard 

0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:35.850
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  believe.  Walk  me  through  that.  I  don't  know,  what 

0:34:35.850 --> 0:34:38.580
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>does  that  tell  the  reader  of  your  book  or  someone 

0:34:38.580 --> 0:34:42.000
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>who's  trying  to  understand  your  journey  about  what  that  environment 

0:34:42.000 --> 0:34:42.240
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>was  like?

0:34:42.840 --> 0:34:46.170
<v Mary Cain>Yeah. I mean, I think it's  so  funny  because  people  will  be  like, " Wow,  that's 

0:34:46.170 --> 0:34:52.770
<v Mary Cain>so  shocking,"  and I was like, "Not  if  you  meet  these  people."  I  think 

0:34:52.830 --> 0:34:58.770
<v Mary Cain>sports  is  set  up  often  to  portray  publicly  a  team 

0:34:58.770 --> 0:35:02.010
<v Mary Cain>experience  when  it's  not  one.  And  I  think  as  a 

0:35:02.010 --> 0:35:06.450
<v Mary Cain>young  person,  I  really  thought  these  people  will  be  my 

0:35:06.450 --> 0:35:08.820
<v Mary Cain>teammates,  and  that  was  something  I  had  not  experienced  in 

0:35:08.820 --> 0:35:11.940
<v Mary Cain>a  long  time  because I had  a  very  negative  high  school  experience 

0:35:11.940 --> 0:35:15.989
<v Mary Cain>at  Bronxville.  So  I  think  I  was  really  craving  friendship, 

0:35:15.989 --> 0:35:19.920
<v Mary Cain>camaraderie,  and  all  of  these  things.  There's  some  ways  that 

0:35:19.920 --> 0:35:21.270
<v Mary Cain>I  look  back  and  I'm  like, " Wow,  most  of  these 

0:35:21.270 --> 0:35:24.540
<v Mary Cain>people  were  30."  So  maybe  me  at  17  thinking  they 

0:35:24.540 --> 0:35:28.560
<v Mary Cain>were  going  to  be  my  best  friends  was  a  childish 

0:35:28.560 --> 0:35:31.859
<v Mary Cain>perspective  because  I  was  a  child.  But  then  in  other 

0:35:31.860 --> 0:35:35.910
<v Mary Cain>ways,  as  younger  than  some  of  them  were at  this  time 

0:35:35.910 --> 0:35:39.840
<v Mary Cain>still,  I'm  like, " Gosh,  I  can't  even  imagine  treating  a 

0:35:39.840 --> 0:35:43.800
<v Mary Cain>child  in  the  way  that  they  treated  me."  I  think 

0:35:44.010 --> 0:35:48.029
<v Mary Cain>the  reason  though  often  people  did  was  because  it  was 

0:35:48.030 --> 0:35:51.930
<v Mary Cain>a  very  individual  sport.
 At  the  end  of  the  day, 

0:35:51.930 --> 0:35:54.660
<v Mary Cain>if  I  wasn't  serving  them  in  some  capacity,  whether  it 

0:35:54.660 --> 0:35:58.920
<v Mary Cain>was  for  social  media  likes,  or  for  money,  or  for 

0:35:59.790 --> 0:36:04.020
<v Mary Cain>pushing  them  in  a  workout,  then  I  was  just  draining  resources.

0:36:04.650 --> 0:36:08.760
<v Mary Cain>I  experienced  that  in a  more  acute  way  even  when  I 

0:36:08.760 --> 0:36:11.160
<v Mary Cain>was ...  I  wrote  about  this in  my  book,  but  we  were 

0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:13.109
<v Mary Cain>at  a  Navy  SEALs  training  camp,  and  it  was  supposed 

0:36:13.110 --> 0:36:18.779
<v Mary Cain>to be  a  team  bonding  experience.  And  Galen  Rupp,  who  was 

0:36:18.780 --> 0:36:22.440
<v Mary Cain>a  teammate  of  mine  at  the  time  just  shamed  me 

0:36:22.440 --> 0:36:24.300
<v Mary Cain>in  front  of  everyone,  talking  about  how  I  needed  to 

0:36:24.300 --> 0:36:28.080
<v Mary Cain>grow  up  and  stop  acting  so  emotional  at  workouts.  At 

0:36:28.080 --> 0:36:30.480
<v Mary Cain>this  point  I  was  18,  and  at  this  point  had 

0:36:30.480 --> 0:36:32.520
<v Mary Cain>been  told  over  many  years  that  he  used  to  cry 

0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:37.080
<v Mary Cain>out  during  every  single  workout  in  Oregon.  For  some  reason 

0:36:37.080 --> 0:36:38.940
<v Mary Cain>there  was  a  double  standard  that  what  I  was  doing 

0:36:38.940 --> 0:36:42.600
<v Mary Cain>was  somehow  problematic,  even  though  at  least  I  never  threw  things.

0:36:45.630 --> 0:36:50.250
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  Yeah,  it's  a  team  sport  until  it's  not,  right? 

0:36:50.730 --> 0:36:54.570
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>That's  what  happens  sometimes  with  sports,  there  is  that  competition 

0:36:54.570 --> 0:36:56.820
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>between  teammates.  And  in  a  sport  like  running,  which  is 

0:36:57.210 --> 0:37:01.170
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>fundamentally  an  individual  sport,  you  are  actually  running  races  against 

0:37:01.170 --> 0:37:03.690
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>your  teammates  at  times.  I  could  see  how  that  could 

0:37:03.690 --> 0:37:08.040
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>get  even  trickier.  Mary,  this  is  a  sensitive  topic,  but 

0:37:08.219 --> 0:37:14.160
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  talked  about  having  suicidal  ideation  during  some  points  while 

0:37:14.160 --> 0:37:19.049
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  were  with  the  Nike  Oregon  Project,  and  you  wrote 

0:37:20.190 --> 0:37:23.310
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>passages  of  how  you  thought  to  yourself, " I'm  not going  to 

0:37:23.310 --> 0:37:29.130
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>kill  myself,  not  today."  What  got  you  through  that  period 

0:37:29.130 --> 0:37:29.550
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>of  time?

0:37:30.120 --> 0:37:34.680
<v Mary Cain>I  think  there  were  really  two  things.  I  think  part 

0:37:34.680 --> 0:37:39.120
<v Mary Cain>of  it  is  I  am  religious,  I  am  Catholic,  and 

0:37:39.120 --> 0:37:46.170
<v Mary Cain>I  think  that  helped  give  me  pause  during  some  really 

0:37:46.170 --> 0:37:50.670
<v Mary Cain>acute  moments.  There  were  at  least  two  instances  I  was 

0:37:50.670 --> 0:37:54.210
<v Mary Cain>very  close  to  killing  myself,  and  the  second  thing  was 

0:37:54.210 --> 0:37:59.850
<v Mary Cain>my  family.  I  think,  for  me,  the  idea  I  have 

0:37:59.940 --> 0:38:03.420
<v Mary Cain>two  younger  sisters  and  an  older  sister,  and  two  incredible 

0:38:03.420 --> 0:38:08.790
<v Mary Cain>parents,  and  I  think  the  idea  of  causing  them  harm 

0:38:08.790 --> 0:38:14.910
<v Mary Cain>by  causing  myself  harm  was  something  that  ultimately  made  me 

0:38:14.910 --> 0:38:21.540
<v Mary Cain>stop  during  one  of  the  attempts.  The  really  sad  thing 

0:38:21.540 --> 0:38:27.060
<v Mary Cain>is  those  were  the  only  things.  I  didn't  stop  for 

0:38:27.060 --> 0:38:30.420
<v Mary Cain>any  other  reason  other  than  them.  It's  now  sad  for 

0:38:30.420 --> 0:38:32.940
<v Mary Cain>me  to  look  back  at  pictures  of  myself  and  see 

0:38:32.940 --> 0:38:35.040
<v Mary Cain>what  I  now  know  to  be  clear  signs  of  under-

0:38:35.040 --> 0:38:39.570
<v Mary Cain>eating.  Old  photos  of  me  with  puffy  chipmunk  cheeks  especially 

0:38:39.570 --> 0:38:41.910
<v Mary Cain>show  me  just  how  hard  and  how  long  my  body 

0:38:41.910 --> 0:38:42.930
<v Mary Cain>was  fighting  itself.

0:38:43.560 --> 0:38:49.049
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>So  you  eventually  left  the  Oregon  Project,  but  you  still 

0:38:49.110 --> 0:38:53.790
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>were  having  some  effects,  right?  Your  body  wasn't  behaving.  You 

0:38:53.969 --> 0:38:57.390
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>realized  at  one  point  you  couldn't  feel  your  leg.  What 

0:38:57.390 --> 0:38:58.530
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>was  going  on  at  that  point?

0:38:58.920 --> 0:39:00.750
<v Mary Cain>Yeah,  I  think  it  was  a  few  things.  I  think, 

0:39:01.140 --> 0:39:05.040
<v Mary Cain>first  off,  having  been  a  part  of  that  program  for 

0:39:05.040 --> 0:39:07.650
<v Mary Cain>so  long,  when  I  left  I  didn't  leave  thinking  it 

0:39:07.650 --> 0:39:11.759
<v Mary Cain>was  problematic.  So  a  lot  of the  self- loathing,  the  language, 

0:39:11.760 --> 0:39:15.630
<v Mary Cain>the  training  mentality  didn't  just  go  away  because I  suddenly  thought 

0:39:15.630 --> 0:39:18.540
<v Mary Cain>it  was  bad,  it  kind  of  continued  because  I  just 

0:39:18.540 --> 0:39:22.770
<v Mary Cain>thought  I  was  a  failure,  not  this  program  was  abusive 

0:39:22.770 --> 0:39:25.950
<v Mary Cain>and  horrible,  and  really  inappropriate  and  should  not  be  continued. 

0:39:26.400 --> 0:39:28.320
<v Mary Cain>So  at  least  for  a  few  years  that  was  part 

0:39:28.320 --> 0:39:29.969
<v Mary Cain>of  the  problem.  And  then  the  other  thing  is,  when 

0:39:29.969 --> 0:39:36.150
<v Mary Cain>you  damage  your  body  it  doesn't  overnight  heal,  and  so 

0:39:36.150 --> 0:39:39.060
<v Mary Cain>I  got  into  a  cycle  of  bone  stress  injuries  and 

0:39:39.060 --> 0:39:43.290
<v Mary Cain>issues.  And  then,  ultimately  with  my  leg  I  developed  something 

0:39:43.290 --> 0:39:48.120
<v Mary Cain>called  functional  popliteal  artery  entrapment  syndrome.  It's  a  condition  where 

0:39:48.120 --> 0:39:51.150
<v Mary Cain>the  artery  in  the  back  of  your  knee  essentially  gets 

0:39:52.200 --> 0:39:55.080
<v Mary Cain>functionally  compressed,  meaning  at  rest  it's  fine,  but  if  you're 

0:39:55.080 --> 0:39:59.790
<v Mary Cain>doing  anything  like  movement- oriented,  it  gets  compressed  so  you 

0:39:59.790 --> 0:40:05.370
<v Mary Cain>have  less  blood  flow  in  that  whole  area.  We  think 

0:40:05.640 --> 0:40:11.670
<v Mary Cain>nerve  impingement  as  well,  creating  neurological  symptoms.
 Part  of  the 

0:40:11.670 --> 0:40:15.600
<v Mary Cain>problem  was  that  it  took  a  really  long  time  to 

0:40:15.600 --> 0:40:21.930
<v Mary Cain>get  diagnosed  because I  was  often  walking  into  doctor's  offices  and 

0:40:22.350 --> 0:40:26.370
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  being  written  off  because  I  had  mental  health 

0:40:26.700 --> 0:40:32.520
<v Mary Cain>conditions  written  on  my  chart.  It  was  always  kind  of 

0:40:32.610 --> 0:40:36.390
<v Mary Cain>habitual  where  somebody,  and this was not  just  doctors,  this  was  folks  of 

0:40:36.600 --> 0:40:44.880
<v Mary Cain>all  different  health  professionals,  whether  massage,  PT,  et  cetera,  would 

0:40:44.880 --> 0:40:46.710
<v Mary Cain>see  that,  they  would  often  all  of  a  sudden  become 

0:40:46.710 --> 0:40:50.040
<v Mary Cain>language  of  like, " Hey,  trauma  lives  in  the  body." Stuff 

0:40:50.040 --> 0:40:57.180
<v Mary Cain>that  I  both  believe  and  understand,  but  also  recognize  that 

0:40:57.180 --> 0:41:00.030
<v Mary Cain>they  were  seeing  a  young  woman  come  in  who  at 

0:41:00.030 --> 0:41:03.300
<v Mary Cain>times  was  emotional,  and  writing  it  off  as  something  in 

0:41:03.300 --> 0:41:07.830
<v Mary Cain>my  head  versus  an  actual  physical  problem.

0:41:08.219 --> 0:41:12.060
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>In  2016,  you  were  told  that  you  might  have  something 

0:41:12.060 --> 0:41:15.540
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>called  the  Female  Athlete  Triad.  What  is  that?

0:41:15.540 --> 0:41:22.080
<v Mary Cain>So  the  Female  Athlete  Triad  is  a  concept  that  was 

0:41:22.920 --> 0:41:28.890
<v Mary Cain>created  to  kind  of  explain  low  energy  availability  in  female 

0:41:28.890 --> 0:41:32.460
<v Mary Cain>athletes  traditionally.  Now  there's  also  an  understanding  that  this  affects 

0:41:32.460 --> 0:41:35.610
<v Mary Cain>men,  but  it's  the  idea  that  you  can  have  low 

0:41:35.700 --> 0:41:38.430
<v Mary Cain>bone  density,  you  lose  your  period,  and  you  have  an 

0:41:38.430 --> 0:41:41.580
<v Mary Cain>eating  disorder  are  kind  of  the  three  points  of  the  triangle.

0:41:41.820 --> 0:41:45.060
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Got  it.  And  how  did  you  react  when  you  were told that?

0:41:49.200 --> 0:41:52.680
<v Mary Cain>That  didn't  make  any  sense  to  me  essentially,  and  I 

0:41:52.680 --> 0:41:56.610
<v Mary Cain>think ...  Since  when  I  do  advocacy  work,  working  with  folks 

0:41:56.610 --> 0:42:00.540
<v Mary Cain>who  are  nutritionists  or  doctors,  what  I  often  explain  is 

0:42:00.540 --> 0:42:03.420
<v Mary Cain>that  when  you  have  a  young  person  in  particular  come 

0:42:03.420 --> 0:42:08.160
<v Mary Cain>into  your  office  with  an  eating  disorder,  they  don't  always 

0:42:08.160 --> 0:42:13.468
<v Mary Cain>understand  that  that's  what  they  have.  So  I  was  coming 

0:42:13.469 --> 0:42:16.469
<v Mary Cain>from  this  experience  where  there  was  literally  a  Runner's  World 

0:42:16.469 --> 0:42:21.509
<v Mary Cain>article  out  in the  world  where  coaches  and  competitors  were  talking 

0:42:21.510 --> 0:42:24.719
<v Mary Cain>about  the  fact  that  I  was  heavy.  So  to  me, 

0:42:25.140 --> 0:42:29.550
<v Mary Cain>it's  not  just  Alberto  Salazar  saying  I'm  heavy,  it's  not 

0:42:29.550 --> 0:42:35.218
<v Mary Cain>just  my  teammates,  it's  not  just  the  Nike  folks,  this 

0:42:35.219 --> 0:42:39.030
<v Mary Cain>is  on  the  internet  in  ways  that  is  honestly  even 

0:42:39.030 --> 0:42:42.840
<v Mary Cain>more  than  just  your  toxic  running  forums  who  always  perpetuate 

0:42:42.840 --> 0:42:49.170
<v Mary Cain>misogyny.  This  was  from  individuals  who,  by  all  accounts,  made 

0:42:49.530 --> 0:42:52.080
<v Mary Cain>these  claims  against  me  and  was  more  valid  because  it 

0:42:52.080 --> 0:42:55.410
<v Mary Cain>was  like, " Wow,  this is  a  universal  understanding  that  I  am  heavy."

0:42:55.560 --> 0:42:55.860
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.

0:42:56.160 --> 0:42:56.611
<v Mary Cain>And  so  when  you-

0:42:56.611 --> 0:43:00.510
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>It was  like  objective  truth  basically  out  there  in  the  world 

0:43:00.510 --> 0:43:00.960
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  felt.

0:43:00.960 --> 0:43:03.210
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  So  I'm  like " These  neutral  third  parties  who  are 

0:43:03.210 --> 0:43:05.730
<v Mary Cain>also  experts  in  sport  look  at  me  and  think  I'm 

0:43:05.730 --> 0:43:10.468
<v Mary Cain>fat."  So  when  you  go  into a  doctor's  office  and  this 

0:43:10.469 --> 0:43:13.020
<v Mary Cain>is  the  language  that  you're  surrounded  by  on  a  day- to-

0:43:13.020 --> 0:43:15.810
<v Mary Cain>day,  and  somebody's  like, " Oh,  you  have  a  bone  stress 

0:43:15.810 --> 0:43:21.900
<v Mary Cain>injury?  Oh,  yeah,  you  have  the  Female  Athlete  Triad."  Now, 

0:43:21.930 --> 0:43:23.790
<v Mary Cain>in  me  saying  this  that's  not  to  say  that  I 

0:43:23.790 --> 0:43:28.049
<v Mary Cain>didn't.  In  retrospect,  I  understand  that  I  did.  But  as 

0:43:28.110 --> 0:43:30.330
<v Mary Cain>a  patient,  as  somebody  who  was  going  to  go  through 

0:43:30.330 --> 0:43:35.520
<v Mary Cain>treatment,  there  was  this  big  language  disconnect,  and  this  large 

0:43:35.520 --> 0:43:40.920
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  misunderstanding  from  provider  to  patient  because  I  was  thinking, "

0:43:41.010 --> 0:43:44.700
<v Mary Cain>No,  there's  one  whole  piece  to  this  triangle.  Is  it 

0:43:44.700 --> 0:43:48.420
<v Mary Cain>me?"  But  the  RED- S  diagnosis  was  something  I  was 

0:43:48.450 --> 0:43:52.080
<v Mary Cain>more  open  to  hearing.  Thinking  about  running,  and  food,  and 

0:43:52.080 --> 0:43:55.110
<v Mary Cain>my  body  in  terms  of  energy  made  it  all  feel 

0:43:55.110 --> 0:43:56.730
<v Mary Cain>less  personal.

0:43:58.170 --> 0:44:02.250
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>At  some  point,  the  way  that  your  condition  was  described 

0:44:02.250 --> 0:44:07.830
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>changed.  You  were  diagnosed  with  something  called  RED- S.  Can 

0:44:07.830 --> 0:44:12.029
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  explain  to  folks  what  that  is,  and  why  you 

0:44:12.030 --> 0:44:14.100
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>were  more  open  to  hearing  that?

0:44:14.430 --> 0:44:18.630
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  So  RED- S is  Relative  Energy  Deficiency  in  Sport,  and 

0:44:18.690 --> 0:44:25.859
<v Mary Cain>essentially  these  are  very  similar  concepts.  There's  a  real  synergy 

0:44:25.860 --> 0:44:28.469
<v Mary Cain>between  these  two,  and  people  who  do  research  in  both 

0:44:28.650 --> 0:44:32.370
<v Mary Cain>often  are  very  deeply  connected.  But  the  difference  for  me 

0:44:32.370 --> 0:44:34.799
<v Mary Cain>as  a  patient  was  that  with  RED- S,  it  wasn't 

0:44:35.010 --> 0:44:38.550
<v Mary Cain>this  kind  of  harsh,  like, " You  are  a  girl.  You 

0:44:38.550 --> 0:44:42.300
<v Mary Cain>don't  have  your  period.  You're  underweight.  We're  trapping  you  in 

0:44:42.300 --> 0:44:46.110
<v Mary Cain>this  triangle."  Instead,  it  was  almost  a  spectrum  where  it 

0:44:46.110 --> 0:44:51.570
<v Mary Cain>was  like  your  life  is  more  complicated  than  how  much 

0:44:51.570 --> 0:44:54.239
<v Mary Cain>you  eat  and  how  much  you  run.  There  are  stressors 

0:44:54.239 --> 0:44:55.980
<v Mary Cain>in  your  life  that  have  nothing  to  do  with  this. 

0:44:55.980 --> 0:44:59.700
<v Mary Cain>You're  also  a  college  student.  You  also  have  relationships.  You 

0:44:59.700 --> 0:45:04.710
<v Mary Cain>have  all  of  these  other  facets  to  yourself,  and  you 

0:45:04.770 --> 0:45:07.830
<v Mary Cain>are  having  this  relative  energy  deficiency,  and  it  can  be 

0:45:08.160 --> 0:45:09.930
<v Mary Cain>on  the  day- to- day,  it  can  be  chronic,  it 

0:45:09.930 --> 0:45:13.739
<v Mary Cain>can  be  all  sorts  of  things,  but  maybe  the  amount 

0:45:13.890 --> 0:45:16.890
<v Mary Cain>that  you  are  fueling  to  do  all  of  these  things 

0:45:18.180 --> 0:45:23.580
<v Mary Cain>isn't  what  your  body  needs.
 I  think  this  immediately  reframed 

0:45:23.580 --> 0:45:25.590
<v Mary Cain>it  to  me  in  a  way  that  at  the  time 

0:45:25.590 --> 0:45:27.989
<v Mary Cain>I  still  had  body  dysmorphia,  at  the  time  I  still 

0:45:27.989 --> 0:45:31.950
<v Mary Cain>felt  I  was  overweight,  but  it  suddenly  felt  less  like, "

0:45:32.969 --> 0:45:35.790
<v Mary Cain>You  are  just  this  girl  with  an  eating  disorder."  It 

0:45:35.790 --> 0:45:38.549
<v Mary Cain>was  more  like, " Let's  figure  out  how  to  fuel  your 

0:45:38.550 --> 0:45:43.650
<v Mary Cain>specific  body  for  your  specific  needs."  There's  probably  some  people who are 

0:45:43.739 --> 0:45:46.529
<v Mary Cain>going  to  be  listening  like, " Isn't  the  semantics?"  And  I'm 

0:45:46.530 --> 0:45:49.200
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  like, " Yes  and  no."  I  think  it  made 

0:45:49.200 --> 0:45:52.049
<v Mary Cain>it  so  there  was  suddenly  this  broader  understanding  too,  that 

0:45:52.770 --> 0:45:55.980
<v Mary Cain>my  health  might  be  affected  in  more  ways  than  just 

0:45:56.489 --> 0:46:00.060
<v Mary Cain>I  lose  my  period  or  I  break  bones.  There's  maybe 

0:46:00.060 --> 0:46:02.879
<v Mary Cain>more  concerns,  and  now  over  the  last  few  years  there's 

0:46:02.880 --> 0:46:04.890
<v Mary Cain>been  way  more  research  into  RED- S,  and  there's  an 

0:46:04.890 --> 0:46:08.310
<v Mary Cain>understanding  for  stuff  that  men  experience  this  too.  So  it 

0:46:08.310 --> 0:46:11.670
<v Mary Cain>was  less  of  a  gendered  specific  thing.
 But  also  that 

0:46:12.630 --> 0:46:16.500
<v Mary Cain>in,  at  least  mice  models,  organs  shrink  when  this  happens. 

0:46:16.500 --> 0:46:20.250
<v Mary Cain>It  doesn't  just  affect  reproductive  organs  in  mouse  models,  there's 

0:46:20.370 --> 0:46:22.259
<v Mary Cain>more  to  it.  So  like, " How  is  this  affecting  your 

0:46:22.260 --> 0:46:25.080
<v Mary Cain>brain?  How  is  this  affecting  your  heart?"  Or  questions  that 

0:46:25.080 --> 0:46:28.170
<v Mary Cain>now  in  science  we're  kind  of  asking,  and  that  suddenly 

0:46:28.170 --> 0:46:32.489
<v Mary Cain>felt  more  like, " Whoa,  I'm  more  than  an  athlete.  How 

0:46:32.489 --> 0:46:34.620
<v Mary Cain>do  I  overall  encompass  my  health?"

0:46:35.340 --> 0:46:38.940
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah,  it's  very  interesting.  I  can  see  how  RED- S, it was 

0:46:39.090 --> 0:46:41.820
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>just  a  little  bit  less  gendered,  a  little  bit  less 

0:46:41.880 --> 0:46:44.760
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>judgmental  maybe  in  some  ways, and  so  something  you  were  able 

0:46:44.760 --> 0:46:50.399
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  hear  differently.  If  you  could  go  back  to  a 

0:46:50.400 --> 0:46:54.150
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>doctor's  appointment  from  before  you  knew  about  RED- S  and 

0:46:54.239 --> 0:46:57.150
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  understood  that  framework,  or  you  understood  that  at  an 

0:46:57.300 --> 0:46:59.640
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>earlier  age,  what  do  you  think  might  have  changed  for 

0:46:59.640 --> 0:47:00.840
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  over  those  years?

0:47:01.469 --> 0:47:05.250
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  I  mean,  I  think  had  I  at  times  been 

0:47:06.239 --> 0:47:10.350
<v Mary Cain>seen  as  more  than  my  chart.  By  that  I  mean 

0:47:10.560 --> 0:47:13.410
<v Mary Cain>when  you  go  into  a  doctor's  office,  and  again,  other 

0:47:13.410 --> 0:47:16.980
<v Mary Cain>providers,  not  just  doctors,  and  they're  kind  of  looking  at 

0:47:16.980 --> 0:47:20.340
<v Mary Cain>your  quick  history  and  they're  like, "Oh, she has  these  bone  injuries,  and 

0:47:20.580 --> 0:47:23.339
<v Mary Cain>she's  got  mental  health.  She's  one  of  those."  That  was, I think, 

0:47:24.300 --> 0:47:28.290
<v Mary Cain>almost  how  I  felt  I  was  treated,  and  the  problem  with-

0:47:28.290 --> 0:47:32.580
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Put into  a  bucket  of  problematic  or  whatever,  right?  Not  to 

0:47:32.580 --> 0:47:33.871
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>be  dealt  with  in  the  same  way-

0:47:33.870 --> 0:47:33.872
<v Mary Cain>Exactly.

0:47:33.871 --> 0:47:34.111
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>As somebody else might be.

0:47:35.190 --> 0:47:39.570
<v Mary Cain>Like  she's  probably  hysterical  kind  of  energy.  I  think  the 

0:47:39.570 --> 0:47:43.710
<v Mary Cain>problem  with  that  is it's  just  really  not  trauma- informed.  I 

0:47:43.710 --> 0:47:48.450
<v Mary Cain>think  it  also  really  doesn't  approach  patients  who  come  to 

0:47:48.450 --> 0:47:51.330
<v Mary Cain>the  same  end  but  get  there  through  different  means.  Maybe 

0:47:51.330 --> 0:47:53.850
<v Mary Cain>somebody  else  is  struggling  with  disordered  eating  because  of  their 

0:47:53.850 --> 0:47:56.940
<v Mary Cain>exposure  to  social  media.  Maybe  someone  else  is  because  of 

0:47:56.940 --> 0:47:59.910
<v Mary Cain>their  experience  in  their  household.  Maybe  someone  else  is  from 

0:47:59.910 --> 0:48:04.500
<v Mary Cain>this  teen  experience.  So  this  kind  of  blanket  like  eat 

0:48:04.590 --> 0:48:08.610
<v Mary Cain>more,  run  less  language  that  I  think  can  sometimes  be 

0:48:08.610 --> 0:48:13.140
<v Mary Cain>passed  around.  It's  not  to say  that  that's  bad,  but  it's 

0:48:13.140 --> 0:48:15.930
<v Mary Cain>like  if  you're  not  addressing  the  actual  issue  as  a 

0:48:15.930 --> 0:48:18.960
<v Mary Cain>healthcare  provider,  then  the  idea  of  just  eating  more,  running 

0:48:18.989 --> 0:48:21.989
<v Mary Cain>less  isn't  going  to  fix  anything.  Because  again,  if  it's 

0:48:21.989 --> 0:48:25.320
<v Mary Cain>like  social  media  consumption,  well,  that's  not  going  to  stop. 

0:48:25.440 --> 0:48:27.450
<v Mary Cain>So  this  person  is  still  going  to  have  those  thoughts, 

0:48:27.450 --> 0:48:30.270
<v Mary Cain>they're  still  going  to  have  that  as  a  result  outcome 

0:48:30.719 --> 0:48:34.410
<v Mary Cain>even  if  you're  kind  of  Band- Aiding  it.
 So  I 

0:48:34.410 --> 0:48:40.410
<v Mary Cain>think  that's  something  that  I  feel  very  strongly  could  have 

0:48:40.410 --> 0:48:44.610
<v Mary Cain>shifted  my  own  experience,  is  if  there  were  maybe  moments 

0:48:44.610 --> 0:48:47.160
<v Mary Cain>where  there  was  just  a  few  more  questions  asked  that were 

0:48:47.250 --> 0:48:51.270
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  your  standard.  In  medical  school  you  learn  it 

0:48:51.270 --> 0:48:55.230
<v Mary Cain>as  SIGECAPS,  which  is  a  depression  criteria.  So  anytime  I 

0:48:55.320 --> 0:48:58.739
<v Mary Cain>went  into  a  sports  doctor  the  fact  that  nobody  ever 

0:48:58.739 --> 0:49:00.750
<v Mary Cain>thought  to  be  like, " Hey,  let's  do  a  broader  mental 

0:49:00.750 --> 0:49:04.230
<v Mary Cain>health  check.  Let's  do  a  broader,"  like, " Is  this  person 

0:49:04.230 --> 0:49:08.489
<v Mary Cain>safe?  Have  they  been  abused?  Check."  Those  standards  of  care, 

0:49:08.489 --> 0:49:10.410
<v Mary Cain>at  least  within  sports  medicine.  When  I  was  kind  of 

0:49:10.530 --> 0:49:13.380
<v Mary Cain>navigating  this it  just  seemed  to  be  really  lacking.

0:49:13.710 --> 0:49:16.680
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>So  it's  fitting  I  think  that  you  are  now  going 

0:49:16.680 --> 0:49:21.330
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  medical  school.  You  went  through  this  period,  the  medical 

0:49:21.330 --> 0:49:26.279
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>system  failed  you  for  a  while,  for  sure,  before  it 

0:49:26.280 --> 0:49:32.190
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>finally  helped  you.  What  from  this  experience,  Mary,  are  you 

0:49:32.190 --> 0:49:36.390
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>taking  to  this  path  you're  on  now  studying  to  be 

0:49:36.390 --> 0:49:36.989
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>a  doctor?

0:49:38.910 --> 0:49:42.540
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  I  think  one of  the  big  things  is  bedside  manner. 

0:49:45.719 --> 0:49:50.040
<v Mary Cain>I  have  always  extended  a  lot  of  grace  to  physicians 

0:49:50.040 --> 0:49:54.690
<v Mary Cain>because  my  dad's  an  anesthesiologist.  So  I  understand  how  exhausting 

0:49:54.810 --> 0:49:58.560
<v Mary Cain>this  career  is,  how  much  kind  of  blame  and  shame 

0:49:59.040 --> 0:50:02.520
<v Mary Cain>is  put  on  doctors  when  the  actual  problem  is  our 

0:50:02.520 --> 0:50:07.110
<v Mary Cain>healthcare  industry,  and  how  the  government  treats  them,  how  health 

0:50:07.110 --> 0:50:10.710
<v Mary Cain>insurance  treats  people.  All  of  those  facets  to  it  I 

0:50:10.710 --> 0:50:15.089
<v Mary Cain>think  have  always  made  it  so  that  I  understood,  and 

0:50:15.090 --> 0:50:21.210
<v Mary Cain>gave  grace  to  any  provider  who  didn't  necessarily  give  me 

0:50:21.210 --> 0:50:24.660
<v Mary Cain>that  time.
 But  I  think  the  really  awesome  thing  about 

0:50:24.660 --> 0:50:26.790
<v Mary Cain>being  in  medical  school  right  now  is  I  do  see 

0:50:26.790 --> 0:50:31.890
<v Mary Cain>this  younger  generation  clearly  wants  to  change  some  of  that, 

0:50:31.950 --> 0:50:35.580
<v Mary Cain>and  clearly  wants  to  be  those  doctors  who  takes  that 

0:50:35.580 --> 0:50:38.040
<v Mary Cain>extra  two  minutes  in  the  room.  Or  maybe  takes  a 

0:50:38.040 --> 0:50:40.650
<v Mary Cain>step  back  and  they're  like, " Ooh,  you  have  a  stress 

0:50:40.650 --> 0:50:43.350
<v Mary Cain>fracture,  but  let  me  actually  ask  you  a  little  bit 

0:50:43.350 --> 0:50:46.260
<v Mary Cain>more  about  everything  else,  and  not  just  how  much  are 

0:50:46.260 --> 0:50:51.569
<v Mary Cain>you  running."  So  I  think  that  kind  of  ability  to 

0:50:51.719 --> 0:50:54.210
<v Mary Cain>sit  down  and  really  see  someone  is  what  I'm  really 

0:50:54.210 --> 0:50:58.290
<v Mary Cain>hoping  my  experience  can  kind  of  bring  to  my  own 

0:50:58.290 --> 0:50:59.160
<v Mary Cain>future  profession.

0:50:59.640 --> 0:51:06.480
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah. And  there  are  unquestionably  girls  running  today  who  have  what 

0:51:06.480 --> 0:51:11.009
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>you  had,  undiagnosed,  most  likely  in  a  lot  of  cases  RED-

0:51:11.010 --> 0:51:16.200
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>S,  under- fueled,  not  having  a  period,  fighting  their  bodies. 

0:51:16.620 --> 0:51:19.590
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>What  would  you  want  them  to  know  if  they're  hearing 

0:51:19.590 --> 0:51:21.210
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>this?  And  what  would  you  want  the  doctors  who  see 

0:51:21.210 --> 0:51:21.750
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>them  to  know?

0:51:21.930 --> 0:51:24.419
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  I  mean,  I  think  one  thing  I  often  say, 

0:51:24.420 --> 0:51:28.830
<v Mary Cain>especially  to  the  athlete  themselves  is  like, " You  will  be 

0:51:28.830 --> 0:51:33.690
<v Mary Cain>a  better  athlete  if  you  are  healthy.  You  will  run 

0:51:33.690 --> 0:51:37.440
<v Mary Cain>faster.  You  will  do  better.  You  will  go  further.  You 

0:51:37.440 --> 0:51:40.980
<v Mary Cain>will  go  longer.  You  will  have  a  healthy  career  and 

0:51:40.980 --> 0:51:44.969
<v Mary Cain>a  happy  career  if  you're  healthy."  I  think  that  piece 

0:51:44.969 --> 0:51:48.509
<v Mary Cain>to  it  is  sometimes  really,  really  difficult  for  athletes  to 

0:51:48.510 --> 0:51:51.360
<v Mary Cain>see  because  for  a  long  time  the  role  models  who 

0:51:51.810 --> 0:51:55.500
<v Mary Cain>girls  have  looked  up  to  are  not  healthy.  They  might 

0:51:55.500 --> 0:51:58.589
<v Mary Cain>tell  you  they  are,  but  it's  a  small  world  and 

0:51:58.590 --> 0:52:01.920
<v Mary Cain>we  all  know  each  other.  A  lot  of  it's  just 

0:52:01.920 --> 0:52:04.380
<v Mary Cain>the  way  that  the  industry  is  structured,  whether  it's  through 

0:52:04.380 --> 0:52:09.750
<v Mary Cain>contracts  or  through  coaching  that  has  made  it.  So I think  there's 

0:52:09.750 --> 0:52:14.700
<v Mary Cain>a  lot  of  doubt  that  that  statement  I  made  at 

0:52:14.700 --> 0:52:18.810
<v Mary Cain>the  beginning  is  true.  But  there  are  people  out  there 

0:52:18.810 --> 0:52:21.510
<v Mary Cain>who  are  doing  it  in  a  healthy  and  in  a 

0:52:21.510 --> 0:52:24.239
<v Mary Cain>safe  way.
 You  can  also  see  this  in  other  sports. 

0:52:24.810 --> 0:52:27.390
<v Mary Cain>There  are  women  who  are  part  of  our  US  Women's 

0:52:27.390 --> 0:52:32.040
<v Mary Cain>Nationals  Team  out  there  playing  basketball,  doing  tennis,  who  are 

0:52:32.040 --> 0:52:38.370
<v Mary Cain>just  having  these  careers  where  they're  continuing  for  much  further 

0:52:38.370 --> 0:52:41.580
<v Mary Cain>on  than  we  ever  expected  athletes  to  be  able  to 

0:52:41.580 --> 0:52:45.690
<v Mary Cain>continue  performing.  And  it's  because  they're  staying  healthy,  and  therefore 

0:52:45.690 --> 0:52:48.839
<v Mary Cain>they  have  that  longevity  to  get  in  the,  at  least 

0:52:48.840 --> 0:52:52.080
<v Mary Cain>from  the  running  equivalent,  get  in  the  miles  to  ultimately 

0:52:52.080 --> 0:52:55.799
<v Mary Cain>have  that  sort  of  outcome.  So  from  an  athlete  perspective, 

0:52:55.950 --> 0:52:58.650
<v Mary Cain>that's  the  kind  of  carrot  that  I  try  to  dangle. 

0:52:59.670 --> 0:53:08.009
<v Mary Cain>And  then  I  think  from  the  broader  medical  perspective,  I 

0:53:08.010 --> 0:53:11.910
<v Mary Cain>realized  that  medical  curriculum  changes  a  lot  over  time,  and 

0:53:11.910 --> 0:53:15.600
<v Mary Cain>not  everyone  who  an  athlete  interfaces  with  in  a  healthcare 

0:53:16.290 --> 0:53:19.290
<v Mary Cain>perspective  is  a  doctor.  So  not  everybody  has  the  same 

0:53:19.290 --> 0:53:22.620
<v Mary Cain>educational  standards.
 But  I  think  I  would  just  always  really 

0:53:22.620 --> 0:53:27.330
<v Mary Cain>encourage  folks  to  be  comfortable  with  the  idea  that  they're 

0:53:27.330 --> 0:53:31.380
<v Mary Cain>constantly  a  learner,  and  there's  constantly  new  information  that's  coming 

0:53:31.380 --> 0:53:33.450
<v Mary Cain>out.  And  even  if  they  don't  have  to  take  an 

0:53:33.450 --> 0:53:36.600
<v Mary Cain>exam  like  I  do,  it  doesn't  mean  you  shouldn't  be 

0:53:36.600 --> 0:53:38.670
<v Mary Cain>kind  of  a  self- starter  with  trying  to  stay  up 

0:53:38.670 --> 0:53:43.919
<v Mary Cain>to  date  with  the  most  recent  information.  Whether  you are  just 

0:53:44.430 --> 0:53:46.830
<v Mary Cain>a  high  school  coach  or  a  PT  or  an  athletic 

0:53:46.830 --> 0:53:50.700
<v Mary Cain>trainer,  it  doesn't  matter  who  you  are,  I  think  almost 

0:53:50.760 --> 0:53:53.940
<v Mary Cain>having  the  humility  to  be  like, " Just  because  20, 30, 40  years 

0:53:53.940 --> 0:53:57.299
<v Mary Cain>ago,  this  is  what  I  learned,  it  doesn't  mean  that 

0:53:57.300 --> 0:54:00.570
<v Mary Cain>science  hasn't  showed  us  that,  no,  losing  your  period  isn't 

0:54:00.570 --> 0:54:02.969
<v Mary Cain>normal.  It's  not  healthy.  It's  not  going  to  set  this 

0:54:02.969 --> 0:54:05.940
<v Mary Cain>person  up  for  success."  And  just  because  you  were  told 

0:54:05.940 --> 0:54:10.200
<v Mary Cain>that  at  some  point  doesn't  mean  that's  where  science  actually 

0:54:10.200 --> 0:54:14.700
<v Mary Cain>understands  it  today.  There  is  a  troubling  trend  in  sports. 

0:54:15.239 --> 0:54:18.870
<v Mary Cain>Brands  would  rather  pay  athletes  to  pretend  problems  have  been 

0:54:18.870 --> 0:54:23.940
<v Mary Cain>fixed  instead  of  putting  money  behind  organizations  actively  creating  change.

0:54:24.780 --> 0:54:30.180
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>So  in  2019,  you  published  a  video,  The  New  York 

0:54:30.180 --> 0:54:35.160
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Times  video,  which  went  quite  viral  and  was  a  widely 

0:54:35.190 --> 0:54:38.910
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>talked  about  piece  called  I  Was  the  Fastest  Girl  in 

0:54:38.910 --> 0:54:43.469
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>America  Until  I  Joined  Nike.  What do  you  remember  about  that 

0:54:43.469 --> 0:54:46.469
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>piece  and  when  it  dropped?  Where  were  you when it  went  live? 

0:54:46.469 --> 0:54:49.950
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>And  what  were  the  kind  of  reactions  that  rolled  in 

0:54:50.340 --> 0:54:52.529
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>when  that  happened?

0:54:52.860 --> 0:54:56.910
<v Mary Cain>I  was  home  with  my  parents  when  it  went  live. 

0:54:57.390 --> 0:54:59.100
<v Mary Cain>And  part  of  it  was  because  I  knew  no  matter 

0:54:59.100 --> 0:55:01.050
<v Mary Cain>what  it  was  going  to  be  really  hard.  I  did 

0:55:01.050 --> 0:55:03.630
<v Mary Cain>not  expect  it  to  go  viral  in the  way  that  it 

0:55:03.630 --> 0:55:06.930
<v Mary Cain>did.  But  I  thought  even  if  one  person  reads  it, 

0:55:08.400 --> 0:55:12.509
<v Mary Cain>that's  still  heavy  and  I  wanted  to  be  surrounded  by 

0:55:12.510 --> 0:55:16.950
<v Mary Cain>the  people  who  had  always  loved  me  whether  or  not 

0:55:16.950 --> 0:55:20.489
<v Mary Cain>I  ever  ran.  So  that  no  matter  what  came  of it, 

0:55:20.790 --> 0:55:23.940
<v Mary Cain>if  it  was  really  vitriolic  towards  me  and  really  negative, 

0:55:24.060 --> 0:55:27.780
<v Mary Cain>I'd  be  with  people  who  really  supported  me. And  I  remember 

0:55:27.780 --> 0:55:32.700
<v Mary Cain>just  being  kind  of  blown  away  by  the  actual  positivity 

0:55:32.940 --> 0:55:36.690
<v Mary Cain>that  came  from  it. I think that  really  surprised  me,  just  having  navigated 

0:55:36.690 --> 0:55:39.719
<v Mary Cain>the  experience  that  I  did  for  so  long.  And  I 

0:55:39.719 --> 0:55:42.300
<v Mary Cain>think  in  some  ways  that  made  me  very  sad  because 

0:55:42.300 --> 0:55:46.649
<v Mary Cain>it  really  reinforced  what  I  already  understood  to  be  true, 

0:55:46.650 --> 0:55:50.009
<v Mary Cain>but  yet  hoped  wasn't,  which  is  that  so  many  people 

0:55:50.010 --> 0:55:53.580
<v Mary Cain>relate  to  what  I  went  through.
 So  many  young  people 

0:55:53.580 --> 0:55:57.509
<v Mary Cain>are  abused  in  sports.  It  is  so  normalized.  It's  why 

0:55:57.510 --> 0:56:00.419
<v Mary Cain>girls  drop  out  at  the  rates  that  they  do.  It's 

0:56:00.420 --> 0:56:03.060
<v Mary Cain>why  so  many  folks  when  they're  in  adulthood  want  nothing 

0:56:03.060 --> 0:56:05.580
<v Mary Cain>to  do  with  sports,  and  it's  because  they  hold  these 

0:56:05.580 --> 0:56:10.410
<v Mary Cain>really  traumatic  experiences  from  their  childhood.  And  so  in  watching 

0:56:10.410 --> 0:56:15.900
<v Mary Cain>my  piece,  women  and  men  could  be  like me too.  I  understand 

0:56:15.900 --> 0:56:19.469
<v Mary Cain>what  you  went  through.  And  it  really  emboldened  me  to 

0:56:19.469 --> 0:56:21.930
<v Mary Cain>go  down  the  path  that  I  have  over  the  last 

0:56:21.930 --> 0:56:25.049
<v Mary Cain>few  years  of  being  like, " How  can  I  keep  using 

0:56:25.890 --> 0:56:29.130
<v Mary Cain>the  platform  that  not  only  my  athletic  talents,  but  also 

0:56:29.460 --> 0:56:33.090
<v Mary Cain>The  New  York  Times  piece  afforded  me  to just  help  as 

0:56:33.090 --> 0:56:36.000
<v Mary Cain>many  people  as  I  can,  and  hopefully  prevent  this  from 

0:56:36.000 --> 0:56:40.530
<v Mary Cain>happening  to  other  folks?"  Because  it  just  seems  like  we 

0:56:40.530 --> 0:56:43.080
<v Mary Cain>know  this  is  a  problem,  but  the  power  players  aren't 

0:56:43.080 --> 0:56:44.370
<v Mary Cain>really  doing  much  to  change  it.

0:56:45.630 --> 0:56:50.430
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  A  lot  of  folks  probably  wanted  to  be  associated 

0:56:50.430 --> 0:56:55.680
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>with  you  after  that.  You  learned  some  things  after  that 

0:56:55.680 --> 0:56:59.550
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>New  York  Times  piece  dropped  about  who  to  say  yes 

0:56:59.550 --> 0:57:01.741
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to,  who  not  to  say  yes  to.  What  was  that like?

0:57:01.741 --> 0:57:07.380
<v Mary Cain>Yeah. I think  the  two  lessons  I  learned  were  within  at  least ... 

0:57:08.520 --> 0:57:10.950
<v Mary Cain>I  think  The  New  York  Times  piece  made  me feel  like, "

0:57:10.980 --> 0:57:12.750
<v Mary Cain>Wow,  people  really  care.  Look  at  all  these  people  who 

0:57:12.750 --> 0:57:15.270
<v Mary Cain>care. Look  at  all  these  people  who  are  passionate."  But  that 

0:57:15.270 --> 0:57:18.600
<v Mary Cain>doesn't  mean  the  people  who  control  money  want  to  change 

0:57:18.600 --> 0:57:22.830
<v Mary Cain>the  systems  that  they've  already  been  benefiting  from, and  we  societally 

0:57:22.830 --> 0:57:25.290
<v Mary Cain>understand  this.  We  see  this  with  government.  We've  seen  this 

0:57:25.290 --> 0:57:28.320
<v Mary Cain>with  so  many  corporate  entities.  So  just  because  like  90% 

0:57:28.590 --> 0:57:31.950
<v Mary Cain>of  the  population  is  like, " Abusing  kids  is  bad,"  doesn't 

0:57:31.950 --> 0:57:35.280
<v Mary Cain>mean  the  people  who  can  prevent  it  ever  really  step 

0:57:35.280 --> 0:57:40.500
<v Mary Cain>in.
 I  kind  of  learned  that  the  hard  way,  which 

0:57:40.500 --> 0:57:45.600
<v Mary Cain>was  taking  call  after  call  with  corporate  entities  talking  about 

0:57:45.600 --> 0:57:49.350
<v Mary Cain>these  issues  and  seeing  them  be  like, " Yeah,  that's  great. 

0:57:49.620 --> 0:57:52.530
<v Mary Cain>Do  you  want  to  tweet  that  you  talked  to  us?" 

0:57:52.530 --> 0:57:55.650
<v Mary Cain>I'd  be  like, " No,  because  you  didn't  do  anything.  You 

0:57:55.650 --> 0:58:02.640
<v Mary Cain>haven't  actually  enacted  any  sort  of  policies.  There's  no  partnership 

0:58:02.640 --> 0:58:06.330
<v Mary Cain>here."  This  was  just  an  education,  like, " Do  you  want 

0:58:06.330 --> 0:58:10.110
<v Mary Cain>to  support  awesome  nonprofits  sort  of  experience?"  And  then  there'd 

0:58:10.110 --> 0:58:13.305
<v Mary Cain>be  like, " No,  no,  no, no, no,  we  don't.  We  want  you 

0:58:13.305 --> 0:58:16.710
<v Mary Cain>to  make  us  look  good.  We're  not  actually  going  to 

0:58:16.710 --> 0:58:19.710
<v Mary Cain>do  anything."  It  was  essentially  what  I  started  to  understand 

0:58:20.100 --> 0:58:21.390
<v Mary Cain>within  a  lot  of  corporate  spaces.

0:58:21.390 --> 0:58:22.770
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Virtue  signaling  as  they  call  it,  right?

0:58:23.490 --> 0:58:27.690
<v Mary Cain>100%.  I  mean,  New  York  Road  Runners  understands  this  being 

0:58:27.690 --> 0:58:34.140
<v Mary Cain>in  the  nonprofit  space,  but  that  tension  is  really  difficult 

0:58:34.140 --> 0:58:37.020
<v Mary Cain>to  navigate.  It  creates  a  lot  of  burnout  because  you 

0:58:37.020 --> 0:58:42.690
<v Mary Cain>pretty  quickly  realize  there's  so  much  virtue  signaling  versus  real,  like, "

0:58:42.780 --> 0:58:45.480
<v Mary Cain>How  do  we  have  community  impact?"  And  then  I  think 

0:58:45.480 --> 0:58:49.230
<v Mary Cain>on  the  non- corporate  end,  more  in  the  like,  we'll 

0:58:49.260 --> 0:58:53.310
<v Mary Cain>call  it  influencer  space,  there  was  also  a  lot  of 

0:58:53.310 --> 0:59:01.470
<v Mary Cain>virtue  signaling.  And  I  found  myself  becoming  really  disgusted  by 

0:59:01.470 --> 0:59:07.200
<v Mary Cain>the  behaviors  of  others  who  were  almost  using  fraudulent  advocacy, 

0:59:07.650 --> 0:59:12.750
<v Mary Cain>where  they  were  just  using  messaging  that  they  didn't  privately 

0:59:12.750 --> 0:59:18.390
<v Mary Cain>in  any  way  purport  to  get  themselves  paid  versus  actually 

0:59:18.390 --> 0:59:24.630
<v Mary Cain>doing  any  substantive  community  service  work  or  fundraising.  You  and 

0:59:24.630 --> 0:59:26.610
<v Mary Cain>I  could  probably  sit  here  and  name  so  many  people 

0:59:26.610 --> 0:59:31.530
<v Mary Cain>who's  actually  boots  on  the  ground,  done  work  within  the 

0:59:31.530 --> 0:59:34.830
<v Mary Cain>professional  or  the  influencer  running  sphere,  so  it's  not  to 

0:59:34.830 --> 0:59:38.130
<v Mary Cain>say  it's  everyone.
 But,  I  mean,  there  were  women  who 

0:59:38.130 --> 0:59:42.510
<v Mary Cain>were  naming  me  in  their  books,  selling  their  books,  pretending 

0:59:42.510 --> 0:59:47.220
<v Mary Cain>they  were  my  mentors,  and  using  my  story  to  sell 

0:59:47.220 --> 0:59:49.740
<v Mary Cain>themselves.  To  at  least  one  of  those  women's  credits,  she 

0:59:49.740 --> 0:59:52.770
<v Mary Cain>actually  did  reach  out  and  apologize  after  reading  my  memoir. 

0:59:53.100 --> 0:59:55.950
<v Mary Cain>So  it's  not  to  say  some  people  can't  maybe  learn 

0:59:55.950 --> 0:59:59.340
<v Mary Cain>from  those  experiences,  but  I  think  I  just  reached  a 

0:59:59.340 --> 1:00:03.600
<v Mary Cain>point  where  I  was  like  this  is  deeply  unsustainable  to 

1:00:03.600 --> 1:00:07.230
<v Mary Cain>do  outside  of  really  volunteer  work  for  me  at  this 

1:00:07.230 --> 1:00:11.250
<v Mary Cain>point. Because I think I'm  just  too,  and  honestly,  it  was  always  volunteer  work, 

1:00:11.250 --> 1:00:14.040
<v Mary Cain>I  was  never  really  being  paid  for  this,  but  I 

1:00:14.040 --> 1:00:16.800
<v Mary Cain>think  it  still  felt  like  something  where I  was  like, " I 

1:00:16.800 --> 1:00:20.700
<v Mary Cain>need  to  have  boundaries  here,"  because  I  really  am  deeply 

1:00:20.700 --> 1:00:24.300
<v Mary Cain>passionate  about  this  work.  I  really  do  do  it  volunteer, 

1:00:24.840 --> 1:00:29.550
<v Mary Cain>and  I'm  just  getting  angry,  and  that  doesn't  serve  me, 

1:00:29.550 --> 1:00:31.890
<v Mary Cain>and  therefore  it  doesn't  serve  the  work  that  I'm  doing.


1:00:33.390 --> 1:00:35.610
<v Mary Cain>But  I  do  think  people  need  to  be  called  out 

1:00:36.360 --> 1:00:41.280
<v Mary Cain>for  doing  that  sort  of  stuff  because  rather  than  brands 

1:00:41.280 --> 1:00:46.860
<v Mary Cain>paying  a  nonprofit  or  an  individual  who  really  does  true 

1:00:47.760 --> 1:00:51.330
<v Mary Cain>advocacy  work,  it's  like  influencers  are  propped  up  in  a 

1:00:51.330 --> 1:00:57.420
<v Mary Cain>sports  bra  and  they're  like, " Look,  it's  a  woman."  Like " What?"

1:00:57.420 --> 1:00:57.570
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah. Yeah.

1:00:58.410 --> 1:01:03.030
<v Mary Cain>Sports  was  built  on  a  system  that  normalizes  mistreatment.  To 

1:01:03.030 --> 1:01:07.050
<v Mary Cain>change  sports,  we  need  to  build  structures  that  establish  safeguarding 

1:01:07.050 --> 1:01:10.530
<v Mary Cain>practices,  give  people  a  place  to  turn  to  when  they're 

1:01:10.530 --> 1:01:14.280
<v Mary Cain>in  trouble,  and  make  it  clear  we  no  longer  condone  abuse.

1:01:14.460 --> 1:01:18.750
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>So  tell  me  about  your  decision  to  create  Atalanta.  What 

1:01:18.750 --> 1:01:21.150
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>is  it,  first  of  all,  and  what  led  you  to 

1:01:21.420 --> 1:01:22.110
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>creating  this?

1:01:22.110 --> 1:01:25.620
<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  So  I  created  Atalanta  really  kind  of  on  the 

1:01:25.680 --> 1:01:27.900
<v Mary Cain>backs  of  the  experience  that  I  had,  both  on  the 

1:01:27.900 --> 1:01:30.450
<v Mary Cain>professional  end  of  things,  but  also  in the  high  school  experience. 

1:01:30.900 --> 1:01:34.950
<v Mary Cain>Before  I  ever  joined  Alberto's  program,  I had a  really  horrible  high 

1:01:34.950 --> 1:01:40.080
<v Mary Cain>school  experience,  mostly  through  helicopter  parents,  and  just  the  jealousy 

1:01:40.080 --> 1:01:45.090
<v Mary Cain>and  creepiness  of  adults,  honestly.  And  I  felt  very  strongly 

1:01:45.090 --> 1:01:51.630
<v Mary Cain>that  to  change  sports  you  need ...  there's  two  spaces  we 

1:01:51.630 --> 1:01:55.410
<v Mary Cain>need  to  adjust.  One  is  for  professional  female  athletes,  how 

1:01:55.410 --> 1:01:58.200
<v Mary Cain>we  support  them,  how  we  build  them  up  long- term. 

1:01:58.620 --> 1:02:01.230
<v Mary Cain>But  also  kids,  whether  or  not  they're  ever  going  to 

1:02:01.230 --> 1:02:05.040
<v Mary Cain>go  probably.  Why  does  youth  sports  look  like  this  churn 

1:02:05.040 --> 1:02:07.950
<v Mary Cain>and  burn?  We're  only  using  it  for  the  end  game 

1:02:07.950 --> 1:02:12.030
<v Mary Cain>of  making  one  kid  ultimately  do  drugs  to  run  really 

1:02:12.030 --> 1:02:18.120
<v Mary Cain>fast  versus  it  being  this  lifelong,  beautiful  teamwork  experience.
 So 

1:02:18.120 --> 1:02:21.570
<v Mary Cain>I  created  Atalanta  where  we  hire  professional  female  runners  in 

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<v Mary Cain>New  York  City  to  serve  as  mentors  to  girls  in 

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<v Mary Cain>underserved  parts  of  our  community,  and  it's  been  amazing.  It's 

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<v Mary Cain>been  truly  something  I'm  very  proud  of,  and  kind  of 

1:02:32.910 --> 1:02:35.430
<v Mary Cain>a  bright  spot  sometimes  on  a  low  day  to  be  like, "

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<v Mary Cain>Wow,  there's  this  incredible  organization  that  employs  women  who  I 

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<v Mary Cain>really  respect  and  really  admire."  At  this  point  I'm  just 

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<v Mary Cain>on  the  board,  and  it  still  continues  almost  without  me 

1:02:49.890 --> 1:02:51.510
<v Mary Cain>having  to  do  the  day- to- day  in  the  same 

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<v Mary Cain>way.  And  I  think  there's  something  really  humbling  and  really 

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<v Mary Cain>beautiful  about  that  because  it's  really  the  first,  and maybe  only 

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<v Mary Cain>time  I have  felt  that  I've  been  able  to  put  something 

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<v Mary Cain>in  motion  and  other  people  can  kind  of  grab  the 

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<v Mary Cain>baton  and  keep  going  versus  it  only  being  off  my  back.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>What  do  the  professional  runners  who  serve  as  mentors  in 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  Atalanta  program  get  out of  it?  What do  the  kids  get 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>out  of  it,  of  course?  But  what  do  the  professionals 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>get  out  of  it?  That's  what  I'm  wondering,  thinking  back 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  your  experience,  and  what  you  might've  gotten  out  of 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>something  like  that.

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<v Mary Cain>Yeah.  So  I  think  the  way  we  structured  it  was 

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<v Mary Cain>that  they're  actually  employees  of  the  organization  who  also  work 

1:03:35.100 --> 1:03:38.340
<v Mary Cain>for  the  organization.  So  not  only  do  they  go  in 

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<v Mary Cain>and  do  community  work,  which  let's  be  real,  is  so 

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<v Mary Cain>fun  and  really  rewarding,  and  I  used  to  go  to 

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<v Mary Cain>some  of  the  sessions  and  just  like ...  you  adore  the 

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<v Mary Cain>kids,  so that in  and  of  itself  I  think  is  really  additive. 

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<v Mary Cain>But  also,  these  women  are  being  empowered  to  run  essentially 

1:03:56.910 --> 1:03:59.970
<v Mary Cain>like  a  small  nonprofit.  So  whether  it's  through  the  marketing, 

1:04:00.240 --> 1:04:05.700
<v Mary Cain>through  donor  relations,  through  interacting  with  our  community  through  other 

1:04:05.700 --> 1:04:10.590
<v Mary Cain>work,  like  coaching  and  other  facets  to  how  we  both 

1:04:10.590 --> 1:04:15.810
<v Mary Cain>fundraise  and  organize,  it's  almost  giving  them  tools  to  set 

1:04:15.810 --> 1:04:19.800
<v Mary Cain>them  up  long  term  for  careers  in  ways  that ...  I 

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<v Mary Cain>mean,  Leah  just  crushed  it  at  the  Jamaican  National  Championships.


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<v Mary Cain>So  it's  like  these  women  are  still  running  at  this 

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<v Mary Cain>incredibly  high  and  competitive  level,  but  they're  not  going  to 

1:04:32.190 --> 1:04:35.820
<v Mary Cain>retire  as  only  runners.  They're  going  to  retire  with  a 

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<v Mary Cain>CV  where  they  can  say  like, " I  managed  an  organization 

1:04:40.050 --> 1:04:43.560
<v Mary Cain>that  has  thousands  of  followers  Instagram  account.  I  have  the 

1:04:43.560 --> 1:04:46.170
<v Mary Cain>experience  to  work  at  donor  relations."  I  see  all  of 

1:04:46.170 --> 1:04:48.810
<v Mary Cain>these  women  being  able  to  one  day  come  to  New 

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<v Mary Cain>York  Road  Runners  and  say, " This  is  what  I've  done." 

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<v Mary Cain>And  for  you  guys  to  be  like, " Oh,  wow,  you 

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<v Mary Cain>could  work  here.  You  could  work  there."  In  a  way 

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<v Mary Cain>that's  so  often  we  understand  now  more  and  more  that 

1:05:01.350 --> 1:05:06.000
<v Mary Cain>so  many  athletes  leave  sport  and  they're  lost  because  they 

1:05:06.000 --> 1:05:09.480
<v Mary Cain>don't  necessarily  have  these  transferable  job  skills.  And  then  you 

1:05:09.480 --> 1:05:14.160
<v Mary Cain>see  these  incredibly  inspiring  people  who  never  move  on  to 

1:05:14.160 --> 1:05:16.950
<v Mary Cain>be  leaders  in  sport,  and  I  think  that  kind  of 

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<v Mary Cain>piece  is  almost  my  big  audacious  goal.
 It's  like  to 

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<v Mary Cain>one  day  see  these  women  maybe  be  in  that  sports 

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<v Mary Cain>marketing  department  that  used  to  never  have  a  woman,  maybe 

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<v Mary Cain>be  that  coach  when  a  program  has  never  had  a 

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<v Mary Cain>female  coach.  It's  like,  how  do  we  empower  women  to 

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<v Mary Cain>be  in  those  power  positions?

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  So  how  have  you  felt  about  the  reception  to 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>your  book  so  far?  It's  not  an  easy  book  to 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>write.  I'm  sure  for a lot of  people,  not  an  easy  book  to 

1:05:50.250 --> 1:05:56.190
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>read.  A  lot  of  things  said  in  there  about  people 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>and  experiences.  What  has  it  been  like  for  you  since 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  book  came  out?

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<v Mary Cain>I  think I am at  a  point  in  my  life  where  I  am 

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<v Mary Cain>really  proud  of  what  I  wrote.  The  first  time  that 

1:06:09.000 --> 1:06:13.080
<v Mary Cain>I  sat  down,  because  I  wrote  my  own  book,  you 

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<v Mary Cain>get  so  used  to  this  editing  process  and  being  really 

1:06:18.030 --> 1:06:20.700
<v Mary Cain>in  the  weeds,  and  so  the  first  time  you  actually 

1:06:20.700 --> 1:06:21.990
<v Mary Cain>just  sit  down  and  you're  like, " Okay,  I  guess  I'm 

1:06:21.990 --> 1:06:25.560
<v Mary Cain>going  to  read  my  book  that  I  just  wrote,"  was 

1:06:25.980 --> 1:06:29.190
<v Mary Cain>so  beautiful.  Because  as  I  was  reading  it,  I  was 

1:06:29.190 --> 1:06:31.980
<v Mary Cain>like, "I  really  like  this.  I'm  really  proud  of  this.  I 

1:06:31.980 --> 1:06:36.060
<v Mary Cain>think  I  crafted  this in the way that  I  wanted  to,  and  if  someone 

1:06:36.060 --> 1:06:41.670
<v Mary Cain>else  doesn't  like  it,  then  okay,  you  don't  have  to." 

1:06:42.510 --> 1:06:46.080
<v Mary Cain>I  think  that's  something  that  going  into  it  I  knew. 

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<v Mary Cain>If  I  made  one  person  happy  and  that  person  was 

1:06:48.330 --> 1:06:54.150
<v Mary Cain>just  myself,  that's  pretty  cool.  I  think  beyond  my  kind 

1:06:54.150 --> 1:07:00.600
<v Mary Cain>of  pride  at  this  piece,  it's  been  really  positive  overall 

1:07:00.720 --> 1:07:06.060
<v Mary Cain>the  conversations  I  have  with  people.
 I  think  knowing,  similarly 

1:07:06.060 --> 1:07:08.160
<v Mary Cain>to  The  New  York  Times  piece,  that  there  are  folks 

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<v Mary Cain>who  read  this  and  then  reach  out  to  me  and 

1:07:10.230 --> 1:07:14.280
<v Mary Cain>say  like, " I  don't  think  I  ever  would've  been  able 

1:07:14.280 --> 1:07:17.400
<v Mary Cain>to  come  to  terms  with  the  experience  I  had  unless 

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<v Mary Cain>I  kind  of  read  someone  else  really  express  what  I 

1:07:21.210 --> 1:07:25.830
<v Mary Cain>felt."  I  don't  think  I  could  ever  really  describe  how 

1:07:25.830 --> 1:07:31.560
<v Mary Cain>meaningful  that  is  to  me  to  know  that I've  really  helped 

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<v Mary Cain>someone  in  that  way. I think  that's  because  it's  kind  of  the 

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<v Mary Cain>only  reason  I  wrote  this  book.  It's  not  like  a 

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<v Mary Cain>super  fun,  super  flattering  story.  And  I  think the  one  thing 

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<v Mary Cain>I  will  say  is  that  usually  the  negativity  I  have 

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<v Mary Cain>felt, and  I  don't  read  reviews  and  stuff,  but  it's  usually 

1:07:53.190 --> 1:07:56.520
<v Mary Cain>just  the  stuff  that  gets  back  to  me,  is  usually 

1:07:56.520 --> 1:08:02.100
<v Mary Cain>from  people  thinking  me  sharing  my  abuse  is in  some  way 

1:08:02.100 --> 1:08:07.440
<v Mary Cain>petty.  And  I  think  more  so  for  other  folks  who 

1:08:07.440 --> 1:08:10.140
<v Mary Cain>have  experienced  really  negative  things,  I  kind  of  want  them 

1:08:10.140 --> 1:08:16.439
<v Mary Cain>to  hear  that  you  should  never  carry  shame  over  the 

1:08:16.439 --> 1:08:22.740
<v Mary Cain>way  others  treated  you.
 I  think  if  you  feel  in 

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<v Mary Cain>your  personal  life  that  people  shame  you  for  expressing  defense 

1:08:28.170 --> 1:08:31.860
<v Mary Cain>of  yourself  to  protect  others,  to  protect  yourself,  to  create 

1:08:31.860 --> 1:08:35.580
<v Mary Cain>peace  for  you,  that  person  is  the  one  who  needs 

1:08:35.580 --> 1:08:40.019
<v Mary Cain>help,  not  you  in  standing  up  for  yourself.  I  would 

1:08:40.020 --> 1:08:43.950
<v Mary Cain>say  that's  something  that I have  done  enough  therapy,  that  usually  when 

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<v Mary Cain>I have  heard  those  comments  I'm  just  like, " I  hope  you 

1:08:48.300 --> 1:08:52.379
<v Mary Cain>go  talk  to  someone  so  you  understand  why  someone  admitting 

1:08:52.380 --> 1:08:55.228
<v Mary Cain>that  they  were  treated  cruelly  makes  you  mad  at  that 

1:08:55.229 --> 1:09:00.420
<v Mary Cain>person."  But  really  other  than  that,  I've  just  felt  a 

1:09:00.420 --> 1:09:04.200
<v Mary Cain>lot  of  positivity.  I  think  the  place  that's  usually  the 

1:09:04.200 --> 1:09:07.620
<v Mary Cain>most  lacking  is within the  professional  running  world,  although  I  have  had 

1:09:07.620 --> 1:09:12.090
<v Mary Cain>some  really  lovely  people  reach  out.  But  I  think  it's 

1:09:12.090 --> 1:09:14.880
<v Mary Cain>not  surprising  that  there's  maybe  some  folks  who  have  written 

1:09:14.880 --> 1:09:17.189
<v Mary Cain>memoirs  that  if  you  go  through  their  comments  section,  you 

1:09:17.189 --> 1:09:21.720
<v Mary Cain>will  see  all  of  professional  running  celebrating  it,  and  you 

1:09:21.720 --> 1:09:24.390
<v Mary Cain>won't  see  that  for  me.
 But  I  think  that's  because 

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<v Mary Cain>often  when  you  hold  up  a  mirror  for  people,  no 

1:09:27.600 --> 1:09:31.769
<v Mary Cain>matter  how  it's  a  mirror,  whether  it's  my  experience  or 

1:09:32.580 --> 1:09:35.729
<v Mary Cain>they  relate  to  the  behavior  of  my  teammates  or  coaches, 

1:09:35.910 --> 1:09:42.478
<v Mary Cain>whatever  it  is,  I  think  that's something that  I  just  hope  continues 

1:09:42.479 --> 1:09:46.170
<v Mary Cain>to  change.  So  hopefully  nobody  ever  else  writes  a  memoir 

1:09:46.170 --> 1:09:49.080
<v Mary Cain>like  this,  but  God  forbid  in  10  years,  I  would 

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<v Mary Cain>hope  there's  more  support  from  the  professional  running  world.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Well, good for you  for  doing  it.  Well  said.  Bravery  is  not  such 

1:09:59.280 --> 1:10:03.180
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>a  plentiful  thing  in  this  world,  so  you  exhibited  some 

1:10:03.180 --> 1:10:06.930
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>in  doing  what  you've  done.  So  congratulations  and  thank  you 

1:10:06.930 --> 1:10:11.430
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>for  talking  with  us.  It's  an  important  conversation.  We  appreciate  it.

1:10:11.580 --> 1:10:12.720
<v Mary Cain>Yeah,  and  thank  you for  having  me.

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<v Rebecca Gentry>That  was  Rob's  conversation  with  Mary  Cain.  Her  memoir,  This 

1:11:08.340 --> 1:11:11.219
<v Rebecca Gentry>Is  Not  About  Running, it  came  out  this  past  April  from 

1:11:11.220 --> 1:11:14.160
<v Rebecca Gentry>Mariner  Book.  So  if you  haven't,  go  pick  up  a  copy 

1:11:14.370 --> 1:11:17.728
<v Rebecca Gentry>and  learn  a  little  bit  more  about  this  incredible  woman.

1:11:18.000 --> 1:11:21.360
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  And Becs,  Mary  spent  about  10  minutes  at  the  end 

1:11:21.360 --> 1:11:24.450
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>of  our  conversation  talking  about  the  team  that  she  founded, 

1:11:24.450 --> 1:11:28.950
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Atalanta  NYC.  She  mentioned  that  Atalanta  is  the  first  thing 

1:11:28.950 --> 1:11:31.410
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>in  her  life  she's  ever  been  able  to  pass  to 

1:11:31.410 --> 1:11:35.160
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>someone  else.  And  we're  going  to  pass  the  next  episode 

1:11:35.160 --> 1:11:38.820
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  you, Becs.  So  next  week  you're  going  to  interview  that 

1:11:38.820 --> 1:11:40.740
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>very  same  Atalanta  team.

1:11:40.950 --> 1:11:45.180
<v Rebecca Gentry>Absolutely.  Mary  spent  the  last  six  years  trying  to  change 

1:11:45.180 --> 1:11:48.990
<v Rebecca Gentry>what  it  means  to  be  a  woman  runner  in  this 

1:11:48.990 --> 1:11:52.290
<v Rebecca Gentry>country,  and  we're  going  to  find  out  if  she  has 

1:11:52.290 --> 1:11:53.370
<v Rebecca Gentry>managed  to  do  this.

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Yeah.  And  one  more  thing,  Becs,  before  we  go.  Mary 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>is one of  the  runners  who  helped  bring  RED- S,  Relative  Energy 

1:12:00.689 --> 1:12:06.689
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Deficiency  in  Sport  into  public  consciousness.  Our  friends  at  HSS, 

1:12:06.689 --> 1:12:10.500
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  Hospital  for  Special  Surgery,  have  actually  just  published  a  four-

1:12:10.500 --> 1:12:13.770
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>part  YouTube  series  about  RED- S.  If  you  want  to 

1:12:13.770 --> 1:12:17.340
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>go  deeper  on  the  science  of  that  condition,  she  talks 

1:12:17.340 --> 1:12:20.340
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>about  it  in  this  episode,  then  you  can  go  to 

1:12:20.340 --> 1:12:24.120
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>listen  to  HSS's  episodes  on  YouTube  as  well.  The  link 

1:12:24.120 --> 1:12:26.880
<v Rob Simmelkjaer>to  those  episodes  are  in  the  show  notes.  All  right, 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Becs,  well,  that  does  it  for  this  episode  of  Set 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>the  Pace.  If  you  like  the  episode,  make  sure  you 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>so  others  can  find  the  show  as  well.  Thanks  to 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Mary  Cain  for  joining  us.  We'll  see  you  next  time. 

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<v Rob Simmelkjaer>Enjoy  the  miles.