S1: Welcome to business and the podcast for people making it
S1: all happen. Running a successful business completely takes over your life,
S1: but I'm a believer that there is still room for
S1: some ands like health, wealth, beauty, and maybe even some fashion.
S1: On this podcast, I'll share with you what's working for
S1: scaling my nine figure business while keeping you up to
S1: date on the latest trends, news and fun finds. This
S1: is a place for business and let's dive in! Welcome
S1: back to business and I love this topic how to
S1: get unstuck in your life. Now, if I'm totally honest,
S1: I am the opposite of being stuck in my life
S1: right now. I've never felt more motivated. I've never felt
S1: more inspired. But I remember so vividly different points in
S1: my life where I was incredibly stuck, one of which
S1: was in college when I just felt like I didn't
S1: know what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go.
S1: And I don't know that depression is a real thing.
S1: I don't know that I believe that depression is a
S1: real thing. I don't know that there's any test for depression,
S1: but if there was, I would say that that was
S1: a time of deep sadness in my life, and there's
S1: been a handful of other periods of my life where
S1: I've felt that way, and I really want to help
S1: people who might be feeling that way right now, because
S1: you can get out of it and you can get
S1: out of it without taking drugs, without thinking that there's
S1: something wrong with you, simply through producing and creating the
S1: life that you actually want. So if I was stuck
S1: in my life right now, in 2025 with social media
S1: and Netflix and all of these things that we have
S1: as distractions, this is exactly how I would get unstuck
S1: in my life. The first and most important step to
S1: getting unstuck is to understand that the old version of
S1: you doesn't exist anymore, unless you choose to stay stuck.
S1: You have to cut off the person that you are
S1: right now to become the person that you want to be.
S1: So how do you actually do this? You see, I
S1: love to look up the derivation of words, and the
S1: derivation of the word decision is to cut off, which
S1: means you're no longer the person that you were yesterday
S1: if you have made a decision to change, that person
S1: doesn't exist. Imagine if your car got stolen the next
S1: day you couldn't wake up. Be able to use your
S1: old vehicle in order to get to where you're trying
S1: to go. You'd have to come up with some different solution.
S1: You'd have to take a bike. You'd have to Uber.
S1: Maybe you're walking. You no longer have your car as
S1: your option to travel now. Think about this as a
S1: decision for you to change your life. If you are
S1: going to become a person who works out every single day,
S1: or a person who is a badass at sales, or
S1: somebody who reads books and is very well read and articulate,
S1: all of a sudden, if you decide to be that person,
S1: you are no longer the person that doesn't do those things.
S1: That person doesn't exist any longer. So you have to
S1: start making decisions as if you are that new person.
S1: Because guess what? You are. All because you made the decision. Now,
S1: once you've made the decision, let's make your environment easier.
S1: So if you know that you doomscroll on TikTok, set
S1: a policy, make it so that moving forward you have
S1: your screen time locked on your phone. You cannot scroll
S1: on TikTok for longer than five minutes when you make
S1: subtle changes like this to actually change your environment, you're
S1: doubling down on the decision for you not to be
S1: the old version of yourself. So your environment matters and
S1: the choices that you need to make in order to
S1: get there really matter. And guess what? They can be
S1: small little tweaks. Being a whole different version of you
S1: doesn't mean that everything in your life changes, but the
S1: things that matter that you need to make progress on
S1: have to happen today. And that decision has to be now.
S1: My second step to getting unstuck is to ruin myself
S1: with disappointment in me. Disappointment is the wake up call
S1: that you have been avoiding. Do not listen to all
S1: of those nice memes and those fun TikToks that make
S1: you feel like you should accept yourself and be okay
S1: with yourself the way that you are. If you're disappointed
S1: because you know that you have more in you, you
S1: know that you could impact more people. You know you
S1: have this great potential and instead you're wasting it. Be
S1: freaking disappointed. You shouldn't feel good about yourself. Why would
S1: you feel good about yourself? You're not living into what
S1: is possible for you. Once you know that you're unhappy
S1: with the way that your life looks, you can make
S1: that change, but don't sugarcoat it. Don't tell yourself lies
S1: that you should just love yourself the way that you
S1: are and give yourself a big hug. Don't listen to
S1: that bullshit. Be disappointed, accept the disappointment and take action.
S1: My parents used to drag me to a dinner every
S1: single year with a family friend, and this family friend
S1: was very well educated, very well read, and incredibly successful.
S1: But I hated going to the dinner because he made
S1: me feel bad about myself. The amount of news that
S1: he would read every single day would remind me that
S1: instead of reading the news, I was watching television. The
S1: way that he would articulate questions and his opinions would
S1: make me feel uncomfortable, because I realized I didn't have
S1: an opinion because I didn't even know what the frick
S1: he was talking about. He was so involved in politics
S1: and what was happening in the world. And I realized,
S1: I don't know the things that I could know and
S1: that I really feel like I should know and should
S1: be part of those conversations. So after many years of dinners,
S1: I finally decided to stop lying to myself and take action.
S1: What did I do? I ordered the economist. I ordered
S1: the Wall Street Journal to show up to my house
S1: every single day, and I became interested in the news.
S1: I became interested in politics so that when I showed
S1: up to dinner the next year, I would actually have opinions.
S1: You see, I didn't lie to myself saying that those
S1: things aren't important. They were important. That brings us to
S1: step three, which is to decide what you want your
S1: life to look like. You cannot create the life that
S1: you want without knowing what you want. If I'm totally honest,
S1: I entirely gave up on my goals. For about three years,
S1: I became introverted. I just decided to be stuck in
S1: life because I felt really insecure, to be honest. And
S1: I was not confident. And I was so terrified of
S1: what people thought of me that I just didn't want
S1: to try. And I'll never forget flying to this conference.
S1: And I had said no to speaking at this conference
S1: because I was scared and I didn't feel confident. But
S1: then I was sitting there in the audience realizing, I'm here.
S1: I could be participating, I could be contributing. But instead,
S1: my fear of public speaking, my fear of being seen,
S1: my fear of maybe people judging me or criticizing me
S1: is going to keep me on the sidelines. And from
S1: that moment forward, I was like, I'm not going to
S1: be this person. I refuse to be the person that
S1: doesn't have the life that they want. And so from there,
S1: I took accountability and said, what do I want my
S1: life to look like? And I wrote down all of
S1: my goals. What do I want personally? What do I
S1: want my fitness goals to be? What do I want
S1: my family goals to be? What kind of friends do
S1: I want to have professionally? What type of mentors do
S1: I want to bring in? What are the opportunities that
S1: I'd like to create and financially, how much money do
S1: I want to make? What do I want to contribute to?
S1: How could I make a financial impact on a charity
S1: that really matters to me? Because if I'm not confident
S1: in myself today and I don't feel like I can
S1: create the life that I want, I'm never going to
S1: create the impact that I could potentially make. And I
S1: am put on this planet in order to live into
S1: my potential. And I think that you are too. So
S1: if you haven't done this already, I would pause this
S1: video and I would take out a piece of paper,
S1: or maybe open up your notes app, and I would
S1: write down your personal, professional and financial five year goals.
S1: This will give you a picture of who you want
S1: to be in the future, so that you can decide
S1: to be that person today. Step four is the most
S1: important thing you can do, because you have to know
S1: for sure that you are moving forward. Are you making
S1: progress daily? That is how you get out of the
S1: rut of having this dream life, but actually feeling like
S1: you're making incremental progress. You're seeing wins. You're making a change.
S1: One of my successful habits around this is to plan
S1: my day the night before. I do not leave my office.
S1: I do not leave my place of work or go
S1: to bed without having a full breakdown of my calendar
S1: and where I'm spending my time the next day. Make
S1: the plan the night before. So when I'm going through
S1: my calendar, I'm looking at what appointments do I have,
S1: what books am I reading? What podcasts do I need
S1: to listen to? How do I sprinkle in little pieces
S1: of future Natalie and make those deposits today so that
S1: I can actually get to those opportunities in the future?
S1: Because I'm well-read on these things, because I'm in the know,
S1: on what's happening in the spaces that I'm interested in
S1: going into. The progress you choose to make every single
S1: day is what changes things. It is not these big steps.
S1: It is the tiny, incremental steps that you make every
S1: single day that change the trajectory of your life to
S1: create the life that you've always wanted. And my hack
S1: for this is to actually graph the things that are
S1: the most important to me. Because if I can see
S1: on a graph that I'm getting more hours of sleep
S1: every single night, that I am working out consistently, and
S1: that my muscle mass is increasing, or if I can
S1: see that I'm actually making more money month over month.
S1: All of a sudden I feel better about the growth
S1: because I can see it moving up. But if you
S1: aren't graphing and you aren't paying attention to those movements
S1: every day, you're going to feel like you're not getting
S1: any closer and you're going to go back into your rut.
S1: So measuring the handful of things that matter to you
S1: changes everything. Step five is one of my favorites, and
S1: I don't hear people talking about this. Wherever you're currently
S1: spending your time, stop spending your time there. If you're
S1: in a rut, the easiest way to get unstuck in
S1: your life is to get out of your house. Your
S1: environment dictates the way that you feel. So you're watching
S1: a video right now about how to get unstuck. If
S1: you're feeling stuck, that means that you shouldn't stay in
S1: the environment where you are stuck. Your environment can be
S1: the type of social media that you interact with. Your
S1: environment can be the friends that you hang out with,
S1: the information that you're reading, get out of your house.
S1: Get out of those places where you feel stuck and
S1: do that immediately. If you're watching this in a place
S1: where you don't feel great, leave the place that you're
S1: currently in. And getting out of your house is one
S1: of the most effective things. When you get out of
S1: your house, it means that you have to be around
S1: other people. Back when I was in college and I
S1: would really feel caved in, I would do my homework
S1: in my bed. I felt like I was just grinding
S1: and that there was no end in sight. My life
S1: was always going to suck. I would go and study
S1: at a Starbucks, and later on I learned that the
S1: best place to study was actually a hotel lobby. Because
S1: you were just in a different environment. It was a
S1: different groove. I just felt better about myself. I put
S1: on a different outfit, I made my makeup a little
S1: bit nicer, and I felt like I was in a place,
S1: like the places that I wanted to be in the future,
S1: instead of physically being in the place where I currently
S1: feel stuck. So think of ways that you could change
S1: your environment. If you currently study at your house, could
S1: you study in a library? If you currently work in
S1: a space with a coworker that you can't stand. Could
S1: you ask your manager to move? There are creative ways
S1: to change your environment, and your environment is everything. Step
S1: six is to realize that entertainment disguised as education is
S1: why you're not making progress. If you watch a bunch
S1: of these videos and you never do anything after them,
S1: you have just substituted traditional entertainment via TikTok or Netflix
S1: with education that you're using as entertainment. And I am
S1: a huge culprit of this. I will never forget when
S1: I needed some motivation, it was back when I was
S1: in high school. I had to study for this big
S1: AP exam. I was going to watch this movie about
S1: this inspirational story of this woman who had this incredible
S1: gymnastics career. In my mind, I was thinking I was
S1: being productive or I was learning something, learning how to
S1: overcome and how to have grit. Really, I was just
S1: being educated. Back in the day, I didn't have YouTube,
S1: but today I see people doing this constantly where they
S1: will just binge watch all of these videos on how
S1: to launch an effective marketing campaign, how to grow on
S1: social media, how to make more money and they feel
S1: better because instead of just watching mindless reality television. At
S1: least they're learning something. But they're not paring the learning
S1: of something with the doing of something. This can lead
S1: to you feeling like you're making progress when really you're not.
S1: So here's my rule of thumb whenever I'm watching, reading,
S1: or listening to something, I have to actually do something
S1: immediately afterwards. I can't just go to the next video,
S1: to the next podcast, find the next guru. You will
S1: not have a better life. You will not get unstuck
S1: from your rut if you just go to Natalie's next video.
S1: Although you should go to my next video, but that's
S1: not going to really help you and I'm here to
S1: actually help you. So what can you do right now
S1: that would make a change? If I was you, I
S1: would take my laptop or I would take my phone
S1: and I would get out of my house and I
S1: would go set up shop in a coffee shop or
S1: in some awesome swanky hotel lobby. That is how you implement.
S1: And you make a change so that you're actually making
S1: progress instead of just being educated. Next up is number seven,
S1: which is to separate yourself from people who don't support you.
S1: You can take a break from people holding you back,
S1: and it doesn't have to be a breakup. This is
S1: a lesson that my mom taught me. She would tell
S1: me about the boyfriends that she would break up with,
S1: but they didn't know that she broke up with them.
S1: And I was like, mom, how did you do this?
S1: She said I would just create slow and subtle distance.
S1: Instead of having this big fight that created all this emotion,
S1: I would subtly become more and more busy to the
S1: point where it just didn't make sense for us to
S1: be together any longer. Because I already had this new
S1: life with things that I was passionate about, and they
S1: were still doing what they were doing before. We didn't
S1: have some massive breakup, but it was obvious to both
S1: parties that there was no longer alignment. This is the
S1: best way to create separation from your friends. Now here's
S1: the deal with this don't make other people wrong. Don't
S1: have some big emotional blow up. Just separate yourself and
S1: start being so busy working on yourself, doing things that
S1: are creating the life that you want, that you no
S1: longer have the time that you used to have. If
S1: you have friends who you like to party with and
S1: go out with on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights just
S1: have other things to do that you can't move. Whatever
S1: it is that you're trying to create, make time to
S1: do those things. In the time that you used to
S1: spend with people who aren't helping you get closer to
S1: your goals. This is where I go back to looking
S1: at my calendar, and I cancel anything that is not
S1: helping me get out of the rut that I'm in.
S1: There is no party that you can go to. There
S1: is no lunch that you can go to. There is
S1: no coffee that you can go to with your friend
S1: that is going to make you feel better about yourself again.
S1: It's not to make them bad and it's not to
S1: make them wrong. It's just to say, I no longer
S1: have time to talk about my current life because I
S1: have to go do things and spend time building a
S1: new version of my life. And I can't live my
S1: old life while building the new version of my life.
S1: That brings us to our final step in getting unstuck,
S1: which is step number eight. Just say no. You have
S1: to say no to anything that doesn't align with your goals.
S1: I used to make up errands that I had to
S1: run instead of spending Saturday actually learning a new skill
S1: and investing in myself to make progress, I would come
S1: up with this list of all of these things that
S1: I had to do. I have to go get my
S1: nails done. I have to go to target, I have
S1: to eat lunch. I just created all of these things
S1: that I had to do when really I didn't have
S1: to do any of them. So sometimes saying no isn't
S1: saying no to somebody else. It's actually saying no to
S1: the habits and the routines and the things that you
S1: tell yourself you have to do, but they're really distractions,
S1: just taking you away from the things that you actually
S1: have to do. If you're not making progress on the
S1: real things that you need to do, you have to
S1: reevaluate the things that you have to do and start
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