WEBVTT - Creating Success with Elena Cardone 0:00:08.400 --> 0:00:13.020 Welcome back to Building Billions. This is a true treat 0:00:13.020 --> 0:00:17.100 for me because a little backstory on this guest. I 0:00:17.100 --> 0:00:19.380 fell in love with this woman before she knew who 0:00:19.380 --> 0:00:22.470 I was and was determined to make her my friend 0:00:22.470 --> 0:00:26.070 and stalked every YouTube video, read every book, watched every 0:00:26.070 --> 0:00:28.470 social post before I got the pleasure of meeting her 0:00:28.470 --> 0:00:30.570 in person and the very first request I had for 0:00:30.570 --> 0:00:33.150 her when I met her in person was, Will you 0:00:33.150 --> 0:00:35.580 be on my podcast? And at the time I had 0:00:35.580 --> 0:00:38.490 no podcast listeners. I had never hosted a show with 0:00:38.490 --> 0:00:41.370 a guest, and I had her on my podcast five 0:00:41.370 --> 0:00:44.280 years ago, and this is the second time that she's 0:00:44.280 --> 0:00:46.530 been on my podcast, and now we are in a 0:00:46.530 --> 0:00:50.129 new unit of time because she has entirely changed my 0:00:50.130 --> 0:00:52.650 life over the last five years, and big been my 0:00:52.650 --> 0:00:57.630 biggest mentor, my biggest role model, my biggest cheerleader, and 0:00:57.630 --> 0:01:01.050 she is the queen of supporting other women. So with that, 0:01:01.050 --> 0:01:03.600 Alana Cardone, I am so happy to have you on 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:04.260 this show. 0:01:04.260 --> 0:01:08.160 Thank you. You like fun to be here. It's gonna be. 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:10.890 Fun. I'm excited to ask you all of the things, 0:01:10.890 --> 0:01:14.340 because when I look back on the previous episode for 0:01:14.340 --> 0:01:17.040 the podcast, I had no idea who I was. I 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:19.200 was just figuring out where I wanted to take. 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:20.970 Yeah, you were 25 years old. Yep. 0:01:20.970 --> 0:01:22.830 I was all about the age gap. And I asked 0:01:22.830 --> 0:01:25.800 you a lot of questions about your age gap because 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:28.800 I didn't see value in myself being able to actually 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:32.160 create business content because I didn't have stats. And that's 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.230 something that you told me when I asked you about this. 0:01:34.230 --> 0:01:37.170 You said you need to get stats in your division 0:01:37.170 --> 0:01:39.450 so that you can talk about those things. And you 0:01:39.450 --> 0:01:42.240 told me you're not married yet, so why would I 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:43.890 listen to you for relationship advice? I don't know if 0:01:43.890 --> 0:01:45.929 you remember telling me 1,000,000%. 0:01:45.930 --> 0:01:47.640 Remember telling you this. Yep. 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:48.600 So can you. 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:51.060 So I said that you did. Why? You're not even married. 0:01:51.060 --> 0:01:52.710 Why would I think I would listen to you for 0:01:52.710 --> 0:01:53.880 relationship advice? Right? 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:56.910 I was asking for your advice and guidance. Did I say. 0:01:56.910 --> 0:01:58.140 This on the podcast? 0:01:58.140 --> 0:01:59.820 You did not say this on the podcast. You said 0:01:59.820 --> 0:02:00.780 this separately. 0:02:00.810 --> 0:02:05.520 At least I have some sense. Some filter. Yes, you are. 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:08.400 Too kind and gracious to say it on the podcast. 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:11.340 And I would have been horrified, but also really would 0:02:11.340 --> 0:02:14.370 have loved to have that video or that moment on video. 0:02:14.370 --> 0:02:18.180 But could you walk a viewer or a listener through 0:02:18.180 --> 0:02:22.380 this concept of why stats are important in the stats 0:02:22.380 --> 0:02:25.560 that you've achieved in your life, that make you really 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:28.350 confident and proud of the woman that you are today? 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:32.880 Oh well, um, you know, because today we live in 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:37.260 the social media aspect, and that wasn't around in the 0:02:37.260 --> 0:02:40.410 very beginning of when Grant and I were building this thing. 0:02:40.410 --> 0:02:43.080 But I looked around and why the stats matter so 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:47.519 much is because I see so many self-proclaimed experts here 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:51.330 and there and and it's just, oh, how do you 0:02:51.330 --> 0:02:55.140 filter through? Because they can make everything look so great. Oh, 0:02:55.139 --> 0:02:57.570 I posed here or I'm here, I'm this. And they 0:02:57.570 --> 0:03:01.410 can you can fabricate and make yourself look to be 0:03:01.410 --> 0:03:05.850 more accomplished than you really are. And it's misleading. And 0:03:05.850 --> 0:03:10.800 so for me, um, the stats don't lie. So when 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:13.620 you build stats it does a number of different things. 0:03:13.650 --> 0:03:16.260 A when you build the stats for yourself, you're building 0:03:16.260 --> 0:03:20.610 your own self-respect, you're building your own confidence. Plus you're 0:03:20.610 --> 0:03:26.130 building something that nobody can dispute. So no matter how 0:03:26.130 --> 0:03:28.770 many people want to be prejudiced against me because of 0:03:28.770 --> 0:03:33.330 my religion, or because I'm a woman, or because I'm white, 0:03:33.660 --> 0:03:38.610 or because I'm heterosexual. Pick your pick of how many 0:03:38.610 --> 0:03:42.990 ways somebody could, or because of my political preference. You 0:03:42.990 --> 0:03:46.320 can pick all of that apart, but the stats don't lie. 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:49.920 So we always say rack the stats. You got to 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:53.640 rack the stats because no one, no one can touch those. 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:56.760 You can criticize me for a number of other things, 0:03:56.760 --> 0:04:00.120 but you can't criticize me when I have on my 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:03.240 stats because the stats don't lie so good. 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:07.050 Yeah, and you're confident because you have your confidence. 0:04:07.050 --> 0:04:11.220 Because they're real. Yeah. Like, you know, it's you can't fake, 0:04:11.220 --> 0:04:13.920 as Grant says, you you can fake a Ferrari. You 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:17.580 can't fake a jet. Now, I'm not trying to be braggadocious. Oh, 0:04:17.580 --> 0:04:19.890 we have a jet. It's just that is a whole 0:04:19.890 --> 0:04:24.210 nother level playing field. And we've worked really hard for that. 0:04:24.210 --> 0:04:27.870 And so that jet symbolizes a lot more to me 0:04:27.870 --> 0:04:29.700 than just look at me. I have a jet and 0:04:29.700 --> 0:04:33.420 you don't. Some people will criticize and they will see 0:04:33.420 --> 0:04:36.270 that and think that's what we're doing when we say 0:04:36.270 --> 0:04:39.510 Jets or this or that or why we show that stuff. 0:04:39.510 --> 0:04:43.650 So a lot of wealthy people in our circumstances, um, 0:04:43.650 --> 0:04:46.680 shut down those doors and they, they think it's crass 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:50.400 and low class to show stuff like that. While Grant 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.620 and I aren't trying to be anything other than what 0:04:52.620 --> 0:04:55.800 we are, but the reason why we show those jets 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:59.969 is to show that everyday people like how we started 0:04:59.970 --> 0:05:03.150 in the beginning. Years can make it. And it's not 0:05:03.150 --> 0:05:05.970 only for the elitists. And if you're willing to do 0:05:05.970 --> 0:05:09.090 the work and you know how to avoid enough wrong 0:05:09.089 --> 0:05:12.690 mistakes and decisions, then you too could be on the 0:05:12.690 --> 0:05:15.540 path to having and creating the life that you want 0:05:15.540 --> 0:05:17.880 as well. But it took a lot of work and 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:21.060 a lot of sacrifice. And so I'm not going to 0:05:21.060 --> 0:05:25.890 apologize from crawling from where I did, which I feel 0:05:25.890 --> 0:05:29.280 was in the muck, crawling out of that, crawling up. 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:32.160 And to be where I am now. I'm, you know, 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:35.190 I'm not willing to settle for less, and I'm not 0:05:35.190 --> 0:05:38.700 willing to have anyone just have a right into our 0:05:38.700 --> 0:05:42.659 lives just because they're entitled to it. I worked hard, 0:05:42.660 --> 0:05:44.730 and I want to protect what I have and what 0:05:44.730 --> 0:05:48.030 I built and the people around me and and that's 0:05:48.029 --> 0:05:51.390 that's just that's just come over time. And I paid 0:05:51.390 --> 0:05:54.359 the price for that. No one can take that away 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:57.900 from me. You know, again, I don't want to talk 0:05:57.900 --> 0:06:00.870 too long. I don't want to run this this show. 0:06:00.870 --> 0:06:01.410 This is your. 0:06:01.410 --> 0:06:03.240 Show. This is your world. I'm just living in it, 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:04.770 taking notes over here. 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.700 But, yeah, a lot of people say, you know, what 0:06:08.700 --> 0:06:11.250 would you do if they took away all of your money? 0:06:11.550 --> 0:06:14.490 And I wouldn't like it, but I know it wouldn't 0:06:14.490 --> 0:06:17.550 take me and Grant as long the second time as 0:06:17.550 --> 0:06:20.190 it did the first time, because you can't take away 0:06:20.190 --> 0:06:22.770 what I've already been through. You can't take away the 0:06:22.770 --> 0:06:26.760 street cred. You can't take away my integrity, my confidence, 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:31.710 the people that I've met, the skills that we've learned, the, 0:06:31.710 --> 0:06:34.770 you know, everything that we've been through, how to identify 0:06:34.770 --> 0:06:38.250 red flags and toxic people and this and that. So 0:06:38.250 --> 0:06:40.200 none of that you can ever take away from me. 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:42.570 So you know, it's yours. 0:06:42.570 --> 0:06:43.320 Yeah. You've earned. 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.470 It. That's right. And I'm not perfect yet. 0:06:46.980 --> 0:06:49.740 I don't know, I've I've spent a lot of time 0:06:49.740 --> 0:06:53.640 around you and I have yet to come across a flaw. 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.279 I think I'm I've always said this. I'm your biggest 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:58.440 fan and biggest cheerleader and feel like you are just 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:01.830 the most magical person on this planet. So I'm honored 0:07:01.830 --> 0:07:04.140 to be able to learn from you. And I think 0:07:04.140 --> 0:07:07.140 about where I was coming from five years ago in 0:07:07.140 --> 0:07:10.530 learning from you and really having you hit me with 0:07:10.530 --> 0:07:13.320 hard truth around. You weren't telling me that I didn't 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:17.070 have stats, but I didn't have stats in this area 0:07:17.070 --> 0:07:20.100 that I was, I guess, starting to talk about and 0:07:20.100 --> 0:07:23.970 hadn't really put those things together. So when we're talking 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:26.910 to this audience, this listener who's maybe driving in their 0:07:26.910 --> 0:07:30.060 car right now or on a walk trying to figure 0:07:30.060 --> 0:07:34.470 out what stats to get, do you have any guidance 0:07:34.470 --> 0:07:38.700 around where somebody should start with getting stats, like, how 0:07:38.700 --> 0:07:40.350 do you go about doing that? 0:07:40.590 --> 0:07:44.280 You should ask yourself, how did you go about getting started? 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:46.470 But it's not my this is not my episode. This 0:07:46.470 --> 0:07:50.310 is your episode. Do you want me to say I can? Sure, sure. Yeah. Well, 0:07:50.310 --> 0:07:53.130 at the time when we were starting the business, it 0:07:53.130 --> 0:07:55.710 was right when Cardinal Ventures was starting. And so I chose, 0:07:55.710 --> 0:08:01.620 instead of being in a relationship, podcast and content creation mode, 0:08:01.620 --> 0:08:04.920 it's like I don't have the expertise of scaling businesses, 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:07.710 because the last one that I was working in didn't 0:08:07.710 --> 0:08:09.450 end up as a success. There was a lot of 0:08:09.450 --> 0:08:12.240 failure there, but I can get stats in the things 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.520 that I'm responsible for. And at the time, as we 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:17.580 were growing Cardone Ventures, I was responsible for the people. 0:08:17.580 --> 0:08:19.920 I was responsible for hiring them, for onboarding them, for 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:23.490 training them. And I couldn't take credit for every other 0:08:23.490 --> 0:08:25.920 part of our business. But I could take credit for 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:27.780 what was happening with our team and the growth of 0:08:27.780 --> 0:08:29.760 our team and I. That's why I wrote the book 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:32.640 about that, because I had the stats of hiring those 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:37.140 team members, onboarding them, training them, retaining them, promoting them, 0:08:37.140 --> 0:08:39.660 and developing them. So that's where I got my stats, 0:08:39.660 --> 0:08:41.910 and I really focused on those areas to kind of 0:08:41.910 --> 0:08:44.369 carve in my little piece of. 0:08:45.380 --> 0:08:49.880 The stats, right? And so when I first saw you 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:53.630 at that phase, um, when you were 25 and you 0:08:53.630 --> 0:08:59.000 were asking me so many questions, I thought to myself, um, 0:09:00.230 --> 0:09:03.380 I never even knew. At 25, I never knew the 0:09:03.380 --> 0:09:06.829 person that I thought I could ask that to and be. 0:09:06.830 --> 0:09:08.840 I wouldn't have known how to ask those questions. And 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:13.490 you ask really smart, intelligent questions. You've all you've always 0:09:13.490 --> 0:09:18.650 come across highly able, capable, intelligent. Which is probably why 0:09:18.650 --> 0:09:21.470 I told you the truth. At that time, I remember 0:09:21.470 --> 0:09:24.470 you were like you had your Instagram, the 25 year 0:09:24.470 --> 0:09:26.540 age gap. I'm like, where are we going with this? 0:09:26.570 --> 0:09:30.199 It makes no sense. I am not relatable. I've got 15. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.870 I thought I was like, you know, killing it, but 0:09:32.870 --> 0:09:34.910 where do you go with this? How many people do 0:09:34.910 --> 0:09:37.550 you meet have a 25 year gap that's going to 0:09:37.550 --> 0:09:39.500 relate to this? I was like, what is the story? 0:09:39.500 --> 0:09:42.470 I don't get it. Yeah. And then when you were, 0:09:42.500 --> 0:09:44.390 you know, you were kind of like, I don't know, 0:09:44.390 --> 0:09:47.330 Brandon's the person and I don't know where I'm like, dude, 0:09:47.330 --> 0:09:53.059 find your place, make your mark and go. And you, 0:09:53.059 --> 0:09:56.750 unlike a lot of other people that have come or 0:09:56.750 --> 0:10:01.640 ask questions, you actually implement everything. It's astounding. I've never 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:05.570 met anyone like you that just really absorbs data and 0:10:05.570 --> 0:10:09.829 really implements it. And I mean, you've turned this. I mean, 0:10:09.830 --> 0:10:13.220 you were just so magnificent. I read your book. I 0:10:13.220 --> 0:10:16.790 love your book. You do a certain area that I've 0:10:16.790 --> 0:10:20.150 never done. I do different things. I don't talk about that. 0:10:20.150 --> 0:10:26.360 I don't do that. So it's very, so rewarding to 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:29.930 be on this side, reading your book, highlighting your book 0:10:29.929 --> 0:10:34.160 and actually implementing your strategy in my domain and in 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:37.880 my sphere of ten ladies. And what I'm growing, this 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:42.530 whole this whole arm in the card own training technologies 0:10:42.530 --> 0:10:46.400 bubble or umbrella, I should say. So, you know, you've 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:50.180 made me just really, really proud. And I'm super excited 0:10:50.179 --> 0:10:52.730 as to who you are and what you've what you're 0:10:52.850 --> 0:10:55.640 turning out to be. I mean, you aren't like, I 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:56.750 don't want to be like the gush. 0:10:56.780 --> 0:10:57.050 Yeah. 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:01.370 But like, but but I'm at a point in my 0:11:01.370 --> 0:11:07.550 life now I hit 50. And you know, we're successful. 0:11:08.390 --> 0:11:12.140 And I'm at a point now where I have the 0:11:12.140 --> 0:11:16.010 stat of being the woman behind the man beside the man. However, 0:11:16.010 --> 0:11:20.000 people like to call. That doesn't matter to me, but 0:11:20.540 --> 0:11:23.390 I now want to look at those strengths that I've 0:11:23.390 --> 0:11:27.500 fought for so long, which is kind of infrastructure, mindset 0:11:27.500 --> 0:11:31.400 and support. That's where I feel like I really contributed 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:34.880 to the to the motion of the Empire. Grant actually 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:39.050 physically built it and but that was my area. I 0:11:39.050 --> 0:11:42.710 don't know if that's scalable because I obviously I'm not 0:11:42.710 --> 0:11:46.130 going to be married to, you know, millions of other men. 0:11:46.130 --> 0:11:50.420 I promise you that. But what became more important to 0:11:50.420 --> 0:11:54.890 me at this point in my life is, well, can 0:11:54.890 --> 0:12:00.110 I be the woman behind the women? So I'm on 0:12:00.110 --> 0:12:02.449 a new career path, if you want to call it that, 0:12:02.450 --> 0:12:06.739 or life's mission path, spiritual journey. I want to be 0:12:06.740 --> 0:12:09.920 the I want to build women so they can build 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:14.840 their empire by bringing mindset, infrastructure and support. Because I 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:18.410 believe women have the ability to not only have their 0:12:18.410 --> 0:12:21.590 own power, but they also have a very big power 0:12:21.590 --> 0:12:25.460 to influence the men who sometimes make decisions in their 0:12:25.460 --> 0:12:28.640 careers or jobs or post. So I feel like women 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:33.980 are extremely powerful because women influence themselves. They influence the men, 0:12:33.980 --> 0:12:37.250 they influence the children, they influence the community. And if 0:12:37.250 --> 0:12:42.110 we actually started really owning that power on a magnitude level, 0:12:42.110 --> 0:12:45.410 I feel we can change the trajectory of this world 0:12:45.410 --> 0:12:48.859 and make it a better place. So, um, so anyway, 0:12:48.860 --> 0:12:53.420 just to see you in five years, do a 180 0:12:53.420 --> 0:12:58.939 in your life. Um, it's like a spiritual deposit in 0:12:58.940 --> 0:12:59.870 my bank account. 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.920 I've always thought I want to be your best student. 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:07.010 That's been, like, literally a goal of mine is how 0:13:07.010 --> 0:13:10.699 do I actually implement what you're talking about and not 0:13:10.700 --> 0:13:13.190 be a waste of your time or Grant's time? And 0:13:13.190 --> 0:13:16.190 so that is a very beautiful acknowledgement. And I appreciate 0:13:16.190 --> 0:13:18.920 you for saying that, because I still to this day 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:21.290 watch you and had a team member as we were 0:13:21.290 --> 0:13:24.260 driving over here is preparing for this podcast. She I said, 0:13:24.260 --> 0:13:26.059 if you were listening to Elena, what would you want 0:13:26.059 --> 0:13:29.660 to hear? And she said, why does Elena show up 0:13:29.660 --> 0:13:32.870 to the office every day and do what she's doing 0:13:32.870 --> 0:13:35.990 when she does not have to? Like, why do you 0:13:35.990 --> 0:13:38.900 do this? And you just mentioned spiritual legacy play. You 0:13:38.900 --> 0:13:42.140 just mentioned a pivot in your career. Can you give 0:13:42.140 --> 0:13:44.809 like a little bit more of the behind the scenes on. 0:13:45.050 --> 0:13:48.260 The why you show up, even though there is nothing 0:13:48.260 --> 0:13:52.010 that forces you to show up for a paycheck or 0:13:52.010 --> 0:13:54.710 for a job, because you could do anything that you 0:13:54.710 --> 0:13:56.630 want to be doing right now, and yet you choose 0:13:56.630 --> 0:13:57.740 to show up, right? 0:13:57.890 --> 0:14:01.700 As much as I love money and I want that 0:14:01.700 --> 0:14:04.460 to go on the record, I value money. I think 0:14:04.460 --> 0:14:07.730 it's very healthy. I want other people to have money. 0:14:07.730 --> 0:14:13.970 But why? I'm here every day, um, when I'm assuming 0:14:13.970 --> 0:14:16.010 people are thinking I don't have to be here because 0:14:16.010 --> 0:14:18.950 I have money and I can't be here, but that 0:14:18.950 --> 0:14:23.390 doesn't fulfill me. What fulfills me now in life is 0:14:23.390 --> 0:14:26.270 I have stats, I have things that I figured out. 0:14:26.270 --> 0:14:30.230 I have information that I feel could help other people 0:14:30.230 --> 0:14:34.400 if they wanted to see what we did to become successful. 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:38.480 I want to be transparent. My purpose in life is 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:43.190 I want to empower women, protect children and restore the 0:14:43.190 --> 0:14:47.540 family unit on the planet. So I'm driven by that. 0:14:47.540 --> 0:14:52.100 I'm I want to make that spiritual legacy for myself. 0:14:52.100 --> 0:14:54.800 I want to make a difference. I want my life 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:57.590 to have been more than just, oh, I made money 0:14:57.590 --> 0:14:59.720 and happy and flew around on jets and got to 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.090 see the world. You know, I love all of that. 0:15:02.090 --> 0:15:05.030 Those are the rewards. But I want to be like, hey, 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:09.980 I came into Natalie's life. I said something, I put 0:15:09.980 --> 0:15:12.440 she she went, she was doing this and kind of 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:14.600 maybe and not know, she might have figured it out 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:18.080 15 years from that point. But she didn't. She figured 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:21.200 it out right then and went on another path. So 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:25.760 that to me is more satisfying than just staying home. 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:29.510 And I don't know what. Before I had money, I 0:15:29.510 --> 0:15:32.870 always imagined that rich people just was on beaches drinking 0:15:32.870 --> 0:15:37.520 pina coladas, you know? So that won't make me happy 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:41.060 every day. Making me happy every day is hearing success 0:15:41.060 --> 0:15:43.970 stories or seeing, oh wow, I did make a difference. 0:15:44.150 --> 0:15:44.780 You know, you're. 0:15:44.780 --> 0:15:47.570 Really changing people's lives. Yeah. So when you think about 0:15:47.570 --> 0:15:52.760 changing people's lives and your desire to do this, when 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.940 you look back at yourself and you think about where 0:15:55.940 --> 0:15:59.210 you started and maybe the lack of confidence that you had, 0:15:59.210 --> 0:16:02.150 what tip could you give somebody who is trying to 0:16:02.150 --> 0:16:06.650 build self-confidence and trying to just, like, change the direction 0:16:06.650 --> 0:16:08.720 of their life? I've watched you do this many times, 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:12.680 even like your growth con speech three years ago at 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.650 the Turnberry where you had like your your hair. I 0:16:15.650 --> 0:16:18.050 just remember your hair and your dress was just like 0:16:18.050 --> 0:16:21.230 that bomb on. Do you remember the two? Yes. And 0:16:21.230 --> 0:16:24.140 you were so vulnerable with the audience about you learning 0:16:24.140 --> 0:16:27.050 the real estate game and you figuring out your real 0:16:27.050 --> 0:16:29.810 estate test to get your license and you, like, were 0:16:29.810 --> 0:16:32.990 crying just a little bit about just the the thoughts 0:16:32.990 --> 0:16:34.970 you had as a kid that you weren't smart, just 0:16:34.970 --> 0:16:38.780 how you've managed to get to be this person today, 0:16:38.780 --> 0:16:43.130 who is confident, who can show up and represent herself 0:16:43.130 --> 0:16:46.820 and be this incredible woman. But 20 years ago or 0:16:46.820 --> 0:16:49.610 30 years ago, or even moments where you're pivoting as 0:16:49.610 --> 0:16:51.680 recent as a few years ago, how do you get 0:16:51.680 --> 0:16:55.820 that confidence to make those pivots and become that next 0:16:55.820 --> 0:16:57.050 version of yourself? 0:16:57.050 --> 0:17:02.720 Well, for me, it's discipline and consistency and doing what 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:05.600 you say you're going to do, and it takes time. 0:17:05.900 --> 0:17:08.659 And I started off with doing the little things that 0:17:08.660 --> 0:17:12.980 I could control, um, and setting out with small little 0:17:12.980 --> 0:17:16.700 targets and just hitting them every day consistently. So that 0:17:16.700 --> 0:17:20.720 helps to build confidence. Um, doing it any way, doing 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:26.359 it scared all helps to build confidence. Um, but I'm 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:30.260 never I've never hit this thing where still in my 0:17:30.260 --> 0:17:33.710 life today where I just go, oh, I have full 0:17:33.710 --> 0:17:36.260 confidence and I'm going to be great. I mean, I 0:17:36.260 --> 0:17:40.760 have to tell myself that, and I have to do 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:45.560 it anyway, but I've never had that yet. You know. 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.659 Still today, you don't feel like you have that showing 0:17:47.660 --> 0:17:51.620 up to a presentation or doing all of the amazing. 0:17:51.619 --> 0:17:55.700 Photoshoots. I trust myself that I'm going to deliver because 0:17:55.700 --> 0:17:57.710 I do, and I always show up and I always 0:17:57.710 --> 0:18:00.950 deliver so I can trust myself. But I still have 0:18:00.950 --> 0:18:03.230 fear that this is going to be the time that 0:18:03.230 --> 0:18:05.990 I don't show up and I don't deliver. Those fears 0:18:05.990 --> 0:18:08.330 still exist. This is this going to be the time? 0:18:08.330 --> 0:18:10.550 I don't know what the hell I'm doing, you know, 0:18:10.550 --> 0:18:13.369 as I'm trying to do bigger challenges and reach my 0:18:13.369 --> 0:18:15.650 and stretch myself, is this going to be the thing 0:18:15.650 --> 0:18:17.930 I'm going to fail at? Can I do this? I 0:18:17.930 --> 0:18:21.260 have all those old, you know, thoughts, considerations. There's a 0:18:21.260 --> 0:18:24.950 lot of internal I don't know if you want to. What? 0:18:24.950 --> 0:18:27.920 I don't know what you call it. Internal politics. I mean, 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:33.980 the company's growing. There's different agendas, there's different personalities, there's 0:18:33.980 --> 0:18:36.679 different things that that, you know, I have to figure 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:42.980 out with a lot of different people. And, you know, yeah, I, 0:18:42.980 --> 0:18:48.609 you know, there's, there's. Things, challenges and punch guts that 0:18:48.609 --> 0:18:54.100 go and then that make you introvert on myself. I 0:18:54.100 --> 0:18:57.040 won't say you, I'll say me that make me introvert 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.290 on myself. That go, oh, I should have done that. 0:18:59.290 --> 0:19:02.260 I didn't do that. Now they're looking at me going, oh, 0:19:02.260 --> 0:19:04.270 you didn't do this and you didn't cross that T 0:19:04.270 --> 0:19:06.879 or that I and oh, did that ring me down 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:09.010 on the rung a little bit and am I, you 0:19:09.010 --> 0:19:11.980 know what I'm saying. And I'm constantly having to, you know, 0:19:11.980 --> 0:19:17.020 feel like, oh, uh, like I don't do you know everything? 0:19:17.020 --> 0:19:20.980 I don't touch that. I touch turns to gold, you know, 0:19:20.980 --> 0:19:27.910 only about 99.9. But but that point, 1.1 knocked me 0:19:27.910 --> 0:19:33.220 down so hard, you know what I'm saying? So. But but, 0:19:33.220 --> 0:19:38.470 you know, it's. It's a it's a battle for me, but. 0:19:38.470 --> 0:19:40.960 So I'm not going to pretend like I have this. 0:19:40.960 --> 0:19:45.970 I'm very vulnerable as I. As I stretch to new levels, 0:19:45.970 --> 0:19:49.510 I get more vulnerable, more vulnerable, more vulnerable. Can I 0:19:49.510 --> 0:19:51.790 do it? Can I do it? Self doubt. Keep going. 0:19:51.790 --> 0:19:54.280 You can I don't try I try not to pay 0:19:54.280 --> 0:19:56.890 much attention to that while that's happening. I just keep 0:19:56.890 --> 0:19:59.859 feeling of it. Yeah, the feeling of it. I just 0:19:59.859 --> 0:20:03.100 try to go who am I in the future? In 0:20:03.100 --> 0:20:05.530 the future? I figured this out in the future. I 0:20:05.530 --> 0:20:08.050 have all the confidence in the future. I know what 0:20:08.050 --> 0:20:12.490 I'm doing. So be the future self now and wear 0:20:12.490 --> 0:20:15.790 that hat. Just be that future. This is what I do. 0:20:15.820 --> 0:20:19.240 You're asking for the person that's listening or jogging or 0:20:19.240 --> 0:20:20.950 in the car and they don't know what to do. 0:20:20.950 --> 0:20:25.449 This is my strategy. I pretend or mock up or 0:20:25.450 --> 0:20:28.420 whatever you want to call it, that future self and I. 0:20:28.420 --> 0:20:31.930 Where how would that person feel right now? It still 0:20:31.930 --> 0:20:35.649 doesn't make the voices go away of you messed up. 0:20:35.650 --> 0:20:38.409 You don't know what you're doing. You you should have 0:20:38.410 --> 0:20:41.500 done been more prepared in this meeting. Maybe you're biting 0:20:41.500 --> 0:20:44.619 off more than you can chew. You probably shouldn't do this. 0:20:44.619 --> 0:20:48.369 Why are you doing this? You don't need to do this. 0:20:48.490 --> 0:20:52.330 You're getting attacked because of this. People are telling you 0:20:52.330 --> 0:20:56.530 you should die in a flaming wreck or eliminate yourself 0:20:56.530 --> 0:21:02.020 from the planet immediately. I'm like, what am I doing? 0:21:02.710 --> 0:21:07.179 Doesn't stop those voices, but I be my future self. 0:21:07.180 --> 0:21:10.150 My future self got over that. Doesn't even remember all 0:21:10.150 --> 0:21:13.210 of that. Doesn't remember the mistakes my future self goes. 0:21:13.210 --> 0:21:17.200 I'm confident. I'm bold. I pulled this off. I'm a victor. 0:21:17.200 --> 0:21:20.800 And not only that, but a thousand, 2000, a million, 0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:25.450 5 million, 100,000 million women change their lives. Because I 0:21:25.450 --> 0:21:28.330 got through this and they saw something, and I said 0:21:28.330 --> 0:21:31.119 something to change your life. And that's what I hold 0:21:31.119 --> 0:21:34.629 on to in that present moment. To keep taking the 0:21:34.630 --> 0:21:37.600 steps through the fall downs, get back up. Because I 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:41.320 know that in doing that, even with all those negative 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:44.859 lack of confidence feelings, that I am going to become 0:21:44.859 --> 0:21:47.410 that future self and I always do, and then when 0:21:47.410 --> 0:21:50.170 I'm there, it's there for about five minutes and I 0:21:50.170 --> 0:21:53.830 feel damn good and damn strong and I'm like, yes, 0:21:53.830 --> 0:21:55.660 until the next episode, and. 0:21:55.660 --> 0:21:56.350 Then you just. 0:21:56.350 --> 0:21:57.220 And then I'm right back. 0:21:57.220 --> 0:22:00.609 Threads right back through it. That's right. So you at 0:22:00.609 --> 0:22:05.020 one time said to me, affirm your wins. 0:22:05.020 --> 0:22:06.700 Make firm the wins, make firm. 0:22:06.700 --> 0:22:07.480 The wins. 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:10.000 Ignore the losses, help. 0:22:10.000 --> 0:22:13.300 Paint that picture. Because what you were just saying, a 0:22:13.300 --> 0:22:16.270 lot of the time the losses are in social media world. 0:22:16.270 --> 0:22:18.820 What people talk about like learn from your losses and 0:22:18.820 --> 0:22:22.750 it's about the losses and appreciate the losses. And you 0:22:22.750 --> 0:22:26.590 flip my mindset around that for I kind of forget 0:22:26.590 --> 0:22:28.780 I'm not going to steal your your thought process on this, 0:22:28.780 --> 0:22:31.119 but I'd love to hear more about how you actually 0:22:31.510 --> 0:22:34.300 put that strategy in place as you're dealing with it 0:22:34.300 --> 0:22:35.530 in the present time. 0:22:35.980 --> 0:22:38.919 So that was another thing that I learned make Firm 0:22:38.920 --> 0:22:41.920 the wins, which I'm still, again, not great at, but 0:22:41.920 --> 0:22:46.959 I'm actively working to become better at because every make 0:22:46.960 --> 0:22:49.270 firm the wins. When I have a win, I just 0:22:49.480 --> 0:22:53.080 my tendency is to go, yeah, well that's expected. That's 0:22:53.080 --> 0:22:56.949 that's the competency. Like, and I don't really celebrate it 0:22:56.950 --> 0:22:59.290 because I've already set the target to the next thing 0:22:59.290 --> 0:23:01.510 and I don't really acknowledge it. I don't even really 0:23:01.510 --> 0:23:04.359 know how. But I started to when we started having 0:23:04.359 --> 0:23:08.200 those yacht trips that was make firm the win, make 0:23:08.200 --> 0:23:12.580 firm the win, acknowledge it, you know, and ignore the losses. 0:23:12.580 --> 0:23:15.610 And what I mean by ignore the losses is I 0:23:15.609 --> 0:23:20.859 used to operate back in the day from the past. 0:23:20.859 --> 0:23:23.740 So from the past there were losses and from the 0:23:23.740 --> 0:23:29.469 past while you're going through it and I'm here in 0:23:29.470 --> 0:23:32.800 the present, right? I haven't had my future yet, so 0:23:32.800 --> 0:23:37.540 I haven't had it yet. So in the present, all 0:23:37.540 --> 0:23:40.450 I can compare myself is to the not have and 0:23:40.450 --> 0:23:43.480 to the losses. So what was happening when I was 0:23:43.480 --> 0:23:47.500 living from the past into the present? If I ran 0:23:47.500 --> 0:23:51.159 through a challenge like I just explained a minute ago, 0:23:51.160 --> 0:23:53.410 if I ran into a challenge, I would go see, 0:23:53.410 --> 0:23:55.780 I'm a failure. I never made that work. See, the 0:23:55.780 --> 0:23:58.119 last time, the last time, the loss, the loss. And 0:23:58.119 --> 0:24:00.280 I kept looking back and looking back, which made it 0:24:00.280 --> 0:24:04.419 even harder to go forward because everything was, you know, 0:24:04.420 --> 0:24:07.419 the loss, the loss. You can't. You can't. So what 0:24:07.420 --> 0:24:10.419 I do now is I affirm all the wins because 0:24:10.420 --> 0:24:15.369 they keep you going and keep you energized and like excited, like, okay, 0:24:15.369 --> 0:24:19.840 it's working. And now I ignore the losses. So the 0:24:19.840 --> 0:24:23.860 only time I use losses is to make a policy 0:24:23.859 --> 0:24:29.110 going forward. So if I was naive in one situation, 0:24:29.109 --> 0:24:32.740 I make a policy. I know I'm naive. My policy 0:24:32.740 --> 0:24:37.220 is is now every time some. Something I'm going to say. 0:24:37.220 --> 0:24:41.900 Show me the stats. Look. Don't listen. Am I being naive? See, 0:24:41.900 --> 0:24:44.990 that's the circuit I installed in my brain, or whatever 0:24:44.990 --> 0:24:47.750 you want to call it, so that I can filter 0:24:47.750 --> 0:24:51.710 myself going forward. But I no longer live from the past, 0:24:51.710 --> 0:24:54.619 and I ignore all the losses, I don't care. Now 0:24:54.619 --> 0:24:57.500 I look from the future. So like I said, I 0:24:57.500 --> 0:25:00.230 live from my future self and who that is and 0:25:00.230 --> 0:25:03.050 that pulls me forward. So now I can look from 0:25:03.050 --> 0:25:06.740 my future and experience a loss and I can say, okay, 0:25:06.740 --> 0:25:10.370 that loss from the past would have pull me back 0:25:10.369 --> 0:25:13.219 and stop me. But now I go. That's what I 0:25:13.220 --> 0:25:16.730 needed to go through to learn how to become this bigger, stronger, 0:25:16.730 --> 0:25:19.760 more confident person in the future. I had to go 0:25:19.760 --> 0:25:23.840 through that in order to become my future self. So 0:25:23.840 --> 0:25:26.930 it's just a different mindset and a different viewpoint. One 0:25:26.930 --> 0:25:29.480 pulls you back to stop and one pulls you forward 0:25:29.480 --> 0:25:30.500 to keep going. 0:25:31.130 --> 0:25:34.070 What if somebody doesn't have clarity on the future you're 0:25:34.070 --> 0:25:36.590 talking about? Like you imagine your future self and you 0:25:36.590 --> 0:25:41.060 have this purpose about helping women and protecting children and 0:25:41.060 --> 0:25:44.840 restoring the family unit. Like Elena Cardona is clear on 0:25:44.840 --> 0:25:47.300 what the five year or the ten year version of 0:25:47.300 --> 0:25:51.139 herself looks like. And so you can kind of you 0:25:51.140 --> 0:25:53.330 can really channel that. But for the person that's like, 0:25:53.330 --> 0:25:57.050 for me, I'm asking this as if I was me 0:25:57.260 --> 0:26:00.230 five years ago at 25, because I think people really 0:26:00.230 --> 0:26:02.390 struggle with this. And you do this so beautifully, where 0:26:02.390 --> 0:26:06.740 you just reinvent yourself and you reinvent what you're doing 0:26:06.770 --> 0:26:09.080 to be in alignment with where you want to go. 0:26:09.080 --> 0:26:11.899 And so how do you go about making the decision 0:26:11.900 --> 0:26:15.439 and postulating that you are going to take on such 0:26:15.440 --> 0:26:21.260 a massively huge target, such as restoring the family unit? 0:26:21.260 --> 0:26:24.290 And that's so real to you as a place of 0:26:24.290 --> 0:26:28.040 motivation for you every single day. How do you start 0:26:28.040 --> 0:26:29.060 with that target? 0:26:29.540 --> 0:26:37.670 Well. You know, I would ask the person, like, what? 0:26:38.420 --> 0:26:41.840 Where do you want to go? I mean, for somebody 0:26:41.840 --> 0:26:48.919 to even want to have any awareness of anything, if 0:26:48.920 --> 0:26:53.659 they're already asking themselves, what am I doing? Then start 0:26:53.660 --> 0:26:58.130 asking yourself, where do you want to be? Because where 0:26:58.130 --> 0:27:00.439 you want to be is going to dictate what you 0:27:00.440 --> 0:27:03.110 need to be doing, because you're going to reverse engineer 0:27:03.109 --> 0:27:06.140 from that picture. So, I mean, if you have the 0:27:06.140 --> 0:27:11.390 ability to visualize anything or have some sort of creativity or, 0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:17.270 you know, mock it up, it's all mocked up anyway, 0:27:17.270 --> 0:27:19.220 you know? So mock it up. 0:27:19.220 --> 0:27:20.240 What do you mean by that? 0:27:21.680 --> 0:27:24.950 Well, like, if I, if I like it's it's all 0:27:24.950 --> 0:27:29.629 a mock up. Like happiness is a mock up. You know, 0:27:29.630 --> 0:27:33.200 I can be real. I can be an enthusiasm right now. Oh, 0:27:33.200 --> 0:27:35.120 my God, did I tell you about such and such? 0:27:35.119 --> 0:27:38.119 I'm so excited. I cannot wait to tell you this. 0:27:38.119 --> 0:27:41.420 That's enthusiasm. It's a mock up. It's a creation I 0:27:41.420 --> 0:27:44.120 can go down into sadness right now. Or total boredom. 0:27:44.119 --> 0:27:47.240 Those are mocked up. Those are mock ups, right? So 0:27:47.240 --> 0:27:49.159 what is it? What is the mock up of the 0:27:49.160 --> 0:27:51.680 future look like? Does it look happy? Does it have 0:27:51.680 --> 0:27:54.500 a family in it? Does it have good friends in it? 0:27:54.500 --> 0:27:58.490 Trustworthy people? Does it have drug free, alcohol free? Does 0:27:58.490 --> 0:28:01.550 it have success? Does it have money? Does it have traveling? Like, 0:28:01.550 --> 0:28:03.919 does it have airplanes? Can you think about those things? 0:28:03.920 --> 0:28:05.930 What does it look like? You don't have to think 0:28:05.930 --> 0:28:09.410 about how you get there. Just can you think about it? 0:28:09.410 --> 0:28:12.320 Do you have a good thing, something that you're love 0:28:12.320 --> 0:28:14.780 and you're passionate about and that you want to work towards? 0:28:14.780 --> 0:28:17.240 Like start thinking like because the more you think, the 0:28:17.240 --> 0:28:19.550 more you can think, oh my God, there's an ocean. 0:28:19.550 --> 0:28:21.110 I have a house on the ocean, I do this, 0:28:21.109 --> 0:28:23.000 I do that, I have the kids, we do this, 0:28:23.000 --> 0:28:26.300 I empower women, I, I, I'm a, you know, whatever. 0:28:26.300 --> 0:28:29.000 I own my own hair salon. My salon, actually, I 0:28:29.000 --> 0:28:30.950 own a chain. It's a global chain. It's a this 0:28:30.950 --> 0:28:33.800 it's that before you start hearing all the voices in 0:28:33.800 --> 0:28:35.990 your head that say, oh, that's absolutely crazy, you're never 0:28:35.990 --> 0:28:38.990 going to have that. Just create the picture. And then 0:28:38.990 --> 0:28:42.110 for fun and as easy and as light as it is, 0:28:42.110 --> 0:28:47.990 just a mock up happiness. Oh, you know, just start going, okay, well, 0:28:47.990 --> 0:28:53.870 let's just pretend like I'm pretending. Like I'm pretending. So 0:28:53.870 --> 0:28:55.640 if I were going to have that, what would that 0:28:55.640 --> 0:28:58.250 look like going backwards? Like, what would I have to 0:28:58.250 --> 0:29:02.390 do to have that? You know, let's just pretend that 0:29:02.390 --> 0:29:05.300 can that can be real. What would that person look like? 0:29:05.300 --> 0:29:08.030 What would that person have to know? What would that 0:29:08.030 --> 0:29:11.300 person have to know about money, finances? What would that 0:29:11.300 --> 0:29:14.720 person have to know about travel? Or how much does 0:29:14.720 --> 0:29:17.660 it cost to raise a family? How would I how 0:29:17.660 --> 0:29:20.600 do I learn about being a wife or a mother? 0:29:20.600 --> 0:29:22.910 If you want a family, how do I even find out? 0:29:22.910 --> 0:29:25.190 About what is it to mean to be a mother 0:29:25.190 --> 0:29:27.890 reverse engineer? Okay, well, what are the books on that? 0:29:27.890 --> 0:29:30.080 Who says what about that? Who do I want to 0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:32.900 listen to that would Elena be someone I'd want to 0:29:32.900 --> 0:29:35.300 listen to? What does she say about her kids? Now 0:29:35.300 --> 0:29:38.690 you're going to start doing it. Let me start reading 0:29:38.690 --> 0:29:41.480 about trips to Africa or this place, or that place 0:29:41.480 --> 0:29:43.100 of where I want to go and what I want 0:29:43.100 --> 0:29:46.070 to do. And you know what? Finance courses. We took 0:29:46.070 --> 0:29:49.520 five finance courses together. Do you remember that I do. 0:29:50.440 --> 0:29:51.400 I want those. 0:29:51.430 --> 0:29:54.850 Isn't that amazing? So now you start doing the things, 0:29:54.850 --> 0:29:57.370 you just start mocking it up. You got to mock 0:29:57.370 --> 0:30:00.820 it up in the real life to then be able to. 0:30:00.820 --> 0:30:02.830 All of a sudden you go, oh my God, you 0:30:02.830 --> 0:30:05.530 wake up and you're in your life that you mocked up, 0:30:05.530 --> 0:30:08.770 that you created. It doesn't just fall into your life. 0:30:08.770 --> 0:30:11.530 It's got to be created. It's got to be mocked up. 0:30:12.670 --> 0:30:16.780 You mock it up, you know, you make it happen. Yeah. 0:30:17.500 --> 0:30:19.210 And you just make it happen. 0:30:19.240 --> 0:30:21.850 This life that I'm living right now is a mock 0:30:21.850 --> 0:30:25.690 up that I had in 2008, when the economy was 0:30:25.690 --> 0:30:28.780 collapsing and we were on the verge of being bankrupt. 0:30:28.780 --> 0:30:31.630 I mocked up a plane. 0:30:32.050 --> 0:30:36.460 So I've heard Grant talk about goal setting in the morning. 0:30:36.460 --> 0:30:39.550 He writes his goals down on a legal pad, and 0:30:39.550 --> 0:30:41.620 then at the night, at the end of the day, 0:30:41.620 --> 0:30:44.110 he writes his goals down again two times a day. 0:30:45.010 --> 0:30:49.270 You going back to 2008 when you're mocking this up, 0:30:49.270 --> 0:30:51.280 do you have a different process? I think it might 0:30:51.280 --> 0:30:56.020 involve a ball where you go up and down just 0:30:56.020 --> 0:30:59.590 a few times. You want to share what your process 0:30:59.590 --> 0:31:02.800 is on this real fast. It's not embarrassing. I think 0:31:02.800 --> 0:31:10.700 this is so magical about you. So it's out. So 0:31:10.700 --> 0:31:47.250 I'm not outing you on anything, right? Can't do that. 0:31:47.250 --> 0:31:50.070 Can't do that. So anyway, I've always been hyper. I've 0:31:50.070 --> 0:31:52.320 had a trampoline my whole entire life. I grew up 0:31:52.320 --> 0:31:54.300 with a big trampoline in my backyard. I have a 0:31:54.300 --> 0:31:57.420 trampoline in my yard. Now to know that, yeah, I 0:31:57.420 --> 0:32:00.630 guess I did that. The trampoline, little turtles. The turtles 0:32:00.630 --> 0:32:04.560 took over the trip. Yeah, yeah. Um, but. So I've always, 0:32:04.560 --> 0:32:08.040 I've always just, I don't know, I've just it's been 0:32:08.040 --> 0:32:11.160 very soothing for me. So when one of my friends 0:32:11.160 --> 0:32:13.920 was pregnant, I went over to her, her baby shower, 0:32:13.920 --> 0:32:16.800 and she sat on a potty ball and was bouncing. Now, 0:32:16.800 --> 0:32:18.990 I always used to go outside on a trampoline, and 0:32:18.990 --> 0:32:21.360 I would just kind of jog in place for hours, 0:32:21.360 --> 0:32:24.150 because that's why I do all of my visualization. And 0:32:24.150 --> 0:32:27.840 that's where my mind, just how my mind works, is. 0:32:28.320 --> 0:32:31.320 I start seeing the future, and then I run every 0:32:31.320 --> 0:32:34.530 play down in my head like I go, this play 0:32:34.530 --> 0:32:36.300 did it. What would I need? What are the what 0:32:36.300 --> 0:32:38.850 would I have to do? What a lawsuit, this, that? 0:32:38.850 --> 0:32:40.740 Or would that work? Or how would this work? And 0:32:40.740 --> 0:32:44.190 so I run the whole chain down and then I go, okay, 0:32:44.490 --> 0:32:46.080 what if I did it this way and then I 0:32:46.080 --> 0:32:48.840 run the whole chain down and then I have this, this, 0:32:48.840 --> 0:32:50.910 this and this. And if they say if they did this, 0:32:50.910 --> 0:32:52.830 then I could do that and did it. And so 0:32:52.830 --> 0:32:55.560 like I see all this like thing that goes on 0:32:55.560 --> 0:32:58.830 in my whole entire head while I'm bouncing on my trampoline, 0:32:58.830 --> 0:33:01.410 looking at my beautiful ocean. Now, back in the day, 0:33:01.410 --> 0:33:04.440 it was in New Orleans, in my backyard. But but 0:33:04.440 --> 0:33:07.590 I'd have these big visions of everything. So I play 0:33:07.590 --> 0:33:10.230 it all down. Like, how does this work, that work 0:33:10.230 --> 0:33:12.330 this to how could this work? Who would have to 0:33:12.330 --> 0:33:13.860 know who? And da da da da da? I can 0:33:13.860 --> 0:33:16.260 make this happen. And that's my magic. Because then I 0:33:16.260 --> 0:33:19.200 come back after I've done this whole madness in my 0:33:19.200 --> 0:33:22.860 head and I go, that's what I need to do. This, this, this, 0:33:22.860 --> 0:33:25.950 let me put this person with this person, blah blah blah, boom. 0:33:25.950 --> 0:33:28.200 That happens. Da da da da da. And then they 0:33:28.200 --> 0:33:30.930 take off and they sprout the seeds. And then sometimes 0:33:30.930 --> 0:33:33.240 it looks different, but in the in the end it 0:33:33.240 --> 0:33:36.810 pretty much comes to fruition like this. 0:33:36.810 --> 0:33:39.750 The way that you mocked it up and you mock 0:33:39.750 --> 0:33:42.420 it up on a Pilates ball or. 0:33:42.420 --> 0:33:44.580 Yeah. So I hate that part because I feel like 0:33:44.580 --> 0:33:48.000 it's so, so anyway, my my friend's house, she was 0:33:48.000 --> 0:33:50.640 bouncing on this ball and I was like, wait, what? 0:33:50.640 --> 0:33:53.010 And I bounced on the ball and I was hooked 0:33:53.280 --> 0:33:56.250 and I was pregnant. So I started bouncing on a 0:33:56.250 --> 0:33:58.890 Pilates ball when I was pregnant with my first child. 0:33:59.940 --> 0:34:01.980 And then when I came out, when she came out 0:34:01.980 --> 0:34:05.280 of the womb, I. If I held her and wasn't bouncing, 0:34:05.280 --> 0:34:09.120 she'd cry. So then I became captive to the Pilates. 0:34:09.150 --> 0:34:09.960 You're stuck. 0:34:09.960 --> 0:34:12.630 I was stuck because every time I was bouncing on 0:34:12.630 --> 0:34:16.380 the ball happy, I so. So then it became like, 0:34:16.380 --> 0:34:18.360 literally like my ball and chain. 0:34:20.280 --> 0:34:21.330 But not even the ball. 0:34:21.330 --> 0:34:23.609 So, so. But I'm not leaving the ball, I still. 0:34:23.610 --> 0:34:26.219 So when I watch TV at night with the family, 0:34:26.219 --> 0:34:28.500 I bounce on my Pilates ball and they watch. And 0:34:28.500 --> 0:34:30.420 that's the way I like it, because I don't. If 0:34:30.420 --> 0:34:34.200 I sit still at nighttime, I'm asleep, like, oh, interesting. 0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:34.740 I'm out. 0:34:34.739 --> 0:34:37.620 Okay, so the body ball keeps the energy going. 0:34:37.860 --> 0:34:39.390 Oh yeah. Potty balls. Great. 0:34:39.390 --> 0:34:41.430 Well, for those of you who are looking for a 0:34:41.430 --> 0:34:44.310 goal setting hack or a visualization hack. 0:34:44.310 --> 0:34:45.660 I don't know if that's going to. I don't know 0:34:45.660 --> 0:34:48.180 if I endorse that one. I it just might. 0:34:48.270 --> 0:34:49.110 It works for. 0:34:49.110 --> 0:34:49.650 You. 0:34:49.860 --> 0:34:52.080 But some people that's what I think is cool about well, 0:34:52.080 --> 0:34:53.280 Sarah successful people. 0:34:53.280 --> 0:34:57.299 Sarah Blakely says that she drives in her car, she 0:34:57.300 --> 0:34:59.760 goes and gets lost and she drives. Yeah. That's her 0:34:59.940 --> 0:35:00.300 she like. 0:35:00.300 --> 0:35:02.640 Even though the Spanx office is like a few minutes away, 0:35:02.640 --> 0:35:04.860 she still drives around. 0:35:05.430 --> 0:35:07.560 And just kind of gets lost in her thoughts. Yep. 0:35:07.560 --> 0:35:08.489 And Grant writes his. 0:35:08.489 --> 0:35:11.580 Goals down on a Pilates ball, not ensure. 0:35:11.820 --> 0:35:16.350 You have no carbon footprint associated with your Pilates ball sitting. 0:35:16.500 --> 0:35:19.860 I'm not worried about that. I'm just worried about like, no, 0:35:19.860 --> 0:35:22.920 I'm not worried about her. She's got her routine down, 0:35:22.920 --> 0:35:25.710 but crushing it in my head. I don't know if 0:35:25.710 --> 0:35:29.490 I could be driving, uh, focused with. 0:35:29.489 --> 0:35:30.779 Running all your plays. 0:35:30.780 --> 0:35:35.009 Yes, I'm running plays. I'm I'm I'm playing chess. Yes. 0:35:35.010 --> 0:35:36.180 In my head. Yes. 0:35:36.180 --> 0:35:39.660 On a safely on a Pilates ball. Not in traffic 0:35:40.020 --> 0:35:43.650 with other cars that you might need to maneuver around. 0:35:43.650 --> 0:35:48.810 So question for you. You talk about four pillars, the 0:35:48.810 --> 0:35:51.690 four core pillars. Could you give the audience a little 0:35:51.690 --> 0:35:54.690 bit of a taste of these core four pillars that 0:35:54.690 --> 0:35:57.870 you talk about, and maybe let them know a special 0:35:57.870 --> 0:36:00.420 little offer that you are giving to everybody who is 0:36:00.420 --> 0:36:02.910 currently listening to building buildings. 0:36:02.910 --> 0:36:06.750 Okay, so I wrote a book, Build an Empire How 0:36:06.750 --> 0:36:09.930 to Have It All, and the Empire is based on 0:36:09.930 --> 0:36:13.110 these four pillars, meaning you can't build the foundation without 0:36:13.110 --> 0:36:16.950 these four pillars, and you can't have one without the other. 0:36:16.950 --> 0:36:19.469 Or we have a sinking house. They all have to 0:36:19.469 --> 0:36:26.040 be stable and sturdy. And that's the Empire mindset, dynamic relationships, 0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:29.040 because no empire has been built alone. So you have 0:36:29.040 --> 0:36:31.620 to figure out how to get along with people. People 0:36:31.620 --> 0:36:34.109 have to figure out their roles and how to work 0:36:34.350 --> 0:36:41.009 cohesively for the mission. And then there's, um, master your money, 0:36:41.010 --> 0:36:43.680 because we live in an economic planet. So you've got 0:36:43.680 --> 0:36:47.850 to understand money. We. Resources. And then the last one 0:36:47.850 --> 0:36:52.170 is the lifestyle, the health, the wellness, and and that 0:36:52.170 --> 0:36:55.680 ability to postulate, as you said earlier, which means assumes 0:36:55.680 --> 0:36:58.770 something to be true. So how to make it manifest? 0:36:58.770 --> 0:37:03.839 The manifestation isn't the word manifestation means to make appear. 0:37:03.840 --> 0:37:06.090 Did you know that it means to make seen by 0:37:06.090 --> 0:37:10.110 the I. I always thought manifestation was this thing that 0:37:10.110 --> 0:37:12.930 you think about. It's not. It means to make appear 0:37:12.930 --> 0:37:16.410 like that's what manifestation means. So those are the four pillars. 0:37:16.410 --> 0:37:19.440 How to make it manifest. It has to show up. 0:37:19.440 --> 0:37:21.510 Can't stay in your head. How do you get it 0:37:21.510 --> 0:37:23.640 out of your head from that vision that I've been 0:37:23.640 --> 0:37:27.300 talking about to show up in the real world, I 0:37:27.300 --> 0:37:29.250 don't want it to just stay here. It's got to 0:37:29.250 --> 0:37:34.470 actually show up here. It has to manifest. So mindset, relationships, 0:37:34.469 --> 0:37:38.880 money and manifestation are the four pillars that you've got 0:37:38.880 --> 0:37:41.700 to build so strong to then be able to build 0:37:41.700 --> 0:37:45.060 up and out. If you however big you want to 0:37:45.060 --> 0:37:48.390 build your empire for the expansion. Yes. 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