1 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:09,240 S1: I have been thinking about this topic for months, and 2 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:12,640 S1: we're about to discover if this will resonate with your heart. 3 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:14,600 S1: Today at the Radio Backyard fence, I want to hear 4 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:18,480 S1: your don't. The mistake you made that you might help 5 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:22,040 S1: somebody else avoid the lesson you learned that you now 6 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,639 S1: fully live in light of. Scripture is filled with verses 7 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:29,400 S1: about not doing something. Don't lean on your own understanding. 8 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:32,760 S1: Don't wear yourself out to get rich. Have you found 9 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:36,279 S1: a scriptural. Don't that you are living fully today, or 10 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:39,080 S1: at least trying to. Or do you have your own. 11 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:42,560 S1: Don't you have discovered from the school of hard knocks 12 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,680 S1: your don't is straight ahead on the program. From the 13 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,199 S1: heart to the heart for the heart. Don't forget to 14 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:50,239 S1: be thankful for the people who enable you to do 15 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:52,440 S1: what you do. There's a good one for me. Those 16 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:55,800 S1: people include Ryan McConaughey doing all things technical. Trish is 17 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:58,760 S1: our producer. Lisa is in the chair today. Josh will 18 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:02,030 S1: be answering your calls. And since it's Friday. That's right. 19 00:01:02,030 --> 00:01:04,910 S1: It's time for the fabulous favorite Friday. So here's what 20 00:01:04,910 --> 00:01:08,229 S1: it does. One we oxygenate your blood. Two, we get 21 00:01:08,230 --> 00:01:12,069 S1: your endorphins going. Three we raise your serotonin. Level four, 22 00:01:12,190 --> 00:01:17,270 S1: we promote lymphatic drainage. And five, we stimulate your parasympathetic system. 23 00:01:17,270 --> 00:01:20,069 S1: That is why we call it the five lung languages. 24 00:01:20,390 --> 00:01:23,709 S1: We also stimulate your vagus nerve. We help you release acetylcholine. 25 00:01:23,709 --> 00:01:26,390 S1: And don't you dare forget what it does to cortisol 26 00:01:26,390 --> 00:01:29,470 S1: dissipation taken four seconds of air through your nose right now. 27 00:01:29,750 --> 00:01:32,910 S1: Hold it for four seconds. And then as you release 28 00:01:32,910 --> 00:01:35,310 S1: that air through your mouth, push on the left side 29 00:01:35,310 --> 00:01:37,270 S1: of your rib cage to get rid of all that 30 00:01:37,270 --> 00:01:40,830 S1: bad carbon dioxide. Give a sigh today for the helpful, 31 00:01:40,830 --> 00:01:44,229 S1: sometimes painful don'ts in life. For the mechanic who says, 32 00:01:44,230 --> 00:01:48,470 S1: don't fix a car with anything but OEM parts, original 33 00:01:48,470 --> 00:01:52,630 S1: equipment manufacture. But the teacher who's don't is. Don't judge 34 00:01:52,630 --> 00:01:56,190 S1: a student's potential by their appearance or their first test 35 00:01:56,190 --> 00:01:58,620 S1: score for the mom or dad who has learned. Don't 36 00:01:58,620 --> 00:02:01,380 S1: forget to enjoy the noise and clamor of your house, 37 00:02:01,660 --> 00:02:04,620 S1: the mayhem of children and pets, because one day there 38 00:02:04,620 --> 00:02:08,859 S1: will be silence. Today's fabulous favorite Friday sigh is for 39 00:02:08,860 --> 00:02:12,100 S1: all the don'ts God gives us and all the don'ts 40 00:02:12,100 --> 00:02:17,780 S1: we discover through daily living. All rights reserved. All don'ts redeemed. 41 00:02:18,180 --> 00:02:21,500 S1: How you doing? It's Friday. It is the last Friday 42 00:02:21,500 --> 00:02:24,740 S1: of October. Can you believe it? We made it. Are 43 00:02:24,740 --> 00:02:27,019 S1: you ready to make a difference in somebody's life with your. 44 00:02:27,060 --> 00:02:34,820 S1: Don't write down the number. Eight. 775483675. I want to 45 00:02:34,820 --> 00:02:38,899 S1: hear your voice today. I was reading through Proverbs and 46 00:02:38,900 --> 00:02:42,340 S1: I found so many places that say the word better. 47 00:02:42,380 --> 00:02:45,820 S1: Do you remember the program we did? I highlighted these 48 00:02:45,820 --> 00:02:48,859 S1: better verses and then I asked you to call. Tell 49 00:02:48,860 --> 00:02:53,340 S1: me your better. Either the verse or the better from 50 00:02:53,340 --> 00:02:56,100 S1: your own life. And the same thing has happened with 51 00:02:56,139 --> 00:03:00,690 S1: the word. don't all over the place in Proverbs, but 52 00:03:00,690 --> 00:03:04,090 S1: not just there. Don't wear yourself out to get rich. 53 00:03:04,090 --> 00:03:08,049 S1: Don't envy sinners. Don't meddle in a quarrel that's not yours. 54 00:03:08,410 --> 00:03:11,530 S1: Don't grab a dog by the ears. In other words, 55 00:03:11,770 --> 00:03:16,450 S1: don't bring a matter to court hastily. You get the idea. 56 00:03:17,090 --> 00:03:19,609 S1: And we could pick out the don'ts in the Bible 57 00:03:19,610 --> 00:03:22,530 S1: that speak to us loudly and and do that today. 58 00:03:22,530 --> 00:03:26,810 S1: But then I thought, what don't have you learned from 59 00:03:26,810 --> 00:03:31,649 S1: a mistake that you've made? What would a veterinarian say 60 00:03:33,010 --> 00:03:35,730 S1: who has been through a lot, who has seen a lot? 61 00:03:36,530 --> 00:03:40,490 S1: What would a small business owner, Kathy, wrote yesterday? I 62 00:03:40,490 --> 00:03:43,770 S1: think it was. She'd been a cosmetologist for 60 years. 63 00:03:44,210 --> 00:03:51,690 S1: What would her. Don't be. What don't. Would the pastor share? 64 00:03:51,690 --> 00:03:58,610 S1: Or the police officer or the construction worker Chuck Swindoll, 65 00:03:58,650 --> 00:04:00,930 S1: mentioned that the other day when he talked about his 66 00:04:00,930 --> 00:04:06,090 S1: sister Lucy dying. And from that he said, don't wait 67 00:04:06,090 --> 00:04:10,250 S1: to say I love you. Tell the people you love 68 00:04:10,490 --> 00:04:14,610 S1: how you feel about them now. Don't wait. I think 69 00:04:14,610 --> 00:04:19,690 S1: that's good. Here's our number. Eight. Seven F lines are 70 00:04:19,690 --> 00:04:23,010 S1: totally empty. It's just you and me today. You and 71 00:04:23,010 --> 00:04:25,609 S1: me and John and Gary. I've got John and Gary 72 00:04:25,610 --> 00:04:32,690 S1: standing by. But here's the number. (877) 548-3675. Tell me your 73 00:04:32,690 --> 00:04:36,530 S1: don't either. A scriptural don't that really sings to you. 74 00:04:37,010 --> 00:04:41,130 S1: Touches a nerve in your heart or a don't from 75 00:04:41,130 --> 00:04:44,410 S1: your own life, from your own experience. Maybe a mistake 76 00:04:44,450 --> 00:04:54,400 S1: that you've made. Uh, turning left at on a yellow arrow. Eight. 775483. Six. Seven. five. 77 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:58,239 S1: Call off and call now. Get in line and don't 78 00:04:58,240 --> 00:05:02,520 S1: hold back because your don't might be exactly what somebody 79 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:11,920 S1: else needs to hear today. (877) 548-3675. To get us started, 80 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:15,320 S1: I reached out to our moody radio compadre, John Yeager, 81 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:19,920 S1: author of Powerful Self-Talk from the Psalms, which we have 82 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:24,120 S1: linked at our website, Chris Fabry live.org. I told him 83 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,600 S1: our topic and I said, John, tell me what's rolling 84 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,520 S1: around your soul. All right, Chris, let me give you 85 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,120 S1: my very best shot at all this. I've got three 86 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:36,279 S1: don't verses I refer to often don't. Verse number one 87 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:39,400 S1: is Galatians 516. You know, when I wake up in 88 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:43,320 S1: the morning and arrive at near consciousness, the first thing 89 00:05:43,320 --> 00:05:45,960 S1: I do is say, Lord, I need a fresh filling 90 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,520 S1: of your Holy Spirit. And I follow it up with 91 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:52,400 S1: Galatians 516, which says, walk by the spirit so you 92 00:05:52,510 --> 00:05:55,990 S1: don't fulfill the desires of the flesh. I pray that 93 00:05:55,990 --> 00:05:58,589 S1: every morning before I get out of bed, and it's 94 00:05:58,589 --> 00:06:00,750 S1: amazing the way that kind of frames the day. And 95 00:06:00,750 --> 00:06:03,710 S1: sometimes the verse comes back to me. Maybe when temptation 96 00:06:03,710 --> 00:06:08,470 S1: comes knocking, there's a second don't verse. It's Philippians four, 97 00:06:08,510 --> 00:06:10,550 S1: verse six, and I know it's a favorite of many 98 00:06:10,550 --> 00:06:13,550 S1: of our Chris Fabry live listeners. It says, don't be 99 00:06:13,550 --> 00:06:17,670 S1: anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication 100 00:06:17,670 --> 00:06:21,110 S1: with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. 101 00:06:21,510 --> 00:06:23,790 S1: You know, Chris, you and I have talked about this before. 102 00:06:23,830 --> 00:06:27,710 S1: I'm a bit of a lifelong struggler with worry. Uh, 103 00:06:27,710 --> 00:06:30,950 S1: it's a besetting sin for me. And I've often joked 104 00:06:30,950 --> 00:06:33,470 S1: that if worry was an Olympic sport boy, I'd have 105 00:06:33,470 --> 00:06:36,390 S1: a dresser drawer full of gold medals. And that's sort 106 00:06:36,430 --> 00:06:39,790 S1: of funny. Except it isn't. Which is why more than 107 00:06:39,790 --> 00:06:42,390 S1: five years ago, I linked up with a mentor at church, 108 00:06:42,390 --> 00:06:45,270 S1: Russ Caforio. And, you know, every Wednesday he sends me 109 00:06:45,270 --> 00:06:48,670 S1: a text asking how the week went with regard to worry, 110 00:06:48,670 --> 00:06:51,740 S1: and I have to give him a report. It's a number. 111 00:06:51,740 --> 00:06:55,820 S1: One is a disaster. Ten is perfect. And I text 112 00:06:55,820 --> 00:06:58,220 S1: that back to him, but he never, ever beats me 113 00:06:58,220 --> 00:07:00,620 S1: up or tears me down or says, why didn't you 114 00:07:00,660 --> 00:07:04,180 S1: do better? And Philippians four six has been a cornerstone 115 00:07:04,180 --> 00:07:07,419 S1: in that in that journey. All right. A third don't 116 00:07:07,420 --> 00:07:09,900 S1: verse for me that I love is Philippians two, verse four. 117 00:07:09,940 --> 00:07:13,340 S1: It says, don't merely look out for your own personal interests, 118 00:07:13,340 --> 00:07:16,540 S1: but also for the interests of others. You know, Chris, 119 00:07:16,540 --> 00:07:19,580 S1: I call this the great argument stopper. Now, I don't 120 00:07:19,580 --> 00:07:22,020 S1: know how it is with you and Andrea, Chris, but 121 00:07:22,740 --> 00:07:26,060 S1: for me and Diana, 40 plus years together, I have 122 00:07:26,060 --> 00:07:30,020 S1: to admit that probably 90% of any of the conflicts 123 00:07:30,020 --> 00:07:33,820 S1: we've ever had have been my fault. Really? And and 124 00:07:33,820 --> 00:07:36,980 S1: so once I memorized Philippians two four, I've had a 125 00:07:36,980 --> 00:07:41,059 S1: different perspective. And I have to say, since memorizing that verse, 126 00:07:41,060 --> 00:07:44,220 S1: when I get into a conflict, uh, how often that 127 00:07:44,220 --> 00:07:46,660 S1: verse comes to mind? Hey, are you looking out for 128 00:07:46,660 --> 00:07:50,489 S1: your own interests or hers? And I'll have to pause 129 00:07:50,530 --> 00:07:53,690 S1: and say, you know what, Diana? I'm wrong. I'm not 130 00:07:53,690 --> 00:07:57,090 S1: looking out for your interests, but mine. Would you please 131 00:07:57,090 --> 00:08:00,370 S1: forgive me? Boy, that's the power of Philippians two, verse four. 132 00:08:00,730 --> 00:08:04,730 S1: How about three don'ts by way of life lessons? Don't 133 00:08:04,730 --> 00:08:08,170 S1: let the fact that the calendar slot is open determine 134 00:08:08,170 --> 00:08:11,890 S1: that you should fill it. I love action and excitement, 135 00:08:11,890 --> 00:08:14,130 S1: and there's no shortage of people who knock on the 136 00:08:14,130 --> 00:08:16,370 S1: door and say, could you do this or that? And 137 00:08:16,850 --> 00:08:20,490 S1: here's what I'm learning, Chris. Just because you can fit 138 00:08:20,490 --> 00:08:25,370 S1: it in doesn't mean you should. We need downtime, breathing 139 00:08:25,370 --> 00:08:28,770 S1: space margin. Don't let the fact that the calendar slot 140 00:08:28,810 --> 00:08:32,250 S1: is open determine that you should fill it. Don't. Lesson 141 00:08:32,250 --> 00:08:36,209 S1: number two. Don't underestimate what your kids see in you. 142 00:08:36,250 --> 00:08:39,570 S1: Here in you. You know, from the moment they're born, 143 00:08:39,570 --> 00:08:42,490 S1: these little babies, you can look into their eyes and 144 00:08:42,490 --> 00:08:45,250 S1: you're assured that they've got little hard drives that are recording. 145 00:08:45,250 --> 00:08:49,040 S1: They're noticing things. It happens that way through toddlerhood there 146 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:53,520 S1: recording through childhood, even into adulthood. There watching, observing, learning. 147 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:57,920 S1: And just this week, my adult son Tim texted me 148 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,920 S1: and he referred back to a conversation we'd had years 149 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:04,440 S1: ago and said, boy, dad, I still think about that. Wow. 150 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:07,400 S1: To the glory of God. That's a that's a great memory. 151 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:12,280 S1: Kids are watching. Don't underestimate what your kids see in you. Finally, 152 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:16,320 S1: don't rush your quiet time. Don't rush your quiet time. 153 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:17,880 S1: I don't have a verse to back it up. But 154 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:20,880 S1: I tell you, Chris, in my time with Jesus, it 155 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:25,320 S1: seems like the biggest chunks of gold, the brightest diamonds, 156 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:29,800 S1: are revealed only when I've spent unhurried time in the word. 157 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:34,720 S1: Unhurried time in prayer. Don't rush your quiet time with God. 158 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:37,320 S1: All right. That's my best shot, Chris. I'll hand it 159 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:37,920 S1: back to you. 160 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:42,199 S2: I love all of those, John. Thank you. And did 161 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:45,000 S2: you resonate with any of those? I like that just 162 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:47,829 S2: because you can fit it in doesn't mean you should. 163 00:09:48,350 --> 00:09:51,990 S2: From his own life. Does that speak to anybody? And 164 00:09:51,990 --> 00:09:53,990 S2: did you see what he did? He. He took three 165 00:09:53,990 --> 00:10:00,030 S2: scriptural don'ts and then three personal don'ts. Not underestimating the 166 00:10:00,070 --> 00:10:04,150 S2: power of your your life in front of your kids. 167 00:10:04,350 --> 00:10:07,710 S2: And don't rush your quiet time that all of those 168 00:10:07,710 --> 00:10:10,550 S2: speak to me. What about you? Do you have a 169 00:10:10,590 --> 00:10:15,190 S2: don't in your life that you would say, you know, 170 00:10:15,270 --> 00:10:19,110 S2: don't blank. Is there a mistake you've made that you 171 00:10:19,110 --> 00:10:23,550 S2: want to help others avoid? Finish the sentence. Don't blank. 172 00:10:23,830 --> 00:10:26,469 S2: Some great responses on Facebook, but I want to hear 173 00:10:26,470 --> 00:10:32,310 S2: from you at (877) 548-3675. Something good is going to happen 174 00:10:32,309 --> 00:10:35,390 S2: with your. Don't. But you have to call me for 175 00:10:35,390 --> 00:10:41,910 S2: us to hear it. (877) 548-3675. We are ready for your 176 00:10:41,910 --> 00:10:45,310 S2: calls right now. As many don'ts as we can. We'll 177 00:10:45,309 --> 00:10:57,740 S2: get to them today at the Radio Backyard Fence. Welcome 178 00:10:57,740 --> 00:11:00,740 S2: to our don't edition of Chris Favorite live here on 179 00:11:00,740 --> 00:11:05,500 S2: the very last day last Friday of October on the 30th. 180 00:11:05,860 --> 00:11:09,100 S2: Glad you've joined us here today. I'm looking forward. There's 181 00:11:09,380 --> 00:11:11,939 S2: some really good answers on Facebook. I said, is there 182 00:11:11,940 --> 00:11:14,620 S2: a mistake you've made that you want to help others avoid? 183 00:11:14,620 --> 00:11:19,140 S2: Finish the sentence. Don't blank. And Anna, the first one responding, Anna, said, 184 00:11:19,140 --> 00:11:27,620 S2: don't date someone based on their looks. HMM. Don't. And 185 00:11:27,620 --> 00:11:32,100 S2: what I take that to mean is, just because somebody 186 00:11:32,100 --> 00:11:34,500 S2: looks good doesn't mean you ought to date them. Or 187 00:11:34,540 --> 00:11:40,020 S2: someone at first glance doesn't look good. Doesn't mean you shouldn't. Um, 188 00:11:40,700 --> 00:11:45,980 S2: Catherine says, don't assume. Always ask, how many times has 189 00:11:45,980 --> 00:11:50,100 S2: this gotten me in trouble? Don't assume. Always ask for 190 00:11:50,100 --> 00:11:55,580 S2: clarification in communication. When you read or hear what someone 191 00:11:55,580 --> 00:11:59,420 S2: has written or said and immediately you. Well, they meant 192 00:11:59,420 --> 00:12:06,059 S2: this when they didn't mean that. Don't assume. Ask for clarification. 193 00:12:06,059 --> 00:12:10,460 S2: That's what communication is all about. All right. Tammy is 194 00:12:10,460 --> 00:12:14,459 S2: in Springfield, Illinois. Welcome to our don't program, Tammy. Go 195 00:12:14,460 --> 00:12:15,020 S2: right ahead. 196 00:12:15,780 --> 00:12:21,700 S3: Thank you for taking my call. Um, my big don't is, um, 197 00:12:22,540 --> 00:12:25,300 S3: when I was working, there was a coworker. We were 198 00:12:25,300 --> 00:12:28,660 S3: very close. He was like a brother to me. And 199 00:12:28,980 --> 00:12:33,459 S3: it was on a Friday and, um, he was very 200 00:12:33,500 --> 00:12:37,380 S3: out of character. He yelled at me. I mean, he 201 00:12:37,380 --> 00:12:42,500 S3: never acted like that before. And anyway, I became very 202 00:12:42,540 --> 00:12:45,930 S3: angry with him. I couldn't understand why he was acting 203 00:12:45,929 --> 00:12:49,730 S3: the way he was. And before we left work that 204 00:12:49,730 --> 00:12:53,930 S3: evening on a Friday, like I mentioned, um, he came 205 00:12:53,929 --> 00:12:57,490 S3: up to me and he said he was sorry and 206 00:12:57,690 --> 00:13:01,410 S3: I wouldn't forgive him, I thought. I don't know what 207 00:13:01,410 --> 00:13:04,610 S3: that was all about. And I just acted cold and 208 00:13:04,610 --> 00:13:09,370 S3: didn't accept his apology. And so before he left, he 209 00:13:09,690 --> 00:13:13,290 S3: came over and kissed the top of my head and said, 210 00:13:13,330 --> 00:13:18,209 S3: bye bye. And that was totally out of character, too. Well, 211 00:13:18,210 --> 00:13:23,410 S3: I got a call on Sunday and they said that 212 00:13:23,410 --> 00:13:30,770 S3: he committed suicide and I've regretted not forgiving him. 213 00:13:32,929 --> 00:13:33,370 S2: Wow. 214 00:13:33,770 --> 00:13:39,050 S3: So that is my big. Don't always be willing to forgive. Yes. 215 00:13:39,090 --> 00:13:42,839 S3: No matter what. No matter what a person does or 216 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:46,120 S3: how they act, don't hesitate to forgive. 217 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:51,160 S2: Yes. And that is such a hard. It's a deep lesson, boy. 218 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:53,560 S2: You've thrown us into the deep end of the pool 219 00:13:53,559 --> 00:13:54,960 S2: right at the beginning here. 220 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:58,160 S3: Tommy boy, is a very deep lesson. And this is 221 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,280 S3: this happened years ago. 222 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:03,200 S4: And do you feel like you're. 223 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:06,760 S2: Responsible for for him and his actions? 224 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:12,240 S3: I don't I think, well, he was very out of 225 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:18,440 S3: character for probably, oh, several weeks before that happened. So 226 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:21,560 S3: I feel like there was something going on in his life. 227 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:25,720 S3: But I just, I just feel so sad that I 228 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:29,240 S3: wouldn't forgive him. He was like a brother to me. 229 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:29,920 S4: Yeah. 230 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:31,160 S2: And my. 231 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:32,400 S4: Guess is by his. 232 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:35,800 S2: Action coming over to you and kissing the top of 233 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:40,320 S2: your head. He he he knew there was. He was 234 00:14:40,430 --> 00:14:44,190 S2: communicating something to you right there. So I want to say. 235 00:14:44,230 --> 00:14:44,550 S3: How I. 236 00:14:44,550 --> 00:14:50,710 S2: Feel. I, I totally embrace what you're saying about forgive. Be, be, 237 00:14:50,830 --> 00:14:54,310 S2: be quick to forgive. You know, slow to speak, slow 238 00:14:54,310 --> 00:14:58,630 S2: to anger, be quick to forgive. But at the same time, 239 00:14:58,630 --> 00:15:00,990 S2: that was a process for you. And you were trying 240 00:15:00,990 --> 00:15:04,790 S2: to figure things out, you know? And so it's like, 241 00:15:04,830 --> 00:15:08,470 S2: I want you to give yourself the the space to 242 00:15:08,510 --> 00:15:11,670 S2: be human in that time and not feel like, oh, 243 00:15:11,710 --> 00:15:14,590 S2: this was all my fault because it wasn't, you know, 244 00:15:14,590 --> 00:15:16,950 S2: that in your head, but you've got to get it 245 00:15:16,950 --> 00:15:18,430 S2: down into your heart. Right? 246 00:15:19,430 --> 00:15:22,870 S3: Right. I just wish I would have known something so 247 00:15:22,870 --> 00:15:25,830 S3: deep was going on in his life, and I would 248 00:15:25,870 --> 00:15:30,310 S3: have been there for him instead of holding on to anger. Yeah. 249 00:15:30,710 --> 00:15:34,830 S3: You know, I want to recognize those signs if it 250 00:15:34,830 --> 00:15:38,510 S3: ever happens again. Because like I said, he was so 251 00:15:38,550 --> 00:15:42,500 S3: out of character. We always laughed and had so much 252 00:15:42,500 --> 00:15:46,500 S3: fun together, and for him to scream at me like that. 253 00:15:46,500 --> 00:15:50,220 S3: And he cussed at me and I just. Instead of 254 00:15:50,260 --> 00:15:54,420 S3: getting angry, I should have asked him, what is something 255 00:15:54,420 --> 00:15:56,300 S3: going on, you know? 256 00:15:56,940 --> 00:15:59,380 S2: See, and this is what I mean here, Tammy, by 257 00:15:59,420 --> 00:16:03,780 S2: by sharing these kinds of don'ts, what it does is 258 00:16:03,780 --> 00:16:07,380 S2: it informs other people. There's probably somebody listening who's had 259 00:16:07,380 --> 00:16:10,100 S2: that kind of thing happen. If somebody's out of character 260 00:16:10,100 --> 00:16:12,620 S2: and they snapped and they, you know, the lid blew 261 00:16:12,620 --> 00:16:15,900 S2: off and everything. It's like, okay, how do I move 262 00:16:15,900 --> 00:16:19,700 S2: away from just my reaction to this to ask the question, okay, 263 00:16:19,740 --> 00:16:22,940 S2: so what really is going on here? And to be 264 00:16:22,940 --> 00:16:28,540 S2: an agent of change and goodness and forgiveness to that 265 00:16:28,540 --> 00:16:31,980 S2: other person, you've it's a hard thing. It's a hard 266 00:16:31,980 --> 00:16:34,420 S2: thing that you've shared here today, but it's really good. 267 00:16:34,420 --> 00:16:36,980 S2: Thank you for being a steward of that pain today. 268 00:16:38,050 --> 00:16:41,050 S3: Well, thank you for taking my call, and I hope 269 00:16:41,050 --> 00:16:45,370 S3: that I am speaking to other people. If anybody's angry 270 00:16:45,370 --> 00:16:48,650 S3: with them and it's out of character, or even if 271 00:16:48,650 --> 00:16:52,210 S3: it isn't out of character, always be ready to forgive. 272 00:16:52,530 --> 00:16:56,290 S2: Yes. And that's the interesting thing about this is that 273 00:16:56,290 --> 00:16:59,250 S2: there is a don't. There's always a due to the don't. 274 00:16:59,890 --> 00:17:05,570 S2: There's always a don't wear yourself out to get rich. There's. 275 00:17:05,810 --> 00:17:11,970 S2: Don't envy sinners. Fear the Lord. Don't. Don't envy sinners. 276 00:17:12,609 --> 00:17:15,370 S2: Don't add to God's words. Proverbs 30. I read that 277 00:17:15,369 --> 00:17:20,330 S2: one today. Don't add to God's words. Believe what he's 278 00:17:20,330 --> 00:17:24,730 S2: given to us and therefore don't hang on to unforgiveness. 279 00:17:25,690 --> 00:17:30,290 S2: Be ready to forgive. Be ready. And that takes that 280 00:17:30,290 --> 00:17:35,330 S2: takes some work. Isn't that something? Uh, Denise is on 281 00:17:35,330 --> 00:17:37,240 S2: the line. Denise, tell me or don't. 282 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:41,359 S5: Well, you started the show with. If you were a doctor, 283 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:43,560 S5: what would your. Don't be. If you were a whoever, 284 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:47,080 S5: what would your. Don't be. And today, I'm the mother 285 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:50,800 S5: of the bride. My daughter is getting married this time tomorrow. Oh. 286 00:17:50,960 --> 00:17:55,520 S5: And and my don't is don't get so caught up 287 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:58,800 S5: in the to do list and the details that you 288 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:02,800 S5: miss the moments. And that's a life thing and a 289 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:05,679 S5: mother of the bride thing. But it's real easy to 290 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:09,000 S5: get freaked out about, oh, we don't have this sign made, 291 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:11,560 S5: or how are they going to know what popcorn they're eating? Or, 292 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:14,240 S5: you know, like, we get so caught up in the 293 00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:18,520 S5: things that, you know, in the scheme of things don't matter, 294 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:22,359 S5: that it's easy to miss the things that do matter. 295 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:27,760 S2: Yes. Oh, yes. Every day, not just I mean, a 296 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:29,959 S2: wedding is a big thing. The weddings, a lot of planning. 297 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:32,920 S2: And so you get everything and the gown and the, 298 00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:35,550 S2: you know, grooms and the every. I don't know how 299 00:18:35,550 --> 00:18:37,990 S2: big this wedding is that you have, but it's like. 300 00:18:38,310 --> 00:18:39,870 S5: 200 people will be there tomorrow. 301 00:18:40,070 --> 00:18:43,429 S2: Okay. It's a it's a big one. Uh, and the cake. 302 00:18:43,510 --> 00:18:45,149 S2: You got to get, get get the cake and you 303 00:18:45,190 --> 00:18:47,750 S2: got to the caterer, if that's what, you know, all 304 00:18:47,790 --> 00:18:50,830 S2: of those things. And it's like, yeah, but what is 305 00:18:50,830 --> 00:18:53,550 S2: really important, it's the people, right? 306 00:18:53,950 --> 00:18:58,350 S5: Yeah. Yeah. Moments with her and then the moments that 307 00:18:58,350 --> 00:19:01,830 S5: there will be tomorrow with all, you know, 190 people 308 00:19:01,830 --> 00:19:03,909 S5: that are going to be there to celebrate with us. 309 00:19:03,950 --> 00:19:09,070 S2: Yeah. So that is, uh, yeah. So in the middle 310 00:19:09,070 --> 00:19:11,270 S2: of I want to thank you in the middle of 311 00:19:11,270 --> 00:19:15,109 S2: all the preparation and all the conflagration and all the 312 00:19:15,109 --> 00:19:17,790 S2: questions on the day that I was married and Andrea 313 00:19:17,790 --> 00:19:20,190 S2: and I had very small wedding on the day that 314 00:19:20,190 --> 00:19:23,150 S2: I was getting married, the tux that I had rented, 315 00:19:23,150 --> 00:19:26,390 S2: I opened it up and there was no tie in there. Oh, 316 00:19:26,590 --> 00:19:31,270 S2: there's no tie. What are we. Oh, well, we can 317 00:19:31,270 --> 00:19:34,300 S2: either get conflagration here or we can drive down there 318 00:19:34,300 --> 00:19:37,780 S2: and somebody find that thing. Uh, something's going to go wrong. 319 00:19:37,820 --> 00:19:40,660 S2: There's going to be a glitch that goes wrong in 320 00:19:40,700 --> 00:19:44,580 S2: the in the ceremony, right? You know, and it's like, okay, 321 00:19:44,619 --> 00:19:48,260 S2: when that happens, we are going to say, there it is. 322 00:19:48,340 --> 00:19:51,500 S2: And you know what? Who are the people that matter 323 00:19:51,500 --> 00:19:53,940 S2: in the middle of the glitch? Uh, I hope that 324 00:19:53,940 --> 00:19:57,100 S2: happens to you tomorrow. I hope everything goes perfectly. But 325 00:19:57,619 --> 00:20:00,700 S2: but there's probably going to be something that happens. 326 00:20:00,740 --> 00:20:03,420 S5: Right? Right. I'm on my way now to get 200 327 00:20:03,420 --> 00:20:04,780 S5: people worth of popcorn. 328 00:20:06,740 --> 00:20:08,580 S2: That's the kind of wedding I want to go to. 329 00:20:08,619 --> 00:20:10,900 S2: With popcorn. Now, wait a minute. Popcorn to eat or 330 00:20:10,940 --> 00:20:11,660 S2: to throw? 331 00:20:12,260 --> 00:20:13,500 S5: No. To eat. 332 00:20:13,540 --> 00:20:14,379 S2: Okay, good. 333 00:20:14,420 --> 00:20:20,500 S5: There will be butter and kettle and caramel and vanilla. Wait. 334 00:20:20,780 --> 00:20:23,459 S5: Blue vanilla covered with white chocolate. 335 00:20:25,220 --> 00:20:27,780 S2: This is. This is it. That's the place that I 336 00:20:27,780 --> 00:20:30,220 S2: want to be. Denise. God bless you, friend. And and 337 00:20:30,220 --> 00:20:33,820 S2: God bless that. That. not just the wedding, but the 338 00:20:33,820 --> 00:20:37,780 S2: marriage of these two that are coming together. Uh, mercy. 339 00:20:37,820 --> 00:20:42,060 S2: Mercy on their hearts and grace and peace. So if 340 00:20:42,100 --> 00:20:45,699 S2: you're just tuning in, we're talking about the don'ts. The 341 00:20:45,740 --> 00:20:49,980 S2: don'ts in the Bible. Don't boast about tomorrow. Don't brag 342 00:20:49,980 --> 00:20:52,859 S2: about yourself before the king. Don't bring a matter to 343 00:20:52,900 --> 00:20:57,740 S2: court hastily. Don't testify against a neighbor without cause. These 344 00:20:57,740 --> 00:21:00,859 S2: are very, very practical things, but there's probably a don't 345 00:21:00,859 --> 00:21:03,260 S2: from your life. And Chuck's going to share one now. 346 00:21:03,300 --> 00:21:05,420 S2: And Tennessee. Hi, Chuck. 347 00:21:06,420 --> 00:21:09,300 S6: Hi, Chris. How are you? Been listening for the last 348 00:21:09,300 --> 00:21:12,100 S6: ten years. Thank you for having me. You know, my 349 00:21:12,100 --> 00:21:14,500 S6: heart's beating like I'm getting ready to go to have 350 00:21:14,500 --> 00:21:17,379 S6: surgery or something. I can't believe that. Listen, mine is 351 00:21:17,380 --> 00:21:20,619 S6: very simple. This is not complicated at all. Don't walk 352 00:21:20,619 --> 00:21:22,580 S6: away from someone who's talking with you. 353 00:21:22,980 --> 00:21:23,380 S7: Mhm. 354 00:21:26,140 --> 00:21:28,980 S6: A daily problem, a daily problem. 355 00:21:29,619 --> 00:21:32,930 S2: Because. why? 356 00:21:33,810 --> 00:21:39,169 S6: There's always something else to go do. Always. So. 357 00:21:40,130 --> 00:21:43,290 S2: And how can you listen to a person if you 358 00:21:43,290 --> 00:21:45,050 S2: walk away from them? Right? 359 00:21:45,090 --> 00:21:49,129 S6: Absolutely. Yeah. Hey, listen, Chris, I'm 81 years old, so 360 00:21:49,130 --> 00:21:53,170 S6: I've been through this for a lot of years. Uh. 361 00:21:53,810 --> 00:21:56,930 S2: Do you remember a person that you walked away from? 362 00:21:56,970 --> 00:21:59,490 S2: You know, that you regret doing that? 363 00:21:59,530 --> 00:22:01,970 S6: Oh my goodness. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Oh, no. It happens 364 00:22:01,970 --> 00:22:05,730 S6: all the time. It really. It's like, I must be stupid, 365 00:22:05,730 --> 00:22:07,610 S6: but it happens all the time. Yeah. 366 00:22:08,530 --> 00:22:11,490 S2: And it's easy to do if you know, if you're 367 00:22:11,490 --> 00:22:15,129 S2: angry and upset sometimes. Sometimes you walk away because you 368 00:22:15,130 --> 00:22:17,730 S2: don't want to explode. You know, you don't want to 369 00:22:17,890 --> 00:22:20,170 S2: light into somebody. And I think, you know, I can 370 00:22:20,170 --> 00:22:24,370 S2: understand that. But most often you're talking about somebody who, 371 00:22:24,410 --> 00:22:27,490 S2: who does the same thing. Most often I see in 372 00:22:27,490 --> 00:22:32,040 S2: my own life, I distance myself, I walk away because 373 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:36,360 S2: I'm uncomfortable. I don't want to hear what's there and 374 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,480 S2: I'm missing out. And yet that's what you're saying, right? 375 00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:44,560 S6: Yeah. Well, it makes other people feel small. And it's not. 376 00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:45,760 S6: It's not a good habit. 377 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:46,879 S2: Yeah. 378 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:48,560 S6: I want others against it. 379 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:52,920 S2: I'm glad you called, Chuck. Thanks. See, that's the thing 380 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:56,520 S2: about this. You got to be open and honest with your. 381 00:22:56,560 --> 00:23:01,040 S2: You know, the fellow who took his own life early, 382 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,880 S2: the very first call that Tammy was talking about. And 383 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,439 S2: she didn't forgive him. And this thing that hangs on 384 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:09,640 S2: to you. And so in your don't, is there something 385 00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:12,919 S2: that is hanging on to you from years and years 386 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:17,119 S2: and years ago that you did, that you wish you hadn't? 387 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:21,320 S2: I believe God wants to set you free from that 388 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,800 S2: and living under the consequences, and then to move in 389 00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:28,310 S2: a better direction, like walking away from someone who's talking 390 00:23:28,350 --> 00:23:31,229 S2: to you. And Sherry is on the line. Sherry, tell 391 00:23:31,270 --> 00:23:36,869 S2: me why you called today. And I don't hear Sherry. 392 00:23:36,910 --> 00:23:37,629 S2: Do you hear Sherry? 393 00:23:37,670 --> 00:23:38,189 S8: Oh, hello. 394 00:23:38,230 --> 00:23:41,629 S2: Okay, there she is. All right, Sherry, tell me you're. Don't. 395 00:23:42,670 --> 00:23:49,030 S9: Oh, don't ever go against your conscience. I grew up 396 00:23:49,030 --> 00:23:54,109 S9: not feeling loved in my primary family, and so, um, 397 00:23:54,430 --> 00:23:57,790 S9: I was set up in college. I met and fell 398 00:23:57,790 --> 00:24:02,790 S9: in love with my prince on a white charger. He 399 00:24:02,790 --> 00:24:06,149 S9: was good looking. He was a Christian. We met at church. 400 00:24:06,750 --> 00:24:12,950 S9: Only problem, uh. I went against my conscience and did 401 00:24:13,030 --> 00:24:18,790 S9: more than I should have as we started dating. Uh, 402 00:24:18,990 --> 00:24:24,229 S9: that eventually, of course. You know, it ruins your relationship. Yeah, 403 00:24:24,550 --> 00:24:29,780 S9: and I am. I have since found that this would 404 00:24:29,780 --> 00:24:33,340 S9: never have worked out anyway. But I'm a little old 405 00:24:33,340 --> 00:24:37,100 S9: lady now. I wish I could tell my young self 406 00:24:37,900 --> 00:24:41,860 S9: it isn't ever worth it to go against what you 407 00:24:41,859 --> 00:24:42,899 S9: know is right. 408 00:24:43,380 --> 00:24:43,780 S7: Yeah. 409 00:24:44,780 --> 00:24:47,340 S2: I'm glad you said that, Sherry and I. And I'm 410 00:24:47,340 --> 00:24:50,580 S2: sorry that that fellow on the horse wasn't. You know 411 00:24:50,619 --> 00:24:53,100 S2: who he should have been. I wonder if he would 412 00:24:53,100 --> 00:24:56,939 S2: say the same thing now. You know, all these years, 413 00:24:56,940 --> 00:25:00,500 S2: if he's had a change of heart. But that what 414 00:25:00,500 --> 00:25:05,220 S2: you share from your own heart about the going against 415 00:25:05,220 --> 00:25:09,460 S2: your conscience. I think we all have this something. There's 416 00:25:09,460 --> 00:25:12,619 S2: this nerve that happens. It'll happen to me with a 417 00:25:12,780 --> 00:25:15,260 S2: an email that I get or a phone call or something. 418 00:25:15,260 --> 00:25:18,260 S2: It's like, there's something off with this, but I don't 419 00:25:18,260 --> 00:25:20,100 S2: want to go on that because I want to believe 420 00:25:20,100 --> 00:25:23,780 S2: something else. And if you go, you give in. If 421 00:25:23,780 --> 00:25:27,050 S2: you don't listen to that, Sometimes it's wrong, but a 422 00:25:27,090 --> 00:25:32,330 S2: lot of times it's right. Don't go against your conscience 423 00:25:32,330 --> 00:25:35,570 S2: and what you know is right or what you know 424 00:25:35,570 --> 00:25:39,770 S2: is wrong to do. Flee that. All right, I've got Sherry. 425 00:25:39,810 --> 00:25:42,570 S2: God bless you, friend. Thanks for calling. Eight. Seven. Seven five. 426 00:25:42,609 --> 00:25:46,170 S2: Four eight. Three. Six. Seven five. There are more don'ts. 427 00:25:46,170 --> 00:25:51,730 S2: I want to hear your. Don't. Eight. Seven. Seven. Five. 483675. 428 00:26:03,450 --> 00:26:04,330 S7: Don't. 429 00:26:04,490 --> 00:26:07,930 S2: That's the title of today's program. Just one word. Well, 430 00:26:07,930 --> 00:26:12,209 S2: it's a compound word. Do not. Don't. What is your. Don't. 431 00:26:12,530 --> 00:26:14,770 S2: Here's one for you. Don't miss out on this month's 432 00:26:14,770 --> 00:26:16,889 S2: thank you from Chris Fabry live. Do you see how 433 00:26:16,890 --> 00:26:18,890 S2: I did that? That's pretty good, wasn't it? I've been 434 00:26:18,890 --> 00:26:21,730 S2: telling you all this month about Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth book, 435 00:26:21,970 --> 00:26:28,120 S2: the 31 day advent Vent devotional titled Consider Jesus Meditations 436 00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:31,639 S2: on the Person and Work of Christ. 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I 448 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:13,680 S2: hesitate to give you the number to call because I 449 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:16,479 S2: want people to call about the don'ts, but I'll whisper 450 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:20,960 S2: it 86695. Fabry. If you call that number, you can 451 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:27,229 S2: give a gift (866) 953-2279. We are we are this close. 452 00:27:27,230 --> 00:27:31,030 S2: We're a smidgen away from making our goal this month. 453 00:27:31,030 --> 00:27:33,470 S2: And you can help us today at the back fence. 454 00:27:33,710 --> 00:27:40,389 S2: Chris Fabry live dot ORG. Our don't. Conversation continues. There's 455 00:27:40,390 --> 00:27:46,830 S2: so many great don'ts. Um, don't ever sacrifice your integrity, 456 00:27:47,230 --> 00:27:50,950 S2: Kevin says. Uh. And Barbara, I got to read Barbara's. 457 00:27:51,310 --> 00:27:56,750 S2: Barbara says, don't ignore that we inner voice. It is 458 00:27:56,750 --> 00:27:59,909 S2: trying to save you undue hardship. This goes back to 459 00:27:59,950 --> 00:28:03,190 S2: what Sherry was saying, like the voice telling you to 460 00:28:03,190 --> 00:28:06,109 S2: stop and pitch your tent here where there's plenty of 461 00:28:06,109 --> 00:28:09,070 S2: flat ground you would hope to hike to hike another 462 00:28:09,070 --> 00:28:11,910 S2: hour before stopping for the night. But think ahead. The 463 00:28:11,910 --> 00:28:14,150 S2: trail is going to descend into the canyon, and since 464 00:28:14,150 --> 00:28:16,470 S2: you are on the west rim of the canyon, there 465 00:28:16,470 --> 00:28:19,670 S2: will soon be no sunlight illuminating your path. And there's 466 00:28:19,710 --> 00:28:22,910 S2: a reason they call this in Pennsylvania, the Black Forest. 467 00:28:23,550 --> 00:28:26,869 S2: But go ahead. Plot along. Now that it's getting dark 468 00:28:27,390 --> 00:28:30,550 S2: until you find one small sort of flat area on 469 00:28:30,550 --> 00:28:34,150 S2: the steep, narrow trail that is barely large enough. Barbara, 470 00:28:34,190 --> 00:28:37,270 S2: you should be a writer. You are a writer. That 471 00:28:37,270 --> 00:28:41,750 S2: we voice that says, stop! This is far enough. We've 472 00:28:41,750 --> 00:28:46,270 S2: done enough. God tries his best to protect us from ourselves. 473 00:28:46,270 --> 00:28:52,790 S2: But sometimes we only learn the hard way. Yeah. That's true. Don't. 474 00:28:53,070 --> 00:28:57,950 S2: Don't be. Is in Florida. Beth, what is your. Don't. 475 00:28:58,430 --> 00:29:02,950 S10: Um, don't see yourself as others do. And then the 476 00:29:02,950 --> 00:29:06,830 S10: opposite is. But remember how your heavenly father sees you 477 00:29:06,830 --> 00:29:09,670 S10: and look at yourself that way and look at others 478 00:29:09,670 --> 00:29:10,550 S10: that way too. 479 00:29:11,590 --> 00:29:15,670 S2: So what you're saying is don't, don't look to others 480 00:29:15,670 --> 00:29:17,590 S2: for your validation. 481 00:29:17,630 --> 00:29:18,630 S10: Don't, don't. 482 00:29:18,870 --> 00:29:22,260 S2: Believe what they are thinking or saying about you, because 483 00:29:22,260 --> 00:29:24,980 S2: they might not be thinking what you're thinking. You might 484 00:29:24,980 --> 00:29:26,580 S2: be wrong about what they're thinking, right? 485 00:29:26,700 --> 00:29:28,260 S10: It might not be true. 486 00:29:28,660 --> 00:29:29,900 S2: Yes, yes. 487 00:29:30,300 --> 00:29:33,340 S10: They might have something else clouding their vision that sometimes 488 00:29:33,340 --> 00:29:35,660 S10: I always have to step back. And when someone says 489 00:29:35,660 --> 00:29:39,500 S10: something to me that's very hurtful. I need to think. MM. 490 00:29:39,540 --> 00:29:43,300 S10: Is that true? Because that's what God wants us to 491 00:29:43,300 --> 00:29:46,340 S10: think about. Whatever is true, whatever is lovely. Meditate on 492 00:29:46,340 --> 00:29:47,219 S10: these things. 493 00:29:47,380 --> 00:29:51,460 S2: Yes. Well, and it also gives you the ability to, 494 00:29:51,620 --> 00:29:55,220 S2: as you think through that, to kind of enter into 495 00:29:55,220 --> 00:29:59,900 S2: their world and, and wonder or maybe ask, wonder what's 496 00:29:59,900 --> 00:30:02,620 S2: going on with them that would cause them to, you know, 497 00:30:02,660 --> 00:30:05,620 S2: because many times what people, when people are ugly to 498 00:30:05,620 --> 00:30:08,980 S2: you or they say things that aren't true, it's more 499 00:30:08,980 --> 00:30:11,780 S2: about them than it is about you. Have you found 500 00:30:11,780 --> 00:30:12,620 S2: that to be true? 501 00:30:13,060 --> 00:30:16,620 S10: Oh, yes. And and they're probably hurting more than you realize, 502 00:30:16,620 --> 00:30:19,770 S10: but it just comes out just on the surface. And 503 00:30:19,770 --> 00:30:24,290 S10: if you really just listen to people, just stop and listen. 504 00:30:25,850 --> 00:30:30,290 S10: You know, that's biblical. Two quick, quick, slow to speak, 505 00:30:30,290 --> 00:30:31,330 S10: quick to listen. 506 00:30:31,610 --> 00:30:34,090 S2: How do you do? The other part of that, though? 507 00:30:34,130 --> 00:30:37,850 S2: But to see yourself as God sees you. 508 00:30:38,650 --> 00:30:41,730 S10: Uh, you spend time in the word and remember his promises. 509 00:30:41,730 --> 00:30:46,370 S10: That's what my pastor advised me during a hard time. Yeah. 510 00:30:46,570 --> 00:30:49,770 S10: Because that's. And if you know more what he's like 511 00:30:49,770 --> 00:30:51,850 S10: and you want to be like him, then you'll find 512 00:30:51,850 --> 00:30:56,490 S10: out more what you're like and what he. Yeah. And. Yeah. 513 00:30:56,610 --> 00:31:00,130 S2: Well, and what he's what he's making you because he 514 00:31:00,170 --> 00:31:03,090 S2: who began a good work is going to complete it. 515 00:31:03,090 --> 00:31:05,770 S2: And what is the work that he's doing in us 516 00:31:05,770 --> 00:31:09,370 S2: is to make us more like his son. That's his goal. 517 00:31:09,970 --> 00:31:12,650 S2: And the only question is, I'm going, am I going 518 00:31:12,690 --> 00:31:15,130 S2: to participate? You know, am I going to cooperate with 519 00:31:15,130 --> 00:31:17,600 S2: him today? Or am I going to go my own way? 520 00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:19,360 S2: AM I going to? Do you know what I think 521 00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,240 S2: is a good, good idea to do? 522 00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:23,719 S10: Yeah, because he wants what's best for us and we 523 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:27,560 S10: don't see the whole picture. He does. And he loves us. 524 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:31,120 S2: Yes. Amen. This is really good, Beth. Thank you for 525 00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:34,920 S2: calling today. I'm glad that you were able to say 526 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,680 S2: that to not look. Is there somebody listening right now? 527 00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:41,000 S2: And you've been basing your life, you've been basing your 528 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:43,800 S2: worth on what other people think of you. And I'm 529 00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,760 S2: saying this to myself at the same time, you've been 530 00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:51,080 S2: basing the good feeling about what somebody said to you online, 531 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,400 S2: or what some mad thing that they said to you online, 532 00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,440 S2: or I can take you to several emails that I've 533 00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:01,160 S2: gotten recently. It is like, boy, they really think I'm bad. 534 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:04,080 S2: You know, I'm a terrible person. And they said, am 535 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,320 S2: I going to believe that? AM I going to listen 536 00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,000 S2: to what's true in in what they've written? Because usually 537 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:11,479 S2: there's something in there that's true. AM I going to 538 00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:15,520 S2: believe the true thing, but be able to see, well, no, 539 00:32:15,870 --> 00:32:20,110 S2: I don't think that is because. Because here's what's in 540 00:32:20,150 --> 00:32:23,870 S2: my heart. And then cast myself on the one who 541 00:32:23,870 --> 00:32:27,070 S2: knows me better than the person who's emailing me. God, 542 00:32:27,070 --> 00:32:29,469 S2: what do you think of me today? That's really good. 543 00:32:29,910 --> 00:32:32,910 S2: Deborah is in Florida. Deborah, why did you call today? 544 00:32:34,070 --> 00:32:38,230 S11: Hey, thanks for taking my call. Well, mine my don't 545 00:32:38,270 --> 00:32:44,270 S11: is from life experience and it's. Don't confuse helping with enabling. 546 00:32:44,750 --> 00:32:45,110 S7: MM. 547 00:32:45,670 --> 00:32:46,550 S2: Explain that. 548 00:32:47,310 --> 00:32:51,870 S11: Well, you know, um, it's good to help people, but 549 00:32:51,870 --> 00:32:55,230 S11: sometimes you're not really helping them. I think there's a 550 00:32:55,230 --> 00:32:59,590 S11: book called helping Not hurting or something like that. But 551 00:32:59,590 --> 00:33:04,190 S11: when I read Doctor Henry Cloud and Doctor Townsend's book 552 00:33:04,190 --> 00:33:07,390 S11: called boundaries, it was such an epiphany for me because 553 00:33:07,950 --> 00:33:10,590 S11: I tend to want to fix people and help them. 554 00:33:11,030 --> 00:33:14,350 S11: But you can't you can't fix people and you can't 555 00:33:14,460 --> 00:33:17,620 S11: help them. And my husband had a very generous heart. 556 00:33:17,660 --> 00:33:22,860 S11: He's deceased now, but he loved helping people. But I 557 00:33:22,900 --> 00:33:28,260 S11: saw some times where, for instance, with a homeless person, 558 00:33:28,660 --> 00:33:30,900 S11: you know, you're not really helping them if you're just 559 00:33:30,900 --> 00:33:35,260 S11: giving them money or giving them, um, this or giving 560 00:33:35,260 --> 00:33:40,100 S11: them that. I think it goes back to that saying about, um, 561 00:33:40,860 --> 00:33:42,820 S11: if you want to feed a man, don't just give 562 00:33:42,820 --> 00:33:44,780 S11: him a fish, teach him how to fish. 563 00:33:45,020 --> 00:33:45,540 S7: Yes. 564 00:33:46,380 --> 00:33:51,420 S11: Because we are not Superman. We cannot, we cannot rescue others. 565 00:33:51,420 --> 00:33:55,500 S11: We need to maybe steer them, help steer them in 566 00:33:55,500 --> 00:33:58,620 S11: the right direction. And of course, we want to give 567 00:33:58,620 --> 00:34:04,380 S11: them the gospel. Um, but we we cannot fix them. 568 00:34:04,380 --> 00:34:07,700 S11: We have to help them find the path of their 569 00:34:07,700 --> 00:34:14,290 S11: own self esteem, their own, uh, responsibility, their own good choices. 570 00:34:14,650 --> 00:34:18,890 S11: And that's a very messy process and it takes longer. 571 00:34:18,890 --> 00:34:24,090 S11: But just giving somebody money, um, is not really helping them. 572 00:34:24,410 --> 00:34:24,810 S7: Yeah. 573 00:34:25,330 --> 00:34:28,089 S2: I am, I'm 100% down for the struggle that you're 574 00:34:28,090 --> 00:34:32,529 S2: talking about because the fix and sometimes giving people I'm 575 00:34:32,570 --> 00:34:35,410 S2: not talking about a handout, you know, a hand up 576 00:34:35,410 --> 00:34:38,770 S2: is what sometimes that can be the thing that they 577 00:34:38,770 --> 00:34:41,330 S2: need and it propels them, you know, to, to make 578 00:34:41,330 --> 00:34:46,210 S2: some good decisions. But I remember a call, a guest 579 00:34:46,210 --> 00:34:49,250 S2: that we had on the program and he had been 580 00:34:49,250 --> 00:34:52,370 S2: put in jail. I can't remember, I think it was 581 00:34:52,410 --> 00:34:54,890 S2: a drug thing. He had put in, been put in 582 00:34:54,890 --> 00:34:58,370 S2: jail and his he called his his mom, his mom 583 00:34:58,370 --> 00:35:03,130 S2: and dad come bail me out. And this time they said, 584 00:35:03,170 --> 00:35:04,810 S2: you know, it had been several times that they had. 585 00:35:04,850 --> 00:35:09,250 S2: And this time they said no. And he was so frustrated. 586 00:35:09,250 --> 00:35:13,080 S2: He was so angry. And, you know, just boiling anger 587 00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:18,520 S2: and all. Years later, he said, that was such a 588 00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:22,480 S2: gift to me. That was exactly what I needed in 589 00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,239 S2: my life, was for them to say no. And that 590 00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:27,920 S2: was harder for them because they wanted to bail him out. 591 00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:30,400 S2: They didn't want him to suffer. They didn't want him 592 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:33,399 S2: to be behind bars, you know. Believe the best and 593 00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:35,680 S2: all that. But it's like, no, that was the very 594 00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,960 S2: thing that he needed to do. And in that program, 595 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:42,920 S2: within 20 minutes, there was a mom who was calling saying, 596 00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:46,600 S2: my son. And she told us exactly what jail he 597 00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:48,839 S2: was in and how he had called. And she said, 598 00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:52,239 S2: I felt like such a worm for not bailing him out. 599 00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:55,200 S2: But I see that what you're saying is true, that 600 00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,200 S2: the fix is more about me. I want to feel 601 00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:02,560 S2: more comfortable with my life the long term. Boy, you 602 00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:05,439 S2: touched a nerve in me, Deborah. With that with that 603 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:06,680 S2: call today. 604 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:07,640 S11: Well, and. 605 00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:08,120 S2: I would have to. 606 00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:08,480 S5: Say. 607 00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:12,360 S11: Here's my here's my due. If you haven't read it yet, 608 00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:19,000 S11: read Boundaries by Doctor Townsend and Cloud because that is 609 00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:22,560 S11: a game changer. If you want to help people, you 610 00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:25,120 S11: got to find the right way to help people. 611 00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:29,359 S2: That is Deborah. This is our don't program. I was 612 00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:32,400 S2: talking this morning with Doctor Gary Chapman about this topic, 613 00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,120 S2: and I asked him about the don't that came to 614 00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:36,040 S2: his mind. 615 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:39,759 S12: Here's what I would say to that question, Chris. Don't 616 00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:46,280 S12: depend upon your own abilities in making decisions. Ask for 617 00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:50,799 S12: outside help. God wants to help us. The Bible says 618 00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:54,280 S12: if you lack wisdom, ask for it. Don't just think 619 00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,439 S12: that you know how to do everything and you can 620 00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:59,680 S12: do it without God. Ask him for help. I don't 621 00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:03,640 S12: care what it is. Lord, give me wisdom. I'm. Here's 622 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,600 S12: the situation I'm in. You know it. I'm asking you 623 00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:10,270 S12: to guide my thoughts and help me understand what my 624 00:37:10,270 --> 00:37:12,870 S12: first step should be and how I should approach this. 625 00:37:13,350 --> 00:37:16,510 S12: God wants to help us, and if we simply depend 626 00:37:16,510 --> 00:37:19,750 S12: on our own understanding and our own abilities to think 627 00:37:19,750 --> 00:37:24,710 S12: things through, we have limited knowledge. We have limited wisdom. 628 00:37:25,230 --> 00:37:27,870 S12: But if we ask for it, God will give us 629 00:37:27,870 --> 00:37:30,430 S12: the wisdom we need to do the things that we 630 00:37:30,430 --> 00:37:32,550 S12: need to do, and to do them in a way 631 00:37:32,950 --> 00:37:36,670 S12: that's going to be far better than simply depending upon 632 00:37:36,670 --> 00:37:38,070 S12: our own abilities. 633 00:37:38,310 --> 00:37:42,270 S2: And the other corollary to that is then allowing other people, 634 00:37:42,310 --> 00:37:45,230 S2: you know, ask God, but ask other people that you 635 00:37:45,230 --> 00:37:48,670 S2: trust who have wisdom to come alongside you. Not to 636 00:37:48,710 --> 00:37:51,589 S2: isolate yourself. Don't isolate yourself. Right? 637 00:37:51,630 --> 00:37:54,710 S12: Absolutely. Chris. The Christian life is not to be lived 638 00:37:54,710 --> 00:37:58,910 S12: in isolation. It's to be lived in community. We all 639 00:37:58,910 --> 00:38:01,790 S12: need other people, and God can speak to us through 640 00:38:01,790 --> 00:38:05,469 S12: other people because they've had more experiences than we have 641 00:38:05,469 --> 00:38:08,220 S12: in certain areas. And when we reach out to others, 642 00:38:08,219 --> 00:38:10,060 S12: what do you think about. You know, it doesn't mean 643 00:38:10,060 --> 00:38:12,779 S12: that you're going to take everything that everybody says, but 644 00:38:12,780 --> 00:38:15,260 S12: you never know that what one person shares with you 645 00:38:15,660 --> 00:38:18,500 S12: can be very, very helpful to you. God can use people. 646 00:38:18,540 --> 00:38:20,900 S12: God does use people, and he can use people to 647 00:38:20,940 --> 00:38:22,300 S12: give us wisdom as well. 648 00:38:22,900 --> 00:38:29,219 S2: That's Proverbs 1811 who isolates himself, pursues selfish desires. He 649 00:38:29,219 --> 00:38:33,060 S2: rebels against all sound judgments. So don't do it. Our 650 00:38:33,060 --> 00:38:47,540 S2: drone program continues straight ahead on Moody Radio. This is 651 00:38:47,540 --> 00:38:51,140 S2: our don't edition of Chris Fabry Live. We did the 652 00:38:51,260 --> 00:38:54,980 S2: the edition of. What was the one word that we better. 653 00:38:54,980 --> 00:38:58,420 S2: We did the better program. This is our don't program. 654 00:38:58,460 --> 00:39:03,020 S2: I wonder what will come up with next. Um, you're 655 00:39:03,580 --> 00:39:08,050 S2: you have really come through for us here today with 656 00:39:08,050 --> 00:39:11,529 S2: the forgiveness, with not getting caught up in the details, 657 00:39:11,530 --> 00:39:14,130 S2: the niece and the wedding with walking away from somebody 658 00:39:14,130 --> 00:39:18,730 S2: who's talking to you, going against your conscience, not basing 659 00:39:18,730 --> 00:39:22,689 S2: your worth or yourself on what others, how others look 660 00:39:22,730 --> 00:39:28,330 S2: at you and enabling versus helping. Deborah and Donald is 661 00:39:28,330 --> 00:39:30,489 S2: on the line. Donald, what is your. Don't. 662 00:39:31,330 --> 00:39:33,050 S10: Hey, Chris, how are you doing? 663 00:39:33,050 --> 00:39:33,490 S2: Great. 664 00:39:34,370 --> 00:39:38,010 S10: Good, good. My doing is something that's really simple. And 665 00:39:38,010 --> 00:39:41,609 S10: my my don't is you don't let people live in 666 00:39:41,610 --> 00:39:42,930 S10: your mind rent free. 667 00:39:45,170 --> 00:39:46,610 S13: Okay, so what do you mean by that? 668 00:39:47,730 --> 00:39:51,570 S10: Well, I mean, sometimes people offend us and there are times, 669 00:39:51,770 --> 00:39:55,009 S10: sometimes they don't know that they've offended us. And if 670 00:39:55,010 --> 00:39:57,690 S10: we just take that and and then we begin to 671 00:39:57,690 --> 00:40:01,969 S10: hold grudges and and act ugly, then it doesn't show 672 00:40:02,010 --> 00:40:04,450 S10: the love of Christ. It doesn't show that we are 673 00:40:04,450 --> 00:40:06,600 S10: children of the Most High God. If we are going 674 00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:09,520 S10: around holding grudges. And so I say, don't let them 675 00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:12,600 S10: live in your mind rent free every time you see them, 676 00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:18,040 S10: it upsets you. Free yourself and forgive and then God 677 00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:19,360 S10: will be able to forgive you. 678 00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:20,319 S7: Yes. 679 00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:23,280 S2: Oh, that Donald, that we could do just the program 680 00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:27,640 S2: right there. That's. That's enough. Uh, and that is a 681 00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:31,680 S2: full time job because it's so much easier to let 682 00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:34,480 S2: them live in your head and to be upset. And 683 00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,279 S2: every time you see their face or you see something 684 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,279 S2: or somebody says their name and you get all this 685 00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:43,960 S2: turmoil on the inside. Uh, it takes God to set 686 00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:45,360 S2: you free from that, doesn't it? 687 00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:48,759 S10: It really does. It really does. But. But whom? The 688 00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,360 S10: son set free? You should be free indeed. And so, 689 00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,600 S10: I mean, I think in every area of our lives, 690 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:55,799 S10: we ought to be free. If I'm going to be 691 00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:59,240 S10: able to proclaim and to show people what what Christ 692 00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:04,190 S10: looks like, I can't be holding grudges and, and animosity 693 00:41:04,510 --> 00:41:05,790 S10: because Jesus didn't do it. 694 00:41:06,510 --> 00:41:10,070 S2: And maybe that is the subtext of this whole conversation 695 00:41:10,070 --> 00:41:12,710 S2: of the don't. It's not about you got to get 696 00:41:12,710 --> 00:41:14,629 S2: your life right and you got to got to do 697 00:41:14,630 --> 00:41:17,750 S2: this and never do that. And you toe the line. 698 00:41:17,750 --> 00:41:22,870 S2: It's not about that. It's about freedom. It's about God 699 00:41:22,910 --> 00:41:26,790 S2: doing something in you and through you that you can't 700 00:41:26,790 --> 00:41:30,109 S2: do on your own. Just like Gary was saying in 701 00:41:30,110 --> 00:41:33,109 S2: just a minute ago. Donald. That's great. Charles is on 702 00:41:33,110 --> 00:41:36,070 S2: the road somewhere in the middle of the country. Charles, 703 00:41:36,070 --> 00:41:37,430 S2: what do you want to say today? 704 00:41:38,670 --> 00:41:40,950 S14: Yes, sir. Thank you for having me. Uh, I love 705 00:41:40,950 --> 00:41:41,390 S14: your show. 706 00:41:41,750 --> 00:41:42,069 S7: Thank you. 707 00:41:42,110 --> 00:41:47,629 S14: I just wanted to say, don't assume that your children 708 00:41:47,870 --> 00:41:51,790 S14: will outlive you. Uh, you had said earlier about calling 709 00:41:51,790 --> 00:41:55,149 S14: in to maybe would help some other folks. And that 710 00:41:55,150 --> 00:41:58,230 S14: kind of hit hit my heart a little bit, because 711 00:41:58,270 --> 00:42:01,830 S14: as parents, we don't expect anything to happen to our 712 00:42:01,980 --> 00:42:07,300 S14: kids think they're invincible. And, uh, so I would say 713 00:42:07,300 --> 00:42:10,700 S14: that's my big one of my big don'ts, you know, 714 00:42:10,739 --> 00:42:13,379 S14: for parents, don't assume that they'll always be there, that 715 00:42:13,380 --> 00:42:14,460 S14: you'll outlive them. 716 00:42:14,860 --> 00:42:15,180 S7: MM. 717 00:42:15,380 --> 00:42:19,260 S14: Um, and I would say the due part would be 718 00:42:19,900 --> 00:42:23,540 S14: or another don't excuse me would be don't underestimate your 719 00:42:23,540 --> 00:42:27,420 S14: importance in their lives. No matter. You know, where you 720 00:42:27,420 --> 00:42:32,419 S14: are physically or geographically. Um, don't take their, their love 721 00:42:32,420 --> 00:42:33,140 S14: for granted. 722 00:42:33,580 --> 00:42:33,980 S7: Yeah. 723 00:42:34,580 --> 00:42:37,100 S2: Is this from personal experience, Charles? 724 00:42:37,140 --> 00:42:37,739 S7: Yes. 725 00:42:37,780 --> 00:42:42,780 S14: Yes, sir. I lost my son, uh, in a motorcycle accident, uh, 726 00:42:42,780 --> 00:42:47,340 S14: a little over, uh, a little over two years ago. And, uh, 727 00:42:47,860 --> 00:42:51,660 S14: our relationship wasn't the best at the time. And, uh, 728 00:42:51,660 --> 00:42:55,620 S14: there's a back story on that. It's a long story, but, um, 729 00:42:56,860 --> 00:42:59,660 S14: I've never felt pain like that before, and that's no 730 00:42:59,660 --> 00:43:01,859 S14: offense to any of my Their loved ones that have 731 00:43:01,860 --> 00:43:07,339 S14: passed away, but, uh, just really unexpected. And, uh, I 732 00:43:07,380 --> 00:43:11,980 S14: would say, you know, just, just make sure you and 733 00:43:11,980 --> 00:43:15,819 S14: not just your children, but make sure they, they know 734 00:43:15,820 --> 00:43:16,459 S14: you love them. 735 00:43:16,900 --> 00:43:17,340 S7: Yeah. 736 00:43:18,300 --> 00:43:21,060 S2: Well, it goes back to what Chuck Swindoll was saying, too, 737 00:43:21,100 --> 00:43:24,340 S2: that I, I quoted him, tell people you love him. 738 00:43:24,780 --> 00:43:27,819 S2: If your son could could be right. He could be 739 00:43:27,820 --> 00:43:31,620 S2: on the line right now calling and, and would be 740 00:43:31,620 --> 00:43:33,859 S2: there and you could say anything to him. What would 741 00:43:33,860 --> 00:43:34,460 S2: you say? 742 00:43:36,020 --> 00:43:40,299 S14: I would, I would tell him I'm sorry. I'm sorry. 743 00:43:42,500 --> 00:43:51,780 S14: That I wasn't a better father to him. And, uh. I'm. 744 00:43:51,780 --> 00:43:53,020 S14: I'm so proud of you. 745 00:43:53,460 --> 00:43:53,820 S7: Uh. 746 00:43:55,300 --> 00:44:00,089 S2: Yeah. And he he would hear it, and, uh. And 747 00:44:00,090 --> 00:44:03,009 S2: you know that the the paint. It's been two years. 748 00:44:03,570 --> 00:44:07,170 S2: The pain of that is is still there and it 749 00:44:07,170 --> 00:44:10,850 S2: will be there. You know, I mean, you don't don't 750 00:44:10,850 --> 00:44:14,770 S2: ever quote unquote get over that. Tell me your son's name. 751 00:44:15,650 --> 00:44:16,690 S14: Um. Chase. 752 00:44:17,090 --> 00:44:17,890 S7: Chase. 753 00:44:17,930 --> 00:44:18,450 S2: Okay. 754 00:44:18,489 --> 00:44:19,010 S7: Yes, sir. 755 00:44:19,370 --> 00:44:20,250 S2: C h or. 756 00:44:20,290 --> 00:44:24,490 S7: JACHASE. Chase? Yes. 757 00:44:24,969 --> 00:44:29,009 S2: Well, you Chase has been a part of this program 758 00:44:29,010 --> 00:44:32,770 S2: today because you were faithful with the pain of that 759 00:44:32,770 --> 00:44:36,609 S2: and the. The heart cry that you have given us 760 00:44:36,610 --> 00:44:41,690 S2: here today is for those who still have, you know, 761 00:44:41,730 --> 00:44:45,009 S2: have a hard relationship with a son or a daughter, 762 00:44:45,450 --> 00:44:49,690 S2: and they're hearing what you have said, and that's going 763 00:44:49,730 --> 00:44:53,370 S2: to be a motivation for them to do what you've 764 00:44:53,370 --> 00:44:57,170 S2: talked about. The regret that you've had is going to 765 00:44:57,210 --> 00:45:01,160 S2: provide fruit in somebody else's life. Charles. I hope you 766 00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:01,760 S2: know that. 767 00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:05,840 S14: I hope so, because I, I would I would beg 768 00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:10,400 S14: them to sit down and, and have a conversation with 769 00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:14,120 S14: them and, and work it out. Yeah. 770 00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:15,080 S7: Yeah. 771 00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:17,360 S14: I appreciate you having me. 772 00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:20,680 S2: Do you know the, uh, the author, Lee Warren? Have 773 00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:22,680 S2: you ever heard about him? The neurosurgeon? 774 00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:24,200 S7: Yes, sir. Okay. Yes, sir. 775 00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,239 S2: Yeah. I think when as soon as you start telling 776 00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,160 S2: this story. I thought of him, and he lost his 777 00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:32,880 S2: son as well. And I was going to introduce you 778 00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:35,920 S2: to some of his writing if you didn't know about it. 779 00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,879 S2: But it sounds like you. You've. You've heard of. 780 00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:38,080 S7: Him? 781 00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:41,520 S14: Yes, sir, I have. Good, good. Good writing. 782 00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:42,120 S7: Yeah. 783 00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:42,800 S14: Good stuff. 784 00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:46,080 S2: God bless you, Charles. Thank you for sharing your heart today. 785 00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:48,000 S14: Thank you, Mr. Sherry. 786 00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:53,600 S2: And about Chase. Oh, father, thanks for Chase and for 787 00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:57,310 S2: the way that you have chased us. the way that 788 00:45:57,310 --> 00:45:59,870 S2: the hound of Heaven has been knocking at the door. 789 00:46:00,630 --> 00:46:04,390 S2: And would you, uh, would you be in this this wedding? 790 00:46:04,910 --> 00:46:07,670 S2: Would you be in all the regret that we've heard 791 00:46:07,670 --> 00:46:13,070 S2: here today? Would you mend those wounds, those broken hearts? 792 00:46:13,270 --> 00:46:16,509 S2: And be very near to Charles in this loss that 793 00:46:16,510 --> 00:46:21,390 S2: feels so, so near. Two years ago. But it feels 794 00:46:21,390 --> 00:46:25,469 S2: like it was yesterday. Pour out your mercy. Thank you 795 00:46:25,469 --> 00:46:31,189 S2: for it. In Jesus name. Amen. Thanks for responding to the. 796 00:46:31,230 --> 00:46:34,070 S2: Don't have a great weekend? Go to the website. Chris 797 00:46:34,070 --> 00:46:38,790 S2: Fabry live.org. We've got John's book, Powerful Self-Talk from the Psalms. 798 00:46:39,150 --> 00:46:41,990 S2: I'd love to send you Nancy's book. And remember, Chris 799 00:46:42,030 --> 00:46:45,310 S2: Fabry Live is a production of Moody Radio, a Ministry 800 00:46:45,310 --> 00:46:47,270 S2: of Moody Bible Institute.