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S1: Lin writes Gary, I was married for 25 years and

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S1: now divorced for nine. How do I know if I'm

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S2: The most common mistake people make is to go into

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S2: a second marriage thinking that because we've fallen in love

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S2: with someone else, we've now found the right one and

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S2: everything's going to be like heaven. The reality is, I

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S2: don't care how long you've been divorced, when you remarry,

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S2: you're entering a whole new world because both of you

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S2: are coming with a history. And many times you're coming

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S2: with children, whether they're young or whether they're grown. Those

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S2: dynamics are very, very difficult to navigate. So I would

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S2: say you're asking the right question. Take time to prepare yourself.

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S2: It's not a matter of how long you've been divorced.

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S2: It's a matter of how well you're preparing for a

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S2: second marriage.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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