WEBVTT - When I’m Sorry Isn’t Enough, Part 3 0:00:00.710 --> 0:00:06.350 Attitude must be one of humility. Don't try to pacify. 0:00:06.380 --> 0:00:09.620 They approached him in humility. They did it with two 0:00:09.650 --> 0:00:11.899 ways their words and their ways. 0:00:18.770 --> 0:00:21.680 You're listening to Treasure Truth with pastor and author James 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:24.560 Fort Jr, senior pastor of the Christ Bible Church in Chicago. 0:00:24.590 --> 0:00:26.510 I'm Steve Hillard. Glad you're with us today as we 0:00:26.540 --> 0:00:30.920 continue our series, when I'm sorry isn't enough and you 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:34.850 just hit on something so key. Pastor, I'm sure that 0:00:34.850 --> 0:00:38.150 many of us can think of situations or times where 0:00:38.180 --> 0:00:40.370 someone has wronged us and they've come and they said, 0:00:40.580 --> 0:00:44.030 I'm sorry, but based on the tone, the body language, 0:00:44.030 --> 0:00:47.330 everything else you can tell they're not sorry. And that's 0:00:47.330 --> 0:00:49.100 a good lesson, a reminder for us as we go 0:00:49.100 --> 0:00:51.170 to apologize. We need to make sure that that's coming 0:00:51.170 --> 0:00:52.190 from a genuine place. 0:00:52.220 --> 0:00:53.360 Where's the humility? 0:00:53.390 --> 0:00:53.690 Yeah. 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:59.300 Where's the brokenness? Where is the contrition? Because all those 0:00:59.300 --> 0:01:04.869 things demonstrate my comprehension of the pain that I've caused you. Yeah. 0:01:04.900 --> 0:01:07.120 You know, and so the manner in which I approach 0:01:07.120 --> 0:01:11.140 you is very important. Rhetoricians tell us that 50% of 0:01:11.140 --> 0:01:16.780 what we communicate, we communicate by the tone. 30% of 0:01:16.780 --> 0:01:20.470 what we communicate by our body language. Only 20% by 0:01:20.470 --> 0:01:22.990 our words. I have it confirmed all the time. The 0:01:22.990 --> 0:01:27.339 wife says, you know, would you empty the garbage? Yeah, yeah. Oh, 0:01:27.370 --> 0:01:31.089 never mind, never mind. Well, I said yes. Yeah. Oh 0:01:31.090 --> 0:01:33.670 yeah yeah, yeah. But the way you said it and 0:01:33.670 --> 0:01:36.399 the manner in which you said it, it was like. No. 0:01:36.430 --> 0:01:39.700 Yeah, absolutely. For me I the first thing that comes 0:01:39.700 --> 0:01:41.770 to mind are my two little kids, because they're at 0:01:41.770 --> 0:01:44.440 that age now where we are trying to model for 0:01:44.440 --> 0:01:47.380 them and teach them what it means to say I'm 0:01:47.380 --> 0:01:51.370 sorry and to apologize and to, you know, recognize the 0:01:51.370 --> 0:01:53.980 fact that I hurt your little brother or your little sister. 0:01:54.010 --> 0:01:56.440 What does a genuine true apology look like? 0:01:56.470 --> 0:01:56.950 That's right. 0:01:56.980 --> 0:01:59.320 And when they're little, it's. It's pretty funny sometimes. 0:01:59.350 --> 0:02:02.260 It is true, man. I heard a story of one 0:02:02.260 --> 0:02:06.910 little boy. His little brother Mikey pinched him and hurt him, 0:02:06.910 --> 0:02:09.820 and he hollered. And his mother said, well, he doesn't 0:02:09.820 --> 0:02:12.250 understand how it feels. And then all of a sudden 0:02:12.250 --> 0:02:15.760 she heard the little brother holler and he said, Now 0:02:15.790 --> 0:02:17.020 Mikey knows how it feels. 0:02:17.050 --> 0:02:21.370 Right, exactly. And it's a good reminder for us that 0:02:21.370 --> 0:02:24.010 as we were just talking about, if we are going 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:28.239 to make a genuine apology, then there are some things 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.520 that need to happen, and that's where we're going in 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:31.120 today's broadcast. 0:02:31.150 --> 0:02:34.840 You know, I only say one thing. If it were reversed, 0:02:34.870 --> 0:02:38.739 how would I want them to approach me? Yeah. And 0:02:38.740 --> 0:02:40.780 then I turn around and say, okay, that's how I'm 0:02:40.780 --> 0:02:42.130 going to approach them. 0:02:42.130 --> 0:02:44.679 That's a good question to ask ourselves before you go 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:46.660 and apologize. But right now we're going to go to 0:02:46.690 --> 0:02:50.380 Genesis chapter 50 as we continue a message. When I'm 0:02:50.380 --> 0:02:53.320 sorry isn't enough, here is Pastor Ford. 0:02:53.740 --> 0:02:58.840 Not just the catalyst for their acknowledgement notice the comprehensiveness 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:03.490 of their acknowledgement. They use three words. They said, we 0:03:03.490 --> 0:03:08.620 trespass against him. We sinned against him. The evil that 0:03:08.620 --> 0:03:13.210 we done. They use three different words for doing somebody 0:03:13.210 --> 0:03:21.820 wrong trespass, stepping across boundaries that I shouldn't have crossed sins. 0:03:21.820 --> 0:03:26.140 That's omission, commission and disposition. And then evil. If it 0:03:26.169 --> 0:03:28.300 were New Testament, guess what word it would be? Say 0:03:28.300 --> 0:03:33.430 what word? Porn. Ross say porn. Ross what word is 0:03:33.430 --> 0:03:35.410 that for evil of the words in the New Testament 0:03:35.410 --> 0:03:39.760 for evil porn, Ross means pernicious evil. No, no, no. 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.610 What do you mean? What do you mean evil is evil? 0:03:42.610 --> 0:03:46.150 I'm content to just do myself. But porn, Ross, evil 0:03:46.150 --> 0:03:53.410 is evil that infects somebody else. And so they're saying, 0:03:53.410 --> 0:03:58.420 we know that the evil we did for him affected 0:03:58.420 --> 0:04:04.310 him and infected us. And remember, we saw he. He 0:04:04.310 --> 0:04:07.130 acknowledged it. You meant it for evil. You meant it 0:04:07.130 --> 0:04:11.840 for pervasive evil. But God meant it for good. I 0:04:11.840 --> 0:04:15.650 like what Peter Marshall said. Peter Marshall said, Lord, when 0:04:15.650 --> 0:04:17.659 I'm wrong, help me to admit it. When I'm right, 0:04:17.690 --> 0:04:21.350 make me easy to live with. Ain't that a good quote? 0:04:21.380 --> 0:04:25.700 That's a good quote. Notice he says. He says all 0:04:25.700 --> 0:04:29.510 the evil we did. The word did is Gamal. And 0:04:29.510 --> 0:04:33.979 guess what Gamal means? Succession. Now get this. Here's what 0:04:34.010 --> 0:04:37.640 Gamal using the word Gamal. They could have used another word. 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:39.680 Why are you so excited about that word? Because here's 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:44.570 what they're saying. All the evil we did. Come on, 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:50.450 guess what it means that they understood the implication of 0:04:50.450 --> 0:04:54.050 the consequences of putting him in the pit. That if 0:04:54.050 --> 0:04:57.500 we hadn't put him in the pit, he never would 0:04:57.529 --> 0:05:01.020 have went and been a slave in Potiphar's. In other words, all. 0:05:01.020 --> 0:05:03.180 And remember, it was no picnic. Okay, let me let 0:05:03.180 --> 0:05:05.010 me just show you. Let me just show you. I 0:05:05.010 --> 0:05:06.450 know I gave you the scripture, but I want to 0:05:06.450 --> 0:05:08.550 read it. I didn't read it. I just last time 0:05:08.550 --> 0:05:10.440 I just gave you the scripture, but I want to 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.140 read it. I want to show you what the Bible says, 0:05:13.140 --> 0:05:15.599 that it wasn't no picnic. We always read it and 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:17.970 I say it ad infinitum, ad nauseam. He went to 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:19.650 the pit. He went to the Potiphar's house. He went 0:05:19.650 --> 0:05:21.599 to the prison. Then he went to the palace. But 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.060 they're saying, you know, all this stuff that happened to 0:05:24.089 --> 0:05:29.040 him that was evil. That's because of what we did. Now, 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:31.919 you need to understand that there are some people that 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:34.920 we have violated that we need to go and say, 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:41.190 Will you forgive me, please? Because they are suffering consequences 0:05:41.190 --> 0:05:43.650 from what we did. There are people who have been 0:05:43.650 --> 0:05:47.940 abused and misused and confused as children that are suffering 0:05:47.940 --> 0:05:50.940 for it as adults because of what some adult did, 0:05:50.970 --> 0:05:55.080 maybe a family member, and they still suffering from that 0:05:55.620 --> 0:05:59.279 can't have a good relationship in their marriage because of 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:04.960 what happened to them when they were children. And here's 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:07.960 what you find. Did you know that a lot of 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.990 men that beat their wives grew up in families where 0:06:10.990 --> 0:06:13.089 their mother was beaten? And one of the things that 0:06:13.089 --> 0:06:15.370 they said is, when I get married, I'll never beat 0:06:15.370 --> 0:06:19.450 my wife and then end up being just like their daddy. Boy, 0:06:19.450 --> 0:06:21.339 I tell you, I tell you a dangerous woman to 0:06:21.370 --> 0:06:23.950 marry brothers. One who grew up with a lot of 0:06:23.950 --> 0:06:28.539 sisters and a mother. No, father. Now, there's an exception 0:06:28.540 --> 0:06:30.310 to every rule. Because some of you did, I. Well, 0:06:30.550 --> 0:06:33.460 I ain't like that. And mama said there ain't no 0:06:33.460 --> 0:06:35.320 man good enough. Look at your daddy. Had all seven 0:06:35.350 --> 0:06:38.200 of y'all ain't do nothing. But I did it. I 0:06:38.230 --> 0:06:41.140 take care of God. Me and God. We don't need 0:06:41.140 --> 0:06:44.230 no man. And you go in there marriage with an attitude. 0:06:44.230 --> 0:06:46.930 I don't need no man. Guess what? And pretty soon 0:06:46.930 --> 0:06:51.670 you won't have a man. Amen. Because ain't no man, 0:06:51.670 --> 0:06:56.140 no real biblical man going to settle for you. Running everything. 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.470 Man has to have his rightful place, even if you 0:06:59.500 --> 0:07:01.760 are more astute or better. And I know women I 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:04.130 could call names, some of them in this room. You know, 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.469 I live with a woman who's more, who has more 0:07:06.470 --> 0:07:10.970 wisdom than I have, but never lords it over me, 0:07:11.420 --> 0:07:14.630 always gives me suggestions. What do you think about this, darling? 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:21.620 I know what she's doing, but I appreciate the way 0:07:21.620 --> 0:07:26.570 she's doing it. And like I told you before, if 0:07:26.570 --> 0:07:29.780 I don't listen to her, she don't say I told 0:07:29.780 --> 0:07:36.320 you so. She just looked. I told you so. Yeah. 0:07:36.470 --> 0:07:39.620 So there are women better educated than their husbands. Handle 0:07:39.620 --> 0:07:43.520 finances better, have better mental acumen. ET cetera. ET cetera. 0:07:43.550 --> 0:07:46.910 ET cetera. But if she's a wise woman, she'll be 0:07:46.910 --> 0:07:50.630 like Abigail. She was married to a fool and made 0:07:50.630 --> 0:07:56.540 him feel like he was a king. Treated him like 0:07:56.540 --> 0:08:02.250 a Boaz when he was a bozo. And so here 0:08:02.250 --> 0:08:06.570 it is, he says. Then these three different words, he says, 0:08:06.570 --> 0:08:10.260 we overstep the bounds, we miss the mark. And we 0:08:10.290 --> 0:08:14.610 did something that was pervasive evil. Here's the second one. Secondly, 0:08:14.610 --> 0:08:18.750 approach the person that you have wronged. Now, I know 0:08:18.750 --> 0:08:23.850 what you're saying. Isn't that the same thing? No, no. Now, 0:08:23.850 --> 0:08:26.550 it may occur at the same time, but it's not 0:08:26.550 --> 0:08:30.270 the same thing. Remember the first time they admitted it 0:08:30.300 --> 0:08:36.000 was in chapter 42? Now they're admitting it to Joseph. 0:08:36.030 --> 0:08:38.699 So when you're telling the individual, what are some of 0:08:38.700 --> 0:08:42.540 the problems? Well, they may not listen to us. They 0:08:42.540 --> 0:08:45.929 may not listen. But write this down. They may not 0:08:45.929 --> 0:08:49.470 listen to us. I got caught talking about brother Ray 0:08:49.470 --> 0:08:52.050 at the health club. I'm just telling on myself I 0:08:52.050 --> 0:08:54.329 got caught. We were talking about him because he bragged 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:57.300 a lot. And we were in there laughing. And, you know, 0:08:57.330 --> 0:09:00.750 he he he wanted to give somebody advice about lifting weights. 0:09:00.750 --> 0:09:02.760 And no, you ain't doing it right, you know. And 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:05.640 so it was like we was dogging them out, man. 0:09:05.640 --> 0:09:07.080 And usually I kind of try to keep up, but 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:08.670 I just couldn't keep my mouth shut on this one. 0:09:08.670 --> 0:09:10.920 I don't know why I thought I was filled with 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:12.809 the spirit, but not that day. It was the spirit 0:09:12.809 --> 0:09:15.569 of somebody else. And so we're in there talking now. Now, 0:09:15.570 --> 0:09:17.579 the thing about it is, he didn't like any of them, 0:09:17.580 --> 0:09:22.500 but we would always talk. And I said, yeah, well 0:09:22.500 --> 0:09:26.970 there's £402 self. And he walked around the corner and 0:09:26.970 --> 0:09:33.360 looked at me and for the next nine months wouldn't 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:36.510 even speak to me. I try, I say, you know, Ray, 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:39.810 all I can say is I got caught, man, you know? 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:41.940 And he just he's just looking. He didn't say nothing. 0:09:41.970 --> 0:09:44.730 He just keep walking, keep walking, keep walking, keep walking. 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.720 You know, it's like. It's like finally I said, you 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:53.520 want to keep me in bondage, right? You're a Christian. 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:57.780 I'm a Christian. I'm. I'm acknowledging I was wrong. I'm 0:09:57.780 --> 0:10:00.490 asking you to forgive me. You won't even say anything, man. 0:10:01.750 --> 0:10:06.459 And he wouldn't say anything. So I said, okay, Lord. Well, 0:10:06.460 --> 0:10:08.890 I know I was wrong and you didn't stop me. 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:10.840 I need to keep my mouth shut. Stay out of 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:13.270 this mess that's up in here, you know. No matter 0:10:13.270 --> 0:10:16.030 how juicy it is, don't be doing this. You know, 0:10:16.059 --> 0:10:18.459 because it was juicy, you know, because it's like. It's 0:10:18.460 --> 0:10:21.729 really funny. If you see a £402 man telling a 0:10:21.730 --> 0:10:26.979 £140 man, he doing something wrong. So it was funny 0:10:26.980 --> 0:10:30.069 to me, you know. And so anyway, and I would 0:10:30.070 --> 0:10:31.179 tell you the rest of the story, but I ain't 0:10:31.179 --> 0:10:33.880 got time, you know, because God worked it out where 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:36.130 he needed me for something. I come out of the 0:10:36.130 --> 0:10:39.460 club and he's standing there with his hood up. His 0:10:39.460 --> 0:10:42.460 car had stopped and everybody was walking around and said, 0:10:42.460 --> 0:10:44.410 you got any cables? And I know some of them 0:10:44.410 --> 0:10:46.960 guys had cables, but they didn't like him. And so 0:10:46.990 --> 0:10:50.199 I went to my car. I said, hey, brother Ray, 0:10:50.530 --> 0:10:52.780 you need some help? He ain't say anything. I went 0:10:52.780 --> 0:10:56.229 to my car, got my jumper cables, pulled my car 0:10:56.230 --> 0:10:59.020 up in front of his, put some jumper cables up 0:10:59.020 --> 0:11:02.960 and gave him a jump. First words he said to 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:10.400 me in nine months. Thank you. Yeah. Then we started talking. 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:12.590 And then I didn't try to cover it up. I 0:11:12.590 --> 0:11:15.770 didn't try to, you know. Yeah, well, you know, you know. No, 0:11:15.770 --> 0:11:18.319 I just said, you know what? I was wrong. I 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:20.780 got in that conversation, and I knew I shouldn't have 0:11:20.780 --> 0:11:23.390 been talking about you. And I, thank God, had me 0:11:23.420 --> 0:11:27.170 get caught by you. Just so that for these nine months, 0:11:27.170 --> 0:11:30.020 I've been soul searching. And I'm telling you the truth. 0:11:30.020 --> 0:11:32.810 It has caused me to keep my mouth out of 0:11:32.809 --> 0:11:37.340 stuff because I have a sarcasm about me. I just 0:11:37.340 --> 0:11:40.819 like to, you know? Anyway. Anyway. But anyway, so we reconcile. 0:11:41.780 --> 0:11:45.080 Pastor Ford, get a little personal there on our message 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.420 when I'm sorry isn't enough. And I think a lot 0:11:47.420 --> 0:11:50.810 of us can relate. Maybe not to that exact situation, 0:11:50.809 --> 0:11:53.420 but something very similar. So I hope that today's teaching 0:11:53.420 --> 0:11:55.880 is encouraging to you, and you may want to go 0:11:55.880 --> 0:11:57.800 back and listen to it again. You can do that 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:01.890 by coming to our website. It's Treasure treasured truth. radio.org. 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:04.980 You can download MP3's for free. You can also stream 0:12:04.980 --> 0:12:07.590 the program through your computer or mobile device, or even 0:12:07.590 --> 0:12:10.679 order copies of this broadcast on CD. Again, come to 0:12:10.710 --> 0:12:14.940 treasure Truth radio.org. Again, here's Pastor Ford. 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:17.790 So then we say, okay, no, I don't want to 0:12:17.790 --> 0:12:20.100 approach the person. They may not listen. Number two, to 0:12:20.130 --> 0:12:23.580 avoid further conflict, but you have to you have to 0:12:23.580 --> 0:12:27.090 understand that as you're trying to resolve this, it's going 0:12:27.090 --> 0:12:33.869 to be some further emotional trauma. I wouldn't call it conflict. 0:12:33.870 --> 0:12:38.790 You're trying to resolve something between two people. That's not 0:12:38.790 --> 0:12:43.439 going to be a tiptoe through the tulips. Number three. 0:12:43.470 --> 0:12:46.650 Number three, they may tell us they don't forgive us. 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:49.109 And many of us have happened that before. I just 0:12:49.110 --> 0:12:52.709 shared that story. Number four, they may use it as 0:12:52.710 --> 0:12:57.990 leverage later on. I'll never forget. I apologize to the 0:12:57.990 --> 0:13:03.580 whole church about something. About a year later, me and 0:13:03.580 --> 0:13:07.240 this one brother, you know, had our little disagreement. You 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:10.720 know what that brother said to me? Don't forget, this 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:14.410 ain't even your forte. A year ago, you told us 0:13:14.740 --> 0:13:21.070 and had to apologize. I said, let me tell you something. 0:13:22.420 --> 0:13:25.720 Have you grown in a year? Has anything about you 0:13:25.750 --> 0:13:29.620 gotten better? A whole lot. So you trying to say 0:13:29.620 --> 0:13:33.579 ain't nothing got better about me? Just because I used 0:13:33.580 --> 0:13:37.719 to have that problem doesn't mean I still have that problem. 0:13:38.140 --> 0:13:41.350 Isn't it amazing how people will never let you change 0:13:41.350 --> 0:13:46.809 from how you used to be? Yeah, and that's why 0:13:46.809 --> 0:13:48.880 I see you got to cut some people loose. Let 0:13:48.910 --> 0:13:51.880 me tell you why. Because they always trying to drag 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:56.680 you into your past history instead of trying to push 0:13:56.679 --> 0:14:03.350 you in your future destiny. Leave them alone. So that's 0:14:03.350 --> 0:14:06.290 what they do. So. So then what does Scripture say? Uh, 0:14:06.290 --> 0:14:11.660 Matthew chapter 523 and 24, Matthew 1815 through 19. What 0:14:11.660 --> 0:14:14.780 do they say? Go to your brother. Go to your sister. Why? 0:14:14.809 --> 0:14:19.670 Because you need to understand. God wants to minimize. We 0:14:19.670 --> 0:14:22.040 talked about this before in a Sunday. The impact of 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:26.450 the offense. Resolve it at its primary level. Get it done. 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:32.030 Here's number three. Number three. Attitude must be one of humility. 0:14:32.030 --> 0:14:35.240 They approached him in humility. They did it with two 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:39.110 ways their words and their ways. Here's the quote. Humility 0:14:39.110 --> 0:14:42.020 is not thinking less of yourself. It is thinking of 0:14:42.020 --> 0:14:45.200 yourself less. Let me say that again. Uh, anonymous said 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:48.410 humility is not thinking less of yourself. It is thinking 0:14:48.410 --> 0:14:52.460 of yourself less. So what happens? Listen to what they 0:14:52.460 --> 0:14:58.460 say to him. They say to him, we beg of thee. Wow. Wow. 0:14:58.820 --> 0:15:03.620 That's amazing to me. They're humbling themselves before him. Now, 0:15:03.620 --> 0:15:05.540 I know what you're saying. Their motivation. I ain't talking 0:15:05.540 --> 0:15:09.050 about motivation right now. I'm just talking about the principles. 0:15:09.410 --> 0:15:11.780 God will get him right in their motivation. The reason 0:15:11.780 --> 0:15:15.020 why we've already said that the barrier was removed. They 0:15:15.020 --> 0:15:17.900 thought that the only reason Joseph wasn't making them pay 0:15:17.930 --> 0:15:20.840 is because daddy was alive. And Joseph know how daddy 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:24.200 feel about all his boys, and not just him and Benjamin. 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.090 And so they're thinking he ain't going to do nothing. 0:15:26.090 --> 0:15:28.910 But when dad dies, they was back on their way. 0:15:28.940 --> 0:15:31.670 They they had gone to a leak. They had went 0:15:31.670 --> 0:15:34.880 over over to. I was getting ready to say Burr Oak, 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:39.110 but I know they didn't go there. And they came 0:15:39.110 --> 0:15:44.450 back and in the limousine, man. And Joseph was in 0:15:44.450 --> 0:15:46.340 the big one. Him and Benjamin was up in front 0:15:46.340 --> 0:15:50.330 in that big, long, extended one. And they was back 0:15:50.330 --> 0:15:54.710 in that little short one. And they said, man, dad's 0:15:54.710 --> 0:15:59.060 dead man. We better get this right now with him, man, because, oh, man, 0:15:59.060 --> 0:16:01.710 we gotta go in there. We produce some pleading, bro. 0:16:01.740 --> 0:16:05.820 You hear me? But what's my point? They did it. 0:16:05.850 --> 0:16:11.760 They went in humility and they said, listen to this. 0:16:11.790 --> 0:16:14.700 Thus you shall say to Joseph, I beg you, please 0:16:14.700 --> 0:16:17.250 forgive the trespass of your brothers and their sin and 0:16:17.250 --> 0:16:20.280 the evil they. Now please forgive the trespass of the 0:16:20.280 --> 0:16:24.240 servants of the God of your father. And Joseph wept 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:28.140 when they spake to him. Now notice what they do. Man, 0:16:28.140 --> 0:16:33.480 this is good stuff, because I'm going on two bases. 0:16:34.410 --> 0:16:42.000 Human father. Heavenly father, forgive me on the basis of 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:48.810 our human father and our heavenly Father. That's good stuff. 0:16:49.650 --> 0:16:52.260 That's it. So, yeah. 0:16:52.290 --> 0:16:56.760 We pray thee. It's like saying please. Verse 18 says 0:16:56.760 --> 0:17:00.280 they fell down before his face. I ain't telling you 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:04.570 to do that. I ain't say grovel. Lose your dignity. 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:09.160 Ain't nobody saying nothing like that. People generally judge the 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:17.530 seriousness of your asking forgiveness in the way your words 0:17:18.580 --> 0:17:26.619 come from your mouth, the way your body is. Uh, well, no, 0:17:26.619 --> 0:17:28.600 I just want you to forgive me, because, you know, 0:17:28.630 --> 0:17:30.940 I wasn't intending to, but, you know, you took offense 0:17:30.940 --> 0:17:38.440 at it. And so, you know, will you please forgive me? No. Now. 0:17:41.170 --> 0:17:50.770 Don't try to pacify. Jesus on the cross. Father, forgive them, 0:17:50.770 --> 0:17:57.190 for they know not what they do. So he appeals. 0:17:57.220 --> 0:18:01.340 Number four appeal on the basis of relationship and then 0:18:01.369 --> 0:18:04.010 heavenly level, human level. Here's the last one. We're going 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:08.090 to have to finish it. Acts of restitution must be rendered. 0:18:08.150 --> 0:18:11.359 You say what's there? Restitution. Here's what they offer him. 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:17.450 Submission and service. Why? Because of who he is now. 0:18:18.500 --> 0:18:21.410 In other words, there needs to be restitution. Listen, if 0:18:21.410 --> 0:18:25.400 restitution can be made, then you need to make restitution. 0:18:25.400 --> 0:18:28.190 If it was something that I took, for example, I 0:18:28.190 --> 0:18:30.440 need to replace it. You know, in the Scripture it 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:34.040 says if you stole a man's cow, you bring back 0:18:34.070 --> 0:18:38.000 four for the one. Now, I know what you're saying. 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:41.870 What was done to me? There can be no restitution. Yes, 0:18:41.869 --> 0:18:45.500 there can, because we have to realize this. Remember when 0:18:45.500 --> 0:18:47.720 I said about restoration and why it takes so long, 0:18:47.750 --> 0:18:49.879 what it takes to restore the relationship, and that John 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:54.169 Marks relationship with Paul was done at the end of 0:18:54.170 --> 0:18:57.290 his life, he called for him and said, Bring John 0:18:57.290 --> 0:19:01.470 Mark for his prophet. How many years was that? A 0:19:01.470 --> 0:19:07.410 lot of years. 25, I believe it was. But they 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:11.400 were finally restored. We looked at First Corinthians nine, and 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:17.940 we saw that Barnabas and Saul were restored. So here's 0:19:17.940 --> 0:19:25.379 what's at stake in the church. Our unity in our 0:19:25.380 --> 0:19:31.620 marriages and in our engagements and in our girlfriend and 0:19:31.619 --> 0:19:35.760 boyfriend ness, whatever you want to call it, you know 0:19:35.760 --> 0:19:43.320 what's at stake, the entire relationship. Because what's going on? 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:46.080 Remember what I said? Marriage is a union of two forgivers. 0:19:46.109 --> 0:19:49.379 And so what needs to take place? What needs to transpire? 0:19:49.380 --> 0:19:54.720 I must always make sure that I comprehend in my 0:19:54.720 --> 0:20:00.100 relationship with my quote unquote, significant other. My boo, my fiance, 0:20:00.130 --> 0:20:07.840 my wife or husband. Because the quality of our relationship 0:20:07.840 --> 0:20:13.810 depends on my comprehension of how important something is to 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:19.389 somebody else, especially when I don't see it. So in 0:20:19.390 --> 0:20:23.500 the church is unity and your other relationship it's quality. 0:20:24.310 --> 0:20:27.940 All of it has to do with what Jesus said 0:20:27.940 --> 0:20:35.440 our charity, our love one or another. Corrie ten boom. 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:39.850 Some of you read her story. She hid Jews during 0:20:39.850 --> 0:20:45.369 the Holocaust and she was Dutch. One of the guards 0:20:45.460 --> 0:20:48.010 that was at the place where she was in prison 0:20:48.010 --> 0:20:51.639 became a believer. She gave a speech and he came 0:20:51.640 --> 0:20:54.940 up and she recognized him. He held out his hand. 0:20:54.970 --> 0:20:58.060 Miss ten boom. I don't remember you, but I. I 0:20:58.060 --> 0:21:00.910 was a guard there, a there. German guard at the prison. 0:21:00.910 --> 0:21:03.550 And I'm a Christian now. And she looked at his 0:21:03.550 --> 0:21:08.950 hand and she walked away, and she said, I walked away. 0:21:08.980 --> 0:21:12.280 I could not shake that man's hand. I could not 0:21:12.280 --> 0:21:19.869 shake that man's hand, she said. All that night God 0:21:19.869 --> 0:21:24.820 just flashed in her mind again. Forgive us our debts 0:21:25.630 --> 0:21:29.379 as we forgive our debtors. I close with something I 0:21:29.380 --> 0:21:33.430 already said in the first message. I like the translation 0:21:33.430 --> 0:21:35.920 of the little girl. When her Sunday school teacher asked 0:21:35.920 --> 0:21:41.080 her to quote that verse, she said, Jesus said, forgive 0:21:41.080 --> 0:21:47.379 us our trash as we forgive those who trash basket 0:21:47.380 --> 0:21:50.650 against us. Amen. 0:21:54.310 --> 0:21:58.810 Amen. Yeah. Cute but true. 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