WEBVTT - Vogue Called and I Picked Up 0:00:05.610 --> 0:00:12.389 Welcome back to Building Billions. Man, what a frickin day. 0:00:12.810 --> 0:00:18.419 Though called. Yes. They called. Like, we actually had a 0:00:18.420 --> 0:00:22.170 phone call. And the email of the person I was 0:00:22.170 --> 0:00:26.729 talking to is literally at Conde Nast, which owns Vogue. 0:00:26.730 --> 0:00:29.640 So I'm not here to talk to you about all 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:31.440 things Vogue. However, I might give you a little sneak 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:34.230 peek into what might be happening at the end of 0:00:34.229 --> 0:00:37.320 the episode. And to be honest, this isn't even really 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:42.090 about me. It's about what you do when the universe 0:00:42.090 --> 0:00:47.070 hands you a little nod, a little acknowledgment of the 0:00:47.070 --> 0:00:52.530 work that you've put in place. So this thing with Vogue, 0:00:52.530 --> 0:00:56.040 to be honest with you, it's not like I'm spending 0:00:56.040 --> 0:01:00.570 my days trying to figure out how to become a 0:01:00.570 --> 0:01:04.589 fashion influencer, or really how to do anything with fashion, 0:01:04.590 --> 0:01:07.979 to be honest. Like it's it's not something I like 0:01:07.980 --> 0:01:11.730 picking out clothes. I, I find a lot of play 0:01:11.730 --> 0:01:15.060 time like fun. It would be my version of fun. 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:19.709 But again, I'm not spending a lot of fun time. Honestly, 0:01:19.740 --> 0:01:23.310 seven days a week I am focused on building this 0:01:23.310 --> 0:01:27.660 business because that is my primary goal. However many moons 0:01:27.660 --> 0:01:31.620 ago when I first started this goal setting process, I 0:01:31.620 --> 0:01:35.700 will never forget I was about 24 years old and 0:01:35.700 --> 0:01:41.790 I wrote down every single one of my wildest dreams, 0:01:41.790 --> 0:01:46.050 my goals that made me feel silly, even putting down 0:01:46.050 --> 0:01:49.260 on a piece of paper so cringe y thinking somebody 0:01:49.260 --> 0:01:51.960 would ever find it to the point where I had 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:55.350 to work myself up, like total self-talk in order to 0:01:55.350 --> 0:01:59.040 even be able to tell these things to Brandon. One 0:01:59.040 --> 0:02:03.720 of the things on this list was, and I'm dead serious, 0:02:04.620 --> 0:02:09.090 yachting with Beyonce and Jay-Z in the Amalfi Coast. That's 0:02:09.090 --> 0:02:12.780 on my bucket list in my lifetime. I want to 0:02:12.780 --> 0:02:14.970 do that. And when I was 24 years old, I 0:02:14.970 --> 0:02:19.260 was so far from being the person that could go 0:02:19.290 --> 0:02:25.110 yachting for a vacation with Beyonce and Jay-Z. I was lazy, 0:02:25.110 --> 0:02:31.950 I was insecure, I was dependent on other people. I 0:02:31.950 --> 0:02:35.880 was emotionally just not in a good place. You know? 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:38.520 There was never anything crazy. It's not like I've never 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:43.170 done drugs in my entire life. I've never abused alcohol, 0:02:43.169 --> 0:02:46.320 and I don't have any secret addictions or anything like that. 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:50.800 But I was just. Soft. I was just a really 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:52.540 soft person. I didn't have a purpose. I didn't know 0:02:52.540 --> 0:02:54.790 what I was doing with my life. I knew I 0:02:54.790 --> 0:02:57.610 had potential, I was certain I had potential, but I 0:02:57.610 --> 0:03:00.790 just didn't know anything else about what I was trying 0:03:00.790 --> 0:03:02.560 to do or where I was trying to go. So 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:07.120 I made this master list, and one of the items 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:11.799 on this list is an invitation to the Met Gala. 0:03:12.220 --> 0:03:16.480 So it's now been six years where I established this 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:21.429 vision of my life. This, like Natalie, wants to be 0:03:21.430 --> 0:03:24.640 this person and sees herself as this person. And I 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:28.450 have all this imagery in my head and at the time, like, 0:03:28.450 --> 0:03:32.860 I really visualizing who I was going to become and 0:03:32.860 --> 0:03:34.870 how I would carry myself and how I'd walk in 0:03:34.870 --> 0:03:37.150 a room and what I'd be spending my time doing. 0:03:37.150 --> 0:03:42.340 So there were more substantial and like meaty things on 0:03:42.340 --> 0:03:46.210 this list than yachting with Beyonce and Jay-Z and hanging 0:03:46.210 --> 0:03:50.140 out with Anna Wintour at the Met Gala. And those 0:03:50.140 --> 0:03:53.530 meaty things, honestly, are what I'm doing today inside our 0:03:53.530 --> 0:03:56.230 business at Carlisle Ventures. When I was 24 years old, 0:03:56.230 --> 0:03:59.530 we hadn't started Kado Ventures yet, and I had business experience, 0:03:59.530 --> 0:04:02.740 but nothing near what today looks like. We didn't have 0:04:02.740 --> 0:04:06.460 a company at that moment in time, and so today 0:04:06.460 --> 0:04:09.550 I spend time speaking on stages. Back then I couldn't 0:04:09.550 --> 0:04:12.880 imagine speaking on stages. Today we have a business paying 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.550 us what I thought I wanted my net worth to 0:04:15.550 --> 0:04:17.860 be by the time I was 30. Like we have 0:04:17.860 --> 0:04:23.200 that the business paying us that a year. So. I 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:29.960 spend so much time, energy and effort. Focused on keeping 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:34.039 the main thing the main thing. But I've never forgotten 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:36.770 because it's a part of my goals. Like you can't 0:04:36.770 --> 0:04:39.110 deny yourself your goals and this is part of this 0:04:39.110 --> 0:04:43.520 like you can't. I've never forgotten that this Vogue group 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:48.849 of people, this vogue. Opportunity of my life is something 0:04:48.850 --> 0:04:52.150 that I really want for myself, and it's not for 0:04:52.150 --> 0:04:56.680 some silly reason. I believe that it brings me passion, 0:04:56.680 --> 0:05:00.190 and there's lots of great people that I could meet 0:05:00.190 --> 0:05:03.430 and connections that are inside this world that I'm not 0:05:03.430 --> 0:05:07.210 even remotely a part of. Like, my life is so 0:05:07.210 --> 0:05:10.630 far from being connected to vogue on a day to 0:05:10.630 --> 0:05:14.380 day basis. And yet it's this passion of mine. It's 0:05:14.380 --> 0:05:16.659 this thing that at some point in my life, I 0:05:16.660 --> 0:05:19.540 know that I would be disappointed if I never figured 0:05:19.540 --> 0:05:24.280 out how to become the person that was just fashionable 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:29.110 enough and just connected enough to meet with really cool 0:05:29.110 --> 0:05:32.410 people who are talking about culture and art and experiencing 0:05:32.410 --> 0:05:37.900 life from this more. What would the word be? Uh, 0:05:37.900 --> 0:05:45.700 this more aesthetic side and not aesthetic, like fake, like 0:05:45.700 --> 0:05:50.529 just like an aesthetic wavelength. Like a light wavelength. Because 0:05:50.529 --> 0:05:53.200 on the day to day, it feels like a fucking grind. 0:05:53.350 --> 0:05:56.380 It feels like emails. This particular morning, I woke up 0:05:56.380 --> 0:06:00.550 at 445 this morning in order to knock out two projects, 0:06:00.550 --> 0:06:06.100 answer emails, work out, have five executive and leadership calls. 0:06:06.100 --> 0:06:10.870 Right up until I did a book shoot with calls 0:06:10.870 --> 0:06:13.390 in between. And the call one of them was the 0:06:13.390 --> 0:06:16.870 Vogue call. But not all days, like no days. Let 0:06:16.870 --> 0:06:18.970 me just be honest. No days look like having a 0:06:18.970 --> 0:06:25.370 Vogue call a day. So. There's something about your goals. 0:06:25.370 --> 0:06:27.590 And if you haven't written your down your goals yet, 0:06:27.589 --> 0:06:29.660 if you haven't claimed whatever it is that you want, 0:06:29.660 --> 0:06:34.099 for me, it's like this. Billions. Net worth target this 0:06:34.100 --> 0:06:39.260 billions portfolio. Helping other people create billions like that is 0:06:39.260 --> 0:06:43.940 a massive component of my vision. Where I'm going, what 0:06:43.940 --> 0:06:47.800 I believe I'm meant to do in this life. And 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:50.200 when you have those things written down and some of 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:54.910 them are not fully connected, when you have a moment 0:06:54.910 --> 0:06:59.830 where the universe reminds you that there is this intention 0:06:59.830 --> 0:07:02.770 that you've set, that there is this opportunity, that you 0:07:02.770 --> 0:07:08.409 believe you are ready for, that this lifetime is going 0:07:08.410 --> 0:07:13.900 to have as a connection point. Just appreciate the fucking moment. 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:18.370 Just take in the moment. And if this Vogue thing 0:07:18.370 --> 0:07:21.010 doesn't work out, I'm good. Vogue is not going to 0:07:21.010 --> 0:07:24.700 change my life. If this doesn't, you know, pan out 0:07:24.700 --> 0:07:27.520 even in the future. I am so thrilled with how 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:29.140 I've kept the main thing, the main thing, and what 0:07:29.140 --> 0:07:31.510 I actually do for for our clients and for our 0:07:31.510 --> 0:07:33.910 team and for myself and who I've become and how proud, 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:36.880 proud I am of myself. However, every once in a while, 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:40.960 the universe will just plop open this opportunity. And I've 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.750 had a handful of these come through, most of which 0:07:43.750 --> 0:07:48.130 have actually happened through interviewing for reality television shows. One 0:07:48.130 --> 0:07:50.620 of them was with Bethenny Frankel. I got like so 0:07:50.620 --> 0:07:54.940 caught up in in this opportunity, another with Real Housewives, 0:07:54.940 --> 0:08:03.290 and I've just wanted some. I've wanted some opportunity that 0:08:04.310 --> 0:08:06.650 happens or I think is about to happen, and then 0:08:06.650 --> 0:08:11.060 it doesn't happen. But take the minute when these little 0:08:11.060 --> 0:08:17.450 things pop up to just appreciate that this is the 0:08:17.450 --> 0:08:20.390 direction that your life is heading, and your life doesn't 0:08:20.390 --> 0:08:24.320 even have to go that direction. For the The Real Housewives, 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:26.180 my my life did not go in that direction. I 0:08:26.180 --> 0:08:28.820 did not with actually, it wasn't just one Real Housewives there. 0:08:28.820 --> 0:08:31.850 There have been a number that I've interviewed with. It 0:08:31.850 --> 0:08:36.320 didn't go that direction. But in the moment, instead of 0:08:36.500 --> 0:08:43.480 appreciating the acknowledgment of, like, Natalie, you're on the right path. I, 0:08:43.990 --> 0:08:46.540 I get I've gotten caught up in the past and 0:08:46.540 --> 0:08:49.780 with this Vogue opportunity, I'm not caught up with it. 0:08:49.780 --> 0:08:52.120 It can either happen or it doesn't happen. However, I'm 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:56.620 so fucking proud of myself in the work that I've done, 0:08:56.770 --> 0:08:59.890 and if it happens, I'm going to be so excited. 0:09:00.770 --> 0:09:06.800 And it's this new opportunity. But never play small when 0:09:06.800 --> 0:09:11.479 it comes to identifying what you truly want in this lifetime. 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:18.130 And again, in those moments that. You're appreciative of the 0:09:18.130 --> 0:09:21.640 opportunity even potentially being able to happen, or you're one 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:25.390 step closer. Don't beat up yourself and say like, oh, 0:09:25.390 --> 0:09:26.800 but it's not going to happen. And what if it 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:32.920 doesn't happen? Just take the second. The moment, the opportunity 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:37.930 to just be grateful and then do everything you can 0:09:37.929 --> 0:09:40.599 to make it work right. Short of changing who you 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:44.230 are or altering your goals or, you know, trying to 0:09:44.230 --> 0:09:47.800 become something that's just not you. For this Vogue thing, 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:50.830 I showed up to this call today and was just 0:09:50.980 --> 0:09:54.940 excited to hear more, excited to understand what the process 0:09:54.940 --> 0:09:58.420 would look like. And I showed up as myself. And 0:09:58.420 --> 0:10:01.810 I'm proud of showing up as myself, because that's the 0:10:01.809 --> 0:10:05.020 real work that's taking place over the last six years 0:10:05.020 --> 0:10:08.890 that I've done the work that is required in order 0:10:08.890 --> 0:10:13.240 to have these new opportunities show up. And this moment 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:17.349 is making me feel better about all of the other moments, 0:10:17.350 --> 0:10:19.600 all of the other sacrifices, all of the things that 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:22.690 I do every single day. Because it's just this reminder that, hey, 0:10:22.690 --> 0:10:25.480 wait a second, you're on the right track. And so 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:27.280 if you have one of those come up in your 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:32.080 life over the next little while, don't overthink it. Don't 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:34.840 over process it. Do everything you can in order to 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:37.390 make it happen, right. I'm not saying you should just 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:40.660 hope and wish and cross your fingers that something great 0:10:40.660 --> 0:10:42.550 is going to happen. Like no, show up and be 0:10:42.550 --> 0:10:45.250 prepared and be your best. But also just take it 0:10:45.250 --> 0:10:49.690 as a moment and appreciate who you're becoming, who you're 0:10:49.690 --> 0:10:52.060 about to become, all of the hard work that it's 0:10:52.059 --> 0:10:54.640 taken to get you to where you're at today, and 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:59.710 then just lean back in and take it as a sign. Now, 0:10:59.710 --> 0:11:03.130 when I say take it as a sign, I mean 0:11:03.130 --> 0:11:11.860 squeeze every last motivational, inspirational moment that you can out 0:11:11.860 --> 0:11:16.390 of this because you're going to need it. You need 0:11:16.390 --> 0:11:19.690 these little wins and don't miss them on the journey. 0:11:19.690 --> 0:11:24.100 The winds are the thing that allow every other area 0:11:24.100 --> 0:11:29.500 of your life for you to feel phenomenal about. This 0:11:29.500 --> 0:11:33.400 Vogue call for me, I'm like, I'm working out harder. 0:11:33.610 --> 0:11:38.410 I'm going to be more proud of. I don't know, 0:11:38.410 --> 0:11:44.770 finishing projects and happier in my relationship because it's it's 0:11:44.770 --> 0:11:47.710 this like it's just this moment and it's a win 0:11:47.710 --> 0:11:50.830 and it's a like feather in my cap. And I'm 0:11:50.830 --> 0:11:53.439 going to use it in order to fuel this next thing. 0:11:53.440 --> 0:11:57.340 I'm not going to miss this opportunity to soak everything 0:11:57.340 --> 0:12:01.270 out of this acknowledgement that I'm doing the right things. 0:12:01.270 --> 0:12:04.719 I'm on the right path. And, you know, I'm literally 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:07.059 pulling into my nail place right now in order to 0:12:07.059 --> 0:12:11.170 get my nails done before my trip to Florida, where 0:12:11.170 --> 0:12:13.359 we have this event. But I'm even thinking of my 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.360 event this weekend. And how can I be better? And 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:18.160 how can I show a different to my audience? And 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:20.650 how can I just continue to push to this next level? 0:12:20.650 --> 0:12:22.870 And the reason I feel this way is because I 0:12:22.870 --> 0:12:25.150 have this little win, and I feel like the wind 0:12:25.150 --> 0:12:27.970 is at my back and it's propelling me forward because 0:12:27.970 --> 0:12:31.990 of this moment. So I'm juicing this thing. I hope 0:12:31.990 --> 0:12:36.400 that you choose not to just let real wins pass 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:41.170 you by. Like lean into them, acknowledge them and go 0:12:41.170 --> 0:12:45.580 for it. Because don't forget, you got this shot. I 0:12:45.580 --> 0:12:47.469 don't know if we have more shots than this, but 0:12:47.470 --> 0:12:50.050 I do know that we have this shot and you 0:12:50.050 --> 0:12:54.010 shouldn't undermine. You shouldn't feel less than. You shouldn't think 0:12:54.010 --> 0:12:57.220 that you can't have everything that you want. And as 0:12:57.220 --> 0:13:00.400 you start to get it, it's a beautiful thing. It 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:04.809 really is. But keep striving, keep going. I'm rooting for you. 0:13:04.809 --> 0:13:08.410 I'm pulling for you. Can't wait to see you on 0:13:08.410 --> 0:13:09.130 the next episode.