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S2: Welcome back to the podcast. I know you want to
S2: know the habits. Everybody going into a new year wants
S2: to understand how to make better habits, because our habits
S2: equate to our success. I'm a firm believer of that.
S2: So these are my nine habits and the nine habits
S2: that I believe the top 1%, the most successful women
S2: that I know, also subscribe to. I was actually just
S2: at dinner last night with this unbelievably successful woman. I
S2: tell a little bit of a story about her in
S2: this particular episode and she just blows my mind because
S2: she's such a freakin baller. Like, she's just a boss
S2: and I feel like a better person because I've got
S2: to be around her and I've got to watch how
S2: she makes decisions and how she is actually firing her
S2: assistant today. And I'm just a sponge in those environments,
S2: and I really want to be able to share those
S2: learnings with you, because there's no reason not to share them.
S2: And most of us don't have access to a lot
S2: of super freakin successful, badass women. So this is not
S2: just my set of habits. These are the set of
S2: habits that I've learned from other badass women, and I
S2: figured I'd just share the love. So let's just dive
S2: on in.
S3: These are the nine habits of highly successful top 1% women.
S3: You see, I picked up on some of these habits
S3: by spending time with countless millionaire female business owners, and
S3: I also learned some of them the hard way by
S3: going from making $50,000 a year in a job that
S3: I hated today, having a $100 million net worth by
S3: the age of 30. So let's talk about nine high
S3: performance habits that can completely change your life. The first
S3: habit that will define your success is time control. Most
S3: people try to control everything except the one thing that matters,
S3: which is your time. It is the ultimate resource, and
S3: learning how to actually create time will change your life.
S3: When Covid first hit, this is when I entirely changed
S3: my life because I realized that I no longer could
S3: use time as an excuse. Back in the day, I
S3: used to travel constantly, so I always thought, oh, I'm
S3: not in control of my time. There's a time change
S3: that happens which creates jet lag, which means that I
S3: eat at different times, go to bed at different times.
S3: So I wasn't working out consistently. I wouldn't stay on
S3: a diet, and I would just use the fact that
S3: I couldn't control my time as a reason to not
S3: do the things that I really wanted to do. So
S3: when lockdown occurred, I literally said to myself, I'm going
S3: to start having five habits. The same habits every single day.
S3: The first one was waking up before the sun rose,
S3: which every day was 5:00. Then it was going to
S3: bed by 930 every night. Then it was doing one
S3: training and development activity every day. Whether that was reading
S3: a book, learning something new, adding a sales skill. The
S3: next was I worked out every day and the final
S3: was I stuck to a diet. Controlling your time with
S3: discipline is the biggest win you'll have in your personal life.
S3: Don't try to control things that you can't control, like
S3: your spouse, your children. Anything that you can't control will
S3: actually lead to desperation, and it will make you feel
S3: like you're losing. That brings me to my second habit,
S3: which is setting and sticking to weekly goals. I used
S3: to wake up on New Years Day and I was
S3: completely depressed, and it had nothing to do with having
S3: too much champagne the night before. To be honest, I
S3: would wake up and feel like I had just lost
S3: something because I did. I had lost an entire year
S3: of really making progress on the things that matter most
S3: to me. I had goals that I didn't make progress on.
S3: I had dreams and ambition, and I honestly was just
S3: so disappointed in myself when I would wake up on
S3: New Years because I would actually realize this. I would
S3: pull up my goals in my planner from the year
S3: before and just think, man, nothing happened here. And so
S3: why even try to do something different? Because I already
S3: know that I failed, and I have this realization six
S3: years ago that instead of waking up the next year
S3: and being upset, I was going to do something different,
S3: which is when I created the weekly accountability meeting that
S3: I have with myself. Yes, I have a meeting with
S3: myself every single week, and during this meeting I spend
S3: one hour on a Sunday going through all of the
S3: most important goals for me that year. And when I
S3: go through those goals, I'm inspired. I'm excited to meet
S3: the new people that I wanted to meet or have
S3: the exercise routine that I wanted to have, or make
S3: whatever daily habit change that I know is important to me.
S3: And from that point I reprioritize my week. It sounds
S3: so silly, but you actually have to prioritize where you
S3: want to go into your weekly work schedule. Every weekly
S3: task needs to align with the longer term vision of yourself,
S3: and if it doesn't, then you have to ask yourself,
S3: why am I doing this? Why am I investing my
S3: time and my energy in doing something that I know
S3: isn't going to get me closer to my goals? Is
S3: it because I like to do those things? Because I
S3: think that it would be more fun? Is a bit
S3: of a distraction. What is the reason that you're spending
S3: your time doing things that are taking you away from
S3: where you want to go, and when you can look
S3: at these things honestly, you can start to understand why
S3: you haven't created the success that you want, which really
S3: is the launch point for being able to create the
S3: success that you want. So I spend Sunday going through
S3: what my goals are. I open up my calendar for
S3: the upcoming week and I literally make time for those activities.
S3: I might move a handful of meetings around. I might
S3: block off time to read a book, to watch a
S3: YouTube video, to take a course. I quite literally make
S3: time for the goals that I had set out to
S3: accomplish for that year. So once you've prioritized your weekly activities,
S3: the next habit is to stick to the plan that
S3: you've made. You see, success isn't about huge leaps. It's
S3: actually just sticking to a plan every single day. So
S3: I've talked to you about my weekly plan, which ties
S3: to my annual goals. But every day before I leave work,
S3: I open up my calendar for the next day and
S3: I look through what do I need to do, what
S3: do I need to not do? And I reprioritize my day.
S3: You see, sometimes things just stack and stack and stack,
S3: and then all of a sudden you have this big
S3: list of things that you're supposed to get done by
S3: the end of the week that you should have gotten
S3: done throughout the week, but you just don't because you
S3: didn't make the time. So the biggest game changer to
S3: me is actually making a plan for the next day,
S3: the night before. And I refuse to leave work. I
S3: refuse to go to bed until my plan is created,
S3: so that the next day I can just work the plan.
S3: People make the mistake of doing this half the way.
S3: They either make the plan and then don't stick to it,
S3: or they don't make a plan at all and then
S3: work a lot on the wrong things. Make an effort
S3: to stick to the plan that you've made every single day,
S3: and you'll already be doing better than most people I
S3: did not want to come into work today. I had
S3: a presentation I needed to give. I had YouTube videos
S3: I needed to shoot, I had emails and podcasts and
S3: all this stuff I needed to do. And I was like,
S3: if I didn't have all this on my schedule today,
S3: I would quite literally just stay in bed. It is
S3: a Saturday morning. Why am I doing all this? And
S3: I went through all of this BS in my head
S3: and what did I end up doing? I showed up
S3: for work. I showed up for the presentation. Why? Because
S3: it was literally scheduled. That is the hack. Put the
S3: schedule together the night before, work the schedule all day,
S3: and then rinse and repeat. And as you do this,
S3: you will find that you are making outrageous progress every
S3: day by chipping away at the things that matter to you.
S3: That brings us to habit number four. Keep it to yourself.
S3: Life is messy, sure, but no one needs to know
S3: your business or your emotions, or all of your thoughts
S3: and feelings about things. Get your shit together and stop oversharing.
S3: One of my mottos in life is never let them
S3: see you sweat. And I actually just had a team
S3: member come up to me a couple days ago and say, you.
S4: Know what I.
S3: Just.
S4: Realized? I never know.
S3: If you're stressed out. And this particular individual has worked
S3: with me now for two years. She literally walked up
S3: to me and was like, I've never known when you've
S3: had a bad day, when something has gone wrong, when
S3: there's an issue. What was comical about this to me
S3: was that particular day we had a potential lawsuit that
S3: we were working through. There were two team members who
S3: resigned and we just had problems. There was no question
S3: that there was just challenges that particular day, but that
S3: is something that I admire so much of other strong women,
S3: is that you just don't see them sweat. They handle
S3: their business, they don't complain about it. They just recognize
S3: that it's part of the game that they're playing. So
S3: do I share my emotions with my team members? No.
S3: The only people that actually hear my emotions are probably
S3: the team that works on my YouTube videos, because this
S3: whole thing gets me stressed and pressed. But other than that,
S3: I don't complain. I don't have issues. I don't need
S3: to cause any sort of drama around my feelings about
S3: things because we're trying to run a business. We're trying
S3: to create opportunities for people. We're trying to help business
S3: owners grow and scale. Do we really need to know
S3: how I'm feeling throughout the day? Absolutely not. So what
S3: do you do when you are having a bad day?
S3: You just remember to reset on that particular morning, as
S3: we had had some bad news prior to kicking off
S3: our daily all team meeting with our whole company. I
S3: got into the elevator and I just took a full
S3: breath in and I just let it out, and I
S3: walked in and I said hi to team members and
S3: I told everybody, welcome to work. I'm so excited to
S3: talk about all of the ways that we won yesterday.
S3: Let's go into what we did yesterday. And this is
S3: how I start every single day, because my team does
S3: not need to see me sweat, my team does not
S3: need to see me frustrated. And the more that you
S3: choose to dump on other people, the more you're putting
S3: your future into their control. And ideally, you don't do
S3: that now. You don't have to be a robot, and
S3: you don't have to pretend like everything is perfect all
S3: the time. But you do have to be clear, and
S3: you do have to be direct, and you do have
S3: to help people get to their potential inside your business.
S3: Inside your team. And they don't need the distraction of
S3: you and your emotions. My fifth habit is I give
S3: my husband a hug every single day. You see, I
S3: refuse to allow our business to be the thing that
S3: gets in the way of us having an incredible marriage.
S3: This is why we hug each other every single day
S3: and every evening. We do not go to bed mad.
S3: That is one of the rules in our relationship. Well,
S3: that's kind of a little bit of a lie, because
S3: over the last decade of being together, we actually did
S3: have one night where we went to bed mad at
S3: each other, and it happened to be the night that
S3: he proposed to me. Not ideal. I didn't exactly love
S3: the way that my husband proposed. But you know what
S3: the good news is? No one thing breaks a deal.
S3: And to be honest with you, even if he messed
S3: the whole thing up, which he didn't. What matters is
S3: the relationship, and what matters is the fact that we
S3: choose to be together and have an awesome relationship every
S3: single day. And this one habit of ensuring that we
S3: hug each other every morning and that we never go
S3: to bed mad at each other, makes us move off
S3: of problems so fast. I don't have two hours or
S3: two days or two weeks to play some BS game
S3: with my husband about holding something against him that I'm
S3: pissed off about. It's ridiculous. I don't have time for that.
S3: I want to be successful. I want him to be successful.
S3: So if we're upset, we get upset really fast. It's
S3: like five minutes in and out, we're frustrated, we solve
S3: the problem and then we move on to the next thing.
S3: But our rule is we start every morning, give each
S3: other a big hug, and then at nighttime, any conflict
S3: is resolved because we go to bed and we say,
S3: I love you. And to be honest, your relationship can
S3: actually benefit your success when you do it the right way.
S3: I would be nowhere near as successful as I am
S3: today without my husband. He supports me. He appreciates me.
S3: He is my biggest cheerleader and so our relationship is
S3: the foundation of the success. It is not. I am
S3: successful and I happen to have a relationship. No, instead,
S3: I'm successful in many ways because of the relationships that
S3: I have that help me be successful. Next up, habit
S3: six is habit stacking. The ultimate habit hack is to
S3: not just do one thing at a time. I like
S3: to do multiple things at a time. This is habit stacking. Well.
S3: There's three different ways that I use getting ready in
S3: the morning to be productive. The first is I go
S3: live on Instagram, see, while I'm doing my makeup. I
S3: can also use that time to promote my business. Now
S3: the second way that I use my morning get ready
S3: time is when I'm not going live. I watch a video.
S3: I listen to some sort of video. This morning it
S3: was Martha Stewart on Masterclass, where I was learning all
S3: about a day in the life of Martha Stewart and
S3: understanding how she prioritizes her time. And I learned a
S3: lot about how she thinks about developing a great product.
S3: The third way that I use putting on makeup as
S3: a way to be productive is I pay somebody to
S3: do it at least two times a week. I pay
S3: somebody to do my hair and my makeup. Now, why
S3: do I pay them to do this when I can
S3: do it myself? First of all, let's be honest, they're
S3: better at it than me. But the more important part
S3: is I can make phone calls, I can do text messages.
S3: I can have full blown meetings while somebody is doing
S3: my makeup for me. You see, most people don't stack
S3: their habits, and so they think about setting aside separate
S3: time every single day to learn something new. Well, if
S3: you just stacked your habits, you use your car ride.
S3: You use putting on your makeup. Maybe it's while you're
S3: in the shower. All of these things that you already
S3: have to do, you might as well just learn something
S3: while you're doing them. Habit seven is one that you
S3: already may be doing, and it's working out every day.
S3: This seems to be controversial nowadays, but the most successful
S3: women know that when you look good, you make more money.
S3: And the reason behind this is when you look good,
S3: you feel good, and when you feel good, you are
S3: going to do the things that are required to make
S3: more money. I have this habit of moving my body
S3: and taking control of something that you feel like you're
S3: in control of your body most days, but are you really?
S3: Are you in control of what you eat? Are you
S3: in control of going to the gym? Or do you
S3: choose not to and maybe feel uncomfortable in the clothes
S3: that you wear? I hate working out. I don't know
S3: anybody besides crazy people who actually.
S4: Enjoy.
S3: Working out. It's hard. It's not fun if you're doing
S3: it the right way. You're exhausted after the fact. To
S3: be honest, right now my calves hurt because I did
S3: a huge workout two days ago. A leg day hashtag
S3: don't skip leg day. But I feel good about myself
S3: because successful people do the things that they say that
S3: they're going to do. So I make a time every
S3: single day to move my body, to go to the gym,
S3: to go to Pilates class in order to make progress
S3: on this goal. Once you pick a time, you actually
S3: show up, and if you have to pay somebody at
S3: first in order to train you, invest the money. This
S3: is how I got myself to do it, because I
S3: couldn't motivate myself to get there on my own. I
S3: knew that if I was paying a coach that I
S3: was going to meet, that I was going to make
S3: the effort to get out of bed and not just
S3: snooze through my alarm. The eighth habit of successful women
S3: is they take their makeup off every night. People think
S3: it's crazy. But even if I come home at 3 a.m.,
S3: which is maybe like once a year, I take all
S3: of my makeup off. I go through a full nine
S3: step skincare routine. Now, maybe you don't need a nine
S3: step skincare routine. You probably don't, but it's these little
S3: habits that allow you to think I'm getting closer to
S3: the person I want to become or I'm not. For me,
S3: I always watch that opening scene of The Devil Wears
S3: Prada and they're all putting on their makeup, and they
S3: have these nice New York penthouses where they're perfectly picking
S3: out their outfits with their heels, with their matching lingerie.
S3: It was like ten out of ten goals. And I
S3: thought those women the night before had enough control of
S3: their time where they take their makeup off and they
S3: have a great skincare routine. So guess what? I'm going
S3: to take my makeup off every night and have a
S3: great skincare routine, because that is who I'm trying to become.
S3: This small step can actually trigger an entire disciplined journey.
S3: So my recommendation is to choose one small act of
S3: self-care and make it non-negotiable. You do it every day.
S3: That brings us to our final habit of successful women,
S3: which is choosing your best outfit every single day. I
S3: never dress like a bum because my outfit determines my success.
S3: That's what I choose to believe. Every day I dress
S3: for the person I'm becoming. Every day I'm not 19
S3: year old Natalie any longer. I should not be dressing
S3: like a 19 year old. I also don't want to
S3: be 31 year old Natalie. Now you might be like, Natalie,
S3: why are you so hard on yourself? Well, the reality is,
S3: I'm trying to create something. I'm trying to become somebody
S3: that I'm not. Yet. The way I view this is
S3: I dress today as if I'm ten years older. So
S3: what does 41 year old Natalie wear? What responsibilities does
S3: she have? What type of perception do people have of her? Okay, great.
S3: I'm going to pull that into today. And if I
S3: have clothes in my closet that no longer serve or
S3: no longer fit, pun intended. My goals. If a clothing
S3: item or an outfit or even a piece of furniture
S3: in your house doesn't fit the version of you that
S3: you want to become, remove it from your life immediately.
S3: One of the things I like to do is a
S3: daily fit check. I motivate myself in the morning, I
S3: put something on that I love, and I purposely construct
S3: the outfit to think about who am I becoming? How
S3: do I promote this person that I'm becoming so that
S3: I bring more opportunities for that person today? And if
S3: you don't really know where to start with this, find
S3: a role model. I started with a Pinterest board where
S3: I would pin all of these badass women who I
S3: wanted to become into a board, and I would just
S3: look at their outfits. Are they wearing structured blazers? Are
S3: they wearing pantsuits? How do they dress? How do they
S3: show up? What are their accessories? I would then start
S3: to mimic how I dress, based off of the women
S3: that I wanted to become, who were inspiring to me.
S2: If you enjoyed this episode, I have a feeling you
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S2: of time going into this year, into YouTube and creating
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