WEBVTT - The Power of Role-Parenting – Part 1 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:03.680 Today on bold steps with Mark job. We're learning to 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:04.920 obey authority. 0:00:05.640 --> 0:00:08.440 The way that your children learn to submit and obey 0:00:08.440 --> 0:00:11.320 and follow rules will affect every area of their life, 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:15.000 and ultimately, they will also respond to God. Unless they 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:18.120 learn how to receive authority, they will spend the rest 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:22.720 of their life rebelling and fighting and never submitting and 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:25.560 usually spiraling out of control. 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:41.520 Welcome to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe, president of Moody 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:44.440 Bible Institute and the senior pastor, New Life Community Church 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:47.199 in Chicago. I'm Wayne Shepherd. We've been working our way 0:00:47.200 --> 0:00:49.640 through the book of Ephesians with our series Mark, and 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:51.480 today we arrive at chapter six. 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:57.160 Yeah, in chapter six is just a powerful reminder both 0:00:57.160 --> 0:01:02.520 to children and to parents that your children need boundaries. 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:06.160 And it's early on in life that they start learning 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:09.000 some of the big lessons that carry over into our 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:12.560 adult life, like how to respond to God's authority, how 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:16.720 to come under authority, how to lead. Uh, these are crucial, 0:01:16.720 --> 0:01:20.840 formative years. And God has a lot to say about parenting. 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:22.800 Yeah, we're going to get into it today here again, 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:26.039 Ephesians chapter six. Let's get started. Our message from Mark 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:29.160 the power of role parenting on bold steps. 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:33.440 You know, it's challenging to be a parent, isn't it? 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:38.320 When my daughter was born, the thing about it is 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:42.600 she did not come with an instruction manual. I mean, 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:45.679 or if she did, I missed it. I was there 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:48.160 at the birth, and when she came out, it was like, 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:51.440 I have a daughter, I have a daughter. I thought 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:53.280 she was a boy. First of all, she was going 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:55.559 to be a boy. And so when they said, it's 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:59.440 a girl, I said, it's a girl. My wife was 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:03.490 kind of under drugs. Uh, you know that they give 0:02:03.530 --> 0:02:06.730 at birth. Not regular drugs, just birth drugs. 0:02:07.330 --> 0:02:08.850 And she says a girl. 0:02:09.090 --> 0:02:12.130 And I'm like a girl. Okay. And there was, like, 0:02:12.130 --> 0:02:15.410 a switch of gears, like, you know, I had spent 0:02:15.410 --> 0:02:19.330 the entire pregnancy saying, hey, champion. Hey, buddy. How you doing? 0:02:19.370 --> 0:02:21.930 I'm going to come out and we're going to pal 0:02:21.930 --> 0:02:24.889 around together. When was a girl that just changed gears? 0:02:24.889 --> 0:02:26.770 It was like, hey, don't look at my girl. I 0:02:26.770 --> 0:02:32.330 know it was real protective, but there was no instruction manual. 0:02:32.330 --> 0:02:36.730 And I remember feeling this feeling of, wow, I hope 0:02:36.730 --> 0:02:39.570 I don't mess her up. I mean, I hope I 0:02:39.570 --> 0:02:42.850 know how to be a good parent. I hope that 0:02:43.370 --> 0:02:46.290 when they first gave her to me, they said, you 0:02:46.290 --> 0:02:50.130 may cut the umbilical cord. I'm like, uh, okay, I'll 0:02:50.130 --> 0:02:52.490 cut it. But, you know, I don't want to cut 0:02:52.490 --> 0:02:54.690 too close. I may cut something off that I shouldn't 0:02:54.690 --> 0:02:57.050 cut off. And so and then they said, okay, you 0:02:57.050 --> 0:02:59.930 can hold her now. And I remember saying, well, how 0:02:59.930 --> 0:03:02.369 do I hold her, though? I don't want to hold 0:03:02.370 --> 0:03:04.610 her the wrong way. Just because I was a new parent, 0:03:04.610 --> 0:03:08.890 I didn't know. It only took me a few months 0:03:08.889 --> 0:03:11.290 and I was holding her this way, this way, this way. 0:03:11.330 --> 0:03:13.889 I mean, I got used to it, became an expert. 0:03:15.250 --> 0:03:17.169 When you're a new parent, by the way, you're really 0:03:17.169 --> 0:03:20.329 insecure about how you're going to raise your kids and 0:03:20.330 --> 0:03:25.730 your real protective of them, right? I remember our first child. 0:03:25.730 --> 0:03:30.170 We had a monitor beside their crib. We wanted to 0:03:30.169 --> 0:03:33.810 make sure that if she woke up or anything happened, 0:03:33.810 --> 0:03:35.970 we could hear. How many of you had baby monitors 0:03:35.970 --> 0:03:38.650 besides the crib. Okay. So you'd turn up the volume. 0:03:38.650 --> 0:03:41.770 But my wife wanted it so high. I would wake 0:03:41.770 --> 0:03:44.010 up thinking there was a dragon in the room, because 0:03:44.010 --> 0:03:48.530 I'd hear it was just my baby sleeping. The volume 0:03:48.530 --> 0:03:52.930 was so high. By the time our third one came around, 0:03:52.930 --> 0:03:55.570 we turned it off. He can cry what he wants. 0:03:55.570 --> 0:03:57.410 He needs to get used to sleeping on his own. 0:03:57.450 --> 0:04:00.130 You know, you kind of. You become a little bit 0:04:00.130 --> 0:04:02.660 more used to. You're not as protective as like, he'll 0:04:02.660 --> 0:04:08.300 make it. He can cry himself to sleep. But children 0:04:08.300 --> 0:04:12.140 aren't always easy to raise, in part because we're imperfect people. 0:04:12.140 --> 0:04:17.180 So therefore imperfect people trying to raise little lives. Sometimes 0:04:17.180 --> 0:04:20.620 we have our challenges. I heard of one father who 0:04:20.620 --> 0:04:24.219 was scolding his young son for not doing his homework, 0:04:25.140 --> 0:04:27.540 and his nine year old son said, well, if I 0:04:27.540 --> 0:04:31.660 just had a computer, it would be much easier. The 0:04:31.660 --> 0:04:35.419 father said, you don't need a computer when Abraham Lincoln 0:04:35.420 --> 0:04:42.180 was your age. He studied by candlelight in a log cabin. 0:04:43.700 --> 0:04:47.140 This was a smart boy. So he responded. And when 0:04:47.180 --> 0:04:49.180 he when and when he was your age, he was 0:04:49.180 --> 0:04:53.700 the president of the United States. So you gotta you 0:04:53.740 --> 0:04:57.339 gotta watch it. Because these kids are pretty smart these days. 0:05:00.460 --> 0:05:02.619 But today I want to begin reading in verse six 0:05:02.620 --> 0:05:07.260 of Ephesians chapter six, it says, children, obey your parents 0:05:07.260 --> 0:05:11.860 in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father 0:05:12.660 --> 0:05:16.539 and mother, which is the first commandment, with a promise 0:05:17.100 --> 0:05:19.460 that it may go well with you, and that you 0:05:19.460 --> 0:05:25.940 may enjoy long life on earth. Fathers, do not exasperate 0:05:26.620 --> 0:05:31.580 your children. Instead, bring them up in the training and 0:05:31.580 --> 0:05:35.900 instruction of the Lord. There's only four verses here this morning, 0:05:35.900 --> 0:05:38.540 but these are power packed verses that I want to 0:05:38.540 --> 0:05:41.900 focus on for the remaining time that we have. I 0:05:41.900 --> 0:05:44.340 want to start out just by. If you're taking notes, 0:05:44.339 --> 0:05:47.260 write this down understanding the power of your rule number one. 0:05:47.940 --> 0:05:51.580 A son or daughter's attitudes towards parents will affect the 0:05:51.580 --> 0:05:58.659 quality and the longevity of their life. It says children, 0:05:58.660 --> 0:06:02.030 obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 0:06:03.750 --> 0:06:05.950 I looked up the word children there because I wanted 0:06:05.950 --> 0:06:08.270 to make sure what we were talking about, what age 0:06:08.270 --> 0:06:11.469 group we were talking about. And I discovered that this 0:06:11.470 --> 0:06:16.110 really is not talking to small children. It really the 0:06:16.110 --> 0:06:22.870 translation says offspring obey your parents in the Lord. And 0:06:22.870 --> 0:06:25.110 so I started to think, well, how old does someone 0:06:25.110 --> 0:06:30.110 have to be to continue to fall under the category 0:06:30.110 --> 0:06:34.270 of having to obey your parents? Now we understand that 0:06:34.270 --> 0:06:36.830 a four year old is supposed to obey their parents. 0:06:37.470 --> 0:06:39.870 We understand that a 12 year old is supposed to 0:06:39.870 --> 0:06:44.630 obey their parents. What about an 18 year old? 21 0:06:44.630 --> 0:06:48.230 year old. What about a 25 year old? What about 0:06:48.230 --> 0:06:51.390 a 40 year old? I mean, when does it stop? 0:06:51.910 --> 0:06:55.750 Is this only for children under the age of 12, 0:06:56.310 --> 0:07:00.589 or does this go all the way up into your 50, 60, 70? Okay. 0:07:00.910 --> 0:07:04.830 Good question. It refers to offspring and so it's not 0:07:04.830 --> 0:07:08.670 age related. However, the latter part of this verse helps 0:07:08.670 --> 0:07:11.070 explain the first part of this verse, because the first 0:07:11.070 --> 0:07:14.350 part of this verse says, children, obey your parents in 0:07:14.350 --> 0:07:16.470 the Lord, for this is right. And then it goes 0:07:16.470 --> 0:07:20.429 on to say, honor your father and mother. So there 0:07:20.430 --> 0:07:24.830 is a point of transition that we go from merely 0:07:24.830 --> 0:07:30.030 obeying to honoring. The word honor means that we give weight. 0:07:30.510 --> 0:07:33.310 The literal word in the Greek means that we give 0:07:33.310 --> 0:07:37.910 weight to something. In other words, we give value to something. 0:07:37.950 --> 0:07:41.790 The opposite of honor is to take lightly. Someone says 0:07:41.790 --> 0:07:43.710 something and you just kind of dismiss it. You take 0:07:43.710 --> 0:07:47.790 it lightly. Honor means you take it seriously, that you 0:07:47.790 --> 0:07:51.590 give value to something. That when someone gives you their opinion, you, you, 0:07:51.630 --> 0:07:56.390 you really value it. And it's an important weight in you. 0:07:56.430 --> 0:08:00.110 You you add value to the way you treat them. 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:03.640 you take them seriously and the way you approach them 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:06.760 and talk to them and deal with them, that's what 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:09.960 it means. To honor those is a point in our 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:13.600 life where we transition from obedience to honoring. What is 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:17.400 that point? Well, the Bible's not very clear and specific 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:20.800 about that point. However, I think there are some principles 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:24.160 found in Scripture that can help us there. It refers 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:28.320 to offspring. So therefore, here's how I would break it down. 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:34.280 As long as you are living in your parents household 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:40.360 and financially dependent upon your parents, you live under their 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:45.520 household and you are financially dependent upon your parents, then 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:50.120 probably you fall into the category of obeying your parents. 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:56.880 Once you become independent and out of the household, financially independent, 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.680 living on your own, then you transition to the Into 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:03.000 the category of honoring your parents, which means you no 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:06.760 longer have to obey them, but you have to honor them. 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:12.439 So yeah, some of you are thinking through that right now. 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:16.000 So exactly. So if you are 18 years old right 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:18.800 now and you couldn't wait to turn 18 so you 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:21.200 could tell your mom and dad, hey, I'm 18 now. 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:24.520 I have no curfew. I can kind of do. I'm 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:28.720 not a kid anymore. Then I'm going to ask you 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:32.240 to pause and think a second. As long as you're 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:36.160 under your parents roof, as long as they're paying the bills. 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:40.679 As long as you're financially dependent upon them. Whose household 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:45.600 is that? That's Mom and Dad's household. And as long 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.160 as you're in Mom and Dad's household and dependent on 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:52.120 them and financially dependent on them, then you follow their 0:09:52.120 --> 0:09:56.560 rules because it's their household. You say, well, pastor, I'm 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:58.840 40 years old. I'm still living at home, still depend 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:00.450 on my parents. Well, then you need to get a 0:10:00.450 --> 0:10:03.850 job and get a life, sir, because it's about time 0:10:03.850 --> 0:10:08.130 you start supporting your parents and not living off your parents. Okay. 0:10:10.610 --> 0:10:12.810 So as long as you're there now, if you want independence, 0:10:12.809 --> 0:10:15.210 I run into this all the time. I run into 0:10:15.250 --> 0:10:18.210 a 21 year old that's living at their household and 0:10:18.250 --> 0:10:20.290 is at odds with their parents because they're saying, hey, 0:10:20.290 --> 0:10:22.610 I'm 21, I can drink, I can do whatever I can, 0:10:22.650 --> 0:10:24.250 you know, go in the basement, I can smoke a 0:10:24.250 --> 0:10:26.209 little whatever I want to smoke, I can drink, have 0:10:26.210 --> 0:10:28.569 my friends over party because I'm 21. You can't tell 0:10:28.570 --> 0:10:31.130 me anything. And I'm saying, listen, as long as you're 0:10:31.130 --> 0:10:33.730 part of your parents household, you're under their roof. You're 0:10:33.730 --> 0:10:36.969 financially dependent upon them. Then you are still under the 0:10:36.970 --> 0:10:42.089 obligation to obey them because it is their house, their rules, 0:10:42.090 --> 0:10:45.450 their household. If you're grown up enough to live on 0:10:45.450 --> 0:10:55.730 your own, then go live on your own. You know 0:10:55.730 --> 0:10:57.730 how many kids have gone on to live on their own, 0:10:57.730 --> 0:11:00.650 and in four months they're back knocking at their the door. Mom, 0:11:00.650 --> 0:11:03.170 can I move in? Uh, why are you back? I 0:11:03.210 --> 0:11:06.170 couldn't pay my rent, and I realized I had a 0:11:06.170 --> 0:11:09.170 lot better at home than it had over here. And 0:11:09.210 --> 0:11:14.010 life's expensive. And my. My laundry's piled up. I've lost 0:11:14.010 --> 0:11:18.170 £10 because there's no food in the refrigerator, and they're 0:11:18.170 --> 0:11:21.370 back at home. Listen, parents, if it's your household, you 0:11:21.370 --> 0:11:24.849 set the rules in your household and listen. The directive 0:11:24.850 --> 0:11:28.089 here is towards the children. He's not addressing parents. Paul 0:11:28.090 --> 0:11:32.530 is actually addressing children or young adults. And he's saying, listen, 0:11:33.010 --> 0:11:36.970 you are to obey your parents. That means you may 0:11:36.970 --> 0:11:39.569 feel like I have an opinion of my own. My 0:11:39.570 --> 0:11:42.970 parents aren't always right. And it's true. Your parents aren't 0:11:42.970 --> 0:11:46.610 always right. You say, well, I'm smarter than my parents. 0:11:46.610 --> 0:11:49.010 It may be true. Maybe you're smarter. Maybe you think 0:11:49.010 --> 0:11:51.890 you're smarter. You may say, well, my parent doesn't even 0:11:51.890 --> 0:11:54.809 come to church, doesn't even read the Bible, doesn't even 0:11:54.809 --> 0:11:58.170 follow God. The Bible is clear about that. It's not 0:11:58.170 --> 0:12:02.420 a conditional if you have great, perfect parents, then obey them. 0:12:02.420 --> 0:12:08.179 The Bible simply says, children, obey your parents in the Lord, 0:12:08.179 --> 0:12:12.220 for this is right. In essence, what you're doing is 0:12:12.220 --> 0:12:16.540 God is calling you as a child. As a young adult, 0:12:17.220 --> 0:12:20.380 God is saying, I've put an authority over you. The 0:12:20.380 --> 0:12:24.300 authority of your household is your parents. This is not 0:12:24.300 --> 0:12:27.380 a democracy. This is not a let's all vote on 0:12:27.380 --> 0:12:31.099 it and see what we want. This is actually yeah, 0:12:31.140 --> 0:12:35.580 this is actually some authority placed over your life. Why? 0:12:35.980 --> 0:12:39.100 Because in the realm of there being authority, there is 0:12:39.100 --> 0:12:44.020 also order. The time will come when you can lead, 0:12:44.020 --> 0:12:47.660 but there's a season in which you submit and obey. 0:12:48.540 --> 0:12:50.860 And unless you can learn to submit and obey, you 0:12:50.860 --> 0:12:54.420 will never learn to lead. How many of you know that? 0:13:00.500 --> 0:13:03.140 You're listening to Bold Steps with pastor Mark Jobe. We're 0:13:03.140 --> 0:13:05.340 pausing our message for just a moment to talk a 0:13:05.340 --> 0:13:08.820 little bit about our Bold Partner program. Mark, let's explain 0:13:08.820 --> 0:13:10.820 what a bold partner accomplishes here. 0:13:10.860 --> 0:13:14.219 Yeah. So our bold partners are people that choose to 0:13:14.260 --> 0:13:18.140 support this program on a monthly basis. It's that simple. 0:13:18.140 --> 0:13:21.660 So any dollar amount. But as people that say I'm 0:13:21.660 --> 0:13:25.900 committed enough to every month give a donation and you 0:13:25.900 --> 0:13:28.420 can automate that so you don't have to worry about 0:13:28.460 --> 0:13:31.460 sending it every month. But we're very, very grateful for 0:13:31.460 --> 0:13:35.180 bold partners. And we offer special things for our bold partners, 0:13:35.179 --> 0:13:37.340 just as incentives to say thank you. 0:13:37.740 --> 0:13:40.100 One of those things is your book, unstuck, which you're 0:13:40.100 --> 0:13:41.700 you're signing those books right now, aren't you? 0:13:41.740 --> 0:13:44.780 I'm in the studio signing these books right now, my 0:13:44.780 --> 0:13:46.020 hands a little tired. 0:13:46.020 --> 0:13:46.500 But. 0:13:46.540 --> 0:13:47.300 We continue to. 0:13:47.340 --> 0:13:49.500 Go forward. May your hand get more tired because we 0:13:49.500 --> 0:13:52.780 need more bold partners. Yes we do. Well, Judy Krohn 0:13:52.780 --> 0:13:54.620 has joined us in the studio because, Judy, I want 0:13:54.660 --> 0:13:58.060 our listeners to understand what is accomplished when our bold 0:13:58.059 --> 0:13:59.780 partners get behind this ministry. 0:13:59.870 --> 0:14:04.390 Well, one of the things that is accomplished are life 0:14:04.390 --> 0:14:08.910 impact through our listeners. So your gift to bold steps 0:14:09.070 --> 0:14:11.550 is really making a difference in the lives of listeners. 0:14:11.550 --> 0:14:14.110 And we're hearing back from people. We are all around 0:14:14.110 --> 0:14:15.230 the United States. 0:14:15.270 --> 0:14:18.150 Here's Mary, for example, in Florida. My bold step is 0:14:18.150 --> 0:14:20.950 to keep reaching out to my friend in need, no 0:14:20.950 --> 0:14:22.950 matter how much she pushes away. 0:14:23.150 --> 0:14:27.070 I love that. And here's one from Adam in Cleveland, Ohio. 0:14:27.070 --> 0:14:29.030 He said I hadn't been to church or read the 0:14:29.030 --> 0:14:33.830 Bible regularly for the last 30 years. That changed a 0:14:33.830 --> 0:14:36.710 little over a month ago. I was in a dark, 0:14:36.710 --> 0:14:40.910 deep hole spiritually, and even though I am struggling, I 0:14:40.910 --> 0:14:46.150 realize I need Jesus. God bless all of you at Moody, Adam. 0:14:46.150 --> 0:14:48.310 That is so encouraging. 0:14:48.350 --> 0:14:49.030 Thank you Adam. 0:14:49.030 --> 0:14:52.670 And may God bring you completely out of that dark hole. 0:14:52.710 --> 0:14:55.870 And here's one from Cathy in Boca Raton, Florida. She 0:14:55.870 --> 0:14:58.790 says after moving to South Florida, I found myself surrounded 0:14:58.790 --> 0:15:01.720 by people of the Jewish faith and culture. I learned 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:05.040 of their religious practices and even attended a neighborly Seder. 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:08.720 Today I find myself working for Jewish people, planning holiday 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:11.720 dinners for them. I have the chance to be bold 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:15.440 by telling them about Jesus being the Passover Lamb, and 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:18.160 how I am an adopted Jew grafted in by the 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:20.920 blood of Jesus. And that really resonates with me. Thank 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:21.640 you Kathy. 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:24.160 Yeah, it's hard to know where to stop in sharing these, Mark, 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:25.600 but maybe a couple of more. Do you want to 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:27.000 read that next one? It's in front of us here. 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:31.080 Sure. We have another one from Pamela in Illinois. And 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.000 she says, my be bold moment came in the form 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:37.720 of saying no to my best friend from childhood. We 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.720 both had moved into a rural community and started first 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:45.080 grade together in a country school. We had sleepovers, birthday parties, 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:48.520 bike rides, and just fun times. It all changed once 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:52.240 we reached our junior high high school years. She opened 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:56.160 her purse one day and offered me some marijuana. That 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:59.200 was a defining moment. I chose to stand for my 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:02.880 beliefs and love for Jesus Christ. I can honestly say 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:06.160 that I have never regretted my decision to follow Christ, 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:09.640 rather than to give in to peer pressure. Wow, that 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:13.320 is powerful, Pamela, and may your children, if you have 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:16.440 them and other kids, hear this testimony as well. 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:20.040 And then another one here, just quickly from Linda in Hebron, Indiana. 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:23.400 My be bold step is trying to apply the 30 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:26.400 days of Love to my husband during a difficult time 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:27.359 in our marriage. 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.720 Wow. Well, this is a sample of the Ministry of 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.120 Bold Steps in People's Lives, Mark, and we're so grateful 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:34.440 for those who make it possible. 0:16:34.480 --> 0:16:37.560 Yeah, we are so grateful for our bold partners. Thank you, 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:39.360 thank you, thank you. And again, if you want to 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:43.080 join our bold partner team, all you have to do, Wayne, 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:43.680 help us out. 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:46.480 Go to Bold Steps radio.org, and we'd love to have 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:48.440 you sign up as a bold partner, giving a gift 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:51.720 of any amount to bold steps. And also, if you 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:54.520 have a testimony, we'd love to hear that testimony that 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:58.560 your bold testimony. Go to npr.org and click on Bold 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:02.240 Testimonies and share your story with us. Judy. Mark, thank 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:02.920 you very much. 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:03.480 You're welcome. 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.040 This timeout, a very encouraging timeout. Let's get back into 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:07.080 Mark's message now. 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:15.480 I really believe unless you learn to submit and obey. 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:18.199 And that's why the Bible is so strong about it 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:21.600 when talking to children. Because the way that your children 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:24.679 learn to submit and obey and follow rules will affect 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:26.760 every area of their life. One day they will go 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:29.720 to school and have to submit to rules of the school. 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:32.080 One day they will have a job and being under 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.800 an employer, they will have to pay taxes. They will 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:38.359 be in some system of authority all of their lives. 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:42.200 And ultimately they will also respond to God unless they 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:46.560 learn how to obey, unless they learn how to receive authority, 0:17:46.600 --> 0:17:49.560 unless they learn, they will they will spend the rest 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:54.160 of their life rebelling and fighting and never submitting and 0:17:54.160 --> 0:18:00.490 usually spiraling out of control. Jesus, by the way, the 0:18:00.490 --> 0:18:03.610 Bible tells us was in perfect submission to the father. 0:18:04.369 --> 0:18:07.609 And Jesus said, not my will, but yours be done. 0:18:08.730 --> 0:18:11.770 When he faced the crucifixion, he didn't say, well, father, 0:18:11.770 --> 0:18:15.650 let's negotiate here. I mean, I just don't think it's 0:18:15.650 --> 0:18:21.570 fair that I go to the cross while you're in glory. 0:18:22.810 --> 0:18:24.970 And plus, I live perfect. I mean, I have no sin. 0:18:25.010 --> 0:18:27.490 I mean, this just doesn't make sense to me. Why 0:18:27.490 --> 0:18:32.010 should I pay for someone else's sin and suffer and die? 0:18:32.330 --> 0:18:35.290 Because it's. You know, the Bible says that in Gethsemane, 0:18:35.330 --> 0:18:39.090 Jesus struggled and he said, let this cup pass from me, 0:18:39.090 --> 0:18:42.290 but not my will, but yours be done. And because 0:18:42.290 --> 0:18:46.209 Jesus was in perfect submission to the father, Jesus had 0:18:46.210 --> 0:18:51.130 perfect authority. Jesus authority came through the submission to his 0:18:51.130 --> 0:18:54.449 God given authority. And because he was in submission to 0:18:54.490 --> 0:18:59.330 his authority, he had perfect authority. There was never a 0:18:59.420 --> 0:19:02.180 time where Jesus prayed for a person that was sick 0:19:02.220 --> 0:19:04.899 that he did not get healed. There was never a 0:19:04.900 --> 0:19:07.460 time where he touched a deaf man that did not 0:19:08.140 --> 0:19:11.300 receive his hearing. There's not a time where he touched 0:19:11.300 --> 0:19:14.060 a leper and the leopard wasn't clean. There's not a 0:19:14.060 --> 0:19:17.940 time when he expelled the demon that a demon didn't go. 0:19:17.980 --> 0:19:22.620 Jesus had perfect authority, but he had perfect authority because 0:19:22.619 --> 0:19:26.700 he was in perfect submission to the authority of his 0:19:26.980 --> 0:19:30.419 of his father here on earth. Therefore, because he learned 0:19:30.420 --> 0:19:36.020 perfect submission, he also had perfect authority. You will never 0:19:36.020 --> 0:19:38.619 learn to lead, unless, first of all, you learn to follow. 0:19:38.740 --> 0:19:41.700 You will never have authority unless, first of all, you 0:19:41.700 --> 0:19:48.379 place yourself under authority. That's why the Bible talks so 0:19:48.380 --> 0:19:51.939 strongly about the need to obey and be under the 0:19:51.940 --> 0:19:58.460 authority of those that God has placed over us. I 0:19:58.460 --> 0:20:01.860 started pastoring this church when I was 21 years old. 0:20:01.900 --> 0:20:06.020 That's way too young. But I believe that there's some 0:20:06.020 --> 0:20:09.380 lessons God had to teach me before I started pastoring 0:20:10.020 --> 0:20:13.820 that I needed to learn about submission and authority. And 0:20:13.820 --> 0:20:16.659 unless I had learned those lessons, I don't believe I 0:20:16.660 --> 0:20:20.420 would ever have had the authority to lead. I was 0:20:20.420 --> 0:20:24.580 21 and leading and leading people that were double my age. 0:20:24.580 --> 0:20:28.500 I was counseling marriages and I wasn't even married. But but, 0:20:28.500 --> 0:20:31.180 but part of the lessons that I had to learn 0:20:31.180 --> 0:20:37.940 was the lesson of submission being under authority. Listen, young men, 0:20:37.940 --> 0:20:41.020 if you're a teenager right now and you're 18 years old, listen, 0:20:41.060 --> 0:20:44.460 you will never be able to lead your household unless, 0:20:44.460 --> 0:20:47.260 first of all, you learn to submit to the leader 0:20:47.260 --> 0:20:50.220 of your household. One day you will have a family. 0:20:50.220 --> 0:20:52.820 One day you will have kids, one day you will 0:20:52.820 --> 0:20:55.740 lead a household. And you're never going to learn to lead. 0:20:55.740 --> 0:20:58.180 Unless first of all, you learn to submit. 0:21:07.580 --> 0:21:09.899 This is bold steps and you're listening to the Bible 0:21:09.900 --> 0:21:13.020 teaching of Mark Jobe. We'll continue this message titled The 0:21:13.020 --> 0:21:16.419 Power of Royal Parenting when we come back tomorrow. If 0:21:16.460 --> 0:21:18.859 you've missed any of the messages in this series, remember 0:21:18.859 --> 0:21:22.100 you can catch up online when you go to Bold steps.org. 0:21:22.540 --> 0:21:25.060 On our website, you can also request our current Bold 0:21:25.060 --> 0:21:27.180 Step gift and to tell you more about this month's 0:21:27.180 --> 0:21:30.060 special book. Here again is Mark with author and pastor 0:21:30.060 --> 0:21:31.139 Mike Fabares. 0:21:31.619 --> 0:21:34.100 Well, you know, there's some sins that are easy to 0:21:34.140 --> 0:21:38.220 spot in our lives, but others, they're like hidden snipers 0:21:38.220 --> 0:21:41.860 taking shots at our spiritual health, and we don't even 0:21:41.859 --> 0:21:42.780 notice it. Right? 0:21:42.820 --> 0:21:43.700 That's right. Yeah. 0:21:43.740 --> 0:21:49.460 And, uh, pastor Mike Fabares, your book, envy, tackles one 0:21:49.460 --> 0:21:54.379 of these stealth sins. You call it actually a diabolical 0:21:54.380 --> 0:21:57.300 sin that's at the root of many of our problems. 0:21:57.340 --> 0:22:00.910 Tell me, pastor Mike, why this is so dangerous? 0:22:01.310 --> 0:22:05.869 Well, it's dangerous because it can do a lot of damage. 0:22:06.150 --> 0:22:08.629 If you think about the church, I'm not the first 0:22:08.630 --> 0:22:10.910 in church history to call it a diabolical sin. It 0:22:10.910 --> 0:22:16.190 has been a foundational sin, a cardinal sin, a, you know, 0:22:16.230 --> 0:22:19.830 a root of all kinds of other sins. And yet 0:22:19.830 --> 0:22:21.869 in our generation, I just I had never read a 0:22:21.869 --> 0:22:24.190 book on it. I had never heard a sermon on it. 0:22:24.350 --> 0:22:26.990 And I realized as I went through my ministry, I 0:22:26.990 --> 0:22:31.150 see this problem springing up with a ton of different symptoms. 0:22:31.150 --> 0:22:34.510 But the core problem is that we are envious of 0:22:34.510 --> 0:22:36.030 other people's success. 0:22:36.390 --> 0:22:39.550 The subtitle of the book is A Big Problem You 0:22:39.550 --> 0:22:42.909 Didn't Know You Had, and I was thinking about that. 0:22:42.950 --> 0:22:44.830 Most people that I talked to, I don't know if 0:22:44.830 --> 0:22:47.470 I've ever heard of someone say, you know, my problem 0:22:47.470 --> 0:22:52.910 is I'm envious. No one ever says that. That I remember. Like, 0:22:52.910 --> 0:22:56.710 my problem is I have envy. Tell us why it's 0:22:56.710 --> 0:22:58.550 hard to self-diagnose. 0:22:59.030 --> 0:23:03.510 Well, because I think we often justify the fact that, uh, 0:23:03.510 --> 0:23:06.230 you know, I'm just trying to move forward in life, 0:23:06.230 --> 0:23:08.790 and I'd sure like to have what he has or 0:23:08.790 --> 0:23:10.869 some gal saying, I'd like to look like she looks, 0:23:10.869 --> 0:23:13.390 or I'd like to have the influence that he has. 0:23:13.430 --> 0:23:15.590 And we think, okay, well, that's just part of our 0:23:15.590 --> 0:23:18.670 ambitious desire to do well in life. And we don't 0:23:18.670 --> 0:23:22.790 realize that it's starting to color the way we make decisions, 0:23:22.790 --> 0:23:25.350 how we view other people, how we talk about other 0:23:25.350 --> 0:23:27.750 people behind their backs. And it really starts to just 0:23:27.750 --> 0:23:31.510 disrupt our relationships. It can ruin a small group and 0:23:31.510 --> 0:23:35.470 it can split churches. It is really an explosive sin, 0:23:35.470 --> 0:23:37.869 and we don't often identify it like we ought to. 0:23:38.230 --> 0:23:41.190 Mike, you know, when you read scripture with this in mind, 0:23:41.230 --> 0:23:43.150 suddenly it pops up everywhere, doesn't it? 0:23:43.190 --> 0:23:45.790 Yeah. It does. Yeah. From the very beginning in Genesis, 0:23:45.790 --> 0:23:48.750 we don't get out of the first family until we 0:23:48.750 --> 0:23:51.790 see Cain rising up to kill Abel, because he was 0:23:51.790 --> 0:23:55.389 envious of him all the way to the New Testament Gospels. 0:23:55.390 --> 0:23:58.870 It's interesting that Pilate immediately looks at this scene of 0:23:58.869 --> 0:24:02.280 the Sanhedrin and the Pharisees delivering Jesus over to be crucified. 0:24:02.280 --> 0:24:04.760 And he diagnoses the problem and he says, you guys 0:24:04.760 --> 0:24:07.760 are envious of this man. It really is true that 0:24:07.760 --> 0:24:10.560 it's everywhere, and it is the fountainhead of all kinds 0:24:10.560 --> 0:24:12.119 of problems in our lives. 0:24:12.160 --> 0:24:14.160 Well, let's talk more about that in the days to come. 0:24:14.160 --> 0:24:17.280 As we continue to talk with pastor Mike Fabares about 0:24:17.280 --> 0:24:19.920 his book, envy a Big problem you didn't know you had. 0:24:19.960 --> 0:24:23.080 Our bold step gift. Mike, thank you so much. And 0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:25.200 the book is yours with a gift of any amount 0:24:25.200 --> 0:24:29.320 to support this ministry. Just call us at 800 Moody. 0:24:29.440 --> 0:24:37.040 That's (800) 356-6639. Or give online at Bold Steps. And then 0:24:37.040 --> 0:24:39.560 don't forget here at Bold Steps. We love getting letters 0:24:39.560 --> 0:24:42.159 from listeners like the one we heard earlier. 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