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S1: Susan writes Gary, my fiance just came out of a

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S1: bad divorce and wants me to sign a prenup. What's

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S1: your thought on them?

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S2: Well, if he has just come out of a bad divorce,

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S2: I would say it's not time to get married yet.

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S2: You know, research indicates it takes two years after a

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S2: divorce for a person to get back on level ground emotionally.

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S2: And the most common mistake people make is that they

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S2: get married too soon after a divorce. So I would

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S2: suggest you slow the process down and give him a

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S2: chance to work through all the things he's been through

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S2: in that, in that past marriage and that divorce. The

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S2: very fact that he's asking you to sign a prenuptial

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S2: agreement means that he is not over what happened to him.

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S2: I would say you ought to encourage him to see

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S2: a counselor so that he can work through some of that,

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S2: and not bring all the baggage from that marriage into

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S2: your marriage.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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