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S1: Albright's. Gary, I'm wondering about leaving and cleaving. My family

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S1: says that they come before my husband.

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S2: I think the scriptures are very clear that when we

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S2: get married, we leave our parents. We cleave to our spouse.

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S2: That doesn't mean we desert our parents. We must honor

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S2: our parents after we get married. But our main allegiance

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S2: is to our husband or to our wife after we

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S2: get married. Failure to reckon with this, and to clarify

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S2: this before you get married will most likely cause problems

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S2: after you get married. If you and your parents don't

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S2: agree on this, it would be good for you to

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S2: sit down with a counselor or a pastor and let

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S2: the pastor help you clarify this biblical teaching of leaving

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S2: and cleaving, because it will raise its head again after

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S2: you get married. Far better to deal with it and

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S2: clarify it before you get married.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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