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S1: Suzanne writes. Gary, how do I get my husband to

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S1: talk more?

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S2: Well, let me say, first of all, there are two

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S2: kinds of people when it comes to talking dead sees

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S2: and babbling brooks. Dead sees by nature don't talk very much.

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S2: They can receive. They can listen. But they don't have

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S2: much to say. Babbling brooks are sharing everything that comes

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S2: into their mind. And usually these two people are married

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S2: to each other. So part of it is personality differences.

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S2: And he will never speak as much as you would

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S2: like for him to speak. But if you can ask

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S2: specific questions, he's far more likely to answer. And when

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S2: he does answer, don't clobber his answer because that causes

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S2: him not to speak the next time. Receive what he says.

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S2: Give a follow up question specifically, and you'll begin to

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S2: see that little by little, when he understands he can

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S2: talk and not be condemned. He's far more likely to

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S2: continue to talk.

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S3: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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S3: For more, visit five Love languages.com.