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S1: Brian writes Gary, my wife no longer seems interested in

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S1: me or willing to put effort into making things work

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S1: in our marriage. Can you help?

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S2: The most powerful thing you can do, I think, is

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S2: to love them unconditionally. Speak the primary love language of

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S2: your spouse, no matter how they're treating you. You see,

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S2: we know that she needs love, and when you give

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S2: love in her language, you trigger something inside of her

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S2: that draws her to you. We can't control the behavior

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S2: of a spouse, but we can greatly influence them by

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S2: the way we treat them. So I would say, look

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S2: back on the things where you feel like you failed.

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S2: Make a genuine confession to your wife. Let her know

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S2: that with God's help, you're going to be the husband

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S2: she desires. That's the greatest thing you can do to

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S2: influence her, to reciprocate.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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