WEBVTT - Fighting For Your Family’s Future – Part 2 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:04.200 Today on Bold Steps, Mark Jobe explains that God is 0:00:04.200 --> 0:00:06.840 calling you to fight for your family's future. 0:00:07.280 --> 0:00:09.160 So I want to challenge you to look at your 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.559 son and daughter and think to yourself, they have a 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:15.760 calling and a purpose and assignment of God. Since they're young, 0:00:15.760 --> 0:00:18.080 you need to train them that way, and the more 0:00:18.079 --> 0:00:22.439 I can align them, the more they'll discover their assignment. 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:38.720 Welcome to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe, senior pastor of 0:00:38.720 --> 0:00:41.680 New Life Community Church and president of Moody Bible Institute 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:44.760 in Chicago. At what age do you stop fighting for 0:00:44.760 --> 0:00:47.320 the future of your family when your kids graduate from 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:51.040 high school, college, when they get married and leave your house? Well, 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:53.680 if you're like most of us, our family lives doesn't 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:56.520 cease the moment our children turn 18. And as we 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:58.959 continue with part two of our message called fighting for 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:02.120 Your Family's Future, we'll discover that if your family is 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:05.039 functioning as God has designed, it doesn't matter how old 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:07.440 your children are. The enemy is going to have a 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:11.280 target on your backs. Our message comes from Ephesians chapter 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:14.240 six and to introduce the study as our Bible teacher, 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:15.240 Mark job. 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:21.640 The first consequence, or the first benefit, is that it 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:25.039 will go well with you. How many of you, how 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:26.520 many of you are here and say, you know I 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:30.840 want success and longevity? The Bible is saying that the 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:33.679 consequences of honoring your father and your mother is that 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:40.520 it results in success and longevity. Listen, it's not only 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:43.039 talking to 16 year olds or 14 year olds, it's 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:48.880 also talking to 45 year olds. Come on now. What 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:54.640 does honor mean? You give weight to what she says. 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:57.800 How do you honor you? Honor? By calling her up 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:00.280 and letting her know that you appreciate the fact that 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:03.290 she brought you into the world. You honor her by 0:02:03.290 --> 0:02:06.850 listening to her. Even though she may not always make sense. 0:02:06.850 --> 0:02:11.890 You honor her by valuing her, by appreciating her, by. 0:02:12.210 --> 0:02:14.690 By making sure you call her up on her birthday. 0:02:14.730 --> 0:02:18.090 Acknowledge her on Mother's Day. You honor her by letting 0:02:18.090 --> 0:02:22.210 her know she's important. That's honor. And the Bible says 0:02:22.210 --> 0:02:26.450 that part of honoring it releases something into your life 0:02:26.450 --> 0:02:30.170 that when you honor it, allows you to do better 0:02:30.169 --> 0:02:33.770 in your life. And it actually extends the days of 0:02:33.770 --> 0:02:35.810 your life. So there's a promise attached to it. There's 0:02:35.810 --> 0:02:40.250 a spiritual repercussion that falls upon your life when you 0:02:40.250 --> 0:02:45.169 honor your parents success, that it may go well with you, 0:02:45.169 --> 0:02:49.650 and longevity that you may live a long life here 0:02:49.650 --> 0:02:55.410 on earth. Number two, not only is there a battle 0:02:55.410 --> 0:02:58.970 for our heart if you're fighting for your family, but 0:02:58.970 --> 0:03:03.929 number two, there's a battle for the head. If you're 0:03:03.930 --> 0:03:07.290 going to battle for the destiny of your family, you 0:03:07.290 --> 0:03:11.210 need to battle so that you align yourself under the 0:03:11.210 --> 0:03:15.209 authority that God has placed under you. And by the way, this. 0:03:15.570 --> 0:03:18.770 If you don't teach a child in their early days 0:03:18.770 --> 0:03:21.690 to respect their parents, then they will not. They will 0:03:21.690 --> 0:03:24.850 not respect their teachers. They will not respect their bosses. 0:03:25.010 --> 0:03:27.769 They will not respect people in their family. They will 0:03:27.770 --> 0:03:31.290 live a life of disrespect, of very little disrespect towards 0:03:31.610 --> 0:03:34.130 towards those that God has placed above them. And they 0:03:34.130 --> 0:03:39.890 will have very little respect for God Himself. As you're 0:03:39.890 --> 0:03:42.570 teaching your children to obey and teaching your child to 0:03:42.610 --> 0:03:45.210 honor those that are in authority, you're also teaching them 0:03:45.210 --> 0:03:50.130 what it means to obey God. There's a powerful principle 0:03:50.130 --> 0:03:54.250 in that teaching them to obey God and submitting themselves 0:03:54.490 --> 0:03:57.090 to the life that God has called them to live. 0:03:57.530 --> 0:03:59.570 The second thing is for their head. Notice what it 0:03:59.570 --> 0:04:05.060 says in In the following verse it says fathers. By 0:04:05.060 --> 0:04:08.500 the way, that word, particularly in the Greek, is a 0:04:09.300 --> 0:04:12.300 is a word that could be translated parent. It's not 0:04:12.300 --> 0:04:14.940 exclusive to men. It says it's fathers. It could be 0:04:14.940 --> 0:04:20.420 translated husbands and wives or mothers and fathers. Fathers, do 0:04:20.420 --> 0:04:26.620 not exasperate your children. Instead, bring them up in the 0:04:26.620 --> 0:04:31.820 training and instruction of the Lord. So first of all, 0:04:31.820 --> 0:04:33.660 it says to the children, hey, learn what it means 0:04:33.660 --> 0:04:37.140 to come under authority. Learn what it means to align 0:04:37.140 --> 0:04:40.900 yourself under God's umbrella of protection. Then it speaks to 0:04:40.940 --> 0:04:43.500 the parents and it says, you know, as a parent, 0:04:44.220 --> 0:04:49.500 do not exasperate your children. The word exasperate means to 0:04:49.540 --> 0:04:54.900 cause anger in them that leads to rebellion. Do you 0:04:54.900 --> 0:04:59.460 know that as a parent, you can exasperate your child 0:04:59.460 --> 0:05:04.460 and push them towards rebellion. You say, well, pastor, how 0:05:04.460 --> 0:05:08.820 does that work? In a commentary on Colossians, John MacArthur 0:05:08.820 --> 0:05:13.500 lists nine ways that parents exasperate their children in this 0:05:13.500 --> 0:05:15.859 way and see if any of these apply to you. 0:05:17.020 --> 0:05:23.820 Number one Overprotection. You know that you can be overprotective 0:05:23.820 --> 0:05:27.140 as a parent. Have you ever heard of helicopter mothers? 0:05:28.100 --> 0:05:31.339 Some of you, your son is already 49 years old. Mijo, 0:05:31.339 --> 0:05:33.140 aren't you going to change the sweater? Aren't you going 0:05:33.180 --> 0:05:35.420 to put a jacket on? It's way too cold. Mom, 0:05:35.420 --> 0:05:37.580 I think I could dress myself. No, no, no. Go. 0:05:37.580 --> 0:05:39.660 Go change. Come on. Go change. Go get the other one. 0:05:42.020 --> 0:05:44.420 There's an appropriate protection that we need to have over 0:05:44.420 --> 0:05:47.740 our children, but there's an appropriate release as they get older. 0:05:47.740 --> 0:05:51.859 And if you try to micromanage your children over, micromanage 0:05:51.860 --> 0:05:55.940 your children and control everything they do, then your children 0:05:55.940 --> 0:05:58.620 will get to a point sometimes that they will bristle 0:05:58.620 --> 0:06:02.990 at it from overprotection protection and over micromanagement of their life. 0:06:04.310 --> 0:06:10.510 Especially mom. If your son is getting older and trying 0:06:10.510 --> 0:06:14.430 to step into manhood and feels like you're treating him 0:06:14.430 --> 0:06:18.230 like a little boy, he's going to bristle at that. 0:06:18.230 --> 0:06:21.750 Because the natural event is that you let your son 0:06:21.790 --> 0:06:25.510 become an independent man. But if you continue to treat 0:06:25.510 --> 0:06:28.790 him as a little boy, they're going to start bristling 0:06:28.790 --> 0:06:32.190 at the overprotection of mothers. Come on, mom, I'm talking 0:06:32.190 --> 0:06:36.750 to some of you now. And so there's an appropriate 0:06:36.750 --> 0:06:39.669 level of protection, but there's an appropriate level of release 0:06:39.670 --> 0:06:41.589 that needs to happen in our life so that we 0:06:41.670 --> 0:06:47.310 don't push them towards a heart of rebellion. Number two favoritism. 0:06:48.310 --> 0:06:52.030 If you are raising children and you have the tendency 0:06:52.029 --> 0:06:56.070 to compare your children with one another, you are sowing 0:06:56.110 --> 0:07:01.229 seeds of of exasperation in your heart. In other words. 0:07:01.270 --> 0:07:04.750 Can I tell you what never to do? Never never, never, never, 0:07:04.750 --> 0:07:09.870 never ever say this. Miho. Why can't you be more 0:07:09.870 --> 0:07:14.390 like your brother? Look at him. He never causes trouble. Miho, 0:07:14.430 --> 0:07:21.190 be like your brother. Don't compare your children. Number three, 0:07:22.910 --> 0:07:27.550 never depreciate their worth. I know your kids can frustrate you. 0:07:27.590 --> 0:07:31.790 How about it? Sometimes. But if you lose your cool, 0:07:31.830 --> 0:07:35.630 lose your temper, and you start saying you're never going 0:07:35.630 --> 0:07:38.230 to amount to anything, you're a loser. Just like the 0:07:38.230 --> 0:07:41.990 father that left you with your ex. My ex-husband. You're 0:07:41.990 --> 0:07:45.630 going to end up like him if you devalue the worth. 0:07:45.670 --> 0:07:47.430 You're dumb. You're never going to do it. You'll be 0:07:47.430 --> 0:07:50.150 a failure. You'll never amount to anything. You can't make it. 0:07:50.150 --> 0:07:52.750 I can't believe you're this. You're not a man, man. 0:07:52.750 --> 0:07:54.630 I'll be a man. You're just a little baby. You 0:07:54.630 --> 0:07:59.510 need to take on responsibility. Words like that. They belittle 0:07:59.910 --> 0:08:03.600 a son or a daughter, and they start creating a 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:07.480 resentment in their heart towards you that could lead to 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:14.120 exasperation that leads to a heart of rebellion. Those words 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:18.840 usually come out in anger, usually come out in frustration. 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:22.600 But when you belittle your children, especially if you embarrass 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:24.440 them in front of other people or call their names 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:26.560 in front of people, it can lead to a heart 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:30.560 of rebellion that wants to get away from authority and 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:33.480 sow seeds in that area. It can lead to exasperation. 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:37.640 Number four unrealistic expectations. When you set the bar so 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:40.000 high and no matter what they do. Hey, mom, I 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:43.600 got straight A's. Yeah, but it wasn't A+. When you 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:45.720 set the bar so high and it's always what they 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:49.680 haven't accomplished, and you can't celebrate the accomplishments that they 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:54.959 have accomplished, then it tends to exasperate them. Number five 0:08:55.280 --> 0:08:59.640 failing to show affection. Listen, there's a part of our 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:02.560 parenting that needs to have the power to show warmth 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:05.680 and affection. How do you show affection? You show affection 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:09.960 by your words. You. You show affection by physical affirmation 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:13.640 as well. Some people are really good at this and 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:17.520 some people are terrible at it. I sat down and 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:20.440 talked with a father who weepingly told me I have 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:25.840 four daughters and I've never told them that I'm. He 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:28.560 said I'm bad at telling them that I love them. 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:32.120 I'm bad at hugging them. I said, how bad are 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:35.040 you at it? He said, I've never done it once 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:40.680 in my life. And he wept with sadness at the 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:45.920 fact that he had never hugged his daughters, never told him, honey, 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:48.640 I love you. And I said, bro, you need to 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:51.440 break that cycle big time. Your daughters will be running 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:54.400 to the arms of the first man that gives them affirmation. 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:56.520 If they can't figure out that you love them, that 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:58.319 you care for them, that the first man that they 0:09:58.320 --> 0:09:59.440 ever love is you. 0:10:06.970 --> 0:10:09.690 You're listening to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. Now, don't 0:10:09.690 --> 0:10:11.970 go anywhere. We'll be right back with the remainder of 0:10:11.970 --> 0:10:15.210 today's powerful message after a brief break. If our program 0:10:15.210 --> 0:10:17.370 has made a difference in your life, we'd be thrilled 0:10:17.370 --> 0:10:21.209 to hear about it. We deeply value your testimonies, your questions, 0:10:21.210 --> 0:10:24.210 prayer needs, and occasionally we feature them right here on 0:10:24.210 --> 0:10:26.370 the air. And Mark, I'd like to share one of those. 0:10:26.610 --> 0:10:29.329 This is a heartfelt voice message we recently received from 0:10:29.330 --> 0:10:32.490 a listener named Matt, who's reaching out with a prayer request. 0:10:33.290 --> 0:10:38.170 Hi, my name is Matt and I'm in Georgia. I 0:10:38.170 --> 0:10:42.730 was recently recently got out of prison in October. I've 0:10:42.730 --> 0:10:46.050 been listening to Doctor Jobe for a couple of years now. 0:10:46.090 --> 0:10:51.010 I guess he's helped me a lot. He's really helped 0:10:51.010 --> 0:10:55.410 me a lot. And, um, just I'm asking for some 0:10:55.410 --> 0:10:59.530 prayer as well. Um, trying to get back on my feet, 0:11:00.809 --> 0:11:06.010 So thank you for the ministry and thank you for 0:11:06.010 --> 0:11:09.530 the bold steps, the Moody Radio app and just pray 0:11:09.530 --> 0:11:11.410 for me and my family, please. 0:11:11.450 --> 0:11:16.370 Thank you Matt, thank you for leaving that message. First 0:11:16.370 --> 0:11:19.770 of all, I want to say, in my ministry for 0:11:19.770 --> 0:11:25.530 years I've mentored, worked with, dealt with, especially men that 0:11:25.530 --> 0:11:27.969 are recently out of prison. And I, I know you 0:11:27.970 --> 0:11:32.209 know this, but it's not easy. It's a new chapter. 0:11:32.730 --> 0:11:35.970 There's a lot of the same old temptations out there. 0:11:36.210 --> 0:11:38.170 But I want to let you know, Matt, I want 0:11:38.210 --> 0:11:41.809 to encourage you. You have power in Jesus Christ to 0:11:41.850 --> 0:11:45.929 overcome your past. You have been called to be a 0:11:45.929 --> 0:11:49.530 cycle breaker. What you were does not determine who you'll become. 0:11:49.690 --> 0:11:51.730 So I want you to find a good church. I 0:11:51.730 --> 0:11:54.330 want you to get involved in a Bible study. I 0:11:54.330 --> 0:11:57.450 want you to look for a mentor. Be honest with 0:11:57.450 --> 0:11:59.929 them and tell them I'm changing. But I need help 0:11:59.929 --> 0:12:02.940 to be able to walk in this direction, get plugged 0:12:02.940 --> 0:12:07.140 into a community, don't get sucked back into the old friends, 0:12:07.179 --> 0:12:10.060 keep accountable. And three years from now, you're going to 0:12:10.059 --> 0:12:12.940 look back and say, I don't even recognize the mat 0:12:12.940 --> 0:12:15.780 that I am right now. So, father, I pray for Matt. 0:12:15.780 --> 0:12:21.340 Give him strength, encouragement, give him a boldness that he 0:12:21.340 --> 0:12:24.819 didn't know he had, and give him the sense God 0:12:24.820 --> 0:12:28.380 of of your presence, God, even at this dark time. 0:12:28.380 --> 0:12:30.780 I pray this in Jesus name, Amen. 0:12:31.179 --> 0:12:34.460 Man, I so appreciate your phone call and like Matt, 0:12:34.500 --> 0:12:37.740 you have a story to tell. You may have a question. 0:12:37.740 --> 0:12:39.860 You certainly probably have a prayer request you'd like to 0:12:39.860 --> 0:12:43.819 share with bold steps. Simply visit our website bold steps. Org. 0:12:43.940 --> 0:12:46.699 Or as Matt did, give us a call and leave 0:12:46.700 --> 0:12:48.819 your message on a recorded line. It's great to hear 0:12:48.820 --> 0:12:54.660 your voice. (312) 329-2011. We'd like to prevent this from being 0:12:54.660 --> 0:12:59.980 a one way conversation. Call us at (312) 329-2011 and you 0:13:00.059 --> 0:13:04.780 can email us bold steps at Moody's. Mark, thank you 0:13:04.780 --> 0:13:07.420 for that prayer. Let's pick up now with today's message. 0:13:07.420 --> 0:13:09.940 You've titled fighting for Your Family's Future. 0:13:15.020 --> 0:13:17.140 So you need to show your kids affection. Listen, your 0:13:17.140 --> 0:13:19.380 kids aren't too old for you to show affection to them. 0:13:20.380 --> 0:13:22.340 Some of us are real good at showing affection when 0:13:22.340 --> 0:13:24.460 they're young, but when they're old, we sort of get 0:13:24.500 --> 0:13:27.580 nervous about it. And I know your kids don't like 0:13:27.860 --> 0:13:30.020 as they get older, especially young men showing affection. I 0:13:30.020 --> 0:13:32.220 used to threaten my boys when I dropped them off 0:13:32.220 --> 0:13:34.860 at school. At high school. Hey. Come over, watch it. 0:13:34.860 --> 0:13:36.260 I'm going to give you a big kiss on the 0:13:36.260 --> 0:13:38.100 cheek and a big hug. They said, dad, don't you 0:13:38.100 --> 0:13:45.579 know people are looking? Number six. Lack of standards. You know, 0:13:45.580 --> 0:13:49.340 there's something about setting standards in your household that give 0:13:49.340 --> 0:13:53.020 kids a security and a compass for right or wrong. 0:13:53.900 --> 0:13:57.740 Kids that grow up with no standards, no rules. No 0:13:57.740 --> 0:14:00.710 you can you can't that are just given freedom here. 0:14:00.710 --> 0:14:04.070 There's food in the refrigerator and a remote on the table. 0:14:04.150 --> 0:14:06.870 I'll see you tomorrow. They grow up with a sense 0:14:06.870 --> 0:14:09.350 of I don't know what's right or what's wrong, and 0:14:09.350 --> 0:14:12.510 it creates a greater sense of insecurity. Not security in 0:14:12.510 --> 0:14:15.510 their life. If you have no standards or rules that 0:14:15.510 --> 0:14:19.550 everybody knows, these are the rules of our household. Number 0:14:19.550 --> 0:14:24.110 seven criticism. When you're constantly negative, negative, negative, negative about 0:14:24.110 --> 0:14:26.270 everything that they do. In fact, can I give you 0:14:26.270 --> 0:14:28.990 this rule? Listen, parents, I know it's easy at certain 0:14:28.990 --> 0:14:31.990 ages just to say, pick up your clothes, wash. Don't 0:14:31.990 --> 0:14:34.150 do this. Do the dishes, do your homework. How come 0:14:34.150 --> 0:14:35.830 you're doing this? Don't stay out too late. What are 0:14:35.830 --> 0:14:38.790 you watching? And you can feel like a real nag. 0:14:40.310 --> 0:14:42.190 And so here's what I want you. I encourage you 0:14:42.190 --> 0:14:44.270 to do. For everything negative that you say I want 0:14:44.270 --> 0:14:45.870 you to put in your mind. And I'm going to 0:14:45.870 --> 0:14:49.670 say something positive. I realize at a certain stage of 0:14:49.670 --> 0:14:52.990 my children's life that we were saying, don't, don't, don't do, do, do. 0:14:53.030 --> 0:14:55.150 How come, how come, how come? And I realize that 0:14:55.190 --> 0:15:00.040 it sounded really always picking on them. And so we determined. 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:01.720 My wife and I determined. We sat down and we said, 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:03.440 we're going to try it for every negative thing that 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.200 we say, for every instructive thing that we say, we're 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:08.360 also going to try to do a positive thing as well. 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:11.400 Some days we really had to try to struggle with 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:25.240 a positive thing to say. Number eight neglect. And that self-explanatory. 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:29.920 But your kids need you. Period. Number nine excessive discipline. 0:15:30.760 --> 0:15:33.120 On the other hand, sometimes there's a lack of standards 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:37.880 on the other side, sometimes there's excessive discipline. Some of 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:42.520 you grew up old school and your parents used excessive discipline. 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:47.600 Physical discipline like they would be in jail today. I 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:50.160 hear some of the stories, like with what kind of 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:56.520 stick and how bloody were you and. And so there's 0:15:56.560 --> 0:16:00.000 appropriate discipline and there's conversational discipline. There's a lot of 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:04.120 creative disciplines, but but excessive discipline can also create a 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:09.200 sense of exasperation in the kids that can lead to rebellion. 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.000 And so he says, fathers, do not exasperate your children, 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:17.680 but instead, and he gives the opposite. These things exasperate 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:21.880 your children. That lead them to anger and that lead 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:24.560 them oftentimes to say, I don't care about my parents, 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:26.040 don't talk to me. I don't want to know what 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:30.520 you say. And lead to this, this adversarial relationship with 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:34.760 your parents. But he says instead, the opposite of that, 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:39.880 he says, is to bring them up in the training 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:45.280 and the instruction of the Lord. So instead of exasperating 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:49.520 them by practicing these things, do the opposite and invest 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:52.320 in their lives by doing two things, by making sure 0:16:52.320 --> 0:16:56.160 that you're training them, and two, making sure that you're 0:16:56.160 --> 0:17:03.040 providing instruction in the Lord. Remember alignment positions you for assignment. 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:07.280 Each of your children have a calling and a destiny 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:10.760 of God. If they get seeds of rebellion in their heart, 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:13.800 they'll run from their calling. They'll run from their assignment. 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:16.439 It may take them a long, long time before they 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:19.800 they circle back to their original calling. So I want 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:21.879 to challenge you to look at your son and daughter 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:25.360 and think to yourself, my son and my daughter, they 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:28.719 have a calling and a purpose and assignment of God. 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:31.560 Since they're young, you need to train them that way. 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:34.800 God has a purpose and a plan and an assignment 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:38.760 for them, and the more I can align them, the 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:44.840 more they'll discover their assignment. What does training mean? Training 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:50.200 has the idea of corrective discipline. Hebrews chapter 12 verse 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:52.720 11 says no discipline seems pleasant at the time, but 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:57.200 painful later on. However, it produces a harvest of righteousness 0:17:57.200 --> 0:18:00.170 and peace for those who have been trained by it. 0:18:00.650 --> 0:18:05.170 I'm talking about boundaries and consequences. That's how we train people. Repetition, 0:18:05.170 --> 0:18:09.690 boundaries and consequences. Listen, I've had mothers sometimes bring their 0:18:09.690 --> 0:18:11.330 sons to me and say, could you cast the demon 0:18:11.330 --> 0:18:13.330 out of my son? Because he he just he's out 0:18:13.369 --> 0:18:19.650 of control. Can I tell you, nine times out of ten, 0:18:19.650 --> 0:18:23.970 there's no demon. They don't need exorcism here. I know 0:18:23.970 --> 0:18:26.770 they act like it sometimes, but what they really need 0:18:26.810 --> 0:18:32.170 is your consistent training and discipline in the house. The 0:18:32.170 --> 0:18:35.370 reason that your sons and daughters don't listen to your 0:18:35.369 --> 0:18:42.129 rules is because you have rules. But there's little to 0:18:42.170 --> 0:18:47.770 no consequences if they break the rules. Or there's consequences 0:18:47.770 --> 0:18:53.250 if you're mad, but not when you're not mad. Consistent 0:18:53.369 --> 0:19:01.820 discipline with consequences, shapes and effects our behavior. And then lastly, 0:19:01.859 --> 0:19:05.980 it not only says train, but it says instruct. The 0:19:05.980 --> 0:19:09.860 idea of instruction has to do with teaching. This is 0:19:09.859 --> 0:19:13.780 a positive impartation into their life by what you say 0:19:14.580 --> 0:19:19.580 and by how you live. Let me be clear about this. 0:19:20.180 --> 0:19:26.379 The church is a support to the family. But listen, 0:19:26.380 --> 0:19:30.740 moms and dads, it's not the church that trains your 0:19:30.740 --> 0:19:35.380 child to be a follower of Jesus. You. You train 0:19:35.540 --> 0:19:39.460 your children to be followers of Jesus. We have them 0:19:39.460 --> 0:19:41.500 on an hour and a half on Sunday morning and 0:19:41.500 --> 0:19:46.699 Sunday school. You have them all week long. We can support, 0:19:46.700 --> 0:19:51.340 we can encourage. But the biggest influence on your children 0:19:52.060 --> 0:19:56.300 at this stage of life is you. So I would 0:19:56.300 --> 0:20:01.100 encourage you and challenge you to impart into their life. 0:20:01.660 --> 0:20:05.619 If your children are small. Small? Can I tell you this, fathers, there's. 0:20:05.900 --> 0:20:09.940 I want to strongly, strongly urge you to. Every evening, 0:20:09.980 --> 0:20:13.220 be at home for dinner and have have a family 0:20:13.220 --> 0:20:16.020 dinner together, especially if your children are small. I want 0:20:16.060 --> 0:20:19.100 to challenge you to that. And at your family dinner 0:20:19.100 --> 0:20:21.420 when your children are sitting around the table, talk. Turn 0:20:21.420 --> 0:20:25.020 off the television. There's no radio, there's no television. You're 0:20:25.020 --> 0:20:28.700 not all sitting at the family table looking at the middle. No, no, no. 0:20:28.740 --> 0:20:33.100 You're you're sitting there talking with each other. And some 0:20:33.100 --> 0:20:34.580 of you, I want to challenge you to even go 0:20:34.580 --> 0:20:37.060 further than this. If you're a dad, I'd like for 0:20:37.060 --> 0:20:39.420 you to be the guy that prays over the meal. 0:20:40.420 --> 0:20:42.820 I'd like for you to initiate. I'd like for you 0:20:42.820 --> 0:20:45.380 to say, hey, we're going to bow our heads right now, 0:20:45.380 --> 0:20:48.020 and we're going to thank God for this meal. And 0:20:48.020 --> 0:20:51.300 some of you, if your children are small, still and 0:20:51.300 --> 0:20:53.500 at home, I want to challenge you to pull out 0:20:53.500 --> 0:20:56.939 the children's Bible and say, hey, kids, we're going to 0:20:56.940 --> 0:21:00.619 read a Bible story right now because your children need 0:21:00.619 --> 0:21:03.100 to see the man in the house getting into the 0:21:03.100 --> 0:21:06.500 Word of God, reading the Bible, and taking initiative in 0:21:06.500 --> 0:21:13.260 spiritual things. I want your little boys to grow up 0:21:13.260 --> 0:21:16.820 knowing that men, real men, can be leaders of their household. 0:21:17.020 --> 0:21:19.020 I want them to grow up knowing that. Yeah, my 0:21:19.020 --> 0:21:22.900 dad prays and reads the Bible and he's a man's man. 0:21:22.900 --> 0:21:25.020 I want your kids to know that. I want them 0:21:25.020 --> 0:21:27.619 to see that. I want men to step into that 0:21:27.619 --> 0:21:31.140 role and realize that they have that call upon their 0:21:31.140 --> 0:21:35.540 life as well. Train them and teach them in the 0:21:35.540 --> 0:21:40.060 ways of God. I believe that God is calling some 0:21:40.060 --> 0:21:46.859 of you. To fight for the destiny of your family. 0:21:48.060 --> 0:21:51.419 You may be a son, or a daughter, or a 0:21:51.420 --> 0:21:55.340 parent or a grandfather. You may have siblings that have 0:21:55.340 --> 0:21:58.340 walked away from God. You may have children that are 0:21:58.340 --> 0:22:01.869 prodigal right now, you may feel like your family is 0:22:01.869 --> 0:22:03.669 falling apart. And I want to ask you this question 0:22:03.670 --> 0:22:05.670 who's going to stand in the gap and say, I'm 0:22:05.670 --> 0:22:08.750 going to fight for the destiny and future of my family? 0:22:08.830 --> 0:22:11.510 Some of you need to break the cycle of rebellion. 0:22:12.869 --> 0:22:15.830 It's been handed down over and over and over to you. 0:22:16.070 --> 0:22:18.270 You look around at your cousins and your nieces and 0:22:18.270 --> 0:22:20.390 your nephews and other people, and they made a mess 0:22:20.390 --> 0:22:22.790 of their life at an early age or are going 0:22:22.790 --> 0:22:27.470 down wrong patterns. And listen, someone in your household needs 0:22:27.470 --> 0:22:31.070 to say, we're going to break the cycle of rebellion. 0:22:32.230 --> 0:22:38.110 We're going to break the cycle of rebellion. We're going 0:22:38.150 --> 0:22:40.869 to raise a new generation that's not full of teen pregnancy, 0:22:40.869 --> 0:22:43.390 and not full of divorces, and not full of addiction 0:22:43.390 --> 0:22:46.230 and not full of depression and people that are making 0:22:46.230 --> 0:22:48.110 a mess of their life in an early age. We're 0:22:48.109 --> 0:22:51.230 going to break the cycle in Jesus name, and we're 0:22:51.230 --> 0:22:54.510 going to start a new cycle in my family, in 0:22:54.510 --> 0:22:58.909 my household that will last for the next 20 generations. 0:22:58.910 --> 0:23:00.750 In Jesus name. We're going to do that. 0:23:07.190 --> 0:23:10.590 The Bible teaching of Mark Jobe on bold steps. Mark, 0:23:10.630 --> 0:23:13.710 you mentioned earlier that it's not possible to know every situation, 0:23:13.710 --> 0:23:16.750 but I'm sure for most families who are dealing with rebellion, 0:23:16.750 --> 0:23:18.990 there is a cycle that needs to be broken here. 0:23:19.510 --> 0:23:22.070 Yes. And if you listen to Bold Steps for a while, 0:23:22.070 --> 0:23:26.429 you've heard me say we're raising a generation of cycle breakers, 0:23:26.430 --> 0:23:30.149 legacy makers, in part because I know that there's a 0:23:30.150 --> 0:23:35.070 lot of listeners that have never seen a healthy marriage 0:23:35.070 --> 0:23:39.109 up close. You weren't raised in a family that followed. God, 0:23:39.109 --> 0:23:42.469 you're a first generation believer. And so it's up to 0:23:42.470 --> 0:23:46.470 you to break some cycles that are toxic and start 0:23:46.470 --> 0:23:49.630 a legacy that is godly. 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