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S1: Roseanne writes, my husband and I are in our 50s

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S1: and he refuses to be intimate with me physically. Is

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S1: there anything I can do?

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S2: First thing is to inquire why? I mean, does he

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S2: not have the physical ability or is he involved with

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S2: someone else? That's often the case. Or is he involved

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S2: in simply stimulating himself? And it's a private thing with him.

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S2: And he's not involved with you. Well, that's not biblical.

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S2: I mean, you know, marriage has to do with husbands

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S2: and wives becoming one flesh. And almost all commentators agree

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S2: the primary reference there is to sexual intercourse. So I

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S2: think it's a serious problem. And I think you need

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S2: to inquire why. If you can get to the root

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S2: of the problem, then you can look for an answer.

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S2: But without understanding why he doesn't have that desire, it's

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S2: likely not going to solve itself.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of the Five Love Languages.

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