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S2: You know, it's been raised in Alaska. Was pretty interesting
S2: when we built homes together. Everybody got a chunk of something.
S2: Men and women alike. Now, it was my dad and
S2: I that were building the house in the summer when
S2: I was 16 years old, and we were busting at morning,
S2: noon and night. But here came mom toward the end
S2: of the summer, and she was with my with my
S2: sisters on the insulation committee. And we're talking this was
S2: a big job. Yeah, my mom installed. I don't know
S2: how many square feet of friction fit. Yeah. Friction fit
S2: or staple back insulation. So up on the walls. How
S2: how does it work? Guys, help me here.
S3: I've got to go back. Yeah, I got to.
S2: Go back to my old days. Uh. There's insulation. You've
S2: seen pink insulation, right? Yeah. Okay. And that goes between
S2: the studs or up in the rafters, and you've got
S2: for anything that's going up in the lid, you have
S2: to generally have you staple it to to the rafters
S2: or in some way fasten it. And then on the
S2: walls you can go with friction fit. I remember when
S2: Friction Fit came out, everybody was fired up about that.
S2: So it was just a little bit wider than that
S2: 16in on center stud width. So just a little bit wider.
S2: So you push that insulation in. But you have to
S2: do it right. You can't mash it down. It takes
S2: away the R factor. The R factor is what makes
S2: your home insulated. So we had six inch exterior walls.
S2: And I remember thinking, wow, what a mom. She's because
S2: I'm working on other stuff with my dad, but I'd
S2: come by my mom's got a face mask on, she's
S2: got gloves on, she's got long sleeve shirt on. But
S2: fiberglass insulation is a job. And my mom would get
S2: up on ladders and she was putting in insulation.
S3: That's impressive.
S4: Yeah. Go, mom! I'm super impressed. Yeah.
S2: That's just kind of normal mom hood in Alaska.
S3: Really? Get your hands dirty.
S2: It was just real calming.
S4: That's amazing.
S3: Huh? Okay, so what's something, Jonathan? What's something you were
S3: impressed your mom could do?
S5: That's a good question. Something I was impressed my mom
S5: could do. You know, I think the thing I'm most
S5: impressed with is, is her ability to keep cool under
S5: any type of pressure. Because, you know.
S2: Good thing with four.
S3: Boys.
S5: Four boys. Yeah. No doubt. I mean, Carl, ally, Diana,
S5: you guys know me. I'm not someone who's very well
S5: known for his keeping cool under pressure. I, you know,
S5: I can get it.
S2: Must be your dad's genes.
S5: I think so, I think I got my dad's genes
S5: on that one. But my mom, like, sometimes I just
S5: am like, man, that woman is unflappable. I was like,
S5: she's cool, calm, collected in some of the most stressful
S5: situations I've seen. All good to go and not just
S5: putting on a brave face like she's like, it's okay,
S5: we're going to be fine. We got it. And I'm like, go, mom. Wow.
S5: So I'm impressed with that.
S2: Great. That great.
S5: Yeah.
S2: All right. Go around the horn here.
S3: Guys.
S4: I love it.
S3: Super die. Something that your mom could do that impressed you?
S4: I don't even think it even exists anymore. My mother
S4: used to be. Well, they call it secretary's assistant, but
S4: she was phenomenal at. I mean, she could type. To me,
S4: it was like a thousand words a minute. But she
S4: was an expert at shorthand. She would teach it. Wow.
S4: I don't even think they do shorthand. I think they do.
S2: Do they think they do? I think they teach it.
S2: Nobody uses it, but they.
S4: Teach phenomenal at that. Absolutely. She can still write some
S4: of it. It's still in her memory.
S2: But shorthand is one of the craziest things I ever.
S3: Okay, so what exactly?
S5: I don't know what shorthand.
S4: It's symbols and abbreviations. It's not even letters for secretarial because,
S4: you know, back then it wasn't computers. You got to fly.
S4: And if the, you know, boss is giving you a
S4: letter dictating you a letter instead of just writing it
S4: all out.
S2: All the.
S4: Shorthand was the faster way to take.
S5: It down. That's straight up hieroglyphics.
S3: Very much so. Oh, no.
S2: Shorthand is hieroglyphics. Yeah. It looks like something that King
S2: Tut invented.
S5: Yeah.
S4: No doubt. He was fantastic at it.
S3: Really?
S2: That's really cool. Fantastic at it. How many words a
S2: minute could she type? I bet she was a flier
S2: on that.
S4: She. She was seriously a flier on that expert. Top
S4: of her class. All that good stuff. Top of the
S4: secretary pool. All that good.
S3: Stuff. That's. Wow. That was her skills.
S2: Manual typewriters.
S3: And.
S4: The clink. Slide that thing over. Clink, slide that thing.
S3: Over.
S4: And keep typing away. Yeah.
S3: That's fascinating. Very much so. Yeah. And she still.
S4: Knows some of it.
S3: Yeah, man. For my mom, I was always impressed by
S3: her ability to make anything. She was an incredible seamstress.
S3: So she could sew and create the most beautiful dresses.
S3: And she made my prom dress.
S2: The fact that she made your prom dress is one
S2: of the riskiest, coolest things.
S3: She made me multiple gowns, and I couldn't find something
S3: that I liked. That was long enough for me to
S3: actually wear heels at five foot ten. So she sewed
S3: a prom dress for me, and it was beautiful. It
S3: was the most beautiful dress. So I was so impressed
S3: at how she would just sit down at that sewing
S3: machine in her hands. Could just make it felt like,
S3: make magic. Like she would just whip out the most
S3: beautiful creations.
S2: I got this one, just came in. My mom played
S2: first base for our town's women's softball team.
S3: Okay.
S2: Yes.
S3: Can I can I ask the boom crew on this one? Yes.
S3: Let's do it. Text only on this one. We'll just
S3: do this quickly. But what's something that impressed you that
S3: your mom could do? 800 555 7898 (800) 555-7898.
S2: Come on, light em up.
S3: Let's go! First base. Let's go!
S4: Go, mom!
S3: For the women's softball team.
S2: Oh, softball. That is so good. Except church leagues, they
S2: get rowdy, but the other ones are great. It's just.
S2: We're waiting for you guys. 805, five. Five, 555 7898.
S2: What are you blown away by that your mom could do?
S2: You're like, oh my goodness.
S3: I feel like moms have super like superpowers.
S2: They do have super powers. No doubt they have to.
S5: They have.
S4: To. They have to. That's a.
S3: Great is. You're juggling so many things at the same time.
S2: Oh, we got somebody like your mom, Ali.
S3: Oh, my mom made my wedding dress. 24. 19. Yeah.
S3: I mean, I think it's a lost art. Like like shorthand.
S3: I think there are these things that. Yeah, you don't
S3: you don't get taught how to do anymore.
S2: I know it's sad.
S3: Certainly not.
S2: Insulation is gone. My mom could yodel. Awesome. If you're
S2: a yodeling woman, I want you on air right now.
S2: If you can yodel as a woman, I want you
S2: on air. You're getting a Carlin Coop prize pack. If
S2: you are yodeling woman, I want you on air. 800
S2: 555 7898. If you are a yodeling woman, I want
S2: you on air right now.
S3: Wow.
S2: Okay. 805 Five five (789) 880-0555 7898. Okay, take it away, Ali.
S3: My mom could do the full splits when I was
S3: a kid. Like the cheerleader move. Like, were you? Oh.
S4: Mom.
S3: That's impressive. 1098 says we ran out of lunch meat
S3: one morning, so she cooked a whole pizza for my
S3: school lunch. That was impressive. My mom was a floor
S3: hockey goalie in high school, and would play goalie for
S3: me when I was a when I was practicing, my
S3: mom could ballroom dance. My mom made beautiful flower arrangements.
S3: My mom had the uncanny, uncanny ability to read a
S3: book and field and answer questions from their kids at
S3: the same time. Oh, daily meals. My mom could do shorthand,
S3: so make wedding cakes. My mom gave the best hugs,
S3: says 2561.
S2: Oh that's great, I'm looking for a yodeling. I'm still
S2: looking for a yodeling. Mommy, we had someone come in.
S2: I don't know that we had a chance to pick
S2: up the phone, but if you're a yodeling mom 800
S2: 555 7898.
S5: Is this someone who who is just going to try
S5: yodeling for the first time? Or someone who yodels?
S2: Someone who has yodeled. I mean, you don't have to
S2: be like a professional. It's not like you go to
S2: a state fair and get the blue ribbon. But you're
S2: a yodeler.
S5: Okay.
S2: Okay.
S3: This is a fascinating one. 2391 my mom could calibrate
S3: gyroscope on B-25 bombers during World War two. She actually
S3: calibrated General Doolittle's clean before they raided Tokyo.
S2: Stop!
S5: Wow.
S3: Wow.
S4: Wow. Yeah.
S5: That's incredible.
S4: I can't even get the words. Whoa!
S3: Oh, man. Listen to me without telling me what to do. Yeah.
S3: Moms are good at that. My mom was a nurse.
S3: My mom was a great seamstress. My mom could double Dutch.
S2: Outstanding.
S3: That's impressive.
S2: I'm still back on this. Calibrating gyroscopes.
S5: I mean, that's incredible.
S4: Yeah. World war two.
S6: Are you kidding me, man? Who in the world?
S2: That's something you don't do anymore? No, that's for sure.
S5: Computer will do that for you. Yeah.
S2: All right, one last shout out. I'm looking for a
S2: yodeling mom. Any age. Stage of life. 805. Five. Five. 78. 98.
S2: And then we got another question for you coming up
S2: that digs a little deeper. 800 555 7898.
S1: He was running from God, but God's love brought him home.
S1: Carl is in the crew. It's Carl and crew on
S1: Moody Radio.
S2: Ellie's got a question for you, and it's a good one, ladies.
S3: What's something, mom, that you really want this Mother's Day?
S3: Think deeper than the the flowers or the Amazon gift card.
S3: What do you really want? 800 555 7898.
S2: Getting some good responses here. And what's really cool about this,
S2: this question is that it's evoking a lot of quality time.
S2: Isn't that sweet?
S3: Everything I've seen come in so far has to do
S3: with time. Time together. A board game, night walk on
S3: the beach together. My kids. To particularly people who have
S3: older children, young adults is just that. That time.
S2: Yeah. It's beautiful. Um. Organized quality time. Kids to be saved.
S2: That's that's been a common theme to. Yeah. That's a
S2: mama's heart, kids to know and follow Jesus Christ. That's
S2: a beautiful thing. We talk a lot about that around here,
S2: and we know that that can be a heartbreaking thing.
S2: But I want you to know that I have seen,
S2: I've witnessed and experienced God answered prayer to this very thing,
S2: that your kids would know Christ and really catch fire
S2: for him. It's one of the most reassuring things going.
S2: Julie in Illinois. What do you say, Julie?
S7: Hi, Carl. I would say a top ten list of
S7: the things they love about their mom or valuing them.
S7: I used to make my kids do that when they
S7: were little. Like, this. Write me a card and give
S7: me a top ten list of things you like about me.
S7: And I kept them and they're so sweet. And they're original.
S7: No one else would think of some of those things.
S2: That's so cool. Julie, thank you so much for calling in.
S2: Stay on the horn. Guess what, man? You're going a
S2: triple boomer.
S5: All right. Julie. Boom boom boom. Triple boom for you, Julie.
S2: That goes with your Carl and crew prize pack. So
S2: stay on the horn. Pretty cool. Getting some cool feedback here, Ali.
S3: And I love how much of it just revolves around time.
S3: A restored relationships. There's a desire for restored relationships with
S3: two children. There's that some complicated dynamics sometimes for my
S3: kids to talk to me and verbally say, I love you.
S3: I want my kids to pursue God. I want my
S3: kids to grow up and love and fear the Lord.
S3: How about this one? This one's a little bit more practical,
S3: I guess. My whole house in laundry cleaned. That way
S3: I can actually sit down with my kids. It's linked
S3: to time again. That way I can actually sit down
S3: with my kids and spend time with them, because it
S3: seems like I always have to be doing something.
S2: Precious and practical. Yeah, yeah, it's it's an interesting thing
S2: because mamas, man, they're just it's just such an interesting thing.
S2: The cry of a mom's heart is one of the
S2: most beautiful things going, guys. I just absolutely love it.
S5: I think, as you know, when it comes from the
S5: husband perspective, I, I love this idea of giving time,
S5: giving events to do together because I've seen that with
S5: my wife. She's like, I don't really want anything. I
S5: just want to do stuff with you guys. And seeing
S5: the connection, the strong connection that she has with our
S5: one year old, it's like now she just wants to
S5: enjoy every minute she can with her. So let's give
S5: her time with her. You know.
S2: I love it, I love it. Uh, Jack, you ready
S2: to go? Jacqueline. Jacqueline in Virginia. What do you say, sister?
S7: Oh, my middle son is probably the best gift giver
S7: because he knows how much I love to scrapbook, although
S7: they hate smiling for the pictures, but he will for
S7: each holiday. Um, he will give me the gift of
S7: time and sit down and scrapbook with me.
S5: Oh that's awesome.
S2: He knows how to have fun. He knows how to
S2: be favorite child status.
S7: You are right about that one.
S2: That's great. That's great. Jacqueline, thank you so much for
S2: calling in. And you know what? Boom boom boom. Triple
S2: boom in you, Jacqueline, you stay on the horn. We're
S2: sending you a cast and crew prize pack all the
S2: way to Virginia. Sister. Thank you. I love it. Pretty
S2: cool stuff. Still coming in here, Ali, you get some more?
S3: Yeah. I mean, everything has been around the desire to
S3: have time to play board games with my family and
S3: my grandchildren says 6646, 0205 echoes. Our caller says, yeah,
S3: I would like to hear what they like about me
S3: or what they appreciate.
S2: Yeah. And sometimes a mom's heart is to just hear.
S2: Did I get something right?
S3: Right. Because we know all of the things we've gotten wrong.
S6: Yeah.
S3: Boy, we know where we've missed it.
S2: Take time to think about that in this Mother's Day season.
S2: And for some of you, it's a real battle to
S2: come up with something. But I think if you dig deeply,
S2: believe it or not, it is a beautiful thing to
S2: be able to say, mom, I want to tell you
S2: this Mother's Day, I appreciate this about you. And you know,
S2: your mom might be like mine. Gone on to her reward.
S2: And I can still look back, though, and look at
S2: things like putting insulation in in the home friction fit
S2: by the umpteenth roll, man. I mean, just rolling out that.
S2: And she had she had a razor knife and she
S2: put that two by four down at the exact length
S2: that she had to cut it, and she'd run that
S2: razor knife, that knife down alongside that two by four,
S2: cutting that thing perfectly. And she was a detail, I
S2: want to say, almost like freakish on details. And her
S2: insulation job was like that. Those cuts had to be
S2: absolutely square, and her mission was to make sure that
S2: there was no cool air coming in, any cracks that
S2: were going to make us cold at all in those
S2: cold winter months in Alaska. It's a sweet thing to
S2: be able to look at your mom and say thank you, mom,
S2: for and then fill in the blank, you know, for
S2: some of you, you're like, huh? I wonder what I
S2: can do. We have an idea for you right now.
S3: We have a Mom's Day giveaway we want to make
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S3: Just text mom 805 55, 7898.
S1: She's a choreographer extraordinaire and everything is Greek to her.
S1: Super die is in the crew. It's Carl and crew
S1: on Moody Radio.
S2: Okay, we are in a beautiful season here. We're giving
S2: you a heads up. We're doing you a public service
S2: right now. Yep. Because you don't want to be scrambling
S2: on Friday or Saturday. Those flower bins start to dwindle
S2: around that Saturday afternoon period. They start to get sad, man.
S2: You might have to grab up some things out in
S2: the wild because it gets thin. But if you get
S2: a jump on this thing, look out. We're talking about
S2: Mother's Day and we're having a phenomenal time here today.
S2: All week long we've got a lineup of just some
S2: real heavy hitters that are going to be coming in,
S2: talking to men about reclaiming biblical manhood in a way
S2: that you're going to be that kind of man that
S2: the women in your life need, let alone the wife
S2: or mom that you have in your life. And I've
S2: been so encouraged. Excuse me. One of the things that.
S2: Most encourages me, um, is the little stuff. And Ali's son, cannon,
S2: I'm going to brag on him. Going another dad moment here. Ali.
S2: You know, I've been I've been doing that a lot
S2: here as of late. Whenever, when, whenever. Ali's in a
S2: room and she's getting introduced to someone, I take it
S2: upon myself to give the whole lowdown. All the highlights
S2: of Ali's life and her family's life. And Ali always says, yeah,
S2: he does this dad thing. So I'm going to go
S2: dad thing here. But cannon, your boy, he's a dozen
S2: years old, right?
S3: He's 12. Yeah.
S2: Yeah. Um, you've trained him to open doors for women.
S2: And that's a beautiful thing, man. That's beautiful. And those
S2: little micro habits can grow into something really macro. Huge impact.
S2: I'm a big believer in that. I'm a big believer
S2: that little tiny habits get the flywheel effect going where
S2: you start building some good things and we want to
S2: break this down for you. So we got a special
S2: guest coming up here.
S3: Doctor Gary Rosberg married almost 50 years with some hard
S3: earned wisdom he wants to share with men.
S1: A basketball mom who's mastered the dad joke. Ali is
S1: in the crew. It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: Gary, I was responding to an article. Actually. An interview. Uh,
S2: let me find this fascinating interview. Uh, Mark Zuckerberg was
S2: being interviewed by Dwarkesh Patel on a podcast just in April.
S2: They're coming up with AI bots that are going to
S2: be friends for men. Okay. So that's that's their premise
S2: is men don't have enough friends. And so we need
S2: AI bots. And my conviction is and I think most
S2: people that think about this biblically go, oh, that's that's
S2: not best. There's got to be a better way to go.
S2: And in that process, I just made some posts about
S2: I just made some comments in my Facebook page about
S2: how men are designed to be initiators and providers and
S2: great lovers of people around them. And and then I
S2: had a response from someone who said, really took me
S2: on and said, well, we live in a new world now.
S2: The lines are blurred between men and women. And I
S2: thought to myself, boy, no truer words have been spoken.
S2: That's kind of where we're at, aren't we, Gary?
S8: Yeah, we are. And do you remember when a man
S8: was a man and a woman was a woman, and
S8: a horse was a horse?
S2: I feel like we got a dad joke in this
S2: thing here somewhere.
S8: Well, you know it. And I heard about that article
S8: as well. And I don't need a bot telling me
S8: how to be a man sold out for Christ, or
S8: a man willing to go low and serve in our family. Um,
S8: I had a grandpa that taught me. I had a
S8: dad that taught me, and I just wrote down some
S8: of the stuff that they taught me during my entire
S8: growing up in my family. The young men, my dad,
S8: my grandpa, they modeled it. And so mom never opened
S8: her door, and I remember speaking to our cross trainers group, Karl,
S8: years ago in Des Moines. We had 600 guys every Wednesday,
S8: and I made a deal with those guys. If you
S8: ever see Barb Rosberg opening her own door, you can
S8: out me in front of the entire group.
S2: And they were.
S8: Watching. So I had all these oh, they were watching
S8: and they loved it. But you know what? If you
S8: don't learn it from a grandpa, I mean, I was
S8: taught you don't call my mom, she or her. If
S8: I said, well, she, my dad or my grandpa would
S8: stop me and say she has the name. What's her name? Gary.
S8: And I'd say, well, mom. Okay. Then you call her mom.
S8: I was raised that you pull out the chair at
S8: the dining room table. Now, one time I pulled it
S8: out a little bit too far, but I was a
S8: middle son, so, you know, I mean, I got to
S8: do that one time. Never got to do it again.
S9: Yeah, that was over.
S8: Yeah, that was over. But it is the micro things.
S8: It's the micro things. And if you don't learn it
S8: from a dad, that's why we need to learn it
S8: from other men that are teachable men that are willing
S8: to fulfill the calling upon our lives to love others
S8: more than ourselves.
S3: Doctor Gary Rosberg with us right now, he and his
S3: wife Gary and Barb Rosberg. Rosberg are sought after life
S3: and marriage coaches. They have so many resources, a podcast
S3: as well. Doctor Gary so from a woman's perspective, I
S3: grew up, to be quite honest, kind of pushing back
S3: against some of what I felt like were the stereotypical
S3: expectations of men and women. I am all for chivalry.
S3: I'm all for door opening. But some of the things
S3: that sometimes have gone along with what we considered the
S3: man being the man and the woman being the woman
S3: were tough for me. How do we reconcile that? There, there,
S3: there were some things, I hate to borrow the overused
S3: phrase of toxic masculinity, but there were some kind of
S3: toxic aspects of masculinity that were put forth as this
S3: is the awesome way to go. How do we throw
S3: out the bad stuff but keep what's actually biblical and
S3: right and true and honorable.
S8: Yeah, it's a great question. I mean, Carl and I
S8: have a mutual friend, Stu Weber.
S9: Yeah.
S8: And he did a book called Tender Warrior. And, uh,
S8: Steve Farrar, another my best friend, wrote Point Man. And
S8: I did a book called Guard Your Heart. And the
S8: three of us were the three amigos. So we traversed
S8: the country doing men's events, and Stu would talk about
S8: a male leader is when he is out of whack,
S8: when he is out of kilter, when that needle goes
S8: too far to the right. He isn't a servant leader.
S8: He's a brute. Yeah. And he said, no wife and
S8: no bucket load of kids wants a brute for a leader.
S8: And a lot of times when dads, husbands, uh, grandfathers,
S8: I got 12 grandkids. When we are tired, when we
S8: are frustrated, when we don't, when we don't sense that
S8: we're being seen. When we've lost our way, when our
S8: identity gets messed up, we will overexert that leadership. So
S8: we are really doing contrary to what Jesus demonstrates for
S8: us in John 13 verse 17. When he has just
S8: lowered himself in the last moments, one of the last
S8: acts before going to the cross, and he picks out
S8: Peter as that's the one we read about in the Gospels,
S8: and he wraps a towel around his waist and he
S8: gets a basin of water. And I imagine all the,
S8: you know, disciples are chatting away and and trying to
S8: figure out what's going on. And he walks over to
S8: Peter and he gets down on his knees and he
S8: takes off that sandal, and he washes his feet. And
S8: Ali in, in John 1317 and this is emblazoned in
S8: my chest. Jesus says, now that you know these things,
S8: you will be blessed if you do them. And every
S8: guy listening to this program, and I'm so proud of
S8: you that you're tackling this on Mother's Day week. Every
S8: guy listening to this program knows that he wants to
S8: be blessed by the Lord. He wants to be blessed.
S8: He's he's a good guy. And it may be hard
S8: right now. He may be scared. He may be frustrated.
S8: He may be in sin. He may have been offended
S8: by his bride. Uh, there's any number of ramifications for
S8: every guy listening. But you start somewhere, and you know
S8: where you start. You start by modeling. Not the Tait
S8: brothers or whoever those clowns are or, you know, looking
S8: at a secular model, uh, including Zuckerberg with a bot.
S8: What you do is you go back to the Book
S8: of Wisdom and you seek. What does a godly man do?
S8: Because it may be blurred today. It's only blurred today,
S8: and it's been blurred in other generations. But you know what?
S8: The Word of God is never blurred. It cuts. It's right.
S8: It's true. It's light and it's life giving.
S2: Doctor Gary Rosberg with us coming up Gary, I want
S2: to tackle this because my absolute conviction now after years
S2: of ministry, years of pastoring, years of working with men
S2: and I even I remember mentioning this to, uh, Dennis Rainey,
S2: who was heading us up when Gary and I and
S2: Barb and Janine, we all spoke on Family Life Weekend
S2: to remember, and I went to Dennis one day and
S2: I said, Dennis, if we send people out of here
S2: with all these marriage principles, but without knowing how to
S2: appropriate the power of God in this thing, I mean
S2: really do it with God's juice. We're just putting Band-Aids
S2: on this thing. And he agreed. But it seems like
S2: I want you to take us to the engine room
S2: of a man that does get up and wash feet
S2: to the engine room of the soul of a man
S2: that gets up and opens doors with the right motivation.
S2: The engine room of a man that weeps with a
S2: wife and listens to her speak without interrupting and fixing.
S2: Let's go to the engine room with Doctor Gary Rosberg.
S2: Straight ahead.
S1: He's a sports fanatic with a stat for anything you
S1: can think of. Young Thunder is in the crew. It's
S1: Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: Doctor Gary Rosberg with us right now, dear friend. Um,
S2: it's awesome, Gary, that you give us great tools and
S2: and I love great tools. I love great truths. But
S2: I've seen men you have two who try to bootstrap
S2: it in our own strength. And those that really dig
S2: deep in a that, well, that engine room of the soul.
S2: What needs to go on inside a man so that
S2: this isn't like pulling teeth trying to do this? I
S2: know there's difficulty in disciplines, even in loving a woman. Well,
S2: but what needs to go on deep within a soul, Gary?
S8: Well, I think the first thing is realize we're not
S8: running a 48 yard dash. And a lot of guys
S8: will come to a men's event that Carl, you and
S8: I speak at or to stadiums that I used to
S8: speak at, and they would take it and they'd go
S8: home and they'd be short distance runners, but they'd only
S8: run 48 yards when you got to go through the
S8: tape at 50. So you have to live with the
S8: end in mind. The end in mind is you start
S8: where you are, you keep your endurance. You surround yourself
S8: with guys that aren't impressed with you, that love you
S8: enough to speak into your chest. Not in a harsh way. Again,
S8: like I said earlier, with Ali not being a brute,
S8: not over, you know, stating it, but coming alongside in love,
S8: encouraging one another and modeling it and reminding each other
S8: that they're not alone in the race. And so I
S8: would challenge every guy, go back to that book of wisdom,
S8: open up Philippians two and look at what we read
S8: about doing nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit,
S8: but considering others greater than yourself. And if we just
S8: start there in the micro things, in the macro things,
S8: in our willingness to communicate with our bride and our
S8: kids in order to saddle up with other guys and
S8: just say, when I'm off the mark, speak into me,
S8: speak directly, hopefully, speak gently, but speak into me so
S8: that I can step back and take another pass at
S8: this thing. And that's what wives all around your listening
S8: audience are screaming out for. Just a teachable guy willing
S8: to take another pass to start somewhere. Start in Philippians two.
S3: Doctor Gary Rosberg, our guest right now. Now, this is
S3: not just something that you sit in an office and
S3: theorize and write about. You've got a wife. You've been
S3: married for many, many years. What aspect of this do
S3: you have to fight for most in your own marriage
S3: and as a dad and grandparent?
S8: Well, Ali, in 32 days, Barb and I will have
S8: been married 50 years. Wow. And so we're gathering our kids,
S8: our grandkids. We're getting on a plane. I'm not saying
S8: where we're going, and we're spending their inheritance, and we're
S8: going to recreate the covenant of our marriage in front
S8: of our grandkids and our daughters and their husbands. And
S8: we were laying out the nine verses that we're going
S8: to share. So it's going to be a little bit
S8: of a service. And we're going to let each of
S8: the kids take a verse. So from the kindergartner up
S8: to the 25 year old, and they're going to have
S8: the opportunity to not only read it, but to talk about,
S8: are they learning it? Are we passing the baton? And
S8: so for us, it's breathing. For us, it's daily for us.
S8: And for me particularly, there's no greater call than to
S8: be found faithful as a man who finishes strong, broken,
S8: surrendered on my face before the cross, willing to take
S8: every mistake and start over, and then to create a
S8: relationship and to stir relationship as the initiator. Only because
S8: I'm the initiator. God designed me to be the initiator.
S8: And that's where when it gets cloudy out there, it's
S8: because guys are trying to get a handle on it. Well,
S8: a great place to start is to initiate, to do
S8: the next right thing.
S2: And.
S8: The next right thing.
S2: Gary, what do you do when you screw up? Because
S2: we will we'll we'll mess up I don't care, I
S2: don't care who we are. We're going to screw up.
S2: What do you do when you screw up?
S8: Well, it's a heck of a thing to write books
S8: to men, you know. And sometimes Barb looks at me
S8: and says, Gary, read chapter three. I mean, you know,
S8: you know, just go back and I'll go, well, what's
S8: in chapter three? Because she knows it better than I do.
S8: And then I open chapter three and I think, rats.
S9: You know.
S8: I wish I wrote books on money or something, but
S8: I think what it means is we're willing to be examined. Carl. Yeah, well,
S8: we don't when a wife knows that. Not only that,
S8: we're sold out for her. I mean, that's the second deal. Uh,
S8: sold out to your kids. I think that's the third deal.
S8: So we got great fathers listening, but lousy husbands. But
S8: what we want to do is the first deal, and
S8: that is that everything we do, Proverbs five says, is
S8: in full view of the Lord. I want to be
S8: sold out to Christ. So if I'm a good dad,
S8: a good grandpa, awesome. If I'm a good husband, even
S8: more awesome. But I want to follow Jesus.
S9: Amen.
S8: And so when I come up short and. And my
S8: wife and Carl. You know better than anybody listening? When
S8: Barb moves close to me and she doesn't do it
S8: in a condemning way, she doesn't do it in a
S8: shaming way. She can be frustrated with me, and that's okay.
S8: But when she says to me, you know what, Gary?
S8: I just think you need to go to the Lord.
S8: I think you're a.
S9: Little bit.
S8: Off on this deal.
S9: Yeah.
S8: And I'm praying for you, I love you. You know what?
S8: That's that's the.
S9: Ticket.
S3: That is that was Doctor Gary Rosberg. And I want
S3: to point you to a resource that he has available
S3: for you. It is a podcast that specifically delves into
S3: this topic and a little bit more detail there, covering
S3: lots of good content. So just text coaches to 805, five, five, 78,
S3: 98 coaches to 800 555 7898.
S2: Yeah. And the thing we want to feature there is
S2: that there's one specific podcast that we're linking this to.
S2: And the reason we want to put you here is
S2: that it's more than just understanding that it's deep within us.
S2: It's becoming better than yourself. That's the name of this
S2: episode that we've linked here. So we want to give
S2: you direct links. There's no charge for this at all,
S2: but direct links to content that is going to help
S2: you grow. Go with God and be better than all
S2: the bootstrapping you got within you. And that's what this
S2: is going to do. So give us a link again Ali.
S3: Just text coaches to 800 555 7898. Text coaches to
S3: 800 555 7898. You will get a link directly to
S3: this podcast episode, and then you can explore the rest
S3: of their content. Text coaches to 800 555 7898. Coaches
S3: to 800 555 7898.
S2: Great resources man, I love I love the content Gary
S2: gave us this morning. And what I love about it
S2: is it began from the outside in and then we
S2: can work from the inside out. Grab this link guys.
S2: Be blessed. Big day coming up for moms. Let's be
S2: the men we need to be.