WEBVTT - Attitudes That Divide Us – Part 1 0:00:00.640 --> 0:00:04.880 It's obvious we're living in divided times. Today on bold steps, 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:08.240 Mark Jobe has an important message about the church and unity. 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:11.600 I don't think I've ever seen the amount of anger 0:00:11.600 --> 0:00:16.240 and volatility that I'm seeing today all the time in relationships, 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:20.120 in marriages, among coworkers. And you know what Paul is 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.720 telling us? Paul is saying you are different than that. 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:26.520 That may exist in the culture. That is not who 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:27.760 you are. 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:44.360 Welcome to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. Mark is president 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:47.320 of Moody Bible Institute and serves as senior pastor of 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:50.280 New Life Community Church in Chicago. My name is Wayne Shepherd, 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:52.680 and you know, our attitude towards something can make or 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:54.760 break it. And, Mark, I think you would agree that 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:58.920 there's a lot of anger, division, strife in relationships today. 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.880 And that's something you address recently to our students at 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:04.120 Moody Bible Institute in Wayne. 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:07.200 There was a guest speaker that was supposed to be 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:10.080 preaching in chapel the night before he got sick. 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:10.840 Oh, I didn't know that. 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:14.400 And called me and said, I can't make it. So, uh, 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:18.119 I spoke on this topic that I'd preached on not 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:21.240 too long ago, but, you know, a lot of people 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:23.800 came up to me afterwards and said that God really 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:25.920 spoke to their heart. I was able to pray with 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:30.000 some students and some faculty because this is a topic. 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:32.959 I think that we're all right in the middle of. 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:35.040 Well, we get to hear it now as we go 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:38.720 to chapel at Moody Bible Institute. Here's Mark's message. Attitudes 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:39.920 that divide us. 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:46.400 You know, I'm shocked at the amount of anger that 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:50.640 I see in our culture these days. It seems like 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:56.440 people are on edge, ready for a fight. Just bump 0:01:56.440 --> 0:02:00.280 them and they're ready to explode. I walked into the 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:04.650 mechanic mechanic's shop a couple of months ago, and there 0:02:04.650 --> 0:02:08.329 was a heated argument happened between happening between the guy 0:02:08.330 --> 0:02:11.730 that brought his car in and the mechanic's shop owner. 0:02:12.130 --> 0:02:16.290 And this argument started to escalate. I thought I was 0:02:16.290 --> 0:02:18.810 going to have to tackle the guy because I thought, 0:02:18.810 --> 0:02:21.450 this is going to get physical. Someone's going to get 0:02:21.450 --> 0:02:26.609 hurt here. It was over a car. And the mechanic 0:02:26.610 --> 0:02:30.609 not being able to do what the client wanted him 0:02:30.610 --> 0:02:33.810 to do on the car. But it almost got physical. 0:02:34.130 --> 0:02:40.770 The amount of volatility and anger and stress was amazing 0:02:41.530 --> 0:02:44.250 here in the city of Chicago. We hear news all 0:02:44.250 --> 0:02:47.490 the time of someone on the expressway that cuts someone 0:02:47.490 --> 0:02:50.730 else off, and someone pulls out a gun, and over 0:02:50.770 --> 0:02:56.730 a traffic disagreement, someone is shot and killed because there's 0:02:56.770 --> 0:03:03.410 a lot of volatility and anger Gallup did an annual 0:03:03.410 --> 0:03:06.650 survey of global emotions. Every year they do this, and 0:03:06.889 --> 0:03:12.050 they discovered that Americans experience stress, anger and worry right 0:03:12.050 --> 0:03:17.090 now at level largely surpassing those that have been seen 0:03:17.090 --> 0:03:21.570 in decades past. More than half of the United States. 0:03:21.570 --> 0:03:29.049 Of American respondents, 55% reported feeling highly stressed, while 45% 0:03:29.050 --> 0:03:32.410 said they felt worried a lot. Most of the time. 0:03:33.850 --> 0:03:35.290 So I just want you to know that we live 0:03:35.290 --> 0:03:41.210 in a culture where people are on edge, and we 0:03:41.210 --> 0:03:48.010 have not been spared in the Christian community from some 0:03:48.010 --> 0:03:52.210 of the volatility that exists in our culture. And I 0:03:52.210 --> 0:03:55.530 want to draw your attention to Ephesians chapter four, because 0:03:55.570 --> 0:03:58.930 Apostle Paul is talking to a group of believers that 0:03:58.930 --> 0:04:04.500 live in a very Secular environment, and the focus of 0:04:04.660 --> 0:04:09.619 this chapter is on growth and on unity, and on 0:04:09.620 --> 0:04:17.220 how to get along in tense relationships. And if you 0:04:17.220 --> 0:04:21.380 read the book of Ephesians, you'll realize that God is 0:04:21.380 --> 0:04:27.020 calling us and was calling them to live countercultural. I 0:04:27.020 --> 0:04:29.980 believe that one of the most powerful testimonies of the 0:04:29.980 --> 0:04:34.380 church in today's society is that people from different backgrounds 0:04:34.380 --> 0:04:38.100 and different color, skin and different ethnicities and different accents 0:04:38.140 --> 0:04:40.700 love each other in a way that astounds the world 0:04:40.700 --> 0:04:45.980 outside of us. Unfortunately, it is often not the case. 0:04:48.779 --> 0:04:51.940 I believe that we're called to live countercultural. I believe 0:04:51.940 --> 0:04:53.700 that one of the things that the world needs to 0:04:53.700 --> 0:04:56.940 see of the church now is a people that can 0:04:56.940 --> 0:05:01.460 be united in spite of differences. Is the united in 0:05:01.460 --> 0:05:04.619 Jesus Christ, and love each other in a way that 0:05:04.620 --> 0:05:09.780 causes the world outside to be confounded about what brings 0:05:09.779 --> 0:05:15.220 us together and keeps us together. At the front end 0:05:15.260 --> 0:05:20.420 of chapter four, the Apostle Paul expresses his desire for 0:05:20.420 --> 0:05:24.420 unity in the church, and he says, I therefore a 0:05:24.420 --> 0:05:27.700 prisoner for the Lord. He's writing this epistle from prison, 0:05:28.060 --> 0:05:31.980 urge you to walk in a manner worthy of your calling. Hey, 0:05:31.980 --> 0:05:36.260 you have a high calling. Every believer in Jesus has 0:05:36.260 --> 0:05:39.660 a calling. We're all called to follow him and to 0:05:39.700 --> 0:05:43.060 follow him on mission. And what the Apostle Paul is 0:05:43.060 --> 0:05:44.780 saying is you have a high calling, but some of 0:05:44.779 --> 0:05:47.580 you are not living to the measure of your calling. 0:05:48.980 --> 0:05:54.420 And he says, walk in a manner worthy of the 0:05:54.420 --> 0:05:58.100 calling to which you have been called. And then he 0:05:58.100 --> 0:06:02.590 gives some descriptions, Some of these would not be the 0:06:02.589 --> 0:06:05.590 words that we would gravitate towards. But he says, with 0:06:05.589 --> 0:06:12.630 all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another 0:06:12.630 --> 0:06:17.430 in love, eager to maintain the unity of the spirit 0:06:17.430 --> 0:06:20.710 in the bond of peace. There is one body and 0:06:20.710 --> 0:06:23.430 one spirit, just as you were called to one hope 0:06:23.430 --> 0:06:27.470 that belongs to your call. One Lord, one faith, one baptism, 0:06:27.470 --> 0:06:30.789 one God and Father of all, who is over all 0:06:30.790 --> 0:06:35.790 and through all and in all. You would think that 0:06:35.790 --> 0:06:39.670 he would use words like courage and boldness and risk 0:06:39.710 --> 0:06:43.630 taking when he talks about call, but he uses words 0:06:43.630 --> 0:06:51.830 like gentleness, humility, kindness because he's saying that our call 0:06:51.830 --> 0:06:56.909 is not just a call to be bold about our faith, 0:06:57.230 --> 0:07:02.710 but there's a calling also to learn. to get along 0:07:02.710 --> 0:07:07.310 with other people, especially the household of faith, especially of 0:07:07.310 --> 0:07:14.470 the body of believers. And I want to jump further 0:07:14.470 --> 0:07:17.750 down in the passage, because the Apostle Paul gives us 0:07:17.750 --> 0:07:22.030 the intention, but he gets real practical in verses 25 0:07:22.190 --> 0:07:27.390 through 32, and he basically tells us what we're to 0:07:27.430 --> 0:07:32.550 stop doing and start doing. And, um, I'm going to 0:07:32.550 --> 0:07:35.030 have to go through this fast because of our time 0:07:35.030 --> 0:07:38.830 constraints here. But there are five things. If you're going 0:07:38.870 --> 0:07:42.550 to have an attitude that brings people together instead of 0:07:42.590 --> 0:07:46.309 splits people apart that you need to stop doing, and 0:07:46.310 --> 0:07:50.350 five things that you need to start doing. Number one, 0:07:51.150 --> 0:07:55.310 he says, therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one 0:07:55.310 --> 0:07:58.990 of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we 0:07:58.990 --> 0:08:02.240 are all members of one another. The first thing he 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:07.200 says is stop lying and start telling the truth. Stop lying. 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:10.880 That's who you were in your old life. You were liars. 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:16.760 You manipulated. You weren't truthful. You weren't vulnerable, transparent and real. 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:22.240 You had mask and pretension, manipulation, deceitful half truths. That's 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:25.880 how the world operates. Putting on a facade to make 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:30.760 people think that we're something, that we're not deceiving. People 0:08:30.760 --> 0:08:37.680 with subtle forms of manipulation, distracting people with lies that 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:40.120 really aren't truth. And he says that's who you were. 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:43.480 That's not who you are. You are people of honesty 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:48.120 and truth. You are the old way of deception that's 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:53.319 gone the way of Jesus. The new you is real, 0:08:53.720 --> 0:09:00.800 is honest, is transparent. The real you is someone that 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:07.400 operates without mask, uh, without manipulation, and allows us to 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:15.160 have relationships that, uh, that are significant because we're not pretending. 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:18.760 And then he says this, for we are members of 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:23.400 one another. He says you need to operate with honesty 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:26.360 and communication because you are actually connected to each other. 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:31.360 He's talking to Christians that, that, that aren't operating honestly 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:35.839 with one another. He uses the example of a body 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:39.920 that were members of one another. Your head and your 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:42.400 hands and your feet and your legs are part of 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:45.720 one body, and they have to communicate honestly with one another. 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:49.640 When members of your body don't communicate honestly, we call 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:54.440 it a disease. If my hand does not respond to 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.920 what my head is saying and does its own thing, 0:09:57.200 --> 0:10:01.970 that's a neurological disease. If my feet don't cooperate with 0:10:01.970 --> 0:10:05.770 my eyesight, I stumble. I fall a lot because there's 0:10:05.770 --> 0:10:10.170 not honest communication and I don't get somewhere. And he, 0:10:10.170 --> 0:10:12.130 in essence is saying, if you are to be the 0:10:12.130 --> 0:10:15.809 people of God, there has to be a different way 0:10:15.809 --> 0:10:21.450 of relating to each other that is not inculturated by 0:10:21.450 --> 0:10:26.689 who you were. There's a level of honesty, transparency, openness 0:10:26.690 --> 0:10:31.329 about our struggles and who we are that should characterize 0:10:31.650 --> 0:10:37.010 our new culture, the people of God. Number two, stop 0:10:37.170 --> 0:10:42.090 letting your anger fester and start dealing with it. Verse 26, 0:10:42.090 --> 0:10:46.890 he says, be angry and do not sin. Do not 0:10:46.890 --> 0:10:50.250 let the sun go down while you are angry, and 0:10:50.250 --> 0:10:55.090 do not give the devil a foothold. I love the 0:10:55.090 --> 0:10:58.410 wording of the message. It says, go ahead and be angry. 0:10:59.090 --> 0:11:01.370 You do well to be angry, but don't use your 0:11:01.370 --> 0:11:05.530 anger as fuel for revenge. And don't stay angry. Don't 0:11:05.530 --> 0:11:09.050 go to bed angry. Don't give the devil that kind 0:11:09.050 --> 0:11:13.690 of foothold in your life. There is a lot of anger, 0:11:14.090 --> 0:11:18.290 a lot of anger in every part of our culture 0:11:18.290 --> 0:11:22.250 and society. I don't think I've ever seen the amount 0:11:22.250 --> 0:11:25.690 of anger and volatility that I'm seeing today all the 0:11:25.690 --> 0:11:33.010 time in families, in relationships, in marriages, among coworkers. Driving 0:11:33.010 --> 0:11:38.130 on the expressway, there's anger. Anger over politics. Anger over 0:11:38.170 --> 0:11:43.610 cultural issues. Anger over economics. Anger over a lot of 0:11:43.610 --> 0:11:47.250 things that divide us. Uh, there is a lot of 0:11:47.250 --> 0:11:52.010 volatility and anger these days. A lot of polarization. And 0:11:52.010 --> 0:11:54.250 you know what Paul is telling us? Paul is saying 0:11:54.250 --> 0:11:57.330 you are different than that. That is that may exist 0:11:57.330 --> 0:12:01.540 in the culture. 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Just search for Bold Steps 0:13:04.940 --> 0:13:07.820 Radio and hit the follow button when you find us. 0:13:08.420 --> 0:13:10.940 Now let's get back to today's message. Here again is 0:13:10.940 --> 0:13:13.179 Mark Jobe with more bold steps. 0:13:18.940 --> 0:13:22.140 I have to be honest with you, as a pastor 0:13:22.140 --> 0:13:24.620 in the city of Chicago, I feel like I often 0:13:24.620 --> 0:13:32.420 have to deal with stereotypes of Christians. Oh, you're those 0:13:32.420 --> 0:13:40.820 angry people always shouting, always against someone, always hateful. And 0:13:40.820 --> 0:13:42.579 I try to say, yeah, you know, there's some people 0:13:42.580 --> 0:13:45.180 like that. That's not necessarily who we are, because a 0:13:45.179 --> 0:13:48.059 lot of the world sees kind of what we're against. 0:13:49.260 --> 0:13:53.660 They oftentimes don't see what we're for. They see the anger, 0:13:54.100 --> 0:14:00.189 the veins popping, the screaming and the yelling very much 0:14:00.190 --> 0:14:06.829 like what I see political opponents doing, or teams that 0:14:06.830 --> 0:14:11.350 are against each other, or people that oppose each other. 0:14:11.390 --> 0:14:16.630 An anger volatility that really isn't the kind of stereotype, 0:14:16.630 --> 0:14:20.670 the image that I think reflects Jesus the best. Now, 0:14:20.710 --> 0:14:23.590 don't get me wrong, there are times to be angry. 0:14:24.430 --> 0:14:27.030 In fact, I want to say this anger is not 0:14:27.030 --> 0:14:31.270 a sin. Anger is an emotion. So we know it's 0:14:31.270 --> 0:14:34.550 not a sin because Jesus became angry. For example, in 0:14:34.550 --> 0:14:37.710 Mark chapter three verse five. Jesus looked around at what 0:14:37.710 --> 0:14:39.950 they were doing in the temple, and he said. He 0:14:39.950 --> 0:14:45.390 looked at around in anger. Deeply distressed at their stubborn heart. 0:14:46.150 --> 0:14:48.430 In Psalms chapter four, verse four, it says, in your 0:14:48.430 --> 0:14:51.630 anger do not sin. But when you go to your bed, 0:14:51.630 --> 0:14:55.710 search your hearts and be silent. God becomes angry. Anger 0:14:55.710 --> 0:15:00.600 is not a sin. But here's the thing Anger can 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:03.600 lead to sinful behavior if it's not dealt with the 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:08.080 right way. Uh, psychologists would say that anger is a 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:14.360 secondary emotion. That means that typically, if you struggle with anger, 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:19.480 it means that there's probably an undercurrent issue that is 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:26.120 causing your anger to pop up. That undercurrent issue sometimes 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:30.360 is sadness. Uh, people that are experiencing loss in their life, 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:36.040 loss of a relationship, a friendship, uh, death of someone, uh, status, 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:40.360 a job, whatever. Sometimes sadness can lead to anger. Uh, 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:44.960 sometimes the root emotion is fear. Uh, show me people 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.760 that are fearful a lot. And oftentimes that can explode 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:51.760 into anger. Show me someone that's hurt. Uh, someone that's 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:58.760 wounded internally. Someone that has experienced disappointment, disillusionment, abandonment, abuse 0:15:58.760 --> 0:16:02.160 of any kind. Oftentimes they lash out in anger. So 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.400 I would say this if you're experiencing anger today, you 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:09.080 need to treat it as a dashboard. In your car. 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:10.960 You have a dashboard and there's a lot of lights. 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:14.800 I know some of you ignore them all the time. Like, yeah, 0:16:14.800 --> 0:16:16.760 there's a light that's been going on. I don't know, 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:19.040 I just don't pay attention to the lights. Let me 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:25.280 say pay attention to the lights. Because that light is 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:26.720 telling you you need to change the oil or you 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.960 need to put oil in that car. It's just a light. 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:36.080 All these lights just. And anger is like that. It's 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:38.800 a dashboard in your life that tells you there's something 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:41.600 in your life that's undealt with. If you are here 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:45.680 today and you have anger, you explode at your roommates. 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:50.200 You get ticked off very easy. You rant about things. 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:53.640 You feel this simmering anger inside of you. You need 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:57.440 to pay attention to that because it's telling you that 0:16:57.440 --> 0:17:02.080 there is some underlying Line emotions, some underlying root issue 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:05.879 that you have not dealt with and you're going to 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:09.680 excuse it. Ah, it's just the stress. It's my roommate. 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:14.760 It's the pressure. It's the unfairness. It's the finances. It's 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:18.840 whatever you blame it on. But listen, people around you 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.840 know that you're angry. You need to pay attention to 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:25.520 the dashboard. Why is it going off all the time? 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:28.040 Because there's something at the root that you need to 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:31.359 deal with. And here's what the Apostle Paul says. The 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:38.240 apostle Paul says, hey, be angry, but don't sin. Anger 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:46.120 can show up in explosiveness, stewing, irritability, hostility, aggression. And then, Paul, 0:17:46.119 --> 0:17:48.520 I don't have time to get way into this, but 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:53.600 Paul gives us basically three rules for anger. Number one, 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:59.080 don't let it turn. Be angry and don't sin. Anger 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:05.530 can quickly turn into damaging destructive behavior if it's not channeled. Hey, yeah, 0:18:05.570 --> 0:18:08.810 you get angry at your roommate. That's normal. But when 0:18:08.810 --> 0:18:12.409 you start to become critical, demeaning, when you start to 0:18:12.450 --> 0:18:15.810 become abusive with your words, when you start to slander, 0:18:16.330 --> 0:18:22.010 you've crossed the line and let anger become sinful. Don't 0:18:22.010 --> 0:18:27.130 let anger turn. Feel the emotion, the urge, but don't 0:18:27.130 --> 0:18:30.649 let it turn to something destructive. And that's why the 0:18:30.650 --> 0:18:35.010 apostle Paul tells us, by the way, uh, he says, 0:18:35.930 --> 0:18:39.010 don't let the sun go down while you're angry. In 0:18:39.010 --> 0:18:42.369 other words, if you let it, if you let it 0:18:42.609 --> 0:18:49.330 stew without dealing with it, it turns. Let anger stew 0:18:49.770 --> 0:18:54.010 and don't deal with it. It'll turn to bitterness, resentment. 0:18:54.369 --> 0:18:58.730 It'll turn to revenge. It'll turn to hate. It'll turn 0:18:58.730 --> 0:19:03.860 to a critical spirit. It always turns. And so the 0:19:03.859 --> 0:19:07.460 rule that the apostle Paul gives is deal with it 0:19:07.460 --> 0:19:09.700 that day. In essence, what he's saying is you need 0:19:09.700 --> 0:19:13.619 to deal with it that day. So I've learned, if 0:19:13.619 --> 0:19:15.940 I want to have a really good fight with my 0:19:15.940 --> 0:19:19.380 wife and and have time to stew, I pick the 0:19:19.380 --> 0:19:21.379 fight early in the morning. That way I have all day. 0:19:22.380 --> 0:19:28.060 I'm just kidding. He's not really talking. It's not just 0:19:28.060 --> 0:19:31.139 about the 24 hour rule, but it is about do 0:19:31.140 --> 0:19:34.060 not wake up the next day not having dealt with 0:19:34.060 --> 0:19:39.180 your anger. And then number three, listen. He says, don't 0:19:39.180 --> 0:19:43.139 give the devil a foothold and give no opportunity to 0:19:43.180 --> 0:19:48.260 the devil. Can I tell you something? A foothold is 0:19:48.260 --> 0:19:50.540 when someone tries to close the door and you put 0:19:50.540 --> 0:19:53.540 your foot there and you can't close the door. You 0:19:53.540 --> 0:19:56.420 ever done that? Run around playing with your roommates or 0:19:56.460 --> 0:19:59.220 as kids? They try to close the door. You put 0:19:59.220 --> 0:20:00.939 your foot in there, and then you can yell in 0:20:00.940 --> 0:20:02.900 the door and you put your hand in there. Try 0:20:02.940 --> 0:20:05.660 to reach in. Do something. Throw something in there. That's 0:20:05.660 --> 0:20:09.180 called a foothold. And if you don't deal with this door, 0:20:09.220 --> 0:20:12.020 if you don't close this door, if you don't deal 0:20:12.020 --> 0:20:14.420 with that, what's at the root of it? Listen, if 0:20:14.420 --> 0:20:17.580 you have trauma in your heart, if you have. If 0:20:17.580 --> 0:20:19.619 you have scars in your soul, which a lot of 0:20:19.619 --> 0:20:22.379 us do, we live in a broken, messed up world. 0:20:22.380 --> 0:20:25.100 And a lot of you have been raised in families 0:20:25.100 --> 0:20:30.859 that were broken, dysfunctional, unhealthy, toxic. And if you had 0:20:30.859 --> 0:20:34.940 a healthy family and had good parents and had good investment, 0:20:34.940 --> 0:20:38.500 then you are the rarity and you better thank God 0:20:38.500 --> 0:20:43.420 for that. But the great majority have brokenness. A lot 0:20:43.460 --> 0:20:46.780 of brokenness. And a lot of times that brokenness is 0:20:46.780 --> 0:20:49.859 not dealt with. And at the core there's anger. 0:20:56.020 --> 0:20:58.740 This is bold steps with Mark Jobe, the start of 0:20:58.740 --> 0:21:02.500 a lesson titled Attitudes That Divide Us. We'll continue with 0:21:02.500 --> 0:21:05.700 part two on tomorrow's program, but until then, head over 0:21:05.700 --> 0:21:08.540 to our website at Bold steps.org and check out this 0:21:08.540 --> 0:21:12.500 month's special Bold Step gift. It's available for a limited time. Mark, 0:21:12.500 --> 0:21:14.220 let's talk about this special offer. 0:21:14.460 --> 0:21:18.660 You know, Wayne, today's young girls, they're just bombarded with 0:21:18.660 --> 0:21:23.979 messages that shape their beliefs, affect their identity. That's why 0:21:23.980 --> 0:21:27.740 I'm excited about this bold Steps gift this month. It's 0:21:27.740 --> 0:21:32.300 called Lies Girls Believe by Dana Gresh. 0:21:32.340 --> 0:21:33.740 And Dana is with us right now. 0:21:33.780 --> 0:21:37.100 Absolutely, Dana, great to have you with us. Tell us 0:21:37.100 --> 0:21:40.300 a little bit about why you wrote this book. 0:21:40.980 --> 0:21:43.780 Oh, well, my friend Nancy DeMoss, Wolgemuth wrote a book 0:21:43.780 --> 0:21:48.860 called Lies Women Believe. And over a million women read 0:21:48.859 --> 0:21:53.020 that book, and it helped them to really identify where 0:21:53.020 --> 0:21:56.340 they were in bondage to lies. And that was resulting 0:21:56.340 --> 0:21:59.220 in emotions that weren't working, that weren't healthy. That was 0:21:59.310 --> 0:22:01.950 one of the telltale signs, as well as sinful behaviors 0:22:01.950 --> 0:22:05.070 that they just couldn't stop. And when they identified the lies, 0:22:05.070 --> 0:22:08.909 they felt freedom. Well, those women said, these lies started 0:22:08.910 --> 0:22:10.790 when I was in my teen years and in my 0:22:10.790 --> 0:22:13.750 teen years. So Nancy and I worked together to write 0:22:13.750 --> 0:22:16.670 both Lies Young Women Believe for teens and then Lies 0:22:16.750 --> 0:22:20.070 Girls believe for the 8 to 12 year old girls. 0:22:20.470 --> 0:22:23.590 So this is for 8 to 12 year olds specifically, 0:22:23.590 --> 0:22:27.590 by the way, I just think this is so, so needed. Yes, 0:22:27.790 --> 0:22:32.430 especially in today's culture where young girls more than ever 0:22:32.470 --> 0:22:37.190 are bombarded about identity, lies about who they are, gender, 0:22:37.190 --> 0:22:40.270 where they fit into the world. What would you say 0:22:40.270 --> 0:22:43.790 are the top three lies? I know you have a 0:22:44.150 --> 0:22:47.030 list of quite a few lies. Can you identify what 0:22:47.030 --> 0:22:49.629 you'd say are the top say three lies? 0:22:50.150 --> 0:22:53.310 God is not enough. If we don't believe that God 0:22:53.310 --> 0:22:57.310 is enough, then that dismantles and affects everything else around us. 0:22:57.350 --> 0:23:00.350 And one of the ways that shows up is emotions, 0:23:00.350 --> 0:23:03.150 which I just addressed. Emotions are one of the telltale 0:23:03.150 --> 0:23:05.909 signs that we aren't believing God is who he says 0:23:05.910 --> 0:23:09.030 he is, and he will be in our lives who 0:23:09.030 --> 0:23:12.550 he says he will be. So we believe God isn't enough. 0:23:12.550 --> 0:23:14.629 I need the car, or the house or the job 0:23:14.630 --> 0:23:17.629 or whatever. But as as tweens, they tend to really 0:23:17.630 --> 0:23:20.310 believe the lie. God isn't enough. I need the friend 0:23:20.830 --> 0:23:24.990 and friends lead you down a road of believing all 0:23:24.990 --> 0:23:28.870 kinds of other lies. Peer pressure is either a great 0:23:28.869 --> 0:23:32.590 gift in our lives that leads us to Jesus, or 0:23:32.590 --> 0:23:35.830 it is a great dismantling of our faith and leads 0:23:35.830 --> 0:23:38.710 us away from Jesus to counterfeits. And so I think 0:23:38.710 --> 0:23:41.550 that's probably one of the big lies. And you mentioned 0:23:41.590 --> 0:23:46.750 identity so many times. If if that friend isn't from 0:23:46.750 --> 0:23:49.830 a source of biblical truth, a home that's grounded in 0:23:49.830 --> 0:23:53.750 biblical truth today, which of us feels good about ourselves? 0:23:53.750 --> 0:23:56.430 Our emotions are healthy in our in our middle school 0:23:56.430 --> 0:24:01.320 and pre-teen years. None of us. Well, today people are saying, okay, 0:24:01.359 --> 0:24:04.000 the reason you don't feel good is because and they're 0:24:04.000 --> 0:24:08.159 leading them down, these really lethal, dangerous roads of lies 0:24:08.160 --> 0:24:10.560 that lead to lots and lots of years of struggle 0:24:10.560 --> 0:24:11.200 and pain. 0:24:11.240 --> 0:24:13.280 Well, Dana, we are so happy to partner with you 0:24:13.280 --> 0:24:15.800 in getting this book into the hands of our listeners lives. 0:24:15.840 --> 0:24:19.399 Girls believe and the truth. Can't forget the subtitle, Marc, 0:24:19.440 --> 0:24:23.040 the Truth That Sets Them Free. Dana, thank you so much. 0:24:23.359 --> 0:24:25.080 My pleasure. Thanks, guys. 0:24:25.240 --> 0:24:27.600 And we'll be happy to send you a copy right away. 0:24:27.600 --> 0:24:30.520 When you give any amount to bold steps to send 0:24:30.520 --> 0:24:32.119 a check in the mail, just write to us at 0:24:32.119 --> 0:24:37.920 bold steps. 820 North LaSalle Boulevard, Chicago, Illinois 606 ten. 0:24:38.280 --> 0:24:45.199 Or call us at 800 D.L. Moody. That's (800) 356-6639. And 0:24:45.240 --> 0:24:48.399 of course, you can always visit us online at Bold Steps. 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