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S1: Audrey asks Gary. My husband is borderline abusive as he

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S1: curses and yells at me when we fight. What can

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S2: This sort of thing should not be accepted as normal,

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S2: and I think the best thing you can do is

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S2: apply tough love and say to that husband, I don't

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S2: know if you love me or not, but it certainly

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S2: doesn't feel loving when you get angry and you curse

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S2: at me. I love you too much to continue to

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S2: sit here and let you do that. I'm going to

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S2: move in with my mother. And when you're willing to

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S2: deal with this issue, then I'm willing to engage with

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S2: you in marriage counseling. I'm not abandoning you. I'm loving you.

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S2: But this is not acceptable behavior. I think you know

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S2: that as well as I. And then you follow through

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S2: with your tough love. That is probably the most powerful

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S2: thing you can do for your husband.

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S3: This has been a love language minute. Doctor Gary Chapman

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S3: is the author of The Five Love Languages. For more,

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S3: visit five Love Languages. Com.