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S1: Jane writes Gary, my husband disrespects me. How do I

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S1: deal with this?

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S2: Look, all of us need to feel loved and appreciated.

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S2: And when we don't feel appreciated and respected over and

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S2: over again, we're put down. We feel like that they

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S2: think we're inferior and it's difficult to live like that.

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S2: There's two approaches. One is to argue. One is to

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S2: tell them, you can't take this anymore and lash out

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S2: at them. The other is the biblical way, and that

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S2: is to love the unlovely spouse, find out their love language,

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S2: speak it loudly and clearly and regularly over a period

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S2: of three months and see what happens. Typically, when they

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S2: begin to feel your love, they begin to treat you differently.

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S2: Doesn't always work out that way, but I'm telling you,

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S2: loving an unlovely spouse is the most powerful thing you

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S2: can do.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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