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S1: Carroll writes Gary, my boyfriend of 16 months, won't tell

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S1: me that he loves me, even though I tell him.

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S2: If he's not willing to say that to you, it

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S2: means either he is not attracted to you strongly emotionally,

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S2: or he is not willing to commit himself to your well-being.

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S2: The foundation stone of marriage is a commitment to love

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S2: each other and not talking about feelings. I'm talking about

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S2: a commitment to seek the well-being of the other person

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S2: and be committed to that. That's what marriage is made of.

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S2: So you're nowhere near getting married? Let me put it

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S2: that way. Or even engaged. Now, if you want to

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S2: continue the relationship, see if he warms up, see if

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S2: he makes positive steps, then that's fine. I suggest you

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S2: work through one of my books called things I Wish

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S2: I'd Known Before We Got Married. I think the discussions

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S2: that will come out of that will help you make

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S2: a wise decision.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of the Five Love Languages.

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S3: For more answers, visit Start Marriage Right.com.