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S1: Doctor Gary Chapman with a love language minute.

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S2: What would you say to the wife who says I

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S2: have forgiven him? But I am deeply pained when I

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S2: remember what he did. Would you quote Hebrews ten, verse 17,

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S2: where God says, and their sins I will remember no more.

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S2: Would you tell her that if she has not forgotten,

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S2: then she has not forgiven? I hope not. Forgiveness does

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S2: not destroy our memory. Our brain records every event we experience.

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S2: Memory may bring back the feeling of hurt. But forgiveness

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S2: is not a feeling. It is a promise. Forgiveness says

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S2: I will no longer hold that against you. When the

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S2: memory comes back and the pain returns, we take it

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S2: to God and say, father, thank you. That is forgiven.

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S2: Don't allow the memory of the past to destroy your day.

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S1: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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S1: For more, visit five Love languages.com.