WEBVTT - Reviving Marriage with Jesus 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:04.320 Coming to you from the Morning Star Mission sponsored studio. 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:08.039 This is Carl and crew on Moody Radio. 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:11.760 Scarlet crew morning helping you take your next step with Jesus. 0:00:13.160 --> 0:00:19.000 I've thought about marriage from the almost said marriage. You 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:22.640 got to be close there. Uh, I've thought about marriage 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:27.000 from a three perspectives. Okay. Number door number one. Door 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:34.239 number two. Door number three. And it seems that things. 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:36.760 Let me just characterize it this way. Door number one 0:00:36.760 --> 0:00:39.199 is you walk in, you open up that door, and 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.599 you look inside and you see a couple who's just 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:45.640 thriving in marriage. And I mean, they're the dear couple 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:49.120 that they've weathered storms and they're making it and they've 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:53.120 learned how to. Oh, the the man especially has learned 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.240 how to love his bride as Christ loved the church. 0:00:55.360 --> 0:01:01.270 And and the woman in like manner just Loves, listens, 0:01:01.270 --> 0:01:04.510 cares for. Affirms. It's just it's a two way deal, 0:01:04.510 --> 0:01:08.390 and it's rich, right? Those are sweet. Okay. Door number 0:01:08.390 --> 0:01:11.949 three is these marriages that I mean, they're. You open 0:01:11.950 --> 0:01:13.870 it up. You look inside and they're ready to. They're 0:01:13.870 --> 0:01:19.310 splitting the sheets. Things are just on the skids. But 0:01:19.310 --> 0:01:23.750 the biggest swath, as my pastor's vantage point is this 0:01:23.750 --> 0:01:26.830 door number two, you open it up and they're going 0:01:26.870 --> 0:01:32.110 to church. They love God. They got a couple kids. 0:01:33.750 --> 0:01:38.110 They've shared a lot of experiences together, but the fire 0:01:38.150 --> 0:01:44.990 is gone out. It's a glorified roommate situation, and they 0:01:44.990 --> 0:01:48.030 don't even know it sometimes until you stop, maybe, as 0:01:48.030 --> 0:01:51.670 we do right now and go, man, has that fire 0:01:51.710 --> 0:01:57.350 gone out? And it's in. It's those marriages that we're 0:01:57.350 --> 0:02:03.309 going to focus on today. because building those coals back up, 0:02:03.430 --> 0:02:06.390 it's not. Here's the beauty about it. You take a 0:02:06.390 --> 0:02:11.510 few simple steps to reclaim lost ground and everything can change. Ali. 0:02:11.550 --> 0:02:14.429 You know, even just you saying that, I think a 0:02:14.430 --> 0:02:16.510 lot of people would have a lot of skepticism that 0:02:16.510 --> 0:02:20.310 a few simple steps. Really? Yeah. For the couple that's 0:02:20.310 --> 0:02:24.710 been married for ten, 20, 30 plus years and is 0:02:24.750 --> 0:02:28.870 kind of just like, uh, we're we're committed. Neither one 0:02:28.870 --> 0:02:31.190 of us are going anywhere. You're saying that the spark 0:02:31.190 --> 0:02:33.750 can come back with just a couple simple steps? 0:02:33.870 --> 0:02:36.870 Yeah. And I'm going to save the goods for Gary 0:02:36.870 --> 0:02:39.750 and Barb, who are going to be with us here 0:02:39.750 --> 0:02:45.470 in just a moment. The first step is simple, but 0:02:45.470 --> 0:02:48.389 it ain't easy. And that is just straight up repentance. 0:02:48.590 --> 0:02:51.790 But God forgive us from where we have fallen, right? 0:02:51.910 --> 0:02:56.790 That's hard. But then where we go from there? I mean, 0:02:56.790 --> 0:03:00.260 that first little awareness, man. Things are not cooking as 0:03:00.260 --> 0:03:03.859 they ought. And we've. We walked down that aisle. We 0:03:03.860 --> 0:03:08.419 were so on fire. Our jaws were aching from smiling 0:03:08.419 --> 0:03:11.260 at the reception. Remember that alley? Oh, yeah. 0:03:11.300 --> 0:03:11.940 Oh, boy. 0:03:12.300 --> 0:03:16.900 Holy moly. We we we got away from the wedding 0:03:16.940 --> 0:03:21.419 party and scrubbed all the graffiti off of my little 0:03:21.419 --> 0:03:25.900 pickup truck, and and we both just rubbed. Our jaws were. 0:03:25.900 --> 0:03:28.139 Like, oh, man. 0:03:28.139 --> 0:03:30.300 But it's funny what can happen. You get down the 0:03:30.300 --> 0:03:34.980 road a piece and it's like, man, five years, ten years, 0:03:34.980 --> 0:03:39.700 15 for some of you, 20, 30. And the question is, 0:03:39.700 --> 0:03:45.700 can those fires for love be stoked again? And the 0:03:45.700 --> 0:03:52.460 answer is they can, they can. Coming up, we've got 0:03:52.460 --> 0:03:55.780 some dear friends every time they're here Ali peel paint 0:03:55.820 --> 0:03:56.420 time here. 0:03:56.460 --> 0:04:00.330 There's a reason why they're called America's Family Coaches. You're 0:04:00.330 --> 0:04:02.250 going to hear from the rosbergs coming up. 0:04:02.650 --> 0:04:05.290 She was trying to earn her way to God, but 0:04:05.290 --> 0:04:08.730 God showed her she didn't have to. Ali is in 0:04:08.730 --> 0:04:12.010 the crew. It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio. 0:04:12.650 --> 0:04:15.370 He's still pouring out Grace. He's still pouring out love. 0:04:15.690 --> 0:04:19.210 He's still pouring power into his kids. This week is. 0:04:19.210 --> 0:04:21.770 I guess somebody declared it National Marriage Week. I think 0:04:21.770 --> 0:04:24.410 it ought to be national marriage year. We need the 0:04:24.410 --> 0:04:25.890 fuel in the belly here. 0:04:25.930 --> 0:04:27.049 National marriage year. 0:04:27.410 --> 0:04:31.050 National marriage year. Every year it rolls around. Oh, there 0:04:31.050 --> 0:04:33.289 we are. We're at another national marriage year. 0:04:33.570 --> 0:04:35.570 Sometimes a week won't do, man. 0:04:35.690 --> 0:04:38.370 No, you got that right. So I want to focus 0:04:38.370 --> 0:04:43.490 on door number two today. And my heart goes out 0:04:44.450 --> 0:04:48.489 to any of us who feel like, uh oh, where'd 0:04:48.490 --> 0:04:53.770 the love go? I'm talking about that deep, intimate connection 0:04:53.770 --> 0:04:56.760 with your spouse. And we know this can happen. Just 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:59.160 look at our relationship with God. This is why the 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:02.200 church is in the book of revelations are told, come 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:06.160 on back. Get back to your first love. You. You've 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:08.720 got it. You've got to knock at the door going on. 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:11.320 Open the door, let them in. And in many ways, 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:15.039 in marriage we can find ourselves behind door number two. 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:19.919 Door number one is everything's rocking. They've been cooking with Jesus. 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:22.760 They've gone through hardship, but they've learned to surrender to 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:27.279 God and then really submit to one another. Door number 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:30.560 three splitting the sheets. And those are tragic. And you 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:33.240 might be there today. But hold on, because these truths 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.520 from door number two are going to help you as well. 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:40.440 Gary and Barb Rosberg, how did we get to door 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:44.120 number two? How did we go from rocking love to 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:45.640 kind of glorified roommates? 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:50.240 Well, Carl and Allie, you nailed it in the opening 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:54.880 before the song when you said it starts with small moments. 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.560 And Allie, you said, do small movements really work? Doctor 0:05:57.560 --> 0:06:00.359 John Gottman says that's exactly what you need to do. 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.320 So it's not the trip to Italy, although that's not 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:06.279 a bad idea. It's not, you know, our trip down 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:09.360 south right now in the middle of our Chicago winter. 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:13.240 But it's the small moments. And there are three switches 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:16.320 that need to be flipped for any couple that's wanting 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:19.840 to experience the depth of communication and intimacy. And we're 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:21.440 going to give you the three switches today. 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:24.359 Doctor Gary and Barb Rosberg, our guest this morning. America's 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:28.440 family coaches for decades of equipping marriages across the U.S. 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:31.839 and international. They have written over a dozen prominent marriage 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:36.080 resources in 12 different languages. Their titles are in. Okay, 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:38.479 so you teased us with these three switches. You want 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:39.279 to start there? 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:40.200 Let's get after them. 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:43.680 Absolutely, Ali. Okay. Great to be on. It's great to 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:46.240 be on the program with you both today. Carl and Ali, 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:51.720 be intentional and with that intentionality begin with yourself. And 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:55.950 you did refer to this ahead of time. Carl. Thank you. It's. 0:06:55.950 --> 0:06:59.589 It's like what happened to me yesterday. I was in church. 0:07:00.470 --> 0:07:03.030 A woman I know, she is my favorite greeter. Her 0:07:03.029 --> 0:07:06.110 name is Emily. She came up to me. Honestly, she 0:07:06.110 --> 0:07:08.270 looked like a movie star. And I said, you look 0:07:08.270 --> 0:07:13.110 great today. She said, Barb, the Lord told me to 0:07:13.150 --> 0:07:17.950 quit criticizing my husband. And I did. We've been together 0:07:17.950 --> 0:07:23.270 17 years. Married eight. And this is the first time 0:07:23.270 --> 0:07:27.230 this morning he said, May I go to church with you? 0:07:28.310 --> 0:07:32.270 She introduced me to her husband, John. And honestly, you 0:07:32.270 --> 0:07:36.630 think you're impacting your mate by putting criticism? Bottom line 0:07:36.630 --> 0:07:41.150 is you glow like a torch in the night. So 0:07:41.150 --> 0:07:45.310 whatever you do, flip the switch. Turn into your mate 0:07:45.350 --> 0:07:50.510 as God designed them. Delight in them. What do you 0:07:50.510 --> 0:07:53.230 have to do to change? Know your spouse. What do 0:07:53.230 --> 0:07:58.820 they need encouragement. Maybe they need non-sexual touch. But maybe, 0:07:59.420 --> 0:08:02.900 like John from Emily, he needed kind words. 0:08:03.220 --> 0:08:06.380 Yeah, it's powerful stuff. So, Barb, I'm going to stick 0:08:06.380 --> 0:08:09.220 with you on this one a second here. Um, how 0:08:09.340 --> 0:08:12.860 what do you do to the person who says to you, 0:08:12.860 --> 0:08:16.820 I don't feel like it because they fill in the 0:08:16.820 --> 0:08:23.100 blank of of grievances, pain, heartache, that that initiative. I 0:08:23.100 --> 0:08:26.820 know it's fueled by the Holy Spirit. God can do 0:08:26.820 --> 0:08:28.020 that in us. Right, Barb? 0:08:28.860 --> 0:08:29.980 Oh, totally. 0:08:30.020 --> 0:08:30.660 That's number two. 0:08:30.700 --> 0:08:31.300 That is number. 0:08:31.300 --> 0:08:31.540 Two. 0:08:32.020 --> 0:08:36.459 Check your power source. And every time, Carl, we go 0:08:36.460 --> 0:08:42.060 to the word of God. Because truthfully, in Ephesians chapter 432, 0:08:42.100 --> 0:08:48.460 it says this be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving 0:08:48.460 --> 0:08:52.460 one another, just as in Christ he forgave you. So 0:08:52.660 --> 0:08:57.930 get along with Christ, and you go there and confess 0:08:58.010 --> 0:09:01.410 all the ways that your spouse is driving you crazy. 0:09:01.809 --> 0:09:06.250 Confess where you've blown it. Confess where your spouse is 0:09:06.570 --> 0:09:08.890 not living up to what you thought they were going 0:09:08.890 --> 0:09:12.250 to do, but get along with Christ. He knows it, 0:09:12.250 --> 0:09:16.730 but we get the joy of unpacking it and feeling 0:09:16.929 --> 0:09:22.449 all that gunk. And honestly, it's junk leaving our hearts. 0:09:22.770 --> 0:09:25.370 So instead of a hard heart, we have a tender heart. 0:09:26.090 --> 0:09:29.010 So we've got be intentional. Check your power source. What's that? 0:09:29.010 --> 0:09:29.730 Third switch. 0:09:30.530 --> 0:09:34.370 Check your direction. Check your direction. Look at your compass 0:09:34.770 --> 0:09:37.330 and turn it one degree at a time. And I'm 0:09:37.330 --> 0:09:39.810 going to get real mechanical because that's what Carl sent 0:09:39.809 --> 0:09:43.449 us an email about. That means one date. That doesn't 0:09:43.450 --> 0:09:45.929 mean set up every Wednesday night for the next 30 years. 0:09:45.929 --> 0:09:49.170 Just do one. It means one note. And I don't 0:09:49.170 --> 0:09:52.850 mean a text bag. The text texts are Overrated, but 0:09:52.850 --> 0:09:57.130 one note that's handwritten with a pen. It can be cursive. 0:09:57.210 --> 0:09:59.970 If you went that far in school, number one is 0:10:00.010 --> 0:10:02.450 another thing. Is one phone call in the middle of 0:10:02.450 --> 0:10:05.370 the day. Just saying. Baby, baby, baby, I was thinking 0:10:05.370 --> 0:10:08.090 about you. I couldn't go another moment without hearing your voice. 0:10:08.090 --> 0:10:10.290 Now she's going to call the doctor when you do that. 0:10:10.290 --> 0:10:13.970 But do it anyway. The other thing is one time 0:10:13.970 --> 0:10:17.730 to sit and listen and share, and you can sit 0:10:17.730 --> 0:10:19.530 down in a couple chairs or sit on a bench, 0:10:19.530 --> 0:10:21.250 grab an ice cream cone or a hot tea or 0:10:21.250 --> 0:10:23.329 whatever you do, and just say, you know what? We're 0:10:23.330 --> 0:10:25.570 not very good at this, but we're going to take it. 0:10:25.570 --> 0:10:27.330 We're going to take a good run at it. We're 0:10:27.330 --> 0:10:29.850 going to sit on one time and just listen, connect 0:10:29.850 --> 0:10:33.970 and share. And then two more things, one Kiss and Barbie. 0:10:33.970 --> 0:10:38.450 And I recommend six Seconds Ali. So six second Kisses 0:10:38.690 --> 0:10:40.810 and National Marriage Week would be a good time to 0:10:40.809 --> 0:10:43.450 start it. And then at the core of all of 0:10:43.450 --> 0:10:46.970 it is one prayer. Guys, you did it before. You've 0:10:46.970 --> 0:10:48.650 done it over a meal. You've done it when you're 0:10:48.650 --> 0:10:50.570 scared to death for the doctor's report. You've done it 0:10:50.570 --> 0:10:52.319 when you're putting your putting your kids down, you can 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:55.160 do it with your wife. Take your wife's hand and just. 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.480 You can close your eyes if you want, but just say, 0:10:57.480 --> 0:11:01.000 dear Lord Jesus, thank you for this spouse. Thank you 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:03.800 God that we can experience a do over. Thank you 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:05.720 that you're not done with us. Thank you that there 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:08.280 is hope and that that hope is in you. It's 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:10.920 not in Hollywood. It's not in the Super Bowl. It's 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:12.680 not in what we see on TV or what's going 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:15.440 on at our neighbor's house. It's at what's going on 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:19.080 in the true relationship with the resurrected Jesus Christ. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:22.920 I love it. Okay, coming up, I want you guys to. 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:27.600 I want you to get go ahead and get vulnerable here. 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:30.080 I want to hear how this worked for you. That's 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:32.440 what I want to do. Gary and Barb Rosberg more 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:32.959 coming up. 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:37.880 Romans eight brought her to Jesus while broadcasting traffic overnight. 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:41.800 Super die is in the crew. It's curl and crew 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:43.000 on Moody Radio. 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:47.600 Do not think you can go it alone. There is 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:52.750 nothing that we excel in in life that doesn't have 0:11:52.830 --> 0:11:57.550 a coach, mentor, disciple or whatever word you use, you 0:11:57.590 --> 0:12:01.030 need it. And we've got it today. America's family coach 0:12:01.030 --> 0:12:04.870 is with us. Gary and Barbie Rosberg, they are tremendous. 0:12:05.630 --> 0:12:09.350 Oh they're tremendous. And no matter where you are and 0:12:09.350 --> 0:12:12.270 even in Canada, they can help you out today. So 0:12:12.390 --> 0:12:15.670 there we go. We got to get that squared away. Uh, 0:12:15.670 --> 0:12:19.309 Gary and Barb, let's get vulnerable here. These steps. And 0:12:19.309 --> 0:12:22.390 by the way, let's hit those quickly here right before 0:12:22.390 --> 0:12:24.510 we tee them up. But we want you to open 0:12:24.510 --> 0:12:26.830 up your chest cavity and let's see from your own 0:12:26.830 --> 0:12:29.150 life how did this work? But what are those. What 0:12:29.150 --> 0:12:29.829 are those switches. 0:12:29.870 --> 0:12:33.670 Those three switches. One being intentional to check your power source. 0:12:33.670 --> 0:12:37.230 Three check your direction so you can get the showcast 0:12:37.230 --> 0:12:40.750 if you want to hear the full breakdown. But go ahead. 0:12:40.750 --> 0:12:42.750 Gary and Barb talk about how this has worked in 0:12:42.750 --> 0:12:43.510 your own marriage. 0:12:44.230 --> 0:12:45.270 You know, years. 0:12:45.270 --> 0:12:47.550 Ago I was with a group of women. We were 0:12:47.550 --> 0:12:51.460 out to dinner. We were having the best time. And honestly, 0:12:51.780 --> 0:12:56.340 we got into a conversation about our husbands and one 0:12:56.340 --> 0:13:00.819 woman started bashing her husband. Another one would add seasoning 0:13:00.860 --> 0:13:04.780 to it how her husband was worse. And you know, 0:13:04.780 --> 0:13:09.900 the whole table just went down. I left that table 0:13:09.940 --> 0:13:14.300 instead of being instead of feeling edified and built up. 0:13:14.980 --> 0:13:19.060 I'm telling you, Carl, there's power in our words. I 0:13:19.059 --> 0:13:21.780 came home, I took a look at my husband, and 0:13:21.780 --> 0:13:27.020 I thought, if God's going to use me in my marriage, 0:13:27.620 --> 0:13:31.780 I've got no unwholesome word that can afford to come 0:13:31.780 --> 0:13:37.100 out of my mouth. And it became a spiritual discipline 0:13:37.100 --> 0:13:41.579 with me and God. I chose in that moment that 0:13:41.580 --> 0:13:46.859 I would withhold anything that was critical in my dairy, 0:13:47.500 --> 0:13:50.179 that I would only build him up and when I 0:13:50.179 --> 0:13:53.740 was frustrated, I would try to edit it. Was it perfect? 0:13:53.780 --> 0:13:59.620 Heck no. But the goal is to change, to build up, 0:13:59.620 --> 0:14:02.420 to edify. I know a lot of people think I 0:14:02.420 --> 0:14:05.260 must be very shallow because they'll say thank you for 0:14:05.260 --> 0:14:10.100 your encouragement. The reality is, I am changing my world 0:14:10.300 --> 0:14:14.380 through the power of my words. Beginning with Gary Rutherford. 0:14:14.940 --> 0:14:17.820 Doctor Gary and Barb Rosberg, America's family coaches with us 0:14:17.820 --> 0:14:21.740 this morning. You know, I have seen couples who they 0:14:21.740 --> 0:14:25.260 have settled in. And, you know, this all sounds nice, 0:14:25.260 --> 0:14:29.300 but they're actually quite content in their glorified roommate situation. 0:14:29.300 --> 0:14:32.780 And that may sound crazy, but I've seen it. They 0:14:32.860 --> 0:14:35.180 have a big enough space that they sort of each 0:14:35.220 --> 0:14:38.740 occupy their own part of the house. They connect when 0:14:38.740 --> 0:14:42.180 they need to. They give the particulars of the day, 0:14:42.180 --> 0:14:43.980 and a lot of times they've been married for many, 0:14:43.980 --> 0:14:48.010 many years. How do you sell a vision for more 0:14:48.490 --> 0:14:50.770 for the couple. That's like, I am kind of getting 0:14:50.770 --> 0:14:53.530 my needs met elsewhere. I've got hobbies, I've got friends, 0:14:53.530 --> 0:14:56.490 I've got my church group and I'm okay. And I 0:14:56.490 --> 0:14:58.410 think he's okay with where we're at. 0:14:59.330 --> 0:15:01.570 You know, you use the word and it's called The 0:15:01.570 --> 0:15:05.210 More and what Barbie, Barbie and I are doing is 0:15:05.210 --> 0:15:09.050 coaching couples, whether it's, uh, in a coaching experience or 0:15:09.050 --> 0:15:12.490 whether it's on radio or writing or podcast or whatever. 0:15:12.490 --> 0:15:16.530 And we we give them the vision of the more, 0:15:16.570 --> 0:15:20.810 the more is depth and connection and communication. It's the 0:15:20.810 --> 0:15:23.890 willingness to take a risk. It's the willingness to do 0:15:23.890 --> 0:15:26.890 a 1 in 2 degree turn vector change so that 0:15:26.890 --> 0:15:30.730 you invest in your relationship. Because what those couples are doing, 0:15:30.730 --> 0:15:32.610 and we've all been in those stages. Barb and I 0:15:32.610 --> 0:15:34.730 have been married a long time. You get in those 0:15:34.730 --> 0:15:39.050 stages where you drift and get drifting is what leads 0:15:39.050 --> 0:15:41.290 us into places we don't want to go. So it 0:15:41.290 --> 0:15:43.450 means somebody has got to be willing. And Barbie and 0:15:43.450 --> 0:15:46.610 I believe one person can change a marriage. Now ultimately 0:15:46.610 --> 0:15:48.240 it's Ultimately it's going to take two, but it never 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:51.200 starts with two. It starts with one. It's one person 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:55.160 who is surrendered, who is examined, who is willing to confess, 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:58.120 they're willing to repent, and they're willing to turn not 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:01.440 towards their spouse. They're willing to turn towards Christ and 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:04.440 the cross in order for the power source, in order 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.440 to then turn to their spouse. So what I would 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:09.560 say is they're missing the more what I would say 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:11.880 is life is short. What I would say is, do 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:14.520 you really want to just live as glorified roommates when 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:17.680 there's more right around the corner and you might have 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:21.480 the opportunity to engage it by taking the risk one 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:23.400 degree at a time? 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:26.080 I love this, and I'll tell you why I've benefited 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:30.040 from it. And some of you are listening right now going, 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:34.960 can this coaching work for me and can I get more? 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:38.520 One of the coolest things that Gary and Barb Rosberg 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:42.640 have been doing here as of late is a podcast, 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:46.070 and God is using it a couple of couple of 0:16:46.070 --> 0:16:49.590 these episodes are blowing up, and when I say blowing up, 0:16:49.590 --> 0:16:52.070 I want everyone to remember this. And that's a positive 0:16:52.110 --> 0:16:57.070 term in my nomenclature. But they're but they're blowing up. 0:16:57.630 --> 0:17:01.110 And here's what we want to do here with this 0:17:01.110 --> 0:17:04.790 morning show. We're helping you take your next step with Jesus. 0:17:04.910 --> 0:17:08.630 And sometimes that next step is to do a deeper dive. 0:17:08.950 --> 0:17:13.510 You got a taste of what could be the more, 0:17:13.510 --> 0:17:15.830 but I want you to get a gulp. I want 0:17:15.830 --> 0:17:20.189 you to sit down at streams of living water. Get 0:17:20.230 --> 0:17:24.550 coached up around ways to build intimacy in your marriage. 0:17:24.550 --> 0:17:27.230 When I said that word, I got chills because I 0:17:27.230 --> 0:17:29.630 had a conversation with Brent Bride a couple of days 0:17:29.630 --> 0:17:32.869 ago and it was the most cool thing. Ali. I 0:17:32.910 --> 0:17:37.869 sat there taking Gary and Barbie's coaching tips that we've 0:17:37.910 --> 0:17:42.790 gleaned from them as a couple. Yeah. And, you know, 0:17:42.790 --> 0:17:47.550 I walked away from a Station. I didn't say much 0:17:47.590 --> 0:17:51.189 of anything in. My bride got up from the couch 0:17:51.190 --> 0:17:55.350 and said, I feel so good. And I'm like, what? 0:17:56.030 --> 0:17:58.470 What do you mean you feel so good? Said, I 0:17:58.470 --> 0:18:03.070 feel so good, bub. Thank you. That was a great talk. 0:18:03.750 --> 0:18:07.149 And you know what's funny? Unlike Karl, I was a listener. 0:18:09.109 --> 0:18:14.310 But it worked. And I don't know. And some of 0:18:14.310 --> 0:18:16.830 you have heartache because you are splitting sheets or you 0:18:16.830 --> 0:18:20.270 feel like it's lost. It's not gone. Gary and Barbie 0:18:20.310 --> 0:18:24.990 nailed it. One can get this whole ball started. So 0:18:24.990 --> 0:18:26.990 I want to thank you, Gary and Barb for being 0:18:26.990 --> 0:18:28.790 with us today, but I want to point them to 0:18:28.830 --> 0:18:32.710 this greater. Yes. The more. And we've got a link 0:18:32.710 --> 0:18:35.350 that I want you to come and grab, because, listen, 0:18:35.350 --> 0:18:38.430 no greater work is the work that is done on marriage. 0:18:38.470 --> 0:18:39.830 Take it away. Ali, what do we have? 0:18:39.869 --> 0:18:43.110 This is a link to their podcast. There's even a 0:18:43.109 --> 0:18:45.699 number where you can call in and ask a marriage 0:18:45.700 --> 0:18:48.459 question for them to tackle in a future episode. So 0:18:48.460 --> 0:18:51.500 this is a very interactive podcast. If you want that 0:18:51.500 --> 0:18:54.340 link to this and there are other resources, just text 0:18:54.380 --> 0:19:00.820 coach to 850 55, 78, 98. They are America's family coaches. 0:19:00.820 --> 0:19:07.900 Your marriage coach. Let's text coach to 855 57898. 0:19:07.940 --> 0:19:11.020 Do you feel stuck or paralyzed with victory just out 0:19:11.020 --> 0:19:15.540 of reach? Here are your questions answered. It's time for ask, 0:19:15.540 --> 0:19:16.460 Pastor Carl. 0:19:17.900 --> 0:19:21.540 I'm going to tackle a marriage question. This is a 0:19:21.540 --> 0:19:26.740 tough one, but I think I can offer some advice 0:19:26.740 --> 0:19:31.460 that may help. My question is, my marriage is going 0:19:31.460 --> 0:19:35.260 through a very hard time. Some days it's easier than others. 0:19:36.300 --> 0:19:40.700 My wife wants a divorce, and as a man, I 0:19:40.700 --> 0:19:45.450 respect her decision. But I disagree with that. I think 0:19:45.450 --> 0:19:48.490 that we both can work it out if we both 0:19:48.490 --> 0:19:52.530 seek Jesus the way we should. We both are Christians. Okay. 0:19:53.369 --> 0:19:57.530 Goes on. We both attend the same church in. My 0:19:57.530 --> 0:20:02.770 question is what should I do at this point? How 0:20:02.770 --> 0:20:06.330 do we get along when we talk? We are intimate, 0:20:06.330 --> 0:20:09.690 but she's not fully committed to our marriage. Still, what 0:20:09.690 --> 0:20:14.010 should I do at this point? Okay, I got my 0:20:14.010 --> 0:20:17.450 tummy after years of being a pastor, is telling me 0:20:17.450 --> 0:20:21.090 a couple of things here. But first off, I would 0:20:21.090 --> 0:20:24.970 say getting wise counsel into your life is important. A 0:20:25.010 --> 0:20:27.250 lot of times we call that counseling. Right, guys? Yeah. 0:20:27.250 --> 0:20:28.370 Counseling, absolutely. 0:20:28.369 --> 0:20:31.889 But I've always been a big believer that if principles 0:20:31.890 --> 0:20:36.730 that were given here can't be transferred to Bangladesh or 0:20:36.730 --> 0:20:43.120 wherever Armenia or wherever in the world, I. I want 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:45.639 to make sure that what we're giving here can be, 0:20:46.240 --> 0:20:50.200 can be advice that's given without shelling out money or 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:53.560 resources that some people don't have. I really mean that. 0:20:53.800 --> 0:20:56.800 And I think God's provided a way in the body 0:20:56.800 --> 0:21:00.159 of Christ. There are going to be wise counselors, people 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:02.400 that have gone through the very ground you've gone through. 0:21:02.400 --> 0:21:06.080 And my friend who emailed me here, I need you 0:21:06.080 --> 0:21:08.320 to hear me. You are not the first one that 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:11.200 has gone through a situation where it seems this push 0:21:11.240 --> 0:21:16.439 pull wife wants out. Uh, we're still experiencing intimacy, and 0:21:16.440 --> 0:21:18.280 you need to get a third party involved in this. 0:21:18.280 --> 0:21:20.880 And the reason I say wives counselors is not everybody 0:21:20.880 --> 0:21:21.880 can afford a counselor. 0:21:22.440 --> 0:21:26.879 Right? And a wise counselor doesn't necessarily mean paid counseling, 0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:29.880 but a pastor, a mature Christian leader. 0:21:30.920 --> 0:21:33.880 Yeah. And this is why I love Deb Gordon, because 0:21:33.880 --> 0:21:37.400 she's all about equipping the church to really raise up 0:21:37.440 --> 0:21:40.800 wise counselors. And I want us to be that here 0:21:40.800 --> 0:21:42.480 boom crew. I crew. I want us to have a 0:21:42.520 --> 0:21:46.400 growing tide of people who have gone through tough stuff, 0:21:46.840 --> 0:21:50.360 and you might not feel quick manner out here. You 0:21:50.359 --> 0:21:54.640 might not feel like an expert, but you are, because 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:56.639 you went through a trial and you came out the 0:21:56.640 --> 0:21:58.760 other side and you got a story to tell. You 0:21:58.760 --> 0:22:01.000 know what? That makes you? 0:22:01.000 --> 0:22:01.760 An expert. 0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:03.240 An expert. 0:22:03.320 --> 0:22:04.080 That's right. 0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:07.520 So get some wise counsel. This is what I want 0:22:07.520 --> 0:22:09.440 you to do. I want you to look for someone 0:22:09.440 --> 0:22:14.040 in that church who has a great marriage. By every evidence. 0:22:14.359 --> 0:22:18.919 They have joy, they have connection, they've got longevity. It 0:22:18.920 --> 0:22:22.199 looks like they have communication. They might actually smile at 0:22:22.200 --> 0:22:25.760 each other when they talk. Things like that are telltale signs. 0:22:25.760 --> 0:22:27.800 There might be someone that you can go talk to. 0:22:28.480 --> 0:22:30.800 I would encourage you to go talk to a pastor, too. 0:22:30.840 --> 0:22:33.600 Here's why. You need a third party involved in this. 0:22:33.600 --> 0:22:35.680 And I got a hunch your wife wants it. And 0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:40.990 here's what my tummy's telling you. Telling me about you. 0:22:41.510 --> 0:22:46.990 My tummy is telling me that your wife wants to 0:22:48.270 --> 0:22:54.750 make this marriage work, but feels possibly isolated and alone 0:22:54.750 --> 0:22:57.790 when you speak of intimacy that you're still having. I've 0:22:57.830 --> 0:23:02.110 got a hunch that there is a lifeline being thrown saying, 0:23:02.470 --> 0:23:06.310 can't we find more? Sometimes we men. And let me 0:23:06.310 --> 0:23:10.590 speak to us men here. Sometimes we men miss obvious 0:23:10.590 --> 0:23:15.510 signals of a wife crying out, saying, I just want more. 0:23:16.790 --> 0:23:21.550 And so first step here would be ask her what 0:23:21.550 --> 0:23:26.510 is her greatest need that she has that you feel 0:23:26.510 --> 0:23:30.710 like asking her this? I'm not helping meet that need. 0:23:31.550 --> 0:23:34.590 There are real needs that men and women have. But 0:23:34.590 --> 0:23:40.659 men are initiators. Women are responders, and sometimes men don't 0:23:40.700 --> 0:23:44.219 initiate enough. They're taking kind of bellwether things that are 0:23:44.220 --> 0:23:46.419 out there. And so this gentleman, bless his heart, I 0:23:46.420 --> 0:23:48.300 can I can feel it. He goes, we're going through 0:23:48.300 --> 0:23:50.300 a hard time. My wife wants to divorce. And as 0:23:50.300 --> 0:23:52.980 a man, I respect her decision. But I disagree with that. 0:23:53.020 --> 0:23:56.660 You know what? That's that weird. Okay, I see what's 0:23:56.700 --> 0:23:59.419 going on, and we're moving the chess pieces around. What 0:23:59.420 --> 0:24:01.820 you need to do is grab her hands, look her 0:24:01.820 --> 0:24:05.060 square in the eyes and go. Could I get five 0:24:05.060 --> 0:24:07.300 minutes of your time to ask you an honest question? 0:24:07.300 --> 0:24:11.380 From my heart? I would. I would be willing to 0:24:11.420 --> 0:24:14.180 bet she'd be willing to afford you that opportunity. Look 0:24:14.180 --> 0:24:17.260 in her eyes and say, if I could meet one 0:24:17.260 --> 0:24:20.500 primary need in you that has gone unmet, what would 0:24:20.500 --> 0:24:24.820 it be? If you listen and linger, I think you 0:24:24.820 --> 0:24:28.060 might hear it now. There may be a lot more 0:24:28.060 --> 0:24:31.060 to it, and there often is, because what gets stored 0:24:31.060 --> 0:24:33.739 up are all these little bricks. You know, when you 0:24:33.740 --> 0:24:36.060 get in spiritual isolation in a marriage, you know what's 0:24:36.060 --> 0:24:40.010 going on. It's usually a big wall that's constructed of 0:24:40.010 --> 0:24:43.210 little things that pile up one after another over time. 0:24:43.210 --> 0:24:45.610 And pretty quick you go. There's no way that we're 0:24:45.609 --> 0:24:48.050 going to get this thing going. But I want to 0:24:48.050 --> 0:24:52.170 tell you something. Our God can do it. I've personally 0:24:52.330 --> 0:24:56.330 seen it. Seven years into our marriage, my bride and 0:24:56.330 --> 0:25:00.689 I and me, by taking initiative, had to take down 0:25:00.690 --> 0:25:03.450 brick by brick, a little wall that had grown between us. 0:25:03.450 --> 0:25:07.609 On the outside, everything looked great, but inside love was cold. 0:25:08.170 --> 0:25:13.330 And you can do this. It requires humility, teachability and 0:25:13.330 --> 0:25:17.850 then honest discussion to go, wow, what separated us here? 0:25:18.810 --> 0:25:21.050 So my brother, I love your heart. And I love 0:25:21.050 --> 0:25:23.210 the courage, don't you, Ali? That someone would step up 0:25:23.210 --> 0:25:23.609 like that? 0:25:23.730 --> 0:25:26.609 I do. And you know, you mentioned humility. And I 0:25:26.609 --> 0:25:29.690 think it does take that step of humility to ask 0:25:29.690 --> 0:25:33.050 for help. I mean, even beyond that, sending an email 0:25:33.050 --> 0:25:36.209 is awesome, but there's still an anonymity there that I 0:25:36.210 --> 0:25:38.609 think sometimes we want to want to protect. So I 0:25:38.609 --> 0:25:41.490 think that humility of and courage of actually going to 0:25:41.530 --> 0:25:45.050 a person, a mature Christian leader or your pastor. It's 0:25:45.090 --> 0:25:47.810 that it's it's scary, but it's so important. 0:25:47.970 --> 0:25:51.250 Necessary. You know what Satan hates? He hates when you 0:25:51.250 --> 0:25:53.850 take that step across the room to tap someone on 0:25:53.850 --> 0:25:55.050 the shoulder and ask for help. 0:25:55.170 --> 0:25:58.250 It's hard. He hates everything in us, says I. We 0:25:58.250 --> 0:26:01.570 can just fix this by ourselves, right? We don't need 0:26:01.570 --> 0:26:03.570 to tell anybody that we're having a hard time. 0:26:03.930 --> 0:26:06.330 Yeah. You know, that is my story, too. I think 0:26:06.330 --> 0:26:08.010 if we're honest, that's all of our stories. 0:26:08.050 --> 0:26:11.970 Absolutely. We'd rather fix it by ourselves than involve anybody else. 0:26:12.010 --> 0:26:14.210 Oh, yeah. Seems like a last resort sometimes. 0:26:14.570 --> 0:26:17.250 Yeah, it's a big one. You know. 0:26:17.290 --> 0:26:18.490 I. 0:26:18.530 --> 0:26:23.730 Asked a question earlier, posited a thing to measure in 0:26:23.730 --> 0:26:25.770 our life. Remember what that was here, Ali? 0:26:26.090 --> 0:26:28.810 Yeah. You asked what? When you look at your own marriage, 0:26:28.930 --> 0:26:32.090 what is it that you measure to see how you're doing? 0:26:32.210 --> 0:26:36.130 Or what is that warning sign that things are amiss? 0:26:36.130 --> 0:26:39.640 Something is off. What is it for your for your marriage? 0:26:39.640 --> 0:26:42.840 It can be different for every marriage. What is that thing? 0:26:42.840 --> 0:26:45.080 That warning sign. If you look at a dashboard on 0:26:45.080 --> 0:26:47.280 the car, you see a light come up and you go, 0:26:47.320 --> 0:26:50.560 this needs attention. What is that for your marriage? Just 0:26:50.560 --> 0:26:52.520 shoot us a text in a sentence if you can. 0:26:52.520 --> 0:26:57.840 855 five 7898 what is that warning sign that when 0:26:57.840 --> 0:27:00.280 it pops up on the dashboard of your marriage, you go, 0:27:00.480 --> 0:27:05.560 we need to give this some attention. 855 five 7898. 0:27:05.600 --> 0:27:08.520 He's a sports fanatic with a stat for anything you 0:27:08.520 --> 0:27:12.760 can think of. Young Thunder is in the crew. It's 0:27:12.760 --> 0:27:14.879 Carl and crew on Moody Radio. 0:27:15.080 --> 0:27:18.800 All right, that's a theme song for this week. Lead me, 0:27:18.800 --> 0:27:23.000 because I can't do this alone. Sanctus real asking you 0:27:23.119 --> 0:27:27.200 really important question. You got to measure what matters. And 0:27:27.200 --> 0:27:30.600 if you look around, you'll see, boy, this is an 0:27:30.600 --> 0:27:35.680 indication that something's amiss in our marriage. What are those 0:27:35.680 --> 0:27:39.110 things that you identify that you're like, yeah, boy, when 0:27:39.109 --> 0:27:41.790 this is going on, there's a problem. This is a 0:27:41.869 --> 0:27:46.109 leading indicator that something is wrong. Getting some good feedback here, Ali. 0:27:46.150 --> 0:27:47.949 Yeah. This is coming in by text. I won't use 0:27:47.950 --> 0:27:52.910 your number. I'll just tell you what's coming in. Generally impatience, bitterness, 0:27:52.950 --> 0:27:57.790 poor communication when there's empty emotional intimacy. This is a 0:27:57.790 --> 0:27:59.950 very telling one. When I don't tell my husband what's 0:27:59.990 --> 0:28:02.190 on my heart, I can tell him what's on my 0:28:02.190 --> 0:28:07.990 mind easily. But when I hold back what's on my heart, indifference, 0:28:07.990 --> 0:28:13.150 physical touch and then a heart. Heartbreaking account of someone 0:28:13.150 --> 0:28:16.109 who recently lost a spouse. But you know, when we 0:28:16.109 --> 0:28:19.350 talk about this, I think it raises all kinds of 0:28:19.430 --> 0:28:23.270 emotions for people. Because no matter how long you've been married, 0:28:23.310 --> 0:28:28.109 there's some area where there's there's some disappointment, like your spouse. 0:28:28.109 --> 0:28:31.470 No one spouse has lived up to everything that they 0:28:31.470 --> 0:28:34.470 thought that you you thought they would be. And that's 0:28:34.470 --> 0:28:37.140 true for every single one of us. We have not 0:28:37.140 --> 0:28:39.820 lived up to what the expectation was for us when 0:28:39.820 --> 0:28:40.820 we went into this. 0:28:40.980 --> 0:28:43.980 Yeah, that's why we had such a tremendous honeymoon. Me 0:28:43.980 --> 0:28:47.620 and jobs. Because four days in, we're like, what in 0:28:47.620 --> 0:28:52.940 the world have we done? Now, not everyone's like that, 0:28:52.940 --> 0:28:58.780 but everybody comes to a passage in time when you go, whoa, 0:28:58.820 --> 0:29:00.020 this person's disappointing. 0:29:00.180 --> 0:29:00.940 Yeah. 0:29:00.980 --> 0:29:03.620 Coming up here, we're going to pour out our heart. Yep. 0:29:03.820 --> 0:29:09.700 We're going to tell you what is a indicator that 0:29:10.700 --> 0:29:14.300 something needs to change. And we're going to be vulnerable. 0:29:15.180 --> 0:29:15.700 Hang on. 0:29:16.180 --> 0:29:19.900 He was running from God, but God's love brought him home. 0:29:20.220 --> 0:29:24.060 Carl is in the crew. It's Carl and crew on 0:29:24.060 --> 0:29:25.020 Moody Radio. 0:29:25.220 --> 0:29:32.020 If we're honest, there are indicators that call them idiot 0:29:32.060 --> 0:29:34.940 lights on. Some dashboards, some of them. I'm sorry. 0:29:35.220 --> 0:29:37.460 I know, I really like that I'm laughing because I 0:29:37.500 --> 0:29:38.380 think it's hilarious. 0:29:38.740 --> 0:29:41.260 Idiot lights are the funniest things. Because when you get 0:29:41.260 --> 0:29:45.260 a flashing red engine light, it means your engine's toast. 0:29:45.260 --> 0:29:48.780 You need a new engine. Yes, rather than your oil pressure. 0:29:48.780 --> 0:29:51.260 So that's why I like pressure gauges as opposed to 0:29:51.300 --> 0:29:53.500 idiot lights. Idiot lights tell you pull to the side 0:29:53.500 --> 0:29:55.700 of the road and call I dot. 0:29:55.980 --> 0:29:56.820 Yes, immediately. 0:29:56.820 --> 0:29:57.300 You're toast. 0:29:57.340 --> 0:29:58.420 Prepare to buy a new car. 0:29:58.580 --> 0:30:01.580 Yes. Like Ali stranded with a stalled car. She thought 0:30:01.580 --> 0:30:04.300 for a moment. We are in trouble. Carload full of 0:30:04.300 --> 0:30:07.820 girls and they are like, stuck in the middle of Lake. 0:30:07.820 --> 0:30:09.380 Shore Drive in Chicago. 0:30:09.580 --> 0:30:10.980 That even gets me nervous. 0:30:10.980 --> 0:30:11.979 It's stressful man. 0:30:12.460 --> 0:30:16.340 Oh. I'm glad. Oh, I'm glad that thing got going again. Yes, 0:30:16.340 --> 0:30:20.300 but there are indicators in marriage that something's wrong. And 0:30:20.300 --> 0:30:23.460 one big one for me is just opening my chest 0:30:23.460 --> 0:30:26.540 cavity is as simple as taking my wife for granted. 0:30:26.820 --> 0:30:28.260 You know what? I got to tell you something. I 0:30:28.260 --> 0:30:30.220 don't do a lot of washing and clothes around here. 0:30:30.220 --> 0:30:34.690 And when I do, I screw it up. Things shrink. 0:30:35.330 --> 0:30:40.570 Things change color. Things get bad. And my wife just 0:30:40.570 --> 0:30:43.410 graciously says. And so I'll tell her. Sometimes they want 0:30:43.410 --> 0:30:44.890 to help you around here. Babe, can I do a 0:30:44.890 --> 0:30:48.050 load of wash? No. That's okay. Um, but I got 0:30:48.050 --> 0:30:49.170 some other stuff for you. 0:30:49.290 --> 0:30:50.450 That's great. 0:30:51.090 --> 0:30:54.050 But the wash is not for me. That woman has 0:30:54.050 --> 0:30:56.890 to grab my underwear, grab my clothes, grab my socks, 0:30:57.450 --> 0:31:00.690 and do my laundry. And you know what? I need to, 0:31:00.730 --> 0:31:04.490 from time to time, remember that and go. Thank you 0:31:04.490 --> 0:31:07.850 for doing my dirty laundry. 0:31:08.330 --> 0:31:11.370 That's important, I think. I think all of us can 0:31:11.370 --> 0:31:14.250 be guilty of taking our spouse for granted and saying, 0:31:14.450 --> 0:31:17.090 I don't appreciate the little things that you do around here. 0:31:17.210 --> 0:31:19.730 And it's more than that. It's taking for granted in 0:31:19.730 --> 0:31:22.050 so many ways. I mean, I'm married to a grandma 0:31:22.050 --> 0:31:24.290 right now, guys. I'm married to a grandma. 0:31:24.290 --> 0:31:25.250 Congratulations. 0:31:25.410 --> 0:31:26.650 One week to a grandma. 0:31:27.610 --> 0:31:30.690 Boy, she's a good looking grandma, but I'm married to 0:31:30.690 --> 0:31:33.800 a grandma. And last night we were watching the Super 0:31:33.800 --> 0:31:37.240 Bowl with our kids and our granddaughter, and she was 0:31:37.240 --> 0:31:41.040 a Philadelphia fan, I could tell it. And and my 0:31:41.040 --> 0:31:44.760 bride is doing such a good job with this little girl. 0:31:45.160 --> 0:31:52.400 And I'm like, man, what a good grandma. What do 0:31:52.400 --> 0:31:53.360 you say, young Thunder? 0:31:53.880 --> 0:31:56.920 You know, I say for me that I can tell 0:31:57.080 --> 0:32:01.680 that God's trying to get my attention in the busyness 0:32:01.680 --> 0:32:06.880 of life that, you know, I Monday through Friday, work 0:32:06.880 --> 0:32:09.520 is hard. I get up early. I come home and 0:32:09.520 --> 0:32:11.760 I'm tired, and I, you know, I don't I want 0:32:11.760 --> 0:32:13.360 to do a lot of things for myself because, hey, 0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:15.960 that's my recoup time, I need that. But then Monday 0:32:15.960 --> 0:32:18.280 through Friday is gone and got Saturday, Sunday doing stuff 0:32:18.280 --> 0:32:20.800 with the kiddo. And and then I go, oh, it's 0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:23.080 Monday again, you know. So you got to be careful 0:32:23.080 --> 0:32:25.760 about that. God wants you to spend time with your spouse. 0:32:26.680 --> 0:32:27.560 Good word. 0:32:27.560 --> 0:32:29.840 I think for me, when I think about my marriage, 0:32:29.840 --> 0:32:32.350 I've been married now almost 19 years. 0:32:32.510 --> 0:32:33.150 Yeah. 0:32:33.190 --> 0:32:37.790 And it's the times when we forget to connect. When 0:32:38.270 --> 0:32:41.310 he comes in the door and I continue on what 0:32:41.310 --> 0:32:44.470 I'm doing in the kitchen, and don't go over and 0:32:44.470 --> 0:32:46.350 give him a hug and a kiss and ask him 0:32:46.350 --> 0:32:48.510 how his day is. Or we're sitting on the couch 0:32:48.550 --> 0:32:51.350 and we're both on opposite sides instead of next to 0:32:51.390 --> 0:32:53.070 each other. We don't have to. You don't have to 0:32:53.110 --> 0:32:55.190 sit on top of your spouse all day like you're 0:32:55.190 --> 0:32:58.030 just attached at the hip. But when it's like you're 0:32:58.030 --> 0:33:01.030 in the same space, but there's not that physical connection 0:33:01.150 --> 0:33:03.430 that touch on the shoulder, that, hey, let me snuggle 0:33:03.430 --> 0:33:05.470 up next to you on the couch when that's missing. 0:33:05.830 --> 0:33:07.910 It's like, okay, we got to reconnect. 0:33:08.350 --> 0:33:10.910 And that's that's a pretty simple course correction, isn't it? 0:33:10.950 --> 0:33:13.790 Yes it is. Let's move over a little bit. 0:33:13.830 --> 0:33:17.030 Yeah. Just move six inches. Move over a foot from 0:33:17.030 --> 0:33:19.990 the chair to the couch. Put the phone down. Good stuff. 0:33:21.590 --> 0:33:24.230 Good stuff. What is it for you? Let's go do it. 0:33:24.750 --> 0:33:27.830 Do you feel stuck or paralyzed with victory? Just out 0:33:27.830 --> 0:33:31.910 of reach? Here are your questions answered. It's time for 0:33:31.990 --> 0:33:33.310 ask Pastor Carl. 0:33:34.230 --> 0:33:35.990 All right. In just a little bit, Ali's going to 0:33:35.990 --> 0:33:37.350 give you a link so that you can get your 0:33:37.350 --> 0:33:39.750 questions in to me here. I do have a slew 0:33:39.750 --> 0:33:41.870 of them. So at the bottom of each hour I'm 0:33:41.870 --> 0:33:46.630 going to tackle at least one, maybe more. But this one, 0:33:46.630 --> 0:33:51.270 when I when I got it, I'm like, oh, there 0:33:51.270 --> 0:33:54.469 is a lie roaming around in some how do I 0:33:54.510 --> 0:33:58.670 say this? Some theological circles that is missing the broad 0:33:58.670 --> 0:34:02.510 side of the barn and that is that going straight 0:34:02.510 --> 0:34:05.790 to God is not possible, that you need the help 0:34:05.990 --> 0:34:09.350 of a man. Now, before I even get to the question, 0:34:09.350 --> 0:34:13.150 let me say this. We benefit greatly by having brothers 0:34:13.150 --> 0:34:18.310 and sisters coming around us. No question. But make no 0:34:18.310 --> 0:34:23.470 mistake about it, every person listening to me right now 0:34:23.590 --> 0:34:30.299 can go straight to God. Straight to God. You guys 0:34:30.300 --> 0:34:31.740 guess what the question might be? 0:34:35.060 --> 0:34:38.219 Mm. I mean, yes, based on that setup. 0:34:39.340 --> 0:34:40.980 It's salvific in nature. 0:34:41.140 --> 0:34:41.739 Oh. 0:34:42.580 --> 0:34:43.100 Yeah. 0:34:43.140 --> 0:34:43.500 Okay. 0:34:43.700 --> 0:34:44.339 Give it to us. 0:34:45.460 --> 0:34:49.180 I'm sure they are asking this for themselves. Greetings, Pastor Carl. 0:34:49.300 --> 0:34:53.020 If someone prays the sinner's prayer, kneeling alone in front 0:34:53.020 --> 0:34:57.660 of his bed and accepts Jesus Christ as Savior, does 0:34:57.660 --> 0:35:01.140 he need someone to pray for him for his salvation 0:35:01.140 --> 0:35:05.299 to be valid and complete? I need your insight, please. 0:35:05.380 --> 0:35:11.700 And the answer is no. How do I know this? 0:35:14.380 --> 0:35:18.500 I want you to know that in First Timothy, we 0:35:18.540 --> 0:35:25.540 find Paul coaching his young protege, Timothy, and he's laying 0:35:25.540 --> 0:35:29.970 down some unbelievable theology. But But we got to get 0:35:29.969 --> 0:35:31.969 a stake in the ground on this one. Let me 0:35:31.969 --> 0:35:35.210 back up and read this second Timothy, first Timothy chapter two. 0:35:35.250 --> 0:35:40.250 Listen to this. First of all. Then I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, 0:35:40.250 --> 0:35:43.490 and thanksgivings may be made for all people, for kings 0:35:43.489 --> 0:35:46.170 and all who are in high places, and that we 0:35:46.170 --> 0:35:50.330 may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified 0:35:50.330 --> 0:35:52.770 in every way. This is good, and it's pleasing in 0:35:52.770 --> 0:35:55.570 the sight of God our Savior, who desires all people 0:35:55.570 --> 0:35:57.970 to be saved and come to the knowledge of the truth. 0:35:58.210 --> 0:36:02.529 For there is one God. And there is one mediator 0:36:02.930 --> 0:36:08.689 between God and man, the man Christ Jesus, who gave 0:36:08.690 --> 0:36:12.650 himself as a ransom for all, which is the testimony 0:36:12.650 --> 0:36:17.370 given at the proper time. He goes on to say, 0:36:17.370 --> 0:36:20.330 I've been appointed a preacher and an apostle. Toward this end. 0:36:20.330 --> 0:36:24.609 But this this may seem simple to some of you, 0:36:24.610 --> 0:36:28.009 but there's many listening this morning who come from a 0:36:28.010 --> 0:36:32.040 from a faith background where you needed to go to 0:36:32.080 --> 0:36:35.719 man to get to God. And I'm here today to 0:36:35.760 --> 0:36:42.919 tell you that is not true. There is one mediator 0:36:43.000 --> 0:36:47.239 between God and man. His name is Jesus. And I 0:36:47.239 --> 0:36:51.320 think I want to think about a solution for this. 0:36:52.200 --> 0:36:56.239 And I think sometimes we see the biblical narrative and 0:36:56.239 --> 0:36:59.920 we see Jesus in motion, and we don't take those 0:36:59.920 --> 0:37:01.560 stories at their word. 0:37:02.080 --> 0:37:03.000 What do you mean? 0:37:03.719 --> 0:37:08.919 When when Jesus says to the disciples, come and follow me. 0:37:09.000 --> 0:37:11.239 When we see him sitting down at a well with 0:37:11.239 --> 0:37:14.279 a woman who had been married five times and currently 0:37:14.280 --> 0:37:19.280 shacked up, and he offers her eternal life and uses 0:37:19.280 --> 0:37:22.399 that metaphor of that water well as a as an 0:37:22.400 --> 0:37:26.560 illustration of that springing up to eternal life. When we 0:37:26.680 --> 0:37:32.680 see him healing paralytics those born blind when we see 0:37:32.680 --> 0:37:37.520 him calling tax collectors and sinners to have dinner with them. 0:37:37.520 --> 0:37:42.920 That Jesus who lived then is alive today, and he's 0:37:42.920 --> 0:37:47.200 still having breakfast, lunch, and dinner for anyone who calls 0:37:47.200 --> 0:37:50.319 on his name. Isn't that hopeful? 0:37:51.320 --> 0:37:53.920 It's the most hopeful thing of all time, because it's 0:37:53.920 --> 0:37:56.320 not about us. It's about his love for us. 0:37:56.480 --> 0:38:00.279 And it's not about us going to a man or 0:38:00.360 --> 0:38:04.560 a woman who can help us gain access to Jesus. 0:38:04.640 --> 0:38:05.200 Amen. 0:38:05.680 --> 0:38:09.160 The veil has been torn, man. See, the amazing thing 0:38:09.160 --> 0:38:14.040 about the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ is 0:38:14.040 --> 0:38:16.839 that the veil into the Holy of Holies, into the 0:38:16.840 --> 0:38:22.120 presence of God, was secured through the blood of Jesus Christ. 0:38:23.600 --> 0:38:27.069 And so, in just practical terms, if you want to 0:38:27.710 --> 0:38:32.790 camp out anywhere, understanding that, you can go straight to Jesus. 0:38:33.230 --> 0:38:36.589 Appealing for salvation and you don't need anyone. Quote to 0:38:36.630 --> 0:38:39.390 pray for you to make sure that your salvation is 0:38:39.390 --> 0:38:42.950 valid and complete. I want you to go to First 0:38:42.950 --> 0:38:47.390 Timothy chapter two, verse five. For there is one God, 0:38:47.390 --> 0:38:50.549 and there is one mediator between God and men, the 0:38:50.550 --> 0:38:54.629 man Christ Jesus. And I know for some of you listening, 0:38:54.630 --> 0:39:01.069 you go, wow, I would have never imagined that that 0:39:01.070 --> 0:39:03.629 might be a question, but it is because the God 0:39:03.670 --> 0:39:06.950 of this age has actually twisted the truth and made 0:39:06.950 --> 0:39:09.469 us think in some faith traditions that we need to 0:39:09.469 --> 0:39:12.230 go to a person. And here's the power of the 0:39:12.270 --> 0:39:16.710 gospel is that the person came to us. His name 0:39:16.710 --> 0:39:22.469 is Jesus. Yes, his name is Jesus. And the beautiful 0:39:22.469 --> 0:39:27.379 thing about the incarnation is that, unlike the Old Testament, 0:39:27.500 --> 0:39:30.500 where we had to go to a priest who would 0:39:30.500 --> 0:39:34.259 walk us into the Holy of Holies or take our 0:39:34.260 --> 0:39:38.780 requests before God, we now have them in the person 0:39:38.780 --> 0:39:43.220 of Jesus Christ. He loves you and he cares for you, 0:39:43.219 --> 0:39:45.660 and you can go to him today. As a matter 0:39:45.660 --> 0:39:48.580 of fact, I feel prompted. Some of you have thought 0:39:48.580 --> 0:39:50.660 you've got to get cleaned up, or you've got to 0:39:50.660 --> 0:39:54.219 go to a man or you've got to go, um, 0:39:54.260 --> 0:39:58.979 confess to a person who maybe somehow will get me 0:39:58.980 --> 0:40:02.580 straight with God. I'm here to tell you today, God 0:40:02.580 --> 0:40:06.860 so loved the world that whoever believes in him will 0:40:06.860 --> 0:40:11.779 not perish but have everlasting life. I don't care if 0:40:11.780 --> 0:40:14.700 it's a sinner's prayer. I don't care if it's driving 0:40:14.700 --> 0:40:18.420 down the road. If your heart is broken before God 0:40:18.420 --> 0:40:22.580 and surrendered before him. If you recognize in this moment 0:40:22.580 --> 0:40:27.370 I'm a sinner who needs a savior. I am a 0:40:27.450 --> 0:40:31.290 sinner who needs a Savior. His name is Jesus. You 0:40:31.290 --> 0:40:36.130 can go straight to him today and say, Jesus, forgive 0:40:36.130 --> 0:40:41.330 me for my sins. Thanks for dying for me. I 0:40:41.370 --> 0:40:44.850 bow my heart before you. Yeah, it's not even about 0:40:44.850 --> 0:40:47.330 bowing your head. It's not getting the posture, your body 0:40:47.330 --> 0:40:50.050 just right. It's not even kneeling on the floor. It's 0:40:50.050 --> 0:40:55.490 a heart that's kneeling low before God. We are justified 0:40:55.489 --> 0:41:00.689 and made right with God by faith alone. No one 0:41:00.690 --> 0:41:04.210 needed to be there but you and God. And then 0:41:04.210 --> 0:41:07.250 you get up off that floor. You lift up your 0:41:07.250 --> 0:41:11.210 chin and you go tell people what Jesus has done 0:41:11.489 --> 0:41:18.689 for you. Is that you today, my friend? You need salvation. 0:41:18.690 --> 0:41:20.890 So let me ask you, do you believe that Jesus 0:41:20.890 --> 0:41:25.130 died for you? Good. Do you believe you needed that? 0:41:25.130 --> 0:41:30.129 Because you can't do it. Good. Do you believe he 0:41:30.130 --> 0:41:35.930 rose again and is alive today? Because you feel and 0:41:35.930 --> 0:41:40.730 you are experiencing not only the conviction of sin, but 0:41:40.730 --> 0:41:48.770 the comfort of coming to him. That's God's work. And 0:41:48.770 --> 0:41:53.930 right now, today, if it's been an epiphany, I can 0:41:53.930 --> 0:41:57.890 surrender to Jesus without the help of a of another man. 0:41:59.730 --> 0:42:01.770 We want to help you in your new walk of 0:42:01.770 --> 0:42:05.170 faith right now. If today is your day of salvation, 0:42:06.050 --> 0:42:09.569 one mediator, Jesus Christ Himself, and you've gone straight to him, 0:42:09.570 --> 0:42:12.930 confessing your sin and the need for the Messiah, the 0:42:12.969 --> 0:42:15.930 Savior of the world, to save your life. We want 0:42:15.930 --> 0:42:19.210 to help you right now. Pastor Carl, what if the 0:42:19.210 --> 0:42:25.400 temptation comes from within me? kind of scared of asking 0:42:25.400 --> 0:42:28.239 you this, but what have you yourself is the one 0:42:28.239 --> 0:42:32.960 who is doing the tempting first. You're spot on, James, 0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:38.560 the half brother. Jesus said, temptation born of lust gives 0:42:38.560 --> 0:42:42.120 birth to sin. So there's a couple different kinds of temptations. 0:42:42.120 --> 0:42:45.120 There's the temptation that comes from outward things, and there's 0:42:45.120 --> 0:42:50.480 things that come from inward flesh. That's ourselves. And unchecked 0:42:50.480 --> 0:42:52.520 we can get in trouble with that. He goes on, 0:42:52.520 --> 0:42:58.160 I am a Christ follower. I'm born again. But then 0:42:58.160 --> 0:43:00.560 he goes on and it's a little bit graphic here, 0:43:00.560 --> 0:43:02.479 so I'm not going to get into a little ear warning. 0:43:02.480 --> 0:43:05.040 I'll just say. He goes on to describe what trips 0:43:05.040 --> 0:43:07.600 him up with regard to his eyes, and it deals 0:43:07.600 --> 0:43:13.439 with women and sexuality and all that stuff. That is 0:43:13.440 --> 0:43:18.319 very real. First, let me say this. When you find 0:43:18.320 --> 0:43:24.310 yourself gripped by sin, missing the mark. That's no longer temptation. 0:43:24.310 --> 0:43:26.989 You've taken the bait and that needs to be repented of, 0:43:27.110 --> 0:43:30.550 brought into the light, and then you deal a swift 0:43:30.550 --> 0:43:33.190 blow to it. That is critical. And I'm going to 0:43:33.190 --> 0:43:34.830 give you a link here in a moment, because some 0:43:34.830 --> 0:43:37.029 of you are struggling with who knows what. And you're like, 0:43:37.030 --> 0:43:38.670 how in the world am I going to get victory 0:43:38.670 --> 0:43:40.710 over this? But I haven't even alluded to this on 0:43:40.710 --> 0:43:45.830 this show yet. But there's something very solidly biblical about 0:43:45.830 --> 0:43:51.029 building boundaries. I'm talking moral boundaries. I'm talking relational boundaries, 0:43:51.150 --> 0:43:57.590 and I'm talking spiritual boundaries. And what boundaries do are 0:43:57.630 --> 0:44:02.870 it stops feeding something that keeps coming back. And there's ways, 0:44:02.870 --> 0:44:05.669 my brother, that you can deal with this temptation even 0:44:05.670 --> 0:44:10.549 within yourself by building boundaries around your life. I've got 0:44:10.630 --> 0:44:14.670 birdfeeders at home, front yard, back yard. When I put 0:44:14.670 --> 0:44:17.830 sunflower seeds in those feeders. Guess what? These birds keep 0:44:17.830 --> 0:44:23.180 coming back. When I stop feeding these birds, they go away. 0:44:24.700 --> 0:44:28.779 You got to starve, sin. You got to quit feeding it. 0:44:28.780 --> 0:44:31.020 And you got to get yourself in a position where 0:44:31.020 --> 0:44:36.620 you're not feeding sin. I don't care what issue this is. 0:44:36.660 --> 0:44:38.940 Let me give you a few to cogitate on here. 0:44:38.940 --> 0:44:42.220 Boom crew for all of you. If you make purchases impulsively, 0:44:42.219 --> 0:44:47.740 devise creative ways to make them more challenging. Don't carry 0:44:47.780 --> 0:44:51.500 credit card. So one person I know has a trusted 0:44:51.500 --> 0:44:55.020 friend look at their spending ledgers for a few months. Breaks. 0:44:55.020 --> 0:44:58.940 That puts boundaries there. If you're trying to curb your appetite, 0:44:58.980 --> 0:45:01.540 get healthy or lose weight. Avoid having foods in your 0:45:01.540 --> 0:45:05.100 kitchen that are going to tempt you to overindulge. Just 0:45:05.100 --> 0:45:11.860 don't even make these less accessible. Starve it out. If wine, beer, 0:45:11.900 --> 0:45:14.779 hard liquor, drugs are owning you, get them out of 0:45:14.780 --> 0:45:19.900 easy reach. Distance yourself from company. Yeah. People that cause 0:45:19.900 --> 0:45:23.100 you cause you to stumble and get trusted friends to 0:45:23.140 --> 0:45:26.779 pray for you and support you. If social media or 0:45:26.900 --> 0:45:31.900 TV are devouring your time, limit your electronics. Get passcodes 0:45:31.900 --> 0:45:36.140 to a spouse or friend. A device doesn't only give 0:45:36.140 --> 0:45:40.500 you access to the world. It gives the world access 0:45:40.500 --> 0:45:42.660 to you. And some of you know that full well. 0:45:43.620 --> 0:45:49.500 So here's here's what I'd say. Temptation is common to man, 0:45:50.580 --> 0:45:55.460 but God has provided a way of escape. And we 0:45:55.460 --> 0:45:58.820 know that Jesus was tempted in every way and without sin. 0:46:01.100 --> 0:46:05.100 But it is a wise thing to put moral, spiritual, 0:46:05.100 --> 0:46:09.420 relational boundaries up in your life. Some of you find 0:46:09.420 --> 0:46:13.580 yourself on this sin shame, repent, repeat. Cycle. Like my 0:46:13.580 --> 0:46:19.060 brother who emailed me here because you've not put up boundaries. 0:46:19.570 --> 0:46:22.570 Some of us think, well, we're just at the mercy 0:46:22.570 --> 0:46:24.969 of what's going to come our way. No. Construct your 0:46:24.969 --> 0:46:27.330 life in a way I don't care what you're up against. 0:46:27.370 --> 0:46:30.529 Even if it's gossiping in the lobby after church. God 0:46:30.530 --> 0:46:33.290 bless you. The Spirit of God convicts you that go 0:46:33.290 --> 0:46:36.210 to your friends and tell them I am so convicted. 0:46:36.290 --> 0:46:38.969 I've been gossiping. Would you help me with this? I 0:46:38.969 --> 0:46:42.609 know it takes courage, but this is what courageous disciples 0:46:42.610 --> 0:46:46.890 do who bear fruit. And you want that. So this 0:46:46.890 --> 0:46:51.770 whole issue of boundaries and killing sin. I'm going to 0:46:51.770 --> 0:46:54.170 be bold here and tell you there's a place you 0:46:54.170 --> 0:46:56.930 can go to get some help. It's been out for 0:46:56.930 --> 0:47:00.009 weeks now, and if you haven't heard this yet, or 0:47:00.010 --> 0:47:02.810 maybe the time is now, I want you more than 0:47:02.810 --> 0:47:08.050 anything else, especially this chapter on boundaries around your life. 0:47:09.010 --> 0:47:12.370 Because you've got to quit feeding what's been killing you. 0:47:12.690 --> 0:47:16.210 You got to starve it, and God can help you. 0:47:16.210 --> 0:47:18.839 And we've got a path forward. I want you to 0:47:18.880 --> 0:47:20.839 check this out if you haven't done it yet. Young 0:47:20.880 --> 0:47:22.239 Thunder's got a link right now. 0:47:22.280 --> 0:47:25.799 Yeah. This is to Carl's book, Killing Sin. Conquer. The 0:47:25.800 --> 0:47:28.879 one thing that is defeating you, it's scripture based. It's 0:47:28.880 --> 0:47:31.560 not just Carl's thoughts floating around in there. This is 0:47:31.560 --> 0:47:35.000 all for that. This is all from the word of God. 0:47:35.160 --> 0:47:38.160 And it will help you conquer the one thing that's 0:47:38.160 --> 0:47:41.040 defeating you. We truly believe it. Just text the word 0:47:41.040 --> 0:47:46.680 conquer to 855, 78, 98. That's c o n q 0:47:46.719 --> 0:47:51.480 u e r to 855 five 7898. 0:47:51.560 --> 0:47:54.680 And Godspeed to you. I love you all, I really do. 0:47:54.680 --> 0:47:57.480 This is a fun segment. Monday's bottom of the hour, 0:47:59.000 --> 0:48:01.240 but boundaries is huge. 0:48:02.120 --> 0:48:02.840 Oh, it's so big. 0:48:03.600 --> 0:48:07.200 It's big man. I mean, we are not at the 0:48:07.200 --> 0:48:09.640 mercy of this wacky world that we live in, in 0:48:09.640 --> 0:48:14.160 these devices in particular, or gossip or whatever it may be, 0:48:14.160 --> 0:48:16.200 you can get creative and come up with ways to 0:48:16.200 --> 0:48:19.430 put boundaries around this, and I cover that in one 0:48:19.469 --> 0:48:23.670 whole chapter, so check it out. Text the word conquer 0:48:23.670 --> 0:48:29.989 right now. Just the word conquer to 805, 55, 78, 98. 0:48:29.989 --> 0:48:32.470 And quite frankly, this is one of those words that 0:48:32.469 --> 0:48:36.310 phonetically doesn't look like it's spelled. It doesn't sound like 0:48:36.310 --> 0:48:39.069 it's spelled at all. Correct c o n c o 0:48:39.070 --> 0:48:44.430 n q u e r. Conquer to 855 five 7898. 0:48:45.190 --> 0:48:47.830 I want to help you take your next step with 0:48:47.830 --> 0:48:50.910 Jesus and this whole issue of killing sin, getting off 0:48:50.910 --> 0:48:58.430 that stupid sin shame, repent, repeat madness cycle can end, 0:48:58.469 --> 0:49:01.190 my friend. It can end and I don't care what 0:49:01.190 --> 0:49:04.509 it is. Let God do that work in you. Just 0:49:04.510 --> 0:49:09.950 text the word conquer to 855 five 7898. Well, coming up, 0:49:09.950 --> 0:49:11.910 I've got a question for you right now if you 0:49:11.910 --> 0:49:14.590 took because we're dealing with marriage all week long here. 0:49:16.950 --> 0:49:23.830 If you took a look at your marriage. What is 0:49:23.830 --> 0:49:31.190 that thing? That most rips you off from love. And 0:49:31.190 --> 0:49:36.750 usually it's simple little things. What does that behavior or 0:49:36.750 --> 0:49:40.190 that issue in your marriage that if you're not attentive 0:49:40.190 --> 0:49:43.710 to it, it's going to rip you off blind? Think 0:49:43.710 --> 0:49:47.870 about that a second. Think about that. And if you 0:49:47.910 --> 0:49:49.950 got a response to that you can text us here 0:49:49.950 --> 0:49:52.230 as well right now. What is that thing that if 0:49:52.230 --> 0:49:54.310 you're not attentive to it in your marriage, it's going 0:49:54.350 --> 0:49:57.589 to rip you off and it's going to take what 0:49:57.590 --> 0:50:02.830 could be robust intimacy and turn it into glorified roommate status. Text. 0:50:02.830 --> 0:50:04.750 Is your response to that one right now? I'm not 0:50:04.750 --> 0:50:07.230 going to read out numbers or names on air. I 0:50:07.230 --> 0:50:11.430 would just love to hear from you. 805 55 7898 0:50:11.469 --> 0:50:15.310 805 55 7898.