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S2: Welcome back to business and guys, it is my birthday today.
S2: I am 32 freaking years old and I'm celebrating. How
S2: am I celebrating? By recording this. What? What better celebration
S2: I've learned as I've gotten older that the thing that
S2: makes me happiest in my life is my ability to
S2: get closer to my goals, and I get closer to
S2: my goals through working very hard. And I like working
S2: very hard because it's the only thing that actually produces
S2: the movement and the increase to my goals. So I
S2: am so happy that I get to do this on
S2: my birthday. Share this content with you. Because today we're
S2: talking about how you take back your life. How do
S2: you have a full freaking comeback in your life to
S2: where you are a different person and you are making changes,
S2: and you are tackling all of the areas that you
S2: know you have been a little crazy with. You know,
S2: that you've maybe been negligent on so that you can
S2: have the life that you want. And I don't say
S2: this in order to brag. I don't say this in
S2: order to like, say, you know, look at me. My
S2: life is perfect. Am I like this? Wonderful. My life
S2: is not perfect, but my life is freaking wonderful. And
S2: the reason it's wonderful is because I don't hold myself
S2: to the lies that I tell myself, which is that
S2: work doesn't matter, or that my house doesn't matter, or
S2: that my environment doesn't matter. No, I take a lot
S2: of responsibility for these things. And so I break down
S2: in this particular episode, the specific five areas, plus the
S2: first requirement, which is a little controversial, that it takes
S2: in order to have a full freaking comeback. Let's dive in.
S2: First up is to stop altering your brain. You do
S2: not need drugs, so stop doing them. You cannot change
S2: your life if you are high while trying. There is
S2: nothing good that comes on the other side of taking drugs.
S2: Even just the mentality of thinking that you have some
S2: sort of dependency because you need something in order to perform,
S2: you need something in order to feel okay. You need
S2: something in order to help you out. You have everything
S2: that you need at your fingertips to be able to
S2: create the life that you want. So thinking that you
S2: have to pop some pill, thinking that you have to
S2: use marijuana or anything else that forces you to be
S2: in a different mindset, is what's actually holding your incredible
S2: brain from actually being able to create the life that
S2: you want. Because its an inhibitor, its something that's getting
S2: in the way of the actual you. And it is
S2: so easy in today's society, and I'm so okay with
S2: getting canceled for this to just make it seem like
S2: I can pop an antidepressant, and all of a sudden
S2: I'm going to be happy, I promise you, you're not.
S2: We are being sold lies. This is not the truth.
S2: And for people who really want to get a handle
S2: on their life, they do not need drugs in order
S2: to do it. Now, you might be thinking that, you know,
S2: some high performing people that do use drugs do not
S2: think for a second that just because they use drugs,
S2: that's actually why they are performing. These two things are
S2: not connected. So antidepressants, marijuana, recreational drugs, anything that you
S2: think you need to take in order for you to
S2: get an edge off in order for you to perform better?
S2: Take that mindset away because you don't actually need them.
S2: What you don't realize is these substances are hijacking your
S2: perceptions and your thoughts. Drugs do not make you more creative.
S2: They are just big distractions. Eliminate anything that interrupts your
S2: natural thoughts from you, thinking something and taking massive action.
S2: This drug conversation is an important conversation to me because
S2: most people just say you need to change your mindset,
S2: you need to get healthy, but they're not actually willing
S2: to attack the thing that is holding the person back
S2: from being able to do the things that are required
S2: to get them to where they want to go. So
S2: now the drugs are out of the way. Let's talk
S2: about what you're going to replace a bad habit with
S2: a good habit, something that makes you stronger. The right
S2: way to remove anything is to remove it and replace
S2: it with something else. So get addicted to the gym,
S2: not distraction. When I was first starting my reboot, it
S2: was all about getting into the gym as fast as
S2: I possibly could in the morning. I knew that if
S2: I put it off in the afternoon, if I was
S2: going to do an evening workout, make some time throughout
S2: the day, it just wasn't going to get done. And
S2: forcing myself to wake up at 530 every single morning
S2: in order to get my butt into the gym, made
S2: it so that I couldn't do anything very fun. The
S2: night before. I had to be in bed by 930
S2: because I didn't want to have to wake up early
S2: and be exhausted and tired because I made the commitment
S2: to be in the gym. Your ability to take control
S2: of how you look, how you feel in your body,
S2: how strong you are, the confidence that you can have
S2: all by going to the gym is a game changer.
S2: Getting into the gym and associating yourself with people who
S2: do that discipline daily will change how you view yourself.
S2: It just feels good. You fit in your clothes nicely.
S2: There's nothing better than having a great pair of pants
S2: that actually fit the way that you want them to.
S2: The nice thing about forcing yourself to go to a
S2: Pilates class or meeting a friend at the gym is
S2: you cannot be high and have the remnants of that
S2: still lingering over while you're on a Pilates reformer, or
S2: while you're benching £50. I would like to be able
S2: to bench £50. I'm not quite there yet, but you
S2: get the point. You can't have that life while also
S2: having this life of making yourself well and getting stronger.
S2: These two things do not collide, so you're forcing yourself
S2: to get in an environment that is like the environment
S2: you're trying to create. You just haven't created it yet
S2: and it's not a discipline. So book the workout class
S2: in order to fill this void in your life. Next up,
S2: we have to audit. Now, this is not the traditional audit.
S2: I'm not going to make you pull out a set
S2: of financials, but I am going to make you audit
S2: the people you're around because the people you're around are
S2: either fueling your future where they are feeding your failure.
S2: Do an audit of who you spend your time with.
S2: When you think about the five people that you spend
S2: the most amount of time with. Are they assets to
S2: you or are they liabilities to you? Are they people
S2: who are going to help you, feel inspired to take
S2: actions that are going to help you get to where
S2: you want to go, or are they people that you
S2: feel like you really have to justify yourself to the
S2: people you spend your time around? Will change your life
S2: and it will either be for the positive or for
S2: the negative. Last night I had a birthday dinner. I
S2: just turned the ripe age of 32. It's actually my
S2: birthday today and we were celebrating last night and I
S2: got a chance to look around at the people who
S2: were at this birthday dinner, and I had a moment
S2: of overwhelming emotion. I was just sitting there watching everybody talk,
S2: and it's almost like a movie scene where everything moved
S2: to slow motion. And I looked at each person that
S2: was sitting around the table and was so appreciative, like,
S2: from the bottom of my heart, appreciative for the people
S2: who were there, because each one of them supports me
S2: in my goals and my dreams. They believe in me
S2: and actually see that I'm capable, and it's possible for
S2: me to get to where I want to go. And
S2: they are also rooting for me like real cheerleaders. And
S2: when they ask me the question of what is the
S2: next year going to bring for you, it's like, man,
S2: I can't wait for this thing to happen and this
S2: thing to happen. I'm going to spend my time here.
S2: And there was genuine interest and excitement and where I
S2: see my life going and most importantly, all the people
S2: would defend me. Think about that. I have people in
S2: my life who would defend me. They believe so much
S2: in me because they have consistency with me, and they
S2: see who I am day in and day out, that
S2: they would be willing to go to bat for me
S2: because they know and trust the type of person that
S2: I am. You have to build that. That doesn't just happen.
S2: So when you think about the five people that you
S2: spend the most time around, do they defend you? Do
S2: they even defend themselves. Sometimes you get yourself caught up
S2: with friends who they're cool people, but they don't have
S2: a backbone. They don't have opinions on something. They don't
S2: have a point of view. They don't really care about themselves,
S2: much less for you and for your goals and for
S2: your dreams. So this defending thing, this protecting thing is
S2: such an important quality. But you only get people in
S2: your life like that. If you become the type of
S2: person who is trustworthy, who is consistent, who is building
S2: something great, who can be believed in because you're not
S2: going to create great relationships with people who have real backbones.
S2: Unless you are the type of person who is a
S2: great person and has a real backbone and goes after massive, incredible,
S2: unbelievable targets. So when you do make this list of
S2: your friends, the five people asset column, liability column, if
S2: they're in the liability column, I promise you they will
S2: not help you be successful, be productive and create the
S2: life that you want. So you have to figure out
S2: how to handle those people in your life. I'm not
S2: saying that you just stop being friends with them altogether,
S2: but I am saying, hey, maybe you should stop spending
S2: so much time with them because you're reducing your chances
S2: of getting unstuck. And if you're watching this and you
S2: really do feel stuck, I have a feeling you wouldn't
S2: still be here if you didn't actually feel stuck. You
S2: really feel that painstaking, stuck feeling. You have to create
S2: this environment that allows you to not be stuck any longer.
S2: And there is nothing that changes this faster than the
S2: people that you surround yourself with. Negative relationships keep you
S2: stuck in old patterns, and even one toxic friend can
S2: block you from reinventing yourself. So ask yourself if these
S2: people help you feel confident or make you feel sad
S2: when you're around them. It is so important to curate
S2: your friend group with brutal honesty. The next area of
S2: your comeback has to be your finances. You will not
S2: feel confident in your comeback if you do not have
S2: clarity on how you can make more money. And in
S2: order to make more money, you have to be the
S2: best of the best at what you do. I don't
S2: care what you do. You could be a salesperson. You
S2: could be a recruiter. You could be a head of operations.
S2: You could be an accounting. Doesn't matter. What would it
S2: take for you to be the top 1% in your field?
S2: Who do you need to know? What questions do you
S2: have to ask? What content are you not familiar with?
S2: What the top 1% in your field is actually doing?
S2: To the extent you don't know these questions, you're not
S2: the top 1%. Maybe you have a lot of ego.
S2: You're thinking you're hot shit, you're doing great. You're already cruising.
S2: If that's the case, but you're not actually clear on
S2: the criteria to become the 1%. Your ego is too
S2: big and your ego is what's going to keep you stuck.
S2: Check your ego at the door. Figure out in your
S2: field what the top 1% are doing and do that today.
S2: This is not a Monday thing. This is not a
S2: wait till over the weekend thing. What is required of
S2: you to be the top 1% in your field? The
S2: next area is targeting growth. So when you think about growth,
S2: how do you take growth in being the top 1%,
S2: so that you get paid disproportionately more than you're paid
S2: right now, because you are the best in your field,
S2: you need to get the data and the understanding of
S2: what is actually required to be the top 1%. There's
S2: no better way to grow in 2025 than utilizing ChatGPT.
S2: I literally just have this conversation with one of my
S2: team members last week. We're going through a new set
S2: of challenges. This particular team member has a whole department
S2: that they need to do a massive overhaul in, and
S2: they felt a little overwhelmed because they don't have the knowledge,
S2: they don't understand how to make all of these changes.
S2: So I said, listen up. You're going to type into ChatGPT.
S2: What do I need to read, listen to, or watch
S2: at least for an hour every single day in order
S2: to get myself in the top 1% in this field.
S2: Create a syllabus for me and lay this out with
S2: links with all references, so that I can use this
S2: as my study guide and keep me accountable. ChatGPT whipped
S2: this up in a matter of 15 seconds, and all
S2: of a sudden there is a full list of the
S2: exact actions data Characteristics that this person needs to embody
S2: and have and do in order to be the top 1%.
S2: You be the freaking best, but you might not know
S2: how to be the best. And in the past, it
S2: was a little challenging to figure this out. You had
S2: to read a bunch of books. There was a lot
S2: of data. There were so many YouTube videos out there.
S2: All of a sudden, ChatGPT can create a personalized roadmap
S2: for you to figure out the exact areas you need
S2: to grow in, and you can also give it feedback
S2: to say, this is where I'm at right now, so
S2: it customizes your learning plan. It has never been easier
S2: to grow and to learn than it is today. We
S2: are in an unprecedented time, so take advantage of this.
S2: But the way that you take advantage of it is
S2: by recognizing and owning the fact that you are going
S2: to be in the top 1%. You are never going
S2: to make a comeback if you do not master this
S2: final step, which is getting shit out of your life.
S2: To get to a new place, you have to leave
S2: the place that you currently are in. You cannot go
S2: where you want to go while still being where you are.
S2: And if where you are is a mess. You have
S2: unread text messages, unread emails, communication cycles that are left
S2: open because you're not following up. You're not cleaning your house.
S2: You're not taking responsibility for your car. What condition is
S2: your bedroom in? What is your nightstand look like? If
S2: you really want to get out of the rut, the
S2: environment around you has to change and you are the
S2: only person who can change it. What's masterful about this
S2: is you could knock this out in eight hours. This
S2: is not a one week project. This is not a
S2: month long project. You could shut your computer right now
S2: and say, I'm going to take control of my entire surroundings.
S2: And by tomorrow morning, I'm going to wake up and
S2: I'm going to be in a brand new environment. That
S2: is what's required if you truly want to get unstuck.
S2: And here's the thing I believe that you can get unstuck.
S2: There's no reason for you to continue to make sense
S2: of being upset with yourself, being frustrated with yourself, feeling
S2: down about what your life looks like. What's really cool
S2: for me is I mentioned earlier, today is my birthday,
S2: and I made this cute little Instagram post earlier today
S2: about being really proud of myself. And I remember when
S2: I used to wake up on my birthday every single birthday.
S2: And I would cry because at some point throughout the day,
S2: I would remember that I am getting older and I
S2: am not getting closer to where I want to go,
S2: and it was painfully emotional for me. I couldn't get
S2: out of my own head around the other 364 days
S2: that I had spent the previous year, and the fact
S2: that I didn't do things that I needed to do
S2: in order to make my environment the way that I
S2: wanted it to be, in order to get out of
S2: the rut that I was in. And so on my birthday,
S2: was just this fat, freaking reminder to me of looking
S2: in the mirror and saying, I'm not any closer. So
S2: on this birthday, I'm not shedding a single frickin tier.
S2: I've never been more excited about my life, and I
S2: haven't cried on my birthday for at least six years
S2: because I decided to make a change and I no
S2: longer listened to my own bullshit that being stuck is okay,
S2: and that the disaster that was my environment is somebody
S2: else's job. It's my job. Your environment is your job.
S2: So let's figure out how do you declutter your space,
S2: make it nice, feel good in it, It's actually respond
S2: to people when they reach out to you in a
S2: fast manner and get your inbox in a good place.
S2: So people don't think that you're somebody that they just
S2: can never get Ahold of and fully own. The fact
S2: that you are not going to be the same person
S2: that you have been, that feels like they're in a rut.
S2: Most people avoid looking at these areas because the truth
S2: can be uncomfortable, but when you are radically honest with
S2: each one of these categories, you can truly reset your life.
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