WEBVTT - For All The Mothers 0:00:00.440 --> 0:00:04.360 Coming to you from the Morning Star Mission sponsored studio. 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:08.200 This is Carl and crew on Moody Radio. 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:11.520 It's Cody Carnes. Take you at your word. Well, when 0:00:11.520 --> 0:00:14.960 you were growing up, did you actually ever have one 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:19.360 of those kind of clubhouse treehouse type of things that said, like, 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:22.560 no girls allowed or no boys allowed? 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:24.840 I don't think I put a no girls. Well, the 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:28.760 problem at not not the problem, but at my house 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:31.960 there was only one girl and it was mom. And 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:34.760 so there really wasn't a no girls allowed sign because 0:00:34.760 --> 0:00:36.920 there were barely any girls around to begin with. 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:39.120 I feel like always in those movies, like The Little 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:43.400 Rascals or any sort of kid movie, it seems to 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:47.040 perpetuate this idea that this is a regular thing where, 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:53.760 like boys or girls grouped together and create spaces, treehouses, forts, etc.. Yeah. 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:57.720 Where the opposite gender is excluded. Does this happen? Yeah. 0:00:57.720 --> 0:00:59.959 I never ran into that. Yeah, it's a real thing. My, my, is. 0:01:00.030 --> 0:01:00.230 It a. 0:01:00.230 --> 0:01:02.430 Real thing? My niece has a sign on her door 0:01:02.470 --> 0:01:04.630 that says no boys allowed. And then in little words 0:01:04.630 --> 0:01:08.510 it says, accept, dad. So really? Yeah. Because. Because dad 0:01:08.510 --> 0:01:10.510 has to be able to be able to go in there. So. 0:01:10.670 --> 0:01:11.830 But her brother can't. 0:01:11.830 --> 0:01:18.070 So her brother. Interesting. This is excluding you. One person. Uh, 0:01:18.069 --> 0:01:21.309 somebody any any experience with that? No. 0:01:21.310 --> 0:01:22.990 See, that doesn't ring a bell for me. I mean, 0:01:22.990 --> 0:01:24.590 I know of it, like you said, movies and things 0:01:24.590 --> 0:01:28.350 like that, but, yeah, I never, never accounted that at 0:01:28.390 --> 0:01:30.150 at all. How about yourself? I mean, now, you had 0:01:30.150 --> 0:01:32.190 the three sisters and the one brother. 0:01:32.430 --> 0:01:35.310 And we, you know, we happily welcomed him into all 0:01:35.350 --> 0:01:39.270 of our shenanigans. There you go. He. And and even 0:01:39.270 --> 0:01:41.430 when he didn't want, I think he probably would have 0:01:41.470 --> 0:01:43.630 put a sign on his door. Although he never had 0:01:43.630 --> 0:01:46.750 his own room as the fourth kid. So he definitely 0:01:46.750 --> 0:01:48.950 always had to tag along with his sisters. But I 0:01:48.950 --> 0:01:52.790 feel like he was always included. You know, we would 0:01:52.830 --> 0:01:54.870 there when he was little. We did try to dress 0:01:54.870 --> 0:01:56.710 him up a couple times, and my dad was like, 0:01:56.750 --> 0:02:00.580 absolutely not. You can't put a bonnet on him. You 0:02:00.580 --> 0:02:03.460 can't treat him like he's a little baby doll. But 0:02:03.500 --> 0:02:05.340 as he grew up, I feel like he. He was 0:02:05.340 --> 0:02:08.140 okay being the the one boy in the in the 0:02:08.139 --> 0:02:09.340 midst of three. 0:02:09.380 --> 0:02:10.060 Oh, sure. 0:02:10.220 --> 0:02:14.299 Older girls. You know, I I'm asking this because coming up, 0:02:14.300 --> 0:02:16.940 we're going to, we're going to feature a conversation that 0:02:17.860 --> 0:02:21.619 for women only things that men need to know for 0:02:21.980 --> 0:02:24.740 men only things that women would want men to know. 0:02:25.139 --> 0:02:27.500 And so I was just thinking about that, that sort of. 0:02:27.940 --> 0:02:30.900 Do you like the idea of, of of now I 0:02:30.940 --> 0:02:34.660 will say, let me interject here, because in our current climate, 0:02:36.020 --> 0:02:40.380 we absolutely need to be protecting spaces that are for 0:02:40.380 --> 0:02:41.300 women only. 0:02:41.340 --> 0:02:42.180 Oh, goodness. 0:02:42.220 --> 0:02:42.580 Definitely. 0:02:42.740 --> 0:02:43.620 So, absolutely. 0:02:43.660 --> 0:02:46.580 I'm just going to put that out there because that 0:02:46.580 --> 0:02:49.660 should honestly that should could should go without saying. 0:02:49.700 --> 0:02:49.980 I think. 0:02:49.980 --> 0:02:53.459 So there are some spaces that should be absolutely for 0:02:53.460 --> 0:02:57.060 women only, but I digress. But you know, there are 0:02:57.730 --> 0:03:02.210 Conversations and things that I think happen among women that 0:03:02.210 --> 0:03:06.690 may be surprising to men and vice versa. You know, 0:03:06.730 --> 0:03:10.049 if you get a bunch of women around talking, I 0:03:10.050 --> 0:03:12.650 think men would sometimes be surprised at what we're talking about, 0:03:12.650 --> 0:03:14.530 or maybe what we're not talking about. 0:03:14.930 --> 0:03:16.890 Yeah, that's why I was thinking. 0:03:17.330 --> 0:03:18.530 I don't think they assume. 0:03:18.570 --> 0:03:20.650 And it's like, no, no, we don't go down that road. 0:03:20.690 --> 0:03:23.730 I at least in my context, I'm not in a 0:03:23.730 --> 0:03:27.530 lot of environments where I think people think that women 0:03:27.530 --> 0:03:31.010 like to bash men. I actually don't think that happens 0:03:31.010 --> 0:03:34.210 nearly as often as men might think. 0:03:34.410 --> 0:03:36.530 I think that that's probably fair. I think that the 0:03:36.530 --> 0:03:40.010 opposite is probably true, too. I think that, you know, 0:03:40.050 --> 0:03:43.730 the the scenario where all the guys just get around 0:03:43.730 --> 0:03:47.370 together and complain about their wives. I mean, it's not 0:03:47.370 --> 0:03:49.810 good when it happens. And sure, sometimes it happens, but 0:03:49.810 --> 0:03:52.090 I don't think it happens as much as people would think. 0:03:52.090 --> 0:03:55.050 We might think. Well, you know what's better than speculation? 0:03:55.650 --> 0:04:00.400 Cold hard facts, research and expert. Let's talk about that 0:04:00.400 --> 0:04:02.840 coming up. Freedom Friday here on Karl and crew. 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:06.480 He's a sports fanatic with a stat for anything you 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:10.720 can think of. Young Thunder is in the crew. It's 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.000 Karl and crew on Moody Radio. 0:04:13.240 --> 0:04:15.640 Well, one thing you know that we love around here 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:17.640 is some good hard data points. 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:19.320 You do love data points. 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:21.360 I love numbers don't lie, baby. 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:23.280 If you can come in with a sheet in front 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:25.320 of you that says, you know, I got the numbers 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:27.320 on this, you are pumped up more than I've ever. 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:29.839 That's why I love you. Young Thunder, not only you. 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:33.560 Great synthesizer of truth. You are stat man. 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:36.360 I do love a good stat. Stats are fun, man. 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:39.440 We got an incredible guest with us right now. Shante 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:44.160 Feldhuhn is a researcher big time. From when she was 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:46.919 a little kid. Obviously she aspired to get to Harvard 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:50.479 and she did it. Formerly an analyst on Wall Street, 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:54.119 she uses these analytical skills in a powerful way. Has 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:58.070 some groundbreaking Breaking research that was uncorked a number of 0:04:58.070 --> 0:05:01.510 years ago, and it's still living today. Shanti, how are you? 0:05:01.550 --> 0:05:03.830 I'm good. It's great to be with you guys. 0:05:03.870 --> 0:05:07.429 Great to have you with us today. Let's break it down. 0:05:07.430 --> 0:05:11.270 We're steaming toward Mother's Day. And, I mean, it's in 0:05:11.310 --> 0:05:13.790 two days here. And I just want to ask you, 0:05:13.830 --> 0:05:16.630 what in the world do we miss? Like, the broad 0:05:16.630 --> 0:05:20.190 side of a barn about women that your research proved. 0:05:20.350 --> 0:05:23.150 I am so glad you are asking that question. And 0:05:23.150 --> 0:05:24.789 can I just tell you that when you talk about 0:05:24.790 --> 0:05:27.070 loving numbers, you are speaking my love language? 0:05:27.510 --> 0:05:30.150 I knew, I knew it. She's a data girl. 0:05:31.190 --> 0:05:34.029 Yep, exactly. I will tell you. And I will tell 0:05:34.070 --> 0:05:37.070 especially all the men out there who are listening to this, 0:05:37.070 --> 0:05:39.909 that one of the most important things that you miss 0:05:39.910 --> 0:05:44.550 about your wife, or perhaps your girlfriend, is that you 0:05:44.550 --> 0:05:47.710 think that once you got married that she feels permanently 0:05:47.710 --> 0:05:51.549 loved and that is not the case. There is no 0:05:51.670 --> 0:05:55.300 switch in her brain that gets flipped to the Ow. 0:05:55.460 --> 0:05:59.420 I feel permanently loved now. Sort of position. And instead 0:05:59.420 --> 0:06:02.580 we found 82% of women. And by the way, this 0:06:02.580 --> 0:06:04.900 is not a Facebook poll. This is a big, expensive, 0:06:04.900 --> 0:06:09.460 nationally representative survey of women. We found 82% of women, 0:06:09.620 --> 0:06:13.140 even in the best relationships, have that question in the 0:06:13.140 --> 0:06:15.740 back of their head that does he really love me? 0:06:15.779 --> 0:06:16.780 Kind of question. 0:06:17.060 --> 0:06:19.980 So one first question is where did where did we 0:06:19.980 --> 0:06:23.460 begin to buy that lie? And number two, how in 0:06:23.460 --> 0:06:25.219 the world do we dig out of that and begin 0:06:25.220 --> 0:06:28.979 to really get proactive with that information? Because that's good information. 0:06:29.339 --> 0:06:33.780 Well, the most important thing I think for men, honestly, 0:06:33.779 --> 0:06:35.540 this is this is one of the other things that 0:06:35.540 --> 0:06:39.060 we found in the research as well, is there's something 0:06:39.060 --> 0:06:42.900 that starts when you're like kids, honestly, or teenagers and 0:06:42.900 --> 0:06:45.140 you're talking in the locker room and you kind of 0:06:45.180 --> 0:06:47.100 roll your eyes and you laugh about how women are 0:06:47.100 --> 0:06:50.580 so mysterious and they're never going to be understood. It's true. 0:06:50.620 --> 0:06:53.260 And you kind of have this idea that there's something 0:06:53.260 --> 0:06:56.969 in women that's just kind of random. And so, you know, 0:06:57.010 --> 0:06:59.089 you can try all you want, but you're never going 0:06:59.130 --> 0:07:02.850 to quite understand her. And that is a lie. It's 0:07:02.850 --> 0:07:06.610 a lie from the pit. Honestly. Yes. Because what it 0:07:06.610 --> 0:07:12.370 does is it sets up every man with this myth that, 0:07:12.410 --> 0:07:15.010 you know what, some part of me is never going 0:07:15.010 --> 0:07:17.330 to be able to make it, you know, figure her out. 0:07:17.330 --> 0:07:20.170 And so if something is confusing, I just kind of 0:07:20.370 --> 0:07:23.170 throw up my hands and say, okay, it's that random 0:07:23.170 --> 0:07:26.530 part of her. Move along. And so you wouldn't do 0:07:26.530 --> 0:07:29.370 that in any other part of your life if something 0:07:29.370 --> 0:07:31.730 happened at work and your boss said something and you 0:07:31.730 --> 0:07:34.050 didn't understand, let me tell you, you're not going to 0:07:34.090 --> 0:07:36.890 just assume he's being random. No, you're going to try 0:07:36.890 --> 0:07:39.490 to figure out why it happened, and so you can 0:07:39.490 --> 0:07:42.010 figure out how to handle things better and how to 0:07:42.050 --> 0:07:44.930 actually sort of become in step into that role that 0:07:44.930 --> 0:07:47.450 you've been given and do it well. And it's the 0:07:47.450 --> 0:07:52.530 same thing with being a husband. Your wife may seem mysterious, 0:07:52.530 --> 0:07:56.120 but I can promise you, when women can be systematized 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:59.120 and understood just like you men can. So that's the 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:00.040 first step. 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:04.720 That's beautiful. You know, Shanti, this has been a phenomenon 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:10.520 that I have lived through. I lived in the locker 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:14.280 room education kind of model. And that's what most men had. 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.840 But now we've got this crazy cultural phenomenon where culture 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:21.760 is screaming. Throw men and women into a blender, and 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:26.680 you get this gender amorphous, weird dysfunction thing where there's 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:33.040 no distinction celebrated in everybody's the loser. Shanti, what are 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:35.440 we going to do? You've got not only got data points, 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:38.680 your research leads to the bigger. Yes. How do we 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:43.559 elevate and separate without denigrating man and woman? 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:48.160 Well, one of the most important things for especially men 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:53.670 to recognize is that most people, including most women, know 0:08:53.670 --> 0:08:56.750 that there are differences, right? Like, it's only a really 0:08:56.750 --> 0:08:59.230 small number of people that have bought that kind of 0:08:59.270 --> 0:09:03.350 cultural sort of extreme concept. So let's sort of set 0:09:03.350 --> 0:09:06.230 that aside and just say, okay, people are going to 0:09:06.270 --> 0:09:09.350 believe what they want to believe. Everybody else knows the truth. 0:09:09.350 --> 0:09:13.270 And so for men to not be afraid of saying, okay, 0:09:13.790 --> 0:09:17.070 my wife or my girlfriend is different from me, it 0:09:17.070 --> 0:09:20.950 doesn't mean that there's any kind of discord that has 0:09:20.950 --> 0:09:24.510 to happen. It doesn't mean that there's any kind of defect. 0:09:25.150 --> 0:09:28.550 It's just different. And so this is something I can 0:09:28.550 --> 0:09:30.830 work with. As long as I understand it, I will 0:09:30.830 --> 0:09:34.030 tell you, here's what my my prayer is for all 0:09:34.030 --> 0:09:38.350 the men listening to this we found in our research 0:09:38.350 --> 0:09:41.550 over the last 20 years, 20 plus years now that 0:09:41.550 --> 0:09:46.550 most of the time when you have discord, you've got 0:09:46.550 --> 0:09:50.030 a couple who really cares about each other. You've got 0:09:50.030 --> 0:09:52.939 a husband and wife who really love one another, and 0:09:52.940 --> 0:09:56.700 they are both trying really hard. But because they don't 0:09:56.700 --> 0:10:00.260 know some of these differences, these little things that are 0:10:00.260 --> 0:10:02.740 going on inside the life of the person that they're 0:10:02.740 --> 0:10:06.260 married to, they're trying hard in the wrong areas and 0:10:06.260 --> 0:10:09.980 they're missing each other, or even worse, they're trying hard 0:10:09.980 --> 0:10:13.220 and they're actually hurting their spouse's feelings, and they would 0:10:13.220 --> 0:10:16.620 never intend to know. And so what we find is 0:10:16.620 --> 0:10:19.340 that if you learn these little things, you can try 0:10:19.380 --> 0:10:23.380 hard in the right areas, and suddenly there is so 0:10:23.380 --> 0:10:27.220 much more hope and so much more peace, and everything 0:10:27.220 --> 0:10:28.300 just seems to flow. 0:10:28.700 --> 0:10:32.740 Dynamite. Shaunti Feldhahn is my guest right now. She. We've 0:10:32.740 --> 0:10:35.540 got links coming to you soon with even stories of 0:10:35.540 --> 0:10:37.380 hope that are going to fire you up. But coming 0:10:37.380 --> 0:10:40.339 up here, let's talk about those little things, because the 0:10:40.340 --> 0:10:44.380 one thing that I know as a pastor for many 0:10:44.380 --> 0:10:48.220 decades now, or at least several, and being on radio, 0:10:48.260 --> 0:10:52.010 we've got empirical data that comes in here and anecdotal stuff, 0:10:52.010 --> 0:10:55.530 but the fact is, it's usually not the big things. 0:10:55.530 --> 0:10:58.930 Remember when Howard Hendricks used to say, shanty, that there's 0:10:58.929 --> 0:11:01.050 never such thing as a blowout? It's always a slow 0:11:01.050 --> 0:11:04.490 leak in marriage. It's true. So coming up, let's talk 0:11:04.530 --> 0:11:07.809 about the little things so that we aren't building walls 0:11:07.809 --> 0:11:11.130 between husband and wife, men and women, one little cinder 0:11:11.130 --> 0:11:12.610 block at a time. Hang on. 0:11:13.090 --> 0:11:15.770 You can take him out of Alaska, but you can't 0:11:15.809 --> 0:11:19.650 take Alaska out of him. Carl is in the crew. 0:11:19.850 --> 0:11:23.170 It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio with me. 0:11:23.210 --> 0:11:27.250 Shanti Feldhuhn. She is a best selling author, podcaster, blogger, 0:11:27.530 --> 0:11:30.410 great communicator, speaker. I heard her a number of years 0:11:30.410 --> 0:11:33.130 ago down at Saint Pete Beach. My goodness. With Family 0:11:33.130 --> 0:11:36.650 Life Weekend to Remember Speakers Retreat and what you were 0:11:36.650 --> 0:11:40.970 sharing then and even today. So liberating. Let's dig into 0:11:40.970 --> 0:11:43.170 the data a little bit. Shanti. What are the little 0:11:43.170 --> 0:11:48.440 things that men can do that can reclaim that At 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:52.760 that ongoing courtship really care for the needs of a 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:54.199 woman in the way she's made. 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.760 The most important thing. Okay, let's hearken back to what 0:11:56.760 --> 0:12:00.959 I said, that 82% of women have this question. This 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:03.640 does he really love me? Kind of question in their head. 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:07.760 So the first thing is to recognize, okay, there's something 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:09.880 in the heart of a woman. And this is. By 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.520 the way, I need to say this out loud. Obviously, 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:17.679 this is not 100% right. There's everybody's an individual. If 82% 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:21.720 said one way, that means 18% didn't. So use this, 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.040 by the way guys, as a starting point, not an 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:26.520 ending point. This is a starting point for your conversation. 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:30.400 But what that usually means is that most women have 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:35.560 in their heart an am I lovable question. It's not 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:38.400 just do you love me? The reason they're asking that 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:42.000 is because you got to back up. It's because of 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.760 the am I lovable question in her heart. And so 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:49.510 if you look for ways to answer that question. Every 0:12:49.550 --> 0:12:53.470 day you are going to be her hero. And here 0:12:53.470 --> 0:12:55.670 are some of the little things that we found that 0:12:55.670 --> 0:12:58.510 answer that question for her every day. Because you're you're 0:12:58.510 --> 0:13:01.470 looking to send her that message every day. We found 0:13:01.470 --> 0:13:06.110 statistically that things as simple as, like reaching across and 0:13:06.110 --> 0:13:08.590 taking her hand. When you're walking across a parking lot 0:13:08.830 --> 0:13:12.470 that says all the things her heart is longing to hear, right? 0:13:12.510 --> 0:13:16.110 Like that says, I'm so glad I married you. That's 0:13:16.110 --> 0:13:19.950 what she's looking for. Things like putting your arm around 0:13:19.950 --> 0:13:22.470 her at church, or when you're, like, sitting with a 0:13:22.470 --> 0:13:25.189 couple at a, you know, at a dinner out or whatever, 0:13:25.190 --> 0:13:26.550 and you put your arm around her or you put 0:13:26.550 --> 0:13:29.990 your hand on her knee that says, I would choose 0:13:29.990 --> 0:13:33.830 you all over again. That says, I love you so much. 0:13:34.030 --> 0:13:37.709 Little things like texting her during the day, even if 0:13:37.710 --> 0:13:41.030 it's just this little tiny thought of how grateful you 0:13:41.030 --> 0:13:44.190 are for her. If you will take 30s and send 0:13:44.190 --> 0:13:46.230 a little text message saying, man, this has been a 0:13:46.230 --> 0:13:49.700 really rough day. I can't wait to see you tonight. 0:13:49.700 --> 0:13:52.180 I love you so much. I'm so glad you're mine 0:13:52.179 --> 0:13:55.500 and you press send. She will screenshot that text message, 0:13:55.500 --> 0:13:56.540 I promise you. 0:13:56.780 --> 0:13:57.260 Yeah. 0:13:57.300 --> 0:14:02.780 That's powerful. These little things we found statistically make a really, 0:14:02.780 --> 0:14:04.380 really big difference. 0:14:04.780 --> 0:14:07.380 Let's hear a story. You must have a story of 0:14:07.380 --> 0:14:11.460 someone that went from, you know, because. Because men, men, 0:14:11.500 --> 0:14:14.819 we are great hunters. We are horrible at taking care 0:14:14.820 --> 0:14:18.420 of that game. And I'm being very hyperbolic here, but 0:14:18.420 --> 0:14:20.500 if you go into the hunting metaphor, we're great at 0:14:20.500 --> 0:14:23.140 going out. We can get in disguise. We can, you know, 0:14:23.180 --> 0:14:25.580 get that girl, and then we throw her over our 0:14:25.580 --> 0:14:28.260 shoulder and think that it's done. It's just begun. You 0:14:28.260 --> 0:14:30.420 must have a story of a man that's gotten this right. 0:14:30.700 --> 0:14:33.540 Many? Yes. Well, I will tell you. Something happened not 0:14:33.540 --> 0:14:36.380 that long ago. Jeff and I were doing a marriage event, 0:14:36.380 --> 0:14:39.020 and we, you know, we speak at marriage conferences and 0:14:39.020 --> 0:14:41.060 date nights and that kind of thing. And a guy 0:14:41.100 --> 0:14:44.020 came up to us who had kind of like, you 0:14:44.380 --> 0:14:47.450 had heard us at an event, I don't know, like 0:14:47.610 --> 0:14:50.290 a few years back, we had been at his church, 0:14:50.290 --> 0:14:52.770 at a different church, and he came up with this 0:14:52.770 --> 0:14:56.330 kind of bemused expression on his face, and he was like, 0:14:56.730 --> 0:15:00.330 you're not going to believe this, he said. We literally 0:15:00.370 --> 0:15:04.290 were shaking towards divorce. Like, that's how hard it was. 0:15:04.290 --> 0:15:06.890 He was like I was working to provide. I was 0:15:06.890 --> 0:15:10.770 trying so hard and, you know, trying so much to 0:15:10.810 --> 0:15:12.970 be the man that she wanted me to be. 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Text only to 0:17:14.470 --> 0:17:18.990 800 555 7898. 0:17:19.310 --> 0:17:23.950 She's a choreographer extraordinaire and everything is Greek to her. 0:17:24.310 --> 0:17:28.030 Super dei is in the crew. It's Carl and crew 0:17:28.070 --> 0:17:29.390 on Moody Radio. 0:17:29.430 --> 0:17:32.670 Well, some of my best memories when my kids were 0:17:32.670 --> 0:17:36.710 little was being a part of a mom's ministry. Our 0:17:36.750 --> 0:17:41.109 initial gatherings were very informal, folding chairs in a room 0:17:41.109 --> 0:17:43.820 where the kids were right next door. They were trying. 0:17:43.820 --> 0:17:46.060 A couple of babysitters were trying to keep them quiet, 0:17:46.060 --> 0:17:49.859 but inevitably kids would run in and out or fall 0:17:49.859 --> 0:17:51.980 or there'd be crying. But you know what? It was 0:17:51.980 --> 0:17:55.139 a lifeline for me as I tried to navigate those 0:17:55.140 --> 0:17:58.660 early years of motherhood. We need each other. I know 0:17:58.660 --> 0:18:03.260 our special guest would wholeheartedly agree. Mandy Areata joining us 0:18:03.260 --> 0:18:06.700 right now, she's the president and CEO of the Mom Co, 0:18:06.740 --> 0:18:11.060 formerly Mops or Moms of Preschoolers, but now rebranded moms 0:18:11.100 --> 0:18:15.180 absolutely need each other and the stats prove that out, right? 0:18:15.220 --> 0:18:18.460 Absolutely. What we're seeing is that moms are experiencing an 0:18:18.460 --> 0:18:21.420 epidemic of loneliness, and there's so much better when they 0:18:21.420 --> 0:18:24.899 have one another to support and guide and say, yes, 0:18:24.900 --> 0:18:26.580 me too. I'm going through the same thing. 0:18:26.780 --> 0:18:29.300 You know, one of the I think unique challenges of 0:18:29.300 --> 0:18:34.420 motherhood for this generation is the ability to see or 0:18:34.420 --> 0:18:36.900 to feel like you're seeing into the lives of so 0:18:36.900 --> 0:18:40.820 many different moms through social media. So the mom blogs 0:18:40.820 --> 0:18:44.490 and the mom influencers and the mom YouTubers. I feel 0:18:44.490 --> 0:18:48.649 like we've never been more inundated with what feels like examples, 0:18:48.650 --> 0:18:53.770 sometimes unattainable standard of what it looks like to mom. Well, 0:18:54.050 --> 0:18:57.690 how are you seeing that impact the women, Christian women 0:18:57.690 --> 0:18:58.490 in general? 0:18:58.530 --> 0:19:00.290 Absolutely. I think we get to see a lot of 0:19:00.290 --> 0:19:04.010 people from afar, from a distance. And then when we 0:19:04.050 --> 0:19:06.730 come together in community and we're actually face to face 0:19:06.730 --> 0:19:09.810 and eyeball to eyeball and sharing our real stories, we recognize, 0:19:09.810 --> 0:19:12.450 oh my goodness, everybody else is going through the same 0:19:12.450 --> 0:19:15.250 things I am. And so there's this camaraderie when we're 0:19:15.250 --> 0:19:18.050 in proximity with each other. And the other thing that 0:19:18.050 --> 0:19:21.929 we're recognizing is that as moms, we're inundated with so 0:19:21.930 --> 0:19:26.290 much information that we are starting to lose our intuition, 0:19:26.290 --> 0:19:29.690 our gut feeling and trusting that intuition that we know 0:19:29.690 --> 0:19:32.090 what's best for our kids and that we don't have 0:19:32.090 --> 0:19:35.450 to constantly be consuming more information, but that we can 0:19:35.450 --> 0:19:38.370 trust that God has given us the ability to parent 0:19:38.369 --> 0:19:39.370 our kids well. 0:19:39.530 --> 0:19:41.680 Tell me a little bit more about the mom co. 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:43.760 It used to be called mops and many will know 0:19:43.760 --> 0:19:46.040 it as that. I know you reaches over 10 million 0:19:46.040 --> 0:19:49.320 women globally, but tell us for those who are hearing 0:19:49.320 --> 0:19:50.680 of it for the first time. 0:19:50.880 --> 0:19:54.919 Yeah, we're the mom community mom co for short. And really, 0:19:54.960 --> 0:19:58.080 we gather women together because we recognize that moms are 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:01.480 some of the most powerful influencers on the planet. You know, 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:04.360 lots of times as society, we think if we want 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:06.000 to change the world, where do we start? We start 0:20:06.000 --> 0:20:09.280 with politics or education or the economy. But what we 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:12.359 forget is that moms are the ones behind the scenes 0:20:12.359 --> 0:20:15.440 influencing every single one of those things. And so we 0:20:15.480 --> 0:20:18.400 gather moms together. We help remind them that the work 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:22.200 they're doing is significant. We provide practical training and resources 0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:25.320 and mentoring, and we work in 109 countries and 30 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:29.840 different languages, because motherhood is this common denominator that bonds 0:20:29.840 --> 0:20:31.000 us all together. 0:20:31.040 --> 0:20:34.080 Tell me about your own journey as a mom. What 0:20:34.080 --> 0:20:36.560 did you feel like you needed most that maybe you 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:39.600 weren't able to grab hold of? I don't know how your. 0:20:39.600 --> 0:20:42.179 you're if you still have littles or if you're further 0:20:42.180 --> 0:20:43.540 on in your parenting journey. 0:20:43.740 --> 0:20:46.700 Yeah, I have three kids and they are all heading 0:20:46.700 --> 0:20:49.580 off to college now. And I just recognize, you know, 0:20:49.619 --> 0:20:52.180 I thought I needed my mom community when my kids 0:20:52.180 --> 0:20:54.940 were little, and I absolutely did. And now, as I'm 0:20:54.940 --> 0:20:58.899 parenting teenagers and young adults, I recognize I still need 0:20:58.900 --> 0:21:01.500 that mom community just as much now as I did 0:21:01.500 --> 0:21:03.980 when they were little. And so I think it just 0:21:03.980 --> 0:21:07.300 follows us throughout our whole lives, our whole mothering journey, 0:21:07.300 --> 0:21:10.780 that having those friends to support us and, you know, 0:21:10.820 --> 0:21:15.540 just speak life and hope and give practical resources is 0:21:15.540 --> 0:21:17.940 just a lifeline that we all need at every stage 0:21:17.940 --> 0:21:18.820 of our mothering. 0:21:19.020 --> 0:21:22.540 What context are you seeing mom co flourish the most? 0:21:22.580 --> 0:21:26.220 Is it in the local church? Is it in homeschool groups? 0:21:26.220 --> 0:21:29.220 Where are you seeing these groups really thrive? 0:21:29.580 --> 0:21:32.460 We have mom co groups in churches and that is 0:21:32.500 --> 0:21:36.220 absolutely a phenomenal place where we see moms thriving. But 0:21:36.220 --> 0:21:38.970 we also have groups that meet in homes and, you know, 0:21:39.010 --> 0:21:43.129 around the world in community centers, libraries all over the place. 0:21:43.130 --> 0:21:46.490 And really, it's not the location that matters. It's the 0:21:46.490 --> 0:21:50.490 women coming together and being honest and vulnerable and getting 0:21:50.490 --> 0:21:52.650 real about their stories and talking about the things that 0:21:52.650 --> 0:21:55.890 really matter most, because that's how we help each other 0:21:55.890 --> 0:21:58.570 thrive and grow, not only as followers of Jesus, but 0:21:58.570 --> 0:22:02.290 as moms and as wives and in every aspect of 0:22:02.410 --> 0:22:06.290 our work and relationships. When we're together and honest and vulnerable, 0:22:06.290 --> 0:22:07.890 that's what's most important. 0:22:08.010 --> 0:22:09.770 You know, at the heart of this is the gospel 0:22:09.770 --> 0:22:14.090 of Jesus Christ, because anybody who's you never feel maybe 0:22:14.090 --> 0:22:17.330 more vulnerable than when you're tasked with raising a child 0:22:17.330 --> 0:22:20.290 and you and you realize how little control you have. 0:22:20.330 --> 0:22:22.449 You never had control, but you had the illusion of it. 0:22:22.450 --> 0:22:25.609 But then you have a child and you realize, my goodness, 0:22:25.609 --> 0:22:28.290 the things that they go through that I can't take away. 0:22:28.450 --> 0:22:31.609 And your dependence on God absolutely has to be at 0:22:31.609 --> 0:22:34.810 the forefront. The power of the Holy Spirit to even 0:22:34.850 --> 0:22:36.850 allow us to be the kind of moms we were 0:22:36.850 --> 0:22:38.760 called to be. I know that's your heart as well. 0:22:39.000 --> 0:22:43.120 100% what we recognize is motherhood is just this opportunity 0:22:43.119 --> 0:22:45.320 that opens us to God in a new way and 0:22:45.320 --> 0:22:48.840 helps us recognize, just like you said, our vulnerability and 0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:52.080 our reliance on him to raise kids and what we 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:53.880 found at the mom Co and what we see every 0:22:53.920 --> 0:22:55.760 day is that moms are some of the most powerful 0:22:55.760 --> 0:22:58.040 evangelists on the planet. Like, you want to spread the 0:22:58.040 --> 0:23:00.320 message of Jesus far and wide. You start with moms 0:23:00.320 --> 0:23:03.760 because it's exponential evangelism, because when she meets Jesus, so 0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:06.280 do her kids and her husband and her friends and 0:23:06.280 --> 0:23:09.240 her community. And so word of mom is this powerful 0:23:09.240 --> 0:23:13.159 thing that it's like latent potential in the church's hands 0:23:13.160 --> 0:23:16.400 that when they resource moms, the kingdom grows and multiplies 0:23:16.400 --> 0:23:17.840 in exponential ways. 0:23:17.920 --> 0:23:20.200 You have a new podcast that just released. It's a 0:23:20.200 --> 0:23:23.800 limited edition podcast called Bloodline and Backbone, talking about the 0:23:23.800 --> 0:23:27.399 spiritual legacy of motherhood. Give us a thought on that. 0:23:27.400 --> 0:23:32.440 Bloodline and backbone is really this unconventional podcast about motherhood. 0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:35.120 It's gritty and honest and well researched, and it talks 0:23:35.119 --> 0:23:37.990 about the history of motherhood through the ages, and how 0:23:38.030 --> 0:23:42.790 moms have influenced medicine and wars and politics and finances. 0:23:42.990 --> 0:23:46.429 And it's this fascinating look at the way that moms 0:23:46.430 --> 0:23:50.830 have foundationally changed the fabric of society. And so it's fascinating. 0:23:50.990 --> 0:23:53.510 And it really points back to the truth that Jesus 0:23:53.510 --> 0:23:57.830 has mobilized moms throughout the centuries to be purveyors of 0:23:57.830 --> 0:24:01.030 his word, and to pass it down from generation to generation. 0:24:01.070 --> 0:24:02.990 I want to make sure that you can get Ahold 0:24:02.990 --> 0:24:05.750 of this, that you can get connected to the mom co, 0:24:05.790 --> 0:24:08.350 you can see if there's a group in your area 0:24:08.390 --> 0:24:12.030 or even about starting one. Just text mom Co to 0:24:12.070 --> 0:24:17.750 800 555 7898 mom Co just like it sounds. Mom 0:24:17.750 --> 0:24:21.990 Co to 855 five 7898. We'll throw the link for 0:24:21.990 --> 0:24:23.630 the podcast in there as well. 0:24:24.150 --> 0:24:28.670 A basketball mom who's mastered the dad joke. Ali is 0:24:28.670 --> 0:24:32.350 in the crew. It's Carlin crew on Moody Radio. 0:24:32.830 --> 0:24:37.420 You know, God often uses uses moms to help you 0:24:37.420 --> 0:24:39.420 find your place in the world. 0:24:39.859 --> 0:24:41.020 Oh yeah. Absolutely. 0:24:41.060 --> 0:24:44.340 The moms who love and who encourage and who serve. 0:24:44.340 --> 0:24:49.660 And oftentimes it's not. If you're privileged to have your 0:24:49.660 --> 0:24:53.740 own mom who does that for you. Awesome. You still 0:24:53.740 --> 0:24:55.300 need other moms to do it. 0:24:55.700 --> 0:24:56.420 No doubt. 0:24:56.500 --> 0:24:59.060 And how much more? So if you don't have that right. 0:24:59.340 --> 0:25:01.300 And so on this Freedom Friday, I want to ask 0:25:01.300 --> 0:25:04.780 you this question. I want to hear your story of 0:25:04.820 --> 0:25:07.980 a mom who had a pivotal influence in your coming 0:25:08.020 --> 0:25:11.340 to faith in Christ. Tell me about the role a 0:25:11.340 --> 0:25:15.619 mom played in your freedom story. Could be your mom 0:25:15.619 --> 0:25:19.100 or grandma or aunt. It could be a Sunday school teacher, 0:25:19.140 --> 0:25:22.980 a neighbor, a friend. I didn't even think about when 0:25:22.980 --> 0:25:25.460 I first was thinking about this question. But sometimes it's 0:25:25.500 --> 0:25:27.180 a it's a it can be a peer. 0:25:27.540 --> 0:25:27.939 Yes it. 0:25:27.940 --> 0:25:29.739 Can. It doesn't even have to be someone older than you. 0:25:29.740 --> 0:25:32.060 It could be a mom who was younger than you. 0:25:32.060 --> 0:25:35.530 But that woman that mom played a pivotal role in 0:25:35.530 --> 0:25:37.490 your coming to faith in Christ, and that's what I 0:25:37.490 --> 0:25:41.010 want to hear about on this. Heading into Mother's Day weekend, 0:25:41.410 --> 0:25:46.290 they prayed, spoke truth, discipled, shared the gospel. One of 0:25:46.290 --> 0:25:48.930 those things. Maybe something else. Maybe all of the above. 0:25:48.970 --> 0:25:56.850 855 five 7898 855 five 7898. You know, I was 0:25:56.850 --> 0:25:58.970 going to a church at a time, and I there 0:25:58.970 --> 0:26:03.970 was a young woman who had a difficult family situation 0:26:03.970 --> 0:26:08.129 going on, and there was a mom at the church 0:26:08.609 --> 0:26:13.170 who took it upon herself to kind of become a, 0:26:14.210 --> 0:26:16.330 a mom figure for this young woman. 0:26:16.369 --> 0:26:17.210 I love that. 0:26:17.369 --> 0:26:23.649 Brought her into her home, discipled, mentored, walked her through 0:26:23.650 --> 0:26:28.170 some really tough stuff. And it wasn't just her, though. 0:26:28.210 --> 0:26:32.090 She kind of assembled sort of a mini network of 0:26:32.090 --> 0:26:36.359 other of other women who could kind of co-mother this 0:26:36.359 --> 0:26:38.960 young girl who had been through some really tough stuff. 0:26:39.119 --> 0:26:40.119 That's inspiring. 0:26:40.240 --> 0:26:42.960 It. I mean, it was it was pretty remarkable to see. 0:26:43.000 --> 0:26:46.400 And and so the growth and the development of this 0:26:46.400 --> 0:26:50.560 young woman, because of the love of a mother who 0:26:50.560 --> 0:26:53.360 wasn't her own, and then the love of other women 0:26:53.359 --> 0:26:56.159 who stepped in to fill in where there were even 0:26:56.160 --> 0:27:00.159 more gaps. And she was sort of collectively mothered by 0:27:00.160 --> 0:27:00.840 the group. 0:27:01.119 --> 0:27:04.040 That is going to cheer me up. That's actually beautiful 0:27:04.040 --> 0:27:07.359 and inspiring. And even on this day, going into Mother's Day, 0:27:07.640 --> 0:27:10.480 you know, whatever your background may be, maybe take that 0:27:10.480 --> 0:27:14.159 into heart, into this weekend. Really look around your church 0:27:14.160 --> 0:27:16.960 this Sunday. You can tell by faces. You can tell 0:27:17.000 --> 0:27:19.359 by who's there and what's going on. Maybe it's something 0:27:19.359 --> 0:27:22.440 within your church that you can take the lead on. 0:27:22.480 --> 0:27:25.640 Yeah. And so phone lines open now if you've got 0:27:25.640 --> 0:27:29.320 a story. What role did a mom play in your 0:27:29.359 --> 0:27:33.030 freedom story. And you're coming to faith in Christ? 800 0:27:33.070 --> 0:27:37.550 555 7898. I want to keep reiterating maybe it was 0:27:37.550 --> 0:27:42.390 your own mom. Maybe it wasn't. Both are awesome and needed. 0:27:42.430 --> 0:27:45.110 800 555 7898. 0:27:45.910 --> 0:27:50.709 My coat of many colors that my mama made for 0:27:50.710 --> 0:27:57.070 me made only from rage. But I wore it so proudly. 0:27:57.109 --> 0:27:58.230 What is this, Jonathan? 0:27:58.670 --> 0:27:59.310 Oh, Dolly. 0:27:59.310 --> 0:28:02.630 Parton. I had no money. Interesting. I was rich as 0:28:02.630 --> 0:28:07.510 I could be in my coat of many colors my 0:28:07.510 --> 0:28:09.190 momma made for me. 0:28:09.230 --> 0:28:10.629 Yes, this is Moody Radio. 0:28:10.990 --> 0:28:13.030 It's a story. When she was younger. 0:28:13.070 --> 0:28:13.870 Okay, tell me. 0:28:13.910 --> 0:28:14.270 What's the. 0:28:14.270 --> 0:28:14.710 Story? 0:28:14.869 --> 0:28:18.870 So the whole song is is a progressive story, but it's. They. 0:28:18.910 --> 0:28:22.110 She grew up really poor, and her mom took a 0:28:22.109 --> 0:28:24.869 bunch of different fabrics of a bunch of different colors 0:28:24.869 --> 0:28:27.830 and sewed it all together. And as she was sewing it, 0:28:27.830 --> 0:28:30.790 she told Dolly about the story from the Bible, where 0:28:31.030 --> 0:28:34.340 Joseph had a coat of many colors. And and then 0:28:34.340 --> 0:28:36.900 she made this coat for for her. And although they 0:28:36.900 --> 0:28:39.500 had no money and it wasn't worth anything, her mom 0:28:39.500 --> 0:28:40.300 made it for her. 0:28:40.420 --> 0:28:43.380 And initially she didn't want to wear it. She actually 0:28:43.420 --> 0:28:44.940 didn't wear it. At first she was a little embarrassed 0:28:44.940 --> 0:28:47.780 because she was getting kind of ridiculed at school, but 0:28:47.780 --> 0:28:50.300 then it turned around and was very pivotal. And just 0:28:50.300 --> 0:28:52.940 talking her, her father actually spoke into her in like 0:28:52.940 --> 0:28:55.180 the love that was behind the patchwork and what was 0:28:55.180 --> 0:28:57.540 built within this coat. Wow. So it really was pivotal 0:28:57.540 --> 0:28:58.860 for her and her heart and her faith. 0:28:58.900 --> 0:29:02.700 Okay. Okay. Wow. How did you both just know that story? 0:29:02.740 --> 0:29:05.180 Well, I read the lyrics of the song, and then I. 0:29:05.220 --> 0:29:06.060 So I learned it as I'm. 0:29:06.060 --> 0:29:09.020 Going to say. Is this just like, commonly a commonly known. 0:29:09.020 --> 0:29:10.420 Story or a little of her story? I know a 0:29:10.420 --> 0:29:11.940 little of her story. Wow. So. Well. 0:29:11.940 --> 0:29:15.820 That's awesome. Well, we're celebrating moms all this week. Um, 0:29:15.820 --> 0:29:17.740 I want to take you to second Timothy one five. 0:29:17.780 --> 0:29:19.900 This is Paul to Timothy, and he says, I am 0:29:19.900 --> 0:29:23.300 reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first 0:29:23.300 --> 0:29:26.620 in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice. And now 0:29:26.620 --> 0:29:29.860 I am sure, dwells in you. Timothy had a rich 0:29:29.970 --> 0:29:33.930 Spiritual legacy through a grandma and a mom who served 0:29:33.930 --> 0:29:36.610 the Lord. Maybe that was the case for you, but 0:29:36.610 --> 0:29:39.970 maybe it was another mom who spoke into your life 0:29:39.970 --> 0:29:43.090 who was a part of your freedom story. I'm asking you, 0:29:43.130 --> 0:29:47.450 what role did a mom play in your journey with Christ? 0:29:47.490 --> 0:29:54.730 Sharing the gospel. Praying for you. Discipling you. 800 555 7898. 0:29:54.970 --> 0:29:57.930 Let's go to Don calling in this morning from Illinois. Don, 0:29:57.970 --> 0:30:00.410 tell me, what role did a mom play in your 0:30:00.410 --> 0:30:01.370 freedom story? 0:30:04.130 --> 0:30:07.770 My future mother in law. I wanted to date her 0:30:07.770 --> 0:30:11.050 daughter in high school and her daughter was a Christian. 0:30:11.050 --> 0:30:13.010 I had not been raised in the church, was not 0:30:13.010 --> 0:30:16.450 a Christian. And so she would she invited me to church. 0:30:16.450 --> 0:30:18.690 She said, why don't you come to church and then 0:30:18.690 --> 0:30:22.290 come to our house after church for for dinner every 0:30:22.330 --> 0:30:24.810 every Sunday? She'd do that. Wow. And so then I 0:30:24.810 --> 0:30:27.330 started to come, come under the hearing of the Word 0:30:27.330 --> 0:30:32.040 of God. And by the time I was a college 0:30:32.040 --> 0:30:35.800 student at age 22, I came to know Christ because 0:30:35.800 --> 0:30:38.040 of the great impact of my mother in law. I 0:30:38.040 --> 0:30:40.400 know she was praying for me, and she would talk 0:30:40.400 --> 0:30:42.880 to me about the Lord all the time. So I've 0:30:42.880 --> 0:30:45.200 always hated mother in law jokes because I had the 0:30:45.200 --> 0:30:46.200 best mother in law. 0:30:46.240 --> 0:30:46.560 Oh. 0:30:47.040 --> 0:30:47.400 That's so. 0:30:47.400 --> 0:30:47.760 Sweet. 0:30:47.960 --> 0:30:52.000 Wow. I love that story. Thank you so much, dawn 0:30:52.000 --> 0:30:55.360 from Illinois. Man, that's what I'm talking about. That's great. 0:30:55.400 --> 0:30:59.040 That's incredible. Let's keep it going. John from Illinois, tell me, 0:30:59.480 --> 0:31:03.000 what role did a mom play in your faith journey 0:31:03.000 --> 0:31:03.920 with the Lord? 0:31:05.520 --> 0:31:08.240 Oh, hi. Good morning. Yeah. Um, our mom is. She's 0:31:08.240 --> 0:31:11.160 just really was always a blessing. Her name is Barb, 0:31:11.160 --> 0:31:14.680 and she raised seven children in Chicago. My parents are 0:31:14.680 --> 0:31:17.720 actually still together, been married over 50 years, and just 0:31:17.720 --> 0:31:20.560 really lived out the love of Yeshua of Jesus to 0:31:20.600 --> 0:31:22.400 all of us, you know, which is, you know, I 0:31:22.400 --> 0:31:26.360 believe that's so important. Like like in the Hebrew Shema Israel. 0:31:26.360 --> 0:31:29.270 It's like, uh, action. You know, James says, be doers 0:31:29.270 --> 0:31:31.510 of the word and just that the love of a mother. 0:31:31.510 --> 0:31:32.950 And of course, fathers too, and all. 0:31:32.990 --> 0:31:33.910 Absolutely. 0:31:34.150 --> 0:31:36.709 It was just really special. I just always kept our 0:31:36.710 --> 0:31:39.950 family together and, uh, appreciate it so much. 0:31:39.990 --> 0:31:43.190 Thank you. John calling in this morning from Illinois. Yes, we're. 0:31:43.430 --> 0:31:47.230 This is definitely not to diminish the role of dads 0:31:47.270 --> 0:31:48.550 by any means, but. 0:31:48.550 --> 0:31:48.950 It's mom. 0:31:49.190 --> 0:31:51.830 It's moms. It's Mother's Day weekend. So we're going to 0:31:51.830 --> 0:31:54.990 cheer for the moms and the mom figures who stepped 0:31:54.990 --> 0:31:57.350 in and played a pivotal role in your journey of 0:31:57.350 --> 0:32:00.590 faith with the Lord. Uh, Aaron calling in from Illinois. 0:32:00.630 --> 0:32:03.030 Tell me. It was a it was a woman in 0:32:03.030 --> 0:32:04.390 your in college? 0:32:05.670 --> 0:32:09.070 Yes. Um. Good morning. I, uh, went to school about 0:32:09.070 --> 0:32:12.790 six hours away from home. And, um, in my senior, 0:32:12.830 --> 0:32:15.150 junior or senior year of college, I went through what 0:32:15.190 --> 0:32:17.710 felt like the biggest thing that had ever happened to me, 0:32:17.750 --> 0:32:20.750 just personally. Yeah. Um, I was away from my own 0:32:20.750 --> 0:32:23.630 mom and this woman. I had gone on a mission 0:32:23.630 --> 0:32:26.990 trip with her. She invited me into her home with 0:32:26.990 --> 0:32:30.620 her family almost nightly because of what I was going through, 0:32:30.660 --> 0:32:34.100 and she just can vividly remember her opening her Bible 0:32:34.100 --> 0:32:36.739 and writing in the margins of her Bible. What we 0:32:36.740 --> 0:32:40.180 were praying for, writing the date down. And, um, I 0:32:40.180 --> 0:32:42.460 would sit on her bed with her. She had just 0:32:42.460 --> 0:32:44.820 been diagnosed with cancer, and just like the ways that 0:32:44.820 --> 0:32:47.460 she poured into me, even when she was going through 0:32:47.500 --> 0:32:50.220 the darkest time of her life, was just so inspiring 0:32:50.300 --> 0:32:50.940 to me. 0:32:50.980 --> 0:32:55.740 Wow. Aaron, thank you so much for that story. It's 0:32:55.740 --> 0:32:59.220 so incredible. I mean, you think about the impact that 0:32:59.620 --> 0:33:02.780 that you can have in a person's life and and 0:33:02.820 --> 0:33:07.260 sometimes I wonder if that woman even knows years later that, 0:33:07.300 --> 0:33:10.820 that that Aaron would call in this morning because she 0:33:10.820 --> 0:33:13.660 had that kind of an impact. What's your story? Who 0:33:13.660 --> 0:33:17.540 is the mom in your life? The mom figure in 0:33:17.540 --> 0:33:19.860 your life who played a pivotal role in your journey 0:33:19.860 --> 0:33:22.300 with the Lord? Uh, maybe coming and helping you come 0:33:22.300 --> 0:33:26.570 to faith. Sharing the gospel, discipling you, encouraging you. 800 0:33:26.610 --> 0:33:30.530 555 7898. We'll take a couple more phone calls here. 0:33:30.570 --> 0:33:35.450 800 555 7898. Freedom Friday here on Carl and crew. 0:33:35.930 --> 0:33:38.650 Your shot of hope to help you through the day. 0:33:38.930 --> 0:33:42.010 This is Carl and crew on Moody Radio. 0:33:42.490 --> 0:33:44.290 Want to get right back to the phones? We've been 0:33:44.330 --> 0:33:46.969 asking you this question on this Freedom Friday ahead of 0:33:46.970 --> 0:33:51.130 Mother's Day. What role did a mom play the pivotal 0:33:51.130 --> 0:33:54.490 role of mom played in your freedom story? Your maybe 0:33:54.570 --> 0:33:57.530 coming to faith in Christ. You're being discipled. There was 0:33:57.530 --> 0:34:00.170 a mom who prayed for you. You tell me what 0:34:00.170 --> 0:34:02.130 that looked like for you. What role did a mom 0:34:02.130 --> 0:34:08.010 play in your freedom story? 800 555 7898. Let's go 0:34:08.010 --> 0:34:10.970 to Rosa calling in this morning from Chicago. Tell me. 0:34:12.610 --> 0:34:15.210 Hi. Um, well, it was my mother in law. I 0:34:15.210 --> 0:34:18.530 did not grow up in a Christian home, and she 0:34:18.530 --> 0:34:21.610 did invite me once to church. And I did go. 0:34:21.610 --> 0:34:23.969 And she told me, you know, if I died right now, 0:34:24.010 --> 0:34:26.240 I know I'd go to heaven. I said, well, how? 0:34:26.560 --> 0:34:28.839 Just because Jesus lives in me. And she went on 0:34:28.880 --> 0:34:32.960 to explain that, and because of that and her taking 0:34:32.960 --> 0:34:36.160 me under her wing, I was a single mom when 0:34:36.160 --> 0:34:40.760 I met her son. And through her I became a Christian, 0:34:40.760 --> 0:34:43.160 my family and even my grandparents. 0:34:43.800 --> 0:34:44.200 Wow. 0:34:44.400 --> 0:34:45.240 I was blessed. 0:34:45.400 --> 0:34:48.879 Wow. Rosa from Chicago. What a spiritual legacy. 0:34:49.360 --> 0:34:52.719 And I love the I love the continuing kind of 0:34:52.760 --> 0:34:57.360 aftershock impact of that. Yeah. You know where this this 0:34:57.360 --> 0:35:00.600 woman who now is her mother in law, invested in her, 0:35:00.800 --> 0:35:03.759 brought her to Christ, and now she's bringing people from 0:35:03.760 --> 0:35:07.799 her family, her grandparents, to Christ. I mean, that's that's incredible. 0:35:07.840 --> 0:35:12.279 Yeah. You know, I never want to miss an opportunity 0:35:12.280 --> 0:35:15.879 to tell you what it looks like to follow Jesus. 0:35:16.160 --> 0:35:19.200 We we never assume that everyone listening to this radio 0:35:19.200 --> 0:35:22.000 station already knows Jesus. You may be listening. And you 0:35:22.040 --> 0:35:25.230 hear something like. Or her mention that a mother in 0:35:25.230 --> 0:35:27.190 law said, I know I'm going to heaven, and sometimes 0:35:27.190 --> 0:35:29.430 that can rattle your cage a little bit because you think, well, 0:35:29.430 --> 0:35:32.430 what does that mean for me? If I don't know Jesus, 0:35:32.430 --> 0:35:35.709 do I not spend eternity in heaven? That's that. That biblically, 0:35:35.710 --> 0:35:39.390 that's absolutely true, that it is those of us who 0:35:39.390 --> 0:35:42.390 are in a relationship with Jesus Christ because of the 0:35:42.390 --> 0:35:45.910 blood of Jesus Christ, we are made new. We're declared 0:35:45.910 --> 0:35:49.270 perfectly righteous in his sight, and therefore we are welcomed 0:35:49.270 --> 0:35:53.989 into eternity with the father and the. For those who 0:35:54.030 --> 0:35:58.110 do not know Christ, we can't get around the fact 0:35:58.110 --> 0:36:02.470 that hell is a real place, and those who are separated, 0:36:02.510 --> 0:36:05.950 separated from God will spend eternity separated from God. So 0:36:05.950 --> 0:36:09.109 here's what you need to know today. You need to 0:36:09.150 --> 0:36:12.549 admit that you are a sinner. It's. Most of us 0:36:12.550 --> 0:36:15.750 think of ourselves as good people as those who try 0:36:15.790 --> 0:36:18.710 to do the right thing. But the Bible says that 0:36:18.710 --> 0:36:21.310 all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. 0:36:21.310 --> 0:36:24.739 So every single person is born into sin. That is 0:36:24.739 --> 0:36:27.859 our condition from the very beginning. Once you recognize that 0:36:27.860 --> 0:36:30.340 you're a sinner, you need to acknowledge that as sinners, 0:36:30.340 --> 0:36:33.299 we deserve death. When you when you stand before a 0:36:33.300 --> 0:36:38.260 holy God, sin cannot, has no place with God. So 0:36:38.300 --> 0:36:43.260 our sin deserves death. Which sounds really harsh, right? Because 0:36:43.260 --> 0:36:45.580 we underestimate the power of sin. 0:36:45.620 --> 0:36:47.779 Yes. We think it's just a little thing here or 0:36:47.780 --> 0:36:48.660 a little thing there. 0:36:49.460 --> 0:36:52.980 Holy God, you think about. I mean, you think about 0:36:52.980 --> 0:36:55.340 the fact that you know, how in on the solar 0:36:55.340 --> 0:36:58.300 eclipse they're a big deal is made of the fact 0:36:58.300 --> 0:37:01.460 that you you cannot look directly at the sun? Yes. 0:37:01.500 --> 0:37:05.819 That like there's a physical blinding that can happen if 0:37:05.820 --> 0:37:08.219 you were to try to look directly at the sun. Well, 0:37:08.219 --> 0:37:11.459 who do you think made the sun? So how much more? 0:37:11.460 --> 0:37:15.780 So think about the the holiness of God. Infinitely more 0:37:15.780 --> 0:37:19.739 powerful than looking or trying to look directly into a 0:37:19.739 --> 0:37:26.049 solar eclipse. We We cannot stand before a holy God 0:37:26.050 --> 0:37:29.810 in our sin and live. There had to be a 0:37:29.810 --> 0:37:33.450 price that was paid for us to be reconciled to God. 0:37:33.450 --> 0:37:36.049 And the good news, the absolute good news is that 0:37:36.050 --> 0:37:40.529 Jesus Christ paid that sin, paid that price rather for 0:37:40.530 --> 0:37:44.290 our sin. He died. He rose again so that we 0:37:44.290 --> 0:37:46.730 could have new life. And so what do you do today? 0:37:46.730 --> 0:37:49.530 You put your trust in Jesus Christ as your Savior. 0:37:49.530 --> 0:37:52.890 You acknowledge that he's not just it's not just that 0:37:52.890 --> 0:37:56.130 there's something bigger out there. It's that you say, Jesus, 0:37:56.130 --> 0:37:58.450 you are the way and the truth and the life. 0:37:58.450 --> 0:38:01.569 And today I put my trust in you as Savior. 0:38:01.730 --> 0:38:04.810 I confess that I'm a sinner, I turn, I repent, 0:38:04.810 --> 0:38:08.049 I go a new way. Today I follow you. And 0:38:08.050 --> 0:38:11.250 if by the power of the Holy Spirit that you 0:38:11.250 --> 0:38:14.129 see it now, maybe you've never seen it before. But 0:38:14.130 --> 0:38:16.970 today is the day that the Holy Spirit is making 0:38:16.969 --> 0:38:18.529 that clear to you. I don't want to miss this 0:38:18.570 --> 0:38:21.960 opportunity to tell you that today you can be made 0:38:21.960 --> 0:38:25.600 right with God. And if that's you in the quiet 0:38:25.640 --> 0:38:28.840 of your house or your car or wherever you happen 0:38:28.840 --> 0:38:31.480 to find yourself, maybe you're on the train listening right now. 0:38:32.239 --> 0:38:35.840 You can have that quiet moment with God where you say, 0:38:35.960 --> 0:38:40.719 I am a sinner. I need a Savior. And today 0:38:40.719 --> 0:38:45.080 I turn and I follow Jesus. I confess that I 0:38:45.080 --> 0:38:49.000 need you, that I now see that there is no 0:38:49.000 --> 0:38:54.960 life apart from you. Jesus, today I want to make 0:38:54.960 --> 0:38:59.920 you not just my Lord, my Savior, and my friend. 0:39:01.360 --> 0:39:03.800 I want to pray for you, Lord, for the person who. 0:39:04.040 --> 0:39:08.000 Maybe there's just one. Maybe there's many who today are 0:39:08.000 --> 0:39:10.840 seeing it for the first time. That there's no life 0:39:10.840 --> 0:39:13.040 apart from you. Lord, I pray that you would just 0:39:13.040 --> 0:39:16.880 flood their soul with such joy in your presence, God, 0:39:17.160 --> 0:39:20.910 that as they're being made new Lord, that they would 0:39:20.910 --> 0:39:25.710 experience that refreshment. The burden being lifted, the sin that 0:39:25.710 --> 0:39:30.030 they've been carrying, being removed, becoming a new creation. Lord, 0:39:30.030 --> 0:39:33.270 all of those things we know are happening right now 0:39:33.430 --> 0:39:36.910 because of Jesus. So, Lord, would you would you bless 0:39:36.910 --> 0:39:39.629 and cover and protect this person? Lord, would you bring 0:39:39.630 --> 0:39:41.670 them quickly to a place where they could be connected 0:39:41.670 --> 0:39:45.750 with other believers? Lord? Um, this word that's been deposited 0:39:45.750 --> 0:39:48.630 in them. God, would you protect it? Lord? Let them 0:39:48.670 --> 0:39:52.190 have roots that go down deep in you. Lord, I 0:39:52.190 --> 0:39:54.189 thank you, Lord Jesus. I thank you for what you're 0:39:54.190 --> 0:39:58.710 doing right now in my brother or sister, in Jesus name, Amen. 0:39:59.670 --> 0:40:01.590 And today I can call you a brother or sister, 0:40:01.590 --> 0:40:05.430 because now you are welcomed into the family of God. 0:40:05.550 --> 0:40:08.310 So if that's you, just text the word new to 0:40:08.350 --> 0:40:15.989 800 555 7898. Text new to 805, 55 7898. Want 0:40:16.030 --> 0:40:17.630 to send you a resource that's going to give you 0:40:17.630 --> 0:40:20.230 some encouragement, some practical next steps?