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S1: John writes, I just discovered that my fiance tested positive

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S1: for an STD from a past relationship. I don't know

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S1: what to do about it.

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S2: I think the answer is you discuss it openly and freely.

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S2: You discuss the nature of the sexually transmitted disease. Is

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S2: there something that can be done about it then you

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S2: have to grapple with? Do I want to continue in

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S2: this relationship with this reality? We cannot erase our past,

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S2: and some of us have past experiences that are not good.

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S2: And if you're not willing to live with that and

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S2: accept that and forgive that, then it can be a

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S2: deal breaker for you. I encourage couples to share their

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S2: previous sexual experience so that you go into marriage knowing

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S2: what you're dealing with. If you can't deal with it

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S2: before marriage and reconcile before marriage, it will be a

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S2: problem after you get married.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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