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Well, God wasn't impressed by that. 11 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:38,239 S4: Even if other people were. 12 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:41,080 S2: The gospel changes everything. 13 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:44,519 S5: Freedom in Christ. Man, it's like that backpack of cement 14 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:46,440 S5: just falling to the ground. 15 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:50,920 S1: Now, from the call of Hope Studios, this is Carl 16 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:51,479 S1: and crew. 17 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:55,280 S6: Okay, we've got an important guest popping in here. She's 18 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,960 S6: an expert. She's not going to be featured this whole hour, 19 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:00,529 S6: but we wanted to get an update. Lana Silk is 20 00:01:00,570 --> 00:01:03,850 S6: with us right now. Let's do a proper introduction here. 21 00:01:03,890 --> 00:01:08,010 S4: She's the president and chief executive officer with Transform Iran. 22 00:01:08,050 --> 00:01:10,250 S4: She was born and raised in Iran before emigrating to 23 00:01:10,290 --> 00:01:13,730 S4: the UK, where she completed her education. Alana, I want 24 00:01:13,730 --> 00:01:16,369 S4: to bring you in quickly. Obviously, there's been so much 25 00:01:16,410 --> 00:01:19,970 S4: happening in the news in Iran and it's it's been 26 00:01:19,970 --> 00:01:22,649 S4: hard to know how how is this a good thing? 27 00:01:22,690 --> 00:01:25,330 S4: How are the Iranian people feeling? Tell us what you 28 00:01:25,370 --> 00:01:26,250 S4: what you're hearing. 29 00:01:27,410 --> 00:01:31,170 S7: Good morning. Yes. It's really hard to respond to war 30 00:01:31,209 --> 00:01:34,050 S7: saying it's a good thing. But in truth, for the 31 00:01:34,050 --> 00:01:37,890 S7: people of Iran, this is a good thing. It's always 32 00:01:37,890 --> 00:01:40,530 S7: sad when people when there's a loss of life. But 33 00:01:40,530 --> 00:01:42,650 S7: we have to remember that there would have been a 34 00:01:42,890 --> 00:01:46,610 S7: long term continued, even greater loss of life for Iranians 35 00:01:47,250 --> 00:01:49,850 S7: had we not had intervention from the West. And I 36 00:01:50,050 --> 00:01:53,410 S7: say this perhaps a little prematurely, hoping that the intervention 37 00:01:53,410 --> 00:01:55,290 S7: continues to complete the job. 38 00:01:56,010 --> 00:02:00,410 S6: Lana, you've got a perspective knowing the underground church in Iran, 39 00:02:00,450 --> 00:02:03,810 S6: you know, stories that are happening. We see a lot 40 00:02:03,850 --> 00:02:06,250 S6: of people cheering in the streets. I heard stats that 41 00:02:06,250 --> 00:02:10,490 S6: 70 to 80% of the country is gung ho for 42 00:02:10,490 --> 00:02:14,530 S6: this transition, God willing, into a new government that would 43 00:02:14,530 --> 00:02:18,330 S6: be less constrictive and more freedom for the gospel. I 44 00:02:18,330 --> 00:02:23,170 S6: know that those 20%, they're associated with government and the 45 00:02:23,169 --> 00:02:26,930 S6: Revolutionary Guard and all of that, but give us the 46 00:02:26,930 --> 00:02:31,490 S6: perspective of people that we don't have that our listeners 47 00:02:31,530 --> 00:02:33,290 S6: need to know about, that they aren't going to hear 48 00:02:33,290 --> 00:02:35,410 S6: on the network news. What do you say? 49 00:02:36,810 --> 00:02:39,730 S7: There's a lot of conflicting emotions right now because of course, 50 00:02:39,730 --> 00:02:42,609 S7: we are at war and there is risk and everyday 51 00:02:42,610 --> 00:02:45,489 S7: life is very, very hard. So, you know, we were 52 00:02:45,490 --> 00:02:49,049 S7: talking last time I was with you both how hard 53 00:02:49,050 --> 00:02:51,930 S7: life was in terms of access to food and medical care. 54 00:02:52,130 --> 00:02:55,690 S7: It's even worse now in that sense. But in mixed 55 00:02:55,690 --> 00:02:58,100 S7: in with that, there is so much hope and excitement 56 00:02:58,100 --> 00:03:01,140 S7: because it feels like it's getting harder, but almost with 57 00:03:01,139 --> 00:03:03,100 S7: a purpose that we're coming to the end of it 58 00:03:03,100 --> 00:03:05,820 S7: and crossing the line to the other side. So I 59 00:03:05,820 --> 00:03:10,020 S7: think that difficulty is being overshadowed by excitement and hope 60 00:03:10,020 --> 00:03:11,500 S7: for what might be in the future. 61 00:03:11,860 --> 00:03:14,500 S4: Lana Silk, our guest this morning. If you want more 62 00:03:14,500 --> 00:03:19,260 S4: on Transform Iran, including a prayer guide, certainly timely, just 63 00:03:19,260 --> 00:03:27,620 S4: text transform to 855 five 7898. Text transform to 855 64 00:03:27,660 --> 00:03:29,460 S4: five 7898. 65 00:03:29,500 --> 00:03:34,020 S6: Yeah. Grateful for you, Lana. From the bottom of our heart. Well, 66 00:03:34,020 --> 00:03:37,420 S6: we're in a week here called Ask the Experts. And boy, 67 00:03:37,420 --> 00:03:39,340 S6: have we got one coming up here. Ali. 68 00:03:39,380 --> 00:03:42,660 S4: Kathy Cook is going to be joining us, taking your questions. 69 00:03:42,700 --> 00:03:46,380 S4: All things parenting. So if you have one that you've 70 00:03:46,380 --> 00:03:49,740 S4: been sitting on or phone lines are open. Text lines 71 00:03:49,740 --> 00:03:53,340 S4: are open 800 555 7898. 72 00:03:54,020 --> 00:03:57,180 S1: Get your info from a source you can trust. It's 73 00:03:57,220 --> 00:03:59,660 S1: Ask the Experts week with curl and crew. 74 00:03:59,740 --> 00:04:02,860 S6: It's Carl and crew. It's Ask the Experts week, and 75 00:04:02,860 --> 00:04:06,060 S6: we are so grateful. You know, some of the topics 76 00:04:06,060 --> 00:04:07,980 S6: that we have to tackle here are tough. And one 77 00:04:07,980 --> 00:04:10,820 S6: of the reasons that you love Moody Radio is we're 78 00:04:10,820 --> 00:04:15,420 S6: not getting weak in the knees around issues that culturally 79 00:04:15,420 --> 00:04:19,700 S6: maybe are very different than a biblical worldview, but you 80 00:04:19,700 --> 00:04:22,940 S6: want to order that for your life privately and publicly, 81 00:04:22,940 --> 00:04:25,020 S6: and you want to help minister to other people that 82 00:04:25,020 --> 00:04:28,099 S6: are struggling. One of the biggest issues that's going on 83 00:04:28,100 --> 00:04:31,300 S6: in our world today is gender confusion. And we can 84 00:04:31,300 --> 00:04:34,420 S6: talk forever about how we got here, but we are 85 00:04:34,420 --> 00:04:35,739 S6: where we are, right, Ali? 86 00:04:35,779 --> 00:04:38,740 S4: Correct. And as parents, you want to be able to 87 00:04:38,740 --> 00:04:39,780 S4: help your children. 88 00:04:40,060 --> 00:04:43,539 S6: Yeah. And there's so many issues going on screens. Um, 89 00:04:43,740 --> 00:04:46,140 S6: it's it's the killer. I heard a stat. What was 90 00:04:46,140 --> 00:04:48,659 S6: that stat? We heard 70 per. Oh, yeah, we heard 91 00:04:48,660 --> 00:04:54,710 S6: this from Drew Dickens. Guys, 70% of kids Have a 92 00:04:54,750 --> 00:04:56,110 S6: I'm forgetting the word now. 93 00:04:56,150 --> 00:04:57,710 S4: AI. Like an AI companion. 94 00:04:57,710 --> 00:05:01,870 S6: Companion? That's the word companion. Have an AI companion. 70% 95 00:05:01,870 --> 00:05:05,870 S6: of teens have an AI companion. Now that could be 96 00:05:05,870 --> 00:05:08,989 S6: terrifying if not for the fact the tomb is empty 97 00:05:08,990 --> 00:05:11,670 S6: and our God is still speaking life and truth. And 98 00:05:11,670 --> 00:05:14,870 S6: we've got a guest right now. Doctor Kathy Cook, founder 99 00:05:14,870 --> 00:05:19,430 S6: and CEO of Celebrate Kids, Inc. she's with us right now. Kathy, uh, 100 00:05:19,430 --> 00:05:23,270 S6: let's tackle this screens thing. That number of this companion 101 00:05:23,270 --> 00:05:27,030 S6: for these teen kids. That's that's crazy, isn't it, sister? 102 00:05:27,470 --> 00:05:30,670 S8: Yeah. Crazy is a really good word. It's scary. Crazy. Um, 103 00:05:30,670 --> 00:05:32,390 S8: we've got to be present in the room with our 104 00:05:32,390 --> 00:05:34,590 S8: kids so that they want to talk to us. Yeah, 105 00:05:34,750 --> 00:05:36,550 S8: we have to. We have to walk toward them. We 106 00:05:36,550 --> 00:05:38,270 S8: have to know what they're interested in. We have to 107 00:05:38,310 --> 00:05:40,510 S8: know why they like that kind of music. And they 108 00:05:40,510 --> 00:05:42,150 S8: don't like this kind of music. We need to know 109 00:05:42,150 --> 00:05:42,830 S8: our kids. 110 00:05:43,029 --> 00:05:43,750 S4: Doctor Kathy. 111 00:05:43,750 --> 00:05:44,630 S9: Cook us. 112 00:05:44,830 --> 00:05:45,390 S4: Go ahead. 113 00:05:45,990 --> 00:05:48,270 S8: So that they trust us. You know, when they have questions. 114 00:05:48,270 --> 00:05:51,310 S8: It is really scary. Relationships are hard. Let's admit that. 115 00:05:52,270 --> 00:05:55,110 S4: Doctor Kathy Cook, our guest expert, this morning. Founder and 116 00:05:55,110 --> 00:05:58,630 S4: CEO of Celebrate Kids. If you have a question on parenting, 117 00:05:58,630 --> 00:06:00,349 S4: we'll go ahead and start to get those loaded up. 118 00:06:00,350 --> 00:06:06,390 S4: 800 555 7898 Kathy is a sought after media guest 119 00:06:06,390 --> 00:06:10,070 S4: and international speaker. She's been an elementary school teacher, a 120 00:06:10,070 --> 00:06:13,670 S4: middle school coach, a school board member, and a college professor. 121 00:06:13,950 --> 00:06:18,070 S4: I'm curious which of those was the most challenging? Elementary 122 00:06:18,070 --> 00:06:21,710 S4: school teacher. Middle school coach? School board member. I've been 123 00:06:21,710 --> 00:06:24,589 S4: one of those. College professor. Which was hardest. 124 00:06:25,190 --> 00:06:28,350 S8: Oh come on. They were all hard in their own ways. Um, 125 00:06:28,470 --> 00:06:29,750 S8: they were all hard in their own way. I think 126 00:06:29,790 --> 00:06:31,710 S8: it's the fairest answer. I love them all. I thought 127 00:06:31,710 --> 00:06:34,270 S8: it would be doing them all forever. But God called 128 00:06:34,270 --> 00:06:35,789 S8: me to this, and I'm really grateful he did. 129 00:06:36,310 --> 00:06:38,990 S6: There's a lot of people listening right now, Kathy, who 130 00:06:39,029 --> 00:06:43,229 S6: struggle with the sense of helplessness. We're not helpless, are we? 131 00:06:43,670 --> 00:06:46,190 S8: No. I love what you were just saying about God 132 00:06:46,190 --> 00:06:47,990 S8: still on the throne. He's aware of what's going on. 133 00:06:47,990 --> 00:06:50,590 S8: He's not surprised. We need to lean into him. We 134 00:06:50,589 --> 00:06:54,000 S8: need to pray. expecting to hear from him. We need 135 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,680 S8: to read the word as the personal love letter that 136 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:58,720 S8: it is, so that we can benefit from it. We 137 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,200 S8: need to hang out with fellow believers. We need to 138 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,359 S8: listen to good music like you play consistently on Carl 139 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,120 S8: and crew because, you know, alone. It's hard. I don't 140 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:08,640 S8: know how people do it without God. 141 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,040 S4: From your vantage point, what are some of the top 142 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:16,680 S4: questions that you are hearing from parents currently? Obviously, so 143 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:19,320 S4: much happening in culture, but what are the hot topics? 144 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:22,320 S8: Yeah, we hear a lot about how can I get 145 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,000 S8: my kid to talk to me, which is why I 146 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:25,760 S8: was just saying what I said a few minutes ago. 147 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:28,160 S8: You know, parents are asking questions and kids are grunting 148 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:31,040 S8: their answers, which is not appropriate. We do get questions 149 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:34,680 S8: about gender, of course. It's a complex issue. We do 150 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:38,760 S8: get questions about, you know, depression, um, fatigue. You know, 151 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:41,120 S8: how would I know if my kid was suicidal? Because 152 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:43,080 S8: we're reading the news. We have to be really, really careful. 153 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:47,640 S8: Not every teenager is anxious. Not every teenager is depressed. 154 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:49,840 S8: We have to be really careful of assuming that they're 155 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,960 S8: all in big trouble. Um, many are, and we can 156 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:56,000 S8: address that, but many aren't. And so we shouldn't assume that. 157 00:07:56,840 --> 00:07:58,800 S6: We got a question that came in here from a 158 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:02,840 S6: grandparent says my 230 something kids and spouses are followers 159 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:07,840 S6: of Christ. And what are the top two simple trip tips? 160 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:10,360 S6: And then they put in parentheses and tricks. That's a 161 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:13,760 S6: little jab at Young Thunder, their tips and tricks we 162 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:17,400 S6: grandparents can do to impact our grandkids for the kingdom. 163 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:22,280 S6: So top two ways to impact grandkids. What do you say, Kathy? 164 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:25,240 S8: Definitely pray for your grandchildren even if you don't have 165 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:28,040 S8: access to them, which is sadly happening far too often. 166 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:31,280 S8: Pray for them specifically by name. Personalize the word when 167 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:33,000 S8: you read it. You know when you read about love 168 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:35,360 S8: in the scripture, put your granddaughter's name in there and say, 169 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,320 S8: I want, you know, Elizabeth, to learn how to love 170 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:39,719 S8: like this. Let them know that you're praying for them 171 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:42,560 S8: if you can. And, um, you know, talk about, tell 172 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:45,200 S8: your story. Like if grandchildren don't want to hear about God, 173 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,960 S8: if they don't want to hear about Scripture, your story, 174 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:51,650 S8: they're interested in always. And your story never lies. And 175 00:08:51,650 --> 00:08:54,370 S8: so share your story. Share your testimony. Share about, you know, 176 00:08:54,410 --> 00:08:55,650 S8: why do you go to church? Why do you have 177 00:08:55,650 --> 00:08:57,930 S8: a life group posted in your home every Tuesday night? 178 00:08:57,970 --> 00:08:59,130 S8: Why do you do what you do? 179 00:09:00,610 --> 00:09:03,570 S6: We want your questions right now. Phone lines wide open 180 00:09:03,570 --> 00:09:10,970 S6: text line wide open 800 555 7898. Your questions for 181 00:09:11,010 --> 00:09:13,570 S6: Kathy Cook. And here's here's what I want you to 182 00:09:13,610 --> 00:09:16,410 S6: think about. What is that burden that's most been on 183 00:09:16,410 --> 00:09:19,929 S6: your heart for your kids or grandkids. And I'm asking 184 00:09:19,929 --> 00:09:22,130 S6: you to tee up that question right now. You can 185 00:09:22,130 --> 00:09:26,290 S6: remain anonymous if you need to. If you text in, 186 00:09:26,290 --> 00:09:30,410 S6: obviously we're not going to read names or numbers 800. 187 00:09:31,770 --> 00:09:34,850 S6: I almost went with the wrong number here. 805 five 188 00:09:34,890 --> 00:09:43,570 S6: five 7898 800 555 7898. Let's get those questions teed up. 189 00:09:43,570 --> 00:09:48,930 S6: Phone lines wide open 800 555 78. 98. 190 00:09:50,050 --> 00:09:54,250 S1: You've got questions. They've got answers. It's Ask the Experts 191 00:09:54,290 --> 00:09:55,770 S1: week with Carl and crew. 192 00:09:56,210 --> 00:10:02,730 S6: Taking your calls for Cathy Cooke. Important topic. Kids screens, 193 00:10:02,730 --> 00:10:07,089 S6: transgender issues, all of those things. Cathy is an expert 194 00:10:07,090 --> 00:10:10,450 S6: on this stuff, guys. And so we're taking those calls 195 00:10:10,450 --> 00:10:16,530 S6: right now. 800 555 7898 Ask the Expert week has 196 00:10:16,530 --> 00:10:18,329 S6: been epic ally and the beat goes on. 197 00:10:18,330 --> 00:10:20,810 S4: And we've got questions coming in both calls and texts. 198 00:10:20,809 --> 00:10:25,970 S4: 800 555 7898. We'll go to Sierra. First time caller 199 00:10:25,970 --> 00:10:28,490 S4: from Columbia, South Carolina. Go ahead with your question for 200 00:10:28,490 --> 00:10:29,570 S4: Doctor Cathy Cook. 201 00:10:31,210 --> 00:10:34,650 S10: Hi. Thanks for taking my call. Um, I'm a young 202 00:10:34,650 --> 00:10:37,850 S10: mom of a four month old child, and I'm just 203 00:10:37,850 --> 00:10:41,809 S10: trying to figure out how to navigate bringing my child 204 00:10:41,809 --> 00:10:45,849 S10: up in a world where it's very, um, um, virtual 205 00:10:46,100 --> 00:10:49,380 S10: and a lot of media. And I'm just wondering, how 206 00:10:49,380 --> 00:10:53,860 S10: do I help my baby just to live life outside 207 00:10:53,860 --> 00:10:54,579 S10: the screen? 208 00:10:55,860 --> 00:10:58,940 S8: I love that you're already aware of this. Congratulations and 209 00:10:58,940 --> 00:11:00,020 S8: welcome to being a mom. 210 00:11:00,059 --> 00:11:00,939 S9: I'm happy to be here. 211 00:11:01,179 --> 00:11:04,380 S8: Um, no, this is really good. You need to keep 212 00:11:04,380 --> 00:11:07,980 S8: her off of devices as long as possible. And I mean, like, 213 00:11:07,980 --> 00:11:10,260 S8: when she's two and she's cranky, you don't hand her 214 00:11:10,260 --> 00:11:13,219 S8: an iPad like a pacifier. We've got to teach our 215 00:11:13,220 --> 00:11:17,059 S8: kids to enjoy people watching. Enjoy the sun in their 216 00:11:17,059 --> 00:11:18,900 S8: eyes and all of those kinds of things. It makes 217 00:11:18,900 --> 00:11:20,540 S8: me nuts when I'm in an airport and there's so 218 00:11:20,540 --> 00:11:22,860 S8: much people watching that could happen. And little kids are 219 00:11:22,860 --> 00:11:24,980 S8: on devices, so keep them off. You don't have to 220 00:11:24,980 --> 00:11:27,699 S8: buy them. You don't have to hand it to them. 221 00:11:27,700 --> 00:11:30,620 S8: You can be different. Even if, um, relatives and friends, 222 00:11:30,660 --> 00:11:32,699 S8: you know, have their kids on devices, you don't have to. 223 00:11:32,820 --> 00:11:34,380 S8: But the only way it works is if you have 224 00:11:34,380 --> 00:11:38,579 S8: alternatives available. So really good children's books, really fun squishy 225 00:11:38,580 --> 00:11:40,939 S8: balls to play with, things that she can teethe on 226 00:11:40,980 --> 00:11:44,180 S8: that you know, aren't touchscreen, obviously. You know, just go 227 00:11:44,179 --> 00:11:45,740 S8: to the park and go to the zoo and go 228 00:11:45,740 --> 00:11:49,059 S8: to the art museum when there's a Saturday free for 229 00:11:49,059 --> 00:11:51,340 S8: a family, even though she's one, she can have all 230 00:11:51,340 --> 00:11:53,380 S8: the eye candy there at the art museum. 231 00:11:53,420 --> 00:11:53,900 S9: Love it. 232 00:11:54,140 --> 00:11:56,580 S8: Expose her to so much. I'm really proud of you 233 00:11:56,580 --> 00:11:58,900 S8: for wanting to be a good mom in that way. 234 00:11:58,940 --> 00:12:02,580 S8: Be present to her without devices, it is possible. 235 00:12:02,860 --> 00:12:05,340 S6: You know, Kathy, I want to follow up on this one. 236 00:12:05,340 --> 00:12:08,660 S6: I think there's more peer pressure on parents to cave 237 00:12:08,700 --> 00:12:11,620 S6: to other parents in the cultural move than there are 238 00:12:11,620 --> 00:12:16,180 S6: kids screaming for screens. No, I'm serious about this because 239 00:12:16,179 --> 00:12:20,059 S6: I've got a granddaughter and they've they've really committed. There 240 00:12:20,059 --> 00:12:24,059 S6: ain't no screens in this girl's life and none. And 241 00:12:24,059 --> 00:12:27,020 S6: mainly because they're in the tech world, so they understand this, 242 00:12:27,340 --> 00:12:32,500 S6: so they get it. So what do parents do when 243 00:12:32,500 --> 00:12:36,540 S6: they feel the peer pressure that, you know, and it's 244 00:12:36,540 --> 00:12:39,740 S6: not even always spoken. It's kind of a glance or something. 245 00:12:39,900 --> 00:12:42,540 S6: And it can know. And you know what I'm saying Kathy, 246 00:12:42,540 --> 00:12:45,270 S6: this can get hot in the kitchen for these parents. 247 00:12:45,270 --> 00:12:46,230 S6: What do you say to them? 248 00:12:46,790 --> 00:12:49,790 S8: Yeah, we're raising this kid. We're not raising your kids. 249 00:12:49,830 --> 00:12:51,750 S8: We're not responsible for your kids. You can do whatever 250 00:12:51,750 --> 00:12:53,630 S8: you want. Although I wish that you would, you know, 251 00:12:53,670 --> 00:12:56,470 S8: consider my ideas. No, you. You stand strong and you 252 00:12:56,470 --> 00:12:58,430 S8: lean into God and his people. And you say, this 253 00:12:58,429 --> 00:13:00,630 S8: is what we've been called to do. We're going to 254 00:13:00,630 --> 00:13:03,270 S8: steward our time really well, and we're going to raise 255 00:13:03,270 --> 00:13:05,390 S8: the kid. We're not going to let tech raise the kid. 256 00:13:05,710 --> 00:13:07,630 S8: You stand up. Absolutely. 257 00:13:07,870 --> 00:13:10,949 S4: Doctor Kathy Cook, our expert this morning, this hour, taking 258 00:13:10,950 --> 00:13:16,950 S4: your questions on parenting 800 555 7898. This one came 259 00:13:16,950 --> 00:13:18,990 S4: in by text message. How do you deal with a 260 00:13:18,990 --> 00:13:21,390 S4: child who is straying from the Lord and church? As 261 00:13:21,390 --> 00:13:24,709 S4: they reach adolescence? They are wandering and it seems like 262 00:13:24,710 --> 00:13:25,910 S4: I can't stop it. 263 00:13:27,750 --> 00:13:28,230 S9: Well. 264 00:13:29,470 --> 00:13:33,270 S8: The. Yeah. So first of all, I'm so sad and 265 00:13:33,270 --> 00:13:35,310 S8: I'm really sorry that this is happening. You can be 266 00:13:35,309 --> 00:13:38,470 S8: the best parent raising the kid according to Scripture, and 267 00:13:38,470 --> 00:13:41,510 S8: because of free will and the influence of the peers 268 00:13:41,510 --> 00:13:44,150 S8: and the the culture they can walk. Don't ever give 269 00:13:44,150 --> 00:13:47,790 S8: up because God is aware and he loves your child 270 00:13:47,790 --> 00:13:51,150 S8: more than you ever could, or would certainly. Pray and 271 00:13:51,150 --> 00:13:54,829 S8: pray with hope and optimism. Persevere and endure in that way. 272 00:13:54,870 --> 00:13:58,390 S8: Make sure your love is ever present. Let the kids 273 00:13:58,390 --> 00:14:02,230 S8: know that you're always available to them and again, live 274 00:14:02,270 --> 00:14:05,870 S8: a vibrant relationship with Christ. I don't think we demonstrate 275 00:14:05,870 --> 00:14:09,630 S8: well that God is our everything and that we love him, 276 00:14:09,750 --> 00:14:12,190 S8: and it's because of our love for him that compels us, 277 00:14:12,230 --> 00:14:15,830 S8: for instance, to not want to sin because sin is easy. 278 00:14:15,870 --> 00:14:19,109 S8: Could we just go there? Making bad decisions is easy. 279 00:14:19,270 --> 00:14:22,150 S8: Walking the narrow path isn't necessarily easy today, but we 280 00:14:22,150 --> 00:14:24,070 S8: can do it. And we can do it with a 281 00:14:24,070 --> 00:14:28,030 S8: vibrancy that shows our children and even our students, that 282 00:14:28,030 --> 00:14:30,590 S8: God is best for us and his ways and his 283 00:14:30,590 --> 00:14:33,470 S8: will is what is life giving to us, because we 284 00:14:33,470 --> 00:14:37,270 S8: don't demonstrate love and a vibrant relationship. They think walking 285 00:14:37,270 --> 00:14:39,070 S8: away is fine. They think that all they need is 286 00:14:39,070 --> 00:14:41,640 S8: fire insurance. It. Jesus died that we would have an 287 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:45,960 S8: abundant life. John 1010 an abundant life. And you know, Carl, 288 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:49,080 S8: I see so many people satisfied with mediocrity. So our 289 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:53,800 S8: kids don't see that there's more to the relationship with 290 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:57,480 S8: Christ than salvation. There's abundance. Do we model that and 291 00:14:57,480 --> 00:14:59,160 S8: do we talk about all of that? 292 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:03,280 S6: And that's the ticket right there. Cathy Cook, our guest 293 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:06,680 S6: right now, I want to ask you get your questions in. 294 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:15,840 S6: Phone or text 800 555 7898 800 555 7898. Wow. 295 00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:19,320 S6: It's Ask the Experts week and this is epic. I'm 296 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:21,560 S6: loving this. All right. Got a tough question here. Let 297 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:23,520 S6: me let me try to abbreviate it. But here it 298 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:25,680 S6: is I'm going to grab some of the snippets from it. 299 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:29,880 S6: What do I do with an older teen 17 refuses 300 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:33,120 S6: to clean up after himself. Extremely messy. We're talking health 301 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:37,560 S6: hazard weigh here. Helps herself to other stuff because she 302 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:41,320 S6: doesn't take care of her own. She lies. She's disrespectful. 303 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:45,840 S6: She's unteachable, she's excelling at school. But even her coaches 304 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:48,800 S6: and teachers say she won't take feedback, won't listen to 305 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:53,080 S6: constructive criticism. Oh, man, I think you got enough of 306 00:15:53,080 --> 00:15:55,560 S6: the picture here. It even goes on. What do you say, Cathy? 307 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:56,600 S9: Wow. 308 00:15:57,240 --> 00:15:58,239 S8: Oh, I'm so sorry. 309 00:15:58,600 --> 00:15:59,160 S9: Um. 310 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:01,360 S8: It sounds to me like maybe some counseling is in 311 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:04,240 S8: order here, you know? And sometimes that's appropriate. Sometimes it's 312 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:04,840 S8: good to go to. 313 00:16:04,880 --> 00:16:05,160 S9: A. 314 00:16:05,720 --> 00:16:09,240 S8: Therapist, a counselor, a mental health coach. Nothing wrong with that. 315 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,240 S8: Talk to a pastor. Potentially. So she's capable. She's doing 316 00:16:12,240 --> 00:16:14,280 S8: well in school. I don't think she sees the value 317 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:16,800 S8: of all the other things. So again, man, we talk 318 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:19,880 S8: about living life strong. Um, I always look for the 319 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:22,400 S8: what's the why behind the what? Why is she lazy 320 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:26,200 S8: in personal hygiene? Why is she stealing? Why is she 321 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:28,440 S8: lazy about taking care of her things? Now, there are 322 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,440 S8: consequences for that. You know, if she doesn't take care 323 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:32,600 S8: of her stuff, you can take it away. You don't 324 00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:34,600 S8: buy her anything new if she's not taking care of that, 325 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:38,210 S8: which is old. So maybe there are some consequences. and 326 00:16:38,490 --> 00:16:41,570 S8: when the consequences fit the crime, it is best. So 327 00:16:41,610 --> 00:16:44,610 S8: in other words, punishment like time out and those kinds 328 00:16:44,610 --> 00:16:48,570 S8: of things. That doesn't always work because the kid can't 329 00:16:48,570 --> 00:16:53,090 S8: associate the crime with the punishment. So maybe there are 330 00:16:53,090 --> 00:16:55,810 S8: some consequences that you can put into place for the 331 00:16:55,810 --> 00:17:00,170 S8: way that she's handling her material wealth and things like that. Wow. 332 00:17:00,210 --> 00:17:03,850 S8: I would, I would, um, I would have serious conversations 333 00:17:03,850 --> 00:17:08,570 S8: with her about why is she why does she discount 334 00:17:08,609 --> 00:17:09,570 S8: those other things? 335 00:17:09,690 --> 00:17:12,690 S6: Quick, quick follow up on this one, Kathy. Um, as 336 00:17:12,690 --> 00:17:16,530 S6: a pastor and I've been in counseling these situations a lot, 337 00:17:16,570 --> 00:17:19,770 S6: and two things strike me here. One is this girl 338 00:17:19,770 --> 00:17:23,650 S6: at 17, she's got a very mature mind. She's going 339 00:17:23,650 --> 00:17:25,850 S6: to have to come to the end of herself. I mean, 340 00:17:25,890 --> 00:17:28,410 S6: this this is a tough one. She's almost out on 341 00:17:28,410 --> 00:17:30,330 S6: her own, and she's going to have to get broken. 342 00:17:30,690 --> 00:17:32,570 S6: The other thing that hits me, and I don't say 343 00:17:32,570 --> 00:17:35,609 S6: this to condemn any parent right now, but this battle 344 00:17:35,609 --> 00:17:39,810 S6: wasn't lost at 17. This thing was lost at seven months. 345 00:17:39,850 --> 00:17:41,530 S6: We got to go back there and get some of 346 00:17:41,530 --> 00:17:43,250 S6: these things in place. Right, Kathy? 347 00:17:43,890 --> 00:17:45,650 S8: That's a really good point that we do look back. 348 00:17:45,650 --> 00:17:47,609 S8: And so we say to our parents, it's never too late. 349 00:17:47,850 --> 00:17:49,810 S8: And you can still have hope in this situation. But 350 00:17:49,810 --> 00:17:52,490 S8: to the parents who are listening who have younger kids. Yeah, 351 00:17:52,530 --> 00:17:55,370 S8: be strong now. Walk toward them now. Ask them now, 352 00:17:55,369 --> 00:17:56,770 S8: where are they going and who are they with and 353 00:17:56,770 --> 00:17:58,810 S8: why are they listening to that? And why do they 354 00:17:58,810 --> 00:18:00,650 S8: shut the door when you told them to keep it open? 355 00:18:00,810 --> 00:18:03,130 S8: We have got to help our younger children understand that 356 00:18:03,130 --> 00:18:07,250 S8: obedience is a blessing and obedience is right and Teachability 357 00:18:07,250 --> 00:18:09,770 S8: is right. So back to this gal again, Karl. Let's 358 00:18:09,770 --> 00:18:11,730 S8: call sin sin. By the way, I love your book 359 00:18:11,730 --> 00:18:12,530 S8: on that topic. 360 00:18:12,570 --> 00:18:13,889 S9: Thank you. This is pride. 361 00:18:13,930 --> 00:18:18,050 S8: This is pride. And you, you know, Ephesians 422 says, 362 00:18:18,090 --> 00:18:20,689 S8: take off your old self. Verse 24 says, put on 363 00:18:20,690 --> 00:18:24,369 S8: your new self and the middle, the middle. Verse 23 says, 364 00:18:24,369 --> 00:18:26,130 S8: renew your mind. And that's done in the Holy Word 365 00:18:26,130 --> 00:18:28,410 S8: of God. And we can do that with our children. 366 00:18:28,410 --> 00:18:30,450 S8: If our children won't do it on their own. This 367 00:18:30,450 --> 00:18:32,650 S8: girl needs to take off pride and put on humility 368 00:18:32,890 --> 00:18:35,820 S8: and take off arrogance and put on teachability and put 369 00:18:35,820 --> 00:18:39,140 S8: off isolation and put on community. Right. And put off 370 00:18:39,460 --> 00:18:42,300 S8: laziness and put on effort and endurance, etc.. So that 371 00:18:42,300 --> 00:18:44,660 S8: maybe is the way that the parents pray for her 372 00:18:44,820 --> 00:18:46,260 S8: and the things that we talk to her about. What 373 00:18:46,260 --> 00:18:48,540 S8: if we talk to these kids, Carl, more about what 374 00:18:48,540 --> 00:18:51,260 S8: they could be doing rather than what they are doing? 375 00:18:51,460 --> 00:18:53,820 S8: What if we give them a vision for their tomorrows. 376 00:18:53,820 --> 00:18:56,340 S9: If they were to turn the course right? Yeah. 377 00:18:56,619 --> 00:18:57,940 S6: Yep. Couldn't agree more. 378 00:18:57,980 --> 00:19:01,060 S4: Doctor Kathy Cook, our guest. Right now we're taking your questions. 379 00:19:01,100 --> 00:19:09,700 S4: 855 five 7898 questions on parenting to 800 555 7898. 380 00:19:09,780 --> 00:19:13,020 S4: Coming up, a parent, how can I talk to my son? 381 00:19:13,020 --> 00:19:15,379 S4: I'm worried about him, but I don't want to push 382 00:19:15,380 --> 00:19:16,979 S4: him away. Good one. 383 00:19:18,100 --> 00:19:21,580 S1: When you don't know who's better to ask than an expert. 384 00:19:21,820 --> 00:19:23,700 S1: You're listening to Carl and crew. 385 00:19:24,060 --> 00:19:26,460 S4: We've got Doctor Kathy Cook with us as our guest 386 00:19:26,460 --> 00:19:33,780 S4: expert this hour. Taking your questions on parenting. 855 five 7898. 387 00:19:34,140 --> 00:19:36,179 S4: I'm going to give some specifics before I get to 388 00:19:36,220 --> 00:19:40,100 S4: what is a very general question. This parent of a 389 00:19:40,100 --> 00:19:43,540 S4: college student who my son pierced his ears. I'm a 390 00:19:43,540 --> 00:19:46,260 S4: little taken aback. I know God doesn't look at the outside, 391 00:19:46,260 --> 00:19:48,300 S4: but at the heart. But how can I make sure 392 00:19:48,300 --> 00:19:51,180 S4: this isn't something more in terms of identity or some 393 00:19:51,180 --> 00:19:55,300 S4: destructive trajectory that he's on? Most importantly, how can I 394 00:19:55,300 --> 00:19:59,700 S4: talk to him without pushing him away, whether it's ears 395 00:19:59,740 --> 00:20:03,500 S4: pierced or some other of a million things? How do 396 00:20:03,500 --> 00:20:05,740 S4: we talk to our kids about things that we're concerned 397 00:20:05,740 --> 00:20:07,180 S4: about without pushing them away? 398 00:20:08,140 --> 00:20:10,900 S8: Yeah. Well, that's an interesting those are interesting specifics, right? 399 00:20:10,940 --> 00:20:13,540 S8: We shouldn't assume, in my opinion, we don't assume that 400 00:20:13,540 --> 00:20:15,900 S8: the piercing means a whole lot. I think I would 401 00:20:15,900 --> 00:20:17,820 S8: ask the question, you know, why was that compelling? Why 402 00:20:17,820 --> 00:20:19,980 S8: did you choose to do that? What does it represent 403 00:20:19,980 --> 00:20:22,780 S8: to you? For many, many men, a piercing and a 404 00:20:22,780 --> 00:20:26,420 S8: tattoo is a memory. It cements a memory. For them. 405 00:20:26,619 --> 00:20:28,580 S8: It is like a scrapbook, like some of us who 406 00:20:28,580 --> 00:20:30,340 S8: are older had when we were kids. So maybe we 407 00:20:30,340 --> 00:20:34,070 S8: would start by asking about that specifically. Um, so yeah, 408 00:20:34,070 --> 00:20:37,550 S8: don't assume the negative as far as talking in general. Um, boys, 409 00:20:37,590 --> 00:20:39,149 S8: boys and girls like to talk in the dark. They 410 00:20:39,150 --> 00:20:40,550 S8: don't like to look in our eyes. If they know 411 00:20:40,550 --> 00:20:42,830 S8: they're going to upset us, they like to run errands 412 00:20:42,830 --> 00:20:44,630 S8: with us. They've had a number of young people tell 413 00:20:44,630 --> 00:20:48,270 S8: me that they they don't like grocery store delivery, because 414 00:20:48,270 --> 00:20:50,310 S8: they used to like going to the store with their mom, 415 00:20:50,510 --> 00:20:52,070 S8: because that was the time when they had one on 416 00:20:52,109 --> 00:20:54,510 S8: one time with their mom and they had conversation times. 417 00:20:54,510 --> 00:20:57,230 S8: So that's an interesting conversation to even ask your kids, 418 00:20:57,230 --> 00:20:59,389 S8: do you miss running errands with me? If you don't 419 00:20:59,390 --> 00:21:03,350 S8: know this, boys always talk more when they're busy. Girls 420 00:21:03,350 --> 00:21:06,109 S8: will handle the kind of the kitchen table interrogation, if 421 00:21:06,109 --> 00:21:09,149 S8: you will. The eye contact boys are shouldered, you know, 422 00:21:09,190 --> 00:21:12,630 S8: boys are shoulder to shoulder communicators, right? So boys like 423 00:21:12,630 --> 00:21:14,590 S8: to talk when they're busy. So go walk the halls 424 00:21:14,590 --> 00:21:16,990 S8: of a of a store they like, um, go weed 425 00:21:16,990 --> 00:21:19,150 S8: the garden together, do a jigsaw puzzle where their eyes 426 00:21:19,150 --> 00:21:21,070 S8: are down and they're busy. They're not going to maybe 427 00:21:21,109 --> 00:21:22,950 S8: answer the question, how is school at the dinner table 428 00:21:22,950 --> 00:21:25,270 S8: with everybody else there? But they'll talk to you in 429 00:21:25,270 --> 00:21:28,550 S8: times when it's a more, maybe confidential, talk about highlights 430 00:21:28,550 --> 00:21:31,110 S8: and lowlights. If they think that every time you talk 431 00:21:31,109 --> 00:21:32,680 S8: to them, it's going to be about the bad stuff. 432 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:33,840 S8: They're not going to want to talk to you and 433 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:35,600 S8: they're not going to want to listen. So what was 434 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:37,240 S8: the great part of the day? What was the worst 435 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:39,119 S8: part of the day? How could you have made it better? 436 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:40,920 S8: Who did you love today? Well, why did you choose 437 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,360 S8: to love that person? Well. ET cetera, et cetera. And 438 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,320 S8: I'd love to say tell me more if you ask 439 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:48,200 S8: a question, even about the piercing. And they don't tell 440 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:50,720 S8: you much, they grunt. They give you a one sentence answer. 441 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,040 S8: Don't interrogate. What we tend to do right is we 442 00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:55,040 S8: tend to then ask a whole bunch of questions, well, 443 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:56,399 S8: who was there and what do they do? And what 444 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,160 S8: did the teacher think and who did you go with? 445 00:21:58,200 --> 00:21:59,879 S8: You know, and this is what makes us feel like 446 00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:02,639 S8: we've done something wrong. Even adults feel like they've done 447 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:04,960 S8: something wrong when they're interrogated. Just say to your kid 448 00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:09,160 S8: or your grandkid, I'm keep talking or tell me more. 449 00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:10,320 S8: And when they look at you, he goes, no, I 450 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,280 S8: just want to understand you. Can you keep talking? Because 451 00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:16,239 S8: the more information you have, the greater the likelihood that 452 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,159 S8: what you're going to say next is going to be relevant. 453 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:22,080 S6: Yeah, I love that piercing thing. That's a great metaphor. 454 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,080 S6: I would just leverage that for you. You know what? 455 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:28,639 S6: God really loves piercings. Mainly our heart. And he wants 456 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:31,240 S6: to pierce it through and and no, I'm not joking. 457 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:34,120 S6: I would turn that into a spiritual metaphor, like in 458 00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:37,680 S6: a New York second, Cathy calling in with a question 459 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,560 S6: for Cathy. What do you have, Cathy? 460 00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:42,520 S11: Yeah, I love that piercing. 461 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,120 S6: Okay, you got the radio on in the background. I'm 462 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,720 S6: hearing myself again and that no one should have to 463 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,200 S6: do that, especially Carl. All right, Cathy, we got you there. 464 00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:56,760 S6: You got your radio turned down, sister. No. She doesn't. 465 00:22:56,800 --> 00:23:00,280 S4: Okay, I got a text message. Question. Uh, my oldest 466 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,000 S4: adult daughter is militant again against Christians. She views them 467 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:07,080 S4: as hateful. She was raised as a Christian. She professed 468 00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:10,160 S4: professed Christianity. She was baptized as a believer. But when 469 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:13,359 S4: she left home, it gradually turned. What can I say 470 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,200 S4: or do? Of course. We pray consistently. 471 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:18,719 S8: Um, well, praise God that you're praying. And again, I'm 472 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,280 S8: sorry that this is happening. Love her really well and 473 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,240 S8: talk about everything. In addition to that, you can still 474 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:27,000 S8: talk about the lack of faith. You can talk about 475 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,930 S8: your vibrant experience with church and what the Lord said 476 00:23:29,930 --> 00:23:32,050 S8: to you as you were worshiping or whatever. You still 477 00:23:32,050 --> 00:23:34,730 S8: have your story, which is legit. Talk with your doctor 478 00:23:34,730 --> 00:23:36,770 S8: about all the other things. Talk about your friendships. Talk 479 00:23:36,810 --> 00:23:39,770 S8: about her use of social media. Talk about her chosen, 480 00:23:39,890 --> 00:23:42,450 S8: you know, college major or her career, how an apprenticeship 481 00:23:42,450 --> 00:23:44,650 S8: is going, you know, talk about, you know, what you 482 00:23:44,650 --> 00:23:46,730 S8: love to cook with me. What are you cooking recently 483 00:23:46,770 --> 00:23:49,050 S8: like talk about all the other things so that she 484 00:23:49,050 --> 00:23:51,650 S8: knows that you still care about who she is in 485 00:23:51,650 --> 00:23:55,250 S8: the entirety of her design. She's still an image bearer. Um, 486 00:23:55,290 --> 00:23:57,330 S8: talk with her about those kinds of things when you can, 487 00:23:57,570 --> 00:24:01,610 S8: and absolutely pray optimistically. This is not uncommon. Sadly. You know, 488 00:24:01,609 --> 00:24:04,330 S8: she was in your home. I would say, um, separated 489 00:24:04,330 --> 00:24:06,690 S8: her from the people who are influencing her. Um, get 490 00:24:06,690 --> 00:24:08,690 S8: her off of X. Nobody should be on X. My 491 00:24:08,690 --> 00:24:11,490 S8: humble opinion. Um, you know, and be careful of all 492 00:24:11,490 --> 00:24:14,250 S8: the binge watching, um, of the Netflix shows. ET cetera, 493 00:24:14,250 --> 00:24:17,010 S8: et cetera. But when they're adults, um, you can you 494 00:24:17,010 --> 00:24:20,890 S8: can still parent as a verb. You can't parent as a. Well, 495 00:24:20,930 --> 00:24:23,129 S8: you I better not go into that. That's out of 496 00:24:23,130 --> 00:24:24,490 S8: my new book. I probably don't have time to go 497 00:24:24,490 --> 00:24:28,050 S8: into that, but just, uh. Yeah, Be available and be 498 00:24:28,050 --> 00:24:30,330 S8: careful with what you say. I'm so sorry it's happening. 499 00:24:30,490 --> 00:24:33,890 S6: Yeah. Thank you for that, Kathy. Kathy cook, doctor. Kathy Cook, 500 00:24:33,930 --> 00:24:38,889 S6: our expert right now taking calls, uh, text messages, questions 501 00:24:38,890 --> 00:24:46,770 S6: about parenting. Grandparenting covering any issue that you have. (800) 555-7898. 502 00:24:46,810 --> 00:24:50,129 S6: Anonymous in Grand Rapids, Michigan. What's your question for Kathy? 503 00:24:52,010 --> 00:24:56,130 S12: I have a daughter who just recently started dating. She 504 00:24:56,130 --> 00:25:00,610 S12: is a believer. He is a believer. Um, she's an adult. 505 00:25:00,609 --> 00:25:07,330 S12: And it's. He proposed within three months of dating. Um, 506 00:25:07,330 --> 00:25:11,330 S12: they've known each other very briefly, and that is a concern. 507 00:25:11,330 --> 00:25:14,570 S12: And I just want to know, I brought it to 508 00:25:14,609 --> 00:25:18,250 S12: the Lord, but it's caused some friction between us. So 509 00:25:18,250 --> 00:25:21,010 S12: how can I help in that area? 510 00:25:22,250 --> 00:25:25,369 S8: I appreciate your question. Oh, this is so awkward. There 511 00:25:25,369 --> 00:25:29,220 S8: are many people who meet and fall in love quickly, 512 00:25:29,260 --> 00:25:33,140 S8: date and marry, and have amazing marriages. There is no 513 00:25:33,140 --> 00:25:35,379 S8: reason to believe that this will not work just because 514 00:25:35,380 --> 00:25:38,580 S8: it's short. If it's a complex issue, other people of 515 00:25:38,580 --> 00:25:40,700 S8: course can have, you know, a ten year friendship that 516 00:25:40,700 --> 00:25:42,620 S8: turns into love and they marry and everything is fine 517 00:25:42,619 --> 00:25:45,700 S8: as well. So don't assume necessarily it's wrong. Um, praise 518 00:25:45,700 --> 00:25:48,700 S8: God they're believers again. Is he mature? Is he more 519 00:25:48,700 --> 00:25:51,700 S8: mature than your daughter? Will he lead well? Will she submit? Well, 520 00:25:51,700 --> 00:25:54,020 S8: those are questions to ask. And I would again, you 521 00:25:54,060 --> 00:25:55,580 S8: hear me say on the radio all the time, you know. 522 00:25:55,619 --> 00:25:57,419 S8: Do you? Do you know them? Are you asking the 523 00:25:57,420 --> 00:26:00,419 S8: right questions? You know, ask about the why? Um. What 524 00:26:00,460 --> 00:26:01,780 S8: do you what do you love about him? What do 525 00:26:01,780 --> 00:26:03,820 S8: you like about him? What do you have in common? 526 00:26:03,859 --> 00:26:07,659 S8: Have you guys talked about children and finances and values 527 00:26:07,660 --> 00:26:10,540 S8: and the way that you're going to live out your life, etcetera, etcetera. 528 00:26:10,580 --> 00:26:13,140 S8: You do have a right to ask those questions. Um, 529 00:26:13,140 --> 00:26:15,379 S8: and I might even say, depending upon the relationship I 530 00:26:15,380 --> 00:26:18,100 S8: have with the girl, I might say to my daughter, um, 531 00:26:18,100 --> 00:26:19,540 S8: why are you in a hurry? It looks like you're 532 00:26:19,540 --> 00:26:21,500 S8: in a hurry. Are you afraid that if you don't 533 00:26:21,500 --> 00:26:23,540 S8: make a quick commitment that he'll leave, then that's not 534 00:26:23,540 --> 00:26:27,260 S8: a good sign? So. Yeah, it's it's awkward. Carl, I 535 00:26:27,260 --> 00:26:28,140 S8: bet you've had so many. 536 00:26:28,500 --> 00:26:32,300 S6: Oh, sister, thank you for. Thank you. Because, you know, 537 00:26:32,340 --> 00:26:34,500 S6: I had something recently here where a couple came to 538 00:26:34,540 --> 00:26:36,780 S6: my bride and I, and they wanted to get married, and. 539 00:26:37,260 --> 00:26:41,020 S6: And here's the test. It's not time. It's. Do you 540 00:26:41,020 --> 00:26:43,620 S6: have two people that are humble and teachable? And they've 541 00:26:43,619 --> 00:26:46,580 S6: got somewhat their head screwed on. But let's remember back 542 00:26:46,580 --> 00:26:50,700 S6: to when we got married, when I was an idiot, 543 00:26:50,700 --> 00:26:53,419 S6: when I got married, and I had a lot to learn, 544 00:26:53,540 --> 00:26:57,500 S6: I was an idiot. Uh, here's the thing that I 545 00:26:57,500 --> 00:26:59,859 S6: want to throw in, Kathy. And I think you'd echo this. 546 00:27:00,660 --> 00:27:04,020 S6: Do you want them getting screwed up sexually if things 547 00:27:04,020 --> 00:27:07,340 S6: are hot in the kitchen? Paul's really clear. Don't dance 548 00:27:07,340 --> 00:27:10,780 S6: in that turf. So if if they're checking the boxes 549 00:27:10,780 --> 00:27:15,460 S6: on spiritual maturity, humility, teachability. I mean, to have a 550 00:27:15,460 --> 00:27:18,980 S6: girl meet a guy who's an all in Jesus follower. 551 00:27:19,380 --> 00:27:19,900 S8: Yeah. 552 00:27:20,020 --> 00:27:22,980 S6: I mean, I'm walking down the aisle with him with 553 00:27:23,070 --> 00:27:26,550 S6: the dance theme going, I'm I'm all there. So I'm 554 00:27:26,550 --> 00:27:29,630 S6: principled on this one. It's not about time. It's about 555 00:27:29,910 --> 00:27:34,310 S6: the quality of the people getting married and more on that. Kathy. 556 00:27:34,750 --> 00:27:37,790 S8: Well, yeah. Let me just remind everyone that finding strong 557 00:27:37,790 --> 00:27:40,030 S8: Christian masculine men is not easy today. 558 00:27:40,070 --> 00:27:40,470 S6: Oh my. 559 00:27:40,470 --> 00:27:43,270 S8: Word. You know, in finding again the right woman. So yeah, 560 00:27:43,310 --> 00:27:45,389 S8: I agree with you. I do agree with you. 561 00:27:45,590 --> 00:27:48,990 S6: Okay, let's go back. Oh boy. We got questions coming 562 00:27:48,990 --> 00:27:49,830 S6: in now. Ali. 563 00:27:49,869 --> 00:27:53,350 S4: Yes, this one came in by text message. Anonymous says 564 00:27:53,350 --> 00:27:57,590 S4: my children are highly drawn to support the cultural movement 565 00:27:57,590 --> 00:28:00,830 S4: of LGBTQ. Plus, it's seen in their friend group and 566 00:28:00,830 --> 00:28:03,670 S4: life choices. There are also some family members who encourage this. 567 00:28:03,670 --> 00:28:07,350 S4: How do I approach conversations, support my children and show 568 00:28:07,350 --> 00:28:10,870 S4: them the way of Jesus? This is a big one. 569 00:28:11,630 --> 00:28:15,310 S8: It's so hard. It is so hard. Um, yeah. They 570 00:28:15,310 --> 00:28:19,190 S8: think love is is love. So we want them to like. 571 00:28:19,190 --> 00:28:21,910 S8: And they can love their friends who are sexually confused, 572 00:28:21,910 --> 00:28:23,670 S8: but we don't want them to obviously walk on that 573 00:28:23,670 --> 00:28:26,790 S8: same path because it's damaging. The scripture is right. You know, 574 00:28:26,830 --> 00:28:30,149 S8: God wins and he says that, you know, men and 575 00:28:30,150 --> 00:28:32,950 S8: women are supposed to fall in love and marry, etcetera, etcetera. 576 00:28:32,950 --> 00:28:35,510 S8: So first of all, they're deceived. These young people are deceived. 577 00:28:35,510 --> 00:28:39,150 S8: They're not stupid, they're deceived. And, um, man, we've got 578 00:28:39,150 --> 00:28:42,030 S8: to be careful that our kids don't fall into that. Unfortunately, 579 00:28:42,230 --> 00:28:45,230 S8: the gay and lesbian community is very good at recruiting. 580 00:28:45,510 --> 00:28:48,750 S8: They're very good at demonstrating vibrant love. They're very good 581 00:28:48,750 --> 00:28:50,709 S8: at looking like they're all having a really good time. 582 00:28:50,950 --> 00:28:55,310 S8: And if young people are isolated, lonely and fearful, they'll 583 00:28:55,310 --> 00:28:58,990 S8: be targeted by this community and won over into that 584 00:28:59,030 --> 00:29:00,310 S8: way of being. So one of the things that we 585 00:29:00,310 --> 00:29:02,150 S8: do with these kids who are friends with the gay 586 00:29:02,150 --> 00:29:04,830 S8: and lesbian community is make sure that we're stronger friends 587 00:29:04,830 --> 00:29:06,870 S8: with them and that they want to go out to eat, 588 00:29:06,910 --> 00:29:08,310 S8: you know, for pizza on a Friday night with mom 589 00:29:08,310 --> 00:29:09,550 S8: and dad. And they want to have a friend over 590 00:29:09,550 --> 00:29:11,550 S8: for movie night on a Saturday night with mom and dad. 591 00:29:11,590 --> 00:29:14,390 S8: ET cetera. ET cetera. So again, it's not, you know, 592 00:29:14,430 --> 00:29:16,710 S8: we want them to to be kind. We want them 593 00:29:16,710 --> 00:29:18,870 S8: to demonstrate the love of Christ. And then we also 594 00:29:18,870 --> 00:29:22,600 S8: make sure that they know that Christ would not agree 595 00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:24,920 S8: with the decision that these young people are making. So 596 00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:27,280 S8: do you agree with them or are you loving them 597 00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:31,160 S8: as Christ would want you to love? It's complex, complex, complex. 598 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:36,280 S8: Make sure your your children have other friends who are heterosexually, 599 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:39,320 S8: you know, strong as well. And I would boldly say, 600 00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,520 S8: and this is awkward and we would need an hour 601 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:43,600 S8: to unpack it. But if your kids are in the 602 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,160 S8: public schools, be really careful. And I just have to 603 00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,320 S8: say that I'm a fan of homeschooling. I'm a fan 604 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:51,479 S8: of the right Christian school, where the peer group is 605 00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,959 S8: more likely to be the the types of friends that 606 00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:56,760 S8: you would want your kids to hang out with. I'm 607 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:58,760 S8: not saying that we should all abandon the public schools 608 00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,080 S8: I taught there. 90% of the kids in America are 609 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:03,600 S8: still there. We can't abandon the program. But if your 610 00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,760 S8: kids are the type who are going to be emotionally 611 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:09,240 S8: invested in unhealthy relationships, and you see them going down 612 00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,840 S8: a really dangerous path, then you might need to make 613 00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:15,240 S8: a really hard decision and pull them from that climate. 614 00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,320 S6: Yeah, this is an issue of belonging, isn't it? And 615 00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,200 S6: if we have if we create an environment where they 616 00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:24,760 S6: belong here, it's less likely they're going to go there. Kathy, 617 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:25,400 S6: what do you say? 618 00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:29,000 S8: Absolutely, absolutely. Identity. Who am I is formed in the 619 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,840 S8: context of security and belonging. If they have no one 620 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:33,960 S8: to trust, they're going to be misled. And if they have, 621 00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,000 S8: if they're isolated and lonely, they're going to be looking 622 00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,800 S8: for community. And again, this this community will welcome them 623 00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,840 S8: quickly because they recruit. They want their numbers to grow. Yeah. 624 00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:43,880 S8: So yeah the right peer group is important. Get them 625 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,080 S8: involved in choir. Let them play soccer. Have them serve 626 00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,320 S8: at the nursing home that your grandmother lives at every 627 00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:52,520 S8: Sunday afternoon at two with the family. Get them busy 628 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:56,200 S8: doing things that will will meet their soul needs. Because 629 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,720 S8: service is what we're created for. So when we get 630 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:00,800 S8: our eyes off of ourselves and we love others, well, 631 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:03,280 S8: it changes us. And then that's going to help us 632 00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,280 S8: stay away from the negative influence. 633 00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,240 S6: Yeah, and don't be an angry evangelical that turns off 634 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:13,560 S6: any kid. All right. Uh, Araceli, coming in from Berwyn, Illinois. 635 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:16,680 S6: Thank you. Araceli, what's your question for Doctor Kathy Cook? 636 00:31:17,810 --> 00:31:21,050 S13: Hi. Um, I just need to know how I can 637 00:31:21,050 --> 00:31:26,290 S13: repair my relationship with my daughter. I've had a horrible past. 638 00:31:26,330 --> 00:31:31,570 S13: I've made mistakes. Um. And I've. You know, she's woken 639 00:31:31,570 --> 00:31:33,770 S13: up in the middle of the night seeing different men 640 00:31:33,770 --> 00:31:36,330 S13: at my house. I used to smoke weed all the 641 00:31:36,330 --> 00:31:42,330 S13: time and going homeless several times through throughout the years. Um, 642 00:31:42,330 --> 00:31:46,650 S13: with the inconsistency of homes. And she resents me. I'm 643 00:31:46,890 --> 00:31:51,050 S13: on the path of getting baptized. I'm going to women's, um, groups. 644 00:31:51,050 --> 00:31:54,290 S13: I've been going to church and turning my life around, 645 00:31:54,290 --> 00:31:59,010 S13: and she's just not budging with me. Um, she holds 646 00:31:59,010 --> 00:32:01,170 S13: this resentment toward me, and I don't know how to 647 00:32:01,170 --> 00:32:01,810 S13: repair that. 648 00:32:01,890 --> 00:32:04,090 S6: How old is she, Araceli? How old is she? And 649 00:32:04,090 --> 00:32:07,650 S6: then Doctor Kathy Cook will respond. Ten years old. Okay. Doctor, 650 00:32:07,650 --> 00:32:08,330 S6: what do you say? 651 00:32:08,650 --> 00:32:11,170 S8: Uh, first of all, I'm so sorry. Well, first of all, 652 00:32:11,450 --> 00:32:13,930 S8: I'm proud of you. And thrilled that you've done a 653 00:32:13,930 --> 00:32:17,050 S8: u turn and that the Lord is helping you become stronger. 654 00:32:17,050 --> 00:32:19,890 S8: So that's fabulous news. And I'm sorry that you're going 655 00:32:19,890 --> 00:32:22,650 S8: through this with her. Don't give up. Make sure that 656 00:32:22,650 --> 00:32:25,530 S8: you have apologized. That's super important. Way too many kids 657 00:32:25,530 --> 00:32:28,250 S8: tell me that their parents haven't. I think sometimes they have. 658 00:32:28,290 --> 00:32:30,130 S8: But the kids didn't hear it the way the parents 659 00:32:30,130 --> 00:32:32,690 S8: wanted them to hear it. So write a letter to her. 660 00:32:32,770 --> 00:32:36,770 S8: You know, print a note to her consistently. Today's a 661 00:32:36,770 --> 00:32:39,690 S8: new day. And walk with me into the future. The 662 00:32:39,690 --> 00:32:42,410 S8: thing that's really interesting, too, is that we become stronger 663 00:32:42,410 --> 00:32:45,650 S8: in the valley, right? The scripture is really true. James 664 00:32:45,650 --> 00:32:48,930 S8: chapter one, Romans chapter five. Both teach that when we 665 00:32:48,970 --> 00:32:50,850 S8: walk out of our valleys, well, we learn to have 666 00:32:50,850 --> 00:32:54,330 S8: hope and endure and develop our character. We're stronger for it. 667 00:32:54,330 --> 00:32:57,490 S8: So you're actually super strong now because of the negative 668 00:32:57,490 --> 00:33:00,090 S8: experiences God has allowed you to endure. And I want 669 00:33:00,090 --> 00:33:01,770 S8: you to lean into that. And I want your daughter 670 00:33:01,770 --> 00:33:04,130 S8: to understand that she can become a better person, a 671 00:33:04,130 --> 00:33:08,690 S8: more complete person, a more loving person because of the difficulty. 672 00:33:08,890 --> 00:33:12,130 S8: If you do believe that there's lasting trauma, and she's 673 00:33:12,130 --> 00:33:14,170 S8: having a hard time connecting with you and trusting you 674 00:33:14,170 --> 00:33:17,420 S8: because there has been inconsistency. Again, I would encourage you 675 00:33:17,420 --> 00:33:20,500 S8: to get another voice into the conversation. A pastor, a 676 00:33:20,500 --> 00:33:23,660 S8: youth pastor, a Sunday school teacher that your daughter loves, 677 00:33:24,020 --> 00:33:27,340 S8: possibly a counselor. So so that you have someone supporting 678 00:33:27,340 --> 00:33:30,620 S8: you in this journey. And please don't give up. She's 679 00:33:30,660 --> 00:33:33,540 S8: praise God she's ten and she's young enough that she'll 680 00:33:33,540 --> 00:33:38,020 S8: be able to, I believe, um, become resilient. Meaning that 681 00:33:38,020 --> 00:33:39,740 S8: she will choose to trust again. 682 00:33:41,060 --> 00:33:44,100 S4: Thank you so much, doctor Cathy Cook, our guest expert, 683 00:33:44,100 --> 00:33:47,580 S4: this morning. Uh. Your questions. We've got time for some more. 684 00:33:47,620 --> 00:33:52,740 S4: 855 five 7898. Coming up, we're going to tackle this one. 685 00:33:52,740 --> 00:33:56,420 S4: This one was asked by one parent via text. But 686 00:33:56,460 --> 00:33:58,700 S4: I know that there are many, many others battling the 687 00:33:58,700 --> 00:34:01,300 S4: same thing. My adult children have all left the church 688 00:34:01,380 --> 00:34:04,219 S4: despite being very active in it as kids. I now 689 00:34:04,220 --> 00:34:06,300 S4: have one three year old grandson who is not being 690 00:34:06,300 --> 00:34:09,140 S4: raised in the faith. We are long distance as grandparents 691 00:34:09,140 --> 00:34:12,580 S4: and have very little influence. How can we better influence 692 00:34:12,580 --> 00:34:16,660 S4: with the distance between us. Lots to this one. Doctor 693 00:34:16,660 --> 00:34:19,220 S4: Kathy Cook tackles it coming up here on Karl and crew. 694 00:34:20,340 --> 00:34:23,580 S1: Get in the know with life's biggest questions. It's Ask 695 00:34:23,620 --> 00:34:25,660 S1: the Experts week with Karl and crew. 696 00:34:26,140 --> 00:34:29,180 S4: Our guest expert this hour, doctor Kathy Cook, founder and 697 00:34:29,180 --> 00:34:35,819 S4: CEO of Celebrate Kids. Just text kids to 800 555 7898. 698 00:34:35,860 --> 00:34:41,780 S4: If you want more, just text kids to (800) 555-7898 doctor 699 00:34:41,780 --> 00:34:45,700 S4: Kathy Cook the heartbreak of so many parents, adult children 700 00:34:45,700 --> 00:34:48,620 S4: who have walked away from the faith, and then the 701 00:34:48,620 --> 00:34:51,939 S4: element of grandparent being now grandparents and parents, and there 702 00:34:51,940 --> 00:34:55,700 S4: being some distance between both their children and their grandchildren, 703 00:34:55,700 --> 00:34:57,660 S4: speak to that right. 704 00:34:57,660 --> 00:34:59,740 S8: First of all, again, I'm just sorry this is happening 705 00:34:59,739 --> 00:35:02,940 S8: and sadly, it's far too common. Again, don't give up 706 00:35:03,460 --> 00:35:06,900 S8: and please understand that what I think has happened is 707 00:35:06,900 --> 00:35:09,660 S8: most of us look back with today's wisdom and we 708 00:35:09,660 --> 00:35:12,910 S8: judge ourselves very harshly. Most of you who have adult 709 00:35:12,910 --> 00:35:14,830 S8: children who have walked away did the very best you 710 00:35:14,870 --> 00:35:17,029 S8: knew how to do when you did it. You parented well. 711 00:35:17,030 --> 00:35:18,710 S8: You brought them to church. Or maybe you weren't a 712 00:35:18,710 --> 00:35:21,670 S8: Jesus follower yet. That's okay. Don't. Don't beat yourself up 713 00:35:21,670 --> 00:35:25,270 S8: over that. Don't look back with today's wisdom. You'll never 714 00:35:25,310 --> 00:35:27,230 S8: be fair to yourself in that moment. It's not about 715 00:35:27,230 --> 00:35:29,910 S8: looking back and judging. It's about looking forward with hope. 716 00:35:30,150 --> 00:35:33,910 S8: Which means that you pray. You pray regularly. You reach out. 717 00:35:33,910 --> 00:35:37,390 S8: You offer comfort. You offer service when you can. And 718 00:35:37,430 --> 00:35:40,670 S8: if they say no, sadly, you have to accept that. 719 00:35:40,710 --> 00:35:42,590 S8: Now I want to recommend two things. I have written 720 00:35:42,590 --> 00:35:44,230 S8: a book. If you guys don't mind my saying this. 721 00:35:44,270 --> 00:35:47,669 S8: It comes out April 7th. It's called resolve, conflict and 722 00:35:47,670 --> 00:35:51,270 S8: Find Peace and Joy with Adult Children strategies and conversations 723 00:35:51,270 --> 00:35:51,910 S8: at work. 724 00:35:51,950 --> 00:35:52,230 S6: Wow. 725 00:35:52,270 --> 00:35:55,710 S8: It's coming out April 7th. It's a moody book. Resolve, conflict, 726 00:35:55,710 --> 00:35:58,230 S8: and find peace and hope with adult children. I want 727 00:35:58,230 --> 00:35:59,989 S8: you to look for that book. You can preorder it 728 00:35:59,989 --> 00:36:02,629 S8: on the typical site right now. I think it's going 729 00:36:02,670 --> 00:36:04,150 S8: to be a game changer for a lot of people. 730 00:36:04,190 --> 00:36:06,549 S8: I don't mean that to sound prideful, but we did 731 00:36:06,550 --> 00:36:08,989 S8: our we did hard work to come up with that book. Also, 732 00:36:09,230 --> 00:36:12,029 S8: if you're raising if you're helping with grandchildren, you want 733 00:36:12,030 --> 00:36:15,350 S8: to be involved with grandchildren, please go to Legacy Coalition. 734 00:36:16,390 --> 00:36:21,310 S8: Legacy coalition is a national movement of Christian grandparents who 735 00:36:21,310 --> 00:36:24,950 S8: want to have spiritual influence on the grandchildren. Their national 736 00:36:24,950 --> 00:36:27,870 S8: conference is in three weeks in Dallas. And you can 737 00:36:27,910 --> 00:36:30,110 S8: your church can sign up to be a satellite host 738 00:36:30,110 --> 00:36:32,870 S8: for that, which will happen in the fall. It's a 739 00:36:32,870 --> 00:36:35,870 S8: brilliant organization. Every Monday night they have a free webinar 740 00:36:35,870 --> 00:36:39,910 S8: for grandparents. There's 12,000 grandparents that join them on Monday nights. 741 00:36:39,910 --> 00:36:42,870 S8: It's free every Monday night, one hour about how to 742 00:36:42,910 --> 00:36:47,870 S8: be a grandparent who influences the grandchildren with a spiritual understanding. 743 00:36:47,910 --> 00:36:50,190 S8: I highly recommend them. I know the people well. I 744 00:36:50,190 --> 00:36:52,549 S8: speak for them regularly, and I hope that that's a 745 00:36:52,550 --> 00:36:54,350 S8: blessing to know about that organization. 746 00:36:54,390 --> 00:36:58,989 S6: Yeah. That's great. Uh, all things Cathy. Uh, you can 747 00:36:58,989 --> 00:37:03,910 S6: go to just text the word kids to 805 five, five, 78, 98. 748 00:37:03,910 --> 00:37:06,750 S6: And that will get you locked in when this book 749 00:37:06,750 --> 00:37:10,320 S6: is released. And, yeah, you can preorder, but just text 750 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:16,880 S6: the word kids to 800 555 7898. Doing. Ask the 751 00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:20,280 S6: experts all week long here. And some of you are like, wow, 752 00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:22,760 S6: there was some content here today. I've got a couple 753 00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:26,120 S6: of thoughts here. One that's on my heart. Cathy, for 754 00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,359 S6: parents that have messed up at all saying, Will you 755 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,040 S6: forgive me? Goes a long way, doesn't it, sister? 756 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:36,879 S8: Absolutely, absolutely. Teachable humility. Um. And the more specific you are, 757 00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:38,680 S8: the better, right, Carl? Like we can all say. Please 758 00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:41,040 S8: forgive me. Yeah. And that's fine. But if you can say. 759 00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:43,279 S8: Please forgive me for my arrogance when I didn't listen 760 00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:47,160 S8: to you. Well, please forgive me for, you know, ignoring 761 00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:49,719 S8: you and hanging out with my friends more than with you. 762 00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:51,560 S8: You know, whatever it is. And by the way, if 763 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,480 S8: you travel for business and you were absent, sometimes that's 764 00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:57,359 S8: not sin. So be really careful there, too. But it 765 00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,839 S8: is appropriate. Absolutely. And oh, you know what else they 766 00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:01,680 S8: want to hear, Carl? They want to hear us say 767 00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:02,560 S8: I was wrong. 768 00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:03,239 S6: Yes. 769 00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:04,720 S4: Yeah. That's a big one. 770 00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,960 S6: It's power. It's power. It is. And don't screw up 771 00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,280 S6: so that you can try it. You've screwed up plenty, 772 00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,480 S6: so just do it. So just find what you did 773 00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:16,399 S6: and and do it. And by the way, there is 774 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:20,759 S6: no parent that is out of reach of that admonition today. Uh, 775 00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:25,520 S6: real quick, real quick. We want your best 30s on 776 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:30,120 S6: next week is share. Uh, we're listener supported here, Cathy. Why? 777 00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:35,120 S8: Because Moody Radio is truth. Um. It's trustworthy. The people 778 00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:38,560 S8: and the content. It's uplifting music. It'll give you the 779 00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:41,359 S8: joy you need. They talk about the good news and 780 00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:44,720 S8: moody radio Carl and crew. We give a healthy perspective 781 00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:48,040 S8: on the hard news. Keep listening to Moody Radio. 782 00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,719 S6: Yeah, thank you for that, Cathy. We, uh, we so 783 00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,680 S6: appreciate it. Uh, grateful for you again. Key word. 784 00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:59,520 S4: Ally kids to 800 555, 78, 98. More resources, including 785 00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:02,000 S4: information so you can make sure that you are in 786 00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,000 S4: on the that book release coming up in April. Just 787 00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:07,719 S4: text kids to 800 555 7898.