1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,480 S1: Hi friends. Thanks so much for downloading this podcast, and 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:06,000 S1: I hope truly that you will hear something that will encourage, edify, equip, 3 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:08,360 S1: and enlighten you to get out there and influence and 4 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:11,040 S1: occupy until he comes. And on that note, may I 5 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:13,080 S1: take just a few moments here to describe this month's 6 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,920 S1: truth tool? It's by pastor Jack Hibbs. He's written the 7 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:19,040 S1: book called Called to Take a Bold Stand. I absolutely 8 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,520 S1: love this book because it reminds us that in Christ 9 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:24,480 S1: all things pass away. All things become new, that we 10 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,240 S1: are standing for his truth, that we have a new nature. 11 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:30,080 S1: Because of him, we should be living boldly. But far 12 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,120 S1: too often we retreat out of fear from cultural blowback. 13 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,600 S1: So I want to encourage all of us to just 14 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,800 S1: stand up for Christ, to be unashamed of who we 15 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:40,120 S1: are in him, and to go into a culture that's 16 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,600 S1: telling us in no uncertain terms. They're lost and they're hurting. 17 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:45,760 S1: So if you'd like a copy of Pastor Hibbs new 18 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:48,400 S1: book called Call to Take a Bold Stand, just give 19 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:50,720 S1: a gift of any amount by calling eight, seven, seven. 20 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:53,680 S1: Janet 58. 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For now, 39 00:01:37,330 --> 00:01:39,170 S1: please enjoy the broadcast. 40 00:01:39,730 --> 00:01:41,250 S2: Here are some of the news headlines we're watching. 41 00:01:41,569 --> 00:01:43,970 S3: The conference was over. The president won a pledge for. 42 00:01:43,970 --> 00:01:46,010 S4: Americans worshiping government over God. 43 00:01:46,370 --> 00:01:49,770 S3: Extremely rare safety move by a major 17 years. 44 00:01:49,770 --> 00:01:51,810 S5: The Palestinians and Israelis negotiated. 45 00:02:08,860 --> 00:02:11,780 S6: Had a lot of excellent coaches growing up in all sports, 46 00:02:11,780 --> 00:02:14,540 S6: but I really have to thank my high school football coach, 47 00:02:14,540 --> 00:02:18,500 S6: Dave Driscoll. I came to him as a 14 year 48 00:02:18,540 --> 00:02:22,340 S6: old who felt like I knew it all, and Coach 49 00:02:22,340 --> 00:02:25,020 S6: Driscoll helped me become a good player. But more than that, 50 00:02:25,020 --> 00:02:27,900 S6: he helped me become a leader. He taught me how 51 00:02:27,900 --> 00:02:31,260 S6: to think the game. Woody Widenhofer and Tom Moore were 52 00:02:31,260 --> 00:02:33,900 S6: the coaches who recruited me to the University of Minnesota, 53 00:02:33,900 --> 00:02:38,299 S6: and I thank them for impacting my life. Woody would 54 00:02:38,300 --> 00:02:41,579 S6: end up coaching me with the Steelers and Tom Moore. 55 00:02:41,620 --> 00:02:45,459 S6: You heard Marvin talk about Tom. Well, Tom rode with 56 00:02:45,460 --> 00:02:47,940 S6: me on the very first plane ride I ever took. 57 00:02:48,419 --> 00:02:50,780 S6: My recruiting trip to Minnesota when I was scared to 58 00:02:50,780 --> 00:02:53,980 S6: get on the plane. He was my quarterback coach. As 59 00:02:53,980 --> 00:02:56,710 S6: a freshman, and then 33 years later, he was our 60 00:02:56,710 --> 00:03:00,510 S6: offensive coordinator in Super Bowl 41 with the Colts. And 61 00:03:00,510 --> 00:03:02,950 S6: he's still coaching now. And I owe him a lot. 62 00:03:04,150 --> 00:03:07,190 S6: Thank you Tom. Thank you Woody. And a big thank 63 00:03:07,190 --> 00:03:10,070 S6: you to our head coach of the Gophers Cal Stoll, 64 00:03:10,790 --> 00:03:13,070 S6: who told us as freshmen that he expected us to 65 00:03:13,070 --> 00:03:17,310 S6: be uncommon, not just average. And that thought has stuck 66 00:03:17,310 --> 00:03:19,390 S6: with me throughout my life. 67 00:03:20,350 --> 00:03:24,430 S1: Uncommon, not just average. Hang on to that word. Uncommon 68 00:03:24,430 --> 00:03:26,110 S1: because it's going to play a key role in our 69 00:03:26,110 --> 00:03:28,710 S1: conversation this hour. Hi friends, welcome to In the Market 70 00:03:28,710 --> 00:03:30,950 S1: with Janet Partial. I am thrilled we're going to spend 71 00:03:30,950 --> 00:03:33,190 S1: this hour together because we're going to talk about what 72 00:03:33,190 --> 00:03:37,590 S1: it means to be uncommon and to live a purposeful life. Obviously, 73 00:03:37,590 --> 00:03:40,510 S1: that's Coach Tony Dungy, who doesn't know and love coach 74 00:03:40,630 --> 00:03:42,710 S1: and the stellar work that he's done in football. We 75 00:03:42,710 --> 00:03:46,270 S1: appreciate so much the fact that he led the Indianapolis 76 00:03:46,310 --> 00:03:50,110 S1: Colts to Super Bowl victory on February 4th, 2007. And 77 00:03:50,110 --> 00:03:53,390 S1: some of us remember watching that game. Magnificent. The first 78 00:03:53,490 --> 00:03:56,610 S1: such win for an African American head coach. He was 79 00:03:56,610 --> 00:03:59,170 S1: also the first head NFL coach to lead his teams 80 00:03:59,170 --> 00:04:03,370 S1: to the playoffs for ten, count em ten consecutive years. 81 00:04:03,370 --> 00:04:05,450 S1: But this hour is also extra special, not just because 82 00:04:05,450 --> 00:04:07,530 S1: we're going to spend it with Coach Dungy, but because 83 00:04:07,530 --> 00:04:10,410 S1: his precious wife, Lauren is with us as well. Lauren 84 00:04:10,410 --> 00:04:13,650 S1: is an early childhood educational specialist. She is his best 85 00:04:13,650 --> 00:04:16,890 S1: selling author and frequently sought after speaker. She's the vice 86 00:04:16,890 --> 00:04:20,330 S1: president of the Dungy Family Foundation. She has a great 87 00:04:20,330 --> 00:04:22,529 S1: passion and love for children. As you will hear during 88 00:04:22,529 --> 00:04:26,730 S1: the course of this hour. They have been married for decades, decades, 89 00:04:26,730 --> 00:04:30,010 S1: and they are the parents of. Yes, count em. 11 children, 90 00:04:30,010 --> 00:04:32,409 S1: Lauren and Coach. What a joy to have you with us. 91 00:04:32,410 --> 00:04:34,130 S1: Thank you for the gift of your time. I'm looking 92 00:04:34,130 --> 00:04:34,890 S1: forward to this. 93 00:04:36,570 --> 00:04:40,089 S7: Well, thank you so much, Janet. Yeah. Pleasure to be 94 00:04:40,089 --> 00:04:40,770 S7: with you. 95 00:04:40,770 --> 00:04:43,170 S1: Oh, thank you so much, coach. If I may, let 96 00:04:43,170 --> 00:04:46,370 S1: me start with you, because that word uncommon has resonated 97 00:04:46,370 --> 00:04:48,490 S1: in your heart and in your life. When you start 98 00:04:48,490 --> 00:04:50,290 S1: looking at the books that you've written, you wrote a 99 00:04:50,290 --> 00:04:53,419 S1: book called uncommon. You got a book called Uncommon Marriage. 100 00:04:53,420 --> 00:04:55,620 S1: I mean, the word uncommon shows up over and over 101 00:04:55,620 --> 00:04:58,140 S1: again in the titles of the books that you write 102 00:04:58,140 --> 00:05:00,900 S1: and in the content that you produce as well. What 103 00:05:00,900 --> 00:05:02,940 S1: is it about that word in that Hall of Fame 104 00:05:02,940 --> 00:05:05,700 S1: speech that you gave? You talked about how it left 105 00:05:05,700 --> 00:05:08,460 S1: an imprint in your heart, and clearly it very much 106 00:05:08,460 --> 00:05:10,340 S1: guides and directs you today. Talk to us about the 107 00:05:10,339 --> 00:05:11,339 S1: power of that word. 108 00:05:12,060 --> 00:05:14,820 S7: Well, it's funny, my college coach talked about it. He 109 00:05:14,860 --> 00:05:18,700 S7: he called it uncommon. My parents said it in a 110 00:05:18,700 --> 00:05:21,700 S7: different way. And we think the Bible. Lauren. And I 111 00:05:21,740 --> 00:05:24,140 S7: think the Bible says it in a different way to 112 00:05:24,140 --> 00:05:27,900 S7: where Jesus says, don't walk the wide road, but walk 113 00:05:27,940 --> 00:05:30,659 S7: the narrow path. Go the place where not many people 114 00:05:30,660 --> 00:05:33,380 S7: are going. And that's where we really got it from. 115 00:05:33,820 --> 00:05:36,779 S7: God calls us to be different, to be uncommon, and 116 00:05:36,779 --> 00:05:39,580 S7: follow him. And we want to get that across to 117 00:05:39,620 --> 00:05:43,900 S7: people that living the Christian life and following God. It's 118 00:05:43,900 --> 00:05:47,620 S7: not weird, but it is different and it's uncommon. 119 00:05:47,900 --> 00:05:51,230 S1: Yeah. Amen. And who doesn't want to be uncommon for Christ? 120 00:05:51,390 --> 00:05:54,430 S1: I appreciate that perspective. Lauren, let me turn to you 121 00:05:54,430 --> 00:05:57,550 S1: if I can, because this idea of uncommon has very 122 00:05:57,550 --> 00:05:59,750 S1: much bound up in your marriage. You two wrote a 123 00:05:59,750 --> 00:06:02,990 S1: book called Uncommon Marriage. Thanks be to God that your 124 00:06:02,990 --> 00:06:05,230 S1: marriage is a witness for others who are watching and 125 00:06:05,230 --> 00:06:08,870 S1: that it's over 31 years young. How does your marriage 126 00:06:08,870 --> 00:06:10,910 S1: stay together in these interesting times? 127 00:06:12,430 --> 00:06:17,070 S8: I tell you, we rely on God for everything. Um, 128 00:06:17,110 --> 00:06:21,190 S8: he guides our path. He directs everything that we do. 129 00:06:21,230 --> 00:06:25,630 S8: We start the day in prayer, talking to God, hearing 130 00:06:25,630 --> 00:06:30,430 S8: from him, getting his insight and wisdom. And for our marriage, 131 00:06:30,430 --> 00:06:35,070 S8: we believe in the three C's. That's communication. Having Christ 132 00:06:35,070 --> 00:06:40,750 S8: in the center and just relying on Christ for, you know, 133 00:06:40,790 --> 00:06:45,030 S8: a centered life that we can be guided by him. 134 00:06:45,029 --> 00:06:48,560 S8: If we didn't do that, we'd struggle. We'd have a 135 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:52,040 S8: lot of problems because the world would call on us, 136 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:55,279 S8: we'd have a lot of distractions, and a lot of 137 00:06:55,440 --> 00:06:58,480 S8: things would factor into our marriage and take us off course. 138 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:01,919 S8: So if we aren't focused on Christ and we have 139 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:06,640 S8: good communication, the, the, the third C um, that's what 140 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:12,120 S8: has kept our marriage strong. And we're, uh, celebrating 40 141 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:13,880 S8: years of marriage this year. 142 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:18,800 S1: Congratulations. That's wonderful. Were you both believers when you started 143 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:19,520 S1: your marriage? 144 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:24,760 S8: Yes. We were. Um, I came to know the Lord 145 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:27,800 S8: when I was 19 years of age. I was raised 146 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:31,280 S8: in a Christian home, went to church every week and 147 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,640 S8: Sunday school and did all the right things that, you know, 148 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:39,080 S8: my parents taught me, but I think I flopped around. 149 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:43,239 S8: I didn't have a solid relationship with him until the 150 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:49,490 S8: age of 19. We had some church folks, uh, canvassing 151 00:07:49,490 --> 00:07:53,010 S8: the neighborhood, and they knocked on our door and asked 152 00:07:53,010 --> 00:07:55,370 S8: if they could come in and spend a few minutes 153 00:07:55,370 --> 00:07:58,410 S8: with us and talk about the Lord and you know, 154 00:07:58,450 --> 00:08:01,650 S8: where we were. And had we actually surrendered our hearts 155 00:08:01,650 --> 00:08:06,370 S8: to God? Well, I couldn't honestly say yes, that I had. 156 00:08:06,410 --> 00:08:09,770 S8: So it was at that moment that I gave my 157 00:08:09,770 --> 00:08:13,290 S8: life to Jesus and begin walking as a believer. 158 00:08:14,850 --> 00:08:18,570 S7: And Janet, we actually got together in a very uncommon way. 159 00:08:19,170 --> 00:08:22,330 S7: I had finished my playing career. I was a young 160 00:08:22,330 --> 00:08:25,890 S7: coach for the Pittsburgh Steelers, and our chaplain called me 161 00:08:25,930 --> 00:08:28,250 S7: late on a Friday night and said, hey, we've got 162 00:08:28,250 --> 00:08:32,690 S7: a Saturday morning, um, event at this church. And the, 163 00:08:32,690 --> 00:08:35,089 S7: the player from the Steelers who's supposed to go and 164 00:08:35,090 --> 00:08:38,890 S7: be the keynote speaker got sick. And can you. 165 00:08:38,890 --> 00:08:42,090 S6: Go in his place? Can you go in? Ted Peterson's place. 166 00:08:42,090 --> 00:08:44,540 S6: And I was, um, I really don't want to. I 167 00:08:44,540 --> 00:08:48,459 S6: don't think so. But we did. And the minister actually 168 00:08:48,500 --> 00:08:49,500 S6: introduced us. 169 00:08:49,540 --> 00:08:54,460 S1: Oh, that's super glue, if I've ever heard it. Well, again, 170 00:08:54,500 --> 00:08:57,300 S1: congratulations on the 40 years. That's fabulous. So I talked 171 00:08:57,300 --> 00:09:00,660 S1: about the word uncommon. I have to tell you that 172 00:09:00,660 --> 00:09:02,580 S1: Tony and Lauren have a brand new book out now 173 00:09:02,580 --> 00:09:08,420 S1: called Uncommon Influence Saying yes to a Purposeful Life. Oh, 174 00:09:08,460 --> 00:09:10,380 S1: there's some richness in this book, friends, and I'm glad 175 00:09:10,380 --> 00:09:12,540 S1: we're going to share it with you this hour. Stick around. 176 00:09:12,580 --> 00:09:14,699 S1: The dungeons are with us for the full hour. What 177 00:09:14,740 --> 00:09:32,260 S1: a gift. Is that back after this? The Bible calls 178 00:09:32,260 --> 00:09:34,179 S1: us to be bold and courageous for the cause of 179 00:09:34,179 --> 00:09:36,380 S1: the cross. But too often we retreat because of fear 180 00:09:36,380 --> 00:09:39,179 S1: of cultural blowback. That's why I've chosen call to take 181 00:09:39,179 --> 00:09:41,740 S1: a bold stand as this month's truth tool discover how 182 00:09:41,740 --> 00:09:45,040 S1: to overcome the fear of intimidation or persecution. As for 183 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:46,960 S1: your copy of Called to Take a Bold Stand, when 184 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:48,880 S1: you give a gift of any amount to in the market, 185 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:53,560 S1: call 877. Janet 58. That's 877. Janet 58. Or go 186 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:59,040 S1: to in the market with Janet Parshall. Tony and Lauren 187 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:00,880 S1: Dungy are with us. They have a brand new book 188 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:05,199 S1: out called Uncommon Influence Saying yes to a Purposeful Life. 189 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:08,600 S1: That word uncommon just left an indelible mark in Coach 190 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:10,960 S1: Dungy's heart, and he's been using it ever since. And 191 00:10:10,960 --> 00:10:14,080 S1: this wonderful couple has used the witness of their marriage 192 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:17,400 S1: to a watching world and their house. Well, their quiver 193 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:19,160 S1: is full of lots of arrows. We'll get to that 194 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,680 S1: in a minute. But let me just linger a little bit. And, coach, 195 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:24,280 S1: let me ask you a question, because this is about influence. 196 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:28,160 S1: The Scripture tells us to influence and occupy until he comes. 197 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:31,160 S1: I believe the scriptures nudge us to go out and 198 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:33,599 S1: let our light so shine. That's part of that influencing 199 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,120 S1: in a dark world. We're ambassadors for Christ. We're living epistles. 200 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:39,760 S1: We get to carry this imperishable message, all of those 201 00:10:39,800 --> 00:10:43,090 S1: humbling privileges to be able to do that. But you 202 00:10:43,090 --> 00:10:47,490 S1: have a monstrously large platform, and I bet that there 203 00:10:47,490 --> 00:10:50,689 S1: are others who think in their own wisdom. Dial it back, coach. 204 00:10:50,690 --> 00:10:53,329 S1: Don't talk about your faith so much. Just take it 205 00:10:53,330 --> 00:10:55,850 S1: down a notch. And it would be oh so easy 206 00:10:55,850 --> 00:10:58,929 S1: to do that, to preserve the width and depth and 207 00:10:58,929 --> 00:11:02,650 S1: breadth of your platform. A have has that challenge ever 208 00:11:02,650 --> 00:11:04,410 S1: come into your life? And B if it does, because 209 00:11:04,410 --> 00:11:07,170 S1: we're all challenged to dial it down if we're going 210 00:11:07,210 --> 00:11:10,130 S1: to be made known as associated with Jesus Christ, how 211 00:11:10,130 --> 00:11:13,250 S1: do you remain steadfast and unashamed of the gospel? 212 00:11:13,970 --> 00:11:18,050 S6: Yes, Janet, I have gotten that at times in the past. Um, 213 00:11:18,130 --> 00:11:20,690 S6: some when I was coaching, but especially now that I'm 214 00:11:20,690 --> 00:11:24,050 S6: broadcasting for NBC, people say, just give us the sports. 215 00:11:24,050 --> 00:11:27,090 S6: That's what you're paid to do. Just give us the story. 216 00:11:27,250 --> 00:11:30,610 S6: But I always felt that, especially when I was coaching, 217 00:11:30,610 --> 00:11:33,810 S6: know you want to know everything about me. You want 218 00:11:33,850 --> 00:11:36,770 S6: to interview me and ask what makes me tick? Well, 219 00:11:36,770 --> 00:11:38,819 S6: I'm going to tell you what makes me tick. And 220 00:11:38,820 --> 00:11:41,980 S6: it's it's the Lord. So yes, if you want to 221 00:11:42,020 --> 00:11:45,580 S6: know really about me, you're going to hear about God. And, um, 222 00:11:45,620 --> 00:11:49,420 S6: I'm not ashamed of it. And, uh, I know I got, uh, 223 00:11:49,420 --> 00:11:52,620 S6: I get that criticism, but I just feel like, as 224 00:11:52,620 --> 00:11:55,580 S6: you say, God has placed me there. He's put me there, 225 00:11:55,580 --> 00:11:57,860 S6: and it's my duty to let my light shine. 226 00:11:58,020 --> 00:12:01,420 S1: Amen. Oh, friends, I hope you heard. Coach. Listen, in 227 00:12:01,420 --> 00:12:03,380 S1: the position that he's in, if he's unashamed of the 228 00:12:03,420 --> 00:12:06,220 S1: gospel of Jesus Christ, then you let your shine. Whether 229 00:12:06,220 --> 00:12:08,580 S1: it's your neighbor across the back fence or the person 230 00:12:08,580 --> 00:12:11,420 S1: that you share a cubicle cubicle with at work, that 231 00:12:11,420 --> 00:12:13,700 S1: ground between your mission, your feet, is your mission field. 232 00:12:13,700 --> 00:12:16,020 S1: And I hope you remember that. Lauren, let me ask you, 233 00:12:16,220 --> 00:12:19,540 S1: people did not miss that I said 11 children. As 234 00:12:19,540 --> 00:12:24,060 S1: an early childhood educational specialist, it obviously presupposes that you 235 00:12:24,059 --> 00:12:26,700 S1: love kids. You wouldn't have pursued, uh, training in that 236 00:12:26,700 --> 00:12:30,020 S1: particular area. But tell me how the Dungy family began 237 00:12:30,020 --> 00:12:30,620 S1: to grow. 238 00:12:32,220 --> 00:12:37,870 S8: Well, Janet, um, it's interesting that we. When we married, 239 00:12:37,910 --> 00:12:41,710 S8: we thought we'd have 2 or 3 children and we'd 240 00:12:41,750 --> 00:12:45,150 S8: be happily married and raise our children. They would love 241 00:12:45,150 --> 00:12:50,630 S8: the Lord and it would be just enough. Having that 242 00:12:50,750 --> 00:12:55,990 S8: number 2 or 3. But God began bringing children into 243 00:12:56,030 --> 00:12:59,910 S8: our home. So we had three children and we moved 244 00:12:59,910 --> 00:13:04,069 S8: to Florida. And it was about that time that one 245 00:13:04,070 --> 00:13:08,429 S8: of the coaches on the Buccaneer staff was adopting a child, 246 00:13:08,429 --> 00:13:11,710 S8: and he wanted advice, and he wanted to hear from 247 00:13:11,710 --> 00:13:14,630 S8: the coaches wives, the player's wives, you know, how can 248 00:13:14,630 --> 00:13:16,950 S8: I do this as a single parent? So we all 249 00:13:16,990 --> 00:13:20,350 S8: rallied around him and gave our advice and promised to 250 00:13:20,390 --> 00:13:24,310 S8: support him as he raised this child. Well, we got 251 00:13:24,309 --> 00:13:29,790 S8: involved with the parenting of Baby Joe and and that 252 00:13:29,790 --> 00:13:34,190 S8: time he introduced us to the social worker and the 253 00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:40,640 S8: adoption agent agency that he was working with. And we 254 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:44,800 S8: got excited about this adoption. And he said, you know, 255 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:47,079 S8: there are a lot of babies, there are a lot 256 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:50,760 S8: of children who don't have homes. And as we had 257 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:56,960 S8: conversations with the agency, they told us that particularly African 258 00:13:56,960 --> 00:14:00,760 S8: American biracial children, they're hard to place. And we thought 259 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:04,559 S8: just the opposite, that babies were snatched up as soon 260 00:14:04,559 --> 00:14:08,120 S8: as they were available for adoption. And we found out 261 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:12,040 S8: that there were many babies that lingered in foster care. 262 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:16,280 S8: And adoption was hard to come by when it, you know, 263 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:21,480 S8: referred to the African American and biracial children. So we 264 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:24,360 S8: prayed about that because we felt that God was speaking 265 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:28,560 S8: to us. We were having so many conversations about babies 266 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:32,000 S8: coming into our home, and we had already fostered babies 267 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:36,050 S8: for a number of years. But now God was calling us. 268 00:14:36,090 --> 00:14:40,370 S8: We believed to adopt babies. So we started the process 269 00:14:40,650 --> 00:14:44,130 S8: and one became two, three, four. So we now. 270 00:14:44,130 --> 00:14:45,410 S9: Have eight children. 271 00:14:45,690 --> 00:14:49,850 S8: At home that are adopted. And then we've of course 272 00:14:49,890 --> 00:14:54,570 S8: gone on to continue fostering. So we have 11 children. 273 00:14:54,570 --> 00:14:59,250 S8: So eight are adopted and three are foster children. And 274 00:14:59,250 --> 00:15:02,370 S8: then we have adult children as well. So yes, it 275 00:15:02,370 --> 00:15:03,250 S8: is a full house. 276 00:15:03,290 --> 00:15:06,490 S1: Full house. Exactly. Your quiver is full. Lauren, I heard 277 00:15:06,490 --> 00:15:08,930 S1: it said that the two of you could say that 278 00:15:08,930 --> 00:15:12,050 S1: if you were counting noses. You've had over a hundred 279 00:15:12,050 --> 00:15:14,450 S1: children go through your lives. Is that right? 280 00:15:14,930 --> 00:15:18,729 S8: That is correct. And what a joy, what a blessing 281 00:15:18,730 --> 00:15:21,770 S8: it has been. It has taught us so many things 282 00:15:21,770 --> 00:15:25,370 S8: and we often hear, oh, those children are so lucky. 283 00:15:25,370 --> 00:15:29,050 S8: They're blessed. And we think just the opposite. We are blessed. 284 00:15:29,050 --> 00:15:32,140 S8: We have learned so much. God has showed us so 285 00:15:32,140 --> 00:15:34,900 S8: much through these innocent little children. 286 00:15:35,580 --> 00:15:39,100 S1: Oh, so, coach, because you're on the road, you know, 287 00:15:39,140 --> 00:15:42,540 S1: when you've got away games versus home games and because, uh, 288 00:15:42,540 --> 00:15:45,180 S1: there's a great demand on your time as you and 289 00:15:45,180 --> 00:15:48,140 S1: Lauren are seeking the Lord's direction on this, how did 290 00:15:48,140 --> 00:15:50,260 S1: you ask the Lord to reveal how you would do 291 00:15:50,260 --> 00:15:53,900 S1: the time management issue, particularly with the wonderful amount of 292 00:15:53,900 --> 00:15:56,860 S1: kids that you've intersected with, knowing that you can't be 293 00:15:56,860 --> 00:15:59,860 S1: in absentia? I mean, you for a time where the 294 00:15:59,860 --> 00:16:03,660 S1: spokesperson for the National Fatherhood program, um, all pro dads. 295 00:16:03,660 --> 00:16:06,580 S1: So this is, this is in your DNA. How do 296 00:16:06,580 --> 00:16:09,660 S1: you negotiate that time factor when God's called you to 297 00:16:09,700 --> 00:16:12,700 S1: do other things besides just being a husband and a dad? 298 00:16:13,260 --> 00:16:15,300 S6: Yeah. Well, first of all, so much of it falls 299 00:16:15,300 --> 00:16:17,580 S6: on Lauren and she had to be willing to do that. 300 00:16:17,580 --> 00:16:19,820 S6: And she was I mean, she set the tone in 301 00:16:19,820 --> 00:16:22,500 S6: our house, but I was very, very blessed. She talked 302 00:16:22,500 --> 00:16:26,460 S6: about my college coach, my first professional coach, Chuck Noll, 303 00:16:26,500 --> 00:16:29,020 S6: Hall of Fame coach with the Pittsburgh Steelers. And he 304 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:32,760 S6: told us, do not make football your whole life. If 305 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:35,840 S6: you make football your life, you're going to be disappointed. 306 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:38,880 S6: And he encouraged us to get involved in the community. 307 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:42,160 S6: He encouraged family life. We had family Saturday, where you 308 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:44,840 S6: brought the kids to to work and brought them to practice, 309 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:47,000 S6: and he lived it out for us. You can be 310 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:49,720 S6: successful and still have a family life, so it taught 311 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:53,120 S6: us that our kids were much more important than winning 312 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:56,320 S6: Super Bowls. And that stuck with me as a 21 313 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:57,000 S6: year old. 314 00:16:57,040 --> 00:17:00,120 S1: Unbelievable. That is such a takeaway, friends. In fact, let 315 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:01,720 S1: me go back to the quote because I have it 316 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:03,960 S1: underlined in my reading of the book. Do not make 317 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:07,359 S1: football your whole life. It is not your purpose. You 318 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:11,160 S1: have to find your purpose somewhere else. And that's exactly 319 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,800 S1: what this book is all about. It's called uncommon influence 320 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:17,600 S1: saying yes to a purposeful life. Tony and Lauren Dungy 321 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:19,959 S1: are the authors. And what an opportunity. Scripture says, out 322 00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:22,399 S1: of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks and 323 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:25,000 S1: you're hearing two people who love God love each other 324 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:39,050 S1: and love their family back after this. Coach Tony Dungy 325 00:17:39,050 --> 00:17:41,889 S1: and his dear wife, Lauren, have written yet another book 326 00:17:41,890 --> 00:17:43,970 S1: that is teaching us how to grow up in him. 327 00:17:43,970 --> 00:17:47,970 S1: It's called Uncommon Influence. Saying yes to a purposeful life. 328 00:17:48,090 --> 00:17:50,410 S1: And I love the way that Tony and Lauren did 329 00:17:50,410 --> 00:17:53,210 S1: the book. They took turns writing chapters, so you hear 330 00:17:53,210 --> 00:17:56,450 S1: the different voice of each writer and also their heart, 331 00:17:56,450 --> 00:18:00,050 S1: but it's beautifully coordinated. So you were just talking, Lauren, 332 00:18:00,050 --> 00:18:02,170 S1: about how God brought these children in. And this really 333 00:18:02,170 --> 00:18:04,450 S1: goes to one of the primary ideas that you both 334 00:18:04,490 --> 00:18:06,930 S1: put forward in the book. And that is saying, yes, 335 00:18:06,930 --> 00:18:09,970 S1: I think for the believer, often the two toughest words 336 00:18:09,970 --> 00:18:13,690 S1: are yes, Lord, because that means a whole bunch of things, 337 00:18:13,690 --> 00:18:15,770 S1: not the least of which is you die to yourself, 338 00:18:15,770 --> 00:18:17,570 S1: you take up your cross, you follow him. It means 339 00:18:17,570 --> 00:18:20,690 S1: submission because we don't get that submission equals victory in 340 00:18:20,690 --> 00:18:23,370 S1: the believer's life. We think that it's somehow losing that 341 00:18:23,369 --> 00:18:26,659 S1: submission is the equivalent of failure. So when God started 342 00:18:26,660 --> 00:18:30,300 S1: bringing these children into your lives, teach us through your 343 00:18:30,300 --> 00:18:33,900 S1: experience how we begin to recognize that the Lord's gently poking. 344 00:18:33,940 --> 00:18:37,700 S1: It's always that soft, gentle voice that leads us that says, 345 00:18:37,700 --> 00:18:40,699 S1: here's an opportunity. But so often in the chaos of 346 00:18:40,700 --> 00:18:43,900 S1: our lives, we miss that. How can we become more 347 00:18:43,900 --> 00:18:47,500 S1: sensitive to his asking us to say yes? How can 348 00:18:47,500 --> 00:18:49,580 S1: we become more receptive to saying yes? 349 00:18:50,460 --> 00:18:53,980 S8: Well, we have to recognize and, you know, understand that 350 00:18:53,980 --> 00:18:58,540 S8: we're called to a life of servanthood. We aren't supposed 351 00:18:58,540 --> 00:19:01,899 S8: to focus on ourselves and how we can have a 352 00:19:01,900 --> 00:19:07,180 S8: better life and be more successful and productive in life 353 00:19:07,180 --> 00:19:10,740 S8: because we're, you know, focusing on ourselves. But God wants 354 00:19:10,740 --> 00:19:15,300 S8: us to be like Jesus and minister to others. And 355 00:19:15,300 --> 00:19:18,540 S8: if we do that, if we embrace that understanding and 356 00:19:18,540 --> 00:19:23,020 S8: that biblical principle, then we will hear God's voice and 357 00:19:23,020 --> 00:19:26,470 S8: will respond because we will know that that's what God 358 00:19:26,470 --> 00:19:29,870 S8: has called us to do. So he speaks to us 359 00:19:30,350 --> 00:19:33,550 S8: all the time. And it's not an audible voice, but 360 00:19:33,590 --> 00:19:36,910 S8: it's through the reading of His word and just, you know, 361 00:19:36,950 --> 00:19:40,550 S8: setting and having that quiet time with him. Tony and 362 00:19:40,550 --> 00:19:43,189 S8: I like to have quiet time in the morning before 363 00:19:43,190 --> 00:19:45,510 S8: we do anything else, before we make that first cup 364 00:19:45,510 --> 00:19:49,150 S8: of coffee or start tending to the needs of our children. 365 00:19:49,390 --> 00:19:52,990 S8: And it's during that time that we really just sit 366 00:19:52,990 --> 00:19:58,149 S8: before his feet and meditate and do our devotion, and 367 00:19:58,150 --> 00:20:01,510 S8: we hear from God. And often times there are questions 368 00:20:01,510 --> 00:20:04,949 S8: or somethings heavy on our hearts, but we talk to 369 00:20:04,990 --> 00:20:09,470 S8: God and we also have a rich prayer life. We 370 00:20:09,510 --> 00:20:13,669 S8: pray together so that it's good that God hears our hearts. 371 00:20:13,670 --> 00:20:18,270 S8: He already knows. But we're confirming and we're asking. We're 372 00:20:18,270 --> 00:20:24,280 S8: seeking wisdom. And that's how God let us know that 373 00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:28,760 S8: he wanted us to adopt children and open our hearts 374 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:33,360 S8: and home to children that were in crisis or, you know, 375 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:36,359 S8: didn't have a home to live in. 376 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:39,719 S6: Oh, and there's a story in the Bible that really 377 00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:43,919 S6: resonates with Lauren and me. Um, Jesus is talking to 378 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:47,240 S6: his disciples and they're asking, how can they get to 379 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,160 S6: the top? How can they be the greatest? How can 380 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,600 S6: I be the the lieutenant? How can I be the 381 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:55,080 S6: sergeant in charge? And Jesus says, you know, in this world, 382 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:58,040 S6: everybody's climbing the ladder. Everybody is trying to get to 383 00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:01,440 S6: the top. But in my kingdom, the greatest are going 384 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,680 S6: to be those who serve. And that really resonated with us. 385 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:07,760 S6: If we want to please God, he's going to expect 386 00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:10,119 S6: us to do things for other people. And I think 387 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:12,640 S6: that's where our hearts got changed. 388 00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:14,159 S10: Yeah. Wow. 389 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,320 S1: I was thinking, I just discovered it's a very convicting verse. 390 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:20,210 S1: It was in First John and we're told to watch 391 00:21:20,210 --> 00:21:22,610 S1: out for fellow by the name of Diotrephes, because he 392 00:21:22,609 --> 00:21:25,930 S1: always wants to be. First. I'm thinking, oh, this is 393 00:21:25,930 --> 00:21:29,490 S1: an eternal book, and you're forever maligned because you wanted 394 00:21:29,490 --> 00:21:31,370 S1: to be first. That's a wake up call for all 395 00:21:31,369 --> 00:21:33,490 S1: of us. But let me pick up on this idea 396 00:21:33,490 --> 00:21:36,570 S1: of saying yes to God, because particularly through your experience 397 00:21:36,570 --> 00:21:39,250 S1: of just saying yes, Lord, and he brings all of 398 00:21:39,250 --> 00:21:42,090 S1: these children into your lives. Lord, I've never understood this 399 00:21:42,090 --> 00:21:44,210 S1: for the church capital C universal. I mean, if anybody 400 00:21:44,210 --> 00:21:47,409 S1: should be pro-adoption, it'd be to the church. We're all adopted, 401 00:21:47,530 --> 00:21:49,730 S1: you know, we've been grafted on. Our name has been 402 00:21:49,730 --> 00:21:51,930 S1: written in the name, the Lamb's Book of Life. We 403 00:21:51,930 --> 00:21:54,850 S1: should be the biggest pro adoption advocates out there because 404 00:21:54,850 --> 00:21:58,449 S1: our eternity was sealed by being adopted into his family. 405 00:21:58,450 --> 00:22:00,250 S1: But some people would say, no, I can't do that 406 00:22:00,250 --> 00:22:02,410 S1: and I can't foster, and I want to talk in 407 00:22:02,410 --> 00:22:05,930 S1: a minute how overburdened the foster care system is, because 408 00:22:05,930 --> 00:22:08,250 S1: I'm going to get attached, and then I might lose 409 00:22:08,250 --> 00:22:11,410 S1: that child. And I don't know that I could do that. 410 00:22:11,410 --> 00:22:14,690 S1: So we have all of these rationale, more importantly, their 411 00:22:14,690 --> 00:22:18,550 S1: excuses for not saying yes because we might get hurt. 412 00:22:18,550 --> 00:22:20,909 S1: How did the two of you guard your hearts? Because 413 00:22:20,910 --> 00:22:22,910 S1: you didn't know that every adoption would go through and 414 00:22:22,910 --> 00:22:25,190 S1: you're currently fostering. And who knows what the Lord will 415 00:22:25,190 --> 00:22:27,070 S1: have you do with the kids that you foster? So 416 00:22:27,350 --> 00:22:29,630 S1: how do you say, okay, Lord, I want to give 417 00:22:29,630 --> 00:22:33,070 S1: them unconditional love just like you love me, father, but 418 00:22:33,070 --> 00:22:35,189 S1: I might get hurt. How do we guard ourselves? 419 00:22:35,430 --> 00:22:35,750 S9: Well. 420 00:22:36,630 --> 00:22:41,230 S8: Walking by faith. Because there were disappointments. We had our 421 00:22:41,230 --> 00:22:44,830 S8: heart broken. Our first child that we fostered. We had 422 00:22:44,830 --> 00:22:48,110 S8: him for two years and the day he left, we 423 00:22:48,109 --> 00:22:51,830 S8: were not prepared for it. And he was abruptly removed 424 00:22:51,830 --> 00:22:56,150 S8: from our home to be reunited with family members. And 425 00:22:56,190 --> 00:23:00,470 S8: I remember crying for days because I missed this little 426 00:23:00,510 --> 00:23:04,910 S8: boy so much, and I had invested and loved him, 427 00:23:05,550 --> 00:23:08,110 S8: and all of a sudden he was gone. But then 428 00:23:08,590 --> 00:23:13,350 S8: I also realized that it's not about me, it's we. 429 00:23:13,350 --> 00:23:17,840 S8: We aren't called to be selfish in our parenting, in 430 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:22,520 S8: our obedience to Christ. We're to be giving and we're 431 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:26,520 S8: to be submissive to his will. And so I learned 432 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,480 S8: the hard way. I mean, it was a heartbreaker when 433 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,439 S8: this little guy, his name was Gypsy. When he left 434 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:37,280 S8: our home. But it didn't stop us from saying no 435 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:40,800 S8: when the phone rang again. And it did ring, ring 436 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:46,320 S8: shortly after with more babies, and we became aware that 437 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:50,720 S8: there were so many children and we couldn't selfishly say 438 00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:54,120 S8: no because we might get hurt, we might get attacked, 439 00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,800 S8: they might leave us, or that we might not bond 440 00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:01,520 S8: with them. There are a lot of possibilities of what 441 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:04,080 S8: can happen when you open your home, but it's that 442 00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:07,920 S8: faith and trust in God that he will do what's best, 443 00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,639 S8: and we have to just trust him for that. 444 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:13,760 S1: Amen. Amen. That's exactly right. Coach, you wanted to weigh in, 445 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:15,410 S1: and I'd love to hear your thoughts on that same 446 00:24:15,410 --> 00:24:17,690 S1: question as well. Let me take a break and come 447 00:24:17,730 --> 00:24:21,250 S1: right back. I was going far too quickly. Wonderful book, 448 00:24:21,290 --> 00:24:25,210 S1: Uncommon Influence. That's what Christ is asking us to have. 449 00:24:25,250 --> 00:24:28,810 S1: We serve an uncommon Savior and we have an uncommon message. 450 00:24:28,810 --> 00:24:31,570 S1: But oh boy can we influence the world. 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But you do 470 00:25:31,380 --> 00:25:33,820 S1: want to hear everything that coach Tony Dungy and his 471 00:25:33,820 --> 00:25:36,180 S1: precious wife, Lauren, have to say. They've got a brand 472 00:25:36,180 --> 00:25:39,459 S1: new book out called Uncommon Influence Saying yes to a 473 00:25:39,460 --> 00:25:41,860 S1: Purposeful Life for the benefit of those who are just 474 00:25:41,859 --> 00:25:44,699 S1: rejoining you. Let me give formal intros again if I can. 475 00:25:44,859 --> 00:25:47,820 S1: Lauren is an early childhood educational specialist. She's a best 476 00:25:47,820 --> 00:25:51,020 S1: selling author, and she's a frequently sought after speaker. She's 477 00:25:51,020 --> 00:25:54,340 S1: also the vice president of the Dungy Family Foundation, and 478 00:25:54,340 --> 00:25:57,140 S1: she has a great passion and love for children. They 479 00:25:57,140 --> 00:26:00,500 S1: are going to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this year, 480 00:26:00,500 --> 00:26:02,859 S1: and they're the parents of 11. You heard that right. 481 00:26:02,900 --> 00:26:07,180 S1: 11 children. Coach Tony Dungy, if you know anything about football, 482 00:26:07,180 --> 00:26:09,660 S1: you know who coach Tony Dungy is. He's also a 483 00:26:09,660 --> 00:26:11,870 S1: number one New York Times best selling author whose books 484 00:26:11,869 --> 00:26:16,350 S1: include Quiet Strength, uncommon, The Mentor, Leader, and Uncommon Marriage. 485 00:26:16,590 --> 00:26:18,990 S1: He led the Indianapolis Colts to a Super Bowl victory 486 00:26:18,990 --> 00:26:22,229 S1: on February 4th in 2007. He's the. That was the 487 00:26:22,230 --> 00:26:25,070 S1: first such win, by the way, for an African American 488 00:26:25,070 --> 00:26:28,310 S1: head coach. Coach Dungy was also the first head NFL 489 00:26:28,310 --> 00:26:30,629 S1: coach to lead his team to the playoffs for ten 490 00:26:30,630 --> 00:26:33,030 S1: consecutive years. So coach, if I can. Let me go 491 00:26:33,030 --> 00:26:35,149 S1: right back to you. Because when we say yes to 492 00:26:35,190 --> 00:26:37,790 S1: the Lord, it doesn't mean that it comes without pain, 493 00:26:37,790 --> 00:26:41,469 S1: without sacrifice, without some personal denial. And we live in 494 00:26:41,470 --> 00:26:43,030 S1: a world that says me first. I mean, I go 495 00:26:43,030 --> 00:26:44,590 S1: to a checkout line in a grocery store and I 496 00:26:44,590 --> 00:26:47,949 S1: see a magazine called self. It's all about me. So 497 00:26:47,990 --> 00:26:50,550 S1: you date these babies in and it might hurt. You 498 00:26:50,550 --> 00:26:53,790 S1: might have them. Gypsy might come and might go and 499 00:26:53,790 --> 00:26:55,990 S1: you don't have any say about it. So how did 500 00:26:55,990 --> 00:26:58,750 S1: you prepare your heart for the possibilities of what that 501 00:26:58,750 --> 00:26:59,590 S1: might look like? 502 00:27:00,230 --> 00:27:02,430 S6: Well, I have to tell you, Janet, it was really 503 00:27:02,430 --> 00:27:04,350 S6: Lauren who got me to say yes. And you asked 504 00:27:04,350 --> 00:27:07,070 S6: the question, what do we do when we hear God's voice? 505 00:27:07,070 --> 00:27:09,560 S6: Are we obedient? Do we say Yes? And we had 506 00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:13,720 S6: had this conversation with this adoption agency, a Christian agency, 507 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:17,000 S6: and I had heard God's voice, you know, and saying, hey, 508 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:19,240 S6: you took me in. You took care of me when 509 00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,720 S6: I was hurting. You took care of the least of these. 510 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:23,520 S6: So I knew what we were supposed to do. But 511 00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,119 S6: I had all the nos right in my mind. Hey, 512 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,720 S6: I'm 45 years old already. We've got three kids. Two 513 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:33,120 S6: of them are teenagers. I'm busy. How can I do 514 00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:36,000 S6: all this? No, no, no. Lauren said we have to. 515 00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,760 S6: We have to do this. That's what God's calling us 516 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,440 S6: to do. And so she was the one who helped 517 00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:45,720 S6: me say yes. And, um, you know, it just sometimes 518 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,879 S6: we hear God's voice from our spouse and sometimes, you know, 519 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:53,800 S6: there's a lot of ways, but the key thing is, 520 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:55,760 S6: are we going to say yes when we hear it? 521 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,240 S6: Or are we going to say no? 522 00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:58,520 S10: Yeah. Amen. 523 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:00,280 S1: Lauren, I want to go back to something you said 524 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:03,200 S1: because it's so powerful. And one of the reasons why 525 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,280 S1: I'm so grateful that you're giving us the gift of 526 00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:08,290 S1: your time is because we have so many misconceptions, because 527 00:28:08,290 --> 00:28:10,730 S1: you're visible, because you're, quote, up front, as we like 528 00:28:10,730 --> 00:28:13,369 S1: to say in the church, we think, oh, you don't, 529 00:28:13,410 --> 00:28:15,609 S1: the rules don't apply to you because things have to 530 00:28:15,609 --> 00:28:18,929 S1: be different. But you said something powerfully important that applies 531 00:28:18,930 --> 00:28:21,490 S1: to us, whether you're a Super Bowl winning coach and 532 00:28:21,490 --> 00:28:24,210 S1: a best selling author, or whether or not you're a 533 00:28:24,210 --> 00:28:27,770 S1: person who cleans the schools at night. You talked about 534 00:28:27,770 --> 00:28:31,050 S1: starting your day with the Lord. I'm going to ask 535 00:28:31,050 --> 00:28:33,250 S1: you a question about prayer and marriage. I heard someone 536 00:28:33,250 --> 00:28:35,930 S1: say once, the most intimate thing a married couple can 537 00:28:35,930 --> 00:28:38,450 S1: do is to pray together. Do you agree with that? 538 00:28:38,450 --> 00:28:39,290 S1: And if so, why? 539 00:28:40,330 --> 00:28:46,370 S8: Oh, absolutely. Um, Tony and I pray every day together. 540 00:28:46,410 --> 00:28:49,850 S8: It's so important to be joined and on one accord. 541 00:28:50,010 --> 00:28:53,410 S8: And we made that decision to marry and live a 542 00:28:53,410 --> 00:28:57,130 S8: life together. Um, we prayer was at the top of 543 00:28:57,130 --> 00:29:01,570 S8: our list. It was so important that we begin by 544 00:29:01,570 --> 00:29:04,610 S8: praying each morning, and we have to hear from God 545 00:29:04,830 --> 00:29:07,510 S8: and we have to be on the same page. And 546 00:29:07,510 --> 00:29:11,670 S8: if he's running off to to, uh, call a game 547 00:29:11,670 --> 00:29:14,270 S8: and if I'm busy with the kids, we'd be like 548 00:29:14,270 --> 00:29:17,110 S8: ships passing in the night. So it's important that we 549 00:29:17,110 --> 00:29:21,390 S8: have that fellowship with God and each other. And we, 550 00:29:21,430 --> 00:29:24,590 S8: we recognize that it's important to do it first thing 551 00:29:24,590 --> 00:29:27,830 S8: in the morning. So we wouldn't dream of going out 552 00:29:27,830 --> 00:29:30,790 S8: the door without having prayer. And of course, there's prayer 553 00:29:30,830 --> 00:29:34,950 S8: during the day. And we may pray together. We may 554 00:29:34,950 --> 00:29:39,310 S8: pray independently, but it's important that we hear from our father, 555 00:29:39,310 --> 00:29:43,190 S8: because we will be bombarded with so many messages and 556 00:29:43,190 --> 00:29:47,150 S8: so many other distractions throughout the day. But if we 557 00:29:47,190 --> 00:29:51,230 S8: aren't anchored in the word and in God's truth will 558 00:29:51,270 --> 00:29:55,790 S8: be just flipped around and tossed around. So we need 559 00:29:55,790 --> 00:30:00,030 S8: to have that steady force. And that's why we have 560 00:30:00,230 --> 00:30:05,240 S8: God in our lives. And, um, first thing before we start. 561 00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,400 S1: Coach, the subtitle says saying yes to a purposeful life. 562 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:11,520 S1: You're talking to people from Guam all the way to 563 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:13,760 S1: the Cayman Islands, and a whole lot of space in between, 564 00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,760 S1: and people are going, I get it. I mean, I 565 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:19,480 S1: look at your marriage, I look at your platform, I 566 00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,800 S1: look at the two of you together, and it looks 567 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:24,520 S1: like you've got all of these opportunities to live a 568 00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:27,040 S1: purposeful life. I look in the mirror and I'm thinking, 569 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,760 S1: God can never use me. Let me break that down 570 00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,000 S1: a little bit. There are a whole lot of people. 571 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,120 S1: I believe this to the mayor of my bones, who 572 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:37,120 S1: think that God doesn't have plans for them to have 573 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,760 S1: a purposeful life. Can you talk to them? How do 574 00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:43,640 S1: they discover that God does have plans for their welfare 575 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:47,200 S1: and their future? So how can they discover that God 576 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,719 S1: A has that plan and B, what that plan is? 577 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:53,880 S6: I think that's the story of the book. People can 578 00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:55,920 S6: look and say, oh, if I was only if I 579 00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:58,760 S6: was an NFL coach and I had a big platform, 580 00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,410 S6: then I could do something if I was the president 581 00:31:01,410 --> 00:31:03,970 S6: of the United States, then I could do something. But 582 00:31:03,970 --> 00:31:06,530 S6: that's where we want to get across. No, God has 583 00:31:06,530 --> 00:31:10,810 S6: something for everyone, and you are influencing people in your 584 00:31:10,810 --> 00:31:13,090 S6: life right now. You may not know it, but you are. 585 00:31:13,210 --> 00:31:14,930 S6: I tell a story in the book about one of 586 00:31:14,930 --> 00:31:18,370 S6: the most influential people in my life was my barber. 587 00:31:19,090 --> 00:31:21,090 S6: I used to get my hair cut every Friday before 588 00:31:21,090 --> 00:31:23,330 S6: the games. I'd go in. Mr. Hampton, we got a 589 00:31:23,330 --> 00:31:26,210 S6: big game, make me look good. And he cut my 590 00:31:26,210 --> 00:31:29,210 S6: hair every Friday, but he always. Hey, how's your mom doing? 591 00:31:29,210 --> 00:31:31,730 S6: What's happening with your family? How's your sister doing? Hey, 592 00:31:31,730 --> 00:31:33,770 S6: by the way, have you gone to church? What did 593 00:31:33,770 --> 00:31:37,410 S6: you learn today or this week? In church? And just 594 00:31:37,410 --> 00:31:40,890 S6: cutting my hair. Doing his job as the barber. He 595 00:31:40,890 --> 00:31:43,850 S6: planted seeds in my life. He may not even know it, 596 00:31:43,850 --> 00:31:45,890 S6: but he had a huge impact on me. So he 597 00:31:45,890 --> 00:31:48,730 S6: didn't have to be the president of a big corporation. 598 00:31:48,770 --> 00:31:51,410 S6: He had an influence on one young man just by 599 00:31:51,410 --> 00:31:53,170 S6: the job that God gave him. 600 00:31:53,530 --> 00:31:53,850 S10: Wow. 601 00:31:54,330 --> 00:31:56,729 S1: What a wonderful story. What about the fear factor? What 602 00:31:56,730 --> 00:31:59,330 S1: do people who say, okay, I'm going to say yes, Lord, 603 00:31:59,420 --> 00:32:01,380 S1: I'm going to step into that purposeful life and then 604 00:32:01,380 --> 00:32:04,020 S1: I blow it. And then they think, well, I blew it. 605 00:32:04,020 --> 00:32:05,740 S1: So God's going to bench me. I'm never going to 606 00:32:05,740 --> 00:32:07,740 S1: be able to suit up and play again. How do 607 00:32:07,740 --> 00:32:08,660 S1: you deal with that? 608 00:32:10,820 --> 00:32:13,180 S6: You know that that's something we have to overcome. And 609 00:32:13,180 --> 00:32:15,979 S6: that's a trick that Satan will use. You can't do this. 610 00:32:16,020 --> 00:32:18,220 S6: You're not qualified to do this. What if they look 611 00:32:18,260 --> 00:32:20,620 S6: at the real you? They're going to see who you are. 612 00:32:20,820 --> 00:32:24,020 S6: And God doesn't care about that. God wants us to 613 00:32:24,140 --> 00:32:26,620 S6: represent him. And that's what I always look at. I'm 614 00:32:26,620 --> 00:32:29,460 S6: not putting myself out there. No, I'm not perfect. And yes, 615 00:32:29,460 --> 00:32:31,940 S6: if you could see everything about me, there would be 616 00:32:31,940 --> 00:32:34,980 S6: some things that you wouldn't appreciate that I didn't do right. 617 00:32:35,100 --> 00:32:38,140 S6: But I'm representing Christ. I'm trying to put Christ out there. 618 00:32:38,140 --> 00:32:39,660 S6: That's who we need to follow. 619 00:32:40,100 --> 00:32:40,380 S10: Yeah. 620 00:32:40,460 --> 00:32:43,540 S1: Amen and amen. Lauren. It does. It doesn't take rocket 621 00:32:43,540 --> 00:32:46,260 S1: science to figure out that if you're mama to all 622 00:32:46,300 --> 00:32:49,540 S1: of these babies that you're giving and giving and giving 623 00:32:49,540 --> 00:32:52,020 S1: and giving, and this is a problem the church has today, 624 00:32:52,020 --> 00:32:54,940 S1: that somehow if we talk about self care, the word 625 00:32:54,940 --> 00:32:57,750 S1: self has to be antithetical to having a deep, rich 626 00:32:57,750 --> 00:33:00,590 S1: relationship with the Lord because we deny ourself. And yet 627 00:33:00,910 --> 00:33:03,910 S1: I find that Elijah rest by Cherith Brook. Jesus loved 628 00:33:03,910 --> 00:33:06,630 S1: to go to Bethany. God rests on the seventh day. 629 00:33:06,910 --> 00:33:09,110 S1: How do you pour back into your life so you 630 00:33:09,110 --> 00:33:11,150 S1: can pour out into so many other lives? 631 00:33:11,990 --> 00:33:12,750 S11: Well, I think it is. 632 00:33:12,750 --> 00:33:16,670 S8: Important to rest, and it is important to take that 633 00:33:16,670 --> 00:33:21,230 S8: time away from what we're doing. Otherwise, we'll just get so, uh, 634 00:33:21,270 --> 00:33:25,670 S8: emerged and submerged in all the, the, the busyness of 635 00:33:25,670 --> 00:33:29,390 S8: life that we will fall apart will run out of 636 00:33:29,390 --> 00:33:33,110 S8: energy and we will just not be of good service 637 00:33:33,110 --> 00:33:37,110 S8: to anyone else. So I fill up my tank by 638 00:33:37,150 --> 00:33:41,630 S8: doing things that, uh, will help me. I need to 639 00:33:41,630 --> 00:33:45,990 S8: be encouraged at times. I'm encouraging and I'm praying over 640 00:33:46,190 --> 00:33:49,830 S8: children over my marriage and things in life. But there 641 00:33:49,870 --> 00:33:51,910 S8: are times when I need to be encouraged. So I'm 642 00:33:51,910 --> 00:33:55,840 S8: involved in Bible studies and I'm involved in out with 643 00:33:55,840 --> 00:34:00,720 S8: groups of ladies who are believers who pray for each other. 644 00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:04,120 S8: As we study the word and you know, we take 645 00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,480 S8: on each other's burdens and and that's important to me. 646 00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:10,600 S8: I need that, I need that encouragement. And then I 647 00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:16,759 S8: also have passions to, um, outside of my family that 648 00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:20,719 S8: I enjoy doing. And that's, um, physical fitness. So I 649 00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:24,920 S8: have a running group and we are ambassadors for Christ. 650 00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,160 S8: When we're on the trail, we're running, we're having a 651 00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:33,560 S8: good time, but we wear shirts that have Scripture, Proverbs 2717. 652 00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,800 S8: And we want to make sure that we use every 653 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:42,640 S8: opportunity to draw people and point them to Christ. So 654 00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:46,840 S8: we're always cognizant of the fact that running is fun, 655 00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:50,600 S8: and being together and laughing. Going to races is great. 656 00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:54,690 S8: But first and foremost, we're there for the Lord. And 657 00:34:54,690 --> 00:34:57,930 S8: we have had so many opportunities where we've been out 658 00:34:57,930 --> 00:35:01,290 S8: on the trail and we've seen someone and recognized that 659 00:35:01,290 --> 00:35:04,330 S8: they're struggling, and we've pulled them aside and asked them 660 00:35:04,330 --> 00:35:07,730 S8: if we can pray. We've never had, uh, a person say, no, 661 00:35:07,730 --> 00:35:11,890 S8: I'm good and keep on, you know, running down the trail. Wow. 662 00:35:11,930 --> 00:35:17,650 S8: So it's times like that that really excite me, motivate me, 663 00:35:17,690 --> 00:35:21,969 S8: but also give me that time, um, away from what 664 00:35:21,969 --> 00:35:26,170 S8: I'm doing every day. And that's fulfilling for me. So 665 00:35:26,210 --> 00:35:27,570 S8: I think it's, it's important. 666 00:35:27,570 --> 00:35:28,969 S9: To recognize what. 667 00:35:28,969 --> 00:35:32,050 S8: It is you like to do and then take that time, 668 00:35:32,090 --> 00:35:35,489 S8: be intentional about, you know, if it's being outside or 669 00:35:35,489 --> 00:35:41,690 S8: if it's reading or knitting, swimming, whatever it is, take 670 00:35:41,690 --> 00:35:47,450 S8: that time for yourself and then you're back, you're back on, 671 00:35:47,489 --> 00:35:50,610 S8: you know, the track again and you're ready to, um, 672 00:35:51,390 --> 00:35:54,989 S8: She got busy with what the Lord has called you 673 00:35:54,989 --> 00:35:55,510 S8: to do. 674 00:35:55,550 --> 00:35:57,390 S1: I love that. I love that, coach. I want to. 675 00:35:57,430 --> 00:35:58,910 S1: You were going to say something. I very much want 676 00:35:58,910 --> 00:36:00,549 S1: to hear what you have to say as well. Let 677 00:36:00,550 --> 00:36:01,989 S1: me take a break and I'll come right back and 678 00:36:01,989 --> 00:36:03,950 S1: ask that. I also want to talk about. You do 679 00:36:03,950 --> 00:36:06,310 S1: this in your life. You build teams. That's what you've 680 00:36:06,310 --> 00:36:08,830 S1: done for years and years and years. But team building 681 00:36:08,830 --> 00:36:11,549 S1: is important in the context of this conversation as well. 682 00:36:11,550 --> 00:36:13,510 S1: So I want to get your take on that as well. 683 00:36:13,870 --> 00:36:17,150 S1: What a wonderful, wonderful book this is. The Dungey's writes 684 00:36:17,150 --> 00:36:19,670 S1: excellent books, by the way. They've done ten children's books, 685 00:36:19,670 --> 00:36:22,910 S1: but this theme of being uncommon has woven its way 686 00:36:22,910 --> 00:36:26,550 S1: through so much of their writing, this one so appropriate 687 00:36:26,550 --> 00:36:29,430 S1: for the day and age in which we live. Uncommon 688 00:36:29,430 --> 00:36:33,070 S1: influence saying yes to a purposeful life back after this. 689 00:36:39,230 --> 00:36:42,710 S1: Uncommon influence. That's what you and I bring to a 690 00:36:42,710 --> 00:36:46,549 S1: sin sick watching hurting world. Yet we're post Eden. We're 691 00:36:46,550 --> 00:36:50,160 S1: pre glory. But boy we've got this imperishable message. and 692 00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:52,960 S1: I'm still smiling from Laura Dungey's story. I'd love to 693 00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,080 S1: be in Tampa and watch people go running by with 694 00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:57,960 S1: scripture on their shirt. That gets my attention, especially when 695 00:36:57,960 --> 00:36:59,840 S1: they stop and say, can I pray for you? That's 696 00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:03,799 S1: bringing uncommon influence to a watching, hurting world. That's the 697 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,440 S1: new book by coach Tony Dungy and his wife, Lauren. 698 00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:10,680 S1: Uncommon influence saying yes to a purposeful life. So, coach, 699 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,080 S1: I just asked Lauren about this idea of taking the 700 00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,480 S1: time to refill up again, because you can't just pour 701 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:18,040 S1: out all the time. You know, Chuck Swindoll said, you 702 00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:20,000 S1: have to come apart before you come apart. And I 703 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,279 S1: think he was spot on. So you had some thoughts 704 00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:23,920 S1: on this. I'd love to hear what you have to say. 705 00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:28,319 S6: Yeah. I think that's important for the spouse to recognize 706 00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,120 S6: that in their in their partner. And I have to 707 00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,839 S6: know that that gives Lauren great joy and peace. And 708 00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:38,160 S6: she recharges her battery going out, running with her ladies 709 00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,879 S6: and ministering to people. So I've got to then say, 710 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:45,120 S6: don't worry, go honey, I'll take the kids. I've got this. 711 00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:48,649 S6: And she does the same thing for me sometimes. we've 712 00:37:48,650 --> 00:37:51,330 S6: got a fishing retreat with with coaches, and I'm going 713 00:37:51,370 --> 00:37:54,570 S6: to minister to them and I love doing that. Go, honey. 714 00:37:54,770 --> 00:37:56,930 S6: I'll take care of the kids. And we may not 715 00:37:56,930 --> 00:37:59,569 S6: feel like she's been with kids all week, but she 716 00:37:59,570 --> 00:38:02,370 S6: knows that that's going to recharge my battery and we 717 00:38:02,410 --> 00:38:03,890 S6: got to serve each other that way. 718 00:38:04,130 --> 00:38:04,530 S10: Yeah. 719 00:38:04,690 --> 00:38:06,810 S1: But you know, coach, when you're saying that I was 720 00:38:06,810 --> 00:38:10,609 S1: thinking that's modeling how Christ loves us. This comes from 721 00:38:10,610 --> 00:38:14,049 S1: a place of love, not just duty and responsibility. But 722 00:38:14,050 --> 00:38:17,330 S1: you do that because you love her and therefore saying 723 00:38:17,330 --> 00:38:20,969 S1: yes to God to live that purposeful life. If it 724 00:38:20,969 --> 00:38:23,009 S1: doesn't come from a place of love, you're going to 725 00:38:23,010 --> 00:38:24,570 S1: be miserable. Do I have that right? 726 00:38:27,130 --> 00:38:30,010 S6: Amen. And I know Lauren feels the same way. 727 00:38:30,210 --> 00:38:31,010 S10: Yeah, yeah. 728 00:38:31,290 --> 00:38:34,250 S1: So this idea of team building, you wrote a chapter 729 00:38:34,250 --> 00:38:38,370 S1: called We Over, I choose team. How does that factor 730 00:38:38,370 --> 00:38:41,090 S1: into this idea of moving toward a purposeful life? 731 00:38:41,969 --> 00:38:45,490 S6: I think that's the key element for a football team. 732 00:38:45,489 --> 00:38:48,020 S6: It's a key element for us as a church of 733 00:38:48,020 --> 00:38:51,140 S6: Jesus Christ. It's not one on one. It's not the 734 00:38:51,140 --> 00:38:55,100 S6: greatest collection of individuals. It's how we work together. Jesus 735 00:38:55,100 --> 00:38:58,259 S6: said that. And I believe that with all my heart 736 00:38:58,260 --> 00:39:00,540 S6: for a team, I believe that for our family. I 737 00:39:00,540 --> 00:39:03,580 S6: believe that for our community, we've got to work together 738 00:39:04,060 --> 00:39:05,180 S6: to be effective. 739 00:39:05,780 --> 00:39:06,140 S10: Wow. 740 00:39:06,500 --> 00:39:09,739 S1: You two together talk about five choices that we have 741 00:39:09,739 --> 00:39:14,260 S1: to make in the book. Choose steadiness, choose perseverance, choose rest, 742 00:39:14,260 --> 00:39:19,060 S1: which we just discussed. Choose Jesus and choose love. Lauren, 743 00:39:19,060 --> 00:39:21,700 S1: let me ask you about this idea of perseverance. My 744 00:39:21,700 --> 00:39:24,500 S1: life verse is Hebrews 12 one through three. Run with 745 00:39:24,500 --> 00:39:27,739 S1: perseverance is my favorite translation that tells you that you're 746 00:39:27,739 --> 00:39:30,380 S1: going to have to put some sweat equity into this. 747 00:39:30,380 --> 00:39:33,980 S1: How do we in a world turned upside down, find 748 00:39:33,980 --> 00:39:36,900 S1: the perseverance when who we are in Christ is not 749 00:39:36,900 --> 00:39:40,859 S1: appreciated by the culture. We're pushed back, we're silenced, were canceled, 750 00:39:41,060 --> 00:39:44,020 S1: and yet we're to persevere in this purposeful life that 751 00:39:44,020 --> 00:39:46,110 S1: he's called us to. How do you do that? 752 00:39:47,030 --> 00:39:51,470 S8: Well, we are called to remain steady, and we're called 753 00:39:51,469 --> 00:39:55,870 S8: to remain with our feet firmly planted in the word 754 00:39:56,070 --> 00:39:59,830 S8: and anchored in Jesus Christ. So we have to be 755 00:39:59,830 --> 00:40:03,710 S8: careful of the distractions that are around us and the 756 00:40:03,710 --> 00:40:08,950 S8: temptation to serve other things. And if we strive to 757 00:40:08,989 --> 00:40:13,030 S8: be like Christ and serve him and model our lives 758 00:40:13,030 --> 00:40:16,710 S8: after him, then we are doing what he wants us 759 00:40:16,710 --> 00:40:19,669 S8: to do and not the world. And there are so 760 00:40:19,670 --> 00:40:23,590 S8: many times that the world will say, well, do this 761 00:40:23,630 --> 00:40:26,109 S8: or you should be involved in this program. You should 762 00:40:26,110 --> 00:40:30,030 S8: do that. But God is calling us to chase after 763 00:40:30,030 --> 00:40:32,750 S8: him and have a heart for him. And so we 764 00:40:32,750 --> 00:40:38,310 S8: can do that if we're intentional about being firmly planted 765 00:40:38,310 --> 00:40:38,990 S8: in him. 766 00:40:39,630 --> 00:40:41,030 S10: Yeah, I love that answer. 767 00:40:41,270 --> 00:40:43,839 S1: Coach, one of the other choices is talking about full 768 00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:46,480 S1: surrender choosing Jesus. I want to ask you about that. 769 00:40:46,480 --> 00:40:49,400 S1: Lauren talked about that day where she really felt that 770 00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:52,719 S1: that was the moment she was completely surrendered to Christ. 771 00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,080 S1: You know, you're in a position where people could say, 772 00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:57,359 S1: come on, you know better than that. You know, these 773 00:40:57,360 --> 00:41:01,680 S1: were ignorant Bedouins. Oral tradition, bunch of mistakes. No right 774 00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:05,360 S1: thinking person in the 21st century believes any of that stuff. 775 00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:13,800 S1: Why did you choose Jesus? Coach, are you there? 776 00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:16,200 S11: Did we lose him? 777 00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:16,520 S9: I'm sorry. 778 00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:17,600 S10: Yes, that's. 779 00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:18,000 S9: What I. 780 00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:22,960 S6: Was saying. I, I saw that lived out by my parents. 781 00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:25,760 S6: And more importantly, I saw it lived out by some 782 00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,919 S6: men that I really held in high admiration. Uh, my 783 00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:32,719 S6: Pittsburgh Steeler teammates, my mom and dad preached that into me, 784 00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:35,000 S6: but it really didn't sink in. I was one of 785 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:38,800 S6: those boys who I loved sports and that was my idol, 786 00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:40,440 S6: so to speak, for a number of years. But I 787 00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:44,020 S6: got to Pittsburgh and I saw some men who were 788 00:41:44,020 --> 00:41:46,779 S6: at the top of their profession, but they were the 789 00:41:46,780 --> 00:41:51,020 S6: most sold out Christian athletes I had ever seen. My 790 00:41:51,020 --> 00:41:54,219 S6: roommate was a young man named Donnie Shell, and he 791 00:41:54,219 --> 00:41:56,900 S6: modeled that for me. He said, hey, if you want 792 00:41:56,940 --> 00:42:00,420 S6: success in life, you want real significance. It's not going 793 00:42:00,420 --> 00:42:02,660 S6: to be Super Bowl rings. It's not going to be money. 794 00:42:02,700 --> 00:42:05,739 S6: It's going to be serving this Jesus that that is 795 00:42:05,739 --> 00:42:08,660 S6: my Savior. And that's when it really hit home to 796 00:42:08,660 --> 00:42:11,060 S6: me when I was 21 years old. And I saw 797 00:42:11,060 --> 00:42:13,339 S6: it in a group of guys that I really admired. 798 00:42:14,100 --> 00:42:14,420 S10: Wow. 799 00:42:14,940 --> 00:42:16,980 S1: And you've never looked back since. And I want people 800 00:42:16,980 --> 00:42:20,580 S1: to understand that. Wow. You end by asking us to 801 00:42:20,620 --> 00:42:24,020 S1: choose love. We are in such a divided world right now, 802 00:42:24,020 --> 00:42:27,739 S1: and lawlessness rules the day. And we're finger pointing and 803 00:42:27,739 --> 00:42:31,140 S1: accusing and voices are raised. Love is almost lost somewhere 804 00:42:31,140 --> 00:42:33,779 S1: in the maelstrom. Lauren, how do you choose love in 805 00:42:33,780 --> 00:42:36,260 S1: a day like the ones we find ourselves today? 806 00:42:37,300 --> 00:42:38,100 S11: Well, again. 807 00:42:38,140 --> 00:42:42,109 S8: It's that decision what we're going to do. Um, we 808 00:42:42,110 --> 00:42:45,750 S8: have many choices in life and we can decide which 809 00:42:45,750 --> 00:42:48,510 S8: way we're going to do, or we can choose love 810 00:42:48,510 --> 00:42:53,029 S8: and choose to, um, be a follower of Christ and 811 00:42:53,030 --> 00:42:57,310 S8: give our lives to him means total surrendering. And that 812 00:42:57,310 --> 00:43:01,190 S8: is a lifetime choice. It's not something that you do 813 00:43:01,190 --> 00:43:05,629 S8: for a season or, you know, a certain age in 814 00:43:05,630 --> 00:43:10,390 S8: your life, but it's once you choose love and following Christ, 815 00:43:10,430 --> 00:43:13,870 S8: then it goes on until he calls us home to eternity. 816 00:43:14,469 --> 00:43:14,790 S10: MM. 817 00:43:15,310 --> 00:43:17,669 S1: What a note to end this conversation on. We are 818 00:43:17,670 --> 00:43:22,750 S1: called to influence and occupy until he comes. We have 819 00:43:22,790 --> 00:43:25,509 S1: uncommon influence. Not because of who we are, but who 820 00:43:25,510 --> 00:43:29,510 S1: Christ is in us. This imperishable message that takes people 821 00:43:29,510 --> 00:43:33,109 S1: from death to life, from blindness to sight. And there 822 00:43:33,150 --> 00:43:35,190 S1: are a myriad of ways in which we can show 823 00:43:35,190 --> 00:43:38,680 S1: that uncommon influence. Sometimes it's on the playing field, sometimes 824 00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:41,480 S1: it's speaking at a women's group, sometimes it's talking to 825 00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:45,040 S1: the neighbor over the back fence. Regardless, that ground between 826 00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:47,279 S1: your two feet is your mission field, and you have 827 00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:52,880 S1: been given permission to share this uncommon message with uncommon influence. 828 00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:55,239 S1: I hope that you've been challenged today by the Dungey's, 829 00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:58,280 S1: and that you understand that God does call us to 830 00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:01,760 S1: join him, fully surrendered to him, and turning a dark 831 00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:06,920 S1: world upside down with uncommon influence. What a joyous, memorable hour. 832 00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:09,640 S1: Thank you Tony and Lauren. The book again is worth reading. 833 00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:12,920 S1: I strongly recommend it to you. It's called Uncommon Influence 834 00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:17,280 S1: saying yes to a purposeful life we can influence and 835 00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:20,160 S1: occupy until he comes. My thanks to you friends. So 836 00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:22,359 S1: much hope you've been encouraged and edified. Now get out 837 00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:24,160 S1: there and let your light so shine. We'll see you 838 00:44:24,160 --> 00:44:26,560 S1: next time on In the market with Janet Parshall.