WEBVTT - Untangling Life Without Losing Your Peace – Part 1 0:00:00.840 --> 0:00:04.640 When life gets messy in our relationships seem all tangled up. 0:00:04.640 --> 0:00:07.520 How do we get untangled? That's the message today on 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:08.440 bold steps. 0:00:09.560 --> 0:00:11.960 We have issues because we're human. We have issues because 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:14.280 we're falling. We have issues because God is still working 0:00:14.280 --> 0:00:16.120 in our life. And when you put a bunch of 0:00:16.120 --> 0:00:19.000 people with issues together in the same place, our issues 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:21.759 are going to splash over to other people's issues. We 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:26.000 are entangled in ways that do not allow us to 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:28.640 fulfill the purpose that God has for our life. 0:00:41.240 --> 0:00:44.279 And welcome to Bold Steps with Mark job. Mark is 0:00:44.280 --> 0:00:47.160 president of Moody Bible Institute and senior pastor of New 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:50.480 Life Community Church in Chicago. I'm Wayne Shepherd. Well, we've 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:52.440 all had the frustration of dealing with things that are 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:55.080 tangled in a mess just like that, caught in your 0:00:55.080 --> 0:00:57.639 backpack that always finds a way to get tangled up. 0:00:57.640 --> 0:01:02.000 But when it comes to our relationships, entanglement can cause frustration. 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:04.520 There's pain, even a losing of our joy. And Mark. 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:06.520 You're going to help us face our issues today and 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:08.399 take some steps to untangle them. 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:11.480 Yeah. We're going to look at two women in the 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:15.679 Bible that are both mentioned just one time. But how 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:18.000 would you like your name to be mentioned in the Bible? 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:23.080 Because you're not getting along. So but the Apostle Paul 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:27.320 speaks to them about untangling the relationship and kind of 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:31.600 guides them through this process. And so if you're listening 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:34.480 right now and you say, you know, I'm not talking 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:37.480 to this person or I'm at odds with this person, 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:40.160 and maybe they're a family member, a believer that you 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:43.200 are just not getting along with. Hey, God wants you 0:01:43.200 --> 0:01:44.800 to hear this message today. 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:46.520 Well, let's go ahead and get started now with this 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:50.919 brand new lesson. It's titled Untangling Life Without Losing Your Peace. 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:51.920 Here's Mark. 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:57.000 It happened to me this past weekend. My wife and 0:01:57.000 --> 0:02:02.530 I were getting ready for Graduation and she comes up 0:02:02.530 --> 0:02:07.730 to me. This is my job. I know it. No 0:02:07.730 --> 0:02:10.209 one gave me this job description when we got married, 0:02:10.210 --> 0:02:14.049 but I know it's my job now. I'm the untangler 0:02:14.050 --> 0:02:20.410 of necklaces. We got a couple minutes to go. We're 0:02:20.410 --> 0:02:24.370 in a hurry. And invariably she says to me. Can 0:02:24.370 --> 0:02:28.290 you untangle my necklace? And she hands it to me. 0:02:28.530 --> 0:02:31.170 And so I grab it, and it's knotted up and 0:02:31.169 --> 0:02:34.650 tangled with a bunch of. And I just realized I 0:02:34.650 --> 0:02:38.169 have big hands when it comes untangling necklaces. These are small. 0:02:38.330 --> 0:02:40.570 And I'm trying to pull it apart. And this. And 0:02:40.570 --> 0:02:43.610 she says, is it done? Not yet. Honey, how did this. 0:02:43.610 --> 0:02:46.690 I'm wondering, how did these necklaces get so entangled? But, 0:02:46.730 --> 0:02:49.530 you know, you throw a bunch of necklaces together. Ladies, 0:02:49.530 --> 0:02:51.810 are you looking at me like. Yeah, you throw. How 0:02:51.810 --> 0:02:54.210 many of you spend 15 minutes doing it this morning? 0:02:54.210 --> 0:02:56.730 You throw a bunch of necklaces together and somehow they 0:02:56.730 --> 0:03:02.090 get entangled. It's the very same thing with people. You 0:03:02.130 --> 0:03:05.210 throw a bunch of people together in a family, in 0:03:05.210 --> 0:03:10.850 a community, at a job, in a neighborhood, and invariably 0:03:11.050 --> 0:03:16.570 those relationships get entangled. Some of it's good entanglement. Some 0:03:16.570 --> 0:03:23.570 of it's very toxic, unhealthy, bad conflictive relationships. We as 0:03:23.570 --> 0:03:27.570 people are complicated. The truth of it is that you 0:03:27.570 --> 0:03:34.010 have issues and I have issues. I like to do 0:03:34.010 --> 0:03:35.730 this once in a while. Can you tell the person 0:03:35.730 --> 0:03:37.330 beside you? Just look at the person beside you and 0:03:37.330 --> 0:03:43.690 say you have issues. Hey, are you happy that you're 0:03:43.690 --> 0:03:46.730 in a church full of people that have issues? And 0:03:46.730 --> 0:03:48.410 some of them looked at you and said, you have 0:03:48.410 --> 0:03:50.610 more issues than I have. I could tell right away 0:03:50.810 --> 0:03:54.250 by that conversation. But here's the thing. I just want 0:03:54.250 --> 0:03:57.570 you to be clear. This is not a church for 0:03:57.570 --> 0:04:00.490 perfect people, or it would be empty. This is a 0:04:00.620 --> 0:04:03.860 church with people that have issues. We have issues because 0:04:03.860 --> 0:04:06.180 we're human. We have issues because we're fallen. We have 0:04:06.180 --> 0:04:08.820 issues because God is still working in our life. And 0:04:08.820 --> 0:04:10.980 when you put a bunch of people with issues together 0:04:10.980 --> 0:04:13.620 in the same place, our issues are going to splash 0:04:13.620 --> 0:04:17.380 over to other people's issues. We have insecurities, we have 0:04:17.380 --> 0:04:21.220 trust issues, we have brokenness from our past. We have 0:04:21.220 --> 0:04:26.500 scars from relationships that maybe disappointed us. We have authority 0:04:26.540 --> 0:04:29.099 issues of people that should have been there and were 0:04:29.100 --> 0:04:31.860 not there. And so when we get together and try 0:04:31.860 --> 0:04:35.020 to work it out in community, we end up with 0:04:35.020 --> 0:04:40.539 a lot of entangled messes, whether we are Christian or not. Christian, 0:04:40.740 --> 0:04:45.700 we have relationship issues. It was true of us. It 0:04:45.700 --> 0:04:49.340 was true of the New Testament as well. It was 0:04:49.339 --> 0:04:53.140 true of Jesus and his disciples. Sometimes we I hear 0:04:53.140 --> 0:04:55.900 people say, I just wish I could have been with 0:04:55.900 --> 0:05:02.180 Jesus and the disciples. They were so spiritual. Yeah, but 0:05:02.180 --> 0:05:05.780 they had issues too. The disciples argued about who was 0:05:05.779 --> 0:05:09.339 going to be greatest in the kingdom. Judas betrayed Jesus 0:05:09.339 --> 0:05:13.780 for 30 pieces of silver. Peter denied Jesus a few times. 0:05:13.900 --> 0:05:16.660 They argued about who was going to sit at his 0:05:16.660 --> 0:05:18.740 right hand, or who was not going to do it. 0:05:18.740 --> 0:05:22.659 Jesus had to rebuke them. Sometimes he had to encourage them, 0:05:22.660 --> 0:05:26.060 sometimes because they had issues as well. So to be 0:05:26.060 --> 0:05:29.779 human and to be in relationship means that we have 0:05:29.779 --> 0:05:33.220 issues and entanglement. And so I want to talk to 0:05:33.220 --> 0:05:37.860 you about that, those issues and entanglement today, because I 0:05:37.860 --> 0:05:43.980 do believe that sometimes we are entangled in ways that 0:05:43.980 --> 0:05:47.580 do not allow us to fulfill the purpose that God 0:05:47.580 --> 0:05:53.140 has for our life. Some of you today are stressed out, 0:05:54.820 --> 0:06:02.670 are frustrated, are joyless because of your relationship issues. And 0:06:02.670 --> 0:06:04.990 I want to talk to you about how to manage those, 0:06:04.990 --> 0:06:08.270 how to step into them, how to not avoid them, 0:06:08.790 --> 0:06:14.150 but how to step right into them through the principles 0:06:14.350 --> 0:06:17.590 given to us in the Word of God. So I'm 0:06:17.589 --> 0:06:21.150 going to talk to you about untangling life without losing 0:06:21.150 --> 0:06:24.230 your peace. I want to read to you out of 0:06:25.070 --> 0:06:29.310 Philippians chapter four. I'm going to begin in verse one 0:06:29.550 --> 0:06:33.710 and read to verse three. It says, therefore the apostle Paul, 0:06:33.750 --> 0:06:35.910 by the way, is writing to a group of people 0:06:35.910 --> 0:06:40.550 in the city of Philippi. If you read acts chapter 16, 0:06:40.630 --> 0:06:44.310 it was on Paul's second missionary journey that out of 0:06:44.310 --> 0:06:48.110 a prayer meeting of women, they birthed the church. So 0:06:48.110 --> 0:06:52.029 this is a young church, uh, full of issues. They're 0:06:52.070 --> 0:06:55.510 figuring out what it means to be followers of Jesus, 0:06:55.510 --> 0:06:57.750 figuring out what it means to walk in a Christ 0:06:57.790 --> 0:07:01.469 like way. Like many of us are in this church 0:07:01.470 --> 0:07:04.750 as well. And the Apostle Paul is writing a letter 0:07:04.750 --> 0:07:09.190 inspired by the Holy Spirit. By the way, the Apostle 0:07:09.190 --> 0:07:12.430 Paul wrote many of the books in the New Testament. 0:07:14.470 --> 0:07:18.670 These letters are to churches, often of people that are 0:07:18.670 --> 0:07:22.550 coming out of non-Christian lifestyles and trying to figure out 0:07:22.550 --> 0:07:25.790 what it means to live for Christ. And so he's 0:07:25.790 --> 0:07:28.990 writing to them, and he says in Philippians chapter four 0:07:29.030 --> 0:07:33.430 verse one, therefore, my beloved brothers and sisters, whom I 0:07:33.470 --> 0:07:37.910 love and long for, he was in prison writing to them, 0:07:37.950 --> 0:07:40.870 hadn't seen them in a while. My joy and my 0:07:40.870 --> 0:07:47.110 crown stand firm in the Lord in this way, dear friends. 0:07:47.750 --> 0:07:53.590 He says, I plead with you and Senshi to be 0:07:53.590 --> 0:07:57.190 of the same mind in the Lord. Yes, I ask you, 0:07:57.190 --> 0:08:01.240 my true companion, help these women since they have contended 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:04.600 at my side in the cause of the gospel, along 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:08.560 with Clement and the rest of my co-workers whose names 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:12.360 are in the book of life. Rejoice in the Lord always. 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:16.760 And again I say, rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:21.600 to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:26.320 about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:30.360 with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:35.960 of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:40.880 and your minds in Christ Jesus. If you're taking notes, 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:42.720 write this down. Number one, I'm going to talk to 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:47.280 you about four ways of untangling your relationships without losing 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:57.560 your peace. Number one, resolve relational conflict quickly. The apostle 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:04.280 Paul says, I plead with you, Utopia. And some people say, well, 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:08.400 how do you say the second name? Literally the right 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:13.120 right wording of it is soon to gay, soon to gay. 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:16.440 We say sin to chi or however you want to 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:21.000 pronounce it. These are the only times that these ladies 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:24.760 names are mentioned in scripture. This is how not to 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:29.560 be mentioned in the Bible. The only thing we know 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:33.880 is that these two ladies were at odds with each other. 0:09:34.320 --> 0:09:38.080 They were fighting with each other. We also know that 0:09:38.080 --> 0:09:41.160 they were Christians. We know that they helped start the 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:46.000 church with Paul. We know that they were strongly involved 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:50.920 in ministry with Paul, probably inviting people, opening up their house, 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:56.559 witnessing to people, gathering people, leading Bible studies, doing all 0:09:56.559 --> 0:10:00.490 the things that hard workers do that love Jesus. But 0:10:00.490 --> 0:10:05.010 yet they had a problem. They just couldn't stand each other. 0:10:08.010 --> 0:10:12.770 Yet they love God and their names. It's clearly it 0:10:12.770 --> 0:10:15.770 says your names are written in the Lamb's Book of Life. 0:10:16.809 --> 0:10:20.170 We don't know what they were arguing about, but I've 0:10:20.170 --> 0:10:26.130 been around enough people long enough to know that usually 0:10:26.730 --> 0:10:32.610 it's petty issues. It doesn't tell us that there were 0:10:32.610 --> 0:10:35.970 big theological doctrines. It doesn't tell us that this was 0:10:35.970 --> 0:10:40.410 about some interpretation of eschatology, the end times. It tells 0:10:40.410 --> 0:10:43.250 us that they just couldn't get along. But my experience 0:10:43.250 --> 0:10:46.570 with people leads me to believe that it was probably 0:10:46.570 --> 0:10:51.970 over something petty. You said you were going to bring 0:10:51.970 --> 0:10:55.090 the guacamole to the woman's gathering, and you know what? 0:10:55.090 --> 0:10:57.650 You didn't. You brought the chips instead. And I really 0:10:57.770 --> 0:10:59.450 wanted you to do that. I brought the chips and 0:10:59.450 --> 0:11:03.450 you didn't do that. You are so irresponsible. Oh I'm irresponsible. 0:11:03.450 --> 0:11:05.410 You don't know the amount of work that I've put 0:11:05.410 --> 0:11:07.690 in and the things that I do and sacrifice. Are 0:11:07.690 --> 0:11:10.290 you undermining me? You do work. I do a lot 0:11:10.290 --> 0:11:12.930 more work than you do. Last week, we showed up, 0:11:12.929 --> 0:11:14.689 and I expected you to be there. And you were 0:11:14.690 --> 0:11:17.370 just out praying with someone while I was doing all 0:11:17.370 --> 0:11:19.450 the work. Oh, really? So you think all I do 0:11:19.450 --> 0:11:21.290 is pray and don't enter the word? Let me tell 0:11:21.290 --> 0:11:23.610 you what you do. And they have this conflict. They 0:11:23.610 --> 0:11:26.690 have this battle, and suddenly they're not talking to each other. 0:11:26.690 --> 0:11:30.050 They're talking to other people about each other. And now 0:11:30.050 --> 0:11:37.650 you have a big rift. Does that sound familiar to anybody? Well, 0:11:39.210 --> 0:11:42.370 the apostle Paul is saying, hey, these are two great women, 0:11:42.370 --> 0:11:46.770 and I want you to understand what he encourages. A 0:11:46.770 --> 0:11:52.330 fellow worker. He calls him Yokefellow, but was actually translated 0:11:52.330 --> 0:11:57.610 as it's actually his name. He says yes. And I 0:11:57.610 --> 0:12:02.260 ask you, loyal You'll yell, follow! Help these women who 0:12:02.260 --> 0:12:05.500 have contended at my side for the cause of the gospel. 0:12:05.740 --> 0:12:09.939 So basically, what the Apostle Paul says is these women 0:12:10.059 --> 0:12:16.700 cannot figure out their relational conflict. So please get a mediator. 0:12:17.660 --> 0:12:23.860 Get a mediator. Can I say this? Obviously, these women 0:12:23.860 --> 0:12:27.260 had probably tried to talk with each other, solve it 0:12:27.260 --> 0:12:30.140 on their own, but they were unable to solve and 0:12:30.140 --> 0:12:33.980 resolve their own issues. And so the Apostle Paul, inspired 0:12:33.980 --> 0:12:37.740 by the spirit led by the Holy Spirit, says, get 0:12:37.740 --> 0:12:43.220 a mediator. There are some of you in this auditorium 0:12:43.220 --> 0:12:46.380 today that you have conflict with people that you love. 0:12:48.820 --> 0:12:54.179 But you have been unable to resolve the conflict, and 0:12:54.179 --> 0:12:58.180 you have too much pride to try to get a mediator. 0:12:59.940 --> 0:13:03.500 I believe that your relationship is worth mediation. 0:13:10.460 --> 0:13:13.180 You're listening to Bold Steps with Marc Job. We'll continue 0:13:13.220 --> 0:13:16.020 today's message in a moment. Marc, there's something I've been 0:13:16.020 --> 0:13:17.939 noticing lately that I think many of our listeners are 0:13:17.940 --> 0:13:21.260 thinking about with so many voices competing for our attention. 0:13:21.340 --> 0:13:25.340 There's social media news cycles, workplace demands. It's easy to 0:13:25.380 --> 0:13:27.980 lose sight of what matters eternally. And I find myself 0:13:27.980 --> 0:13:30.980 wondering how many Christians today are investing their best resources 0:13:30.980 --> 0:13:33.380 in things that won't ultimately last. 0:13:33.420 --> 0:13:36.300 You know, Wayne, I remember when my youngest son was 0:13:36.300 --> 0:13:39.860 playing football in high school. It was a big game 0:13:40.100 --> 0:13:42.579 and I went there. I was cheering him on, and 0:13:42.580 --> 0:13:44.260 I got a phone call and I thought, well, let 0:13:44.260 --> 0:13:46.180 me pick up this phone call just for a moment. 0:13:46.179 --> 0:13:48.700 So I went down and I got on the phone call, 0:13:48.860 --> 0:13:52.100 and it was right at that time that my son, 0:13:52.420 --> 0:13:57.620 he intercepted a pass. And afterwards he said, dad, did 0:13:57.620 --> 0:13:59.940 you see that? And I had to say I missed 0:13:59.940 --> 0:14:03.270 miss the moment I was distracted by something and in 0:14:03.270 --> 0:14:06.390 the end, it wasn't an urgent phone call. Listen, right 0:14:06.390 --> 0:14:10.390 now there's a lot of distraction. The political environment in 0:14:10.390 --> 0:14:14.430 our country, there's a drama every day. There's a lot 0:14:14.470 --> 0:14:20.710 that's happening internationally. There's wars, there's natural disasters. It feels 0:14:20.710 --> 0:14:23.790 like we are just sucked into it. But I want 0:14:23.830 --> 0:14:28.790 to say, don't miss the moment. I believe that we 0:14:28.830 --> 0:14:32.230 are seeing more people come to Christ at this season 0:14:32.230 --> 0:14:35.470 of time, especially under the age of 35, than I 0:14:35.510 --> 0:14:39.670 have ever seen in our lifetime. It's happening in Africa 0:14:39.670 --> 0:14:42.510 and Europe. It's happening in the United States of America. 0:14:42.710 --> 0:14:48.070 We have bold steps, are committed to not get distracted, 0:14:48.070 --> 0:14:50.870 but to make sure that we are proclaiming the gospel 0:14:50.870 --> 0:14:54.590 of Jesus at a time of uncertainty so that people 0:14:54.590 --> 0:14:58.070 can come to know him in this window of opportunity 0:14:58.070 --> 0:15:01.560 that we have. So we want to encourage you. Pray. 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:02.880 Don't miss the moment. 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:05.440 Such an important word, Mark. Thank you. And if you 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:07.560 would like to become part of this eternal work today 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:10.440 by visiting us, you can do that at Bold steps.org 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:14.080 and make a gift or call us at 800 Moody. 0:15:14.320 --> 0:15:19.360 That's (800) 356-6639. And when you do, we'll send you a 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:21.560 special gift as a way of saying thanks for partnering 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:25.520 with us and sharing God's truth that will last eternally. 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:27.560 More on that later. But let's get back to the 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:29.680 message now. Again, here's Mark Jobe. 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:38.040 Look at me. Married couples. I believe that your marriage 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:44.480 is worth mediation. Look up at me. Men, especially husbands. 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:49.320 Because normally when I talk to married couples. I've had 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:54.000 this conversation dozens and dozens of times. A couple can't 0:15:54.000 --> 0:16:00.160 get along. There's barriers that have been lifted up. There's Disagreement. 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:03.120 They've been sleeping as far as they can on the 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:06.880 same bed to the edges. They're not talking to each other. 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:09.920 They're not getting along well. And so they just start 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:14.640 to accept a dysfunctional relationship because they've tried to talk 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:18.040 about it. And when they talk about it, someone clamps down, 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:22.360 someone gets aggressive, someone argues, so they shut down, they 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.280 stop talking, and then they say, well, this is just 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:28.240 how we're supposed to live. I guess. She doesn't listen. 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:30.520 He doesn't listen. So we're just going to, I guess, 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:35.560 accept that this is the way it is. And anytime 0:16:35.560 --> 0:16:38.960 that they are encouraged to get help, I've had a 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:42.600 lot of conversations with men like this, especially not exclusively. 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:47.240 But I'll say, what about counseling, pastor? We don't need counseling. 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:52.320 She just needs to get her act together. Look up 0:16:52.320 --> 0:16:57.720 at me. It is the ultimate arrogance when you can't 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:01.200 solve your issues to believe that no one else can 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:05.000 help you. There are some of you in this auditorium 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:08.520 that need to just humble yourselves a little bit and say, 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:12.240 we need a counselor. We need a mediator. We need 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:15.720 someone to help us navigate this. Just like the Apostle 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:18.840 Paul was telling these women who are good women who 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:21.080 love Jesus, whose names were written in the Lamb's Book 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:24.600 of Life, but they were unwilling to get help. And 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:28.600 he has to include a mediator in there to get 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:35.640 their problems solved. I believe, by the way, that one 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:38.000 of the great challenges that we face is that when 0:17:38.000 --> 0:17:42.600 we accept relational contention without trying to get it solved 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:45.280 as quickly as possible. Many of you know that I 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:49.119 grew up in a small town in northern Spain called Rubina. 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:52.879 Everybody in the town knew each other, but I'll never 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:57.800 forget that there was a brother and sister in their 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:02.490 70s who had not talked to each other for 20 years. 0:18:03.410 --> 0:18:09.450 20 years. Not spoken. Not said hi. Not been eating 0:18:09.450 --> 0:18:15.530 each other's birthday parties. Not helped each other out. Not 0:18:15.530 --> 0:18:19.410 come together during Mother's Day. Not celebrated Christmas together in 0:18:19.410 --> 0:18:23.770 a town of 220 years. Refused to say a word 0:18:23.770 --> 0:18:27.689 to each other. Why? At the death of their mother, 0:18:28.210 --> 0:18:33.490 there was some argument over inheritance, petty issues, and for 0:18:33.490 --> 0:18:37.450 20 years had refused to speak a word to one another. 0:18:38.450 --> 0:18:40.690 You know what? I've been at the funeral of way 0:18:40.690 --> 0:18:44.810 too many people. Where someone has their hand on the casket, 0:18:44.810 --> 0:18:47.810 they're looking at the body that's laid out, and they 0:18:47.810 --> 0:18:52.170 are crying and saying, I wish we would have got 0:18:52.170 --> 0:18:55.209 things right. I'm sorry that I didn't tell you. I 0:18:55.210 --> 0:18:57.970 don't know why we fought about this. It was just 0:18:57.970 --> 0:19:01.180 so dumb that we didn't talk. And I'm saying, why 0:19:01.220 --> 0:19:05.540 are you waiting for the funeral? There are some of 0:19:05.540 --> 0:19:09.340 you here right now that don't talk to people that 0:19:09.340 --> 0:19:12.980 you should be talking to, that you have no relationship with, 0:19:12.980 --> 0:19:15.859 people that you should have relationship with because it's over 0:19:15.859 --> 0:19:20.540 something petty. And at the funeral, you will be decrying 0:19:20.540 --> 0:19:24.340 the fact that you haven't conversed. I think God is 0:19:24.340 --> 0:19:27.500 telling you it's time to deal with it now. Not 0:19:27.500 --> 0:19:28.420 at the funeral. 0:19:38.220 --> 0:19:41.060 You're listening to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. A message 0:19:41.060 --> 0:19:45.179 titled Untangling Life Without Losing Your Peace. We'll continue our 0:19:45.180 --> 0:19:47.740 lesson at this time tomorrow. So join us again right here. 0:19:48.060 --> 0:19:49.979 But in case you ever want to revisit a previous 0:19:49.980 --> 0:19:51.860 message from Mark, or want to share one of these 0:19:51.859 --> 0:19:54.419 Bible teachings with a friend, just go to our website. 0:19:54.420 --> 0:19:57.860 Bold steps dot on our home page. You'll also see 0:19:57.859 --> 0:20:00.180 that we're offering a brand new bold step gift, one 0:20:00.180 --> 0:20:02.660 that really speaks to the moms and dads of young boys. 0:20:02.660 --> 0:20:04.340 And Mark, let me hand it back to you. 0:20:04.820 --> 0:20:09.340 Wayne. We have Jason and Aaron, their authors. They are 0:20:09.340 --> 0:20:13.659 married couple and they have written a book called Lies 0:20:13.700 --> 0:20:18.740 Boys Believe and the Epic Quest for truth. And great 0:20:18.740 --> 0:20:20.820 to have you in the studio with us. And one 0:20:20.820 --> 0:20:23.060 of the lies you address in this book is that 0:20:23.060 --> 0:20:28.420 following Jesus is boring. And I think that's, well, that's 0:20:28.420 --> 0:20:32.300 an important lie. Jesus is anything but boring, isn't it? Uh, 0:20:32.300 --> 0:20:35.179 so tell me why you think boys are susceptible to 0:20:35.220 --> 0:20:37.180 this particular deception? 0:20:37.660 --> 0:20:40.780 Well, a lot of times when boys are introduced to 0:20:40.820 --> 0:20:44.420 to faith and to Jesus, it involves a lot of 0:20:44.420 --> 0:20:48.540 sitting still, listening to a Bible story. If there is 0:20:48.540 --> 0:20:51.780 an activity, a lot of times, at least me growing up, 0:20:51.780 --> 0:20:56.780 it was like a flannel board with the story up there. And, uh. 0:20:56.820 --> 0:20:59.700 And Moses kept falling off the flannel board in my life. Yeah. 0:21:00.220 --> 0:21:04.660 That's right. And, uh, if if our modern boys are 0:21:04.660 --> 0:21:09.740 anything like I was, I had a real hard time appreciating, um, 0:21:09.780 --> 0:21:12.860 the stories when I had to sit still and be 0:21:12.859 --> 0:21:15.820 forced to hold my hands in my lap and, um, 0:21:15.900 --> 0:21:20.100 be super well behaved. But what we what we find 0:21:20.500 --> 0:21:24.060 in Scripture is that the life of Jesus was anything 0:21:24.060 --> 0:21:29.940 but boring. Uh, the things that boys yearn for in 0:21:29.980 --> 0:21:35.180 their innermost parts is the adventure of following a leader 0:21:35.180 --> 0:21:39.540 and leading other men. And that's exactly what we see 0:21:39.580 --> 0:21:42.939 in in the True Stories of Jesus, where he, uh, 0:21:42.940 --> 0:21:46.020 he went fishing. And when he was on adventure all 0:21:46.020 --> 0:21:49.699 the time, he was, uh, challenging people and encouraging them 0:21:49.700 --> 0:21:53.900 and healing them. And, uh, the people who follow Jesus, 0:21:53.900 --> 0:21:57.740 the disciples were anything but boring men. Um, they were 0:21:57.740 --> 0:22:02.590 very real, very active, very engaged. There were arguments, there 0:22:02.590 --> 0:22:06.630 were lots of challenges in their lives. And that's really 0:22:06.630 --> 0:22:10.070 part of the adventure that we kind of, I don't know, 0:22:10.109 --> 0:22:12.430 whitewash out of Jesus. A lot of times when we're 0:22:12.430 --> 0:22:16.270 telling Bible stories to our young men, following him is 0:22:16.270 --> 0:22:17.550 anything but boring. 0:22:17.710 --> 0:22:20.190 Aaron, I don't know about your four boys, but sometimes 0:22:20.190 --> 0:22:21.869 it can be hard to get boys to read. And 0:22:21.869 --> 0:22:23.910 I know this book is for parents to use with 0:22:23.910 --> 0:22:26.510 their boys. You had that in mind as you wrote 0:22:26.510 --> 0:22:27.830 and designed this book, right? 0:22:27.869 --> 0:22:31.190 Yeah. It's different. There's actually several books in the live series. Lies. 0:22:31.190 --> 0:22:34.190 Women believe lies, men believe lies, Girls believe, which you mentioned. 0:22:34.190 --> 0:22:37.070 And this book is very different from the format of those. 0:22:37.270 --> 0:22:39.630 And yeah, our boys did not love to read. I 0:22:39.630 --> 0:22:41.790 remember being a little girl, and if I had a 0:22:41.790 --> 0:22:44.150 free afternoon, I would spend it with a book. That's 0:22:44.150 --> 0:22:46.910 not how my boys operate. They want to be outside 0:22:46.950 --> 0:22:49.430 playing swords with sticks. So how do we get them 0:22:49.430 --> 0:22:51.949 in the content? So we were really intentional. It's a 0:22:51.950 --> 0:22:55.389 fiction book. The others are not. They're just straight trade books. 0:22:55.590 --> 0:22:57.830 And it follows a dad and his sons on this 0:22:57.830 --> 0:23:00.990 big adventure. It actually models a trip that Jason and 0:23:00.990 --> 0:23:03.710 our boys have taken. They go out west and they 0:23:03.710 --> 0:23:07.830 encounter all kinds of excitement. Um, and there's also things 0:23:07.830 --> 0:23:09.910 that happen in the book. They're going to turn the 0:23:09.910 --> 0:23:12.270 book all different ways as they're reading it. They're going 0:23:12.310 --> 0:23:14.270 to there's things they're supposed to do with the corners 0:23:14.270 --> 0:23:16.390 of the book. There's quests they do within the book. 0:23:16.390 --> 0:23:19.950 There's cryptograms where they're trying to solve riddles, and none 0:23:19.950 --> 0:23:22.150 of that is an attempt to bait and switch them 0:23:22.150 --> 0:23:24.510 into the Bible. As Jason said, we think the Bible 0:23:24.510 --> 0:23:27.310 is the most exciting book in the world. And so 0:23:27.310 --> 0:23:30.430 this is to be in parallel with the Bible. And 0:23:30.430 --> 0:23:32.750 what we've heard from parents and boys over and over 0:23:32.750 --> 0:23:35.230 again is my boy couldn't put it down, and he 0:23:35.230 --> 0:23:38.109 hasn't done that with any other book. And that's because 0:23:38.109 --> 0:23:42.390 we intentionally invite him into this story with these other 0:23:42.390 --> 0:23:45.150 men and boys that are people they're going to want 0:23:45.190 --> 0:23:48.190 to be like, and they're encountering truth all along the way. 0:23:48.190 --> 0:23:51.109 And I actually think that models life pretty well. Life 0:23:51.109 --> 0:23:54.510 is an adventure, and we are encountering challenges, and Jesus 0:23:54.550 --> 0:23:58.230 is with us every step. And so, um, we we 0:23:58.270 --> 0:24:00.920 were excited to give it to boys in a format 0:24:00.920 --> 0:24:03.239 that we thought they would love, and our boys loved it. 0:24:03.240 --> 0:24:05.840 They're fiction readers. Our boys are. We toss a nonfiction 0:24:05.840 --> 0:24:08.560 book at them. They might roll their eyes and they 0:24:08.560 --> 0:24:10.720 might or might not read it, but a great fiction 0:24:10.720 --> 0:24:13.560 story with an epic adventure, they're going to read it. 0:24:13.560 --> 0:24:15.600 So we hope this book is that. Yeah. 0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:18.720 That's great. Well, there you have it. Jason and Aaron 0:24:18.720 --> 0:24:23.000 have written this book specifically for 6 to 12 year 0:24:23.040 --> 0:24:27.680 old boys. So if you are a grandparent, a parent, 0:24:27.680 --> 0:24:32.760 if you know someone that's raising boys in that category, listen, 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:35.080 this is the book to get into their hands as 0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:36.520 soon as possible. 0:24:36.520 --> 0:24:38.320 And we'll be happy to send you a copy of 0:24:38.320 --> 0:24:41.320 this bold step gift by Jason and Aaron Davis today. 0:24:41.560 --> 0:24:43.680 When you give a gift of any amount to support 0:24:43.680 --> 0:24:47.520 bold steps. Just give us a call at 800 Moody 0:24:47.800 --> 0:24:51.680 or give online at Bold Steps. You can also send 0:24:51.680 --> 0:24:54.520 your gift and request the book Lies Boys Believe by 0:24:54.520 --> 0:24:57.080 writing to us in the mail. 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