WEBVTT - The Daughter Factor – Part 2 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:04.040 Do you see yourself the way God sees you? We're 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:07.800 unpacking this important question this Mother's Day, especially for daughters 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:10.360 here on today's Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:13.560 When you're secure in who you are, you're able to say, 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:15.600 this is who I am. This is the way God 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.360 made me. And it's not about what do people think 0:00:18.360 --> 0:00:21.439 about me? Because you've already been established in your worth 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:24.480 and your value that's been given to you by your 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.960 earthly father and by your heavenly father who spoken into 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:30.440 your life that you are a daughter of the Most 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:31.200 High God. 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:47.239 Welcome to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. Mark is president 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.840 of Moody Bible Institute and the senior pastor of New 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:54.200 Life Community Church in Chicago. I'm Wayne Shepherd. Yesterday, Mark 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:57.880 began exploring how our relationships with our earthly father profoundly 0:00:57.880 --> 0:01:01.120 shapes our understanding of our Heavenly Father. And for many 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:04.320 listening today, this subject touches on some very tender places 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:08.160 in the heart. Whether you experience abandonment, neglect, or even 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.039 abuse from your father figure, or perhaps you never knew 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:14.640 your father at all, these wounds can create significant barriers 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:18.720 to fully experiencing God's love. In today's message, Mark addresses 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:22.160 these father wounds by showing how healing in this area 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:25.040 is essential for embracing who God has called you to be, 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.280 and loving others as he's called you to love. If 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.480 you missed yesterday's program, you can find it on our 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:34.400 website at Bold Steps or through the Bold Steps app. 0:01:34.720 --> 0:01:37.040 Now let's join Mark Jobe as he continues with part 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:39.240 two of The Daughter Factor. 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:43.000 I believe that some of you really need to embrace 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:44.680 who God has called you to be. To be able 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:46.960 to love like God has called you, to love, to 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:50.440 be able to impart to your children if you have them, 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:53.120 or love your husband if you have one or your 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:55.480 kids that you're going to have to deal with this 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:59.920 father wound. The Bible tells us in first John chapter three, 0:01:59.960 --> 0:02:04.010 see what great love the father has lavished on us. 0:02:04.010 --> 0:02:07.770 That we should be called children of God. And that 0:02:07.770 --> 0:02:10.730 is what we are. The reason the world does not 0:02:10.730 --> 0:02:15.410 know us is that it did not know him. Some 0:02:15.410 --> 0:02:19.049 of you here have a real hard time connecting with 0:02:19.050 --> 0:02:23.730 the love of the father, because you've never experienced the genuine, 0:02:23.730 --> 0:02:28.570 powerful love of your earthly father. So there's a disconnect 0:02:28.570 --> 0:02:34.210 with with the Heavenly father. And there's a void. There's 0:02:34.250 --> 0:02:40.209 a vacuum. There's a neutrality there. If you were raised 0:02:40.210 --> 0:02:43.130 in a whole family with a loving father that nurtured, 0:02:43.130 --> 0:02:46.290 that spoke into your life, no father is perfect, but 0:02:46.290 --> 0:02:50.530 that spoke to your worth and spoke to your value, 0:02:50.770 --> 0:02:57.170 then you. Unfortunately, it feels like nowadays are the exception. 0:02:59.930 --> 0:03:03.010 The Bible tells us in John chapter 832 that we 0:03:03.010 --> 0:03:06.609 will know the truth, and the truth shall set us free. 0:03:08.650 --> 0:03:11.810 When the Bible says, the love of the father, and 0:03:11.810 --> 0:03:14.169 you have a disconnect with the love of the father. 0:03:14.490 --> 0:03:17.250 It means that although you may hear the words God 0:03:17.250 --> 0:03:22.810 loves you, it rings void a bit. When there's a 0:03:22.810 --> 0:03:27.170 father vacuum in our life. It means oftentimes I've seen 0:03:27.169 --> 0:03:31.130 it go into several extremes. When there's a father vacuum. 0:03:31.130 --> 0:03:34.290 For some of you, it meant that you so desired 0:03:34.290 --> 0:03:36.810 the approval of a man that you didn't get from 0:03:36.810 --> 0:03:41.010 your father, that you threw out all your standards, and 0:03:41.010 --> 0:03:44.970 you became obsessed with having a man see your value. 0:03:45.890 --> 0:03:49.130 And you would throw yourself into relationships that were toxic 0:03:49.130 --> 0:03:53.050 and broken and unhealthy. Why? Because a man showed attention 0:03:53.050 --> 0:03:55.450 to you and it drove you to. I just want 0:03:55.490 --> 0:03:59.130 him to affirm me, value me, love me. And people 0:03:59.130 --> 0:04:00.620 would say, why do you let him let them treat you, 0:04:00.900 --> 0:04:05.260 treat you that way. But so driven. Obsessed. Feeling incomplete 0:04:05.260 --> 0:04:07.740 with the man. Like I can't stand alone unless a 0:04:07.740 --> 0:04:10.300 man is there beside me. You know what often speaks 0:04:10.300 --> 0:04:17.900 to is the father vacuum. Amen. Others of you, because 0:04:17.900 --> 0:04:22.860 of the father vacuum and the hurt that's there, created 0:04:22.900 --> 0:04:26.779 barriers around yourself, holding people at a distance. No other 0:04:26.779 --> 0:04:29.980 man is ever going to hurt me like I was hurt. 0:04:31.300 --> 0:04:37.260 And so you're tough. Exteriorly hold people at a distance 0:04:38.779 --> 0:04:45.900 because you say I'll never be hurt again. Others, when 0:04:45.900 --> 0:04:48.419 you come into the church and you hear the term 0:04:48.460 --> 0:04:53.420 father and you sing about the father love of God, 0:04:54.940 --> 0:04:57.060 it's hard for you to look up into the heavens 0:04:57.060 --> 0:04:59.980 and with the radiance in your face, because you want 0:05:00.020 --> 0:05:03.340 to look down at your feet and what comes to 0:05:03.339 --> 0:05:07.060 your mind is you again, why aren't you? And you 0:05:07.100 --> 0:05:08.980 come into a place like this and it feels like 0:05:08.980 --> 0:05:12.339 God is just scanning your sins and pointing them out 0:05:12.339 --> 0:05:14.940 one by one, and you feel shame and guilt and 0:05:14.940 --> 0:05:19.620 condemnation and not this incredible, powerful love of the father. 0:05:21.860 --> 0:05:30.260 That's called the father wound. You know what happens in 0:05:30.260 --> 0:05:32.620 our life. And we talked about it in the first one. 0:05:35.460 --> 0:05:37.940 And can I just say this about fathers before I 0:05:37.940 --> 0:05:44.100 go on? Some of you had fathers that just had 0:05:44.100 --> 0:05:49.860 never received, and so they had difficulty giving. I was 0:05:49.860 --> 0:05:55.220 at a men's encounter retreat like this. And men deal 0:05:55.220 --> 0:05:59.580 with their issues. We challenge them about loving their sons 0:05:59.580 --> 0:06:04.310 and daughters and what it means to, in a different way, 0:06:04.310 --> 0:06:07.270 what it means to love their wives in a in 0:06:07.350 --> 0:06:10.190 a way that some of them have never known. And 0:06:10.190 --> 0:06:12.070 we have them take bold steps at the end. And 0:06:12.070 --> 0:06:15.390 I'll never forget one father standing up, as we talked 0:06:15.390 --> 0:06:19.750 about how much the power and love of a father counts, 0:06:19.750 --> 0:06:24.430 and how it's important, how his daughters are shaped by 0:06:24.430 --> 0:06:27.550 their relationship with the father and sons and identity. And 0:06:27.550 --> 0:06:33.470 I'll never forget one father getting up, weeping, weeping, weeping uncontrollably. 0:06:36.470 --> 0:06:39.150 And he was about to share his bold step. So 0:06:39.150 --> 0:06:43.589 what's your bold step? And with the crackling voice and 0:06:43.589 --> 0:06:46.830 tears streaming down his face, he said, I have three daughters. 0:06:49.510 --> 0:06:53.390 Under the teenage years. He said they've never heard me 0:06:53.430 --> 0:06:57.750 say I love them. I've never in their life said, 0:06:58.150 --> 0:07:04.030 I love you. He said. I do love them, he said, 0:07:04.029 --> 0:07:07.950 but I was never told by my father. It was 0:07:07.950 --> 0:07:11.430 like weakness. It was you don't talk about that. And 0:07:11.430 --> 0:07:14.910 he said, my bold step crying, weeping. He said, that 0:07:15.590 --> 0:07:19.110 is to go home and to gather my three little daughters, 0:07:19.670 --> 0:07:22.870 look them in the eyes, and for the first time 0:07:22.870 --> 0:07:26.350 in their life they're going to hear their father say, 0:07:27.070 --> 0:07:35.990 I love you. It reminded me that this man. Had 0:07:35.990 --> 0:07:39.430 a father vacuum as well. And it's hard to give 0:07:39.430 --> 0:07:46.030 what we don't have. We talked about how strongholds are 0:07:46.030 --> 0:07:50.630 built in our life. And oftentimes what happens with these 0:07:50.630 --> 0:07:56.430 strongholds is that, well, our life is kind of like this. 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:06.680 We're a blank page. And here's what happens to many 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:10.600 of our lives as we grow, as we begin to develop. 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:15.560 God has established households with a mother or father that 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:18.239 love us and speak into our lives to protect us. 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:20.880 But what happens in many of our lives is that 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:42.240 that protection that God has placed over us. Gets punctured. Abandonment. Divorce. Abuse. 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:55.760 Critical spirit. Addictions. And what happens in our life is 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:59.360 that the seeds of lies start being now. Seeds of 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:04.520 lies can be easily planted in your life. You're not 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:10.800 worth anything. You'll never count. There's something wrong with you. 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:17.960 And those lies get planted in us. And those lies then. Well, 0:09:18.720 --> 0:09:31.520 those lies start to well. Stuff starts to grow. Stuff 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:34.280 starts to grow. And let me tell you what happens 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:38.679 is that. That those lies grow up and they get 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:43.360 entangled around the core of our being. They affect our personality, 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:46.080 how we talk, how we walk, who we hang with, 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.960 who we date, how we marry, how we raise our kids. 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:53.640 Because they've entwined themselves in our being. Lies have become. 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:56.240 And for many of us, it's hard to distinguish what 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.800 is truly me and what is the lie that I'm 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:03.730 that I've grown up with. If you've ever been abused 0:10:03.730 --> 0:10:10.010 at a young age, sexually, verbally, physically there are lies, 0:10:10.010 --> 0:10:12.650 especially by someone that was supposed to protect you. There 0:10:12.650 --> 0:10:17.650 lies that were deeply embedded in your being, deeply ingrained 0:10:17.650 --> 0:10:21.450 in your soul. You've grown up with them, and most 0:10:21.450 --> 0:10:23.930 women that I talk to have really never dealt with 0:10:23.929 --> 0:10:29.650 those issues. And you wake up one day and you 0:10:29.650 --> 0:10:33.689 realize what's wrong with me. Well, nothing's wrong with you. 0:10:33.730 --> 0:10:37.570 What's wrong with you is that you have allowed lies 0:10:37.570 --> 0:10:42.370 to inhibit some of your personality. You've lied. You've allowed 0:10:42.370 --> 0:10:46.370 lies to. So be entangled and enwrapped in who you are. 0:10:46.530 --> 0:10:49.170 That they do not let you function like the woman 0:10:49.170 --> 0:10:52.370 of God that he's called you to be. And here's 0:10:52.370 --> 0:10:54.730 what the Bible says. The Bible says you shall know 0:10:54.730 --> 0:10:59.050 the truth, and the truth shall set you free. 0:11:04.970 --> 0:11:08.130 You're listening to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. Mark will 0:11:08.130 --> 0:11:10.770 be back to continue today's message in a minute. Let 0:11:10.770 --> 0:11:12.490 me remind you, though, that you can find all of 0:11:12.490 --> 0:11:15.010 these daily lessons, along with other faith building tools and 0:11:15.010 --> 0:11:19.250 resources on our website. Bold steps org. In fact, there's 0:11:19.250 --> 0:11:22.010 one resource that thousands of listeners are enjoying every week 0:11:22.010 --> 0:11:24.530 that you can get for free. And that's Mark's weekly 0:11:24.530 --> 0:11:28.410 email devotional called The Bold Stepper Weekly. Those who have 0:11:28.410 --> 0:11:30.809 subscribed Mark got it this past Monday morning. 0:11:30.850 --> 0:11:35.010 Absolutely nice and early, and we like to say this 0:11:35.010 --> 0:11:37.850 is a great way to kickstart your week. 0:11:38.290 --> 0:11:42.850 And there's devotional thoughts. Ministry updates this past bold step 0:11:42.850 --> 0:11:45.890 where we talked about the fact that this is a 0:11:45.890 --> 0:11:50.929 season where many, many young people, high schoolers and college 0:11:50.929 --> 0:11:54.890 age are coming to Christ, and often our culture has 0:11:55.290 --> 0:12:01.900 dismissed them as cynical or lazy Z or confused, but 0:12:01.900 --> 0:12:04.140 I believe there's a lot of hope in this generation 0:12:04.140 --> 0:12:07.580 as I see them responding to God and awakening to God. 0:12:07.900 --> 0:12:10.460 And so I think you'll be encouraged, especially if you 0:12:10.460 --> 0:12:13.540 have a heart for this generation to listen or to 0:12:13.580 --> 0:12:16.179 read this past week's Bold stepper. 0:12:16.220 --> 0:12:18.220 Yeah. And you can receive this free of charge. And 0:12:18.220 --> 0:12:19.900 by the way, you have an interesting front row seat 0:12:19.900 --> 0:12:22.540 to what's going on with this generation. Mark, so glad 0:12:22.540 --> 0:12:24.700 you talked about that. But you can receive The Bold 0:12:24.700 --> 0:12:28.300 Stepper Weekly today by signing up at Bold Steps. Org. 0:12:28.340 --> 0:12:31.140 Look for the devotional tab and then sign up for 0:12:31.140 --> 0:12:34.420 the Bold Stepper weekly. All right, back to our message, 0:12:34.420 --> 0:12:37.900 now titled The Daughter Factor. Once again, here's Mark Jobe. 0:12:44.460 --> 0:12:47.220 And so it's this the truth of the Word of 0:12:47.220 --> 0:12:53.100 God that starts ripping away the lives, tearing away the 0:12:53.100 --> 0:12:56.780 lies that have entangled our view of ourselves, our view 0:12:56.780 --> 0:13:01.980 of God, our view of others. you see. Romans chapter 12, 0:13:02.020 --> 0:13:07.340 verse two says, but be transformed by the renewing of 0:13:07.340 --> 0:13:11.939 your mind. Ladies, I believe in the power of prayer. 0:13:13.460 --> 0:13:17.380 I believe that God changes things through prayer. But, but, 0:13:17.380 --> 0:13:20.020 but listen to me. There are certain things that are 0:13:20.020 --> 0:13:22.660 only going to be changed through the renewing of your mind. 0:13:23.740 --> 0:13:26.220 There's not a magical prayer that's going to heal you. 0:13:26.620 --> 0:13:30.140 God can set you free from unforgiveness, but your mind 0:13:30.140 --> 0:13:34.900 takes time to be renewed. Do you understand the difference 0:13:35.420 --> 0:13:38.579 that you can be set free to go in renewal, 0:13:38.580 --> 0:13:42.860 but it's a process to turn those wrong thinking into 0:13:42.900 --> 0:13:46.500 right thinking, to start to embrace that God truly does 0:13:46.500 --> 0:13:49.020 love you. To start to embrace that there is no 0:13:49.020 --> 0:13:51.740 condemnation to those that are in Christ Jesus, but that 0:13:51.740 --> 0:13:55.660 you are. You are free from guilt or condemnation. There's 0:13:55.700 --> 0:13:59.420 it takes time to start to realize that there is 0:13:59.420 --> 0:14:04.270 a powerful love that you've never maybe experienced before that 0:14:04.270 --> 0:14:07.670 is healing and transformational, and that when you're filled with it, 0:14:07.670 --> 0:14:10.309 you can give it to others as well. It takes 0:14:10.309 --> 0:14:12.989 time to embrace the truth of the Word of God. 0:14:15.309 --> 0:14:18.750 Many women are unable to give love and affection because 0:14:18.750 --> 0:14:22.790 they struggle in receiving it from their heavenly father. So 0:14:23.310 --> 0:14:26.190 this is a fill in the blank, by the way, women, 0:14:26.190 --> 0:14:29.830 unable to experience the love of the father tend to 0:14:29.830 --> 0:14:36.430 struggle with a few things. Lack of inner joy. You say, well, 0:14:36.430 --> 0:14:39.110 pastor Mark, I'm a believer, but I seem like I 0:14:39.110 --> 0:14:43.510 don't have a lot of joy. Because when you're doing 0:14:43.510 --> 0:14:47.550 things out of guilt or out of obligation, and not 0:14:47.550 --> 0:14:51.030 out of the sense of connection and community and relationship 0:14:51.030 --> 0:14:55.070 with the father, then it becomes drudgery. It becomes, I 0:14:55.070 --> 0:14:58.030 have to measure up. I go to church not because 0:14:58.030 --> 0:14:59.630 I want to be in the presence of the father, 0:14:59.630 --> 0:15:02.200 but because I feel like, well, that's what I'm supposed 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:04.440 to do, and maybe God will punish me if I don't. 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:12.080 And so it's a guilt driven, feel empowered, not love driven, 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:22.000 grace and powered relationship with our father. Insecurity in relationships 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:24.440 when you don't know who you are. Here's the thing 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:27.680 about the mother, the the father daughter factor, and the 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:31.080 mother daughter factor. I believe that they both leave vacuums 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.840 in our life, but I believe that a father helps 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:40.360 instill identity and oftentimes a sense of value and worth. 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:44.360 Mothers who are more nurturing when there's a lack of 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:50.520 a mother's presence, it tends to instill insecurity and a 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:57.760 sense of not belonging. Both are equally damaging, and some 0:15:57.760 --> 0:16:04.040 of you struggle with either one of those. Uh, mother 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:08.240 vacuum or a father vacuum. But I think they show 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:14.000 up in different ways. When you struggle with the love 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:19.200 of the father, there's a tendency to feel inadequate. Like 0:16:19.200 --> 0:16:22.680 there's something wrong with me. Why? There's some of you 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:24.480 that your father walked out on you when you were 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:27.160 five years old. And no matter what you tell a 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:30.040 five year old, part of their thinking is, why did 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:33.040 he leave me? There's something probably wrong with me. There's 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.880 something probably inside of me. And your mother may have 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:37.440 told you. Baby. It has nothing to do with your 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.920 dad loves you. It's between mom and dad. No matter 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:42.240 what you tell a five year old. In their mind, 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:45.600 they say he left me. He's not around. And maybe 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:50.200 he started in another family. So what is wrong with me? 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:56.560 There's something really powerful, though, with the presence of a 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:59.000 man or a father that speaks into the heart of 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:04.119 a daughter and says to her, hey, because the father 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:09.560 is the first. Person a little girl ever loves. In fact, 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:11.880 up to a certain age, when you ask the little girl, 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:13.320 so who are you going to marry? Little girl, say 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:18.119 my daddy. It's the first love of their life. They're 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:21.280 learning how they should be treated by a man, by 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:25.240 how their father treats them. Listen, some of you have 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.439 gone to abusive relationships because you learn from your father 0:17:28.440 --> 0:17:30.320 that it was okay. You saw it in your household 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:33.199 with your mother, and you grew up expecting. That's how 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:36.200 a woman should be treated. And you didn't understand? No, no, 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:39.720 that's not how a woman should be treated. If you 0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:43.240 grew up in a household where you were taught respect 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:45.440 and and hey, you don't talk to a woman that way. 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:47.600 You don't. You raise your hand when you were taught 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:49.919 that you have dignity and value, then you know what? 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:53.920 When you see toxicity, when you see abuse, when you 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:56.360 see someone treat, you walk away from it. Because I'm 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:58.359 not going to I'm not going to allow you to 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:01.690 treat me that way because you've been taught there's a standard. 0:18:02.130 --> 0:18:04.930 That's not how you treat a woman. And so you're 0:18:04.930 --> 0:18:09.850 able to walk away from broken, toxic, abusive relationships because 0:18:09.850 --> 0:18:12.770 you have been taught a standard of what that's like. 0:18:12.970 --> 0:18:18.490 The greatest protection for daughters to not be in abusive 0:18:18.490 --> 0:18:21.130 relationships and to be able to stand up for it, 0:18:21.170 --> 0:18:24.690 is a loving father that speaks dignity, value and worth 0:18:24.690 --> 0:18:30.650 into the heart of their daughters. I used to tell 0:18:30.650 --> 0:18:32.730 my daughter when I dropped her off in high school. She. 0:18:32.850 --> 0:18:36.250 Pretty girl, pretty cheerleader, pretty girl. Everybody was talking. Hey, 0:18:36.410 --> 0:18:39.290 your daughter's so cute. She's so pretty. And I and 0:18:39.290 --> 0:18:43.449 she was. And she is. But I would always tell her, 0:18:43.450 --> 0:18:45.969 I said, you know. Hey, Marissa, look at me. She says, 0:18:45.970 --> 0:18:47.970 I know, I know, I'm more than a pretty face. 0:18:47.970 --> 0:18:49.889 Because I would tell her that you're more than a 0:18:49.890 --> 0:18:53.170 pretty face. You got intelligent, you got a personality, you 0:18:53.210 --> 0:18:56.770 got brains. You got there's much more than just a 0:18:56.770 --> 0:19:00.580 pretty face. You're much more than that. At. And I 0:19:00.580 --> 0:19:02.979 believe that when we do not fully grasp when we 0:19:02.980 --> 0:19:06.420 have a father vacuum, there's a tendency to feel inadequate, 0:19:06.420 --> 0:19:11.780 inability to express love to others freely and unexplained feelings. 0:19:11.780 --> 0:19:17.500 Here you go of rejection. Unexplained. Why do I feel 0:19:17.500 --> 0:19:20.780 when I walk into a room like the first thing 0:19:20.780 --> 0:19:22.380 that comes to my mind? Do people like me? Do 0:19:22.380 --> 0:19:24.500 I fit in? Am I dressed right? Do I talk right? 0:19:24.500 --> 0:19:26.540 Are people going to look? Some of you coming to 0:19:26.540 --> 0:19:30.340 this conference that's been your biggest issue. You walk in 0:19:30.340 --> 0:19:32.780 a room like this and you think, am I dressed right? 0:19:33.060 --> 0:19:37.179 Do people like me? Am I going to say the 0:19:37.180 --> 0:19:41.979 right words? Do I fit in? When you're secure in 0:19:42.020 --> 0:19:44.899 who you are, you're not asking those questions as much. 0:19:45.460 --> 0:19:48.300 You're able to say, this is who I am, and 0:19:48.300 --> 0:19:50.780 I know who I am, and I love who I am. 0:19:51.180 --> 0:19:53.620 This is the way God made me. And it's not 0:19:53.619 --> 0:19:56.219 about what do people think about me? Because you've already 0:19:56.220 --> 0:19:59.340 been established in your worth and your value that's been 0:19:59.460 --> 0:20:02.620 given to you by your earthly father and by your 0:20:02.619 --> 0:20:05.700 heavenly father who's spoken into your life, that you are 0:20:05.740 --> 0:20:11.659 a daughter of the Most High God. Ephesians chapter three. 0:20:12.900 --> 0:20:16.420 The Apostle Paul is telling to believers, and he he's 0:20:16.420 --> 0:20:20.140 talking to people that are struggling with understanding who they 0:20:20.140 --> 0:20:23.540 are in God. And he says, and I pray that you, 0:20:23.540 --> 0:20:29.340 being rooted and established in love may have the power. 0:20:30.700 --> 0:20:33.219 The Greek word is dunamis, which where we get the 0:20:33.220 --> 0:20:38.100 word dynamite from. That's explosive power together with all the 0:20:38.100 --> 0:20:45.139 believers to grasp how wide, how long, how high, how 0:20:45.180 --> 0:20:49.700 deep is the love of Christ? And to know this 0:20:49.700 --> 0:20:54.139 love that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled to 0:20:54.180 --> 0:20:57.020 the fullness of the measure of God. You know what 0:20:57.020 --> 0:21:00.859 he's saying? He's saying, I want you to experience not 0:21:00.859 --> 0:21:03.860 just head knowledge about the love of God. I wanted 0:21:03.859 --> 0:21:08.500 to so saturate you that you can't explain it, but 0:21:08.500 --> 0:21:10.020 you know you're walking in it. 0:21:19.060 --> 0:21:21.980 You're listening to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe, the middle 0:21:21.980 --> 0:21:25.260 of a lesson titled The Daughter Factor. If you've missed 0:21:25.260 --> 0:21:27.260 any part of this message so far, let me invite 0:21:27.260 --> 0:21:30.619 you to catch up right now when you visit. Bold steps.org. 0:21:31.180 --> 0:21:33.899 As a listener supported ministry, Bold Steps relies on the 0:21:33.900 --> 0:21:37.180 voluntary donations of friends like you who share our vision. 0:21:37.460 --> 0:21:39.740 And right now, you can give a one time gift 0:21:39.740 --> 0:21:42.419 or sign up to become a bold partner. When you 0:21:42.460 --> 0:21:45.300 commit to giving a monthly donation of any amount for 0:21:45.300 --> 0:21:48.660 either opportunity. Just click the donate button at our website 0:21:48.660 --> 0:21:59.139 at Bold Steps. Or call us at 800. That's (800) 356-6639. Well, Mark, 0:21:59.140 --> 0:22:01.670 we are very excited about our bold step gift. This 0:22:01.670 --> 0:22:05.470 month is called Lies Girls Believe and the truth that 0:22:05.470 --> 0:22:08.429 Sets them Free. Now the author, Dannah Gresh is with us. 0:22:08.430 --> 0:22:11.430 And Dana, I want to commend you because not only 0:22:11.430 --> 0:22:16.630 is this book so full of wisdom, biblical wisdom and insight, 0:22:16.630 --> 0:22:19.950 but you've organized it in such a fun way. I 0:22:19.950 --> 0:22:22.230 would imagine young girls look at this and think, I 0:22:22.270 --> 0:22:23.830 want to pick this up and read this. 0:22:24.109 --> 0:22:27.030 I hope so, you thrill my heart saying that. That makes. 0:22:27.030 --> 0:22:31.389 Thank you. Because years ago I was a cheerleader in 0:22:31.390 --> 0:22:35.429 a Christian high school, and my cheerleading coach did a 0:22:35.430 --> 0:22:38.350 Devo with me on the Bible verse. I don't know 0:22:38.350 --> 0:22:40.710 the reference, but it says whatever your hand finds to do, 0:22:40.750 --> 0:22:44.990 do it with all your might. And if you're listening 0:22:44.990 --> 0:22:47.470 and you've done demos with teenagers listens, they stick with 0:22:47.470 --> 0:22:50.630 you for years, for decades. That that Devo has stuck 0:22:50.630 --> 0:22:53.830 with me and I've always wanted to do anything I do. 0:22:54.830 --> 0:22:57.230 I wanted to give Jesus my best. So when we 0:22:57.230 --> 0:23:01.110 wrote lies, Girls Believe, I went to the bookstore, the 0:23:01.150 --> 0:23:04.070 secular bookstore, and I looked at the bookshelves and I said, 0:23:04.070 --> 0:23:07.390 what are the best books here that are being sold 0:23:07.390 --> 0:23:10.750 to these tween girls? And I picked up books with cartoons, 0:23:10.750 --> 0:23:13.470 and I picked up books with graphics and art and 0:23:13.630 --> 0:23:18.510 just thrilling, fun books. And I was like, lies girls 0:23:18.510 --> 0:23:21.750 believe is gonna look like that. And I think it does. 0:23:21.790 --> 0:23:24.550 I really think it does. I think it's absolutely beautiful. 0:23:24.550 --> 0:23:26.429 So thank you for saying that. I think it matters 0:23:26.430 --> 0:23:29.150 and it draws them through the content. It keeps them 0:23:29.150 --> 0:23:31.270 engaged in the content and it makes it a really 0:23:31.270 --> 0:23:32.550 fun experience for them. 0:23:32.710 --> 0:23:35.429 Well, it's so creative the way that you've done it here, Mark. 0:23:35.430 --> 0:23:37.790 I just think it's it's going to really have hit 0:23:37.790 --> 0:23:39.190 the mark with these young girls. 0:23:39.230 --> 0:23:42.630 Absolutely. I'm holding a copy in my hand scrolling through 0:23:42.630 --> 0:23:49.189 the pages. And there is great compelling artwork, creative, colorful, uh, 0:23:49.310 --> 0:23:53.350 design specifically for 8 to 12 year olds. But more 0:23:53.350 --> 0:23:57.630 important even than the art. Is the message so important. 0:23:57.630 --> 0:24:00.640 So if you're a mother that's struggling with how to 0:24:00.640 --> 0:24:03.040 reach the heart of your 8 to 12 year old, 0:24:03.040 --> 0:24:05.840 or how to help them navigate some of the peer 0:24:05.880 --> 0:24:09.159 pressure that they're experiencing at school, or if they're asking 0:24:09.160 --> 0:24:14.560 spiritual questions or asking questions about sex, identity, who they are. 0:24:15.520 --> 0:24:19.360 This is not a topic or time that you can ignore. 0:24:19.400 --> 0:24:22.560 You need to jump in that and disciple your daughters. 0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:28.080 So this tool is specifically designed for that. Thank you Dana. 0:24:28.280 --> 0:24:30.160 My pleasure. Thank you so much. 0:24:30.400 --> 0:24:33.240 To request your copy of Lies Girls Believe, just give 0:24:33.240 --> 0:24:35.760 a gift of any amount to support bold steps by 0:24:35.800 --> 0:24:39.120 going online to Bold Steps. Org or call us today 0:24:39.119 --> 0:24:42.760 at 800 Moody. You can even send your check in 0:24:42.760 --> 0:24:46.360 the mail. Just address your envelope to bold steps. 820 0:24:46.400 --> 0:24:53.960 North LaSalle Boulevard, Chicago, Illinois 60,006 ten again. 820 North LaSalle, Chicago, 0:24:54.000 --> 0:24:58.520 Illinois 606 ten. And quickly, before we close, I want 0:24:58.520 --> 0:25:01.600 to invite you to download our Bold Steps app, available 0:25:01.600 --> 0:25:04.359 in your app store. We have a variety of inspiring 0:25:04.359 --> 0:25:07.800 videos and insightful teaching series available for you, so make 0:25:07.800 --> 0:25:10.239 sure to download the Bold Steps app and check it 0:25:10.240 --> 0:25:13.640 out today. And don't miss the Bold Steps Weekend program 0:25:13.640 --> 0:25:17.080 this Saturday and Sunday. Get ready for more inspirational teaching 0:25:17.080 --> 0:25:19.800 from Mark that will keep you energized and encouraged all 0:25:19.800 --> 0:25:22.640 weekend long. It's a perfect way to stay focused on 0:25:22.640 --> 0:25:26.200 God and fill your weekend with powerful insights. Tune in 0:25:26.200 --> 0:25:30.000 and let Mark's messages carry you through to the week ahead. Well, 0:25:30.000 --> 0:25:32.720 that's all our time for today. I'm Wayne Shepherd and 0:25:32.720 --> 0:25:34.600 we will see you next week with the conclusion of 0:25:34.600 --> 0:25:38.120 Mark's message. The Daughter Factor that will be coming up 0:25:38.119 --> 0:25:43.000 Monday right here on Bold Steps with Mark John. Bold 0:25:43.000 --> 0:25:45.959 steps is a production of Moody Radio, a ministry of 0:25:45.960 --> 0:25:47.439 Moody Bible Institute.