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S2: Unmerited favor. Unlimited power. The grace of God. Sometimes we
S2: get the first part of that one. That's how you
S2: pass seminary courses.
S3: Unmerited favor.
S2: Yeah, but. But the aspect of grace that we often
S2: forget is this unparalleled, unimaginable power likened unto the raising
S2: of Christ from the dead. It's an amazing thing, God's grace.
S2: It's his grace. Alone, guys. That's it. Um, as we're
S2: steaming towards Mother's Day, I've had a passion this week
S2: to do something very different. And we're going to flip
S2: this around for Father's Day as well. But if you
S2: think about women and the role of men to be
S2: initiating God word in the context of marriage providing men,
S2: you kind of got to unwind this thing because for
S2: I think a lot of us, we go, all right,
S2: what's the. Give me the. Give me the five high
S2: points of what a man is to do to love
S2: a woman. Well, right. I mean, it's easy to go
S2: to that one, but what if the bigger issue here
S2: is we got to unwind ourselves from some stuff, and
S2: we've seen that in our lives, right, Ali?
S3: Yeah. And I think this is obviously the direct application
S3: would be the context of marriage. But you think about
S3: how much our society needs, needs healthy, strong, initiating men.
S3: So even if you're a single woman, you may not
S3: have a direct relationship with a man right now. And
S3: even if you never do, we need strong men.
S2: Yeah. Yes. And you have an indirect relationship insomuch as
S2: these men populate. Let's just take a local church. These
S2: men populated church. So the more we can get men
S2: being men, let's just break it down really simply here. That's.
S2: That's one of the most profound things you're going to experience.
S2: Godly men. but to become that man that God wants
S2: us to be. Sometimes before we go into the what
S2: we're standing for, we've got to unwind something that we
S2: need to be standing against. And I've been intrigued. And
S2: I was up early this morning, and this was actually
S2: two days ago. I first kind of hit on this
S2: again in first Timothy chapter six. You get this great
S2: call on a man's life. But as for you, O
S2: man of God, flee these things. Well, here's the point
S2: before you go on to pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness,
S2: which are all phenomenal attributes for men. That's in verse
S2: 11 of first Timothy six. You got to look and go.
S2: Hold it. What are we fleeing? That's my point. Sometimes
S2: before you take the three steps to great manhood, you
S2: got to unwind the stuff that got our turkey in
S2: a Squisher.
S3: Got to flee some things.
S2: You got to flee some stuff. And the context of
S2: this passage is amazing because it talks about godliness with
S2: contentment is great gain. And then we find this famous
S2: passage for the love of money is the root of
S2: all kinds of evil. It is through this craving that
S2: some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves
S2: with many pangs. Isn't that fascinating? The unwinding, the fleeing
S2: that needs to be done is not a letting. And
S2: I'm going to put it in brass tacks terms here.
S2: Don't let the American dream nudge out God's vision for
S2: your life. Man, I get chills just thinking about that.
S2: The American Dream is awesome, but it is minuscule compared
S2: to God's vision for your life. And if your dream
S2: ends with the American dream, and I'm just putting that
S2: in air quotes here, it's the American dream is really
S2: predicated upon getting stuff. And he who dies with the
S2: most toys wins. Right. I mean, come on.
S3: Right. And I mean, and having having enough being able
S3: to provide for a family, having owning your own home,
S3: having the ability to take vacations, all of that's kind
S3: of tied into our own sense of autonomy. Comfort?
S2: Yes. And those are all. There's autonomy, comfort, independence. Those
S2: are all great virtues when it gets tangled with. Now,
S2: I'm starting to love this stuff more than the contentment
S2: that's found in God. Yeah. That gets us in a problem.
S4: Dangerous. It's a good thing that God's given us that
S4: can get out of control.
S2: Yeah, exactly. We take good stuff from God and turn
S2: it into picking idols.
S4: All the time.
S2: So how are we going to unwind this? Oh, boy.
S2: Have we got a treat for you coming up. I mean,
S2: one of my faves. I can't wait to hug this
S2: guy soon. Doctor Crawford Loritts is going to be with us.
S2: We're going to talk about unwinding this. Why? Because to
S2: pursue manhood. There's some stuff we got to flee. Hang on.
S2: Boom crew.
S1: A basketball mom who's mastered the dad joke. Ali is
S1: in the crew. It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: But as for you, O man of God, Paul talking
S2: to Timothy, flee these things if you leave that out.
S2: We got a problem here because it goes into pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness,
S2: fight the good fight of faith, take hold of eternal life.
S2: It's this vision for this incredible life in Christ. But
S2: we can't forget. Flee these things. And you ask, what
S2: are these things? Well, it's all linked around the love
S2: of money. He says, godliness with contentment is great gain,
S2: but the love of money is the root of all evil.
S2: And this is what we need to unwind. I think
S2: some guys get stuck as we're speaking right now. Some
S2: guys are stuck, unable to take hold of this call
S2: on our life to be godly men and therefore loving
S2: the women around us. And as we're steaming towards Mother's Day,
S2: being the husbands that our wives need because subtly, the
S2: American Dream has become an idol. And I love the
S2: American Dream until we worship it. What do you say, Crawford?
S2: Am I crazy?
S5: No, Carl, you're not crazy at all. If you're crazy,
S5: then so am I. You know the statement in verse 11.
S5: But as for you, O man of God, flee these things.
S5: Easy for us to slip over to the identity statement there.
S5: The identity statement. Oh, man of God, really sets you
S5: up to be able to flee these things. In other words,
S5: what brings value to you is God. And what brings
S5: value to your life is God, and these other things
S5: are surrogate Get statements of your identity. You don't need
S5: these things to make you valuable in the sight of God.
S5: So you bring stability to your moment in history. You know,
S5: I mean, as we read these texts and we skip
S5: over these obvious statements that are there.
S3: Doctor Crawford Loritts our guest right now, doctor Loritts, I
S3: was on a zoom call last night, and we it
S3: was a training call, and there was a young man
S3: he shared that the thing that sometimes trips him up
S3: the most. He said, you know, I grew up without much.
S3: There was a lot of lack. And he said, so
S3: one of the things that I feel like holds me
S3: back now is that I have such a need to
S3: try to control. I want to make sure I'm not
S3: in lack anymore. I have my budget, and sometimes that
S3: keeps me from maybe stepping out to do what God's
S3: called me to do. Men are often hardwired with this
S3: desire to be, to be stable, to be self-sufficient, particularly
S3: if they want to pursue a young woman. How do
S3: you balance this? Because that's an honorable desire. I want
S3: to be a good provider. I don't want to bring
S3: somebody else into into my life when I when I
S3: don't feel like I'm stable. But at the same time,
S3: this desire to have money can become in itself an idol.
S3: How do you balance that?
S5: Yeah. You know, you're asking. That's a that is the question,
S5: isn't it? I to have a desire to to take
S5: care of your family, uh, to even have extra things
S5: and to be able to enjoy life. God gives us
S5: all these things to enjoy and to discipline yourself, to
S5: move toward those goals. That is not sinful and wrong.
S5: What is sinful and wrong when you make the resource
S5: the source? In other words, your sources are sources. God. Uh.
S5: And with or without it, I'm going to be okay.
S5: Which means that each step along the way. Yes, I
S5: work hard. Yes, I have these goals. No, I don't
S5: want to, um, be what I used to be in
S5: terms of poverty in this kind of thing. If the
S5: Lord will help me to do something about that. But
S5: I have to constantly remember whether or not those dreams
S5: get translated into reality. I'm not. I'm more than okay.
S5: My source of identity and strength is found in him.
S5: It's when you make these things an identity statement. It's
S5: when you make these things, uh, terminal goals. And it's
S5: when you make these things, uh, expressions of pride and
S5: arrogance and and you become dismissive of other people. That's
S5: when they're idols.
S2: Love it. Doctor Crawford Loritts our guest right now. When
S2: we get back here, Crawford, I want you to unpack
S2: a greater vision for pursuing righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.
S2: These attributes are something that a woman finds frankly irresistible.
S2: I'm convinced of that. So how do we capture that vision?
S2: Hold on to it so that the love of money
S2: doesn't get sucked into this idolatry. More with Doctor Crawford
S2: Loritts straight ahead.
S1: You can take him out of Alaska, but you can't
S1: take Alaska out of him. Carl is in the crew.
S1: It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: As we steam towards Mother's Day. It gives us a
S2: golden opportunity and the opportunity to say, how do we
S2: bless moms, women, wives, how to men be men? Because
S2: the irresistible men, clearly righteous, godly, full of faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness. Oh, Nelly,
S2: that's irresistible. It really is. And what we find here
S2: in Paul speaking to Timothy, he says, listen, I want
S2: you to pursue these things, but you got to flee
S2: this stuff. And in order to flee this stuff, which
S2: is the love of money, which is the root of
S2: all evil. And by the way, we can say this
S2: is not just reserved for wealthy people. You can have
S2: very little means and still have your heart tangled around
S2: the love of money. We know that I've done that
S2: as a young man. We can all do it. But
S2: the question is, how do we get on to this
S2: greater life? We need a vision for it. Doctor Crawford
S2: loritts with us here this morning. Crawford, it seems that
S2: we need to cast this holy grandeur of a vision
S2: for what can be if we're going to get ourselves
S2: kind of untangled from what is holding us back. What
S2: do you say?
S5: I think you're absolutely right. I think you know, Carl,
S5: the way to approach all of this is to make
S5: up our minds, to live in the presence of God
S5: and cultivate our own communion with God. And you've got
S5: you've got to decide to do that. You've got to
S5: decide to do that. What we pursue becomes the stuff
S5: that owns us. And so if I'm pursuing the heart
S5: of God and I'm on a daily basis spending time
S5: alone in his word, and it doesn't just become a
S5: point of reference, it becomes a context of my life.
S5: And that's a major decision you have to make. There
S5: are a lot of Christians who are believers, and but
S5: we assign ourselves a constant struggle because we won't make
S5: up our minds that Jesus is going to be everything
S5: to me in a very practical way. That means I'm
S5: going to apply. And by God's grace and the power
S5: of the Holy Spirit, I'm going to apply the truth
S5: of God's Word. That truth is not given just to
S5: motivate my thinking and kind of like stir up my emotions,
S5: but to transform my life.
S2: Yes.
S5: You know it. You know this, Carl. You've written a
S5: marvelous book about this. It's the choices and decisions we make.
S5: Your line when you're born, you look like your parents.
S5: But when you die, you look like your decisions. And
S5: it's making the decisions, you know. Contentment is not something
S5: that just kind of like out of the air involuntarily
S5: cascades over us. Contentment is a decision. Contentment is a choice.
S5: I choose Karen, and I will be married 54 years
S5: here in a couple of weeks. And but every day
S5: of our married life, I we said I do. May 22nd, 1971.
S5: But every day of our married life, we have to
S5: decide that if she decides that she is a one
S5: man woman and I decide that I am a one
S5: woman man, and everything in my life is determined by that.
S5: And so it is with our walk and relationship with God.
S5: We can't keep bouncing back between these, you know, competing identities.
S5: It's kind of like what Joshua said to the children
S5: of Israel in the valley of Shechem says, okay, choose
S5: this day. Who are you going to serve?
S2: Yeah. That's right.
S3: Doctor Crawford Loritts our guest this morning. Doctor, I know
S3: that one of your big passions is to help raise
S3: up the next generation of Christian leaders. For so many men,
S3: they've not seen this modeled out. I heard someone yesterday
S3: say I didn't have a blueprint for this. I didn't
S3: know what it looked like to be a good dad,
S3: a good husband. And that's the cry of the heart
S3: of many men, is that they're not going to maybe
S3: say it, but they desperately need another man to come
S3: alongside to speak into their lives. How can men pursue
S3: that when maybe it goes against the grain of everything
S3: they've ever known to say, hey, I need some help here.
S5: You know, the way you phrase that question, you've answered it.
S5: The truth of the matter is, no, we didn't have
S5: a blueprint. We didn't have maybe an incarnational blueprint, meaning
S5: a father that did it, another man that did it.
S5: But we do have a blueprint. We do have a blueprint.
S5: It's found in 66 books of the Bible. We do
S5: have a blueprint. It's found in the Holy Spirit that
S5: lives inside of our hearts and lives. We do have
S5: a blueprint. It's found in other men that we need
S5: to invite into our lives as a man, and submit
S5: ourselves to them at a certain point. This sounds cold,
S5: and I don't mean for it to sound cold, but
S5: at a certain point, we've got to stop grieving our
S5: loss to the point in which it hinders us from
S5: creating our future. Uh, you you have to say to yourself,
S5: all of us are deficient. All of us are. All
S5: of us have various deficits, and all of us have.
S5: And I'm using air quotes here have reasons not to
S5: keep moving and stumbling forward. But the clock is ticking. And, uh,
S5: you know, Father Time is undefeated, and we've got to
S5: sit down and say to ourselves, okay, this is what
S5: I don't have, but this is what I do have. Amen. Okay.
S5: What can I do to press into the heart of
S5: God and really make the declarative statement. Like David said,
S5: when my mother and father forsake me, then the Lord
S5: will take me up, and then I need to become
S5: an aggressive, an aggressive follower, meaning, you know, be humble
S5: enough to go to somebody that you admire and say, hey, look,
S5: I like to I like to spend some time with you, man,
S5: and maybe, maybe have a cup of coffee with you
S5: at once in a while. And there's some empty spots
S5: in my life that I think I can learn from
S5: you and aggressively move toward what you can get. And
S5: I think as older men, maybe the guys that are
S5: listening right now, you know, we need to make ourselves
S5: available to some of the men that we see who
S5: are perhaps struggling and have have these spots in their
S5: lives and these deficits and move toward them. You know,
S5: the answers are all around us. The question is, will
S5: I take the initiative to get what I need and
S5: God will help us. I mean, the book is transformative, right?
S5: And so that that's what I say to younger guys
S5: all the time.
S1: She's a choreographer extraordinaire and everything is Greek to her.
S1: Super die is in the crew. It's Carl and crew
S1: on Moody Radio.
S2: Okay, we got mom. Days are steaming toward here. And
S2: you know what? Sometimes the best advice comes from moms.
S3: Usually in a funny package, though. Have you ever noticed that?
S3: Like that mom advice?
S2: What do you mean.
S3: Maybe? Maybe it was just my mom. She always had
S3: a way of saying things that had like, a little
S3: bit of a twist to it, and they kind of
S3: became sort of the mom isms. So there was advice
S3: embedded in there. But I.
S2: Do this.
S3: Or like she would always tell us, um, you know,
S3: her the advice would have been find ways to entertain yourself.
S3: Like you don't need to have other people. You don't
S3: need to have a TV. But. But how it came
S3: out was if you're bored, do a cartwheel. That was
S3: her thing. She said it all the time. We'd say, mom,
S3: I'm bored, I need bored. Do a cartwheel. And we
S3: knew it was mom telling us find ways to entertain yourself,
S3: which was great advice, but it always came with a
S3: little twist.
S6: That's awesome.
S3: We'd love to hear from you this morning. What's the
S3: best advice? You could have had a twist to it,
S3: but it was good, solid mom advice and you still
S3: hear it ringing in your ears today. 800 555 7898 (800) 555-7898.
S2: Yeah. We're taking calls on this one. What's the best
S2: advice mama gave you? It's got to be music for
S2: this one. Young Thunder.
S4: I'm sure I can find something.
S2: Yeah. You got.
S3: To be days like.
S6: This. Mama said there'd be days like this. There'd be days.
S6: That's a good one I like it.
S2: By the way, does that song go on to give
S2: the solution? Mama said get your turkey out of the
S2: squisher by doing this. And that does.
S6: It. Does it? I don't think so.
S3: Look up the lyrics because I don't know much past.
S3: Mama said there'd.
S6: Be days.
S3: Like this. Mama said.
S6: And that's all I said. Mama said oh too funny.
S2: Find out is there. Is there a solution in that lyrics.
S2: Or is it just said that mama said there'd be
S2: days like this? Because that's not the best advice. I mean,
S2: there's got to be better advice than that.
S6: Mama said.
S2: What best advice your mom gave you while there searching
S2: on this one, guys? 855 five 7898. Time to light
S2: up phone lines. We're taking calls on this one. Best
S2: advice your mom gave you? 805 five, five 7898. Call
S2: right now. I'm going to stay here until these phone
S2: lines start lighting up. Mama said what? Best advice? 800 555, 78, 98.
S2: Got to cheer for mom. Got to cheer for mama.
S3: Carl, did your mom's best advice have a little bit
S3: of an Alaska twist to it. I'm curious.
S7: I would think.
S6: Yeah. Well.
S2: I mean, just given the temperatures. Yeah. I mean, it
S2: was like, you know, because it's it's kind of a
S2: universal thing that children do not put on the proper
S2: clothing for the situation.
S6: That's true.
S4: That's true.
S2: Yeah. I mean, it's what's funny is kids get it
S2: wrong on both sides because you lived in when I
S2: lived in Tempe, Arizona when I was in sixth grade
S2: and dad's going to Arizona State University, I, I would
S2: it was really hip. I think bell bottom corduroys were
S2: coming in style and it's like 103 out and mom's like,
S2: what are you doing with the corduroys on? Those are
S2: incredibly hot. No, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not. It's
S2: not overheating me, mom, I promise you. Well, it was
S2: and mom knew it.
S6: You got.
S3: But she's got to fight for the fact that you
S3: fought to wear them. And then you got to pretend
S3: you're not exactly right.
S2: And the same is true in cold weather. Put on
S2: your coat, kid. No, it's not I'm fine.
S6: I'm good.
S2: Don't wear coats. What's what? What's the best advice your
S2: mom gave you? 805, five five, 78, 98 805 five, five, 78, 98.
S6: Take it away.
S3: Got some good advice coming in from mom. Text message.
S3: Mom said read the entire recipe first. That's a good one.
S3: My grandmother used to say if I was bored, stand
S3: on my head and spit out quarters. What? Oh, okay,
S3: I get it. If I was bored, she would say,
S3: do you want me to stand on my head and
S3: spit out quarters as if to say, like I'm supposed
S3: to entertain you? I think your grandma may have known.
S3: My mom, 7567, says on a rainy day, my my
S3: mom always told us to make our own sunshine.
S2: Oh, no, I like that.
S6: That's a good.
S2: Question. Is how do you do that?
S3: I don't know, but it sounds really good.
S6: It sounds good.
S2: Give us a call right now. Light em up. What's
S2: the best advice your mama gave you? 805. Five. Five, 78. 98. Eight. 805. Five. Five. 78. 98.
S2: Mama said there'd be days. Did mama give more advice?
S2: That's the question.
S1: He was sharing the gospel on the radio. And then
S1: he got saved. Young thunders in the crew. It's Carl
S1: and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: Mama said there'd be days like this. There'd be days
S2: like this. My mama said.
S4: Mama said, mama said.
S2: Thank you. I was just waiting for someone to grab that.
S2: We gotta grab it, man.
S8: Mama said, mama said. Young thunder coming through.
S2: You gotta put a little falsetto to it, okay?
S4: You wanna try again?
S3: Oh, wow. Here we go.
S4: All right.
S2: Mama said there'd be days like this. There'd be days
S2: like this. My mama said.
S4: Mama said, mama said.
S3: Is that the Shirelles that sing that?
S7: Yes, yes.
S3: Okay. Young thunder.
S2: But. But covered.
S7: By. Sing it.
S2: But covered by the train wrecks.
S8: Rex.
S2: All right. Getting your feedback here today. What do you got, Allie.
S3: Lots of feedback. The mom advice has a little always
S3: has a little twist. Mom said to do something useful.
S3: My mom said things are never black and white. They're
S3: always shades of gray. My mom said to treat others
S3: as you wish to be treated. I like this one.
S3: My mom said, don't hang with wolves or you will
S3: learn how to howl.
S4: Ooh, I like it. That's fun.
S3: I think that's a version of the bad company corrupts
S3: good morals.
S4: Yes.
S8: That's funny.
S3: You might learn how to howl. Let's go to the phones. Karen.
S3: First time caller from Illinois. Karen, did your mom give
S3: some memorable advice?
S9: Oh, yeah. She gave us a life. Was like a
S9: bouquet of beautiful roses. But it comes with many thorns.
S3: Yeah.
S8: Yeah.
S2: You know what? That's not bad. That's not a bad word.
S4: I like it. Life is beautiful, but it's also hard.
S2: Yeah. So carry the bouquet with Industrial gloves. There are thorns.
S2: Isn't that funny? Some of the most beautiful flowers got
S2: these things that are flat. Ding! You, man. All right,
S2: let's keep going here. Ali, we got more. We got
S2: a lot of calls coming.
S3: Tammy. First time caller from Illinois. Give me your mom advice.
S10: Um, my mother said to always pray no matter what
S10: and to trust God.
S3: That is great advice.
S2: Advice, mom.
S3: Great advice.
S2: Good advice. Let's keep it cooking. Ali.
S3: Joanne from Illinois. Give it to us.
S11: Uh. Good morning. Um, my mom would say, don't be
S11: too quick to say no to your kids, but if
S11: you have to say no, stick with it.
S7: Ooh.
S8: Ooh.
S2: Yeah, that is some good.
S8: That's good parenting advice.
S2: That is phenomenal. Good stuff. What do you say? 800
S2: 555 7898. Best advice your mom gave you? 800 555 7898.
S2: Chance for you to cheer for mom Kevin in Illinois.
S2: What do you say, Kev?
S12: Well, my brothers and sisters would pick on me. Mom
S12: would say, uh, when they're picking on you, they're leaving
S12: somebody else alone. Kind of like, suck it up, buttercup. And,
S12: you know, I tied that to John. Uh, the the
S12: the scripture that, uh, to pick up your cross and
S12: deny yourself, you know, because that's what happened when they
S12: would pick on me, I'd feel like they're picking on me.
S12: She said, well, they're picking on you. They're leaving somebody
S12: else alone.
S2: I love that, actually. That's kind of cool. It means
S2: somebody else has got a pass. That's a perspective and
S2: a half. Suck it up, buttercup. I don't know if
S2: that's the best modern day version of Take Up Your Cross,
S2: but it's it's in there somewhere. I love this man.
S2: Give us a call right now. What do you say?
S2: We got a question for you this morning.
S3: Give us your best mom advice. You still hear mom
S3: saying this? Whether she's with you or she's gone on.
S3: Tell us that mom advice you still remember 800 555 7898.
S13: Mama said there'll be days like this. There'll be days
S13: like this. Mama said. She said, mama said, mama said.
S13: There'll be days like this. There'll be days like this.
S13: My mama said, mama said.
S4: I kind of sound like that.
S13: Just like everything was going fine.
S2: How about those background vocals?
S4: It's good.
S13: Ooh. Almost lost my mind. Mama said, boy, he.
S2: Got a lot paid a lot of cheddar for.
S8: Repeating.
S2: The same phrase over and over again.
S4: And you know what? It's a classic. Classic? That's the crazy.
S2: Big time.
S13: Classic.
S2: It's pretty good. Toe tapper getting a lot of feedback here.
S2: This one's a good one. I love this. Oh where
S2: did it go? Mom advice.
S4: Oh, is it the one you were telling me about?
S8: Yeah.
S2: Love is blind, but the neighbors aren't.
S4: What does that mean?
S2: Okay. That is a great. That is a great mom
S2: advice right there.
S8: Okay, that is super.
S3: What does it mean?
S2: Well, it means that you might be blinded by love,
S2: but then, in other words, other folks can see.
S3: What you can't see.
S2: What you can't.
S8: See.
S4: Ah.
S8: Love is blind, but.
S2: Your neighbors.
S8: Aren't. You know what I'm.
S3: Seeing from a lot of this mom advice is that
S3: it's like you got to kind of extract sometimes the.
S4: What do you mean by that?
S3: Extract what? What they really meant when you worry, you
S3: don't trust. When you trust, you don't worry. I like
S3: that mom advice. Let's see. When I became a mom,
S3: my mom said over the years, small children, small problems,
S3: bigger children, bigger problems. Yeah, I think there's some truth
S3: to that.
S2: There's some truth to that.
S3: You'll understand when you get older. Yeah. That's a that's
S3: some mom advice. Oh, this is awesome. 2122 my mom
S3: used to always say every morning, this is a reminder.
S3: This is the day that the Lord has made. Let
S3: us rejoice and be glad in it. This person says,
S3: I think about it every time I leave the house.
S8: Oh.
S4: You know something I was so grateful for when I
S4: started college, I really missed home. I really missed seeing
S4: my parents, and I called.
S8: Home.
S4: Sick. I got home sick, and so I called my mom,
S4: you know, like a week in. And we were just
S4: talking and catching up, and I said, you know, I'm
S4: thinking I might come home, uh, and see you guys
S4: for the weekend. And she said, no, you're not. And
S4: I said, what do you mean? And she said, you
S4: have to stay there for three months. You can't come home.
S4: And I said, why can't I come home? And she said,
S4: because if you come home, you're going to start wanting
S4: to come home every weekend and you're not going to
S4: make any friends. She said you need to stay there
S4: and hang out with some people on the weekend and
S4: make some friends. And and I got really connected with
S4: the people on my dorm floor because my mom wouldn't
S4: let me come home. I was grateful for that.
S2: That's actually really good, mom.
S4: And yeah, she was great.
S2: That is good, mom. And she knew you. She knew you?
S8: Yeah.
S2: Yeah. You're the. You're the youngest of four bros, right?
S4: Yep. Youngest of four. And so, you know, she missed me, too,
S4: but she.
S2: Yeah, of course she did. She missed you. But she
S2: knew what was better for you. She know you can't
S2: come home.
S4: She said you can't come home.
S8: Oh, man.
S2: That is hilarious. Eddie. First time caller in Illinois. What
S2: do you say, Eddie?
S14: How's it going? How's it going? Good morning. Yeah, so
S14: my mom would always tell us, make sure that you
S14: have a backbone and you always stick up for yourself,
S14: no matter what. No matter what the situation is, you
S14: got to make sure you do that, or else everybody's
S14: going to go ahead and try to, you know, tumble
S14: over you.
S8: Yeah. You know.
S2: What? There's some truth to that. And I mean, you
S2: can do that in a weird and dysfunctional way, but
S2: when you do it in the right way and just
S2: have and that's commonly called today boundaries, where it's not
S2: like somebody's going to walk over the top of me.
S2: That's some good stuff. Best advice you ever got, um,
S2: Ali from your mama?
S3: You know one thing. My mom, like I said, she
S3: always had advice with a twist, but she would always
S3: try to pin us down when we would come home
S3: and say things like, well, everybody's fill in the blank.
S3: Or they said, and she always say, who? Who are they?
S3: Who is? Who are they?
S8: I love that.
S3: And so what I took from it, she always tried
S3: to pin down that this idea that we had that
S3: everybody was talking about something or everybody. She would try
S3: to get us to isolate and then it's like, well,
S3: maybe I had one name if I could actually. Well,
S3: actually it was, it was, it was Susie. Okay. And
S3: it sort of she took the power out of this
S3: idea that everybody or they were doing something and therefore
S3: my in in I should be influenced some way by
S3: the masses.
S8: Yeah.
S2: Because feelings are valid, but they are often incorrect.
S3: Yes.
S2: And we need to take your mom's advice now. And
S2: it manifests itself in a lot of ways. I'm feeling this.
S2: I'm feeling that. Oh, because that this this situation. What
S2: what what's really going on here? Just boil it down.
S3: What are they going to think?
S2: Yeah, yeah, really good stuff. My mom's best advice was
S2: I came home to Alaska from Multnomah Bible College and
S2: I had with me the original Facebook. Facebook used to
S2: be just a list of names and pictures. And I
S2: showed her the girl that I was really interested in.
S2: My mom looked at that picture and she looked at
S2: me and she said, you better not mess this up
S2: because this is the girl that you need to marry.
S4: I love.
S2: It. And I did. And her name's Jubes.
S3: Oh, I love it.
S2: Yeah. Good advice. Advice?
S1: You're listening to Curl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: We're asking you, what did your mom say? We got
S2: two of them back to back that are almost identical.
S2: Wait until your father gets home. Those are dreaded words.
S2: My mom didn't threaten me with it. It was a promise.
S2: It was a promise. And I remember, man, I'm sitting
S2: in my bedroom one day and I'm hearing dad get
S2: the debrief from mom on something.
S4: This is the worst.
S2: And it's the worst because you hear.
S4: Oh.
S7: And then.
S2: And then everything shut down. Yeah. Then the doorknob goes
S2: on my door.
S4: Oh, no.
S2: Turns the slow turn. I think dad did that for
S2: dramatic purpose.
S4: Or you hear the shake of the footsteps up the
S4: staircase or something like that, and you're like, oh, no,
S4: those are coming to me.
S2: Paralyze you with fear. Then my dad did the worst
S2: thing ever. Whenever he punished me, he usually had tears
S2: in his eyes. Which is a great dad, by the way.
S4: He's a good dad.
S2: And one time, he, uh, he had to give me
S2: a swat. I had it coming. I'm not even going
S2: to tell you what I did. It was not good. And, uh,
S2: he pulled out the line. He was famous for this.
S2: This hurts me. Carl, he didn't say more than it
S2: hurts you because he knew that it hurt. He said,
S2: this hurts me to have to do this because I
S2: love you, but you can't. You can't keep doing this nonsense. Boy,
S2: did I get the lesson on that one. That day
S2: was a rough day. Ouch. But it was good. Dad
S2: loved me. Sometimes your parents said something, and I mean
S2: take it to the bank. They said it. What was it?
S2: We're getting so much feedback here, Alan.
S3: Yeah. Don't make me stop this car. Do you want
S3: some cheese with that whine?
S7: Oh, good. That's good.
S3: Lots of. Wait until your father gets home. Let's see.
S3: You will eat it before you wait. You will eat
S3: it before you. Before it eats you. What?
S2: You will eat it before it eats you.
S3: Leftover food. You know.
S7: Mom's.
S2: Interesting.
S7: Or something before it takes over you.
S3: Maybe. I feel like a lot of the mom advice.
S3: You got to kind of just extract the good out
S3: of it, because sometimes it got a little wild. Let's
S3: go to Ellie. First time caller from Chicago. What did
S3: your mom always say?
S15: She said, um, if you don't have anything nice to say,
S15: don't say it.
S3: It's good advice.
S7: I feel like her inflection. Don't say it. Don't say it.
S4: That's a good.
S7: One. That's good.
S2: Yeah. I mean, there's good ones, man. Give us a
S2: call 800 555, 7898. What was your. You can take
S2: it to the bank. Mama was going to say this
S2: was usually in pressure packed situations.
S7: It's predictable.
S2: 805 five five 7898. Come in from far and wide.
S2: We're taking your calls. Would your mom say take it
S2: to the bank? What did she say?
S3: Let's go to calm. Calling in from Illinois. What's that
S3: thing your mom always said?
S10: Mom always said to me.
S16: God doesn't like ugly. And that was when we were misbehaving,
S16: and it would just Shake us in our core and,
S16: you know, cause reflection at that time. Of course.
S2: God doesn't like ugly.
S3: I definitely heard that one. Calm. That one.
S2: Oh that's great, Brent in Chicago. What do you say, Brent?
S17: My mom always told my sister and I there's always
S17: consequence to sin. Maybe not now, maybe later.
S2: You know what?
S17: That's a good.
S2: That's a good mom, man. And if you can stoop
S2: down to their level, look them square in the eye
S2: and say it. That's not bad. That's good. All right,
S2: let's keep cooking here.
S3: Let's go to Christian from Chicago. Go ahead. Give it
S3: to us. What did mom always say?
S18: You know, whenever I would complain about not being able
S18: to do something, and I'd say I can't. She'd say,
S18: I can't. Never tried. And boy, does that roll around
S18: in my head.
S2: Oh that's good.
S7: I can't never try.
S4: That's a great one.
S2: I love it. Uh, Rose, what do you say, Rose?
S10: My mom always said you made your bed. Now you
S10: lay in it.
S2: You're calling it from North Carolina, so you got a
S2: little beautiful accent, at least to our ears on that one.
S2: And that is true. You make your bed, you lay
S2: in it. Yeah. These things are classic, man. They really are.
S2: They got etched in the in the in the minds
S2: and mouths of moms all the time. What do you got?
S3: How about this one? Uh, this person added dinner was
S3: always at five. So mom used to say, I'm not
S3: running a cafeteria. That's often said if there's, like, requests
S3: for different foods. So it could also be interpreted as
S3: I'm not running a diner. Any attempt to have a
S3: variation on the meal that's presented before you usually got abomasum?
S4: So good.
S2: Eleanor, Illinois. What do you say, Eleanor? What'd your mom say?
S19: Oh, when we were kids, we'd go, but, mom, it
S19: never happened before. War. And she'd say, that's what the
S19: farmer said when the cow died.
S7: What? I would lose it. I would absolutely lose it
S7: if my mother said that to me. Wow.
S20: This is good. This is good.
S2: Arnett Nelson. Chicago, Illinois. What do you say?
S16: Um, I. My mom used to say, don't play with me.
S16: I'm not one of your little friends.
S7: Yes. Okay.
S3: I love this so much because the first time I've
S3: heard myself say that exact phrase to my kids, I said,
S3: I'm becoming my mom. I just said, I'm not one
S3: of your little friends.
S16: Your little friends?
S7: Exactly.
S2: Oh my goodness.
S3: Oh that's funny.
S2: Oh my goodness, Paulette in Florida. What do you say, Paulette?
S10: My mom would when she gave us a whooping and
S10: we kept crying. She would say, keep on crying. I'll
S10: give you something to cry about.
S3: That one was a common one.
S7: Very common.
S3: I feel like that one. I want to to never
S3: happen again.
S7: Anyone feel that with me?
S3: I feel like let's let's let's retire that one because.
S2: I think that's in the category. Can we do a
S2: little better?
S3: Yeah, we can, we can we can do better than that. Thanks.
S2: Pauletta flows out of just flows out of frustration. That's
S2: all it is. Oh my goodness. We've got more text
S2: messages than you can shake a stick at.
S3: Oh if you're doing something, do it the right. Do
S3: it right the first time.
S2: Yeah I mean didn't we all hear that one, guys?
S7: Hands down.
S3: Oh, this is a good one. In the winter time,
S3: my mom used to say, dress sanely, not vainly.
S7: Oh, I.
S2: Love.
S7: That. I gotta save that one. That's good.
S3: Not vainly.
S2: It's got a nice little rhyme to it.
S7: Awesome. Well done. Mom.
S3: Kindness doesn't cost you anything.
S7: Yeah.
S3: Tell me who you're hanging with and I'll tell you
S3: who you are.
S2: Ooh, those are zingers.
S7: That's another good.
S4: One. I love it, all right.
S2: I am pinning you down. What do you say to
S2: your kids? If they were here, what would they say?
S2: Mom always says.
S3: Well, one of the things I used to do when
S3: they were little is I. They. If they did something nice,
S3: I would say you just blessed my socks off. And
S3: I would take off my socks and I would throw
S3: them at the ceiling, and I would do it very dramatically,
S3: or I would say nothing and I would.
S7: Just throw.
S3: The socks.
S7: That's awesome. Yep.
S1: It's Carl and crew on Moody Radio.
S2: We're taking your comments and calls 800 555 7898. What's
S2: the best advice you ever got from mom Jenny in Illinois?
S2: First time caller. What do you say, Jenny?
S19: Um, my mom would always say to me, this too
S19: shall pass.
S2: Yeah, boy, I think I think your mom and my
S2: mom and everyone else's mom were reading out of the
S2: same book.
S4: So was there a book alley? Is there a book, Diana?
S4: A book?
S2: Is there a mom book?
S7: It's a secret book. Okay.
S4: Seems like it.
S2: Uh, Jerry in Illinois. What do you say, Jerry? What'd
S2: your mama say? Best advice?
S21: Yes. Hello, Carl and crew. My mama said do what
S21: you can. Can what you can, and sit on it
S21: while you can.
S2: I love that one. I've heard that a couple different ways.
S2: I always heard it is get all you can, can
S2: all you get and sit on the can. But the
S2: bottom line is make sure you don't lose what you're getting.
S7: Wow.
S2: Right, Jerry, that makes perfect sense to you and me.
S21: Yes it does. Yes it does. Never forget it. I
S21: always love my mama.
S2: Oh, that's great man. Got a can it man, or
S2: else you're going to lose it.
S3: Good feedback on text message. This is really good mom advice.
S3: If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.
S2: No, I.
S7: Am a.
S2: Big believer in.
S7: That.
S2: Really good if you don't fudge the facts. And this
S2: has to do with even, like stretching things.
S7: Yes.
S2: Just tell the truth.
S4: Yeah, it's better that way.
S2: Way better that way. Getting a lot of feedback coming in.
S2: What do you got, Allie?
S3: Yeah, this one said. I don't remember my mom giving
S3: me advice, but she displayed her advice by being on
S3: bended knees in front of the Bible.
S4: Ooh.
S7: That's a good.
S2: Mom. That's beautiful, isn't it?
S3: Oh, that's a good one from, uh, from a gentleman.
S3: He says my best advice from my mom. Marry that girl.
S2: Yeah, I that's what my mama told me. She. My
S2: mom lived it more than she told me what to do.
S2: But I came home from Bible college the first year,
S2: and I met a young lady, and I. I was
S2: really excited to show mom. And back in the day,
S2: we actually had a Facebook. Okay. At our college, a Facebook,
S2: which was before Facebook or before what was the first one?
S2: Before Facebook?
S4: What was Myspace?
S7: Myspace?
S2: Myspace? It was a long time before any of that
S2: and it was you. Everybody that was in college had
S2: a face with a name under him in the year
S2: that they were in, and I brought home the book
S2: and I said, this is the girl right here, Jane
S2: Ann Stratton. And she looked at her. She said, describe
S2: her to me. And I explained her and she said,
S2: don't you dare let this girl go, Carl. And I didn't.
S2: I married her. Married. Jujubes. And that was that was
S2: some good advice. She actually. I have a picture somewhere
S2: where she's got her. She's. She's mom's sitting on my lap.
S2: She's got the book kind of up against my chest,
S2: and she's pointing at the picture of jujubes, and, and
S2: she's got a big old grin like, this is my
S2: my son's girl. God willing. Isn't that cool?
S4: It's got a.
S7: Picture. That's sweet.
S2: Yeah, it's pretty cool. Uh, what do you say? What's
S2: the best advice you ever got from your mom? Let's
S2: go back to the phone lines. Who do we have?
S3: Kathy from Illinois just got about 30s. Give it to us, Kathy.
S11: My mother was a military nurse during World War two,
S11: and when we were growing up, she would always say,
S11: I expect you to do these things that I asked
S11: you to do. And when I get home, I expect
S11: to see them done.
S2: That's a military nurse, no doubt.
S4: No doubt.
S7: About it.
S2: My goodness, I expect these things to be done. Oh, sweet. Oh,
S2: we're getting a lot of feedback here. And we'll respond
S2: to as many of you as we can, but we
S2: want to make sure before we get out of here
S2: that we tell you about this cool Moms Day effort
S2: that we've got going. And one of you are going
S2: to win.
S3: Some Moms Day giveaway. You can enter for yourself, mom,
S3: or you can enter for a mom or a mom
S3: figure in your life who you want to bless. Just
S3: text the word mom. Fill out the entry form and
S3: you're all set. Text mom to 800 555 7898. Text
S3: mom to 800 555 7898.
S2: Yeah, what a blessing this is house fires helping you
S2: take your next step with Jesus. Let's go walk with
S2: him today.