WEBVTT - The Daughter Factor – Part 3 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.680 Today on Bold Steps, Mark Jobe concludes a powerful message 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.800 on healing from father wounds and finding your true identity 0:00:06.800 --> 0:00:07.880 in God's eyes. 0:00:08.720 --> 0:00:10.840 A bold step is I know I've done it or 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:13.760 I haven't done it, and it was difficult and hard. 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:16.720 So I take a step that's difficult for me to take. 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:19.520 But the step of obedience is in line with God, 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:22.880 and it sets in course in motion, something that could 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:25.520 be transformative. That's what a bold step is. 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:40.920 Welcome to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. Mark is the 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:44.280 president of Moody Bible Institute and senior pastor of New 0:00:44.280 --> 0:00:48.080 Life Community Church in Chicago. And I'm Wayne Shepherd. Today 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:51.120 we're wrapping up our three part message called The Daughter Factor, 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:53.840 where we've been exploring how our relationship with our earthly 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:57.480 father shapes how we see our Heavenly Father. Even though 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:00.400 Mark first shared this at a women's retreat, these truths 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.960 really apply to anyone who struggled with father wounds or rejection. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.479 And today, we'll discover how to break free from those 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:10.200 harmful patterns and start seeing ourselves the way God sees us. 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:13.040 If you missed either of the previous programs, feel free 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:17.080 to catch up anytime at Bold steps.org. Now let's join 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:19.800 Mark for the conclusion of The Daughter Factor. 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:25.000 Listen, some of you have gone to abusive relationships because 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:27.080 you learn from your father that it was okay. You 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:29.360 saw it in your household with your mother, and you 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:32.280 grew up expecting. That's how a woman should be treated. 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:34.800 And you didn't understand. No, no, that's not how a 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.880 woman should be treated. If you grew up in a 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:41.680 household where you were taught respect and and hey, you 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:43.759 don't talk to a woman that way. You don't. You 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:45.679 raise your hand when you were taught that you have 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:49.600 dignity and value. Then you know what? When you see toxicity, 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:52.640 when you see abuse, when you see someone treat, you 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:55.040 walk away from it. Because I'm not going to I'm 0:01:55.040 --> 0:01:57.080 not going to allow you to treat me that way 0:01:57.080 --> 0:02:00.200 because you've been taught there's a standard. That's not how 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:03.170 you treat a woman. And so you're able to walk 0:02:03.170 --> 0:02:08.810 away from broken, toxic, toxic, abusive relationships because you have 0:02:08.810 --> 0:02:12.130 been taught a standard of what that's like. The greatest 0:02:12.130 --> 0:02:17.970 protection for daughters to not be in abusive relationships and 0:02:17.970 --> 0:02:20.010 to be able to stand up for it, is a 0:02:20.010 --> 0:02:23.490 loving father that speaks dignity, value and worth into the 0:02:23.490 --> 0:02:28.930 heart of their daughters. I used to tell my daughter 0:02:28.930 --> 0:02:31.370 when I dropped her off in high school. She. Pretty girl, 0:02:31.410 --> 0:02:34.770 pretty cheerleader, pretty girl. Everybody was talking. Hey, your daughter 0:02:34.770 --> 0:02:37.889 is so cute. She's so pretty. And I. And she was, 0:02:38.330 --> 0:02:41.730 and she is. But I was always tell her I said, 0:02:41.770 --> 0:02:44.410 you know. Hey, Marissa, look at me. She says, I know, 0:02:44.410 --> 0:02:46.290 I know, I'm more than a pretty face. Because I 0:02:46.290 --> 0:02:48.489 would tell her that you're more than a pretty face. 0:02:48.490 --> 0:02:52.130 You got intelligent, you got a personality, you got brains. 0:02:52.130 --> 0:02:55.490 You got there's much more than just a pretty face. 0:02:55.490 --> 0:02:58.730 You're much more than that. And I believe that when 0:02:58.730 --> 0:03:02.210 we do not fully grasp. When we have a father vacuum, 0:03:02.210 --> 0:03:05.650 there's a tendency to feel inadequate, inability to express love 0:03:05.650 --> 0:03:11.250 to others freely and unexplained feelings. Here you go of rejection. 0:03:11.850 --> 0:03:14.250 Why do I feel when I walk into a room 0:03:14.250 --> 0:03:16.930 like the first thing that comes to my mind? Do 0:03:16.970 --> 0:03:18.970 people like me? Do I fit in? Am I dressed right? 0:03:18.970 --> 0:03:20.890 Do I talk right? Are people going to look? Some 0:03:20.889 --> 0:03:24.130 of you coming to this conference that's been your biggest issue. 0:03:24.850 --> 0:03:28.770 Do I fit in? When you're secure in who you are, 0:03:28.810 --> 0:03:32.530 you're not asking those questions as much. You're able to say, 0:03:32.530 --> 0:03:35.290 this is who I am and I know who I 0:03:35.290 --> 0:03:37.810 am and I love who I am. This is the 0:03:37.810 --> 0:03:40.450 way God made me. And it's not about what do 0:03:40.450 --> 0:03:43.610 people think about me. Because you've already been established in 0:03:43.610 --> 0:03:46.610 your worth and your value that's been given to you 0:03:46.610 --> 0:03:49.930 by your earthly father and by your heavenly father who's 0:03:49.930 --> 0:03:52.690 spoken into your life, that you are a daughter of 0:03:52.690 --> 0:04:00.050 the Most High God. Ephesians chapter three. The Apostle Paul 0:04:00.050 --> 0:04:03.460 is telling to believers and he he's talking to people 0:04:03.460 --> 0:04:07.380 that are struggling with understanding who they are in God. 0:04:08.380 --> 0:04:10.780 And he says, and I pray that you, being rooted 0:04:11.220 --> 0:04:17.380 and established in love may have the power. The Greek 0:04:17.380 --> 0:04:20.580 word is dunamis, which where we get the word dynamite from. 0:04:20.580 --> 0:04:26.740 That's explosive power together with all the believers to grasp 0:04:26.900 --> 0:04:33.100 how wide, how long, how high, how deep is the 0:04:33.100 --> 0:04:38.740 love of Christ. And to know this love that surpasses knowledge, 0:04:39.220 --> 0:04:41.340 that you may be filled to the fullness of the 0:04:41.339 --> 0:04:44.980 measure of God. You know what he's saying? He's saying, 0:04:44.980 --> 0:04:48.260 I want you to experience not just head knowledge about 0:04:48.260 --> 0:04:53.460 the love of God. I want you to. I want 0:04:53.460 --> 0:04:57.940 it to so saturate you that you can't explain it, 0:04:58.140 --> 0:05:01.900 but you know you're walking in it. The height, the depth, 0:05:01.940 --> 0:05:06.020 the love of God that you can't explain. But you 0:05:06.020 --> 0:05:11.940 know it's yours. There's something transformative about the love of God. 0:05:12.380 --> 0:05:17.260 It it speaks to your identity. It shapes your heart. 0:05:17.700 --> 0:05:23.540 It allows you to worship. It means that a word of. 0:05:26.260 --> 0:05:32.260 It means that someone's, uh, insensitive word doesn't send you 0:05:32.260 --> 0:05:36.219 in a spiral for a week. I'm talking to someone. 0:05:37.380 --> 0:05:41.900 All it takes is one insensitive conversation. And you have 0:05:41.900 --> 0:05:47.020 to go to two therapy groups. Because one insensitive conversation 0:05:47.020 --> 0:05:51.380 just knocks you over so badly because you don't know 0:05:51.380 --> 0:05:54.940 who you are. Yet in God, you haven't perceived how 0:05:55.300 --> 0:05:59.339 loved you are, how solid you are, how forgiving you are, 0:05:59.339 --> 0:06:01.309 what it means to be a daughter of the Most 0:06:01.310 --> 0:06:04.150 High God, because when you walk in that someone can 0:06:04.150 --> 0:06:07.030 give you a insensitive comment and you say, I know 0:06:07.029 --> 0:06:11.390 who I am, I'm loved, I'm cherished, I'm valued, I 0:06:11.430 --> 0:06:15.190 have dignity, worth. I have the name of Christ sealed 0:06:15.190 --> 0:06:18.589 upon me. I have a destiny and a future, and 0:06:18.589 --> 0:06:21.710 it's determined by my God, not by what someone else 0:06:21.710 --> 0:06:27.550 says to me. In the Apostle Paul is praying that 0:06:27.550 --> 0:06:30.550 they would understand the power of the love of God 0:06:30.589 --> 0:06:34.029 that's been lavished upon them. And he says, you know. 0:06:34.070 --> 0:06:38.109 And he explains that to them. And why can't women 0:06:38.110 --> 0:06:41.830 experience the love of the father? Well, oftentimes it's the 0:06:41.870 --> 0:06:44.230 same reason that men can't experience the love of the 0:06:44.230 --> 0:06:52.310 father because we haven't fully understood the father and that 0:06:52.310 --> 0:06:57.390 we are his children. And so there's several things that 0:06:57.390 --> 0:06:59.750 affect us. One, if fill in the blank here Your 0:06:59.750 --> 0:07:07.349 experiences that have allowed lies to be planted. Experiences that 0:07:07.350 --> 0:07:12.710 have allowed lies to be planted. I'll never forget early 0:07:12.710 --> 0:07:15.030 in my pastorate, I started pastoring when I was 21 0:07:15.030 --> 0:07:19.950 years old 21. I had to go back and apologize 0:07:19.950 --> 0:07:22.150 to everybody that I pastored when I was 21. Say sorry. 0:07:22.150 --> 0:07:23.870 I didn't know what I was doing. Sorry. Forgive me. 0:07:23.870 --> 0:07:27.830 I was just a kid. But I'll never forget early 0:07:27.830 --> 0:07:32.510 on talking to a girl that was inconsolable because her 0:07:32.510 --> 0:07:36.950 boyfriend had broken up with her. Inconsolable. And I started 0:07:36.950 --> 0:07:39.550 talking to her about her boyfriend. And I found out 0:07:39.550 --> 0:07:46.030 he was abusive. Physically, verbally. He was no good. And 0:07:46.030 --> 0:07:58.390 I said, hey, I'm so glad you broke up. And 0:07:58.390 --> 0:08:03.560 she says, you should be jumping for joy right now. Seriously, 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:06.280 I'm so glad you broke up. And this is what 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:10.720 she taught. I never forgot she was 19 or 20 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:14.840 years old and she said, I'm going to be alone 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:23.760 all my life. I said, you're 19. Can I tell 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:30.560 you something? There's something deeper there. And as I started 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.880 talking to her, I realized there was a deeper. It 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:38.440 was an abandonment. I don't I don't I'm not worthy 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:43.120 to be loved. There's something wrong with me. If someone 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:47.080 really got to know me, they would reject me. That's 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:50.319 not something you make up in your mind. That's something 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:56.280 that traumatic abandonment creates in your persona. And that's what 0:08:56.280 --> 0:09:00.040 she was wrestling with. The lies of abandonment of her 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:04.000 father that made her feel like there's something wrong with 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:07.600 me that my father would leave me. And every man 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:11.679 that gets to know me will also walk away when 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:13.720 they get to know me. That was a lie from 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:16.920 the pit of hell. And that kind of lie causes 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:24.080 you out of desperation to get into relationships that are toxic, abusive, 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:29.280 that are unhealthy and cause us to tolerate, embrace, and 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:35.079 live with them as though they were normal. Experiences that 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:39.040 have allowed lies to be planted. Rejection, abuse or neglect 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:42.959 that has opened up the doors to lies. Number three 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:48.880 spiritual oppression that is created strongholds of lies. You know, 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:53.520 the Bible tells us that the language of God is truth. 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:56.880 The language of the enemy is lies. He's the accuser 0:09:56.880 --> 0:10:01.490 of the brethren. And I believe that there are strongholds, 0:10:01.490 --> 0:10:06.210 sometimes spiritual strongholds, that are created within our being because 0:10:06.210 --> 0:10:11.250 of these lies. And number four, a father or husband, 0:10:11.250 --> 0:10:16.810 male authority figure that has already betrayed, disappointed, thereby creating 0:10:17.370 --> 0:10:23.130 the lie of distrust. You know, Romans chapter eight says this. 0:10:24.929 --> 0:10:26.850 It says, because those who are led by the Spirit 0:10:26.850 --> 0:10:28.850 of God are sons and daughters of God. For you 0:10:28.850 --> 0:10:31.770 did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave 0:10:31.809 --> 0:10:35.530 to fear, but you received the spirit of sonship, and 0:10:35.530 --> 0:10:39.209 by him you cry, ABBA, father. The spirit of a 0:10:39.210 --> 0:10:44.650 daughter is the spirit of slavery, is shame based, fear driven, 0:10:44.650 --> 0:10:50.330 and fear empowered. That's how that's how slaves operate. The 0:10:50.330 --> 0:10:55.290 spirit of a daughter is grace based, love driven, Holy 0:10:55.290 --> 0:10:56.370 Spirit and power. 0:11:01.890 --> 0:11:04.370 You're listening to Bold Steps with Marc Job. We'll continue 0:11:04.410 --> 0:11:06.689 today's message in a moment. But first, Marc, I want 0:11:06.730 --> 0:11:09.730 to talk about something that's become a growing concern within 0:11:09.730 --> 0:11:13.370 Christian leadership circles. Our world is going through a whirlwind, 0:11:13.770 --> 0:11:16.770 pretty dramatic developments and changes, not just here in America 0:11:16.770 --> 0:11:19.250 but around the globe. And we need to remind ourselves, 0:11:19.410 --> 0:11:21.250 as Christians, we have a much higher calling than any 0:11:21.250 --> 0:11:22.730 political movement, don't we. 0:11:23.050 --> 0:11:27.410 Wayne? Turn on the news. And there is drama all 0:11:27.410 --> 0:11:28.329 over the place. 0:11:28.370 --> 0:11:33.730 From rumors of wars to economic crisis to actualization to 0:11:33.770 --> 0:11:37.730 actual wars that are happening to bombings, and it is 0:11:37.730 --> 0:11:41.090 easy to get distracted by all this, worried by it, 0:11:41.130 --> 0:11:44.690 anxious by it, sort of sucked into it. But here's 0:11:44.690 --> 0:11:48.370 what I want to say. This is a great time 0:11:48.570 --> 0:11:51.490 for the good news of Jesus Christ and the hope 0:11:51.490 --> 0:11:54.290 of the gospel. Amen. There are a lot of people 0:11:54.290 --> 0:11:57.170 coming to Christ throughout the world, and you may not 0:11:57.170 --> 0:12:01.500 hear about it because there's other news That is prominent 0:12:01.500 --> 0:12:05.380 and is taking people's attention. But there is an undercurrent 0:12:05.420 --> 0:12:09.300 of a harvest evangelism, and that's what we're all about 0:12:09.300 --> 0:12:12.620 right now, is a moment where people are shaken, where 0:12:12.620 --> 0:12:15.700 there's concern. But there are so many people that are 0:12:15.700 --> 0:12:19.260 turning to the heavens, and we at Bold Steps have 0:12:19.260 --> 0:12:23.620 determined we will not miss that moment. And so we 0:12:23.620 --> 0:12:26.380 are asking you to partner with us, help us out, 0:12:26.380 --> 0:12:30.340 because right now is a great time to be calling 0:12:30.340 --> 0:12:31.580 people to Jesus. 0:12:31.580 --> 0:12:34.540 We urge you to give online at Bold Steps. Org 0:12:34.580 --> 0:12:37.260 or you can call us. The number is 800. D.L. 0:12:37.380 --> 0:12:42.900 Moody and that works out to be (800) 356-6639. And when 0:12:42.900 --> 0:12:44.340 you do give, we'll be sure to send you a 0:12:44.340 --> 0:12:46.939 special gift which will tell you more about later in 0:12:46.940 --> 0:12:49.059 the program today. Well, thank you for that, Mark. But 0:12:49.059 --> 0:12:51.819 let's get back to our message now here on bold steps, 0:12:51.820 --> 0:12:53.100 the daughter factor. 0:12:57.980 --> 0:13:03.140 You know, I have on stage a mirror. For some 0:13:03.140 --> 0:13:12.260 of you. It's your enemy. For others, it's your obsession. 0:13:15.820 --> 0:13:17.380 But here's what I want to tell you. When. When 0:13:17.380 --> 0:13:22.380 you don't walk in the love of the father. On 0:13:22.380 --> 0:13:29.060 your worst days. On your bad days. When you look 0:13:29.059 --> 0:13:43.700 at the mirror. You see rejected. Fill in the words. Unworthy, fat, ugly, old. 0:13:43.740 --> 0:13:48.500 Too young. When you look at the mirror, you see 0:13:48.500 --> 0:13:58.140 something that you don't like. Labels all over you. But 0:13:58.140 --> 0:14:02.190 I want you to know that. when you look through 0:14:02.190 --> 0:14:06.750 the father's eyes and he sees it, he sees you, 0:14:07.870 --> 0:14:19.670 he says. He says, daughter forgiven dignity. Worth called, filled 0:14:19.670 --> 0:14:28.470 with me. Look like me, destined with me, washed, cleansed. Loved. Obsessively. 0:14:28.470 --> 0:14:33.870 Chased by the father. No one could take away the value. 0:14:34.990 --> 0:14:38.190 You see, that's what the father sees. And he speaks 0:14:38.190 --> 0:14:41.590 it over you. And it's going to take a while 0:14:41.590 --> 0:14:43.550 for you, some of you to see yourself like the 0:14:43.550 --> 0:14:50.190 father sees you in Jesus. But my prayer is that 0:14:50.190 --> 0:14:53.670 the father vacuum or the mother vacuum that you experience 0:14:53.670 --> 0:14:58.350 that's created so many lies will start to be changed 0:14:59.150 --> 0:15:03.160 by the renewing of your mind. I want you to 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:08.120 ask yourself this question. What is the cycle that I 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:13.600 need to break for me? If you're a parent or 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:17.720 maybe going to be a parent for my kids, what 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:24.880 is the unhealthy way of thinking behavior cycle pattern that 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:32.040 I've accepted as normal? But God is telling me, like 0:15:32.040 --> 0:15:35.200 Megan said, you're in the freefall and say, no, stop. 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:39.520 It's not normal. The lady that was bent over for 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:42.240 many years, 18 years, she learned to accept in the Bible. 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:45.880 She learned to accept living like that until she encountered Jesus. 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:47.880 And Jesus said, that's not the way I created you. 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:52.560 Stand up. About three months ago, uh, who's here from 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:55.800 Little Village? Anybody here from little village? Little village. Okay. 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:58.160 A few of you. It's mainly Spanish, and so not 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:02.880 a lot, but But but several months ago, Little Village 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:06.760 was having a gathering and a joint gathering, and they went. 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.320 They couldn't fit everybody in one place. So they rented 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:15.120 a nightclub called Los Lobos. Somebody's like, oh, pastor, I 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:21.800 know that place. It's like a pretty seedy nightclub, actually. 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:26.320 Like a nightclub. Nightclub? Pastor Paco actually asked me to 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:28.560 come and speak there. So I preached in Spanish and 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:32.080 he translated in English. And I felt like at the end, 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:36.200 I needed to call couples forward. That had gotten used 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:38.520 to living in a way that wasn't with God, that 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:40.280 I said, you know, if you're living together and you're 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:43.840 not married and you've just gotten used to it, or 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:46.360 if you're sleeping every weekend with your boyfriend or girlfriend 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:48.320 and gotten used to it, God's calling you to live 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:50.440 a different way. He's teaching you a different way and saying, 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:53.680 you know, get that right. And so I so I said, 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:55.680 I'm going to call you forward if if you know 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:57.680 that it's wrong and you want to change it, take 0:16:57.680 --> 0:17:00.760 a bold step. And so there were, I think, 11 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:04.480 couples that came forward. And the crazy thing is they 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:07.520 they looked at the crowd like this instead of going 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:09.760 like this, they all looked. And I said, some of 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.400 you have been living this way for such a long time. 0:17:11.400 --> 0:17:14.000 You've just gotten used to it. It's your way of life. 0:17:14.280 --> 0:17:15.920 And one lady was going like this. I said, how 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:18.000 long are you living with your boyfriend? Are you standing 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.560 next to her? She said mm. I said, how long? 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:25.960 She said 17 years. And I said, are you ready 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:28.000 to take a bold step? They said, yes, we're starting 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:32.240 pre-marital counseling classes next week. Guess what we're doing. Hold on. 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:35.280 I love this. Guess what we're doing? Pastor Paco invited 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:38.240 me to come, and we're doing a wedding for seven 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:46.240 of those couples. That's happening tomorrow. Seven of those couples 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:48.960 are getting married tomorrow. You know why? Because they. They 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:51.960 got used to a certain way of living, and they 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:55.160 had to be awakened by an encounter with Jesus to say, 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:57.560 you know, we're used to this way, but it's not 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:00.730 God's way. Some of you came to this encounter retreat, 0:18:00.730 --> 0:18:03.169 and you're used to living the way you're living. You're 0:18:03.170 --> 0:18:05.649 used to it. And God is saying, that's not how 0:18:05.650 --> 0:18:08.250 I created you. That's not who you are. Wake up 0:18:08.250 --> 0:18:10.690 and start living a different way. You got to take 0:18:10.690 --> 0:18:13.649 a step, a bold step, to live as women of 0:18:13.650 --> 0:18:17.850 the Most High God. And so I want you to 0:18:17.850 --> 0:18:20.770 identify what is the cycle that you're breaking. But listen, 0:18:20.770 --> 0:18:23.369 it's not going to break by itself. You have to 0:18:23.369 --> 0:18:27.490 determine what is the bold step of obedience that you're 0:18:27.490 --> 0:18:31.770 going to take. What's the bold step God's asking you 0:18:31.770 --> 0:18:34.490 to take? Listen, if it were easy, you would have 0:18:34.490 --> 0:18:38.450 done it a long time ago. I don't know what 0:18:38.450 --> 0:18:42.250 your bold step is. It may be finally writing a 0:18:42.250 --> 0:18:47.729 letter to your dad. You say, well, pastor, he passed away. 0:18:47.770 --> 0:18:53.290 It doesn't matter. And saying I release you. Hey, can 0:18:53.290 --> 0:18:56.330 we get real here? It may be going back to 0:18:56.369 --> 0:18:59.450 your boyfriend that you're living with and saying. You know what? 0:18:59.450 --> 0:19:03.420 I discovered at this retreat? I'm a woman of God. 0:19:03.420 --> 0:19:05.740 My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. And 0:19:05.740 --> 0:19:08.220 so I'm not going to live anymore like this. I'm 0:19:08.260 --> 0:19:10.780 going to it's either a ring on my finger or 0:19:10.780 --> 0:19:14.060 I'm out of here. Even though it's difficult and you 0:19:14.060 --> 0:19:20.900 just make a decision. Hey, it may be joining a 0:19:20.900 --> 0:19:24.860 Celebrate Recovery group because you know what? You've tried to so, 0:19:25.300 --> 0:19:29.020 so deaden the pain of this for so long that 0:19:29.020 --> 0:19:32.060 now you can't get rid of the cannabis that you 0:19:32.060 --> 0:19:35.740 do every other day. And you, when you go to church, 0:19:35.740 --> 0:19:41.979 you try to. I love my wife. We keep driving 0:19:41.980 --> 0:19:44.980 through places and she says, it smells like skunk. I'm like. 0:19:47.980 --> 0:19:50.979 There's not that many skunks around. Honey, this is like, 0:19:51.020 --> 0:19:55.459 straight up. She's always like, it smells like skunk. I 0:19:55.460 --> 0:20:00.820 said no, no, no, not skunk. Sorry. So some of you, 0:20:00.820 --> 0:20:02.660 when you come to church, you smell like skunk, you know? 0:20:02.700 --> 0:20:05.740 But hey, hey, it's time to stop smelling like skunk 0:20:05.780 --> 0:20:07.940 and just say, you know what? I'm going to Jesus 0:20:07.940 --> 0:20:10.659 with this. I'm not going to go to addictions. I'm 0:20:10.700 --> 0:20:13.139 not going to overeat. I'm not going to over drink. 0:20:13.300 --> 0:20:15.900 I'm not. Listen, some of you, for the first time 0:20:15.900 --> 0:20:19.820 in your life, need to say I am complete as 0:20:19.820 --> 0:20:24.379 a single woman in Jesus. I don't have to have 0:20:24.380 --> 0:20:28.740 a man to make me feel valuable. If God leads 0:20:28.740 --> 0:20:31.300 me to a relationship, it'll be a healthy one, but 0:20:31.300 --> 0:20:34.580 not driven out of panic or the sense that I'm 0:20:34.619 --> 0:20:38.660 not complete and full as a woman because God loves me. 0:20:38.660 --> 0:20:40.820 And standing in that is going to be a new 0:20:40.820 --> 0:20:44.980 step for you. Listen, some of you need to get baptized. 0:20:45.740 --> 0:20:48.300 You felt so unworthy. Even you gave your life to Christ, 0:20:48.300 --> 0:20:51.500 but you've never gotten baptized because you feel like I'm unworthy. 0:20:51.780 --> 0:20:54.100 Some of you need to give your life to Jesus. 0:20:55.540 --> 0:20:57.140 Some of you need to say, I'm going to be 0:20:57.140 --> 0:20:58.939 used of God. I don't know what your bold step is, 0:20:58.940 --> 0:21:01.219 but let me tell you what a bold step is not. 0:21:01.260 --> 0:21:03.380 I'm going to become a better person. That's a wish, 0:21:03.380 --> 0:21:08.100 not a bold step. I'm going to get up. Think 0:21:08.100 --> 0:21:10.060 better thoughts about the universe. That's a wish, not a 0:21:10.060 --> 0:21:13.380 bold step. A bold step is. I know I've done 0:21:13.380 --> 0:21:16.060 it or I haven't done it. And it was difficult 0:21:16.060 --> 0:21:18.659 and hard. So I take a step that's difficult for 0:21:18.660 --> 0:21:21.340 me to take. But this step of obedience is in 0:21:21.340 --> 0:21:24.619 line with God, and it sets in course, in motion, 0:21:24.619 --> 0:21:28.340 something that could be transformative. That's what a bold step is. 0:21:29.660 --> 0:21:31.140 So you're going to break up into your small groups, 0:21:31.140 --> 0:21:32.940 and you're going to determine what is the cycle that 0:21:32.940 --> 0:21:35.820 I'm breaking, what is the bold step that I'm taking, 0:21:35.820 --> 0:21:38.500 and what is the legacy that I'm starting to make? 0:21:38.500 --> 0:21:41.860 How am I going to change my destiny instead of living? 0:21:42.859 --> 0:21:48.459 Living how I've lived, thinking it's normal. Awakening to a 0:21:48.460 --> 0:21:50.540 new God, normal in my life. 0:21:57.460 --> 0:22:00.510 That's smart job on bold steps, a message titled The 0:22:00.510 --> 0:22:03.990 Daughter Factor and Mark. I know just as that audience. 0:22:03.990 --> 0:22:06.550 Many listeners today have been touched by these truths about 0:22:06.550 --> 0:22:09.550 seeing themselves through God's eyes rather than through that lens 0:22:09.550 --> 0:22:10.949 of past hurts. 0:22:11.150 --> 0:22:12.510 And I have to tell you, at the end of 0:22:12.550 --> 0:22:15.830 that message, there were so many women that took bold 0:22:15.830 --> 0:22:20.629 steps and responded, and just an amazing time. And maybe 0:22:20.670 --> 0:22:23.550 God is speaking to your life as well through this. 0:22:23.830 --> 0:22:26.190 I want you to pause and ask yourself, is there 0:22:26.190 --> 0:22:29.150 a bold step that you need to take? Is there 0:22:29.150 --> 0:22:31.909 a cycle that you've been repeating over and over that 0:22:31.910 --> 0:22:34.950 you need to break? And what is the legacy that 0:22:34.950 --> 0:22:39.190 God is asking you to make or create? This will 0:22:39.190 --> 0:22:42.550 be powerful. And by the way, if you're struggling to 0:22:42.910 --> 0:22:46.190 just try to live in the identity that God has 0:22:46.190 --> 0:22:50.470 called you to. We have just put out a devotional 0:22:50.510 --> 0:22:54.750 booklet based off of some of the messages that I've done, 0:22:54.790 --> 0:22:58.590 called More Than a Label Discovering Who You Are in Christ. 0:22:58.630 --> 0:23:02.150 It's a 15 day devotional that helps you start to 0:23:02.190 --> 0:23:06.870 tackle identity issues in a God given way. 0:23:07.150 --> 0:23:09.390 Get your own copy of this new resource. It is 0:23:09.390 --> 0:23:12.070 brand new. More than a label discovering who you are 0:23:12.070 --> 0:23:14.750 in Christ. You can go through this no matter your 0:23:14.750 --> 0:23:17.869 age and whether you're a teen, a parent, or a grandparent. 0:23:18.109 --> 0:23:20.430 This study will help you embrace your true identity in 0:23:20.430 --> 0:23:22.750 Christ and understand the purpose God has given you for 0:23:22.750 --> 0:23:25.870 your life. So don't miss out on this devotional. More 0:23:25.869 --> 0:23:28.110 than a Label discovering who you are in Christ. It's 0:23:28.109 --> 0:23:32.149 available at Bold Steps now. Mark, before we go today, 0:23:32.150 --> 0:23:34.310 I want to take a look at where we're going tomorrow. 0:23:34.350 --> 0:23:38.030 You're beginning a timely new message called attitudes That Divide Us. 0:23:39.230 --> 0:23:41.710 And I don't think that needs a lot of explanation, 0:23:42.109 --> 0:23:44.830 but we live in a time that we are super 0:23:44.830 --> 0:23:53.429 divided politically, economically, racially. And, um, this will address that 0:23:53.430 --> 0:23:57.790 issue as believers in Jesus Christ, even though people around 0:23:57.790 --> 0:24:01.200 us in the body of Christ may have some differing opinions. 0:24:02.119 --> 0:24:04.280 We need to make sure that the Kingdom of God 0:24:04.280 --> 0:24:07.000 is what unites us, and deal with the attitudes that 0:24:07.000 --> 0:24:07.840 divide us. 0:24:08.160 --> 0:24:10.760 Well, that is coming up on tomorrow's bold steps. But 0:24:10.760 --> 0:24:13.280 in case you can't join us, then let me remind 0:24:13.280 --> 0:24:17.000 you you can always revisit these messages online at Bold steps.org, 0:24:17.040 --> 0:24:19.600 or by listening to the Bold Steps app or even 0:24:19.600 --> 0:24:23.000 our Bold Steps podcast on our website, you'll also find 0:24:23.000 --> 0:24:26.520 a powerful resource that perfectly complements today's message about father 0:24:26.520 --> 0:24:30.720 daughter relationships and identity. 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