1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,480 S1: Hi friends. Thanks so much for downloading this podcast, and 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:06,000 S1: I hope truly that you will hear something that will encourage, edify, equip, 3 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:08,360 S1: and enlighten you to get out there and influence and 4 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:11,040 S1: occupy until he comes. And on that note, may I 5 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:13,080 S1: take just a few moments here to describe this month's 6 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,920 S1: truth tool? It's by pastor Jack Hibbs. He's written the 7 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:19,040 S1: book called Called to Take a Bold Stand. I absolutely 8 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,520 S1: love this book because it reminds us that in Christ 9 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:24,480 S1: all things pass away. All things become new, that we 10 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,240 S1: are standing for his truth, that we have a new nature. 11 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:30,080 S1: Because of him, we should be living boldly. But far 12 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,120 S1: too often we retreat out of fear from cultural blowback. 13 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,600 S1: So I want to encourage all of us to just 14 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,800 S1: stand up for Christ, to be unashamed of who we 15 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:40,120 S1: are in him, and to go into a culture that's 16 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,600 S1: telling us in no uncertain terms. They're lost and they're hurting. 17 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:45,720 S1: So if you'd like a copy of Pastor Hibbs new 18 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:48,400 S1: book called Call to Take a Bold Stand, just give 19 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:50,720 S1: a gift of any amount by calling eight, seven, seven. 20 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:53,680 S1: Janet 58. 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Hi friends, this is Janet Partial 40 00:01:46,340 --> 00:01:48,220 S1: and I want to welcome you to the best of 41 00:01:48,260 --> 00:01:51,220 S1: in the market. Today's program is prerecorded so our phone 42 00:01:51,220 --> 00:01:53,300 S1: lines are not open, but I do hope you'll enjoy 43 00:01:53,300 --> 00:01:55,740 S1: today's edition of The Best of In the Market with 44 00:01:55,740 --> 00:01:56,660 S1: Janet Parshall. 45 00:01:57,170 --> 00:01:58,770 S2: Here are some of the news headlines we're watching. 46 00:01:59,050 --> 00:02:01,250 S3: The conference was over. The president won a pledge. 47 00:02:01,490 --> 00:02:03,490 S4: Americans worshiping government over God. 48 00:02:03,810 --> 00:02:06,250 S1: Extremely rare safety move by a major. 49 00:02:06,290 --> 00:02:09,770 S4: 17 years. The Palestinians and Israelis negotiated. I. 50 00:02:26,330 --> 00:02:29,209 S5: Had a lot of excellent coaches growing up in all sports, 51 00:02:29,210 --> 00:02:31,970 S5: but I really have to thank my high school football coach, 52 00:02:31,970 --> 00:02:35,929 S5: Dave Driscoll. I came to him as a 14 year 53 00:02:35,970 --> 00:02:39,770 S5: old who felt like I knew it all, and Coach 54 00:02:39,770 --> 00:02:42,450 S5: Driscoll helped me become a good player. But more than that, 55 00:02:42,450 --> 00:02:45,330 S5: he helped me become a leader. He taught me how 56 00:02:45,330 --> 00:02:48,690 S5: to think the game. Woody Widenhofer and Tom Moore were 57 00:02:48,690 --> 00:02:51,330 S5: the coaches who recruited me to the University of Minnesota, 58 00:02:51,330 --> 00:02:55,829 S5: and I thank them for impacting my life. Woody would 59 00:02:55,830 --> 00:02:59,070 S5: end up coaching me with the Steelers and Tom Moore. 60 00:02:59,110 --> 00:03:02,910 S5: You heard Marvin talk about Tom. Well, Tom rode with 61 00:03:02,910 --> 00:03:05,389 S5: me on the very first plane ride I ever took. 62 00:03:05,870 --> 00:03:08,230 S5: My recruiting trip to Minnesota when I was scared to 63 00:03:08,230 --> 00:03:11,389 S5: get on the plane. He was my quarterback coach as 64 00:03:11,389 --> 00:03:14,030 S5: a freshman. And then 33 years later, he was our 65 00:03:14,030 --> 00:03:17,910 S5: offensive coordinator in Super Bowl 41 with the Colts. And 66 00:03:17,910 --> 00:03:20,350 S5: he's still coaching now and I owe him a lot. 67 00:03:21,550 --> 00:03:24,590 S5: Thank you Tom. Thank you Woody. And a big thank 68 00:03:24,590 --> 00:03:27,510 S5: you to our head coach of the Gophers Cal Stoll, 69 00:03:28,230 --> 00:03:30,470 S5: who told us as freshmen that he expected us to 70 00:03:30,470 --> 00:03:34,750 S5: be uncommon, not just average. And that thought has stuck 71 00:03:34,750 --> 00:03:36,830 S5: with me throughout my life. 72 00:03:37,030 --> 00:03:41,030 S1: Uncommon, not just average. Hang on to that word. Uncommon 73 00:03:41,030 --> 00:03:42,710 S1: because it's going to play a key role in our 74 00:03:42,710 --> 00:03:45,350 S1: conversation this hour. Hi friends. Welcome to In the Market 75 00:03:45,350 --> 00:03:47,550 S1: with Janet Partial. I am thrilled we're going to spend 76 00:03:47,550 --> 00:03:49,830 S1: this hour together because we're going to talk about what 77 00:03:49,830 --> 00:03:54,300 S1: it means to be uncommon and to live a purposeful life. Obviously, 78 00:03:54,300 --> 00:03:57,260 S1: that's coach Tony Dungy, who doesn't know and love coach 79 00:03:57,300 --> 00:03:59,380 S1: and the stellar work that he's done in football. We 80 00:03:59,380 --> 00:04:02,900 S1: appreciate so much the fact that he led the Indianapolis 81 00:04:02,940 --> 00:04:06,740 S1: Colts to Super Bowl victory on February 4th, 2007. And 82 00:04:06,740 --> 00:04:10,020 S1: some of us remember watching that game. Magnificent. The first 83 00:04:10,020 --> 00:04:13,180 S1: such win for an African American head coach. He was 84 00:04:13,180 --> 00:04:15,780 S1: also the first head NFL coach to lead his team 85 00:04:15,780 --> 00:04:19,979 S1: to the playoffs for ten. Count him ten consecutive years. 86 00:04:19,980 --> 00:04:22,099 S1: But this hour is also extra special, not just because 87 00:04:22,100 --> 00:04:24,140 S1: we're going to spend it with Coach Dungy, but because 88 00:04:24,140 --> 00:04:27,060 S1: his precious wife, Lauren is with us as well. Lauren 89 00:04:27,060 --> 00:04:30,300 S1: is an early childhood education specialist. She is his best 90 00:04:30,300 --> 00:04:33,500 S1: selling author and frequently sought after speaker. She's the vice 91 00:04:33,500 --> 00:04:36,940 S1: president of the Dungy Family Foundation. She has a great 92 00:04:36,940 --> 00:04:39,180 S1: passion and love for children. As you will hear during 93 00:04:39,180 --> 00:04:43,340 S1: the course of this hour. They have been married for decades, decades. 94 00:04:43,339 --> 00:04:46,620 S1: And they are the parents of yes, count em, 11 children, 95 00:04:46,620 --> 00:04:49,060 S1: Lauren and Coach. What a joy to have you with us. 96 00:04:49,060 --> 00:04:50,779 S1: Thank you for the gift of your time. I'm looking 97 00:04:50,779 --> 00:04:51,500 S1: forward to this. 98 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:53,400 S5: Pleasure to be with you. 99 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:55,839 S1: Oh, thank you so much, coach. If I may, let 100 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:59,000 S1: me start with you, because that word uncommon has resonated 101 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:01,080 S1: in your heart and in your life. When you start 102 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:02,920 S1: looking at the books that you've written, you wrote a 103 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:05,960 S1: book called uncommon. You got a book called Uncommon Marriage. 104 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:08,200 S1: I mean, the word uncommon shows up over and over 105 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:10,760 S1: again in the titles of the books that you write 106 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:13,559 S1: and in the content that you produce as well. What 107 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:15,560 S1: is it about that word in that Hall of Fame 108 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:18,320 S1: speech that you gave? You talked about how it left 109 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,080 S1: an imprint in your heart, and clearly it very much 110 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:22,960 S1: guides and directs you today. Talk to us about the 111 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:23,960 S1: power of that word. 112 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:27,440 S5: Well, it's funny, my college coach talked about it. He 113 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:31,279 S5: he called it uncommon. My parents said it in a 114 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,360 S5: different way. And we think the Bible. Lauren. And I 115 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:36,760 S5: think the Bible says it in a different way too, 116 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:40,520 S5: where Jesus says, don't walk the wide road, but walk 117 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:43,279 S5: the narrow path. Go the place where not many people 118 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:46,440 S5: are going. And that's where we really got it from. Uh, 119 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:49,440 S5: God calls us to be different, to be uncommon and 120 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,270 S5: follow him. And we want to get that across to 121 00:05:52,310 --> 00:05:56,550 S5: people that living the Christian life and following God. It's 122 00:05:56,550 --> 00:06:00,230 S5: not weird, but it is different and it's uncommon. 123 00:06:00,550 --> 00:06:03,950 S1: Yeah. Amen. And who doesn't want to be uncommon for Christ? 124 00:06:03,990 --> 00:06:07,030 S1: I appreciate that perspective. Lauren, let me turn to you 125 00:06:07,029 --> 00:06:10,150 S1: if I can, because this idea of uncommon has very 126 00:06:10,150 --> 00:06:12,390 S1: much bound up in your marriage. You two wrote a 127 00:06:12,390 --> 00:06:15,630 S1: book called Uncommon Marriage. Thanks be to God that your 128 00:06:15,630 --> 00:06:17,870 S1: marriage is a witness for others who are watching and 129 00:06:17,870 --> 00:06:21,510 S1: that it's over 31 years young. How does your marriage 130 00:06:21,510 --> 00:06:23,550 S1: stay together in these interesting times? 131 00:06:24,029 --> 00:06:28,669 S6: I tell you, we rely on God for everything. Um, 132 00:06:28,710 --> 00:06:32,790 S6: he guides our path. He directs everything that we do. 133 00:06:32,830 --> 00:06:37,230 S6: We start the day in prayer, talking to God, hearing 134 00:06:37,230 --> 00:06:42,030 S6: from him, getting his insight and wisdom. And for our marriage, 135 00:06:42,029 --> 00:06:46,630 S6: we believe in the three C's. That's communication. Having Christ 136 00:06:46,630 --> 00:06:52,370 S6: in the center and just relying on Christ for, you know, 137 00:06:52,410 --> 00:06:56,650 S6: a centered life that we can be guided by him. 138 00:06:56,650 --> 00:07:00,090 S6: If we didn't do that, we'd struggle. We'd have a 139 00:07:00,089 --> 00:07:03,570 S6: lot of problems because the world would call on us, 140 00:07:03,570 --> 00:07:06,849 S6: we'd have a lot of distractions, and a lot of 141 00:07:07,010 --> 00:07:10,170 S6: things would factor into our marriage and take us off course. 142 00:07:10,170 --> 00:07:13,530 S6: So if we aren't focused on Christ and we have 143 00:07:13,570 --> 00:07:18,250 S6: good communication, the, the, the third C um, that's what 144 00:07:18,290 --> 00:07:23,690 S6: has kept our marriage strong. And we're, uh, celebrating 40 145 00:07:23,690 --> 00:07:25,490 S6: years of marriage this year. 146 00:07:26,050 --> 00:07:30,369 S1: Congratulations. That's wonderful. Were you both believers when you started 147 00:07:30,370 --> 00:07:31,090 S1: your marriage? 148 00:07:31,490 --> 00:07:35,130 S6: Yes. We were. Um, I came to know the Lord 149 00:07:35,130 --> 00:07:38,170 S6: when I was 19 years of age. I was raised 150 00:07:38,170 --> 00:07:41,290 S6: in a Christian home. I went to church every week 151 00:07:41,330 --> 00:07:44,730 S6: and Sunday school and did all the right things that, 152 00:07:44,770 --> 00:07:48,350 S6: you know, my parents taught me, but I think I 153 00:07:48,390 --> 00:07:52,230 S6: flopped around. I didn't have a solid relationship with him 154 00:07:52,270 --> 00:07:58,230 S6: until the age of 19. We had some church folks 155 00:07:58,950 --> 00:08:03,150 S6: canvassing the neighborhood, and they knocked on our door and 156 00:08:03,150 --> 00:08:05,390 S6: asked if they could come in and spend a few 157 00:08:05,390 --> 00:08:08,630 S6: minutes with us and talk about the Lord, and you 158 00:08:08,630 --> 00:08:11,670 S6: know where we were. And had we actually surrendered our 159 00:08:11,670 --> 00:08:16,150 S6: hearts to God? Well, I couldn't honestly say yes that 160 00:08:16,150 --> 00:08:19,429 S6: I had. So it was at that moment that I 161 00:08:19,510 --> 00:08:23,670 S6: gave my life to Jesus and begin walking as a believer. 162 00:08:24,070 --> 00:08:27,710 S5: And we actually got together in a very uncommon way. 163 00:08:28,270 --> 00:08:31,510 S5: I had finished my playing career. I was a young 164 00:08:31,510 --> 00:08:35,110 S5: coach for the Pittsburgh Steelers, and our chaplain called me 165 00:08:35,110 --> 00:08:37,390 S5: late on a Friday night and said, hey, we've got 166 00:08:37,390 --> 00:08:41,910 S5: a Saturday morning event at this church. And the the 167 00:08:41,950 --> 00:08:44,230 S5: player from the Steelers who is supposed to go and 168 00:08:44,340 --> 00:08:48,500 S5: be the keynote speaker. Got sick. And can you go 169 00:08:48,740 --> 00:08:51,260 S5: in his place? Can you go in? Ted Peterson's place, 170 00:08:51,260 --> 00:08:53,580 S5: and I was. HMM. I really don't want to. I 171 00:08:53,580 --> 00:08:57,500 S5: don't think so. But we did. And the minister actually 172 00:08:57,500 --> 00:08:58,620 S5: introduced us. 173 00:08:58,660 --> 00:09:03,580 S1: Oh, that's super glue, if I've ever heard it. Well, again, 174 00:09:03,620 --> 00:09:06,460 S1: congratulations on the 40 years. That's fabulous. So I talked 175 00:09:06,460 --> 00:09:09,820 S1: about the word uncommon. I have to tell you that 176 00:09:09,820 --> 00:09:11,740 S1: Tony and Lauren have a brand new book out now 177 00:09:11,740 --> 00:09:17,579 S1: called Uncommon Influence Saying yes to a Purposeful Life. Oh, 178 00:09:17,580 --> 00:09:19,500 S1: there's some richness in this book, friends, and I'm glad 179 00:09:19,500 --> 00:09:21,660 S1: we're going to share it with you this hour. Stick around. 180 00:09:21,700 --> 00:09:23,819 S1: The dungeons are with us for the full hour. What 181 00:09:23,860 --> 00:09:41,380 S1: a gift. Is that back after this? The Bible calls 182 00:09:41,380 --> 00:09:43,280 S1: us to be bold and courageous for the cause of 183 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:45,480 S1: the cross. But too often we retreat because of fear 184 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,280 S1: of cultural blowback. That's why I've chosen call to take 185 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:50,800 S1: a bold stand as this month's truth tool discover how 186 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:53,960 S1: to overcome the fear of intimidation or persecution. Ask for 187 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:55,920 S1: your copy of call to take a bold stand. When 188 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:57,840 S1: you give a gift of any amount to in the market, 189 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:02,480 S1: call 877. Janet 58. That's 877. Janet 58. Or go 190 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:04,720 S1: to in the market with Janet dot o r g. 191 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:09,280 S1: Tony and Lauren Dungy are with us. They have a 192 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,920 S1: brand new book out called Uncommon Influence Saying yes to 193 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:16,720 S1: a Purposeful Life. That word uncommon just left an indelible 194 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,079 S1: mark in Coach Dungy's heart, and he's been using it 195 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:22,080 S1: ever since. And this wonderful couple has used the witness 196 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:25,560 S1: of their marriage to a watching world and their house. Well, 197 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:27,640 S1: their quiver is full of lots of arrows. Will get 198 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:29,640 S1: to that in a minute. But let me just linger 199 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:31,040 S1: a little bit. And coach, let me ask you a 200 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:34,160 S1: question because this is about influence. The Scripture tells us 201 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:37,439 S1: to influence and occupy until he comes. I believe the 202 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:40,360 S1: scriptures nudge us to go out and let our light 203 00:10:40,470 --> 00:10:43,230 S1: so shine. That's part of that influencing in a dark world. 204 00:10:43,230 --> 00:10:46,230 S1: We're ambassadors for Christ. We're living epistles. We get to 205 00:10:46,270 --> 00:10:49,790 S1: carry this imperishable message, all of those humbling privileges to 206 00:10:49,830 --> 00:10:53,150 S1: be able to do that. But you have a monstrously 207 00:10:53,150 --> 00:10:56,709 S1: large platform, and I bet that there are others who 208 00:10:56,710 --> 00:10:59,470 S1: think in their own wisdom. Dial it back, coach, don't 209 00:10:59,510 --> 00:11:02,110 S1: talk about your faith so much. Just take it down 210 00:11:02,110 --> 00:11:04,430 S1: a notch. And it would be oh so easy to 211 00:11:04,470 --> 00:11:07,790 S1: do that, to preserve the width and depth and breadth 212 00:11:07,790 --> 00:11:11,270 S1: of your platform. A have has that challenge ever come 213 00:11:11,270 --> 00:11:13,070 S1: into your life? And B if it does, because we're 214 00:11:13,070 --> 00:11:15,750 S1: all challenged to dial it down, if we're going to 215 00:11:15,750 --> 00:11:18,670 S1: be made known as associated with Jesus Christ, how do 216 00:11:18,670 --> 00:11:21,630 S1: you remain steadfast and unashamed of the gospel? 217 00:11:22,350 --> 00:11:26,429 S5: Yes, Janet, I have gotten that at times in the past. Um, 218 00:11:26,470 --> 00:11:29,030 S5: some when I was coaching, but especially now that I'm 219 00:11:29,030 --> 00:11:32,350 S5: broadcasting for NBC, people say, just give us the sports. 220 00:11:32,350 --> 00:11:35,390 S5: That's what you're paid to do. Just give us the story. 221 00:11:35,550 --> 00:11:38,970 S5: But I always felt that, especially when I was coaching. 222 00:11:38,970 --> 00:11:42,170 S5: Know you want to know everything about me. You want 223 00:11:42,210 --> 00:11:45,089 S5: to interview me and ask what makes me tick? Well, 224 00:11:45,090 --> 00:11:46,970 S5: I'm going to tell you what makes me tick. And 225 00:11:46,970 --> 00:11:50,130 S5: it's it's the Lord. So yes, if you want to 226 00:11:50,170 --> 00:11:53,770 S5: know really about me, you're going to hear about God. And, um, 227 00:11:53,809 --> 00:11:57,370 S5: I'm not ashamed of it. And I know I got 228 00:11:57,570 --> 00:12:00,730 S5: I get that criticism, but I just feel like, as 229 00:12:00,730 --> 00:12:03,689 S5: you say, God has placed me there. He's put me there, 230 00:12:03,690 --> 00:12:06,090 S5: and it's my duty to let my light shine. 231 00:12:06,130 --> 00:12:09,530 S1: Amen. Oh, friends, I hope you heard. Coach. Listen, in 232 00:12:09,530 --> 00:12:11,450 S1: the position that he's in, if he's unashamed of the 233 00:12:11,490 --> 00:12:14,290 S1: gospel of Jesus Christ, then you let your shine. Whether 234 00:12:14,290 --> 00:12:16,610 S1: it's your neighbor across the back fence or the person 235 00:12:16,610 --> 00:12:19,450 S1: that you share a cubicle cubicle with at work, that 236 00:12:19,450 --> 00:12:21,690 S1: ground between your mission, your feet, is your mission field. 237 00:12:21,690 --> 00:12:23,970 S1: And I hope you remember that. Lauren, let me ask you, 238 00:12:24,210 --> 00:12:27,530 S1: people did not miss that I said 11 children. As 239 00:12:27,530 --> 00:12:32,010 S1: an early childhood educational specialist, it obviously presupposes that you 240 00:12:32,010 --> 00:12:34,610 S1: love kids. You wouldn't have pursued, uh, training in that 241 00:12:34,610 --> 00:12:37,960 S1: particular area. But tell me how the Dungy family began 242 00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:38,520 S1: to grow. 243 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:44,319 S6: Janet, it's interesting that we when we married, we thought 244 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:48,360 S6: we'd have 2 or 3 children and we'd be happily 245 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:51,720 S6: married and raise our children. They would love the Lord, 246 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:57,400 S6: and it would be just enough to having that number 247 00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:02,240 S6: 2 or 3. But God began bringing children into our home. 248 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:06,719 S6: So we had three children and we moved to Florida. 249 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:10,120 S6: And it was about that time that one of the 250 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:14,400 S6: coaches on the Buccaneer staff was adopting a child, and 251 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:17,560 S6: he wanted advice, and he wanted to hear from the 252 00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:20,480 S6: coaches wives, the player's wives, you know, how can I 253 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:23,120 S6: do this as a single parent? So we all rallied 254 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:26,600 S6: around him and gave our advice and promised to support 255 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:30,760 S6: him as he raised this child. Well, we got involved 256 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:36,060 S6: with the parenting of Baby Joe and And at that time, 257 00:13:36,540 --> 00:13:40,660 S6: he introduced us to the social worker and the adoption 258 00:13:41,220 --> 00:13:46,420 S6: agent agency that he was working with. And we got 259 00:13:46,420 --> 00:13:50,540 S6: excited about this adoption. And he said, you know, there 260 00:13:50,540 --> 00:13:52,860 S6: are a lot of babies, there are a lot of 261 00:13:53,100 --> 00:13:57,140 S6: children who don't have homes. And as we had conversations 262 00:13:57,140 --> 00:14:03,059 S6: with the agency, they told us that particularly African American 263 00:14:03,059 --> 00:14:06,620 S6: biracial children, they're hard to place. And we thought just 264 00:14:06,620 --> 00:14:10,059 S6: the opposite, that babies were snatched up as soon as 265 00:14:10,059 --> 00:14:14,060 S6: they were available for adoption. And we found out that 266 00:14:14,059 --> 00:14:17,980 S6: there were many babies that lingered in foster care. And 267 00:14:17,980 --> 00:14:21,580 S6: adoption was hard to come by when it, you know, 268 00:14:22,180 --> 00:14:26,740 S6: referred to the African American and biracial children. So we 269 00:14:26,740 --> 00:14:29,580 S6: prayed about that because we felt that God was speaking 270 00:14:29,620 --> 00:14:33,850 S6: to us. We were having so many conversations about babies 271 00:14:33,850 --> 00:14:37,210 S6: coming into our home, and we had already fostered babies 272 00:14:37,210 --> 00:14:41,170 S6: for a number of years, but now God was calling us. 273 00:14:41,170 --> 00:14:45,450 S6: We believed to adopt babies. So we started the process 274 00:14:45,770 --> 00:14:49,490 S6: and one became two, three, four. So we now have 275 00:14:49,530 --> 00:14:54,170 S6: eight children at home that are adopted. And then we've 276 00:14:54,210 --> 00:14:58,210 S6: of course gone on to continue fostering. So we have 277 00:14:58,490 --> 00:15:04,130 S6: 11 children. So eight are adopted and three are foster children. 278 00:15:04,130 --> 00:15:07,210 S6: And then we have adult children as well. So yes, 279 00:15:07,210 --> 00:15:08,210 S6: it is a full house. 280 00:15:08,250 --> 00:15:11,410 S1: Full house. Exactly. Your quiver is full. Lauren, I heard 281 00:15:11,410 --> 00:15:13,850 S1: it said that the two of you could say that 282 00:15:13,850 --> 00:15:16,930 S1: if you were counting noses. You've had over a hundred 283 00:15:16,930 --> 00:15:19,370 S1: children go through your lives. Is that right? 284 00:15:19,810 --> 00:15:23,570 S6: That is correct. And what a joy, what a blessing 285 00:15:23,570 --> 00:15:26,570 S6: it has been. It has taught us so many things. 286 00:15:26,570 --> 00:15:30,130 S6: And we often hear, oh, those children are so lucky. 287 00:15:30,130 --> 00:15:33,830 S6: They're blessed. and we think just the opposite. We are blessed. 288 00:15:33,870 --> 00:15:36,830 S6: We have learned so much. God has showed us so 289 00:15:36,830 --> 00:15:39,630 S6: much through these innocent little children. 290 00:15:39,910 --> 00:15:42,830 S1: So coach, because you're on the road. You know, when 291 00:15:42,830 --> 00:15:46,430 S1: you've got away games versus home games, and because there's 292 00:15:46,430 --> 00:15:48,990 S1: a great demand on your time as you and Lauren 293 00:15:48,990 --> 00:15:51,990 S1: are seeking the Lord's direction on this, how did you 294 00:15:51,990 --> 00:15:53,950 S1: ask the Lord to reveal how you would do the 295 00:15:53,950 --> 00:15:58,030 S1: time management issue, particularly with the wonderful amount of kids 296 00:15:58,030 --> 00:16:01,110 S1: that you've intersected with, knowing that you can't be in absentia? 297 00:16:01,150 --> 00:16:04,030 S1: I mean, you for a time where the spokesperson for 298 00:16:04,030 --> 00:16:07,550 S1: the National Fatherhood program. Um, all pro dads. So this 299 00:16:07,550 --> 00:16:10,790 S1: is this is in your DNA. How do you negotiate 300 00:16:10,790 --> 00:16:13,630 S1: that time factor when God's called you to do other 301 00:16:13,630 --> 00:16:16,030 S1: things besides just being a husband and a dad? 302 00:16:16,590 --> 00:16:18,630 S5: Yeah. Well, first of all, so much of it falls 303 00:16:18,630 --> 00:16:20,910 S5: on Lauren and she had to be willing to do that. 304 00:16:20,910 --> 00:16:23,110 S5: And she was I mean, she set the tone in 305 00:16:23,110 --> 00:16:25,790 S5: our house, but I was very, very blessed. She talked 306 00:16:25,790 --> 00:16:29,810 S5: about my college coach, my first professional coach, Chuck no 307 00:16:29,850 --> 00:16:32,330 S5: Hall of Fame coach with the Pittsburgh Steelers. And he 308 00:16:32,330 --> 00:16:35,970 S5: told us, do not make football your whole life. If 309 00:16:36,010 --> 00:16:38,970 S5: you make football your life, you're going to be disappointed. 310 00:16:39,210 --> 00:16:42,050 S5: And he encouraged us to get involved in the community. 311 00:16:42,090 --> 00:16:45,290 S5: He encouraged family life. We had family Saturday, where you 312 00:16:45,290 --> 00:16:47,930 S5: brought the kids to to work and brought them to practice, 313 00:16:47,930 --> 00:16:50,090 S5: and he lived it out for us. You can be 314 00:16:50,090 --> 00:16:52,810 S5: successful and still have a family life, so it taught 315 00:16:52,810 --> 00:16:56,250 S5: us that our kids were much more important than winning 316 00:16:56,250 --> 00:16:59,370 S5: Super Bowls. And that stuck with me as a 21 317 00:16:59,370 --> 00:17:00,010 S5: year old. 318 00:17:00,050 --> 00:17:03,130 S1: Unbelievable. That is such a takeaway, friends. In fact, let 319 00:17:03,130 --> 00:17:04,729 S1: me go back to the quote because I have it 320 00:17:04,730 --> 00:17:06,930 S1: underlined in my reading of the book. Do not make 321 00:17:06,930 --> 00:17:10,330 S1: football your whole life. It is not your purpose. You 322 00:17:10,330 --> 00:17:14,090 S1: have to find your purpose somewhere else. And that's exactly 323 00:17:14,090 --> 00:17:16,730 S1: what this book is all about. It's called uncommon influence 324 00:17:16,730 --> 00:17:20,490 S1: saying yes to a purposeful life. Tony and Lauren Dungy 325 00:17:20,530 --> 00:17:22,850 S1: are the authors. And what an opportunity. Scripture says, out 326 00:17:22,850 --> 00:17:25,250 S1: of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks and 327 00:17:25,250 --> 00:17:27,920 S1: you're hearing two people who love God love each other 328 00:17:27,920 --> 00:17:41,760 S1: and love their family back after this. Coach Tony Dungy 329 00:17:41,760 --> 00:17:44,639 S1: and his dear wife, Lauren have written yet another book 330 00:17:44,640 --> 00:17:46,680 S1: that is teaching us how to grow up in him. 331 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:50,640 S1: It's called Uncommon Influence. Saying yes to a purposeful life. 332 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:53,160 S1: And I love the way that Tony and Lauren did 333 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,960 S1: the book. They took turns writing chapters so you hear 334 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:59,200 S1: the different voice of each writer and also their heart, 335 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:02,800 S1: but it's beautifully coordinated. So you were just talking, Lauren, 336 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:04,880 S1: about how God brought these children in. And this really 337 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:07,160 S1: goes to one of the primary ideas that you both 338 00:18:07,200 --> 00:18:09,679 S1: put forward in the book. And that is saying, yes, 339 00:18:09,680 --> 00:18:12,680 S1: I think for the believer, often the two toughest words 340 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:16,439 S1: are yes, Lord, because that means a whole bunch of things, 341 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:18,480 S1: not the least of which is you die to yourself, 342 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:20,320 S1: you take up your cross, you follow him. It means 343 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:23,400 S1: submission because we don't get that submission equals victory in 344 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,180 S1: the believer's life. We think that it's somehow losing that 345 00:18:26,180 --> 00:18:29,379 S1: submission is the equivalent of failure. So when God started 346 00:18:29,380 --> 00:18:32,980 S1: bringing these children into your lives, teach us through your 347 00:18:32,980 --> 00:18:36,620 S1: experience how we begin to recognize that the Lord's gently poking. 348 00:18:36,660 --> 00:18:40,460 S1: It's always that soft, gentle voice that leads us that says, 349 00:18:40,460 --> 00:18:43,459 S1: here's an opportunity. But so often in the chaos of 350 00:18:43,460 --> 00:18:46,660 S1: our lives, we miss that. How can we become more 351 00:18:46,660 --> 00:18:50,220 S1: sensitive to his asking us to say yes? How can 352 00:18:50,220 --> 00:18:52,300 S1: we become more receptive to saying yes? 353 00:18:52,700 --> 00:18:56,379 S6: We have to recognize and, you know, understand that we're 354 00:18:56,380 --> 00:19:01,020 S6: called to a life of servanthood. We aren't supposed to 355 00:19:01,300 --> 00:19:04,260 S6: focus on ourselves and how we can have a better 356 00:19:04,260 --> 00:19:09,980 S6: life and be more successful and productive in life because we're, 357 00:19:10,380 --> 00:19:13,179 S6: you know, focusing on ourselves. But God wants us to 358 00:19:13,220 --> 00:19:17,660 S6: be like Jesus and minister to others. And if we 359 00:19:17,660 --> 00:19:22,020 S6: do that, if we embrace that understanding and that biblical principle, 360 00:19:22,300 --> 00:19:26,490 S6: then we will hear God's voice and will respond because 361 00:19:26,490 --> 00:19:29,290 S6: we will know that that's what God has called us 362 00:19:29,290 --> 00:19:33,209 S6: to do. So he speaks to us all the time. 363 00:19:33,210 --> 00:19:36,810 S6: And it's not an audible voice, but it's through the 364 00:19:36,810 --> 00:19:39,570 S6: reading of His word and just, you know, setting and 365 00:19:39,570 --> 00:19:42,890 S6: having that quiet time with him. Tony and I like 366 00:19:42,890 --> 00:19:45,489 S6: to have quiet time in the morning before we do 367 00:19:45,490 --> 00:19:48,210 S6: anything else, before we make that first cup of coffee 368 00:19:48,530 --> 00:19:51,690 S6: or start tending to the needs of our children. And 369 00:19:51,730 --> 00:19:55,450 S6: it's during that time that we really just sit before 370 00:19:55,450 --> 00:20:00,370 S6: his feet and meditate and do our devotion, and we 371 00:20:00,410 --> 00:20:03,889 S6: hear from God. And often times there are questions or 372 00:20:04,010 --> 00:20:07,570 S6: somethings heavy on our hearts, but we talk to God 373 00:20:07,650 --> 00:20:12,010 S6: and we also have a rich prayer life. We pray 374 00:20:12,010 --> 00:20:15,689 S6: together so that it's good that God hears our hearts. 375 00:20:15,690 --> 00:20:20,290 S6: He already knows. But we're confirming and we're asking. We're 376 00:20:20,290 --> 00:20:26,310 S6: seeking wisdom. And that's how God let us know that 377 00:20:26,310 --> 00:20:30,750 S6: he wanted us to adopt children and open our hearts 378 00:20:30,950 --> 00:20:35,350 S6: and home to children that were in crisis or, you know, 379 00:20:35,430 --> 00:20:38,389 S6: didn't have a home to live in. 380 00:20:38,590 --> 00:20:38,990 S1: Wow. 381 00:20:39,190 --> 00:20:41,750 S5: And Janet, there's a story in the Bible that really 382 00:20:41,750 --> 00:20:45,909 S5: resonates with Lauren and me. Um, Jesus is talking to 383 00:20:45,910 --> 00:20:49,270 S5: his disciples and they're asking, how can they get to 384 00:20:49,310 --> 00:20:51,150 S5: the top? How can they be the greatest? How can 385 00:20:51,150 --> 00:20:53,590 S5: I be the the lieutenant? How can I be the 386 00:20:53,590 --> 00:20:57,110 S5: sergeant in charge? And Jesus says, you know, in this world, 387 00:20:57,109 --> 00:21:00,070 S5: everybody's climbing the ladder. Everybody is trying to get to 388 00:21:00,109 --> 00:21:03,470 S5: the top. But in my kingdom, the greatest are going 389 00:21:03,510 --> 00:21:06,670 S5: to be those who serve. And that really resonated with us. 390 00:21:06,670 --> 00:21:09,790 S5: If we want to please God, he's going to expect 391 00:21:09,790 --> 00:21:12,109 S5: us to do things for other people. And I think 392 00:21:12,109 --> 00:21:14,670 S5: that's where our hearts got changed. 393 00:21:15,070 --> 00:21:17,950 S1: I was thinking, I just discovered it's a very convicting verse. 394 00:21:17,950 --> 00:21:20,780 S1: It was in First John and we're told to watch 395 00:21:20,780 --> 00:21:23,020 S1: out for a fellow by the name of Diotrephes because 396 00:21:23,020 --> 00:21:26,340 S1: he always wants to be first. I'm thinking, oh, this 397 00:21:26,340 --> 00:21:29,780 S1: is an eternal book, and you're forever maligned because you 398 00:21:29,780 --> 00:21:31,740 S1: wanted to be first. That's a wake up call for 399 00:21:31,740 --> 00:21:33,820 S1: all of us. But let me pick up on this 400 00:21:33,820 --> 00:21:36,620 S1: idea of saying yes to God, because particularly through your 401 00:21:36,619 --> 00:21:39,740 S1: experience of just saying yes, Lord, and he brings all 402 00:21:39,780 --> 00:21:42,460 S1: of these children into your lives. Lord, I've never understood 403 00:21:42,460 --> 00:21:44,500 S1: this for the church capital C universal. I mean, if 404 00:21:44,500 --> 00:21:46,980 S1: anybody should be pro-adoption, it'd be to the church. We're 405 00:21:46,980 --> 00:21:49,980 S1: all adopted, you know. We've been grafted on. Our name 406 00:21:49,980 --> 00:21:52,219 S1: has been written in the name, the Lamb's Book of Life. 407 00:21:52,340 --> 00:21:55,100 S1: We should be the biggest pro adoption advocates out there, 408 00:21:55,100 --> 00:21:59,020 S1: because our eternity was sealed by being adopted into his family. 409 00:21:59,020 --> 00:22:00,860 S1: But some people would say, no, I can't do that 410 00:22:00,859 --> 00:22:02,979 S1: and I can't foster, and I want to talk in 411 00:22:02,980 --> 00:22:06,580 S1: a minute how overburdened the foster care system is, because 412 00:22:06,580 --> 00:22:08,859 S1: I'm going to get attached, and then I might lose 413 00:22:08,859 --> 00:22:12,060 S1: that child. And I don't know that I could do that. 414 00:22:12,060 --> 00:22:15,300 S1: So we have all of these rationale. More importantly, their 415 00:22:15,300 --> 00:22:19,080 S1: excuses for not saying yes because we might get hurt. 416 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,480 S1: How did the two of you guard your hearts? Because 417 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:23,479 S1: you didn't know that every adoption would go through and 418 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:25,760 S1: you're currently fostering. And who knows what the Lord will 419 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:27,720 S1: have you do with the kids that you foster? So 420 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,240 S1: how do you say, okay, Lord, I want to give 421 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,640 S1: them unconditional love, just like you love me, father, but 422 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:35,840 S1: I might get hurt. How do we guard ourselves? 423 00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:37,160 S5: Well, I was. 424 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:41,840 S6: Walking by faith because there were disappointments. We had our 425 00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:45,440 S6: heart broken. Our first child that we fostered. We had 426 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,720 S6: him for two years. And the day he left, we 427 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,440 S6: were not prepared for it. And he was abruptly removed 428 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:56,720 S6: from our home to be reunited with family members. And 429 00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:01,080 S6: I remember crying for days because I missed this little 430 00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:05,520 S6: boy so much, and I had invested and loved him, 431 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,679 S6: and all of a sudden he was gone. But then 432 00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:13,960 S6: I also realized that it's not about me. It's we. 433 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:18,420 S6: We aren't called to be selfish in our parenting, in 434 00:23:18,420 --> 00:23:23,140 S6: our obedience to Christ. We're to be giving and we're 435 00:23:23,260 --> 00:23:27,100 S6: to be submissive to his will. And so I learned 436 00:23:27,100 --> 00:23:30,140 S6: the hard way. I mean, it was a heartbreaker when 437 00:23:30,140 --> 00:23:33,060 S6: this little guy, his name was Gypsy. When he left 438 00:23:33,060 --> 00:23:37,859 S6: our home. But it didn't stop us from saying no. 439 00:23:37,900 --> 00:23:41,420 S6: When the phone rang again and it did ring, ring. 440 00:23:41,900 --> 00:23:46,899 S6: Shortly after, with more babies. And we became aware that 441 00:23:46,900 --> 00:23:51,300 S6: there were so many children and we couldn't selfishly say 442 00:23:51,300 --> 00:23:54,740 S6: no because we might get hurt, we might get attacked, 443 00:23:55,380 --> 00:23:58,379 S6: they might leave us, or that we might not bond 444 00:23:58,380 --> 00:24:02,100 S6: with them. There are a lot of possibilities of what 445 00:24:02,100 --> 00:24:04,700 S6: can happen when you open your home, but it's that 446 00:24:04,700 --> 00:24:08,540 S6: faith and trust in God that he will do what's best, 447 00:24:08,780 --> 00:24:11,260 S6: and we have to just trust him for that. 448 00:24:11,300 --> 00:24:14,379 S1: Amen. Amen. That's exactly right. Coach, you wanted to weigh in, 449 00:24:14,380 --> 00:24:16,010 S1: and I'd love to hear your thoughts on that same 450 00:24:16,010 --> 00:24:18,290 S1: question as well. Let me take a break and come 451 00:24:18,330 --> 00:24:21,850 S1: right back. I was going far too quickly. Wonderful book, 452 00:24:21,890 --> 00:24:25,810 S1: Uncommon Influence. That's what Christ is asking us to have. 453 00:24:25,850 --> 00:24:29,409 S1: We serve an uncommon Savior and we have an uncommon message. 454 00:24:29,410 --> 00:24:32,050 S1: But oh boy, can we influence the world. 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This 465 00:25:08,690 --> 00:25:10,810 S1: is in the market with Janet Parshall. And if you're 466 00:25:10,810 --> 00:25:13,470 S1: just joining us, the warmest of welcomes. You are going 467 00:25:13,510 --> 00:25:16,070 S1: to want to hear this conversation from the very beginning, 468 00:25:16,070 --> 00:25:18,510 S1: and we've made that easy for you in the 21st century. 469 00:25:18,510 --> 00:25:21,909 S1: Just go to in the market with Janet Parshall, left 470 00:25:21,910 --> 00:25:24,350 S1: hand side, two words. They sit right next to each other. 471 00:25:24,350 --> 00:25:27,910 S1: Past programs clicking on download this hour in its entirety 472 00:25:27,910 --> 00:25:29,670 S1: or either of the two hours we do every day 473 00:25:29,670 --> 00:25:32,310 S1: going back a full year. But you do want to 474 00:25:32,310 --> 00:25:35,310 S1: hear everything that coach Tony Dungy and his precious wife, Lauren, 475 00:25:35,310 --> 00:25:37,270 S1: have to say. They've got a brand new book out 476 00:25:37,310 --> 00:25:41,230 S1: called Uncommon Influence Saying yes to a Purposeful Life for 477 00:25:41,230 --> 00:25:43,189 S1: the benefit of those who are just rejoining you. Let 478 00:25:43,190 --> 00:25:45,869 S1: me give formal intros again if I can. Lauren is 479 00:25:45,869 --> 00:25:48,990 S1: an early childhood educational specialist. She's a best selling author, 480 00:25:48,990 --> 00:25:51,949 S1: and she's a frequently sought after speaker. She's also the 481 00:25:51,950 --> 00:25:55,230 S1: vice president of the Dungy Family Foundation, and she has 482 00:25:55,230 --> 00:25:58,109 S1: a great passion and love for children. They are going 483 00:25:58,109 --> 00:26:01,390 S1: to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this year, and they're 484 00:26:01,430 --> 00:26:04,750 S1: the parents of 11. You heard that right. 11 children. 485 00:26:04,750 --> 00:26:07,869 S1: Coach Tony Dungy, if you know anything about football, you 486 00:26:07,869 --> 00:26:10,470 S1: know who coach Tony Dungy is. He's also a number 487 00:26:10,470 --> 00:26:12,820 S1: one New York Times best selling author whose books include 488 00:26:12,820 --> 00:26:17,340 S1: Quiet Strength, uncommon, The Mentor, Leader, and Uncommon Marriage. He 489 00:26:17,340 --> 00:26:19,740 S1: led the Indianapolis Colts to a Super Bowl victory on 490 00:26:19,740 --> 00:26:23,340 S1: February 4th in 2007. He's the. That was the first 491 00:26:23,340 --> 00:26:26,460 S1: such win, by the way, for an African American head coach. 492 00:26:26,500 --> 00:26:29,260 S1: Coach Dungy was also the first head NFL coach to 493 00:26:29,300 --> 00:26:32,380 S1: lead his team to the playoffs for ten consecutive years. 494 00:26:32,540 --> 00:26:33,940 S1: So coach, if I can let me go right back 495 00:26:33,940 --> 00:26:36,100 S1: to you, because when we say yes to the Lord, 496 00:26:36,100 --> 00:26:39,380 S1: it doesn't mean that it comes without pain, without sacrifice, 497 00:26:39,380 --> 00:26:42,300 S1: without some personal denial. And we live in a world 498 00:26:42,300 --> 00:26:43,820 S1: that says me first. I mean, I go to a 499 00:26:43,820 --> 00:26:45,419 S1: checkout line in a grocery store and I see a 500 00:26:45,420 --> 00:26:49,180 S1: magazine called self. It's all about me. So you date 501 00:26:49,180 --> 00:26:52,060 S1: these babies in and it might hurt. You might have them. 502 00:26:52,100 --> 00:26:54,940 S1: Gypsy might come and might go and you don't have 503 00:26:54,940 --> 00:26:57,419 S1: any say about it. So how did you prepare your 504 00:26:57,420 --> 00:27:00,180 S1: heart for the possibilities of what that might look like? 505 00:27:00,859 --> 00:27:03,060 S5: Well, I have to tell you, Janet, it was really 506 00:27:03,060 --> 00:27:04,900 S5: Lauren who got me to say yes. And you asked 507 00:27:04,900 --> 00:27:07,659 S5: the question, what do we do when we hear God's voice? 508 00:27:07,660 --> 00:27:10,160 S5: Are we obedient? Do we say Yes? And we had 509 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:14,320 S5: had this conversation with this adoption agency, a Christian agency, 510 00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,600 S5: and I had heard God's voice, you know, and saying, hey, 511 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,840 S5: you took me in. You took care of me when 512 00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,320 S5: I was hurting. You took care of the least of these. 513 00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:24,080 S5: So I knew what we were supposed to do. But 514 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,719 S5: I had all the nos right in my mind. Hey, 515 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,280 S5: I'm 45 years old already. We've got three kids. Two 516 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:33,720 S5: of them are teenagers. I'm busy. How can I do 517 00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:36,600 S5: all this? No, no, no. And Lawrence said we have to. 518 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,360 S5: We have to do this. That's what God's calling us 519 00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:42,040 S5: to do. And so she was the one who helped 520 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:46,320 S5: me say yes. And, um, you know, it just sometimes 521 00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:50,480 S5: we hear God's voice from our spouse and sometimes, you know, 522 00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:54,400 S5: there's a lot of ways, but the key thing is, 523 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,320 S5: are we going to say yes when we hear it? 524 00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:57,840 S5: Or are we going to say no? 525 00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:00,600 S1: Yeah. Amen. Lauren, I want to go back to something 526 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,199 S1: you said because it's so powerful. And one of the 527 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,520 S1: reasons why I'm so grateful that you're giving us the 528 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:08,190 S1: gift of your time is because we have so many misconceptions, 529 00:28:08,190 --> 00:28:11,310 S1: because you're visible, because you're up front, as we like 530 00:28:11,310 --> 00:28:13,950 S1: to say in the church. We think, oh, you don't. 531 00:28:14,030 --> 00:28:16,189 S1: The rules don't apply to you because things have to 532 00:28:16,190 --> 00:28:19,550 S1: be different. But you said something powerfully important that applies 533 00:28:19,550 --> 00:28:22,109 S1: to us, whether you're a Super Bowl winning coach and 534 00:28:22,109 --> 00:28:24,830 S1: a best selling author, or whether or not you're a 535 00:28:24,830 --> 00:28:28,350 S1: person who cleans the schools at night. You talked about 536 00:28:28,350 --> 00:28:31,669 S1: starting your day with the Lord. I'm going to ask 537 00:28:31,670 --> 00:28:33,869 S1: you a question about prayer and marriage. I heard someone 538 00:28:33,869 --> 00:28:36,510 S1: say once, the most intimate thing a married couple can 539 00:28:36,510 --> 00:28:39,030 S1: do is to pray together. Do you agree with that? 540 00:28:39,030 --> 00:28:39,910 S1: And if so, why? 541 00:28:40,910 --> 00:28:46,910 S6: Oh, absolutely. Um, Tony and I pray every day together. 542 00:28:46,910 --> 00:28:50,430 S6: It's so important to be joined in on one accord. 543 00:28:50,630 --> 00:28:53,990 S6: And we made that decision to marry and live a 544 00:28:53,990 --> 00:28:57,750 S6: life together. Um, we prayer was at the top of 545 00:28:57,750 --> 00:29:02,150 S6: our list. It was so important that we begin by 546 00:29:02,190 --> 00:29:05,190 S6: praying each morning, and we have to hear from God 547 00:29:05,450 --> 00:29:08,090 S6: and we have to be on the same page. And 548 00:29:08,090 --> 00:29:12,410 S6: if he's running off to to call a game, and 549 00:29:12,410 --> 00:29:15,210 S6: if I'm busy with the kids, we'd be like ships 550 00:29:15,210 --> 00:29:17,970 S6: passing in the night. So it's important that we have 551 00:29:17,970 --> 00:29:22,290 S6: that fellowship with God and each other. And we, we 552 00:29:22,290 --> 00:29:25,250 S6: recognize that it's important to do it first thing in 553 00:29:25,250 --> 00:29:28,530 S6: the morning. So we wouldn't dream of going out the 554 00:29:28,530 --> 00:29:31,810 S6: door without having prayer. And of course, there's prayer during 555 00:29:31,810 --> 00:29:36,930 S6: the day, and we may pray together. We may pray independently, 556 00:29:37,050 --> 00:29:40,250 S6: but it's important that we hear from our father, because 557 00:29:40,250 --> 00:29:43,970 S6: we will be bombarded with so many messages and so 558 00:29:43,970 --> 00:29:48,130 S6: many other distractions throughout the day. But if we aren't 559 00:29:48,170 --> 00:29:52,090 S6: anchored in the word and in God's truth will be 560 00:29:52,090 --> 00:29:56,530 S6: just flipped around and tossed around. So we need to 561 00:29:56,530 --> 00:30:01,210 S6: have that steady force. And that's why we have God 562 00:30:01,210 --> 00:30:05,790 S6: in our lives. And, um, first thing before we start. 563 00:30:06,990 --> 00:30:09,990 S1: Coach, the subtitle says saying yes to a purposeful life. 564 00:30:09,990 --> 00:30:12,110 S1: You're talking to people from Guam all the way to 565 00:30:12,150 --> 00:30:14,350 S1: the Cayman Islands, and a whole lot of spots in between. 566 00:30:14,350 --> 00:30:17,350 S1: And people are going, I get it. I mean, I 567 00:30:17,390 --> 00:30:20,070 S1: look at your marriage, I look at your platform, I 568 00:30:20,070 --> 00:30:22,430 S1: look at the two of you together, and it looks 569 00:30:22,430 --> 00:30:25,110 S1: like you've got all of these opportunities to live a 570 00:30:25,110 --> 00:30:27,670 S1: purposeful life. I look in the mirror and I'm thinking, 571 00:30:27,670 --> 00:30:30,350 S1: God can never use me. Let me break that down 572 00:30:30,350 --> 00:30:32,590 S1: a little bit. Uh, there are a whole lot of people. 573 00:30:32,590 --> 00:30:34,709 S1: I believe this to the mayor of my bones who 574 00:30:34,710 --> 00:30:37,710 S1: think that God doesn't have plans for them to have 575 00:30:37,710 --> 00:30:40,350 S1: a purposeful life. Can you talk to them? How do 576 00:30:40,350 --> 00:30:44,230 S1: they discover that God does have plans for their welfare 577 00:30:44,390 --> 00:30:47,790 S1: and their future? So how can they discover that God 578 00:30:47,830 --> 00:30:50,310 S1: A has that plan? And B, what that plan is? 579 00:30:51,190 --> 00:30:54,030 S5: I think that's the story of the book. Um, people 580 00:30:54,030 --> 00:30:56,350 S5: can look and say, oh, if I was only if 581 00:30:56,350 --> 00:30:59,350 S5: I was an NFL coach and I had a big platform, 582 00:30:59,350 --> 00:31:01,980 S5: then I could do something if I was the president 583 00:31:01,980 --> 00:31:04,580 S5: of the United States, then I could do something. But 584 00:31:04,580 --> 00:31:07,140 S5: that's what we want to get across. No, God has 585 00:31:07,140 --> 00:31:11,420 S5: something for everyone, and you are influencing people in your 586 00:31:11,420 --> 00:31:13,660 S5: life right now. You may not know it, but you are. 587 00:31:13,860 --> 00:31:15,500 S5: I tell a story in the book about one of 588 00:31:15,500 --> 00:31:18,940 S5: the most influential people in my life was my barber. 589 00:31:19,700 --> 00:31:21,740 S5: I used to get my hair cut every Friday before 590 00:31:21,740 --> 00:31:23,900 S5: the games. I'd go in. Mr. Hampton, we got a 591 00:31:23,900 --> 00:31:26,780 S5: big game, make me look good. And he cut my 592 00:31:26,780 --> 00:31:29,820 S5: hair every Friday, but he always. Hey, how's your mom doing? 593 00:31:29,820 --> 00:31:32,340 S5: What's happening with your family? How's your sister doing? Hey, 594 00:31:32,340 --> 00:31:34,380 S5: by the way, have you gone to church? What did 595 00:31:34,380 --> 00:31:38,020 S5: you learn today or this week? In church? And just 596 00:31:38,020 --> 00:31:41,540 S5: cutting my hair. Doing his job as the barber. He 597 00:31:41,540 --> 00:31:44,420 S5: planted seeds in my life. He may not even know it, 598 00:31:44,420 --> 00:31:46,500 S5: but he had a huge impact on me. So he 599 00:31:46,500 --> 00:31:49,340 S5: didn't have to be the president of a big corporation. 600 00:31:49,380 --> 00:31:52,020 S5: He had an influence on one young man just by 601 00:31:52,020 --> 00:31:53,740 S5: the job that God gave him. 602 00:31:54,100 --> 00:31:54,459 S7: Wow. 603 00:31:54,900 --> 00:31:57,340 S1: What a wonderful story. What about the fear factor? What 604 00:31:57,340 --> 00:32:00,000 S1: do people who say, okay, I'm going to say, yes, Lord, 605 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,000 S1: I'm going to step into that purposeful life and then 606 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,600 S1: I blow it. And then they think, well, I blew it. 607 00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,320 S1: So God's going to bench me. I'm never going to 608 00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,320 S1: be able to suit up and play again. How do 609 00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:09,240 S1: you deal with that? 610 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,760 S5: You know that that's something we have to overcome and 611 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,600 S5: that's a trick that Satan will use. You can't do this. 612 00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:18,800 S5: You're not qualified to do this. What if they look 613 00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:21,200 S5: at the real you? They're going to see who you are. 614 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,680 S5: And God doesn't care about that. God wants us to 615 00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:27,200 S5: represent him. And that's what I always look at. I'm 616 00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:30,080 S5: not putting myself out there. No, I'm not perfect. And yes, 617 00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:32,560 S5: if you could see everything about me, there would be 618 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,520 S5: some things that you wouldn't appreciate that I didn't do right. 619 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:38,720 S5: But I'm representing Christ. I'm trying to put Christ out there. 620 00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:40,240 S5: That's who we need to follow. 621 00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:41,000 S7: Yeah. 622 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:44,160 S1: Amen and amen. Lauren. It does. It doesn't take rocket 623 00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,880 S1: science to figure out that if you're mama to all 624 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:50,120 S1: of these babies that you're giving and giving and giving 625 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,600 S1: and giving, and this is a problem the church has today, 626 00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,600 S1: that somehow if we talk about self care, the word 627 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,350 S1: self has to be antithetical to having a deep, rich 628 00:32:58,350 --> 00:33:01,190 S1: relationship with the Lord because we deny ourself. And yet 629 00:33:01,510 --> 00:33:04,510 S1: I find that Elijah rest by Cherith Brook. Jesus loved 630 00:33:04,510 --> 00:33:07,229 S1: to go to Bethany. God rests on the seventh day. 631 00:33:07,550 --> 00:33:09,709 S1: How do you pour back into your life so you 632 00:33:09,710 --> 00:33:11,790 S1: can pour out into so many other lives? 633 00:33:12,630 --> 00:33:13,350 S8: Well, I think it is. 634 00:33:13,350 --> 00:33:17,270 S6: Important to rest, and it is important to take that 635 00:33:17,270 --> 00:33:21,830 S6: time away from what we're doing. Otherwise, we'll just get so, uh, 636 00:33:21,870 --> 00:33:26,270 S6: emerged and submerged in all the, the, the busyness of 637 00:33:26,270 --> 00:33:29,990 S6: life that we will fall apart will run out of 638 00:33:29,990 --> 00:33:33,710 S6: energy and we will just not be of good service 639 00:33:33,710 --> 00:33:37,710 S6: to anyone else. So I fill up my tank by 640 00:33:37,750 --> 00:33:42,229 S6: doing things that, uh, will help me. I need to 641 00:33:42,230 --> 00:33:46,590 S6: be encouraged at times. I'm encouraging and I'm praying over 642 00:33:46,750 --> 00:33:50,430 S6: children over my marriage and things in life. But there 643 00:33:50,470 --> 00:33:52,510 S6: are times when I need to be encouraged. So I'm 644 00:33:52,510 --> 00:33:56,770 S6: involved in Bible studies and I'm involved in with groups 645 00:33:56,770 --> 00:34:01,290 S6: of ladies who are believers who pray for each other. 646 00:34:01,530 --> 00:34:04,690 S6: As we study the word and, you know, we take 647 00:34:04,690 --> 00:34:08,050 S6: on each other's burdens and and that's important to me. 648 00:34:08,050 --> 00:34:11,210 S6: I need that, I need that encouragement. And then I 649 00:34:11,210 --> 00:34:17,650 S6: also have passions to, um, outside of my family that I, 650 00:34:17,650 --> 00:34:21,330 S6: I enjoy doing. And that's, um, physical fitness. So I 651 00:34:21,330 --> 00:34:25,530 S6: have a running group and we are ambassadors for Christ. 652 00:34:25,530 --> 00:34:27,730 S6: When we're on the trail, we're running, we're having a 653 00:34:27,730 --> 00:34:34,129 S6: good time, but we wear shirts that have Scripture, Proverbs 2717. 654 00:34:34,370 --> 00:34:38,370 S6: And we want to make sure that we use every 655 00:34:38,410 --> 00:34:43,209 S6: opportunity to draw people and point them to Christ. So 656 00:34:43,210 --> 00:34:47,410 S6: we're always cognizant of the fact that running is fun, 657 00:34:47,410 --> 00:34:51,210 S6: and being together and laughing. Going to races is great, 658 00:34:51,210 --> 00:34:55,280 S6: but first and foremost, we're there for the Lord. And 659 00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,520 S6: we have had so many opportunities where we've been out 660 00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,879 S6: on the trail and we've seen someone and recognized that 661 00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,920 S6: they're struggling, and we've pulled them aside and asked them 662 00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:08,319 S6: if we can pray. We've never had a person say, no, 663 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:12,480 S6: I'm good and keep on, you know, running down the trail. Wow. 664 00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:18,240 S6: So it's times like that that really excite me, motivate me, 665 00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:22,560 S6: but also give me that time, um, away from what 666 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,759 S6: I'm doing every day. And that's fulfilling for me. So 667 00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:28,319 S6: I think it's, it's important to. 668 00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:29,280 S5: Recognize. 669 00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:32,000 S6: What it is you like to do and then take 670 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:35,240 S6: that time, be intentional about, you know, if it's being 671 00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:41,960 S6: outside or if it's reading or knitting, swimming, whatever it is, 672 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:47,239 S6: take that time for yourself and then you're back, you're 673 00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:50,520 S6: back on, you know, the track again and you're ready to. 674 00:35:51,620 --> 00:35:52,020 S7: Yeah. 675 00:35:52,060 --> 00:35:55,580 S6: To get busy with what the Lord has called you 676 00:35:55,580 --> 00:35:56,100 S6: to do. 677 00:35:56,140 --> 00:35:58,100 S1: I love that, I love that coach. I want you 678 00:35:58,100 --> 00:35:59,620 S1: were going to say something. I very much want to 679 00:35:59,620 --> 00:36:01,259 S1: hear what you have to say as well. Let me 680 00:36:01,260 --> 00:36:02,859 S1: take a break and I'll come right back and ask that. 681 00:36:02,860 --> 00:36:04,859 S1: I also want to talk about you do this in 682 00:36:04,860 --> 00:36:07,299 S1: your life. You build teams. That's what you've done for 683 00:36:07,300 --> 00:36:10,100 S1: years and years and years. But team building is important 684 00:36:10,100 --> 00:36:12,259 S1: in the context of this conversation as well. So I 685 00:36:12,260 --> 00:36:14,620 S1: want to get your take on that as well. What 686 00:36:14,660 --> 00:36:18,419 S1: a wonderful, wonderful book this is. The Dungy's writes excellent books, 687 00:36:18,420 --> 00:36:21,020 S1: by the way. They've done ten children's books, but this 688 00:36:21,020 --> 00:36:24,220 S1: theme of being uncommon has woven its way through so 689 00:36:24,219 --> 00:36:27,420 S1: much of their writing, this one so appropriate for the 690 00:36:27,420 --> 00:36:31,340 S1: day and age in which we live. Uncommon influence saying 691 00:36:31,340 --> 00:36:41,820 S1: yes to a purposeful life back after this. Uncommon influence. 692 00:36:41,820 --> 00:36:44,500 S1: That's what you and I bring to a sin sick watching, 693 00:36:44,500 --> 00:36:48,020 S1: hurting world. Yet we're post Eden. We're pre glory. But 694 00:36:48,020 --> 00:36:51,570 S1: boy we've got this imperishable message. and I'm still smiling 695 00:36:51,570 --> 00:36:54,170 S1: from Laura Dungey's story. I'd love to be in Tampa 696 00:36:54,170 --> 00:36:56,609 S1: and watch people go running by with scripture on their shirt. 697 00:36:56,610 --> 00:36:59,250 S1: That gets my attention, especially when they stop and say, 698 00:36:59,250 --> 00:37:02,770 S1: can I pray for you? That's bringing uncommon influence to 699 00:37:02,810 --> 00:37:05,490 S1: a watching, hurting world. That's the new book by coach 700 00:37:05,489 --> 00:37:08,770 S1: Tony Dungy and his wife, Lauren. Uncommon influence saying yes 701 00:37:08,930 --> 00:37:12,170 S1: to a purposeful life. So, coach, I just asked Lauren 702 00:37:12,170 --> 00:37:14,969 S1: about this idea of taking the time to refill up again, 703 00:37:14,969 --> 00:37:17,690 S1: because you can't just pour out all the time. You know, 704 00:37:17,730 --> 00:37:19,810 S1: Chuck Swindoll said, you have to come apart before you 705 00:37:19,850 --> 00:37:22,169 S1: come apart. And I think he was spot on. So 706 00:37:22,170 --> 00:37:23,650 S1: you had some thoughts on this. I'd love to hear 707 00:37:23,650 --> 00:37:24,530 S1: what you have to say. 708 00:37:25,090 --> 00:37:28,930 S5: Yeah, I think that's important for the spouse to recognize 709 00:37:28,930 --> 00:37:31,690 S5: that in their in their partner. And I have to 710 00:37:31,730 --> 00:37:34,410 S5: know that that gives Lauren great joy and peace. And 711 00:37:34,410 --> 00:37:38,730 S5: she recharges her battery going out, running with her ladies 712 00:37:38,730 --> 00:37:42,489 S5: and ministering to people. So I've got to then say, 713 00:37:42,489 --> 00:37:45,690 S5: don't worry, go honey, I'll take the kids. I've got this. 714 00:37:46,010 --> 00:37:49,230 S5: And she does the same thing for me sometimes. we've 715 00:37:49,230 --> 00:37:51,950 S5: got a fishing retreat with with coaches, and I'm going 716 00:37:51,989 --> 00:37:55,150 S5: to minister to them and I love doing that. Go, honey. 717 00:37:55,390 --> 00:37:57,509 S5: I'll take care of the kids. And we may not 718 00:37:57,510 --> 00:38:00,149 S5: feel like she's been with kids all week, but she 719 00:38:00,150 --> 00:38:02,950 S5: knows that that's going to recharge my battery and we 720 00:38:02,989 --> 00:38:04,470 S5: got to serve each other that way. 721 00:38:04,710 --> 00:38:05,110 S7: Yeah. 722 00:38:05,270 --> 00:38:07,430 S1: But you know, coach, when you're saying that I was 723 00:38:07,430 --> 00:38:11,149 S1: thinking that's modeling how Christ loves us. This comes from 724 00:38:11,150 --> 00:38:14,669 S1: a place of love, not just duty and responsibility. But 725 00:38:14,670 --> 00:38:17,950 S1: you do that because you love her and therefore saying 726 00:38:17,950 --> 00:38:21,549 S1: yes to God to live that purposeful life. If it 727 00:38:21,550 --> 00:38:23,630 S1: doesn't come from a place of love, you're going to 728 00:38:23,630 --> 00:38:25,190 S1: be miserable. Do I have that right? 729 00:38:27,710 --> 00:38:30,590 S5: Amen. And I know Lauren feels the same way. 730 00:38:30,790 --> 00:38:31,590 S7: Yeah, yeah. 731 00:38:31,910 --> 00:38:34,830 S1: So this idea of team building, you wrote a chapter 732 00:38:34,830 --> 00:38:38,990 S1: called We Over, I choose team. How does that factor 733 00:38:38,989 --> 00:38:41,710 S1: into this idea of moving toward a purposeful life? 734 00:38:42,590 --> 00:38:46,110 S5: I think that's the key element for a football team. 735 00:38:46,110 --> 00:38:48,610 S5: It's a key element for us as a church of 736 00:38:48,610 --> 00:38:51,730 S5: Jesus Christ. It's not one on one. It's not the 737 00:38:51,730 --> 00:38:55,730 S5: greatest collection of individuals. It's how we work together. Jesus 738 00:38:55,730 --> 00:38:58,850 S5: said that. And I believe that with all my heart 739 00:38:58,850 --> 00:39:01,130 S5: for a team, I believe that for our family. I 740 00:39:01,130 --> 00:39:04,170 S5: believe that for our community, we've got to work together 741 00:39:04,650 --> 00:39:05,770 S5: to be effective. 742 00:39:06,370 --> 00:39:06,730 S7: Wow. 743 00:39:07,130 --> 00:39:10,330 S1: You two together talk about five choices that we have 744 00:39:10,330 --> 00:39:14,890 S1: to make in the book. Choose steadiness, choose perseverance, choose rest, 745 00:39:14,890 --> 00:39:19,650 S1: which we just discussed. Choose Jesus and choose love. Lauren, 746 00:39:19,650 --> 00:39:22,290 S1: let me ask you about this idea of perseverance. My 747 00:39:22,290 --> 00:39:25,089 S1: life verse is Hebrews 12 one through three. Run with 748 00:39:25,090 --> 00:39:28,370 S1: perseverance is my favorite translation that tells you that you're 749 00:39:28,370 --> 00:39:30,969 S1: going to have to put some sweat equity into this. 750 00:39:30,969 --> 00:39:34,570 S1: How do we, in a world turned upside down, find 751 00:39:34,570 --> 00:39:37,450 S1: the perseverance when who we are in Christ is not 752 00:39:37,450 --> 00:39:41,450 S1: appreciated by the culture. We're pushed back, we're silenced, were canceled. 753 00:39:41,650 --> 00:39:44,609 S1: And yet we're to persevere in this purposeful life that 754 00:39:44,610 --> 00:39:46,720 S1: he's called us to. How do you do that? 755 00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:52,040 S6: Well, we are called to remain steady, and we're called 756 00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:56,480 S6: to remain with our feet firmly planted in the word 757 00:39:56,640 --> 00:40:00,440 S6: and anchored in Jesus Christ. So we have to be 758 00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:04,319 S6: careful of the distractions that are around us and the 759 00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:09,600 S6: temptation to serve other things. And if we strive to 760 00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:13,640 S6: be like Christ and serve him and model our lives 761 00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:17,120 S6: after him, then we are, uh, doing what he wants 762 00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:20,040 S6: us to do and not the world. And there are 763 00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:23,839 S6: so many times that the world will say, well, do 764 00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,560 S6: this or you should be involved in this program. You 765 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:30,200 S6: should do that. But God is calling us to chase 766 00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:33,160 S6: after him and have a heart for him. And so 767 00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:38,400 S6: we can do that if we're intentional about being firmly 768 00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:39,600 S6: planted in him. 769 00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:41,600 S7: Yeah, I love that answer. 770 00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,940 S1: Coach, one of the other choices is talking about full surrender, 771 00:40:44,940 --> 00:40:47,420 S1: choosing Jesus. I want to ask you about that. Lauren 772 00:40:47,420 --> 00:40:50,180 S1: talked about that day where she really felt that that 773 00:40:50,180 --> 00:40:54,100 S1: was the moment she was completely surrendered to Christ. You know, 774 00:40:54,140 --> 00:40:56,220 S1: you're in a position where people could say, come on, 775 00:40:56,260 --> 00:40:59,340 S1: you know better than that. You know, these were ignorant Bedouins. 776 00:40:59,620 --> 00:41:03,140 S1: Oral tradition, bunch of mistakes. No right thinking person in 777 00:41:03,140 --> 00:41:06,700 S1: the 21st century believes any of that stuff. Why did 778 00:41:06,700 --> 00:41:14,380 S1: you choose Jesus? Coach, are you there? 779 00:41:16,100 --> 00:41:16,779 S6: Did we lose him? 780 00:41:16,780 --> 00:41:17,100 S5: I'm sorry. 781 00:41:17,500 --> 00:41:18,379 S7: Yes, that's what. 782 00:41:18,380 --> 00:41:22,580 S5: I was saying. I, I saw that lived out by 783 00:41:22,580 --> 00:41:25,700 S5: my parents. And more importantly, I saw it lived out 784 00:41:25,700 --> 00:41:29,220 S5: by some men that I really held in high admiration. 785 00:41:29,260 --> 00:41:32,980 S5: My Pittsburgh Steeler teammates, my mom and dad preached that 786 00:41:32,980 --> 00:41:35,339 S5: into me, but it really didn't sink in. I was 787 00:41:35,340 --> 00:41:38,379 S5: one of those boys who I loved sports and that 788 00:41:38,380 --> 00:41:40,779 S5: was my idol, so to speak, for a number of years. 789 00:41:40,780 --> 00:41:44,130 S5: But I got to Pittsburgh and I saw some men 790 00:41:44,170 --> 00:41:46,890 S5: who were at the top of their profession, but they 791 00:41:46,930 --> 00:41:50,850 S5: were the most sold out Christian athletes I had ever seen. 792 00:41:51,370 --> 00:41:54,569 S5: My roommate was a young man named Donnie Shell, and 793 00:41:54,570 --> 00:41:57,250 S5: he modeled that for me. He said, hey, if you 794 00:41:57,250 --> 00:42:00,850 S5: want success in life, you want real significance. It's not 795 00:42:00,850 --> 00:42:02,650 S5: going to be Super Bowl rings. It's not going to 796 00:42:02,650 --> 00:42:05,970 S5: be money. It's going to be serving this Jesus that 797 00:42:05,969 --> 00:42:08,890 S5: that is my Savior. And that's when it really hit 798 00:42:08,890 --> 00:42:11,009 S5: home to me when I was 21 years old. And 799 00:42:11,010 --> 00:42:12,930 S5: I saw it in a group of guys that I 800 00:42:12,930 --> 00:42:13,930 S5: really admired. 801 00:42:14,690 --> 00:42:15,010 S7: Wow. 802 00:42:15,530 --> 00:42:17,570 S1: And you've never looked back since. And I want people 803 00:42:17,570 --> 00:42:21,170 S1: to understand that. Wow. You end by asking us to 804 00:42:21,210 --> 00:42:24,610 S1: choose love. We are in such a divided world right now, 805 00:42:24,610 --> 00:42:28,330 S1: and lawlessness rules the day. And we're finger pointing and 806 00:42:28,330 --> 00:42:31,730 S1: accusing and voices are raised. Love is almost lost somewhere 807 00:42:31,730 --> 00:42:34,370 S1: in the maelstrom. Lauren, how do you choose love in 808 00:42:34,370 --> 00:42:36,850 S1: a day like the ones we find ourselves today? 809 00:42:37,930 --> 00:42:39,290 S8: Well, again, it's. 810 00:42:39,390 --> 00:42:42,910 S6: That decision what we're going to do. Um, we have 811 00:42:42,910 --> 00:42:46,509 S6: many choices in life and we can decide which way 812 00:42:46,510 --> 00:42:49,390 S6: we're going to do, or we can choose love and 813 00:42:49,390 --> 00:42:53,790 S6: choose to, um, be a follower of Christ and give 814 00:42:53,790 --> 00:42:58,230 S6: our lives to him means total surrendering. And that is 815 00:42:58,270 --> 00:43:02,070 S6: a lifetime choice. It's not something that you do for 816 00:43:02,070 --> 00:43:06,670 S6: a season or, you know, a certain age in your life, 817 00:43:06,670 --> 00:43:11,270 S6: but it's once you choose love and following Christ, then 818 00:43:11,270 --> 00:43:14,469 S6: it goes on until he calls us home for eternity. 819 00:43:15,070 --> 00:43:15,390 S7: MM. 820 00:43:15,910 --> 00:43:18,270 S1: What a note to end this conversation on. We are 821 00:43:18,270 --> 00:43:23,310 S1: called to influence and occupy until he comes. We have 822 00:43:23,350 --> 00:43:26,109 S1: uncommon influence. Not because of who we are, but who 823 00:43:26,110 --> 00:43:30,110 S1: Christ is in us. This imperishable message that takes people 824 00:43:30,110 --> 00:43:33,750 S1: from death to life, from blindness to sight. And there 825 00:43:33,750 --> 00:43:35,790 S1: are a myriad of ways in which we can show 826 00:43:35,790 --> 00:43:39,260 S1: that uncommon influence. Sometimes it's on the playing field, sometimes 827 00:43:39,260 --> 00:43:42,060 S1: it's speaking at a women's group, sometimes it's talking to 828 00:43:42,060 --> 00:43:45,660 S1: the neighbor over the back fence. Regardless, that ground between 829 00:43:45,660 --> 00:43:47,899 S1: your two feet is your mission field, and you have 830 00:43:47,900 --> 00:43:53,460 S1: been given permission to share this uncommon message with uncommon influence. 831 00:43:53,500 --> 00:43:55,860 S1: I hope that you've been challenged today by the Dungey's, 832 00:43:56,020 --> 00:43:58,819 S1: and that you understand that God does call us to 833 00:43:58,860 --> 00:44:02,340 S1: join him, fully surrendered to him, and turning a dark 834 00:44:02,340 --> 00:44:07,500 S1: world upside down with uncommon influence. What a joyous, memorable hour. 835 00:44:07,500 --> 00:44:10,220 S1: Thank you Tony and Lauren. The book again is worth reading. 836 00:44:10,219 --> 00:44:13,540 S1: I strongly recommend it to you. It's called Uncommon Influence 837 00:44:13,540 --> 00:44:17,860 S1: saying yes to a purposeful life we can influence and 838 00:44:17,900 --> 00:44:20,739 S1: occupy until he comes. My thanks to you friends. So 839 00:44:20,739 --> 00:44:22,980 S1: much hope you've been encouraged and edified. Now get out 840 00:44:22,980 --> 00:44:24,779 S1: there and let your light so shine. We'll see you 841 00:44:24,780 --> 00:44:27,140 S1: next time on In the market with Janet Parshall.