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S1: Communication is easy until you have a disagreement. But how

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S1: do we process conflicts without arguing?

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman with a love language minute.

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S1: As I was writing my book, The Marriage You've Always Wanted,

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S1: one of the great discoveries I made was the awesome

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S1: power of listening. Most of us are far better at

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S1: making our point than in getting the point of the

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S1: other person. Listening has to do with trying to look

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S1: at the world through the eyes of your spouse. It's

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S1: not that difficult if you try. Once you can truthfully say,

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S1: I think I understand what you're saying and it makes

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S1: a lot of sense, then you can say, let me

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S1: tell you what I'm thinking and see if it makes

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S1: sense to you. Two people who listen long enough to

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S1: affirm each other can then find a win win solution.

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of the Five Love Languages.

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S2: For more, visit five Love Languages. Com.