S1: This is how you make millions while maintaining a work
S1: life balance. I know this topic of work life balance
S1: is super important to people because there's not a business
S1: owner that I talked to that doesn't have these questions
S1: around how do I run my business? How do I
S1: become a millionaire while still fill in the blank? Being
S1: a good mom, being present for my children, being able
S1: to spend time with my families, being able to have
S1: a social life, meeting new people, having hobbies and activities.
S1: And so this is a concept that I feel like
S1: business owners really struggle with, leaders really struggle with. And
S1: I'd like to give some perspective because I think that
S1: I have figured out a way to master this to
S1: where I don't ever feel out of balance. And if
S1: there are moments where I'm overwhelmed or I'm stressed out,
S1: I actually know how to cope with those things. So
S1: let's just dive into this for a second. This idea
S1: of work life balance, I think it's important to understand
S1: what is balance now. In true Nataly fashion, I looked
S1: up the word balance. Here's an interesting definition of the
S1: word balance Balance a condition in which different elements are
S1: equal or in the correct proportions. So here's this funny
S1: thing the correct proportions. Who's defined for your life? What
S1: the correct proportions of you spending time in different areas are?
S1: Did your mom tell you that? Did a school teacher
S1: tell you that? Like, who's dictating what the quote unquote
S1: correct proportions are? Where is these correct proportions coming from?
S1: When I think about this, I think of my correct
S1: proportions related to the goals that I have. So the
S1: first thing in this conversation around work life balance has
S1: to come down to what are your goals? Where are
S1: you trying to go? Because once I've identified, as I've said,
S1: helping business owners, it is the most important thing to
S1: me in my life right now. It's what everything is
S1: focused on. If that's the case, then when I'm coming
S1: up against what people want as an eight hour workday,
S1: I'm like, Wait a second. My correct proportion in order
S1: to achieve my target is actually a 14 hour workday.
S1: That is balance for me based on what the target is.
S1: And so once I know that I actually am underperforming,
S1: if I'm not working or out working or spending more
S1: time doing the thing that I need to be doing
S1: based on somebody else's goal. If somebody only wants to
S1: help 20 people versus somebody else who wants to help
S1: a million people, the correct proportion to help a million people,
S1: logic would state that you would need to spend more
S1: time and energy figuring that out, dialing that in because
S1: there's more skill there versus the person who's determined, I
S1: want to help 20 people, but it's really important for
S1: me to spend time doing this hobby that I have.
S1: I want to become the best electric guitar player that
S1: the world has ever heard. Okay, well, the correct proportion
S1: of that is likely going to be ten hours a day,
S1: whereas for me on the electric guitar side, this is
S1: going to be zero. Those are like total goose eggs.
S1: I'm not spending any energy there because that's not what
S1: my target is. So first thing, identify what your goals are.
S1: What do you actually want to have happen? Forget this
S1: idea of work life balance. Stop comparing yourself to the
S1: people that you grew up with. Do the people you
S1: went to school with, even to your coworkers because your
S1: goals are not their goals? So this idea of balance
S1: in comparison to somebody else makes no sense. Once you
S1: figure out what it is you actually want, then you
S1: have to figure out, okay, I want this thing, but
S1: I need potentially something else. I'll give you an example.
S1: I want to help all of these business owners, but
S1: I also need to be a good daughter. I also
S1: need to be a good wife. I also need to
S1: be present for these other people in my life. And
S1: so there's these wants, but then there are these needs.
S1: Now when I'm going through this practice of assessing the
S1: balance in my life, the first thing I asked myself
S1: is when it comes to the needs that I have,
S1: how much time do those things actually take? I sometimes
S1: can be a bad wife. I can be an attentive.
S1: I cannot be paying attention to the details. I cannot be.
S1: Maybe making the house the way that it should be
S1: or planning date nights. Like I will forget those things.
S1: And when I do forget those things, instead of those
S1: moments when I'm not good, where I potentially might feel
S1: out of balance, I'm not just going to like overexaggerate
S1: that in my head and say, Oh, I'm just such
S1: a terrible wife. I'm the worst wife because I did
S1: this thing wrong and maybe Brandon's upset. Of course that's
S1: not going to be what I think. I'm going to
S1: readjust the time I have to put into the things
S1: that I need to do. Now, of course you want
S1: to do those things, too. You want to be a
S1: present wife. You want to be a good mother to
S1: your kids or helpful to your grandparents or whatever those
S1: things are. But once you've identified those needs and maybe
S1: your over prioritizing your wants more, so then your needs
S1: sit down and have an honest conversation with yourself about
S1: how much time those needs need to take from you
S1: and be be realistic. Is it an hour a day?
S1: Is it 15 minutes a day? Is it two hours
S1: a day? Because when you can actually put time to it,
S1: it's not just hours spent. It's quality time. It's energy
S1: towards that thing. I'm certain that you can find time
S1: that you're wasting in other places in order to dedicate
S1: it to those needs so that you can still put
S1: the activity in for where you want to go, cover
S1: off your needs and cut away any of the fluff. See,
S1: those are the sacrifices that you have to make. Like
S1: what Are you really willing to give up for what
S1: you want? It shouldn't be and does not have to
S1: be the things that you need. It's likely spending too
S1: much time on this in areas that are not helping
S1: you get to where you want to go. It's scrolling
S1: on Instagram, it's scrolling on Tik Tok, it's checking your news,
S1: it's playing games. It's just like mindless activity. Those are
S1: the types of things that you need to stop doing
S1: in order to spend more time getting to where you want.
S1: Because you don't have to create this fictitious picture in
S1: your head that you can't have what you want and
S1: fulfill the obligations for the things that you need, which
S1: are also things that you want. So this is what
S1: I want you to do. I want you to get
S1: clear on what balance means for you. In order for
S1: you to do that, you're going to have to understand
S1: what your goals are. Now there's goals and what you want,
S1: and then there's needs. So documenting what my goals are,
S1: what my wants are, where do I want to be,
S1: but then also having that place for, okay, these things
S1: cannot get dropped. These balls that I'm juggling, these things
S1: that I'm doing every single day, these are still priorities
S1: while I do these things. And your third list is
S1: going to be the things that you are wasting your
S1: time on. Where are you spending time that you could
S1: be dedicating towards one of these two areas so that
S1: you are actually able to hit the income targets that
S1: you have? Those things are always the hardest things to
S1: identify because normally the things that you like to do
S1: are the things that you want to spend the most
S1: time doing because they provide comfort, they provide release, sometimes
S1: going after your goals and dreams and also caring for
S1: the people that need you in life can be, can
S1: feel overwhelming and can sometimes be stressful. So we choose
S1: these comfort things. Forget the comfort. That's what you're willing
S1: to sacrifice. I'm challenging you to sacrifice those comfort pieces
S1: so that you can actually have the life that you want.
S1: In order to do that, you got to get uncomfortable.
S1: So let me know in the comments what it is
S1: that you are going to give up, because in order
S1: to get to where you want to go, you are
S1: going to have to make sacrifices. And we will see
S1: you next time.