WEBVTT - The Power of Role-Parenting – Part 2 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:03.960 Today on Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. We're learning how 0:00:03.960 --> 0:00:06.040 to raise up the next generation. 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:09.240 And here's what the Bible says. When you honor, whether 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:12.440 you're a teenager or whether you're a 20 year old, 0:00:12.440 --> 0:00:17.000 or whether you're a 13 year old. Success and longevity 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:21.600 are the byproducts of honoring your father and your mother. 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:26.239 What is the opposite of that? Short life and a 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:27.480 lot of failures. 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:43.159 Welcome to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. Mark is president 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:45.560 of Moody Bible Institute and the senior pastor of New 0:00:45.560 --> 0:00:48.879 Life Community Church in Chicago. I'm Wayne Shepherd. Over the 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.279 past two days, we've been learning about authority and how 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:54.520 parents have the power to bless their children. And today, 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:56.840 as we move forward, Mark is going to be explaining 0:00:56.840 --> 0:00:59.720 how our willingness to train up the next generation shapes 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:03.400 the future and their destiny. Our series is titled When 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:06.319 you Believe Everything Changes. And if you have your Bible, 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:09.600 turn with us to Ephesians chapter six. Mark titled this 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:13.760 message The Power of Royal Parenting. And it starts right now. 0:01:15.920 --> 0:01:20.520 Jesus authority came through the submission to his God given authority, 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:23.480 and because he was in submission to his authority. He 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:27.959 had perfect authority. There was never a time where Jesus 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:30.319 prayed for a person that was sick that he did 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:33.319 not get healed. There was never a time where he 0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:37.280 touched a deaf man that did not receive his hearing. 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:39.679 There's not a time where he touched a leper and 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:42.800 the leopard wasn't clean. There's not a time when he 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:46.640 expelled the demon that a demon didn't go. Jesus had 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:50.720 perfect authority, but he had perfect authority because he was 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:55.080 in perfect submission to the authority of his of his 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:59.600 father here on earth. Therefore, because he learned perfect submission, 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:04.250 he also had perfect authority. You will never learn to 0:02:04.250 --> 0:02:06.730 lead unless, first of all, you learn to follow. You 0:02:06.730 --> 0:02:09.810 will never have authority unless, first of all, you place 0:02:09.810 --> 0:02:17.170 yourself under authority. That's why the Bible talks so strongly 0:02:17.330 --> 0:02:20.210 about the need to obey and be under the authority 0:02:20.210 --> 0:02:26.650 of those that God has placed over us. I started 0:02:26.650 --> 0:02:29.890 pastoring this church when I was 21 years old. That's 0:02:29.930 --> 0:02:34.890 way too young. But I believe that there's some lessons 0:02:34.889 --> 0:02:38.650 God had to teach me before I started pastoring that 0:02:38.650 --> 0:02:42.570 I needed to learn about submission and authority. And unless 0:02:42.570 --> 0:02:45.330 I had learned those lessons, I don't believe I would 0:02:45.330 --> 0:02:49.410 ever have had the authority to lead. I was 21 0:02:49.410 --> 0:02:53.010 and leading and leading people that were double my age. 0:02:53.010 --> 0:02:56.530 I was counseling marriages and I wasn't even married. I 0:02:56.530 --> 0:03:01.250 was I was, you know, ministering and preaching, But, but, 0:03:01.250 --> 0:03:04.010 but part of the lessons that I had to learn 0:03:04.010 --> 0:03:09.770 was the lesson of submission being under authority. And I 0:03:09.770 --> 0:03:13.290 remember specifically in one instance where this lesson had to 0:03:13.290 --> 0:03:16.889 be taught to me very strongly and powerfully, not through 0:03:16.889 --> 0:03:19.530 my parents, but through another pastor, a church that I 0:03:19.530 --> 0:03:23.250 was at. And, um, where a pastor, I thought, asked 0:03:23.250 --> 0:03:27.010 me to do something unreasonable at the time. I my 0:03:27.010 --> 0:03:28.770 hair was sort of the hair of the day. It 0:03:28.770 --> 0:03:30.730 wasn't super long, but, you know, it was kind of 0:03:30.730 --> 0:03:34.650 a little bit long. Can you still imagine that? So 0:03:34.690 --> 0:03:39.530 me with long hair. Okay. And the pastor had asked 0:03:39.530 --> 0:03:43.610 me to teach a class, and the pastor asked me 0:03:43.610 --> 0:03:45.890 before I taught the class, he asked me to cut 0:03:45.890 --> 0:03:50.050 my hair. And I remember I was kind of ticked 0:03:50.050 --> 0:03:55.290 at it, like, you didn't ask me how my spiritual 0:03:55.290 --> 0:03:59.370 life is. You didn't ask me if I feel qualified. 0:03:59.570 --> 0:04:03.020 You didn't ask me if I was praying. You just 0:04:03.020 --> 0:04:05.460 looked at my hair and you want me to cut 0:04:05.460 --> 0:04:11.500 my hair. Inside of me, that little rebellious like, who 0:04:11.500 --> 0:04:17.220 is this guy going to tell me to change my 0:04:17.220 --> 0:04:21.580 style just because he has short hair? Dresses in a 0:04:21.580 --> 0:04:24.420 suit and tie all the time. And so I made 0:04:24.420 --> 0:04:26.060 an appointment with him. I said, I'd like to talk 0:04:26.060 --> 0:04:28.300 to you first before I cut my hair. I'd like 0:04:28.300 --> 0:04:31.500 to talk to you. And I got Ahold of his secretary. 0:04:31.500 --> 0:04:33.860 And his secretary says he'd be happy to talk to 0:04:33.860 --> 0:04:41.500 you after you cut your hair. And I was like, okay, that's. 0:04:41.540 --> 0:04:46.859 That's it. Bunch of hypocrites. Legalistic, carnal. I'm out of 0:04:46.860 --> 0:04:50.140 this place. I'm like, building my own case. I can't 0:04:50.140 --> 0:04:52.620 believe that what they're doing. I'm not going to teach 0:04:52.620 --> 0:04:55.100 that class now. I'm not going to do anything like that. 0:04:55.100 --> 0:04:56.780 I was in college at the time. I went to 0:04:56.820 --> 0:04:59.659 my dorm, told everybody there like, he told you what, man? 0:04:59.660 --> 0:05:02.780 You should leave that church. Forget that church. I'm like, yeah. 0:05:07.540 --> 0:05:09.740 Have you ever felt the conviction of the Holy Spirit? 0:05:10.820 --> 0:05:13.820 I'm building my case. I'm talking about that. And no 0:05:13.820 --> 0:05:15.740 one was there. No one was talking about. I felt 0:05:15.740 --> 0:05:24.620 this sharp conviction of the Holy Spirit simply saying submit. Submit. 0:05:25.740 --> 0:05:29.380 He's your spiritual authority right now. If he would have 0:05:29.380 --> 0:05:31.180 asked you to do something hard, you'd have done it. 0:05:32.220 --> 0:05:34.260 I felt the conviction in my Holy Spirit so much. 0:05:34.260 --> 0:05:37.020 I felt such conviction, the Holy Spirit that that day 0:05:37.020 --> 0:05:39.420 I went to some guy on the floor, another college student. 0:05:39.420 --> 0:05:44.180 I said, grab your scissors. Cut my hair. He did 0:05:45.100 --> 0:05:52.460 never grew back after that. Nah. Just kidding dad. I 0:05:52.460 --> 0:05:55.020 went back and I said, you know what? I did that, 0:05:55.020 --> 0:05:57.860 and I feel like God spoke to me at that 0:05:57.860 --> 0:06:01.350 moment about. I didn't agree with it. I thought it was, but. 0:06:01.350 --> 0:06:03.430 But God spoke to me at that moment. What God 0:06:03.430 --> 0:06:06.710 was trying to teach me is a lesson on obedience 0:06:06.710 --> 0:06:11.390 and submission. Because you can never have authority unless you 0:06:11.390 --> 0:06:14.670 learn to be under authority. Listen, listen, young men, if 0:06:14.670 --> 0:06:17.670 you're a teenager right now and you're 18 years old, listen, 0:06:17.670 --> 0:06:21.110 you will never be able to lead your household unless, 0:06:21.110 --> 0:06:23.870 first of all, you learn to submit to the leader 0:06:23.870 --> 0:06:26.830 of your household. One day you will have a family. 0:06:26.830 --> 0:06:29.430 One day you will have kids, one day you will 0:06:29.430 --> 0:06:32.350 lead a household. And you're never going to learn to lead. 0:06:32.350 --> 0:06:39.430 Unless first of all, you learn to submit. And listen. 0:06:39.430 --> 0:06:42.390 I am convinced it was shortly after that, not too 0:06:42.390 --> 0:06:44.310 long after that, a couple of years after that, I 0:06:44.310 --> 0:06:47.630 find myself, at the age of 21, pastoring a church. 0:06:47.630 --> 0:06:50.630 But I am convinced that I would never have started 0:06:50.630 --> 0:06:54.110 pastoring at that young age unless I would have. I 0:06:54.150 --> 0:06:58.789 would have proved that test or or or gone through 0:06:58.790 --> 0:07:03.750 that test of learning what it meant to submit. The 0:07:03.750 --> 0:07:06.750 Bible says that rebellion is like the sin of witchcraft. 0:07:07.350 --> 0:07:10.950 It gets into your soul and it starts eating away. 0:07:11.470 --> 0:07:14.150 To obey is better than sacrifice and to hearken than 0:07:14.150 --> 0:07:17.990 the fat of rams. That's why it is the parent's 0:07:17.990 --> 0:07:23.910 responsibility to begin to teach children the power of obedience. 0:07:23.910 --> 0:07:28.790 Because ultimately, when you teach your children to obey, it 0:07:28.790 --> 0:07:31.470 will serve them in the rest of their life. They 0:07:31.470 --> 0:07:35.830 will learn to lead sooner. They will lead better. They 0:07:35.830 --> 0:07:39.989 will take authority sooner. They will begin to have influence 0:07:39.990 --> 0:07:42.950 at a greater age. If you if they don't learn now, 0:07:43.110 --> 0:07:46.630 when they become heads of households, their life will be 0:07:46.630 --> 0:07:50.470 out of control because they've never learned to be under 0:07:50.470 --> 0:08:02.560 the authority and submission of someone that's over them. Amen. Children. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.720 Obey your parents in the Lord. What does that word 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:10.560 in the Lord mean? Ultimately, it means that when you 0:08:10.560 --> 0:08:12.880 submit to your parents, you're not submitting to them, but 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:16.520 you're submitting to God. You cannot be rebellious toward your 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:20.600 parents and in right relationship with God, because whatever you 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.040 do to your parents, ultimately you are doing to the 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:26.880 authority that God has set above you. You can't say, well, 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.080 I don't respect my parents, I don't obey them. But 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:33.079 me and God, man we're tight. No no no no. 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:34.920 You're tight with something. But let me tell you, it's 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.400 not the Spirit of God. It may be some other spirit, 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:40.080 but it's not the Spirit of God. Because when you 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:45.120 learn to you, you say, well, I've had this conversation 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:47.080 with a lot of people. They say, well, I don't 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:51.840 think my dad deserves my respect. I just had a 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:54.240 conversation with someone after our first service. They said, you know, 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:58.079 my dad was a womanizer. My dad treated my mother wrong. 0:08:58.320 --> 0:09:01.200 I don't see how I could respect my dad for 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:03.600 what he did. Listen, I know some of you have 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:06.880 dads or mothers that necessarily weren't the best in the world. 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:11.199 But here's the thing when you obey them at this age, 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:15.440 you're not obeying them because they deserve to be obeyed 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:20.040 by their character. You're obeying them because you're trusting God 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:23.520 to work through them, not trusting that they are worthy, 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.280 but that God is worthy and has placed him in 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.880 a in a position to bless you. Are you tracking 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:36.800 with me? You say, well, pastor, I don't understand that. Well, 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:40.800 do you remember King David? King David in the Bible 0:09:40.840 --> 0:09:43.240 God said, you will be king one day. And he 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:47.240 put king. Saul was still king over him. And King 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:52.840 Saul was a jealous, egocentric maniac that was looking to 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:57.240 kill David. But David respected the authority of Saul and said, 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:59.720 I will not touch God's anointed. I will not lift 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:02.530 my hand. I will not kill him. God raises and 0:10:02.530 --> 0:10:06.330 puts down. And because David submitted to Saul, God raised 0:10:06.330 --> 0:10:09.490 David up at the right time to be the leader 0:10:09.490 --> 0:10:12.330 of a kingdom, because he learned to respect the position 0:10:12.330 --> 0:10:15.570 of authority that God had placed him on. The same 0:10:15.570 --> 0:10:17.569 it is in our life as well. 0:10:23.050 --> 0:10:25.770 You're listening to Bold Steps with Mark Jobe. A message 0:10:25.770 --> 0:10:29.290 he's titled The Power of Royal Parenting. You know, Mark, 0:10:29.290 --> 0:10:31.130 parents aren't the only ones who have the power to 0:10:31.170 --> 0:10:33.410 shape and change lives. We all can be an encouragement 0:10:33.410 --> 0:10:35.890 to others if we take the time. And that's something 0:10:35.890 --> 0:10:37.250 we're hearing from listeners. 0:10:37.410 --> 0:10:40.010 Yes we are. And by the way, we just want 0:10:40.050 --> 0:10:43.530 to say we love hearing from our listeners. Thank you 0:10:43.530 --> 0:10:48.970 for reaching out, sharing your stories, testimonies, faith questions. We 0:10:48.970 --> 0:10:52.010 read them all on a regular basis. I pray over 0:10:52.010 --> 0:10:54.490 the prayer requests that come in. Just yesterday I was 0:10:54.490 --> 0:10:57.690 doing so and so. It's encouraging to hear what's going 0:10:57.690 --> 0:11:00.370 on in your life and how God is moving through 0:11:00.370 --> 0:11:01.490 this program as well. 0:11:01.650 --> 0:11:03.809 Well, let me take a moment and share with you 0:11:03.809 --> 0:11:05.929 a letter we got in response to a recent message 0:11:05.929 --> 0:11:09.250 you gave. This listener says, before school began this fall, 0:11:09.250 --> 0:11:11.410 I was asked to do something more special than just 0:11:11.410 --> 0:11:14.490 our typical prayer for the children and their families. I 0:11:14.490 --> 0:11:16.530 knew exactly what I was going to do because God 0:11:16.530 --> 0:11:19.650 was stirring in me the importance of blessing my children. 0:11:19.770 --> 0:11:23.329 After listening to pastor Mark, just as he demonstrated blessing 0:11:23.330 --> 0:11:26.010 his children, I brought my children with me in front 0:11:26.010 --> 0:11:28.569 of the families of our church and bless my kids. 0:11:29.010 --> 0:11:31.530 I spoke to the parents and grandparents about the power 0:11:31.530 --> 0:11:34.370 of their words and the importance to bless their children 0:11:34.370 --> 0:11:37.730 and grandchildren. I was amazed by how many people were 0:11:37.730 --> 0:11:41.210 brought to tears, but how they needed that affirmation as 0:11:41.210 --> 0:11:44.850 a child but never received it. Your one message has 0:11:44.850 --> 0:11:47.410 had a ripple effect, not just in my family, but 0:11:47.410 --> 0:11:50.690 in many families now because of this one bold step. 0:11:51.010 --> 0:11:52.650 Thank you for what you are doing to create a 0:11:52.650 --> 0:11:56.130 generational impact in families so that God's love overflows into 0:11:56.130 --> 0:11:58.850 the lives of children and hopefully for years to come 0:11:58.850 --> 0:12:00.500 in their children's children. 0:12:00.540 --> 0:12:04.060 Wonderful, huh? I love that testimony. And if you're a 0:12:04.059 --> 0:12:06.940 parent out there, I just want to encourage you with 0:12:06.940 --> 0:12:10.460 the power of blessing. As this listener has said, there's 0:12:10.460 --> 0:12:14.900 something compelling about you putting your hand on the head 0:12:14.900 --> 0:12:17.500 or the shoulder of your sons or daughters and just 0:12:17.500 --> 0:12:21.900 speaking what you see in their lives. In fact, we 0:12:21.900 --> 0:12:24.700 did that recently at a chapel with all the seniors 0:12:24.700 --> 0:12:27.099 here at Moody Bible Institute that were graduating. 0:12:27.140 --> 0:12:28.060 I heard about that at. 0:12:28.059 --> 0:12:29.459 The very end. We said, I want you to come 0:12:29.460 --> 0:12:33.220 and just pray blessing over them, but also speak into 0:12:33.260 --> 0:12:36.220 what you see in their lives, what you see in them. 0:12:36.700 --> 0:12:40.740 And you know, Wayne, so many times we don't see 0:12:40.780 --> 0:12:46.059 what other people actually see in us because of insecurity, doubt, fear. 0:12:46.059 --> 0:12:49.540 And so there's a lot of power in words, of blessing. 0:12:49.860 --> 0:12:52.620 Well, thank you for sharing that bold step with us, 0:12:52.820 --> 0:12:54.740 and we'd love to hear how you have taken a 0:12:54.740 --> 0:12:57.059 bold step, and we'd love to pray for you as well. 0:12:57.380 --> 0:13:00.420 Connect with us online at Bold Steps. Org Or you 0:13:00.420 --> 0:13:02.140 can give us a call and leave your message on 0:13:02.140 --> 0:13:11.260 a recorded line. This number is (312) 329-2011. 312329 2011. And 0:13:11.300 --> 0:13:13.459 of course, you're always welcome to send us email. The 0:13:13.460 --> 0:13:18.260 address is bold steps. Again, we thank our listener for 0:13:18.300 --> 0:13:20.660 that bold step story. Now let's get back to today's 0:13:20.660 --> 0:13:23.780 message from Mark on the power of role parenting. 0:13:29.340 --> 0:13:32.820 Now, the only exception is this that ultimately you're submitting 0:13:32.860 --> 0:13:35.540 to the authority of God. So if your parent or 0:13:35.540 --> 0:13:39.340 if your boss or if your pastor, if your government 0:13:39.380 --> 0:13:42.300 leader or anybody in authority or principal at a school 0:13:42.300 --> 0:13:45.060 ever asked you to do something that is contrary to 0:13:45.100 --> 0:13:49.219 the rules and laws of God, then you can say no. 0:13:49.660 --> 0:13:52.780 If your parent asked you to lie, cheat. If they 0:13:52.780 --> 0:13:55.579 asked you to do something that is sinful, then you 0:13:55.580 --> 0:13:58.180 have the ability and the power to say no because 0:13:58.220 --> 0:14:01.510 ultimately you are submitting to God, just like Peter did. 0:14:01.510 --> 0:14:05.830 When the governing authorities say you cannot preach Jesus anymore. 0:14:05.950 --> 0:14:10.750 Peter said, who shall I obey, man or God? So ultimately, 0:14:10.910 --> 0:14:14.390 no one can ever ask you to do something immoral. 0:14:14.830 --> 0:14:17.750 No one can ever ask you to violate or do 0:14:17.750 --> 0:14:21.350 something sinful. You have the ability to say no. But 0:14:21.350 --> 0:14:24.790 on other issues, there's the issue of submission to the 0:14:24.790 --> 0:14:28.229 authority that God has given us. And then it says this. Listen, 0:14:28.870 --> 0:14:32.110 it says honor your mother and father. And by the way, 0:14:32.110 --> 0:14:35.310 he's quoting one of the Ten Commandments, because in Deuteronomy. 0:14:38.670 --> 0:14:43.350 In Deuteronomy chapter five, verse 16, it says, honor your 0:14:43.350 --> 0:14:47.910 father and mother as the Lord your God commanded you, 0:14:48.390 --> 0:14:50.710 so that you may live a long life, that it 0:14:50.710 --> 0:14:52.990 may go well with you in the land of the 0:14:52.990 --> 0:14:58.030 Lord your God has given you. Paul quotes that again, 0:14:58.030 --> 0:15:01.600 and he says, listen, SIM. Honor your father and mother, 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:03.960 which is the first commandment, with a promise that it 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:06.440 may go well with you and that you may enjoy 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:10.520 a long life here on earth. There comes a time 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:13.720 in your life where you go from obeying your parents 0:15:13.720 --> 0:15:16.960 to honoring your parents. If you're out on your own 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:19.720 and you're 30 years old and you have your wife 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:23.360 and you have your own children, you're financially independent and 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:26.080 your mother comes to you and says to you, you 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:28.560 need to obey me. Then you need to say, mom, 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:32.239 I love you, but I don't have to obey you, mom. 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:35.440 I honor you, but I don't have to obey you. 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:40.000 There's a difference between honor and obedience. Honor means that 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:45.000 you consider respectfully what they say. You weigh what they say. 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.960 But there comes a point in time where you actually 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:52.960 just honor them, but not obey them. Listen, guys. Listen up. 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:56.960 This is important. I know some of you are mama's boys. 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.040 You get in a little fight with your wife? You 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:07.240 call up mom and Mom. Guess what? My wife's not 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:11.400 just understanding me. I just nags me and you say, oh, mijo. 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:17.800 I told you all along she was going to be 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:22.640 that way. You come over to mama's house now. Let 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:25.040 me make you a little carlito, and I'm gonna, you know, 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:27.280 just snuggle up on the couch. You don't have to 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:30.560 put up with that nagging wife. You just come over here. Listen, mom. 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:34.960 He's got a family. Don't give him a couch to 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:37.360 sleep on. Don't let him. Don't tell him he can 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:39.200 stay at your house for a week. You make him 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:41.960 go home and deal with his wife. Because that's his family, 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:48.840 not that's his family. He needs to go home. He 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:50.960 needs to go back to his wife. He needs to 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:54.520 deal with the issues of his wife. And listen, man, 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:58.000 you your responsibility. You have a woman in your life 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:01.320 and your mother, you honor, but your wife is the 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:04.680 new woman in your life, and she takes priority in 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:08.600 your life. Because the Bible says when you marry, you leave, 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:16.880 you cleave, and you become one. Okay. Gotta settle that 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:23.560 right now. But you honor. And here's what the Bible says. 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:27.240 When you honor, whether you're a teenager or whether you're 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:30.320 20 year old, or whether you're 13 year old, when 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:33.600 you honor the Bible says it's the first commandment with 0:17:33.600 --> 0:17:37.560 a promise. What is the promise? There's a two fold promise, 0:17:37.600 --> 0:17:40.680 number one, that it may go well with you. In 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:46.560 other words, that you may have success in life. And 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:50.080 number two, that you may live a long life here 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:56.280 on Earth. Success and longevity are the byproducts of honoring 0:17:56.280 --> 0:18:03.129 your father and your mother. Success and longevity are the 0:18:03.170 --> 0:18:08.050 byproducts of honoring your father and your mother. What is 0:18:08.050 --> 0:18:13.450 the opposite of that? Short life and a lot of failures. 0:18:15.410 --> 0:18:19.649 Failure and a short life. You say, well, pastor, I 0:18:19.650 --> 0:18:21.650 really want to live long and I want to live healthy. 0:18:21.650 --> 0:18:26.210 I'm taking all these multivitamin pills, and I'm watching my cholesterol, 0:18:26.570 --> 0:18:31.770 and I'm I'm. I'm eating. It's not butter, pastor. It's 0:18:31.770 --> 0:18:35.689 like synthetic stuff with no calories. And I'm trying to 0:18:35.730 --> 0:18:39.730 work out. I'm glad I believe in fitness. I want 0:18:39.730 --> 0:18:43.410 you to be healthy. But listen, how about honoring your 0:18:43.410 --> 0:18:48.290 mother and your father? Because that will add longevity to 0:18:48.330 --> 0:18:52.770 your life and success to your life as well. It's 0:18:52.770 --> 0:18:56.090 one of the Ten Commandments. It's one of the words 0:18:56.090 --> 0:18:59.450 in Scripture. And I don't care how old your father 0:18:59.580 --> 0:19:02.820 and mother are. You honor them. How do you honor them? 0:19:02.820 --> 0:19:05.699 You call them up, you let them know they're important. 0:19:05.700 --> 0:19:07.580 You listen to them, you say, well, all they talk 0:19:07.619 --> 0:19:09.740 about is the good old days and complain about. Hey, 0:19:09.780 --> 0:19:12.700 you listen to them and and and you honor them, 0:19:12.700 --> 0:19:16.020 and you respect them, and you talk to them, and 0:19:16.020 --> 0:19:19.660 you help them out. Why? You honor your father and 0:19:19.660 --> 0:19:22.580 your mother. You don't treat them as well. They're just 0:19:22.580 --> 0:19:24.860 old people that don't. No, no, no, they're your mother 0:19:24.859 --> 0:19:28.780 and your father. The older they get, the more respect 0:19:28.780 --> 0:19:32.060 they deserve to have from you and the grandkids and 0:19:32.060 --> 0:19:39.780 the great grandchildren. One of the worst fallacies of our 0:19:39.780 --> 0:19:48.660 nation is the degradation and devaluation of elderly people. I 0:19:48.660 --> 0:19:53.580 was impressed when I went to China how they uphold 0:19:53.580 --> 0:19:58.820 and venerate and value the elderly. We live in a 0:19:58.820 --> 0:20:02.500 society in which the elderly pretty much are set aside, 0:20:02.500 --> 0:20:12.700 as useless to society as inconveniences to everybody's life. God 0:20:12.700 --> 0:20:17.459 forgive us as an American society. The Bible talks about 0:20:18.220 --> 0:20:27.659 honoring the elderly, listening to them, valuing them. And I 0:20:27.700 --> 0:20:30.260 hope that sons and daughters, if you're in your 50s 0:20:30.260 --> 0:20:33.699 and your 50s and your parents are in their 70s, 0:20:33.740 --> 0:20:35.460 or you're in your 60s and your parents are in 0:20:35.500 --> 0:20:39.420 the 80s, I hope that you're inviting them over to eat. 0:20:39.420 --> 0:20:41.700 I hope that you're listening to them. I hope that 0:20:41.700 --> 0:20:44.540 you're going out of your way to make that sure 0:20:44.540 --> 0:20:47.699 that they're doing okay. I hope that you are giving 0:20:47.700 --> 0:20:50.180 them some honor in their life. I hope that you're 0:20:50.180 --> 0:20:52.900 giving them some dignity in their life. I hope that 0:20:52.900 --> 0:20:54.900 you're talking to them in a way that they feel 0:20:54.900 --> 0:20:59.139 valued and respected and not thrown aside or pushed aside. 0:20:59.180 --> 0:21:01.379 I hope that that's part of what you're doing as 0:21:01.380 --> 0:21:04.780 an adult child of some parents that are getting elderly 0:21:04.780 --> 0:21:09.020 because that honors God looks upon that and that pleases 0:21:09.020 --> 0:21:12.300 the heart of God, and it flows in blessing to 0:21:12.300 --> 0:21:16.340 your life, success and longevity to your life. Amen. 0:21:22.140 --> 0:21:24.700 We're learning about honor and the promise of God found 0:21:24.700 --> 0:21:27.980 in Ephesians chapter six. You're listening to the Bible teaching 0:21:27.980 --> 0:21:31.140 of Mark job, and this is Bold Steps. Well, right 0:21:31.140 --> 0:21:33.500 now we've got a special bold step gift available for 0:21:33.500 --> 0:21:36.580 our listeners. It's a book titled envy a Big problem 0:21:36.580 --> 0:21:38.899 you didn't know you had. I love that title. It's 0:21:38.900 --> 0:21:41.179 written by our guest, pastor Mike Fabares. 0:21:41.300 --> 0:21:43.940 Yeah. And by the way, many of you are familiar 0:21:43.940 --> 0:21:48.180 with pastor Mike because he's on the radio. He's written 0:21:48.180 --> 0:21:52.140 several books. He's a graduate from Moody Bible Institute and 0:21:52.180 --> 0:21:54.700 actually on the board of directors as well. And so 0:21:54.700 --> 0:21:59.950 love pastor Mike and his ministry. I was thinking about 0:21:59.950 --> 0:22:05.510 this topic of envy and how oftentimes we just don't 0:22:05.510 --> 0:22:11.030 consider ourselves envious. Pastor Mike, if you were to help 0:22:11.030 --> 0:22:15.990 someone self-diagnose whether they have envy, what would you point to? 0:22:16.030 --> 0:22:17.550 What should they be looking for? 0:22:17.869 --> 0:22:20.790 Well, I would start by saying, are there any people 0:22:20.790 --> 0:22:25.270 in your everyday world that you just find yourself erring 0:22:25.270 --> 0:22:29.389 on the side of being critical when you really shouldn't 0:22:29.390 --> 0:22:31.230 be and you think, well, why am I not happy 0:22:31.230 --> 0:22:35.350 applauding their success? Right. This is hard, but we need 0:22:35.350 --> 0:22:37.510 to look at the people that we are critical of. 0:22:37.510 --> 0:22:39.750 And if you look hard enough, you often find it's 0:22:39.750 --> 0:22:42.989 because I really envious of what they get that I 0:22:42.990 --> 0:22:45.230 don't have what they've accomplished, that I haven't been able 0:22:45.230 --> 0:22:48.390 to accomplish that, that they make so much money, so 0:22:48.390 --> 0:22:50.669 much more money than I make. There's a lot of 0:22:50.670 --> 0:22:56.310 reasons that we, um, just spring into gossip and criticism 0:22:56.310 --> 0:22:59.109 and just talking behind people's back in a negative way, 0:22:59.190 --> 0:23:02.109 and usually we can start to realize what's happened is 0:23:02.109 --> 0:23:04.750 something really between me and God. It's really not between 0:23:04.750 --> 0:23:06.389 me and them. Mhm. 0:23:06.430 --> 0:23:09.110 Pastor Mike. Our envy and jealousy interchangeable. 0:23:09.910 --> 0:23:13.350 Not really. Um, there's a kind of jealousy that's appropriate 0:23:13.350 --> 0:23:15.510 in the Bible, right? God says he's a jealous God 0:23:15.510 --> 0:23:18.469 in Exodus 34. There's a time for you right to 0:23:18.510 --> 0:23:21.150 rightly in your marriage. Be jealous if there's something threatening 0:23:21.150 --> 0:23:24.990 that relationship. But envy is always seen as something wrong 0:23:24.990 --> 0:23:28.070 in Scripture, and we're never to envy anyone. And what 0:23:28.070 --> 0:23:30.750 envy is, is taking a jealous feeling when I have 0:23:30.750 --> 0:23:32.989 no right to feel jealous. And now I start to 0:23:32.990 --> 0:23:36.590 have a a bitterness toward that person for accomplishing or 0:23:36.590 --> 0:23:40.110 achieving or securing something that I haven't been able to. 0:23:40.230 --> 0:23:42.270 And Jesus tells parables about this. You've got to be 0:23:42.270 --> 0:23:44.830 careful in your own heart to guard your heart against 0:23:44.830 --> 0:23:48.590 this kind of envy, because it is different than jealousy, 0:23:48.630 --> 0:23:50.830 because sometimes jealousy can be appropriate. 0:23:50.869 --> 0:23:53.869 That's great. So there you have it, pastor Mike. 0:23:53.910 --> 0:23:56.710 Fabrice, we would love to get this book into your hand. 0:23:56.710 --> 0:24:01.159 It's called a big problem you didn't know you had envy. 0:24:01.320 --> 0:24:02.480 Thank you, pastor Mike. 0:24:02.880 --> 0:24:04.240 Of course. Thank you. 0:24:04.240 --> 0:24:06.320 And we will send you a copy of his book 0:24:06.320 --> 0:24:08.520 when you make a donation of any amount to support 0:24:08.520 --> 0:24:15.840 bold steps. Just call us at 800 Moody. 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