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S1: When in a bad marriage, people often think they have

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S1: only two options resign themselves to a life of misery

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S1: or get out.

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman with a love language minute.

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S1: This limits one's horizons to two equally devastating alternatives. In

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S1: my book Desperate Marriages, I talk about how to be

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S1: a positive change agent in a difficult marriage. It is

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S1: true that you cannot make your spouse change, but you

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S1: can influence your spouse. One husband said, I used to

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S1: have rage in my heart toward my wife, but now

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S1: I realize what a wonderful wife I have. Her positive

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S1: actions stimulated positive emotions in him with warm emotions. His

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S1: behavior also changed. Learning the power of positive influence can

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S1: radically change your marriage. You need not be miserable forever.

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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S2: For more, visit five Love Languages. Com.