WEBVTT - How to master a work life balance 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:04.650 This is how you make millions while maintaining a work 0:00:04.650 --> 0:00:12.119 life balance. I know this topic of work life balance 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:15.630 is super important to people because there's not a business 0:00:15.630 --> 0:00:18.180 owner that I talked to that doesn't have these questions 0:00:18.180 --> 0:00:20.820 around how do I run my business? How do I 0:00:20.820 --> 0:00:25.319 become a millionaire while still fill in the blank? Being 0:00:25.320 --> 0:00:29.010 a good mom, being present for my children, being able 0:00:29.010 --> 0:00:31.830 to spend time with my families, being able to have 0:00:31.830 --> 0:00:36.300 a social life, meeting new people, having hobbies and activities. 0:00:36.300 --> 0:00:39.360 And so this is a concept that I feel like 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:42.780 business owners really struggle with, leaders really struggle with. And 0:00:42.780 --> 0:00:45.000 I'd like to give some perspective because I think that 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:48.180 I have figured out a way to master this to 0:00:48.180 --> 0:00:51.390 where I don't ever feel out of balance. And if 0:00:51.390 --> 0:00:54.720 there are moments where I'm overwhelmed or I'm stressed out, 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:57.420 I actually know how to cope with those things. So 0:00:57.420 --> 0:01:00.420 let's just dive into this for a second. This idea 0:01:00.420 --> 0:01:03.150 of work life balance, I think it's important to understand 0:01:03.150 --> 0:01:08.039 what is balance now. In true Nataly fashion, I looked 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:10.890 up the word balance. Here's an interesting definition of the 0:01:10.890 --> 0:01:14.759 word balance Balance a condition in which different elements are 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:19.110 equal or in the correct proportions. So here's this funny 0:01:19.110 --> 0:01:24.270 thing the correct proportions. Who's defined for your life? What 0:01:24.270 --> 0:01:28.980 the correct proportions of you spending time in different areas are? 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:32.280 Did your mom tell you that? Did a school teacher 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.520 tell you that? Like, who's dictating what the quote unquote 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:40.289 correct proportions are? Where is these correct proportions coming from? 0:01:40.620 --> 0:01:44.280 When I think about this, I think of my correct 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:48.360 proportions related to the goals that I have. So the 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:51.900 first thing in this conversation around work life balance has 0:01:51.900 --> 0:01:55.860 to come down to what are your goals? Where are 0:01:55.860 --> 0:01:59.700 you trying to go? Because once I've identified, as I've said, 0:01:59.700 --> 0:02:03.000 helping business owners, it is the most important thing to 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:05.670 me in my life right now. It's what everything is 0:02:05.670 --> 0:02:09.750 focused on. If that's the case, then when I'm coming 0:02:09.750 --> 0:02:13.590 up against what people want as an eight hour workday, 0:02:13.590 --> 0:02:16.380 I'm like, Wait a second. My correct proportion in order 0:02:16.380 --> 0:02:20.429 to achieve my target is actually a 14 hour workday. 0:02:20.430 --> 0:02:24.540 That is balance for me based on what the target is. 0:02:24.540 --> 0:02:28.800 And so once I know that I actually am underperforming, 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:32.430 if I'm not working or out working or spending more 0:02:32.430 --> 0:02:34.260 time doing the thing that I need to be doing 0:02:34.260 --> 0:02:37.530 based on somebody else's goal. If somebody only wants to 0:02:37.530 --> 0:02:41.399 help 20 people versus somebody else who wants to help 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:45.030 a million people, the correct proportion to help a million people, 0:02:45.030 --> 0:02:46.830 logic would state that you would need to spend more 0:02:46.830 --> 0:02:50.280 time and energy figuring that out, dialing that in because 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:53.460 there's more skill there versus the person who's determined, I 0:02:53.460 --> 0:02:56.130 want to help 20 people, but it's really important for 0:02:56.130 --> 0:02:59.610 me to spend time doing this hobby that I have. 0:02:59.610 --> 0:03:02.970 I want to become the best electric guitar player that 0:03:02.970 --> 0:03:06.299 the world has ever heard. Okay, well, the correct proportion 0:03:06.300 --> 0:03:10.110 of that is likely going to be ten hours a day, 0:03:10.110 --> 0:03:13.200 whereas for me on the electric guitar side, this is 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:15.390 going to be zero. Those are like total goose eggs. 0:03:15.389 --> 0:03:17.460 I'm not spending any energy there because that's not what 0:03:17.460 --> 0:03:22.950 my target is. So first thing, identify what your goals are. 0:03:22.950 --> 0:03:25.920 What do you actually want to have happen? Forget this 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:29.640 idea of work life balance. Stop comparing yourself to the 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:31.650 people that you grew up with. Do the people you 0:03:31.650 --> 0:03:34.920 went to school with, even to your coworkers because your 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:37.890 goals are not their goals? So this idea of balance 0:03:37.890 --> 0:03:40.950 in comparison to somebody else makes no sense. Once you 0:03:40.950 --> 0:03:44.100 figure out what it is you actually want, then you 0:03:44.100 --> 0:03:47.580 have to figure out, okay, I want this thing, but 0:03:47.580 --> 0:03:52.080 I need potentially something else. I'll give you an example. 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:55.680 I want to help all of these business owners, but 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:59.040 I also need to be a good daughter. I also 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:02.880 need to be a good wife. I also need to 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:06.420 be present for these other people in my life. And 0:04:06.420 --> 0:04:09.630 so there's these wants, but then there are these needs. 0:04:09.630 --> 0:04:13.770 Now when I'm going through this practice of assessing the 0:04:13.770 --> 0:04:16.950 balance in my life, the first thing I asked myself 0:04:16.950 --> 0:04:19.589 is when it comes to the needs that I have, 0:04:19.620 --> 0:04:24.039 how much time do those things actually take? I sometimes 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:27.529 can be a bad wife. I can be an attentive. 0:04:27.550 --> 0:04:31.360 I cannot be paying attention to the details. I cannot be. 0:04:31.690 --> 0:04:34.120 Maybe making the house the way that it should be 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:37.300 or planning date nights. Like I will forget those things. 0:04:37.300 --> 0:04:40.450 And when I do forget those things, instead of those 0:04:40.450 --> 0:04:43.750 moments when I'm not good, where I potentially might feel 0:04:43.750 --> 0:04:48.400 out of balance, I'm not just going to like overexaggerate 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:50.020 that in my head and say, Oh, I'm just such 0:04:50.020 --> 0:04:53.080 a terrible wife. I'm the worst wife because I did 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.110 this thing wrong and maybe Brandon's upset. Of course that's 0:04:56.110 --> 0:04:57.909 not going to be what I think. I'm going to 0:04:57.910 --> 0:05:01.659 readjust the time I have to put into the things 0:05:01.660 --> 0:05:04.660 that I need to do. Now, of course you want 0:05:04.660 --> 0:05:05.980 to do those things, too. You want to be a 0:05:05.980 --> 0:05:08.409 present wife. You want to be a good mother to 0:05:08.410 --> 0:05:11.979 your kids or helpful to your grandparents or whatever those 0:05:11.980 --> 0:05:15.700 things are. But once you've identified those needs and maybe 0:05:15.700 --> 0:05:21.490 your over prioritizing your wants more, so then your needs 0:05:21.490 --> 0:05:24.640 sit down and have an honest conversation with yourself about 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:28.390 how much time those needs need to take from you 0:05:28.660 --> 0:05:32.229 and be be realistic. Is it an hour a day? 0:05:32.230 --> 0:05:35.050 Is it 15 minutes a day? Is it two hours 0:05:35.050 --> 0:05:38.170 a day? Because when you can actually put time to it, 0:05:38.170 --> 0:05:42.370 it's not just hours spent. It's quality time. It's energy 0:05:42.370 --> 0:05:46.240 towards that thing. I'm certain that you can find time 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:49.120 that you're wasting in other places in order to dedicate 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:52.690 it to those needs so that you can still put 0:05:52.690 --> 0:05:55.900 the activity in for where you want to go, cover 0:05:55.900 --> 0:05:59.260 off your needs and cut away any of the fluff. See, 0:05:59.260 --> 0:06:02.679 those are the sacrifices that you have to make. Like 0:06:02.710 --> 0:06:06.039 what Are you really willing to give up for what 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:08.890 you want? It shouldn't be and does not have to 0:06:08.890 --> 0:06:13.270 be the things that you need. It's likely spending too 0:06:13.270 --> 0:06:17.740 much time on this in areas that are not helping 0:06:17.740 --> 0:06:20.080 you get to where you want to go. It's scrolling 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:25.090 on Instagram, it's scrolling on Tik Tok, it's checking your news, 0:06:25.089 --> 0:06:31.960 it's playing games. It's just like mindless activity. Those are 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:34.450 the types of things that you need to stop doing 0:06:34.450 --> 0:06:37.210 in order to spend more time getting to where you want. 0:06:37.210 --> 0:06:40.120 Because you don't have to create this fictitious picture in 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:43.839 your head that you can't have what you want and 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:46.239 fulfill the obligations for the things that you need, which 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:48.580 are also things that you want. So this is what 0:06:48.580 --> 0:06:50.560 I want you to do. I want you to get 0:06:50.560 --> 0:06:54.430 clear on what balance means for you. In order for 0:06:54.430 --> 0:06:56.290 you to do that, you're going to have to understand 0:06:56.290 --> 0:07:00.400 what your goals are. Now there's goals and what you want, 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.849 and then there's needs. So documenting what my goals are, 0:07:03.850 --> 0:07:06.390 what my wants are, where do I want to be, 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:08.919 but then also having that place for, okay, these things 0:07:08.920 --> 0:07:11.830 cannot get dropped. These balls that I'm juggling, these things 0:07:11.830 --> 0:07:14.380 that I'm doing every single day, these are still priorities 0:07:14.380 --> 0:07:18.280 while I do these things. And your third list is 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:21.160 going to be the things that you are wasting your 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:24.220 time on. Where are you spending time that you could 0:07:24.220 --> 0:07:27.280 be dedicating towards one of these two areas so that 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.739 you are actually able to hit the income targets that 0:07:29.740 --> 0:07:32.920 you have? Those things are always the hardest things to 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.980 identify because normally the things that you like to do 0:07:35.980 --> 0:07:37.660 are the things that you want to spend the most 0:07:37.660 --> 0:07:42.040 time doing because they provide comfort, they provide release, sometimes 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.980 going after your goals and dreams and also caring for 0:07:44.980 --> 0:07:48.010 the people that need you in life can be, can 0:07:48.010 --> 0:07:51.280 feel overwhelming and can sometimes be stressful. So we choose 0:07:51.280 --> 0:07:54.610 these comfort things. Forget the comfort. That's what you're willing 0:07:54.610 --> 0:07:58.330 to sacrifice. I'm challenging you to sacrifice those comfort pieces 0:07:58.330 --> 0:08:00.730 so that you can actually have the life that you want. 0:08:00.730 --> 0:08:03.430 In order to do that, you got to get uncomfortable. 0:08:03.430 --> 0:08:06.190 So let me know in the comments what it is 0:08:06.190 --> 0:08:08.950 that you are going to give up, because in order 0:08:08.950 --> 0:08:10.270 to get to where you want to go, you are 0:08:10.270 --> 0:08:13.210 going to have to make sacrifices. And we will see 0:08:13.210 --> 0:08:13.900 you next time.