WEBVTT - EP 52 | N+B: Wedding Planning Hell 0:00:00.110 --> 0:00:05.330 I have the one. The only, Mr. Dawson. 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:08.540 I'm so excited to be on the Workwoman podcast. 0:00:08.570 --> 0:00:11.479 It has been a while. It's been, I think, almost 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:13.610 three months since you've been on the podcast, and on 0:00:13.610 --> 0:00:16.790 the last episode, you were so excited to be with 0:00:16.790 --> 0:00:19.340 me on these podcasts. I love it. Why does it 0:00:19.340 --> 0:00:21.110 take so long to get you back? Because we're. 0:00:21.110 --> 0:00:25.250 Busy. We're all over. We're in seven cities in ten days. 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:27.170 What you need to do is you need to learn 0:00:27.170 --> 0:00:30.080 to do these on the airplane where we can have it. 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:31.940 Be quiet. Because that's where usually where you and I 0:00:31.940 --> 0:00:33.920 are spending our time talking because airplanes. 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:37.280 Have no background noise. Yeah, exactly. They're super, super quiet. 0:00:38.030 --> 0:00:40.550 All right, so for today's topic, I think this is 0:00:40.550 --> 0:00:44.810 a juicy one because I know people are curious about 0:00:44.810 --> 0:00:47.240 just wedding stuff in general. I was just telling Brandon 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:50.360 that when you type in Natalie Workman on Google, the 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:52.820 third search is wedding. And I'm not even married. I've 0:00:52.820 --> 0:00:55.640 never had a wedding, but it's just a very popular 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:58.459 thing that people like, want to know about and want to. 0:00:58.490 --> 0:00:59.450 I want to know about it. 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:02.260 Have an understanding. Yeah. I'm. This is also my update 0:01:02.260 --> 0:01:03.880 to Brandon as to what's happening with the wedding. 0:01:03.910 --> 0:01:06.100 This is an opportunity for all of us to hear 0:01:06.130 --> 0:01:08.709 the update. We were supposed to get married last year, 0:01:09.010 --> 0:01:12.070 and I watched you put all the preparation, and we 0:01:12.069 --> 0:01:13.480 were so excited about it. And then all of a sudden, 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:15.819 we had to call it off because of Covid, because 0:01:15.819 --> 0:01:18.130 of Covid, and we lost our destination and people were 0:01:18.130 --> 0:01:20.410 not allowed to get in the country and stuff. I 0:01:20.410 --> 0:01:25.570 watched you handle that like an absolute, like solid like 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:28.420 like she she just said, you know what? There's a 0:01:28.420 --> 0:01:30.220 reason for this. We're just going to push it off 0:01:30.220 --> 0:01:31.690 a year and we're going to deal with it in 0:01:31.690 --> 0:01:35.140 a year. You didn't let it destroy all the good stuff, 0:01:35.140 --> 0:01:37.300 because we had such a great business year last year, 0:01:37.300 --> 0:01:38.500 and you just were like, I'm not going to let 0:01:38.500 --> 0:01:40.000 it ruin the good stuff that we have going. 0:01:40.030 --> 0:01:43.630 This really has been wedding planning from hell, and I 0:01:43.630 --> 0:01:47.650 keep telling Brandon that I feel very lucky that it's 0:01:47.650 --> 0:01:49.840 me as a bride who is going through this, because 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:53.290 I honestly think that most, most brides that I know 0:01:53.290 --> 0:01:56.920 and most people in a similar position, uh. 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:58.390 Yeah, they'd be freaking out. Trust me. 0:01:58.570 --> 0:02:01.840 Just like. yeah, really upset or emotional. And I think I'm, 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:05.110 I feel very fortunate to not be so tied up. 0:02:05.110 --> 0:02:06.490 And that's taken a lot of I mean, you. 0:02:06.490 --> 0:02:08.620 Literally went and got fitted for your dress with your 0:02:08.620 --> 0:02:12.850 girlfriends when you took off from New York last year. 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:14.710 Yeah, I was, so I just went to get fitting 0:02:14.740 --> 0:02:16.060 with the guys are so much to talk about, but 0:02:16.060 --> 0:02:18.760 I just went to do some dress fittings, my first 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:21.040 round of dress fittings last week, and they told me 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:23.950 that I was the last weekend of fittings in New 0:02:23.980 --> 0:02:26.800 York for wedding dresses, after or before the pandemic. 0:02:26.830 --> 0:02:28.480 Well, you landed and then everything got shut down. 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:31.480 Everything New York shut down two days later. So yeah, 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:33.190 this wedding and what we want to talk about is 0:02:33.220 --> 0:02:35.200 a giving you guys an update, because this really has 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.930 been like the wedding from hell. Um, the wedding planning 0:02:37.930 --> 0:02:39.850 from hell. The wedding will be beautiful. Don't you worry. 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:42.040 The wedding will be beautiful. But the planning really has 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:44.350 been stressful. And so how do you manage that stress? 0:02:44.350 --> 0:02:45.550 I want to give you some of the tips that 0:02:45.550 --> 0:02:48.520 I have learned through this process. And how do you 0:02:48.550 --> 0:02:51.580 continue to focus on making it the right thing, which 0:02:51.580 --> 0:02:53.620 is it has nothing to do with the party and 0:02:53.620 --> 0:02:56.890 has everything to do with ensuring that the relationship that 0:02:56.889 --> 0:03:00.269 you're in, like I know that I'm demonstrating to him 0:03:00.270 --> 0:03:02.880 through every single decision that's being made, the type of 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:05.460 partner that I'm going to be, and if I'm stressed 0:03:05.460 --> 0:03:08.130 out and worried about it and frantic like that ruins 0:03:08.130 --> 0:03:10.440 our dynamic and the whole thing, the whole freaking thing 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:12.480 is for us to be together and make this decision 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:13.020 for the rest of our. 0:03:13.050 --> 0:03:15.810 100%, and to be around people we love and we 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:19.020 care about. We were supposed to get married October of 0:03:19.020 --> 0:03:24.540 last year, and so things changed even in our personal lives. 0:03:24.570 --> 0:03:26.790 Like somebody that was in the wedding, that is one 0:03:26.790 --> 0:03:30.210 of my best friends. We don't have much of a 0:03:30.210 --> 0:03:33.000 relationship in the last year. All of a sudden we're 0:03:33.030 --> 0:03:35.340 getting up closer to the wedding and I'm like, I 0:03:35.340 --> 0:03:37.560 don't necessarily want that person in my wedding because they're 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.930 not supporting us. They're not involved with us. They're not 0:03:39.930 --> 0:03:42.420 interested in us even though we're interested in them. This 0:03:42.420 --> 0:03:45.480 is somebody I love near and dear for 15 years, 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:48.570 and they've chose not to have any communication or any 0:03:48.570 --> 0:03:51.960 involvement in our life, won't respond as to why. And 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:54.120 so I told Natalie I was like, look, as much 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:56.940 as I love everything that person stands for, I don't 0:03:56.940 --> 0:03:59.339 want them in my wedding party. I don't want a drainer, 0:03:59.340 --> 0:04:02.040 or I don't want to have someone that's not contributing 0:04:02.070 --> 0:04:05.250 to our life. And so it was a hard conversation 0:04:05.250 --> 0:04:07.650 to say, hey, I'm doing a player change. Yeah. 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:09.570 And I think that that would be the first tip 0:04:09.570 --> 0:04:12.150 that I would have is invite the people that you 0:04:12.150 --> 0:04:16.680 actually want there, even if it's an uncomfortable conversation. Right now, 0:04:16.710 --> 0:04:19.140 I feel very little stress about the event in general 0:04:19.170 --> 0:04:22.530 because I'm not trying to impress anybody. I'm not trying 0:04:22.529 --> 0:04:26.039 to make it about anybody besides us and the people 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:28.409 that we're actually making it about, which really is our family. 0:04:28.410 --> 0:04:31.349 But none of our friends or people like we just 0:04:31.650 --> 0:04:33.299 our true friends, as many, our true. 0:04:33.300 --> 0:04:34.740 Friends are going to be there. Yeah. 0:04:34.740 --> 0:04:35.820 And they're going to have a blast. 0:04:35.850 --> 0:04:39.000 And our our true friends that can't be there. There's 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:40.440 a reason they can't be there. We're not going to 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:42.870 hold it against them either. But one thing is for certain, 0:04:42.870 --> 0:04:45.450 the people that are there, we are going to have 0:04:45.450 --> 0:04:48.120 a remarkable time. It's going to be a great experience. 0:04:48.150 --> 0:04:48.990 Yes. So the tip. 0:04:49.020 --> 0:04:49.680 Celebrating. 0:04:49.710 --> 0:04:51.779 I know it's been a while since you've done a podcast, 0:04:51.779 --> 0:04:54.120 but we share our experience and then we share a 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.480 tip like something that they can use. That's not about 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.190 us that they can apply to their lives. 0:04:58.220 --> 0:05:00.200 Oh, perfect. That's why this is your podcast. 0:05:00.230 --> 0:05:02.779 So the thing that you would apply in that situation 0:05:02.779 --> 0:05:05.419 is like, seriously, only invite the people that you actually 0:05:05.420 --> 0:05:08.450 want to celebrate you guys. And if you haven't seen 0:05:08.450 --> 0:05:11.659 them in a while, and even if it's been a while, 0:05:11.660 --> 0:05:14.060 but if you don't really have a strong relationship with 0:05:14.060 --> 0:05:17.029 the person, don't invite them. And if you invite those people, 0:05:17.029 --> 0:05:19.460 that's what's actually going to create the anxiousness. Like, I 0:05:19.460 --> 0:05:22.820 don't feel anxious about everything that we're about to talk about, 0:05:22.820 --> 0:05:25.580 because I know that it's just the people that freaking 0:05:25.580 --> 0:05:27.500 love us and support us and are only there for 0:05:27.500 --> 0:05:29.480 the two of us. If I would have invited and 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:32.330 made some different decisions for other people that I felt like, oh, 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:35.270 I feel obligated, or I need to make sure that 0:05:35.270 --> 0:05:37.849 they're well taken care of. I would feel pressure right 0:05:37.850 --> 0:05:40.820 now as shit falls apart, which it will and it does. 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:43.729 And it has. Trust me, we get a new text 0:05:43.730 --> 0:05:46.370 every few days of the shit falling apart. 0:05:46.370 --> 0:05:50.719 So from a shit falling apart. Let's let's cancelling. 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:53.810 Last year's wedding. Cancelling, resetting this year's wedding. 0:05:53.810 --> 0:05:56.529 Yes. Resetting this year's wedding for the date, and then 0:05:56.529 --> 0:05:58.270 all of a sudden. Hold on. You can't say too 0:05:58.270 --> 0:06:00.370 much about this because we have certain things that we 0:06:00.370 --> 0:06:03.909 can and can't say because of legal requirements. We were 0:06:03.910 --> 0:06:07.090 notified that we no longer have a venue for our 0:06:07.089 --> 0:06:10.630 welcome party, and that the hotel that we were going 0:06:10.630 --> 0:06:13.870 to have said welcome party at is no longer operating 0:06:13.870 --> 0:06:18.309 for the moment. So our room bloc got cancelled. The venue. 0:06:18.339 --> 0:06:18.910 We have to. 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:22.030 And the city happens to be unlike any normal time. 0:06:22.270 --> 0:06:25.599 The whole city happens to be completely full, sold out. 0:06:25.630 --> 0:06:28.180 We picked a period of time where normally people aren't 0:06:28.180 --> 0:06:29.830 there yet and everything is sold out. 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:32.320 Everything is sold out. So the day has now changed 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:34.750 because on the original day on the ninth, we had 0:06:34.750 --> 0:06:36.460 a plan that it was going to be the welcome 0:06:36.460 --> 0:06:38.680 party and then the wedding on the 10th. The next day, 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:41.020 the ninth. There is not a single venue that we 0:06:41.020 --> 0:06:43.750 can use, so we've moved it to the eighth. Now 0:06:43.750 --> 0:06:45.880 the rehearsal dinner will have to happen on the ninth. 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:48.849 And we still at this moment, just like just for 0:06:48.850 --> 0:06:52.600 some context, so people really understand. It's August 16th, the 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:55.540 wedding wedding's in less than two months in October, and 0:06:55.540 --> 0:06:55.810 we don't. 0:06:55.810 --> 0:06:56.529 Have a venue and. 0:06:56.529 --> 0:06:57.279 We don't have a venue. 0:06:57.279 --> 0:06:58.120 For. We lost our. 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:00.580 Beach. So now let's talk about the actual wedding. You'd 0:07:00.610 --> 0:07:02.650 think like, oh, not having a welcome party venue. That's 0:07:02.650 --> 0:07:05.680 not the worst. Like, that's not wedding planning from hell. Uh, 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:08.560 this past week, we decided to go, uh, to New 0:07:08.589 --> 0:07:11.470 York because I, like the genius I am, decided to 0:07:11.470 --> 0:07:15.100 pick out the dresses for the wedding in New York. 0:07:15.100 --> 0:07:17.110 And I didn't think through the fact that the fittings 0:07:17.110 --> 0:07:19.270 have to happen in New York. And so we flew 0:07:19.270 --> 0:07:20.830 to New York. There was a couple other things that 0:07:20.830 --> 0:07:23.290 we were doing for business, so it actually worked out perfectly. 0:07:23.290 --> 0:07:27.550 But I am just like, finally in what I would, 0:07:27.580 --> 0:07:29.770 I guess, describe as like bridal bliss. 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:31.570 She was. So can I tell you? She was like, 0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:34.060 you know what? When we were landing, she's like, I'm 0:07:34.060 --> 0:07:37.180 actually I had disengaged because you had such a great 0:07:37.180 --> 0:07:40.630 time with your friends and your bridesmaids last year, but 0:07:40.630 --> 0:07:42.970 because everything got pushed off. So we were laying and 0:07:42.970 --> 0:07:46.150 you're like, it's just hitting me. It's just hitting me. 0:07:46.150 --> 0:07:49.720 I'm getting so excited again because we've been so busy 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:51.910 and we land. I don't even think we were on 0:07:51.910 --> 0:07:52.900 the ground. 0:07:53.370 --> 0:07:55.200 No, I had just gone through the fitting, so I 0:07:55.230 --> 0:07:57.390 had just finally like. And the dress. I was a 0:07:57.390 --> 0:07:59.100 little nervous as the dress. Still, what I'm going to 0:07:59.100 --> 0:08:00.720 like is it going to fit? And I finally I 0:08:00.750 --> 0:08:03.060 was by myself. I did these fittings and like I 0:08:03.090 --> 0:08:04.740 made this comment and I was like, I feel like 0:08:04.740 --> 0:08:07.290 such an adult. Like this is something that an adult does. 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:09.630 And I know I'm clearly an adult. But anyway, it 0:08:09.630 --> 0:08:10.980 was just like this moment, this moment. 0:08:11.070 --> 0:08:14.070 You had allowed yourself to really get excited because of 0:08:14.070 --> 0:08:15.240 all pushing it off. 0:08:15.390 --> 0:08:18.900 I've had to create some distance because it's by nature 0:08:18.900 --> 0:08:22.980 an emotional thing. And so I finally feel like, wow, 0:08:23.010 --> 0:08:24.869 this is all coming together, and isn't this going to 0:08:24.870 --> 0:08:27.270 be fun? And we're finally having these conversations, and I get. 0:08:27.270 --> 0:08:30.630 Together with her and we're you're explaining to me all 0:08:30.630 --> 0:08:33.240 this experience and how exciting it is and how exciting 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:36.510 it was. And your phone goes ding ding. And you 0:08:36.510 --> 0:08:41.010 looked at it and you go, no freaking way. 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:44.550 Yeah. So we no longer still to this day, have 0:08:44.550 --> 0:08:47.550 a venue for the wedding. 0:08:47.580 --> 0:08:52.199 There was a storm and it destroyed the beach and 0:08:52.230 --> 0:08:54.990 sucked it off of the cliff line, so there's no 0:08:54.990 --> 0:08:56.010 freaking beach. 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:57.720 Of beach has been removed because where. 0:08:57.720 --> 0:09:00.030 We were doing our actual wedding. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:03.000 We have a lot of connections to this place, which 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:06.780 is why we scheduled the wedding anyway. So again, as 0:09:06.780 --> 0:09:10.560 of today, we we don't have a venue for either 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:13.319 events for this wedding that is supposed to be happening 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:15.839 in two months. And granted, we honestly have the most 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:19.920 incredible planners. I would highly recommend them. Countdown events have 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.429 been remarkable throughout this whole process, but at the moment 0:09:23.429 --> 0:09:26.459 we're still like calling hotels and trying to figure out 0:09:26.490 --> 0:09:26.760 we have. 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:29.790 Friends calling us, saying our room blocks have been canceled. 0:09:29.790 --> 0:09:33.090 We can't get other rooms, where are we staying? Where 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.370 are we staying happening? Is it going to happen? Is 0:09:35.370 --> 0:09:37.350 it not going to happen? We have family calling every 0:09:37.380 --> 0:09:39.030 day and texting. Is this really going to happen? Is 0:09:39.030 --> 0:09:41.130 it not going to happen? What do we tell our friends? 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:43.920 It's chaos. I've been able to send out invites because 0:09:43.950 --> 0:09:46.109 on the invites that has we just changed. 0:09:46.110 --> 0:09:47.520 The dates and the. 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:52.220 Venues changed the venue. So long story Longer. It has 0:09:52.220 --> 0:09:57.890 been a bit of a clusterfuck kind of clusterfuck, but 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:00.079 we're still getting married and this is the decision. At 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:01.790 some point, you just have to make the decision like 0:10:01.820 --> 0:10:05.390 what matters to you. And in that moment, I felt 0:10:05.390 --> 0:10:07.729 like a little bit of a gut punch because I 0:10:07.730 --> 0:10:11.750 finally felt excited and then was back to, oh my God, 0:10:11.750 --> 0:10:14.900 here we go again. However, when you have these moments, 0:10:14.900 --> 0:10:17.809 you have to prioritize what is actually important. So for me, 0:10:17.809 --> 0:10:20.450 is it important? Is being on this beach? The most 0:10:20.450 --> 0:10:23.810 important thing or is getting married to him this October 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:26.689 the most important thing? Like that's really the decision. And 0:10:26.690 --> 0:10:28.760 in an instant I can make that decision. It's us 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:31.250 getting married this October. We do not want to continue 0:10:31.250 --> 0:10:33.170 to push this off. We don't want to create uncertainty 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:36.199 with our family and our friends. We're making the commitment 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:36.800 to get married. 0:10:36.830 --> 0:10:38.990 And no matter where we do it at and no 0:10:38.990 --> 0:10:41.330 matter how we do it, you don't get to cry. 0:10:41.690 --> 0:10:43.460 You almost cried a minute ago. I know. 0:10:43.460 --> 0:10:45.949 But you don't get to cry. I'm not crying, okay? 0:10:46.910 --> 0:10:48.620 But I can get you to cry if I just. Well, 0:10:48.650 --> 0:10:51.070 if my eyes welled up a little bit. So. So 0:10:51.070 --> 0:10:54.160 here's the thing, though. I promise that no matter what happens, 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:56.590 we're going to get married and we're going to enjoy 0:10:56.590 --> 0:10:59.500 whoever happens to be with us, no matter where we 0:10:59.530 --> 0:11:02.770 happen to be, no matter what we happen to be doing, 0:11:02.770 --> 0:11:04.480 and no matter how we happen to be doing it. 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.120 Because right now we don't have a fucking clue where 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:10.569 anything is happening. And we're and we're and we're we're 0:11:10.570 --> 0:11:11.710 seven weeks out. 0:11:11.740 --> 0:11:13.150 I guess my second tip on this would be, I 0:11:13.150 --> 0:11:15.939 want to give permission to people to go through this 0:11:15.940 --> 0:11:19.750 logical process, but also feel emotional, like it is okay 0:11:19.750 --> 0:11:22.360 to be upset and to be frustrated. However, if you 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:24.430 really can think about, okay, who do I want to 0:11:24.429 --> 0:11:25.780 be in this process? Do I want to be the 0:11:25.780 --> 0:11:28.780 person that's so freaked out over this one weekend of 0:11:28.780 --> 0:11:31.300 my lifetime? No, I don't want to be that person. 0:11:31.300 --> 0:11:33.819 I could work myself to be that person. But is 0:11:33.820 --> 0:11:35.380 that really who I want to be in this next 0:11:35.380 --> 0:11:37.660 chapter of my life? Absolutely not. I'm just going to 0:11:37.660 --> 0:11:40.690 roll with things. If you're going through something similar, if 0:11:40.690 --> 0:11:43.150 it's a wedding or anything else that is important to 0:11:43.179 --> 0:11:46.810 you while shit is falling apart everywhere, how can you 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:50.000 consciously say, I'm not going to be reactionary. I'm not 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:52.939 going to send a text message that sends things sideways. 0:11:52.940 --> 0:11:55.760 I'm not going to engage in a way that isn't 0:11:55.760 --> 0:11:58.849 beneficial to set the example for the people around you, 0:11:58.850 --> 0:12:02.600 but also to define how you respond to stressful situations. 0:12:02.630 --> 0:12:06.020 I think that's the resilience. What I love about you 0:12:06.020 --> 0:12:08.569 the most is your resilience. 0:12:08.870 --> 0:12:10.070 Well thank you. Yeah. 0:12:10.100 --> 0:12:11.600 I need you to stop talking or else you're gonna 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:11.990 make me cry. 0:12:12.020 --> 0:12:14.390 Well, because. Because I want you to cry. I want 0:12:14.420 --> 0:12:17.150 to I mean, I love it when you cry. 0:12:17.179 --> 0:12:17.870 I'm not going to do it. 0:12:17.900 --> 0:12:20.480 I'll cry. Look at my eyes. I look like I'm crying. 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:22.160 Because the truth is, is that I just want to 0:12:22.160 --> 0:12:24.439 marry her. Like I could give a shit. Like. Like, let's. 0:12:24.470 --> 0:12:26.750 Let's just get married. I want to get married. I 0:12:26.750 --> 0:12:30.980 love her right now. Right now. Here's my bottle of Pellegrino. 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:35.150 Keep it forever. We have so much and so many 0:12:35.150 --> 0:12:37.370 great things going on in our life that this is 0:12:37.370 --> 0:12:38.329 a celebration. 0:12:38.330 --> 0:12:41.809 And this is something that Elena also talks about in 0:12:41.809 --> 0:12:44.719 her book, Build an Empire, where if you're so wrapped 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:46.550 up in this wedding and I think this is more 0:12:46.550 --> 0:12:47.960 of a female thing than a. 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:48.380 Male thing. 0:12:48.420 --> 0:12:51.000 I'm going to get into this in just a second here. 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:54.270 But if you're so caught up in the wedding, what 0:12:54.270 --> 0:12:56.340 you're actually not thinking about is how to make a 0:12:56.340 --> 0:12:59.760 future plan with this person. And if this moment is 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:02.100 so important to you, and you're starting to feel all 0:13:02.130 --> 0:13:04.949 of this stress and anxiousness around it because you're making 0:13:04.950 --> 0:13:07.680 it so important. Yes, it's important. But then how do 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:09.900 you figure out on the back end, like what's going 0:13:09.929 --> 0:13:12.150 to pull you forward and create the marriage that you 0:13:12.150 --> 0:13:14.640 want to have with this person? For us, we have 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:16.860 a ten x 360 like our our honeymoon. 0:13:16.890 --> 0:13:17.790 We're going for. 0:13:17.790 --> 0:13:20.010 Days. We're doing our honeymoon. So so this is no 0:13:20.010 --> 0:13:23.730 bullshit because all these changes and everything, we're pushing dates around. 0:13:23.730 --> 0:13:26.189 And the next question we asked each other is, look, 0:13:26.220 --> 0:13:28.319 we're taking a couple weeks off for ourselves. We've been 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:32.340 working every single week, every single weekend now for almost 0:13:32.340 --> 0:13:35.010 40 months or whatever. We were like, okay, we're going 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:37.050 to take that time and do our honeymoon. We're so 0:13:37.050 --> 0:13:39.420 excited about it. And then we both were sitting there going, 0:13:39.450 --> 0:13:41.220 how long is our honeymoon? We're like, oh, we're going 0:13:41.250 --> 0:13:43.500 to do four days, and we're like, where are we 0:13:43.500 --> 0:13:45.179 going to be at? Oh, we're going to be in 0:13:45.179 --> 0:13:48.059 this part of Mexico. We're like, let's put a ten 0:13:48.059 --> 0:13:49.770 x360 on the end of it. We're going. 0:13:49.770 --> 0:13:50.820 To put our mastermind. 0:13:50.850 --> 0:13:52.440 On the end of it, and then we're like, well, wait, 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:55.530 because of the wedding weekend, we need a 360 in Miami. 0:13:55.530 --> 0:13:56.400 And so so we. 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:57.240 Literally are. 0:13:57.270 --> 0:13:58.740 Going to come honeymoon short. 0:13:58.740 --> 0:14:00.809 So we could come here because you know what? We 0:14:00.809 --> 0:14:03.210 really do love. We love building business together and we 0:14:03.210 --> 0:14:07.530 love being together. And we love working hard together. And 0:14:07.530 --> 0:14:09.270 as much as we want to go on that honeymoon 0:14:09.270 --> 0:14:11.640 and be able to, we literally said, how many days 0:14:11.670 --> 0:14:14.670 are we going to be able to relax before we 0:14:14.670 --> 0:14:17.100 start getting nervous? We need to go back to work. 0:14:17.130 --> 0:14:17.610 Well, and it's. 0:14:17.610 --> 0:14:20.370 Not even just that. It's the impact that we're creating 0:14:20.370 --> 0:14:22.739 in the life that we're building together. And this would 0:14:22.740 --> 0:14:25.680 be I'm not married yet, but my future self marital 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:29.190 advice is okay. These business owners that we get the 0:14:29.190 --> 0:14:32.190 opportunity to work with and that we get the opportunity 0:14:32.190 --> 0:14:36.330 to create events around like they actually need us. They 0:14:36.330 --> 0:14:38.250 need us to show up to this. They need us 0:14:38.250 --> 0:14:41.550 to help them with their people, challenges and family dynamics 0:14:41.550 --> 0:14:44.100 because the business is broken, or they need us to 0:14:44.130 --> 0:14:47.750 understand from a financial standpoint what the plan looks like 0:14:47.750 --> 0:14:50.180 so that they can exit the family member that they've 0:14:50.180 --> 0:14:52.880 been trying to work through. And so for us this 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.040 ten x 360, we're like, this is going to pull 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:58.160 us forward after the wedding. But it's also what fulfills 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:00.739 our life together. And so if you're in the middle 0:15:00.740 --> 0:15:03.260 of wedding planning or if you're just in a rut 0:15:03.260 --> 0:15:05.750 with your significant other, how can you put something on 0:15:05.750 --> 0:15:08.690 the calendar that pulls you forward through the thing that 0:15:08.690 --> 0:15:11.600 you're excited about, that is in alignment with how you're 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:14.240 building your life and your priorities together? 0:15:14.270 --> 0:15:17.060 Because we spend so much time with so many business 0:15:17.060 --> 0:15:21.620 owners that are struggling at different points in their business, 0:15:21.620 --> 0:15:25.790 it could be struggling professionally, could be struggling personally, it 0:15:25.790 --> 0:15:30.320 could be struggling financially, it could be family things. It 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:34.280 could be kids working in the business with parents. We 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:39.140 get pulled into everyone's struggle because that's where our expertise is. 0:15:39.170 --> 0:15:41.270 And I think you and I started having a conversation 0:15:41.270 --> 0:15:47.000 about if we can't handle our shit in adversity. How 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:49.700 do we have the confidence to help others when they're 0:15:49.700 --> 0:15:52.790 in adversity? And so we made a conscious choice of 0:15:52.820 --> 0:15:54.980 we're going to be the best version of ourselves, despite 0:15:54.980 --> 0:15:57.620 what's thrown at us, because we want to be the 0:15:57.620 --> 0:16:00.920 example to the people that we're helping be the best 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:04.070 version of themselves. And that's where we're sitting there going, okay, 0:16:04.070 --> 0:16:07.100 so we're going to go have a remarkable week getting married. 0:16:07.100 --> 0:16:09.980 We're going to go have a remarkable honeymoon with some 0:16:09.980 --> 0:16:12.710 very special friends that we're bringing along with us, because 0:16:12.710 --> 0:16:14.660 we want to spend time with them, and then we're 0:16:14.660 --> 0:16:16.580 going to go right back to work, and we're going 0:16:16.610 --> 0:16:20.570 to go and create a life, the life we choose 0:16:20.570 --> 0:16:24.170 to create. And we spend most of our time in 0:16:24.170 --> 0:16:27.140 chaos helping other people through chaos. So if we can't 0:16:27.140 --> 0:16:30.080 manage our own chaos, how the hell can we help 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:31.220 somebody manage theirs? 0:16:31.250 --> 0:16:32.780 We're chaos managers. 0:16:32.780 --> 0:16:36.050 We're co chaos managers. Um, with that. So I think 0:16:36.050 --> 0:16:38.150 this is like the stuff people want to know about 0:16:38.150 --> 0:16:40.130 the behind the scenes of planning a wedding. I think 0:16:40.130 --> 0:16:44.000 one thing people ask other people often and I wish. 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:44.270 I would. 0:16:44.300 --> 0:16:48.100 Have known is around the involvement that he has in 0:16:48.100 --> 0:16:49.660 the wedding planning process, and I would just like to 0:16:49.660 --> 0:16:54.490 be very clear that, uh, he you think you just have, like, 0:16:54.490 --> 0:16:58.480 these romantic ideas of the person being, like, so interested 0:16:58.510 --> 0:17:03.220 and you both are trying things and picking out the flowers. Brandon, 0:17:03.220 --> 0:17:04.900 I don't think you have. You sat through one wedding 0:17:04.900 --> 0:17:06.730 meeting at this point. Not that I have a bunch 0:17:06.730 --> 0:17:08.470 of them, but I don't think you've been to one. 0:17:08.619 --> 0:17:11.080 Well, I here's what I know from a man's perspective. 0:17:11.109 --> 0:17:12.850 You're going to pick what you want. You're going to 0:17:12.850 --> 0:17:15.040 pick how you want it to be. You're going to 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.290 pick the colors. You're going to pick the flowers. You're 0:17:17.290 --> 0:17:18.520 going to pick the location. 0:17:18.550 --> 0:17:19.090 But like as a. 0:17:19.090 --> 0:17:20.770 Woman, you think that the person is going to be 0:17:20.770 --> 0:17:22.959 really interested, even though I'm going to pick it, of 0:17:22.990 --> 0:17:23.710 course I'm going to pick. 0:17:23.710 --> 0:17:25.660 It. Yeah, so I don't. So I know better than 0:17:25.660 --> 0:17:27.430 to get in your way of having an opinion, but. 0:17:27.430 --> 0:17:28.150 You think that. 0:17:28.180 --> 0:17:30.550 You'd be more interested. And I just want to be clear. 0:17:30.550 --> 0:17:32.980 It's not like you're that interested in the wedding. 0:17:32.980 --> 0:17:34.869 I'm really interested. I can't wait for it. 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:37.210 But I'm not going to get interested. But I'm not. 0:17:37.210 --> 0:17:40.330 Going to get between your decisions and my opinions, because 0:17:40.330 --> 0:17:42.399 I'm a smart enough man to know that that doesn't. 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:42.940 Work either. 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:44.700 Right now to say that. 0:17:44.730 --> 0:17:45.270 Yeah, just. 0:17:45.270 --> 0:17:45.929 I'm trying to. 0:17:45.930 --> 0:17:49.080 Help. I'm trying to help your interest. And there's not 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:49.740 a lot of interest. 0:17:49.830 --> 0:17:51.570 There is interest. Can I tell you I'm going to 0:17:51.570 --> 0:17:54.240 help your female listeners? I'm going to give them a secret. 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:55.440 I'm going to give them a secret. 0:17:55.470 --> 0:17:56.400 Can you give it to me, too? 0:17:56.400 --> 0:17:57.060 I'm so curious. 0:17:57.060 --> 0:17:57.659 I'm going to give it to. 0:17:57.690 --> 0:17:59.159 You, and I'm going to give it to them. Any 0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:03.899 smart man does not throw their opinions between the desires 0:18:03.900 --> 0:18:06.810 and wants of the person they love. While they're planning 0:18:06.810 --> 0:18:11.580 the wedding, all that's going to do is add stress resistance, friction, 0:18:11.580 --> 0:18:14.459 anxiety into the equation. And this is one time I 0:18:14.460 --> 0:18:17.070 don't need to be right. I want her to be right. 0:18:17.070 --> 0:18:19.859 I want her to be happy, and I want her 0:18:19.859 --> 0:18:22.200 to be okay with me taking a back seat, because 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:25.739 normally I drive decisions. But, but and because, you know, 0:18:25.770 --> 0:18:28.320 I'm the man in the relationship. I tell you what 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:31.050 to do. This is all bullshit. But the truth is, 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:33.570 I'm not putting myself between whatever she wants for the 0:18:33.570 --> 0:18:37.740 wedding and my opinion, because that isn't going to create. 0:18:37.770 --> 0:18:39.900 Clearly, you feel a little defensive right now. 0:18:39.930 --> 0:18:40.410 Yeah, because. 0:18:40.410 --> 0:18:41.550 You're putting me on the spot on a. 0:18:41.550 --> 0:18:42.240 Podcast. 0:18:42.570 --> 0:18:46.980 I'm defending every man who allows and takes a back 0:18:47.010 --> 0:18:50.010 seat so that the woman can get exactly what she wants. 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:50.670 Great. 0:18:50.700 --> 0:18:53.760 Well, all the ladies understand exactly what just happened here. 0:18:53.790 --> 0:18:58.050 And could he be. Could he show 25% more interest? Yes. 0:18:58.080 --> 0:19:00.690 Is it okay that he doesn't? Yes, because he is 0:19:00.690 --> 0:19:03.630 very busy doing other things. And I am thankful that 0:19:03.630 --> 0:19:04.949 he is busy doing those other things. 0:19:05.010 --> 0:19:05.369 Can we be. 0:19:05.369 --> 0:19:09.090 Fair, though? I'm spending a lot of energy being interested 0:19:09.090 --> 0:19:10.859 in financing a big part of it. 0:19:10.890 --> 0:19:11.429 Well, yeah, which is what. 0:19:11.430 --> 0:19:13.740 I was going to talk about. So budgeting. But I 0:19:13.740 --> 0:19:17.850 think the second biggest question that people have is like, well, 0:19:18.090 --> 0:19:20.880 how does the dynamic work when it comes to making 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:22.890 spending decisions around the wedding? 0:19:22.890 --> 0:19:25.380 And I think, how does that work? Well. 0:19:25.680 --> 0:19:27.630 The way that it's worked for us is we set 0:19:27.630 --> 0:19:31.139 a budget, and I've gone significantly over budget because of 0:19:31.140 --> 0:19:34.439 all of these changes that keep taking place. And what 0:19:34.440 --> 0:19:37.800 is great about you, however not necessary. Like I go, 0:19:37.830 --> 0:19:40.290 I waffle in between, like canceling the whole thing because 0:19:40.290 --> 0:19:43.130 I think the whole, the whole expense is ridiculous. And 0:19:43.160 --> 0:19:47.570 in going and on the other hand, creating this amazing, 0:19:47.570 --> 0:19:49.340 remarkable event that. 0:19:49.340 --> 0:19:50.810 You don't know that anybody's going to show up to, 0:19:50.840 --> 0:19:52.130 or we're going to have a beach to go to 0:19:52.160 --> 0:19:53.060 or anything else. So it's. 0:19:53.060 --> 0:19:53.600 Kind of like. 0:19:53.630 --> 0:19:56.570 I really have like logically worked my way out of 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:59.630 like needing to have this, like outrageous wedding. 0:19:59.630 --> 0:20:01.969 However, it's going to be outrageous, it'll be. 0:20:01.970 --> 0:20:05.390 Beautiful and it'll be spectacular. But from a budgeting standpoint, 0:20:05.390 --> 0:20:08.390 I think if I was giving somebody tips around this, 0:20:08.420 --> 0:20:10.940 it would be to figure out what you want to 0:20:10.940 --> 0:20:13.909 spend and what you're willing, like the percentage of how 0:20:13.910 --> 0:20:15.740 much you're willing to go over, because it's kind of 0:20:15.770 --> 0:20:17.869 like a house, like you will end up going over. 0:20:17.869 --> 0:20:18.739 And you might as well. 0:20:18.740 --> 0:20:20.660 Acknowledge that on the front end. So you're not adding 0:20:20.660 --> 0:20:24.050 stress and complaining or bitching. Set your budget. Give yourself 0:20:24.050 --> 0:20:28.280 a 20%, 25% wiggle room. All I'm going to say 0:20:28.280 --> 0:20:33.020 is there's just no value in creating stress. And that's 0:20:33.020 --> 0:20:35.360 one thing that I like. I try not to say, oh, well, 0:20:35.359 --> 0:20:37.310 what about this or that? Because I want it to 0:20:37.310 --> 0:20:40.669 be perfect. I set the budget with you and you're 0:20:40.670 --> 0:20:42.590 doing the best job you can to work within the budget. 0:20:42.590 --> 0:20:47.359 But I don't want to have conflict leading up to 0:20:47.390 --> 0:20:49.730 the wedding, and I don't want to have conflict afterwards. 0:20:49.730 --> 0:20:51.530 And for some of you, you might say, well, that's 0:20:51.530 --> 0:20:53.570 easy for you to do because you guys have a 0:20:53.600 --> 0:20:55.280 lot of money or you make a lot of money. 0:20:56.420 --> 0:20:58.970 You got to be responsible for setting the bar. You know, 0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:02.270 like my kids got married on my property. They still 0:21:02.270 --> 0:21:05.120 had a budget and they operated within the budget. So 0:21:05.119 --> 0:21:07.399 what I would say to people is pick your lane, 0:21:07.400 --> 0:21:12.470 stay in your lane and don't don't use that stress. 0:21:12.500 --> 0:21:14.960 If you go a little over a little under to 0:21:14.990 --> 0:21:17.510 distract from the whole reason you're you're going to marry 0:21:17.510 --> 0:21:18.770 in the first place. We want to live the rest 0:21:18.770 --> 0:21:21.230 of our life together. Yeah. And and. 0:21:21.230 --> 0:21:22.250 And create confidence. 0:21:22.250 --> 0:21:22.909 In each other. 0:21:22.940 --> 0:21:24.109 And create confidence in each other as. 0:21:24.260 --> 0:21:27.740 To what we're spending more on versus less on. The 0:21:27.740 --> 0:21:31.490 things that are important to me are like the experiences 0:21:31.490 --> 0:21:31.760 that are. 0:21:31.760 --> 0:21:32.209 Created, the. 0:21:32.210 --> 0:21:33.350 Party. 0:21:33.380 --> 0:21:35.840 Yeah. So like I want a photographer there for the 0:21:35.869 --> 0:21:37.580 guests to be able to take photos so that we 0:21:37.580 --> 0:21:40.000 can have these photos for a very long time. 0:21:40.030 --> 0:21:40.929 How about forever? 0:21:40.960 --> 0:21:42.340 Forever and. 0:21:42.520 --> 0:21:43.240 For my. Ever. 0:21:43.270 --> 0:21:45.460 My ever is not very long. Your ever is a 0:21:45.460 --> 0:21:46.000 long time. 0:21:46.119 --> 0:21:48.970 So stuff like this. Forever. 0:21:48.970 --> 0:21:52.210 Ever. Another thing that we're spending on is like a house. 0:21:52.210 --> 0:21:55.420 To be able to have people in and be able 0:21:55.420 --> 0:21:57.760 to spend time like that was a that's a big 0:21:57.790 --> 0:22:02.560 expense in the P and L of our wedding. However, 0:22:03.220 --> 0:22:05.619 the balance sheet of our wedding, however, like that's really 0:22:05.619 --> 0:22:07.389 important to us, is to be able to be around 0:22:07.390 --> 0:22:10.419 the people that we are inviting there. As it's a 0:22:10.420 --> 0:22:12.520 destination wedding, we don't want to be going off into 0:22:12.520 --> 0:22:15.430 separate places. So it's just stuff like that where I'm 0:22:15.430 --> 0:22:19.270 cutting things out that don't add value to the experience 0:22:19.270 --> 0:22:23.080 that's actually taking place. All right. What was else on 0:22:23.080 --> 0:22:28.540 my list? Is he interested? Venues. The last name okay. 0:22:30.400 --> 0:22:32.380 We've gone round and round about the last name. 0:22:32.530 --> 0:22:33.639 No, she has, I haven't. 0:22:34.210 --> 0:22:36.820 Well, I tried to convince him to change his last name. 0:22:36.850 --> 0:22:37.630 Yeah, we knew that. 0:22:37.630 --> 0:22:38.859 Wasn't going to work after the first. 0:22:38.859 --> 0:22:39.310 Day? 0:22:39.340 --> 0:22:41.919 I just here's my thing, guys. I love my last name. 0:22:41.920 --> 0:22:42.430 It has nothing. 0:22:42.520 --> 0:22:43.449 I love her last name too. 0:22:43.600 --> 0:22:45.969 It's not even like a I'm not trying to be 0:22:45.970 --> 0:22:47.920 like a woman and, like, keep my last name. It's 0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:50.500 just because I love the last name Workman. And I 0:22:50.500 --> 0:22:52.869 think it's a strong last name. My podcast, the show 0:22:52.900 --> 0:22:55.600 is called Work Woman because of my last name. And 0:22:55.600 --> 0:22:58.120 I've launching a book coming up. It has the word 0:22:58.119 --> 0:23:00.250 work in it because of my last name, and so 0:23:00.250 --> 0:23:03.520 that's been difficult for me. But I am going to 0:23:03.520 --> 0:23:07.660 become a Dawson. Did you know this? Have we talked 0:23:07.660 --> 0:23:07.930 about this? 0:23:08.260 --> 0:23:10.900 No. We're finding this is this is this is like 0:23:10.900 --> 0:23:13.719 a breaking news, like I because here's the thing I 0:23:13.720 --> 0:23:16.600 don't have I think there's nothing wrong with you having 0:23:16.600 --> 0:23:19.300 Natalie Workman Dawson or like, I didn't. 0:23:19.300 --> 0:23:19.510 Think. 0:23:20.170 --> 0:23:22.869 I didn't even think there was anything wrong with with 0:23:22.900 --> 0:23:27.250 you keeping your your name. I like it because everyone 0:23:27.250 --> 0:23:30.580 calls me Mr. Workman. I mean, we check every restaurant. 0:23:30.790 --> 0:23:31.990 This is used to. Not like this. 0:23:31.990 --> 0:23:34.930 No, no, but I love it now because I'm, like, incognito. 0:23:34.960 --> 0:23:37.600 Whenever we walk up to a restaurant, they're like, Mr. Workman. Mrs. 0:23:37.600 --> 0:23:39.840 Workman will show you because she makes all the reservations. 0:23:40.080 --> 0:23:41.700 So everything is under workman. So we come. 0:23:41.700 --> 0:23:42.360 In, really piss. 0:23:42.359 --> 0:23:42.690 Him off. 0:23:42.960 --> 0:23:43.860 I mean, like workman. 0:23:43.890 --> 0:23:44.760 I mean, can't you use. 0:23:44.760 --> 0:23:46.980 My open table account to book the reservation. 0:23:47.010 --> 0:23:48.869 Which I never even had an open table account. I 0:23:48.869 --> 0:23:51.840 have no technology that has my name on it. She 0:23:51.840 --> 0:23:54.900 loads everything for me. Six years or seven years, however 0:23:54.900 --> 0:23:57.780 long I've been called Mr. Workman everywhere I go. And 0:23:57.780 --> 0:24:01.320 so the running joke in the Workman family is we're 0:24:01.320 --> 0:24:02.220 all workman's. 0:24:03.000 --> 0:24:05.760 I like that. Well, so should I take my decision back? 0:24:05.880 --> 0:24:08.370 No, because I'm not gonna. I'm not changing my last name. 0:24:08.369 --> 0:24:09.600 But you could be, should I? 0:24:09.810 --> 0:24:10.170 You could. 0:24:10.380 --> 0:24:12.510 I was just about to say I was gonna do Dawson, like. 0:24:13.020 --> 0:24:13.800 Natalie Dawson's. 0:24:13.830 --> 0:24:14.310 A gorgeous. 0:24:14.310 --> 0:24:15.120 Name, but then. 0:24:15.119 --> 0:24:16.620 I drop, so I drop work for. 0:24:16.650 --> 0:24:17.340 Work. Well, why don't. 0:24:17.340 --> 0:24:18.720 You, Natalie? Work? 0:24:18.930 --> 0:24:21.330 I think it's Dawson. I'll keep you guys posted. 0:24:21.359 --> 0:24:24.270 Like you'll know very shortly what the decision is, but 0:24:24.270 --> 0:24:26.160 I think it's confusing for other people. This has been. 0:24:26.160 --> 0:24:31.379 The deliberation is I could hyphenate the last name, but then, like, 0:24:31.410 --> 0:24:33.810 why not just, like, go all in on the relationship, like, 0:24:33.840 --> 0:24:34.500 I'm not hedging. 0:24:34.560 --> 0:24:35.070 Well, I don't think. 0:24:35.070 --> 0:24:37.670 The last name. I don't think not having the. Maybe 0:24:37.670 --> 0:24:40.280 this is a poll you should do with your audience. 0:24:40.280 --> 0:24:45.050 I personally don't feel attacked if you hyphenated your name. 0:24:45.050 --> 0:24:48.200 If you if it was Natalie, because you have a brand, 0:24:48.200 --> 0:24:51.830 you have a brand that you're building around work woman 0:24:52.130 --> 0:24:55.490 maybe you just keep the work woman brand in in. 0:24:55.490 --> 0:24:57.260 When people ask you where did you come up with that? 0:24:57.290 --> 0:24:59.989 You explain it to them, but I wouldn't be offended. 0:25:00.200 --> 0:25:04.790 Okay, well, I'll keep you guys posted on this with that. 0:25:04.820 --> 0:25:07.310 This has been quite the. Well, thank. 0:25:07.310 --> 0:25:10.879 You for having me on your show again. And and 0:25:10.940 --> 0:25:15.200 I hope that everyone that's listening to this realizes that 0:25:15.200 --> 0:25:19.100 shit happens, and it's how you choose to react to 0:25:19.130 --> 0:25:21.590 it that defines you as a person. 0:25:22.490 --> 0:25:24.500 We would also love to see you at a ten 0:25:24.530 --> 0:25:27.409 x 360 event at the first, of course, ten x 0:25:27.440 --> 0:25:29.570 360 event as a married couple. 0:25:29.600 --> 0:25:31.310 And for those that were seeing at the wedding, we 0:25:31.310 --> 0:25:32.630 cannot wait to see you. 0:25:32.660 --> 0:25:36.560 It is happening the weekend after the weekend of the 10th. 0:25:36.560 --> 0:25:38.060 So that is October. 0:25:38.060 --> 0:25:39.139 17th, 18th. 0:25:39.170 --> 0:25:41.510 17th and 18th. We're having a ten x 360 in 0:25:41.510 --> 0:25:43.400 Miami as the official. 0:25:43.430 --> 0:25:44.150 And trust me. 0:25:44.420 --> 0:25:47.030 Trust me, there will be a party there too. 0:25:47.060 --> 0:25:47.660 Oh, there will for. 0:25:47.660 --> 0:25:50.480 Sure be a party. How will you introduce me? My. 0:25:50.510 --> 0:25:51.980 I don't know yet. You have to decide. 0:25:51.980 --> 0:25:55.609 My wife, Mrs. Dawson. Yeah, crazy. If you're interested in 0:25:55.640 --> 0:25:57.859 that event, which you should be very interested. If you're 0:25:57.859 --> 0:26:01.130 a business owner, go to Cardone Ventures. Dot com forward 0:26:01.130 --> 0:26:05.030 slash ten x 360. And we would love to get 0:26:05.030 --> 0:26:05.960 you signed up. 0:26:06.080 --> 0:26:08.030 And for all of those that we'll be seeing at 0:26:08.030 --> 0:26:10.310 our wedding, thank you for loving us. Oh. 0:26:10.940 --> 0:26:13.970 Wow. Okay. Well we appreciate you guys. Thank you for listening. 0:26:13.970 --> 0:26:18.260 If you haven't already shared this episode, please do. And 0:26:18.260 --> 0:26:21.470 I can hardly wait to see you guys next week. 0:26:21.530 --> 0:26:23.929 Thanks for having me on the work Woman show. 0:26:23.960 --> 0:26:24.590 Hey. You're welcome.