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S1: Authentic relationships require honesty.

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman with a love language minute.

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S1: Bill said to his wife, Martha, I have felt for

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S1: a long time that you don't love me. I felt

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S1: that you demand many things from me, but give me

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S1: little of your affection. So I feel angry and cold

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S1: towards you. I pray that we can learn to be

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S1: open and work through our problems. I do not want

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S1: to be controlled by my negative feelings. Was this painful

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S1: for Martha to hear? Absolutely. But Bill is giving her

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S1: valuable information. If she wants to restore the marriage, she

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S1: will choose to listen and seek to understand his feelings.

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S1: If she allows her own defensive feelings to control her,

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S1: they will simply have another fight. Listening leads to understanding.

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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S2: For more, visit five Love Languages. Com.