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S1: Why do so many couples have difficulty with communication?

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman with a love language minute.

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S1: Often the answer lies in emotions. Before marriage, we had

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S1: one overpowering emotion. Love. But now the emotions of hurt, anger,

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S1: disappointment and fear often dominate. These emotions do not encourage

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S1: us to communicate. Or if we communicate, it is likely

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S1: to be negative or critical. We speak out of our

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S1: anger and create even more negative feelings. The key is

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S1: learning how to share emotions without condemnation. You might begin

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S1: by saying I feel hurt and when you have time,

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S1: I need your help. Identifying your feelings and choosing to

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S1: share them is one step. Step two is accepting the

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S1: feelings of your mate and asking, what can I do

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S1: to help?

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S2: Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages.

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S2: For more, visit five Love Languages. Com.