WEBVTT - How to Get Unstuck 0:00:00.050 --> 0:00:03.020 Welcome to business and the podcast for people making it 0:00:03.020 --> 0:00:07.369 all happen. Running a successful business completely takes over your life, 0:00:07.370 --> 0:00:10.129 but I'm a believer that there is still room for 0:00:10.130 --> 0:00:14.630 some ands like health, wealth, beauty, and maybe even some fashion. 0:00:14.660 --> 0:00:17.030 On this podcast, I'll share with you what's working for 0:00:17.030 --> 0:00:19.849 scaling my nine figure business while keeping you up to 0:00:19.850 --> 0:00:23.060 date on the latest trends, news and fun finds. This 0:00:23.060 --> 0:00:26.720 is a place for business and let's dive in! Welcome 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:30.140 back to business and I love this topic how to 0:00:30.140 --> 0:00:32.630 get unstuck in your life. Now, if I'm totally honest, 0:00:32.630 --> 0:00:35.300 I am the opposite of being stuck in my life 0:00:35.300 --> 0:00:37.700 right now. I've never felt more motivated. I've never felt 0:00:37.700 --> 0:00:43.070 more inspired. But I remember so vividly different points in 0:00:43.070 --> 0:00:45.710 my life where I was incredibly stuck, one of which 0:00:45.710 --> 0:00:48.110 was in college when I just felt like I didn't 0:00:48.110 --> 0:00:50.660 know what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go. 0:00:50.659 --> 0:00:54.260 And I don't know that depression is a real thing. 0:00:54.260 --> 0:00:55.850 I don't know that I believe that depression is a 0:00:55.850 --> 0:00:58.610 real thing. I don't know that there's any test for depression, 0:00:58.610 --> 0:01:01.760 but if there was, I would say that that was 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:05.150 a time of deep sadness in my life, and there's 0:01:05.150 --> 0:01:06.830 been a handful of other periods of my life where 0:01:06.830 --> 0:01:09.410 I've felt that way, and I really want to help 0:01:09.410 --> 0:01:11.780 people who might be feeling that way right now, because 0:01:11.780 --> 0:01:13.550 you can get out of it and you can get 0:01:13.550 --> 0:01:16.070 out of it without taking drugs, without thinking that there's 0:01:16.069 --> 0:01:19.520 something wrong with you, simply through producing and creating the 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:22.340 life that you actually want. So if I was stuck 0:01:22.340 --> 0:01:26.060 in my life right now, in 2025 with social media 0:01:26.060 --> 0:01:28.190 and Netflix and all of these things that we have 0:01:28.220 --> 0:01:32.000 as distractions, this is exactly how I would get unstuck 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.880 in my life. The first and most important step to 0:01:34.910 --> 0:01:37.940 getting unstuck is to understand that the old version of 0:01:37.940 --> 0:01:42.080 you doesn't exist anymore, unless you choose to stay stuck. 0:01:42.110 --> 0:01:44.540 You have to cut off the person that you are 0:01:44.540 --> 0:01:47.420 right now to become the person that you want to be. 0:01:47.450 --> 0:01:49.460 So how do you actually do this? You see, I 0:01:49.460 --> 0:01:52.910 love to look up the derivation of words, and the 0:01:52.910 --> 0:01:57.290 derivation of the word decision is to cut off, which 0:01:57.290 --> 0:01:59.900 means you're no longer the person that you were yesterday 0:01:59.900 --> 0:02:02.870 if you have made a decision to change, that person 0:02:02.870 --> 0:02:05.990 doesn't exist. Imagine if your car got stolen the next 0:02:05.990 --> 0:02:08.330 day you couldn't wake up. Be able to use your 0:02:08.330 --> 0:02:10.160 old vehicle in order to get to where you're trying 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:11.900 to go. You'd have to come up with some different solution. 0:02:11.930 --> 0:02:13.760 You'd have to take a bike. You'd have to Uber. 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:17.660 Maybe you're walking. You no longer have your car as 0:02:17.660 --> 0:02:20.390 your option to travel now. Think about this as a 0:02:20.389 --> 0:02:23.000 decision for you to change your life. If you are 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.310 going to become a person who works out every single day, 0:02:25.310 --> 0:02:27.680 or a person who is a badass at sales, or 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:31.190 somebody who reads books and is very well read and articulate, 0:02:31.190 --> 0:02:33.529 all of a sudden, if you decide to be that person, 0:02:33.530 --> 0:02:36.680 you are no longer the person that doesn't do those things. 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.020 That person doesn't exist any longer. So you have to 0:02:39.050 --> 0:02:42.410 start making decisions as if you are that new person. 0:02:42.410 --> 0:02:46.430 Because guess what? You are. All because you made the decision. Now, 0:02:46.430 --> 0:02:49.820 once you've made the decision, let's make your environment easier. 0:02:49.820 --> 0:02:53.419 So if you know that you doomscroll on TikTok, set 0:02:53.450 --> 0:02:55.790 a policy, make it so that moving forward you have 0:02:55.790 --> 0:02:58.310 your screen time locked on your phone. You cannot scroll 0:02:58.310 --> 0:03:00.980 on TikTok for longer than five minutes when you make 0:03:00.980 --> 0:03:04.480 subtle changes like this to actually change your environment, you're 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:07.570 doubling down on the decision for you not to be 0:03:07.570 --> 0:03:10.900 the old version of yourself. So your environment matters and 0:03:10.900 --> 0:03:12.640 the choices that you need to make in order to 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:15.130 get there really matter. And guess what? They can be 0:03:15.130 --> 0:03:17.440 small little tweaks. Being a whole different version of you 0:03:17.470 --> 0:03:20.110 doesn't mean that everything in your life changes, but the 0:03:20.110 --> 0:03:22.810 things that matter that you need to make progress on 0:03:22.810 --> 0:03:26.139 have to happen today. And that decision has to be now. 0:03:26.169 --> 0:03:30.040 My second step to getting unstuck is to ruin myself 0:03:30.040 --> 0:03:34.029 with disappointment in me. Disappointment is the wake up call 0:03:34.030 --> 0:03:36.730 that you have been avoiding. Do not listen to all 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.940 of those nice memes and those fun TikToks that make 0:03:39.940 --> 0:03:42.160 you feel like you should accept yourself and be okay 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:44.410 with yourself the way that you are. If you're disappointed 0:03:44.410 --> 0:03:46.570 because you know that you have more in you, you 0:03:46.570 --> 0:03:48.850 know that you could impact more people. You know you 0:03:48.850 --> 0:03:51.400 have this great potential and instead you're wasting it. Be 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:54.580 freaking disappointed. You shouldn't feel good about yourself. Why would 0:03:54.580 --> 0:03:57.070 you feel good about yourself? You're not living into what 0:03:57.070 --> 0:03:59.470 is possible for you. Once you know that you're unhappy 0:03:59.470 --> 0:04:01.300 with the way that your life looks, you can make 0:04:01.300 --> 0:04:04.630 that change, but don't sugarcoat it. Don't tell yourself lies 0:04:04.630 --> 0:04:06.550 that you should just love yourself the way that you 0:04:06.550 --> 0:04:10.060 are and give yourself a big hug. Don't listen to 0:04:10.090 --> 0:04:14.260 that bullshit. Be disappointed, accept the disappointment and take action. 0:04:14.290 --> 0:04:16.840 My parents used to drag me to a dinner every 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:19.720 single year with a family friend, and this family friend 0:04:19.750 --> 0:04:24.279 was very well educated, very well read, and incredibly successful. 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:26.620 But I hated going to the dinner because he made 0:04:26.620 --> 0:04:29.140 me feel bad about myself. The amount of news that 0:04:29.140 --> 0:04:31.419 he would read every single day would remind me that 0:04:31.420 --> 0:04:34.000 instead of reading the news, I was watching television. The 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:36.850 way that he would articulate questions and his opinions would 0:04:36.850 --> 0:04:39.250 make me feel uncomfortable, because I realized I didn't have 0:04:39.250 --> 0:04:41.260 an opinion because I didn't even know what the frick 0:04:41.260 --> 0:04:44.440 he was talking about. He was so involved in politics 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.960 and what was happening in the world. And I realized, 0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:49.330 I don't know the things that I could know and 0:04:49.330 --> 0:04:51.160 that I really feel like I should know and should 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:53.800 be part of those conversations. So after many years of dinners, 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:57.220 I finally decided to stop lying to myself and take action. 0:04:57.220 --> 0:04:59.859 What did I do? I ordered the economist. I ordered 0:04:59.860 --> 0:05:01.480 the Wall Street Journal to show up to my house 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:04.180 every single day, and I became interested in the news. 0:05:04.180 --> 0:05:06.609 I became interested in politics so that when I showed 0:05:06.610 --> 0:05:08.830 up to dinner the next year, I would actually have opinions. 0:05:08.830 --> 0:05:10.780 You see, I didn't lie to myself saying that those 0:05:10.779 --> 0:05:13.330 things aren't important. They were important. That brings us to 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:15.940 step three, which is to decide what you want your 0:05:15.940 --> 0:05:18.549 life to look like. You cannot create the life that 0:05:18.550 --> 0:05:22.270 you want without knowing what you want. If I'm totally honest, 0:05:22.270 --> 0:05:25.360 I entirely gave up on my goals. For about three years, 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:28.870 I became introverted. I just decided to be stuck in 0:05:28.870 --> 0:05:31.810 life because I felt really insecure, to be honest. And 0:05:31.810 --> 0:05:34.299 I was not confident. And I was so terrified of 0:05:34.300 --> 0:05:36.159 what people thought of me that I just didn't want 0:05:36.190 --> 0:05:39.219 to try. And I'll never forget flying to this conference. 0:05:39.220 --> 0:05:42.520 And I had said no to speaking at this conference 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.160 because I was scared and I didn't feel confident. But 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:48.310 then I was sitting there in the audience realizing, I'm here. 0:05:48.310 --> 0:05:51.550 I could be participating, I could be contributing. But instead, 0:05:51.550 --> 0:05:54.310 my fear of public speaking, my fear of being seen, 0:05:54.310 --> 0:05:57.250 my fear of maybe people judging me or criticizing me 0:05:57.250 --> 0:05:59.290 is going to keep me on the sidelines. And from 0:05:59.290 --> 0:06:01.150 that moment forward, I was like, I'm not going to 0:06:01.150 --> 0:06:03.810 be this person. I refuse to be the person that 0:06:03.810 --> 0:06:06.450 doesn't have the life that they want. And so from there, 0:06:06.450 --> 0:06:09.540 I took accountability and said, what do I want my 0:06:09.540 --> 0:06:11.940 life to look like? And I wrote down all of 0:06:11.940 --> 0:06:14.099 my goals. What do I want personally? What do I 0:06:14.100 --> 0:06:15.870 want my fitness goals to be? What do I want 0:06:15.870 --> 0:06:17.729 my family goals to be? What kind of friends do 0:06:17.730 --> 0:06:20.760 I want to have professionally? What type of mentors do 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:22.680 I want to bring in? What are the opportunities that 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:25.080 I'd like to create and financially, how much money do 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:27.000 I want to make? What do I want to contribute to? 0:06:27.029 --> 0:06:29.280 How could I make a financial impact on a charity 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:32.490 that really matters to me? Because if I'm not confident 0:06:32.490 --> 0:06:35.280 in myself today and I don't feel like I can 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:37.619 create the life that I want, I'm never going to 0:06:37.650 --> 0:06:40.260 create the impact that I could potentially make. And I 0:06:40.290 --> 0:06:42.300 am put on this planet in order to live into 0:06:42.330 --> 0:06:45.060 my potential. And I think that you are too. So 0:06:45.060 --> 0:06:46.950 if you haven't done this already, I would pause this 0:06:46.950 --> 0:06:48.779 video and I would take out a piece of paper, 0:06:48.779 --> 0:06:50.489 or maybe open up your notes app, and I would 0:06:50.490 --> 0:06:54.450 write down your personal, professional and financial five year goals. 0:06:54.450 --> 0:06:56.219 This will give you a picture of who you want 0:06:56.220 --> 0:06:58.529 to be in the future, so that you can decide 0:06:58.529 --> 0:07:01.409 to be that person today. Step four is the most 0:07:01.410 --> 0:07:04.320 important thing you can do, because you have to know 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:07.650 for sure that you are moving forward. Are you making 0:07:07.650 --> 0:07:09.720 progress daily? That is how you get out of the 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:12.090 rut of having this dream life, but actually feeling like 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:17.190 you're making incremental progress. You're seeing wins. You're making a change. 0:07:17.190 --> 0:07:19.860 One of my successful habits around this is to plan 0:07:19.860 --> 0:07:22.770 my day the night before. I do not leave my office. 0:07:22.770 --> 0:07:24.510 I do not leave my place of work or go 0:07:24.510 --> 0:07:27.810 to bed without having a full breakdown of my calendar 0:07:27.810 --> 0:07:29.880 and where I'm spending my time the next day. Make 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:32.190 the plan the night before. So when I'm going through 0:07:32.220 --> 0:07:34.770 my calendar, I'm looking at what appointments do I have, 0:07:34.770 --> 0:07:37.290 what books am I reading? What podcasts do I need 0:07:37.290 --> 0:07:39.690 to listen to? How do I sprinkle in little pieces 0:07:39.690 --> 0:07:42.960 of future Natalie and make those deposits today so that 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:45.450 I can actually get to those opportunities in the future? 0:07:45.450 --> 0:07:48.690 Because I'm well-read on these things, because I'm in the know, 0:07:48.690 --> 0:07:51.150 on what's happening in the spaces that I'm interested in 0:07:51.150 --> 0:07:53.640 going into. The progress you choose to make every single 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:56.670 day is what changes things. It is not these big steps. 0:07:56.670 --> 0:07:59.760 It is the tiny, incremental steps that you make every 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:02.720 single day that change the trajectory of your life to 0:08:02.750 --> 0:08:05.120 create the life that you've always wanted. And my hack 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:08.000 for this is to actually graph the things that are 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.250 the most important to me. Because if I can see 0:08:10.280 --> 0:08:13.400 on a graph that I'm getting more hours of sleep 0:08:13.400 --> 0:08:16.550 every single night, that I am working out consistently, and 0:08:16.550 --> 0:08:18.679 that my muscle mass is increasing, or if I can 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:21.500 see that I'm actually making more money month over month. 0:08:21.500 --> 0:08:23.150 All of a sudden I feel better about the growth 0:08:23.150 --> 0:08:25.100 because I can see it moving up. But if you 0:08:25.100 --> 0:08:28.040 aren't graphing and you aren't paying attention to those movements 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:30.110 every day, you're going to feel like you're not getting 0:08:30.110 --> 0:08:32.180 any closer and you're going to go back into your rut. 0:08:32.179 --> 0:08:35.569 So measuring the handful of things that matter to you 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:38.720 changes everything. Step five is one of my favorites, and 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:41.719 I don't hear people talking about this. Wherever you're currently 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:44.359 spending your time, stop spending your time there. If you're 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.030 in a rut, the easiest way to get unstuck in 0:08:47.030 --> 0:08:50.030 your life is to get out of your house. Your 0:08:50.030 --> 0:08:53.120 environment dictates the way that you feel. So you're watching 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:55.579 a video right now about how to get unstuck. If 0:08:55.610 --> 0:08:58.040 you're feeling stuck, that means that you shouldn't stay in 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.590 the environment where you are stuck. Your environment can be 0:09:00.590 --> 0:09:02.810 the type of social media that you interact with. Your 0:09:02.809 --> 0:09:04.850 environment can be the friends that you hang out with, 0:09:04.850 --> 0:09:08.090 the information that you're reading, get out of your house. 0:09:08.090 --> 0:09:11.240 Get out of those places where you feel stuck and 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:13.790 do that immediately. If you're watching this in a place 0:09:13.790 --> 0:09:15.650 where you don't feel great, leave the place that you're 0:09:15.650 --> 0:09:17.660 currently in. And getting out of your house is one 0:09:17.660 --> 0:09:19.369 of the most effective things. When you get out of 0:09:19.370 --> 0:09:21.199 your house, it means that you have to be around 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:23.390 other people. Back when I was in college and I 0:09:23.390 --> 0:09:26.179 would really feel caved in, I would do my homework 0:09:26.179 --> 0:09:28.400 in my bed. I felt like I was just grinding 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:30.500 and that there was no end in sight. My life 0:09:30.500 --> 0:09:32.330 was always going to suck. I would go and study 0:09:32.330 --> 0:09:35.120 at a Starbucks, and later on I learned that the 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.520 best place to study was actually a hotel lobby. Because 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.290 you were just in a different environment. It was a 0:09:39.290 --> 0:09:42.500 different groove. I just felt better about myself. I put 0:09:42.500 --> 0:09:44.750 on a different outfit, I made my makeup a little 0:09:44.780 --> 0:09:47.450 bit nicer, and I felt like I was in a place, 0:09:47.450 --> 0:09:49.940 like the places that I wanted to be in the future, 0:09:49.940 --> 0:09:52.910 instead of physically being in the place where I currently 0:09:52.910 --> 0:09:54.860 feel stuck. So think of ways that you could change 0:09:54.860 --> 0:09:57.530 your environment. If you currently study at your house, could 0:09:57.530 --> 0:09:59.720 you study in a library? If you currently work in 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:01.819 a space with a coworker that you can't stand. Could 0:10:01.820 --> 0:10:04.400 you ask your manager to move? There are creative ways 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:07.700 to change your environment, and your environment is everything. Step 0:10:07.700 --> 0:10:12.199 six is to realize that entertainment disguised as education is 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:15.200 why you're not making progress. If you watch a bunch 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:17.840 of these videos and you never do anything after them, 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:22.819 you have just substituted traditional entertainment via TikTok or Netflix 0:10:22.820 --> 0:10:27.260 with education that you're using as entertainment. And I am 0:10:27.260 --> 0:10:30.829 a huge culprit of this. I will never forget when 0:10:30.830 --> 0:10:33.319 I needed some motivation, it was back when I was 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:35.090 in high school. I had to study for this big 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:37.400 AP exam. I was going to watch this movie about 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:40.130 this inspirational story of this woman who had this incredible 0:10:40.130 --> 0:10:42.709 gymnastics career. In my mind, I was thinking I was 0:10:42.710 --> 0:10:44.989 being productive or I was learning something, learning how to 0:10:45.020 --> 0:10:47.209 overcome and how to have grit. Really, I was just 0:10:47.210 --> 0:10:49.610 being educated. Back in the day, I didn't have YouTube, 0:10:49.610 --> 0:10:52.429 but today I see people doing this constantly where they 0:10:52.429 --> 0:10:55.370 will just binge watch all of these videos on how 0:10:55.370 --> 0:10:57.679 to launch an effective marketing campaign, how to grow on 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:59.750 social media, how to make more money and they feel 0:10:59.780 --> 0:11:02.800 better because instead of just watching mindless reality television. At 0:11:02.830 --> 0:11:05.620 least they're learning something. But they're not paring the learning 0:11:05.650 --> 0:11:08.559 of something with the doing of something. This can lead 0:11:08.590 --> 0:11:12.189 to you feeling like you're making progress when really you're not. 0:11:12.190 --> 0:11:14.890 So here's my rule of thumb whenever I'm watching, reading, 0:11:14.890 --> 0:11:17.679 or listening to something, I have to actually do something 0:11:17.710 --> 0:11:20.800 immediately afterwards. I can't just go to the next video, 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:23.860 to the next podcast, find the next guru. You will 0:11:23.860 --> 0:11:25.960 not have a better life. You will not get unstuck 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:28.479 from your rut if you just go to Natalie's next video. 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:30.490 Although you should go to my next video, but that's 0:11:30.490 --> 0:11:32.500 not going to really help you and I'm here to 0:11:32.530 --> 0:11:34.630 actually help you. So what can you do right now 0:11:34.630 --> 0:11:36.550 that would make a change? If I was you, I 0:11:36.550 --> 0:11:38.650 would take my laptop or I would take my phone 0:11:38.650 --> 0:11:40.120 and I would get out of my house and I 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.430 would go set up shop in a coffee shop or 0:11:42.429 --> 0:11:45.640 in some awesome swanky hotel lobby. That is how you implement. 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:47.710 And you make a change so that you're actually making 0:11:47.710 --> 0:11:51.219 progress instead of just being educated. Next up is number seven, 0:11:51.220 --> 0:11:55.000 which is to separate yourself from people who don't support you. 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:57.130 You can take a break from people holding you back, 0:11:57.130 --> 0:11:58.990 and it doesn't have to be a breakup. This is 0:11:58.990 --> 0:12:01.000 a lesson that my mom taught me. She would tell 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:04.300 me about the boyfriends that she would break up with, 0:12:04.300 --> 0:12:06.280 but they didn't know that she broke up with them. 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.350 And I was like, mom, how did you do this? 0:12:08.380 --> 0:12:12.160 She said I would just create slow and subtle distance. 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:15.490 Instead of having this big fight that created all this emotion, 0:12:15.490 --> 0:12:18.099 I would subtly become more and more busy to the 0:12:18.100 --> 0:12:19.809 point where it just didn't make sense for us to 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.270 be together any longer. Because I already had this new 0:12:22.270 --> 0:12:24.729 life with things that I was passionate about, and they 0:12:24.730 --> 0:12:26.830 were still doing what they were doing before. We didn't 0:12:26.830 --> 0:12:29.380 have some massive breakup, but it was obvious to both 0:12:29.380 --> 0:12:32.050 parties that there was no longer alignment. This is the 0:12:32.050 --> 0:12:35.319 best way to create separation from your friends. Now here's 0:12:35.320 --> 0:12:37.750 the deal with this don't make other people wrong. Don't 0:12:37.750 --> 0:12:41.890 have some big emotional blow up. Just separate yourself and 0:12:41.890 --> 0:12:45.190 start being so busy working on yourself, doing things that 0:12:45.190 --> 0:12:46.900 are creating the life that you want, that you no 0:12:46.900 --> 0:12:48.610 longer have the time that you used to have. If 0:12:48.610 --> 0:12:50.980 you have friends who you like to party with and 0:12:50.980 --> 0:12:54.520 go out with on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights just 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:56.770 have other things to do that you can't move. Whatever 0:12:56.770 --> 0:12:59.380 it is that you're trying to create, make time to 0:12:59.380 --> 0:13:01.240 do those things. In the time that you used to 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:03.710 spend with people who aren't helping you get closer to 0:13:03.740 --> 0:13:05.780 your goals. This is where I go back to looking 0:13:05.780 --> 0:13:08.600 at my calendar, and I cancel anything that is not 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:10.640 helping me get out of the rut that I'm in. 0:13:10.670 --> 0:13:12.800 There is no party that you can go to. There 0:13:12.830 --> 0:13:14.780 is no lunch that you can go to. There is 0:13:14.780 --> 0:13:16.880 no coffee that you can go to with your friend 0:13:16.910 --> 0:13:19.280 that is going to make you feel better about yourself again. 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.079 It's not to make them bad and it's not to 0:13:21.110 --> 0:13:23.180 make them wrong. It's just to say, I no longer 0:13:23.179 --> 0:13:25.820 have time to talk about my current life because I 0:13:25.820 --> 0:13:29.360 have to go do things and spend time building a 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:31.670 new version of my life. And I can't live my 0:13:31.670 --> 0:13:33.800 old life while building the new version of my life. 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:36.200 That brings us to our final step in getting unstuck, 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:39.710 which is step number eight. Just say no. You have 0:13:39.710 --> 0:13:42.800 to say no to anything that doesn't align with your goals. 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:44.780 I used to make up errands that I had to 0:13:44.780 --> 0:13:48.170 run instead of spending Saturday actually learning a new skill 0:13:48.170 --> 0:13:51.290 and investing in myself to make progress, I would come 0:13:51.290 --> 0:13:52.939 up with this list of all of these things that 0:13:52.940 --> 0:13:55.610 I had to do. I have to go get my 0:13:55.610 --> 0:13:59.479 nails done. I have to go to target, I have 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:01.700 to eat lunch. I just created all of these things 0:14:01.710 --> 0:14:04.410 that I had to do when really I didn't have 0:14:04.410 --> 0:14:06.750 to do any of them. So sometimes saying no isn't 0:14:06.750 --> 0:14:09.390 saying no to somebody else. It's actually saying no to 0:14:09.420 --> 0:14:11.460 the habits and the routines and the things that you 0:14:11.460 --> 0:14:14.250 tell yourself you have to do, but they're really distractions, 0:14:14.250 --> 0:14:17.070 just taking you away from the things that you actually 0:14:17.070 --> 0:14:19.680 have to do. If you're not making progress on the 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:21.540 real things that you need to do, you have to 0:14:21.570 --> 0:14:24.690 reevaluate the things that you have to do and start 0:14:24.690 --> 0:14:28.440 saying no to yourself. If you enjoyed this podcast, you 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:32.010 are going to definitely not want to miss out on 0:14:32.010 --> 0:14:34.860 my new newsletter. It just dropped. I just started creating 0:14:34.860 --> 0:14:37.650 this content and I am obsessed. Every single week in 0:14:37.650 --> 0:14:40.890 your inbox, I'm going to send you business. 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