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S2: Do you have someone in your life who is a
S2: trustworthy source for advice? You go to someone who's godly,
S2: who speaks into your life from time to time. I
S2: want to take you to a passage of Scripture in
S2: Exodus 18. We're looking at different dads, the role of
S2: a father all over Scripture. I want to take you
S2: to the story of Moses. Now, Moses was charged with
S2: leading God's people in a major way. I mean, his
S2: responsibility was great. Moses was also a husband and a dad. Yeah.
S2: It's interesting.
S3: He had a lot to do.
S2: He had a lot to do. So the context for
S2: this in Exodus 18 is that his father in law
S2: brings Moses's wife and his sons to come see him.
S2: They have gone home for whatever reason, and father in
S2: law does a really nice thing and travels with them
S2: and says, Hey Moses, I've brought your wife and your
S2: sons to see you. And so Moses has a wonderful
S2: greeting with his father in law, Jethro and Jethro. Pretty
S2: much every time he's mentioned in Scripture, it says he's
S2: Moses's father in law, like, every single time. So the
S2: text really wants us to to know that this is
S2: Moses's father in law. So this is an important guy
S2: in his life and the context. Jethro is the priest
S2: of Midian. If you remember, back when Moses had to
S2: flee Egypt, you remember that when he had to flee
S2: for his life, he went and sought refuge in Midian.
S2: And that's where he met his wife. And so that's
S2: the context of their relationship. And from what we can
S2: see in Scripture, they had a pretty positive relationship. Uh,
S2: he tended the flocks. Moses, at one point in time
S2: tended the flocks for Jethro when he asked to be
S2: released to go back to Egypt. Jethro says, go in peace.
S2: Go ahead. So their history is a good one. This
S2: is important. I'm building some context for understanding why this
S2: piece of advice given by Jethro. There was some. There's
S2: some good grounding for which he stood to offer this.
S2: So they do the greeting and Jethro, he's heard all
S2: about what God has done for Moses and for Israel,
S2: and he kind of rejoices with, as Moses recounts, all
S2: that's gone on. Jethro is so happy. It says in
S2: verse nine, And Jethro rejoiced for all the good that
S2: the Lord had done to Israel, in that he had
S2: delivered them out of the hand of the Egyptians. Jethro
S2: is all in with Moses. He believes in him. He
S2: knows that God is with him. So he blesses the
S2: Lord based on what he's doing for Moses. But then
S2: we come to a scene where Jethro just starts to
S2: observe Moses, this great leader used mightily of the Lord,
S2: and he just watches for a minute, just stands back
S2: like a good father in law. He's already honored and
S2: loved his son in law, and now he just he's
S2: just hanging out. You can picture, you know, how sometimes
S2: dads sort of stand in the background. They're just they're
S2: just smiling, taking it all in.
S3: Yeah. Soaking it up.
S2: Let's pick it up. Exodus 18, verse 13. Go ahead Jonathan.
S3: The next day, Moses sat to judge the people, and
S3: the people stood around Moses from morning till evening, when
S3: Moses's father in law saw all that he was doing
S3: for the people, he said, what is this that you're
S3: doing for the people? Why do you sit alone? And why?
S3: And all the people stand around you from morning till evening?
S3: And Moses said to his father in law, because the
S3: people come to me to inquire of God when they
S3: have a dispute, they come to me, and I decide
S3: between one person and another, and I make them know
S3: the statutes of God and his laws. Moses's father in
S3: law said to him, what you're doing is not good.
S2: We'll stop there for a second. So I want you
S2: to understand what's happening here. So Moses is trying to
S2: be both the main intercessor and the judge for the
S2: whole nation. So everybody's sort of standing around all day
S2: waiting to see Moses.
S3: Yeah.
S2: Just waiting. Moses is the only guy, apparently in their
S2: eyes who can do anything for him. And that's understandable
S2: because he's served in this role for them. He's got
S2: great trust. He hears from God. But Moses's father in
S2: law goes, this is one of my favorite lines in
S2: all of scripture.
S3: Honestly, it's pretty good.
S2: What you are doing is not good. It's like, huh?
S3: Well, and it's confusing because it's not like it's a
S3: sin issue or something.
S2: It's no, it's not, not good in the terms that
S2: it's sinful. It's not good in the terms that son.
S2: There's a better way. We'll pick it up. But Exodus 18,
S2: verse 18. Go ahead, Jonathan.
S3: You and the people, you and the people with you
S3: certainly will wear yourselves out, for the thing is too
S3: heavy for you. You're not able to do it alone.
S3: Now obey my voice. I will give you advice, and
S3: God be with you. You shall represent the people before
S3: God and bring their cases to God. And you shall
S3: warn them about the statutes and laws, and make them
S3: know the way in which they must walk and what
S3: they must do. Moreover, look for able men from all
S3: the people men who fear God, who are trustworthy and
S3: hate a bribe, and place such men over the people
S3: as chiefs of thousands of hundreds of 50s and of tens,
S3: and let them judge the people at all times, every
S3: great matter they shall bring to you. But any small
S3: matter they shall decide themselves. So it will be easier
S3: for you, and they will bear the burden with you.
S3: If you do this, God will direct you and you
S3: will be able to endure. And all this people will
S3: go to their place in peace.
S2: In other words, Moses, you need to delegate.
S3: Yep. You need some help?
S2: That's it. It is for your good. For the good
S2: of the people. And to God's glory that you delegate.
S2: And not just to anyone. So this is really, really
S2: solid advice. Absolutely right. He's saying don't just pick any
S2: old people. You need to pick men who fear God,
S2: who are trustworthy, who hate a bribe. Place them over
S2: the people. But then here's another layer to it. And
S2: he's not just looking at their character. That's important. He
S2: also wants Moses to consider their capabilities, put them over thousands,
S2: hundreds of 50s and of tens. In other words, consider
S2: their character and their capacity. You're going to have able
S2: men who fear God, who are trustworthy, who hate a bribe,
S2: who are best suited to lead the thousands. You're also
S2: going to have men who fear God, who are trustworthy,
S2: who hate a bribe, who were capable, most capable, and
S2: suited to lead the tens. This is delegation and administration
S2: on steroids, as Carl likes to say.
S3: Absolutely.
S2: That's it. And so the story goes on. Moses listens
S2: to his father in law. He does all that he says.
S2: And you know what? He takes Jethro's advice. Jethro heads
S2: on back home. Coming up, what can we take from
S2: a story like this? I think that there's some good lessons,
S2: both for the giver of advice and also when we
S2: find ourselves on the receiving end. Coming up.
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S2: Unsolicited advice from your in-laws sometimes can go bad, but
S2: in the case of Moses and Jethro, it was awesome.
S3: A great example of how it should be.
S2: Yeah, Jethro, Moses father in law gives him a great
S2: piece of advice, which starts with a bit of a correction,
S2: a rebuke. What you are doing, Moses, is not good.
S2: These people are standing around all day, the entire nation
S2: of people standing around waiting for you to solve their problems. Yeah,
S2: this is going to wear you out and it's not
S2: good for them.
S3: I think that's a good indication that this was this
S3: was good advice to receive because it came with a
S3: not just I disagree with what you're doing, but I
S3: have concern for you. Okay. The burden is too heavy.
S3: So I think that, yeah, there's a a love in
S3: the communication that is felt, which makes the advice easier
S3: to receive.
S2: So what is it that qualifies Jethro to give such
S2: good but maybe tough to hear advice. You know a
S2: couple things that you can note when you read through
S2: this passage in Exodus 18. It's very clear from that,
S2: the very beginning how much Jethro believes in what God
S2: is doing through Moses and through the nation of Israel.
S2: So he's all on board with that. There's no sense
S2: that he's threatened by that, that he's intimidated. I think
S2: that's important. He believes in the mission, right?
S3: Absolutely.
S2: He's for Moses, so he's more likely to give advice.
S2: That's going to be God glorifying and for the good
S2: of Moses. Now, I mentioned this because I think when
S2: both when we are giving advice and when we're receiving advice,
S2: the relationship and the motive is important. Have you ever
S2: held back on giving advice because you weren't sure if
S2: your motive was right?
S3: That's a good question.
S2: Think about that for a second. Sometimes our motive, whether
S2: it can be a little bit of jealousy or a
S2: little bit of wanting to control the situation. Sometimes we
S2: have to check our own heart before we give advice.
S3: Yeah, absolutely.
S2: And Jethro, because they had such a healthy relationship, he
S2: was able to give and Moses was able to receive
S2: a man if there had been some sort of a fracture,
S2: if there had been dispute, if there wasn't that built
S2: in level of trust, or if Jethro was not on
S2: board with with what God was doing through Moses. Yeah,
S2: totally different scenario.
S3: Oh, absolutely. And I don't think it would have gone
S3: nearly as well.
S2: And so for Moses's standpoint, Moses has seen great victory, right? Yeah.
S2: Epic victory. I mean, the whole book of Exodus, we
S2: get to see Moses leading the people in some spectacular ways.
S2: He could have easily been like, hey, I got this.
S3: Did you not just see me hold up my cane?
S3: And I parted the Red sea. And I mean, it
S3: was God, but.
S2: Kind of been doing this. I hear from the Lord
S2: pretty clearly. Yep. Like, thanks, but no thanks kind.
S3: Of thing could have happened.
S2: But, Moses, there's a there's a it's a real display
S2: of humility here that he is able to receive this advice.
S3: Absolutely.
S2: And given by somebody who has not been used of
S2: the Lord as as he has. So think about this
S2: when sometimes when someone tells us something, we can feel
S2: like I know better, right? I certainly I've been doing this.
S2: I got it, I've got it. I've got some expertise here,
S2: but I, I love the picture of this is both
S2: the kind of model it sets out, both for the
S2: giver and the recipient, the humility that it takes to
S2: really consider what someone's saying. Might God be speaking through somebody,
S2: even who you feel like I've got it here. This
S2: is not an area where I normally need advice. Consider
S2: what they're saying, consider the relationship, and make sure that
S2: when you give the kind of advice that you're hearing
S2: from God, right.
S3: That's a big deal, too.
S4: Don't open your mouth unless you know. Come on.
S2: This is out of Exodus 18. I really love this story.
S2: Consider it today. A dad in Scripture this time a
S2: dad in law went so well.
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S1: he got saved. Young thunders in the crew. It's Carl
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S2: Hey, I'm Ali, this is Carl and crew. Coming up,
S2: father's day can be complicated for blended families. Uh, Ron
S2: Deal is an expert. He has spent a lot of
S2: his career talking to blended families. And he's a family therapist,
S2: he's an author, and he's going to have some practical
S2: advice for the step dad.
S1: She was trying to earn her way to God, but
S1: God showed her she didn't have to. Ali is in
S1: the crew. It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: As we head towards Father's Day. Coming up, there's a
S2: category of dads who maybe sometimes feel a little tension
S2: this time of year. It's the stepdad. There's not a
S2: lot of clarity around how this holiday, how this celebration
S2: fits you. We have a special guest who's going to
S2: help us. Ron Diehl, best selling author, licensed marriage and
S2: family therapist, founder and president of Smart Step Families. Joining
S2: us right now for Step Dad's. This can be a
S2: little confusing. What do we do with this day?
S5: Yeah, exactly. And thank you for talking about this, because
S5: there's so many men out there who are doing a
S5: great job and they're just not sure anybody's noticing, so
S5: I'm glad that we're taking notice right now. You know,
S5: think about it. Father's day, Mother's Day as well, very
S5: clearly designed to honor and respect biological mom and dad.
S5: And everybody's hearts. Go back to that. If you've lost
S5: your father, you're thinking about that loss at this time
S5: of year. If you had a marvelous father, you're celebrating.
S5: If you had a lousy father, you're again feeling some
S5: pain from that experience. Where does stepdad fit in to
S5: the picture? Like, it's sort of like, okay, you know,
S5: if your church does something to honor fathers, you know,
S5: here's one of the issues we have is kind of
S5: the Christian community not really having a clear way to
S5: honor the people who are playing parental roles, but yet
S5: don't fall into the right category. So, you know, we're
S5: going to honor Stepdads, and we're going to have you
S5: stand and we're going to give you a round of
S5: applause or whatever it is your church might do. Well,
S5: does the stepdad stand up like he's sitting there and
S5: he knows his kids are looking at and and he's thinking, okay,
S5: I'm not their dad. I don't want them to think that.
S5: I think I'm their dad. And if their dad were here,
S5: I would clearly not be standing up. But everybody else
S5: is looking at me. My wife is looking at me
S5: like I should be standing up. Do you see how
S5: he's running around in his head trying to figure out
S5: who am I? Yeah. What role do I play and
S5: how do I demonstrate that? And how do I respond
S5: in this community moment. And it's confusing. And that sort
S5: of represents the role he plays day in and day out.
S5: He's confused sometimes about who he's supposed to be and
S5: who he is to the children. And so it's just hard.
S5: What I want the Christian community to do is say, yes,
S5: we see you. We acknowledge that you're playing a role.
S5: And thank you so very much for often taking the
S5: short end of the stick. You're doing all the stuff
S5: you got all the responsibilities, you're paying all the bills,
S5: you're you're doing laundry, you're washing dishes, you're helping these kids,
S5: and you're trying to be a good character builder in
S5: their life. And yet you don't get the honor of
S5: being dad. That it's a tough spot to be in.
S2: So speak to that specifically. Let's just go after. Does
S2: the stepdad stand up and be acknowledged on Father's Day?
S2: I would say yes, but I get that there's some
S2: complicated dynamics there. What do you say?
S5: Yeah, I would say have a conversation with your wife,
S5: your kids ahead of time. Because if you've co-created the
S5: reality that says, yes, we want to honor you on
S5: that day, then the answer is yes, you stand up.
S5: But if you're feeling a lot of tension and maybe,
S5: you know, some step parents often have good relationships with
S5: 2 or 3 of the kids, but there's one that
S5: is sort of at odds. And so again, there's ambiguity
S5: wrapped up in that. So talk with family members. Try
S5: to get a sense of what's appropriate for you. What
S5: posture you should take when those things happen. And then
S5: you're acting out of some shared agreement about what it
S5: should look like, rather than you making assumptions. That's putting
S5: pressure on their heart to like love, honor you in
S5: a way that they're not quite ready to do.
S2: Yeah. You have a book specifically for Stepdads outlined for
S2: us some of the advice that you have for Stepdads
S2: who are taking on what you call the heroic challenge
S2: heroes by choice.
S5: So the book is called The Smart Step Dad. It's
S5: one of a dozen in our Step Family resource books,
S5: along with our podcasts and live events and all kinds
S5: of things we do at Family Life Blended. Let me
S5: tell you a little story. Okay, let's see if we
S5: can feel this for a minute. Everybody listening right now.
S5: So it's about a guy who's dating a woman. And
S5: you know, he just thinks, I mean, life is set.
S5: Like they're engaged. They're planning to get married. He is
S5: so excited. And all of a sudden she comes to
S5: him and says, I got news. I'm pregnant. Now, immediately,
S5: he feels two things. Number one, he feels betrayed because
S5: he knows that's not his child. That's huge. That just
S5: breaks his heart. You can just imagine how he feels
S5: about that. The second thing he feels is no responsibility.
S5: Disconnected from the child. Like, this is not my kid.
S5: This is not my job. This is not my obligations.
S5: I'm out. And that totally makes sense when you see
S5: it from his point of view. Well, the backstory is
S5: the angel of the Lord then goes to Joseph and says, hey, dude,
S5: we need you over here. And by the way, it's
S5: in the Greek. He said, dude, it's in there somewhere.
S5: I'm pretty sure of it. And Joseph chooses to become
S5: the stepfather of Jesus. Now hold on. That's a heroic story. Yeah.
S5: The God of the universe is choosing to come here,
S5: to incarnate, to become and live among us. And he's
S5: choosing to love us with everything he has. That's the
S5: God of the universe. One of the first things he
S5: experiences is being chosen to be loved by somebody who
S5: does not have any obligation or responsibility to love Jesus back. Now,
S5: I think Stepdads and Stepmoms are doing that day in
S5: and day out. I think they're heroes by choice. I
S5: think they are amazing people who then have to face
S5: the ambiguity of their role and not know exactly what
S5: they're supposed to do in every situation is tenuous at times.
S5: And it's amazing at best. And, you know, Joseph is
S5: a really good example of that. Think about it. We've
S5: got people all around us who are choosing. We've got
S5: foster parents who do that. We've got adoptive parents who
S5: are stepping into that category where they are choosing to
S5: love a child that is not theirs. I just think
S5: we should give some attention to that. In the Christian community,
S5: especially around days like Father's Day.
S2: Now in the US, 50% of children will have a
S2: stepparent at some point in their lifetime. 90% of children
S2: in Stepfamilies live with their mom and stepdad. I did
S2: not know this. I see this statistic that you provided
S2: in your book. Are there challenges that are unique to
S2: the step dad as opposed to someone stepping in as
S2: a step mother role?
S5: Yes there are. Think about leadership. You know, what do
S5: we teach men to do? Be the leaders of the home.
S5: And imagine a man who maybe has biological children of
S5: his own from a previous relationship. He's got two kids,
S5: let's say, and he's marrying a woman who's got a
S5: couple more kids. And so he knows what being a
S5: dad means. He knows what leadership means. He knows what
S5: it is to be somebody who's influencing them in positive directions.
S5: And so he steps into his stepfather role, making the
S5: same assumption, having the same posture, only to discover that
S5: that same role that works with his kids creates conflict
S5: with his stepchildren or his wife when they just see
S5: things from a different point of view. That's confusing. So
S5: how do I lead? I thought I knew. I know
S5: what the church tells me to do, but in this
S5: circumstance it seems like it needs to be played out
S5: in a different fashion. And that's exactly what we teach
S5: in things like the smart step dad. Yes, you're going
S5: to you're going to learn to connect with those children
S5: before you correct those children. And it's a different process
S5: with your stepchildren than it is your biological kids. And
S5: sometimes your wife is going to disagree with some rule
S5: that you have that she didn't have for the 15
S5: years she parented those kids before you showed up. Yeah,
S5: there's just little all kinds of little nuances like that.
S5: And so we teach men to be patient with their
S5: bonding with the children. Slow and steady wins the race,
S5: and we teach them to understand the limits of their role.
S5: On day one. They can become incredibly influential people in
S5: the lives of stepchildren, but on day one, probably not.
S5: So you're going to come in soft and gentle. You
S5: need to respect that rather than coming in like the
S5: new sheriff in town with new rules and my way
S5: or the highway that's going to undo your leadership, not
S5: enhance your leadership. So when men understand what's unique and
S5: different about that blended family and blended family relationships, then
S5: they come in smart. Hey, that's why we call them
S5: smart stepdads. And they don't have to deal with a
S5: lot of the difficulties that men who don't understand that
S5: end up doing and unfortunately, kind of bring it on themselves.
S2: Yeah. Ron Diehl, our guest right now, Ron, what does
S2: this look like in your own journey as a dad?
S5: Well, I am a biological dad. And, you know, here's
S5: the thing. My oldest is 30. I'm now a grandfather.
S5: I've got a new relationship. And you know what? Every
S5: new relationship comes with new opportunities and a few new
S5: questions that I didn't have before. So, like, it's so
S5: fun to find yourself in a new place. And yet
S5: at the same time you have questions. And I think
S5: that's one of the things we want to try to
S5: do with all men in every situation, whatever they might
S5: be in. The reason a band of brothers is important
S5: to men is because man, you just feel encouraged when
S5: you're when iron sharpening iron and you learn something from
S5: each other and you can give back to one another.
S5: So one of the things we encourage men to do,
S5: step dads to do is find some other guys hang
S5: out with those people who are walking a similar road.
S5: One of the things our ministry does, family life blended,
S5: is we help churches have small groups or Sunday school
S5: classes for blended family couples and for men and for women,
S5: and that goes a long way towards them again helping
S5: one another, spurring each other on towards good things.
S2: Yeah. And you know, the heartbeat of our show, helping
S2: people take their next step in their walk with Jesus.
S2: And we never want to present things as a this
S2: is what you need to do. This is what you
S2: ought to do. None of this is possible without the
S2: power of the Holy Spirit. I mean, this has to
S2: be you. You can effort all you want, but if
S2: you want to be the kind of step dad who
S2: makes a lasting impact in the life of in the
S2: heart of a child. My goodness, it starts with the
S2: power of the Holy Spirit.
S5: That's exactly right. We can't do much of anything except
S5: mess up our lives by ourselves that we can do
S5: by ourselves. Yes, the Holy Spirit steps in. Again, I
S5: go back to the story of Joseph in Scripture, and
S5: we could quickly reflect on all kinds of families in
S5: Scripture that were complicated families with different kinds of relationships.
S5: That started off perhaps in the not the best way,
S5: but nevertheless, now what are we going to do? How
S5: are we going to love in those situations? And over
S5: and over again we see the Holy Spirit showing up, teaching, training, talking,
S5: encouraging and leading people beyond where they are. You know,
S5: here's a here's something I'd love to leave everybody listening to.
S5: Whether you're a stepfamily or not, God is not limited
S5: by our imperfection. Yeah. The people he has worked with
S5: throughout history have been imperfect people imperfect dads, imperfect wives,
S5: imperfect husbands, children, families. Dysfunction is the story of the
S5: Old Testament families. And yet. And yet God shows up things.
S5: Good things happen. And there is redemption and we move
S5: forward in Christ.
S2: If you want more from our special guest, Ron Diehl,
S2: just text Diehl d e a l to 800 555 7898.
S2: A lot of wisdom here. Just text Diehl to 800
S2: 555 7898.
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S2: Coming up on Father's Day, you know, I think about
S2: there was a single mom that went to my church.
S2: And I remember over the years her always she was
S2: so faithful to bringing her son to church. And he
S2: was got to kind of see him grow up from
S2: when he was really little. And he was kind of squirrelly,
S2: you know, as most boys are at that. Yeah.
S3: So it's kind of a requirement.
S2: It's kind of a requirement. So he was a little
S2: squirrelly and, you know, but he would come to the
S2: youth group and he was he just was always there.
S2: And I remember one Father's Day. She put up a
S2: post on Facebook and she said, Happy Father's Day. And
S2: then she had assembled pictures of her son with all
S2: of these different men in the church who had been
S2: father figures to her son. So there was a picture
S2: of her son with one of the ushers, and then
S2: one of the the head of the security team and
S2: then the parking ministry guy. So it was and it
S2: was I this probably has been maybe ten years now
S2: since I saw that post, but I remember it being
S2: almost breathtaking in terms of what I thought it it
S2: represented that single mom. She went on to remarry, but
S2: at the time, he was being fathered in the sense
S2: by kind of by committee.
S4: Yeah, I love that. That's beautiful.
S2: By all of the faithful men at the church who
S2: would stop and take time to invest in his life,
S2: and he didn't have a biological father, and that was
S2: super present. But he had this committee of father figures
S2: in the church. I thought, what a beautiful picture of
S2: what the body of Christ can be. And so Father's Day,
S2: like all of these holidays, can bring up some complicated emotions.
S2: Maybe your dad is no longer with us. Maybe there
S2: was a complicated relationship. Maybe he was absent. But I
S2: want to open up the phone lines. Specifically, if you
S2: want to give a shout out to a father figure
S2: in your life. Maybe they were in your life in childhood.
S2: Maybe presently. They weren't your biological dad, but boy, did
S2: God use them to make an investment in your life.
S2: Who was that person for you? Not your biological dad,
S2: but boy, did God use them. 800 555 7898 tell
S2: us about that man. That man of God. How did
S2: God use a non-biological dad to help father you? 800
S2: 555 7898.
S1: Your shot of hope to help you through the day.
S1: This is Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: This is Carl and crew. Mornings I'm asking you, how
S2: did God use someone in your life? Not your biological dad,
S2: but a father figure who made a powerful impact. 805, 55, 7898.
S2: Would love to hear about them. Give them a shout
S2: out even if they're no longer with us. Let's celebrate
S2: and honor the father figures who have made those important investments.
S2: 805 55 7898 let's go to Peter, first time caller
S2: from Florida. Who was it for you? Not your biological dad,
S2: but someone else God used as a father figure.
S6: Well, I my biological dad was out of the picture
S6: at 12, so my mom took really good care of me.
S6: And I went to a welding college in California. And, uh,
S6: there was a guy named Willis Beasley, and, uh, he
S6: was he taught me how to weld. I spent ten months,
S6: got certified, and, uh, he just he just was really
S6: super nice guy and helped me and, uh, made an
S6: impact in my life. It was a I've never forgotten him.
S6: I can still remember his name. I'm 54 years old now,
S6: so you just never really know. You know what? What
S6: kind of impact you're going to make in people's lives.
S6: So that's why we need to build others up and
S6: edify and love them where they're at.
S2: Yeah. Peter, first time caller from Florida. I love that
S2: a welding teacher maybe didn't even know. But you know what?
S2: I bet he I bet he did. Uh, when people
S2: are intentional, maybe they don't get to know the full
S2: impact of what it meant, but it takes intentionality to
S2: really see see someone. Yes. And and to to pause
S2: just a little bit longer in those interactions.
S3: Yeah. That's an intentional move. Yeah.
S2: What do you say? Who did God use in your life?
S2: Not your biological father, but a father figure who made
S2: a real impact. 800 555 7898 let's get your calls,
S2: your stories. 800 555 7898.
S1: You're listening to Curl and Crew on Moody Radio.
S2: You know, sometimes it's a father figure who steps in
S2: where there's an absence. Sometimes it's someone who steps in
S2: to supplement what your dad is already doing. I have
S2: an incredible dad. I'm blessed to still have him in
S2: my life. But God has also used other men of
S2: God to speak into my life. So? So both are
S2: are true. God can use one in the absence or
S2: to supplement. So what do you say? Who has God
S2: used in your life? Not your biological dad, but boy,
S2: did God use them in a powerful way as a
S2: father figure. 800 555 7898 let's go to Aisha from Florida.
S2: Tell us, who was that for you?
S7: Hi. Good morning. Thank you for having me on. beyond.
S7: So I didn't have my dad in my life, but
S7: my grandfather was super instrumental along with my grandmother. He
S7: would wake me up in the morning, cook my breakfast.
S7: He would make sure I got to school whenever I
S7: needed that love, care and support. He was certainly there.
S7: And my pastor, who I call like a spiritual father,
S7: he's still here today. Both of them. And he just
S7: takes me as his own child, gives me counsel, advice,
S7: prayer and fast for me along with his wife first lady.
S7: So I'm super grateful for the body of Christ and
S7: God is huge.
S2: That's awesome. Thank you Aisha from Florida. Love that. What
S2: do you say? Who is that? That been that father
S2: figure who stepped in, uh, 800 555 7898. Randy calling
S2: in from Tennessee. It was a coach for you. Tell
S2: me about your coach.
S8: Uh, his name was George, and, uh, he was a
S8: coach of a church league basketball team. He got me
S8: on his team when I was kind of going the
S8: wrong way and turned me around. And later on in
S8: life as a man, I was able to coach against him,
S8: and he beat me one time and I beat him
S8: one time, and he's gone home to go home to
S8: be with the Lord.
S2: Oh, boy. Randy, what's his name?
S8: George. His name is George.
S2: Wow. That's incredible. What was it like when you when
S2: you faced off? Was it a little friendly rivalry? Did
S2: you both want to get the win?
S8: Oh, yeah. We. I wanted to beat him. He wanted
S8: to beat me. Uh, the first time I played against him, I.
S8: I kind of lost my cool, uh, with the referees
S8: because they were. I thought they were making some really
S8: bad calls, and he pulled me aside after the game
S8: was over, and, uh, you know, he he didn't get
S8: on me real hard, but he told me he couldn't,
S8: you know, never lose your cool in front of your players.
S2: Oh, he was still. Still, even all those years later,
S2: he was still giving you kind of mentoring and coaching.
S8: Yeah. And that's been that's been almost 60 years ago now.
S2: Wow.
S8: Almost 50 years ago. I take that back. I ain't
S8: that old.
S2: Randy from Tennessee. You know, Randy, I spent a lot
S2: of time in gyms watching basketball games. And I would
S2: be lying if I said there hasn't been a time
S2: or two where I got a little frustrated with the officiating.
S4: No. You never.
S2: Wife of a coach, former player, and the mom of
S2: two competitive basketball players. Yep, I get it. What do
S2: you say? Who's that man? That man of God that
S2: the Lord used powerfully? Not your biological dad, but a
S2: father figure. 800 555 7898. Cheryl calling in this morning
S2: from Tennessee. Tell me.
S9: Hi. Um, I wanted to tell about A man who
S9: was like a biological father. My dad died of cancer
S9: when I was two, and this was a professor in college.
S9: He would he had said several times that he felt
S9: like a father to me. Um, and I felt like
S9: a daughter. And he would come up to me and
S9: pray with me and ask me what I needed prayer for.
S2: Wow.
S9: He contacted me a few times after college. I contacted
S9: him several times and he died about a year ago.
S2: Wow. Cheryl, did you ever get a chance to tell
S2: him the kind of impact he'd made in your life?
S9: Very definitely.
S2: Yes. Thank you so much, Cheryl from Tennessee. A phenomenal
S2: love to hear these stories. If you've got one, if
S2: you want to shout out a man in your life
S2: who's been used by God as a father figure. Not
S2: your biological dad, but boy, did they step in. 855 five. 78. 98.
S2: Love to hear from you this morning. 800 555 78. 98.
S1: It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: We're celebrating the non-biological dads who are used by God
S2: as father figures. So many great stories already this morning.
S2: We'd love to hear yours. 805, 55, 7898. We've got
S2: Caleb calling in this morning from Mississippi. Tell me, what
S2: do you say?
S8: Uh.
S6: Good morning. I just wanted to.
S10: Tell you about my adopted dad. I was adopted when
S10: I was three days old. And, uh, really? Truthfully, he
S10: was the only dad that I knew growing up. Um,
S10: him and my mama took me in when they didn't
S10: have to. And what a difference that made in my life.
S10: And it really just kind of exemplifies the love that
S10: God has for us. Even more for me, because I
S10: believe I don't I don't think God really, um, really
S10: needed anybody. But he wanted us, so he chose us.
S10: And and for my mama and daddy to take me
S10: in when I was not biologically theirs. And, uh, to
S10: love me and raise me and raise me in the
S10: church and, uh, to have a relationship with God that
S10: just I just think that makes it even that much better.
S2: Yeah. Caleb, thank you so much for your call this morning. And,
S2: you know, you as an adopted child, probably understand better
S2: than most the beauty of being chosen. Uh, God has
S2: adopted us into his family. We are grafted in as
S2: his children. Thank you so much for your call this morning.
S2: Let's go to Jeff. First time caller from Florida. Who
S2: did God use? A non-biological father figure?
S8: Yes. Uh, I.
S11: Grew up on a block in this near the city
S11: of Detroit, where there was a local church or little
S11: church at the end of the street, and there was
S11: a man in that church that seen me running around
S11: the neighborhood causing havoc. And from the time of about
S11: eight years old on, he would reach out to me.
S11: Of course, he would take me to church and, uh,
S11: he then, uh, started, uh, seeking me out and inviting
S11: me to go to hockey games and basketball games, uh,
S11: with him and his family. And I did that for
S11: years and really showed me what a loving, godly family
S11: is like. Um, my my parents weren't interested in that.
S11: And he had a profound impact at the age of
S11: 12 In that church, I gave my life to Christ,
S11: and he's been my Lord and Savior ever since. And
S11: and I know God used him to just draw me
S11: to him. Yeah. And I'll be forever grateful for that.
S2: Oh, Jeff, thank you so much. First time caller from Florida.
S2: What a beautiful story. Let's get a couple more in here. Judy,
S2: first time caller from Ohio. Who did God use? Not
S2: your biological dad, but somebody who was a father figure.
S12: Hi. It was my neighbor who was an elderly man,
S12: and we bought our first home. It was a handyman special.
S12: He helped my husband with all kind of projects. He
S12: helped me introduce me to gardening, and he was just
S12: a wonderful, kind man. He said he used to say
S12: I'm the same every day. And I said, what do
S12: you mean by that? And he would just laugh. And
S12: then we realized he was always happy, always smiling, never moody,
S12: always happy to see you. And a lot of people
S12: aren't like that. You could wave to your neighbor for
S12: one day and they ignore you the next day. So
S12: he taught me what a godly, just a wonderful man.
S12: He's been God for 35 years. And we talk about
S12: him almost every day and how much we miss him.
S2: Man, Judy, I love that first time caller from Ohio.
S2: Hopefully your neighbors. So I want my neighbors to consistently
S2: wave at me. But, you know, I get it, I
S2: get it. Let's go to Danny from Indiana. Who was that?
S2: That man of God used so powerfully.
S8: Yes. Uh, the man.
S13: For me was a local pastor. His name was Johnny Johnson.
S13: He was a he was just a great old southern
S13: country pastor. And I walked into his church one day.
S13: I was in my early 20s, and I was at
S13: a pivotal, like a crossroad in my life. I could
S13: have went either way. And he he looked at me,
S13: he welcomed me with open arms. And then he just
S13: he said, I had a sermon planned today. And he said,
S13: you know, God spoke to me and he said, I'm
S13: going to speak from the heart. And he put his
S13: notes down, and he spoke right to my soul. I mean,
S13: everything I was asking and questioning my wife. It was
S13: like I was the only one in the room. And
S13: he spoke something to me that I've never forgotten. I've
S13: used it many times. I've picked up several people walking.
S13: I picked up, you know, I became in contact with
S13: several people. And this, this one statement has always just
S13: burned and seared to my soul. And he said, God
S13: is faithful and the best is yet to come. And
S13: that those words have never spoke truer in my life.
S13: And they hit me today, just as they did back then.
S13: And he and I corresponded throughout the years. And I
S13: could ask him anything, and he would just speak to
S13: me like I was just his son. And and I
S13: will never forget him and his family. They were just
S13: such a godsend to everybody that came in contact with.
S2: Wow, Danny, thank you so much for your call. God
S2: is faithful and the best is yet to come. I
S2: love that. Let's get one more in here. Ed, first
S2: time caller from Tennessee. Ed, who was it? Not your
S2: biological dad, but man, did God use this man in
S2: your life. Tell me.
S11: Yeah. Good morning.
S14: Uh, yes. Uh, I grew up in Louisville, Kentucky, and, uh,
S14: I was about ten, 11, 12 years old, if I recall.
S14: And my Sunday school teacher, his name was Ellis Hampton. And, uh,
S14: Ellis was just such a godly man. Uh, he didn't
S14: I don't remember him doing or saying anything to me
S14: in particular, but he was such a loving, kind, gentle
S14: man that he made such an impact on me. And
S14: I was wild as a deer. And then my family. Yeah,
S14: my family fell out of church when I was about 13.
S14: It was a rough 20 years, but I went back
S14: to that same church when I was 33 years old,
S14: and he was still there and his family was still there.
S14: And to this day he's went to be with the Lord.
S14: But to this day, I still think about him on
S14: a regular basis of what an impact this kind, gentle
S14: man had on me that he would take his time
S14: to teach young boys like me. And it didn't. Turn
S14: me around then. But it did later. So I just
S14: think about him. And you still just love him to
S14: this day. A great man he was.
S2: Thank you so much. Ed, first time caller from Tennessee.
S2: Love hearing these stories. Great men used of God.
S1: You can take him out of Alaska, but you can't
S1: take Alaska out of him. Carl is in the crew.
S1: It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: I want to update you on Carl, who you have
S2: not heard this morning. Carl is actually traveling to Burundi.
S2: He's going to Burundi in Burundi this week in East Africa,
S2: doing some work with pastors. Carl's a pastor himself and
S2: has a heart to train and to love on other
S2: pastors to instruct in leadership. So we are hopefully going
S2: to be getting some updates from him if we can
S2: get the connection to work, but looking forward to having
S2: him back with us next week. Coming up. Let's hear
S2: from Janet Parshall in the market with Janet Parshall popping
S2: in this morning.
S1: She's a choreographer extraordinaire and everything is Greek to her.
S1: Super die is in the crew. It's Karl and crew
S1: on Moody Radio.
S2: Well, when I was a little girl, I remember wanting
S2: nothing more than to grow up and be a strong
S2: and independent woman. That meant a lot to me. Some
S2: of the stereotypes that I saw, the expectations that felt
S2: like were placed on women I didn't like. And so
S2: I sort of rejected, at least in my mind, in
S2: my ten, 12, 15 year old self. I thought, whatever
S2: that is, I'm not so sure I want that. I
S2: want to be independent. I want to be career oriented. Thankfully,
S2: with some maturity, my ideas of what it means to
S2: be a woman and specifically a woman of God have
S2: evolved quite a bit and are more biblical. But I
S2: want to bring in a special guest to talk about
S2: this biblical femininity. Janet Parshall, a well known broadcaster, broadcasts
S2: from the nation's capital in the market with Janet Parshall,
S2: which afternoons here on Moody Radio. It can be confusing
S2: for a girl growing up who wants to be successful,
S2: wants to be accomplished, and sometimes feels a little bit
S2: held back by what it feels like is expected of her.
S15: True. But I have to tell you that I think
S15: that I would. This is me personally, and I'm so
S15: glad you started with your story, because my story very
S15: much ties into the feminist movement in this country as well.
S15: I made a countercultural decision when I married my precious husband,
S15: my high school sweetheart, that we would stay home and
S15: I would raise my children. And God blessed us with
S15: four back to back under six Sarah, Rebecca, Samuel and
S15: Joseph while Craig was going to law school. And that
S15: was about as countercultural as you can get, because in
S15: the midst of that decision, we were watching women march
S15: in New York City burning pieces of their underwear, making
S15: demands like a woman needs a man, like a fish
S15: needs a bicycle, and womanhood is an illegitimate profession. And
S15: everything they shouted just was like nails on a chalkboard,
S15: because it was so antithetical to what I believed. I
S15: came to faith in Christ when I was six years old,
S15: but everything I believed was that this was an unbelievably
S15: humbling privilege to be able to shape and mold the
S15: heart and mind of a child who has been divinely
S15: placed in my house. And I would walk out my
S15: front door quite literally, and it was Death Valley days.
S15: Nobody was in my neighborhood. They were all out self-actualizing,
S15: which was the term of the day in the marketplace.
S15: And I was at home with my kids, and there
S15: were times when I thought, I must be living on
S15: a whole nother planet. Well, what was interesting is that
S15: God took that experience where I had to learn what
S15: it meant to be countercultural. Fast forward, he ends up moving.
S15: Moving me to the nation's capital. And guess what? Alley
S15: I end up by God's divine sense of humor and
S15: his sovereignty, debating the very women who were making those statements.
S15: So I would show up in front of national television
S15: cameras debating Molly Yard and Patricia Ireland and Ellie Smeal
S15: and all of the women who were the feminists of
S15: their day, making these same kind of declarations. And I thought, wow,
S15: this is really and truly the battle of worldviews. Now,
S15: I personally this goes back to where we started. I
S15: personally would never use the word feminist because it brings
S15: a whole boatload of baggage with it. I see angry,
S15: angry women, I see rebellion, I see chafing against the
S15: idea that somehow in a patriarchal society, we're being put
S15: down by women. And I don't subscribe to any of that. Now,
S15: if you ask me, do I believe that a woman
S15: should get equal pay for equal work? Absolutely. When you
S15: stop and realize that we women have only had the
S15: vote for a little bit over a hundred years, the
S15: idea of being culturally equal is, is just a little
S15: bit over 100 years old in a country that's about
S15: to celebrate its 250th birthday. So. But I would never
S15: use the word feminist because it brings this whole impression,
S15: if you will, this whole palette of anger and rebellion.
S15: And I'll give you a classic example. I remember being
S15: in New York and in my world there's never equality.
S15: So there were five feminists against me debating the issue
S15: of feminism on a stage in New York. Two female hosts,
S15: both of them raving feminists, went up to the five
S15: feminists I was debating and said, we're such fans. We
S15: believe in everything you do. And at that moment I thought, Daniel,
S15: I kind of get what it means to be in
S15: the lion's den. So I've got seven women against myself.
S15: And they went on and they gave their diatribe and
S15: they pushed out their ideas again. And ardently, same sex attraction,
S15: ardently abortion on demand that women are oppressed by men.
S15: Huge broad brush statements which cannot be substantiated in fact.
S15: Are there examples of that? Absolutely. But you don't denigrate
S15: an entire gender of men by saying these are people
S15: who oppress women. This is an individual choice of behavior.
S15: It isn't a gender specific kind of behavior. Well, just
S15: to get you through God's sense of humor in all
S15: of this, after the debate was done, all of the
S15: feminists walked off the stage and I got a round
S15: of applause from the audience. And I thought, This is
S15: New York City. Why am I getting applause? This doesn't
S15: make any sense at all. Turns out the entire audience
S15: was filled with kids who were homeschooled and went to
S15: Christian schools, and they were applauding everything I said, so
S15: I was never in the lion's den. God had been
S15: there with me. But in the middle of all of this,
S15: what happened is I suddenly started realizing the verse that says,
S15: out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.
S15: And I started looking at these women and I realized
S15: how broken they were. This one had had multiple abortions.
S15: This one had never married. This one had come out
S15: of a background of abuse. And I thought, this is
S15: the result of a world that is east of Eden.
S15: This was brokenness manifesting itself in anger and rage, and
S15: it really began to soften my heart. And so rather
S15: than subscribing to the anger that was being manifested on
S15: the outside. I started trying to listen with the ears
S15: on my heart to where are these women coming from?
S15: Why is there such hurt and why is there such brokenness?
S15: But I never wanted to be in that position. I
S15: wanted rather to understand that God had made me who
S15: I was a woman, not an afterthought. Not a second thought,
S15: not a oh well, I guess I need to bring
S15: a helper along. But the fact that I am fearfully
S15: and wonderfully made out of the side of Adam, not
S15: his feet out of the side of Adam, and I
S15: play a unique position in my family, in my community
S15: and in my world that my husband can never, ever
S15: fulfill that you talk about being liberated. That is the
S15: essence of liberation. Am I strong? Well, I have discovered
S15: as a follower of Christ Jesus, that real strength has
S15: nothing to do with me. When I am weak, I
S15: am strong because he is the one who makes me strong.
S15: He is the one who wages my battle. He is
S15: the one who protects me. So that idea of strength
S15: has been radically redefined in my life, that it isn't
S15: about how many zeros are in a paycheck, how many
S15: times you show up on a national magazine, how much
S15: you can influence and change legislation. Strength is quietude. In fact,
S15: I have to tell you, ally, I've really been hanging
S15: out a verse lately that has made me cry on
S15: multiple occasions, and it says this the beauty of a
S15: quiet and gentle spirit is precious in the sight of
S15: the Lord. And the first time I read that verse,
S15: I started to cry because I thought, wait, wait, wait,
S15: I can give something precious to the Lord. He's given
S15: me eternal life. He's given me salvation through His son.
S15: But I can give something precious to the Lord. And
S15: it comes in this most unusual package a quiet and
S15: gentle spirit. I am woman, hear me roar has absolutely
S15: nothing to do with having a quiet and a gentle spirit.
S15: So do I feel liberated? Absolutely. Do I feel strong? Absolutely.
S15: Do I feel defined? Absolutely. But all of that doesn't
S15: come from a movement or legislation or even the right
S15: to vote. It comes from being absolutely defined by who
S15: I am in Christ Jesus, because in him I live
S15: and move and have my being. My independence is found
S15: by being completely dependent on Jesus Christ. So I have
S15: to tell you, I think it rock rattles and rolls
S15: to be countercultural. I absolutely wouldn't change my position with
S15: anyone in the world, because my position is so secured
S15: in who Christ is, and when it's all said and done,
S15: it has nothing to do with me. It has everything
S15: to do with him.
S2: Right? Janet Parshall, our guest right now, coming up, let's
S2: talk about, um, there's so much around gender ideology right now.
S2: What does it mean to be a woman? How do
S2: we hold up a biblical worldview in a winsome way, uh,
S2: in a culture that pushes back against it? More coming
S2: up with Janet Parshall.
S1: He's a sports fanatic with a stat for anything you
S1: can think of. Young Thunder is in the crew. It's
S1: Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: So when you think about gender ideology, the question has
S2: been put out there, debated, discussed. What does it actually
S2: mean to be a woman? Janet Parshall, our guest right now,
S2: host of In the Market, which you hear afternoons on
S2: Moody Radio. Obviously, the biological differences between men and women,
S2: which should go without saying but have been challenged as
S2: of late, but more. But beyond that, the question of
S2: what does it mean to be a woman? How do
S2: we answer that from a biblical perspective in a way
S2: that is winsome.
S15: And winsome is the operative word, isn't it? Well, let's
S15: just pull back a little bit and let's not fall
S15: into the trap of the verbiage used by the world.
S15: Gender is a made up construct. Their sex. There's male
S15: and female and he created them both. When you go
S15: to the state of New York and you fill out
S15: a form, you've got 92 choices on what your gender is.
S15: So I don't use that word. It is absolutely a
S15: postmodern Construct, and I don't subscribe to that ideology at all.
S15: And that's exactly what it is. Gender ideology is, at
S15: its root, a political movement, and at its even deeper
S15: root is a core of spiritual rebellion. Who do you
S15: think you are, God telling me who I am? I
S15: was assigned at birth. Well, yes, you were actually. And
S15: the Assigner is the great King himself. Doctor didn't have
S15: to flip a coin. Didn't have to guess who you are.
S15: It was a self-evident truth. You are either male or female.
S15: And what we've got in this country is an ideology
S15: that somehow your self-determination, your self-identity, is, number one, should
S15: be given a panoply of civil rights protections in this country.
S15: And that, number two, this is a Nimrod esque kind
S15: of moment where we've said to God, I will tell
S15: you who I am. You will not tell me who
S15: I am. Now, that's the culture. Now let me go
S15: to me as a follower of Christ Jesus. So I
S15: was raised by a dad who was about the working
S15: definition of masculinity. He played football in college at northwestern.
S15: He was an athletic director He had been drafted by
S15: the NFL. He turned it down because he wanted to
S15: do coaching instead. I watched him coach all my life,
S15: an athletic director at several colleges. He was the definition
S15: of manhood, and I only had brothers. I've never had
S15: a sister. I had a most godly mother who was
S15: a beautiful role model for me. But I was raised
S15: in a male dominated household. You know what? I never
S15: once thought about my gender. I never thought once about
S15: my sex. Wow. I'm just a girl. They're brothers. They
S15: get to do all kinds of stuff. I never had
S15: that feeling at all because my definition cannot come from
S15: a horizontal plane. My definition as a woman has to
S15: come from God. It has nothing to do with my
S15: biology or what sex organs God gave me. It has
S15: everything to do with the fact that my being a
S15: woman is as much a reflection of God's sovereignty as
S15: the fact that the sun rises in the east and
S15: sets in the west. I was made by him before
S15: I was knit together in my mother's womb. And so
S15: when I stop and think about the fact that I'm
S15: a woman, I never once think, oh, I'm a victim. Oh, God.
S15: Made a mistake. Oh, I'm an afterthought. I think his
S15: sovereignty over my life determined my hair color, my fingerprints,
S15: and whether I would be a man or a woman. Now, then,
S15: the question isn't how do I live as a Christian woman?
S15: My response always to that is, how do I live
S15: as a Christian? I sex and gender have nothing to
S15: do with it. I want to be obedient to His Word.
S15: So what does it mean to be a Christian? It
S15: means to be Christ like. I'm not in that picture.
S15: My gender has nothing to do with that. What do
S15: I need to do to be like him? What does
S15: it mean to be compassionate and to have a heart
S15: like him? What does it mean to forgive? What does
S15: it mean to deny yourself? Take up your cross and
S15: follow him. What does it mean to sacrifice? What does
S15: servant leadership look like? I don't see sex in any
S15: of that by any stretch of the imagination, so I'm
S15: not going to listen to the Pied Piper of the
S15: culture that says, well, we can't quite determine what a
S15: woman is. I mean, literally, when you have a nominee
S15: for the United States Supreme Court and she can't tell
S15: you during her confirmation hearings. What is a woman? We've
S15: lost our way. That's because we've lost our relationship with God.
S15: When you put on the lens of Scripture, it is
S15: amazing how you go from a black and white movie
S15: into a world of Technicolor and suddenly things make sense.
S15: There is no ambiguity. Shouldn't be for us, as followers
S15: of Christ Jesus, about what it means to be a woman,
S15: what it really the question should be is what does
S15: it mean to be in Christ Jesus? Paul in acts
S15: 17 says it all in him we live and move
S15: and have our being. That's my definition. My sex has
S15: nothing to do with it anymore than I wake up
S15: every morning and go, oh, the color of my hair
S15: is all wrong. God, you made a mistake. Well, no,
S15: he doesn't make mistakes. So I am fearfully, wonderfully made.
S15: Exactly the way the father wanted me to be made. Now,
S15: the question is not how he molded and shaped me.
S15: The question is, rather, what will I do in serving
S15: and honoring him until he takes me home to glory?
S2: Janet Parshall, good to spend some time with you this morning.
S2: Host of In the Market with Janet Parshall. If you
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S1: You're listening to Curl and Crew on Moody Radio.
S2: My dad is 70 years old and my dad is
S2: hilarious because have you ever seen those progressive becoming your
S2: parents commercial?
S3: I love those commercials.
S4: Yeah.
S2: So many of the things portrayed apply to my dad.
S2: And so when we give him a hard time about
S2: it because he, you know, the, the offering advice to
S2: strangers like, hey, do you want me to show you
S2: how to use that? Or, you know, there's the one
S2: of the guy at the at the gas station and
S2: he's pumping gas.
S4: Yes. And somebody. Yes. So one of the one of
S4: the funny.
S2: Things that my dad does that I think is a
S2: quirky dad thing, he becomes obsessed with tracking weather. And
S2: so he will get the radar out on his phone
S2: and it'll start to show us. He'll go, guys, look,
S2: in about 30 minutes, this is coming our way. I
S2: love that. I love that like dad, he's looking out
S2: the window. He's like, we're about to get crushed, guys.
S2: And so it's become kind of a running joke. So
S2: much so that we got him some Doppler radar. Crocs. Yes.
S2: One year. And then we got Carl. He got Carl
S2: a pair, too, because he knows that Carl has that
S2: kind of dad dad ism to him.
S16: That's good. You know, statement there.
S3: I don't know if the dad transformation is is happening
S3: in me because, I mean, my daughter's one. So I've
S3: been a dad for just a little bit.
S16: Okay.
S3: Uh, but a couple days ago, we were gonna go
S3: on a walk outside, and I said, let me check
S3: the weather. It looks like it's supposed to rain. And
S3: what I did was I pulled up the radar and
S3: I said, it's okay. We're good for another 30 minutes.
S2: It's happening.
S16: It's absolutely.
S2: Happening. You know, and there's some other funny things. I
S2: was looking up and there were so many of them
S2: that that applied to my dad. How about commenting on
S2: gas prices in other states and cities?
S16: Oh, yes.
S2: Um, thinking that they're smarter than GPS.
S3: Yeah, I.
S16: Know, they.
S2: Definitely know a better way. Um, asking about your car.
S2: My dad definitely always wants to know what's going on
S2: with my car.
S3: Okay.
S16: Really?
S2: Yeah. Maybe that's a dad. A girl dad thing.
S16: Could be because.
S2: He's. He's preoccupied with making sure your tires inflated.
S16: I can see that. Yes. Is it running well? Any
S16: weird sounds? Yes.
S2: All that saying things like close the door. I'm not
S2: air conditioning the whole neighborhood.
S16: Yeah.
S3: Well, absolutely.
S16: Yeah.
S2: So I'm curious to hear from you this morning if
S2: you want to share, if you're guilty of some of
S2: these sort of stereotypical dad isms yourself and are willing
S2: to confess. Or maybe you've got your own. What are they?
S2: Or if you hilariously remember your own dad doing some
S2: of these things, tell me, what's the dad ism? The
S2: funny thing your dad always did or said, and it
S2: was like clockwork he could be expected to do or
S2: say this. Tell me the story about your dad or
S2: about yourself, if you're willing to be honest to dad.
S2: 800 555 7898. Having a little fun here before Father's
S2: Day 800 555 7898. What's that dad ism you're totally
S2: guilty of? Or maybe your dad was.
S1: A basketball mom who's mastered the dad joke. Ali is
S1: in the crew. It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: This is Carl and crew. How about this one? A
S2: text message came in. I'm a 44 year old dad
S2: who loves to embarrass my kids and wife with dad puns.
S3: Oh, that's for Ali.
S2: I am with you on that. The puns, the dad jokes.
S2: Bring them on. 8191 says my dad grunts while standing
S2: or sitting down, even when it doesn't appear he's in pain.
S2: It drives me bonkers. 4048 just gave a simple quote
S2: a dad ism that I guess is, uh, particular to
S2: their family. I've got a coupon for that. Oh, I see,
S2: this is your mom thing, but. Okay, that's what I would.
S2: But you know what? What do you say? What's the
S2: what's the dad? I was like, wait a second, what's
S2: the dad ism you are guilty of? Or maybe your
S2: dad was (800) 555-7898. Let's go to Bob calling in from
S2: Lake of the Hills.
S17: Good morning guys. Well, it's kind of both my dad
S17: and myself. My dad always got me involved in a
S17: lot of house projects, DIY. And we started out and
S17: he said, hey, go clean the nails out of those
S17: boards or go do this. And I'd start and he'd
S17: stop and say, what are you doing? Do what you
S17: asked me to do. What are you doing it that
S17: way for? So I'm getting it done. What's the difference?
S17: My house. My way. Oh, do.
S18: It this way. All right, all right.
S17: We got our first house, and I needed help building
S17: a gate for the yard. And I said, hey, dad,
S17: can you give me a hand this weekend? Bring some tools.
S17: You got to build a gate. So he shows up
S17: and I got the stuff laid out in the garage.
S17: I got the boards. All right, here we go. This
S17: is how we're gonna do. We're gonna do this. We're
S17: gonna put this together. No, no, no, no, you don't
S17: do it that way. There's a dad.
S18: My house, my way. He said, you're right, you're right.
S17: I disagree with you.
S18: But you're right.
S2: Yeah. You know what, Bob? Oh, that's. Oh, the irony.
S3: Right, I love it.
S19: Let's go to John.
S2: First time.
S19: Caller.
S2: From Batavia, Illinois. Is this you or is this your
S2: dad who does this?
S20: Well, no, this is me. I am crazy over the
S20: board for safety for my kids and grandkids. I'm 71
S20: years old. They just laugh because I gave them fire
S20: extinguishers for Christmas. And I gave them flares for all
S20: of their cars. My daughters in law and my son.
S20: And then I got my my, my wife says I'm crazy.
S20: I got them those fire escape ladders.
S18: For the More.
S20: So I think I just better chill out.
S18: A little bit.
S21: Oh, I love it, John.
S2: You know what? First time caller I love your spirit.
S2: That is hysterical. Fire extinguishers for Christmas. I'm imagining what
S2: that looked like.
S21: From the fire.
S2: Those. Hey, and you know what? Those safety ladders. I've
S2: got one. I definitely have one. You have.
S3: A safety.
S2: Ladder. I do have a safety ladder. So I'm a
S2: little PSA. Those things are practical to have. I'm with
S2: John on that. Safety first.
S3: I might get into a.
S21: Safety ladder. That was so great.
S2: I love that, John. I love your sense of humor.
S21: I love.
S2: That boy. What about you? What's that dad ism that
S2: you are totally guilty of? Or maybe the thing that
S2: you always remember your dad saying or doing. This one
S2: came in. If they would leave. If I left the
S2: switch to the light on, he would come over and
S2: tell me to turn off the switch. We don't own
S2: the electric company.
S21: Yes. Know that quote? Oh, boy.