WEBVTT - Attitudes That Divide Us – Part 2 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.840 Today on Bold Steps, Mark Jobe has a timely message 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:08.040 about division, unity and the key component of our attitudes. 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:12.600 Some of you are feeling the weight of conviction right 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:17.119 now because the spirit inside of you is grieved. Stuff 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:19.760 that needs to be out of your heart, and the 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:21.959 only way to get rid of it is through repentance. 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:25.759 Acknowledging it, calling it out, turning around and saying, Lord, 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:29.080 baptize me afresh in your kind of love. Change my heart, God, 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:30.320 because it's gotten hard. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:46.919 Welcome to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. Mark is president 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:49.680 of Moody Bible Institute and the senior pastor of New 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:54.000 Life Community Church in Chicago. I'm Wayne Shepherd. Yesterday we 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:56.920 began a really relevant message from Mark called Attitudes That 0:00:56.920 --> 0:01:00.040 Divide Us. It's no secret that we're living in incredibly 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:04.440 divisive times. From social media debates to family gatherings, it 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:07.800 seems like tensions are running higher than ever. And sadly, 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:11.400 Christians aren't immune to this trend. So today, Mark continues 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:16.840 with practical biblical wisdom for maintaining unity even when differences arise. Now, 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.240 if you missed yesterday's program, remember you can always catch 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:22.920 up at Bold steps.org or through our Bold Steps app. 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:25.680 Let's join Mark now as he continues with part two 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:29.160 of attitudes that divide us here on Bold Steps. 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:33.679 So I would say this if you're experiencing anger today, 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:38.000 you need to treat it as a dashboard. In your car. 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:39.840 You have a dashboard and there's a lot of lights. 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:43.720 I know some of you ignore them all the time. Like, yeah, 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:45.760 there's a light that's been going on. I don't I 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:48.440 just don't pay attention to the lights. Let me say 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:54.440 pay attention to the lights. Because that light is telling 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:55.840 you you need to change the oil or you need 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:58.919 to put oil in that car. Yeah, it's just a light. 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:05.130 All these lights just. And anger is like that. It's 0:02:05.130 --> 0:02:07.810 a dashboard in your life that tells you there's something 0:02:07.810 --> 0:02:10.610 in your life that's undealt with. If you are here 0:02:10.610 --> 0:02:14.330 today and you have anger, the stress, it's my roommate. 0:02:14.330 --> 0:02:19.410 It's the pressure. It's the unfairness, it's the finances. It's 0:02:19.450 --> 0:02:23.490 whatever you blame it on. But listen, people around you 0:02:23.530 --> 0:02:26.490 know that you're angry. You need to pay attention to 0:02:26.530 --> 0:02:30.169 the dashboard. Why is it going off all the time? 0:02:30.169 --> 0:02:32.730 Because there's something at the root that you need to 0:02:32.730 --> 0:02:36.010 deal with. And here's what the Apostle Paul says. The 0:02:36.010 --> 0:02:42.890 apostle Paul says, hey, be angry, but don't sin. Anger 0:02:42.930 --> 0:02:50.730 can show up in explosiveness, stewing, irritability, hostility, aggression. And then, Paul, 0:02:50.730 --> 0:02:53.169 I don't have time to get way into this, but 0:02:53.169 --> 0:02:58.250 Paul gives us basically three rules for anger. Number one, 0:02:59.370 --> 0:03:03.810 don't let it turn be angry and don't sin. Anger 0:03:03.850 --> 0:03:10.209 can quickly turn into damaging destructive behavior if it's not channeled. Hey, yeah, 0:03:10.210 --> 0:03:13.450 you get angry at your roommate. That's normal. But when 0:03:13.450 --> 0:03:17.050 you start to become critical, demeaning, when you start to 0:03:17.090 --> 0:03:20.450 become abusive with your words, when you start to slander, 0:03:20.970 --> 0:03:26.650 you've crossed the line and let anger become sinful. Don't 0:03:26.650 --> 0:03:31.730 let anger turn. Feel the emotion, the urge, but don't 0:03:31.730 --> 0:03:35.210 let it turn to something destructive. And that's why the 0:03:35.210 --> 0:03:39.610 apostle Paul tells us, by the way, uh, he says, 0:03:40.570 --> 0:03:43.650 don't let the sun go down while you're angry. In 0:03:43.650 --> 0:03:47.010 other words, if you let it, if you let it 0:03:47.210 --> 0:03:53.970 stew without dealing with it, it turns, let anger stew 0:03:54.410 --> 0:03:58.650 and don't deal with it. It'll turn to bitterness, resentment. 0:03:59.010 --> 0:04:03.460 It'll turn to revenge. It'll turn to hate. It'll turn 0:04:03.460 --> 0:04:08.460 to a critical spirit. It always turns. And so the 0:04:08.460 --> 0:04:12.100 rule that the apostle Paul gives is deal with it 0:04:12.100 --> 0:04:14.339 that day. In essence, what he's saying is you need 0:04:14.340 --> 0:04:18.260 to deal with it that day. So I've learned, if 0:04:18.260 --> 0:04:20.539 I want to have a really good fight with my 0:04:20.540 --> 0:04:24.020 wife and and have time to stew, I pick the 0:04:24.020 --> 0:04:26.020 fight early in the morning. That way I have all day. 0:04:27.020 --> 0:04:32.700 I'm just kidding. He's not really talking. It's not just 0:04:32.700 --> 0:04:35.779 about the 24 hour rule, but it is about do 0:04:35.779 --> 0:04:38.740 not wake up the next day not having dealt with 0:04:38.740 --> 0:04:43.820 your anger. And then number three, listen. He says, don't 0:04:43.820 --> 0:04:47.780 give the devil a foothold and give no opportunity to 0:04:47.820 --> 0:04:52.940 the devil. Can I tell you something? A foothold is 0:04:52.940 --> 0:04:55.180 when someone tries to close the door and you put 0:04:55.180 --> 0:04:58.220 your foot there and you can't close the door. You 0:04:58.220 --> 0:05:01.140 ever done that? Run around playing with your roommates or 0:05:01.180 --> 0:05:03.940 as kids. They try to close the door, you put 0:05:03.940 --> 0:05:05.540 your foot in there, and then you can yell in 0:05:05.540 --> 0:05:07.500 the door and you put your hand in there. Try 0:05:07.540 --> 0:05:10.299 to reach in, do something. Throw something in there that's 0:05:10.300 --> 0:05:13.380 called a foothold. When you give the devil, here's what 0:05:13.380 --> 0:05:17.779 the Apostle Paul is saying a foothold gives the enemy 0:05:18.060 --> 0:05:23.860 opportunity to get greater stuff into your life. Look up 0:05:23.860 --> 0:05:28.580 at me. This is really important. I see a correlation 0:05:28.580 --> 0:05:33.860 between people that struggle with ongoing anger and a challenge 0:05:33.860 --> 0:05:42.140 with lust. It goes hand in hand. If you give 0:05:42.140 --> 0:05:45.460 the enemy a foothold, I believe it opens the door 0:05:45.460 --> 0:05:49.820 to lust. It opens the door to rebellion. It opens 0:05:49.820 --> 0:05:53.979 the door to spiritual apathy. It opens the door to violence. 0:05:54.300 --> 0:05:57.540 It opens the door to abuse. It opens the door 0:05:57.540 --> 0:06:02.270 to depression. If you don't deal with your anger and 0:06:02.270 --> 0:06:06.349 you let it fester, you let it turn to something. Uh, 0:06:06.390 --> 0:06:10.190 that that that you say, well, I'm not angry anymore. 0:06:11.790 --> 0:06:17.270 You're not explosive anymore, but you're still angry. Um, I 0:06:17.430 --> 0:06:20.670 have couples in in marital counseling tell me that all 0:06:20.670 --> 0:06:22.390 the time. They say, well, you know, I was angry, 0:06:22.390 --> 0:06:27.790 but now I'm not angry. Yeah. Yeah, I was I 0:06:27.830 --> 0:06:31.030 could have killed him yesterday. And now he walks in 0:06:31.110 --> 0:06:32.830 from work and says, hey, babe, how you doing? Don't 0:06:32.830 --> 0:06:36.590 babe me. And you say you're not angry? No, you're 0:06:36.589 --> 0:06:40.190 not explosive, but you're still angry. And if you don't 0:06:40.190 --> 0:06:43.469 deal with this door. If you don't close this door, 0:06:43.790 --> 0:06:45.830 if you don't deal with. That's what's at the root 0:06:45.830 --> 0:06:48.790 of it. Listen, if you have trauma in your heart, 0:06:48.790 --> 0:06:51.510 if you have. If you have scars in your soul, 0:06:51.510 --> 0:06:53.710 which a lot of us do, we live in a broken, 0:06:53.710 --> 0:06:56.110 messed up world. And a lot of you have been 0:06:56.110 --> 0:07:02.750 raised in families that were broken, dysfunctional, Unhealthy, toxic. And 0:07:02.750 --> 0:07:05.950 if you had a healthy family and had good parents 0:07:05.950 --> 0:07:09.910 and had good investment, then you are the rarity and 0:07:09.910 --> 0:07:13.950 you better thank God for that. But the great majority 0:07:13.990 --> 0:07:18.190 have brokenness. A lot of brokenness. And a lot of 0:07:18.190 --> 0:07:21.030 times that brokenness is not dealt with. And at the core, 0:07:21.430 --> 0:07:27.110 there's anger because of the scars, because of the the 0:07:27.310 --> 0:07:32.190 critical spirit, because of the words that were hurled at us, 0:07:32.190 --> 0:07:36.190 that affected our identity, because of the disillusionment that we've experienced, 0:07:36.190 --> 0:07:39.590 because of the abandonment that we feel, because of the 0:07:39.590 --> 0:07:42.550 emptiness of our soul, because of the hurt that is 0:07:42.550 --> 0:07:45.190 within us, because that sense that we don't belong when 0:07:45.190 --> 0:07:48.830 others seem to belong because of that, that those deep 0:07:48.830 --> 0:07:54.110 scars inside. And listen the you are not responsible for 0:07:54.110 --> 0:07:58.510 how you were raised and the scars that were perpetrated 0:07:58.510 --> 0:08:01.800 on you, but you are responsible for what you do 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:05.480 with it before God. And if you don't go to 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:08.720 the root, if you don't deal with it, if you 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:11.640 don't call it out, if you're not honest about it, 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:18.640 it will come back. And it will show up as anxiety, 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:29.600 as addiction, as depression. I've seen very gifted pastors, extremely 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:36.280 gifted pastors and leaders grow ministries that were very powerful, 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:40.640 but they never dealt with the core issues. And then 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:42.719 one day we wake up and we hear of the 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:45.920 implosion in their household, in their marriage and their family. 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:48.920 And we say, how could that have happened? I know 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:52.920 exactly how it could happen, because someone did not deal 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:58.120 with the core issues that kept surfacing with anger, and 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:01.080 they just kept going on, kept burying it, kept acting 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:04.920 like it didn't exist, kept excusing it. Because sometimes when 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:09.480 there's gifting, we just kind of camouflage and say, well, hey, 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:12.640 look how God is using them and everything must be. Well, 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:16.120 here's the here's the thing about our gifting. Our gifting 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:20.880 is not tied in. We don't deserve or earn our gifting. 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:23.920 It's given to us. It's the grace of God. So 0:09:23.920 --> 0:09:29.760 you can operate in your gifting and be struggling deeply inside. 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:35.120 You can be failing interiorly but yet have success, so 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:38.720 to speak, on the outside. And no one can tell 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:43.239 until there's a massive implosion in your marriage and your life. 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:47.559 Addiction comes out, an affair comes out, abuse comes out 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:52.080 because that has to deal. Hey, some of these some 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:54.640 of these pastors should have dealt with their issues when 0:09:54.640 --> 0:10:02.850 they were in Bible college. And they wouldn't be in 0:10:02.850 --> 0:10:11.450 the news now. We'd be celebrating what God did. But 0:10:11.450 --> 0:10:20.610 not grieving over the implosion. And I feel an urgency. 0:10:22.650 --> 0:10:25.050 I think they tried to block me from climbing up 0:10:25.050 --> 0:10:33.090 here as I'm going to. It didn't work. Didn't work. 0:10:36.290 --> 0:10:41.089 I feel an urgency in my spirit. An urge as 0:10:41.130 --> 0:10:43.890 as someone that spends, I spend a lot of time 0:10:43.890 --> 0:10:48.050 raising pastors, coaching pastors, dealing with brokenness. I feel an 0:10:48.050 --> 0:10:53.050 urgency in my spirit to remind you, if your dashboard 0:10:53.050 --> 0:11:00.410 is flashing, please pay attention. Deal with it now. Deal 0:11:00.410 --> 0:11:01.410 with it now. 0:11:08.690 --> 0:11:11.209 This is Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. And we'll get 0:11:11.210 --> 0:11:14.130 back to today's message in a moment. Mark, speaking of 0:11:14.130 --> 0:11:16.370 unity and attitudes, I'd like to surprise you with a 0:11:16.370 --> 0:11:19.370 really kind voice message we recently received from a listener 0:11:19.370 --> 0:11:21.210 named Marilyn. Take a listen to this one. 0:11:22.010 --> 0:11:26.330 My name is Marilyn Lewis. I live in Dallas, Texas. 0:11:27.050 --> 0:11:29.770 I would like to leave a comment for Doctor Jobe. 0:11:30.530 --> 0:11:35.250 His sermons are so very powerful and uplifting. And may 0:11:35.250 --> 0:11:38.450 God continue to bless his life. Thank you. 0:11:39.290 --> 0:11:40.250 Isn't that nice? 0:11:41.010 --> 0:11:43.610 Hey, Marilyn, I love that. Thank you so much for 0:11:43.650 --> 0:11:47.290 that word of encouragement. You know, we get people from 0:11:47.290 --> 0:11:50.490 really all around the country that are letting us know 0:11:50.490 --> 0:11:54.610 how God is using this ministry in their lives and 0:11:54.770 --> 0:12:00.780 touching them in ways, uh, touching family members, Helping people 0:12:00.780 --> 0:12:04.620 come to Christ. And so it is encouraging. Hey, we 0:12:04.620 --> 0:12:06.860 listen to all the messages and when you send in 0:12:06.900 --> 0:12:09.740 a prayer request, we also pray for all the prayer 0:12:09.740 --> 0:12:11.020 requests that are sent our way. 0:12:11.100 --> 0:12:13.140 Thank you Marilyn. And if you've never reached out to 0:12:13.140 --> 0:12:15.180 us before, we encourage you to take a moment today 0:12:15.179 --> 0:12:18.260 and send us maybe a letter or maybe a message online, 0:12:18.260 --> 0:12:21.699 as Marilyn did. Maybe share your story, or a question 0:12:21.700 --> 0:12:23.940 or a prayer request with us at Bold Steps. Just 0:12:23.940 --> 0:12:26.620 go to our website, Bold steps.org or give us a 0:12:26.620 --> 0:12:28.860 call and leave your message, as Marilyn did on a 0:12:28.860 --> 0:12:39.420 recorded line by dialing (312) 329-2011. Write that down (312) 329-2011. Of course, 0:12:39.420 --> 0:12:42.060 you can also email us at Bold Steps at Moody's. 0:12:43.420 --> 0:12:46.500 Let's get back to our message now. Attitudes that divide us. 0:12:51.780 --> 0:12:59.300 The apostle Paul goes on. He says, number three, stop 0:12:59.300 --> 0:13:02.940 being a taker. Start being a giver. Verse 28, he says, 0:13:02.940 --> 0:13:05.660 let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, 0:13:05.980 --> 0:13:08.179 doing honest work with his own hands so that he 0:13:08.179 --> 0:13:11.940 may have something to share with anybody that's in need. 0:13:12.980 --> 0:13:15.260 This is bigger, and you may not consider yourself a 0:13:15.260 --> 0:13:17.940 thief here, but there's an attitude of a thief. A 0:13:17.940 --> 0:13:22.860 thief says I'm entitled. I can take that which which 0:13:22.860 --> 0:13:26.339 I haven't worked for because people owe me. That's an 0:13:26.340 --> 0:13:30.100 entitlement spirit that says people owe me so I can 0:13:30.100 --> 0:13:34.380 take things from other people. A taker is always looking 0:13:34.380 --> 0:13:36.900 at how they can get stuff from people, how they 0:13:36.900 --> 0:13:40.300 can use people. A giver is always asking, how can 0:13:40.300 --> 0:13:43.220 I empower and help people around me? And the Apostle 0:13:43.220 --> 0:13:45.740 Paul says, listen. He says, don't get a job just 0:13:45.740 --> 0:13:48.740 so you can pay your bills. He goes radical and 0:13:48.740 --> 0:13:50.740 he says, get a job so you can pay your bills. 0:13:50.740 --> 0:13:52.940 And by the way, work hard so you can give 0:13:52.940 --> 0:13:56.339 to others. The attitude that I'm calling you, which is 0:13:56.340 --> 0:13:59.340 contrary to how the world thinks, is an attitude of 0:13:59.340 --> 0:14:09.110 Tude of giving. Number four. Stop talking trash. And start 0:14:09.110 --> 0:14:12.990 encouraging people with your words. Notice what he says in 0:14:12.990 --> 0:14:16.750 verse 29. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out 0:14:16.750 --> 0:14:20.550 of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building 0:14:20.550 --> 0:14:23.990 others up according to their needs, that it may benefit 0:14:23.990 --> 0:14:28.550 those who listen. Do an inventory of your talking and 0:14:28.550 --> 0:14:33.710 ask how much of your talking is actually benefiting others, 0:14:33.710 --> 0:14:36.950 or how much of it is actually damaging others, building 0:14:36.950 --> 0:14:42.710 up yourself, laughing at others, laughing at other people's issues 0:14:42.710 --> 0:14:46.470 at their expense to build yourself up. Listen, how much 0:14:46.470 --> 0:14:53.430 of your communication is actually building? Building others up? And 0:14:53.430 --> 0:14:56.070 what the Apostle Paul is talking. He's talking about unity. 0:14:56.670 --> 0:14:58.230 And he's saying, you know, a lot of us in 0:14:58.230 --> 0:15:03.920 our communication, Ishim were unwholesome. That word unwholesome comes from 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:10.200 the word corrupt. And, um, can I just tell some 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:14.280 of you, some of you need to get off social media? Amen. Amen. 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:22.840 You're like a volatile, explosive, angry person on social media. 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:28.480 I mean, I see very mild, meek people. I see 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:41.400 some of their posts and I'm like, whoa. One little comment. 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:42.800 And you're like, ah. 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:47.239 You would never talk to someone like that in person. 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:51.040 But on social media, when you're anonymous, you go at 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:56.440 it calling people other believers. I don't know what Jesus 0:15:56.440 --> 0:15:58.800 you follow and who you think you are, but you 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:02.840 go at it like a out of control. And social 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:09.080 media oftentimes is a platform that gives itself to volatility 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:14.680 and explosiveness, and most of it is not well prepared 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:18.440 for good dialogue and engagement. It's not about let me 0:16:18.440 --> 0:16:20.320 hear what you're saying on the other side. It's I'm 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:23.040 going to prove how wrong you are and how right 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:26.640 I am, and I'm going to throw out the heaviest 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:29.760 words that I can, the most polarized words that I can. 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:33.360 And here's the sad thing. I expect it from the world, 0:16:33.360 --> 0:16:38.479 but I see it in the church way too much. 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:47.120 The latest battle, of course, is politics. And could I 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:53.440 just remind you that you need to see your politics 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:57.600 through the lens of Jesus instead of Jesus through the 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:03.720 lens of politics? Can we remember that? Can I also 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:07.400 remind you that before your left or right or center 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:11.200 and independent, that you are a follower of Jesus, that 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:14.200 you will belong to the kingdom of God, that that 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:19.200 is your allegiance, that that is your identity. Any identity 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:22.960 that supersedes your identity as a believer in Jesus will 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:27.640 ruin your testimony, because you allow politics to supersede your 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:30.440 identity in Jesus. Or you can allow the fact that 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:33.400 you're a male to supersede your identity in Jesus, or 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:37.440 a female or black or white, Hispanic or Asian. Listen, 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:41.320 we there's a variety of people that follow Jesus. But 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:44.160 first of all, what unites us is we are one 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:48.800 in Jesus the Christ. That is our common denominator, and 0:17:48.800 --> 0:17:54.439 that should be our primary identity. I got that out 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:59.120 of my system. Feels good. And let me close with this. 0:18:03.369 --> 0:18:08.050 And I could do a whole message on this. Stop 0:18:08.050 --> 0:18:13.810 grieving the spirit. And start putting on the attitude of God. 0:18:15.090 --> 0:18:25.169 Verse 30. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit. The 0:18:25.170 --> 0:18:33.050 moment that you came to Christ. You became indwelt with 0:18:33.050 --> 0:18:36.850 the third person of the Godhead. And your body became 0:18:36.850 --> 0:18:42.889 the temple of the Holy Spirit. Now God is present everywhere, 0:18:42.890 --> 0:18:48.530 but there's a certain powerful indwelling that you now possess. 0:18:51.050 --> 0:18:53.369 When you walk in the chick fil A down the street. 0:18:53.730 --> 0:18:57.649 Guess what? The indwelling of the Spirit of God just 0:18:57.650 --> 0:19:00.420 walked into chick fil A. There's something different. You change 0:19:00.420 --> 0:19:05.380 the atmosphere. Why? Because you. You are a follower of Jesus. 0:19:05.380 --> 0:19:08.020 And you bring the Holy Spirit into a place in 0:19:08.020 --> 0:19:12.139 a fresh, new, powerful way. Something. Something to think about. 0:19:14.140 --> 0:19:16.340 But guess what? You can't check the Holy Spirit out. 0:19:20.300 --> 0:19:24.180 He doesn't. You can't say, hey, could you wait outside? 0:19:25.900 --> 0:19:29.420 I'm going into the seedy barred. If I was talking 0:19:29.420 --> 0:19:32.060 to my congregation, I'd tell CD barred or, you know, 0:19:32.100 --> 0:19:34.700 going to smoke weed or going into strip bar, because 0:19:34.700 --> 0:19:36.260 we have a lot of people that are coming straight 0:19:36.260 --> 0:19:39.380 out of the world. I know I don't have to 0:19:39.380 --> 0:19:46.139 tell you that. But you can't check the Holy Spirit 0:19:46.140 --> 0:19:53.619 at the door. Because you were sealed to the day 0:19:53.619 --> 0:19:59.219 of redemption. You don't seal and unseal. And then he 0:19:59.220 --> 0:20:03.379 says this. Listen, verse 31, how do we not grieve 0:20:03.380 --> 0:20:10.020 the spirit? Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor, 0:20:11.140 --> 0:20:13.380 you may not know what the word clamor means, but 0:20:13.660 --> 0:20:17.580 in the Greek it means the outcry, protest of a 0:20:17.580 --> 0:20:27.100 noisy commotion. Listen in argumentative attitude. Let all clamor and 0:20:27.100 --> 0:20:32.100 argumentative attitude that shows up on social media red hot. 0:20:35.660 --> 0:20:38.460 And slander. Which means you talk about people behind their 0:20:38.460 --> 0:20:42.780 back and it's not anything constructive. Be put away from 0:20:42.780 --> 0:20:47.300 you along with all malice, and instead be kind to 0:20:47.340 --> 0:20:52.419 one another kind, which means you're actually looking at people's 0:20:52.580 --> 0:20:57.260 emotions and how they feel about what you're saying. Be 0:20:57.260 --> 0:21:02.300 tender hearted. That means that it's the opposite of hard hearted. Like, 0:21:02.300 --> 0:21:03.980 I don't care what I say. They just need to 0:21:04.020 --> 0:21:07.140 tough up. Hey, tender hearted means I care about you. 0:21:07.500 --> 0:21:11.300 I actually am concerned about how you feel. I have 0:21:11.300 --> 0:21:14.899 a sensitive heart to people that are broken and hurting. 0:21:15.380 --> 0:21:20.180 Forgiving one another, releasing people quickly, even as God in 0:21:20.180 --> 0:21:26.179 Christ has forgiven you. You want to stop grieving the spirit. 0:21:27.420 --> 0:21:30.420 There are some of you right now, and I know 0:21:30.420 --> 0:21:32.419 it because in a crowd like this, there has to be. 0:21:32.420 --> 0:21:35.300 There's some of you right now that you have no 0:21:35.300 --> 0:21:40.340 joy because you're grieving the spirit through disobedience. And when 0:21:40.340 --> 0:21:44.219 you grieve the spirit, you have no joy because the 0:21:44.220 --> 0:21:48.100 fruit of the spirit is joy. You cannot have the 0:21:48.140 --> 0:21:51.140 God of the universe grieving inside of you. And you 0:21:51.140 --> 0:21:55.500 go around happy, lucky, feeling energized and good. Some of 0:21:55.500 --> 0:22:00.270 you are feeling the weight of conviction right now because 0:22:00.270 --> 0:22:07.510 the spirit inside of you is grieved by bitterness, anger, slander, disobedience, attitude, 0:22:07.550 --> 0:22:10.630 stuff that needs to be out of your heart. And 0:22:10.630 --> 0:22:13.149 the only way to get rid of it is through repentance. 0:22:13.150 --> 0:22:17.230 Acknowledging it, calling it out, turning around and saying, Lord, 0:22:17.270 --> 0:22:20.750 baptize me afresh in your kind of love. Change my heart, God, 0:22:20.750 --> 0:22:22.030 because it's gotten heart. 0:22:30.830 --> 0:22:34.870 Attitudes that divide us a powerful lesson, Mark. I really 0:22:34.869 --> 0:22:37.189 think this biblical teaching is so valuable for all of 0:22:37.190 --> 0:22:38.390 us in today's age. 0:22:38.790 --> 0:22:42.550 So if you've been struggling with anger, the lights on 0:22:42.550 --> 0:22:46.790 your dashboard have been going off and people around you 0:22:47.030 --> 0:22:50.350 are somewhat afraid of what mood you're going to wake 0:22:50.350 --> 0:22:54.149 up in this, I'm talking about chronic anger. Then I 0:22:54.150 --> 0:22:56.710 believe there's a root that you need to deal with. 0:22:57.070 --> 0:22:59.790 And so, father, I pray for that person right now 0:22:59.790 --> 0:23:03.550 that struggles with chronic anger. I pray in Jesus name 0:23:03.550 --> 0:23:06.389 that you would show them the root of their pain, 0:23:06.390 --> 0:23:11.350 their bitterness, their unhappiness. I pray God that they would 0:23:11.350 --> 0:23:13.390 go to that hard place. I pray that they would 0:23:13.390 --> 0:23:18.550 forgive people, release people, repent of attitudes, deal with it, 0:23:18.590 --> 0:23:21.070 carve it out of their heart, father, so that they 0:23:21.070 --> 0:23:26.190 can stop grieving the spirit and move on with a joyful, 0:23:26.350 --> 0:23:29.910 purposeful existence that you've called them to. I pray this 0:23:29.950 --> 0:23:31.869 in Jesus name. Amen. 0:23:32.150 --> 0:23:34.950 Yes, Amen. Thank you Mark. 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